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[This blog will always be free to read, but it's also how I pay my bills. So, if you like what you read, please consider a paid subscription. And yes, I do speaking engagements.]You may have heard about the organization Moms for Liberty. It was founded in early 2021 with the initial purpose of advocating against COVID-era protections in schools, like vaccines and mask mandates. Over the past two years, the group has become far more infamous for their support of book bans, censoring any mention of white supremacy, anti-Blackness, and LGBTQ identities in textbooks, and calling for the segregation of LGBTQ students into special classes. The org has ties to the Proud Boys and Three Percenters, both of which, as I'm sure y'all know, are extremist, anti-government groups. This year, the Southern Poverty Law Center designated Moms for Liberty an “extremist” group itself, laying out its active presence within the far-right movement since its launch. The latest round of controversy involving Moms for Liberty is in how they've taken to quoting Hitler, Stalin, and Mao during their events — almost always in the context of pointing out the evils of indoctrinating youth. Moms for Liberty and their defenders will claim that this is being taken out-of-context and that quoting violent dictators isn't meant to defend those dictators but merely implying that their ideology aligns with the far-left, particularly on issues of LGBTQ equality. I don't believe that Moms for Liberty is lionizing Hitler, Stalin, and Mao. I also don't believe that the group has read much into the history of these tyrants, either. Before we get to the meat of all this, let's point out the obvious: reconciling Stalin's role in helping defeat Nazi Germany—and thus, helping to save the Western hemisphere—with his legacy as a mass-murdering piece-of-s**t. I imagine that the following conversation has taken place many times in these conservative homes that so heavily rely on information shortcuts and not so much the depth that history deserves:Teenager: Dad, this Hitler guy seems pretty evil.Dad: He sure was. Your great-grandfather served in the Army. He was part of the Normandy landings. It's because of men like your great-grandfather that we're free.Teenager: That's really cool. I'm proud of him. It was a coalition of countries, right?Dad: That's right. We were part of the Allies. A number of countries worked together to defeat Germany, Japan, and Italy.Teenager: Russia was our ally, right? Stalin?Dad: Well… yes, in that particular war, Russia was our ally.Teenager: So, Stalin helped keep the world free, too.Dad: It's more complicated than that. Yes, Russia helped, but Stalin was evil, too.Teenager: I read that the U.S.S.R. lost 11 million people during WWII, more than 22 times the fatalities of the United States. It sounds like they did a lot more than help.Dad: Look, just shut up, and eat your dinner.Because, it turns out, history is often complicated! We would have lost World War II without the U.S.S.R. and its evil dictator. Stalin was absolutely a mass-murdering piece-of-s**t, and yet, somehow, white Christian nationalists would have their children believe that the U.S. singlehandedly defeated Hitler.We live in an era that has become calcified by information shortcuts following the larger part of a century's worth of relentless propaganda about American exceptionalism and the evils of anything remotely adjacent to Nazi Germany and the Communist movement.There is no room for nuance. If you bring up that the single-day most devastating wartime acts of murdering civilians were carried out by the United States in Hiroshima and Nagasaki, you are a traitor to the brave heroes in uniform who sacrificed everything for our country.If you bring up that Nazi Germany's horrific laws and policies took significant inspiration from U.S. white supremacist laws and policies, you are claiming that the U.S. has a history comparable to what Nazi Germany did — which, given the millions of Black people enslaved and tortured and raped and murdered in our country and the white supremacist laws thereafter via Jim Crow, is fairly accurate.Groups like Moms for Liberty don't want our country's history to be told. They want fairy tales that help them sleep at night, free from the enduring burden carried by the countless millions of descendants-of-enslaved-people in our country.I'm not trying to make anyone uncomfortable here — though, if you'll allow me to say so, discomfort is often a gift because it means we have learning left to do. I wish Moms for Liberty were inclined to examine their own discomfort and take the cue that they have learning left to do, as well.If they did, they would realize that Hitler and Stalin and Mao would absolutely support their indoctrination of children against LGBTQ rights. All three dictators were viciously anti-LGBTQ. Let's take a tour!HitlerLGBTQ people—primarily homosexual and bisexual men—were persecuted by Nazi Germany as soon as Hitler came to power. Thousands of queer people would be murdered in concentration camps and public streets and detainment centers. LGBTQ people who were imprisoned were forced to wear an inverted pink triangle to identity them as “sexually immoral” and thus at odds with Hitler's vision — you may recognize this as the logo of ACT UP, the LGBTQ advocacy group most prominent during the HIV and AIDS crisis. The Institute for Sex Research—the world's first sexology institute, based in Berlin—was raided in the early days of the Third Reich and was an early prominent target of book burnings, its entire archives destroyed by the Nazis.StalinIn 1917, following the Bolshevik Revolution, under Vladimir Lenin, homosexuality was decriminalized by the Soviet government, but under Stalin, it was re-criminalized in 1933, carrying up to five years of hard labor for relations between gay and bisexual men. Interestingly, Soviet propaganda linked homosexuality to Nazi Germany at the same time that Hitler was sending queer people into camps. It's been estimated that up to 1,000 gay men in Soviet Russia were imprisoned annually for their sexual orientation under Stalin's leadership. It was later revealed in declassified documents that he personally ordered an anti-gay law to be implemented. MaoAlthough I haven't found definitive confirmation, there's substantial evidence that LGBTQ people—particularly gay and bisexual men—were persecuted under the rule of Mao Zedong after the Chinese Communist Revolution. Mao supposedly believed queer men should be castrated for their “deviancy,” and in addition to the thousands of gay and bisexual Chinese men who reported systemic discrimination while seeking asylum, there are confirmed reports of gay and bisexual men being forced to undergo electric shock therapy as a treatment for their sexual orientation.There you have it. Hitler, Stalin, and Mao—the triumvirate of conservative boogeyman bedtime story hour—have a lot in common with the Republican Party when it comes to LGBTQ rights. So, while far-right extremists like Moms for Liberty openly quote these dictators in an attempt to fear-monger over the belief that LGBTQ people are trying to indoctrinate kids (never mind that I barely have time to pick up my dry cleaning this week), those same dictators were essentially making the same claims about LGBTQ people in their own time.Can I close with a point that should be painfully obvious to anyone with common sense?Folks like those in Moms for Liberty fall back on some of the most extremist literature written by some of history's most evil people, openly quoting it to their kids, and then pretend that their children are somehow unprepared to read a picture book about a woodland creature with two moms.The entire conservative blogosphere melted down when there was even just acknowledgement of gay anteaters or koalas or whatever the hell in the PBS children's show “Arthur,” but sure, do go on reading whole passages from the Little Red Book or Mein Kampf to your children.By the way, for the millionth time, this has never been about the kids. This is about adults who can't negotiate their own internal discomfort about the world around them or be open to the 8 billion other experiences on this planet and have now put that labor on their children.Your kid is going to learn at some point that some of their peers have two moms or that some of their peers are trans or that they, themselves, are LGBTQ, and that it used to be a lot harder to simply exist as such in most spaces and they're gonna struggle to reconcile the current, positive visibility of LGBTQ people with your hateful propaganda.I say with all sincerity that I pray for your children's health and happiness, that they may find an open heart in you when that times comes — that last bit being for your own sake.Charlotte's Web Thoughts is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.Hi, I'm Charlotte Clymer, and this is Charlotte's Web Thoughts, my Substack. 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What's it like to date some who could be mistaken for your Dad? Well, in this week's episode we find out! I once dated a guy 20 years older than me and it came with a whole HEAP of trials and unexpected tribulations! My lovely guest and friend, Jess Eva, ended up getting engaged to her old gent and spills the beans on all things age related. Be warned it gets a little bit rude and for some reason we get onto the topic of low-hanging testicles, but with Jess you never know where the conversation will go! Enjoy xx

I wanted to share my thoughts from the final episode of “The Last Dance”. More so, I wanted to address MJ’s ‘SECRET Weapon”. I do so within the newest episode of Forged FATHER FM HERE Off the top, everyone know’s that MJ was a superior athlete with his God-given talents. He could jump outta the gym with ease, he was fast and agile, and just an amazing athlete. On top of that, he was one of the hardest workers, fiercest competitors, and he wasn’t ever going to give up or quit. He was what you could call, “Mentally UNBREAKABLE”. His secret weapon? His ability to fully become focused and dialed in on the NOW. MJ’s closest friends and teammates would mention who he’s always in the present and in the moment. Many would comment that MJ never let the future or the past mess with the actions he’d take in the present. I AGREE. The PRESENT is what matters most and what you do in the NOW is all you can control. It wasn’t until I had figured this out for myself that things drastically changed for me. What really helped put this all into perspective was the book, “The Power Of NOW” by Eckert Tolle. I listened to this book when I was traveling to compete within the Crossfit Games in 2018. It had a tremendous impact on how I started to think from that day forth and I can tell you will 110% certainty, I helped me compete at a whole other level that week. In short, you can’t let the fear and doubt you have of the future or even the past have control over the actions who choose to take within the NOW. The NOW is the only thing you have control of. You can’t control what’s happening in the past nor can you control what will happen in the future. You can only control the NOW. So, what’s this have to do with YOU as a DAD?? Well, listen in on the latest episode of Forged FATHER FM and you’ll find out. PS - I've now got just a handful of more spots left for the next group of men coming into the Forged FATHER Project. If you're driven to drop 20-30 lbs of unwanted weight and you're ready to DESTROY THE DAD BOD for good so you can get lean and strong while boosting your energy and confidence, plus get back your edge in life... ==> CLICK HERE TO APPLY Are you ready to step up and do what needs to be done to fulfill it?

Big situations call for BIG LEADERS to step up and do what they gotta do. I reflect on a specific moment in time when Scottie Pippen was given the opportunity to rise up as a leader but chose NOT to. So, what's this gotta do with you? What's this gotta do with being a DAD? Well, let it serve as a REMINDER. When you're a DAD, you're a LEADER. Your family needs you to be able to step up. Because they're your team. They depend on you. You get opportunities every day to step up and be the man you need to be for them. Simple things like… Working out when you don't want to or feel tired. Fueling your body better when you'd rather just eat like sh*t Playing with your kids at the end of a LONG day when you're completely exhausted Following through with your COMMITMENTS, especially when you had SAID you'd do something Jut simply being there for your family when then need you most. This includes doing the things YOU need to do to be at your BEST for them. So, when you shrug stuff off and "take a seat", you're dropping the ball. Not only for yourself but your FAMILY. All of this is just another way for you to shift your perspective and mindset so you can think about things a bit differently. If it gets you to take more consistent action, great. That's what I hope it does. BE THE LEADER PS - I've now got just a handful of more spots left for the next group of men coming into the Forged FATHER Project. If you're driven to drop 20-30 lbs of unwanted weight and you're ready to DESTROY THE DAD BOD for good so you can get lean and strong while boosting your energy and confidence, plus get back your edge in life... ==> CLICK HERE TO APPLY Are you ready to step up and do what needs to be done to fulfill it?

FamilyLife Today® Radio Transcript  References to conferences, resources, or other special promotions may be obsolete. The Deadly Traps of Adolescence Day 5 of 10 Guest:                        Dennis and Barbara Rainey From the series:       Dating  Bob:                There are times when a conversation between a father and his daughter can be a little awkward. Dad:                Hi, Jules, how was gymnastics? Julie:               Good.  I landed the double tonight. Dad:                All right, way to go.  Jules, how are you doing with the guys? Julie:               Okay. Dad:                You know, your mom and I have been talking about you and all those boys who call on the phone. Julie:               Great. Dad:                Your mom and I just want to make sure you know what you stand for as you get old enough to date, you know what I mean? Julie:               I know, Dad. Dad:                I want to ask you a very personal question and, listen, you've got the freedom not to answer if you don't want to, okay? Julie:               Sure, Dad, why not? Dad:                Have you thought through how far you're going to go physically with the opposite sex? Julie:               Uh-huh. Dad:                Well, then, would you mind telling me how far you intend to go? Julie:               I know, Dad. Dad:                Where are you going to draw your boundaries, Jules?  Your limits? Julie:               Dad, I know what's right and what's wrong, okay? Dad:                Okay, I'll take that for an answer – for now. Bob:                And welcome to FamilyLife Today.  Thanks for joining us on the Friday edition of our broadcast.  Our host is the president of FamilyLife, Dennis Rainey, and, Dennis, your wife Barbara joining us this week as well.  I'm Bob Lepine, and the tension in that car between that dad and that daughter … Dennis:          … did you hear her keep turning that radio up? Bob:                She did not want to talk. Dennis:          I've been there. Bob:                I've been there, too – got a few radios turned up on me in the conversation.  This is a particularly difficult issue for parents to deal with, with their children.  We've talked on the last couple of broadcasts about how we've got to press through some of that negative static we get from our kids, and get to the core issues around physical involvement, sexual involvement.                          But one of the other traps facing our children as they walk through the teenage years is a trap that is right alongside the trap of sexual intimacy.  It's the trap of dating.  In fact, it may be the gateway.  I think you probably have to step in the dating trap before you usually ever get to the sexual relationship trap, and that's where a lot of parents have got to be shrewd in this culture. Dennis:          You know, parents have got to realize that as our children grow up and into the teenage years, there are going to be these hidden traps, these hidden snares, that will be set for them, and I think one of the biggest ones that they will face is this issue of dating.                           I think of the verse over in Psalm 142, verse 3 – it says, "When my spirit grows faint within me, it is you who know my way.  In the path where I walk, men have hidden a snare for me.  Look to my right and see no one is concerned for me.  I have no refuge.  No one cares for my life."                         Well, the psalmist didn't feel that, but a teenager ought to be able to say, "I have a parent.  I have a mom and a dad.  I have a mom, a dad, and a grandparent who care about my way and who are looking out for the hidden snare of dating and the attraction to the opposite sex." Bob:                I think the big question, Barbara, for a lot of kids, as they approach junior high, and they start to develop some interest in members of the opposite sex is – when can I start?  How soon can I start dating?  And that question might creep up on you. Barbara:         Oh, I think it does creep up on you, just like a lot of this other stuff creeps up on parents of adolescents.  We discovered that early on with Ashley, our oldest.  We were at a conference, and we were there with another family, and this other family had a son who was a year older than Ashley, and they had been friends for years, and we just didn't think a whole lot about it.  But they decided one day they wanted to take a walk together and go get a Coke, and we let them go, and then kind of later on we realized they spent some time together alone.  They're 12 and 13 years old. Dennis:          Yeah, she was 12 years old. Barbara:         Yeah, and she kind of likes him, and he kind of likes her and, gosh, I think she just had a date, and we just kind of realized, all of a sudden, that we had allowed her to spend time alone with a boy, and that seemed to be a good definition of a date, and we weren't prepared for that.  But, in essence, that is what happened with Ashley, is she was alone with a boy that she liked, and he liked her, and she really had her first date at 12. Bob:                Dating today has become just the accepted practice of American teenagers.  It's just what you do when you're in junior high and in senior high, and many parents have said, "Well, I guess that's the way it is, and yet you all see some real dangers in the way we do dating today with our kids, don't you? Dennis:          Yeah, what we call the "dating game" is currently being played in most Christian families, and it cultivates romantic fantasy love before children are emotionally, physically, and spiritually mature enough to have a relationship with the opposite sex.  And one-on-one dating leads couples to spending too much time alone at the time when the sex drive is at an all all-time peak for a young man.  I mean, it's like taking gunpowder and striking a match, leaving them alone to experience some of these feelings. Barbara:         Another thing, too, that we've seen with our kids is that they don't have the maturity to make a wise choice about who to spend time with.  They often make their choices of who they're going to like based on just who is available, because everybody else has a boyfriend or a girlfriend, and so they decide they need to have somebody, and so they just sort of pick somebody.  They don't think through – what is this person's values?  They don't think through is this person good for me or not good for me or what kind of family does he or she come from?  They're just kind of desperate, and so they just pick somebody. Dennis:          And it looks like child's play, because they're children, they're not even, in many cases, into puberty yet, and yet they have these emotional attachments that they develop, romance begins to stir the soul, and it looks for a way to express itself, and the way that romance expresses itself in most people is physically.  We begin to show physical affection and appreciation for the other person, and once that starts, where does that lead?  And I think that, alone, is one of the biggest cases against allowing your child to date before they're spiritually mature enough and emotionally mature enough to handle the feelings that come with adolescence. Barbara:         Another thing that happens when kids begin to pair off is they begin to have their needs met by that other person, and even if your child comes from a strong home, where you and your spouse are giving that child the attention and the affection and everything that he needs or she needs to be secure, once an attachment takes place with someone else, and your child hooks up with another boy or girl, and they become an item at school – even with the best that you're doing at home, they're going to choose to get their needs met from that other person, because that's more convenient.                           They're at school together all day long, so even in the best of homes these kids can hook up with another boy or girl and get those emotional needs met for love and security and attention and everything through that relationship, and then they come home and spend all evening on the phone, and Mom and Dad's influence is cut to nothing. Dennis:          And you wonder why you don't have the influence on them, and you know what?  We've experienced this.  We've watched some of our children establish these exclusive relationships, and we've experienced the loss.  We wonder, "What's going to happen to my relationship with that child?"  Well, the reality is someone else is getting that relationship, and someone else is having the influence, and someone else is shaping the values, and someone else is charting a course for that young person's life.                         You know what?  It's not their husband or their wife, they're not married.  But, in many cases, a lot of these teenagers are acting like they're married, and they're sharing things emotionally and physically that were only intended to be shared in marriage. Bob:                Okay, well, with all of this stuff that you've talked about – dangers in dating – why go anywhere near it?  Why let your kids anywhere near it?  Why don't you just seal them up until they're 19, put them in a closet somewhere, and then let them get out and start … Barbara:         Mm-hm, I think that's a good idea. [laughter]  Dennis:          Because they lock people up for that, Bob.  I think every parent listening to us says, "Yeah, I'll vote for that," but you can go to jail for that, you know, today.                         I think what we want to do is we want to look at how we can help our children begin to have a healthy respect for the opposite sex, have a healthy respect for their own identity, and then begin to learn how to relate to the opposite sex and develop relationships that don't … Barbara:         Friendships.  Dennis:          Yeah, that don't necessarily become romantic relationships. Bob:                Yeah, your children, Barbara, have been on dates, but it's been different than what we think of when we think of kids dating or going together.  You've really tried to ride herd on not letting them become romantically attached. Barbara:         Yeah, and the big thing is to make sure that they're not alone, because that is when all the dangerous stuff happens, is when they're alone.  So what we've tried to do with all of our kids and increasingly so with our younger ones – we're getting more and more involved in this area, we're becoming more and more proactive in this area than we even were with our older ones – we are now with our younger kids, and that is when we do allow them to go out, and it is a good bit later than what probably is the norm in the culture, we've tried to create an environment where they go with another group of kids, and they have activities that they do together that are group-centered so that they're never alone.                           They don't have the opportunity to enter into those temptations and then yield to them.  So they go as a group, and they come home as a group, and they do things at our house with groups, and we're trying to foster the idea of developing a friendship with another guy, rather than developing a romance. Dennis:          Some parents, at this point, probably wonder if we're making too big a deal out of this.  I don't think so, I really don't.  I think one of the most dangerous things that's occurring today is giving our young people too much freedom before they are emotionally or physically or spiritually mature enough to make these life-altering decisions.                         And moms and dads – it's us – we are the ones responsible.  We must assume the responsibility God has given to us as being the guardians and the protectors of our children all the way through adolescence. Bob:                Barbara, let's say it's spring break week, and one of your children comes to you and says, "Hey, Mom, there's a group of kids going to the mall to see a movie," and let's assume it's a movie that's acceptable – there are a few of those out these days, but let's just assume there's an acceptable film there.  There's a group going, and they called and "they want to know if I can go."  And you ask the question – "Is it boys and girls?"  And the answer is yes.  How old does the child have to be before the answer is, "Yes, you can go." Barbara:         Well, there isn't really a specific age limit, although, generally, it would be 15 or 16 in our family. Dennis:          At the earliest. Barbara:         Right.  Primarily the decision would be based upon the maturity level of that child.  Has this kid demonstrated to us that he or she can be trusted to be alone with a bunch of kids unsupervised by adults?  Then I would want to know who those kids are, how they're getting there, how they're getting back, how long they're going to be there, and just all the details – and do I need to be driving and all that kind of stuff.  But if we let one of our kids go and do that with a group we would want to know those specifics about the situation, but it would all depend on that child and their responsiveness to us. Dennis:          Over in the Song of Solomon, chapter 8, verses 8 through 10, Solomon speaks of what's called "a little sister."  And there were actually two of them in that passage.  One who was spoken of as a wall, the other one spoken of as a gate.                           The wall was the sexually pure, the one who was in control of her own emotions and one that was managing adolescence well, I think.  And the gate is the girl – or for that matter, a guy – who would be too sexually open or too free with the opposite sex.                           What happened in that passage was Solomon celebrated the wall, and he built a cedar barricade around the gate.  He didn't give the gate freedom, he protected the gate.  He celebrated the right choices of the girl who was the wall, and I think, as parents, what we've got to do is truly watch how our sons and our daughters are, and that's what Barbara is talking about here, and give them additional responsibility, additional freedom as they've been a wall, and then if they show tendencies to being the gate, pull out the cedar and start hammering away at that barricade. Bob:                You've got kids, though, in high school before they can go watch a movie in the middle of the afternoon with a mixed group of kids unsupervised – high school. Barbara:         Yeah, we do. Dennis:          And she didn't blink, either. Bob:                No, she didn't, and I'm sure some of your kids have looked at you and said, "Mom, I've got to wait until high school?" Barbara:         Well, and a lot of it, too, depends on who the kids are.  Because, see, if I'm involved with my children, like I am, I know who their friends are and who might be somebody that they would be interested in romantically.  So it's one thing to send my kids off in a mixed group with a bunch of truly buddy friends, and it's another thing to send them off to a movie in a mixed group where there might be somebody that they're really interested in.                           So that's why I want to know who it is and who is going and how they're getting there, so you've got to ask 50 zillion questions to finally find out what the facts are. Dennis:          A couple of nights ago we had some friends over at the house, Scott and Theresa, and our daughters were all just huddled up around the table.  It was a fascinating evening, and we got off talking about this.  And our teenage daughters were all there, talking, and Scott asked our oldest about dating.                         And both Barbara and I had our jaws nearly drop to the floor, Bob, as our teenage daughter, Rebecca, who is 17 years old, said to Scott, she said, "Well, as you raise your girls, don't let them date until they get out of high school."                         Hello?  And, I mean, this – this … Bob:                You ran for the tape recorder, didn't you?  Dennis:          I said, "Can we get fingerprints – we've got eyewitnesses, can we get this in writing?  They do begin to get the point after a while.  They begin to understand, you know what?  Dating ends up in heartbreaking situations where you lose your boyfriend, and you cry for nights on end, and there's … Barbara:         It's just not worth it. Dennis:          It's not worth it. Barbara:         They finally figure it out. Dennis:          It really isn't, and it's worth far more to teach them how to develop a friendship and to keep relationships at that level. Bob:                What age do they have to be before they can go on a double date with somebody, you know – to the prom in the car? Barbara:         Well, probably, it would be 17.  We used to say 16, but we're getting tighter on this.  It's probably going to be more like 17. Bob:                Junior year? Barbara:         Mm-hm, mm-hm. Dennis:          At the earliest, again. Bob:                What about a single date, where you just go out with a young man for dinner for the evening? Dennis:          Probably – right now, where we are on that, we would probably not encourage that to happen. Bob:                At all ever? Dennis:          In high school. Barbara:         In high school, yeah.  Although, you know, there – we might make an exception, depending on who the young man is and if they really – we really feel like we can trust him and her, and this really is just going to be a friendship kind of thing, and it's not going to be – turn into anything else.  You know, we might do that, but it takes an enormous amount of time and energy to figure out if that really is the case. Dennis:          And even as I said that I'm thinking our daughter, who is 17, has gone and gotten coffee with "a friend,"  Barbara:         Mm-hm, a couple of times. Dennis:          And has sat there talking, but it's not a friend that she has any kind of romantic interest in.  Now, here is an important point as parents ride herd on this issue.  Your kids are going to look you in the eye and they say, "But I'm not interested in them romantically."  If that's so, why are you holding their hand?  I don't hold my best friend's hand.  Holding hands is not a sign of friendship in this culture.  It may be over in Europe, but it's not yet in America.  It is usually a sign of affection. Barbara:         Romantic affection. Dennis:          That's right, and you know what?  It's astounding, as parents, how dumb I can be.  I have had our children look me back in the eye and say, "But it's just a friendship."  And I go, "Yeah, just a friendship."  Then I get back, and I go, "Wait a second – no, no, no.  They were sitting beside each other.  They were holding hands on the bus.  Hold it, wait a second" … Bob:                … there's more going on here. Dennis:          What's wrong with this picture?  And it's – as a parent, what is there about us that we question ourselves and our own judgment?  Our judgment is not in question here.  Hold it.  I'm the parent.  I'm counseling myself, by the way, right now – but I am the parent, and I have to be reminded from time to time that I need to reassert myself and it's almost – pull the sword out and put it on my shoulders and say, "You are the one that has the authority in this situation, don't back off, don't become a wimp, don't lack courage.  Step into that relationship, and when they give you some baloney like that and tell you it's just a friendship, call their cards out and say, "Oh, come on, no way, Jose.  That's more than just a friendship." Bob:                Aren't these kinds of restrictions or rules going to make your kids the nerds of the world in the school where they're going? Barbara:         Well, it may be but, you know, I think that's okay.  I think that it's more important for our kids, we've decided, to protect them as best we can from being hurt and wounded in relationships that they are not mature enough to handle.                           And you can do some things to help ensure that they don't feel unduly punished by this.  I mean, you invite kids over to your house, and you have lots of friends around, and you encourage them to have their same-sex friends spend the night, you know, all that kind of stuff so that they don't feel that they're isolated and left alone and stuck in a tower until they're 18 … Dennis:          … instead of the closet. Barbara:         But, you know, I just think it's important enough for us – we've decided it's important enough that I will risk that my kids will feel strange and different, and I think that's okay.  I would rather they feel strange, different, feel like a nerd, and be safe than let them ride with all the other kids in the herd and get hurt and get tangled up in emotional and physical relationships that they don't need. Dennis:          Here is where a mom and a dad need to be as shrewd as they can be – single parents, same deal – you ought to rally some other parents with you.  See if you can't go set up a parents' meeting and say, "Can we huddle up here?  Can we all agree to something where we kind of share some common values?"  And maybe you don't agree all the way down to the nth degree and, Bob, that's one of the things that concerns me about some of the movements that are occurring within the Christian community right now. They get so exclusive, so nailed down, so tight, that anybody who is outside their own little prescribed way of doing things, they fracture and fragment and can't fellowship with them, and that's not the kind of unity we need today.  Christian families need to be bonding together and banding together and helping one another raise these children on into maturity, because you know what?  These teenagers today desperately need the community of Christians to make it and to finish the process of adolescence and to make it to adulthood and to become God's man and God's woman, and I just think it's time for all of us to come alongside each other and to help one another raise these children. Bob:                Well, and that's what I think you and Barbara have done in the book, "Parenting Today's Adolescent." You've come alongside us, and you're helping us think through our own convictions in this area and help us decide how we're going to live out those convictions, and how we're going to help guide our sons and daughters through these difficult and dangerous water as they go through adolescence.                         And I appreciate the fact that you guys, along with people like Joshua Harris and Elizabeth Elliot and others have said, "Let's hold a high standard here for moral purity.  Let's not just make the standard a standard of virginity, but let's make it a more biblical standard of purity.                                     There may be some listeners who think, "Oh, you're out of touch," or "You're old-fashioned," or "You don't know the culture our kids are living in today," and, again, that's where you say "All right, you don't have to buy our standard, but you have to decide for yourself what your standard is going to be and what you're going to try to guide your sons and daughters with.                         And whatever you decide, the book, "Parenting Today's Adolescent," will be a helpful resource in that regard.  You can get more information about the book on our website at FamilyLife.com. When you get to the home page, you'll see a red button in the middle of the screen that says "Go," and if you click that button, it will take you to an area of the site where there is information not only about the book, "Parenting Today's Adolescent," but other resources for parents of teens and of preteens because, actually, you ought to be looking at this material prior to your children's teenage years.                         Again, the resources are available online, and you can order online, if you'd like, or get more information.  If you prefer to call to order, it's 1-800-FLTODAY, that's 1-800-358-6329.  Someone on our team can answer any questions you have about these resources we've talked about, or they can take your order over the phone, and we'll get the resources you need sent out to you.                         And then this month we have an additional resource we'd love to send to you.  It's a new book by Dennis Rainey called "Interviewing Your Daughter's Date."  It's designed to help us, as parents, have a strategy in place so that when a young man does begin to show some kind of interest in our daughter, and maybe our daughter is showing some interest back, we can know how to engage both of them in that subject and help set up some boundaries around what the relationship ought to look like at this stage of their life, and if they are going to go out on a date at some point, to have some parameters around that event as well.                           The book is new, and this month, again, it's our thank you gift when you help support the ministry of FamilyLife Today with a donation of any amount.  We are listener-supported, and we appreciate your financial partnership with us when you make a donation to FamilyLife Today.                           If you're donating online, and you'd like a copy of Dennis's book, just write the word "date" in the keycode box on the donation form online.  Or if you call 1-800-FLTODAY to make a donation, you can just request a copy of Dennis Rainey's new book, "Interviewing Your Daughter's Date," and we'll be happy to send it out to you.  Again, the toll-free number is 1-800-FLTODAY, and you can donate online at FamilyLife.com                         Well, we hope you have a great weekend, and we hope you can be back with us on Monday when we're going to continue to look at some of the deadly traps that are facing our children as they go through the adolescent years, and we're going to continue to look at this subject of dating.  Also, next week we're going to look at pornography and substance abuse and media, and we're going to look at unresolved anger and how that can explode in the life of a teenager.  I hope you can be with us for all of that.                         I want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, and our entire broadcast production team.  On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I'm Bob Lepine.  We'll see you back next time for another edition of FamilyLife Today.                          FamilyLife Today is a production of FamilyLife of Little Rock, Arkansas, a ministry of Campus Crusade for Christ. _______________________________________________________________We are so happy to provide these transcripts for you. 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How big is your Dad? Well this week Adam is a Big D'Adam. We wish he was ours. Another week, another dose of Sand, another question of why are we doing this. Come close, not too close, and listen up for some random musical numbers, talk of a pre 9/11 world, a shitload of piss and another demonic presence theory. Enjoy!!! Find us on: Instagram @footprintsinthesandler Twitter @footprintsinthesandler Or email us sandlerprints@gmail.com We'd love to hear from you

On the 17th of June 2018, Ryan Waters did a special service on Father's Day and discussed the topic "How to Dad Well." To find out more about C3 Mumbai please visit our website www.C3Mumbai.com or search for us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and/or YouTube with the handle @c3mumbai.

欢迎订阅微信公众号“老虎小助手”，进入右下角菜单“会员中心”，收听本专辑完整音频，以及超过一万个中英文有声学习资源哟！亲子英文（48）Go play with your friends.去和你的朋友一起玩吧。现在的孩子大部分的游戏都是电子产品，比如电脑网络游戏，看见孩子无聊想要玩手机或ipad，妈妈可以问，Do you want to play a game?你想不想玩游戏？或者What game do you want to play?你想要玩什么游戏？当然可以鼓励孩子去找朋友一起玩，Go play with your friends.孩子之间相互邀请一起玩可以这样说，Do you want to play? 或者Do you want to join us?你想要加入我们一起玩吗?Jenny: Dad,I've finished my homework.Dad: Well,what game do you want to play?J: Do you want to play poker?Dad: Do you know how to play it?J: I'll teach you.D: OK.Teach me how to play the game.Do you know+how to play表达了你知道怎么玩吗？Don't be so naughty.不要这么顽皮。爸爸妈妈可以用在孩子淘气需要提醒的时候哦！

欢迎订阅微信公众号“老虎小助手”，进入右下角菜单“会员中心”，收听本专辑完整音频，以及超过一万个中英文有声学习资源哟！亲子英文（48）Go play with your friends.去和你的朋友一起玩吧。现在的孩子大部分的游戏都是电子产品，比如电脑网络游戏，看见孩子无聊想要玩手机或ipad，妈妈可以问，Do you want to play a game?你想不想玩游戏？或者What game do you want to play?你想要玩什么游戏？当然可以鼓励孩子去找朋友一起玩，Go play with your friends.孩子之间相互邀请一起玩可以这样说，Do you want to play? 或者Do you want to join us?你想要加入我们一起玩吗?Jenny: Dad,I've finished my homework.Dad: Well,what game do you want to play?J: Do you want to play poker?Dad: Do you know how to play it?J: I'll teach you.D: OK.Teach me how to play the game.Do you know+how to play表达了你知道怎么玩吗？Don't be so naughty.不要这么顽皮。爸爸妈妈可以用在孩子淘气需要提醒的时候哦！

欢迎订阅微信公众号“老虎小助手”，进入右下角菜单“会员中心”，收听本专辑完整音频，以及超过一万个中英文有声学习资源哟！亲子英文（44）I plan to grow some roses in the yard.我打算在院子里种一些玫瑰。最常用的栽种植物的英文是plant，例如，My mom planted a lot of flowers in our garden.意思是我妈妈在庭院里种了很多的花。也可以说seed，种子，作为动词是在……播种的意思。另外我们除了plant也可以用grow，它有生长成长的意思，也可以表示种植、栽培。The field have been seeded with sunflowers.田里播种了向日葵。We grow plants and vegetables in our garden.我们在庭院里栽种了植物和蔬菜。Jenny: These vegetables taste very sweet.Dad: Sure, I planted them. They're organic.J: Really? Dad, how do you know how to plant organic vegetables?D: Well, it's a secret.J: Dad, come on! Just tell me.Dad: Well, honey, I can teach you how to plant them if you want to learn.Taste是指尝起来的意思。Organic是有机的。Come on！是一句我们很常用的口头禅，表示别这样，来嘛！How to do如何做，但是用法大家要注意，不能单独这样说，你可以说I don't know how to open it .或者 Can you tell me how to walk there?The grass is always greener on the other side.别人的东西总是看起来比自己的好。一些有用的词汇：Butterfly蝴蝶Bee蜜蜂Ladybug瓢虫Sprinkler洒水器Flower花Earthworm蚯蚓Grass草Seeds种子Hosepipe水管Bird's nest鸟巢Caterpillar毛毛虫Tree树Leaves树叶Lawn mower割草机Water水或是动词，浇水Rose玫瑰Lily百合Jasmine茉莉Tulip郁金香Camellia茶花Azalea杜鹃花Sunflower向日葵Olive橄榄Orchid兰花Banyan榕树Cherry樱花树Betel palm摈榔树

欢迎订阅微信公众号“老虎小助手”，进入右下角菜单“会员中心”，收听本专辑完整音频，以及超过一万个中英文有声学习资源哟！亲子英文（44）I plan to grow some roses in the yard.我打算在院子里种一些玫瑰。最常用的栽种植物的英文是plant，例如，My mom planted a lot of flowers in our garden.意思是我妈妈在庭院里种了很多的花。也可以说seed，种子，作为动词是在……播种的意思。另外我们除了plant也可以用grow，它有生长成长的意思，也可以表示种植、栽培。The field have been seeded with sunflowers.田里播种了向日葵。We grow plants and vegetables in our garden.我们在庭院里栽种了植物和蔬菜。Jenny: These vegetables taste very sweet.Dad: Sure, I planted them. They're organic.J: Really? Dad, how do you know how to plant organic vegetables?D: Well, it's a secret.J: Dad, come on! Just tell me.Dad: Well, honey, I can teach you how to plant them if you want to learn.Taste是指尝起来的意思。Organic是有机的。Come on！是一句我们很常用的口头禅，表示别这样，来嘛！How to do如何做，但是用法大家要注意，不能单独这样说，你可以说I don't know how to open it .或者 Can you tell me how to walk there?The grass is always greener on the other side.别人的东西总是看起来比自己的好。一些有用的词汇：Butterfly蝴蝶Bee蜜蜂Ladybug瓢虫Sprinkler洒水器Flower花Earthworm蚯蚓Grass草Seeds种子Hosepipe水管Bird's nest鸟巢Caterpillar毛毛虫Tree树Leaves树叶Lawn mower割草机Water水或是动词，浇水Rose玫瑰Lily百合Jasmine茉莉Tulip郁金香Camellia茶花Azalea杜鹃花Sunflower向日葵Olive橄榄Orchid兰花Banyan榕树Cherry樱花树Betel palm摈榔树

Transcripts and Vocabulary Lists for Episode 505 Episode page https://wp.me/p4IuUx-87u  italki offer http://www.teacherluke.co.uk/talk  Intro Transcript Here is the third and final part of this trilogy of episodes about the latest Star Wars film. In this one you'll hear a conversation between my Dad, my brother and me that I recorded just after we'd seen the film a couple of weeks ago. Now, I know that this is perhaps a bit too much Star Wars content on this podcast. Even if you are a fan it might seem like overkill. So let me emphasise the value of the conversation in this episode as an opportunity for you to learn some natural English in an authentic way. You'll hear us talking spontaneously and then in the second half of this episode I'll to explain some of the bits of language that come up in the conversation. So, this isn't just chat about a film, it's a way to present you with real British English as it is actually spoken. When my family were staying with us for a few days during the Christmas holiday period, fairly soon after our daughter was born, Dad, James and I left my wife and my mum at home to look after the baby and we went off to see the new Star Wars film. This has become something of a Christmas tradition now. After seeing the film we came home, drank some red wine and then recorded our thoughts and comments for the podcast. That is this conversation. As you'd expect we were feeling quite excitable after having just sat through 2 and a half hours of intense Star Wars action and we were also slightly tipsy on French wine and so the conversation is quite animated and lively. You will hear us talking over each other a bit. Not every sentence is completed. Some words get cut off as we interrupt each other and although that's all completely normal in conversations like this, it might be difficult for you to understand everything, depending on your level of English, but watch out for various nice expressions that pop up during our chat. I'll be explaining some of them later in this episode. Right then, let's hear that conversation now - and remember of course that this will contain lots of plot spoilers for Star Wars Episode 8 - so if you haven't seen it yet, please do so before you listen to this. This is your final warning - plot spoilers are coming - please do not let us spoil your enjoyment of the film. You could always come back to listen to this episode later if you want. Outtro Transcript Near the end of the conversation there you heard my dad and my brother expressing their doubts about whether this conversation might be either too difficult for you to follow or simply boring for you to hear because of the slightly geeky levels of detail about Star Wars. That's quite a frequent reaction from them, isn't it. It's a bit annoying when they say that kind of thing, but to be honest, I think they've both got a point, to a certain degree, and this shows that making podcast content for learners of English can be a bit of a tightrope. Episodes should be clear enough for learners of English to understand, but at the same time spoken at a natural speed to make them authentic. I want to be able to explore subjects in some depth and detail so that the content is original and insightful without episodes becoming too specific, too long or simply uninteresting for you to listen to. It can be tricky to walk that line. The fact is, it's probably impossible to get it 100% right every time and produce episodes that are popular and useful for absolutely everybody across the board. But in the end I'm not going to worry about it too much. I expect I lost a few people with all this talk of Star Wars, but if that is the case - so be it. Looking on the bright side - maybe those of you who share my enthusiasm for these films have really enjoyed this trilogy. In any case, that's it for Star Wars for a while. Now, let's focus our attention on language - specifically vocabulary. What about some of the expressions, phrasal verbs and other bits of language that you heard? I've been through the conversation again and made a list. It's quite a big list. I wonder how many of these phrases how many you noticed and how many passed you by. We'll see. Let's go through them now. And this isn't Star Wars vocabulary - it's all English that you can use to talk about all manner of different things. This is your chance to broaden your vocabulary, increasing your understanding of not just this conversation but native-level English in general. Vocabulary (not just Star Wars related) Listen to the episode to hear my definitions and explanations. Your daughter is gorgeous and all in one piece, and very healthy and alert. It's a wonderful thing and I'm now an uncle. Dad: I'm wearing a flat cap, smoking a pipe, sitting by the fire and dozing. James: No change there then. There's been a big backlash against this film from the die-hard fans. Is there a theory that the score has been dragged down artificially? The sequel trilogy is a return to form, you think? The characters are running out of steam. It doesn't have the same wow factor as before. So they're exaggerating everything to keep it going. It didn't have the same feeling as the originals, that's what you can boil it down to. They added new scenes. They added nothing. They detracted from the originals. I was like you once. Full of beans and spunk! I punched a bloke in the face once for saying Hawk The Slayer was rubbish. I was defending the fantasy genre with terminal intensity when what I should have said is Dad, you're right, but let's give Krull a try and we'll discuss it later. Jar Jar Binks makes the Ewoks look like... f*cking... Shaft! (The Ewoks were annoying, but Jar Jar is so annoying and terrible that by comparison, the Ewoks look extremely cool, like Shaft. This does not mean that Shaft looks like an Ewok. It just means that Shaft is very cool and Jar Jar is very uncool.) Shaft (1971) Directed by Gordon Parks, Richard Roundtree (as John Shaft) Tim, I'm going to have to let you go. Phew! I thought you were going to fire me then! I thought it went seriously downhill when they started to introduce teddy bears. They used more animatronics and puppetry. There are a number of set pieces. It moves from one set piece to another set piece. I thought it was a little bit trying too hard. It was a little bit frenetic. It does go on a bit. I thought they could have done without the cute creatures. It's a bit of Ewokism here. To be honest I kind of got over my star wars obsession when I was about 12. I'm not one of these rabid fans. I'm starting to warm to the new characters. Dad said there were too many explosions. James: I know what you mean. It's the law of diminishing returns. You see one explosion and it's "ooh wow", and you see 100 explosions and it's like "meh". I liked the bit when the guy got chucked into the extractor fan. It was like he got chucked into a lettuce shredder. Bits of him went flying out. That was cool. The extractor fan/lettuce shredder - They should have a grill over that or some sort of guard rail. It's a health and safety issue. It's a health and safety nightmare. To me, it needs a bit of lightening up. I don't want it to be like one of these superhero films like Batman where everything's deadly serious and shrouded in seriousness. Come on it's a kid's film - just lighten up! On milking the sea alien - I thought that was wrong on many levels, but I laughed. I liked Adrian Edmonson. Every moment he was on screen I was stoked. The rest of this vocabulary is explained in the Luke's English Podcast App - Check the bonus content for episode 505 How to find bonus content for episodes in the app[/caption] Snoke was a classic baddie. He looked horrible and it was lovely when he came to a sticky end. Hang on, let me finish! Were you disappointed that we didn't learn anything else about him, that he just died? James: No I was glad to see the back of him. Some people feel disappointed that his character wasn't developed. Do you think he was killed too easily? Dad: Well, I think he was very cut up about it. (!!!) He was just a really evil thing that had to be got rid of. You take for granted the special effects involved. On Luke throwing away the lightsabre. Dad: He didn't hurl it into the sea, he just tossed it over his shoulder. Pronunciation: We've been to that island. We've been to those rocks. We've been into those huts. We've been there. /bin/ not /bi:n/ Maybe Chewie did eat the porg. Dad: I think, "Chewie" - the clue is in the name. He should have chewed into that porg. Luke Skywalker was flawed. He'd coached this trainee jedi, his nephew, who had perfect credentials, good bloodline. He peaked too early. You can see that we're running out of steam. Did you like the new AT-AT walkers? I thought they were sick. I liked the way they walked on their knuckles. I thought it was funny the way they look like they're grumpily stomping along on their knuckles. Gorilla walkers / guerrilla war in the forest (There's a moment where we go from talking about gorilla walkers to guerrilla warfare (Ewoks vs Empire). These are two different words that sound the same.) I was genuinely and generally interested. It didn't feel like they jumped the shark. Disney are going to milk this one dry. Luke Skywalker brushing his shoulder / Obama brushing his shoulder. He turned the tide against him by being too cool in the Whitehouse. At least I didn't sigh in this episode.

欢迎订阅微信公众号“老虎小助手”，点击右下角进入“会员中心”，收听全套英文启蒙课程。亲子英文（8）It's your bedtime.该睡了。小朋友总是舍不得早早就上床睡觉，非要做完自己喜欢的事情才肯去睡，It's your bedtime.也可以说Time to go to sleep.意思是不早了该睡觉咯。聪明的妈妈不知道有没有发现bedtime这个单词特别好记呢，由bed 和 time组合而成的，类似的单词还包括lunchtime午餐时间，dinnertime晚餐时间，playtime娱乐时间，或者是summertime夏季等等。It's lunchtime now.现在是吃午餐的时间了。不过喜欢赖皮的孩子一定喜欢跟妈妈说It's too early for bed.意思是现在睡还太早了。Dad: Jenny,you should go to bed now.Jenny: But it's still early.Dad: Don't stay up late.Jenny: But ,daddy,I'm not sleepy.Dad: Well,honey,turn off the light,lie down and go to sleep.Still early是还早的意思Stay up 熬夜，还记得吗我们讲过的？Turn off关掉哦，我们之前也讲过的。Lie down躺下爸爸妈妈可以这么说来催促孩子快点去睡觉：Hurry up and go to sleep.Early bird早起者，我们中文里就有这样一句话，早起的鸟儿有虫吃，用英文怎么说呢？The early bird gets the worm.形容一个人真的起得很早。He's quite an early bird.意思是他起得特别早。Take a nap打个盹儿Sweet dream做个好梦看看大家的卧室里有什么呢？Wardrobe衣橱Single bed单人床Lamp台灯Sheet床单Doll洋娃娃Alarm clock闹钟Chest of drawer斗橱Rug小地毯

欢迎订阅微信公众号“老虎小助手”，点击右下角进入“会员中心”，收听全套英文启蒙课程。亲子英文（8）It's your bedtime.该睡了。小朋友总是舍不得早早就上床睡觉，非要做完自己喜欢的事情才肯去睡，It's your bedtime.也可以说Time to go to sleep.意思是不早了该睡觉咯。聪明的妈妈不知道有没有发现bedtime这个单词特别好记呢，由bed 和 time组合而成的，类似的单词还包括lunchtime午餐时间，dinnertime晚餐时间，playtime娱乐时间，或者是summertime夏季等等。It's lunchtime now.现在是吃午餐的时间了。不过喜欢赖皮的孩子一定喜欢跟妈妈说It's too early for bed.意思是现在睡还太早了。Dad: Jenny,you should go to bed now.Jenny: But it's still early.Dad: Don't stay up late.Jenny: But ,daddy,I'm not sleepy.Dad: Well,honey,turn off the light,lie down and go to sleep.Still early是还早的意思Stay up 熬夜，还记得吗我们讲过的？Turn off关掉哦，我们之前也讲过的。Lie down躺下爸爸妈妈可以这么说来催促孩子快点去睡觉：Hurry up and go to sleep.Early bird早起者，我们中文里就有这样一句话，早起的鸟儿有虫吃，用英文怎么说呢？The early bird gets the worm.形容一个人真的起得很早。He's quite an early bird.意思是他起得特别早。Take a nap打个盹儿Sweet dream做个好梦看看大家的卧室里有什么呢？Wardrobe衣橱Single bed单人床Lamp台灯Sheet床单Doll洋娃娃Alarm clock闹钟Chest of drawer斗橱Rug小地毯

A little boy was sick on Palm Sunday and stayed home from church with his mother. His father returned from church holding a palm branch. The little boy was curious and asked, "Why do you have that palm branch, Dad?" "Well son, when Jesus came into town, everyone waved palm branches to honor him, so we got palm branches at church today." The little boy replied, "Aw, shucks! The one Sunday I miss is the Sunday that Jesus shows up!"

A little boy was sick on Palm Sunday and stayed home from church with his mother. His father returned from church holding a palm branch. The little boy was curious and asked, "Why do you have that palm branch, Dad?" "Well son, when Jesus came into town, everyone waved palm branches to honor him, so we got palm branches at church today." The little boy replied, "Aw, shucks! The one Sunday I miss is the Sunday that Jesus shows up!"