Podcasts about create change

Have you ever been so angry about something, voiced your concerns, advocated for a solution, maybe even cried over it, only to have nothing change? The situation remains the same, the person doesn't budge, and your anger lingers, leaving you stuck. What now? In this episode, I explore the exhaustion that comes when we're angry about something that won't shift.   You'll discover why anger becomes exhausting when there's no external resolution, what emotions typically hide beneath it, and how to redefine resolution as an internal process rather than an external outcome. You'll also learn practical ways to work with your anger so you can continue advocating for what matters without being undone by what you can't control.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/179

TW: Mention of self-harm and suicideEver left school feeling completely wrung out, wondering if you're even cut out for this job?Same. And in this episode, I'm opening the curtain on one of the most raw, real reflections I've ever shared—because I know I'm not the only one who's felt that way.This one's a mix of real talk, sobering stats, and a whole lotta love for you and the incredible, emotional, life-changing work you do every single day.I'm giving you a front seat to the moment I sat in a seminar sobbing into my notebook, while simultaneously remembering why I started The Unteachables in the first place. The mental health stats? They're scary. But they also confirmed something I've always known in my bones:Teaching is the hardest job in the world. And it's also the most important.I'm also finally sharing something I've never opened up about publicly before: the burnout, the breakdown, the toxic school environment that almost broke me, and why I had to take stress leave even when I felt too guilty to go.But more importantly, I'm walking you through WHY this matters for you and how the “tiny” choices you make—moment to moment—can literally change a student's brain.Let's roll the tape.What you'll hear:The statistics that will stop you in your tracks—and how it impacts every classroomWhy 47% of Aussie teachers consider quitting within their first year (spoiler: it's not just the workload)The one thing I said to my Year 10s before taking mental health leave—and why it matteredWhat emotional literacy and co-regulation actually look like in a regular, chaotic school dayHow tiny moments of connection can shift brain chemistry (yes, literally)Why your role is even more powerful than you think—and how to honour it without burning outHave a question, comment, or just want to say hello? Drop us a text!RESOURCES AND MORE SUPPORT: Shop all resources Join The Behaviour Club My book! It's Never Just About the Behaviour: A holistic approach to classroom behaviour management The Low-Level Behaviour Bootcamp Free guide: 'Chats that Create Change' Connect with me: Follow on Instagram @the.unteachables Check out my website

What's the last time you did something you didn't know how to do...For me, it was last week when I took up the idea of building custom Cornhole boards (fun and addictive sport, look it up) with my kids.My woodworking skills are limited, at best. And that's one of the reasons I decided to take on this project.I can tell you, now in the midst of the process, that I've already made a dozen small mistakes. However, going out of my comfort zone and doing something for the first time is weirdly what gives me a great sense of joy and satisfaction. Next to having my own custom Cornhole boards at the end of this project I'm sure that the skills, experience and knowledge I'll have gained will be useful somewhere further down the line. So in my personal life, I try to create a lot of space for these types of projects. (Sometimes a bit too much space if you ask my wife.)But what if the environment you're in is explicitly designed to stay in its comfort zone... as much as possible?The reality is that most of the organizations we work with as service design professionals are exactly just that. They are designed to keep things stable, controllable, and predictable. The incentives are basically to keep doing what we've been doing, but just do it faster and cheaper. So for us, who are in the business of experimenting and trying things out in order to drive positive change, that's a serious problem. It's easy to become frustrated with the organization's lack of risk-taking.Fortunately, there are more productive things that you can do instead of getting frustrated. Yes, even in those situations where the appetite for risk-taking feels non-existent. In this episode, we chat with ​Jen Briselli​, who's an expert at growing a learning, adaptive, and dare I say even a bit more playful mindset within organizations. As all change starts within ourselves, we explore what you can do to increase your appetite for risk and uncertainty. We explore ways to be more adaptable, even in systems designed to resist change. And why breaking through some of the common roadblocks in order to be more playful might not be as hard as you think. This is a great conversation for anyone who wants to drive change with more impact and ease. Ready to jump in?One of the insights that stuck with me is that we have more agency than we often think to shake things up a bit inside organizations. We're active participants in these systems, not passive bystanders, and everything we do has a ripple effect. Enjoy and keep making a positive impact!~ Marc--- [ 1. GUIDE ] --- 00:00 Welcome to episode 23105:00 Designing Conditions for Emergence07:00 A Shift in Receptivity09:00 Jen's Professional Journey & Inspirations11:00 Jen's Unique Path18:00 Why Systems Resist Change24:00 Creating Space and Slack26:00 The Nature of Adaptive Capacity29:00 "Wedge in the Door" & "Doorknob Moments"36:00 Observing Adaptive Behaviors40:00 Embracing the Disorienting Dilemma45:30 Confidence in Navigation52:45 Play, Risk, and Surviving Existential Threats56:30 Small Actions, Big Impact58:30 Key Takeaway: "But Did You Die?"1:00:00 Creative destruction1:01:45 Reflection Question1:02:00 Connect with Jen Briselli --- [ 2. LINKS ] --- https://www.linkedin.com/in/jbriselli/ https://www.topologyinsight.com/ --- [ 3. CIRCLE ] --- Join our private community for in-house service design professionals. ⁠https://servicedesignshow.com/circle---[ 4. FIND THE SHOW ON ] --- YouTube ~ https://go.servicedesignshow.com/231-youtubeSpotify ~ https://go.servicedesignshow.com/231-youtubeApple ~ https://go.servicedesignshow.com/231-appleSnipd ~ https://go.servicedesignshow.com/231-snipd

