The Confidence Catalyst

What kind of communicator are you? Do you engage in debating with your partner or are you open to dialogue? In this episode, I discuss the importance of knowing what kind of communication is at play and how it helps or hinders your ability to create LOVE AT HOME. Join me! 

When we think in terms of percentages we end up creating a mindset of score keeping and tallying. When we think, "I'm spent. I'm only operating at 60% capacity, and my spouse needs to pick up the slack and give the other 40%," we inadvertently create a checklist and a quick way to disappointment. This is not to say that your spouse won't pick up the slack - it's the idea that you think they "should." These "shoulds" are wreaking havoc on your relationship and a sure fire way to create resentment at home rather than LOVE AT HOME. Marriage is NOT 50/50. Tune in to this episode to hear part two and learn a healthier approach to your marriage. 

It might sound nice that marriage should be 50/50, where each partner gives an equal amount, but in reality, it becomes quite problematic. The idea of "equal" means that one or both parties are doing a bit of score keeping and tallying who is doing what or doing more and noticing the other isn't "keeping up". This kind of mindset is a recipe for RESENTMENT. In this episode, I introduce the resentment cycle and how it's so poisonous in our relationships, what to do instead, and how you can create more LOVE AT HOME. Join me, Hannah Coles, LDS Life Coach, and let's dive in!

There is some misguided marriage advice about needing your spouse to fill all your needs. You've probably heard some like, write out a list of what you need from your spouse and give it to them. And on one hand, the list isn't a bad idea - it can be helpful and productive understanding and being aware of what your needs actually are but it's problematic asking your spouse to fill them. On one hand, it puts you in a risky position - while you're waiting for them to fill your needs, you're stuck. You can't feel how you want to untiil they show up differently... and cue anxiety  - because, what if they don't? In this episode, I share what to do and what to drop to create LOVE AT HOME. Tune in! 

Marriage is a unique relationship. The quality of your marriage impacts everything and everyone around you. It is the biggest source of so much joy and happiness in life and can also be the source of so much loneliness, pain, and sorrow. I want to help you create genuine LOVE at HOME by working on the core relationship first - your marriage. So whether you come solo or with your spouse, you will walk away from today's episode with tools to help you create a deeper, more connected, loving relationship. 

We are so quick to filter everything though the "ME" category and by so doing we create a lot of angst, anxiety, stress, and fear in our lives. We also miss out on being able to see or understand what might really be going on. In this episode, I share ways to recognize that we're diving into the "ME" category and how to gently shift to the "NOT ABOUT ME" category. This is such a relevant topic that will be a huge benefit in your life and in your relationships. When you're ready, tune in with LDS Life Coach, Hannah Coles.

We live in an age where information, opinions, and preferences are thrown at us all day long. Your phone sends alerts, your watch vibrates with messages, and social media is concentrated with thoughts, images, quotes, offers, videos, and messages - and while they might be good and you might love them - how much of them are you actually retaining? How can we show up confident and able to trust in ourselves if we can't remember the pivotal tools in the moment we need them? In this episode, I share a TWO FOLD practice that will help you develop your capacity to remember! Tune in with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles

Sometimes we experience a feeling of being tired that just won't go away. No amount of rest, vacationing, or typical self-care tactics can cure because it's more complicated to address. In this episode, I walk you through reasons to where this kind of "tired" comes from and offer you real solutions to alleviating that struggle. Tune in with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles.

We all want more of the "right" people in our lives. We want good friends and co-workers who uplift rather than deplete and drain us. In this episode, I address the HOW of learning to attract emotionally healthy and available people in your life. We will explore why we may unintentionally attract emotionally unhealthy individuals and how to shift our focus to notice and gravitate towards those who align with our values. Join me, Hannah Coles, LDS Life Coach as I share the importance of self-awareness, compassion, and setting boundaries in fostering meaningful connections. 

Are you tired of attracting the wrong people in your life, no matter how much you try to change your circumstances? You're not alone. In this episode, I help you dive deeper into the reasons behind this and offer insights on how to break the cycle. From recognizing awareness to knowing your own worth to setting healthy boundaries, I help you uncover the steps to stop attracting the wrong people and to start paving the path toward welcoming healthier connections. Join me, Certified Life Coach, Hannah Coles as I help you navigate this complex topic and empower you to create the fulfilling connections you deserve. 

