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Archive.is Marry Him! The case for settling for Mr. Good Enough By Lori Gottlieb The Atlantic: Marry Him! The case for settling for Mr. Good Enough By Lori Gottlieb That time Lori Gottlieb quoted me in the Atlantic about how women are too picky Lori Gottlieb's 2008 article in The Atlantic sparked widespread debate with her controversial argument that women should consider "settling" for Mr. Good Enough rather than waiting for the elusive "Mr. Right." She uses personal anecdotes and social commentary to critique the unrealistic expectations of romantic fulfillment that many women hold. As biological clocks tick and societal pressures mount, Gottlieb suggests that women may find greater happiness by choosing reliable partners over idealized ones. In contrast, Chris Abraham's blog post, which was quoted in Gottlieb's piece, provides a male perspective on the issue. He describes his own experience dating "the perfect woman," confidently predicting that she will settle for him when her desire for children outweighs her romantic aspirations. This juxtaposition of viewpoints offers a more comprehensive look at how societal pressures around settling affect both men and women. Gottlieb's article focuses on the internal conflict faced by women, while Abraham touches on the gender dynamics in the dating world, asserting that men retain more romantic prospects as they age compared to women. Ultimately, the two perspectives highlight the tension between romantic ideals and the practical realities of relationships. They both suggest that societal constructs around age, marriage, and family shape decisions in ways that often lead to compromise, but Abraham's tone suggests a more transactional view of "settling," where the idealized vision of love takes a backseat to biological and social realities. Show Notes: In this episode, we explore Lori Gottlieb's provocative 2008 article "Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough" alongside a response from Chris Abraham, who was quoted in the article. We delve into the nuances of romantic expectations, the societal pressures faced by women as they age, and the contrasting perspectives on whether it's better to "settle" or keep searching for the ideal partner. Key Points: Lori Gottlieb argues that women might be happier settling for a stable, reliable partner rather than waiting for a passionate, idealized Mr. Right. Chris Abraham shares his belief that women are often too picky, and he expects that his ex-girlfriend will eventually settle for him when her biological clock ticks down. The societal pressures around age, marriage, and family impact how both men and women view the idea of "settling." Discussion of the changing nature of romantic expectations as individuals move from idealism in their 20s to pragmatism in their 30s and 40s. FAQ: What is Lori Gottlieb's main argument in the article? Lori Gottlieb argues that women should consider "settling" for a stable, reliable partner instead of holding out for an idealized version of Mr. Right. She believes this will ultimately lead to greater happiness, particularly for women who want to start a family. Why does Gottlieb believe settling is a better option? Gottlieb argues that marriage is more about partnership and practical compatibility than passionate romance. She believes that settling will provide the stability needed for family life, which many women ultimately desire. Is settling portrayed as a negative concept? While settling is often seen negatively, Gottlieb reframes it as a pragmatic choice that could lead to long-term happiness and fulfillment in areas like family life. What is the male perspective on settling, according to Chris Abraham? Abraham believes that men don't experience the same societal pressures as women, and that women are the ones who ultimately have to "settle" as they age and want children. He views it as women compromising, while men like him still get to be with their ideal partner. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/chrisabraham/support

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2324: Dr. Diana Kirschner explores the self-sabotaging dating pattern where women dismiss potential partners over trivial flaws, believing they are "not willing to settle." Instead, she argues, it's essential to focus on a man's deeper values, like empathy and personal growth, which are the real foundations for lasting love. She challenges women to give men a fair chance and avoid the perfectionism that often leads to missed opportunities for happiness. Read along with the original article(s) here: http://lovein90days.com/not-willing-settle-love-life/ & http://lovein90days.com/how-to-tell-if-a-guy-has-soulmate-potential/ Quotes to ponder: "Love often comes in a surprise package." "These complaints have nothing to do with the qualities that make for a partner who can provide lasting love and happiness." "You unconsciously project your own feelings of inadequacy onto each guy you meet or date." Episode references: Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough: https://www.amazon.com/Marry-Him-Case-Settling-Enough/dp/0525951512 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“Settling” for my husband has taught me SO MUCH about business…“We hold onto these perfectionist fantasies about what we're supposed to do with our lives and the person we're supposed to be with… that really harm us in the end.” - ShinahMy husband is NOT the man I expected to marry. In fact, I was only open to dating him after reading a book called “MARRY HIM: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough” by Lori Gottlieb.But it turned out to the best choice of my life. And letting go of the idea of my “perfect man” not only led me to the love of my life… but it taught me crucial business lessons, too. So, keep listening to hear:Everything I thought I wanted in a partner and why I was so wrong about most of itMy husband's numerous “disqualifications” and the real drama of letting go of that perfectionist idealTHREE CRUCIAL business lessons I've learned from this experience - because “perfect” in business doesn't mean what you think it meansAnd don't forget to join me next week as I share the story of my “B-“ Body (that I think every woman will relate to).--Interested in starting your own calligraphy business?