Have you ever noticed a behavior or pattern that you know you should change, but you just can't seem to? Whether it's scrolling aimlessly on your phone or saying yes to commitments you don't want, that moment of recognition is where change begins. But what if that moment of awareness, even without immediate change, is more powerful than you think?   In this episode, I revisit one of the foundational concepts in behavior change: awareness precedes change. While this idea was introduced in an early episode, my understanding has evolved significantly. You'll learn practical ways to expand your awareness beyond just cognitive observation, including a simple practice you can use anytime.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/178

When talking more makes things worse… try this.Ever felt like the more you say, the more defiant your students become? Yeah. Been there.This episode is all about the subtle magic of nonverbal strategies — those tiny, calm, game-changing tools that help you shift students out of defiance and into direction without saying a word.Whether you're dealing with low-level defiance, overwhelm, shutdowns or full-blown phone battles, this is your gentle reminder that sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is say nothing at all.Instead, I'm walking you through 3 of my favourite nonverbal classroom tools: ✅ Choice Cards ✅ Post-it Prompts ✅ Movement TasksEach one is designed to help you preserve your calm, keep your credibility intact, and create safety — for your nervous system and theirs.These tools are gold. They've saved my sanity. And I want them to do the same for you.What You'll Learn:Why “shutting your mouth” can sometimes be the best classroom strategyHow to give students ownership without surrendering the boundaryThe psychological reason these tools reduce defiance (spoiler: it's about safety)Exactly what to write on post-it notes to de-escalate without saying a wordHow a simple movement prompt can act as a nervous system resetWhat to do when you want to build rapport without people-pleasingResources Mentioned:Join the Waitlist for The Behaviour Club: https://www.the-unteachables.com/tbcHave a question, comment, or just want to say hello? Drop us a text!RESOURCES AND MORE SUPPORT: Shop all resources Join The Behaviour Club My book! It's Never Just About the Behaviour: A holistic approach to classroom behaviour management The Low-Level Behaviour Bootcamp Free guide: 'Chats that Create Change' Connect with me: Follow on Instagram @the.unteachables Check out my website

When your emotions feel overwhelming, pushing them away seems like the only option. That familiar tightness in your chest, the urge to fix everything immediately, the exhaustion that comes from constantly suppressing what you feel - these experiences shape how you move through each day.    Through this episode, you'll discover how to relate to your emotions as messengers carrying vital information rather than inconveniences to manage. You'll learn practical ways to shift from reflexively fixing or avoiding difficult feelings to approaching them with curiosity and compassion. By the end, you'll have concrete tools for turning toward your emotions instead of away from them, creating a richer understanding of yourself in the process.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/177

The United Way of Utah County has 3 community centers throughout the valley that offer programs and experiences to help adults and families connect to each other and to emotional, social, and economic support. These local community centers make a big impact on the well-being of children and neighborhoods. In this episode, FM100.3's Rebecca Cressman is joined by United Way of Utah County's Katie Hoshino, Senior Director of Community Connections, and Michaelann Gardner, Senior Collbarative Impact Director, who explain the many ways United Way of Utah County works to change lives. 

What to do when a student flat-out says NO[Get the FREE Calm Scripts Guide: https://www.the-unteachables.com/calmscripts]Let's talk about the moment every teacher dreads:You've asked a student to follow an instruction… and they just say “No.”Or ignore you.Or crank the volume on their phone.Or knock the work off the table.Whether it's passive defiance or full-on “get out of my face” energy, the stress response this triggers in us? Whewww. It's real. And it's raw.In today's episode, I'm walking you through how to respond to student defiance in a way that's calm, regulated, and actually works. No yelling. No power struggles. No public meltdowns. Just 20 plug-and-play CALM SCRIPTS that help you hit pause, protect your values, and keep your credibility in check — even in the heat of the moment.Whether you're dealing with low-level noncompliance or outright oppositional behaviour, these phrases will help you hold firm boundaries without escalating the situation. They are a nervous system life raft — for you AND the student.Let's get into it.What You'll Learn:Why defiance hits teachers like a threat — and what your brain is doing in that momentWhy “just staying calm” isn't always realistic (and what to do instead)The #1 way to de-escalate student defiance without losing face20 word-for-word calm scripts you can start using tomorrowHow to practise these in low-stakes moments before things go off the railsWhy protecting the nervous system is the secret sauce to credible classroom leadershipHave a question, comment, or just want to say hello? Drop us a text!RESOURCES AND MORE SUPPORT: Shop all resources Join The Behaviour Club My book! It's Never Just About the Behaviour: A holistic approach to classroom behaviour management The Low-Level Behaviour Bootcamp Free guide: 'Chats that Create Change' Connect with me: Follow on Instagram @the.unteachables Check out my website

Tired of playing it safe and getting average results? In this episode of The Level Up Podcast, Paul Alex explores why those who challenge the norm are the ones who change the game—and win big because of it.What You'll Learn:

Feeling stuck or too comfortable can be the biggest barrier to real growth. In this episode of Own Your Power, you'll discover how to harness powerful emotions like disgust, desire, anger, and resolve to create meaningful change and take back control of your life. Learn how channeling these emotions can fuel momentum, break cycles, and help you live with intention. Whether your goal is financial freedom, better health, or stronger relationships, this episode shows how emotion-driven action can be your greatest advantage. Own your power with this Success Tip.  For more about Rod and his real estate investing journey go to www.rodkhleif.com  