In this episode, I dive into the transformative practice of writing letters to yourself in the form of LEAP YEAR LETTERS. I discuss key elements to include in your letter, for your personal reflections on your current life to envisioning your hopes and dreams for the future. Join me and discover the power of self-compassion, gratitude, and resilience as you craft a roadmap for your future self. Create a new tradition for each leap year that has a set date to connect and reconnect with yourself every four years. This practice yields so many beautiful benefits that will help you live a confident life. When you're ready, dive in! But don't forget to grab a pen and some paper! 

There's a difference betweeen our self-image, what we think of ourselves versus our public-image, what we think others think of us. Too often we are guided by others and the fear of what they might think of us instead of being intrinsically motivated. In this episode, we'll explore how our internal values shape our self-image and contrast it with the external pressures of public opinion. We'll talk about the various "roles" you carry as a part of your identity and question if these roles are productive for you or hinder your ability to feel confident.

Ever struggle with negative thinking? In this episode, I share how to approach your negative thoughts so that you can leave them behind and move onto more productive thinking patterns. I share why negative thinking puts unnecessary stress on your relationships and how to cultivate connection instead by sharing the four N's of Navigating Negative Thinking. 

Just like our physical bodies need constant exercise,  our belief muscle needs to undergo some exercise to build a healthy and productive belief system. In today's episode, I share an important practice to start that will help your self-belief grow by leaps and bounds! 

When was the last time you felt really proud of yourself? What were you doing? What did it feel like? What was it that you had to overcome to get to that place? Growing up there are ample opportunities to be proud; school plays, sports, music performances, talent shows, graduations (grade school, middle school, high school, college, etc) but now as adults...what now? feeling proud isn't just a "nice" feeling - it's a necessary NEED and one that will help you progress and connect in bold ways. Come check out the podcast to hear more with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles

Congratulations, You've leveled up! You're changing - you're becoming more aware, more confident, more authentically you. You've seen some amazing changes in yourself - this is what happens 100% of the time when you dive into coaching. But then there's something that also happens just about 100% of the time that we don't often talk about - when you change, you'll be met with some resistance. The moment you start to change in these really amazing ways there will be or are people in your life that won't like those changes. What do you do when you're growing and upleveling and others don't like the new you?

Confidence is synonymous with faith. It is faith that moves mountains. It is confidence that provides the peace, certainty, and trust to be able to move forward and try new things. I'm excited to share just the tiniest snippets from Dr. Givens and his book, The Doors of Faith and share ideas, concepts, and tools to help you live a life of quiet confidence. Tune in!

The starting point of all confidence is in radical truth-telling. Lies, half-truths, and dishonesty stem from insecurities and fears and you might be dabbling in this area more than you realize. But the good news is that you have options, you can learn how to be a radical truth-teller, and best of all you can create a life of security, certainty, and quiet confidence. Tune in with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles

There are dangers of pretending to be fine when we're not, pretending that things don't bother us when they really do, pretending to be happy instead of being human with a full range of emotions, pretending to enjoy things when we don't, pretending to agree with things when we really don't. This pretending is hurting you more than you realize and there is a way out. Come listen and learn how to stop pretending!

There are rules that are productive for you and there are "rules" that aren't. Some help us to create more confidence and security in ourselves and others that actually hinder your growth and self-image. But what if there are NO RULES?  What if you are following "rules" (aka expectations) from others that stifles your confidence not knowing there are other options? Tune in this week with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles to learn more how to operate from what you VALUE instead of fear. 

If you are not feeling as confident or secure as you'd like it's most likely because you are falling prey to these insecurity-inducing habits. In this episode, I shine a light on four subtle (yet striking) ways that MAKE you insecure. Tune in with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles

We all experience ugly thoughts. You know the kind, it's when you're starting a new project and that inner dialogue chimes in to tell you all the reasons why it won't work for you or why you're not cut out for that. It happens when you look in the mirror or see a picture of you and whoa, lots of thoughts come out of the woodwork, thoughts that you'd never say to anyone else. It's the thoughts we worry others are thinking about us. They're just really ugly and for most of us, we're really bad at leaning into them instead of kicking them to the curb. In this podcast I teach you how to stop indulging in ugly thinking once and for all!

How do you know when to end a friendship? Why is it so hard to walk away or find closure in this area? This week I'm wrapping up the three-part series on friendships and teaching you how to know when to say goodbye to a friendship. Join Hannah Coles LDS Life Coach

This episode is all about MAINTENANCE. One of the hardest aspects of friendships is maintaining them. We start to see or notice things that we don't like, we hold them to these unspoken expectations, they might say things or show up in ways that are confusing and oftentimes that's when we start to distance ourselves until the firnedship just fizzles out and then we wonder, what happened? Join me today as I walk you through some tools to keep your friends and to make them even stronger!

