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It’s safe to say 2020 was one of the most difficult years, ever, for so many…and these remain very challenging times. That’s why I’m here to ask you… How Can I Help? My name is Dr. Gail Saltz, I’m a clinical associate professor of psychiatry at the New York Presbyterian Hospital, a psychoanalyst, best-selling author, and I’m here to help. Join me every Friday on this podcast where you can ask your most pressing questions and get helpful guidance on topics ranging from coping with anxiety and mood, relationships, to family and parenting issues, to workplace dynamics, to dealing with Covid fatigue, and everything in-between. While it has been a tough time, you don’t have to navigate it alone. So… How Can I Help? You can send your questions anonymously to me at HowCanIHelp@senecawomen.com, and I will answer with specific advice and understanding. 

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    Friends With Money: How Not to Resent Them

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 19, 2024 14:49 Transcription Available


    When a wealth gap opens between you and a friend, it's hard not to be envious or try frantically to keep up. Dr. Saltz tells how to tame those feelings, and keep the relationship intact.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    How Can I Persuade My Daughter Not to Be a Teen-Age Bride?

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 5, 2024 14:06 Transcription Available


    A mother whose daughter wants to marry young knows that love doesn't conquer all. Dr. Saltz tells her how to get the message across while still being supportive.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    When the Pain is Real, But the Disease Isn't

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 22, 2024 16:45 Transcription Available


    Make no mistake: hypochondriacs are definitely suffering—especially from the constant worry about the conditions they think they might have. Negative test results won't necessarily banish the anxiety, but Dr. Saltz reveals what does work.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    Just Because We're Ex-Spouses, Does That Mean We Can't Be Friends?

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 8, 2024 14:14 Transcription Available


    Co-parenting is one thing, but what are the consequences when you develop a deep friendship with your ex? Dr. Saltz helps a listener navigate this tricky and often uncomfortable territory.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    The Case for Having More Sex

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 23, 2024 17:01 Transcription Available


    Too many couples are having too little sex, says Dr. Saltz. She tells how to restart your sex life--because it's good for your physical  health, your mental health, and the health of your relationship.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    The Single-Parent's Guide to Guilt-Free Dating

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 9, 2024 12:28 Transcription Available


    Yes, it's hard to juggle time-restricted schedules, and you may worry that you're shortchanging your child, but you, and your kids, will benefit when you enjoy a strong, adult relationship, says Dr. Saltz.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    Single on Valentine's Day? What Not to Do

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 26, 2024 15:09 Transcription Available


    Don't believe the Valentine's hype, says Dr. Saltz. Don't fall back into old, bad relationship habits. And do remember that love doesn't come only in heart-shaped red packagesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    A New Year's Resolution That Will Never, Ever Work

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 12, 2024 13:14 Transcription Available


    A listener's boyfriend wanted her to make a joint resolution with him: They would each vow to lose 10 pounds in 2024. Dr. Saltz reveals why that type of resolution is doomed to failure—and tells what does work when you're plotting new goals for the new year.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    Dealing With Family Gaslighting Around the Holidays

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 29, 2023 13:06 Transcription Available


    When a woman suffers from a family member's regular gaslighting at the holidays Dr. Saltz advises how to halt that behavior in its tracks and get the holiday back on a better footing.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    When Friends Betray Friends

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 15, 2023 14:20 Transcription Available


    Few things are as hurtful as learning that someone you thought was your friend has betrayed your trust—whether it's bad-mouthing you, sharing your private info with the world or cutting you off socially. Dr. Saltz tells how to get past the resulting self-doubt and determine whether this is a relationship worth saving. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    How to Get Control of Your Emotions

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 17, 2023 14:57 Transcription Available


    Overwhelmed? Consumed by Negativity? Saying Hurtful Things When You Don't Mean To? Dr. Saltz Reveals How to Stop Those Runaway Feelings and Return to Being Your Nice, Normal Self.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    When All the News Seems to Be Bad News

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 3, 2023 15:26 Transcription Available


    Social media and 24/7 coverage of current world events is stressing people out—making them anxious, angry and sleepless. Dr. Saltz tells how some simple habit changes can bring relief.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    A Holiday Guide to Mothers-In-Law

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 20, 2023 14:51 Transcription Available


    How to cope—and keep your sanity—when your spouse's mom tries to take over Thanksgiving, Christmas of any other festivity.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    Caregiver Burnout? Why You Must Put Yourself First

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 6, 2023 18:02 Transcription Available


    Caregiver burnout is a real thing and can result in depression as well as physical health issues. Dr. Saltz tells how to get past the guilt, resentment and fatigue, and make the situation better for you and the loved one you're caring for.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    Crying in the Office? How to Stop It Before It Starts