Have you ever had one of those days when things just take longer than you expected? Maybe a task that should have taken 30 minutes ends up consuming hours, and suddenly, you're behind on everything. It's easy to start feeling overwhelmed, stressed, or frustrated when your plans go sideways.   In this episode, I share a simple framework to help you navigate these moments without getting caught in a spiral of self-blame or urgency. You'll learn how to pause, check the context, and realign with what really matters, turning those pressure-filled moments into opportunities for clarity and creative problem-solving.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/176

The imposter syndrome episode every teacher needs. You're in the classroom, trying your best, showing up with good intentions… but there it is. That sneaky voice that whispers: “Maybe I'm not cut out for this.”Sound familiar? Yeah. Me too.In this episode, I'm walking you through four of the biggest ways imposter syndrome has crept into my teaching life — from crying over curriculum codes to having students find me on Tinder (yes, really). Because if you've ever felt like the only teacher in the building who doesn't have it together, this is your reminder: you're not alone.More importantly, this isn't a “rah rah you've got this” fluff pep talk. This is real-talk about the systems that set you up to feel like a fraud, why your self-doubt makes total sense, and how to reframe those fears into fuel.If you've been feeling like a walking imposter in your own classroom — this one's for you. Let's roll the tape.What You'll Learn:The four most common (and painful) ways imposter syndrome shows up in teachingWhy feeling confused by curriculum or acronyms doesn't make you incompetentHow a group of Year 12s and Tinder nearly sent me into hiding (true story)Why behaviour challenges aren't proof that you're failing — just that you need better toolsThe difference between good and crap leadership when you're strugglingHow to stop measuring your worth by how quiet your classroom looksResources Mentioned:The Pedagogy of Poverty episode Join The Behaviour Club: https://www.the-unteachables.com/tbcHave a question, comment, or just want to say hello? Drop us a text!RESOURCES AND MORE SUPPORT: Shop all resources Join The Behaviour Club My book! It's Never Just About the Behaviour: A holistic approach to classroom behaviour management The Low-Level Behaviour Bootcamp Free guide: 'Chats that Create Change' Connect with me: Follow on Instagram @the.unteachables Check out my website

What is nourishing you these days? In this light and reflective episode, I share a curated collection of simple pleasures and meaningful concepts that are currently bringing joy and stability to my life. From practical travel items to philosophical insights, these are the elements helping me navigate daily life with more groundedness and connection.   As summer approaches, I'm finding deep appreciation in both the tangible and intangible - everything from a cherished gift to the profound teachings of a grief expert. These items, ideas, and practices form a tapestry of support that keeps me feeling human and connected during challenging times.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/175

Wait, did I just explain classroom management to the King?! Yep. That happened. In this episode, I'm giving you a front seat to one of the most bizarre, surreal, and pinch-me experiences of my life — being invited to Buckingham Palace and getting to literally talk to King Charles about what we do as educators.But more importantly, I want to unpack why it was so powerful. Not because it was fancy or royal or Insta-worthy (though…yes, yes it was). But because what I shared with him? It wasn't shiny. It wasn't new. It wasn't revolutionary.It was real.The simple, human-first, practical work we do in our classrooms every day — the stuff that doesn't come with buzzwords or fancy acronyms — THAT is what got me standing in front of the actual King. And I want to tell you why that matters. Because this episode is for you.If you've ever doubted whether your small routines make a difference… If you've ever wondered whether this values-led way of teaching is actually working… If you've ever felt like what you're doing is “just good teaching” and not enough to be noticed…Let me tell you: It's radical. It's rare. And it's working.So, shall we roll the tape?What You'll Learn:The wild story of how I got invited to Buckingham Palace

For natural-born fixers and problem solvers, the instinct to tackle every challenge head-on is deeply ingrained. Whether facing procrastination, overwhelm, or late-night scrolling habits, the immediate response is often to search for a solution.   In this episode, I explore why the concept of "fixing yourself" may be counterproductive when it comes to creating lasting change. Drawing from Internal Family Systems theory and real-world examples, I share how shifting from a fixing mindset to one of understanding can transform our approach to personal growth and habit change.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/174

This episode is in response to a great question: How do you support staff through mindset shifts?Whether you're leading a team or just quietly modelling a new way of doing things, this episode is for you. IN THIS EPISODE, I DISCUSS:Why change feels so threatening – and what's really underneath the resistanceHow to lead culture change without lecturing or pushingWhy the most resistant staff are often just burnt outWhat actually helps shift mindsets: stories, modelling, and showing what's possibleThis work doesn't start with policy. It starts with presence.You don't need to change everyone's mind overnight. You just need to hold your ground, model what's possible, and lead with calm consistency. That quiet modelling? That's what creates the ripple effect.Have a question, comment, or just want to say hello? Drop us a text!RESOURCES AND MORE SUPPORT: Shop all resources Join The Behaviour Club My book! It's Never Just About the Behaviour: A holistic approach to classroom behaviour management The Low-Level Behaviour Bootcamp Free guide: 'Chats that Create Change' Connect with me: Follow on Instagram @the.unteachables Check out my website

Do you reflect on your experiences with self-criticism? In this episode, I revisit a powerful narrative technique called the "Once-Upon-a-Time" technique that helps you gain perspective on challenging situations and cultivate self-compassion. This two-part reflective practice transforms how you view your experiences by allowing you to step back and observe yourself through the lens of a neutral observer.   The technique involves writing about a meaningful experience twice - first from your personal perspective, and then rewriting it as if you're an anthropologist studying someone else's story. Through this process, you discover hidden thought patterns and create space for a more balanced, compassionate view of yourself and your actions.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/173