This episode is Dating Daze Book Club. We discuss the book "Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr Good Enough". But it's really not about "settling" it's about being realistic about your expectations, and being honest about who you are and what you bring to a relationship, as well as acknowledging that your Mr. Perfect doesn't exist and if he did he's probably already married, and wouldn't even make a good husband/father/partner that would bring you happiness in a relationship. Our guest is part of the Book Club: Melissa Botten. Divorced farmer and nurse from Oregon. Melissa runs Seva Fresh Farm. They make and sell all kinds of good handmade penis and ball soaps, honey, and other great products.  Soaps, Honey and Candles Seva Fresh Farm

Women's health and needs can be incredibly elusive. We are often feeling confused, uninformed and unsure of the help we need as women. Dr. Bethany Peterson joins The Cold Coffee Club to shed some light on Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder and Postpartum Depression, stripping away the stigmas and confusion, reminding us that both are normal and REAL! Learn when to be concerned, when to get help and where you can turn! Dr. Bethany shared two great resources for finding help when dealing with either condition. There's lots of useful information from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Los Angeles, along with incredible insights from the International Association for Premenstrual Disorders.  “Spill the Tea” Win: Ashley is reading up a storm lately, and she's stumbled upon a gem! First, she read Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough. If you are single and dating men, this is the book for you! It encourages women to really think about their standards and values, and what it takes to find a man to meet those.  “Cream and Sugar” Recommendations:  Galveston is an incredibly historic destination near Houston but did you know about the Galveston Tree Sculptures? These incredible artistic displays are scattered around Galveston and give new life to destroyed trees that would have become an eyesore for the community.   Houston Moms “House Blend” Posts: It's that time of year again! It's time for the Houston Rodeo Cook-off! If you're like Ashley and a bit of a novice when it comes to this Houston mainstay, check out Chris' post, An Insider's Guide to the Houston Rodeo Cook-Off!

Paid subscribers get full access to my interview with Lori Gottlieb. The first half of this episode is available to all listeners. To hear the entire conversation, become a paying subscriber here. Psychotherapist and writer Lori Gottlieb visited The Unspeakable in 2021 to talk about her bestselling book Maybe You Should Talk To Someone. She returns for a Valentine's Day episode about finding love, staying in love, and what to make of all the social scientists constantly going on about how marriage and family are essential for mental, physical and even economic well-being. To that, Lori says, “well, obviously!” But she also asks “how are you supposed to find someone when our social systems are so dysfunctional?” Her own story involves becoming a mother on her own in her 30s (her son Zach is a budding Gen Z thought leader in his own right) and trying to balance her own dating life with childrearing and a busy career. In this conversation, she talks about how she tries to help clients who are struggling to find love, how honest talk about female fertility became taboo sometime in the 2000s, why dating apps are making things so much worse, and why age gaps in romantic relationships seem more prevalent than ever. She also explains why, for older daters, widowed people can make the best partners and, finally, why more singles should seriously consider hiring a matchmaker. GUEST BIO Lori Gottlieb is a psychotherapist and the New York Times best-selling author of “Maybe You Should Talk to Someone” and “Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough.” She is also a TED Speaker, the co-host of the popular "Dear Therapists" podcast, and the “Dear Therapist” columnist for The Atlantic. Listen to the last time she was on the podcast. Check out her website. Follow her on Twitter here. Want to hear the whole conversation? Upgrade your subscription here. HOUSEKEEPING

