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In this episode, I sit down with Dominique "Dom" Brightmon, distinguished Toastmaster, certified Maxwell Leadership trainer, bestselling author, and host of the Going North Podcast. Dom shares his inspiring journey from discovering his voice as a teenager in church to becoming a respected speaker, author, and podcast host with more than 1,000 episodes under his belt. Along the way, he reveals how mentorship, personal growth, and a commitment to serving others helped shape his path.    In this episode, we discuss: How Dom discovered his purpose through public speaking and service The role Toastmasters played in developing his confidence and leadership skills Why self-leadership is the foundation for leading others effectively The Three E's of self-leadership: Examination, Execution, and Energy How personal setbacks can become catalysts for growth and transformation The importance of surrounding yourself with people who inspire and challenge you Why encouraging others can help you reconnect with your own sense of purpose   No matter where you are on your journey, remember that your purpose is not something you have to chase. It is something you can uncover by leading yourself well, staying open to growth, and taking the next step forward with courage.    About Dom: Dominique “Dom” Brightmon, DTM, is a certified trainer with the Maxwell Leadership Team, bestselling author, and host of the Going North Podcast, a podcast committed to featuring authors from around the world to promote the power of the written word and inspire listeners to publish books of their own. His mantra is Advance others to advance yourself. https://www.dombrightmon.com/ ----- Connect with Candice Snyder! Website: https://www.podpage.com/passion-purpose-and-possibilities-1/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/candicebsnyder?_rdr Passion, Purpose, and Possibilities Community Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/passionpurposeandpossibilitiescommunity/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/passionpurposepossibilities/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/candicesnyder/ Shop For A Cause With Gifts That Give Back to Nonprofits: https://thekindnesscause.com/ Go to FusionaryFormulas.com and use code PASSION at checkout for 15% off your first order.  Fall In Love With Artists And Experience Joy And Calm: https://www.youtube.com/@movenartrelaxation

Send us Fan MailWe've made mental health really hard at work. In this episode, Chris Burkhard sits down with Stephanie Lemek, founder of The Wounded Workforce, to simplify the conversation.Stephanie translates complex psychological concepts into actionable leadership tools. We discuss:Why accountability is a mental health tool.The "Three E's" of trauma and how they show up at work.How to use "Choice" to empower your team.Practical resources like 2-1-1 and EAPs.Connect with Stephanie: www.thewoundedworkforce.com Recommended Books: The Good Life (Dr. Robert Waldinger) and What Happened to You? (Oprah Winfrey & Dr. Bruce Perry).

You can listen wherever you get your podcasts or check out the fully edited transcript of our interview at the bottom of this post.In this episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, my guest is Dr. Justin Coulson, an Australian parenting expert and father of 6 who has his PhD in psychology and is the author of 10 books on parenting and the co-host of the Happy Families podcast with his wife, Kylie. We discuss the psychology behind peaceful parenting, including how self-determination theory explains kids' challenging behavior. Dr. Justin also shared his three E's of discipline.Know someone who might appreciate this episode? Share it with them!And if you love the podcast, FREE ways to help us out:1- Rate and review the podcast in your podcast player app2- “Like” this post by tapping the heart icon ♥️3- Share this with a friend. THANK YOU!We talk about:* 1:45 – Introduction to Dr. Justin Coulson and his personal parenting turning pointHow struggles with anger and discipline led him to rethink everything and study psychology.* 08:20 – Learning to regulate ourselves, practicing repair, and growing over time.* 15:50 – Why peaceful parenting starts with the parent's self-awareness and regulation.* 19:50 – Understanding behavior through compassion and curiosity.* 20:50 – The HALTS frameworkHow hunger, anger, loneliness, tiredness, and stress impact children's behavior.* 23:00 – Self-determination theory and parenting* 33:00 – The 3 E's of Effective Discipline* 41:50 – How to use the 3 E's in everyday parenting moments.Real-life examples: screens, sibling conflict & collaboration* 49:00 – Building trust and the “goodwill bank” with kidsWhy collaborative parenting pays off when tough limits are needed.* 53:30 – Advice to his younger parenting self: “soft eyes”A powerful reflection on kindness, connection, and showing up with compassion.* 56:30 – Where to find Dr. Justin CoulsonHis podcast, books, and upcoming work on boys and healthy masculinity.Resources mentioned in this episode:* Dr. Justin's website and podcast* Yoto Screen Free Audio Book Player* The Peaceful Parenting Membership* Evelyn & Bobbie brasConnect with Sarah Rosensweet:* Instagram* Facebook Group* YouTube* Website* Join us on Substack* Newsletter* Book a short consult or coaching session callxx Sarah and CoreyYour peaceful parenting team- click here for a free short consult or a coaching sessionVisit our website for free resources, podcast, coaching, membership and more!>> Please support us!!! 