Podcasts about love a natural history

I know I have heard people claim that bad weather causes aches and pains in their body. Is that real? Can the weather affect your joints or bones in a way that causes it to hurt? Listen as I explore the science regarding the connection to weather and pain. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-4105520/Don-t-blame-weather-pain-scientists-discover-no-linktwo.html At least for humans, falling in love seems to be a lot easier than staying in love. Why is that? Social anthropologist Helen Fisher author of the book Anatomy of Love: A Natural History of Mating, Marriage, and Why We Stray (http://amzn.to/2EvFAvd) joins me to discuss the inner workings of love between 2 people; what often goes wrong and how to keep the romance alive.  When you create a goal for yourself, there is a tendency to focus on how hard or it is going to be to achieve. Yet, there is some really interesting research that indicates that's about the worst thing you can do. If you change the way you look at the goal, it becomes easier to achieve. One of the people conducting the research is Emily Balcetis a social psychologist and associate professor of psychology at New York University. She is author of the book Clearer, Closer, Better: How Successful People See the World (https://amzn.to/2RBvUF7) and she joins me to offer you advice on achieving your goals with less struggle. Have you ever watched a sleeping dog twitch and move it's feet like it is running? So, is it just that the dog is dreaming or is there more to it than that? And should you be concerned if your dog does it? Listen and I'll reveal what exactly is going on. https://www.mentalfloss.com/article/612590/why-dogs-twitch-in-their-sleep PLEASE SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS! We really like The Jordan Harbinger Show! Check out https://jordanharbinger.com/start OR search for it on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or wherever you listen!  Join the Moink Movement today! Go to https://MoinkBox.com/SYSK RIGHT NOW and get FREE filet mignon for a Year! Go to https://Indeed.com/Something to claim your $75 credit before March 31st! Factor makes it easy to eat clean 24/7, with fresh, delicious, prepared meals! Head to https://go.factor75.com/something120 & use promo code Something120 to get $120 off! Check out Squarespace.com for a free trial, and when you're ready, go to https://squarespace.com/SOMETHING to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain. Masterworks gives everyone the opportunity to invest in blue-chip artwork. To receive exclusive access to their latest offerings go to https://Masterworks.art/SYSK LEVEL UP will give you the confidence & know-how to grow your business and thrive. LEVEL UP, by Stacey Abrams & Lara Hodgson, is now available everywhere audiobooks are sold. Discover matches all the cash back you've earned at the end of your first year! Learn more at https://discover.com/match M1 Finance is a sleek, fully integrated financial platform that lets you manage your cash flow with a few taps and it's free to start. Head to https://m1finance.com/something to get started!  To TurboTax Live Experts an interesting life can mean an even greater refund! Visit https://TurboTax.com to lear more. To see the all new Lexus NX and to discover everything it was designed to do for you, visit https://Lexus.com/NX Use SheetzGo on the Sheetz app! Just open the app, scan your snacks, tap your payment method and go!  https://www.geico.com Bundle your policies and save! It's Geico easy! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, Maria is so excited to welcome Dr. Helen Fisher to the podcast to answer your dating and relationship questions! Fisher has written several books about  the evolution and future of human sex, love, marriage, gender differences in the brain, how your personality style shapes who you are and who you love, and more. Her books include Anatomy of Love: A Natural History of Mating, Marriage, and Why We Stray and Why Him? Why Her? Finding Real Love by Understanding your personality type.  She is also the Chief Scientific Advisor for the internet dating site Match.com.  Dr. Fisher is a senior research fellow at The Kinsey Institute, Indiana University, and a member of the Center For Human Evolutionary Studies in the Department of Anthropology at Rutgers University. Prior to that, she was a research associate at the American Museum of Natural History in New York City. Fisher holds a B.A. in Anthropology and Psychology from New York University, and an M.A. and Ph.D. in Physical Anthropology from the University of Colorado at Boulder. Visit Helen's website: https://helenfisher.com/ Follow Hellen on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/helenfishersexandlove/ Purchase Hellen's books: https://www.amazon.com/Helen-Fisher/e/B000API2K0 Enroll in the next Agape Intensive: https://agapematch.com/agape-group-coaching-intensive/  Follow Maria on Instagram Follow Maria on TikTok Have a question for Maria? Visit http://askamatchmaker.com Enroll in Agape Match’s Group Coaching Intensive: https://agapematch.com/events To learn more about how Maria and how her team can help you find love, visit agapematch.com    

