Staying Uncomfortable

Continuing to grow everyday can be a difficult task. However, by looking at specific areas in your life that you want to grow and focusing your energy on one area, this task can be much easier. Join us this week as we discuss three important areas that you need to be focusing on growing in your life. Without constant growth, you will fall behind. Listen in to find out how to keep up! Do not be afraid of change in life, it is inevitable. Make sure your change is positive and you will have success. You are either evolving or dying. (0:30) Evolving in business. (1:25) Evolving in relationships. (1:45) Evolving your health. (2:15) Living to your fullest potential. (3:00) If you search for something, you will find it. (4:00) The world is constantly changing, and not adapting to the times can be detrimental. Continue to better yourself by always learning and growing, as it is far too easy to far behind if you are not developing at all times. Divide the daunting task of always growing into three areas of your life: your relationships, your business, and your health, and you will succeed.

Separating work from play may not seem like that big of a deal in the grand scheme of things, but when you dive into it, not being 100% focused on your work can prevent you from maximizing your time. In this week’s episode, we discuss how to prevent yourself from multitasking. We also discuss making sure that you stay focused on your work while still allowing time to relax. When you work you work when you play you play. Some questions we ask: Being serious at work. (0:45) Buy into your company’s mission. (1:30) Minimizing multitasking. (2:30) Stay focused, but make time to have fun! (4:30) Multitasking while working adds a roughly 33% increase in the amount of time it takes you to do something, work or not. Make sure to separate work and play and try not to mix the two, otherwise you may seem unmotivated to your coworkers or bosses and you will be losing valuable time for work and other activities. Stay focused at work, but remember to allow yourself time for relaxation afterward!

Unhappiness is an inevitable part of life, but are you putting yourself in the right places in life to minimize your unhappiness? Join us this week as we discuss the ‘Three E’s’ formula, a new plan that you can easily implement in your everyday life to make yourself the happiest person you can be. Make sure you are putting yourself in the right situations and have the right mindset to lead yourself to happiness. Some questions we ask Why are you not happy? (0:15) The ‘Three E’ formula. (1:15) The first E: Element. (1:40) The second E: Environment. (2:25) The third E: Energy. (3:15) Make sure you have the proper intentions. (4:00) Putting yourself in the right situations that will allow you to succeed in life is extremely important in securing your own happiness. Go into everything you do know that the environment you are putting yourself in will be healthy for you, and always try to have a positive mindset in order to be the best person you can be for yourself and for those around you.

A quick story and an exercise that will help you reflect back on the year 2019 and it will also help you prepare for 2020. 

On this week’s episode, Kaivan reflects on an incident when Gaurav told him that his ego would eventually kill him. Upon hearing this, Kaivan initially became defensive, but did not allow himself to become agitated. Afterwards Kaivan reflected on the conversation and thought about what his ego was to him.  What is an ego to you? You’re self inflated You think highly of yourself. Cannot accept criticism Superficial relationships You’re not letting people in. Inflated self worth If you have an ego, as the hosts discuss, your relationships are superficial, you cannot accept criticism and you have an inflated sense of self worth. It is important to distinguish, as Kaivan states, if you simply have self confidence instead of an ego. Why not believe in yourself, why not fight for more? In order to see if you have an ego or not, ask yourself if you truly believe in yourself. More importantly, be open to criticism from those who truly care about you. Your goal should be to never question yourself Have self confidence Shared some tips and how to’s KD reflected on the conversation What types of things did I give out for G to say this? It came from a place of love Be open to criticism Had a lot of self confidence It’s not his ego, it’s what he stands for Figure out if you have an ego, it may just kill you.

