Podcast appearances and mentions of Stuart M Brown

Eliminate drama and create better relationships by owning your 100%. EPISODE NOTES Most of us learned how to do relationships from a state of victimhood. According to Karpman's Drama Triangle, there are three different roles to play: the victim, the hero and the villain. Regardless of these parts we take on, we're avoiding taking full responsibility for our experiences and our results in the world, which in turn causes a lot of drama and suffering. In this episode, Diana Chapman explains what it means to take radical responsibility—both at work and at home—and why this "serious business" actually goes hand in hand with playfulness. This episode is the second part of the two-parter on the book The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership: A New Paradigm for Sustainable Success https://www.blinkist.com/en/nc/browse/books/the-15-commitments-of-conscious-leadership-en [1], that Diana wrote together with Jim Dethmer and Kaley Warner Klemp. You can find the first part with Jim Dethmer in the feed. Book recommended by Diana: - Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones, by James Clear Diana also mentions work by Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks, as well as Karpman's drama triangle. Books recommended by Caitlin and Ben: - Play: How It Shapes the Brain, Opens the Imagination, and Invigorates the Soul, by Stuart M. Brown Jr. and Christopher Vaughan - Radical Candor: How to Get What You Want by Saying What You Mean, by Kim Scott - The No-Gossip Zone: A No-Nonsense Guide to a Healthy, High-Performing Work Environment, by Sam Chapman Try Blinkist for free for 14 days by going to [https://www.blinkist.com/simplify][2], tapping on Try Blinkist at the top right, and entering the code PLAYFUL. Let us know what you thought of this episode, or just come say hi on Twitter! Find Caitlin at @caitlinschiller https://twitter.com/caitlinschiller [3], Ben at @bsto https://twitter.com/bsto [4]. Simplify is produced by Caitlin Schiller, Ben Schuman-Stoler, Ines Bläsius and Marta Medvešek. Thanks to Luiza S. Carvalho for audio engineering chops and Odysseas Constantinou for music. [1] https://www.blinkist.com/en/nc/browse/books/the-15-commitments-of-conscious-leadership-en [2] https://www.blinkist.com/simplify [3] https://twitter.com/caitlinschiller [4] https://twitter.com/bsto

Most of us learned how to do relationships from a state of victimhood. According to Karpman's Drama Triangle, there are three different roles to play: the victim, the hero and the villain. Regardless of these parts we take on, we're avoiding taking full responsibility for our experiences and our results in the world, which in turn causes a lot of drama and suffering. In this episode, Diana Chapman explains what it means to take radical responsibility—both at work and at home—and why this "serious business" actually goes hand in hand with playfulness. This episode is the second part of the two-parter on the book The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership: A New Paradigm for Sustainable Success https://www.blinkist.com/en/nc/browse/books/the-15-commitments-of-conscious-leadership-en [1], that Diana wrote together with Jim Dethmer and Kaley Warner Klemp. You can find the first part with Jim Dethmer in the feed. Book recommended by Diana: - Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones, by James Clear Diana also mentions work by Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks, as well as Karpman's drama triangle. Books recommended by Caitlin and Ben:- Play: How It Shapes the Brain, Opens the Imagination, and Invigorates the Soul, by Stuart M. Brown Jr. and Christopher Vaughan - Radical Candor: How to Get What You Want by Saying What You Mean, by Kim Scott - The No-Gossip Zone: A No-Nonsense Guide to a Healthy, High-Performing Work Environment, by Sam Chapman Try Blinkist for free for 14 days by going to [https://www.blinkist.com/simplify][2], tapping on Try Blinkist at the top right, and entering the code PLAYFUL.Let us know what you thought of this episode, or just come say hi on Twitter! Find Caitlin at @caitlinschiller https://twitter.com/caitlinschiller [3], Ben at @bsto https://twitter.com/bsto [4]. Simplify is produced by Caitlin Schiller, Ben Schuman-Stoler, Ines Bläsius and Marta Medvešek. Thanks to Luiza S. Carvalho for audio engineering chops and Odysseas Constantinou for music.[1] https://www.blinkist.com/en/nc/browse/books/the-15-commitments-of-conscious-leadership-en[2] https://www.blinkist.com/simplify[3] https://twitter.com/caitlinschiller[4] https://twitter.com/bsto