Hey #TheJoshCast Fam, Welcome back to our wonderful discussion on Millennial ❤️ Love ! Our Host of #TheJoshCast wasn't done with the wide topic. According to surveys conducted in 2020, The millennial cohort is roughly defined as those who were born in the 1980s to the early 2000s — although there is some debate about the boundaries. Millennials, due in part to their digital savvy, already are credited with significant changes in how we live, work and interact.But what is particularly striking is how quickly the cohort has rewritten the rules for courtship, sex and marriage. In 2018, the median age of first marriage was approaching 30 (29.8 for men and 27.8 for women). That's more than a five-year delay in marriage compared to 1980, when the median age was 24.7 for men and 22 for women.A 2017 study in the Archives of Sexual Behavior found that many younger millennials in their early 20s aren't having sex, and are more than twice as likely to be sexually inactive than the previous generation. Another study found that American couples ages 25 to 34 spend an average of six and a half years together before marrying, compared with an average of five years for all other age groups.Critics say digital saturation has made millennials more socially isolated, restless and entitled, which could explain why they are having less sex than earlier generations. And when millennials do have sex, it's often viewed as less meaningful because they engage in “hookups” or sexual relationships described as “friends with benefits.” Dr. Fisher, author of “Anatomy of Love: A Natural History of Mating, Marriage, and Why We Stray,” has devoted her career to studying love and relationships. Most recently she has collected data on more than 30,000 people related to current courtship and marriage trends. Dr. Fisher believes that instead of criticizing and judging millennials, perhaps we should be paying more attention. It's possible, she said, that today's singles are carving a more successful path to lasting love than previous generations. “We can all learn from people who don't want to waste a lot of time doing things that are going nowhere,” said Dr. Fisher, the co-author of a chapter on “slow love” in the 2019 anthology “The New Psychology of Love,” published by Cambridge University Press. She notes that people who date three years or more before marrying are 39 percent less likely to divorce than people who rush into marriage. “This is a real extended period of the pre-commitment stage,” said Dr. Fisher. “With slow love, maybe by the time people walk down the aisle they know who they've got, and they think they can keep who they've got.”Ask millennials and they will tell you that there is nothing casual about their approach to sex, dating and romance. Let's go on a journey and listen in closely to our Host of #TheJoshCast , Joshua Sherron as He wrestles with the tension and ease of the Hot

Helen Fisher, Ph. D., is a biological anthropologist and a senior fellow at The Kinsey Institute. She has studied the brain circuitry of romantic love and written sic books, including Anatomy of Love: A Natural History of Mating, Morriage, and Why We Stray.

I know you’ve watched a sleeping dog twitch and move it's feet like it is running. So, is it just that the dog is dreaming or is there more to it than that? And should you be concerned if your dog does it? Listen and I’ll reveal what exactly is going on. https://www.mentalfloss.com/article/612590/why-dogs-twitch-in-their-sleep People claim to want to find love. Then once they find it, it is hard to keep it alive. Why is that? Social anthropologist Helen Fisher author of the book Anatomy of Love: A Natural History of Mating, Marriage, and Why We Stray (http://amzn.to/2EvFAvd) returns to discuss the inner workings of love between 2 people, what often goes wrong and how to keep the romance alive. Helen was a guest on episode 147 talking about how to find love. You can hear it here: http://www.somethingyoushouldknow.net/147the-best-way-to-find-someone-to-love-how-to-come-up-with-better-ideas/How many times have you heard someone complain about the bad weather and claim it causes their aches and pains to feel worse? Listen as I explore the science regarding the connection to weather and pain. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-4105520/Don-t-blame-weather-pain-scientists-discover-no-linktwo.htmlWhen you create a goal for yourself, there is a tendency to focus on how hard or even painful it is going to be to achieve. There is some really interesting research that indicates that’s about the worst thing you can do. If you change the way you look at the goal, it becomes easier to achieve. One of the people conducting the research is Emily Balcetis a social psychologist and associate professor of psychology at New York University. She is author of the book Clearer, Closer, Better: How Successful People See the World (https://amzn.to/2RBvUF7) and she joins me to offer you advice on achieving your goals with less struggle.