Seeing other people living lavish and happy lives on social media can make us feel very negative about ourselves. However, it is important to remember that social media is not an accurate representation of someone’s life, it is only a highlight reel. In this week’s episode, we discuss how to cut negative things out of your life, such as social media, that cause you to feel negative about yourself. We also look at how to help you build better self confidence. Do not downplay your successes, because you cannot see others failures. Think about why you feel as though you are not good enough. (1:00) Understand what triggers these negative feelings. (1:30) Stop comparing yourself to people and society in general. (1:50) Have gratitude. (2:20) Recognize your accomplishments. (2:50). Come up with goals that help you decide how you feel. (3:25) Stop using social media as a tool to compare yourself to others. (4:15) You are an accomplished person no matter what you do. Don’t compare yourself to others. Instead, sit and think of how lucky you are in life. Failing once does not mean you are a failure. Seeing other people show off their lives on social media does not mean they are always happy. Cut out the negative triggers in your life that make you feel less about yourself and celebrate who you are and what you have done.

You can never know what factors lead others to making the decisions they make. Someone may have a different value set than you, different beliefs than you, or they may simply be having a bad day. In this week’s episode we discuss how not to take criticism and how others see you personally. Criticism from others is not always on you, it could be on your actions. How do we make that distinction and how do we continue to move forward and develop? Find out in this week’s podcast! Be confident in yourself and know that others' criticism of you does not define who you are as a person. Taking things personally in a relationship. (1:45) One person’s opinion in a relationship does not define who you are. (3:30) Criticize someone’s actions, not the person themselves. (4:15) Criticism can come from a positive place because people have high expectations of you. (6:00) Try to see things from the other person’s perspective and let others know when you are criticizing their actions. (7:00) Never stop being open to feedback. (8:00) Being let go from your job. (9:00) Putting blame on yourself and/or others. (10:00) Try to look at events from different perspectives. (11:00) Criticism from those close to you does not come from a negative place. Many times those closest to you are criticizing your actions, not who you are as a person. Learn to look deeper within yourself and ask if you think you are truly working hard enough or doing the right things. Be confident in yourself and be open to yourself about who you are.

Birthdays can be overwhelming at times. As people grow older, sometimes they find that celebrating becomes a hassle and they are too concerned with making others happy on a day when they should be celebrating their own life. How do you prevent yourself from looking to please others on your birthday? How do you figure out who wants to be with you and who really cares about you on this special day? “Every year marks change. Why not celebrate and enjoy the little things in life?” Is it worth celebrating your birthday? (0:20) Birthdays: Drama or excitement? (1:40) What is a celebration? (2:10) Who are your most important people, who do you want to celebrate with? (2:40) Should you worry about entertaining others on your birthday? (3:50) Celebrations in life. (4:40) Enjoying moments in life. (5:30) Will you regret not celebrating your birthdays? (7:00) Celebrate, whatever that may look like to you. (8:20) Surround yourself with people who will celebrate for you, and who will focus on your special day and the wonderful person you are! (9:00) Birthdays are a celebration of your life. Surround yourself with people who see the great person you are and who will celebrate this life with you. Do what you want to do on this special day and don’t worry about being the center of others’ happiness, because next year is never guaranteed.

In recent times, there have been so many cheating scandals that have come to light ranging from Jeff Bezoz to Jay Z to Ashton Kutcher.  According to the recent General Social Survey (GSS), 20% of men and 13% of women reported that they’ve had sex with someone other than their spouse while married. If you are the injured party, it is often devastating and blindsiding to deal with the aftermath. When your partner succumbs to a moment of weakness, you are often left reeling from the pain asking yourself “When did we drift apart and why did he/she do this to me?”  "Not cheating is an unspoken social contract in a relationship or marriage." Some questions we ask:  What is the difference between physical and emotional cheating? (2:00) Do men or women cheat more? (3:00) Do unhappy or unfulfilled people cheat? (4:00)  What do factors like age, maturity, newness of relationships have to do with cheating? (5:00) What is revenge cheating? (6:00) How do you find evidence of an emotional affair without breaching your partner’s privacy? (7:00)  Are you gardening the seeds of your relationship everyday? (8:00) In this episode, we talk about different types of cheating in relationships and preventative measures.  What is the algorithm for staying faithful? Have those uncomfortable conversations with your partner, check in and make sure you are growing together!

