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We all have stories that create a certain behavior. Most people who over drink have a story(ies) that give them permission to drink. Now's the time to see your stories and question if they are true. You can also come up with alternative options.Get my free guide "How To Handle An Urge To Drink"

Leverage keeps you from drinking and following through on your game plan.Remember, pain if you don't... pleasure if you doClick here to get "5 Tactics To Stop Over Drinking" Also if you're interested in joining the "7-Day Alcohol-Free Challenge" learn more and join click here

In this episode, I talk about why you might feel anxious, stressed, doubtful or even angry to take a break from alcohol. I'm sure there's been a time when you wanted to take a break from drinking but the feeling that followed stopped you from taking action.Check out this episode and I'll give you so insight on what's going on.Now is the time to step up and take the "7-Day Alcohol-Free Challenge" click here to learn more.You can do this!

When you did you first become familiar with alcohol?How did you learn about alcohol?When did you first have alcohol?Alcohol is ingrained in our society and culture, it's accepted and very much the norm.If you want to change the only way to change is by changing you.Here's a great resource to start changing, take the 7-Day Alcohol-Free Challenge.Click here to learn more and join the challenge.

The key to change is awareness.Everyone has self-talk both good and bad.You do have self-talk that supports your drinking. Get a journal and begin to learn more about your inner voice and start to take charge.Are you up for a "7-Day Alcohol-Free Challenge" Click here to learn more

"There's no passion to be found playing small in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living" Nelson MandelaYou are capable of living a BIG life!Join the 7-Day Alcohol-Free ChallengeI look forward to seeing you in the challenge!

Is that true? Do you drink because you are really bored? In this episode, I share what's missing and what you need to do to drop the belief that you're bored.Take advantage of my "Stop Over Drinking" Introductory CallClick here to learn more and schedule

We have the power to let go! Learn how to stop holding the negative emotional states and drop them. You actually do this and have the power to do it.Just let GO!Get my guide "5 Tactics To Stop Over Drinking"

Take a break and breathe.... We are moving so fast in our new world of speed. We don't do just one thing, we multi-task all the time.The crazy life we live leads to stress, anxiety and overwhelm. We don't realize it but so many of us are running from one thing to the next.We need to take a pause in the transition. Just breathe.... Learn how to harness your greatest asset - your emotional state. Get my guided meditation "Circle of Excellence".

Find the people who have what you want and model what they are doing.Success leaves clues! Do you want to stop over drinking and take a break? Then model my proven strategies. In this episode I share my story and what I did to totally eliminate alcohol from my life.This is very exciting! I opened my online course "Lose The Booze For 30 Days" this is the time to take action and model. The course will only be open for a very short time to take action and make a decision.Use this link to learn more about my online course "Lose The Booze For 30 Days".I look forward to seeing you inside the course.Darryl

In this episode, I share insights on how it will feel when you take a break from alcohol. The first seven to ten days won't be fun. There are variable on how much you drink and how long. The discomfort varies, however, I discuss that in the episode.I talk about the physical and emotional challenges and how to deal with it. Understanding what you're up against is half the battle.You'll need to get uncomfortable in order to be comfortable. My premier online course "Lose The Booze For 30 Days" is opening for a very short time starting March 16, 2020! I urge you to take action NOW! If you want to stop over drinking and take a break from alcohol, this course is for you. Click here to learn more and get on the wait list. The cart will only be available for 6 days, so use this link above to get on the wait list and as soon as the cart is open, you'll be notified.

When you take a break from drinking alcohol, say for 30 days (yes you can really do this) there are huge benefits. Here's a short list:Feel overall so much betterLose weightEyes have a sparkleFace isn't blottedSleep betterLess anxiousMore productiveImprove relationshipsMore connected to people you loveSelf love improvesBetter outlookThere are so many more benefits to take a break, and drink less alcohol. In this episode, I provide four strategies to help you along in your journey. Each of these strategies can make a difference on their own, so feel free to use one at a time and master it.Want my freebie? Get my report "How To Handle An Urge To Drink" simply click this link.Please share your story or let me know what you need at dj@darryljarmosco.com

This was my biggest challenge! After I made the decision to take the path less traveled and eliminate my relationship with alcohol, I was very concerned how that would play out with my family.You might feel like the ugly duck or the odd family member. In this episode, I share how I felt and how I was able to continue down the path of sobriety. It's been over 13 years since I eliminated alcohol from my life, my family still loves me, I still love them and maybe I made more of an impact than I realize.To learn more about the "Alcohol Free Personal Coaching" call with me, use this link!I would love to hear from you! Please share your story, send me an email dj@darryljarmosco.comYou Got This!

