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SummaryIn this episode, Kayla Durck discusses the importance of mindset in keeping promises to oneself and building confidence. She emphasizes the need for realistic goal setting, structure, and actionable steps to create lasting habits. The conversation explores the significance of self-trust and offers a three-step process to help listeners rebuild their confidence and achieve their goals.TakeawaysYour mindset is the foundation for keeping promises to yourself.Building confidence is essential for taking action.Unrealistic goals can lead to frustration and lack of clarity.Success requires time, strategy, and structure.Focus on small, actionable steps to build habits.Tracking your progress publicly can enhance accountability.Creating a routine helps anchor your habits.Start with minimum goals to avoid burnout.Review and refine your actions weekly for improvement.Confidence in one area can positively impact other areas of your life.Announcements:Fitmas Winter Arc 4-week challenge is starting December 1st!! With $300 in cash prizes for the best transformations! Join the waitlist for BF sale coming soon Join the waitlistJoin my Balance & Barbells Coaching Corner for exclusive coaching-style episodes. This week's paid session dives into The Winter Nutrition System, where I'll teach you pre- and post-workout nutrition, how to structure meals for performance, and the exact system my clients use to fuel results all season long.Subscription episodesDon't forget to subscribe to Substack for more daily fitness and nutrition content! Watch on YoutubeShare feedback/send fanmailGet the Transformation Roadmap - The 10 part series to building your plan to lose fat and build muscle mass. Join the free groupAll links The question is not whether you can do it. The real question is whether you want to keep doing it alone or if you are ready for a plan built around you, your lifestyle, and designed to finally deliver results. You know what to do, but let's make sure it works for your goals. → Apply for my 1:1 Transformation Program - Spots are limited; currently enrolling. Support the showInstagram | TikTok | YouTube | Pinterest

If you've ever heard someone mention the “5–5–5 postpartum rule” and wondered, okay…but what does that actually look like in real life? This episode is your new best friend.We're breaking down the 5–5–5 rule the way we explain it to our own clients:five days in your bed, five days on your bed, five days around your bed… and zero days trying to pretend you didn't just grow and birth a whole human.We talk about what's really happening in your body after birth (yes, including the dinner-plate-sized internal wound nobody warns you about), why your hormones and adrenaline trick you into thinking you're fine, and how that “quick trip to Target” on day three is usually the moment everything hits the fan.We also get into the messy, practical stuff — what this looks like when you have a toddler, when your partner can't take time off, when family wants to come hold the baby but not the laundry, and how to ask for actual help instead of the kind where someone brings a onesie and leaves.This isn't about doing nothing. It's about doing less, on purpose, so your body can do the healing it's already trying so hard to do.If you're pregnant, planning postpartum, or supporting someone who is, this episode gives you the honest, real-world version of the 5–5–5 rule — the one that leaves space for grace, rest, and everything you're carrying (physically and emotionally) in those first weeks home.Want to learn more? Check out our full blog on the topic as well! https://www.how2mom.com/what-is-the-555-postpartum-rule/ Thank you so much for listening to the Mom2Mom Podcast! This podcast is meant to empower women and bring the community together through storytelling and education. Here, you will find encouragement, support and community. We are your community. And we're so happy to have you!Join the email list to be notified when episodes go live HERE! Please also make sure to comment, share and subscribe! xoxo, Stephanie Let's Connect:Website (how2mom.com) Instagram (@how2mom)Facebook (@how2mom)TikTok (@how.2.mom)Twitter (@how_2_mom)Linkedin (@how2mom)Pinterest (@how2mom)YouTube (@how2mom)