On today's episode, I virtually sit down with author and therapist Lori Gottlieb. We discuss the reason people are struggling to find a partner, if men have to make the same concessions as women, I explain to Lori what the “ick” is, what qualities make a man good enough, how much a person's family matters, why mysteriousness is not a good quality, and more. This episode starts with a solo where I discuss my Taylor Swift eras tour experience.   Buy Lori's books Maybe You Should Talk To Someone and Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough   Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode.   Sponsors: Drinklmnt.com/acme to claim your free LMNT sample pack lovewellness.com code Acme15 at checkout for 15% off your first purchase Sakara.com/acme code ACME for 20% off your first order Drinkag1.com/acme for a free 1 year supply of vitamin D and 5 free travel packs   Produced by Dear Media.

English Listening Practice: Discussing The Intricacies Of Gaslighting Could your boss be gaslighting you without your knowledge? Is the media gaslighting us to manipulate our perceptions? In today's English lesson we discover the insidious concept of 'gaslighting', understand its impact in our relationships, and learn how to respond effectively, all while enhancing your English vocabulary. Adept English lessons are designed for all English language learners. We use a variety of methods to make learning English fun and engaging, including:

Today's episode of Finding the Thing is the final episode of our dating series! We close with a beautiful dating experience that has resulted in true love! Dater #7 is an engaged heterosexual 31-year-old man with his fiancé, who shares the progression of his relationship from meeting on the dating app Badoo to planning a wedding for the fall of 2022. We also discuss April's book of the month - Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough by Lori Gottleib. Thanks for listening to our dating series this month! Please listen, subscribe, and share your feedback!

Today's episode of Finding the Thing, kicks off April's dating series! In this episode, Emily and Shannon discuss the following dating shows: The Love Connection, The Bachelor/Bachelorette, Love is Blind, and Love on the Spectrum. They address the impacts of televised dating and common themes found in these shows. All month Emily and Shannon will be discussing the many aspects of finding love in 2022.  They will release interviews with daters from different backgrounds each week! In these interviews people will share their unique experiences from the dating world. In addition, April is the start of their book club. April's book of the month is Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr Good Enough by Lori Gottleib. Join us in reviewing the book in the last episode of the month.  Please listen, subscribe, and share your feedback! Send us answers to questions on Spotify or email us!

This episode takes a look at whether we should “settle” for “Mr. Good Enough” or hold out for Prince Charming or our own version of happily ever after. Book mentioned: Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough by Lori Gottlieb  https://www.amazon.com.au/Marry-Him-Lori-Gottlieb/dp/045123216X Find me:  Instagram: @Single_at_Thirty W: singleatthirty.com  If you have an episode idea, DM me on Instagram @single_at_thirty or join the Single at Thirty closed Facebook group to become part of the community where together with other like-minded Modern Women we publicly air the uncomfortable and the unspoken. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We are back! After a short Spring break in the bae, Becca is back! In this episode of Dating in the Bae, Becca chats with Hinge’s behavioral scientist, Logan Ury, about her new book, How Not To Die Alone. Plus, Logan shares all her dating knowledge through years of observing, studying and writing about love.  What are the 3 types of daters? How many people should you date before settling down? Is love at first even sight a real thing?  Join Becca and Logan on this fun and fascinating conversation. Grab your notepad and pen because you’ll definitely want to take notes on Logan’s dating tips!  Jump straight into: 00:21 - Self love 101: How to enjoy yourself as you are right now. 03:14 - Logan’s super-star professional trajectory in behavioral science and why she decided to write a dating book. 07:39 - The three types of dating tendencies; which one are you? 11:31 - Is chemistry an explosion or a slow burn? The 3 myths about “the spark”. 16:17 - Compare and despair: The problem with just seeing other couples’ curated moments. 18:01 - How to know when to settle? The math in dating & the secretary algorithm. 22:00 - Dating tips + tricks: How to keep it fun while still looking for what you want! Episode resources: Follow Logan on https://www.instagram.com/loganury/?hl=es (Instagram) and https://twitter.com/loganury (Twitter) https://www.loganury.com/ (LoganUry.com) https://www.facebook.com/groups/1346061979072173 (Logan’s Book Club) https://www.amazon.com/How-Not-Die-Alone-Surprising/dp/1982120622/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3I3JHQWQ5RZXC&dchild=1&keywords=how+not+to+die+alone&qid=1616524242&sprefix=how+not+to+die+al%2Caps%2C243&sr=8-1 (How Not To Die Alone by Logan Ury) https://www.amazon.com/Marry-Him-Case-Settling-Enough/dp/045123216X/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=the+case+for+settling+for+mister+good+enough&qid=1616524162&sr=8-1 (Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough by Lori Gottlieb) https://www.amazon.com/Maybe-You-Should-Talk-to-Someone-audiobook/dp/B07PYJB9Z9/ref=sr_1_1?crid=278JA7OW79EOX&dchild=1&keywords=maybe+you+should+talk+to+someone&qid=1616524779&sprefix=maybe+your+sould+talk+to+some%2Caps%2C276&sr=8-1 (Maybe You Should Talk To Someone by Lori Gottlieb) Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/datinginthebae/ (@datinginthebae)). Don’t forget to subscribe, rate and share with all of your fellow baes.  Rebecca’s IG:https://www.instagram.com/pibblesandpizza/ (@pibblesandpizza)

