Sexplanations Podcast

Episode 94: Lee by Dr. Lindsey Doe

Episode 93: Midori by Dr. Lindsey Doe

Episode 92: Sex nerd Sandra by Dr. Lindsey Doe

Episode 91: Growing up with Sean Jeffrey by Dr. Lindsey Doe

Episode 90: Asexuality with Nicte by Dr. Lindsey Doe

Episode 89: BJ's in the dungeon with Ashley by Dr. Lindsey Doe

Episode 88: Acton by Dr. Lindsey Doe

MC Jenni works with young people professionally but she's great with humans of all ages. As someone who supported me when I became a mother of teens myself, I was curious what she thought about talking to young people about sexuality. SEXtra Credit: Consider the impact sexually explicit material has on the development of children and their understanding of themselves as sexual beings. Look around their environment, wonder. Be aware of how you're connecting with your child. Take a survey of what our values and beliefs are. Please support this podcast: https://www.patreon.com/sexplanationspodcast

Mandela is an incredible person. She's a river guide, surfer, musician, storyteller, housesitter, adventurer, explorer, and absolute delight. Maybe the most interesting person I know. I asked her to talk with me about bad sex ed because when I was teaching and she was my student, Mandela was the only person I remember correcting something I'd taught to make my sex ed better and I think that is so cool. Khoikhoi, by the way is the preferred name of the non-Bantu indigenous nomadic pastoralists of South Africa, I referred to as Hottentot. Here's a link to Mandela's amazing podcast: https://www.traillesstraveled.net/ SEXtra Credit: do a random act of kindness each day and or adapt a negative experience to see if you can get a more positive outcome. Sexplanations is supported entirely by Sexpla(i)nauts on https://www.patreon.com/sexplanationspodcast THANK YOU!!

Doctor Doe has an inspiring conversation with a great fellow named Henry. Some of the topics covered include clothing choices at school and through different age groups. How fast does sexual intimacy occur within a new relationship. How familial relationships impact peoples future relationships. SEXtra credit: Ask your parents and/or longtime friends what age they think you had sex for the first time? How did they know? This podcast is a followup of sorts to the Sexplanations video #85 Is it Okay to be sexy: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wPJRv9Tm7oc Thank you dear listener Please support this podcast: https://www.patreon.com/sexplanationspodcast

Sexplanations Episode 84: Finding our way to similar things with cousin Katelyn How do you talk to sex with your parents? Thoughts on sex addiction and penis size? How do two women raised in sex negative cultures find their own ways to sex positive lives. Lindsey and her cousin Katelyn revisit the Sexplanations video episode Ask Lindsey #15 and answer audience questions. Video link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SCx1tPIYc-0 SEXtra credit: Have a conversation with someone about sex, try to make it less taboo, with grace and love. Thank you for listening, please support this podcast on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/sexplanationspodcast Mentions: Katelyn’s favorite food: Waffles. Check out the Youtube channel “Will It Waffle” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fx-e0XIjul4&list=PL1g3MXAZto6KukrudNbw4ifK4LR5wr_KN&index=5 Seplanations: What is Ethical Porn: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZrZ-zX4zpsY Film: “The Sessions” https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Sessions_(film) A definition of sex addiction: A desire or impulse to have sex you cannot say no to. Sexplanations Kegel episodes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5WnM9jJcxYQ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Isvt-8J_rBo Flat Irons Church Explicit lyrics: http://flatironsarchive.com/messages/messages_2008.php Thank You

Dr Doe is sick with a head cold, podcasting solo in quarantine from the RV in Sunnyvale, California. In this episode she answers questions from the Sexplanations’ video Period Pregnancy?! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uPqLENNFnGg and catches us up on work-life. Lots of updates like moving to Mexico for a while, putting down Lena the brindle pit cross dog, and recording with amazing sex educators. SEXtra Credit: Let’s do collective research on why people bleed during ovulation and how often people get pregnant on their periods? Post your comments and results in the comments. Should you have sex when you’re sick video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AArEm7TQV98 Check out our new merch related to the RV and its amazing wrap. https://store.dftba.com/collections/sexplanations Please support this podcast on: https://www.patreon/sexplanationspodcast Thank you dear listeners