As individuals, we want to make sure that we continue growing and evolving. If we don’t continue to compete at some level, if it’s internally, or even if it’s externally, we plateau. You can compete in business, relationships, health...Competition can be healthy as long as it’s done organically and with a why in mind. "Without competition, there is no growth or progression." Some questions we ask: What is the difference between healthy and unhealthy competition? (2:00)  What is your action plan for improvement? (3:00)  Do you have a role model that you emulate as a basis for comparison? (4:00)  When can competition advance on benefiting an entire organization or industry via benchmarks of broader success? (7:00)  When you are in a relationship, do you organically challenge your significant other to strive for success? (10:00)  Do you compare your boyfriend/girlfriend to your friend’s boyfriend/girlfriend? (11:00)  In this episode, we discuss why healthy competitors are less concerned about how they stack up to others, and more interested in stretching into new realms of personal potential. Get better in every category of life because you want to - not because someone else wants you to.  Do you compete to grow and achieve personal wins?

Obama said that “Nothing in life that’s worth anything is easy.” Have you ever felt like other people seem to have no problem achieving their goals? But you feel stuck and as though you are making zero progress. Maybe you are at a job where you are not making as much money as you desire.  Perhaps you are not losing weight as fast as you would like to.  Or you seem to keep attracting the wrong people.  When you find yourself comparing yourself to others, be cautious of how you feed your mind.  "Don't wait for everything to be perfect before you decide to enjoy your life." Some questions we ask: How do you learn from your mistakes when you fail? (4:00)  How much baggage do you have? (6:00)  In this episode, we discuss the 3 reasons why you are not getting results in life: Instant gratification encourages impatience. Be patient. Einstein said that 'Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results.'" Change variables that don’t work for you.    The people you regularly expose yourself to shape your attitude and approach to life. Figure out if these people inspire you to live your best life. Dissect your problem that you are currently facing and enjoy the process! 

Buddha said “Each morning we are born again. What we do today is what matters most.”  We CAN be happy. We CAN have balance. We CAN have the best of careers.  The best of relationships. The best of bodies. The best of food. The best of money. We can do the best of everything now.  Regardless of what is currently happening in your life, the way you perceive your life is what makes you happy or unhappy. If negative assumptions or beliefs are consuming you, then you will be unhappy.  "Once your mindset changes, everything will change for you." Some questions we ask: Do you define your life based on your paradigm of a certain topic? (9:00)  Do you ever stumble upon old thinking patterns that have shifted your belief systems? (13:00)  How do you convince someone to change their mindset without offending their values? (19:00) If you come across someone who is an expert in their field, do you try to learn from them? (20:00)  When you go on vacation, do you try new vs frequently visited destinations? (21:00)   Can you get past the discomfort of attending networking events and conferences? (23:00)  In this episode, we discuss why improving your life starts with improving your mindset.  Ultimately, perception is your reality, so changing the way you look at your life can make all the difference. 

"Any man can be a father but it takes someone special to be a Dad."~Anne Geddes  Today is Father’s Day and the perfect time to express our love and gratitude to these special people in our lives. "It’s never too late to have a relationship with your father." Some questions we ask:  When will you stop blaming yourself for mistakes and acknowledging them as learning experiences that you can learn and reflect from? (3:00) Is the intent behind a connection with a family member, significant other or friend perceived as pure with enjoyable experiences or beneficial with an underlying need? (5:00)   How does your relationship with your parents change with time? (8:00) Are there things that you would ask your father that you have not had a chance to? (10:00)  Do you regret not thanking or cherishing time with your father when you were younger? (13:00)  Which traits, morals and values have you unknowingly inherited from your father? (17:00) How has your father made you proud and what has he sacrificed for you? (23:00) Would you be able to make the same sacrifices for your children that your father did? (26:00) In this episode, we reminisce on qualities, experiences and values that our fathers possess.  What qualities of your dad do you share?

