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U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters, to defining the relationship and everything in between - they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @u.up.podcast on Instagram. Become a friend (with benefits) of the podcast and subscribe to receive early release and ad-free versions of all our new episodes, plus bonus subscriber-only episodes. To sign up and become a friend (with benefits) today head to: subscribe.betches.com

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    The U Up? podcast is an incredibly entertaining and relatable show that covers all aspects of dating and relationships. Hosted by Jordana Abraham and Jared Freid, the podcast offers honest and insightful advice while also providing plenty of laughs along the way. Even though I initially thought the podcast wasn't for me as a married person, I quickly realized that it's still incredibly relatable, offering perspectives on both dating and long-term relationships.

    One of the best aspects of The U Up? podcast is the chemistry between Jordana and Jared. Their banter and dynamic is hilarious and keeps listeners engaged throughout each episode. They have a knack for providing advice that feels realistic, practical, and relatable. It's like getting advice from close friends who aren't afraid to be blunt with you. Their insights are often thought-provoking, giving listeners a fresh perspective on dating in today's world.

    Another great aspect of the podcast is its ability to connect with listeners on a personal level. The hosts openly share their own experiences, making you feel like you're not alone in your dating struggles. It's refreshing to hear stories from other people's perspectives and learn from their successes and failures. Additionally, they often bring guests onto the show who offer unique viewpoints, expanding the U Up? universe beyond just Jordana and Jared.

    While there are many positive aspects of The U Up? podcast, one area that could use improvement is the focus on suburbs versus city living. Some listeners may find this topic less riveting or funny than others do. It would be great to see more variety in topics covered so that everyone can find something they relate to or finds interesting.

    In conclusion, The U Up? podcast is a must-listen for anyone navigating the world of dating or relationships. Jordana Abraham and Jared Freid provide valuable insights with humor and honesty that make each episode enjoyable to listen to. While there may be some areas where the podcast could improve, overall, it's a fantastic resource for anyone looking to learn and laugh along the way.



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    Latest episodes from U Up?

    The Rom-Com That Could Never Be Made Today

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 27, 2025 51:55


    In this Friday Feels episode of U Up?, Jordana and Jared dive into the chaotic brilliance of the 90s rom-com My Best Friend's Wedding. They unpack the iconic “Say a Little Prayer” scene and ask why George isn't the real lead?! George is loyal, hilarious, and flies to Chicago twice with zero expectations. Jared jokes he'd do the same for Jordana! The two debate who the true villain is: manipulative Julianne or emotionally unavailable Michael. They also question why everyone in the movie is kissing on the lips, including Kimberly and her dad. Through it all, they explore how the film's dated relationship norms still spark modern-day debates about friendship, insecurity, and love, especially through the performances of Julia Roberts, Dermot Mulroney, Cameron Diaz, and Rupert Everett. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Is LinkedIn the New Dating App?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 25, 2025 85:33


    This week on U Up? Jordana recounts a chaotic suburban showdown between her dog Ron and a rogue bird, complete with screaming, bird smacking, and an emergency vomit, an instant Jersey Shore Sammi Sweetheart moment. Then, J&J dive into listener emails starting with a baffling date: is four bathroom breaks in three hours a red flag or just…hydration? They weigh in on whether an ex checking your LinkedIn weekly for months is creepy or kind of romantic ("The sad version of The Notebook"). Plus, a listener wonders if post-sex texting equals intimacy. Jordana breaks down why good texting isn't the same as making real plans. From social media stalking to suburban dog drama, this episode delivers laughs, real talk, and dating advice you didn't know you needed. Watch full ep

    Do You Really Need Instagram to Date?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 20, 2025 48:56


    It's summer and Jordana's pool dreams are on pause thanks to Long Island's signature pace: dial-up internet speed! She and Jared unpack the clash between millennial efficiency and suburban business hours. Then, it's a deep dive into modern dating quirks: should you cone or cup it on an ice cream date (and what does it say about you)? Plus, a howling ritual sparks a debate, red flag or just a full moon vibe? They also weigh in on whether a social media presence is a dating necessity or just mental clutter. From wolf howls to Insta reboots, it's a perfect storm of pool drama, personal growth, and pizza-fueled revelations! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    How to Nail the First Date Look

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 18, 2025 86:31


    In this episode of U Up?, Jordana and Jared get cozy (Jordana's new super soft tomato-knit top yes plz) and tackle the fine line between a compliment and a fashion read. “Comfortable” isn't always a compliment! From decoding the art of dressing for a first date (hint: you only need one killer outfit) to unpacking the emotional baggage of co-parenting and overly close ex-relationships, they cover it all. Listener dilemmas spark juicy discussions about red flags, cringey sexual phrasing, and what it really means when your date goes through your purse. It's a full rundown of fashion, feelings, and the fine print of modern dating. Tune in for real talk, relationship strategy, and a healthy dose of laughter! Check it out on YT too!