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He's an Australian parenting expert with a PhD in psychology, the author of 10 books on parenting, the co-host of the Happy Families podcast with his wife, Kylie, the father of six children, and, last but not least, grandfather of one.We discuss the psychology behind peaceful parenting, including how self-determination theory explains kids' challenging behavior. Dr. Justin also shared his three E's of discipline, which I just loved.If you like this episode, please share it with a friend so more parents can learn about peaceful parenting. If you're a fan of the podcast, you can help us out not only by sharing it, but by leaving a review and a five-star rating in your podcast player app. While you're there, don't forget to follow the show so you don't miss an episode.If you'd like to support us even more, you can become a supporter on Substack to help us offset the cost of making the show. We'll put a link in the show notes.Let's meet Dr. Justin. I hope you enjoy this conversation and get as much out of his insights as I did.Sarah: Hello, Dr. Justin, and welcome to the podcast.Dr. Justin: Sarah, I'm so glad to be with you. Thanks for having me on.Sarah: Yeah, and it's morning for you, evening for me—nice—and I'm just glad that we could make this time to talk to each other. I really appreciate it. Thank you. So, could you just tell us a little bit about who you are and what you do?Dr. Justin: Sure. I grew up on the east coast of Australia, about an hour north of Sydney. Geographically, that kind of locates where I was. I was the teenage boy that every parent hopes they will not have. I don't think I was a particularly bad kid, but I certainly wasn't a good kid.My parents were spending a small fortune—I'm a 1975 baby, I turned 50 last year—but this was in the late '80s and early '90s. My parents were spending so much money to send me to a private school. Because we were on the coast—a very quintessentially Australian thing—I was wagging school.Do you say “wagging school” in Canada? Is that a term Canadians use?Sarah: No, but I think we get the context. I think it means not going to school.Dr. Justin: Yeah, I was truant. They thought I was there, but I wasn't.Sarah: We say skipping.Dr. Justin: I was skipping school. Okay, yeah. We call it a school wag.So I would go to school in the morning and get my name marked off in roll call. Then I would sneak out of the school. Across the road from the school, there were bushes—kind of a forest, or whatever you might call it in Canada and America. I would get changed out of my tie, long pants, and black school shoes, throw on some board shorts and a T-shirt.My surfboard was stashed in the bush, and I'd grab it from the hiding place. Then I'd jump on a bus, go to the beach, and surf all day. Afterward, I'd get a bus back to school in the afternoon, change back into my uniform, and race into the school just in time to get my name marked off, looking like I'd been at school all day.This was in the days before schools communicated with parents via email and text, because none of that existed. I was able to get away with it.So I finished high school. I scored in the bottom 15%—Sarah: Goodness.Dr. Justin: Not just my class, but of the entire state of New South Wales. My parents were devastated.I didn't care. I wanted to have a media career. I wanted to be a radio announcer. So I got into radio. If you've ever listened to the radio—and no offense to radio people—you know you don't have to do well at school to be good at radio. You just have to be able to sit on the microphone and say things that make sense.I knew I could do that, so school didn't matter to me. I didn't care about it. That's what I did.But this is where it intersects with parenting.About 10 years into my radio career, my wife and I were having some challenges, particularly around my parenting. We had a threenager and a newborn baby.That three-year-old—I had always held the opinion that my children would do as they were told, and if they didn't, I would make sure they understood that I was the father and that their job was to do as I said.So I was very punitive. I basically made all of the parenting mistakes you can imagine when I would get angry, frustrated, and ill-tempered. It's not that I was a bad father—I spent a lot of high-quality time loving my kids—but I was also really short-fused and highly aggressive.Frankly, I went from threatening to hitting really fast. You call it spanking; we would call it smacking. I was very, very quick to smack or spank my three-year-old, and it wasn't working.After one particularly bad incident where things escalated, I really did lose control. I didn't just spank her once. There were multiple spankings. This was like a 10-minute escalation session where it just got worse and worse and worse.My wife was out at the time. When she came home, I said to Kylie, “I'm a bad father. I'm not doing this well. I'm making a lot of mistakes, and here's what happened while you were out.”Full confession: Kylie has always been this wonderfully supportive wife—very kind, gentle, compassionate, soft-spoken, thoughtful, considerate, empathic—all of those beautiful attributes that I prize and treasure in my good wife.She was none of those things that day.She had fire in her eyes and said, “You are not living up to the father that I hoped you would be, and you're also not living up to the husband I need you to be.”And it took me back, because I was already feeling downcast. I felt like I was failing anyway, and she just—it was like she picked up a great big lump of wood and whacked me over the head with it and said, “No.”Of course, she didn't actually do that, but that's how it felt. It felt physical. Visceral. Like, Ow. This is serious.I left my radio career shortly thereafter.I was working at one of the biggest radio stations in Australia at the time, and I gave up all the backstage passes with global superstars and hanging out with record company executives at the best restaurants, eating their food so they could bribe me to play their music on the radio station. I went back to school.I became a full-time student. I worked part-time at three different jobs while studying full-time. I'd sleep under the desk at university so I could do the study and the work—Sarah: No surfing this time?Dr. Justin: No surfing this time, no. I was just so committed to it.After eight and a half years of full-time study, I graduated with a doctorate. I had to do a couple of other qualifications first, including a psychological science degree. I