Lindsey and Prairie (https://www.somaticconnections.org/) podcast with dogs and puppies in the background. Discussing Prairie's job as a Sexological Body Worker, somatic connections, engaging feminism, and postpartum care. Book mentioned: “Wild Feminine: Finding Power, Spirit & Joy in the Female Body” by Tami Lynn Kent. Prairie guides Lindsey and the Listeners through a pelvic bowl meditation. SEXtra credit: mindful masturbation is worth your time, self love, masturbate, clear an hour on your schedule and consider taking orgasm off the table. Please support this podcast on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/sexplanationspodcast/posts Thank you dear listeners

Episode 81 Ask Lindsey with Tim Norton http://www.timnortontherapy.com http://www.timnortontherapy.com/hardconversationspodcast Dr. Doe and Tim Norton (timnortontherapy.com) talk erectile issues, peter tingle, sex therapy and the mind/body relationship of erections. Tim's favorite sex tip: Lube, use it, it’s great. Book mentioned: “The Courage to Heal” https://www.amazon.com/Courage-Heal-Workbook-Survivors-Sexual/dp/0060964375 SEXtra credit: do the worksheet at end of the book “The Erotic Mind” by Jack Morin, outlining your peak erotic experiences. https://www.amazon.com/Erotic-Mind-Unlocking-Sources-Fulfillment/dp/0060984287#customerReviews Thank you dear listeners, please support this podcast on https://www.patreon.com/sexplanations Check out sexplanations channel on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/user/sexplanations

Dr. Doe and her guest Angie discuss menstruation, dance, communities, nursing school, and their latest research questions. What was your first period like? How might people feel who don't experience menstruation? What role can communities play in enhancing our sex lives? What correlations are there to bleeding? What are we still curious about? To support the Sexplanations Podcast please visit: patreon.com/sexplanationspodcast SEXtra Credit: Start a new sexual conversation with a partner or if you're single, take steps closer to accepting yourself -- embrace who you are and your ambitions separate from society's expectations. SEXtra SEXtra Credit: Report back on your research/go to nursing school.

Dr Doe and Riley (@The_RileyWilson) discuss PCOS and it’s challenges. Podcast idea: “The PCOS Podcast” SEX-tra credit: Listen to someone's PCOS experiences. Please support this podcast: https://www.patreon.com/sexplanations Check out Sexplanations videos on https://youtube/sexpanations Thank you dear listeners.

First, Science Mom quizzes Dr. Doe with some amazing biology trivia. Talk turns to intimacy and first times within the Mormon faith and later to leaving the faith. SEXtra credit: Buy some feminine hygiene products (if you don't already have them) and use them to educate your family/friends about their intended purpose, and other uses. Also keep some for your guests to use if needed in the bathroom. Check out all the lovely video's, experiments and outreach Science Mom has created to teach everyone the wonders of science: https://science.mom Hey lovely listeners, please support this podcast: https://www.patreon.com/sexplanationspodcast https://www.youtube.com/user/sexplanations for all the video's. Thank you

Dr. Lindsey Doe Interviews Dr. Jallen Rix (http://doctorrix.com). Lindsey and Jallen cover the Kinsey College test, and go on to talk about masturbation, Ex Gay No Way, sex work, surrogacy, therapy, cock summit, bateworld.com. Towards the end there are some really great guided kegel's. SEXtra Credit: Answer Dr. Rix's 2 question survey about your first sexual experience: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/76QQ3R3 Thank you for Listening, please support the channel on: https://www.patreon.com/sexplanationspodcast

Dr. Doe and Brendon Marotta (the director of American Circumcision) discuss how to stay kind within hard conversations and how to end routine infant circumcisions. Brendon is the director of the film: American Circumcision. https://circumcisionmovie.com The film is available on most streaming platforms including Neflix, Prime, & Itunes.