    Hinge Warned Me She Was a Scammer!

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 13, 2025 42:27


    This week's Friday Feels kicks off with Jared reading a wild email straight from Hinge warning him that he may have matched with a scammer, which shocks Jordana but begs the question, did she have big boobs? From there, J&J spiral into a hilarious breakdown of dating app red flags and how scams somehow still get the swipe! Jordana defends her claim that eating tuna on a plane isn't a crime, a lot of people love tuna! Then it's time for some truly petty (or prudent?) listener emails, including one woman who stayed rent-free in her ex's house and pulled off a stealth open house heist. Another listener hooked up with her downstairs neighbor and is now dodging plans, clingy texts, and sunburn lotion requests! Tune in on YouTube too!

    Speed Dating Tips You Need to Know for a Second Date!

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 11, 2025 97:07


    Jared's back from his first official week in Delray Beach, and Jordana wastes no time roasting his full Florida transformation complete with Joe Dirt vibes and surprise gifts for the crew (check out on YT!) In this ep, J&J weigh in on a Couples Court case where a boyfriend suggests his girlfriend ditch the hair dye to cut costs, sparking a convo about appearance, control, and whether your partner gets a say. Then, they dive into the age-old question: are women funny? A listener's date doesn't laugh at her (objectively great) jokes but loves Joe Rogan, and the hot takes start flying. Another emailer preps for a speed dating event and asks how to talk about her dating history without killing the vibe. And finally, it's a Red Flag or Deal Breaker that involves a 3D anime boob mousepad and a very confused boyfriend! Tune in for a hilarious show and hot takes! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Tired of the Apps? Try This Summer Challenge

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 6, 2025 28:28


    Summer is here as Jared shares his 4-step plan to beat dating app burnout, including why taking yourself out to dinner alone might be the reset you need! Then, J&J dive into a wild “Petty or Prudent?” email from a listener who exposed her cheating ex in a Facebook group, was it justified or just messy? They unpack the fine line between closure and revenge. Later, a married listener asks how to be a better wingwoman for her single sister without overselling or making things awkward. From dating drama to sisterly love, this episode is packed with laughs, real advice, and plenty of hot takes for summer! Watch full ep here

    His Mom Helped Him Break Up!

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 4, 2025 81:48


    Jared and Jordana unpack the emotional rollercoaster of casual dating with a 30-year-old man who swears he's not looking for anything serious, but still plans elaborate dates that scream boyfriend energy. They ask: is it really casual if it feels that intentional? Then things get hilariously weird with a naked farmer, some questionable yoga rules, and a date who's just trying to process it all. Plus, the hosts share the texting abbreviations that give them the instant ick—WYA, prolly, and NMU—and debate what your texts reveal about your dating potential. In Red Flag or Dealbreaker, they dissect a mistaken identity double date, a pasta-at-brunch breakup, and a guy using AI to scale his love life like a startup. With summer vibes, emotional honesty, and plenty of laughs, this episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating modern dating chaos! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Where Are All the Eligible Men?

    Play Episode Listen Later May 30, 2025 36:13


    From the scarcity of eligible men to the rise of sober dating, J&J explore in this Friday Feels ep how gender dynamics and societal shifts are reshaping the current dating landscape! The hosts unpack why ambitious women feel like they're settling and why men seem overwhelmed by options. Listener emails spark juicy debates, like whether it's a red flag to bring your own Crystal Light to a date, and if saying “I love you” for the first time during sex means anything. With honest insights and hilarious moments J&J give their unfiltered takes!

    Divorce Drama: Should the Side Piece Pay?