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 22, 2023 21:21 Transcription Available


    Expressing emotion is not a sign of weakness, says Dr. Saltz. But if crying is hurting you professionally, there are some easy, effective techniques you can use to contain it.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    How to Love Your Body Again

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 8, 2023 14:17 Transcription Available


    Everyone has a body part they're dissatisfied with, but worrying about thigh jiggle and tummy flab is more than just annoying—it can get in the way of a fulfilling sex life. Dr. Saltz advises a listener whose unhappiness over her post-baby weight gain is coming between her and her husband.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    Pick Up Your Knitting Needles or Crochet Hooks: Crafting Is Great for Mental Health

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 25, 2023 14:40 Transcription Available


    And it's not just the yarn arts. Science shows that crafting hobbies in general can boost mood, reduce stress, increase self-esteem, and improve motor skills. Dr. Saltz tells why these pastimes are so good for mind and body. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    Banishing Back-To-School Stress

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 11, 2023 16:33 Transcription Available


    Mean girls and boys, active shooter drills, social media—the thought of these and more can create anxiety as students head back to the classroom. Dr. Saltz tells how parents can set children up for success and happiness in the year ahead.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    There Is a Cure for the Summertime Blues

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 28, 2023 17:10 Transcription Available


    For some people, the warm weather brings nervousness, jitters and a feeling of being at loose ends. Dr. Saltz tells how to cope with the anxiety that can accompany the summer months.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    Introducing: My Vagina Said What

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 27, 2023 1:39 Transcription Available


    Hi, Seneca fans! Seneca and iHeartPodcasts are excited about My Vagina Said What - a podcast dedicated to creating space and educating women about their bodies. Since you love our show, we think you may like this one too. Check out the trailer and decide if My Vagina Said What is your next listen! About: Kris and Andi invite their listeners to pull up a seat to the best friend table as they share their most personal and humiliating body stories. Kris and Andi believe that by talking about all the weird and confusing things we experience with our bodies we will be able to better care for them-but most of all it's just funny! Listen to My Vagina Said What on the iHeartRadio app or wherever you get your podcasts!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    How to Do What You Don't Want to Do

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 14, 2023 19:46 Transcription Available


    Self-discipline is hard for some people: Meeting deadlines, doing unpleasant chores or eating heathy food is a challenge for them. Dr. Saltz tells how to “flip the script” on a lifetime of delay and avoidanceSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    When Ordinary Sounds Set You Off

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 30, 2023 18:29


    For some people, the typical human sounds that other people make—eating, chewing or even breathing—can trigger extreme anger, rage and disgust. It's an actual condition, called “misophonia,” and Dr. Saltz tells how to deal with it.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    Let's Drop the Talk About “Boundaries” and Other Jargon

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 16, 2023 16:59


    If you really want to communicate, forget “therapy speak” and avoid terms like “toxic” and “gaslighting.” Use honesty, empathy—and your own words.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    Introducing Latinas Take the Lead

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 8, 2023 1:49


    Through fun yet intimate and revealing conversations, Latinas Take The Lead hosted by Emmy award-winning journalist Naibe Reynoso, dives into issues modern Latinas face. There are 29.6 million Latinas in the U.S., but many times they feel left out of the conversation. To help understand how Latinas navigate two worlds whose cultures and values sometimes clash, Naibe Reynoso will interview trailblazers like astronaut Katya Echazarreta, entrepreneurs like Sandra Velasquez founder of Nopalera, award winning authors like Reyna Grande, leaders in the community and more. Latinas  are the 200 percenters': 100 percent American and 100 percent Latina.  It's about time… LATINAS TAKE THE LEAD!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    When Parents Burn Out

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 2, 2023 20:10


    The stress of raising a family can lead to exhaustion, anxiety and even emotional distancing from one's children. Dr. Saltz reveals how parents can get the joy back and return to being the kind of parents they were—and want to be again.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    Introducing: Oh My God Particle Show!