My first introduction to Dixie De La Tour was at a sex conference. Her storytelling production Bawdy Storytelling was hosting a show one evening and this fantastically dressed, vivacious woman took the stage to introduce storytellers and fluff the audience. She was kind and funny and very versed sexually. So years later at another conference I said hello and we started plotting to collaborate. When the Sexplanations Road Tour headed toward San Francisco where Dixie is based she was on board to record an episode of the podcast in the RV so we did just that, talking about her sexcapades, my ambitions, how to craft stories, and the woes of sex education when it's taught by the uninformed or unethical. Your SEXtra Credit is to visit https://bawdystorytelling.com/ and learn more. Listen to Dixie's podcast, sign up to tell a story, invite Bawdy Storytelling to your area.

Sexplanations is on the road travelling from city to town sharing sex education. When we stopped in San Francisco we were able to do a very special episode with Amp from the YouTube channel WattsTheSafeword in a dungeon. Amp is a designer for Mr. S Leather -- a BDSM retailer, he's a kink educator, and a very clever man so I asked him about his lifehacks for sex. Link to WattsTheSafeword: http://www.wattsthesafeword.com/ KINKY TRAVEL TIPS: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_l5zLosaGbQ

Kallie studies ancient life and has a curious personality so I invited her to have fun with me on the podcast and to answer some of your questions about asexuality, dating, hooking up, age restrictions, etc. We also wondered if dinosaurs had penises. Were they external fertilizers or cloacal kissers? We also discussed how I need to go to the Natural History Museum in London; there's a book called Dawn of the Deed; knowing a little bit about a lot of stuff; things that are millions of years old; licensing parents. You can find Kallie at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCzR-rom72PHN9Zg7RML9EbA SEXtra Credit: have a good laugh looking up the cover of Dawn of the Deed. Borrow the book to read from your local library. Do an internet search of T. rex sex and see if you can find the mounted T. rex skeletons in copulation.

Tracy visibly loves multiple people. She identifies as polyamorous and knows a great deal about relationship dynamics. I have a lot of questions for her and we talk it all out. Love, family, language, and sexuality. SEXtra Credit: Try mobile Kegels. Tracy tries to clench while walking but hasn't figured it out. Do you have a strategy or technique for moving your feet or body while simultaneously working out your crotch? SEXtra, SEXtra Credit: Think about the last time you felt jealous. Where did the feelings come from? Where did those feelings come from? Are they something you can work through on your own or do you need to have a conversation with someone about them?

When I thought about the task of reviewing 22 different sex topics in one setting, I knew I needed to talk to an expert. Who would have a sex positive, well-researched, and open-minded perspective of such a broad range of topics? Allison Moon! I met Allison in San Francisco. She and her partner Reid (episode 11) invited me to stay when I was in town and made me a fantastic dinner. I was immediately intrigued by them both. Allison is the author of Girl Sex 101, Bad Dyke, and a lesbian werewolf series Tales of the Pack. She's also considered a leading sex educator and excellent human being. In this episode we discuss vaginismus, demisexuality, polyamory, BDSM, and cock rings. We didn't make it through all 22 on the list but were able to have a meaningful conversation about most. SEXtra Credit: Masturbate and if you already masturbate, masturbate in a new way. Get your genitals attuned to different kinds of touch. Read Allison Moon's book Girl Sex 101.