It's no secret, friends can be amazing and those special connections can help us to experience rich, full, and joyful lives. But navigating the waters of friendship can be difficult and trigger a lot of insecurities, frustrations, and fear as well. I've created a 3 part series to help you feel confident in this world of friends! Tune in with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles

Somewhere along the line we picked up the belief that some people are "better" than others, they're more likable, more valuable, more educated, more...And with this we have the tendency to elevate them and put them on a pedestal. But if they're up there, where are you? What does that say about you? And more importantly, what does that do to your confidence? Find out in this episode with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles

We often blame others for how we feel. We think that others "made" us feel a certain way. They said words and now I'm hurt. But this thought track is disempowering and will keep you from being able to feel confident. Today, I share a small portion of the book, How Emotions are Made by Dr. Lisa Feldman Barrett where you learn that others don't "make" us feel anythign at all rather you are the creator and architect of your emotional world!

It's January and goals are the hot topic right now as well as excuses so I wanted to create a short podcast episode to help you clear out some thought drama and weed out some negative beliefs that are hindering more than helping. Tune in with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles

When we're triggered by something we have this terrible habit of narrowing in and focusing on it, which we doesn't feel good. Feelings are important because how you feel drives you into action - it affects what you DO next. So when you're honed in Ono the things that don't feel good it directly impacts how you show up and what you create. In today's episode, I teach you not to ignore the triggers but to learn how to focus on what feels good so that you can show up confident and able.

There are moments when we just feel stuck. We might feel stuck in a story about ourselves or others, stuck in a feeling, stuck in a pattern of behavior, or a family relationship, and it's painful because there's no growth or moving forward in stuckness. But there is a glorious, most freeing truth: It doesn't have to be this way. Today, I share an easy, straightforward path to release you from your own bondage of stuckness and to be able to move back into the power of growth! Tune in with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles

There are times in our lives when we have things we want or need to do but we just don't feel motivated to actually start. Oftentimes we procrastinate, give up, or distract ourselves with lesser things which makes the getting started even harder to do. So how do you get started when you're nott motivated to? Tune in with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles and I'll help you out. 

Want to learn how to create a better morning for yourself or learn how to feel more in control over your day? In this episode, I share a psychological phenomenon known as priming. This one tool is a game-changer for your life. It will help you uplevel your life in every way and area. Tune in!

The way we talk to ourselves is incredibly important and yet so many of our thoughts are subtle and often sabotage us in our desire to create the kind of life we want to have. Just as much as you are what you EAT, you are what you SPEAK. In this episode, I share tools to help you notice and pinpoint that subtle, sneaky, sabotaging self-talk so you can feel more secure and confident. 

We've become addicted to fault finding and playing the self-blame game and it's hurting us more than we know. For something that seems small or inconsequential because we think we're only hurting ourselves, it's actually one of the most toxic forms of emotional abuse and it's got to stop. This practice expounds on our perceived weaknesses and over time it becomes our identity. learn how to stop playing into this form of abuse and start living more confidently in this episode with LDS life Coach Hannah Coles

Richard Rohr once said, "Transformation is often more about unlearning than learning." How do you unbelieve? How do you stop believing things that aren't serving you? Even master Yoda admonished, "You must unlearn what you have learned". All throughout our lives, we pick up a lot of thoughts, beliefs, and biases that might be doing more harm than good. In today's episode, I teach you the importance of unlearning so that you can learn what is going to be the most helpful and productive for you. Tune in with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles

Sometimes we think we "should" heal faster. We give ourselves a time frame or what we think is "acceptable" towards our emotional healing and we get frustrated and even angry at times when we haven't "moved on" yet or progressed "enough". But what does that really mean? And what is that kind of pressure doing to your ability to progress? More importantly, how is that affecting your confidence? Tune in this week to hear the episode!

I love questions. Questions invite personal revelation. Questions provide opportunities to grow, to learn, and to increase our capacity for confidence. Every tenth episode I bring you a favorite book, teacher, influencer, and in this milestone episode, I'm bringing you 10! Make sure to grab a pen and paper because these questions have the potential to change your life when answered thoughtfully and honestly. Tune in with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles

Far too often we tend to settle with just "okay" things, an "okay" job, an "okay" house, an "okay" relationship...not because we don't know what we really want but because we don't actually believe we deserve it. If deep down you're still running with the, "I don't deserve it" track it's not going to be possible for you to have it, and it's not that it's not possible, it's that you don't allow it to be possible for you. Tune in this week with LDS life Coach Hannah Coles

There are a great many things we just don't know, and to adjust and move forward, your amazing brain "fills in the blanks" with thoughts that it thinks might be helpful or useful but is oftentimes NOT. Join me this week as I help you navigate those waters with four helpful and productive fillers that will keep you CONFIDENT and moving forward! 