Dating can be hard, and so can finding love. Finding a soulmate? Feels impossible these days. However, it doesn’t have to be difficult.  When it comes to dating, most of us can be pretty predictable and have common denominators and distinct patterns. Do you have a type? “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results.” Some questions we ask: If there is no chemistry, do you cut short your first date? (1:00) What is your take on kissing on the first date? (1:30) Does your approach to dating differ depending on the person you are with? (2:40) Do you have a ‘type’? (3:00) Does the person that you are dating align with your core values and vision? (5:00) What outcome do you want from a date 6 months from now? (5:15) What is the commonality between the people we have dated and how can we flip it? (6:23)  Do opposites attract? (8:25) In this episode, we examine if your tried and tested dating formula works. If not, is there a variable you would change and go for someone that doesn’t fit your bill?

According to Google, ‘What is love?” has been the most searched phase over time. Do songs like Michael Jackson’s ‘Do you remember the time?’ and movies like ‘When Harry Met Sally’ accurately depict love?  "Be open to receiving love." Some questions we ask: What is the difference between having sex and making love? (0:15) What is your definition of love? (0:50) Is it possible to balance your love life and career or is one or the other sacrificed? (1:25) Is there a right age to get married (1:45) How do you know when you’ve found ‘the one’? (3:00) In this episode, we define what romantic love is. Many of us have been in situations where we thought we were in love but in retrospect, realize that we were very far off! We dissect elements of a partnership love ranging from compassion, empathy, acceptance, physical chemistry, and so much more. When you’ve found true love, it means that you’re fully committed, dedicated and devoted to each other. With true love, you and your partner work together as one unit to enrich each other’s lives for the better.

“Life can only be understood backwards, but it must be lived forwards”. ~Soren Kierkegaard Life is a journey filled with lessons, hardships, heartaches, joys, celebrations and special moments that will ultimately lead us to our destination, our purpose in life.  Along the way, we may stumble upon obstacles that will come between the paths that we are destined to take.  Will you look back and feel like you lived your best life?  “Life is a journey, not a destination.”  Some questions we ask: How should you have lived at the 80% mark? (1:00) How have your decisions made earlier on in life influenced the remaining 20% of your life? (2:00)  How do you balance your social choices with career decisions? (3:00) Would you rather enjoy the earlier or latter part of your life? (4:00)  Do you enjoy the process of life or just live for each milestone? (5:00) If you compare your phone apps to the people you surround yourself with, do they drain or recharge you? (6:00) In this episode, we compare the journey of life to our phone battery life.  What apps have you installed in your life that are draining your battery? What apps are optimized? 

Ever had a boss, friend or a love partner with someone who is all about me? Someone who only listens to him or herself? A partner who changes the topic, gets defensive or mad at you when you try to talk about difficulties you've been experiencing? Have you ever met a chutiya aka an asshole who gives no regard for anybody but themselves? Chutiyas are otherwise known as narcissistic assholes.  They walk this earth as self centered, controlling, attention seeking and/or manipulative people who have impure intentions and use people for their own gain. "Never make someone a priority when all you are to them in an option."  Some questions we ask: What is the difference between being ‘dependent’, independent’ and ‘interdependent’ on people? (1:00)   What are the symptoms of a ‘chutiya?’ (2:00) Have you ever confronted a chutiya or do you make excuses for their behavior because they are a family member or friend? (7:00)  If you are a chutiya, do you care what people say about you at your funeral? (8:00) Do nice guys finish last? (10:00)  Are chutiyas living their best lives? (10:00) Are chutiyas self aware or ignorant? (11:00) Do chutiyas surround themselves with other chutiyas? (11:00)  In this episode, we discuss how to pinpoint a ‘chutiya’. We also offer valuable lessons on how to be a better human being and provide mutual value within relationships.  If you come across a chutiya, your mantra should be “If I cut you off, it’s because you handed me the scissors.”  Be aware of your words, actions and thoughts..Re-evaluate and live a more pleasant life ‘chutiya-free!’ 

