Real Relationships With Paula

Niche Radio — Kelebogile Makhafola, the Rain Queen of Maruapula Brand shares her insights with us on why a Brand needs to have an essence, what that says about your brand and how that creates the relationship you have with your customers and how they will treat you as a brand. Twitter: https://twitter.com/maruapulabrand Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maruapulabrand/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/maruapulabrand Follow me on social media: LinkedIn FaceBook Twitter Instagram Google+ twitter.com · www.instagram.com · www.facebook.com

Niche Radio — Dr Nikki Stamp is one of one of eleven female heart surgeons in the whole of Australia. We chat about some of the challenges she has had to face in getting to where she is today, why heart health is important and her new book ‘Can You Die of a Broken Heart’. Twitter: @drnikkistamp Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drnikkistamp/ Follow me on social media: LinkedIn FaceBook Twitter Instagram Google+ twitter.com · www.facebook.com

Niche Radio — Dynamic duo Ann Kleyhans and Christian Heath have teamed up to form Global Unite, a world movement and NPC to promote world peace and aims to inspire, encourage and influence not only states and organisations but people throughout the globe to encourage “Change or to be Changed”. Christian wrote the theme song “ONE” and we chat about their vision and how you can get involved to support the cause. Twitter: @globalunite1, @ChristianHth, @KleynhansAnn Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/globalunite/ twitter.com · twitter.com · twitter.com · www.facebook.com

Niche Radio — Medina Harverye founder of Dandelion Breeze shares her passion of empowering young entrepreneurs through her business by mentoring and uplifting them to excel for true transformation. We are also joined by one of her young dandelions Zizo Tshwete who shares her experience of being exposed to this energetic and thriving space to shine as a business entrepreneur in her own right. Twitter: @RealZizoBeda, @Dandelionbreez1 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dandelionbreezesouthafrica twitter.com · twitter.com · www.facebook.com

Niche Radio — Robbie Strang heads up Execurflora, plant specialists focusing on bringing the outdoors indoors. We chat about leadership, keeping staff motivated, building relationships with team members, overcoming challenges in the workplace and that office plants offer a much more valuable role than just aesthetics – they are key to our wellbeing. Twitter: @ExecuFlora‏, @RobbieStrang ‏ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Bidvest.Execuflora/ Follow me on social media: LinkedIn FaceBook Twitter Instagram Google+ www.facebook.com · twitter.com

Niche Radio — Caitlyn Jenner’s coming out has put a spotlight on transgender issues. This week I speak to Hannah who is going through her own transition journey and shares some of the challenges faced by the transgender community at large as well as her own personal struggles in her journey and that at the end of the day her biggest wish is to just be accepted as another human being trying to live her life.

Niche Radio — Ernst & Young founded the EY Women Athlete Business Network to help professional female athletes transition from the sport field to the business field. Holly Humphrey shares the vision of the EY WABN and the role it plays in the lives of female athletes worldwide. Twitter: @EYWomenAthletes Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/womenathletesnetwork/ Follow me on social media: LinkedIn FaceBook Twitter Instagram Google+ Facebook · Twitter

Niche Radio — Serge Toulekima is an energy and business consultant who has worked on several continents. His recently published book “The Road Less Traveled: Discovering Success Through Failing” is a tale of failure, friendship and triumph through learning. He shares his insights with us on the importance of corporate culture and the keys to building a high-performance business culture. Twitter: @sergetoulekima twitter.com

Niche Radio — Barbara Abramson works with both the youth and senior citizens on how to make meaningful connections through utilising your 5 senses in order to live a more purposeful life. In any endeavor, our WHY is what drives us and what draws others to us, Barbara helps individuals and understand their motivations and connect with their personal why in order to live a life of adventure. Twitter: @BarbAbramson FB: https://www.facebook.com/barbabramson FB: https://www.facebook.com/MakingMeaningfulConnections www.facebook.com

