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In this episode, Patrick Teahan, MSW, explores the profound impact of growing up in an abusive or neglectful environment, detailing how childhood trauma survivors often struggle with intense self-blame and self-hatred. He introduces the concept of emotional math, moving beyond simple advice to just be kinder to yourself, focusing instead on the deep rooted self-contempt that develops when children lack a healthy adult guide.The episode begins by unpacking a complex dynamic: the development of damaged perceptions about personal self-worth. Patrick uses this concept to illustrate how normal human needs and mistakes are calculated as evidence of being fundamentally flawed, trapping survivors in a painful but brilliant childhood survival mechanism used to avoid the terrifying reality of having unsafe parents.Listeners will learn:Emotional Math: What this concept is and how lacking a healthy frame of reference distorts a child's perception of reality.Signs of Unrelenting Self-Criticism: Common indicators that you are too hard on yourself, such as feeling ashamed for not instantly mastering a new hobby or carrying the weight of other people's emotions.The Impact of Neglect: How both direct and indirect neglect teach children to view their basic needs and personal interests as immense burdens.Family System Roles: The ways the scapegoat and golden child utilize self-criticism and perfectionism to stay safe and secure conditional love.Self-Blame as a Shield: Why absorbing the blame during childhood was an essential protective strategy to shield the nervous system from the heartbreak of an emotionally volatile parent.Honoring the Inner Child: How to start validating your inner child for creating these survival tactics so you can begin rewriting your emotional equations.Patrick also provides a guided reflection to help listeners express gratitude to their inner child for their protective instincts, paving the way to replace self-hatred with self-compassion. By understanding how these feelings developed, survivors who struggle with perfectionism, ruminate over past social mistakes, or constantly feel like a burden can find clarity and begin to change the narrative.Keywords: childhood trauma, self-hate, emotional math, inner child work, emotional neglect, family roles, trauma recovery, self-blame, toxic family systems Join the Healing Community!Join the Monthly Healing Community Membership

Sometimes the worst part of betrayal is not what happened. It's what keeps happening inside you afterward. Betrayal trauma recovery is about understanding why betrayal trauma can leave you anxious, hypervigilant, angry, shut down, or unsure of yourself long after the original event is over. In this episode, we're revisiting a conversation about what happens when someone you love, trust, or depend on hurts you in a way that changes how safe the world feels. Whether the rupture came through infidelity, dishonesty, emotional abandonment, or another kind of relational betrayal, the aftermath can be disorienting in ways people do not always talk about clearly enough. We'll look at why betrayal can create trauma responses that feel a lot like PTSD, and why healing after betrayal often takes more than insight alone. We'll also explore what betrayal trauma recovery can look like in real life: naming the wound honestly, recognizing your trauma responses, understanding the difference between a real threat and an old trigger, and creating the kind of emotional safety that makes healing possible. If you've been trying to rebuild trust after betrayal, make sense of healing after infidelity, or learn how to trust yourself again, this episode offers a compassionate and grounded place to begin. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Betrayal Trauma Recovery 04:09 Why Betrayal Can Feel Like Trauma 08:38 What Counts as Betrayal? 15:43 Self-Blame and Losing Trust in Yourself 23:14 Betrayal Trauma Symptoms: Fear, Hypervigilance, and Avoidance 35:02 How Betrayal Trauma Recovery Begins 46:53 Why Safety Has to Come Before Healing 52:08 Healing, Boundaries, and Learning to Trust Yourself Again If this episode gave language to something you've been carrying alone, I'd like to offer you a gentle next step. You can schedule a free consultation with me or someone on my team, and we'll help you find the right support for you. It's private, secure, and only takes a couple of minutes to answer three quick questions so we can match you with the right counselor or coach. Think of it as a thoughtful first step toward feeling more clear, more supported, and more like yourself again. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Upwork — and it's a sponsorship I said yes to because I actually use it. When you need specialized talent fast, Upwork gives you access to vetted professionals across 125+ categories, from marketing to web development to operations support. No long recruiting cycles. No guesswork. Just the right person, when you need them. Check it out at upwork.com — posting a job is free. Shopify — The all-in-one platform for building and growing your online business. Visit shopify.com/lhs to explore their tools and access exclusive listener discounts. OSEA - Amazing, clean, science-backed skincare made with the power of the sea. Use code LHS at oseamalibu.com for 10% off your first order

Download: From Self-Blame to Self-Compassion Recovery Worksheet.Are you your own worst enemy in recovery? This episode tackles the hidden barrier that keeps many people stuck in addiction - a harsh inner critic. Hosts Duane and Eric Osterlind explore how self-blame can sabotage recovery efforts and share research-backed strategies for developing self-compassion. Drawing from Dr. Kristen Neff's groundbreaking research, they explain why being kind to yourself isn't just "feel-good talk" but a powerful tool for lasting change. The hosts break down practical steps to transform your inner dialogue and explain why self-compassion actually leads to better accountability than harsh self-criticism. Whether you're in recovery or supporting someone who is, this episode offers actionable tools to break free from shame and build lasting resilience.Key TopicsThe difference between self-compassion and self-excuseResearch evidence supporting self-compassion in recoveryHow shame fuels addiction cyclesPractical steps to develop self-compassionThe role of community support in building self-compassionConnection between self-compassion and accountabilityTools for identifying and transforming your inner criticKey Timestamps[00:01:23] Why we're kinder to others than ourselves[00:03:35] Understanding the trap of self-blame[00:05:02] Introduction to Dr. Kristen Neff's research[00:07:34] Self-compassion vs. making excuses[00:08:23] Practical steps for developing self-compassion[00:11:36] The importance of common humanity[00:14:31] Different timelines for changeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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402-521-3080A heartfelt conversation with survivors Stephanie Olson and Rebecca Saunders about healing from sexual assault, emphasizing that it is not the survivor's fault, the importance of support, and pathways to recovery. key  topicsMyth of self-blame in sexual assaultThe importance of support systemsNavigating relationships with abusersHealing and self-care strategiesResources and next steps for survivors takeawaysWhat happened to you is not your fault.Find at least one trusted person to share your story.You don't have to tell everyone, just one safe person.Healing takes time; be patient with yourself.Your worth is inherent and unchangeable. sound  bites"What happened to you is not your fault.""It's not your fault and we believe you.""You have intrinsic value that cannot be changed."Chapters00:00 Introduction and Survivor Perspectives01:12 The Impact of Self-Blame and Misconceptions03:07 Understanding the Complexity of Abuse from Trusted People03:58 Confusion and Emotional Responses Post-Abuse04:58 The Power of Disclosure and When to Share Your Story07:11 The Importance of Finding Support and Not Isolating08:06 Debunking Victim Blaming and Personal Responsibility08:59 Recognizing and Overcoming Self-Blame09:37 Self-Compassion and Doing the Best You Could10:43 The Role of External and Internal Victim Blaming11:31 Healing Requires Readiness and Emotional Preparation12:20 When and How to Share Your Story Safely13:23 The Power of Survivor Voices in Support Roles14:36 Avoiding Identity as a Survivor and Focusing on Strengths15:04 Normalizing the Long and Non-Linear Healing Process18:48 Challenges of Co-Parenting with an Abuser21:02 Prioritizing Safety and Making Empowered Choices26:10 Decision-Making and Support During Trauma Recovery27:19 Reaffirming That It's Not Your Fault28:35 Healing Is a Lifelong Journey and Self-Care29:39 Closing Remarks and Resources for SurvivorsresourcesRAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network) - https://www.rainn.org/National Sexual Assault Hotline - https://www.rainn.org/resources/national-sexual-assault-telephone-hotlineTherapists and Support Groups - https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapistsBooks on Healing from Sexual Trauma - https://www.amazon.com/s?k=healing+from+sexual+traumahttps://www.buzzsprout.com/admin/1862413/episodes/9379928-let-s-talk-the-fiji-house-sexual-assault-and-value-resilience-in-life-and-leadership-episode-005https://www.buzzsprout.com/admin/1862413/episodes/10850439-amy-nordhues-overcomer-of-therapist-abuse-resilience-in-life-and-leadership-episode-039Support the showEveryone has resilience, but what does that mean, and how do we use it in life and leadership? Join Stephanie Olson, an expert in resiliency and trauma, every week as she talks to other experts living lives of resilience. Stephanie also shares her own stories of addictions, disordered eating, domestic and sexual violence, abandonment, and trauma, and shares the everyday struggles and joys of everyday life. As a wife, mom, and CEO she gives commentaries and, sometimes, a few rants to shed light on what makes a person resilient. So, if you have experienced adversity in life in any way and want to learn how to better lead your family, your workplace, and, well, your life, this podcast is for you!https://setmefreeproject.nethttps://www.stephanieolson.com/