Dave and Hank Green created a syndicated pub trivia game hosted YouTube style with hosts from the internet asking and answering questions on the TV screen of your favorite bar or college hangout. There are similar models but this one is done brilliantly to account for different learning styles, abilities, and people's love for cyber-personalities. In this episode trivia connoisseur, Dave helps me understand how to frame questions more effectively and I test him on sex trivia. Anteater penises. Pubic wigs. To learn more and to signup for Dr. Doe trivia in your future go to truthorfail.com. SEXtra Credit: Play free trivia at http://www.truthorfail.com/

Rachel Grant coaches survivors of abuse on boundaries and trust and how to find joy in surviving. We talk about her upbringing in Oklahoma and our shared fondness for San Francisco as a locality for really comprehensive sex education. To learn more about her program, sign up for help, and or access some of her online resources for free check out: http://rachelgrantcoaching.com/beyond-surviving-more/ SEXtra Credit: sing about something or all the things you're struggle with, so like "la la la I created more work for myself than I'm able to do and doe ray me, I keep getting stung by state dependent memories."

Over the years I've taught thousands of students. Emily is one of a small number who impressed me with how much she learned and grew. In this episode Emily shares part of that journey and how it continues to in her conversations and career pursuits. I share what is new in my world and we end up doing Kegels to her operatic voice. SEXtra Credit: Think about how you imagine yourself right now. Who you are, who you share you life with, what you create, where you exist. Write it down for a you six years in the future to review. What are you going to learn that influences who you are?

Let's talk about gender and biosex and sex assigned at birth and anatomy and surgery and language. In this episode Blake, FTM, and I a ciswoman pull apart what we experience on a day to day basis to develop a better world for the future. For part of the episode I go through the criteria of gender dysphoria as outlined in the DSM 5. Here there are if you'd like to follow along: In adolescents and adults gender dysphoria diagnosis involves a difference between one’s experienced/expressed gender and assigned gender, and significant distress or problems functioning. It lasts at least six months and is shown by at least two of the following: 1. A marked incongruence between one’s experienced/expressed gender and primary and/or secondary sex characteristics 2. A strong desire to be rid of one’s primary and/or secondary sex characteristics 3. A strong desire for the primary and/or secondary sex characteristics of the other gender 4. A strong desire to be of the other gender 5. A strong desire to be treated as the other gender 6. A strong conviction that one has the typical feelings and reactions of the other gender Why does Blake identify as FTM rather than a transman? "While I’m not offended if someone refers to me as a transman, I prefer to say I’m FTM, or a female-to-male trans person. The main reason is that the term FTM just feels correct. It sounds right when I say it. It feels authentic. I don’t get that “it fits” feeling with transman, non-binary, or any other gendery word. However, it’s okay if my experience seems familiar to you and you do use a different term than I do. Or if you’re FTm and your experience is nothing like mine. We’re equally valid. I just know what fits for me. I don’t feel that my gender is particularly “man”, and I struggle to relate to most men, cis or trans. I know that I get the “it fits” feeling with my current name, Blake, but not with my birth name. He/him/his pronouns fit too. They/them doesn’t bother me, but doesn’t feel as correct as he/him. Being called she/her causes me pain. When I had breasts, I knew that I’d feel more correct without them, so I removed them, and I do indeed feel more at home in my own body now. I was similarly confident about not wanting my uterus and ovaries. I have mixed feelings about the idea of having/obtaining a penis. I rarely feel pain/dysphoria when I see my own genitalia, but I do wish that I didn’t have to worry about having this genitalia - I wish men’s bathrooms had more stalls, I wish my genitals weren’t remarkable or confusing to doctors or potential sexual partners, but I don’t hate having a vulva. I’m not always comfortable with other people interacting with it, though I often am, but I find that the most emotionally fulfilling sex for me involves me penetrating another person with a “realistic” phallus. It’s how I feel most sexually fulfilled, even if that means my genitals aren’t stimulated by another person and/or I don’t have an orgasm. But having a penis 24/7 seems really inconvenient, honestly, and I don’t like the feeling of wearing a packer. I like the look of a bulge on me, but not enough to wear a packer. I like that I was “born female” and I wouldn’t change it. I like using a term that has female in it. I am thankful to have been raised as a girl. I didn’t feel like anything but a girl, until I realized that I’d never thought about it. But by then, I’d spent 18 years avoiding boys. Boys were mean to me. Men scare me. So using a term with “man” in it feels less authentic, and I don’t want to be them or be like them. Manhood isn’t appealing to me, even though much of “male”-ness feels essential to me."