When you harness the power of positivity, the impact on your life can be amazing!  Positive thinking can give you more confidence, improve your mood, and even reduce stress and anxiety.  “Be thankful for what you have while pursuing all that you want.”  Some questions we ask: What is the Stop, Observe, Shift (SOS) method? (2:00) Why are our minds wired to prevent us from danger? (4:00) Instead of thinking about all the things that could go wrong, what if you thought about all the things that could go right? (6:00) Do you surround yourself with positive friends that inspire you to live your best life? (11:00)  In this episode, we discuss the power of positivity and teach tips and tricks such as affirmations, gratitude, mindfulness and visualization.  The next time you are down in the dumps, realize hat tough times are temporary and ‘this too shall pass’.    Your body hears everything your mind says..be careful what you’re putting up there!

“You are what you repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, it’s a habit”~Aristotle  Habits are aligned with who and what you want to become in life.  We have mental, physical, emotional, spiritual, and hidden habits that we aren’t even aware of.  Research shows that it takes 21 days to break a habit.  “The way to do great things is to do is to do small things in a great way.”  Some questions we ask: How do you define a habit? (1:00) Do your habits align with your vision or have they become reward mechanisms? (4:00) Instead of having pizza every 3 days, can you decrease the frequency? (5:00) In forming a new habit, why don’t you set small, actionable steps? (7:00) Can you replace your sugar cravings with fruit? (8:00)  In this episode, we discuss methods on how to control, alternate and delete bad habits to perform a complete reset.  Good habits are formed, bad habits we fall into. Some habits that we think are bad but they actually might be good for other people but at the end comes to your own priorities and what do you want to achieve.    Bid your bad habits goodbye, ensure your habits are aligned with your mission, and set yourself up for success! 

“People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” ~Maya Angelou Legacy is fundamental to what it is to be human. Exploring the idea of legacy offers a glimpse not only into human relationships and building strong communities, but also the human spirit. “What are you going to do with the time you have left on earth? Some questions we ask: Who is going to show up at your funeral and what would they say about you? (1:00) What values do people take away from you? (2:00) Are you surviving or thriving? (4:00) Who are you impacting and what do your words say about you? (7:00) Have you thought about writing a letter to pass down to a future generation? (7:00) In this episode, we discuss how you can leave a legacy and breathe meaning into your life. Whether a legacy involves a particular tangible achievement - like a career title - or as an advocate for a cause, or more ‘simply’ for being a good parent with strong values, it’s entirely up to you. To work out what you want to be remembered for, you need to figure out what’s important in your life and put a stamp on the future. We all want to leave our mark on this world. What is the roadmap you are building and working towards?

It's Friday afternoon and the clock is ticking. You're working furiously to complete a task before the five o'clock deadline, while silently cursing yourself for not starting it sooner. Procrastination can also go beyond work, affecting other important parts of our lives. Not getting that irritating symptom checked out leaves an unknown disease untreated. Procrastination is a trap that many of us fall into. In fact, according to researcher and speaker Piers Steel, 95 percent of us procrastinate to some degree. “You don't have to see the whole staircase. Just take the first step.” Some questions we ask: Are you an active or proactive procrastinator? (2:00) Why are you procrastinating? (4:00) Do you have an accountability friend/coach that keeps you accountable? (5:00) Do you break down overwhelming projects into manageable chunks? (5:00) When do you motivate and reward yourself after a personal victory? (7:00) How do you make your daily chores fun and enjoyable? (8:00) Do you take advantage of Airplane mode on your phone to help you concentrate? (11:00) In this episode, we dissect the psychology of procrastination and provide valuable tips that will change your attitude from “I choose to do” to “I have to do’. Avoiding a difficult conversation only prolongs the conflict. And delaying an important life decision, like breaking up, making a serious commitment, going back to school, or finally changing career paths, can lead to running in place for years. In the end, we kick ourselves as we wile away hours on distractions (social media and TV - to name a few) as escape routes instead the tasks at hand. We regret the time wasted as deadlines approach, time runs out, and opportunity slips through our fingers. Don’t let this be you!