Hi all! We're back with another minisode of the Owning Your Sexual Self podcast! This is stage two of Somato Respiratory Integration (SRI), a guided somatic practice to support you when you're feeling conflicted, stuck, or hard on yourself. Through breath, body awareness, and simple prompts, you'll begin to notice the different parts of you that are asking to be heard and learn how to hold them with more compassion. This is a practice you can come back to whenever you need to soften the tension and feel more connected to yourself.*This practice was created by Donny Epstein, creator of network spinal chiropractic and the 12 stages of healing*Support the showConnect with Rachel!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseYouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelfFacebook: Rachel MaineEmail: therachelmaine@gmail.com

A Note from James:This is why I love doing podcasts—talking to people like Dr. Sheena Howard, author of Why Wakanda Matters. Wakanda is the country where Black Panther is from, and Sheena has written extensively about comics, including work on Black Panther itself.We talk about comics, race, and storytelling. I asked a question I was almost afraid to ask—whether the Black Panther movie was racist against other Black people—and she gave a surprising answer. We also talk about a time she was abducted in Jamaica, along with a lot of other topics.I loved this conversation. Please listen. Episode Description:James sits down with Dr. Sheena Howard—scholar, comic book writer, and Eisner Award winner—for a conversation that moves between pop culture, publishing, and personal survival.They use Black Panther as a lens to examine how stories shape identity, how representation evolves, and why cultural narratives are often filtered through systems that weren't built to support them. Sheena breaks down the tension between nationalism and isolationism in Wakanda, and why audiences interpret the same story in radically different ways.The conversation also goes deeper—into how gatekeeping works in publishing today, how creators can bypass it, and why building your own audience may be the most reliable path forward.And then there's the story she didn't tell for years: being abducted at 19. What happened, why she stayed silent, and what it reveals about psychology, fear, and resilience.This episode is about storytelling—but also about control: who has it, who doesn't, and how to take it back.What You'll Learn:Why “Black superheroes don't sell” is a myth—and how the industry perpetuates it anywayThe real gatekeeping mechanism in publishing today (and why audience ownership matters more than ever)How subtle bias shows up now—not in obvious barriers, but in shifting goalpostsWhat makes a story resonate across audiences (and why Black Panther worked at scale)The psychology of abusive situations—and how awareness and boundaries are built over timeTimestamped Chapters:[03:04] A Note from James[03:53] Favorite Superheroes: From Captain America to Black Panther[04:27] Why Black Panther Connected Culturally[04:43] The $1.2B Question: Why So Late for Black Superheroes?[05:17] Luke Cage, Netflix, and the “Myth” That Black Stories Don't Sell[05:39] Tyler Perry and the “Outlier” Problem[06:23] Pressure on Black-Led Films to Be Perfect[07:00] What Wakanda Represents (Uncolonized Possibility)[07:53] Killmonger: Anger, Oppression, and Relatability[08:23] MLK vs. Malcolm X Parallel in Black Panther[09:00] Identity Formation: African vs. African American Perspectives[09:47] Are Black Superheroes Designed to “Feel Safe”?[10:28] Gentrification, Stereotypes, and Media Influence[11:50] Media Isn't “Just Entertainment”[12:00] Early Representation and Cultural Messaging[12:28] Who Created Black Panther—and Why That Matters[13:07] Rewriting History: What Would She Change?[13:49] Designing a Modern Black Superhero[14:47] Why a Modern Hero Might Be “Invisible”[15:44] Publishing Barriers and Gatekeeping Conversations[16:36] Social Media vs. Traditional Publishing Access[17:26] Building 163K Followers—and Still Not Enough[21:47] The Instagram Post: “I Was Abducted at 19”[22:11] How It Started: Cheap Tour, No Money, Bad Decision[23:05] The Trap: Locked House and Escalation[25:00] Refusal and Survival Strategy[26:02] Car Crash and Escape Attempt[27:00] Walking Away and Getting Home[28:30] Why She Stayed Silent for Years[29:20] Abusive Relationships and Self-Blame[30:26] Leaving Abuse: The Role of Her Son[31:06] Love Bombing and Early Warning Signs[33:02] Recognizing Red Flags in Relationships[35:45] Teaching Kids Boundaries and Self-Worth[37:21] “Is Wakanda Racist?”—The Big Question[38:00] Nationalism vs. Racism Explained[39:00] Isolationism vs. Imperialism[41:00] Why Some Black Superheroes Don't Break Out[43:00] The Loss (and Survival) of Great Storytelling[46:14] How She Got Hired by Marvel (Cold Email + PI)[48:29] Why Pitching Ideas to Marvel Often Fails[50:00] Cold Outreach: Being Seen Before Heard[52:00] Do You Need Social Media to Sell Books? (Yes.)[55:01] Building an Audience vs. Waiting to Be Discovered[56:00] Email Lists: The Real Asset for Writers[59:00] Should You Niche Down or Stay Broad?[01:09:36] Do Podcasts Actually Sell Books?[01:12:00] Why Publishers Don't Care About You (At First)[01:14:18] Choose One: Money, Readers, or Prestige[01:15:10] Quantity vs. Quality Writing Models[01:23:56] Success Beyond the New York Times List[01:24:25] Owning Your IP vs. Writing for Marvel[01:26:18] “Survive the Gap” Concept and Film Project[01:27:00] Turning Ideas Into Franchises[01:28:44] Why Ownership Beats Gatekeeping[01:30:34] What's Next: Hip Hop and ComicsAdditional ResourcesHome | Dr. Sheena C. Howard | Creative EntrepreneurWhy Wakanda Matters by Dr. Sheena HowardBlack Comics: Politics of Race and Representation by Dr. Sheena HowardNina's Whisper by Dr. Sheena HowardMarvel's Black Panther (film)See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Let us know what you think about the podcast!Episode 209 - How to Deal with Your Adult Child's Difficult Spouse, part 1When your adult child marries someone who brings a lot of anxiety into the family system, everything can start to feel… tense. Gatherings feel loaded. Conversations feel risky. And you can't even explain why—you just know the vibe has changed.In this episode, Tina walks parents through the Confusion stage: how anxiety spreads through families, why you feel like you're walking on eggshells, and what you can do to stay calm, connected, and clear—without blaming, fixing, or taking the bait.In this episode, you'll learn:Why one person's anxiety can affect the entire family systemHow to spot anxiety patterns (even when no one is “doing anything wrong”)The hidden dynamic that pulls parents into the middle (triangles)Why over-functioning and over-explaining can accidentally increase tensionA simple, practical shift that helps you stop “catching” the anxietyIf you're in the confusion stage, you're not crazy. Your nervous system is picking up a real shift. You don't have to diagnose your adult child's spouse to begin changing your part in the system.When one parent becomes more grounded, the whole relationship system can begin to heal.Coming nextEpisode 2 moves into stage two: Self-Blame — why parents turn inward (“This must be my fault”) and how to step out of shame and into mature responsibility. If this episode helped, share it with a parent friend who feels like they're walking on eggshells around their adult child's spouse. And be sure to follow the podcast so you don't miss the next episode in the series. Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Connect with us:Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/tinagosneycoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tinagosneycoaching---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach.  Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.