We all know what we want in our dating life: to be in a great relationship. But what is stopping us from having that? Well, there could be a lot of factors but a major one could actually be us getting in our own way.    I'm really excited to have today's expert help us understand how we can stop sabotaging our own happiness when it comes to dating. Lori Gottlieb is a psychotherapist and author of not one but two New York Times bestselling books: Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, which is currently being adapted as a TV series, and Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough. In addition to being an author in a clinical practice, she writes the Atlantic's weekly Dear Therapist advice column, and she's also the co-host of the new hit podcast, Dear Therapist, which I love listening to myself, and is produced by Katie Couric.    This is “Save the Date,” a dating survival kit from Coffee Meets Bagel. Each episode, our Chief Dating Officer Dawoon Kang will sit down with a guest expert to tackle some of your most burning dating questions and explore what it takes to ultimately reach your goals: going on great dates that lead to a lasting, serious relationship.   SHOW NOTES: Why do we go after the unavailable type [1:39]   Idiot Compassion vs. Wise Compassion [5:10]   Do you need to settle to be in a happy relationship? [10:02]   Why spark AND compatibility is important [14:41]   How we learn about ourselves in relationship in our 20s [21:05]   How Lori got over a painful breakup with the help of her therapist [26:29]   The ways in which we keep ourselves in a prison [29:43]   Should you ever compromise on core values? [35:32]   Tips for dating after 40 years old [41:51]   How to start trusting again after a heartbreak [43:09]   The best dating advice Lori has ever received [45:10]   RESOURCES:   Lori’s website - https://lorigottlieb.com/   Lori’s books - https://www.amazon.com/Lori-Gottlieb/e/B001IOBJ66%3Fref=dbs_a_mng_rwt_scns_share Lori’s articles in The Atlantic - https://www.theatlantic.com/author/lori-gottlieb/ Lori’s Instagram profile - https://www.instagram.com/lorigottlieb_author/?hl=en Lori’s TED talk - https://www.ted.com/talks/lori_gottlieb_how_changing_your_story_can_change_your_life?language=en Lori’s podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-therapists/id1523340696   QUOTES: “Sometimes we are our own jailers. Situation, circumstance, and stories make us think we're unlovable and keep us imprisoned when we can walk around those bars and create our own story.” “We blame it on the availability of the significant other we're looking for if we can't find them. In reality, we may sabotage ourselves by going after people who aren't right for us.”   “We marry our unfinished business. When you're dating, it's important to know what business needs to get finished so you can pursue people who can provide the relationship you want.”   “Idiot Compassion is when we think we're being supportive by hearing a friend's story about a bad date or boyfriend and saying, ‘They're terrible. You were right, they were wrong.’”   “Wise compassion is what a therapist does. We hold up a mirror to you and help you to see something about yourself that maybe you haven't been willing or able to see.”   “I think that spark is really important. But I think that what you're looking for is spark and compatibility. I think when people feel spark, they forget about compatibility.”   “When we are heartbroken, we think we miss the other person. In actuality, we miss being in a great relationship, things like the inside jokes, sharing the minutiae of our day, etc.”   “There's healthy chemistry, where you're drawn to somebody for healthy reasons and unhealthy chemistry, where you're immediately drawn to somebody because of unfinished business.”   “I think that we forget that the dating experience is different from the married experience.”   “It doesn't help anybody to stay in a relationship that ultimately can't work because you're not willing to talk about what's important to you in life.”  