This week I'm doing something a little different – answering your questions! I asked over on Instagram what you needed support with when it comes to behaviour, and wow… you delivered.In this episode, I'm giving practical advice for three of the big ones:  What to do when students gang up on you  How to motivate learners who refuse to try  How to manage the class clown without losing the roomThese aren't fluffy hypotheticals – they're the actual struggles you're navigating day to day, and I'm so excited to support you through them. And don't worry, these are just the beginning – if you love this format, I'll keep them coming!Drop any questions to claire@the-unteachables.com or over on Instagram!Have a question, comment, or just want to say hello? Drop us a text!JOIN MY FREE LIVE TRAINING: TURN YOUR TEACHING INTO A CLASSROOM MANAGEMENT MACHINE RESOURCES AND MORE SUPPORT: Shop all resources Join The Behaviour Club My book! It's Never Just About the Behaviour: A holistic approach to classroom behaviour management The Low-Level Behaviour Bootcamp Free guide: 'Chats that Create Change' Connect with me: Follow on Instagram @the.unteachables Check out my website

Why do I know exactly what to do but still don't do it? This frustrating disconnect between intellectual understanding and actual behavior isn't a sign of weakness or laziness. It's a common human experience that has logical explanations beneath the surface.   In this episode, I explore the knowing-doing gap – that puzzling space where we intellectually understand what would help us, but can't seem to follow through. I offer a simple three-part tool to help you bridge this gap with curiosity and compassion rather than judgment and frustration.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/172

 You've followed the advice. You've implemented the strategies. You've worked your heart out – and still, that one student just isn't responding. It feels hopeless. Like nothing's shifting. Like all your effort is for nothing. If you've ever found yourself saying, “I've tried everything, and it's not working,” this episode is for you. IN THIS EPISODE, I DISCUSS:Why your strategies are working, even when it doesn't feel like itThe importance of patience when working with our most vulnerable studentsWhy “keep going” is sometimes the most powerful adviceWhat we can control – and what we have to let go ofSo if you're in that place right now – doing all the right things and still feeling stuck – I hope this episode gives you a bit of clarity and reassurance. You are making an impact, even if you can't see it yet. Keep showing up, keep connecting, and be kind to yourself along the way. Have a question, comment, or just want to say hello? Drop us a text!JOIN MY FREE LIVE TRAINING: TURN YOUR TEACHING INTO A CLASSROOM MANAGEMENT MACHINE RESOURCES AND MORE SUPPORT: Shop all resources Join The Behaviour Club My book! It's Never Just About the Behaviour: A holistic approach to classroom behaviour management The Low-Level Behaviour Bootcamp Free guide: 'Chats that Create Change' Connect with me: Follow on Instagram @the.unteachables Check out my website

Do you feel like your urges seem to have a mind of their own? Those compelling impulses to check your phone, eat something sweet, or pour another glass of wine often feel like unwelcome intruders in our carefully planned lives. However, urges aren't problems to fix—they're messengers trying to communicate something important.   I'll share a powerful metaphor that changed how I understand urges, along with practical prompts to help you decode what your urges are really trying to tell you. By approaching these impulses with curiosity instead of judgment, you can transform your relationship with them and access deeper self-knowledge. When you understand what drives your urges, you gain the freedom to choose how you respond to them.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/171

How do you fund what matters when everything feels urgent—and uncertain? In this episode of our Hold Fast series, we sit down with Hali Lee—philanthropy innovator, author of The Big We, and founding partner of Radiant Strategies—for a candid conversation on funding with heart, courage, and community at the center. Hali shares hard-earned wisdom from building collective giving movements like the Asian Women Giving Circle and Donors of Color Network, reminding us that generosity flows through relationships, not just resources. Together, we explore how nonprofits can build trust-based funding relationships, embrace smart shifts toward diversification, and create spaces of belonging that inspire action. ❤️If you've been craving practical strategies and soulful encouragement for navigating power imbalances, donor shifts, and fundraising burnout—this episode is your invitation to pause, reflect, and root deeper. You'll hear:Why now is the moment for individuals—and for belongingBuilding trust without losing yourselfSmall teams, smart shifts: diversifying without burning outCollective giving models for grassroots growthEpisode Highlights: The Importance of Relationships in Philanthropy (02:55)Navigating Urgency and Trust in Nonprofits (05:59)The Future of Philanthropy: Inclusivity and Collaboration (09:01)Collective Generosity vs Big Philanthropy (12:11)Connecting Through Shared Experiences (22:39)The Power of Community and Belonging (24:06)Grassroots Movement for Collective Action (26:03)Finding Joy in Connection (30:43)Empowering Individuals to Create Change (32:37)Episode Shownotes: www.weareforgood.com/episode/619Thank You to our Partners

Have you ever felt the need to change but weren't sure how that change would impact your life? What's stopping you from becoming the version of yourself that God sees? What's holding you back from embracing that transformation? Tune in to today's episode as I'Wanna explores the power within you to create the change you truly desire.