Research shows that in 2017 alone, Americans forfeited 212 million vacation days, which is the equivalent of $62.2 billion in lost benefits. If unused time off isn’t enough to convince you, stress can lead to depression, anxiety, burnout, and more serious health problems. Practicing self-care isn’t always easy. Most of us have stressful jobs or are too consumed with familial obligations and feel drained. Me-time is usually last on the agenda. "What if we recharged ourselves as often as we recharge our phones?" Some questions we ask: When was the last time you got a massage? (7:00) Remember the activities that brought you joy and excitement as a child? (8:00) Have you taken the time to unplug, reflect and pinpoint your stressors that trigger anxiety? (10:00) Which people bring you joy and boost your mental health? (12:00) When was the last time you picked up the phone and had a meaningful conversation with a friend? (13:00) Do you end your day off from your responsibilities by practicing gratitude? (14:00) In this episode, we dissect the physical, mental and spiritual ways you can treat yourself to some rest and relaxation without having to hop on a plane to escape. Whether it’s discovering Airplane mode on your phone, taking a long walk or devouring your favorite meal, a day off can do wonders. What if you recharged yourself as much as you did your phone?   Take a reset day to yourself..for yourself. You will bounce back rejuvenated with a renewed sense of balance.  

Mahatma Gandhi said “Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong”.  Not forgiving someone is the equivalent of staying trapped in a jail cell of bitterness, serving time for someone else's crime. Forgive and forget? Keep in mind that forgiveness is not the same as forgetting. Forgiveness does not entail pretending that offenses have never happened. “Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself to be able to sleep at night." Some questions we ask: Why is someone living rent free in your brain? (1:00) Have you let someone know that they intentionally or unintentionally hurt you or suffered in silence? (3:00) Have you reached out to someone that you have hurt and apologized? (12:00) Have you ever looked in the mirror and said ‘I forgive myself’? (16:00) If someone can forgive their neighbor for accidentally killing their son, what is our excuse? (18:00) In this episode, we discuss techniques, from letter writing  to conversation closure, to forgive someone else and yourself. Forgiveness is hard work but it is worth it. It simply means letting go of pain and baggage from the past. If you forgive someone and yourself, you are doing this for your physical and emotional health. You can lighten the burden that transgressions have left upon you. The power of forgiveness will set you free!

Today is the harvest of yesterday's seeds. Your mind is a garden. Your thoughts are the seeds. You can grow flowers. Or you can grow weeds. Everyone has heard the saying ‘As you sow, so you shall reap’. If you sow crabgrass, how can you expect to reap pineapples? The fact that we reap the harvest of our lives is rewarding for people with good habits but daunting for others who mistreat others. People often expect perfection with minimal investment. "Life is an echo. What you send out comes back" Some questions we ask: In a relationship, can you discern between pure unconditional intentions and false motives? (4:00) Do you understand your partner’s love language? (5:00) Have you cultivated friendships that help you flourish or plant seeds of uncertainty? (10:00) If you want a good friend, are you a good friend? (11:00) If you are striving to be a millionaire, do you have the work ethic of a minimum wage person? (14:00) Are you taking advantage of the wealth of free knowledge at your fingertips? (16:00) Do you want to eat delicious or look delicious? (16:00) Are you the best version of yourself in all facets of life? (19:00) In this episode, we discuss how you can plant the right seeds today so that you can have the garden you want tomorrow. If you want to be treated well, then treat others well. If you want to be loved, then love others. Imagine what the world would be like if there were a domino effect of rippling kindness.   What you put into life is what you get out of it!