Join me and Amanda for a conversation full of gender speculation, personal observations, and sitting spread legged. We go through some of the tactics used throughout history to determine one's sex. How do we look at our fingernails? How do we take off our shirts? How do we sit on the couch? Can we lift a chair with our lower legs against a wall? Amanda and I use 'male' and female' as markers but all of this non-binary. Then we talk about our experiences as women in workplaces, our name journeys, and how we choose to express ourselves. Sexplanations YouTube episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N0AQ_c_5UcY&t SEXtra Credit: practice sitting spread-legged in public spaces and inspire curiosity about gender, watch the Sexplanations' episode about how we seek a binary that doesn't exist. Try on clothes that you wouldn't normally wear and see how you feel about them. Come out of the dressing room and see how you feel. Then post them on social media #sexplanationspodcast. TO SUPPORT THE SHOW: patreon.com/sexplanationspodcast

In this episode my past self (Lindsey from September) gives my future self a pep talk. I check-in on how the podcast is going and review our latest big project, the Sexplanations Road Tour. Why am I going to live in an RV for the next five or so months and travel the country sex educating whoever shows up to learn? SEXtra Credit: check out Sexplanations.com and visit the Tour links. Click around and see if there's anything you're interested in helping out with like meetups, volunteering, marketing etc. Here's a link to the Indiegogo campaign: https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/sexplanations-road-tour#/ Here's a link to the Patreon page: https://www.patreon.com/sexedroadtour

Four years ago I made a video about using less harmful language, avoiding words that were exclusionary, offensive, or inaccurate. Soon after this Seththinksthoughts, a vlog-style YouTube channel posted a video adding the list of harmful words and suggesting alternatives. I loved it and reached out to Seth. Over these years we've kept in touch and tried to encourage intellectual growth in each other. So when it came time to revisit the Sexplanations episode about less harmful language, I knew exactly who I wanted to talk to about it! Seth is in Hong Kong (not Japan) teaching music and was willing to do a video call at 5 AM his time to pull this off. It was delightful! Here are some of the things we reference in the podcast: Joyful Heart Foundation Flagrant Conduct 99% Invisible Sexplanations' Less Harmful Language: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jNMToK5tqBA Seth's Less Harmful Language: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3l6FSQdAX1M SEXtra Credit: find a word or sequence of words that rubs you the wrong way and come up with five other options.

Why are some people heterosexual? What informs this identity? What was it like to come out to your family? Have you ever been treated differently because of your attraction to men, as a woman? Have you ever seen Hysterical Literature? How do you imagine attraction to a woman to be? What narratives and representation do you have in media? How did attraction develop for you? Why do I like kissing this person? Silvia and I investigate a lot of the questions surrounding sexual orientation. SEXtra Credit: Practice coming out in one or more of your identities with different groups of people who share different kinds of spaces with you.

Logan is a gregarious, handsome, young hipster with a lot of ambition. He just finished building out a high-end touring van with the ability to play concerts out the back and he's traversing the country now to learn from others about life. I know him in a few ways but mostly that he's a well-connected friendly face. So I asked him to talk with me about coincidences and fate and whether or not the world is oriented more sexually for some of us more so than others. We tried some off-the-top-of-our-heads experiments and came up with some great hypotheses. SEXtra Credit: If you have a partner and there's someone you want to incorporate in your life, make this week to actually speak about it. If you don't have a partner, tell us in the comments, we'll be your surrogate. Also, play the free association game and see how quickly your brain networks to sex.