Lori Gottlieb is a contributing writer at The Atlantic and the author of Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough. Her new book is Maybe You Should Talk to Someone.

Bestselling author Lori Gottlieb talks about being the therapist and the patient in the intimate space of psychotherapy. Gottlieb's latest book is Maybe You Should Talk to Someone. She is also the author of Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough and Stick Figure. Visit lorigottlieb.com for more.

"Marry Him! The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough" by Lorie Gottlieb inspired my previous episode on the previous episode about the balance between settling and being too picky as a millennial. Here's a reading of that article. An Excerpt: "They [the mothers in the mommy and me class], like me, would rather feel alone in a marriage than actually be alone, because they, like me, realize that marriage ultimately isn’t about cosmic connection—it’s about how having a teammate, even if he’s not the love of your life, is better than not having one at all".

"Marry Him! The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough" by Lorie Gottlieb inspired my previous episode on the previous episode about the balance between settling and being too picky as a millennial. Here's a reading of that article. An Excerpt: "They [the mothers in the mommy and me class], like me, would rather feel alone in a marriage than actually be alone, because they, like me, realize that marriage ultimately isn’t about cosmic connection—it’s about how having a teammate, even if he’s not the love of your life, is better than not having one at all".

In therapy we participate in the conversation with people as they explore the potential for their lives. As a masterful therapist, Lori Gottlieb knows this work, but she is also an expert at something that is a bit different. She receives letters from people who need help in their lives. She doesn’t talk with them, ask questions, or get to know who they are. Using only the letter each person sends, she crafts a response that sheds light and provides amazingly in-depth insight for her column in the New York Magazine called What Your Therapist Really Thinks. Lori is a psychotherapist and bestselling author of 4 books, most recently, Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough. In this episode she talks about the process and challenges of writing her column. She is also writing a new book called, Girl Walks Into A Therapy Room. The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy and a bonus episode the first Thursday of each month about the business of private practice. Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes! Resources Visit Lori's website at lorigottlieb.com Read articles from Lori's column, What Your Therapist Really Thinks Lori's Books Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough I Love You, Nice to Meet You: A Guy and a Girl Give the Lowdown on Coupling Up Stick Figure: A Diary of My Former Self Inside the Cult of Kibu: And Other Tales of the Millennial Gold Rush Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group

For over 10+ years Antia Boyd, who is originally from Germany, has been helping single women all over the world to find the right man for them without loneliness, sadness or wasting any more time. She studied Personality Psychology at U.C. Berkeley, and has led many soulmate support groups, where most of the women there have attracted the right man for them! Brody Boyd has been helping single men all over the world to find the right woman for them to share their life with without fear, anxiety or rejection for over 12+ years. He has a degree in communications and interpersonal relationships and for over a decade has studied everything that he could get his hands on about women, dating and building great confidence and social skills without fear. This power couple has spoken on stages and radio shows all over the country. And they recently moved to beautiful San Diego, California. Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra You attract who you are being. Brody - Partnership helps you grow even faster. When You Tripped Up Brody - Brody used to struggle a lot in connecting with women. When his first girlfriend dumped him after 2 1/2 years he was devastated and went into a deep depression. He was so afraid of rejection that he was stuck.  When he learned from his mentors to move towards the fear and dance with the fear and make love to the fear everything changed. This transformed the thing he was afraid of into something that could benefit his life. Antia - Antia was in the habit of punishing men for any mishap at all. What wasn’t authentic about this was she was closing her heart to do this. She did not allow them to be human, and set them up for failure. She was resentful and unforgiving, which let to her being emotionally unavailable. Antia entered relationships looking for where the men were not following through. They really didn’t have a chance. The “DUH” moment Antia - Antia was communicating with this guy who was texting her but never asking her out.  One morning she woke up and realized that she was waiting for this guy to change like she had always been waiting for her Dad to change. All at once, she realized that she could free herself. She turned on Taylor Swift and broke up with her old self. She got it on a visceral level. Brody - When Brody started his personal development and dating studies journey it was reading a book about how to seduce women with NLP and hypnosis. And he was aware this was pretty strange, but it got him started. He read more and more and the problem it created was it put him in his head a lot. Constantly trying to figure out logically what does he have to do to be loved, and it wasn’t working. His “DUH” moment was when he realized was the key to reaching his goal of partnership was taking action based on what his heart is telling him and open up emotionally. What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received? Antia - Lean in and you will break open into something softer. Brody - Ask for help and be vulnerable enough to receive support. And communicate from a feeling level instead of an intellectual level. Best Partnership Book Antia -  (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/045123216X/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=045123216X&linkCode=as2&tag=speakofpartn-20&linkId=7e9c095cbe7a195eedbd74030903d972) Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/045123216X/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=045123216X&linkCode=as2&tag=speakofpartn-20&linkId=da16bd27d31431f2e8a7979e03fa7465) Brody - ...