Are you struggling with low self-regard? In this episode Dr. Motley highlights the connection between this emotion and the gallbladder, some key signs that you may have a gallbladder issue, and what can help. The episode delves into the wisdom of TCM, kinesiology and the identity conflict issue in German New Medicine. Check out the show notes for his list of remedies.⬇️ Dr. Motley's recommendations: Bodyguard Supreme: https://shorturl.at/VeC4D Schisandra Supreme: https://shorturl.at/m1VFG Uva Ursi: https://shorturl.at/n91bM DesBio's Gallbladder/Liver Meridian Opener: https://shorturl.at/0TKLK NET WOOD Remedy: https://a.co/d/0eYOfMjC DesBio Comprehensive Drainage Kit: https://dbscript.com/product/comprehensive-detox-kit/ ------  Want more of The Ancient Health Podcast? Subscribe to the YouTube channel. Follow Dr. Motley! Instagram Facebook Tik-Tok Website ------  *Most of us are mineral deficient and we don't even know it! Want to get your minerals in? BEAM Minerals is a simple shot of minerals each morning. Tastes like water, absorbs fast, and gives your body the full spectrum of minerals it needs. It's one of the easiest, most effective ways to support overall vitality. Try BEAM Minerals at beamminerals.com/DRMOTLEY and use code DRMOTLEY for 20% off your first order. *Join Doctor Motley's newsletter for TCM insights and regular podcast updates: https://www.doctormotley.com/ *If you want to hear more on how Chinese Medicine connects the physical and emotional, check out Doctor Motley's membership, complete with courses, a whole library of video-based resources and the chance to pick his brain on weekly live Q+A's. You can try it free for 15 days here: https://www.doctormotley.com/15

In this episode, Kelsi Sheren discusses the brainwashing of younger generations, focusing on how educational systems and societal influences have led to a collapse of resilience and personal responsibility. She critiques the moral engineering in education, the ideological shifts in universities, and the conditioning of self-blame among youth. Kelsi emphasizes the intentionality behind these changes and the need for awareness and action to counteract them.Chapters00:00 Introduction and Overview of the Series01:30 The Brainwashing of Generations04:51 The Collapse of Resilience08:17 Moral Engineering in Education10:36 The Ideological Shift in Universities12:57 The Conditioning of Self-Blame and Ambition - - - - - - - - - - - -One Time Donation! - Paypal - https://paypal.me/brassandunityBuy me a coffee! - https://buymeacoffee.com/kelsisherenLet's connect!Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/@thekelsisherenperspectiveInstagram -  https://www.instagram.com/thekelsisherenperspective?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw%3D%3DX: https://x.com/KelsiBurnsInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelsie_sheren/Substack:  https://substack.com/@kelsisherenTikTok -   https://x.com/KelsiBurnsSUPPORT OUR SPONSORS - - - - - - - - - - - -MasterPeace - 10% off with code KELSI - http://www.MasterPeace.Health/KelsiKetone IQ- 30% off with code KELSI - https://ketone.com/KELSIGood Livin - 20% off with code KELSI - https://www.itsgoodlivin.com/?ref=KELSIBrass & Unity - 20% off with code UNITY  - http://brassandunity.com

In Part 2 of this community chat, we move from confusion to clarity. After years—sometimes decades—of minimizing behavior and blaming themselves, these women share what finally shifted. What happens when you stop asking, “What's wrong with me?” and start asking, “What's really happening here?” We talk about: The slow accumulation that leads to clarity Questioning their behavior instead of your own Rebuilding self-trust after covert narcissistic abuse The emotional toll of living in self-blame Why it's never too late to choose peace If you've been walking on eggshells, second-guessing yourself, or feeling like two different versions of who you are, this episode will help you understand why recognizing covert narcissism takes time — and why clarity changes everything. Your story matters, and you deserve to be heard without judgment. If you're ready to take the next step toward healing, check out my coaching services at www.covertnarcissism.com. Don't forget to subscribe for more empowering episodes like this one. DISCLAIMER: THE INFORMATION PROVIDED BY RENEE SWANSON, COVERT NARCISSISM PODCAST, AND CNG LIFE COACHING IS FOR EDUCATIONAL PURPOSES ONLY AND IS NOT TO BE USED FOR DIAGNOSIS PURPOSES AND NOT INTENDED TO BE A SUBSTITUTE FOR CLINICAL CARE. PLEASE CONSULT A HEALTH CARE PROVIDER FOR GUIDANCE SPECIFIC TO YOUR CASE. THIS MATERIAL DISCUSSES NARCISSISM IN GENERAL. RENEE SHARES STORIES FROM HER PERSONAL EXPERIENCES AS WELL AS FROM THOSE SHE HAS TALKED WITH FOR SEVERAL YEARS. HER MATERIAL DOES NOT CLAIM THAT ANY SPECIFIC PERSON HAS NARCISSISM AND SHOULD NOT BE USED TO REFER TO ANY SPECIFIC PERSON AS HAVING NARCISSISM. PERMISSION IS NOT GRANTED TO LINK TO OR REPOST THIS MATERIAL TO SUPPORT AN ALLEGATION OR SUPPORT A CLAIM THAT ANY SPECIFIC PERSON IS A NARCISSIST. THAT WOULD BE AN UNAUTHORIZED MISUSE OF THE MATERIAL AND INFORMATION PROVIDED. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this educational follow-up to Andrea's survivor story, we explore the deeper psychological themes beneath her experience — early self-blame, emotional role reversal, silence as survival, and the lasting impact of parental betrayal. We break down fear, obligation, guilt, and shame, and examine how parentification, secrecy, and high-functioning achievement can mask unresolved trauma for decades. If you've ever felt responsible for holding everything together — or struggled to speak about what happened — this episode offers clarity, reflection, and hope for healing. To but Andrea's book, click here. Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

You were never on trial — guilt, shame, and self-blame are learned illusions, not truth.In this episode of Tao Dialogues, we explore how to end guilt, shame, and self-blame by recognising a powerful truth: you are not on trial.Many of us replay the past, defending ourselves in an inner emotional courtroom shaped by childhood conditioning and the Inner Child's need to be “right.” But Taoist wisdom and wu wei (effortless effort) remind us that guilt and shame are not facts — they are emotions created from beliefs.Through the lens of Shen (your intrinsic spiritual essence) and the Golden Thread Process, we uncover how to release self-judgment, step out of emotional drama, and return to clarity, compassion, and alignment.This episode is for you if you:Struggle with guilt, regret, or shameReplay past mistakes and self-blameFeel trapped in perfectionism or people-pleasingWant emotional freedom rooted in Taoist wisdomRead the blog post that inspired this episode: https://davidjameslees.substack.com/p/empty-courtroom Our Tao Dialogues are powerful yet gentle teachings about authenticity, spirituality and finding emotional balance and flow in everyday life. These spoken-word episodes draw from David James Lees' practice as a Taoist monk and teacher, and expand upon popular posts on ‘David's Journal', his Substack blog.You can subscribe to David's Journal here: https://davidjameslees.substack.com/Discover David's online consultations, events and shop: https://www.wuweiwisdom.comOther related teachings on our YouTube channel that will help you:TAO DIALOGUES PLAYLIST  https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9NQ_PWX4zICamFP2zMyey3KGTnfm2aUq&si=AW_ZOUeldKv3nHhFSHEN (THE SPIRITUAL SELF) PLAYLIST https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9NQ_PWX4zIBmp50wYcmU7jCBLp1Qvl-jINNER CHILD PLAYLIST  https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9NQ_PWX4zICGLRS1b7q1HSJhZRash5qqJoin our free Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity  Book an online Golden Thread Process & Inner Child Consultation with David: https://www.wuweiwisdom.com/therapies-for-body-mind/ Follow us on Instagram: @wuweiwisdomSign up to receive a relaxing guided meditation gift, plus our weekly newsletter + offers via email: https://www.wuweiwisdom.com/signup -Disclaimer: This podcast and any associated teaching and comments shared are not a substitute for professional therapy, mental health care, crisis support, medical advice, doctor diagnosis, or professional healthcare treatment. Our show episodes provide general information for educational purposes only and are offered as suggestions for you and your professional therapist or healthcare advisor to consider and research.Music by Earth Tree Healing

If you came out of a relationship feeling ashamed, stuck in self-blame or questioning your self-worth, this episode offers compassionate guidance to help you heal and rebuild confidence.Kate is joined by Sarah Wilson, founder of Coastal Coaching and host of The Inner SUCCESS Story podcast, to explore how toxic relationship patterns form, why shame often follows separation and how low self-esteem can make breakups feel even more painful - especially if you were the one who chose to leave.In this episode, we cover:Sarah's personal experience of staying in an unhealthy relationshipHow shame can show up after a breakup The link between childhood experiences and adult relationship patternsWhy low self-esteem can worsen the emotional impact of separationActionable steps to build self-love and self-compassion post-divorceThis episode is for anyone navigating the emotional aftermath of a difficult breakup who wants to understand themselves with more compassion and begin rebuilding confidence from a steadier place.Trigger warning: this episode covers content that some listeners might find distressing, including toxic relationships, emotional abuse and shame.Meet Sarah WilsonSarah is the founder of Coastal Coaching (Sussex) Limited, a keynote speaker and the host of The Inner SUCCESS Story podcast.Her early family relationships shaped a deep sense of not being good enough, a pattern that followed her into adulthood and her marriage. After leaving an emotionally abusive relationship, and inspired by her young son, she committed to deep personal change.In 2020, Sarah founded Coastal Coaching to support professionals stepping into leadership and help them build confidence from the inside out. Her work is grounded in accredited coaching practice, lived experience and a belief that people have more choice than they realise. You can learn more about Sarah on her website or you can get in touch with her on LinkedIn. For more tips on how to break free from self-sabotaging habits, you can tune in to her podcast The Inner S.U.C.C.E.S.S. Story.More divorce resourcesNeed expert help right now?Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert for guidance on the legal, financial, emotional or co-parenting aspects of separation.Want ongoing support as you rebuild after separation?Join amicable space for bonus podcast episodes, exclusive webinars, articles and an interactive community where you can share questions and get expert advice from amicable specialists. Start your free trial here.Kate's book amicable divorce is out in March, including practical guidance on emotional recovery, self-compassion and moving forward after separation. Preorder on Amazon today.Got a question for a future episode?Share your thoughts at hello@amicable.co.uk or through direct messages on Instagram.#EmotionalJourney