Niche Radio — Renny Letswalo is the chairperson of Cambridge Weight Plan South Africa and shares her journey of having to lose weight for health reasons which propelled her into wanting to help others achieve their weight goals, live a healthier lifestyle and how our relationship with food plays a large role in our lives and overall wellbeing. Twitter: @CWPSA FB: https://www.facebook.com/cambridgeweightplansa/ Follow me on social media: LinkedIn FaceBook Twitter Instagram Google+ www.facebook.com

Niche Radio — Lushia van Buuren founder of Luelle Consulting shares with us the role relationships play when it comes to recruiting and how to ensure you are the perfect fit for a job and how to ensure you find the perfect candidate and how LinkedIn has helped her build her network. Website: http://www.cambridgeweightplan.co.za/ Twitter: @CWPSA Follow me on social media: LinkedIn FaceBook Twitter Instagram Google+ www.cambridgeweightplan.co.za

Niche Radio — Teaching children about the value of money from an early age will empower them to make sound financial decisions throughout their lives. Kathryn Main, founder of Money Savvy Kids share with us why it is important to raise money savvy kids and how to go about doing this in creative and innovative ways and how this equips them in their adulthood. Website: http://moneysavvykids.co.za/ Twitter: @MoneySavvyKids1 Follow me on social media: LinkedIn FaceBook Twitter Instagram Google+ moneysavvykids.co.za

Niche Radio — How many times have you said yes or committed to something and later regretted it? Why do we find it so hard to say no when deep down we really want to? Why do we do this to ourselves? Usually it is because we fear letting people down or disappointing them, when in fact we end up letting ourselves down for not standing firm and speaking our truth. If you are interested in getting a copy of my book Embracing Conflict - a self-help guide filled with practical exercises and tools for personal growth and development, you can find more details on my website. Follow me on social media: LinkedIn FaceBook Twitter Instagram Google+

Niche Radio — Many of us are chasing the elusive work/life balance in the hope that we can start living life. However work life balance is a myth as they are very much integrated and it’s finding the balance that works for you, your family and your lifestyle. This we we discuss how you can achieve a balance that works for you by prioritizing the 12 core areas of your life and the small changes you can make to shift your life into a balance that leaves you feeling in control of your life instead of the proverbial hamster on the wheel feeling.

Niche Radio — Regina Huber’s book Speak up, Stand out and Shine – Speak Powerfully in Any Situation aims to empower people to speak up in any situation whether it’s presenting, in meetings or speaking on stage. As a Transformational Leadership Coach, she has a passion for driving diversity in organisations supporting the view that organisations with at least 30% of women in leadership positions have 6% higher profits. We chat about her mission to drive female advancement so we can all benefit from more diverse leadership teams and that gender diversity doesn’t only favor women, it also positively impacts organizations and communities, and therefore the economy and society at large. Speak up and shine

Niche Radio — Being single on Valentine’s day doesn’t mean it has to be a day of misery for singletons. Yes the talk about love, red roses and heart shaped chocolates may stir up memories of our past beloved but that doesn’t mean you should go back to your Ex, especially if the reason is that you don’t want to be alone or lonely on this special day. There was a reason you broke up in the first place and those reasons are still there and we discuss the pro’s and cons as to what you need to consider should you want to connect with your Ex again. You can also download the free Perfect Partner template here to help you discover what you should be looking for when it comes to that special one.

Niche Radio — We never think that our lives can change in an instant until it does. Rhonel and Julius chat to me about their experience of when their 3yr old daughter drowned in their swimming pool and how they have had to adapt their lives ever since, the challenges they have had to face together living with a special needs child and still draw on each other for support and strength. Blog: www.rhonel.com FB: https://www.facebook.com/IamRhonel/We never think that our lives can change in an instant until it does. Rhonel and Julius chat to me about their experience of when their 3yr old daughter drowned in their swimming pool and how they have had to adapt their lives ever since, the challenges they have had to face together living with a special needs child and still draw on each other for support and strength. Blog: www.rhonel.com FB: https://www.facebook.com/IamRhonel/ www.rhonel.com

Niche Radio — Partners for Possibility is a creative solution to South Africa' education crisis - it is a co-action, co-learning partnership between School Principals and Business Leaders, enabling social cohesion through partnerships, and empowering Principals to become change leaders in their schools and communities. The Partners for Possibility Programme facilitates cross-sectoral reciprocal partnerships between Business, Government and the Social Sector - so far 672 business leaders across South Africa have said YES to serve in 672 under-resourced schools across South Africa and be change agents for future generations. Twitter: @PfP4SA Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/partnersforpossibility/ Twitter for PfP4SA · Facebook

Niche Radio — Career choices can be difficult at the best of times but when you try and make your way in what is predominantly known as a man’s world to become the first black female helicopter pilot in South Africa, it’s going to be a challenge in more ways than one. Refilwe Ledwaba shares her journey and the lessons she has learnt along the way. Twitter: @Women_aviation1 www.twitter.com

Niche Radio — We’ve managed to navigate our way through the December holidays, some successfully others maybe not so much. A new year brings an ideal time and opportunity to reflect on our life and our relationships, what worked, what didn’t work and how can we make the necessary and sustainable changes we want? Just as you take your car in for an annual service and check-up so too should you consider doing the same for your relationship. Every professional sportsperson and team has a coach to help them achieve their performance goals so why shouldn’t you do the same for your own personal and relationship goals? If you want to know more about the programs discussed in this podcast, you can find details about the Mancave Mastermind Program starting on Thurs 18 Jan 18.30 and the Womenology Masterclass starting on Tues 16 Jan 18.30 on my website or pop me an email to paula@paulaquinsee.com. Follow me on social media here: FaceBook Twitter Youtube Google+ LinkedIn

Niche Radio — The festive season and holidays is a time to be happy, to have fun and a time for family. But this is not always the case, being in each other’s space, overindulging and overspending can bring frustration and conflict. This week I speak to Nuala, Pam, Patrick and Michelle about what the holiday’s means them, managing expectations and family time. As the year comes to a close, it’s an ideal time to reflect on the year, what’s worked, what can be improved upon and the intentions you want set for 2018. Wishing you all a wonderful festive season, happy holidays, may you have peace, joy and love around you and your loved ones and safe travels to those going away. Follow me: FaceBook Twitter Youtube Google+ LinkedIn

Niche Radio — Gas-lighting is an effective form of emotional abuse that causes a victim to question their own feelings, instincts, and sanity and is generally carried out to give the perpetrator a sense of power and control over their victim. The term originally comes from the 1938 stage play Gas Light, in which a husband attempts to drive his wife crazy by dimming the lights which were powered by gas in their home and then denies it happened when his wife questions him. Even though the term has been around for a while, the term narcissism is more widely used. Chances are if you have been involved with a narcissist, you may well have been gas-lighted. The movie “The Girl on the Train” is a good example of this behaviour. If you’re looking for ways to develop yourself, have a healthy sense of self and your own boundaries, then you may want to consider signing up for my Mancave Mastermind or Womenology Masterclass programs. The program is a 6-month personal growth and development program ultimately empowering individuals to become a better person, partner and leader. The next groups kick off in Jan 2018 and has been a life changing program those that have attended to date. Click here for more details. PS. Niche Radio won Lifestyle Blog last year and is in the running for Blog of The Year again in 2017. Please help us by voting for us here.

Niche Radio — The global workplace landscape is changing substantially with more working flexibility to cater for lifestyle choices, family responsibilities and technology which is making it easier for us to do business anywhere and anytime all over the world. I speak to Phillipa Geard, founder of RecruitMyMom, a recruitment agencies specializing in flexi working assignments and paving the way for women to manage both their family responsibilities and careers. Twitter: @RecruitMyMom Click here to find out more information about the Womenology Masterclass, a 6-month personal growth and development program for men ultimately helping them to become a better person, partner and leader. The next group that kicks off on 16 Jan 2018 and has been a life changing program for the men that have attended to date. You can follow me here: FaceBook Twitter Youtube LinkedIn Recruit My Mom

Niche Radio — Tom Chapman is an inspirational barber who has set up his own men’s mental health awareness and suicide prevention movement, named The Lions Barber Collective. He is turning barbershops into safe spaces for men using the opportunity of a regular haircut to start conversations around mental health. Tom organises a professionally run training programme teaching barbers to recognize and listen to clients about the challenges they are facing – he has been awarded a 'Point of Light' Award by Prime Minister Theresa May in recognition of the impact his initiative is having. Click here to find out more information about the Mancave Mastermind program, a 6-month personal growth and development program for men ultimately helping them to become a better person, partner and leader. The next group that kicks off on 18 Jan 2018 and has been a life-changing program for the men that have attended to date.

Niche Radio — Samantha Evans co-founded Jo Divine an online sex toy platform with her husband 10 years ago. She has used her nursing background to write about sexual health issues in a practical way to talk about sexual health and pleasure educating people and healthcare professionals about sex products that can potentially damage your sexual health and impact your relationship as well as the benefits thereof. (Twitter - @SamTalksSex and @jodivine) Black Friday Special! Get 10% off when booking your seat on the upcoming Building Relationships Workshop on Sat 25 Nov 13:30-17:00 applicable to both singles and couples. Understand what it takes to make a relationship work, why previous relationships haven’t worked and how to build your relationship to last a lifetime. Coupon Code: BRJHB2711 this week only, valid til Fri 24 Nov 2017. You can follow me here: Twitter Youtube Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn

Niche Radio — As newly-weds, it should be one of the most joyous times of your relationship as you get to know each other better on many levels, build the intimacy and build your relationship. But when crisis strikes in your sex life, it can have a large impact on both your intimacy and your relationship. Mignionette shares her journey on how having painful sex impacted her relationship, the diagnosis and how they have overcome this together and the surprise ending. Follow her journey on her blog Fair Lady You can follow me here: Twitter Youtube Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn

Niche Radio — Mireille Toulekima founder of Mireille Toulekima Global Leadership is a successful engineer, published author, mentor, wife, mother and so much more. I chat to her about her exciting, inspiring and motivating journey about making it in a man’s world in the gas and energy sector as well as her new book ‘Stepping Into your Greatness – 12 rules for building an Outstanding Life’. You can find out more about her on her website and on Facebook Follow me on social media here: FaceBook Twitter Youtube Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn

Niche Radio — Repeatedly raped, drugged and held captive in a human trafficking syndicate to be shipped off to Thailand, Thandeka is the founder of the #Enuf brand. At just 23yrs old, she has endured what some can only describe as something out of the movies – Taken with Liam Neeson comes to mind. Her scars are deep but she has is determined not to let this get her down and to provide a voice for other survivors of abuse. #survivorsvoice Follow me on social media here: FaceBook Twitter Youtube Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn

Niche Radio — Ian Fuhr founder of South Africa’s leading beauty salon group Sorbet is passionate about customer service and putting people before profit. He also believes that the purpose of work is to serve, not to make money, and that service should always come before reward. I chat to Ian about the importance of building relationships, his life lessons and the importance of having a mentor. Please follow me on social media here: FaceBook         Twitter               Youtube            Google+ LinkedIn

Niche Radio — There are leaders and then there are leaders. Wila D’israeli Mung’omba is one such leader who was a very refined person, likeable human being and gentleman with a distinct presence. His daughter Chitupa Mung’omba recently published a book Africa Leadership Legacy in is honour and chats to us about her vision of the book being used as a key leadership resource manual around the world and to prompt current leaders as to the legacy they are looking to impart to future generations. You can find more info about her work and book on her website here. Please follow me on social media here: Twitter Facebook Youtube Google+ LinkedIn

Niche Radio — Often our fears are the very things that hold us back through our limited thinking and beliefs. It’s the stories we tell ourselves about not being good enough, not being worthy of or deserving success, fearing our partner is going to leave us or cheat. Gosnia Gorna has just published her book My Expansion Game which is about turning the biggest fears into the success. It was born during one of her sessions where a client cried for over an hour because she was scared of dying of cancer - she was only 24 years old. You can find more info about her work and book on her website here. Please follow me on social media here: Twitter Facebook Youtube Google+ LinkedIn

Niche Radio — When it comes to sex and intimacy, couples can get into a rut and sex can become boring. One of the areas that is frequently neglected is foreplay. Foreplay is key to a the success of a relationship and having a mutually satisfying sex life. This week we discuss how to have fabulous foreplay and some insights into how you can do this..

Niche Radio — When we lose someone dear to us, it can feel like the rug has been ripped out from underneath us and our world has turned upside down. No one can even begin to describe the pain and void one feels when losing a loved one – it’s a journey that only you know. Everyone’s journey and healing process is different. This week I speak to Patrick who shares his story of losing his girlfriend in a car accident.

Niche Radio — According to the 2016 Global Sex Study conducted by Durex, the proportion of respondents saying they have the freedom to practise their sexual rights varies from country to country, with 75% of respondents from around the world agreeing they have the freedom to practise their sexual rights. The Global Advisory Board for Sexual Health and Wellbeing (GABSHW) focuses on advocating for greater attention to the relationship between sexual health, sexual rights, and sexual pleasure in all domains. Experts from around the world have joined forces to understand the links between sexual pleasure, sexual health and sexual right. This week I speak to Dr Tlaleng Mofokeng who is a member of the board and she shares the board’s vision and her views with me. If you want to take your relationship from good to great, book your seat on the Building Relationships workshop for singles and couples on 30 Sept May 2017.

Niche Radio — Being and entrepreneur is not for the feint hearted. It can be a very lonely journey and it can be very stressful at times. Maintaining a healthy work/life balance is key to our personal wellbeing as well as the overall success of the business. This week I speak to Phillip Knibbs of K2 Capital who shares his insights and journey of his business, how he manages stress, the importance of boundaries and dealing with uncertainty. Please follow me on social media here: FaceBook Twitter Youtube Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn

Niche Radio — There are 6 key relationships we have throughout our lifetime: self, partner, family, friends, peers and spiritual. How we show up in our relationships and what we bring into our relationship space will determine the health and quality of our relationships. This week I share tips and insights on each of these areas as to how we can empower ourselves and improve these relationships to ultimately live happier and healthier lives. The happier and healthier our relationships, the more loved and fulfilled we feel in life as a whole.

Niche Radio — Relationships are complex at the best of times but when you take a single person, match them with a complete stranger, let them meet for the first time at the alter when they say “I do”, one can only imagine how this marriage will turn out. Arranged marriages are not an uncommon phenomenon, they happen primarily in the indian community and some black cultures but have been around for decades. Many of you may know I am on the panel of experts for Married at First Sight SA and this week I speak to Lihle from MAFSSA Season 1 about her journey on the show and the insights she’s gained as a result thereof. You can follow me here: Twitter Youtube Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn twitter.com

Niche Radio — More than 20% of children will have a mental health issue at some point in their lives—but parents often don’t recognize or admit their child needs help until an average of 8 years after the first symptoms – frequently when they have reached a state of crisis. Today I speak to Dr Kurt Newman, who is president and CEO of Children’s National Medical Center in Washington, D.C. and is widely recognized as one of the nation’s best pediatric hospitals. Dr Newman has been a surgeon at Children’s National for over thirty years and is a professor of surgery and paediatrics at George Washington University School of Medicine & Health Sciences. His recently published book Healing Children is the story of his own career and of the brave kids he has treated over the years—and their equally brave and tenacious parents. Anyone who has seen a child recover from a wound or a broken bone knows that kids are made to heal. Their bodies are more resilient, more adaptive, and far more able to withstand acute stress than adults. You can read more about Dr Newman’s book Healing Children here You can follow me here: Twitter Youtube Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn

Niche Radio — Our “Ego” is an identity of our own construction, an identity which is ‘not real’. If we take all the perceptions of what we are i.e. our beliefs about our personality, talents, and abilities – then we have the structure of our ego. It is reactive based on our past experiences or frame of references and plays and immense role in creating the emotional drama in our lives. The ego hides behind the “I” and “me” in the thoughts and statements we have about our identity (e.g. I’m not clever enough, pretty enough, capable etc). Every time we compare ourselves to external references (i.e people, situations or things) we are reinforcing or ego and the beliefs we have about ourselves. And where did these thoughts originate from? Well, our childhood. When we were kids, perhaps when we were teased on the playground or reprimanded or praised by a teacher or parent and this is where we started forming this perception of our ‘self’. As adults, we need to stop and take a reality check against our “Ego” which has served us a purpose up until now and that is to protect us and keep us safe by limiting ourselves. Listen to my latest podcast on understanding our “Ego”

Niche Radio — Relationships are challenging at the best of times but add extra complexities to that such as being bisexual, and it can get a lot more complicated. There is no particular lifestyle attached to bisexuality - bisexual people come in all shapes and sizes, from all sorts of occupations, and with all levels of education. Your sexual orientation does not determine who you are or what you do, however many people suffer discrimination or violence because of misperceptions and prejudice from people who are straight, gay, or lesbian. Most of these perceptions come from the ‘unknown’ in other words majority of us are afraid to ask questions to satisfy our curiosity and when we do this, we gain more insight and a deeper understanding of the topic and person(s) involved. This week I chat to Patrick who is black, male and bisexual to help us understand more about the world he lives in. You can follow me here: FaceBook Twitter Youtube Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn

Niche Radio — Let’s face it, discussing budgets and finance is not romantic and who wants to do that when you’re in love and having fun? One area that many couples get stuck in their relationship is finances and if left unresolved, it can cause frustration, resentment and ultimately lead to the breakdown of the relationship. Couples need to have an honest conversation before they take their relationship to that next level where they decide to move in together or get married. This week I talk to Money Coach Winnie Kunene from Married at First Sight SA TV show on why it’s important for couples to discuss their finances and how to go about doing it. Twitter - @WinnieKunene

Niche Radio — As a teenager growing one, one of the first things you can’t wait to achieve is getting your driver’s license followed closely by moving out of home into your own place so that you can live life the way you want and not have to conform to your parent’s rules and restrictions. However there comes a time when you may be forced to move back into with your parents and that can be quite a transition for both you the one moving back home as well as your parents – each party having established their routines whilst on their own and now having to integrate lifestyles, schedules and differing views and opinions. If not managed properly, it can lead to conflict and clashes amongst family members.

Niche Radio — There is a common perception out there that men don’t talk about how they are feeling or what they are going through when faced with a challenging or trying time in their life. This predominantly comes from a childhood where men were conditioned from a young age that it was not ok for men to show emotion as it was considered ‘weak’ men are supposed to be ‘tough’ and ‘cowboys don’t cry’. Traditionally men would go to the pub for a few drinks or participate in a sport such as playing golf. Believe it or not, men do have feelings, they do feel hurt and they can feel overwhelmed at times and more and more men are starting to seek the necessary support and help to deal with the challenges they are facing. I asked a number of men what their views and perceptions are today when it comes to men expressing their feelings and emotions.