    Play Episode Listen Later May 28, 2025 79:47


    J&J discuss scheduling conflicts and vet visit blunder to confessions of infidelity and the emotional fallout that follows! They read listener emails that unpack cheating dilemmas, post-divorce pettiness, and the struggles of physical incompatibility in otherwise perfect relationships. With signature humor and honesty, the hosts explore red flags, dealbreakers, and the importance of communication in both romantic and platonic relationships. From the aftermath of a wine spill to the complexities of being the only woman at a bachelor party, no dating dilemma is off-limits.  Tune in for relationship advice that's equal parts therapy session and group chat energy, always with a comedic twist! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Matchmaker's Guide to 'The One' ft. Matchmaker Maria

    Play Episode Listen Later May 23, 2025 73:06


    In this Friday Feels, we're joined by Matchmaker Maria, author of ⁠Ask a Matchmaker: A No-Nonsense Guide to Finding Love⁠. Maria returns to the show to dive into her viral “12-Date Rule,” a dating method that promotes emotional connection before physical intimacy. The results? Over 500+ engagements from a single U Up? episode alone! Who knows how many more overall! She even dishes on how she once tried to set Jared up on a date. For those skeptical about matchmaking, Maria shares insider tips on spotting industry red flags, recognizing legit certifications, and avoiding the fakes. They also explore Chapter 11 of her book, the “Relationship Roadmap,” a practical guide to getting from date one to planning your wedding. Whether you're single, dating, or knee-deep in the apps, this episode is full of no-nonsense advice that could seriously transform your love life! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Do First-Date Kisses Ruin Long-Term Potential?

    Play Episode Listen Later May 21, 2025 63:31


    In this episode, J&J tackle a juicy batch of listener emails from kissing on first dates to baby pic icks and leftover disasters. We start off the ep with Jared finding himself stuck in planning hell, trying to lock down a date with one girl over 10 times! Should he keep trying or just wish her the best? One listener asks whether making out too early sends the wrong signal, sparking a deep dive into intentional dating and the 12-date rule. Then, it's an “Icky or Picky” scenario straight from Snapchat hell: a guy reconnects after years apart only to flood her phone with baby selfies and MILF jokes. Ick or endearing? Plus, a date goes sideways when a woman drops her date's bolognese, and he reacts like it's a crime scene. Another listener wonders if being asked to pay for a date's oil change is a red flag. Tune in for laughs, cringe, and straight-up truth bombs about love, attraction, and first date expectations! Watch full ep here

    Are West Village TikTok Girls Ruining NYC?

    Play Episode Listen Later May 16, 2025 31:26


    In this week's Friday Feels episode of the U Up? Podcast, Jared and Jordana take on the viral article that has everyone side-eyeing the West Village. From party buses to the “clean girl” aesthetic, they hilariously dissect the Gen Z lifestyle dominating Manhattan, complete with identical Adidas Sambas and curated matcha runs. The conversation sparks a nostalgic look at their own NYC moves and how zip codes became status symbols. Then, it's time for two jaw-dropping listener emails: one from a woman who accidentally told her ex's mom about his drug use, and another from a newly engaged listener questioning a shady congratulatory message from her fiancé's ex. Tune in for real talk and funny, sharp takes! Watch full ep here

    Can You Judge a Date by Their Scent?

    Play Episode Listen Later May 14, 2025 74:01


    Is it weird to like your ex's engagement photo on Instagram? Jared poses the question to Jordana, kicking off an episode full of honest, hilarious, and sometimes cringey dating moments. The hosts dive into a listener's story about being judged for her body count, exploring how sexual history conversations can shift a relationship's tone. They break down a musty dating dilemma what to do when your date smells off despite checking every other box. Another listener struggles with her boyfriend keeping sentimental letters from exes, raising questions about emotional baggage and boundaries. Red Flag or Dealbreaker brings even more dating chaos, from chronic lateness to the sting of not having your number saved. Whether it's intimacy, hygiene, or digital etiquette with your ex, J&J offer sharp insights and plenty of laughs. Watch full ep here!