In this episode of Fostering Conversations, host Amy Smith talks with Utah Foster Care clinical support specialist and LCSW Les Harris about blocked care: why it happens, how it impacts foster parents, and practical steps to restore connection. Les explains how chronic stress can suppress the parenting response system, making it difficult to feel joy or affection toward a child, even when we deeply care. They discuss what blocked care looks like, why it's different from burnout, how small “doses” of positive interaction can rebuild connection, and why acceptance, playfulness, curiosity, and empathy are powerful tools for healing relationships. Resources mentioned in this episode Brain-Based Parenting by Daniel Hughes & Jonathan Baylin What Happened to You? by Dr. Bruce Perry & Oprah Winfrey Utah Foster Care Clinical Support Services Transcript: Amy: On today’s episode, we’re talking to Les Harris, a Utah foster care clinical support specialist, and LCSW about blocked care and how it affects foster parents. Welcome to Fostering Conversations. I’m your host, Amy Smith. Today we have Les Harris who works for Utah Foster Care as the clinical support specialist, and also is an LCSW. Welcome Les. Les: Thank you. Happy to be here. Amy: Today we’re excited to be talking about blocked care. Blocked care really affects foster parents, but it affects all parents. So will you give us the dumb down version of what blocked care is? Les: It’s one of those terms that’s relatively recent in the trauma informed literature, even though we know it’s been around forever. So it’s often used in, as you said, in foster care, adoptive care and in parenting in general. It’s a, it’s refers to the chronic stress that often comes with working with children with difficult emotions and behaviors, and forces the parent then to shut down emotionally and almost stop caring about the child. It’s and in other words, they no longer find joy in parenting, and that’s one of the most common outcomes where. Foster and adoptive parents, when they get pushed emotionally, their own parenting response system starts to shut down, and the next thing they know, they don’t even want to be around the child anymore. And so that’s the basic definition but there’s so much more to it in the context of why does that happen? What do I do about it when it happens? And so on and so forth. So we’ll probably get into to more of that as we go. Amy: Yeah, I know that when I started fostering, I had never heard that term. It was very interesting to me to learn about it from you and from different classes and things that I went to as a foster parent to, to understand that. So maybe we can just start, by talking about what are some of the reasons why a parent might be facing blocked care? Les: Yes. I think that’s important because once we have a bit of awareness about the underlying causes and why it’s happening, then it gives me at least some information I could use to, to change some things about my approach to parenting, some of the most difficult children that will ever encounter. So, Let me go back. I’m gonna get back to basics. Talk a little bit about. The idea that all humans, are born with an instinct, as we get older, particularly, and you can even see this in young children, but particularly as we start to get a certain age, we start to, that nurturing instinct starts to kick in. You can still see it with young children, but by the time you’re mid adolescents and going into adult, I’m driven to care for, or nurture, if you will. The young, and so I use as my most common example, when anyone goes to the grocery store and there’s a toddler or infant in the cart in front of them, we are drawn to , engage with that infant. We, we try to make them smile. We play peek-a-boo. We try to engage them in some nurturing interaction, and so that instinct is pretty strong in all of us. And so if you look at that idea that we have this instinct to nurture our young, which I call the parenting response system, that by the time we become parents is so strong, we actually love being around kids, and let’s all agree that kids drive us crazy from time to time, even under the healthiest and most happy of circumstances, right? We understand that. That there are challenges to parenting. There are challenges to caring for children in foster care and adoptive care. We’re going to agree on that, but that doesn’t change the fact that internal drive to nurture our young isn’t powerful. And in the end, after the turmoil and some of the challenges diminish. We kinda feel joy about being a parent. We love being around our kids and we have, we almost default back to the goodness of being a parent and the goodness of our children. So that parenting instinct, that parent response system gets suppressed when we have chronic stress, exposure to trauma over and over again without relief. And all of a sudden you start to shut down emotionally towards that child. And when I say you lose the joy of parenting that’s suppression, that suppression of the parent response system. And that’s why over the years I’ve been doing this 36 years. I can tell you that comments such as, I hate this child, or I don’t want to be around this child anymore. I don’t like this child. And even parents who will report, I purposely stay away from the home longer than necessary to avoid being around the child. That tells me there is blocked care happening. So that’s, the underlying. Foundation of why blocked care happens and how it continues, unless we, of course, learn ways to mitigate that. Amy: And I think from my experience, I’ve absolutely experienced block care. I didn’t know what it was like I said, until I. Became educated as a foster parent, but I’ve experienced it towards biological and adoptive children. And so I think it’s interesting. Blocked care is specific to a child, right? It’s not just you shut down as a parent, I can’t parent any of them. It’s no one out of my 20 children, I can’t parent currently, but the other 19, I’m just fine with. Les: And it, yes, it can be child specific and yes, it can happen to children who are born into the home. It doesn’t matter how the child gets there, if they are pushing those emotional buttons and overwhelming you emotionally, it starts to. Your parenting response system. So yes, absolutely true and often that’s one of the things that I guess the byproducts of block care is not only am I have, I lost the pleasure of being around a child or maybe multiple children, I. And start to feel guilty about it. What’s wrong with me? I start to shame myself. I’m a bad person. I’m a bad parent because I’m experiencing these thoughts and feelings in association with a particular child. Amy: Yeah. So how would a parent, if they’re listening or had heard of this before, how do you know it’s blocked care versus I don’t actually know what the alternative would be. Depression maybe, or other things like how do you know it’s actually blocked care? Or does it matter? Les: I can tell you that the progression of learning for and helping foster parents kinda get through some of these difficulties was we had terminology such as foster care, burnout and things like that in the past. And we would have training sessions how to prevent. Foster parent burnout. Now, burnout is clearly something that happens, or one of the things that happens because of blocked care. So blocked care is more universal, meaning it becomes more biologically based because it actually changes the way my genetic material is transmitting information to my system. I don’t wanna get too technical, but it’s very. Very brain-based. Once my brain goes into a protective mode, which is essentially what it is, the whole concept is my brain is trying to protect me from something that I think is either threatening or overwhelming or stressful. And that’s different than burnout, which is I’m just exhausted for doing, from doing so much by spending so much time and energy on something, I get burned out. But this is actual suppression of that, that, Amy: I didn’t realize that. Les: yeah. And so th that becomes, I think, probably more, I don’t wanna say dangerous, but certainly more chronic Amy: And probably harder to resolve. Les: And so we talk about it and we, over the years we’ve talked about foster parents self-care, do your exercise, read books, go relax, take vacations and all the things that, that help with burnout. But the truth is how do you restore That instinct, right? How do you get back to. parenting response system to being active enough where I love to be around my child again. That’s a hard, that’s a harder issue. Amy: So how would somebody know if that if they’re like, yeah, this is actual burnout and I need to do something, or I just need to go have a break and I’ll be fine again. Les: So the typical burnout or o foster care, the caring for the caregiver was another title we used, meaning if you do those strategies where I go. And let’s say I just have a friend and I go buy a Coke from Swig every once a week with them and it helps me take a break, and that seems to be. Amy: Enough. Les: Enough,and it seems to restore my confidence and I’m able to kinda be, feel rejuvenated enough to get through the week until I have those opportunities. And maybe you’re doing other things like relaxation, reading good books, listening to some soothing music in between. But the truth is, if that’s sustaining you, then typically it’s Not Amy: quite blocked care. Les: So it’s a deeper seated brain-based response to caring for challenging children. Amy: you essentially can’t just snap out of it or go grab a drink to to relieve yourself, Les: Yeah. Yeah. Amy: not an alcoholic drink. But okay. Perfect. Let’s focus on the blocked care. What would be your first suggestions to somebody if they are feeling like, you know what I might be experiencing blocked care? What would be the first thing that you would recommend somebody to do? Les: Okay, so in, at the risk of saying, let’s go back to self-care, and I’m telling you, I’ve changed my attitude about self-care because that’s just another thing you have to do. And all of a sudden, I’m gonna add it to the list of the demands that I’m already experiencing and by itself then has a detrimental rather than beneficial effect. So I’m not a fan of saying schedule in a daily routine and schedule in this and exercise and diet and all that. All though we will say definitively, those are all good for people. All of those things help. But if I think that’s gonna be my. Cure, if you will, for what I’m experiencing, that it’s just another thing, and now I’ve become more overwhelmed sometimes. So having said that, we gotta go back to how do I connect with this child or children? How do I feel the joy with this child again? So we were actually trying to reactivate that parenting response system, Amy: Which is probably the last thing you wanna do if you’re experiencing blocked Les: it. See, and that’s why it becomes harder to manage blocked care because the very thing I need to do is what I’m avoiding, the person involved in that relationship is the one that’s really activating my stress response system. So but it still doesn’t take away from how critical it is to find ways to reconnect in joyful ways with the child. Now, the in, and I’m going to refer to the book or one of the books that really is cutting edge in terms of. Blocked care, and it’s called Brain-Based Parenting. It’s by Dr. Daniel Hughes. And Jonathan Bayless. And essentially they talk about not only the components of blocked care and how it happens, but they talk about a systemic approach. To helping you restore some of those connections with the child. And the acronym they use is pace, which stands for playfulness, acceptance, curiosity and Empathy. But the truth is those four things, those four words are. Our ways to connect with the child. So let’s just start off by playfulness. Let’s just start there. And I think the danger is we think, oh man, I’ve got a, I’ve got a single out a child. I have to look for opportunities to engage in those joyful exchanges. And that’s gonna last for 15 minutes, a half an hour. And what if it’s just not pleasant? What if it’s just not going well? So I, I try to break it down into very simple concepts. And if, and I know many of our listeners have likely , read Dr. Perry’s book, what happened to you? Amy: Oh yeah. Les: With Oprah Winfrey and one of the stories he talks about a boy that had a trauma and he was at a checkout counter and he, he just said something to the checker. That he needed to release in that moment. And there was empathy exchanged. And unfortunately the dad thought, oh, now he’s starting to open up about this trauma. And so he kept pushing him and the, and that was just overwhelming for the child. And I think he was five or six at the time. What I learned from that and from other experiences is we had these short windows of opportunity with children, and when they’re ready for a positive experience, a joyful exchange with the parent, that’s when I move in and maybe it lasts 30 seconds that they are open and receptive to that, and then they’re done. You move out, but you look for those, Dr. Perry, called them doses. I would look for the doses as well, that, oh, it looks like the child is available. Looks like they’re engaged in a way that would allow me to maybe have a positive experience, play a quick game, tell a funny story, do something that ex you express that connection with that positive. So there’s your dose. You get in and then you can almost say, I know parents are good at this. You almost know when the child is done. Like they disengage and so you stay available just in case. But and don’t, you just don’t walk away. But you certainly be, become available. See where the child’s gonna go if they just run off and wanna go play, you’re done with that dose. Amy: Yeah. Les: Look for another dose later in the day. Amy: yeah, I think one of the trickiest things for me, at least as a parent, is every kid is so different and there’s, I have kids that I vibe really well with, and we have the same type of playful activity or banter and then other kids where it’s okay, we don’t play the same way and this is tricky and. So I think as a parent we have to be very sensitive, which is hard, especially for opinionated people like me to do it their way and do what they find playful, not what we find playful. Les: Exactly. And I think that’s part of the acceptance piece. So you have a playfulness is the first one. Acceptance, meaning I have to accept that what I may think or believe is going to be helpful. Isn’t, and that maybe the child is bringing something that I need to pay attention to, that I can then expand on. Don’t enter relationship with the child as though here’s what I expect you to do, or how I expect you to respond to these interactions. Accept that the child is gonna offer themselves in a way that may not always match and be okay with that. Amy: And that’s where people that have that personality are really blessed because I don’t have that personality. Les: Yeah. And that’s one of the hard parts is, and I remember three of my four children were really quite affectionate. They liked to give you hugs at night, and I had one daughter that didn’t. Now, I could personalize that, of course, and say you don’t love me because you’re not hugging me in the same way that your siblings But if I turn that around and accept that. That’s who she is, and why would I force her to do things that were not part of her nature? I accepted her for who she is And then just celebrated the things that the other ones, perhaps the characteristics the others didn’t have And made it work really well for her. And so I think that’s the acceptance part is probably one of the harder. Realities of parenting is sometimes I have a notion in my head about how I want this child to respond, how I want them to act, how the thoughts and behaviors that they should be producing in any given circumstance, but then they don’t, and then I want to correct that. Les: But anyway so if you start with the idea, and I think that this really is critical to understanding the process here. It’s not about making changes quickly because that’s. Unrealistic. It’s about small incremental changes over time that can make a difference because children in our world right now particularly do not get enough positive interactions with their parents. They don’t, but they get tons of negative interactions so we can walk around our house all day long and point out all the things they’re doing wrong. Or that we don’t like, but when are we gonna get around to acknowledging there’s some good things? And so if a child’s sitting quietly on a couch reading a book, maybe I ought to spend time with the child and ask them questions about the book and engage them and connect with them during those positive interactions. Instead of every time they, I walk by the room and say, stop hitting your sister. Quit writing on the wall. We a hundred percent of the time. We’re pointing that stuff out. We walk by the good stuff all day long, Amy: Yeah. Les: And so when I say to connect with them in those playful positive ways, it’s I’m trying to force parents to pay attention to the fact this child is ready for me to engage them in those things. And they need me to engage ’em in those moments. And if we can laugh and have fun, and as I said, even for just a brief period of time and we do that consistently over time, that’s reinforcing the connection in a more positive way. Amy: Yeah. Is, I don’t know if you would know, but are there statistics showing that blocked care has become more problematic as in this generation versus previous generations? I wonder if there’s. Stats on that or not? I don’t know. It’s just, it would Les: Yeah, I don’t know. of any research or statistics around that. However, because of my experience, and this is anecdotal of course, but over my career, I’ve start, started in child welfare 36 years ago. This stuff was present from the very beginning and with our foster parents. We just didn’t have the name for it. We didn’t understand it like we do today. And as we started and it the progression was we started to really figure out the effects of trauma on children and their brain function and how that impacts their social, emotional, cognitive, physical development. But. Based on what we learned about the effects of trauma on children, it was a natural leap to say, wait a second. Isn’t that same thing happening to the caregivers because of the difficulties and the, almost the trauma that you experience as caregivers for when your caring for difficult children. Amy: Yeah. it just would be interesting just ’cause you mentioned, kids don’t get as much positive reinforcement and I just wonder if just from. The advances in technology and all of the things that we have going on now, it’s like I almost always have a TV on in my house or, the teenagers have phones or I’m on a phone or my, it’s just, there’s so much distraction now that, you look up from your phone because they’re fighting, but when they’re quiet you’re like, oh, good, I can be busy. So it’s just, I think it is harder to notice the good and good things that kids are doing. Les: And again, without, I make a blanket statement like that without necessarily saying there’s research to back it up. I am just use base it on observation and just the sense that it almost n. Anywhere I go, I see parents who are on devices and kids on devices. I don’t see the interactions, but boy, if that child is doing something negative, the phone gets put down and I’m all over that child, right? I see that play out over and over again. And so the same concept exists that man, if we’re only giving them negative interactions. Then the I, the way I get your attention is by producing more negative interactions. Amy: For sure. And I know for myself, if I’m on a phone and I get alerted to something annoying, I am zero to a hundred. It’s not, oh, what happened? It’s immediate Les: Yep. Yep. Amy: chaos. Something I would love to chat about is the shame or the. The guilt that can come along to parents that maybe are experiencing blocked care, foster parenting is difficult. It’s, I read a beautiful post today by someone that talked about, yeah, people claim I’m just a babysitter. It’s no, I’m not a babysitter. I just jumped head in to a stranger’s kid that I’m taking care of. I’m loving them, feeding them, providing for them, trying to get their mental health in order. Like the things that foster parents do, I think are truly unbelievable. And I just, I fear and I. I assume that if foster parents or traditional, any types of parents are experiencing blocked care, it can be very shameful or very guilt-ridden. I think you said at the beginning. Would you just touch on that maybe a little bit? Les: And it, again, just from a very simple understanding, any parent who messes up with a child and feels shame and guilt for doing so, is a standard operating procedure for most parents, right? I, oh, I said something wrong. I did something wrong, and I feel guilty and shameful for that. And most parents will experience that in their lifetime under the normal most. Amy: day. Les: Yeah, just an every everyday kind of thing. Oh, I said something wrong. I did something wrong. I wasn’t as attentive as I needed to be. And we are our own worst enemies. And so the one concept that I try to reinforce, and I say try because it’s so difficult to not blame yourself, right? It is. It is almost seemingly impossible to depersonalize the behavior from yourself. Meaning if I understand, if I truly understand trauma and the effects that has had on this child that’s been placed in my home, and to some extent even the diff most difficult children that were born into your home, the truth is that’s not about me. It really is not about me. And how do I separate that concept? This child is just like me, allowing their brain to do the job of protection for them, right? So when they feel threatened, when they feel stress, when they feel overwhelmed, when they have slight changes in routines, you name it. That protective response produces emotions that therefore produce behaviors. And what they’ve learned some from the earliest of moments is that’s what helped me feel safe. It worked for me because it did help me feel safe by producing these behaviors that felt protective to me. Okay. And so now they come into a new home that by itself is overwhelming and they’re producing the very behaviors that have worked for them. Long before they came to your house, and now you are saying, stop doing that, and they don’t Amy: Yeah. Les: because it doesn’t work anymore outside the context of that adversity, it doesn’t work. And so here they are in your home producing these behaviors, pushing you to get into your protective response. And now you are doing something wrong. No, your brain’s doing exactly the same thing as the child’s protecting you, there’s nothing wrong with you that you shouldn’t feel shameful or guilty about that. It’s your brain doing its job, Amy: Yeah. So. Les: In a sense it can be in a, in the context of basic safety and protection. Absolutely. But because our parenting instinct needs to remain intact, for us to be good. Parents, I use that term, subjectively because it but the truth is, in order us to be, for us to be effective parents, we still need that parent response system to be very active. And so the behavior of a child is something that is. Causing you to become protective yourself. That’s not about you. It’s not about who you are as a person. Amy: which is really hard to accept as a parent, I Les: and that is, I think if we look at it the way I’m trying to describe, and I can’t underemphasize this is you are, is powerless at least to change the behavior immediately. Amy: Yeah. Les: It’s. And so that powerlessness makes you feel weak, makes you feel like you’re not effective. It makes you doubt yourself. When in reality what it means is the child is engaging in those protective responses. Your job is to say, okay, that’s what you’re doing. I know what you’re doing. I need to continue to parent you. Connect you in ways that will help you feel more safe in the future. So that you no longer have to produce these protective responses and that, so it’s not about you. I can’t say that enough. Amy: I know it comes back to that acceptance, which is so hard, at least for me and probably for a lot of parents. Les: And I will say that if there’s anything that I’ve said that it makes it sound like this is an easy process, then I apologize. The truth is, I believe the hardest thing parents can do when they’re caring for difficult children is not to blame themselves, not to get into blocked care. It’s hard. Absolutely. One of the most difficult things is because you’re fighting against your own brain in a sense to try to restore, that parenting response system. So yes, it is hard work and that’s why earlier I said, you gotta break it down into small doses. You got to look for those windows of opportunity. You gotta get in, you gotta get out, get in, get out, do that consistently over time. Learn to love the child again, which you can because it’s not as though that goes away. That parenting res response system does not disappear. It just gets to suppress. So if you can learn to lift the weight off that suppression and learn to love the child again, which you can, that’s what I’m talking about. But it takes time. Amy: Yeah, I could honestly talk about this for a long time, I think. ’cause I feel very connected to it. I’m like, yes. I am a very feisty parent and acceptance is hard for me. And I have five very different personalities in my house. And so I could probably talk about this for a really long time. But unfortunately it’s already time for us to wrap up. I, what I would think. I would think one really important thing would be if people are experiencing blocked care or even burnout seeking therapy would be a beautiful way to work through and to specifically share the exact concerns and struggles they’re having. What type of therapists would be best for people to reach out to? Les: Okay. So a couple of things. I will say the motivation for forming. The clinical program at Utah Foster Care is for this purpose, meaning you have clinicians in all five regions that can act in that role as a therapist to help families who are going through the block care and other issues that they need to address. So I would offer to any foster and even adoptive parent to seek out the therapist in your region. Set up appointments and rely on that support because we can get you through this. And that’s most often what I recommend because that’s what we’re we do now, which is different than it was five years ago. We didn’t offer this. So that, I will say block care was one of the reasons why we wanted to make sure that our foster parents had the opportunity to have somebody to talk to in a clinical way. Amy: which is an amazing resource. Les: Yes. So use the resource is what I would say. Amy: And then if there are families that are listening that aren’t part of Utah foster care, outside of the state or just a traditional non foster family, what type of therapists could they reach out to that would be most effective Les: And generally speaking there’s so many modalities. I don’t want to get complicated here. However, I would find somebody that does specialized in cognitive behavioral therapy. It’s proven time and again to be. Some of the most effective therapy for individuals. So you go in and it essentially helps you make sense of your thoughts, feelings, and emotions and how that leads to my, the behavioral outcomes. And so you start to make those connections that I think are consistent with recognizing that block care is a suppression of that response system. And because it causes certain emotions, I act out on those in certain ways. So if you can get somebody that’s good at helping you figure that out, that would be the best. Amy: Okay. I love that. I think this is a amazing topic that so many foster parents can relate to, and all parents in general. So thank you so much for joining us today, Les sharing all your knowledge. Les: Happy to do it anytime. Amy: Thank you for listening to Fostering Conversations. I’m your host, Amy Smith. We’ll see you next time.