Mae explores the subtle but critical difference between taking responsibility and turning inward with blame, using a vivid dream to show how the same mistake can lead to grounded repair or unnecessary self-punishment. The episode invites listeners to grow through clarity, not inner violence.Mae YoshikawaMae Yoshikawa is the creator of the Kizuki Journaling™, a powerful tool for self-awareness and transformation. A pioneer in wellness and personal development, Mae was the first Japanese woman authorized by the founding school of Ashtanga Yoga in India in 2006. Her work bridges Eastern and Western traditions, shaped by profound life experiences—including the loss of her mother, the sudden passing of her husband, and her ongoing journey as a mother to two sons. Mae's upcoming books share her path of healing and becoming, and her online community, MAE Y, continues to support a growing circle of those on their path of inner growth. She has served as a global ambassador for adidas since 2015.Kizuki Journaling Website: KizukiJournaling.comPersonal Website: https://maey.live/Instagram: ⁠@maeyoshikawa

Today, we unpack how covert narcissistic dynamics quietly train thoughtful, self-reflective people to carry blame that was never theirs. In this episode, we explore how normal, everyday questions—like asking about errands, timing, or work logistics—can somehow turn into tension, shutdowns, or accusations. Over time, those repeated interactions begin to reshape your inner dialogue, leaving you questioning your tone, your intent, and eventually your worth. We'll look at why self-reflective people are especially vulnerable to internalizing blame, how manipulatively tense environments distort your sense of what's “normal,” and why taking responsibility often becomes a way to survive rather than a sign of actual fault. We'll also name an uncomfortable truth: when you absorb blame, you become the pressure release valve for someone else's unresolved tension—and while that may bring them relief, it comes at a real cost to you. This is a signature episode designed to help you interrupt the reflexive thought “I am the problem,” reclaim your internal compass, and begin placing responsibility where it actually belongs. If you've been feeling confused, ashamed, or perpetually “in trouble” around the same person, this conversation will help you see why—and remind you that self-reflection is a strength that deserves boundaries, not punishment. DISCLAIMER: THE INFORMATION PROVIDED BY RENEE SWANSON, COVERT NARCISSISM PODCAST, AND CNG LIFE COACHING IS FOR EDUCATIONAL PURPOSES ONLY AND IS NOT TO BE USED FOR DIAGNOSIS PURPOSES AND NOT INTENDED TO BE A SUBSTITUTE FOR CLINICAL CARE. PLEASE CONSULT A HEALTH CARE PROVIDER FOR GUIDANCE SPECIFIC TO YOUR CASE. THIS MATERIAL DISCUSSES NARCISSISM IN GENERAL. RENEE SHARES STORIES FROM HER PERSONAL EXPERIENCES AS WELL AS FROM THOSE SHE HAS TALKED WITH FOR SEVERAL YEARS. HER MATERIAL DOES NOT CLAIM THAT ANY SPECIFIC PERSON HAS NARCISSISM AND SHOULD NOT BE USED TO REFER TO ANY SPECIFIC PERSON AS HAVING NARCISSISM. PERMISSION IS NOT GRANTED TO LINK TO OR REPOST THIS MATERIAL TO SUPPORT AN ALLEGATION OR SUPPORT A CLAIM THAT ANY SPECIFIC PERSON IS A NARCISSIST. THAT WOULD BE AN UNAUTHORIZED MISUSE OF THE MATERIAL AND INFORMATION PROVIDED. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Have you ever felt terrified of change… not just because life is shifting, but because you feel like you're shifting with it? I know that feeling well — and this week's conversation opened my heart and mind in such a profound way. In this week's episode of HEAL with Kelly, I sit down with Dr. Maya Shankar, a renowned cognitive scientist whose work sits at the intersection of identity, behavior, and human transformation. Maya is the Senior Director of Behavioral Economics at Google, the creator and host of the award-winning podcast A Slight Change of Plans, and the former Senior Policy Advisor in the Obama White House. She founded and chaired the White House Social and Behavioral Sciences Team and later became the first Behavioral Science Advisor to the United Nations. Maya's new book, The Other Side of Change, is a stunning blend of research and storytelling. In our conversation, we explore why change can feel so destabilizing, how our brains are wired to resist uncertainty, and what happens when the identities we've clung to suddenly fall away. Maya shares vulnerably about losing the violin career she spent her childhood building, and later, facing the grief and identity questions that came with unexpected challenges around motherhood. We also dive into some of the most fascinating ideas from her work — like why we mistakenly believe we're “done changing,” how awe and moral beauty can completely redirect our lives, and a simple 5-minute practice that can ground us when we feel unmoored. We talk about the stories we inherit, the ones we outgrow, and the courage it takes to imagine ourselves beyond old definitions.  In a world where CHANGE is the only constant, Maya's work is a lighthouse.  This conversation is honest, expansive, and full of insight. If you're navigating transition, grieving a path that didn't unfold, questioning your identity, or simply curious about who you're becoming… this episode is for you. Key Moments You'll Love ✨:

When healing reaches a point of no return, trauma brain often turns on you.This week, we're unpacking why daughters of narcissistic or emotionally limited mothers default to self-blame and guilt even when the truth is clear. You may intellectually know that your mother was incapable of showing up differently, and still find yourself wondering, What if it was me? or Why do I feel so guilty now?This episode breaks down the nervous system logic behind self-blame and guilt, explaining why these responses are not signs that you're wrong, weak, or confused, but signs of a system shaped by survival, loyalty, and conditioning.We'll walk through what “doing the work” actually looks like when guilt and self-blame are running the show. We'll have grounded practices and journaling invitations for daughters at different stages of healing, whether you're feeling deeply dysregulated or you've been around the block and still get pulled back into old patterns.This episode is part of a larger arc inside Mayhem focused on learning how to stand with yourself, trust your wise mind, and stop turning on yourself when healing gets real.Join Mayhem Daughters: MayhemDaughters.com/community

Show LinksSelf Paced Resources.Subscribe To The Interview Podcast. https://yourlevelfitness.com/podcastNew To The YLF Philosophy? Start Here. https://ylf30.comDaily Accountability And Structure For Your Self Paced Inside/out Process. https://yourlevelfitness.com/daily-emailQ and A Response YouTube Playlist. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLjSupgaY5KA66MD2IdmCwFhLFbDe-pk1lIndividualized Guidance From Daryl.Join The YLF Experience. https://app.moonclerk.com/pay/5t93iox9udm3Compare All Service Levels. https://yourlevelfitness.com/coachingGet Your Merch, Mugs and Wall Quotes.Shop The Current Collections. https://yourlevelfitness.shop/collectionsEpisode DescriptionWhere you are right now in life did not happen by accident.In this episode, I talk about the idea that where we currently sit is a result of choices, circumstances, and responsibilities layered over time. Not everything that happened to us was fair. Not everything was chosen. But at some point, responsibility becomes the key that unlocks change.I share a story from my childhood growing up with cerebral palsy and being told very early what the rules of my life were supposed to be. That moment shaped how I think about perspective, accountability, compassion, and choice. We are all dealt a hand. What matters is how we decide to play it.This conversation is especially important at the beginning of the year, when many people want to make changes without first getting honest about where they actually are. Before you can decide where you are going, you have to draw a line and clearly see where you stand today.We talk about separating what was outside of your control from what is within your control, taking responsibility without self blame, and choosing a direction that aligns with who you are. Progress is not linear. The path will change. But you can choose a different direction at any time.This episode is a reminder that time matters, regret weighs heavy, and building a life that fits you is worth the effort. When you start showing up for yourself and surrounding yourself with people who support the life you are trying to live, things do start to change.Please share this episode with anyone you think would be interested in listening to it.Visit darylperrypodcast.com for links to the show page on each of the major podcast directories. From there, you can subscribe and share this pod.For comments, questions, topic ideas, possible collaborations please email daryl@yourlevelfitness.com

Infidelity can feel like one of the most devastating experiences a person can go through, and in this encore episode, I talk about why it cuts so deeply — and how healing is truly possible. I explore how betrayal impacts us not only emotionally, but at a primal level, threatening our sense of safety, belonging, and self-worth. I also share parts of my own story and explain how infidelity can reopen old, unhealed wounds that have nothing to do with our partner's choices. One of the most powerful frameworks I discuss is the Buddhist concept of the two arrows. The first arrow is the betrayal itself. The second arrow is the meaning we attach to it—the self-blame, shame, and stories that often create even more pain. While we cannot control the first arrow, we always have a choice about the second. Whether you are considering staying or leaving, this episode will help you understand how to reduce the impact of infidelity, reclaim your power, and stop hurting yourself with stories that are not true. Healing does not require perfection. It requires compassion, honesty, and courage. In this episode, I cover: Infidelity hurts deeply because of both biology and meaning The second arrow of self-blame is optional Your partner's choices are not a reflection of your worth Healing is possible, whether you stay or leave If you're ready to move forward with strength instead of shame, I invite you to reach out and take the next step in your healing journey. Schedule a call with me so we can talk about you joining the small cohort of my January group. https://calendly.com/andreagilescoaching/get-your-life-back EXPAND: Who You Came Here to Be - An immersive, in-person retreat experience. February 5th to 8th, 2026 at the Estancia La Jolla Hotel & Spa in San Diego, California. Join us here! https://portal.andreagiles.com/expand-retreat-who-you-came-here-to-be-v2  More from me: Get Your Life Back After Infidelity Special: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/p5MWTwrk/checkout Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles

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Welcome back to Clear Voices of Hope, part of the For the Love of Cups Clear Pathways program—a podcast that brings together real stories to shine a light on the realities of dense breast tissue and breast cancer. In this heartfelt episode, host Lisa Malia sits down with Kristin Derus Dore, who shares her personal journey navigating breast health, dense breast tissue, and the often frustrating realities of the healthcare system.   Kristin opens up about her surprise discovery of dense breast tissue, the challenges she faced getting screened, and the critical role community and self-advocacy played in her experience. Together, Lisa and Kristin dive into the emotional toll of not being heard, the power of sharing information between women, and the importance of building a care team you trust. Whether you're living through a similar journey, supporting a loved one, or passionate about women's health equity, this episode offers connection, support, and practical wisdom on advocating for your own health.   Tune in as we amplify courageous voices, break taboos, and remind each other why every woman's story matters.   TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 "Clear Voices of Hope" 03:29 Mammogram Tip: Protecting Thyroid 08:51 Judgmental Medical Encounter 11:04 Unclear Breast Cancer Screening Guidance 15:22 Confusing and Costly Medical Experience 19:03 Empowering Women Facing Greater Barriers 22:33 Navigating Health and Self-Blame 26:26 Stress, Health, and Cancer Connection 30:12 "Be Your Own Health Advocate" 32:33 Grateful for Lisa's Inspiring Efforts   Learn more about The Clear Pathways Program, Walk, Summit, App and Initiative powered by For The Love Of Cups and join our task force or advisory board: https://www.breastdensitysummit.org/   Kristin Derus Dore is a dedicated entrepreneur, wife, and mother. Newly married, she cherishes her blended family, which includes three beloved dogs and two fantastic grown children, ages 28 and 26. About four years ago, Kristin launched her own biofeedback wellness business and has found great fulfillment and success in her work and women's health. Family health has always been on her mind, especially concerns about dense breast tissue, a topic often discussed by her mother and aunts.   Kristin values connection and is grateful to be part of work that makes an impact. Learn more about Kristin: www.edenbiofeedback.com   *Not medical advice. These episodes are intentded to spark conversations between you and your care provider, family and friends to advocate for more informed decisions.  #breasthealth #earlydetection #herscan #breastcancerscreening #mammogram #breastcancer #breastdensity #breastultrasound

In this episode, my guest Emma shares how as a teenager, she found herself in a vulnerable situation that ended in a horrific experience of date rape. The aftermath was heavy and too much for anyone to carry alone. And yet who would believe her? Confusion, shame, and a deep sense of abandonment settled in, especially as Emma wrestled with painful questions about God's presence and care. Emma shares the loneliness of wondering where God was in her suffering, and the struggle of believing she was being punished for lying to her parents about going on that date. This conversation offers an unflinching look at what fear, secrets, and powerlessness can do to a soul.  But God. Join me again next week as Emma shares how God met her in that dark season, offering her a path forward and a new identity. Lifted to Hope, the audiobook is here!  If you would be willing to listen to it and write a review for Audible, I can connect you with a free copy. To inquire about counseling, email Louise at Louise@louisesedgwick.com.  

In this Episode of Inner Voice, Dr. Foojan Zeine welcomes Judy Belmont — psychotherapist, author, and corporate trainer with 40+ years of experience — for a powerful conversation on mental wellness. Judy shares practical strategies from her latest book: "110 CBT Tips and Tools: Proven Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Strategies for Anxiety, Depression, Stress, Anger, and More." Learn actionable tools to manage your mental health, improve emotional resilience, and lead a more balanced life.

If your inner monologue is constantly whispering, “Did I do something wrong?” This one's for you.In today's episode, we're diving into relational anxiety that shows up as self-blame. You know the one: where you feel responsible for everyone else's mood, you apologize before anyone says a word, and conflict makes you want to disappear. Maybe your default is “It's all my fault,” even when it's not. That pattern is what keeps you from feeling comfortable being yourself in the world; it keeps you on alert, and it waters down your relationships. This episode is all about overcoming shame and self-blame, and why it's so important to heal your relationships.We'll explore:The roots of self-blame and hyper-responsibility in relationshipsHow over-apologizing and people-pleasing quietly erode intimacyWhat's actually going on in your nervous system when you spiralThe difference between shame and guilt and why it mattersHow to hold your emotional reality and your partner's without collapsingPractical tools to break the “it's all my fault” loop, build self-trust, and come back to your centerYou'll also hear some of my own stories around this pattern: how it showed up in past dynamics and how I've worked with it through somatic and relational healing.If you often wonder…→ “Are they mad at me?”→ “Why do I feel so responsible for how everyone else feels?”→ “How can I express my needs without feeling like a burden?”… This conversation will help you feel seen and supported, and offer real practices to help you shift the dynamic.RESOURCES & LINKS: ✨ Book a free 1:1 consultation with Jenelle: Limited space available ✨ DM me on Instagram with your takeaways → @jenelleannette ✨ Or send me a message via email → hello@jenelleannette.com

Struggling with depression and self-blame? Learn why it's not your fault, how guilt fuels depression, and how to break the cycle and heal. Learn the skills to Regulate your Emotions, join the membership: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/membership Are you stuck in a cycle of depression, self-blame, and guilt? Do you constantly think, "It's my fault I feel this way"? In this video, we dive deep into the connection between depression and self-blame, showing how guilt, shame, and blaming yourself can worsen mental health. You'll learn why depression tricks your mind into believing it's all your fault, how excessive guilt fuels deeper depression, and how cognitive distortions keep the cycle alive. We'll also explain the neuroscience behind depression, guilt, and self-blame — and how you can start to break free. If you often feel like "I'm to blame" or "It's my fault I'm depressed," this video will help you understand the real causes of depression and guide you toward self-compassion, resilience, and emotional healing. Stop letting self-blame and guilt control your life. Learn practical steps to reframe your thinking, heal from depression, and create a healthier, more hopeful future. Watch now and start breaking the cycle. Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanutshell Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/best-self-help-books  Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

In this episode of 'One in Ten,' host Teresa Huizar speaks with Dr. Ernie Jouriles, professor and director of clinical training at Southern Methodist University, to explore the profound influence of spirituality and divine struggles on children and teens who have experienced sexual abuse. They discuss why some young individuals perceive their abuse as divine punishment, the role of self-blame, and the minimal attention the intersection of spirituality and mental health has received in child maltreatment literature. Dr. Jouriles shares findings from his studies, revealing significant predictors of trauma symptoms over time and highlighting the need for a holistic approach to care that includes discussing faith-related concerns. Practical implications for child advocacy professionals and the potential role of faith leaders in supporting affected children are also explored.  Time Stamps  Time Topic 00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview 01:19 Guest Introduction: Dr. Ernie Jouriles 01:24 Exploring the Relationship Between Spirituality and Child Sexual Abuse 03:49 Study Findings on Spiritual Struggles and Mental Health 06:06 Understanding Spiritual Support and Struggles 10:13 Implications of Self-Blame and Divine Struggles 15:46 Future Research Directions and Practical Applications 29:38 Conclusion and Final Thoughts 39:31 Closing Remarks and Podcast Information Resources:Spirituality, self-blame, and trauma symptoms among adolescents waiting for treatment after disclosing sexual abuseSupport the showDid you like this episode? Please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts.

Was It My Fault? The Dangerous Lie of Self-Blame After His Affair After the betrayal, it's the question so many Christian women silently ask themselves: “Was it my fault?” In this heartfelt episode of Beauty Beyond Betrayal, I uncover the dangerous lie of self-blame that often follows infidelity. With biblical truth, recent research, and real stories from women just like you, I am going to help you dismantle the shame and silence the inner critic keeping you stuck. You'll discover: Why self-blame is so common (and so damaging) after betrayal What Scripture actually says about where responsibility lies 5 powerful, biblical steps to stop blaming yourself and start healing How to walk in truth, reclaim your worth, and recover your identity in Christ

Sometimes, coaches like us hold ourselves back because we think our 'inherent flaws' are unchangeable barriers to success. In today's episode, I explore why we tend to blame ourselves when things aren't working in our coaching business and how this self-blame creates a self-fulfilling prophecy that keeps us stuck.   You'll discover a powerful reframe question that helps break this self-blame cycle, along with specific examples from my clients who have transformed their businesses by embracing their perceived flaws as strengths. I'll also share practical ways to redirect your thinking when self-blame arises so you can embrace your authentic self in your coaching practice.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://www.lindsaydotzlafcoaching.com/241

Welcome to Episode 259 of Autism Parenting Secrets.This week on Autism Parenting Secrets, we go beyond hope and into action. I'm joined by Bishop Juan Carlos Mendez, a powerful voice of faith and advocacy who brings clarity and encouragement to parents raising a child on the spectrum. We dive into the emotional and spiritual challenges many parents face—depression, guilt, disconnection—and how faith must be coupled with action to move forward. If you've been praying but still feel stuck, this conversation is exactly what your heart needs.The secret this week is…Prayer Is NOT EnoughYou'll Discover:How Churches Can Better Support Families (4:17)How to Break Free From Guilt and Self-Blame (7:05)The Power of Surrender + Action (11:10)The Paradox of God Explained (16:05)How to Feed Faith, Not Fear (25:17) About Our Guest:Bishop Juan Carlos Mendez is the founder of Churches in Action, a coalition of over 2,300 churches mobilizing to serve the needy and uplift underserved communities. He has established more than 40 churches — including the “Dream Center” in Los Angeles — and leads initiatives like the Annual Mayor's Inter-Faith Prayer Breakfast. With advanced degrees in theology, education, and public administration, he empowers parents and faith leaders to rise up, take bold action, and drive lasting change. His message is clear: prayer matters — but it must be paired with courageous, committed action.

“With overuse injuries especially, how do you help injured athletes recognize what to take ownership for, and what was out of their control? For example, one's weightlifting form may have led them to injury. Shame and guilt can be common emotions here, which are not helpful to our recovery, but how do we recognize what causal factors to take ownership of in a healthy way?” —Clark   “If a series of acute injuries are a consequence of a chronic condition, how can you ever live without fear of reinjury or, perhaps worse, self-blame? Asking for a friend.” —Jennifer   In season 8 of The Injured Athletes Club podcast, mental skills coach Carrie Jackson answers a question every other week about the mental side of overcoming injuries—and this week, it's a twofer, with questions about exploring your own role in your injury   It's common to search for answers after you get hurt, and while it makes sense to consider the factors that contributed, self-blame and self-flagellation do nothing to speed your recovery. Instead, they produce feelings of shame and a sense of being stuck in the past.   Instead, Coach Carrie recommends reframing injury as an inherent risk you face as an athlete. Have compassion for yourself, knowing that of course, you would've made different choices if you knew in advance what the outcome would be. And, she suggests ways to rebalance fear of re-injury by being clear and deliberate about how you're rebuilding.    A huge thank you to LEVER Movement, the exclusive sponsor of season 8 of The Injured Athletes Club podcast! The LEVER system is an innovative way to reduce your body weight, and the impact on your joints, while exercising on a treadmill. Use the code “TIAC20” to get 20% off your purchase.    You can subscribe to The Injured Athletes Club on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Audible, Amazon Music, or wherever you get your podcasts, and if you like what you hear, please leave us a rating or a review in Apple podcasts. That helps other injured athletes find the show.   To access more resources for injured athletes: Buy Rebound: Train Your Mind to Bounce Back Stronger from Sports Injuries —now available as an audiobook! Buy Injured Athletes Club merchandise, including hoodies, stickers, patches, journals, mugs, hats, and gift cards Access webinar videos, mental rehab e-courses, and more great resources for injured athletes while supporting our work Join The Injured Athletes Club mailing list, for news and updates Join The Injured Athletes Club Facebook group, for support and camaraderie Like The Injured Athletes Club Podcast Facebook page, for the latest episodes Email us at hello@injuredathletesclub.com with questions, guest suggestions, or other feedback   DISCLAIMER: This content is for educational & informational use only and & does not constitute medical advice. Do not disregard, avoid or delay obtaining medical or health related advice from your health-care professional because of something you may have heard in an episode of this podcast. You should not rely on this information as a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Please consult with a qualified medical professional for proper evaluation & treatment. Guests who speak on this podcast express their own opinions, experiences, and conclusions, and The Injured Athletes Club podcast hosts nor any company providing financial support endorses or opposes any particular treatment option discussed in the episodes of this podcast and are not responsible for any actions or inactions of listeners based on the information presented. The use of any information provided is solely at your own risk.  

Fan Favorite: This episode originally aired on: August 14, 2022. What up, homies! It's your girl Lisa Bilyeu, and welcome back to the Women of Impact podcast, where week after week, we dive deep into topics that build us up and empower us to become our best selves. I am beyond excited today because I've got the incredible Najwa Zebian joining us! If you're feeling lonely, navigating the complexities of self-love, or just trying to find your voice in a world that often makes it hard for women, you're in for a treat. Najwa Zebian is here to help us walk through those dark days and emerge stronger, just like the sun after the darkest night. Her profound insights and soulful wisdom are exactly what we all need right now. We're going to talk about finding your inner peace, building your own home within yourself, and reclaiming the worth that's inherently yours. Najwa brings her truth, sharing her journey and empowering steps to break free from external validation and build that unwavering self-worth. Ladies, whether you've felt out of place or have struggled with self-doubt, Najwa's words are going to resonate with you on a deep, personal level. So grab a hot cup of tea, get comfy, and get ready to take some notes because Najwa's about to drop some real knowledge bombs that'll guide you to come home to yourself. SHOWNOTES 00:00 Overcoming Social Media Pressure 08:57 Power Dynamics and Consent 14:43 Defying Legal Threats with Courage 17:53 Empathy for Abuse Victims Needed 25:58 Redefining Identity Beyond Trauma 29:46 Seeking Healing Beyond Apologies 37:33 Redefining Boundaries for Self-Worth 41:36 Reconciling Subconscious Beliefs 43:59 Overcoming Self-Blame in Toxic Relationships 53:21 "Overcoming Denial and Self-Blame" 58:46 Therapy: Journey to Self-Empowerment 01:03:34 Proactive Self-Work in Relationships 01:07:53 Acknowledging Emotional Pain Shows Strength 01:14:38 Building Home Inside Yourself 01:18:29 Empath Boundaries: Avoiding Toxicity 01:28:08 Perception and Self-Awareness 01:31:02 Overcoming Fear-Driven Behavior 01:35:13 Rejecting External Labels FOLLOW NAJWA ZEBIAN: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/najwazebian/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/NajwaZebian Website: https://najwazebian.com/ CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out.  BIOptimizers: Head to⁠ https://bioptimizers.com/impact ⁠and use code IMPACT for 10% off.  OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at ⁠https://oneskin.co ⁠ Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at ⁠https://shopify.com/lisa⁠ ********************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:  apple.co/womenofimpact ********************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Fan Favorite: This episode originally aired on: August 14, 2022. What up, homies! It's your girl Lisa Bilyeu, and welcome back to the Women of Impact podcast, where week after week, we dive deep into topics that build us up and empower us to become our best selves. I am beyond excited today because I've got the incredible Najwa Zebian joining us! If you're feeling lonely, navigating the complexities of self-love, or just trying to find your voice in a world that often makes it hard for women, you're in for a treat. Najwa Zebian is here to help us walk through those dark days and emerge stronger, just like the sun after the darkest night. Her profound insights and soulful wisdom are exactly what we all need right now. We're going to talk about finding your inner peace, building your own home within yourself, and reclaiming the worth that's inherently yours. Najwa brings her truth, sharing her journey and empowering steps to break free from external validation and build that unwavering self-worth. Ladies, whether you've felt out of place or have struggled with self-doubt, Najwa's words are going to resonate with you on a deep, personal level. So grab a hot cup of tea, get comfy, and get ready to take some notes because Najwa's about to drop some real knowledge bombs that'll guide you to come home to yourself. SHOWNOTES 00:00 Overcoming Social Media Pressure 08:57 Power Dynamics and Consent 14:43 Defying Legal Threats with Courage 17:53 Empathy for Abuse Victims Needed 25:58 Redefining Identity Beyond Trauma 29:46 Seeking Healing Beyond Apologies 37:33 Redefining Boundaries for Self-Worth 41:36 Reconciling Subconscious Beliefs 43:59 Overcoming Self-Blame in Toxic Relationships 53:21 "Overcoming Denial and Self-Blame" 58:46 Therapy: Journey to Self-Empowerment 01:03:34 Proactive Self-Work in Relationships 01:07:53 Acknowledging Emotional Pain Shows Strength 01:14:38 Building Home Inside Yourself 01:18:29 Empath Boundaries: Avoiding Toxicity 01:28:08 Perception and Self-Awareness 01:31:02 Overcoming Fear-Driven Behavior 01:35:13 Rejecting External Labels FOLLOW NAJWA ZEBIAN: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/najwazebian/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/NajwaZebian Website: https://najwazebian.com/ CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out.  BIOptimizers: Head to⁠ https://bioptimizers.com/impact ⁠and use code IMPACT for 10% off.  OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at ⁠https://oneskin.co ⁠ Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at ⁠https://shopify.com/lisa⁠ ********************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:  apple.co/womenofimpact ********************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Did you know that self-blame is often followed by blaming others.  This isn't the way God designed us to live.  It's time to face the reality of your situation.  Start with a conversation with God.

Today's podcast answers a question from someone who feels completely disconnected from God, specifically His love and forgiveness. Children, when in stressful situations, will often cope by blaming themselves. This can lead to a life of guilt over things they never did wrong. This can often lead to believing and feeling like the love of God is for everyone except us.

Today's podcast answers a question from someone who feels completely disconnected from God, specifically His love and forgiveness. Children, when in stressful situations, will often cope by blaming themselves. This can lead to a life of guilt over things they never did wrong. This can often lead to believing and feeling like the love of God is for everyone except us.

Infertility and Self-Blame: It's Time to Let Go of Guilt After IVF and Fertility Treatments Failed Have you ever found yourself questioning every decision you made on your fertility journey? Wondering if you should have started trying sooner, chosen a different doctor, lost more weight, or pursued another round of IVF? If self-blame has become a constant companion after infertility and failed fertility treatments, you are not alone. So many women who are childless after infertility carry a heavy burden of guilt, believing that somehow, they could have done something differently to change the outcome. But here's the truth: infertility was never your fault. You did the best you could with the information, resources, and circumstances you had at the time. Blaming yourself isn't helping - it's keeping you stuck. It's time to stop carrying the weight of guilt and start moving toward a future that feels fulfilling, even without the children you dreamed of. In This Episode, You'll Learn:

Hey Rebel. In this episode of the Diet Culture Rebel Podcast, I'm sitting down with my past client, Monica, to hear her inspiring story of transformation. With the support of the Diet Culture Rebel team, Monica learned to trust herself with food, let go of self-blame, and free herself from the pressures of diet culture. We dive into her personal story, from life before food freedom, through her healing journey, to what life looks like now that she has healed her relationship with food, including: How consistent eating helped reduce her binge eating The freedom she found in making food choices without judgment How this journey improved her body image and personal life The ways her newfound trust with her body transcends beyond just her relationship with food Monica's story is a powerful reminder that healing your relationship with food can have a ripple effect on all areas of your life. If you're looking for inspiration and practical takeaways to help you move away from diet culture and embrace food freedom, this episode is for you. Ready to Heal Your Relationship with Food? My team of registered dietitians is now accepting insurance for one-on-one nutrition counseling! Spots are limited, so if you're ready to start your journey toward food freedom, visit dietculturerebel.com/insurance to learn more! Connect with Bonnie on Instagram: @diet.culture.rebel

Do you have a tendency to easily feel guilt, shame, or self-blame over things that are sometimes just out of your control? Are you looking to shed yourself of this guilt and start living more openly, without constantly feeling like you are doing something wrong or owing someone an apology? On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by eight incredible speakers including Amy Morin, Sanja Hatter, Lilian Garcia, Natalie Ellis, Beth Manos-Brickey, Jen Cohen, Heidi Powell, and Najwa Zebian as they share five key tips for you to overcome self-guilt, self-shame, self-blame, and feelings of selfishness. They discuss why you should never downplay your successes, why you have the power to choose your own journey in life, why you need to start letting shit go, how balance in life is key, and why it's okay to desire good things for yourself. [Original air date: 12-23-20]. SHOW NOTES: Intro | Lisa opens today's episode about dealing with guilt, shame, and feeling selfish. [0:04] Tip #1 | Amy Morin shares why you should never downplay your successes. [1:40] Thank You | Amy Morin reveals how to say thanks and take compliments. [3:36] Be Tasteful | Amy Morin reveals when and why it's okay to share your successes. [4:23] Tip #2 | Sanja Hatter & Lilian Garcia reveal why you should choose your own journey. [6:16] Overcoming Guilt | Sanja Hatter & Lilian Garcia reveal how to not succumb to guilt. [9:17] Not Having Kids | Sanja Hatter & Lilian Garcia discuss guilt over not having kids. [11:30] Tip #3 | Natalie Ellis reveals why it's you start letting shit go. [12:40 ] Self-Aware | Natalie Ellis reveals why it's okay to not be everything at once. [14:03] Self-Worth | Natalie Ellis reveals how to not let guilt bring down your self-worth. [14:56] Tip #4 | Beth Manos-Brickey, Jen Cohen, & Heidi Powell discuss why balance is key. [16:54] Tip #5 | Najwa Zebian shares why you need to desire good things for yourself. [21:55] Happy | Najwa Zebian shares why you shouldn't feel guilty if you're not always happy. [24:36] CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa Masterclass: Right now, our listeners get an additional 15% off any annual membership at https://masterclass.com/lisa. FOLLOW AMY: WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2pubNgM INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2CYvIre FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2KBbvMB TWITTER: https://bit.ly/35ex8tN FOLLOW SANJA WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2H4Glut INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2Lt1xiY FOLLOW LILIAN INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2LtWXBk FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/29nP1vn FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en LISTEN AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS: apple.co/womenofimpact Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you have a tendency to easily feel guilt, shame, or self-blame over things that are sometimes just out of your control? Are you looking to shed yourself of this guilt and start living more openly, without constantly feeling like you are doing something wrong or owing someone an apology? On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by eight incredible speakers including Amy Morin, Sanja Hatter, Lilian Garcia, Natalie Ellis, Beth Manos-Brickey, Jen Cohen, Heidi Powell, and Najwa Zebian as they share five key tips for you to overcome self-guilt, self-shame, self-blame, and feelings of selfishness. They discuss why you should never downplay your successes, why you have the power to choose your own journey in life, why you need to start letting shit go, how balance in life is key, and why it's okay to desire good things for yourself. [Original air date: 12-23-20]. SHOW NOTES: Intro | Lisa opens today's episode about dealing with guilt, shame, and feeling selfish. [0:04] Tip #1 | Amy Morin shares why you should never downplay your successes. [1:40] Thank You | Amy Morin reveals how to say thanks and take compliments. [3:36] Be Tasteful | Amy Morin reveals when and why it's okay to share your successes. [4:23] Tip #2 | Sanja Hatter & Lilian Garcia reveal why you should choose your own journey. [6:16] Overcoming Guilt | Sanja Hatter & Lilian Garcia reveal how to not succumb to guilt. [9:17] Not Having Kids | Sanja Hatter & Lilian Garcia discuss guilt over not having kids. [11:30] Tip #3 | Natalie Ellis reveals why it's you start letting shit go. [12:40 ] Self-Aware | Natalie Ellis reveals why it's okay to not be everything at once. [14:03] Self-Worth | Natalie Ellis reveals how to not let guilt bring down your self-worth. [14:56] Tip #4 | Beth Manos-Brickey, Jen Cohen, & Heidi Powell discuss why balance is key. [16:54] Tip #5 | Najwa Zebian shares why you need to desire good things for yourself. [21:55] Happy | Najwa Zebian shares why you shouldn't feel guilty if you're not always happy. [24:36] CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORSShopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisaMasterclass: Right now, our listeners get an additional 15% off any annual membership at https://masterclass.com/lisa.FOLLOW AMY: WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2pubNgM INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2CYvIre FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2KBbvMB TWITTER: https://bit.ly/35ex8tN FOLLOW SANJA WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2H4Glut INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2Lt1xiY FOLLOW LILIAN INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2LtWXBk FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/29nP1vn FOLLOW LISA:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeuYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpactTik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=enLISTEN AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS: apple.co/womenofimpact Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

418 The Fear of Driving Featuring Werner Spitzfaden, LCSW and Rhonda Barovsky, PsyD Today, we feature Werner Spitzfaden, LCSW, a Level 3 certified TEAM-CBT therapist who recently treated Rhonda, who's driving phobia returned during the pandemic because she did very little driving at that time. After you overcome any fear or phobia, it has a way of returning if you don't continue confronting your fear. Werner describes his skillful and compassionate work with Rhonda! Werner is a dear colleague and friend with over 35 plus years of clinical experience treating phobias, such as the fear of flying, claustrophobia (the fear of being trapped in small places), and driving (especially over bridges and overpasses). He also treats depression, panic and other forms of anxiety, and works in corporate environments to improve communication and teamwork. Let's dive right in, Please take a look at Rhonda's completed Daily Mood Log, As you can see, the upsetting event was thinking about driving over an overpass, and she rated her initial anxiety cluster at 100%, indicating extreme anxiety. She was also 90% ashamed, and 80% Inferior, worthless, inadequate, defective, and incompetent. She was also feeling 99% embarrassed, foolish, humiliated, and self-conscious, and 85% hopeless, despairing, frustrated, stuck, angry, annoyed, irritated, upset, and devastated. Her sadness was only modestly elevated at 25%. There are several teaching points. First, most of Rhonda's negative feelings were severely to extremely elevated. Second, although she is asking for help with a phobia, anxiety often goes hand-in-hand with a wide variety of negative feelings, including shame and inadequacy. This is because anxious individuals often feel like there's something terribly and shamefully wrong with them. Rhonda's feelings of shame are not unusual. Shame is a central feature of anxiety, whereas a loss of self-esteem is a central feature of depression. Werner added that the fear of driving often goes along with the fear of heights as well as claustrophobia. Rhonda admitted to engaging in many “safety behaviors” which typically make anxiety temporarily better but worse in the long run. Rhonda's "safety behaviors" included  going out of her way when driving to avoid scary overpasses as well as asking her husband to drive her many place. As you can see, these totally understandable “safety behaviors” relieve your anxiety in the here-and-now because they are forms of avoidance, but that's why they makes anxiety worse in the long run. The urge to avoid of the thing(s) you fear is universal among individuals struggling with all forms of anxiety. Werner emphasized the importance of empathy in the initial phase of treatment, and throughout the treatment, since trust and the courage to face your fears is so central in the treatment of all forms of anxiety and, of course, depression as well. Rhonda invited Werner and another TEAM-CBT colleague, Lee Flowers, to stay with her in Berkeley during the recent TEAM intensive that David and Jill Levitt directed at the South SF Conference Center near the airport. She drove the group to and from the workshop to face her fears and get some motivation and support at the same time. You can see many of her negative thoughts about driving on Rhonda's completed Daily Mood Log, including these: The bridge will collapse. 95% Other cars will make the bridge unstable. 100% I'll have a heart attack. 95% I'm so dumb for not driving on this overpass. 1005 I'm an ass. 100% I can't do this. 100% I'll die. 100% Lee and Werner will see me at my worst. 100% I need to study the exact route before I start. 100% I'll get into an accident. 100% As you can see, the list includes a mixture of fear-inducing thoughts as well as self-critical thoughts and shame-inducing thoughts, like "Lee and Werner will see me at my worst." Whenever you are working with anyone with anxiety, you have to emphasize first, to create trust, warmth, and understanding. This won't cure anyone of anything, but will give your patients the courage to face their fears when you get to the M - Methods portion of your TEAM session. After you get your A in empathy, you can move on to A = Paradoxical Agenda Setting. That where you bring Outcome and Process Resistance to conscious awareness. Then you melt them away using a variety of TEAM-CBT techniques. Outcome Resistance means that Rhonda may have mixed feelings about a “cure” for her driving phobia. In other words, although she WANTS to get rid of this fear, she may subconsciously NOT want to get rid of it. Can you think of why? Take a moment to think about it, and make a guess. You'll find the answer at the end of the show notes. Process Resistance means she may WANT a cure for her driving phobia, but may not be willing to do what it takes to defeat this fear. What will she have to do? Take a moment to think about it, and make a guess. You'll find the answer at the end of the show notes. Werner and Rhonda described a number of TEAM-CBT M = Methods that they used to reduce Outcome Resistance, including The Miracle Cure Question The Magic Button Positive Reframing The Pivot Question The Magic Dial. To put this phase in a nutshell, Werner highlighted how Rhonda's intensely negative feelings helped her and revealed many positive things about her core values as a therapist and human being. This is a shame-reducing technique and you can use the Magic Dial to ask your patient what they would like to dial each negative feeling down to, without reducing them all the way to zero. You can see Ronda's goals on Rhonda's completed Daily Mood Log in the Emotions Table Next, Werner worked on Process Resistance, bringing the work on Paradoxical Agenda Setting to closure. At the start of the M = Methods portion of their work, Rhonda identified the distortions in two of her thoughts (“I'm dumb,” and “I can't do this.”). See how many distortions you can find. Wrote them down on a piece of paper and when you're done you can see the answers at the end of the show notes. Werner pointed out that Rhonda's anger, directed against herself, had become a springboard for agitation which intensified her anxiety. Werner and Rhonda challenged some of her negative thoughts with Examine the Evidence, Externalization of Voices (illustrated live during the podcast),Double Standard Technique and the Paradoxical Double Standard Technique as well as a Fear Hierarchy, which you can see if you click here. The also did Cognitive Flooding (also called Imaginal Exposure) three times, and by the third time Rhonda could only increase her negative feelings into the mild range, whereas they had started out in the extremely elevated range. They also used breathing exercise plus getting into the here-and-now to calm herself while driving over overpasses. All of this was background work for actually driving during the intensive, and the highlight was driving home in the dark on the third evening of the intensive. For Rhonda, this was the most fearful thing of all!  She said at the start her anxiety was "greater than 100%," but she felt triumphant when she arrived home. Werner gave her specific homework, like driving over a specific overpass four times, and also encouraged Michael, Rhonda's husband, not to give in to her requests to do the driving on a planned trip to visit friends in Sacramento. I am deeply grateful to Rhonda for giving us such a raw and real glimpse into her courageous and victorious win over her intense driving phobia, and a big thanks also to Werner for being such a kind and powerful TEAM-CBT therapist, teacher!, and beloved friend! Thanks for listening today, Rhonda, Werner, and David Solution to puzzles above Outcome Resistance: If she's “cured,” she'll have to start driving much more, and that will include driving over overpasses and bridges. This concept will freak her out now, because she's still afraid something horrible might happen if she stops avoiding them. Process Resistance: To overcome her fears, she'll have to face them and experience some fairly intense fear along the way. Werner can support her, and drive with her, as he did, but she will still freak out at first when driving on overpasses and bridges. The distortions in those two negative thoughts included All-or-Nothing Thinking, Overgeneralization, Mental Filtering, Discounting the Positive, Mind-Reading, Magnification and Minimization, Emotional Reasoning, Hidden Shoulds, Labeling, and Self-Blame.