    Is It Chemistry or Friendship? Exploring New Relationships with Maren Morris

    Play Episode Listen Later May 9, 2025 37:00


    On this Friday Feels ep of U Up?, Jared and Jordana are joined by Grammy-winning artist Maren Morris for a candid, heartfelt, and hilarious conversation you don't want to miss! With her new album Dreamsicle dropping today, May 9, Maren opens up about the emotional rollercoaster of writing music, including the tear-jerking song “Kiss the Sky” that had both her and Jared crying on a plane. She also shares the ups and downs of her recent divorce and the journey of dating women for the first time. Maren explores the complexities of connection, chemistry, and the blurry line between friendship and romance when dating women. Plus, they dive into a juicy listener email about a boyfriend still following his ex on social media is it icky, or are we just being picky? Tune in for honest takes, big laughs, and the kind of emotional depth that only U Up? delivers! Watch full episode here

    Can You Be Jobless AND Dateable?

    Play Episode Listen Later May 7, 2025 79:59


    In this episode of U Up?, J&J dive into a tricky dilemma: can a promising romance survive the jobless stage? Then, they react to a guy who sent an AI-generated glam shot of his date before they even met—icky or picky? It gets weirder when a listener gets a Google Form survey after a first date. Is “red flag” even a strong enough term?

    Is My Honesty Driving People Away?

    Play Episode Listen Later May 2, 2025 35:53


    On this Friday Feels episode of U Up?, a listener shares a dating dilemma after learning her Hinge match has a blind, crossed eye only revealed after she asked him out. Was it honest transparency or low-key eye-fishing? Then, a Cute or Creepy case: a woman reads Harry Potter aloud to her boyfriend every night, sometimes in bed, sometimes with head scratches. Jordana loves the intimacy of the ritual, but Jared thinks is borderline weird and childlike. Jordana questions if it was a different book. Say 50 Shades of Grey instead? They debate where comfort ends and cringe begins in modern relationships. Tune in for honest takes, dating nuance, and the kind of judgment you want! Watch full ep here

    Can I Be In Love Without Being In Lust?

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 30, 2025 77:12


    This week on U Up?, a listener asks whether a relationship can survive without sexual chemistry when her otherwise perfect boyfriend just isn't into sex. Jared and Jordana also debate a Red Flag or Deal Breaker: is it a turnoff if your boyfriend uses prepaid Visa gift cards to buy an engagement ring? Plus, a cringeworthy dating moment when a Bumble match splits the bill, then retracts an extra tip to save $12. From low sex drive to money-related red flags, J&J break it all down with humor and real talk! Watch here on YouTube! Tune in for relatable dating advice and if in NYC, come to the live show!

    I Stole My Exes Baby Name, AITA?

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 25, 2025 45:36


    On this Friday's episode of U Up?, Jared and Jordana dive into the drama surrounding Kaitlyn Bristowe and her ex-fiancé Jason Tartick! Specifically, the internet debate over Jason naming his new dog “Teddy,” the baby name Kaitlyn had saved for years. Was it shady, intentional, or just a dog name? Then, they read a listener email from a woman who feels like she's always "hosting" her dates. Trying so hard to be fun and charming that she forgets to figure out if she actually likes the person. Jared relates hard, and they both reflect on how to stop performing and start showing up authentically in dating. Whether you're triggered by a dog name or just trying to enjoy your date, this ep's got you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    He Hardly Says 'I Love You'... Should I Be Worried?"

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 23, 2025 74:22


    In this episode of U Up?, Jared and Jordana dive into the emotional complexities of how often we say “I love you” in relationships and how to handle jealousy when a friend's situationship turns into a full-blown romance. They respond to a listener who feels insecure about not hearing "I love you" enough from her boyfriend, despite a strong connection. Later, they unpack a listener's jealousy over a friend's relationship glow-up, likening the shift to going from doubles to singles tennis. Can being honest about jealousy actually deepen your connections? Tune in to find out! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Jay Shetty Pep Talks the Group Chat

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 18, 2025 57:34


    Jay Shetty is back in the U Up? studio to catch up on his world tour and his new and unexpected love of pickleball. Jared and Jordana ask him some of your most burning listener questions, from navigating dating and emotional maturity to understanding what it truly means to “choose yourself.” Jay opens up about how people tend to respond to breakups and shares why trying to fix someone might actually be a red flag we often ignore. Jared also presents a few real-life dating scenarios, giving Jay the perfect setup for his signature pep talks filled with both insight and warmth! From decoding your own relationship patterns to supporting a partner without turning into a nag, Jay offers advice that feels both practical and deeply thoughtful. Watch U Up? on YouTube: http://youtube.com/betches Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    How Do I Tell My BF He Has Bad Breath?