Have you ever wondered, why does the same person show up in my life, who drives me crazy? We are here on earth to learn and to live. The key to growing or changing is to learn the lesson so they don't keep showing up.In this episode, I share the richness to learn the lesson so you don't keep doing the same thing over and over. Like drink alcohol or over consume.If you want to learn more about being alcohol free or get some strategies to get your drinking under control. Go check out my offer "Alcohol Free Personal Coaching" call with me.I'd love to hear from you. What do you want to hear from me? Share your story. Send me an email at dj@darryljarmosco.com

Do you feel the heaviness of life sometimes? Well that's just being human, however, it's not the best way to live. You have the power to shift out of feeling trapped and feel light and excited about life.In this episode, I share my personal experiences of feeling trapped.Over the last 15 years, I've coached people all over the world, helping them break a pattern that puts them in a low energy state. I share what you need to do in this episode.Make sure you grab my free guide "11 Ways To Curb Drinking"

Do you have an inner conflict wondering if you should be able to have a drink from time to time or be totally alcohol free?People struggle with their relationship with alcohol because their desire be to alcohol free is not as strong as their desire to drink.If you want to change your relationship with alcohol you MUST do the inner work.Get my worksheet "How Does Drinking Help You?" use this link to learn more.You got what it takes!

Start focusing on all the wins in your life and you'll feel better. When you feel better you'll make different decisions. This is a great way to change your relationship with alcohol.If you want to live a life of intention check out my book "Map Of Intention" A 30-Day System For Results.You can learn more here.You can do this!

In this episode, speak to the power of having vision. I share my simple insights of what I noticed when I was swimming with my kids at the pool. Make sure you write down your 30 day vision plan so you have clarity on where you're going.Get my guided meditation "Circle of Excellence" this meditation will connect you with your personal power of emotions. Your power lies in you high level vibration of emotion. Get the guided mediation "Circle of Excellence".I'd love to hear from you! Please feel free to send me an email at dj@darryljarmosco.com let me know what you're getting from the episodes, share what you want to hear.

In this episode, I share the key principles needed to make a change in your relationship with alcohol.I do believe anyone who utilizes these principles can change and get the results they desire.If you're interested in learning how a personal coaching call can help you change your relationship with alcohol. Then let's do it.To learn more about "Alcohol Free Personal Coaching" use this link.You got what it takes!

Intellectually you might be an 8, 9 or maybe even a 10. In this episode, I will tell you why you're not following through and ultimately not changing your relationship with alcohol.If you're interested in an "Alcohol Free Personal Coaching" introductory session, simply click here to learn more.Be Strong. Be Fearless. Be Confident.

In this episode, learn the 5 mistakes, you may find you're making some of these mistakes. Once we're conscious of these mistakes, we can improve and get better results with changing our relationship with alcohol.If you had enough and you're ready to shift your relationship with alcohol. Then you'll be very interested in my "Alcohol Free Personal Coaching" introductory session.Learn more and schedule your "Alcohol Free Personal Coaching" session today.You got this!

Holiday season is stressful! In this episode, I share some ways for you to reduce your stress and anxiety. The biggest issue, most people don't put themselves first.Learn how to take care of your self during the holidays and beyond.Make sure you grab my freebie (see below):How Does Drinking Help You? Be Strong. Be Fearless. Be Confident.Darryl

The reality is we all get frustrated and disappointed about "life". The question is, how do you usually deal with it?I'm all about being happy but I'm also about being REAL. What's real is you're going to have some tough days.This episode is all about having a way to get through disappointment and frustration.As I mentioned in the episode, make sure you grab my freebie belowHow To Handle The Urge To DrinkBe Strong. Be Fearless. Be Confident.Darryl

