Dating Daze Podcast

Listen as a couple goes on one date and then move into together, engaged in 6 months, and married a few months later, then divorce a few months after that. See what can be learned from this story about what to look out for in your own dating. 

Jeff shares an experience where a woman he was seeing suggested that they just do "casual dating". Jeff was fine with that. But when he texted her to verify that she had the same definition of "casual dating" as he did things went awry. 

Lana Ricco is a prominent dating coach and relationship strategist specializing in guiding both men and women toward attracting high-value partners and cultivating successful relationships. Her expertise extends to hosting the new dating show, *Dating Makeover*, where she provides practical, actionable advice to individuals facing dating challenges.Find her new show Dating Makeover on YouTube.   Lana Ricco

Jeff has ventured back to the online apps. Match.com (yes open to sponsorships). But things haven't changed much really... many of the same issues that inspired Jeff to make a podcast about dating are still happening online. But remember people be kind, empathetic, mostly everyone is doing their best to find love. 

Dating people a lot younger or older than you is called Age Gap dating. It's not new but maybe it is for many of us. Find out what the attraction might be. 

In Episode 62 you hear the story of Kelly getting together with the contractor she hired to do some renovations on her house. A contractor and client hooking up is likely not an uncommon dalliance. However, it was soon discovered that the contrator was not single and difficulties ensued. Jeff and Mindy strongly recommended that Kelly block, delete and go no contact immediately. Kelly took their advice...for three days. Then she was right back in it. Big time. This episode hears the tale of international travel, the permanent borrowing of a car, and a significant other knocking on Kelly's door.

Lisa gives her advice for those thinking about or in the midst of being divorced. Listen to Lisa's advice and maybe hire her to give you specific advice.  Lisa Miller Divorce Coach

Therapist and author Denise Schonwald talks about things you should know about relationships before you hookup, fully commit, or get married. With experience from years of counseling individuals and couples about relationships she tells stories of the good and bad and what to consider and look out for.  Find her book and more at: https://deniseschonwald.com/

Just like any online activity dating has lots of scams, catfishing, fake profiles, that pop up. This episode we go over how to spot them and avoid. 

After a husband suddenly dies how long does it take before men start knocking on the newly widowed woman's door? Apparently a week or two. What happens when you return the fiance's ring?..their family become squatters in your house. These stories and more in this episode.

Romance and Erotica novels (picture the paperbacks with a bare chested hunk on the cover) that are read by women (probably 90% of readers are women) help men be better at dating? Maybe there's some good ideas in the books if women dream of these types of relationships and interactions (sex). Our guest Kris Renee has written numerous novel and novellas, she also participates in book clubs and gathering related to this genre. Find out what she's learned about women and what they like.  Find her books on Amazon or check her website: KrisRenee.net

Basic ideas for that first date (we call it a meet n greet). Your attitude, what you wear, and basic questions to consider to make it all go easier. 

You're a single man (or woman) and you're dating and hoping to get a man/woman back to your place (house/apt/condo) and they get there and are disgusted. This book helps you look at your living space and lifestyle to improve your chances with the opposite sex. Clean your bathroom, have some condoms, have some wine glasses, and more! Read this book and find a relationship! Get the Book: 101 Tips for Bachelors

You go on a first date that lasts 24 hours. Within days he says I want this to last forever. Within 3 weeks he moves in. Then the cracks in the month old foundation start to appear. But never fear just carry-on, get married then it gets really bad...

Guests Alan Feigenbaum and Ariella Steinhornt talk to us about their Non-Linear Love project. They talk about reframing the way we think about dating, romance, break-ups, divorce and love.  In modern times relationships are judged on their path to, and relativity to marriage. But Al and Ari are working on changing those views. Instead, they will collect and tell people's unique relationship stories, and maybe reframe the way we all think about dating, romance, break-ups, divorce and love. Perhaps, if we view love through a nonlinear lens, we can find a way to encourage a reduction in conflict as our paths to the next chapter begin. If we can make peace, not war, with the simple fact that so many of our relationships have a natural shelf life, the possibilities could be limitless.  To find out more about their work: @NonLinearLoveStories www.nonlinearlove.com @asteinhorn @alrichard_f    

Chairlift Confessions, where listeners tell their stories. This one is from a flight attendant. Yes, they have dating stories too, not surprising especially when they're fun and hot. Includes some tips on how to get a date with that cute flight attendant you see on an airplane.