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 16, 2025 67:37


    This week on U Up?, Jared and Jordana tackle listener emails covering everything from dog discipline to dating app strategy and even bad breath. A Confused Dog Mom asks if hitting a misbehaving pit bull is a red flag or deal breaker, while a self-described “catch” wonders if downplaying his profile might actually attract real love. Another listener faces a hygiene dilemma with an otherwise perfect partner. Plus, they dissect Justin Bieber's cryptic post of Hailey set to Beyoncé's Irreplaceable, shady or just chaos? Lastly, Jared's doing a Dry April… but will he break the streak on the eve of the U Up? Live Show on April 30? (Spoiler: you'll want to be there to find out!)

    Can You Date Outside Your Socioeconomic Status? ft. Dr. Jaimie Glick

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 11, 2025 36:02


    On today's Friday Feels episode of U Up?, Jared and Jordana are joined by special guest Dr. Jaimie Glick, who shares the jaw-dropping story of her recent relationship that unraveled in the most modern, maddening way. Not because of lack of chemistry, but because she was too successful! Dr. Jaimie takes us from the spark of a rom-com-worthy meet-cute to a slow-burn realization that her partner might be dodging dinner dates and subtly relying on her to foot the bill. From intermittent fasting excuses to rent-controlled revelations and the infamous "solace in the philosophy" text, this is a story about money, pride, vulnerability, and the weird ways ambition can complicate connection. Jared and Jordana unpack the red flags and ask the big question: when is it okay to support your partner financially? Can transparency about money actually build intimacy? Or does success just intimidate the wrong people? Tune in for a hilarious, emotional, and thought-provoking look at modern dating, self-worth, and how sometimes the person who says they're proud of you just can't keep up. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    How To Ask Your Friends To Set You Up

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 9, 2025 64:49


    J&J are back with a fresh batch of dating dilemmas! First, Jordana's journey into puppy parenthood has her seeing dog owners in a whole new light! But when a listener's date casually mentions feeding their dog human food and giving it steroids, is that just a quirky habit or a major red flag? Jared and Jordana break down what pet parenting says about a person (and their dating potential). Then, they tackle a frustrating situation: What do you do when your friend hypes up a great guy but refuses to make the intro? They unpack the psychology behind "gatekeeping" in dating, why some people hesitate to set up their friends, and whether this guy is even interested or just a fantasy. Jared tells us how to ask your friends to set you up!! Plus, a wild dating scenario involving a guy who refuses to give oral (and thinks that's normal?!) and another where a date finds their own dad's headshot saved in someone's phone. Tune in for laughs, hot takes, and some very strong opinions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Peloton, Playbills & Petty Moves with Cody Rigsby & Andrew Chappelle

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 4, 2025 36:29


    On this special Friday Feels episode, Jared and Jordana welcome two incredibly hilarious guests, Andrew Chappelle and Cody Rigsby of the Tactful Pettiness podcast. These longtime friends take us on a journey through their rise in two powerhouse brands, Hamilton and Peloton, sharing hilarious and heartfelt stories of ambition, friendship, and love! Plus, they spill the tea on how they went from frenemies to business partners, their wildest breakup stories, and the struggles of dating while in the public eye. From the importance of punctuality in Broadway and fitness to navigating friendships and dating in the digital age, Andrew and Cody bring their signature wit and wisdom. They break down a listener's dating dilemma, is he being strung along, or is his date just taking things slow? And of course, no episode would be complete without a little tactful pettiness. The crew debates the ultimate post-breakup move: stealing condoms on the way out. Petty or practical? Tune in for hilarious hot takes, savage dating truths, and plenty of laughs. Don't miss it! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Chelsea Handler Ghosted by Andrew Cuomo?!

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 2, 2025 59:18


    Chelsea Handler joins U Up? for a hilarious deep dive into her dating history—celebrities, non-celebrities, and even a near-miss with Andrew Cuomo. She spills the tea on how the former governor slid into her DMs (but didn't seal the deal), the power players she's dated, and why she's got a thing for skiers. Chelsea also shares her “soar like an eagle” dating philosophy, admitting she's not looking for "the one" but enjoys having fun on her own terms. Maybe Chelsea is Jared's ideal woman?! The conversation also touches on the psychology of dating high-profile men, relationships with no money, and how her no-kids lifestyle has shaped her relationships. Plus, Chelsea opens up about her recent relationship with Mountain Man and reveals why chardonnay is an ick! It's everything you love about U Up? with an extra shot of unfiltered Chelsea. And be sure to check out her new Netflix special, The Feeling, streaming now! Friday, March 28th Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    When Should You Archive A Pic Of Your Ex?