What happens when you go to bed focusing on something that makes you feel small or bad? That's right, you wake up thinking about it. And worse, the bad feelings continue, like they didn't miss a beat.In this episode, I share how to reprogram you mind before you go to bed. I explain how to properly prepare yourself before bed, especially if you're not in a good mood. This strategy works extremely well for anyone who wants to make a shift with alcohol, rather it's slowing down, losing the booze for 30 days or total elimination.Are you ready to be alcohol free for 30 days? How would you like to have a free online course (Lose The Booze For 30 Days) and a LIVE Group coaching? I strongly suggest to get in the next group coaching for the month of December. To learn more and get registered, simply click here.You got this!Darryl

Say "NO" to a drink isn't as easy as on would think. However, saying "No thank you" is the simplest, most direct response when asked if you want a drink. In this episode, I detail the two different types of social pressure. I go into strategies dealing with these pressures.Each time you say "No thank you" you'll strong and stronger.Would you like to be alcohol free for 30 days? The benefits are huge: happier, better sleep, more productive, clear eyes, better skin, better face, lose weight. I have an online course "Lose The Booze For 30 Days" to learn more (click here).You can do this!Darryl

Don't label yourself because with labels create behaviors and stories that hold you back. This is more for understanding what category you may be in. The real question has to deal with what you're going to do to change.Check out "7-Day Alcohol-Free Challenge" click here to learn more.You can do this!

“You can quit if you want, and no one will care. But you will know the rest of your life.” – John Collins (Founder of The Ironman)"Just imagine continuing to drink, you attempt to stop but eventually you quit and give up. When you look back on your life thinking, "What if I did stop drinking?" "What would my life have been like alcohol free?"Let's make sure that doesn't happen! Get into "7-Day Alcohol-Free Challenge" to learn more use this link.You can do this!

If you're serious about making positive change in your life, you'll need to take your life to the master level. In this episode, I share the elements of mastery, such as, accountability, 100% responsibility and the power of visualization.If you want to create change with your drinking, it will be imperative to focus on mastery. Many people talk about it and take the dabbler approach to find themselves getting upset and feeling like a failure. Here's an amazing resources to bring your life to mastery:Online membership "I Can Do This" (click here to learn more)You can do this!

I hear this quite often when people are wanting to be alcohol free. There's a good chance they attempted to be absent from alcohol and failed. After doing this a handful of times they get discouraged and feel like a failure.In this episode, I go deeper and define "I'm afraid I'll fail" really means and why it can stop you.As I mentioned in the episode, learn more about my online membership "I Can Do This" it has the tools, insight, strategies and tactics to get you to shift your relationship with alcohol. Click here to learn more.

Alcohol is just a big part of our culture. It simply appears that everyone drinks. In this episode I share an experience I had at a conference. I was asked to meet to discuss a dilemmas of a business owner. He offered to buy me a beer, he didn't ask if I wanted one.Listen to the episode to hear more about the experience.Get my #1 resource "I Can Do This" membership. To learn more and get into the membership click here.

An urge is an emotion of desire. You are triggered and then the urge will put you into action of drinking alcohol. In order to take a break from drinking, totally eliminate alcohol or drastically decrease your drinking you will need to weaken the urge. The ultimate goal will be to destroy the urge. However, you must also realize the urge to drink comes from triggers. You have many triggers. Get my report "How To Handle An Urge To Drink" this will provide you a better understanding of urges and how to handle them. You can use this link to get the report.

After hearing about the 'Alcoholic King' I soon realized I was drinking to be the king. When you get that ultimate buzz, where you have 2-5 drinks, you're not drunk but you're in an euphoric and dreamy state. In this state (buzz) you think you have what it takes and you're living your life at the highest. You're achieving results, people love you and respect you. In this state you're getting stuff done, you're bold and brave and doing the things that are uncomfortable. Unfortunately, this is under the influence of alcohol and it's just an illusion. I wanted my life to be better, but when I couldn't get there in my sober life, I really enjoyed becoming the alcoholic king. Don't live your dream life through alcohol and a buzz. You can have a great life with amazing results being sober. You need resources and a path to stay sober and begin to get clear on what you want.Get my guided recording "Circle Of Excellence"

Do you break agreements because of drinking? You are looked upon as a rock within your family, your wife needs to know you'll be there when she needs you. Your kids need you to follow through and show up when you say you'll be there for them. What agreements have you broken? Make a list. Take action to amend those broken agreements.This won't be comfortable but it will heal the relationship.Make sure you get the guided recording "Circle of Excellence"