Emily fell in love and her partner asked her to loan him a lot of money to "start a business" now she'll never see him or the money again. Also hear her story of a 1st and 2nd husband. Some lessons to be learned on this Chairlift Confession. 

This episode is Dating Daze Book Club. We discuss the book "Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr Good Enough". But it's really not about "settling" it's about being realistic about your expectations, and being honest about who you are and what you bring to a relationship, as well as acknowledging that your Mr. Perfect doesn't exist and if he did he's probably already married, and wouldn't even make a good husband/father/partner that would bring you happiness in a relationship. Our guest is part of the Book Club: Melissa Botten. Divorced farmer and nurse from Oregon. Melissa runs Seva Fresh Farm. They make and sell all kinds of good handmade penis and ball soaps, honey, and other great products.  Soaps, Honey and Candles Seva Fresh Farm

Nicole Drew was dating a guy and loaned him some money because of a sob story and then he disappeared. Turns out it wasn't the first time he did it. Nicole thought about it and decided to develop and launch a new dating app that helps prevent scams, fake profiles, AI, your date being a criminal and other protections from online dating issues. It's called Rater Listen to Nicole's story and all about the new app.   Rater on Instagram Download Rater

In another episode of the Chairlift Confession themed stories. A scorned lover confronts the new woman on the sidewalk as she exits the guys house. Plus the 7-month marriage and why weren't you a runaway bride?! 

Special guest Erika Ettin aka @littlenudge on Instagram gives her practical, straightforward advice for dating. She is funny, entertaining, but most importantly has a lot of experience and gives some great sage and applicable advice.  @alittlenudge on Instagram  A Little Nudge homepage link

The Wrap-Up for dating in 2023. Since Spotify and even some senior citizens on Instagram were doing the summary of their dating for 2023, we did one for us. Give a listen on our experiences for the year. 

Mindy and our friend Rebecca decided to experiment with expanding their social circle to increase the possibility of meeting new friends and maybe meeting a man for a relationship organically (not on a dating app). Even if it doesn't find a relationship you can make new friends and enrich your life. It seems like for Rebecca it worked...at least for now...haha! Let's hear what they found out. 

In honor of the 69th episode the theme of sex will be highlighted. We talk with Erin Berry Bliss, love, sex, and relationship coach. She specializes in helping women and couples stop putting off desire, live life fully, and break free of the cycles, situations, and patterns that make them miserable. Contact Erin at ErinBerryBliss.com or Instagram at  @erinberrybliss

The term "dating roster" is really just a list of people you're communicating with and potentially dating. But it can get confusing and maybe if you don't pay attention you'll miss meeting your true love. Thankfully there's an app for that: CLARA. Spanish for "clear", CLARA provides a platform to keep track of your roster. But more importantly, it helps you decide who is the best fit for you in a relationship. We talk to the CLARA originator and number one user of the app, Jillian Romero Chaves.  Find CLARA on instagram at CLARA for Daters or online CLARA for Daters or at the Apple App Store search Clara for Daters  

Jeff has a bad date experience and wants to talk about it. He tells Mindy it's a Chairlift Confession which typically is a really bad date story spanning states or potentially bodily harm and jail...but alas Jeff is just dazed and confused once again by dating in the current times. Which is why he started the podcast. His date with a local comedian was doomed from the start and then the comedian disses him and is basicallly disrespectful and callous. Jeff is hurt. So hear the tale and at least commiserate and get some thoughts on being nice in the world or dating.

Men's Dating Coach Kimberly Nina Hill and host of The Self Confidence Project podcast, joins Dating Daze to talk about issues, troubles, and frustrations, for men in dating. But also offers some help in making it better. You texted her and she's not responding...what should you do? Have some insecurities and anxiety when trying to date? Kimberly can help! Give a listen. Kimberly Instagram Kimberly's Website

Men that can't find a match nearby might try looking long distance, other cities or states. But have you tried international? Our guest is a matchmaker in Ukraine. Finding men and matching them with beautiful women in Ukraine. Find out how it works and maybe it's the way to find true love without dating apps. Olympya Matchmaking on Instagram  

A guest tells the story of her boyfriend suddenly moving out of state and breaking up...but then moves to another state and wants to reconnect and maybe get married. But things don't seem right. Some online checking reveals some sad realities. Listen to the tale and maybe learn about long distance realities. 

