Fresh Perspective

I'm going to give you six reasons we lose momentum. Three of them come from the research, and three of them come from what I see in the work I do with people. Pick the one that's most relevant to you, and use it to get your momentum back. Momentum doesn't work like a ramp, starting small and building. It works more like a smile. High at the start, low in the middle, high again at the end. The middle is the dip. It's the boring part, where you do the same thing over and over long after it stopped being exciting. That's where momentum goes. And instead of crossing the dip, we go back to the start, where the energy is high and free. The three from the research: we misunderstand how momentum works, progress gets so small that it turns invisible, and we want the reward now, while the reward for anything big sits a long way off. The three from my own experience: addiction to novelty, which is a new course, a new podcast, a new idea, anything that feels like progress without crossing the dip. Craving easy problems, the ones you've already solved a hundred times, instead of the one you don't know how to solve yet. And avoiding the mirror, because proper reflection shows you things you would rather not find. In this episode I use one example the whole way through, changing careers. If yours is getting fit, or writing a book, or starting a business, swap it in. It works exactly the same. If I had to point you at one of the six, it's the last one. Look at what you find in the mirror. That's how you get your momentum back. Watch this episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lyqXDJz3xNk The RUT Diagnostic takes three minutes and tells you which groove you are stuck in right now, routine, uncertainty or trance: https://clarityquest.francoisesterhuizen.com/rut/ Work with me: https://www.francoisesterhuizen.com/work-with-me Fresh Perspective, my weekly newsletter: https://francoisesterhuizen.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=097ed8fb3c6e3c943817d0d80&id=7a7438d8f4 My website: https://www.francoisesterhuizen.com

There's a lot about my thirties that I regret, and regret deeply. I could tell you that I've made peace with that, but really I haven't. At the end of 2007 I had been married for about five months, I'd quit full-time ministry and we'd moved to Cape Town. Three major life changes all at once. Not something I would recommend. I had sponsors, so there wasn't money pressure. I had a lot of different options, and that was part of the problem for me. All these different possibilities, and choosing one of them felt dangerous, felt hard. Because if I choose one path, I'm letting go of all the others. So I'd think about pursuing one thing and say no, wait, wait, wait. And then I'd pursue them all at once, all a little bit. What I've done instead, I think, helped me more than just making peace with it. Because sometimes making peace with something in the past means you don't really get what you are supposed to get from it. You're not learning anything, you just accept it. Accept the regret, accept that you've wasted time, accept that you've wasted potential. Regret is inevitable. Regrets are painful. And that pain can either trap us or teach us. It's a very expensive teacher, regret, because you pay in time and you pay in potential. There's no bursary for this. You pay the full tuition fee. We all pay in some way. But you can choose how you want to pay, where you are now. Instead of paying with regret, we pay with effort, we pay with failure, we pay with embarrassment. My big lesson looking back: make a strong choice and execute. In this episode I take you through what I call passing the class. Extract the lesson. Integrate it, allow it to change your world view. And then invest it into your next chapter, so that the school fees you paid in lost time and lost potential now get invested and can compound. If you just make peace with something, that doesn't happen. If there's a time in your life that you regret, whatever it is, this one is for you. Watch this episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K1WDGperNKU The RUT Diagnostic takes three minutes and tells you which groove you are stuck in right now, routine, uncertainty or trance: https://clarityquest.francoisesterhuizen.com/rut/ Work with me: https://www.francoisesterhuizen.com/work-with-me Fresh Perspective, my weekly newsletter: https://francoisesterhuizen.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=097ed8fb3c6e3c943817d0d80&id=7a7438d8f4 My website: https://www.francoisesterhuizen.com

Nothing is wrong and you still feel stuck. Career fine, bills paid, and still restless. Why do I feel stuck when nothing is wrong? I know what to do and I'm still not doing it. Those two questions tend to arrive together, and they arrive with guilt, because you have a pretty good life and you are supposed to be grateful for it. You are, unfortunately, very normal. In this episode I show you the two engines that move people, pain and possibility, and why a pretty good life switches both of them off. Then the cruise control problem: how you can be moving every single day, losing momentum in the one direction that matters, and never notice it, because there is nothing bad to point at. We look at how gratitude turns into a hiding place. And I give you the RUT, the three grooves that a life on cruise control wears into your weeks: routine, uncertainty and trance. You leave with one sentence to finish and one hour of steering to do this week. The RUT Diagnostic takes three minutes and tells you which of those three grooves runs deepest for you: https://clarityquest.francoisesterhuizen.com/rut/ Watch this episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JJeRkyYV2tA Work with me: https://www.francoisesterhuizen.com/work-with-me Fresh Perspective, my weekly newsletter: https://francoisesterhuizen.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=097ed8fb3c6e3c943817d0d80&id=7a7438d8f4 My website: https://www.francoisesterhuizen.com

You will get stuck again. Not maybe, guaranteed. The final episode of the Getting Unstuck series is about what to do when it happens, because coming back is the skill: the observer and the giver of meaning, structure as your friend, and the four step comeback. Watch this episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JWQNvOCifPQ Free: see where and how you are stuck with the RUT Diagnostic: https://clarityquest.francoisesterhuizen.com/rut/ The whole series: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLYr4VXEPUU5o