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 28, 2025 38:15


    It's a Friday Feels episode, and we've got the hilarious Nimesh Patel joining Jordana and Jared! He's here to talk about rebelling against his traditional parents and how life has changed since becoming a dad. Jared shares with Jordana and listeners that Nimesh has been crushing it on TikTok…without ever monetizing it (yep, that's money gone)! Nimesh shares the peaks and pits of being a first-time parent and how his marriage has changed since having a baby. Then, they dive into a listener's dilemma: her boyfriend promised to archive a photo of his ex from Instagram, but months later, it's still there! Is this a red flag or just classic guy behavior? Nimesh gets put in the hot seat when Jared challenges him to answer as if he were giving his own daughter advice! Tune in now! Watch the full episode on YouTube! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Why Won't Men Approach Women Anymore?

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 26, 2025 71:00


    In this episode of U Up?, Jordana and Jared dive into the art of meeting people IRL. A listener asks about making real-life connections outside of dating apps and wonders how to approach people in person. Bar Comment Baits are Jared's go-to method for starting conversations. Simple questions like “Did they have food at this bar?” or “Which team are you rooting for?” These small, natural ways to start a conversation can lead to meaningful interactions. Then, an awkward encounter leaves a listener confused after her date bailed at a salsa social and canceled their brunch plans the next day. What happened? Jordana and Jared weigh in on why men sometimes act mysteriously in these situations. Tune in for all the advice and laughs! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    How To Clean Up Your Life ft. Summer Rose

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 21, 2025 55:24


    J and J are talking to professional organizer Summer Rose to discuss the surprising connections between organization and dating. They explore how decluttering can transform not only physical spaces but also emotional well-being, making individuals feel more confident and ready for relationships. Summer shares insights on the emotional ties people have to their belongings, the benefits of hiring a professional organizer, and how organization can serve as a form of couples therapy. She shares insights on how clutter can impact one's ability to invite partners into their lives, the emotional attachments we have to our belongings, and practical strategies for decluttering both physical and digital spaces. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    When Is It Too Soon to Post About Someone?

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 19, 2025 80:56


    In this episode, Jordana's feeling a little bruised and Jared is unpacking the paradox of love's give-and-take. First, J and J dive in, tackling a tried and true listener dilemma—should you be dating when your life feels like a total layover? Then, they break down the all-too-relatable struggle of texting purgatory on dating apps—are NYC men just looking for pen pals? Next up, Petty or Prudent features a long-lost (and very aggressively reclaimed) pair of grandma's sneakers. And today's Red Flag or Deal Breaker debates some truly wild dating scenarios: a guy posting a second-date photo as his Facebook cover, a woman totally unphased by playing her dad's love interest in a musical, and the ultimate modern communication nightmare—someone who only sends voice memos. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    I Exposed My Cheating Ex

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 14, 2025 42:08


    Signs of spring are popping up everywhere, and we're embracing this spirit of renewal. Jordana shares some of her favorite lottery slogans and how they can be applied directly to your love life. And Jared takes his YouTube trolls head on and ends the Leonardo DiCaprio dating comparisons. Then, on "Petty or Prudent?", a listener gets cheated on by her longtime partner and decides to share the news with her ex's childhood role model and favorite high school teacher (Mr. Feeney anyone?). Later, a listener wonders if competitive dates are a bad idea after a night mini golfing with her boyfriend turns disastrous. New Yorkers -- U Up? LIVE is coming to a venue near you! Get your tickets to see Jared & Jordana live and in-person at The Palladium in Times Square on April 30th: https://betches.co/uuplive Today's the LAST DAY to get the official U Up? "Is That My Wife?" hat! Get yours here before it's too late: https://shop.betches.com/collections/hats/products/is-that-my-wife-hat Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    My Ex's New Girlfriend Moved In Next Door