One thing nobody tells you before you step into a classroom is just how much behaviour will challenge you. Not just your strategies. You. Your nervous system. Your confidence. Your sense of self.In this episode, I'm talking about what it really feels like to manage behaviour in the moment – especially when you're young, new, or not naturally loud or assertive. And I'll walk you through some of the exact strategies I used to build confidence in my classroom management without changing who I am.IN THIS EPISODE, I DISCUSS:Why behaviour hits us so hard (and what nobody prepares us for)How to feel confident even if you're quiet, calm, or brand newThe 3 non-verbal strategies that completely shift your presenceHow to “embody the credible” and model calm, consistent leadershipHave a question, comment, or just want to say hello? Drop us a text!JOIN MY FREE LIVE TRAINING: TURN YOUR TEACHING INTO A CLASSROOM MANAGEMENT MACHINE RESOURCES AND MORE SUPPORT: Shop all resources Join The Behaviour Club My book! It's Never Just About the Behaviour: A holistic approach to classroom behaviour management The Low-Level Behaviour Bootcamp Free guide: 'Chats that Create Change' Connect with me: Follow on Instagram @the.unteachables Check out my website

Do you try to fix or suppress your anger, and feel guilty if you can't? Many of us have been taught to see anger as shameful, unprofessional, or even dangerous. As a result, we bottle it up, push it down, and try to ignore it. The cost of burying anger is emotional exhaustion and disconnection from ourselves.    In this episode, I share a different approach to anger – one that views it not as a liability but as a messenger. I offer three powerful prompts to help you relate to your anger differently, allowing you to rebuild inner trust and reconnect with your authentic self without fear of explosive expression.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/170  

Students telling you who deserves a detention or questioning why you didn't sanction someone?  It's frustrating, undermining – and it adds to the noise when you're already handling behaviour. If this culture is creeping into your classroom, this episode will guide you on what to do next!IN THIS EPISODE, I DISCUSS:Why this dynamic is so frustrating – and so commonHow to break the cycle with a calm, clear class resetWhat to say when students start calling out behaviour decisionsWhy standing firm isn't unkind – it's part of compassionate, credible teachingThis is a perfect example of the approach I teach.Yes, we lead with compassion. Yes, we value connection. But that doesn't mean we don't stand firm, hold boundaries, and have strong expectations. In fact, doing both is exactly what builds credibility and buy-in with our students.Have a question, comment, or just want to say hello? Drop us a text!JOIN MY FREE LIVE TRAINING: TURN YOUR TEACHING INTO A CLASSROOM MANAGEMENT MACHINE RESOURCES AND MORE SUPPORT: Shop all resources Join The Behaviour Club My book! It's Never Just About the Behaviour: A holistic approach to classroom behaviour management The Low-Level Behaviour Bootcamp Free guide: 'Chats that Create Change' Connect with me: Follow on Instagram @the.unteachables Check out my website

Do you ever feel like you've lost touch with who you really are? That somewhere along the way, between the endless to-do lists, caring for others, and just trying to survive each day, you've forgotten what makes you feel alive?   This episode offers a compassionate look at why we lose ourselves and practical steps to find our way back. I'll share why our disconnection makes perfect sense, how our adaptive strategies that once helped us survive can eventually obscure our true selves, and a simple yet powerful exercise to begin reconnecting with who you really are beneath all the layers of coping and survival.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/169

Have you ever felt like there's a committee of conflicting voices in your head, each pulling you in different directions? In this episode, I explore a deceptively simple yet powerful approach: treating the different parts of your mind as if they were actual people.    I share a practical pen-and-paper exercise that helps externalize what's swirling in your mind, giving you perspective on your inner landscape. This approach, rooted in Internal Family Systems, isn't about creating multiple personalities—it's about understanding why you do what you do so you can respond intentionally rather than react automatically. By treating your parts like people, you create space for compassion and tap into the wise core of who you are beneath all the mental noise.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/168

You're trying to support every student – but the second you lean in to help one, the rest of the class starts to drift. The volume rises. The off-task behaviour begins. And you feel pulled in every direction.It's overwhelming. It's exhausting. And it's not sustainable.In this episode, we break down why this keeps happening – and what to do instead.IN THIS EPISODE, I DISCUSS:Why teaching and behaviour management can't be separatedThe number one trap teachers fall into when trying to support everyoneWhat true differentiation looks like (and why it should remove you, not rely on you)Easy scaffolds and strategies that keep the whole class on track – without burning you outIf this scenario hit home, you'll love my free training Turn Your Teaching into a Classroom Management Machine. I'll break down exactly how teaching and learning can actively reduce behaviour challenges – and how to build a classroom where every student knows what to do without needing you constantly.Head to the-unteachables.com/learn to enrol!Have a question, comment, or just want to say hello? Drop us a text!JOIN MY FREE LIVE TRAINING: TURN YOUR TEACHING INTO A CLASSROOM MANAGEMENT MACHINE RESOURCES AND MORE SUPPORT: Shop all resources Join The Behaviour Club My book! It's Never Just About the Behaviour: A holistic approach to classroom behaviour management The Low-Level Behaviour Bootcamp Free guide: 'Chats that Create Change' Connect with me: Follow on Instagram @the.unteachables Check out my website