Two options in front of you, months at the crossroads, and every person you ask leaves you exactly where you were. In this fourth episode of the Getting Unstuck series: what you are actually collecting when you ask around (confirmation, not information), the two questions that work like a brake you are pressing yourself, the guarantee hiding inside the word right, why the first hard part convinces you that you chose wrong, and the ten-year question that lets you choose today, standing right where you are. Watch this episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ln10DW4kbko The Ten-Year Question card (free): https://resources.francoisesterhuizen.com/ten-year-question/ All free tools: https://resources.francoisesterhuizen.com/ Part one: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IdZGSQr9kBE Part two: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l5ihPiQ_QOI Part three: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mKLdHsbgslY Work with me: https://www.francoisesterhuizen.com/work-with-me Fresh Perspective, my weekly newsletter: https://francoisesterhuizen.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=097ed8fb3c6e3c943817d0d80&id=7a7438d8f4 My website: https://www.francoisesterhuizen.com

You sit down to start, and all of it arrives at once. The thing is not too big. You are lifting all of it at the same time. In this third episode of the Getting Unstuck series: what overwhelm actually is (the carrying, not the task), the next visible move, the two-minute test, and the deciding-once principle that makes starting almost automatic. Watch this episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mKLdHsbgslY The Headlights System card (free): https://resources.francoisesterhuizen.com/headlights-system/ All free tools: https://resources.francoisesterhuizen.com/ Part one: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IdZGSQr9kBE Part two: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l5ihPiQ_QOI

You do not procrastinate on everything. You procrastinate selectively, and the more something matters, the harder it gets to start. In this second episode of the Getting Unstuck series: what you are actually managing when you procrastinate (it is not time), why caring turns a task into a test, the trade behind every snooze, and four steps to catch it happening. Free Pattern Breaker workbook: https://resources.francoisesterhuizen.com/procrastination-pattern-breaker/ Watch the video version: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l5ihPiQ_QOI

Have you ever known exactly what you should do, and still not done it? That is not laziness. It is a loop: discomfort, avoidance, relief, cost. In this first episode of the Getting Unstuck series I walk through the loop, the five fuels that drive it, how to map one of your own in five honest sentences, and the small interruption that starts rebuilding self-trust. The free Unstuck Loop Map: resources.francoisesterhuizen.com/unstuck-loop-map Watch this episode on YouTube: You Are Not Lazy. You Are in a Loop. All resources: resources.francoisesterhuizen.com

n this episode, I explore why shutting down and blowing up are often not opposites, but two different ways of avoiding the deeper emotion underneath. Using the image of a firebreak, I unpack how emotional maturity is not about suppressing what I feel or unleashing it on everyone around me, but learning to stay with what I feel without becoming overwhelmed by it. I talk about numbing, anger, emotional flooding, old childhood patterns, nervous system responses, repair in relationships, and the hope that healing is still possible at any age. The goal is not to become less emotional, but to become less afraid of emotion, so I can respond with more honesty, connection, and choice. To contact me go to francoisesterhuizen.com

In this episode of Fresh Perspective, we explore a powerful shift in how we handle life's challenges: are you reacting like a thermometer, or responding like a thermostat? When the world heats up or cools down, do you let it decide your mood and actions, or do you set your own tone from within? Through simple language and real-life examples, Francois breaks down the four things you can always control – your beliefs, thoughts, emotions, and actions – and shows you how to practise this shift gently in everyday moments. This is a grounded, reflective episode designed to help you slow down, recalibrate, and lead your life from the inside out. If you're ready to stop being pulled around by your environment and start choosing your mindset with intention, this one is for you. getclarity.co.za

To work with me personally please visit getclarity.co.za In this episode of Fresh Perspective, Francois explores one of the most common and quietest struggles many of us face: being relentlessly hard on ourselves. Beneath the surface of high standards and self-discipline often lies fear, fear of failure, rejection, or not being enough. Francois unpacks how the inner judge masquerades as responsibility but is really emotional avoidance in disguise. Drawing from his coaching work and psychology research, he guides listeners through understanding the difference between the Judge and the Coach within, one condemns, the other instructs. You will learn how to shift from self-punishment to self-leadership, how to identify the beliefs that keep your worth conditional, and how to respond to mistakes with clarity rather than cruelty. Through the story of kintsugi, the Japanese art of repairing broken pottery with gold, this episode offers a reminder that our cracks do not disqualify us; they reveal where the light gets in. If you have ever felt trapped by your own high expectations or inner criticism, this conversation will help you lay down the whip and pick up the tools of awareness, compassion, and self-trust.

For more resources. In this episode of Fresh Perspective, we take a closer look at one of the most subtle traps of modern life — the feeling of progress that comes from staying busy. Francois explores how our endless checklists, colour-coded calendars, and constant activity can quietly become a form of productive avoidance. We tick every box, respond to every email, keep the engine running — yet deep down, we sense we're circling the same place. Through simple language and thoughtful reflection, this episode unpacks: Why we confuse movement with progress. How busyness keeps us safe from facing deeper fears. The emotional comfort we get from doing what we already know. How to recognise when your checklist has become a hiding place. A simple daily question to help you shift from “busy” to “brave.” You'll hear why the checklist isn't the enemy — it's the mirror. And how, when we see it clearly, it can reveal what truly matters most. If you've ever ended a full day wondering why all your effort still feels empty, this episode will help you pause, breathe, and find direction beyond the boxes. Because real growth doesn't happen when the list is finished — it happens when you start what's not on it.