Just like anything online Dating Daze gets ratings, reviews, comments. So on this episode we read and respond to the comments found on Apple and Spotify. Also, like a lot of online ratings and reviews, people can be mean and lots of them are just trolls, meaning the comment really has nothing to do with the podcast just someone that likes to see their mean words online. But there are some comments that we agree with and will try to do better. But most important are the nice comments that we LOVE! So if you're reading this give a good comment and rating for the podcast right now. Thank you.

Another Chairlift Confession where hosts or listeners come to tell their stories of love, sex, breakups, deceit, and other sordid tales of dating. In this episode our guest “Kelly” starts dating and falls in love with the handsome contractor that had come to renovate her home. “Sam” was a dream come true, with his rugged good looks, blue eyes, and tool belt. But turns out that Sam may not be all that he claimed. Kelly tells the tale and we try to help her avoid having her heart broken further.

If you listen to the podcast you've likely heard Jeff bring up "K" or Kimberly. The woman he loved and that broke his heart. Hear the full story starting with Hinge and until now in the past few weeks where he's finally deleted her from his life. Love and heartbreak at it's finest...but not the finest hour(s) for Jeff. As he tells all the mistakes he made as she pulled away. Learn from his errors. 

I've been on hundreds of first dates wish I had kept some sort of notes for all of them. It would really be useful in being more focused on the goal of a great long term relationship. Lauren Smith, the author of The Mindful Dating Journal has written a book that tells us all how to find what we're looking for in a relationship and it includes a journal form that you fill out after each date. It helps guide you to finding the right person for you! The book: Mindful Dating Journal Lauren Smith: Website

Guest Megan Thoma helps us walk through the early dating process. Six things to look for on first date; Five first date habits to break up with ASAP and more tips on navigating the dating world. Instagram: Megan Thoma Online: Megan's Website

Our guest Mike is a “Chairlift Confession” he has some funny maybe embarrassing stories about dates and dating. He lives in the Midwestern United States, and although that's different tha, the mountain state of Denver, sounds like the same crazy stories. If you have a story you'd like to tell look me up on Facebook or Instagram, Jeff Kimes, or the Dating Daze group page and send me a message and say you'd like to tell your story. Also if you have an episode topic idea or want to be a guest contact me. @jdkimes on Instagram

Amber De Vos, The Seduxe. Helps singles go from clueless to coupled, couples go from “meh” to “mhmmm” and helps heal the broken hearted. She helps men with areas of confidence, character, charisma, communication, being a confidant. We talk about which dating apps are the best, online v. organic, dogs/pets in the bed and more on this episode.

How to break up: text, phone, or in-person? Like a lot of things in dating…it depends. Situationships, having cookies, and different definitions of relationships.  You meet someone that wants to date you, but turns out they're in a relationship but say there is some "grey area" when it comes to dating others. All this and more on this episode.

Hear author and veteran hairstylists Veronica Hernandez talk about what she learned about relationships, people, and dating during 20 years as a hairstylist. She helped people talk through their drama and provided some advice during these “hair-apy” sessions. Her book “Modern Guidance: Life Lessons, Insight and Empowering Stories” provides guided direction and personal development. It will help you to connect with your personal power and internal compass. It was written to be a straightforward and simple way of gaining clarity in difficult situations. Contact Veronica Herndandez on her website at: Modern Guidance  

Do you find yourself in a dysfuncational relationship but can't or won't get out? You tell yourself your partner is wrong, toxic, possibly abusive, you "break up" but then two weeks later you're back together... Our guest this episode, Bre Wolta,helps you break these patterns. Or maybe you can't get over your ex. Bre will help you change unhealthy patterns, rebuild your confidence, put yourself first, find peace, and finally experience healthy relationships.