Why do we fall in love? The neurobiologist and anthropologist, Helen Fisher, began studying love scientifically using brain scans in her research on 49 men and women. Some of the group were madly in love, while others had been rejected. Shortly thereafter, individuals who continued to be in love after three decades of marriage were included in the sample of research subjects. According to Fisher’s conclusions, the human brain has developed three cerebral systems related to relationships: romantic love, sexual attraction, and affection - or attachment: “Love can start of with any of these feelings, and it can be explained by the connections in our brain”. To date, Fisher has dedicated more time studying love from a neurobiological standpoint than anyone. She is the author of the books ‘Why We Love: The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love’, ‘The First Sex: The Natural Talents of Women and how They are Changing the World’, and ‘Anatomy of Love: A Natural History of Mating, Marriage, and Why We Stray’.

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So the dentist has you open your mouth wide and while he is poking around in there with sharp instruments, he asks you a question. Why? You can’t really answer. I’ll explain this and other fascinating things that go on in the dentist’s office.Since it is Valentine’s week, I think you’ll enjoy hearing my discussion with Helen Fisher, author of the Anatomy of Love A Natural History of Mating, Marriage, and Why We Stray (http://amzn.to/2EvFAvd). Helen has been studying how people connect, fall in love and stay in love and she has some great suggestions on where to go to find love and how to keep the spark alive in the long term. Why do retail prices still end in 99 cents - as in $29.99? Do retailers still think we don’t know that $29.99 is closer to $30 than $20? It turns out that pricing strategy still works and I’ll explain why. Everyone has creative ability. It’s just a matter of understanding your particular creative process and how to use it. That’s according to Roger Von Oech, author of the book, A Whack on the Side of the Head (http://amzn.to/2nT7XK7). Roger has been studying, researching and speaking about creativity for years and he will help ignite your creative thinking to come up with better ideas.