To work with me: Book a Private Consultation or take a Complimentary assessment.   This episode explains that the uncomfortable emotions we avoid are doorways to the breakthroughs we want. It distinguishes three ways we engage with feelings — intellectualizing, intuiting, and instinctual sensations — and shows how overthinking keeps us stuck. Practical advice: pause when you notice anxiety or tension, allow the feeling to intensify and fully feel it until it passes. Doing so lifts the heaviness, restores presence, and helps you function and connect more fully in life.

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For a Complimentary Life Coaching Assessment click here. In this episode of Fresh Perspective, we explore the profound concept of freedom and its intrinsic connection to the present moment. Through insights from Viktor Frankl and Krishnamurti, we discover how freedom is not something to be achieved in the future, but an inner liberation available in the now. By facing the present moment and not being trapped in thoughts of the past or anxieties about the future, we can experience true freedom. Embrace the power of now to break free from invisible constraints and live a life filled with love, joy, and conscious choices. getclarity.co.za

Visit getclarity.co.za for more resources. In this episode of Fresh Perspective, we continue exploring our most important relationship, our relationship with time. After looking at love in the last episode, today's focus is on joy. But not the shallow joy of distractions or quick fixes. The deep, soul-filling joy that can only be experienced in the present moment. We explore the paradox that the path to joy is often unfamiliar and uncomfortable. By avoiding difficult emotions like sorrow, anger, or fear, we unknowingly avoid joy as well. Drawing on the words of Brené Brown, Kahlil Gibran, and the wisdom of scripture, this episode unpacks how grief, struggle, and emotional honesty carve out the space within us to hold more joy. With personal reflections and gentle guidance, this conversation invites you to stop numbing and start feeling. Because when we embrace the whole emotional landscape of time, even the hard parts, we expand our capacity to encounter joy in its fullest, most transformative form. Join me for The Unfamiliar and Uncomfortable Path Towards Deep Joy and discover how embracing sorrow and struggle can open you to the deep joy you were made for.

If you ever need my help, simply go to getclarity.co.za In this episode of Fresh Perspective, we delve deeper into the idea that our relationship with time is our most important relationship. We explore how being present in the moment allows us to experience powerful human states like love, joy, and freedom. The episode discusses how fear of intimacy with the present moment often leads us to dwell on the past or worry about the future, which prevents us from fully engaging with life. The importance of cherishing the present moment, regardless of whether it is painful or pleasant, is emphasized as a way to truly connect with reality and ourselves. Join us next week as we take a closer look at the states of joy and freedom. Much love Francois

To unlock more of your potential go to: getclarity.co.za   In this episode of Fresh Perspective, we explore the concept of the most important relationship in your life and discuss why it might not be what you initially think. Join us as we embark on a journey to understand the significance of your relationship with time. This topic is part of an ongoing process of writing a new book, delving deeper into how our interaction with time affects all other aspects of our lives—from marriage and parenting to personal growth and spirituality. We discuss the three ways we can 'dance' with time: spending, wasting, and investing it, and how recognizing and valuing time can transform your overall quality of life. Learn how to move in harmony with time to bring more clarity, meaning, and balance to your daily routines. Remember, if you change your mind, you can transform your life. Join me next time for more fresh perspectives. Bye!

In this episode of Fresh Perspective, we delve into the profound impact of the inner voice on shaping identity. Your inner dialogue, whether subtle or striking, sculpts your sense of self over time. We explore how repeated thoughts form beliefs that can limit, justify, or empower you. Learn how to distinguish between these voices and beliefs, and discover practical tools to redirect your inner current toward a more intentional identity. Through reflection and strategic questioning, you can challenge old patterns and cultivate empowering beliefs for personal growth and transformation. If you ever need my help... simply visit getclarity.co.za

I developed The Tree of Clarity to help the Questers create radical, lasting transformation in their lives. Learn about the old and new belief systems, understand the role of emotions as clues, how to rewrite the voices of the cheerleader and judge with the voice of the coach, and empower yourself to show up as a better version of yourself, more often and for longer. — — — — —   Francois Esterhuizen is a life coach who helps professionals get unstuck and gain momentum, and a relationship counsellor with decades of experience who specialises in conflict and communication. Visit getclarity.co.za to find out more, join a webinar or book a free consultation.   #freshperspective #lifecoaching #personalgrowth #treeofclarity #clarity #empowering #transformation #mindsettraining #mindset

Labelling your emotions empowers you to do something about them. Dr Mareitjie Smit introduces us to the concept of 'languishing,' the state between flourishing and depression, and the importance of balancing 'doing' and 'being' to combat it. Discover practical tips and small actions that can bring joy and purpose back into your life. We also discuss the impact of internal voices, like the judge and the cheerleader, on our emotional wellbeing, and how to train the voice of the coach instead. — — — — — Francois Esterhuizen is a life coach who helps professionals get unstuck and gain momentum, and a relationship counsellor with decades of experience who specialises in conflict and communication.   Dr. Marietjie Smit is the founder of the Reconstruct Community (an obesity and bariatric advocacy group), completed her PhD in Business Management (Entrepreneurship) at 41 and is a fan of lifelong learning. Visit getclarity.co.za to find out more about me and the work I do, join a webinar or book a free consultation.   #freshperspective #lifecoaching #personalgrowth #personaldevelopment #wellbeing #mentalhealth #selfcare #personaldevelopment #mindfulness #emotionalintelligence #growthmindset #innerpeace