Guest Jaclyn Wagner helps us figure what we might being doing wrong when looking for our dream relationship. Are you pushing away someone that might be great for you? Do you really know what it is you want in someone? Listen as we talk to an expert...hear her give Jeff some therapy on what he's doing wrong... Sign up for Jaclyn's program. Jaclyn Wagner

Guest Lindsey Marie Barber coach's men and women to find aligned love that complements and invigorates their life mission as well as build out their legacy. She talks about her programs to help you step into the confident version of your future self who has already built this legacy, learn how to channel that inner voice for intuitive guidance. Give a listen and find out how to find the love and life you want.   Find more about Lindsey in this episode and on her website. If you contact her tell her you heard about it on Dating Daze. https://lindseymariecoaching.com

Single, Self Sufficient, Successful, and Happy. Who needs dating? just be single...that's not really the only message of the book "Single, Self Sufficient, and Successful" by the beautiful and intelligent author Manju Lal. But she does acknowledge that you don't need a relationship to have a great life. Society's focus on romantic reltionships and marriage can make a person, especially women, feel like they're failures if they're not in a relationship or more importantly married. Here Manju talk about her life where her parents had an arranged marriage in India. But she's lived a different and happy life. Get her book: Single, Self-Sufficient, and Successful

The Winggirl, Marni, is female dating coach for men and has spent the last decade helping tens of thousands of men stop being Mr. Nice Guy and become Mr. Holy S&*T, I Want Him!!! Her methods help guys flirt, she explains the 6 things guys do to ruin their chances, tells guys what to talk about on dates. Women, listen and see if you think her methods would work or are good advice. The Winggirl Method

Dating can be challenging and that's why it's nice to have experts that can give us some advice on it. Dr. Aimee Callahan helps us navigate the dating waters. Aimee is the author of a "Rewilding of Women" that helps women rediscover their inner selves to lead to happier lives and more fulfilling relationships. All the info for Aimee can be found at her website https://draimeecallahan.com

Part 2 of Meet Nicole...she seems to make a lot of bad choices...from her first marriage to an alcoholic that cheats with her bestie, to her new boyfriend in Oregon(she lives in Colorado) who is still married, her newer boyfriend that she moves in with and he becomes her boss but who is married with children in London…then her new husband who claims to be a billionaire but is also a control freak that essentially bans her from leaving the house for fear she'll fuck the waiter in the bathroom. Nicole is a wonderful, beautiful, woman why does this happen? So much to tell I made it into two episodes...this is Part 2.

Meet Nicole...she seems to make a lot of bad choices...from her first marriage to an alcoholic that cheats with her bestie, to her new boyfriend in Oregon(she lives in Colorado) who is still married, her newer boyfriend that she moves in with and he becomes her boss but who is married with children in London…then her new husband who claims to be a billionaire but is also a control freak that essentially bans her from leaving the house for fear she'll fuck the waiter in the bathroom. Nicole is a wonderful, beautiful, woman why does this happen? So much to tell I made it into two episodes...

As we discuss dating is tough, sometimes we need help. Rebecca Schocker helps navigate the dating world starting with yourself... the old adage love yourself so you can love and be loved by another. Dating with intention, meaning know what you want and how to get it.  Rebecca is available for online dating coaching and help with getting your life together or just making a few tweaks to improve it.  Real with Rebecca

Find out how a meet n' greet with host Jeff goes. Includes lots of do's and don't's for a first date and ideas for your online dating profile. Special guest Marci who now has a dating coaching service found here:  Dating Coach Marci Also: Dating with Marci

New Facebook groups named "Are We Dating the Same Guy?" have begun to appear in most cities around the country. There are groups "Are We Dating the Same Girl?" but they have very few members and not very good. The Are We Dating the Same Guy group in Denver has over 40,000 members! This episode we talk about these groups and questions on their accuracy, moral issues like is it fair to guys, or is it useful for women. 

This episode I talk to someone that was married for 29 years and now at 50 yrs old is out in the dating world. When you've been married for 29 years and then start dating it can be confusing, interesting, and funny. You really need to be true to yourself and what you want and don't want. This guest encountered transgender, old high school boyfriends wanting threesomes and lots of other things along the way. But good news you can find a relationship you're happy about. Let's start the episode and remember go out there, have some fun, try not to hurt anyone and try and fall in love.

Dating and relationships can be frustratinga and confusing, that's why I started this podcast. So we often look for resources. Things like books, or podcasts…and sometimes coaches. Someone that can offer an objective viewpoint and guidance on what to do. Anything from healing from your past relationships and dating experiences to help with online profiles and wardrobe. This episode I have Cassie Callister (see links below). From life experiences and from ongoing training in life coaching she helps people help themselves. So let's get on with the episode and find out what Cassie thinks about dating and what she's learned. Go out there have some fun try not to hurt anyone and try and fall in love. Cassie Callister Linktree Cassie on Instragram