DOWNLOAD THE GOOD ENOUGH MOM ACTION GUIDE  https://www.stethoscopestoswaddles.com/goodenoughmom/   Review of previous episode “Wholeheartedness is like a North Star. You can never get there. But you know when you're heading the right way.”- Brene Brown Cultivating is about creating something positive. It's moving you forward by putting your oars in the water to row your boat on the sea of life. Letting go is about removing resistance. It's detaching the anchors from your boat, so you make effective progress when you row. Without creating the positive, you won't move forward. And without releasing what weighs you down, your progress is limited, slow, and painful. The term “guidepost” also signifies that wholeheartedness is a way of travel, not a destination.    Guidepost 6: Cultivating Creativity and Letting Go of Comparison Creativity doesn't require talent- everyone is creative! Comparison impedes creativity Watch a kid being creative- Zero pressure ACTION STEPS: What's your favorite way to be creative?  Start creating and share your gifts with the world! Pay attention to when you get caught up in comparison. How does comparison feel?  What's good in your life? Check that list against your to-do list and to accomplish list Take that NAP!   Guidepost 7: Cultivating Play and Rest, Letting Go of Exhaustion as a Status Symbol and Productivity as Self-Worth Sleep and Rest go hand in hand.  Sleep debt is real! Pay your debts.  “Play is the stick that stirs the drink. It is the basis of all art, games, books, sports, movies, fashion, fun, and wonder—in short, the basis of what we think of as civilization. Play is the vital essence of life. It is what makes life lively.”  ― Stuart M. Brown Jr., Play: How It Shapes the Brain, Opens the Imagination, and Invigorates the Soul May 2008 TED Talk : https://www.ted.com/talks/stuart_brown_play_is_more_than_just_fun?language=en “Kids don't run to get in shape; they run to feel the wind in their face and the grass beneath their feet. Kids don't chat over coffee; they make jokes and play games with their friends. Kids don't network; they bond while they're having fun together. There is no ego. There is no guilt. There is no past to regret, and no future to worry about. They just play.”  ― Charlie Hoehn, Play It Away: A Workaholic's Cure for Anxiety ACTION STEPS: Schedule time for unstructured play. Have a dance party- even if you have 2 left feet. Heck, play with slime! Notice when the thought that “play and rest are luxuries” shows up in your mind. That's like a warning sign that you're in need of rejuvenation. Use it as an opportunity to recommit to your top self-care practices. Brene suggests - make a list of “Ingredients for joy and meaning”- what specific conditions are in place when everything feels good? GUIDEPOST 8: Cultivating Calm and Stillness and Letting Go of Anxiety as a Lifestyle Calm is a practice! “Creating perspective and mindfulness while managing emotional reactivity”- Brene Brown  “The Dance of Connection”- managing anxiety- over functioning or under functioning ACTION STEPS Find what works for you Mindfulness- Start a daily meditation practice or a 5 min journaling practice GUIDEPOST 9: Cultivating Meaningful Work, Letting Go of Self-Doubt and Supposed-To What is meaningful work? Self-doubt undermines the process of finding our gifts and sharing them with the world- Brene Brown Imposter syndrome Supposed to- the battle cry of fitting in, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and proving yourself To overcome these- we have to start owning the messages  What makes us afraid What's on our supposed to list Who says so?  Why? Do not ignore these messages- acknowledge them, write them down and ask the messaged “What do you do?  Where are you from? How are you armor? Can I let you go and be safe?” I'm a wife, mom, CRNA, Mentor, Digital course creator, Life Coach, - The slash effect. You contain multitudes. Overcoming self-doubt is all about believing we are enough and letting go of what the world says we are supposed to be and call ourselves ACTION STEPS: Identify what meaningful means to you Reflect on what your unique gifts are, and start sharing them with the world. As Howard Thurman instructs: “Don't ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” When you notice that you're should-ing on yourself, pause and switch directions. Drop “should” and “supposed-to” from your vocabulary and replace it with “want.” (So “I should do X” becomes “I want to do X/Y/Z.”) GUIDEPOST 10: Cultivating Laughter, Song, and Dance. And Letting Go of Cool and Always in Control Next time you have the thought “But what if people think I'm weird…” Remember that fitting in is far less important than making authentic connections with others. Don't let a fear of looking weird prevent you from doing the things that serve you. ACTION STEPS: Make a playlist that helps you let go and be goofy and lean into the joy of movement and singing Notice the little opportunities for laughter and play and take them   IN SUMMATION Play, dance, take joy in not comparing your creativity with anyone else's, take a nap, slow down, notice your “shoulds” and take solace in the fact that you are enough as you are right now in this moment.