Hear from three Questers how the Clarity Quest helped them find clarity, courage, and accountability, transforming their lives and relationships.   The Clarity Quest program is designed to help you get unstuck and find direction and purpose through structured steps, mentorship, and a supportive community, with mindset training and personal guidance and coaching from me.   If you want to join the next Clarity Quest, sign up here: https://www.francoisesterhuizen.com/clarity-quest-open-day — — — — — Francois Esterhuizen is a life coach who helps professionals get unstuck and gain momentum, and a relationship counsellor with decades of experience who specialises in conflict and communication. Visit getclarity.co.za to find out more, join a webinar or book a free consultation.   #freshperspective #lifecoaching #personalgrowth #personaltransformation #mindsetshift #growthmindset #selfimprovement #findyourpurpose #overcomeobstacles #empowerment #lifedirection

If you're not using conflict to grow your relationship, you're missing out. Learn how to peel back the layers of communication in your relationship from the superficial to the deeply personal, and discover how conflicts aren't just obstacles but opportunities to understand your needs, express your feelings, and grow closer to your partner. This episode offers practical advice on navigating disagreements with empathy and insight, turning potential rifts into moments of connection. If you're ready to change how you see and handle conflict, this guide is for you. (No, I didn't regrow my hair — this is one from the vault.) — — — — — Francois Esterhuizen is a life coach who helps professionals get unstuck and gain momentum, and a relationship counsellor with decades of experience who specialises in conflict and communication. Visit getclarity.co.za to find out more, join a webinar or book a free consultation. #freshperspective #lifecoaching #personalgrowth #communication #conflict #personaldevelopment #relationshipgoals #communicationiskey #growtogether #deepconnections #conflictresolution #empathyinlove #personalgrowth #understandinglove

"Do you care?" That has become the most important question for me whenever I'm prepping for a coaching session. Join Dr Maritjie Smit and I as we unpack coaching, what drives us to do it and the most powerful tools we use to help people grow. — — — — — Dr. Smit is the founder of the Reconstruct Community (an obesity and bariatric advocacy group), completed her PhD in Business Management (Entrepreneurship) at 41 and is a fan of lifelong learning. — — — — — Francois Esterhuizen is a life coach who helps professionals get unstuck and gain momentum, and a relationship counsellor with decades of experience who specialises in conflict and communication. Visit getclarity.co.za to find out more, join a webinar or book a free consultation.   #freshperspective #lifecoaching #personalgrowth #personaldevelopment #coachingjourney #growthmindset #selfdiscovery #learningjourney, #transformation #coachingtips #mindsetshift #unlockpotential #questions #curiosity

Getting what you want in your relationship isn't always easy, but it is simple. Just ask.   In this Unpacking episode, Dr Marietjie Smit and I delve into what it means to understand your needs, articulate them to your partner and the massive impact it can have on your happiness. We cover topics ranging from identifying your own needs and the art of effective communication with your partner, to teaching your partner how to meet your needs and the impact of past experiences on our current relationships. We also look at the power of taking personal responsibility in healing and growing within relationships, how your unspoken needs can manifest as baggage in a relationship and the dynamics of asking for help from a partner and the vulnerability involved. — — — — — Dr. Smit is the founder of the Reconstruct Community (an obesity and bariatric advocacy group), completed her PhD in Business Management (Entrepreneurship) at 41 and is a fan of lifelong learning. — — — — — Francois Esterhuizen is a life coach who helps professionals get unstuck and gain momentum, and a relationship counsellor with decades of experience who specialises in conflict and communication. Visit getclarity.co.za to find out more, join a webinar or book a free consultation.   #freshperspective #lifecoaching #personalgrowth #personaldevelopment #relationshipinsights #understandingneeds #effectivecommunication #deepconnections #selfawarenessjourney #partnershipgoals #relationshipadvice #emotionalintelligence #personalgrowth #healthyrelationships

My goal is to help my clients achieve radical, lasting transformation. This principle is one of the most important and misunderstood practices for getting unstuck that, when correctly applied, will completely change your life. (That isn't hyperbole — many of my clients have shared stories of radical transformation after implementing it in their own lives.) I also share the three steps you need to take to get what you want, the transformative role of structure and discipline as expressions of self-love and empowerment, and why intentionality is the key to unlocking all of the above. — — — — — Francois Esterhuizen is a life coach who helps professionals get unstuck and gain momentum, and a relationship counsellor with decades of experience who specialises in conflict and communication. Visit getclarity.co.za to find out more, join a webinar or book a free consultation.   #freshperspective #lifecoaching #personalgrowth #personaldevelopment #SelfImprovement #PersonalGrowth #HealthySelfishness #SelfSacrifice #Empowerment #LifeGoals #MindsetShift #SelfDiscovery #IntentionalLiving #selffulfillment #selfishness

When someone irritates you or you are in a conflict situation, the temptation to blame others is strong. In this Unpacking episode Dr Marietjie Smit and I look at how to turn those conflict situations into wins for you by being curious. We also discuss why taking responsibility is so much more powerful than pointing fingers, the three voices in your head and how developing your inner coach can help you rewrite limiting narratives that keep you stuck. — — — — — Dr. Smit is the founder of the Reconstruct Community (an obesity and bariatric advocacy group), completed her PhD in Business Management (Entrepreneurship) at 41 and is a fan of lifelong learning. — — — — — Francois Esterhuizen is a life coach who helps professionals get unstuck and gain momentum, and a relationship counsellor with decades of experience who specialises in conflict and communication. Visit getclarity.co.za to find out more, join a webinar or book a free consultation.   #freshperspective #lifecoaching #personalgrowth #personaldevelopment #beliefs #responsibility #control #influence #innernarritive #limitingbeliefs #blame #yourstory