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 1, 2023 2:36


    The Oh My God Particle Show! follows Dahlia Wilde's journey back to the large hadron collider at the Centre For Research Nuclear (CERN) in Geneva, Switzerland to meet with the genius female scientists who are doing mind-boggling original work there.  Listen here or on the iHeartRadio app. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    Those Obsessive Thoughts That Keep You Awake at Night

    Play Episode Listen Later May 19, 2023 19:21


    You're lying there in the dark, trying to fall asleep. Instead, your mind is racing with woulda-coulda-shoulda thoughts you can't let go of. Anxiety can lead to insomnia, which can trigger even more anxiety. Dr. Saltz tells how to break this vicious and unhealthy cycle.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    Getting Over Being Ghosted

    Play Episode Listen Later May 5, 2023 16:48


    Ghosting hurts. It can cause feelings of confusion, self-doubt, and a sense of worthlessness. And it can have negative consequences for the person doing the ghosting, too. Dr. Saltz helps a listener move past a ghosting incident—and reveals why ghosting is something we should never, ever do.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    How to Handle Mean Girls and Other Bullies

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 28, 2023 13:12


    Bullying can cause depression and anxiety in children—and in these days of social media everywhere, it's harder than ever to escape. Dr. Saltz has advice for a listener whose daughter now dreads school, and reveals the simple practice that can stop the attacks.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    Introducing: Your Financial Maven

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 26, 2023 1:42


    Hi, Seneca fans! We have a brand-new podcast called "Your Financial Maven," and we think you'll want to check it out. Financial literacy and empowerment are vital for women, and host Samantha Besnoff is here to help. Check out this trailer to decide for yourself if this is your next finance podcast obsession! Show Description: Your Financial Maven is a weekly podcast where you will be challenged to change the way we think about money. April is Financial Literacy Month and what better way to reach out and share than to launch a podcast? I'm Samantha Mittman Besnoff, CPA and host of Your Financial Maven Podcast. My podcast will challenge you to change the way we think about money, our understanding of it, and the effects it has on our lives. It's important to know our money so that we feel financially empowered and less stressed when it comes to our money. As Your Financial Maven, I will be bringing you my insights and expertise as well as through my guest interviews. It's important to think about the psychological aspect of how our upbringing and experiences change how we make spending and financial decisions. I hope you join me each week as we touch on budgeting, taxes, and really anything around money. I've spent over 25 years in the accounting world through a variety of industries including public, corporate, and nonprofit. Listen to Your Financial Maven on the iHeartRadio app and everywhere podcasts are available! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    How Can I Help Season 2 - Coming April 28th!

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 21, 2023 1:19


    Welcome to a new season of How Can I Help with Dr. Gail Saltz! It's 2023 and light seems just about as stressful as ever. And as a result, mental health struggles are still on the rise. That's why I'm here to ask you, how can I help? My name is Dr. Gail Saltz. I'm a clinical associate professor of psychiatry at the New York Presbyterian Hospital, a psychoanalyst, bestselling author, and I'm here to help. Join me every Friday on this podcast where you can ask your most pressing questions and get helpful guidance on topics ranging from coping with anxiety and mood to relationships to family and parenting issues to workplace dynamics, from young person's problems to older persons problems and everything in between. While it has been a rough time, you don't have to navigate it alone. So how can I help? You can send questions anonymously to HowCanIHelp@SenecaWomen.com and I will answer with specific advice and understanding.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    The Nightmares That Keep You Awake at 3 A.M.

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 17, 2023 17:05


    They're frightening and disturbing—and because they disrupt your sleep, they leave you feeling tired during the day. Nightmares are common in adults, but Dr. Saltz has techniques anyone can use to turn bedtime back into a restful experience.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    How to Battle On-The-Job Burnout

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 10, 2023 20:14


    No energy at work? Feeling detached and cynical? Have you lost the sense that you're accomplishing anything meaningful? All are classic symptoms of burnout. If quitting isn't an option, Dr. Saltz has practical ways to not only survive burnout, but even improve your work life.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    What's Worse Than PMS? PMDD.

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 3, 2023 15:50


    Most women have experienced PMS; but if you're spending half the month feeling moody, super-irritable and bloated, you could be suffering from premenstrual dysphoric disorder or PMDD. Dr. Saltz tells how to deal with it.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    Gun Violence, Kids and Schools

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 24, 2023 21:33


    School shootings continue to make headlines—and because of that one listener is reluctant to allow her daughter to attend middle school. Is her fear rational? Dr. Saltz helps this mother put things in perspective and offers practical steps she can take to deal with her  fears.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    I Married a Man Who's Just Like My Dad, and That's a Problem

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 17, 2023 14:45


    Many of us end up with a spouse who reminds us of our mother or father. And that can be nice—until we're catapulted back to old childhood grievances that haven't healed. Dr. Saltz advises a listener who feels like she's dealing with a parent instead of a husband.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    When Your Marriage Clock Is Ticking, Should You Settle For Someone Who's Not Mr. Right?