If you're drowning in behaviour…If you're thinking, “I actually can't keep doing this”… If you're exhausted from trying everything and nothing's sticking… You are not alone. And you are not the problem.Confidence in classroom management can come with time and experience. But often, it doesn't. That's why I created a clear path forward.In this episode, I'm walking you through the four steps of my Classroom Compass Approach – a simple structure I designed to help teachers move from overwhelmed to in control. It's the exact approach I've used to help over 1,000 educators take back the reins in their classroom.IN THIS EPISODE, I DISCUSS:Why classroom confidence doesn't always come with time – and what actually helpsThe four steps of my Classroom Compass ApproachWhat to focus on before behaviour even happensHow to respond and resolve without escalatingWhy this is the stuff that truly transforms your practiceHere's the beauty of this whole approach: it puts you back in the driver's seat.We can't control behaviour. But we can control how we show up, how we plan, how we respond, and how we connect.Have a question, comment, or just want to say hello? Drop us a text!RESOURCES AND MORE SUPPORT: Shop all resources Join The Behaviour Club My book! It's Never Just About the Behaviour: A holistic approach to classroom behaviour management The Low-Level Behaviour Bootcamp Free guide: 'Chats that Create Change' Connect with me: Follow on Instagram @the.unteachables Check out my website

In this episode, I'm sharing all about the Law of Perpetual Transmutation of Energy.This is the idea that energy is always moving and always flowing, meaning that we have the power to transform it.Feeling stuck or low? You can shift that energy into something higher and lighter.Join me today as I discuss:How to shift out of a funk and feel good againThe power of observing your thoughtsSimple ways to embrace the flow of lifeListen to Create Change masterclass hereSave your space at one of my Sacred CirclesAre you ready to build your heart-led business and attract your dream clients with my support?Find out more about working with me here_________Listen to free guided meditations on my YouTube channel_________If you enjoyed this episode, please feel free to rate, review and subscribe.Get in touch below:instagram.com/groundingwithgemgroundingwithgem.comPlease note: This podcast is intended for informational purposes only. It is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. If you require mental health support, please seek the help of a certified therapist or doctor.

Have you ever wondered what's actually holding you back from changing your most frustrating habits? As a natural problem-solver and detective at heart, I've discovered that our most persistent habits aren't just behaviors to be modified, they're symptoms of deeper burdens our internal parts are carrying.   Today, I'm sharing a powerful framework that offers genuine hope for lasting change. The concept of the Unburdened System, beautifully illustrated by Mariel Pastor, provides a north star for what's possible when we heal the root causes of our habits. This isn't about quick fixes or surface-level strategies—it's about understanding how our internal parts can transform when freed from the emotional burdens they've been carrying.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here:https://habitsonpurpose.com/167

Calm corners look great online – but in reality? Students can ignore them, misuse them, or turn them into a hangout spot. You're left wondering if they're even worth it in a busy secondary classroom where time, space, and structure are limited. You want to support emotional regulation, but not at the expense of learning.I'll take you through how I create calm spaces that actually support self-regulation – without turning your classroom into a free-for-all – and how I embed emotional literacy and co-regulation into my behaviour approach.IN THIS EPISODE, I DISCUSS:Why calm corners often fail in secondary classroomsWhat needs to happen before you set one upMy “pocket calm corner” and the tools students actually useHow to embed regulation without disrupting the flow of your lessonSo, are calm corners worth the rage in secondary? Yes – but only if they're adapted to work in our world. That means ditching the distractions and zeroing in on strategies that are teachable, transferable, and actually usable for our students.Have a question, comment, or just want to say hello? Drop us a text!RESOURCES AND MORE SUPPORT: Shop all resources Join The Behaviour Club My book! It's Never Just About the Behaviour: A holistic approach to classroom behaviour management The Low-Level Behaviour Bootcamp Free guide: 'Chats that Create Change' Connect with me: Follow on Instagram @the.unteachables Check out my website

Have you ever felt something uncomfortable and immediately wanted to make it go away? I know that feeling all too well. When discomfort arises—whether it's anxiety, shame, or frustration—my first instinct is to fix it as quickly as possible. It's like having a reflex that kicks in before I can even think about it.   In today's episode, I explore why this fixing reflex, though completely natural, often backfires. When we rush to fix our uncomfortable emotions, we're actually extending their stay. I'll walk you through practical ways to access curiosity even when it feels impossible, and why having the courage to drop the fight against your feelings is ultimately less exhausting than continuing to resist them.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/166

In this video, I dive into the groundbreaking work of Marija Gimbutas, an incredible archaeologist and anthropologist who dedicated her life to studying goddess imagery in the archaeological sites of Old Europe. Through her research, she uncovered over 20,000 representations of the goddess and documented a matriarchal culture that thrived between 10,000 BCE and 2,000 BCE—one deeply rooted in the worship of the earth goddess and the female form as the central spiritual figure.This episode lays the foundation for a new series where I'll explore the ancient symbols found on architecture, vases, pottery, and art—many of which Gimbutas identified in her studies. In this first installment, we'll focus on the egg as a symbol of creation, fertility, and the generative power of the goddess. I'll share ways you can work with this symbol to tap into your own creative potential, including artistic practices and gardening rituals.I hope this series inspires you and offers meaningful ways to connect with the wisdom of the ancestors and the sacred symbols of the old world.To listen to more about the work of Marija Gimbutas from my episode "Plants, Politics & Power: How to Take Action & Create Change click here: https://youtu.be/qPqpfeLfa2k?feature=shared————2025 HERBAL FOUNDATIONS APPRENTICESHIP