Where does your responsibility for others' behaviour end? And how can you take charge of what you CAN control? Join Dr. Smit and I as we discuss the underappreciated power of responsibility and how you can always know what you should try to control. We also discuss the "clarity tree" for parsing personal responsibility, how much responsibility we should take for our children — stopping by my two parenting mantras on the way — and how focusing on controlling the right things will lead to much better results than gambling your energy away on the wrong things. — — — — — Dr. Smit is the founder of the Reconstruct Community (an obesity and bariatric advocacy group), completed her PhD in Business Management (Entrepreneurship) at 41 and is a fan of lifelong learning. — — — — — Francois Esterhuizen is a life coach who helps professionals get unstuck and gain momentum, and a relationship counsellor with decades of experience who specialises in conflict and communication. Visit https://www.getclarity.co.za to find out more, join a webinar or book a free consultation.   #freshperspective #lifecoaching #personalgrowth #personaldevelopment #beliefs #responsibility #control #influence #parenting #claritree #treeofclarity

Labelling your beliefs as good or bad is surprisingly unhelpful. In this conversation with Dr. Marietjie Smit, we look at a more useful approach to your beliefs that empowers you. Discover how to figure out your emotional goals, take responsibility for your growth and get out of negative emotional spaces, even if nothing changes about the situation you are in. — — — — — Francois Esterhuizen is a life coach who helps professionals get unstuck and gain momentum, and a relationship counsellor with decades of experience who specialises in conflict and communication. Visit getclarity.co.za to find out more, join a webinar or book a free consultation. #freshperspective #lifecoaching #personalgrowth #personaldevelopment #beliefs #binaryoptions #perspective #mindset #goalsetting #repetition

What's the difference between the pain that ruins you and the pain that grows you? In this episode, I chat with Dr Marietjie Smit about the difference between "slow pain" that needs healing and "grow pain" that you need to become the person you want to be. Discover what slow pain is trying to tell you, how to respond to it properly, and why simply waiting for time to heal old wounds doesn't work. We also get into how unresolved pain can hurt your closest relationships through projection and transference, and the key differences between therapy and coaching in moving you forward. Dr. Smit is the founder of the Reconstruct Community (an obesity and bariatric advocacy group), completed her PhD in Business Management (Entrepreneurship) at 41 and is a fan of lifelong learning. — — — — — Francois Esterhuizen is a life coach who helps professionals get unstuck and gain momentum, and a relationship counsellor with decades of experience who specialises in conflict and communication. Visit getclarity.co.za to find out more, join a webinar or book a free consultation.   #freshperspective #lifecoaching #personalgrowth #personaldevelopment #slowpain #growthpain #emotionalhealing #innerhealing #childhoodwounds #projection #transference #therapy #coaching #perspective #motivation #relationships

Have you ever said, "I'm not a morning person"? Marietjie and I get into how our beliefs shape our lives — regardless if they are true or not — and how we use limiting beliefs in the form of identity statements like, "I'm not creative" to justify staying safe and comfortable. We look at the role identity statements play in our lives, share personal examples and suggest practical ways to change them into statements that serve us. Dr. Smit is the founder of the Reconstruct Community (an obesity and bariatric advocacy group), completed her PhD in Business Management (Entrepreneurship) at 41 and is a fan of lifelong learning. — — — — — Francois Esterhuizen is a life coach who helps professionals get unstuck and gain momentum, and a relationship counsellor with decades of experience who specialises in conflict and communication. Visit getclarity.co.za to find out more, join a webinar or book a free consultation.   #beliefsystem #identity #selfbelief #focus #mindset #potential #empowerment #motivation #inspiration #personaldevelopment #lifecoaching #identitystatements #wherefocusgoesenergyflows

Do you need to know where your beliefs come from to change them? In this conversation with Dr. Marietjie Smit, we talk about the beliefs that shape us, and how we can replace them with new, healthy beliefs even if we are unable to access where they come from. We also look at the common idea of "fake it till you make it", and propose a much more helpful approach for replacing your beliefs with healthier ones that serve you and reflect the true you.   Dr. Smit is the founder of the Reconstruct Community (an obesity and bariatric advocacy group), completed her PhD in Business Management (Entrepreneurship) at 41 and is a fan of lifelong learning. — — — — — Francois Esterhuizen is a life coach who helps professionals get unstuck and gain momentum, and a relationship counsellor with decades of experience who specialises in conflict and communication. ➡️ getclarity.co.za to find out more, join a webinar or book a free consultation.   #personalgrowth #lifecoaching #beliefs #oldbeliefsystem #newbeliefsystem #mossingaround #meaning #mindset #focus #potential #empowerment #lifecoaching #selfimprovement

What are you afraid of when it comes to achieving your biggest goals and dreams? Failure? Success? In the first episode of this new series, Dr Marietjie Smit and I unpack how fear holds us back from living up to our potential. From fearing failure to fearing success, catastrophizing about worst-case scenarios and reframing fear to move forward, we examine how fear keeps you stuck in a myriad of different ways, and how to break through and overcome it, or harness it to keep moving forward. Whether you are actively facing fear or totally unaware of how much it is influencing you, you will gain something from this conversation. Marietjie is the founder of the Reconstruct Community (an obesity and bariatric advocacy group), completed her PhD in Business Management (Entrepreneurship) at 41 and is a fan of lifelong learning. — — — — — Francois Esterhuizen is a life coach who helps professionals get unstuck and gain momentum, and a relationship counsellor with decades of experience who specialises in conflict and communication. Visit getclarity.co.za to find out more, join a webinar or book a free consultation.   #personalgrowth #lifecoaching #fear #failure #success #fearoffailure #fearofsuccess #courageousconversations #reframefear #achievegoals #creativesolutions #inspiredaction #lifecoaching #getunstuck