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 10, 2023 17:45


    A listener knows she wants to get married and have children—but she hasn't found the right guy yet. She wonders if she should marry a man she considers to be more of a friend. Dr. Saltz provides some down-to-earth advice.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    Taking the Fear Out of Flying

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 3, 2023 17:11


    It's an all-too-common phobia, but if fear of flying is keeping you from traveling by air, Dr. Saltz has easy, practical tips that can allow you to relax and enjoy the ride.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    You've Endured a Trauma. Is What You're Feeling Now PTSD?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 27, 2023 24:01


    Shocking, scary or dangerous events can leave you on edge, depressed, sleepless and unfocused. PTSD can happen to anyone, of any age and circumstance. Dr. Saltz advises a listener who thinks she may have the disorder—and tells how to recover from a traumatic event, whether or not the diagnosis is actually PTSD.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    How to Find ­a Therapist—One That's Just Right for You

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 20, 2023 20:43


    You could be battling anxiety or depression or psychosis, sleeplessness or overeating—no matter what the problem, there's a therapist who can help. But who? Do you need a medical doctor, a clinical social worker, a psychiatrist—or something else? Dr. Saltz offers guidelines to help you choose.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    Why Dry January May Be Just What You Need

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 13, 2023 17:25


    If you drank more than you should have over the holidays, or if you have questions about how much you're imbibing in general, this could be the perfect time to reassess and reset your relationship with alcohol. Dr. Saltz tells how to get the most out of Dry January.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    Does Grief Ever Go Away?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 6, 2023 24:25


    Losing a spouse or other loved one can result in a range of emotions including despair, sorrow and anger. And those feelings can last longer than you might expect. Dr. Saltz advises a listener who recently lost her father—and is worried about the profound grief of her mother.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    The Cure for a Blue Christmas

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 16, 2022 16:28


    This time of year can leave us particularly vulnerable to feelings of loneliness and social isolation. A listener who just broke up with her boyfriend gets great advice from Dr. Saltz—and the doctor's tips can do wonders for anyone who's experiencing the holiday blues. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    The Most Wonderful Time of the Year? Not for Some People

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 9, 2022 21:52


    Presents to buy. Extra meals to prepare. Out-of-town relatives to deal with. And it's all happening when there's less daylight and a greater chance of cold, wet weather. No wonder the holidays provoke anxiety. Dr. Saltz has great advice on how to keep it all together—at least until 2023 rolls around.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    The Emotional Cost of Infertility

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 2, 2022 26:34


    Being unable to bring a baby into the world can lead to a wide swath of emotions—sorrow, jealousy, anger and depression among them. Dr. Saltz advises a listener who feels all those things, as well as regret at not having started a family sooner.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    When Seasons Change, Some People Get Sad and Sadder

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 18, 2022 21:35


    For some, the shorter days bring general unhappiness characterized by low energy, excess sleeping, and overeating carbs. Call it the winter blues, the blahs—or Seasonal Affective Disorder. Dr. Saltz reveals how to tell if you have this common malaise—and how to treat SAD until the sun comes back.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    Friends: How to Keep the Good Ones, Discard the Bad Ones and Make New Ones

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 11, 2022 24:38


    Having an authentic friendship can improve your health and wellbeing—and even extend your lifespan. Toxic friendships can do the opposite. Dr. Saltz tells how to cultivate new friendships as an adult, ensure that you're a good friend to your existing companions, and end the relationships that just aren't working out. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    Holidays, Politics and Family Fights

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 4, 2022 20:23


    The holiday season that starts with Thanksgiving comes with an extra helping of anxiety this year, as the latest elections present a fresh opportunity to renew family feuds over politics. How to defuse the tensions so everyone can enjoy the meals and camaraderie? Dr. Saltz has some excellent ideas. (Hint: Advance planning helps.)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    Trouble Sleeping? Here's Help for the 40 Million of You Who Say ‘Yes'

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 28, 2022 22:09


    It's a familiar tale: You're exhausted from a long day at work, but once in bed, you can't nod off. Anxiety is just one reason so many Americans struggle with long-term sleep issues. Dr. Saltz provides sure-to-help advice on how to calm an anxious mind and get the good night's sleep you deserve.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    High Anxiety: What to Do if You're Having Panic Attacks

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 21, 2022 20:59


    A feeling of terror. Sweating. Dizziness. Chest pains. A panic attack can be scary—although rarely dangerous. Dr. Saltz tells how to distinguish between isolated attacks and a true panic disorder—and offers ways to deal with both.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    Things That Go Bump in the Night

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 14, 2022 22:32


    It's the spooky season! Dr. Saltz tells how to help children deal with the fears that arise around Halloween and explains how kids can still have fun, minus the scarier elements.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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