You're not failing at behaviour because you're “just not cut out for it.” And no, it's not because you don't have that magic voice or commanding presence either. The truth? Most of us simply weren't taught how to manage behaviour effectively. And it shows – not because we're not trying hard enough, but because no one gave us the tools to begin with.In this episode, I'm taking you right back to where it all began for me: the whopping 20 minutes of behaviour training I received across two degrees, and how it left me wildly unprepared for what came next. From sinking in my first classroom to swimming thanks to exceptional mentors, I'm sharing what made the biggest difference – and how you can find the same transformation.IN THIS EPISODE, I DISCUSS:Why your struggles with behaviour are absolutely not your faultA behind-the-scenes story from my first chaotic solo lesson (yes, there were flying keyboards)How real, effective classroom management support turned things around for meWhat “The Confident Classroom Pathway” is – and how it can help you feel calm, in control, and confidentClassroom management doesn't have to feel like constant firefighting. The right support – practical, actionable, evidence-based – can change everything. That's why I created The Confident Classroom Pathway, a free training based on all the gold I've learnt over the years from some of the best mentors and trainings around.If you've been on the fence about learning with me, this is the perfect place to start. Head to the-unteachables.com/learn to sign up for one of the two sessions – they're free, fun, and packed with stuff people told me they would've paid for. I would love to see you there.And remember – if behaviour feels tough… it's because it is. But it doesn't have to stay that way. You've got this.

Have you ever felt so stuck that you don't know which way is up or down? That disorienting feeling where you're bewildered about how to take even the first step forward? It's a frustrating place to be, cycling through thoughts of "I have no clue what to do" while flitting between half-completed tasks instead of tackling what truly matters.   In today's episode, I'm offering you a lifeline for those moments when you feel hopelessly stuck. I'll share why we get stuck in the first place, what might be happening beneath the surface, and most importantly, a practical "cheat sheet" you can use immediately to start finding your way forward. This simple acronym—PACE—will give you concrete steps to take when you feel like there's no clear path ahead.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/165

Have you ever felt like different parts of your personality are in conflict, pulling you in opposite directions? Inside each of us exists a complex system of thoughts, emotions, and impulses that can sometimes feel like a crowded vehicle with multiple drivers trying to take the wheel.   In this episode, I explore a simple yet powerful analogy using Internal Family Systems (IFS) that compares our mind to a passenger van filled with different aspects of our personality. This comparison helps explain why we sometimes act in ways that surprise us, feel conflicting emotions simultaneously, or struggle to break free from stubborn habits.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/164

You're in the middle of a lesson, focused on delivering content, when a student walks in displaying behaviours that signal things are about to escalate. Maybe they look angry, and you know they have the potential to become physical. Maybe they're swearing, laughing, and trying to draw in the rest of the class. Maybe they walk in and tip over a chair.Your brain immediately goes into survival mode. You feel the pressure to fix the situation, regain control, and keep the lesson on track. It's completely understandable—you're being observed, you have content to cover, and you want a calm classroom.But here's the thing: your goal in that moment is not to fix the behaviour, but to de-escalate it.In this episode, I break down the difference between pushing students further up the escalation cycle (Door #1) and creating pathways down (Door #2). I'll share practical strategies for staying calm, using non-threatening language, and guiding students toward a place where they can self-regulate—so that meaningful behaviour conversations can happen later, when they're actually ready.Listen in as I discuss:Why fixing behaviour in the moment is not the goal. Understanding the brain's stress response.The two doors we open during de-escalation. One escalates behaviour, the other creates a pathway down.Practical strategies for de-escalating big behaviours. Non-verbal cues, connection-based responses, and avoiding common mistakes.MASTERCLASS: REAL CONSEQUENCES, REAL CHANGEHave a question, comment, or just want to say hello? Drop us a text!RESOURCES AND MORE SUPPORT: Shop all resources Join The Behaviour Club My book! It's Never Just About the Behaviour: A holistic approach to classroom behaviour management The Low-Level Behaviour Bootcamp Free guide: 'Chats that Create Change' Connect with me: Follow on Instagram @the.unteachables Check out my website

Why do we keep repeating habits, even when we desperately want to stop? If you've ever found yourself thinking, “Why can't I just have more willpower?” when trying to change a deeply ingrained behavior, there's a deeper reason behind it. Breaking old habits isn't about willpower, it's about understanding why they exist in the first place.   In today's episode, I use Internal Family Systems (IFS) to explore the fundamental reasons why we repeat habits, even when they no longer serve us. If you're ready to get to the heart of what's really driving your habits, keep listening.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/163

Have you ever felt like your emotions are pulling you in a million different directions at once? Like there's a tug-of-war going on inside your head between conflicting thoughts and feelings? This kind of inner tension is a totally normal part of the human experience.   In this episode, I explore a powerful technique for gaining clarity and perspective when you're feeling overwhelmed by your emotions. It's a simple yet profound tool that can help you understand the deeper forces driving your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors in almost any situation.    Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/162