This is a great interview with Cary Valentine, Coach, Speaker and Best Selling Author. Cary is authentic and open on his own journey. He shares strategies that you can use to apply to your own life. This is a great episode for men who want to drink less alcohol.To learn more about Cary go to his website To get my guided recording "Circle of Excellence"

Design your "Hour of Power" and increase your vibration of energy. We are all energy and having tools and strategies to keep your energy high will help you with your drinking. If you want to drink less, you'll need to know how to feel good. The "Hour of Power" is about feeling good.Would you like to take the challenge and not drink for 30 days? Learn more about my membership "I Can Do This"

Here are 9 tips for cutting back on your drinking:Set a realistic goalCount your drinksMeasure your drinksPace yourselfSpace your drinksDon't forget to eatAvoid your triggersDo something elseLearn how to say "NO"Make sure you check out my membership "I Can Do This"

Alcohol and fitness don't mix well! I'm a huge fan of exercise, I've been working out since I was 13 years old. I'm a triathlete and have competed in triathlons for over 25 years and complete a full distance Ironman in 2012. However, it doesn't matter how fit you are if you drink alcohol it will affect your overall fitness.In this episode I talk about how alcohol has an affect on your fitness why it's important to have a plan.Get my guided recording "Circle of Excellence" it is a recording you can listen too. It will show you how to step into your most resourceful emotional state.

There's absolutely no argument here, drinking to much, to often will break down your marriage or any other relationships you have. In this episode, I disclose there's no sugar coating drinking and marriage. Now you might say, but my wife drinks too. It doesn't matter for the reasons I share in the episode, a couple relationship will be ruined regardless if you both drink.Here are the 5 ways to ruin a marriage:Trust - If trust is broken once because of alcohol there's a very good chance it will be broken again. Trust is the main pillar in a marriage, without it, troubles are in the horizon.Communication - Men that are problem drinkers, go to alcohol to cope with internal pain. That means they don't communicate with their spouse. Communication is difficult for men, we were condition to hold our emotions in, don't show weakness. We became good at masking our true feelings and suppressing them too. You must lose the booze to improve your communication with your spouse.Emotional, Sexual Intimacy - This is typically extremely important to a woman, it speaks directly to her feeling of connection and feeling desired. Men how are turning to alcohol and doing it excessively make it impossible to connect with a sober mind and heart.Finances - Money is a huge part of marriage and getting drunk will lower your productivity and your care for your overall finances. Plus your spending money possibly daily on alcohol, even if its the cheap stuff.Shared family responsibilities - This needs to be balanced, and as a husband and father you play such a critical role in the family. Your wife needs your help and you kids hunger for your attention. Don't screw this up, you won't only lose your marriage but you'll damage your relationship with your children/step children/grand children.Please take a moment to learn more about my membership "I Can Do This". If you want to have a strong marriage and be an example, you need to be sober. This membership is all about getting sober and being the person you were intended to be. You can do this!

We are men and we have wounds because we are human. Even though we were told not to show weak emotionally, we still got hurt. I know I suppressed how I felt and I also learned that it was the source of my drinking. This episode speaks directly to the fact that men have wounds and that's okay. I provide how to know when a wound is still hurting you and how to handle it, without turning to alcohol. Make sure you get my guided mediation "Circle of Excellence". Just need to listen and I'll walk you through a process to understand how to get yourself into a very resourceful emotional state.

Here are 11 ways to help you slow down your drinking"Put it in writingSet a drinking goal (set a limit on your drinks)Keep a diary of your drinkingKeep the alcohol out of the houseSlow down - drink slowerChoose alcohol free-daysBe aware of peer pressureKeep busyAsk for supportGuard against temptationBe persistentAre you looking for a resource that will be a game changer for you? I mean a resource that you can use everyday to lower your drinking. The doors just opened up for my new membership "I Can Do This" Click here to learn more and jump into the membership

Think of the times in your life when you've felt somebody (higher power) watching over you. I shared my experiences; abandoned car with stinging bees, car accidents and going through a stop sign with oncoming traffic. What about you? I'm sure you have many experiences where you've felt a higher power was watching and taking care of you. What does this all mean? You have a higher power on your side watching, helping and supporting your journey to drinking less.Get my self guided meditation "Circle of Excellence" click here