Josh Romisher, CEO of LaunchLab in South Africa, shares his experience helping entrepreneurs and academics build startups and his ultimate focus on dealing with the "big wicked problem" of climate change. Being closely connected to Stellenbosch University, Josh shares how he leverages LaunchLab's relationship with SU in two directions; building startups from university research and ideas, and building startups with university experts. He also discusses the importance of passion, grit, and a growth mindset in entrepreneurship, and designing solutions for real needs rather than trying to commercialize research. Josh offers insights on universities as catalysts for innovation through partnerships between entrepreneurs, experts, and students, and reflects on applying entrepreneurial principles like having a clear mission and values in his personal life as a husband and father. Key themes include pursuing meaningful work, cultivating work-life balance, and fostering an entrepreneurial mindset in all aspects of life. — — — — Francois Esterhuizen is a life coach who helps professionals get unstuck and gain momentum, and a relationship counsellor with decades of experience who specialises in conflict and communication. Visit getclarity.co.za to find out more, join a webinar or book a free consultation. #climatechange #sustainability #entrepreneur #startups #innovation #research #universities #leadership #socialimpact #mindsetshift

This inspiring interview with Paul Rowett dives into his journey as a purpose-driven entrepreneur. After achieving business success and an exit, Paul realized money and time freedom weren't enough - he needed purpose. A documentary about plastic pollution sparked Paul into action on climate change. He launched a currency called Toco that creates environmental wealth and demand for carbon removal, where users can exchange Rands for Toco on an app, then spend Toco at participating merchants in Stellenbosch, with each transaction removing their carbon footprint. The vision is to scale Toco globally, boosting demand and pricing for high-quality carbon credits. Paul shares openly about finding purpose, being present with family amidst the busyness of starting a movement, and how his wife supports his purpose. — — — — Visit getclarity.co.za to find out more about what I do and book your free consultation.   #climatechange #sustainability #carbonremoval #entrepreneur #purpose #currency #climatecurrency #carboncredits #climateaction #greentechnology #freshperspective #personalgrowth #personaldevelopment #entrepreneurlife

Drawing on his entrepreneurial journey from pinball machines to safari lodges, Carl shares insightful lessons like success taking grit and persistence to grow a business through tough times, taking smart risks, living your values and finding fulfillment outside of the constant hustle. Carl offers candid entrepreneurial advice on grit, risks vs. rewards, hustling smart, and balancing money with meaning. For aspiring entrepreneurs hungry for insights from someone who's been there, this chat delivers. — — — — Visit getclarity.co.za to find out more about what I do or book your free consultation.   #freshperspective #personalgrowth #personaldevelopment #entrepreneur #entrepreneurlife #smallbusiness #mentorship #safaritourism #mindfulness #worklifebalance #hustle #successmindset

Justin is CFO/COO at a large automotive retailer. He shares his perspectives on overcoming major business challenges, balancing a demanding career with family life, principles for personal growth, and tips on parenting and leadership. Learn how Justin led his company through the pandemic while protecting jobs, rebuilt after the lockdown, and changed his mindset and priorities along the way. — — — — Visit getclarity.co.za to find out more about what I do or book your free consultation.   #freshperspective #personalgrowth #personaldevelopment #entrepreneur #leadership #businessgrowth #worklifebalance #parenting

In this Fresh Perspective Interview, I chat with the incredible Australian-born entrepreneur Andrew Douglas who has found a unique angle in the local wine industry that is both more profitable and more empowering for the wine-makers. We discuss what kept him stuck operating at 10% for a long time, what snapped him out of it, limiting beliefs and leadership in spite of them, finding the right talent, the massive role family played in his life and much more. — — — — Visit getclarity.co.za to subscribe, or to book your free consultation session with me.   #freshperspective #personalgrowth #personaldevelopment #interview #values #beliefsystem #limitingbeliefs #gettingunstuck #sourcingtalent

This 50-question journey is a great tool to help you figure out: the current state of your life how you want your life to unfold what is currently in the way of you realising that life what you need to do to get past those obstacles and live a life you love. This isn't a quick-fix ten-step program that promises impossibly easy results. Some questions will have obvious answers, while others might seem obvious at first but end up revealing things you weren't aware of. And if you really commit to this process, some questions will keep you awake at night, and the answers you uncover will give you a fresh perspective on your life. The more you put into this process, the more you'll get out of it ¯_(ツ)_/¯ These aren't questions you regularly have to answer, so take your time with them, reflect on them, and write your answers down. It will really help. I hope you enjoy the journey, and as always, you're welcome to book a free consultation call if you would like to explore the possibility of working with me: https://calendly.com/francoisesterhuizen/consultationcall. Book your place on the next Clarity Quest! https://www.francoisesterhuizen.com/clarity-quest You can also learn how to crack the conflict code and more by clicking here: https://relationshipsandpersonalgrowth.com/courses

This 50-question journey is a great tool to help you figure out: the current state of your life how you want your life to unfold what is currently in the way of you realising that life what you need to do to get past those obstacles and live a life you love. This isn't a quick-fix ten-step program that promises impossibly easy results. Some questions will have obvious answers, while others might seem obvious at first but end up revealing things you weren't aware of. And if you really commit to this process, some questions will keep you awake at night, and the answers you uncover will give you a fresh perspective on your life. The more you put into this process, the more you'll get out of it ¯_(ツ)_/¯   These aren't questions you regularly have to answer, so take your time with them, reflect on them, and write your answers down. It will really help.   I hope you enjoy the journey, and as always, you're welcome to book a free consultation call if you would like to explore the possibility of working with me: https://calendly.com/francoisesterhuizen/consultationcall. Book your place on the next Clarity Quest! https://www.francoisesterhuizen.com/clarity-quest You can also learn how to crack the conflict code and more by clicking here: https://relationshipsandpersonalgrowth.com/courses

This 50-question journey is a great tool to help you figure out: the current state of your life how you want your life to unfold what is currently in the way of you realising that life what you need to do to get past those obstacles and live a life you love. This isn't a quick-fix ten-step program that promises impossibly easy results. Some questions will have obvious answers, while others might seem obvious at first but end up revealing things you weren't aware of. And if you really commit to this process, some questions will keep you awake at night, and the answers you uncover will give you a fresh perspective on your life. The more you put into this process, the more you'll get out of it ¯_(ツ)_/¯ These aren't questions you regularly have to answer, so take your time with them, reflect on them, and write your answers down. It will really help. I hope you enjoy the journey, and as always, you're welcome to book a free consultation call if you would like to explore the possibility of working with me: https://calendly.com/francoisesterhuizen/consultationcall. Book your place on the next Clarity Quest! https://www.francoisesterhuizen.com/clarity-quest You can also learn how to crack the conflict code and more by clicking here: https://relationshipsandpersonalgrowth.com/courses

This 50-question journey is a great tool to help you figure out: the current state of your life how you want your life to unfold what is currently in the way of you realising that life what you need to do to get past those obstacles and live a life you love. This isn't a quick-fix ten-step program that promises impossibly easy results. Some questions will have obvious answers, while others might seem obvious at first but end up revealing things you weren't aware of. And if you really commit to this process, some questions will keep you awake at night, and the answers you uncover will give you a fresh perspective on your life. The more you put into this process, the more you'll get out of it ¯_(ツ)_/¯ These aren't questions you regularly have to answer, so take your time with them, reflect on them, and write your answers down. It will really help. I hope you enjoy the journey, and as always, you're welcome to book a free consultation call if you would like to explore the possibility of working with me: https://calendly.com/francoisesterhuizen/consultationcall. Book your place on the next Clarity Quest! https://www.francoisesterhuizen.com/clarity-quest You can also learn how to crack the conflict code and more by clicking here: https://relationshipsandpersonalgrowth.com/courses

This 50-question journey is a great tool to help you figure out: the current state of your life how you want your life to unfold what is currently in the way of you realising that life what you need to do to get past those obstacles and live a life you love. This isn't a quick-fix ten-step program that promises impossibly easy results. Some questions will have obvious answers, while others might seem obvious at first but end up revealing things you weren't aware of. And if you really commit to this process, some questions will keep you awake at night, and the answers you uncover will give you a fresh perspective on your life. The more you put into this process, the more you'll get out of it ¯_(ツ)_/¯ These aren't questions you regularly have to answer, so take your time with them, reflect on them, and write your answers down. It will really help. I hope you enjoy the journey, and as always, you're welcome to book a free consultation call if you would like to explore the possibility of working with me: https://calendly.com/francoisesterhuizen/consultationcall. Book your place on the next Clarity Quest! https://www.francoisesterhuizen.com/clarity-quest You can also learn how to crack the conflict code and more by clicking here: https://relationshipsandpersonalgrowth.com/courses

This 50-question journey is a great tool to help you figure out: the current state of your life how you want your life to unfold what is currently in the way of you realising that life what you need to do to get past those obstacles and live a life you love. This isn't a quick-fix ten-step program that promises impossibly easy results. Some questions will have obvious answers, while others might seem obvious at first but end up revealing things you weren't aware of. And if you really commit to this process, some questions will keep you awake at night, and the answers you uncover will give you a fresh perspective on your life. The more you put into this process, the more you'll get out of it ¯_(ツ)_/¯ These aren't questions you regularly have to answer, so take your time with them, reflect on them, and write your answers down. It will really help. I hope you enjoy the journey, and as always, you're welcome to book a free consultation call if you would like to explore the possibility of working with me: https://calendly.com/francoisesterhuizen/consultationcall. Book your place on the next Clarity Quest! https://www.francoisesterhuizen.com/clarity-quest You can also learn how to crack the conflict code and more by clicking here: https://relationshipsandpersonalgrowth.com/courses

This 50-question journey is a great tool to help you figure out: the current state of your life how you want your life to unfold what is currently in the way of you realising that life what you need to do to get past those obstacles and live a life you love. This isn't a quick-fix ten-step program that promises impossibly easy results. Some questions will have obvious answers, while others might seem obvious at first but end up revealing things you weren't aware of. And if you really commit to this process, some questions will keep you awake at night, and the answers you uncover will give you a fresh perspective on your life. The more you put into this process, the more you'll get out of it ¯_(ツ)_/¯ These aren't questions you regularly have to answer, so take your time with them, reflect on them, and write your answers down. It will really help. I hope you enjoy the journey, and as always, you're welcome to book a free consultation call if you would like to explore the possibility of working with me: https://calendly.com/francoisesterhuizen/consultationcall. Book your place on the next Clarity Quest! https://www.francoisesterhuizen.com/clarity-quest You can also learn how to crack the conflict code and more by clicking here: https://relationshipsandpersonalgrowth.com/courses

This 50-question journey is a great tool to help you figure out: the current state of your life how you want your life to unfold what is currently in the way of you realising that life what you need to do to get past those obstacles and live a life you love. This isn't a quick-fix ten-step program that promises impossibly easy results. Some questions will have obvious answers, while others might seem obvious at first but end up revealing things you weren't aware of. And if you really commit to this process, some questions will keep you awake at night, and the answers you uncover will give you a fresh perspective on your life. The more you put into this process, the more you'll get out of it ¯_(ツ)_/¯ These aren't questions you regularly have to answer, so take your time with them, reflect on them, and write your answers down. It will really help. I hope you enjoy the journey, and as always, you're welcome to book a free consultation call if you would like to explore the possibility of working with me: https://calendly.com/francoisesterhuizen/consultationcall. Book your place on the next Clarity Quest! https://www.francoisesterhuizen.com/clarity-quest You can also learn how to crack the conflict code and more by clicking here: https://relationshipsandpersonalgrowth.com/courses  

This 50-question journey is a great tool to help you figure out: the current state of your life how you want your life to unfold what is currently in the way of you realising that life what you need to do to get past those obstacles and live a life you love.   This isn't a quick-fix ten-step program that promises impossibly easy results. Some questions will have obvious answers, while others might seem obvious at first but end up revealing things you weren't aware of. And if you really commit to this process, some questions will keep you awake at night, and the answers you uncover will give you a fresh perspective on your life. The more you put into this process, the more you'll get out of it ¯_(ツ)_/¯   These aren't questions you regularly have to answer, so take your time with them, reflect on them, and write your answers down. It will really help.   I hope you enjoy the journey, and as always, you're welcome to book a free consultation call if you would like to explore the possibility of working with me: https://calendly.com/francoisesterhuizen/consultationcall. Book your place on the next Clarity Quest! https://www.francoisesterhuizen.com/clarity-quest You can also learn how to crack the conflict code and more by clicking here: https://relationshipsandpersonalgrowth.com/courses  

This 50-question journey is a great tool to help you figure out: the current state of your life how you want your life to unfold what is currently in the way of you realising that life what you need to do to get past those obstacles and live a life you love.   This isn't a quick-fix ten-step program that promises impossibly easy results. Some questions will have obvious answers, while others might seem obvious at first but end up revealing things you weren't aware of. And if you really commit to this process, some questions will keep you awake at night, and the answers you uncover will give you a fresh perspective on your life. The more you put into this process, the more you'll get out of it ¯_(ツ)_/¯   These aren't questions you regularly have to answer, so take your time with them, reflect on them, and write your answers down. It will really help.   I hope you enjoy the journey, and as always, you're welcome to book a free consultation call if you would like to explore the possibility of working with me: https://calendly.com/francoisesterhuizen/consultationcall. Book your place on the next Clarity Quest! https://www.francoisesterhuizen.com/clarity-quest You can also learn how to crack the conflict code and more by clicking here: https://relationshipsandpersonalgrowth.com/courses  

In this episode, I have an entertaining conversation with Marilet Kotzé, a sex therapist & Imago counsellor about all things spicy and sexy, including: the origins of some of the most common issues couples have around sex the importance of couples communicating with each other about sex, and what these conversations can be about reasons why more and more marriages are not monogamous anymore and engage in activities like swinging a description of the balance that a marriage should have between being a safe space and being a sexy space what it looks like to shake off the boundaries regarding sex that has been programmed into us since childhood books that can help people learn skills to have good sex is pornography a good or a bad thing? I hope you enjoy this fascinating conversation. Until next time. Much love, Francois   Remember: Change your perspective and you can transform your life!  

In this episode, Andri Stander (former manager at the Western Province Institute of Rugby) shares the journey his career has taken him on so far and how it has taught him three simple principles that form the recipe for high-performance living. He shares these principles freely. The conversation also touches on aspects like: - How athletes are set up for success outside of the sports arena during their career as athletes - Why being talented is not the determining factor for high performance living - Why you should not see your career as your destination - Why getting a degree is not an achievement that will set you free - The personal development he experienced while doing network marketing for a season - How to be effective in getting things done - The power of being purpose-driven.   Dig in and discover secrets to bridging the gap between where you are and where you want to be. Until next time. Much love, Francois   Remember: Change your perspective and you can transform your life!

(Trigger Warning: A discussion about sexual abuse) In this episode, I had an intriguing conversation with pastor and couples counsellor, Dewaldt de Kock. We talked about the challenges people face in relationships and aspects of having a healthy sex life. Here are some of the main points we touched on: The Mating in Captivity series that Dewaldt and his wife hosted for couples struggling during the lockdown, and what it was all about What can stir sexual attraction to your spouse after you've been married several years What a sexual tasting menu is, and why you can benefit from making use of it in your relationship A story about how sexuality can be reclaimed How much time and attention to dedicate only to your children Why people have affairs and what can be done to repair damaged relationships How to treat the sacred space that is shared in a relationship Why it's important to understand your spouse's "back story" Tips on how to cherish your spouse What the ECCT approach is, and why it is a valuable way of interacting with your spouse You're in for some great stuff here! Enjoy it.   Until next time.   Much love, FrancoisRemember: Change your perspective and you can transform your life!