Jillian dives into one of the most confusing parts of love—telling the difference between an unmet need and an unrealistic expectation. She breaks down how projection, attachment, and self-awareness shape what we ask for in relationships, and what happens when those needs go unanswered. Plus, she answers a moving listener question about letting go of unrequited love, sharing tangible ways to find peace and move forward. Download Jillian's FREE limerence workbook, http://jillianturecki.com/workbook  Join my community and membership, The Conscious Woman Submit your relationship question for Jillian at https://forms.gle/FbtgkGTwfnrjvHwW7  Order Jillian's book It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life at https://www.jillianturecki.com/book ~~ Follow the show on: Instagram: @jillianonlove Email the show at hello@jillianonlove.com  Subscribe to Jillian on Love+ on Apple Podcasts or Patreon ~~ Follow Jillian Turecki on: Instagram: @jillianturecki TikTok: @jillian.turecki X: @JillianTurecki Visit her website at jillianturecki.com ~~ Jillian On Love is brought to you by QCODE. To advertise on the show, contact us! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

REWIND: Blended Families   Blending isn't a quick Brady-Bunch mash-up—it can take four to five years to truly come together, and you've gotta parent each kid the way that kid needs. Unrealistic “one big happy family” expectations set us up; real life is messy and rarely perfect. Carrie and Meg dig into honoring the role of bio parents (“I'll never replace your dad”) while still showing up big—emotionally, financially, equally—for all the kids. Keeping communication tight (nightly debriefs, color-coded family boards, group chats) helps a busy house stay sane. And don't toss the history—protect old one-on-one bonds even as you build new traditions together.   Tune in for laughs, girl chat and simple, tangible advice with your besties because we always have your back!  

Join our champion program: mark@themomentumcompany.comAttend a Thriving Leader event: https://www.themomentumcompany.com/thrivingleader2026Instagram: @the.momentum.companyLinkedIn: /momentum-companyIn this episode, Mark Jewell sits down with veteran sales strategist Ken Pieh, a man with nearly four decades of experience transforming sales organizations—from Medtronic to fast-growing startups—through better incentive design.Ken shares real-world stories of how one small med-tech company went from $30 million to $200 million in revenue by overhauling its compensation model. He breaks down why most sales incentive plans unintentionally reward the wrong behaviors, and how to fix that before it costs you your best people.This is an episode every CEO, VP of Sales, and sales manager in agribusiness needs to hear. If your incentive plan doesn't align with your culture, goals, and leadership vision—you're probably burning money and morale.Key Takeaways:

A Clare employment support service has told an Oireachtas committee that the work experience model for people with disabilities isn't fit for purpose. EmployAbility Clare is seeking the introduction of a programme that would allow those with a disability, health condition or additional support needs to work eight hours a week to "build confidence". The current Work Placement Experience Programme requires all participants to complete 30 hours per week. Speaking in the Oireachtas Joint Committee on Disability Matters, Marie Killeen of EmployAbility Clare says it's "unrealistic" for many people.

Local clarinetist, wind synthesist and producer Sam Davidson joins Jasper in Studio A to perform and talk about his project Unrealistic Spaces. Sam is bringing Unrealistic Spaces to the Roy Barnett Recital Hall here on Campus on November 9th, 2025. You can read more and get your tickets below. Use the promo code "CITR" to get 50% off. Event Details ● Title: Unrealistic Spaces ● Date & Time: November 9th, 2pm ● Venue: Roy Barnett Recital Hall, UBC School of Music ● Tickets $25 ● https://unrealistic-spaces.eventbrite.ca Unrealistic Spaces places performers within unique 3D sound spaces layered with complex acoustics and ambiences that range from picture-perfect, immersive field recordings to completely artificial, hyper-real sonic environments. Eight venue-specific compositions merge the stark abstraction of musique concrète with colloquial elements of modern jazz, hip-hop, and minimalism. Each piece aims to explore a singular context for artists and listeners to inhabit, where the performers' reactions are as intrinsic to the music as the notes and rhythms themselves. In these pieces, immersive technology is used not as a sound enhancement tool, but as a means to carry expression across an invisible collage of sound. 3D audio is about approaching, matching, and moving beyond real-world listening. Sound is reproduced from all around the listener—in both the horizontal and vertical planes—to create an enveloping experience as possible. Musical and non-musical sound scenes can range from highly natural to completely fantastical. This program was composed specifically for 3D venues and has been realized over several months at the University of British Columbia's Institute for Computing, Information and Cognitive Systems (ICICS), of which The Roy Barnett Recital Hall hosts a mirrored sound system.

We talk about some good neighbours we have! Mark has some trouble with his bank, and TV shows tend to get these common things wrong! All this and more on The Mark and Jess Replay!

On this episode, We get Real about Dreams!! We talk politics, videogames, and We even break down/review a movie. We also talk a little football. Hosted by Nero Von Doom aka Joe. "Put them ankles on my shoulder!!" This is We Family Son!!

Today's topic centers around a book written by my guest, Dr. Margo Lowy. She has researched and written about maternal ambivalence, including how to understand it and why it remains a taboo subject. We will discuss destigmatizing uncomfortable feelings and normalize the understanding that motherhood is not “all or nothing.” We'll cover the darker emotions of anger, guilt, and resentment, and we'll refute the myth of “the perfect mother” and recognize that motherhood can be viewed in different ways. Join us to learn more! Dr. Margo Lowy is a psychotherapist specializing in mothering. She is the author of Maternal Ambivalence: The Loving Moments and Bitter Truths of Motherhood and her previous book, The Maternal Experience: Encounters with Ambivalence and Love. Dr. Lowy earned her doctorate from the University of South Wales in Sydney, Australia, and she has spoken on maternal ambivalence at universities and in media interviews worldwide. She is a columnist for Psychology Today, a member of PEN America, and a former advisor to the founder of the Australian Jewish Fertility Network (AJFN). As a mom of three adult children, she makes her home in NYC with her husband.  Show Highlights: Understanding maternal ambivalence and ALL the associated emotions Motherhood, at its essence, involves complicated feelings. Unrealistic expectations of mothers In motherhood, we ONLY learn by making mistakes and repairing them. Mothering means we make mistakes and learn from them. Perfection is an impossible, rigid goal; we need humor and laughter in motherhood. Children seeing us encounter challenges and NOT being perfect Importance of discernment in social media messages Finding your team and community Emulating our mothers vs. finding our own mothering style  When it's hard to give yourself a pat on the back Understanding the value of difficult emotions Indicators of maternal ambivalence An example of advocating for YOUR motherhood journey Dr. Lowy's practical advice to mothers Resources: Connect with Dr. Margo Lowy  Website, Instagram Dr. Lowy's Books  Maternal Ambivalence: The Loving Moments and Bitter Truths of Motherhood The Maternal Experience: Encounters with Ambivalence and Love Call the National Maternal Mental Health Hotline at 1-833-TLC-MAMA or visitcdph.ca.gov. Please find resources in English and Spanish at Postpartum Support International, or by phone/text at 1-800-944-4773.  There are many free resources, like online support groups, peer mentors, a specialist provider directory, and perinatal mental health training for therapists, physicians, nurses, doulas, and anyone who wants to be more supportive in offering services. You can also follow PSI on social media: Instagram, Facebook, and most other platforms. Visit www.postpartum.net/professionals/certificate-trainings/for information on the grief course.  Visit my website, www.wellmindperinatal.com, for more information, resources, and courses you can take today!  If you are a California resident seeking a therapist in perinatal mental health, please email me about openings for private pay clients Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The enthusiasm for AI has been impressive and it's leading to the inevitable questions about whether or not all of it is warranted. Melissa Otto CFA, head of S&P Global's Visible Alpha research team, returns to discuss concerns about an AI bubble with host Eric Hanselman. Defining what actually indicates a bubble might be the trickiest aspect of the question. Is it outsized levels of debt? Unrealistic valuations? Both debt and valuations are high, but are they unreasonably so? So much depends on seeing what AI capabilities can deliver and we're still in the early days of understanding what ROI really is. There are still challenges in getting the domain approaches right. Doing real analytical work is more challenging and there is still more work to do in integrating with business processes.  And it's not just the technical aspects that are in play. It's possible that macroeconomic restraints are holding back even more enthusiastic spending that could create a bubble. Current interest rates create caution in taking on additional debt. It's also possible that rate cuts could unleash more risk taking and overextension through debt. That might be an indicator of a looming bubble. Or maybe not… More S&P Global Content: Datacenter & Energy Innovation Summit 2025 Otto: Markets are grappling with how to price AI-related stocks   Netflix earnings preview: Q3 2025 Next in Tech podcast, Episode 239: AI Infrastructure Next in Tech podcast, Episode 221: Datacenter slowdown? For S&P Global Subscribers: Shifting AI exits Venture capital outlook: Investments surge as exits lag Hyperscaler earnings quarterly: AWS, Azure and Google Cloud capex projections trend still higher Tech Trend in Focus: GPUaaS market momentum Credits: Host/Author: Eric Hanselman Guest: Melissa Otto, CFA Producer/Editor: Feranmi Adeoshun Published With Assistance From: Sophie Carr, Kyra Smith

In this eye-opening episode of Fishing Without Bait, host Jim Ellermeyer is joined once again by producer Mike Sorg to explore how modern media shapes our identities, fuels our purchases, and even distorts our sense of self-worth. From emotional manipulation in advertising to influencer culture and data-driven targeting, Jim and Mike unpack the psychological tactics behind today's media and tech. How does a Power Glove from the '80s connect to the viral influencer culture of today? Are we in control of our choices—or are we reacting without realizing it? In this episode: • Why media makes us feel “less than” • Celebrity endorsements vs. authentic influence • Targeted ads, data mining, and algorithmic persuasion • Unrealistic expectations and identity loss in the digital age • The mental health toll of comparison culture • What it really means to be unmanageable • Mindful practices to resist manipulation “It's much easier to fool someone than to convince them they're being fooled.” Take a breath. Check the facts. And most importantly—remember who you are.

In this eye-opening episode of Fishing Without Bait, host Jim Ellermeyer is joined once again by producer Mike Sorg to explore how modern media shapes our identities, fuels our purchases, and even distorts our sense of self-worth. From emotional manipulation in advertising to influencer culture and data-driven targeting, Jim and Mike unpack the psychological tactics behind today's media and tech. How does a Power Glove from the '80s connect to the viral influencer culture of today? Are we in control of our choices—or are we reacting without realizing it? In this episode: • Why media makes us feel “less than” • Celebrity endorsements vs. authentic influence • Targeted ads, data mining, and algorithmic persuasion • Unrealistic expectations and identity loss in the digital age • The mental health toll of comparison culture • What it really means to be unmanageable • Mindful practices to resist manipulation “It's much easier to fool someone than to convince them they're being fooled.” Take a breath. Check the facts. And most importantly—remember who you are.

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In 2024, we used more oil and coal than ever before. Despite the growing number of electric cars on our highways and solar panels on our rooftops, global carbon emissions continued to rise. Historian Jean-Baptiste Fressoz argues that we should forget about the term ‘energy transition' altogether. Is betting everything on innovation actually blocking real and urgent needed change? Together with journalist Jaap Tielbeke and entrepreneur Sjef Peeraer.Throughout history, energy sources have never replaced each other. They have only complemented each other, French historian of science and technology Jean-Baptiste Fressoz argues. Replacing a product with a sustainable alternative does not necessarily lead to reduced use of harmful raw materials. Electric cars are still made from steel, which requires tons of coal. Unrealistic, distant promises about future hydrogen planes only stand in the way of real changes in aviation today.Based on Fressoz's book More and More and More, we will discuss the alleged myths of the energy transition. What does this analysis mean for those working within the energy transition? And are we in our public discourse avoiding the elephant in the room – namely, degrowth?About Onder hoogspanningWill there still be 24-hour electricity from the socket in the future? Will we all soon be driving Chinese electric cars? The energy transition requires fundamental decisions, backed by significant political and economic interests. In the program series Onder hoogspanning, we bring the driving and clashing forces of the energy transition to the surface. From governments and companies to consumers: who are the players, and what are their interests? What is needed for a fair energy transition, and what does fairness actually mean?Supported by Vandebron.Moderated by Katarina Schul.Zie het privacybeleid op https://art19.com/privacy en de privacyverklaring van Californië op https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode Mary shares her thoughts about the reality of hiring a coach.Grab your copy of my FREE 9 page Beginner's Guide to Food Sobriety https://www.foodfreedomwithmary.com/foodsobrietyguideNEW Free Food Sobriety Mini Course - https://www.foodfreedomwithmary.com/minicoursefoodsobrietyFacebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/4915319108493196/?ref=share_group_linkDo you need private coaching and intensive daily contact with a coach? Fill out my application so we can chat about whether or not my program is for you and which option is best for you. Payment plans available. Don't see a payment option that works for your pay schedule? Let's chat about a custom pay plan.www.foodfreedomwithmary.com/chooseyourpath Application: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1upnWHYK0RXfmyRTqlsF_R06z3NA8LZYHIMWFykq7-X4/viewformJoin my Food Freedom Tribe! An online community of support, eduction, inspiration, accountability….. Learn more here: https://www.foodfreedomwithmary.com/tribemembership Instagram: www.instagram.com/ketomary71 Facebook: www.Facebook.com/ketomary71 YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ketomary7114Website: www.foodfreedomwithmary.com Join the email list.Email: mary@foodfreedomwithmary.com Want to learn more about me and my coaching programs? Watch my program video: www.foodfreedomwithmary.com/programvideoOnline Course: https://www.foodfreedomwithmary.com/foodfreedomcourse

In this episode of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Innovative Church Leaders podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dr. Eric Bryant⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ interviews ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠J.D. Pearring, the founder of the Excel Leadership Network. J.D. shares about the importance of raising up new leaders in the church, the challenges faced by church planters, and the significance of coaching and mentorship in leadership development.

Parenting feels harder than ever, and I want you to know—you're not imagining it.As a mom and as someone who works with so many parents every day, I see how the mental load of modern parenting leaves us feeling exhausted, guilty, and overwhelmed. It's not bad parenting—it's our dysregulated brains trying to manage family life in an overstimulating world.In this episode, I'm unpacking why parenting feels so hard right now and what's really driving the stress so many of us carry. From screen time to isolation to the unrealistic standards placed on mothers and fathers today, I'll show you how these hidden stressors impact both you and your child.Most importantly, I'll share simple, calming strategies to reset your nervous system so you can parent with more patience, joy, and confidence.Why does parenting feel so hard right now?I hear this question from so many parents, and the truth is, modern parenting carries a mental load that previous generations didn't face. You're not failing—it's the world we're raising kids in today.Here's why parenting feels so heavy:Double-edged sword of screens: Helpful for quiet moments, but dysregulating for both adults and kids.Isolation from community: Unlike a generation ago, many parents don't have neighbors, friends, or family to lean on.Unrealistic standards: Contradictory advice, social media pressure, and guilt about not doing “enough.”Sandwich generation stress: Working parents juggling their own children, younger siblings, and even aging parents.Parenting today can feel like a full-time job without a break. And when your nervous system is stuck in survival mode, it's harder to stay patient, present, and consistent.Why do I lose my patience with my child so quickly?When raising children today, it's no wonder your nervous system slips into survival mode. Even the most loving parent can snap—it doesn't mean you're failing. It means your brain is overwhelmed.Here's what happens inside your brain:Stress hormones flood your system with cortisol and adrenaline.Executive functioning shuts down, so calm responses feel impossible.Your child's dysregulation mirrors back, and their meltdown triggers yours.The truth? A dysregulated brain can't parent a dysregulated child. Whether you're navigating small children, a baby, or even young adults, the reason parenting feels so exhausting often comes back to your nervous system.Giving yourself moments of quality time and noticing when you're feeling overwhelmed is the first step to calm—for you and your child.

Send us a message with this link, we would love to hear from you. Standard message rates may apply.Screen time impacts our mental health in significant ways, with research suggesting particular risks for teens who spend more than three hours daily on social media.• Higher social media usage linked to increased rates of depression, anxiety, and stress• Teens more vulnerable to negative mental health effects than adults• Using social media to escape negative feelings raises mental health risks• Limiting social media to 30 minutes per day can lower depression and anxiety• Open conversations about online experiences help teens develop healthy digital habits• Unrealistic images and constant comparisons on social media harm self-worth• Adults experience similar but less pronounced negative effects from excessive screen time• Maintaining real-life relationships outside digital spaces provides important balance• Screen time isn't benign—moderation is key to protecting mental wellbeingCheck us out on Instagram, find us on Threads, or send us an email at yourcheckuppod@gmail.com.References1. Associations Between Time Spent Using Social Media and Internalizing and Externalizing Problems Among US Youth. Riehm KE, Feder KA, Tormohlen KN, et al. JAMA Psychiatry. 2019;76(12):1266-1273. doi:10.1001/jamapsychiatry.2019.2325.2. Impact of Social Media Use on Mental Health Within Adolescent and Student Populations During COVID-19 Pandemic: Review. Draženović M, Vukušić Rukavina T, Machala Poplašen L. International Journal of Environmental Research and Public Health. 2023;20(4):3392. doi:10.3390/ijerph20043392.3. Annual Research Review: Adolescent Mental Health in the Digital Age: Facts, Fears, and Future Directions. Odgers CL, Jensen MR. Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry, and Allied Disciplines. 2020;61(3):336-348. doi:10.1111/jcpp.13190.4. Addictive Screen Use Trajectories and Suicidal Behaviors, Suicidal Ideation, and Mental Health in US Youths. Xiao Y, Meng Y, Brown TT, Keyes KM, Mann JJ. JAMA. 2025;:2835481. doi:10.1001/jama.2025.7829.5. Exploring the Relationship Between Social Media Use and Symptoms of Depression and Anxiety Among Children and Adolescents: A Systematic Narrative Review. Saleem N, Young P, Yousuf S. Cyberpsychology, Behavior and Social Networking. 2024;27(11):771-797. doi:10.1089/cyber.2023.0456.6. Adolescents' Interactive Electronic Device Use, Sleep and Mental Health: A Systematic Review of Prospective Studies. Dibben GO, Martin A, Shore CB, et al. Journal of Sleep Research. 2023;32(5):e13899. doi:10.1111/jsr.13899.7. Relationship Between Depression and the Use of Mobile Technologies and Social Media Among Adolescents: Umbrella Review. Arias-de la Torre J, Puigdomenech E, García X, et al. Journal of Medical Internet Research. 2020;22(8):e16388. doi:10.2196/16388.Support the showSubscribe to Our Newsletter! Production and Content: Edward Delesky, MD & Nicole Aruffo, RNArtwork: Olivia Pawlowski

Today on The Two Matts podcast, Matt d'Ancona and Matt Kelly again respond to your queries.They discuss whether Andy Burnham has unrealistic standards for politics and whether he is the right person to run the country. Plus, is it alarming or alarmist to fear about Tommy Robinson's potential path to power? The Matts talk about what the real point of the UN is, if there is a case for ID cards and, following the New World's political editor James Ball's brilliant interview with Ed Davey, what they took away from the Lib Dem conference.Have a question to stump the two Matts? Email now at the2matts@thenewworld.co.uk.OFFER: Get The New World for just £1 for the first month. Head to https://www.thenewworld.co.uk/2matts Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

TriggerTalk with Sage & SammyBoiii dives into their first hands-on time with Mirak Valley, Operation Firestorm, and the brand-new mode Escalation in Battlefield 6. Sage and Sammy discuss how the preview event felt, why bots and creator lobbies skew impressions, how map design has shifted since 2042, and whether Escalation has staying power alongside Conquest, Breakthrough, and Rush. Highlights: • Preview event impressions: Mirak Valley, Firestorm, Escalation • Bots, creator lobbies, and why betas matter for testing • Map design philosophy vs. Battlefield 2042 mistakes • Mirak Valley's layout, pacing, and cover design • Operation Firestorm nostalgia vs. reality • Escalation mode explained — promise vs. problems • Momentum, balance, and whether it can become a mainstay Chapters: 00:00 Welcome to TriggerTalk 00:11 Sage & Sammy catch up, preview setup 00:34 Sammy's hands-on time with Mirak Valley, Firestorm, Escalation 00:55 Post-beta withdrawals & returning to Battlefield 6 01:40 Bots in preview events & creator lobbies 02:31 Unrealistic testing vs. public play 03:23 Why betas break games instantly 04:12 Dev frustration with untestable bugs 04:40 How devs vs. creators vs. public play differently 05:26 Playing for fun vs. playing for content 06:03 How devs “play by the book” vs. community playstyles 06:29 Map design benefits of varied player approaches 06:56 Transition into Mirak Valley & Firestorm maps 07:23 Operation Firestorm nostalgia vs. translation in BF6 08:16 Mirak Valley first impressions: layout, scale, cover 09:16 Breakthrough/Conquest flow and POI design 10:34 Have we forgotten what good maps feel like? 11:00 Map size discourse: density vs. surface area 12:22 Why action between flags makes maps shine 13:18 Siege of Cairo as an example of good in-between fights 14:14 Funnel points, bottlenecks, and intentional map design 15:07 Why map designers should have an “opinion” 16:07 How 128-player design hurt 2042 maps 16:57 Intentional layouts in BF6 vs. “empty boxes” in 2042 17:28 Open maps with cover & natural funnels 17:57 Comparisons to Spearhead in 2042 18:53 Confidence that BF6 will nail all map types 19:18 Post-launch map quality improvements from 2042 20:06 Dev learning curve & EA vs. DICE context 20:35 Community questions before: city maps & scale variety 21:03 Translating Firestorm to BF6 22:18 How nostalgia and gameplay shifts affect remasters 22:48 Visual improvements: desert contrast & smoke 23:17 Honoring history while adapting maps for new gameplay 24:14 COD comparison: Nuketown with wall-running 25:08 Old maps vs. modern pacing/player expectations 26:02 Doubling players from BF3 to BF6 26:54 Battlefield 3 vibes carried into BF6 design 27:42 New mode: Escalation explained 28:37 First impressions: momentum, steamroll concerns 29:10 Why comebacks feel rare in Escalation 30:12 Scoring rules that favor the leading team 31:05 Possible fixes: resetting or moving flags after each point 32:06 Fun but less unique than Breakthrough or Rush 32:40 Will people choose Escalation over Conquest? 33:09 Too close to Conquest to stand out? 34:04 Why long games feel more rewarding than short cycles 35:36 Conquest vs. Escalation comeback potential 36:59 Why momentum snowballs in Escalation 38:13 How scoring exaggerates steamrolls 39:14 Suggestion: shuffle flag locations after points 40:16 Why preview events may exaggerate steamroll feel 41:04 Smaller/city maps could make Escalation better 42:22 Open maps vs. urban maps in comeback potential 43:18 Comparisons to lesser-played modes in past games 44:00 Escalation might survive as a niche favorite 45:04 Why modes need uniqueness to survive long-term 46:07 Support for experimentation, even if it doesn't stick 46:35 Brainstorm: adding mid-game twists for clutch potential 47:33 Behemoth-style swings as a design idea 49:01 Why early-game setup matters too much 50:22 Conclusion: Escalation needs more than tweaks to stand out 50:50 Ranking Escalation vs. other core modes 51:20 Conquest & Breakthrough remain top priorities 51:49 Smaller-scale modes may shine with new audience 52:09 Outro & call for feedback

Stephen Grootes spoke to labour expert Galeboe Modisapodi, about Business Unity South Africa’s legal challenge to the newly gazetted Employment Equity sector targets, with BUSA arguing that while it supports transformation, the current framework is flawed, procedurally questionable, and risks undermining meaningful workplace equity due to unrealistic targets and inadequate consultation. The Money Show is a podcast hosted by well-known journalist and radio presenter, Stephen Grootes. He explores the latest economic trends, business developments, investment opportunities, and personal finance strategies. Each episode features engaging conversations with top newsmakers, industry experts, financial advisors, entrepreneurs, and politicians, offering you thought-provoking insights to navigate the ever-changing financial landscape.    Thank you for listening to a podcast from The Money Show Listen live Primedia+ weekdays from 18:00 and 20:00 (SA Time) to The Money Show with Stephen Grootes broadcast on 702 https://buff.ly/gk3y0Kj and CapeTalk https://buff.ly/NnFM3Nk For more from the show, go to https://buff.ly/7QpH0jY or find all the catch-up podcasts here https://buff.ly/PlhvUVe Subscribe to The Money Show Daily Newsletter and the Weekly Business Wrap here https://buff.ly/v5mfetc The Money Show is brought to you by Absa     Follow us on social media   702 on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TalkRadio702 702 on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@talkradio702 702 on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/talkradio702/ 702 on X: https://x.com/CapeTalk 702 on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@radio702   CapeTalk on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CapeTalk CapeTalk on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@capetalk CapeTalk on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ CapeTalk on X: https://x.com/Radio702 CapeTalk on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CapeTalk567 See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Philippians 3:12-14Unrealistic expectations are nothing more than the temptation to be perfect and to expect it from others. Rather than looking at what isn't done perfectly, focus instead on what has been accomplished.

Ever found yourself trapped in a cycle where your boss is piling on pressure for targets that just aren't realistic? You know your role inside out, but they don't seem to understand the constraints you're working within. We've all been there, and it's incredibly frustrating. In this episode, we explore how to break free from this destructive pattern and turn a challenging situation into an opportunity to strengthen your relationship with your boss.Key points from this episodeWhy logical arguments and data often fail when your boss is operating from fear or pressureThe mindset shift that changes everything: positioning yourself on your boss's side rather than against themPractical communication strategies including timing, acknowledgment, and offering alternativesHow to support your boss's relationship with their own manager to reduce pressure on youThe power of follow-up and documentation in building trust and reducing micromanagementAccess the download for this episode00:00 Introduction and Topic Overview01:00 The Client Situation: When Logic Meets Unrealistic Expectations03:00 Why This Creates Burnout and Relationship Damage05:00 Understanding the Real Problem: It's Emotional, Not Logical07:00 Recognising When Your Boss is Operating from Fear09:00 The Role of Communication in Breaking the Cycle11:00 Practical Steps: Positioning Yourself on Their Side13:00 The Foundation: Empathy Over Winning Arguments14:00 Timing Your Approach and Starting Conversations16:00 Offering Alternatives Instead of Just Saying What Won't Work18:00 How This Builds Trust and Opens Progression Opportunities20:00 Supporting Your Boss's Relationship with Their Manager22:00 The Power of Simple Solutions: Pam's Dashboard Story23:00 The Importance of Effective Follow-UpUseful LinksJoin The Catalyst Career Club for 50k+ LeadersConnect with Pam on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/pamelalangan/ Connect with Jacqui on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jacqui-jagger/ Follow the Catalyst Careers LinkedIn page for career tips and adviceInterested in working with us? Get in touch about career or leadership development, outplacement workshops or recruitment support via the Catalyst Careers website Enjoyed this Episode? If you enjoyed this episode, please take the time to rate and review it on Apple Podcasts or SpotifyMentioned in this episode:Catalyst Career Club for £50k+ Leaders & Managers Moving up the career ladder needs an inside edge - strategies that allow you to unlock your full potential and position yourself as a true leadership talent. And that's exactly what the Catalyst Career Club for 50k+ Leaders provides. No fluff, no corporate jargon. Just a down to earth, purposeful injection of oomph for your career from Pamela & Jacqui Use the code PODCAST to get your first month for £1 https://www.pamelalangan.com/catalystcareerclub

 From postmodern art to AI, I'm exploring how technology warps our sense of speed — and why that matters in social work. In this episode, I share how unrealistic timescales harm families, shape new social workers' expectations, and leave us feeling like we're “not moving fast enough.” It's a reminder that learning, change, and growth take time — and that's okay. Lets connect!To book in a free 15 minute chat with me, to talk about training, development, courses or membership email vicki@socialworksorted.com Sign up to my free newsletter Join The Collective Ebook Guides Email: vicki@socialworksorted.comLinkedIn: Vicki Shevlin Instagram.com/@vickishevlin_Youtube.com/@socialworksortedFacebook.com/socialworksortedDisclaimer Thank you so much for listening. Please rate, review and share with one other person - it makes such a difference and I really appreciate your support.

This week, I am joined by Ben Bruno—a Los Angeles–based trainer whose client roster ranges from professional athletes to musicians, actors and models. Known for his no-nonsense approach, Ben believes that while every person is different, the principles of good training remain the same: simple, consistent, and effective work tailored to the individual. In this conversation, Ben cuts through the noise of social media fitness trends and breaks down what really works for building strength, staying mobile, and aging well. With nearly two decades of experience, he's trained stars like Jessica Biel and Chelsea Handler, yet his message applies to anyone with a goal, a positive attitude, and the willingness to work hard. In this episode, Ben Bruno shares why consistency and the basics always outperform flashy trends, and how real-world training differs from what we see online. He breaks down the three pillars of longevity—strength, mobility, and conditioning—explains why full-body workouts often work best, and highlights the key exercises everyone should master. Ben also dives into how women can stay strong and confident into midlife, the dangers of comparison culture, and why sustainable, smart training beats gimmicks every time. *** Subscribe to The Neuro Experience for more conversations at the intersection of brain science and performance. I'm committed to bringing you evidence-based insights that you can apply to your own health journey. *** A huge thank you to my sponsors for supporting this episode. Check them out and enjoy exclusive discounts: Function Health: Learn more and join using our/my link. The first 1000 get a $100 credit toward their membership. Visit ⁠www.functionhealth.com/louisanicola⁠ and use code NEURO100 or use gift code NEURO100 at sign-up to own your health. Troscriptions: Go to www.troscription.com/neuro | Code: NEURO for 10% your first order  Ketone IQ:  Go to https://ketone.com/NEURO for 30% OFF your subscription order + receive a free gift with your second shipment. Timeline: Head to timeline.com/neuro to get 20% off Beam: Visit https://shopbeam.com/TNE and use code TNE to get our exclusive discount of up to 35% off Honeylove: Save 20% Off Honeylove at honeylove.com/NEURO ***Where to find Ben Bruno Instagram: benbrunotraining Twitter: @benbruno1 Fitness app: https://benbruno.com/start/ *** I'm Louisa Nicola — clinical neuroscientist — Alzheimer's prevention specialist — founder of Neuro Athletics. My mission is to translate cutting-edge neuroscience into actionable strategies for cognitive longevity, peak performance, and brain disease prevention. If you're committed to optimizing your brain — reducing Alzheimer's risk — and staying mentally sharp for life, you're in the right place. Stay sharp. Stay informed. Join thousands who subscribe to the Neuro Athletics Newsletter → https://bit.ly/3ewI5P0 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/louisanicola_/ Twitter : https://twitter.com/louisanicola_ Topics discussed: 00:00: Consistency over quick fixes; Jessica Biel & Chelsea Handler's long-term training 05:18: Social media fitness vs. real-world training; flashy trends vs. basics 07:18: Longevity & aging 11:09: Full-body training vs. body-part splits; flexibility & practicality 14:11: Unrealistic fitness standards 20:05: Nutrition & biohacking noise 26:05: Exercise dose & sustainability: overtraining risks, exercise as medicine 29:00: Men vs. women in training; goals vs. needs; injury considerations 35:00: Progressive overload, RPE (rate of perceived exertion), strength testing 42:07 : Essential exercises: Bulgarian split squat, chin-ups (vs. squats/deadlifts) 44:11: Core training, injury prevention, importance of rotational strength Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the name of "Make America Healthy Again", Robert F. Kennedy Jr. competed against Pete Hegseth in a fitness competition. Now known as the "Pete and Bobby Challenge," he is challenging Americans to attempt to do 100 push-ups and 50 pull-ups in less than five minutes. We aren't so sure those are realistic expectations though for the average American. Also on show, Joy Reid's career has gone from MSNBC anchor to frequent podcast guest with wildly racist meltdowns and we react to her "white people haven't invented anything" take. We also play two rounds of Impossible Trivia.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

BT's fiery monologue tackled the increasingly problematic landscape of youth baseball, sparked by a tweet from Howie Rose about a 12-year-old pitching at 82 mph. BT argued that the intense pressure to specialize and train year-round is a "catastrophe" leading to burnout and injury, a sentiment supported by a study showing that children who specialize in baseball before age 12 have a 70-90% higher injury rate. He also highlighted the slim odds of a professional career, noting that of the approximately 700,000 high school baseball players, only a tiny fraction (2.7%) go on to play collegiately, with even fewer playing Division I. He stressed that a parent's focus should be on a child's joy and passion for the game, not on an unrealistic pursuit of a scholarship or pro career that often comes at the cost of their health and happiness.

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I continue my conversation with Professor Alan McKee, who has spent decades studying pornography, pleasure, and sexual development. We dive into the legitimate problems with mainstream porn, including its narrow focus on penetration at the expense of female pleasure, its reinforcement of unrealistic beauty standards, and its lack of consent modeling. Alan and I also discuss how habitual porn use can create rigid “erotic pathways” that don't always translate to real-life encounters, and why strategies for more mindful consumption are key. Together, we reflect on what it would take for sexual media to better represent diversity, consent, and connection, and how healthier pathways can support more positive experiences of sexuality.Key Points:2:10 Lack of variety in practices15:38 Unrealistic beauty standards 23:27 Lack of consent modeling 36:16 Habitual and compulsive use50:23 Recap and future directions

Common Mistakes in Fundraising Hello, this is Hall T. Martin with the Startup Funding Espresso -- your daily shot of startup funding and investing. Successful fundraising comes from preparation, focus, and experience. Here are some common mistakes founders make in fundraising: Not having a business plan. This should include what product or service you will provide and how you will sell it. Not knowing your market Your pitch deck should include an analysis of the market and its composition. Not knowing your competition Your pitch deck should include a competitive analysis showing how you will succeed. Unrealistic fundraising goals You simply won't raise $1M in the next sixty days. Break the raise into smaller rounds and identify networks of investors to pursue it. Not understanding the financial side of the business Build a financial model to determine how much capital you need and when. Failing to follow up with investors Make sure you reach out to investors to build a relationship and close the funding. Maintaining a relationship with existing investors Keep current investors up to date, as they can help with your raise. Consider these points for your fundraiser campaign.   Thank you for joining us for the Startup Funding Espresso where we help startups and investors connect for funding. Let's go startup something today. _______________________________________________________ For more episodes from Investor Connect, please visit the site at:   Check out our other podcasts here:   For Investors check out:   For Startups check out:   For eGuides check out:   For upcoming Events, check out    For Feedback please contact info@tencapital.group    Please , share, and leave a review. Music courtesy of .

Blending isn't a quick Brady-Bunch mash-up—it can take four to five years to truly come together, and you've gotta parent each kid the way that kid needs. Unrealistic “one big happy family” expectations set us up; real life is messy and rarely perfect. Carrie and Meg dig into honoring the role of bio parents (“I'll never replace your dad”) while still showing up big—emotionally, financially, equally—for all the kids. Keeping communication tight (nightly debriefs, color-coded family boards, group chats) helps a busy house stay sane. And don't toss the history—protect old one-on-one bonds even as you build new traditions together.   Tune in for laughs, girl chat and simple, tangible advice with your besties because we always have your back!  