Valerie and Reggie disclose their Thanksgiving family dramas. Are mashed potatoes and canned cranberries worth the blathering messy fights? Apparently. Regina used the expensive tools she's garnered through therapy to express her feelings maturely to her mother. Meanwhile Valerie forgot altogether that she's ever tried to be an evolved human being. Valerie watched a Lifetime-eaque Christmas-y movie called Angel Sings where Connie Britton is cast in the most awful, non-complex role, but Willie Nelson and bunch of other Austin musicians perform, which was alright. We're joined by Help Wanted pal and comedian Wyatt Tall who talks with us about Lori Gottlieb's controversially titled book "Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough," and all the things we wish we'd known when we were younger about dating. Or not. We talk about deal breakers; Gottlieb advises narrowing it down to 3. Tough stuff. This is our milestone 52nd episode! Thanks for listening vageenas! This episode sponsored by: These Undies, random underwear left on the bedroom floor.

Lori talks with Lori Gottlieb - author of Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough - and Belinda Luscombe - an editor-at-large at Time Magazine - about how to keep your relationships intact through the holiday season.   Today's show is brought to you by The Message, an original science fiction podcast from Panoply and GE Podcast Theater.   Email us: tlolpodcast@gmail.com Visit: www.realsimple.com

SUN. MAY 23, 7:00 PM EDT. The show features a discussion with New York Times best seller Lori Gottlieb (www.lorigottlieb.com), author of “Mary Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough".

Nicole Sandler interviews author Lori Gottlieb about the book "Marry Him: The Case for Setting for Mr. Good Enough," and Jacqueline Leo, author of "7 The Number for Happiness, Love, and Success," and shares a bit of her 2000 interview with Steely Dan's Donald Fagan and Walter Becker

When Choice Mom Lori Gottlieb wrote in Atlantic Monthly that perhaps settling for Mr. Good Enough might have been the smart choice, it created a firestorm of debate in the community. Now that she's interviewed marriage and dating experts, neurologists, and married and single men and women -- and applied what she's learned into her own dating life -- she's back with the full report in her book "Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough." We talk in this interview about, among other things, the penchant many Choice Moms might have for the "alpha maie" pre-motherhood, and how much things change in time. She talks about the platonic friend she wishes she'd married. And the "hot date" material she's glad she didn't meet until she was 10 years wiser. Sponsored by Sepal Reproductive Devices and California Cryobank. Learn more on ChoiceMoms.org.

Are you too picky? Ali & Erica aim to find out this week as we dive into a book that regularly makes the rounds on social media: "Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough" by Lori Gottlieb. We discuss things that used to be dealbreakers but aren't any more, whether women need to “settle” more, and how we each navigate our preferences in dating.But first, Erica goes on a decidedly okay coffee date while Ali frolics through a museum with Billy Joel.Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 18.If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcastThanks to this week's partners:Apostrophe: Save $15 and get your dermatologist-crafted treatment plan for just $5 at apostrophe.com/FMH and use code FMH.Factor: Head to factormeals.com/fmh50 and use code fmh50 to get 50% off.Drizly: Download the #1 alcohol delivery app today by visiting Drizly.com. Our Sponsors:* Check out Drizly: https://drizly.com* Check out Factor 75 and use my code fmh50 for a great deal: https://www.factor75.com/Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy