Podcasts about sex research

La monogamie rend-elle vraiment plus heureux ? C'est une croyance répandue dans de nombreuses cultures : l'idée selon laquelle vivre en couple exclusif offrirait une vie plus épanouissante que les relations ouvertes ou polyamoureuses. Mais une étude récente menée par des chercheurs australiens de l'Université La Trobe, publiée dans The Journal of Sex Research, vient bousculer cette idée reçue.Les chercheurs ont réalisé une méta-analyse de 35 études internationales portant sur 24 489 participants adultes. Ces travaux ont comparé différents types de relations : monogamie stricte, relations ouvertes et polyamour, toutes déclarées comme consensuelles. Et le résultat est sans appel : il n'existe aucune différence statistiquement significative entre les personnes en relations monogames et celles dans des relations non monogames consensuelles en ce qui concerne la satisfaction relationnelle, sexuelle, l'intimité ou encore l'engagement.Par exemple, en moyenne, la satisfaction relationnelle sur une échelle de 1 à 7 était notée à 5,86 pour les monogames… contre 5,80 pour les non-monogames. La différence ? Inférieure à 1 %. Côté satisfaction sexuelle, l'écart est tout aussi faible : 5,42 chez les monogames, 5,39 chez les non-monogames.Autre point marquant : les relations non monogames rapportent parfois des niveaux légèrement supérieurs de communication émotionnelle et d'honnêteté, des facteurs clés de bien-être dans le couple. Les chercheurs soulignent que dans ces relations, les attentes sont souvent plus explicitement discutées et négociées dès le départ.Le professeur associé Joel Anderson, co-auteur de l'étude, explique : « L'idée que la monogamie offre intrinsèquement plus de bonheur, de stabilité ou de passion est profondément ancrée, mais nos données ne soutiennent pas cette hiérarchie. »Pourquoi alors cette perception dominante ? En grande partie à cause des normes culturelles et médiatiques, qui valorisent la monogamie comme la seule voie vers une relation "réussie". Pourtant, cette recherche montre qu'il n'existe pas de modèle universel : le bien-être relationnel dépend surtout de la compatibilité des attentes, de la qualité de la communication et du respect mutuel.L'étude reconnaît toutefois certaines limites : la majorité des données proviennent de pays occidentaux, et l'échantillonnage en ligne peut biaiser les résultats. Mais elle invite clairement à remettre en question les jugements de valeur portés sur les modèles relationnels.En résumé : non, la monogamie ne rend pas automatiquement plus heureux. Ce qui compte, ce n'est pas tant la structure de la relation, mais la façon dont elle est vécue. Hébergé par Acast. Visitez acast.com/privacy pour plus d'informations.

Passend zu den ersten Blumenknospen, Sonnenstrahlen und Frühlingsgefühlen, beschäftigen sich Sinja und Boris in dieser Folge mit der Liebe. Dabei fragen sie sich nicht nur, wie wir romantische Liebe ausleben können, sondern auch, welche weiteren Formen der Liebe es gibt und wie sich diese im Alltag fördern lassen. Umfrage: Wie gefällt dir Verstehen, fühlen, glücklich sein? Erzähle es uns ⁠⁠hier⁠⁠. Hintergründe und Studien:Lenz, K.: Soziologie der Zweierbeziehung. Eine Einführung, Opladen: Westdeutscher Verlag 1998.Reddy, W. M. (2019). The making of romantic love: Longing and sexuality in Europe, South Asia, and Japan, 900-1200 CE. University of Chicago Press. Link zum Buch Bogaert, A. F. (2004). Asexuality: Prevalence and associated factors in a national probability sample. The Journal of Sex Research, 41(3). Link zur Studie Prause, N., & Graham, C. A. (2007). Asexuality: Classification and characterization. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 36(3). Link zur Studie Hudson NW, Lucas RE, Donnellan MB. The Highs and Lows of Love: Romantic Relationship Quality Moderates Whether Spending Time With One's Partner Predicts Gains or Losses in Well-Being. Pers Soc Psychol Bull. 2020 Apr;46(4):572-589. doi: 10.1177/0146167219867960. Epub 2019 Aug 13. PMID: 31409247. Link zur Studie Jacobson, E., Wilson, K., Kurz, A., & Kellum, K. (2018). Examining self-compassion in romantic relationships. Journal of contextual behavioral science, 8, 69-73. Link zur Studie Barraza, J. A., Alexander, V., Beavin, L. E., Terris, E. T., & Zak, P. J. (2015). The heart of the story: Peripheral physiology during narrative exposure predicts charitable giving. Biological psychology, 105, 138-143. Link zur Studie Dainton, M., Stafford, L., & Canary, D. J. (1994). Maintenance strategies and physical affection as predictors of love, liking, and satisfaction in marriage. Communication Reports, 7(2), 88-98. Link zur Studie Ogolsky, B. G., & Bowers, J. R. (2013). A meta-analytic review of relationship maintenance and its correlates. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 30(3), 343-367. Link zur Studie Jacobs Bao, K., & Lyubomirsky, S. (2013). Making it last: Combating hedonic adaptation in romantic relationships. The Journal of Positive Psychology, 8(3), 196-20 Link zur Studie

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Dr. Liisa Galea is a scientific lead for the CAMH (the Centre for Addiction and Mental Health) program womenmind™. It's a community of philanthropists, thought leaders and scientists dedicated to tackling gender disparities in science, and to put the unique needs and experiences of women at the forefront of mental health research. womenmind: https://www.camh.ca/en/get-involved/join-the-cause/womenmind Women's Health Research Cluster: https://womenshealthresearchcluster.com/ Frontiers in Neuroendocrinology: https://www.sciencedirect.com/journal/frontiers-in-neuroendocrinology Organization for the Study of Sex Differences: https://www.ossdweb.org/ Canadian Organization for Gender and Sex Research: https://www.cogsresearch.ca/

IntroductionMy mission is to help the world be shamelessly sexy. To me, that means not feeling ashamed about who you are or the type of sex you want to have. It means going after the things that you want in bed and in life. Being shamelessly sexy looks different for everyone. It's something you need to define for yourself on your own terms. Also, no one can ever be perfectly shamelessly sexy. That's because shame is a normal human emotion that will continue to crop up in life. But being perfect is not the point, people! Not feeling shame is not the point, either. This is about self-discovery. It's about living your own life that is pleasurable and “totally rad,” as the surfer dudes say. It's about feeling aligned with yourself and courageous enough to pursue what you want.I may be more shamelessly sexy now, but I wasn't always this way. I grew up in London, where I was trained at all-girls private schools to be a prim and proper young lady. The red shoes of my school uniform were always perfectly polished. As I failed to color inside the lines in my lessons, I developed a dangerous curiosity.One day, I secretly came across what one might call a “spicy book” or “smut” in my school library. Heavens! When I read it, I felt excited. It was a beacon, an acknowledgment from the adult world:“There are other horny teenagers just like you out there. In fact, being a horny teenager is normal. All those boring adults? Well, they were once one, too.”That day, my perspective on sexuality changed. That smut book opened my mind to the possibility that sex and lovemaking are some of the most beautiful things in the world, even if nobody overtly champions them. I still believe that it's one of life's greatest joys to love another person fully, honestly, and vulnerably. And yet, this is totally hidden in our culture, which makes us feel guilty for simply enjoying ourselves. To this day, that doesn't make sense to me. I've come to wonder whether there is a screw missing in my brain or if it's that I simply transcended the confines of the world I grew up in all those years ago when I read that smut book in the library. Now, I try to help others do the same: to love ourselves and our partners openly in our own unique, beautiful, and messy ways.This piece is for heterosexual-leaning females because that's my experience. Men experience shame differently, and I'll address that in another piece. So, let's dive into how we can get you there!Defining Shame About SexIn my article, “How To Be Shameless,” I shared Brené Brown's definition of shame: “Shame is an epidemic in our culture” that is “highly correlated with addiction, depression, violence, aggression, bullying, suicide, eating disorders." She shares that "[f]or women, shame is: do it all, do it perfectly, and never let them see you sweat.”Here's an example of this in my friend Emily's day-to-day life. Emily is fresh out of a relationship, and she wants to feel good about her body. Last week, we identified where her ideas about her body and her sexuality are coming from.* Feminine conservatism from her mother: Emily's mother is Catholic. For her whole life, Emily's mother wanted her to cover her shoulders and wear longer, feminine dresses, especially when they went to her grandmother's house for Sunday brunch.* Bikini bodies from Instagram: Emily saw a beautiful woman wearing a bikini on Instagram, so she ordered one. It has a G-string bottom that Emily is a bit nervous about trying, but since she lives by the beach, she wants to give it a go.* Pressure from her ex: When Emily was 18, she dated a guy who was 23, and he was more sexually experienced than her. He made her feel guilty that she had never had a threesome and that she didn't want to watch porn with him. In his eyes, she was never sexually experienced enough.* Social Comparison: With her last boyfriend, Emily noticed when they passed other girls on the beach who were prettier than her. Those girls were tanned and wore the G-string bikinis like it was nobody's business. Emily knew that comparison was the thief of joy, but she still wondered if her boyfriend wanted to be with someone prettier.Emily's experiences mirror exactly how Brené Brown described shame in women: “unobtainable, conflicting, competing expectations about who we are supposed to be.” Still, Emily's situation confused me. If her sexuality and her feelings about her own body weren't these messages from others, then what were they? This was something far deeper than her mother's conservatism or her ex pressuring her to have sex. Perhaps this was something internal. Perhaps this was something to do with her “self,” and that required an energetic, internal transformation. We agreed that it sounded woo-woo, but her feelings about her sexuality and her body are a form of energy that she embodies.Being Shameless SexyEmily and I agreed that being shamelessly sexy comes down to three fundamental things: knowing what you want, believing you deserve what you want, and asking for it. There's a lot to say here, so I'll address the tips for each of them separately.Know What You Want“If the desert is holy, it is because it is a forgotten place that allows us to remember the sacred. Perhaps that is why every pilgrimage to the desert is a pilgrimage to the self.” (Terry Tempest Williams).I could probably write a whole book with tips on how to help you figure out what you want in your sex life. I don't claim to be a witch or a genius, so I'll share what's helped me so far.* Work On Your Shame.As I explored previously, facing your shame can help you change your perspective and let go of the past. So, pull up a shameful memory or two from your past that involves your body or having sex. Try not to pick something too overwhelming to begin with. You might need to repeat this exercise multiple times if you have various memories bringing you shame about sex in your past. For this exercise, I picked Valentine's Day with my high school boyfriend when I was 17 when my younger sister walked in on us trying to have a romantic bath together, and my dad found out and gave me the awkward sex talk. It was terrible.Hold your experience in your mind's eye. Remember as many details as you can about the situation. Notice what you feel. Do you feel any physical sensations in your body, your chest, or your throat? Where are you holding the shame in your body? Now, turn toward your younger self with compassion. Acknowledge the pain of the experience. Find a loving gesture you can give yourself for comfort. For this experience, I held my hand and told myself,“Taking a bath is a rather wonderful thing to do with someone. That experience was cruel. You didn't deserve that.”If you don't want to hold your hand, you could also hug yourself, squeeze your arm, or put your hand on your heart. Think of what a loving parent or a kind adult would say to your younger self now. What does your younger self need to hear? It could be something like,“Experiencing shame is part of life. You're not alone. You made a mistake. That doesn't mean you are a mistake. I forgive you.”The more you can give yourself love and acceptance, the less shame you'll eventually feel about that experience. It is totally okay if you cry or feel a big wash of emotion. That's a good sign that you're processing pain and grief.You can listen to my Misseducated interview with Dr. Kristin Neff, the world's leading expert on self-compassion, here: “How to Be Kind to Yourself, and Why It Matters.”* Keep a sex diary or journal.Writing helps to make what we know subconsciously about ourselves conscious. For three years, I've written about my sex life on my blog, Misseducated. Exploring my experiences in pieces like “Why I Never Swallow Cum” has had an incredible benefit that I didn't expect: it has helped me figure out what I like in bed. Writing about your sex life can help you figure out what you want to explore and where your limitations are. You can also learn the exact techniques that make you orgasm and how you like to receive pleasure (for me, the secret tip is always a little bit of butt stuff).So, I encourage you to start keeping a separate journal where you can explore sexual experiences from your past and what you liked and didn't like about them. Start with a prompt like “Losing My Virginity,” “My First Kiss,” or “The Best Sex I Ever Had,” and go from there. Try to bring in all the senses: what you saw, what you heard, what you touched, what you smelt, what you tasted, and what you felt. A candlelit dinner? Grinding at the club? It's all part of your arousal and your sexuality. It can be as simple as a private note on your phone, which you can then giggle to yourself about secretly.Subscribe to the Misseducated Calendar to learn more about when I host Sex Writing Workshops in the future.* Separate the voices of others from your own.“We have lived quite enough for others: let us live at least this tail-end of life for ourselves.” (Page 271, Michel de Montaigne)As you distinguish your voice in your sex diary, it's important to keep the voices of other people separate. For example, you can make a quick list of self-critical words or phrases that often come up for you. Now, try to figure out where you learned each voice and to whom it belongs. Are these your mother's words? Or did Mrs. Screech from 2nd Grade plug those into your brain?Imagine your brain. Clear a dedicated little space at the back of it, which is solely reserved for your thoughts and feelings about your life. This is where you are going to store your unique thoughts. As the old French philosopher Montaigne says,“We should aside a room, just for ourselves, at the back of the shop, keeping it entirely free and establishing there our true liberty, our principal solitude, and asylum.” (Page 270, Michel de Montaigne)* Define success in your sex life.What are your aspirations when it comes to your sex life? Would you like to orgasm or squirt with your partner at least twice every time you sleep together? Is it dancing bachata? Or is it throwing away your razor and just living like you want to, hairy armpits and all? Take some time to define success on your own terms. This exercise is about self-acceptance, not about judging yourself in any way or stressing yourself out. It's supposed to be fun!For me, success in my sex life does not involve jet-setting around the world to attend giant orgies every weekend (though it might look like that for you). It's probably just having a loving relationship where I can enjoy plenty of butt stuff, and we can be open enough for an optional third person who we can play with together, and I can have lots of earth-shattering orgasms, of course.* De-stigmatize your body and other people's.Going to clothing-optional events has brought me a lot of acceptance and love for my body. As I've shared, while it's normal to feel nervous at first, I find being naked around other people very freeing. Attending an event like The Naked Bike Ride in Philadelphia has shown me that when you get a whole bunch of naked bodies together for a brief moment, the intensity of our insecurities and self-consciousness totally melts away.The prospect of going to these events might terrify you. But just remember that our obsession with our bodies being perfect or looking a certain way is a social construct that we need to unlearn if we want to feel truly shameless about who we are. I hope you can find ways to explore de-stigmatizing your body for yourself, whether that be going to the sauna, skinny-dipping in a river, or going to a nudist beach.* Follow your curiosity.Sexuality is a journey of exploration, constant evolution, and discovery. As I've shared previously, “God” is not going to part the clouds and bestow upon you your one true perfect sexual experience. What you're curious about exploring may well just start as a whisper, which you're going to need to listen for closely.Imagine that sexuality is like a pair of shoes that you're trying on in a shop. Does this activity or idea feel very “you”? Could you see yourself wearing those sparkly heels on the right occasion? Like Emily wearing a G-string bikini on the beach, try something new when you're not sure if you'll like them or not, and see how it feels. There's power in courage, which, as Maya Angelou reminds us, is the most important of all the virtues.* Talk to yourself.Talking to yourself is usually considered weird. But I highly encourage you to sit down and do it to figure out what you're comfortable with and what you're not. As Pauline said wisely in our interview about open relationships,“Sexuality is an emotion…It depends on where you are in your mind…You always have to sit down with your thoughts and kind of like ask yourself this question: am I okay right now? Do I feel safe?”Knowing your limits is a beautiful thing. For example, I consider myself a sexually open person, but almost four years ago, I experienced what can only be described as a doozy of a sexual assault. I still don't feel comfortable with men I don't know touching me, and I am so thankful to know that about myself.If you feel like you're crossing the line for any reason, remember what Pauline shared,“I'm able to stop at any time. Like that's also something that is like really important…You can stop at any time and say goodbye. Like, I'm done. And it's okay. It doesn't mean you're a loser. It doesn't mean anything. It just means that right here, right now, you just don't want it. And it's okay.”* Make up your own rules.Despite being a huge people pleaser for most of my life, I made up a rule that I would only allow a guy to stay over at my house once he was my boyfriend. I decided this because I noticed how disrupted my sleep gets when a guy stays over, and it often ruins my next day. Admittedly, I don't always stick to my own rules when I'm hooking up with a dude who is particularly hot and cool (I'm allowed to make exceptions to my own rules, lol.) But the point is that I've taken time beforehand to identify my needs and figure out what is important to me.Get some space and peace of mind. And while you're alone, off on a solo adventure or single, go ahead and put your own rules in place. These could be rules about your sleep, your safety, and where you want things inserted into your body. Write these down in your sex journal, also. It's easier to decide what you want when there is no one else in the picture because biology is a stronger force than anything else in the world, and having a hot guy in your life is incredibly distracting. And, of course, once you make a rule for yourself, don't be pansy like me. The first step is to recognize that you deserve to have needs and boundaries. The second step is actually to enforce them.* Explore the underworld.This is about getting a handle on what's possible in terms of your sexuality. While porn is acting and often misleading, if you're open to it, I encourage you to watch some. You can watch some female-friendly porn here and here. Watching porn is a good way to see what's possible, and who knows, you might find it arousing.I thought that everyone was like me and had watched porn in secret, but it turns out I have female friends who have never watched porn, who are virgins, and who have never had an orgasm. Everyone is on their own journey, and that's a beautiful thing. I encourage you to meet yourself where you are right now and go from there. Also, try taking the BDSM test. It might help you figure out what type of sex you like to have. If some questions come up that you have no idea about, read the definitions and see if that's something you might want to explore.“When you're in a relationship, it shouldn't be the end of exploring your sexuality.” – Pauline, Open Relationships 101* Explore your body, guilt-free.Planned Parenthood quoted research published in 1994, which said, “half of the adult women and men who masturbate feel guilty about it.” Quotes like this depress me because, as far as I am concerned, guilt is a totally useless emotion. Meanwhile, “the medical community considers masturbation to be a natural and harmless expression of sexuality for both men and women” (Masturbation Guide, WebMD).Every time you feel guilty about touching yourself, buying a new toy, or feeling hot as f**k, just remember that there are literally 5,000 worse things you could be in the world than being a masturbater. You could be a murderer. You could be intentionally stomping on all the flowers in your neighbor's garden. Masturbation is harmless, pleasurable, and fun. So, take time for it like you take time for a friend who wants to get coffee and talk about her most recent breakup. Seriously, give yourself an hour at least and see what you can do. And also, put what you discover in your sex journal.* Question everything.Something is only “normal” because some people in our society decided it was. So, take all the assumptions you have about yourself, your life, who you can be, and what you can do, and turn them upside down. As Pauline expresses beautifully:“I deconstruct a lot by myself, about like patriarchy, about like me as a woman, like sexuality…And a lot of stuff, you're like, “But why the f**k am I doing this?”… Why are we even like, I don't know, blowing candles for a birthday? Like a lot of questions. And yeah, you know, why? "Yeah, it's normal.” I'm like, “No, it's not. Like how the f**k we ended up doing this?”Why the f**k do we blow our candles on a birthday cake, indeed?Believe You Deserve What You WantThis next step is about self-esteem. It's about standing up for your needs, saying f**k yes to people or f**k no to people, and not feeling guilty either way.* Be selfishWikipedia defines selfishness as “being concerned excessively or exclusively for oneself or one's own advantage, pleasure, or welfare, regardless of others.” I find this definition so funny! Because being socialized as a woman, it's clear to me that women are often branded as being selfish for having any concern for ourselves at all. The example comes to mind of my mother calling me selfish because, at age 28, I refused to share a bed with my brother, who is 6'5” tall (195cm), on the family holiday. In the world I grew up in, I wasn't really allowed to have needs, let alone express them.It's a crime in our society for a woman to put herself first. Yet, this is the moment when we decide to stop being doormats, even if we risk being branded as “difficult” in the process. I wholeheartedly encourage you to start being selfish.* Believe your pleasure matters.In the bedroom, this means taking up space and time to make sure you get the pleasure you deserve. As someone who has written a lot about the orgasm gap and experienced it firsthand, I know that we are simply not there yet. According to the International Academy of Sex Research in 2017, quoted in the Guardian,“95% of heterosexual men said they usually or always orgasmed when sexually intimate, followed by 89% of gay men, 88% of bisexual men, 86% of lesbian women, 66% of bisexual women, and 65% of straight women.”I've explained how the world would be a very different place if straight females were orgasming 65% of the time. I estimated I had orgasmed with 8% of my partners and maybe 25% of all the times I have had sex. To be shamelessly sexy, we have to believe that our pleasure is just as important as our partner's pleasure. We're talking about getting equal pleasure for equal measure.* Remember that nothing is wrong with you.With shame being blasted at you from all directions, it's easy to believe that it's your fault for being alive in the body that you're in. I fundamentally disagree with this. Books like “Invisible Women” teach us that the reason why nothing ever seems right for us is because the world was not designed with us in mind. Literally, the people who designed airbags in cars, sidewalks, and even medications didn't bother to test them on female bodies, and this has real-world consequences. If you've ever had weird side effects from medication, just remember that women were all but left out of medical research until 1993. This costs female lives.It's not that there is something with you. It's that there is something wrong with the world. Nothing is wrong with you. You are simply a woman, and because of that, you will never be typical or be the default.* Prioritize your relationship with yourself.The harsh truth is that our relationship with ourselves is the only constant relationship we will have in until we die. Everyone else will come and go—friends, partners, parents, lovers, siblings, and children, even. Your relationship with yourself is the only one that truly sticks.So, for God's sake, put yourself first. What you think about yourself matters much more than what other people think of you. And don't be like the guy from The Onion article titled, “Man Waiting Until Parents Die Before Doing A Single Thing That Makes Him Happy.”* Your experiences are valid. Your feelings are real.I used to have very low self-esteem until I started going to a 12-step Program called ACA. Over time, I learned from the program to ground myself on the basis of my experience rather than constantly defining myself by the actions of other people. One example of this new thinking came at the end of my most recent fling. Here's how I can choose to react:My old self says: “He doesn't want a relationship with me. I'm not worthy of being his girlfriend.”My new self says: “I want to be in a relationship with someone who wants to be in a relationship with me.”It's the same experience, but I now have a totally different perspective on it, one that is rooted in self-respect and dignity. So, remember that your feelings are valid. Your experiences are real. And be sure to define yourself in terms of your own needs and dignity, not from the broken actions of other people.* Define your body on your terms, also.When I was 15, I went to get bras fitted with my mother. I had armpit hair at that point and didn't bother using a razor (at least, I've been consistent with that to this day). When I noticed that she saw my armpit hair, I said something like,“Will doesn't mind.”Will was my boyfriend at the time. As a young person, I felt the need to justify the existence of my armpit hair to my mother. If my mother wasn't defining me, I had to justify my body in the context of another person, my boyfriend, and a male person, nonetheless. I had no idea that I was allowed to keep my body the way I wanted to, armpit hair and all.If you find yourself stressing out about external standards, just remember that it's not up to other people to define who you are. Only you can and should define that. And if other people aren't comfortable with that, that's their deal.* Take up space. Take up time.Some of my female friends find it impossible to go to a café, buy themselves a treat, and sit down to read a book on their own. What if someone else wanted to use that table? They've asked me, perplexed. Existing on their terms in a public space is a struggle. Whether it's having an orgasm with a partner or buying a cookie from a café, because of culture or history, many of us have internalized that whatever this is, it is not for people like us.But have you ever sat in a vast canyon, totally alone? Have you ever climbed to the top of a small hill in the desert in New Mexico, with 360 panoramic views, and cried and felt held by the vastness of the desert all around you? Well, I have. And I can tell you that that's plenty of room for you there, in the desert and in the world. It might take a quick adventure into nature. But just remember that the sky and the earth can hold all of you and so much more, just as they've held your ancestors since the beginning of time. As Maya Angelou says, “Take up the battle. Take it up. This is your life. This is your world.”So, please sit down at the table for as long as you like and eat the cookie.Ask for What You WantIt's time to express yourself, your desires, and your needs to the people you're having sex with. Otherwise, all this hard work you've done internally won't actually go anywhere. The squeaky wheel gets the grease. And it's time to squeak!* Safety, first.It's very important that you trust the person you are going to ask these things for. Before I pegged my boyfriend, we had already been dating for a couple of months. The act of an ask itself can be a very vulnerable moment, so make sure you're with a compassionate partner who respects your body and who will honor your needs and desires. If your partner sucks at listening or makes you feel judged or inadequate in any way, they might not be the right person to explore your sexuality with.* Muster up your courage.“Courage is more important than confidence. Taking that first step in doing anything is the real key to begin to manifest the possibility of that thing happening” — Debbie Millman, The Tim Ferriss Show.The art of asking takes courage. You're also opening up to the possibility of being rejected by the other person. But you can't say the wrong thing to the right person. It's better to rip off the band-aid than spend your whole life wondering whether or not to say something, second-guessing, and tiptoeing. You deserve an answer.* Over-communicate with your partner.Each time will be different because, as a human, you are evolving. Be sure to check in regularly to see whether your partner is still comfortable with this or if you want to try something new. Here's how Pauline communicates with her partner:“We look at each other in the eyes a lot. Like, okay, what do you think? We communicate a lot through the night. We send like text messages…But each time we were doing it, we kind of like sit before and we're like, “Okay, what's your mind in today? What do you want to do? What do you want to explore? How do you feel? Where's your head at today?”* Pick the right people. Curate the right spaces.I'll share more another time, but I went to some sex parties in New York where I didn't feel comfortable at all. I wouldn't go back there again, but I would consider going to a play party if I was with the right people. It really depends on the context, who the people are, and if this feels like the kind of place you want to be in.“You should pick whatever you like and create your own community and yourself and like whoever bonds with you and agrees with you, and that's cool.” – Pauline* Leave if you need to.If your partner does not want to explore the same things as you, you may need to find someone else who you are more compatible with and who celebrates you exploring your sexuality. Refuse to settle. As Pauline shared,“I think like you have to find your own way, which is nice because I think, as a girl, I have never been taught that you can find your own way in your sexuality. It was more like you'll have what you got. And then, if you're not happy, that's what it is.”ConclusionIf you've made it this far, thank you so much for reading my guide to being shamelessly sexy. I hope you loved it, that you found something here that made you smile, or maybe it inspired you to explore something new. Please feel free to reach out to me with what you discovered, as I would love to hear from you, and share this article with a like-minded friend if you think it could help them.There's one final phrase that I want you to keep in mind:“You can do it on your terms. It's your sexuality in the end. So, do yourself on your terms.” – Pauline.Amen.

Por Yaiza Santos Más allá de la vulgaridad de celebrar el fin de una vida –y bien sabe lo que es, por aquel Arcadio que brindó con champán en su momento–, el anuncio de Pedro Sánchez sobre los fastos por el aniversario de la muerte de Franco muestra la gran mentira que se cuenta a sí misma la izquierda. A modo de ejemplo leyó el artículo 3 de la Ley de Memoria Democrática que, con prosa atroz, dice que la democracia fue «consecuencia de las luchas de los movimientos sociales antifranquistas y de diferentes actores políticos». Tuvo que volver a repetir que España nunca tuvo una revolución de los claveles, que la Transición fue una donación de las élites de derechas y que de los dos conspiradores de aquellos años, Javier Pradera y Torcuato Fernández-Miranda, triunfó el segundo. ¿Qué celebran, además? ¡El triunfo de la biología!, clamó. Flebitis’ Day. A propósito de Italia, donde está el Rey –¡del que no ha pedido la dimisión ni nada parecido!–, y aprovechando que La grande ambizione está a punto de estrenarse en Filmin, habló de Enrico Berlinguer y de su importancia política. Fue el primero que se dio cuenta de que la transformación social no puede hacerse con la mitad de la población, de que el consenso es el único espacio en el cual se puede progresar. ¡Macron, por cierto, vuelve a demostrarlo! Es una buena noticia, por cierto, que The Economist haya nombrado a España como la mejor economía de la OCDE durante 2024. Menos claro ve que sea una buena noticia para Feijóo. Que las cosas vayan bien arroja incertidumbre sobre la alternancia política. Por lo demás, le encanta ser un san sebastián entre las dos Españas que le acribillan, a izquierda y a derecha, ¡a las que les falla el fact checking! Él seguirá usando, por supuesto, su Eau de Vraie. Se admiró de la noticia extraordinaria aparecida en el Times sobre los embriones cambiados –aunque dijo no tener ninguna duda: dame el mío, son mis genes– y, sobre todo, del burning paper –¡bien burning!–: está convencido de que las fingidoras son muchas más. Y fue así que Espada yiró Bibliografía: Arcadi Espada, Vida de Arcadio Por qué dejan de fingir orgasmos («Why Did You Stop? Reasons for Stopping Faking Orgasms and Its Association with Sexual, Relationship, and Life Satisfaction in Denmark, Finland, France, Norway, Sweden, and the UK»), The Journal of Sex Research, 14 de octubre de 2024 See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We revisit the ongoing 2024 topic on "The Psychology of Sugar Daddies, Sugar Babies, and Sugar Dating" from February 7, 2024. This episode dives into a study published in The Journal of Sex Research that examined the motivations, dynamics, and stigmas associated with sugar dating relationships. Key topics include:Motivations: Financial compensation is the primary driver for sugar babies, alongside companionship, emotional connection, and access to a luxurious lifestyle. Sugar daddies are primarily motivated by companionship, intimacy, and the thrill of relationships with younger partners.Demographics: The study highlighted a significant age gap, with sugar babies averaging 28 years old and sugar daddies averaging 48. Many participants had engaged in multiple arrangements.Power Dynamics: While financial power often lies with sugar daddies, sugar babies were noted to have significant influence through their ability to set terms and negotiate.Challenges: Both groups face stigma, safety concerns, and authenticity issues in these arrangements.Cultural Shifts: The episode discussed how sugar dating intersects with societal changes in views on relationships and transactional sex.Contact KOP for professional podcast production, imaging, and web design services at http://www.kingofpodcasts.comSupport KOP by subscribing to his YouTube channel and search for King Of PodcastsFollow KOP on Twitter or Facebook @kingofpodcastsListen to KOP's other programs, Podcasters Row… and the Wrestling is Real Wrestling Podcast and The Broadcasters Podcast.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/depraved-and-debaucherous--5267208/support.

L'idée que les hommes pensent au sexe toutes les 7 secondes est un mythe populaire, mais elle ne repose sur aucune base scientifique. Cette croyance, souvent reprise dans les conversations et les médias, sous-entend que les hommes ont des pensées sexuelles extrêmement fréquentes. Or, les études montrent que la réalité est bien plus nuancée. Une étude clé menée en 2011 par la chercheuse Terri Fisher, publiée dans le *Journal of Sex Research*, a cherché à mesurer la fréquence des pensées sexuelles chez des hommes et des femmes. Dans cette étude, 283 étudiants ont été invités à noter chaque fois qu'ils pensaient au sexe, à la nourriture ou au sommeil, en utilisant un compteur portable sur une période d'une semaine. Les résultats montrent que, certes, les hommes pensent au sexe plus fréquemment que les femmes, mais la fréquence varie largement d'une personne à l'autre. Les participants masculins avaient en moyenne 19 pensées sexuelles par jour, tandis que les femmes en avaient environ 10. Cela équivaut environ à une pensée toutes les 45 minutes pour les hommes, bien loin du mythe des « 7 secondes ». Il est intéressant de noter que l'étude de Fisher a également révélé que les hommes pensent plus souvent à la nourriture et au sommeil que les femmes, montrant que les pensées liées aux besoins fondamentaux ne se limitent pas seulement au sexe. La fréquence des pensées sexuelles dépend aussi de facteurs individuels comme l'âge, les influences culturelles, et même l'état d'esprit de la personne à un moment donné. Ce mythe des « 7 secondes » renforce des stéréotypes sur la sexualité masculine, en exagérant une tendance naturelle à la sexualité chez les humains en général. En réalité, la fréquence des pensées sexuelles est loin d'être universelle et reflète davantage les variations individuelles que des règles fixes. Les études montrent que la sexualité est bien plus complexe et n'obéit pas à des schémas aussi réguliers. En conclusion, l'idée que les hommes pensent au sexe toutes les 7 secondes est infondée. Les recherches, comme celle de Terri Fisher, démontrent que, bien que les hommes aient en moyenne plus de pensées sexuelles que les femmes, ces pensées ne surviennent pas avec une fréquence aussi extrême. Au lieu de céder aux stéréotypes, il est important de reconnaître la diversité des expériences individuelles, qui varie bien au-delà de ce mythe simpliste. Hébergé par Acast. Visitez acast.com/privacy pour plus d'informations.

Bio: Chelom Leavitt teaches and researches healthy sexuality at BYU. She received her Ph.D. from Penn State. Her research specifically examines how being present, accepting, and non-judgmental is linked to improved sexual functioning and satisfaction. Dr. Leavitt's research has been published in top academic journals such as Journal of Sex Research and Archives of Sexual Behavior. She has written books and teaches seminars on sex and healthy relationships around the world. Recorded, Edited & Produced by Jessie Carter, Isabella Loosle, and Tanya Gale

Today, more people identify as LGBTQ+ than ever before. However, this is largely due to a big increase in the number of persons identifying as bisexual. So in this episode, we’re going to dive into a recent study published in The Journal of Sex Research that investigates the rise in bisexuality over time. We’ll discuss different ways of defining and measuring bisexuality, why women seem more likely to be bisexual than men, and much more. My guest is Martin Monto, a Professor of Sociology at University of Portland specializing in the intersection between gender, sexuality, and public health, with an additional focus on society’s impact on the natural environment. Monto has an extensive publication record focusing on social aspects of sexuality and the sex industry, including notable publications on sex buyers, webcam users, “hooking up,” and bisexuality. Some of the topics we cover in this episode include: What are some of the different ways that scientists have defined bisexuality? How many people today identify as gay, lesbian, or bisexual—and how have these numbers changed over time? With the rise in bisexual identification, has there also been a rise in bisexual behavior? How do rates of bisexuality differ for older versus younger adults? Why might more women identify as bisexual than men? You can connect with Martin here. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors!  Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you’ll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today. Xersizer is the world's only FDA regulated hydropump and it provides a discreet and effective way to exercise an area of the body that’s neglected in the gym. To learn more and get a 20% discount off of your purchase, visit xersizer.com/SAP. *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Reddit to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest. Heart photo by Jiroe (Matia Rengel) on Unsplash.

Join us in this enlightening episode as we sit down with Leanna Wolfe, an anthropologist and clinical sexologist, to discuss her compelling memoir, 177 Lovers and Counting: My Life as a Sex Researcher. Wolfe takes us on a fascinating journey through her decades-long career, exploring how different cultures around the world view sex, relationships, and societal norms.From the love marriages of India to the complex dynamics of polygamy in Africa, Wolfe shares surprising insights that challenge common stereotypes and offer a deeper understanding of human sexuality. We also delve into the transformative changes she witnessed during the sexual revolution and second wave feminism in the San Francisco Bay Area, and how these movements continue to influence attitudes toward sex and relationships today.The discussion touches on a range of topics, including the impact of pornography, the rise of non-traditional relationship structures like polyamory, and the potential dangers of AI partners in an increasingly digital world. Wolfe also reflects on the challenges women face in understanding their own bodies and achieving sexual satisfaction, all while navigating societal expectations.Whether you're interested in anthropology, sex research, or just curious about how different cultures approach intimacy, this episode offers a rich and thought-provoking exploration of what it means to be human. Tune in for a conversation that's as informative as it is engaging, and stay until the end for a surprising twist as we discuss favorite family recipes and the lessons learned from our very first jobs.Find Leanna Wolfe: https://rowman.com/ISBN/9781538174661/177-Lovers-and-Counting-My-Life-as-a-Sex-Researcher and http://drleannawolfe.com/Send us a Text Message.Support the Show.PageChewing.comPAGECHEWING: Comics & Manga PodcastFilm Chewing PodcastSpeculative Speculations PodcastBuy me a coffeeLinktreeJoin Riverside.fm

Imagine for a moment that your partner told you they had a sexually transmitted infection. What should (and shouldn't) you say or do in that situation?  That's what we're going to be talking about in this episode: tips for navigating a partner's STI disclosure. Some of the topics we'll explore include tips for keeping the conversation productive and not perpetuating STI stigma, how to manage a relationship where one partner has an STI and the other doesn’t, and what it means when someone in a long-term relationship suddenly tests positive for an STI. I am joined once again Dr. Kayley McMahan, a sexual health scholar and educator. She serves as the Relationship and Sexual Violence Prevention Coordinator at the University of Tennessee, Knoxville, where she also teaches an undergraduate Human Sexuality class. Kayley recently co-authored a comprehensive review article in the Journal of Sex Research focused on STI disclosure. Some of the topics we cover in this episode include: When a parter discloses an STI, how do you keep the conversation positive and productive? How do you manage a herpes, HPV, or HIV infection in dating and relationships? Does a partner suddenly testing positive for an STI necessarily mean they were cheating? Where can people go to learn more about managing and treating STIs? You can find out more about Kayley here and connect with her on LinkedIn here. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors!  The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University has been a trusted source for scientific knowledge and research on critical issues in sexuality, gender, and reproduction for over 75 years. Learn about more research and upcoming events at kinseyinstitute.org or look for them on social media @kinseyinstitute. *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Reddit to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.

A lot of people find it hard to talk to their partners about sex in general. But discussing sexually transmitted infections (STIs) specifically can be even more challenging. It is such a fraught topic that many people who have STIs don’t even tell their partners. That’s why I’ve put together a two-part series for you on STI disclosure. In today's show, we're going to discuss how to tell your partner you have an STI. In the next episode, we're going to explore what to do when your partner tells you they have an STI. My guest today is Dr. Kayley McMahan, a sexual health scholar and educator. She serves as the Relationship and Sexual Violence Prevention Coordinator at the University of Tennessee, Knoxville, where she also teaches an undergraduate Human Sexuality class. Kayley recently co-authored a comprehensive review article in the Journal of Sex Research focused on STI disclosure. Some of the topics we cover in this episode include: At any given point in time, how many people have an STI? How many people who have an STI actually disclose this information? What are the main reasons people with STIs don’t tell their partners about their status? When is the right time to tell a partner that you have an STI? What are some strategies for bringing up the subject of STIs with a partner? You can find out more about Kayley here and connect with her on LinkedIn here. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors!  Whether you're just a few dates in or have been together a long time, it's time to lighten the mood and have fun with your partner by using Paired. Head over to paired.com/justin to get a 7-day free trial and 25% off if you sign up for a subscription. *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Reddit to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.

Welcome back to Carnal Knowledge! A weekly rendezvous between sex and science. This week Anna take Jer and Bryde down a deep dark rabbit hole exploring the mating psychology of incels (involuntarily celibate individuals) and challenges some common misconceptions about them. This study explores the three big M's when it comes to incels; Misfortunes, Misperceptions, and Misrepresentations. A conversation that emphasizes the importance of compassion when talking about a group who's beliefs and behaviours stems from deep rooted issues and trauma. Link to studyCitation:Costello, W., Rolon, V., Thomas, A. G., & Schmitt, D. P. (2023). The Mating Psychology of Incels (Involuntary Celibates): Misfortunes, Misperceptions, and Misrepresentations. The Journal of Sex Research, 1–12. https://doi.org/10.1080/00224499.2023.2248096 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What do you get when you mix nerds and sex research? A deep dive into the world of fetish statistics, men's calibration about women's sexual preferences, and the crazy underground world of financial domination. Stay tuned as Aella walks the boys through the world of gangbangs, camming, OnlyFans, escorting, findom, and even live-tests Vaden's wild hypothesis against her huge, thick, dataset. We discuss How to describe what Aella does Aella's bangin' birthday party The state of sex research Conservative and neo-trad pushback and whether Aella is immune from cancellation Are men calibrated when it comes to predicting women's sexual preferences? The wild world of findom (financial domination) Is findom addiction worse than other addictions? Differences between camming and OnlyFans Can a fetish ever be considered self-harm? Plus some live hypothesis testing! Does Vaden's hypothesis survive...? Aella's forthcoming journal based on Rationalist principles References from the ep Aella's good at sex (https://aella.substack.com/p/how-to-be-good-at-sex-starve-her) series Aella's website (https://knowingless.com/) Aella's blogpost on Fetish Tabooness vs Popularity (https://aella.substack.com/p/fetish-tabooness-vs-popularity) "I spent $3,400 in a single day on financial domination": financial-domination addict James (https://youtu.be/8xCjXWDf6Y0?t=745) Clip starts at 12:25 Findom Addicts Anonymous (https://findomaddictsanonymous.org/) Fetlife bans Findom (https://www.reddit.com/r/FemdomCommunity/comments/89yx1n/fetlife_is_going_to_ban_financial_domination_and/) Domme won't let me quit (unethical), addicted to findom, please help | Reddit (https://www.reddit.com/r/paypigsupportgroup/comments/15n8i8z/domme_wont_let_me_quit_unethical_addicted_to/) I don't feel bad for subs that are addicted to findom. (https://www.reddit.com/r/findomsupportgroup/comments/14se62y/i_dont_feel_bad_for_subs_that_are_addicted_to/) Findom References (additional sources used for episode prep that weren't mention in the episode) Random Men Pay My Bills | BBC Podcast (https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p07q42yw) Interview with a Recovering Paypig - A Financial Domination Addict (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N68UT_LYl-Q) FINDOM is not FEMDOM (https://podcast.damianachiphd.com/blog/findom-is-not-femdom/) Confessions of a 'Pay Pig': Why I Give Away Money to Dominant Women I Meet Online (https://archive.ph/Jdyhi) Special Episode on Findoms... | The Kink Perspective Podcast (https://www.everand.com/podcast/694373930/Season-2-Episode-57-Special-Episode-on-Findoms) She Gets Paid Just to Humiliate Her Fans | New York Times (https://www.nytimes.com/2021/04/10/style/findom-kink.html?smid=fb-nytimes&smtyp=cur) Socials Follow us on Twitter at @IncrementsPod, @BennyChugg, @VadenMasrani Come join our discord server! DM us on twitter or send us an email to get a supersecret link Help us put heads in toilets and get exclusive bonus content by becoming a patreon subscriber here (https://www.patreon.com/Increments). Or give us one-time cash donations to help cover our lack of cash donations here (https://ko-fi.com/increments). Click dem like buttons on youtube (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC_4wZzQyoW4s4ZuE4FY9DQQ) Send us $500 and call us your Queen, you steaming pile of s***: incrementspodcast@gmail.com Special Guest: Aella.

In January of 1948, Alfred Kinsey releases his first book, Sexual Behavior in the Human Male, igniting a firestorm of controversy across the United States. As the Professor scrambles to capitalize on his newfound fame and pen a sequel, his methodology comes under attack from skeptical academics and religious conservatives. Meanwhile, Kinsey's research team at the Institute of Sex Research embarks on a series of increasingly bizarre – and politically dangerous – sexual adventures.  SOURCES: Allen, Judith A. The Kinsey Institute: The First Seventy Years. 2017. Brenot, Phillipe. The Story of Sex. 2016.  D'Emilio, John. Freedman, Estelle. Intimate Matters: The History of Sexuality in America. 1988. Donna J. Drucker, “‘A Noble Experiment': The Marriage Course at Indiana University, 1938-1940,” IMH September 2007 https://www.jstor.org/stable/27792817?read-now=1&seq=7#page_scan_tab_contents Gary, Brett. Dirty Works. Obscenity on Trial in America's First Sexual Revolution. 2021. Hardy, Gathorne. Sex: The Measure of All Things: A Life of Alfred C. Kinsey. 1998. Hegarty, Peter. Gentlemen's Disagreement. 2013. Jones, James H. Alfred C. Kinsey: A Life. 1997. Wimpee, Rachel. Iacobell, Teresa. “Funding a Sexual Revolution: The Kinsey Reports.” Jan 9 2020. Rockefeller Archive Center. https://resource.rockarch.org/story/funding-a-sexual-revolution-the-kinsey-reports/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you were a teenage boy in 2008 and you didn't have a “God Bless Sasha Grey t-shirt”, did you even exist? Ever since indie sleaze darling, Sasha Grey, burst onto the porn scene in the mid aughts, its become a bit cooler to say hey, “I watch this.” But while Sasha represented a feminist shift in the industry, her fringe sexuality may have played into a dangerous trend in internet porn. In this episode, Hannah and Maia ask the important question: should Sasha be The Pied Piper of Porn™, or can we find a Sasha grey area? Listen for tangents such as: the Tina Fey-aissance, and Stanley Kubrick's lost film: “Squirt Gangb@ng”.  Support us on Patreon and get juicy bonus content: ⁠https://www.patreon.com/rehashpodcast⁠ Intro and outro song by our talented friend Ian Mills: ⁠https://linktr.ee/ianmillsmusic SOURCES: Dave Gardetta, “The Teenager & the Porn Star” Los Angeles Magazine (2006). Stephen Heymen, “Grey Matter” New York Times (2011). PopMatters Staff, “The New Breed: Sasha Grey, Atelecine, and the New Morality” PopMatters (2010). Rebecca Saunders, “Grey, gonzo and the grotesque: the legacy of porn star Sasha Grey”, Porn Studies, vol. 5 (4) (2018). Karley Sciortino, “Going Deep with Sasha Grey” Slutever (2014). Eran Shor & Kimberly Seida, ““Harder and Harder”? Is Mainstream Pornography Becoming Increasingly Violent and Do Viewers Prefer Violent Content?” The Journal of Sex Research (2018). Brandon Stosuy, “Sasha Grey: Dawn of the Porn Star” The Fanzine (2006).

The quality of a couple's intimacy is one of the most significant predictors of the relationship's health and stability—it's the glue that holds a relationship together. But when couples get   caught up in their day-to-day problems and responsibilities, they can lose track of each other, resulting in the decline of passion and intimacy as time goes on. The lack of intimacy is one of the most common causes of relationship distress and a top reason for divorce. Getting intimate with intimacy in this episode is award-winning sex and relationships therapist, educator, and broadcaster Dr. Rica Cruz. She has a PhD in Psychology and a Diplomate in Clinical Sexology from the American Board of Sexology, the only Filipino to be a part of the editorial board of the Journal of Sex Research.

A deep dive into the manosphere, with the scholar who knows it best, Louis Bachaud. The manosphere is a constellation of 5 loosely affiliated communities, including pick-up artists (PUAs), men's rights activists (MRAs), "Men Going Their Own Way" (MGTOW), incels (the "Black Pill" communiy), and the "Red Pill" community. Louis details the history of the manosphere, describes the current factions and their differences, and guides us through their use and misuse of science, especially evolutionary psychology. The episode opens with a systematic critique of the manosphere, and the interview starts around 34 minutes in. Enjoy. Recommended background, especially for critiques of the manosphere: - Bachaud, L., & Johns, S. E. (2023). The use and misuse of evolutionary psychology in online manosphere communities: The case of female mating strategies. Evolutionary Human Sciences, 5, e28.  For the size and direction of sex differences, see: - Archer, J. (2019). The reality and evolutionary significance of human psychological sex differences. Biological Reviews, 94(4), 1381-1415.  - Stewart-Williams, S., Butler, C. A., & Thomas, A. G. (2017). Sexual history and present attractiveness: People want a mate with a bit of a past, but not too much. The Journal of Sex Research, 54(9), 1097-1105.  - Schmitt, D. P. (2005). Sociosexuality from Argentina to Zimbabwe: A 48-nation study of sex, culture, and strategies of human mating. Behavioral and Brain sciences, 28(2), 247-275.  - Buss, D. M. (1989). Sex differences in human mate preferences: Evolutionary hypotheses tested in 37 cultures. Behavioral and brain sciences, 12(1), 1-14.  For extra-pair paternity: - Wolf, M., Musch, J., Enczmann, J., & Fischer, J. (2012). Estimating the prevalence of nonpaternity in Germany. Human Nature, 23, 208-217.  - Anderson, K. (2006). How well does paternity confidence match actual paternity? Evidence from worldwide nonpaternity rates. Current anthropology, 47(3), 513-520. - Bellis, M. A., Hughes, K., Hughes, S., & Ashton, J. R. (2005). Measuring paternal discrepancy and its public health consequences. Journal of Epidemiology & Community Health, 59(9), 749-754.  For age gaps: - Conroy-Beam, D., & Buss, D. M. (2019). Why is age so important in human mating? Evolved age preferences and their influences on multiple mating behaviors. Evolutionary Behavioral Sciences, 13(2), 127.  - Antfolk, J., Salo, B., Alanko, K., Bergen, E., Corander, J., Sandnabba, N. K., & Santtila, P. (2015). Women's and men's sexual preferences and activities with respect to the partner's age: Evidence for female choice. Evolution and Human Behavior, 36(1), 73-79.  - Buunk, B. P., Dijkstra, P., Kenrick, D. T., & Warntjes, A. (2001). Age preferences for mates as related to gender, own age, and involvement level. Evolution and Human Behavior, 22(4), 241-250.

Dr. Igor Grabovac graduated in Medicine from the School of Medicine, University of Zagreb in Croatia. During his student days, he developed an interest in improving health in vulnerable communities and conducted research on discrimination of LGBT patients and doctors in the Croatian health care system. He has worked for the International Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender, Intersex and Queer Youth and Student Organization (IGLYO) as a member of the Health Working Group, where he was involved with policy and research on access to healthcare for young LGBTIQA+ people in Europe. After a medical internship and obtaining his medical license as a general practitioner, he started working at the Institute of Occupational Medicine, University Clinic for Internal Medicine at the Vienna General Hospital. He has also earned his doctorate in Public Health at the Medical University of Vienna in Austria, where he was the first resident physician in public health in Austria at the Department of Social and Preventive Medicine. Igor also coordinates the Public Health curriculum for undergraduate students in human medicine at the Medical University of Vienna. He is also a co-editor of the recent book, Sexual Behaviour and Health in Older Adults. If you would like to learn more about Dr. Igor Grabovac and his work, go check out his lab, and his research. If you want to catch up on other shows, just visit our website and please subscribe! We love our listeners and welcome your feedback, so if you love Our Better Half, please give us a 5-star rating and follow us on Facebook and Instagram. It really helps support our show! As always, thanks for listening!

We're rolling up our sleeves and taking a deep-dive into the turbulent world of sex education in today's episode. With insights right from the frontline of the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality conference, we're tackling the shocking rise in rough sex, heavily influenced by internet pornography and social media. We share some staggering statistics and discuss these distressing trends with our esteemed guest, researcher Dr. Renee Rena Evans Paulson. She highlights the pivotal role of critical media literacy as a safeguard, stressing the need for open dialogues with young individuals about their digital consumption.Switching gears, we shift focus to the importance of comprehensive sex education and its much-needed societal adoption. Remember GPT-3? We're exploring its potential footprint in sex education, celebrating some successful initiatives like Rhode Island's Department of Health's comprehensive sex ed app, and dissecting a study that reveals the overestimation of sexual health knowledge among college students. Our key takeaway? Comprehensive sex education is not just an option; it's a necessity to bridge the knowledge gap and promote safer sexual behaviors. Join us as we champion the power of research evidence and its crucial role in advocating for comprehensive sex education to policymakers. Tune in, get informed, and help us rewrite the narrative.Follow us on social @sexeddebunked or send us a message at sexeddebunked@gmail.com

The Psychiatric Trauma Effects of War & Coping Styles of Different Israeli Cohorts Prof. Juni delineates the internal defensive coping approaches available to Israeli Jews. Confronted by profound threat to their safety – especially as it may contrast with the safety of Jews in other countries – they basically have three options: 1) To convince themselves thatJews in other countries are not any safer, pointing to antisemitism, reported events threatening protests and/or theorizing about imminent catastrophes in the diaspora; 2) To convince themselves that they are actually safe, relying on various spins about the situation; 3) Resorting to identification with the greater Israeli Jewish population, nationalism, and Zionism,arguing that Jews are safest in our own country where we can defend ourselves – often coupled with religious conviction that G-d has our back. Dr. Juni explains how prolonged tension and repeated trauma can lead to total personality breakdown. Painting the entire world black and dangerous can have debilitating consequences on the ego, well-being, and relationship capacity. In terms of theological effects,Juni adds that people under prolonged stress will start doubting their basic beliefs and commitments – a reaction which makes them feel guilty and disoriented. He points out,however, that such reactions are a very normal part of a positive adjustment which usually passes and often results in a commitment to values which is stronger that it was before the crisis. Juni presents three distinct groups who show different anxiety reaction patterns to the current war and traumatic events: Native Israelis, Dual citizens, and 2 nd -generation Holocaust survivors. Native Israelis are not here by choice and have no escape options – and are forced to“face the music.” Dual citizens – especially those who chose to stay – are apt to start second-guessing their decisions and their resolve, and might feel guilty for endangering their loved ones for an ideal as they second-guess their beliefs and resolve. Second generation Holocaust Survivors may well become convinced that their “never Again” mantra was a sham as they identify with their parents and feel they are re-living the Holocaust they thought they had left behind in past history. More poignantly, these survivors may vilify themselves for betraying their children whom they raised in Israel with the implicit promise that they will be protected from a repetition of anything resembling the Holocaust. For each cluster, Juni outlines the phenomenology of their reactions, the logic and pseudo-logic they engage in, their attitudes,and the stances that help them cope, as well as the effects of their beliefs, their self-image, their fears, and their harrowing anticipations. In terms of intervention, Juni stresses that the main first-line option for these anxiety reactions is psychotropic medication – specifically anxiolytics. What we are dealing with is a chemical/physiological reaction to trauma (anxiety). There is no feasibility of using psychological therapies for people who are in panic mode. Behavioral therapies and talk therapies are often helpful as well, but only after the acute reactions are first brought under control medically. In conclusion, Rabbi Kivelevitz relates his recent experiences in Israel. Having met a number of terror victims' families, he saw firsthand the amazing bravery of spirit and national identification among various sectors of the population which brought out the best in Israelis. Prof. Juni is one of the foremost research psychologists in the world today. He has published ground-breaking original research in seventy different peer reviewed journals and is cited continuously with respect by colleagues and experts in the field who have built on his theories and observations. He studied in Yeshivas Chaim Berlin under Rav Yitzchak Hutner, and in Yeshiva University as a Talmid of Rav Joseph Dov Soloveitchik. Dr. Juni is a board member of the Association of Orthodox Jewish Scientists and has regularly presented addresses to captivated audiences. Associated with NYU since 1979, Juni has served as Director of PhD programs, all the while heading teams engaged in cutting-edge research. Professor Juni's scholarship on aberrant behavior across the cultural, ethnic, and religious spectrum is founded on psychometric methodology and based on a psychodynamic psychopathology perspective. He is arguably the preeminent expert in Differential Diagnostics, with each of his myriad studies entailing parallel efforts in theory construction and empirical data collection from normative and clinical populations. Professor Juni created and directed the NYU Graduate Program in Tel Aviv titled Cross-Cultural Group Dynamics in Stressful Environments. Based in Yerushalayim, he collaborates with Israeli academic and mental health specialists in the study of dissonant factors and tensions in the Arab-Israeli conflict and those within the Orthodox Jewish community, while exploring personality challenges of second-generation Holocaust survivors. Below is a partial list of the professional journals where Professor Juni has published 120 theoretical articles and his research findings (many are available online): Journal of Forensic Psychology; Journal of Aggression, Maltreatment, and Trauma; International Review of Victimology; The Journal of Nervous and Mental Disease; International Forum of Psychoanalysis; Journal of Personality Assessment; Journal of Abnormal Psychology; Journal of Psychoanalytic Anthropology; Psychophysiology; Psychology and Human Development; Journal of Sex Research; Journal of Psychology and Judaism; Contemporary Family Therapy; American Journal on Addictions; Journal of Criminal Psychology; Mental Health, Religion, and Culture. As Rosh Beis Medrash, Rabbi Avraham Kivelevitz serves as Rav and Posek for the morning minyan at IDT. Hundreds of listeners around the globe look forward to his weekly Shiurim in Tshuvos and Poskim and Gaonic Literature. Rav Kivelevitz is a Maggid Shiur for Dirshu International in Talmud and Halacha as well as a Dayan with the Beth Din of America. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

Some folks who frequent kink and BDSM spaces have observed that there seems to be a higher percentage of neurodiverse persons compared to other social settings. So is there actually a link between neurodiversity and kink? In today's show, we're going to dive into a recent study published in the Journal of Sex Research that looks at how neurodiversity, specifically in the form of autistic traits, is linked to engaging in the kink subculture of pup play. I am joined by Liam Wignall, a Senior Lecturer in Psychology at the University of Brighton. He specialises in research on kink/BDSM, looking at the impact of internet and community engagement on identity formation. His recent book, Kinky in the Digital Age, explores how kinky gay and bisexual men navigate kink in contemporary times. Some of the topics we explore include: What does it mean to be neurodivergent? How prevalent is neurodivergence in the general population? What does pup play look like and why are some people into it? Why might there be a link between autism and kink in general? What specifically about pup play might be appealing to neurodivergent individuals? Why is there so little research on neurodiversity and sexuality? You can also check out our article on Liam's recent publication here, and connect with him on Twitter/X here. Thank you to our sponsors!  Earth and Salt offers a curated selection of sex toys, accessories, and gender expression gear to help you access your pleasure, your way. Visit Earth and Salt at earthandsaltshop.com, and use "Lehmiller" as the discount code for 15% off your next purchase.  Expand your sexual horizons with Beducated! Featuring more than 100 online courses taught by the experts, Beducated brings pleasure-based sex ed directly into your bedroom. Enjoy a free trial today and get 60% off their yearly pass by using my last name - LEHMILLER - as the coupon code. Sign up now at: https://beducate.me/pd2343-lehmiller *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Reddit to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.

In today's show, a sex therapist, Melanie Curtin, joins us to discuss our sex lives -  how we can create safer spaces, the importance of sexual communication and she addresses some hot issues such as, does dick size matter?  How many women end a relationship because of dick size?  Why are women more likely to discuss their sexual needs with a fling?  She covers this and a WHOLE lot more, so don't miss it!***** You can find Melanie Curtin @ www.melaniecurtin.com and be sure to check out her podcast - Dear Men! ***** Do you want to be a guest on the show?Do you have a show idea?Email us today at lovesexpodcast@gmail.com!Visit Pink Cherry for some sex toys and explore your wildest fantasies!Join the Love & Sex Facebook Group!Visit the Love & Sex Podcast and support the show by buying us a cup of coffee!Get ED pills at Hims or Roman at much lower price then Viagra, and have them discreetly shipped directly to your house!Support the show

Shownotes   Misunderstandings & truths about female sexuality The path to non-monogomy & women's sexual autonomy How the clitoris & culture intersect How domestication actually decreases female libido What patriarchy is and the social evolution to female autonomy How to unlock your eros for empowerment The best way to get in the mood How old Dr. Wednesday was when she got her first vibrator  And so much more!   Bio   Dr. Wednesday Martin is a social scientist with a background in anthropology and primatology, a feminist cultural critic, and #1 New York Times bestselling author who focuses on gender, motherhood, parenting, and female sexuality. Her book UNTRUE, about female non-monogamy across cultures and species and bias in the science of female sexuality, was a Kirkus “Best Books of 2018/Non-Fiction” selection. The Atlantic called UNTRUE “revolutionary” and “incendiary.”   Wednesday wrote a monthly column, “Sex, Actually” for Refinery29 and was also the sex columnist for Elle Italia. She regularly speaks about female sexuality at universities including Yale, Columbia, Barnard, NYU, USC, UT Austin, The New School, Bicocca University in Milan, and UCAL universities.    Her work has appeared in The New York Times, The Atlantic, The Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy, Cosmopolitan, The Hollywood Reporter, The Times of London, and Psychology Today, among others, and her seven books have been translated into over 20 languages.    Dr. Wednesday has spoken as an expert on BBC Radio, NPR, The Today Show, Good Morning  America, and more. She co-hosted the #1 rated i-tunes relationships podcast, “True Sex and Wild Love,” about sex and open relationships. She is currently working on a book about sexual autonomy and women in their fifties.    Wednesday and her “apartner” Joel have two children and Wednesday is a stepmother of two young women. She lives in Los Angeles and New York City.   TimeStamp 0:00 Intro 2:44 Misunderstandings & Truths about female sexuality 5:25 Layla Martin Email List 6:08 Sex Research: female responsive desire, non-monogomy & sexual autonomy 23:10 Intersection of clitoris & culture, sexual ecology & extra pair copulation 26:31 Layla talks VITA™ Coaching Certification 27:51  Social evolution from patriarchal oppression to female autonomy & polyamory 36:49 Domestication decreases female libido 42:50 What is a patriarchy? 47:24 MOOD - Sex Magic Supplements 48:43 Unlocking your eros for empowerment 50:30 Benefits of rituals 56:17 How to get in the mood 58:25 What do wish the world knew about sex and relationships that still feels hidden? 1:03:01  Adding something new for a powerful experience 1:05:30 Swipe culture is an ecology 1:08:20 Conclusion 1:09:01 Layla Martin 5 min guided meditation   Follow Layla! Website: www.laylamartin.com The VITA™ Sex, Love & Relationship Coaching Certification: https://laylamartin.com/vitacoaching/ Virtual Pleasure School: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://laylamartin.com/virtual-pleas...⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Listen on Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Listen on Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/72iBpAw...⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ MOOD Sexy Plant Activated Supplements: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://shopmood.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ For Men: Learn advanced sexual skills that will make you the best possible lover by unlocking your primal power AND your partner's pleasure in Men's Sexual Mastery - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://hubs.ly/Q01c_Wgx0⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TRUTH AND LOVE COACHING INTERNATIONAL, LLC – VIDEO DISCLAIMER The information contained within this video is for informational purposes only. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this video. Copyright 2023, Truth and Love Coaching, LLC - All Rights Reserved. MB013VDZT2EYP3T MB01IUQWWPCWL37 MB01CBI41GZVPCE MB01Y5QNU5OEFMH

We live in an era where the preferred treatment for most health issues, including sexual problems, is increasingly a pill. However, this medicalized approach frequently overlooks the root cause. At their core, sex problems often stem from feelings of shame or guilt, inadequate sex ed, and mistaken ideas about what's "normal" with regard to sex and the human body. In today's show, we're going to discuss the problem with overmedicalizing sex problems, as well as the tricky business of defining what constitutes a sexual “disorder” in the first place. I am joined once again by Dr. Cynthia Graham, a professor of gender studies at Indiana University and a senior scientist at the Kinsey Institute. She has been editor-in-chief of the Journal of Sex Research since 2009. Her current research focuses on male condom use, hormonal contraceptives, women's sexuality, women's sexual pleasure, sexual problems, and sexual health among older adults. Some of the questions we discuss in this episode include: What do we mean when we say the "medicalization of sex?" How can searching for a biomedical cure to all sexual difficulties be problematic? How has the conceptualization of sexual disorders changed over time? Is it even possible to create objective definitions of sexual disorders? How common are sexual difficulties, really? To stay connected, you can find Cynthia on Twitter. Thank you to our sponsors! Expand your sexual horizons with Beducated! Featuring more than 100 online courses taught by the experts, Beducated brings pleasure-based sex ed directly into your bedroom. Enjoy a free trial today and get 40% off their yearly pass by using my last name - LEHMILLER - as the coupon code. Sign up now at: https://beducate.me/pd2335-lehmiller Support sex science by becoming a friend of the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University. Visit kinseyinstitute.org to make a donation to support ongoing research projects on critical topics. You can also show your support by following the Kinsey Institute on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Reddit to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest and by Mockup Graphics on Unsplash.

Condoms are one of the best tools we have available for protecting our sexual health. However, modern condoms leave something to be desired. It is so easy to point to problems with condoms that make them difficult to use, that increase the odds of making mistakes, and that reduce sexual pleasure. Better education around condoms could reduce some of these problems, but we also need to start building better condoms! So in today's show, we're going to talk all about condoms, including why it seems harder than ever to get people to use them and how to best promote correct and consistent usage. My guest is Dr. Cynthia Graham, a professor of gender studies at Indiana University and a senior scientist at the Kinsey Institute. She has been editor-in-chief of the Journal of Sex Research since 2009. Her current research focuses on male condom use, hormonal contraceptives, women's sexuality, women's sexual pleasure, sexual problems, and sexual health among older adults. Some of the questions we discuss in this episode include: Why is it harder to get people to use condoms today than it was a few decades ago? What are the most common condom mistakes/errors people make? How can we make condom use more pleasurable? Why does it seem so hard to build better condoms? Which interventions are most effective at promoting correct and consistent condom use? To stay connected, you can find Cynthia on Twitter. Thank you to our sponsors! Explore the intersection of sex and technology at this year's Security Sexuality Conference, which will be held October 19th and 20th in Detroit, MI. Securing Sexuality is the premier conference for people passionate about promoting sex positive, science-based, and secure interpersonal relationships. Continuing education credits are available for qualified professionals. Purchase your pass at securingsexuality.com Are you passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you'll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today. *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Reddit to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest and by Mockup Graphics on Unsplash.

This episode has serious Adult Content Prof. Juni is one of the foremost research psychologists in the world today. He has published ground-breaking original research in seventy different peer reviewed journals and is cited continuously with respect by colleagues and experts in the field who have built on his theories and observations. He studied in Yeshivas Chaim Berlin under Rav Yitzchak Hutner, and in Yeshiva University as a Talmid of Rav Joseph Dov Soloveitchik. Dr. Juni is a board member of the Association of Orthodox Jewish Scientists and has regularly presented addresses to captivated audiences. Associated with NYU since 1979, Juni has served as Director of PhD programs, all the while heading teams engaged in cutting-edge research. Professor Juni's scholarship on aberrant behavior across the cultural, ethnic, and religious spectrum is founded on psychometric methodology and based on a psychodynamic psychopathology perspective. He is arguably the preeminent expert in Differential Diagnostics, with each of his myriad studies entailing parallel efforts in theory construction and empirical data collection from normative and clinical populations. Professor Juni created and directed the NYU Graduate Program in Tel Aviv titled Cross-Cultural Group Dynamics in Stressful Environments. Based in Yerushalayim, he collaborates with Israeli academic and mental health specialists in the study of dissonant factors and tensions in the Arab-Israeli conflict and those within the Orthodox Jewish community, while exploring personality challenges of second-generation Holocaust survivors. Below is a partial list of the professional journals where Professor Juni has published 120 theoretical articles and his research findings (many are available online): Journal of Forensic Psychology; Journal of Aggression, Maltreatment, and Trauma; International Review of Victimology; The Journal of Nervous and Mental Disease; International Forum of Psychoanalysis; Journal of Personality Assessment; Journal of Abnormal Psychology; Journal of Psychoanalytic Anthropology; Psychophysiology; Psychology and Human Development; Journal of Sex Research; Journal of Psychology and Judaism; Contemporary Family Therapy; American Journal on Addictions; Journal of Criminal Psychology; Mental Health, Religion, and Culture. As Rosh Beis Medrash, Rabbi Avraham Kivelevitz serves as Rav and Posek for the morning minyan at IDT. Hundreds of listeners around the globe look forward to his weekly Shiurim in Tshuvos and Poskim and Gaonic Literature. Rav Kivelevitz is a Maggid Shiur for Dirshu International in Talmud and Halacha as well as a Dayan with the Beth Din of America. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

Aella is a sex worker, sex researcher, and data scientist.Aella on X: https://twitter.com/Aella_GirlInterviews with ex-prostitutes on the pimp life (Las Vegas)https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eAlXdyjmWUo&ab_channel=PeterSantenelloAn earlier Aella interview with Reason:https://reason.com/podcast/2022/04/27/aella-libertarian-sex-worker-turned-data-scientist/Steve and Aella discuss: (00:00) - Introduction (01:22) - Aella's background and upbringing (12:45) - Aella's experiences as a sex worker and escorting (29:52) - Pimp culture (38:01) - Seeking Arrangement (43:50) - Cheating (46:50) - OnlyFans, farming simps (51:49) - Incels and sex work (56:24) - Porn and Gen-Z (01:12:43) - Embryo screening (01:21:43) - How far off is IVG? Music used with permission from Blade Runner Blues Livestream improvisation by State Azure.--Steve Hsu is Professor of Theoretical Physics and of Computational Mathematics, Science, and Engineering at Michigan State University. Previously, he was Senior Vice President for Research and Innovation at MSU and Director of the Institute of Theoretical Science at the University of Oregon. Hsu is a startup founder (Superfocus.ai, SafeWeb, Genomic Prediction) and advisor to venture capital and other investment firms. He was educated at Caltech and Berkeley, was a Harvard Junior Fellow, and has held faculty positions at Yale, the University of Oregon, and MSU.

Why F*cking Better will Heal the Planet Jamie tries Layla's sexy supplement line MOOD How to Master Scared Union & Polyamory Falling in love with being human The Marvel of the Female Body Diving into Jamie's Sex Research Importance of Foundational Training with Sexuality   ===   0:00 Intro  2:25 Why F*cking Better will Heal the Planet 12:05 Making the Revolution Irresistible  17:20 MOOD: Sex Magic, Play & Ecstasy  22:43 Mastering Scared Union & Polyamory  33:23 What is the “Right” Path? 48:43 Falling Back in Love with Being Human 1:07:06 Enjoying the Mystery of Life 1:15:10 Have Humans Always been Messed Up?  1:29:39 The Marvel of the Female Body  1:31:51 Jamie's Sex Research  1:43:32 Importance of Foundational Training with Sexuality 1:55:30 The Shadow of Experiencing the Ecstatic  2:22:22 Practice: Shifting from the Right Handed Path 2:30:20 Conclusion     ===   Jamie Wheal is the author of the global bestseller Stealing Fire and Recapture the Rapture. He is the founder of the Flow Genome Project, an international organization dedicated to the research and training of human performance.   His work has been featured in prestigious places such as The New York Times, Financial Times, Wired, Entrepreneur, Harvard Business Review, Forbes, Inc., and TED.   Over his incredible career, Jamie has advised the executives at Deloitte, Red Bull, Google, Lululemon, Facebook, TD Ameritrade, Nike, and Goldman Sachs.   He lives high in the Rocky Mountains in an off-grid cabin with his partner, Julie; two children, Lucas and Emma; and their golden retrievers, Aslan and Calliope. When not writing, he can be found mountain biking, kitesurfing, and backcountry skiing.   ===   Follow Layla! Website: www.laylamartin.com Virtual Pleasure School: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://laylamartin.com/virtual-pleas...⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Listen on Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Listen on Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/72iBpAw...⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ MOOD Sexy Plant Activated Supplements: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://shopmood.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ For Men: Learn advanced sexual skills that will make you the best possible lover by unlocking your primal power AND your partner's pleasure in Men's Sexual Mastery - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://hubs.ly/Q01c_Wgx0⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠   TRUTH AND LOVE COACHING INTERNATIONAL, LLC – VIDEO DISCLAIMER The information contained within this video is for informational purposes only. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this video. Copyright 2022, Truth and Love Coaching, LLC - All Rights Reserved.

Listen in as we welcome the award-winning psychologist, sexologist, and professor, Dr. Candice Nicole, for a riveting discussion on her groundbreaking sex research. DB and Dr. Candice explore the fascinating world of sex and pleasure, examining the impact of different partnerships on sexual function. Dr. Candice shares intriguing insights from her research, emphasizing the importance of centering Black people in scientific research for a more inclusive understanding of our sexual selves. Join us as we navigate the complex terrain of ethical non-monogamy, discussing how it varies across different backgrounds. We touch on asexuality within this context, the forgotten free love movement of the 70s, and the pressures of finding 'the one' to fulfill all needs. Don't miss out on this enlightening conversation! —— (0:15:13) - Bridging Academia and Popular Science (0:22:39) - Ethical Non Monogamy and Community Living (0:32:07) - Centering Black People in Sexual Health (0:46:31) - Sexual and Reproductive Health Research Gaps Find more from Dr. Candice Nicole: drcandicenicole.com Dr. Candice Nicole is an award-winning associate professor of counseling psychology at the University of Kentucky, where she studies sexual wellness and liberation. She is the host of F*ck the System: A Sexual Liberation Podcast and How to Love a Human, a liberation podcast that asks people with multiple marginalized identities what the world would be like if it loved them. —— Follow Sex Ed with DB on: Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdb YouTube: Sex Ed with DB Twitter: @sexedwithdb Facebook: @edwithdb Want to get in touch with Sex Ed with DB? Email us at sexedwithdb@gmail.com. —— Sex Ed with DB, Season 8 is Sponsored by: Lion's Den, Uberlube, Magic Wand, and Future Method. Get discounts on all of DB's favorite things here! —— About Sex Ed with DB: Sex Ed with DB is a feminist podcast bringing you all the sex ed you never got through unique and entertaining storytelling, centering LGBTQ+ and BIPOC experts. We discuss topics such as birth control, pleasure, LGBTQ+ health and rights, abortion, consent, BDSM, sex and disability, HIV, sex in the media, and more. —— Sex Ed with DB, Season 8 Team: Creator, Host, Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) Producer and Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen Associate Producer: Sadie Lidji Marketing Coordinator: Kate Fiala

[This blog will always be free to read, but it's also how I pay my bills. So, if you like what you read, please consider a paid subscription. And yes, I do speaking engagements.]You may have heard about the organization Moms for Liberty. It was founded in early 2021 with the initial purpose of advocating against COVID-era protections in schools, like vaccines and mask mandates. Over the past two years, the group has become far more infamous for their support of book bans, censoring any mention of white supremacy, anti-Blackness, and LGBTQ identities in textbooks, and calling for the segregation of LGBTQ students into special classes. The org has ties to the Proud Boys and Three Percenters, both of which, as I'm sure y'all know, are extremist, anti-government groups. This year, the Southern Poverty Law Center designated Moms for Liberty an “extremist” group itself, laying out its active presence within the far-right movement since its launch. The latest round of controversy involving Moms for Liberty is in how they've taken to quoting Hitler, Stalin, and Mao during their events — almost always in the context of pointing out the evils of indoctrinating youth. Moms for Liberty and their defenders will claim that this is being taken out-of-context and that quoting violent dictators isn't meant to defend those dictators but merely implying that their ideology aligns with the far-left, particularly on issues of LGBTQ equality. I don't believe that Moms for Liberty is lionizing Hitler, Stalin, and Mao. I also don't believe that the group has read much into the history of these tyrants, either. Before we get to the meat of all this, let's point out the obvious: reconciling Stalin's role in helping defeat Nazi Germany—and thus, helping to save the Western hemisphere—with his legacy as a mass-murdering piece-of-s**t. I imagine that the following conversation has taken place many times in these conservative homes that so heavily rely on information shortcuts and not so much the depth that history deserves:Teenager: Dad, this Hitler guy seems pretty evil.Dad: He sure was. Your great-grandfather served in the Army. He was part of the Normandy landings. It's because of men like your great-grandfather that we're free.Teenager: That's really cool. I'm proud of him. It was a coalition of countries, right?Dad: That's right. We were part of the Allies. A number of countries worked together to defeat Germany, Japan, and Italy.Teenager: Russia was our ally, right? Stalin?Dad: Well… yes, in that particular war, Russia was our ally.Teenager: So, Stalin helped keep the world free, too.Dad: It's more complicated than that. Yes, Russia helped, but Stalin was evil, too.Teenager: I read that the U.S.S.R. lost 11 million people during WWII, more than 22 times the fatalities of the United States. It sounds like they did a lot more than help.Dad: Look, just shut up, and eat your dinner.Because, it turns out, history is often complicated! We would have lost World War II without the U.S.S.R. and its evil dictator. Stalin was absolutely a mass-murdering piece-of-s**t, and yet, somehow, white Christian nationalists would have their children believe that the U.S. singlehandedly defeated Hitler.We live in an era that has become calcified by information shortcuts following the larger part of a century's worth of relentless propaganda about American exceptionalism and the evils of anything remotely adjacent to Nazi Germany and the Communist movement.There is no room for nuance. If you bring up that the single-day most devastating wartime acts of murdering civilians were carried out by the United States in Hiroshima and Nagasaki, you are a traitor to the brave heroes in uniform who sacrificed everything for our country.If you bring up that Nazi Germany's horrific laws and policies took significant inspiration from U.S. white supremacist laws and policies, you are claiming that the U.S. has a history comparable to what Nazi Germany did — which, given the millions of Black people enslaved and tortured and raped and murdered in our country and the white supremacist laws thereafter via Jim Crow, is fairly accurate.Groups like Moms for Liberty don't want our country's history to be told. They want fairy tales that help them sleep at night, free from the enduring burden carried by the countless millions of descendants-of-enslaved-people in our country.I'm not trying to make anyone uncomfortable here — though, if you'll allow me to say so, discomfort is often a gift because it means we have learning left to do. I wish Moms for Liberty were inclined to examine their own discomfort and take the cue that they have learning left to do, as well.If they did, they would realize that Hitler and Stalin and Mao would absolutely support their indoctrination of children against LGBTQ rights. All three dictators were viciously anti-LGBTQ. Let's take a tour!HitlerLGBTQ people—primarily homosexual and bisexual men—were persecuted by Nazi Germany as soon as Hitler came to power. Thousands of queer people would be murdered in concentration camps and public streets and detainment centers. LGBTQ people who were imprisoned were forced to wear an inverted pink triangle to identity them as “sexually immoral” and thus at odds with Hitler's vision — you may recognize this as the logo of ACT UP, the LGBTQ advocacy group most prominent during the HIV and AIDS crisis. The Institute for Sex Research—the world's first sexology institute, based in Berlin—was raided in the early days of the Third Reich and was an early prominent target of book burnings, its entire archives destroyed by the Nazis.StalinIn 1917, following the Bolshevik Revolution, under Vladimir Lenin, homosexuality was decriminalized by the Soviet government, but under Stalin, it was re-criminalized in 1933, carrying up to five years of hard labor for relations between gay and bisexual men. Interestingly, Soviet propaganda linked homosexuality to Nazi Germany at the same time that Hitler was sending queer people into camps. It's been estimated that up to 1,000 gay men in Soviet Russia were imprisoned annually for their sexual orientation under Stalin's leadership. It was later revealed in declassified documents that he personally ordered an anti-gay law to be implemented. MaoAlthough I haven't found definitive confirmation, there's substantial evidence that LGBTQ people—particularly gay and bisexual men—were persecuted under the rule of Mao Zedong after the Chinese Communist Revolution. Mao supposedly believed queer men should be castrated for their “deviancy,” and in addition to the thousands of gay and bisexual Chinese men who reported systemic discrimination while seeking asylum, there are confirmed reports of gay and bisexual men being forced to undergo electric shock therapy as a treatment for their sexual orientation.There you have it. Hitler, Stalin, and Mao—the triumvirate of conservative boogeyman bedtime story hour—have a lot in common with the Republican Party when it comes to LGBTQ rights. So, while far-right extremists like Moms for Liberty openly quote these dictators in an attempt to fear-monger over the belief that LGBTQ people are trying to indoctrinate kids (never mind that I barely have time to pick up my dry cleaning this week), those same dictators were essentially making the same claims about LGBTQ people in their own time.Can I close with a point that should be painfully obvious to anyone with common sense?Folks like those in Moms for Liberty fall back on some of the most extremist literature written by some of history's most evil people, openly quoting it to their kids, and then pretend that their children are somehow unprepared to read a picture book about a woodland creature with two moms.The entire conservative blogosphere melted down when there was even just acknowledgement of gay anteaters or koalas or whatever the hell in the PBS children's show “Arthur,” but sure, do go on reading whole passages from the Little Red Book or Mein Kampf to your children.By the way, for the millionth time, this has never been about the kids. This is about adults who can't negotiate their own internal discomfort about the world around them or be open to the 8 billion other experiences on this planet and have now put that labor on their children.Your kid is going to learn at some point that some of their peers have two moms or that some of their peers are trans or that they, themselves, are LGBTQ, and that it used to be a lot harder to simply exist as such in most spaces and they're gonna struggle to reconcile the current, positive visibility of LGBTQ people with your hateful propaganda.I say with all sincerity that I pray for your children's health and happiness, that they may find an open heart in you when that times comes — that last bit being for your own sake.Charlotte's Web Thoughts is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.Hi, I'm Charlotte Clymer, and this is Charlotte's Web Thoughts, my Substack. 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Prof. Juni brings a fresh, though disorienting, skepticism about “self-evident” perspectives on good vs. evil, proposing that our world views are totally blinded by our own ideology. Our international prism thus lacks any relationship to reality. Dr. Juni advances his provocative point of view,based on interpersonal psychology, that our perceptions and judgments are secondary to our needs and agenda. Is Putin a patriot or a villain? Juniargues that our individual perspectives – whether you live in New York or in Moscow – have been programmed by sociocultural factors and lack objectivity. To hundreds of millions, Putin and Lincoln are Patriots. Both were presidents of colonial powers. Both defended their amalgamated states against secession. Both engaged in warfare and justified killings based on nationalist values. And both were vilified by those who saw things differently. Donning his Civil War Historian aficionado hat, R. Kivelevitz notes the uneven appreciation by Americans – and even among Republicans -- of Lincoln. While historian Harry Jaffa portrays Lincoln as the sagacious ultimate noble human being, he was decried by many as an unscrupulous dictator and tyrant who wantonly suspended habeas corpus, illegally invoked the War Powers Act, and usurped private property by freeing slaves. R. Kivelevitz drew the parallel between Korach and Putin, citing various rabbinic sources (including Zohar) which feature silver linings about Korach and his constituents. Noting that history is written by the winners, Juni muses, “What would the Chumash look like if Korach had prevailed?” Prof. Juni is one of the foremost research psychologists in the world today. He has published ground-breaking original research in seventy different peer reviewed journals and is cited continuously with respect by colleagues and experts in the field who have built on his theories and observations. He studied in Yeshivas Chaim Berlin under Rav Yitzchak Hutner, and in Yeshiva University as a Talmid of Rav Joseph Dov Soloveitchik. Dr. Juni is a board member of the Association of Orthodox Jewish Scientists and has regularly presented addresses to captivated audiences. Associated with NYU since 1979, Juni has served as Director of PhD programs, all the while heading teams engaged in cutting-edge research. Professor Juni's scholarship on aberrant behavior across the cultural, ethnic, and religious spectrum is founded on psychometric methodology and based on a psychodynamic psychopathology perspective. He is arguably the preeminent expert in Differential Diagnostics, with each of his myriad studies entailing parallel efforts in theory construction and empirical data collection from normative and clinical populations. Professor Juni created and directed the NYU Graduate Program in Tel Aviv titled Cross-Cultural Group Dynamics in Stressful Environments. Based in Yerushalayim, he collaborates with Israeli academic and mental health specialists in the study of dissonant factors and tensions in the Arab-Israeli conflict and those within the Orthodox Jewish community, while exploring personality challenges of second-generation Holocaust survivors. Below is a partial list of the professional journals where Professor Juni has published 120 theoretical articles and his research findings (many are available online): Journal of Forensic Psychology; Journal of Aggression, Maltreatment, and Trauma; International Review of Victimology; The Journal of Nervous and Mental Disease; International Forum of Psychoanalysis; Journal of Personality Assessment; Journal of Abnormal Psychology; Journal of Psychoanalytic Anthropology; Psychophysiology; Psychology and Human Development; Journal of Sex Research; Journal of Psychology and Judaism; Contemporary Family Therapy; American Journal on Addictions; Journal of Criminal Psychology; Mental Health, Religion, and Culture. As Rosh Beis Medrash, Rabbi Avraham Kivelevitz serves as Rav and Posek for the morning minyan at IDT. Hundreds of listeners around the globe look forward to his weekly Shiurim in Tshuvos and Poskim and Gaonic Literature. Rav Kivelevitz is a Maggid Shiur for Dirshu International in Talmud and Halacha as well as a Dayan with the Beth Din of America. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

Links to things mentioned:Sign up for our FREE webinar on June 21!https://us06web.zoom.us/webinar/register/WN_odcOvC0uTzugaA7JvnUe1wOur book The Great Sex Rescue!Join our Patreon and support our work for as little as $5 a month. Plus gain access to our exclusive Facebook group, exclusive merch, and more!Our research methods for The Great Sex Rescue, with FAQs, and a Twitter thread analying our methods by someone we don't even know!Article from The Journal for Sex Research on the motivations for sex and the effects of obligation sexArticle on the emotional work done by women during sex--The Other Third Shift? Women's Emotion Work in their Sexual Relationships

Motives between the Sheets: Understanding Obligation for Sex at Midlife and Associations with Sexual and Relationship Satisfaction Monika Georgieva et al. · https://doi.org/10.1080/00224499.2022.2076278 This study investigated reasons for sex at last sex, with a focus on obligation (an avoidance motivation) and doing something nice for a partner (an approach motivation), and their associations with sexual and relationship satisfaction, while controlling for marital duration, age, and sexual desire. We investigated these reasons among married, midlife Canadian women (n = 324), men (n = 275), and 25 non-binary/gender queer participants 40 to 59 years of age. Darling, Come Lay with Me or Talk with Me: Perceived Mattering and the Complementary Association between Sex and Communication within Marital Relationships Haeyoung Gideon Park et al https://doi.org/10.1080/00224499.2021.2018393 Kovacevic, K.*, Tu, E.*, Raposo, S.*, Rosen, N. O., & Muise, A. (2023). Is spontaneous sex ideal? Beliefs and perceptions of spontaneous and planned sex and satisfaction in romantic relationships. Journal of Sex Research. Not enough early breast cancer survivors on Vag E. – Dr. Menn - ------- Cold S, Cold F, Jensen MB, Cronin-Fenton D, Christiansen P, Ejlertsen B. Systemic or Vaginal Hormone Therapy After Early Breast Cancer: A Danish Observational Cohort Study. J Natl Cancer Inst. 2022 Oct 6;114(10):1347-1354. doi: 10.1093/jnci/djac112. PMID: 35854422; PMCID: PMC9552278. Member question: On the topic of pain with penetrative sex, what can go awry during the healing process from vaginal surgery for hysterectomy and prolapse repairs that might contribute to this? Pelvic floor therapy, lubricants, moisturizers, estrogen and dialators are the armenatarium used but what happens when they are used long term but there is still pain upon insertion even a year out from surgery? NAMS practice Pearl on Testosterone https://www.menopause.org/docs/default-source/professional/practice-pearl-testosterone_.pdf Did you get the You Are Not Broken Book Yet? https://amzn.to/3p18DfK Join my membership to get these episodes ASAP when they are created and without advertisement and even listen live to the interviews and episodes. www.kellycaspersonmd.com/membership

Ante una infidelidad, ¿debo perdonar y quedarme en esa relación? ¿Se puede realmente recuperar la confianza perdida? ¿O lo mejor es acabar con el matrimonio? Sólo un tercio de las parejas que experimentan una infidelidad logran sacar adelante su matrimonio, en este episodio exploraremos qué es lo que hacen estas parejas para lograrlo. Referencias bibliográficas: Shrout, M. R., & Weigel, D. J. (in press). “Should I stay or should I go?” Understanding the noninvolved partner's decision-making process following infidelity. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships. Birnbaum, G. E., Bachar, T., Levy, G. F., Zholtack, K., & Reis, H. T. (in press). Put me in your shoes: Does perspective-taking inoculate against the appeal of alternative partners? The Journal of Sex Research. ResearchGate Stavrova, O., Pronk, T., & Denissen, J. (2022). Estranged and Unhappy? Examining the Dynamics of Personal and Relationship Well-Being Surrounding Infidelity. Psychological Science, 0(0).Mentioned in this episode:¿Realmente estás listo para echar las redes?¡La formación es clave! Sumérgete con Luis Diego en la aventura de seguirte formando como católico en una universidad norteamericana de prestigio 100% en español y desde la comodidad de tu casa: www.centersemillero.comCenter Semillero

I speak to Michael about how trans went from a niche sexual fetish to the next rights revolution, about the common misunderstandings in the field, the differences between male and female sexual orientation, compassion for sexual minorities, and the thorny conversations around pedophilia. Michael Bailey is a psychologist, behavioral geneticist, a professor at Northwestern University, and the author of "The man who would be queen." You can find him on Twitter at @profjmb --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/aksubversive/message

The latest evolution in pornography and erotica is virtual reality (VR), which is making adult content increasingly interactive. Most of the buzz about VR erotica involves taking solo masturbation to new heights. However, it can also be an innovative research method! VR is a way of simulating sex in a lab that can create a level of immersion you can't replicate with 2-D porn. But an even more tantalizing application of VR is in the world of sex therapy. In fact, the future of sex therapy could be all about virtual reality! VR just might be the educational tool we need that also provides a safe space for exploring our sexuality. For today's show, I am joined once again by Dr. Lori Brotto, a Professor at the University of British Columbia, practicing psychologist, and author of the books Better Sex Through Mindfulness and the all-new Better Sex Through Mindfulness Workbook. Some of the topics we discuss include: When scientists study sexual arousal, how do they decide what kind of porn or erotic content to show participants? Why might VR offer a more powerful way of studying arousal in a sex lab than traditional 2-D porn? How does VR impact feelings of "presence" and sexual arousal over and above 2-D porn? How might VR erotica be helpful for treating sexual difficulties? And what kinds of difficulties might this technology be helpful for? What is the future of VR in sex research and therapy? Check it out! To learn more about Lori, visit loribrotto.com and brottolab.com, follow @drloribrotto on IG, and be sure to pick up a copy of her latest book, the Better Sex Through Mindfulness Workbook. Thank you to our sponsors! Give the gift of pleasure with Beducated! They have a whole library of online courses to teach you what you need to know. Treat yourself or a loved one to a subscription this holiday season and get 40% off their yearly pass by using my last name - LEHMILLER - as the coupon code. Sign up now at: http://beducate.me/pd2250-lehmiller Get hard for the holidays with FirmTech! FirmTech's Performance Ring is designed to boost your sexual stamina and give you harder, longer-lasting erections, while also enhancing pleasure. Their Tech Ring has the added benefit of tracking your erectile health. Visit myfirmtech.com and be sure to use my exclusive discount code Justin20 to save 20% off your purchase.  *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Reddit to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.

Dr. Nan Wise is a certified sex therapist, relationship specialist, neuroscience researcher, and author of Why Good Sex Matters: Understanding the Neuroscience of Pleasure for a Smarter, Happier, and More Purpose-Filled Life. Her research has addressed gaps in the literature regarding the neural basis of human sexuality and garnered international attention. Her clinical approach highlights the critical role our evolutionarily wired-in “core” emotions play in physical and mental well-being. Imbalances in these core emotions contribute to anxiety, depression, stress-related disorders, and sexual dysfunction, and anhedonia, or the inability to experience pleasure. This pleasure crisis is evidenced by soaring epidemics of mood disorders, stress-related illnesses, and a widespread sexual recession. Dr. Nan has appeared on  The Today Show and contributed her expert opinion to many media outlets and she writes regularly for Psychology Today and Glamour. In this episode Dr Nan & Cyndi Darnell dig into her research on pleasure and the brain and we explore the relationship between how complex feelings can hijack pleasure - and what we can do to create more pleasure in our lives. You can watch the entire interview on You Tube and leave us a rating and review on Apple podcasts Head to the Erotic Philosopher website  and follow on  Instagram and Twitter Follow Cyndi on Instagram, Facebook , TikTok and Twitter

The science behind keeping the spark alive (and what this really means). Enrich your sex life when you learn the secrets of love and sex research.  Guest: Dr. Amy Muise Highlights  The secret to keeping the spark alive in your relationship How to plan date nights that deeper the connection with your partner What to do when you and your partner have different sex drives Resources for improving your relationship and sex life Resources We Mention:  Dr. Amy's Website Dr. Amy on Instagram Dr. Amy on Twitter Dan Savage Justin Lehmiller Esther Perel Book: Mating in Captivity Eli Finkel Book: The All-or-Nothing Marriage Related Episodes:  Podcast 046: The Secrets to Lasting Marriage and Having the Love You Really Want with Dr. Alexandra Solomon, PhD Podcast 017: How to Turn Relationship Conflict Into Connection with Annie Lalla Podcast 004: How to Have an Awesome Marriage with Adee and Michael Cazayoux Health Resources Healing Hashimoto's Course Thyroid Lab Guide + Tracker (free)  Recommended Non-Toxic Products Connect With Carly: CarlyJohnsonBrawner.com Instagram: @carlyjohnsonbrawner Sponsors: Organifi (Use code Carly for 20% off) Complete Show Notes Here

On this week's episode, Christine and Shannon recap some of the most recent studies in sex and sexuality research across the lifespan from SSSS 2022 in Vancouver, CAN. 

Dr. Leonore Tiefer is a native New Yorker, and an author, educator, feminist, researcher, psychologist, and activist whose work focuses on sexuality. She was a Clinical Associate Professor of Psychiatry at the NYU School of Medicine from 1981‒2018. She has been elected to office and received honors from major U.S. and international sexology and feminist psychology organizations such as the International Academy of Sex Research and the Association for Women in Psychology.Today, Leonore tells us about getting her Ph.D. from UC Berkeley in 1969. As a sexologist, she was studying hormones and sexual behavior in rats. When she got wind of the women's revolution taking place outside her laboratory, she began a deep dive into feminist readings. Thinking about the cultural and social aspects of sexuality completely changed her paradigm. She came to believe that observing rat behavior in a lab could never help us understand how humans think about their own sexual experiences. She changed the direction of her work completely and eventually directed The Campaign for a New View of Women's Sexual Problems to challenge sexual medicalization and Big Pharma trends. That was between 2000 and 2016. New View was a grassroots campaign focused on so-called “female sexual dysfunction” and the growing industry of cosmetogynecology. In 2011 the award-winning documentary on the subject, called “Orgasm Inc.'' featured Dr. Tiefer's work and tracked one drug company's race to develop the first female Viagra.Leonore is also the author of hundreds of research and theoretical papers and book reviews and several books, including Sex Is Not a Natural Act. She's recently taken a keen interest in pediatric gender medicine, which has some familiar elements for Dr. Teifer. Namely, the financial interests of drug companies, over-zealous physicians, well-meaning social justice elements, and eager patients themselves, can create the perfect storm for ethically questionable medicine. You may notice that we had a hard time with Dr. Tiefer's connection, and our editing team did the best they could with the audio. Things do clear up toward the middle of the interview, though. We hope this doesn't become too distracting and we thank you in advance for bearing with us. Dr. Tiefer's insights are so valuable; she is a wealth of knowledge and brings a very human yet analytical lens to the field of sexology.We hope to have her back since there was so much to discuss. Some good bits had to get cut out because of sound quality when we'd just barely scratched the surface. Hopefully, this will be accompanied by another interview in the future. For now, here's our first discussion with Dr. Leonore Tiefer. Links: Dr Tiefer: https://www.leonoretiefer.com/Orgasm Inc.: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Orgasm_Inc.Dr. Vajayjay's! Privatize Those Privates: https://youtu.be/T9kCw0Lmaa0Throw that Pink Pill Away: https://youtu.be/YNouazagUtIDr Tiefer's CV: https://www.leonoretiefer.com/New View: http://newviewcampaign.org/Extended NotesLeonore received her Ph.D. before the women's movement in 1969.She underwent a personal paradigm shift to study the social, cultural, and historical sexuality of women.Being a feminist and sexual therapist offered...

SEX! Sarah and Kelly really do cover everything, including the sex challenges that can arise (or not) from chronic Illness.Dr. Daniela Wittmann joins the Fork to discuss how sex therapy can help those suffering from sexual dysfunction, how medical practices can make it easier for their patients to address what they make be ashamed to admit, and what questions patients and their partners should ask.And Sarah add "repertoire" to her repertoire.Join us on the Unchosen Fork.Guest Speaker BioDaniela Wittmann, PhD, MSW; Department of Urology and School of Social WorkDaniela Wittmann, PhD, LMSW, is a Clinical Associate Professor in the University of Michigan Department of Urology in the University of Michigan Health System. She is an AASECT-certified sex therapist and a sex therapy supervisor. She received her BA Hons. in Russian Studies and Psychology at the University of Keele, Staffs., UK, her MSW at Simmons College School of Social Work, Boston and her PhD in Social Work at Michigan State University. She is one of the leading members in the Prostate Cancer Survivorship Program at the University of Michigan Rogel Cancer Center. She has 30 years of experience in individual, couple and family psychotherapy with patients with chronic illnesses including cancer and severe mental illness. Her research interests include the use of mixed methods to study the effect of cancer on sexual health and the development, testing and dissemination of interventions that promote sexual recovery after cancer treatment. She is currently the PI of a multisite study, funded by the Movember Foundation, aimed at developing and testing an intervention to support couples' sexual recovery after treatment for prostate cancer.Twitter @DrWittmannResourcesJones, A. C., Johnson, N. C., Wenglein, S., Elshershaby, S. T. (2019). The State of Sex Research in MFT and Family Studies Literature: A Seventeen-Year Content Analysis. Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, 45, 275– 295. https://doi.org/10.1111/jmft.12344AASECT (American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists) The Sexual Medicine Society of North America (SMSNA)The Society for Sex Therapy and Research (SSTAR)Will 2 Love - OPTIMIZING CARE FOR SEXUAL AND FERTILITY PROBLEMSRELATED TO CHRONIC ILLNESSES, INCLUDING CANCER. Malecare : America's leading men's cancer survivor support and advocacy national nonprofit organization. Follow the Unchosen Fork:FacebookInstagramTikTokDisclaimer: The contents of this podcast, including text, graphics, images, and other materials created and/or disseminated by The Unchosen Fork are for informational purposes only. The Contents are NOT intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health providers with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition, before beginning a nutritional plan and/or taking nutritional supplements. Reliance on any information provided by this podcast, others content appearing on this podcast, or other visiSupport the show

In 1947, Dr. Alfred Kinsey established the Institute for Sex Research to protect and preserve his pioneering research on human sexuality. Later renamed the Kinsey Institute, the organization founded by Dr. Kinsey has continued his legacy for 75 years. While many other sex research institutes founded by pioneers in the field have shut down, Kinsey has survived by adapting to the ever-shifting sexual landscape and its researchers continue to break new ground in the field. In today's episode, we're going to discuss the past, present, and future of the Kinsey Institute. I am joined by Dr. Justin Garcia, the current director of the Kinsey Institute. Dr. Garcia is an evolutionary biologist and sex researcher whose work focuses on the evolutionary and biocultural foundations of romantic and sexual relationships across the life course. He is also a professor of gender studies at Indiana University and the scientific advisor to Match.com. Some of the topics we discuss include: How did the Institute originally came into existence, and how has its purpose and mission evolved over time? What are some of the biggest scientific contributions made by the Kinsey Institute that have changed the way people think about sex? What is the role of the Institute in preserving sexual and erotic art and history? (Fun fact: the Kinsey Institute is home to the world's largest collection of erotic art and artifacts outside of the Vatican!) What are some of the biggest challenges the Institute has faced over the last 75 years, and what are the modern challenges? What does the future hold for the Kinsey Institute? To learn more about the Kinsey Institute, visit kinseyinstitute.org and follow @kinseyinstitute on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. To learn more about Dr. Garcia, follow @drjustingarcia on Twitter. Thanks to the Cozy Earth (cozyearth.com) for sponsoring this episode! Discover bedtime bliss with Cozy Earth's bamboo sheet set and loungewear. Their temperature regulating and moisture wicking fabric will keep you cool and comfortable all night long--any time of year. Visit cozyearth.com and get 35% off sitewide when you use my exclusive discount code: SEXANDPSYCHOLOGY *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Reddit to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.

In this episode, Amy speaks with guest Zuleyma Tang-Martinez, emeritus Professor of Biology at the University of Missouri - St. Louis.They open by discussing the social function of individual odors and the potential factors driving the evolution of individual recognition systems in animals. Then, they chat about work by Zuleyma (and others) challenging Bateman's Principle, a widely accepted cornerstone of how we understand sexual selection. After the break, they discuss the importance of justice, equity, diversity, and inclusion (JEDI)  efforts within and beyond academia, how the Animal Behavior Society has changed since its founding, and what excites Zuleyma about the future of our field.This week's Two-Minute Takeaway comes from Solimary García Hernández (@GhSolimary), a Postdoctoral Fellow at Universidade de São Paulo in Brazil. She is a behavioral ecologist especially interested in sexual selection, parental care, and defensive behaviors of arthropods. Recently, her research has focused on how and why sexual dimorphism varies among earwig populations, and how food availability affects lifetime reproductive success in harvestman. Learn more about Solimary's work here.Papers relevant to today's show:1. The mechanisms of kin discrimination and the evolution of kin recognition in vertebrates: a critical re-evaluation 2001 Behavioural Processes2. Rethinking Bateman's Principles: Challenging Persistent Myths of Sexually Reluctant Females and Promiscuous Males 2016 Annual Review of Sex Research 3. The history and impact of women in animal behaviour and the ABS: a North American perspective 2020 Animal BehaviourCredits:The Animal Behavior Podcast is created by a team of animal behavior researchers and audio professionals. Come meet us here! We receive production support from the Cornell Broadcast studio directed by Bert Odom-Reed, and financial support from the Animal Behavior Society.

We discuss how George, a former homosexual who once attempted suicide, responds to the deception and onslaught of LGBTQ programming and propaganda; plus the latest push from  the delusion of transgender ideology to pedophilia; We close by exposing an influential sex deviant, bisexual pedophile, Alfred Kinsey. Daily podcast, relevant articles on issues pertaining to Christians and more can be found on Stand Up For The Truth.

Many sex therapists have argued that women's sexual desire is relational, meaning that as long as a woman is in a good relationship and she's connected with her partner, interest in sex should naturally follow. But that doesn't match up with reality. A lot of women with low sexual desire say that their relationships are otherwise perfect. Why is that? It turns out that the things that make for a very satisfying relationship are sometimes at odds with the things that turn us on. So is it even possible to "have it all" in a relationship? Let's talk about it! My guest today is Dr. Marta Meana, a Professor of Psychology at the University of Nevada, Las Vegas.  She is also an Associate Editor at the Journal of Sex Research and the author of numerous academic publications on women's sexual desire. Some of the topics we discuss include: Diversity in how sexual desire is experienced. Why long-term monogamy is hard on sexual desire for everyone, but especially for women. How problems with low sexual desire are generally treated. Why "wanting to be wanted" is at the core of women's sexual desire. Whether it's possible to maintain both intense intimacy and intense passion at the same time. Why women are more likely than men to see themselves as the object of desire in their fantasies. How having more erotic self-focus can benefit women's (and their partners') sex lives. The psychology behind women's forced sex fantasies. Thanks to FirmTech (myfirmtech.com) for sponsoring this episode! FirmTech's Performance Ring is designed to boost your sexual stamina and give you harder, longer-lasting erections, while also enhancing pleasure. Their Tech Ring has the added benefit of tracking your erectile health. Visit myfirmtech.com and be sure to use my exclusive discount code Justin20 to save 20% off your purchase.  *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Reddit to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.

What we fantasize about sexually can say a lot about...well, a lot. Our insecurities, our identity, our culture, the list goes on. And what you might think is some strange niche only you hang out in might be more common than you think! This is the conversation the incredible Justin Lehmiller brought to the table, and I'm excited to share it with you. If you're with a part of any variety, listen in together for some great insights.  Dr. Justin Lehmiller received his Ph.D. in Social Psychology from Purdue University. He is a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of the book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher and scholar who has published more than 50 academic works to date, including a textbook titled The Psychology of Human Sexuality (now in its second edition) that is used in college classrooms around the world. Dr. Lehmiller's research focuses on topics including casual sex, sexual fantasy, sexual health, and friends with benefits. His studies have appeared in all of the leading journals on human sexuality, including the Journal of Sex Research, Archives of Sexual Behavior, and The Journal of Sexual Medicine. Connect with Justin: -Website: https://www.sexandpsychology.com/ -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/justinjlehmiller/ -LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/justinlehmiller -Google Scholar: https://scholar.google.com/citations?user=r3pNkRoAAAAJ -Twitter: https://twitter.com/justinlehmiller -Book: Tell Me What You Want: https://amzn.to/3x1vmvU -Podcast: The Sex and Psychology Podcast: https://www.sexandpsychology.com/podcasts/ Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they're looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this week's edition of Routine Checkup, the fellas sit down with Maria Santaguida. A Ph.D. candidate and lecturer in the Department of Psychology at Concordia University. She specializes in human sexuality, sexual technology, and substance-related sexual risk behaviours. Most interestingly her work also explores space sexology (the scientific study of extraterrestrial sexuality and intimacy) and how we can integrate sex research into space programs. In late 2021, she co-authored an article titled “The Case for Space Sexology”, which is published in the Journal of Sex Research. So... are astronauts doinking? If so, how does one doink in zero-G? These important questions and more on this week's Routine Checkup! *Join the post-episode conversation over on Discord! https://discord.gg/expeUDN

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