"Giants Talk" hosts Cole Kuiper and Alex Pavlovic recap San Francisco's series win in Pittsburgh and explain why the Giants might have a chance to make up ground in the playoff race. Plus, a look into San Francisco's farm system.--(3:00) - Giants' series win in Pittsburgh(7:10) - Justin Verlander shines vs Pirates(13:30) - Recapping Randy Rodriguez, Giants bullpen vs Pirates(18:30) - Luis Matos optioned to Sacramento(23:40) - A dive into San Francisco's farm system(28:00) - Fan mailbag questions(48:00) - Previewing Giants vs Nationals at Oracle Park

Send us a textWe review "Ballerina" from the John Wick universe, analyzing whether this Ana de Armas-led action film delivers as a worthy addition to the franchise or if it falls short of expectations.• An entertaining but not particularly deep addition to the John Wick franchise• Gabriel Byrne delivers a compelling performance as the villain• Ana de Armas brings emotional range to her character Eve• Inconsistency in Eve's fighting abilities when sharing scenes with John Wick• Film sets up unique fighting styles for Eve but doesn't follow through• Unrealistic action sequences push beyond even John Wick's established boundaries• Excellent CGI throughout with only minor noticeable flaws• Rated 2.5-3 out of 5 stars by our reviewers• Recommended for John Wick fans but probably best viewed on streaming servicesComment below to let us know what you thought of Ballerina. Did you think it was a worthy addition to the John Wick franchise, or should John Wick stay retired forever? If you enjoyed this video, please like, share and subscribe for more videos like this. Support the show

Brian Noe talks about Travis Hunter and how Jaguars coach Liam Coen believes he can win both Defensive and Offensive Rookie of the Year, the unrealistic positivity surrounding Justin Fields and the NY Jets, and much more!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Mike Johnson, Beau Morgan, and Ali Mac react to the Atlanta Braves making minimal moves before the MLB trade deadline, and not making any trades at all yesterday. Mike, Beau, and Ali also explain why it was unrealistic to expect any major trades from Alex Anthopoulos and the Braves yesterday.

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Mike Johnson, Beau Morgan, and Ali Mac react to Oregon Head Football Coach Dan Lanning advocating for college football to adopt an NFL-style schedule with limited open weeks, no long layoffs for playoff teams, and a season that wraps on January 1st rather than later in the month. The Morning Shift crew then explains why they think Dan Lanning wanting an NFL-style schedule in college football is unrealistic.

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In this episode, Jason and Tina Marie get into the complexities of relationships, exploring why they struggle and how communication, boundaries, and mindset play crucial roles. They emphasize the importance of self-reflection and understanding personal triggers, while also discussing the need for realistic expectations and growth within relationships. The conversation highlights actionable strategies for improving communication and fostering healthier connections.TakeawaysRelationships struggle due to ineffective communication.Understanding and respecting boundaries is essential for healthy relationships.Mindset plays a significant role in how we perceive and interact in relationships.Self-reflection is crucial for personal growth and improving relationships.Unrealistic expectations can hinder relationship development.Triggers from past experiences can affect current interactions.Effective communication requires both parties to be heard and understood.Setting boundaries protects personal peace and emotional well-being.Growth in relationships often requires changing how we communicate and interact with others.Taking accountability for one's role in relationship struggles is vital. Send us a text

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In the 8 AM hour, Larry O’Connor and Julie Gunlock discussed: WMAL GUEST: Julio Rosas on Alligator Alcatraz NY POST: Posh Virginia Private School That Allegedly Praised Hitler Expelled Three Jewish Students Who Faced Antisemitic Bullying: Complaint WMAL GUEST: Susan Ferrechio on the Big Beautiful Bill WSJ: American Women Are Giving Up on Marriage Where to find more about WMAL's morning show: Follow Podcasts on Apple, Audible and Spotify Follow WMAL's "O'Connor and Company" on X: @WMALDC, @LarryOConnor, @JGunlock, @PatricePinkfile, and @HeatherHunterDC Facebook: WMALDC and Larry O'Connor Instagram: WMALDC Website: WMAL.com/OConnor-Company Episode: Wednesday, July 2, 2025 / 8 AM HourSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

At first, they call you crazy.Your dreams? Unrealistic.Your effort? Obsessive.Your path? Insane.But then… it works.Suddenly, you're not crazy — you're lucky.The same people who dismissed you now want your secret.What they don't see is the sacrifice, the discipline, the years of quiet struggle.They call it luck, but to you… that's the real insanity.In this powerful episode, Eddie Pinero unpacks the misunderstood journey of creation — how every visionary is first doubted, then praised, and how success often comes wrapped in ridicule before it's recognized.More from Eddie Pinero:Monday Motivation Newsletter: https://www.eddiepinero.com/newsletterYour World Within Podcast: https://yourworldwithin.libsyn.com/Stream these tracks on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/2BLf6pBInstagram - @your_world_within and @IamEddiePineroTikTok - your_world_withinFacebook - https://www.facebook.com/YourworldwithinTwitter - https://www.twitter.com/IamEddiePineroBusiness Inquiries - http://www.yourworldwithin.com/contact

Adam Ray is here on this week’s Steph Infection! Steph and Adam talk about their recent cruise together, they react to a listener’s body story involving a Jolly Rancher, and they talk about Steph’s new special FILTH QUEEN which is out on Netflix now! Follow @Steph_Tolev and @Steph_Infection_Podcast on Instagram. Send in your body stories to be featured on the pod! See Steph Live!! KEEPIN EM HARD 2025 Tour US DatesJune 6-7 Raleigh, NCJune 28 Bakersfield, CAAugust 29 La Brea, CA Get tickets at https://punchup.live/stephtolev Be sure to follow @adamraycomedy on Instagram! Steph’s new special, FILTH QUEEN is out NOW on NETFLIX!! Steph Tolev caught fire on the BILL BURR PRESENTS: FRIENDS WHO KILL, Netflix special. She was named a COMEDIAN YOU SHOULD AND WILL KNOW by Vulture, which recognized her as one of Canada’s funniest exports. She was featured on Comedy Central’s THE RINGERS stand up series, and season two of UNPROTECTED SETS. Steph has appeared in Comedy Central’s CORPORATE and starred in an episode of the Sarah Silverman-produced PLEASE UNDERSTAND ME. Steph has been well received at festivals all over the world and headlines clubs across the country. She also has a hit podcast on ALL THINGS COMEDY called “STEPH INFECTION” and appears in the feature OLD DADS starring and written by Bill Burr on Netflix. Check out her tour dates to see her live!

Unrealistic and unmet expectations can take a real toll on the state of our souls and our relationships, including our relationship with God. Today, I've invited Wes to share some thoughts on having a biblical perspective when it comes to expectations of ourselves, others, and God. Resources mentioned in this episode: Link to podcast episode search bar (enter keyword, and all episodes on that topic will come up)   Raising Boys to Men Book Raising Boys to Men Audiobook The Unhurried Homeschooler The Unhurried Homeschooler Audiobook Unhurried Grace for a Mom's Heart The Four-Hour School Day   Other episodes with Wes: Applying Romans 13 to the Here and Now The Importance of a Biblical Education The Biblical Importance of Family Recognizing False Teachers The Dangers of a Self-Help Culture How to Find a Biblical Church Let's Talk About Biblical Discipline Biblical Submission: The Hot Potato Are We Living in the Last Days? Living With Hope When the Church Says Things Are Only Going to Get Worse Jesus' Return: Revelation, the Mark of the Beast and the Anti-Christ Why We Can't Understand Beauty Without Morality How Should Believers Handle Suffering Tips for Working Through Conflict With Other Believers How to Heal From Church Hurt Keeping a Biblical Worldview in the Midst of a Constant Negative News Cycle Learning to Be Human in a Digital World Ways to Encourage a Healthy Family Culture in Your Home Listen to Wes' sermons here Series on Ecclesiastes (first episode here)

In this short podcast episode, Bryan talks about some no-serve situations he's encountered as a technician and HVAC business owner. He also talks about situations that may be unpleasant but aren't quite no-serve situations. Some common and obvious no-serve situations are when a client threatens a technician, especially with lawsuits, bad reviews, or even bodily harm. However, some clients are just naturally defensive, so we want to be careful and give people a chance if they're angry and might just need to calm down. Unrealistic expectations can also cause no-serve situations. Some complaints are tricky to deal with but can be solved, but other problems are impossible to solve. We have every right not to serve clients who have problems that don't have realistic solutions (such as wanting a thermostat that doesn't make a clicking noise at all). In those cases, Kalos usually gives some degree of a refund and agrees not to do business with the customer again. Dirtiness of the living space can also be a no-serve situation. Unless a home is dangerously filthy (e.g., it can cause a respiratory disease) or the equipment is not accessible, we can serve them. Even if the home is filthy or the equipment is inaccessible, we can ask the owner to clean up and return to serve them. On the other side of the coin, hypochondriacs can be a challenge to deal with, but no-serve situations are rare; we can take precautions, including more thorough testing and hold-harmless agreements. Other no-serve situations are people who don't pay, people who regularly pay extremely late, customers who aren't the owner (such as tenants or family members), and clients who try to drag you into drama with other contractors.   Have a question that you want us to answer on the podcast? Submit your questions at https://www.speakpipe.com/hvacschool. Purchase your tickets or learn more about the 6th Annual HVACR Training Symposium at https://hvacrschool.com/symposium. Subscribe to our podcast on your iPhone or Android. Subscribe to our YouTube channel. Check out our handy calculators here or on the HVAC School Mobile App for Apple and Android

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