Why do we love? Is it part of human evolution? What in our biology makes us strive for love and intimacy? And how do we make it last? This week we welcome Dr. Helen Fisher, TED talk all-start and author of Anatomy of Love - A Natural History of Mating, Marriage and Why We Stray. In this episode we dive head first into how long-term partnerships fit into what makes us human - along with some thoughts about breaking up, serial monogamy, and what makes love last. Helen Fisher is the Chief Scientific Advisor to Match.com as well as a Senior Research Fellow at the Kinsey Institute. You’ll appreciate how her knowledge of the science of love can give us the roadmap to long-lasting happiness in relationship. We are built to fall in love. Is the quest for long-term thriving monogamy futile? History, biology, and evolution show us that we are, in fact, built to create pair bonds. We are built to fall in love. Our brains are wired to feel intense feelings of romantic love and attachment. While there is biology to support attachment structures, there is also biology to support the drive to wander, and to cheat. To reconcile these concepts it is important to know that pair bonding is different than monogamy. Every individual, couple, and culture needs to figure out how to navigate what attachment in the context of romantic love means. Serial monogamy? In hunting and gathering societies serial monogamy was not necessarily the golden standard or expectation for coupling. However, women and men tended to have 2-3 spouses during the course of their lives. We have most likely evolved to have a series of partnerships throughout our lives. While culture plays a major role in how this is expressed, we see it happening more and more in people in their 20s and 30s.  Before tying the knot.  Research shows that over 50% of single Americans have had a one night stand or friends with benefits. This is not reckless, in fact, it very well might be helping establish healthier marriages. There is a current trend in the United States in which the pre-commitment stage of relationships is being extended. 67% of people who live with their significant other say they have not married yet because they are worried about divorce. That said, 81% of people who married later say they would marry the same person again if they had a second chance. The longer you are together pre-marriage, the more likely you are to try to stick together, and this results in a sharp decrease in divorce rates. This is true because the time spent together gives you the chance to really know who you are marrying, and give the relationship time to work itself out, or not.  4 year itch- Data shows that most people will divorce around 3-4 years of marriage. This is likely no coincidence. It takes 3-4 years to raise a child through infancy, and it seems evolutionarily beneficial to have evolved a predisposition for serial pair bonding linked with having one child at a time, and then to seek another partner as an adaptive strategy evolutionarily to have kids with different partners, creating genetic variety. Rebuilding local community- We may be putting too much pressure and improbably expectations on our partnerships due to the fact that we have lost local community. It used to be that marriages were surrounded by family and community and could depend on help from others to help raise children. The loss of local community is a very serious issue facing contemporary marriages, and it is very important that we focus on rebuilding these social networks. Find, create, nurture, and invest in your friendship circles as an extension of and protection for, your primary relationship. Happiness in the brain: Research results from the study of people in long term self-reported happy marriages shows an increase in activity in 3 brain regions. These three areas serve to facilitate the function of 1) empathy, 2) controlling our emotions, and 3) increasing our ability to overlook what we do not like about our partner and focus on what we do like (aka positive illusion). In order to keep all three of these basic brain systems alive it is important to do the following “magic combo”. The Magic Combo: Keep the romance alive with NOVELTY: Novelty drives up dopamine in thebrain and can foster intense feelings of romantic love. Keep the feelings of deep attachment by STAYING IN TOUCH: Hold hands, sit together on the couch, walk arm in arm, sleep in each other’s arms… Anytime that you are in pleasant touch with someone you are driving up oxytocin levels which fosters the feeling of deep attachment. Keep the sex drive alive by… having SEX: Sex is good for the body, the mind, and for the relationship. Pleasant and sensual stimulation and orgasm drives up dopamine and oxytocin levels in the brain therefore impacting both the sense of romantic love connection and deep attachment so critical for maintaining long-term partnerships. Positive illusions: Our brains are very well built for deception. Use this to your advantage! Train your brain by using mindfulness and gratitude practices in order to have more control over what you focus on, and what you overlook. You can really build more capacity for attraction and love for your partner by increasing your ability and capability to shift how you see them. Instead of ruminating on the way your partner doesn’t do their morning dishes, choose to appreciate the cup of coffee they made you, etc… Understand each other on a biological level. We are naturally drawn to some people rather than others, and much of this attraction is dependent on hormones and chemicals. The more you get to know different aspects of personality, and study your partner, the more you can give and get what each of you needs. Are they high testosterone? High estrogen? Low serotonin? High serotonin? Knowing each other on a biological level helps to turn differences into things to be celebrated, versus sources of consternation and frustration. NOTE: Check out Helen Fisher’s quiz to figure this out below in the resource section. Is technology changing the way we love? Dr. Helen Fisher posits that while technology is drastically changing the way we court, it cannot and is not changing the basic brain mechanics of how humans form attachments. She sees technology as helping, or hindering, relationship forming, and this is especially true for older citizens. Deep relating: Continue to find ways together, and apart to nourish intimacy. This is likely going to require a constant balancing act of individual and partnership needs. Make time for deep relating, for it is in this time that you get to know and understand your partner in the ways they want to be understood, and then you can truly give them what they need. At the same time it is key that you continue to support each other’s individual and independent growth so as not to get over dependent or create claustrophobia within the coupledom. In a good relationship everyone feels like they’ve got a good deal and that it is balanced. Strive to create this sense of fulfilment for each other! Resources: Read Helen Fisher’s book Anatomy of Love and check out her other books too! Take Helen Fisher’s quizzes here Check out Helen Fisher’s speeches and articles on her website Watch Dr. Helen Fisher’s TED talk The Brain In Love www.neilsattin.com/helen Visit to download the show guide, or text “PASSION” to 33444 and follow the instructions to download the show guide to this episode with Helen Fisher Our Relationship Alive Community on Facebook Amazing intro/outro music graciously provided courtesy of: The Railsplitters - Check them Out

Today's episode is the second of two bonus episodes made possible by Match. I had always wanted to interview Dr. Helen Fisher; she’s a biological anthropologist, and one of the world’s foremost experts on the science of love. She is also Match’s Chief Scientific Advisor, and so they made the introduction for me. In the first segment which we released last week, we learned a little about Dr. Fisher personally, and we spoke more broadly about the biological reasons for love. In this episode, we focus on Dr. Fisher's advice to singles looking to meet the right person, and to couples who want to stay in love for the long term. You might want to check out Dr. Fisher’s book that she mentions in the interview: Anatomy of Love: A Natural History of Mating, Marriage, and Why We Stray (Completely Revised and Updated with a New Introduction). If you’d like to take advantage of the special offer that Match is making to listeners of our podcast: 7 days free to search anyone on Match, just go to match.com/together and register for your account there.