How can you banish your momentary stress and anxiety? Start by practicing gratitude! You can’t feel sadness and disappointment around the past or future when you feel grateful. Not only does gratitude gives you confidence to reflect on your achievements, it opens you up to receiving.     "Learn to be thankful for what you have, while pursuing what you want" Some questions we ask: What is our excuse for not being appreciative? (1:00) When you recover from a cold, are you grateful that you can breathe again? (5:00) Do you acknowledge the friends and family you are thankful for? (9:00) Do you perceive obstacles as growth opportunities? (10:00) What is your gateway to gratitude? (12:00) If you think of life as a book, are you happy with the chapters you have lived? (16:00) Helen Keller said it best when she said: “So much has been given to me, I have no time to ponder over that which has been denied.” In this episode, we discuss the foundation of Staying Uncomfortable: Gratitude. Tune in as we delve into the what, how and why of gratitude. When you focus on your blessing, you tend to be happier, healthier and experience a deeper sense of fulfillment. What is your attitude towards gratitude?

What came first: the chicken or the egg? Similarly, happiness and success are interrelated but can be confused for one another. Once you achieve success, you will be happy right? What if it is all backwards? “Is success happiness, or is happiness success?" Some questions we ask: Do you define professional success by the number of zeros in your paycheck vs. work-life balance? (2:00) If you are single, are you trying to be in a relationship because society defines success as partnership? (5:00) Does the person that you are with complete you or enhance your life because you are already complete? (8:00) When you look in the mirror, are you happy physically, mentally and spiritually with what you see? (11:00) When you think about quantity vs. quality, are the last 5 people that texted you fuelling your fire and radiating positive energy? (13:00) Does material success trump good memories in humble times? (16:00)? In this episode, we discuss how we should define success in our career, relationships, physical appearances, friendships, homes and so much more! “Success is not the key to happiness, happiness is the key to success.  If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.”~ Albert Schweitzer   Society does not dictate your success and you are the master of your own destiny!

Robert Schuller says “Tough times don't last, tough people do.” Mental toughness is a measure of individual resilience that helps you prevail in difficult circumstances. What are you doing to train your brain? "The winner at the top is the one with the strongest mental game" Some questions we ask: Why waste energy on things that you can’t control, including baggage from the past? (1:00) What do you get completely lost in doing and what calls to your soul? (2:00) If the majority of people who don’t care about your decisions, why seek their approval? (4:00) When you are alone, do you listen to the demon that tells you to eat pizza when you are trying to get in good shape (7:00) Did you know that our podcast has been in the making for 2 years?  (12:00) What if you compared yourself to who you were 5 years ago and measured your progress? (13:00) Are you thankful that you are able to eat and walk? (16:00) In this episode, we tap into the top 9 practices that you can emulate to build mental muscle. Don’t make complaints or excuses. Invest energy in the present. Do not devote your energy on pleasing others and follow your bliss. Don’t give up because failure should be reframed as an opportunity to learn and improve.   Enjoy your alone time and get to know yourself.    Be prepared to put in hard work because the world owes you nothing. Don’t expect instant gratification and  instant results because patience is a virtue. Your body can determine how your mind functions. Modify unhealthy self-limiting beliefs Practice gratitude because there is so much to be thankful for. Be persistent. Be patient . Show up on your journey. Mind over matter!   

I'll be happy when...I lose 10 pounds I'll be happy when...I get married. I'll be happy when...I get my dream job I’ll be happy when...I buy my dream house. I'll be happy when...I have children. I'll be happy when...I can retire. “Happiness will never come to those who fail to appreciate what they already have” ~Buddha We tend to predict that our happiness is derived from a future event. As soon as that future event provides temporary excitement, we soon replace it with another happiness milestone. In reality, we should have gratitude for the steps taken to get to this point and be thankful that we know where we want to go. "You'll never be happy if you don't enjoy the process" Some questions we ask: Life is a staircase. If you are at step 200 and anticipate happiness at step 750, how do you know if more steps are guaranteed? (2:00) When you meet a potential partner, do you disqualify them based on superficial criteria or focus on how they make you feel? (10:00) If you will be happy when you get a new job or your business takes off, what are you doing to get to that point? (12:00) If you reach the top of the ladder, what if you realize you are climbing the wrong ladder? (13:00) Are you surrounding yourself with people who talk about other people or people who talk about vision? (14:00) In this episode, we examine and banish the “I’ll be happy when” statement in our relationships, physical, materialistic, career goals.   The next time you catch yourself saying “I’ll be happy when..”, replace it with “I’m happy because”. Instead of predicting happiness at  a future benchmark, be happy now because there is no guarantee in tomorrow. You are exactly where you need to be for a reason and can get anywhere you want to be in if you enjoy the process. Don’t worry, be happy:)