#282: In a chaotic world, how do you stay grounded, fuel your creativity, and create real change?In this episode, I sit down with award-winning cultural commentator, author, and political advisor Alencia Johnson to explore what it means to be a cultural disrupter, how to stand out without burning out, and the keys to thriving—even in uncertain times.We also talk about:Building relationships that help you feel seen, heard, and supportedPrioritizing self-care, community, and clear actions for lasting changeMaintaining resilience while facing decision fatigueReconnecting with your creative self through actionable stepsAlencia's approach to standing up for yourselfThe courage to try and fail in publicResources:Check out my new brand Spacious Rituals and get your virtual planner for 2025!Subscribe to my Substack, Balance with LesAlencia's new book: Flip the Tables: The Everyday Disruptor's Guide to Finding Courage and Making ChangeThe Artist's Way by Julia CameronKeep in touch with Balanced Black Girl:Shop limited-edition Balanced Black Girl merchWatch on YouTube @BalancedBlackGirlFollow on IG: @balancedles @balancedblackgirlpodcastFollow on TikTok @balancedlesVisit our website at balancedblackgirl.comSponsors:YNAB | YNAB is a life-changing budgeting app that helps you do what you want with the money you have. Visit www.ynab.com/balanced to get an exclusive three-month trial.LMNT | LMNT is a zero sugar electrolyte drink mix with a research-backed ratio of electrolytes. To try it out go to drinkLMNT.com/balancedles to receive a free LMNT sample pack with any purchase.Deinde | Try Deinde's Line-Smoothing Eye Cream to fight inflammaging. Go to deinde.com and use code BALANCEDLES at check out for 15% off your first purchase.Hero Bread | Enjoy your favorite breads with fewer net carbs and more fiber. Go to hero.co and use the code BALANCED for 10% off your order.Veracity | Veracity is revolutionizing health by addressing the root cause of energy and weight challenges through drug-free, clinically proven, doctor-formulated, solutions. Visit veracityselfcare.com and use code BALANCEDLES for 15% off your first order.Seed | Take care of your gut health with Seed. Go to Seed.com/balancedles and use code BALANCEDLES to get 25% off your first month.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this video, I explore the true meaning of “politics” and how understanding its roots can help us move beyond overwhelm and into action. We'll look at history for guidance—where systems fail us, where they offer hope, and how we can take small yet meaningful steps toward change.One of the voices that inspires me is Marija Gimbutas, a Lithuanian archaeologist and anthropologist who uncovered evidence of matriarchal societies in "Old Europe"—cultures rooted in peace, equality, and cooperation. Her work reminds me that another way is possible, and that we have the power to shape it.I'll share what I see as the two essential pillars for reclaiming our power: the path of prayer and the path of action. These together form a stable foundation for meaningful work in the world. Along the way, I'll provide links to resources—books, films, and organizations—that can help you connect with movements for change, including plant-protecting initiatives across the country.We are not powerless. Small steps matter. I'll show you how to start.————MY ONLINE COURSES

Have you ever found yourself bottling up emotions all day, only to have them burst out later in a way that surprises you? Do you dismiss or intellectualize your feelings instead of truly experiencing them? If you struggle with avoiding certain emotions, you're not alone.   In this episode, we build upon a recent episode's theme of emotional avoidance. Instead of avoiding feelings, what if you could welcome them with curiosity and treat them as messengers with important information to share? Tune in to discover how befriending your emotions can transform your life.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/161

What if the fastest way to upgrade your life wasn't about waiting until you feel ready, but about stepping into that version of yourself right now? You can create a powerful change with the practice shared in today's episode. This simple mindset shift that rewires your thoughts, behaviors, and energy to align with the life you truly want. In this episode, we dive into how embodying the habits, confidence, and mindset of your future self can create real, lasting transformation. Whether you want to build self-belief, break through limiting patterns, or finally step into the next level of your life, this episode will show you how to make the shift-starting today. Listen now and start acting as if your best life is already yours! Access EXCLUSIVE & AD FREE EPISODES here: apple.co/iam Be part of the inner circle on Sunroom @kylielately Follow me on IG @kylielately & TikTok @kylielately See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you ever catch yourself pushing through exhaustion, pretending you're fine, or feeling guilty for even thinking about taking a break? This week, I'm resharing my conversation with Dr. Erica Howe, founder of the Women Physicians Wellness Conference, to explore what happens when we let go of the habit of keeping up a facade.   Dr. Howe shares her personal story of feeling overwhelmed, the pivotal moment that changed her perspective, and why she created WPW as a space for women physicians to connect, strategize, and break free from isolation. We discuss why exhaustion and shame often go hand in hand, how community is the antidote, and why rethinking selflessness can transform both your work and personal life.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/160  

We live in a world obsessed with quick wins, overnight success stories, and instant results. But in the real world—especially when it comes to coaching, transformation, and business growth—there's no set timeline for success.As a coach, service provider, or expert, one of the biggest challenges you'll face is managing expectations—both your own and your clients'. We're constantly bombarded with messages about “fast results” and “instant breakthroughs,” but the reality? True transformation takes time.

Do you ever find yourself compartmentalizing or ignoring certain emotions, desires, or experiences that feel unwelcome or uncomfortable? It's a complex habit that many of us engage in without even realizing it. In this episode, we dive deep into the sneaky ways we might be dismissing parts of ourselves and the impact this can have on our well-being.   Join me as we explore the root causes of this sneaky habit and how we can start to shift it. We'll look at how our family of origin and cultural conditioning may have shaped what we view as welcome or unwelcome in our own systems. By the end of this episode, you'll have a better understanding of what you might be compartmentalizing and how to start being with what is actually present.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/159

Do you ever feel like you set a goal, but weeks or months go by and nothing has really changed? You wonder how you've been so unproductive and if you're just avoiding the work or self-sabotaging. If this sounds familiar, I have an approach that can help.   In this episode, I introduce the concept of "Future You Thinking" and share four practical strategies to simplify task initiation, reduce overwhelm, and keep your priorities clear. These tools are especially useful if you have a lot of moving parts in your life.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/158

Do you ever feel like your to-do list is a never-ending source of stress and frustration? You're not alone. Despite our best efforts, it's all too common to end the day feeling behind and overwhelmed, even if we've accomplished a lot.    In this episode, you'll learn how to do a reality check on your list, ensure you're not falling into the trap of magical thinking, and infuse your day with a sense of ease and focus. If you're ready to break free from the tyranny of an overwhelming to-do list, this episode is for you.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/157