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 12, 2025 98:22


    This week on U Up?, we're making the most of our extra hour of daylight, mostly by making excuses to leave work early. Jared's fresh off of a trip to Boca and has the fresh tan to prove it. Jordana's planning for her own winter getaway with an upcoming trip to the Cayman Islands. Jared tells us about a strange run-in he had with a fan while on a swanky date.  Later, we hear from a listener who's conflicted about whether or not she should go on a girl's trip to Miami because it makes her boyfriend uncomfortable. On “Awkward Encounter,” an apartment nightmare turns into a reality when a listener's sister finds out her ex boyfriend's new girlfriend moved into the unit next door. On “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?”, we got bet bragging, dog poop hurling and trauma dumping.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    I Gave Him Everything...Then He Dumped Me Ft. Spritely

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 7, 2025 76:06


    On today's Friday Feels episode of U Up?, we're joined by musician and songwriter, Spritely, who captured the hearts and attention of millions after posting a spoof song about her shocking breakup with her longterm boyfriend. Spritely breaks down the full story behind her viral video, reflects on red flags from the relationship and answers some tough questions from J&J. Spritely's new single, "Before I Fall Apart," comes out on March 7th and can be streamed on Apple Music and Spotify. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    How Your Dating Profile Is Keeping You Single

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 5, 2025 86:46


    Spring is only a few weeks away and J&J are here to get your dating life in tip-top shape. Jordana recounts a late night with the Betches that turned hairy when they almost got deserted at a Long Island steakhouse. Then, Jared gives his tips on how to make your dating app profile stand out and catch attention in only half a second. Later, Jordana explains how to work through an awkward texting dynamic early on in dating and Jared shares his own head-scratching situation.  Then we dive into our listener inbox and J&J talk a listener through how to follow up with a stranger he met in a real life meet-cute without seeming creepy. On “Are We Dating?”, J&J help out a listener whose weekend trips with her situationship have her stuck in the “back alley” of dating. Another listener writes in with fears that the guy she's interested in may have put her on the back burner. On this week's “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?”, aggressive texts, anti-vegetarian dating profiles and piss pots.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    How To Manage Dating an Over-Texter

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 28, 2025 46:19


    It's Friday and Jordana's feeling sassy. She's got a new game to play with Jared called “Pack or Pass?” Here's how it works—would you relocate to Buffalo to stay with the love of your life? The game explores just how far you'd be willing to go, literally, for your relationship. Later, on "Awkward Encounter," we hear from a listener who experiences an unforgettable ick when her date insists on carrying an umbrella for shade during an entire hike. Then, a busy single mom writes in about a new guy she's excited about, but feels overwhelmed by his constant texting. J&J offer advice on how to set communication boundaries without killing the spark of a new romance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Make a Follow-Up Date or F*ck Off

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 26, 2025 82:02


    Jared's officially off on his Australia and New Zealand tour and hopes to meet some of our down under listeners at his upcoming shows. Later, he tells a story about his own awkward encounter with a gastroenterologist and Jordana dissects a texting exchange Jared had with a woman he was seeing that turned sour. We dive into our email inbox and hear from a listener who is worried that sleeping with a new romantic interest on their first date may have jeopardized their chance at a committed relationship. Then we hear from a listener who isn't sure if shooting her shot was worth it. And this week's Awkward Encounter has us wondering if there's any situation where a cheese grater is a remotely acceptable birthday gift. Later on Red Flag or Deal Breaker, we hear about some eligible bachelors who are still legally married (possibly for financial reasons), who use bots to flirt with women and who ask you to go barefoot at a bar on the first date.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    I Got Dumped The Day After Our Anniversary

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 21, 2025 44:35


    Lordy, Lordy look who's 40! It's the “Worst Day of the Year” aka Jared's birthday. Now that he's over the hill, Jared is embracing his “I want to speak to the manager” energy and reflecting with Jordana on the peaks and valleys from the past year. Then, we play Petty or Prudent and hear from a listener who got dumped the day after her boyfriend planned a romantic dinner for their one-year anniversary. Later, we dive into an email about a woman who tries to backpedal into dating a guy she once ended things with when he gave her the ick. There's been one thing on our minds since October and it's… “Is that my wife?” We got all your DMs and comments about needing merch and now we have it! For a limited time only, get your “Is That My Wife? hat at https://shop.betches.com/products/is-that-my-wife-hat. Available from now until March 14th. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    When Does A Partner's Joke Go Too Far?