In this episode, Kaivan speaks from the place that completely changed his life perspective. He realized the true value of gratitude, patience, and pain. This place is absolutely free to visit, and if you haven’t been there already, you are very likely to go at least once in your lifetime.

There are phrases we say and phrases we think. Did you know that these determine the reality you create now and in the future? In this episode we discuss the 4 toxic phrases that you must remove to have an amazing life. Additionally, we go through the way you can reframe these phrases anytime they pop up in your head.

Did you know that your success in life is proportionally dependent on the number of uncomfortable conversations you’ll have? In this episode we discuss the type of uncomfortable conversations that you must have in your relationships, and your career to have the best life.

We spend 1/3rd of our adult lives in a job. Fulfillment in a job comes in many different ways, and in this episode we help you identify those. This episode will help you decide whether you should stay where you are, or find another opportunity.

Everyone goes thru pain in life and the pain comes from many different places: from relationship, health, and emotional. What we forget is that pain is temporary but suffering can make pain last forever. The choice is your because both requires action. Don’t just go thru the pain, grow from it.We are talking about the suffering that you can control. The pain that you can reverse.

Life and working out: Did you realize that they could be exactly the same? In this episode we discuss the elements to compare life and working out, and how they match up. You’ll learn that goals, discipline, perseverance and many others play a huge role in seeing results, both in life and working out.

We have all heard that the most successful people have their morning rituals and routines. In this episode, we discuss how to have a morning routine, what the morning routine should contain, and what the benefits of the morning routine are. Hint: It can change your whole life for the better.

Can self confidence truly be gained, or is it something that most people naturally have? In this episode, we dive into the 2 key elements under your control that you can shift your focus to, that will have an exponentially positive effect on your self confidence. Love yourself. Even the parts you don’t like. Because it’s you. Sure you can change the things you don’t like, but be aware of them and love them anyways. We love others despite their flaws, why can’t we love ourselves?

The people you surround yourself say a lot about who you are. Who you surround yourself with, is ultimately who you will become. In today’s episode, we discuss the 7 type of friends that you must have in your life in order to succeed.

We’ve always heard “Nobody likes change”, yet it’s all around us. Change is inevitable. Change can be scary. But can we as individuals change? Is it a conscious decision or are there forces beyond our control that give us no choice but to change? In this episode, we discuss the events, both positive and negative, that make people change, and why is it truly that people change?

Just like that 2018 is done. In this episode, I invite my good friend "G" and we talk about blessings and lessons from 2018. We discuss how health and fitness, both mental and physical, have to be a part of your lifestyle, and a daily priority.  Why asking for help through coaching and mentorship in areas you want to excel in is how you get to the next level. How being proactive about writing down your goals can give your whole life meaning and purpose. Once you’ve found your purpose, we discuss tips on how to be disciplined and structured which will help you get there. And as you’re on your way there, why It’s important for you to remove toxic people which will ultimately attract people aligned with your vision and goals. To request the Staying Uncomfortable exercise discussed in this episode, please e-mail me at Kd@kaivano.com

In 2016, the Staying Uncomfortable show was born after a bad relationship. It took time, faith, and a number of self-improvement exercises in order to heal. Staying Uncomfortable with Kaivan Dave is a weekly podcast on where growth happens.