Today’s episode is a bonus that I’m very excited to release! I’ve wanted to interview Dr. Helen Fisher ever since I saw her extraordinary Ted talk about The Brain In Love. She is so insightful and dynamic in all of these talks that I knew she would make a great guest. And I gotta tell you, this is the benefit of having a sponsor like Match.com - It turns out Dr. Fisher is their chief scientific advisor, and they were able set up an introduction for me. We had a blast doing this interview, and I think you’re going to enjoy it. We’re releasing it in two parts. In the first half, we learn about Dr. Fisher as a person, and her views on the broader sociological and biological motivations driving our behavior around dating and love. We discuss monogamy vs. polyamory, jealousy, divorce, and the roots of this feeling we call love. In the second half of the interview which I’ll release as a bonus episode next week, we get down to the finer details for each of us as individuals, including Dr. Fishers advice to singles in search of a partner. You’ll definitely want to check that out.. You might want to check out Dr. Fisher’s book that she mentions in the interview: Anatomy of Love: A Natural History of Mating, Marriage, and Why We Stray (Completely Revised and Updated with a New Introduction). If you’d like to take advantage of the special offer that Match is making to listeners of our podcast: 7 days free to search anyone on Match, just go to match.com/together and register for your account there.

This episode we tackle (and get distracted repeatedly from) the genre of Non-Fiction Romance, Relationships, and Dating books. We discuss what’s it like reading a book about dating when you’re in a committed relationship, the difficulties of finding books about alternative relationships, and whether or not we’d date people who hate reading. Plus! A rant about the lack of diversity in the publishing industry.  Welcome to all of our new listeners from Bustle! In this episode Anna Ferri | Meghan Whyte | Matthew Murray | Jessi Recommended Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari and Eric Klinenberg The Secret Loves of Geek Girls edited by Hope Nicholson It's Not You: 27 (Wrong) Reasons You're Single by Sara Eckel Other Books She's Just Not That Into You: The Fab Femme's Guide to Queer Love and Dating by Aryka Randall Love's Refraction: Jealousy and Compersion in Queer Women's Polyamorous Relationships by Jillian Deri If Someone Says "You Complete Me," Run!: Whoopi's Big Book of Relationships by Whoopi Goldberg The Science of Happily Ever After: What Really Matters in the Quest for Enduring Love by Ty Tashiro Anatomy of Love: A Natural History of Mating, Marriage, and Why We Stray by Helen Fisher Why Him? Why Her?: Understanding Your Personality Type and Finding the Perfect Match by Helen Fisher (this book has been published under like three different titles) Did Not Finish Boy Meets Girl: Say Hello to Courtship by Joshua Harris The Geek's Guide to Dating by Eric Smith The Commitment: Love, Sex, Marriage, and My Family by Dan Savage Communion: The Female Search for Love by bell hooks Juggling the Rainbow: A zine of personal writing on non-monogamous relationships Other Books Mentioned Adulting: How to Become a Grown-up in 468 Easy(ish) Steps by Kelly Williams Brown Genreflecting Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá The Secret by Rhonda Byrne Spinster: Making a Life of One's Own by Kate Bolick All the Single Ladies: Unmarried Women and the Rise of an Independent Nation by Rebecca Traister Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar by Cheryl Strayed Links and Stuff BiblioCommons (Wikipedia) The Center - The Gay and Lesbian Community Center of Southern Nevada Reader’s Advisory for Library Staff (Facebook group) Chicken Soup for the Soul (Wikipedia) The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People (Wikipedia) Faringor: the planet in Mass Effect games where a horror movie was filmed The Lusty Argonian Maid: from the Skyrim game Consent Isn’t Enough: The Troubling Sex of Fifty Shades by Emma Green (article in The Atlantic) How Josh Sundquist found his soul mate Tim Minchin - If I Didn't Have You Savage Love The Read podcast Blood type personality theory (Wikipedia) Master of None (Wikipedia) Contest! Win a copy of the new issue of the Two-Fisted Library Stories fiction anthology zine: Spicy Library Stories! Follow us on Twitter and retweet one of our Tweets about this episode! Questions What are your recommendations for Non-fiction romance and relationship books? When you think of “Non-Fiction Relationships” do you consider books about parenting, divorce, or other non-romantic relationship? How do you pronounce the last letter of the alphabet? Check out our Pinterest boards and Tumblr posts for all the Non-Fiction Romance/Relationship/Dating books people in the club read (or tried to read), follow us on Twitter,  and join our Facebook Group! Join us again on Tuesday, March 7th for the first of our semi-regular “things we read that aren’t for the podcast (except now they are)” episodes. Then come back on Tuesday, March 21st, for our first anniversary episode when we’ll talk about Detective Fiction!