Stella and I first met on the set of Sexplanations How to Touch a Boob episode. As a model and a burlesque dancer she was comfortable working with me to demonstrate breast healthcare and pleasure. What I didn't know is that she's made a career out of removing pubic hair for people and this brings up many opportunities to help clients embrace their own unique genitals. Stella and I talked about her experiences in the salon and revisited some of the questions I've been asked about oral sex (not that those two are related). She was really easy to talk with and took the Main Squeeze Kegels segment to a new level: the floor. I hope you enjoy our sex curious conversation and learn something new. I'm still learning. SEXtra Credit: Perform oral sex on someone with consent if you have a partner who is menstruating and or try putting some of your own menstrual blood on your face. Acquire, offer, and or use dental dams. Bonus: experiment with different pubic hairstyles.

Sexplanations Podcast is not intended to titillate but it may lead to physiological changes. I would prepare yourself on this one. Jonathan and I hooked up when I when we were 20 and now, over a decade later, we're checking in on what that was like. We discuss oral sex, simultaneous orgasms, height differences, power dynamics, communication, raking dicks with teeth, sexual finesse workshops, Costa Rica, tightness, and then talk for about 15 minutes at the end about the controversy of circumcision. It's a whirlwind of sexual literacy and I hope you enjoy it! To support the show please visit our Patreon page: Patreon.com/sexplanationspodcast and for SEXtra Credit: find a time in the next week or two to perform oral sex on someone and see what it feels like to be passionate about doing it for yourself. More broadly receive something non-sexual with passion, or if you're doing something for someone, make it with passion and pleasure for yourself. Make something for your own benefit. Don't get fired; ancora imparo.

Anal sex video link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sp9MT1di9as&t Before this conversation I hadn't talked with Sam about anal sex. I invited her to be on the Sexplanations Podcast and gave her the topic but we didn't say anything else. When we sat down to record it was really fun to hear how much she had to share about her own experiences, her interest in anal porn, and her feelings on negotiating anal in future relationships. We also talked about vibrators, masturbation, healthy lifestyles, meditation, pussy massage, trauma, and the difference between g-spots and prostates. Hopefully this episode serves as a model for how to talk about sexuality, specifically anal play. Anal is growing in popularity and traditional sex education hasn't kept us. We need resources like the Sexplanations Podcast to serve as a resource for people who are curious and or experimenting. If you're able to help support our project please go to patreon.com/sexplanationspodcast. SEXtra Credit: Look into a somatic body meditation. What is your body trying to tell you? A second assignment is to try a finger in your anus or someone else's with permission.

Jessi runs an animal rescue and care center in Montana. She also has an educational YouTube channel called AnimalWondersMontana. Who better to talk about anal prep then someone who works daily with many many species including the care of their anuses? We discuss prolapsed rectums (aka trunk butt), lube, irritable bowel syndrome, taking temperature anally, how beavers mate, anal sex in sheep, inter-species relations, and from 26:30 to 27:40 rape. Jessi is full of great tips on anal preparation! My favorites are giving treats and asking your doctor to explain what they're doing during a pelvic exam. Many thanks to Jessi for being on the show! I'm still learning. Here are Jessi's projects: http://www.animalwonders.org/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1Nj4gkoi_n5eCcrKCVOXKA https://www.youtube.com/animalwondersmontana SEXtra Credit: Be gentle with others. (And if you know how beavers mate, please tell us).

Troy or Kujmous as you may know him from social media is what I like to call the 12th man of the Internet. He cheers on creators like the fans of a football team and on regular basis positively impacts my emotional health. This is why I asked him to talk with me about cognitive dissonance, a psychological conflict brought on when one's behaviors are different than one's beliefs. This happens a lot in my life: killing animals is unethical/eat meat; abstinence is the only 100% effective method/use other protection methods; our government is really unhealthy/live here anyway. Troy accepts me in my wobbly attitudes and actions which makes it easier for me to continue doing what I do for others. We're a team. SEXtra Credit: Select clothes, shows, jewelry etc. for the following day and lay them out nicely folded or hang them up prepared to put on in the morning. This way the first bit of energy you give to your day is for you. See if this energy and kindness inward projects energy and kindness outward. Is there a stronger continuation of kindness if it starts from yourself?

Reese has entertained me for years. He has a great stage presence and a hilarious bit about the ridiculousness of the phrase 'gold star gays.' I appreciate how comfortable he is talking about sexuality to new audiences and that there is a component of education built into the laughs. In this episode of the Sexplanations Podcast, it's no different. Reese has me laughing and learning as usual. SEXtra Credit: learn more about asexuality (asexuality.org), tell someone you are aesthetically attracted to them.

I went on a date with Amy in 2017. She tells the story of how we met and how it went. Then I do. I basically didn't know how to flirt with her beyond the scientifically prescribed steps and she points out that yeah, she didn't know I was trying to make advances. Is it because I'm heterosexual? Am I baby gay? How much of it is fear? What can I do to signal that I want to be hit on by women? Why don't I hit on women? SEXtra Credit: The next time you're out with friends, ask a friend to choose a person in the room for you to talk to/flirt with. Then switch and identify a person for your friend to talk to/flirt with.

If you want your brain rocked this is the episode for you. Soft science whimsical sexologist Dr. Doe talks with hard science genius-type Henry Reich. How are relationships and sexuality going to look as technology progresses? Will human beings have precocial young that are born able to care for themselves? How will internet interacting come into the real world? Can artificial intelligence mimic human touch? What is going to happen to match-making in the future? What is going to happen to our measures of attraction in the future? SEXtra Credit: Take one step that increases the diversity of peoples' experience of other peoples' appearances. Sexplanations YouTube episode on attraction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HQp43ozsP3c&t Henry's YouTube channel Minute Physics https://www.youtube.com/user/minutephysics

Neil and I were classmates in our human sexuality doctoral program and we've been supporting each other professionally since then. In this conversation we discuss our careers, the similarities and differences. He's a sex therapist. I'm a sexologist. He teaches in a classroom. I teach online. We're both really passionate about serving others and love welcoming newcomers to the field. Join us for a chat on facing challenges, fulfilling dreams, and starting a sex school. SEXtra Credit: Catch the important people in your life doing good things and notice that out loud or in a note.

Roe and I know each other in a lot of different capacities. That's the nature of Missoula, Montana where we live. Roe's been a friend, a colleague, and most recently the director for the outdoor leadership camp my kids have attended. Roe is impressive and in this episode you'll hear that. We talk about one of the smartest approaches to healthy relationship education and how to make moon bags. We plot our own programs and ask questions about some of our curiosities. Ancora imparo; I'm still learning.

The brain is trained to find shortcuts in sex and theater and education. They're called heuristics and we use then in all aspects our lives to make things easier. Unfortunately because they aren't the whole story they end up messing things up for us a lot. Brit Garner prides herself on failing (as do I). We both see it as a measure of our efforts to live and learn a lot from the experience. This episode is about some of those fails, the psychology behind them, and what our take-aways are. SEXtra Credit: Find three things you've assumed incorrectly. Challenge your assumptions.

What it's like to have mom who is a sexologist? Can an ace have a sex blog? How would you describe sexual attraction? Should I feel bad if my partner doesn't come? Tips for long distance relationships? Advice? Talk. SEXtra Credit: Get involved in your community by volunteering at Planned Parenthood or another sexual organization. And if you can't do that go and pick up trash along the river or highway. Do the best you can to improve the community in some way. Go hand out condoms. Be safe, kids! To support the Sexplanations Podcast existence go to patreon.com/sexplanationspodcast Twitter: @elleteedee Tumblr: tumblingdoe Facebook: Sexplanations YouTube: Sexplanations Merch: sexplanations.com

When we first started Sexplanations YouTube channel Nick Jenkins and I were putting out two videos a week. Two videos?! I think back on those days when I was also teaching at the university, seeing clients, raising kids, and three dogs. It's mind-blowing to me that we made twice as many videos in a year then, as we've made podcasts in just this last year. It explains why the topic of today's podcast is about a Valentine's Day villain, Anthony Comstock. To give a quick summary: Comstock convinced the U.S. government to let him regulate the postal system with a gun. He was responsible for keeping information about contraception, sexual health, erotica, sex ed etc out of circulation. Nothing lacivious was permitted in the mail so hundreds of thousands were left without access to information or if they sent it or got it anway -- they were jailed. What an evil baby!! There are things happening now that censor of sexuality too -- demonetization of channels by LGBT and sex educators, denial of comprehensive sex education in schools, outright lying about our bodies and our identities. I hate it. It's harmful to withhold what we all need to protect ourselves. So this episode of the podcast is all my feelings on it and a quick run through of solutions. SEXtra Credit: watch past episodes of Sexplanations. Anyone who has seen them all may call themselves a Sexual Scholar. Link to the Comstock episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZYY1wr4lBMc Link to support the podcast: https://www.patreon.com/sexplanationspodcast Link to the tank top: https://store.dftba.com/products/stay-curious-rainbow-shirt

Mija (pronouns they/them/their) and I have worked as sex educators together for a long time. They're one of the most sex positive people I know, very conscientious about prevention and consent; they're incredibly experienced and care a lot about the sexualities of others. It was difficult determining which topic to discuss with them because I knew that a really powerful conversation would ensue. I chose condoms because it's such a strong part of Mija's identity -- they use condoms consistently and happily and in a way that makes latex and polyisoprene sexy. SEXtra Credit: Put condoms on household items that won't hurt your body and use them for self-stimulation. Mija's favorite pervertible is the cucumber. To support Sexplanations Podcast please visit our Patreon page and subscribe.

Turns out Chase is a penis expert, or an expert on what he calls peens. This month we were lucky enough to have him here in Missoula and I sat down with him in the recording studio to learn what he does with his knowledge. Hopefully after just one minute of listening you'll enjoy Chase's spirited banter the way I do and find through the hour how much this carefree YouTuber is doing for sexual health. SEXtra Credit: Look up genital prosthetics; go to Chase's website and channel and watch some of the videos in his Trans 101 series.

In the early days of Sexplanations I traveled to Iceland, visited their phallological museum, and recorded my experiences there. To revisit this topic I invited warehouse manager, Caenaan to talk about penises and organizing things, seems like curating. Our conversation becomes a when-has-Caenaan-dick episode (which I'm pleased with) and a tangential adventure into opening our own sex museum, the value of positive body image, shipping sex dolls, and his wonderful definition of good sex. SEXtra Credit: Watch the episode of Sexplanations on the Icelandic Phallological Museum here https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P9L_qB3pdjk&t and write a letter that declares whether or not you'd like for your reproductive organs/genitals to be donated. To support the Sexplanations Podcast go to Patreon.com/sexplanationspodcast

Four years ago the original videographer and director of Sexplanations YouTube channel made a video for the channel on identity. Other creators picked it up and soon it was a phenomenon. Ashley is a creator who makes a lot of content on identity so I asked Ashley to unpack it all with me. We talk about whether or not we can have identities, change them, and what to do with them. SEXtra Credit: Have a conversation with someone from the LGBT+ community who experienced "queer" as a slur. To support the podcast each week please go to: patreon.com/sexplanationspodcast and subscribe.

Zack is a nice guy and a funny guy so I invited him to talk about masturbation. In this episode of Sexplanations Podcast he shares his personal experiences of overcoming sexual shame, his thoughts on dry-dogging, where to put the semen, third-person stories of his penis, and responses to this episode of the Sexplanations YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PaHudJWwM8I&t. SEXtra Credit: Masturbate using coconut oil with and without porn (and tell us which fictional character or celebrity your genitals are).