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 19, 2025 77:51


    Jared's fresh off of a trip to Montreal, or as he calls it The Coldest Place on Earth, and comes back with hot takes about the food and one glowing restaurant recommendation. Then J&J gab about their recent trip to L.A. and the difference in hotness factor between Los Angeles and New York (Gremlin Swamp People unite!). They also reflect on a strange interaction they had with a recently divorced man at a bar.Later, we dive into emails and hear from a listener who feels that her boyfriend made a joke at her expense that went too far. On an Awkward Encounter that we'll never forget, a listener takes a chance going to a playoff hockey game with a guy she just met. Things take a turn when the “Mayor of Detroit” picks her up in a Dukes of Hazard themed golf cart and gets plastered at the game. Then a listener taps J&J for advice on a romantic connection where the physical isn't matching the emotional one. We end with a round Red Flag Deal Breaker about a forgotten vasectomy, a mean quote from a Rate My Professor review, and an aspiring “boy dad.” Have a dating question for Jordana and Jared? Send an email or voice memo to uup@betches.com or leave us a voicemail at our dating hotline 212-589-8903.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    What It's Really Like in the Netflix's "Love is Blind" Pods

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 18, 2025 49:04


    This bonus episode is sponsored by Netflix! J and J are reflecting on five years of "Love is Blind" and they're doing it in the most authentic way possible-in the pods! They find out the hard way what it's really like to communicate in the pods as they test themselves on their emotional intuition. Then, they go on to share their two cents on the communication styles of some of the most iconic couples while breaking down the impact the show has had on modern relationships. Plus, Jared and Jordana go in for a round of Couples Court as they ponder why we don't walk away when a partner gives us the shrug? They round out the episode with an epic Love Is Blind version of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, pod edition. Don't miss Season 8, streaming now only on Netflix – new episodes drop this Friday! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Can I Spend Valentine's Day With My Situationship? (Lightning Round Special)

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 14, 2025 71:23


    Jared “Cupid” Freid and Jordana “Matchmaker” Abraham are here to answer all your Valentine's Day questions. This year for V-Day, Jared's off to Alpharetta, Georgia for a block of shows and Jordana's staying in while hubby Mike cooks her up something special. J&J discuss what the perfect meal for V-Day is that still leaves room for romance (for our home cooks, Chef Jared suggests grilled chicken, penne and spaghetti squash). Later, we dive into a lightning round of V-day questions like, “When is it too soon to celebrate Valentine's Day with someone you're dating?“, “How do I tell my partner I want to do something for V-day?” and “How do I ask the guy I'm casually seeing if we'll be spending Valentine's Day together?” Have a dating question for Jordana and Jared? Send an email or voice memo to uup@betches.com or leave us a voicemail at our dating hotline 212-589-8903.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Should I Go No Contact With My Ex?

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 12, 2025 72:42


    Jordana's gone full-on suburbs. She's enrolled in a “tennis clinic” and in between perfecting her serve is trying to infiltrate the neighborhood gossip circle. She continues to debate the pros and cons of pulling the trigger on getting a dog. Later, J&J give a pep talk to a listener who recently went through a bad breakup after realizing that she and her longterm partner were not on the same page regarding kids. On Awkward Encounter, things get messy after a dog steals a listener's menstrual cup. And this week's Red Flag or Deal Breaker? has Jared and Jordana wondering if bad hygiene is a valid reason to dump someone. Have a dating question for Jordana and Jared? Send an email or voice memo to uup@betches.com or leave us a voicemail at our dating hotline 212-589-8903.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Is My Buff Body Scaring Away Men?

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 7, 2025 36:30


    Jared's 40th birthday is approaching and he might be on the cusp of an impending meltdown. He's being haunted by images of how he'll be spending his upcoming 40th: alone, on an international flight to New Zealand (in a Delta One seat, of course). And after purchasing a luxe coffee maker with insane upkeep, Jordana is having some buyer's remorse. On Icky or Picky, a listener keeps accidentally going on dates with guys with the same last name as her and it's creeping her out. Later, we hear from a CrossFit betch who is having trouble meeting her match. Her parents say that her impressive physique may be to blame. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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