We often find ourselves focusing on what we don't have, our imperfections and this makes us feel like crap. We need to remember [THINK..... FEEL.... ACT.... cycle]. When we shift and focus on all the good stuff in our lives, our thoughts will be better and our emotions will be stronger too. Here are 5 things you can do to be more gratiful:Get an attitude journal (And use it)Practice being in the moment (not yesterday or tomorrow, but right NOW)Think bigger than yourself (get involved and help others, notice what's going on in the world)Share the love and appreciation for those around you (family, friend, co-workers, neighbors etc)Replace the complaints with gratitude (Notice when you're complaining and shift your focus to what's going well in your life!Here's my "Circle of Comfort" tool, click here

I made the decision to change my podcast name to get it aligned with my focus. This episode is for the man who's highly functioning in life but over drinks and/or wants to create a shift with his drinking. Drink Less Feel Better is a podcast to support you on your journey. Let's do this!Darryl

I just got back from a huge road trip, I drove over 6500 miles! My family (wife and 6 kids) hit the road and drove west to California/USA on a 3 week trip. If you want to see some pic's go checkout my IG page darryljjarmosco and be sure to follow me.As I mentioned in the podcast, to make a shift in your drinking or anything else in your life you'll need to step outside of your comfort zone. Here's the link to get the pdf worksheet "Circle of Comfort" Be Strong. Be Fearless. Be Confident.Darryl

You need resources in order to be success to reduce your alcohol drinking.My group coaching program "Drink Less Feel Better" is starting tomorrow. You still have time to join. Simple use this link to learn more.

I don't think there's a way around feeling awkward when you decide to slow down drinking. I share my stories on how I felt so awkward in social settings but it got better.You still have time to join my group coaching program "Drink Less Feel Better". This is a live 4 week group coaching program. If you're a man who wants to reduce, take a break or total elimination of drinking, join this group coaching program.To learn more click here.

If you lie down with a dog, you'll come up with flies. Yes your peer group can influence you and your drinking. In this episode, I talk about the impact and how you can deal with those you spend time with. You're invited to join me on my Group Coaching Call "Drink Less Feel Better". If your a man you wants to reduce, take a break or totally eliminate drinking alcohol, you'll want to be on this group coaching call. To learn more and get registered, click here.

If you want to take control of your drinking (reduce, take a break or total elimination) you'll need to have a strong WHY. Your why is your purpose and your purpose is your glue.I want to invite you to "7-Day Alcohol-Free Challenge" to learn more and join, click here

We attempt to get through some of our goals with sheer will power. We think that if we simply stick our nose down and get through what it is we want, it will work. Sometimes yes and sometimes no.The question is, does will power help reduce drinking? Will power can support you however it's not a good long-term strategy. The problem is by the time you use your will power, your program (behavior) has already been a few steps ahead of you. Then you put your best effort (will power) into getting what you want, but you fall short. There are better strategies! Here's a great pdf exercise I mentioned in the podcast "How Does Drinking Help You?" Be Strong. Be Fearless. Be Confident.

I share my greatest accomplishment and go into my journey briefly. I will be having more episodes on the journey to take control of drinking alcohol by taking two paths; being in control of alcohol by reducing and taking a break. The path is total elimination. If you're like me, alcohol was more of my life than I realized. I had a relationship with alcohol for 20 years, it was a bigger than I realized.I'm on the other side, I took the total elimination path and it's been out of my life for about 12 years. I no desire to alcohol, however the journey is still continues. As a life coach for men I'm devoted to help men on their journey to reduce and take control of alcohol or to eliminate it completely.Grab my pdf worksheet "How Is Drinking Alcohol Help You?". This worksheet is an exercise that's comprised of a few questions. These questions will provide information for you to see why you drink alcohol and give you the next steps. This link will take you to website to get the pdf worksheet "How Is Drinking Alcohol Help You?"

In this episode, I share my #1 strategy and process to maximize your day. When you learn how to get the most out of your day, you take control of your life. Think about your last 7 days. Did you get every thing you wanted done? Where you happy? Did you feel like you were doing things to get you closer to your goals?Use the Plan Tomorrow Today system and begin to get the most out of each day.I have great strategies on my blog. Most of my blog posts are videos so go and check them out.