You know how uncomfortable it feels when someone has already made false assumptions about you. Even before you open your mouth they have formed an opinion and it feels awful because they're not really "seeing" you and yet we do this with people almost daily. This practice is hurting your ability to connect and feel confident! This week I offer you a KEY strategy to stop assuming and instead invite connection. Make sure you tune in! You're going to want this one! 

One of the best things we can offer ourselves is the ability to enjoy being in your own company. We live in a world full of distractions that can make it difficult to really know and understand yourself so much so that it can feel uncomfortable and enlarge your insecurities. A key principle of living a life of quiet confidence is being able to love, savor, and really enjoy being in your own company. Tune in this week as I walk you through the process of learning how to enjoy your own company.

We all want to know that we matter. We need to know that who we are or what we're doing means something to someone out there. We need to know that we're making a difference in the world and that we'll leave a legacy behind that says that we did more than just exist. We lived, we influenced, and we inspired countless others on earth. In today's episode, I share just how much you are indeed a person of impact and just how far your reach extends. Tune in with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles

Let's talk about "venting" for a moment. What is venting? Are you talking out loud in order to help you process? or are you prolonging the unproductive experience? Processing has a productive purpose and can help you progress. Prolonging is recreating pain for you and unfortunately, there's no foreseeable end in sight. Come listen to the podcast today to learn how to process rather than prolong. 

We try so hard sometimes to be something that you believe someone else wants you to be. We say yes to family dinners when you don't really want to go. We agree to do things we don't really want to do. We show up as a version of ourselves that is inauthentic and as a result, it creates a lot of unhappiness and negative emotions for us. The problem with all of thihs is that no matter how hard you try to be who you thhink they want you to be "they" still can't see it. They can and will only see what they want to see, who they perceive you to be. So if they can't see who you're trying to be anyway, why no be the version of you that you want to be?

We spend a lot of time thinking about what others are thinking of us and we shape our lives in ways that we think others would approve of. We're so consumed with what we think they think of us that we lose sight of what you think of you and how you want to spend your mortal sojourn. You have one life. One gift of mortality. What do you want to do with it? What do you want to make of it? How do you want to spend your time? how do you want to feel about your life? Tune in to the full episode with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles

There are some things that can't be sugar-coated or faked when it comes to REAL confidence. Oftentimes the hardest person to be honest with is YOURSELF. In this episode, I share 5 cold-hard truths that genuinely confident people know, value, and live wholeheartedly by. There is a huge difference between pretending to be confident and false bravado vs authentic, quiet confidence. Tune in with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles

One of the biggest areas we get "stuck' in our lives is believing that we can't be happy or feel confident until x happens. What if you could change your focus instead of on the goal, to learning to enjoy the process? What if you could learn to find joy in the journey? You can. It's more than possible! Join me as I share just a small inkling of the amazingness I've learned from Thomas Sterner.

There's something quite tragic about looking back on your life and wishing you had done something more, something different. Maybe you wish you had talked to that person, written that book, taken that trip, learned that language, healed that relationship, cherished those moments. Regrets are a high price to pay for a moment of insecurity, doubt, pride, or negativity. In this episode, I share how to start learning to live a rich life NOW!

For many years people believed that earth was the center of the universe and it wasn't until many years later that astronomers discovered that we aren't the center and in fact,t the sun is. So many of us operate from somewhat of a geocentric mental model where we measure humanity off of our own personal perspective. But doing this creates more mental drama for ourselves and disconnects us from others. So if WE are not the reference point, who or what is? And how does this affect my confidence? Come find out in today's episode! 

We sometimes have this all-or-nothing mentality when it comes to our beliefs. We think that we have to either believe it or drop it and it's no wonder why we think that when we're bombarded with messages like, "Just let it go!" or "don't believe THAT!" and that's only IF we realize what we're thinking in the first place! I want to help you out and offer you a more productive way to reframe your thoughts to work for you instead of against you. Tune in with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles

Every week I ask my 1-1 clients this same question because we change daily and not just daily but minute to minute! We just don't allow ourselves to notice it and we WANT to notice and be aware of the things changing in our lives. Because if they're not changing the way we want them to we can catch it before it becomes a pattern and a habit. I encourage you to adopt this powerful question and notice how your eyes open to the continual growth and abundance on your journey.