graduated with a doctorate in psychology and became a university lecturer.Along the way, Sarah, we went from having our two kids at that point to having our third child in my first year of study, our fourth child in my fifth year of study, and our fifth child while I was doing my doctorate. Shortly after I left the university setting, stopped lecturing, and started writing books and giving talks, we had our sixth child.So we're the parents—Sarah: Amazing.Dr. Justin: —of six daughters. Today, they range in age from 12—the youngest—to the oldest, who is in her mid-to-late 20s. She and her husband have a baby now. They've been married for a few years.Sarah: Wow. You're a grandpa.Dr. Justin: A grand—I'm a grandpa. We have a two-and-a-half-year-old grandbaby, four adult children, one in her teens, and a 12-year-old.So that's kind of my very short version of the journey.Along the way, I've written a bunch of books. We've got a TV show in Australia called Parental Guidance. We've had three seasons of that show on primetime TV. I've got a website and all the things that you'd expect—a podcast and so on.Sarah: What did you do when you had that aha moment—that realization that you weren't being the kind of dad you wanted to be, and your wife also agreed that you weren't being the kind of dad she wanted you to be? What did you change?Because you just mentioned that you spent eight and a half years going back to school. I imagine that you made some changes before you had six kids. So what did you do right away, maybe for anyone listening who can relate to those feelings of rage and feeling triggered by your child?Dr. Justin: Sarah, the first thing I'd say is that there was no linear change, and there were no immediate changes, because I didn't know what to do.I was unskilled. I was uneducated. I didn't know anything about psychology, and I clearly didn't know anything about parenting.But I found a mentor. I have a faith background, and there was a writer who wrote eloquently and compassionately. I just felt like he understood me, and he became a mentor to me.I also discovered a guy called Alfie Kohn. You might be familiar with Alfie Kohn.Sarah: Oh, Alfie Kohn was the first thing I ever read about parenting—Dr. Justin: Oh, great.Sarah: —before I even had kids. And he was on the podcast last year, which felt like a full-circle moment between how influential—I told him on the podcast, “You have probably had the biggest influence on me—not only in my parenting, but in my life's direction—of any single person out there.”So, sorry, fan-girl moment. I'm right there with you with Alfie Kohn.Dr. Justin: Yeah. I've gotten to know Alfie over the years as my academic career advanced and I began to understand where he took his research from.I read his book Punished by Rewards—I think it was a 1993—Sarah: That was my first one too.Dr. Justin: Yeah, it's a 1993 publication or something.Sarah, it was just so influential.What happened was, I was doing my university degree and learning things, and honestly, I'd be sitting there thinking, Hang on, the things they're teaching me in these university courses seem to clash with what Alfie Kohn taught me in Punished by Rewards.So I spent a lot of time in the notes section at the back—you know, all the references nobody ever reads?Sarah: Mm-hmm.Dr. Justin: As I went through them, I discovered researchers named Edward Deci and Richard Ryan from the University of Rochester in upstate New York.They had developed a theory known as self-determination theory.A large portion of Alfie Kohn's work is based on self-determination theory.So I really dug deep into that. I still love Alfie, but I moved very much into the academic side because I became a university lecturer and really got into the nitty-gritty of understanding the deepest depths of what self-determination theory is all about. That has become the foundation of the work that I do.And to your question: nothing is linear when you are trying to make improvements.Whether you're trying to change your diet, exercise, get your finances in order, or improve your relationships, you have insights. You have moments where you think, Oh my goodness, this is what I need to do. I need to show up with warmth on my face and soft eyes.And then three hours later, one of your children does something, and you forget what soft eyes look and feel like. You look at them with hard eyes, frustration in your voice, and short, clipped sentences.Then half an hour later, you think, Oh, self-awareness. I missed that.So it's this gradual process: two steps forward, one step back. Three steps forward, one step back. Four steps forward, three steps back. Eight steps forward, no steps back.Over the years, I had this beautiful experience—and maybe you've had a similar experience in your family as you've raised your kids.We were maybe in my third or fourth year of study. My wife has an early childhood background. She knows child development. She knows what kids need.She was a little skeptical about a lot of the things I was starting to talk about and discover as I went through university and got into the depths of what the research meant—comparing and contrasting it with what was mainstream, but actually not always quite right.We had some tension around how we should respond to the children. I was moving away from that authoritarian bent and developing ideas around exploring their world more.One night, I came home from university a little late. It was probably around 9:00 p.m. Our three children were still awake.As I drove into the driveway, all the lights in the house were on. The windows were open. Looking through the living room window, I could tell the house was—to put it politely—a mess.And as I stepped into the house, the kids—it was just awful.I walked over to Kylie and said, “Honey, it looks like it's been a pretty tough day.”I was trying to be compassionate and empathic. I was really trying to do what psychology says is the right thing to do.Kylie looked at me without hesitation and said, “Don't give me any of that psychology crap. I've had the worst day in the world.”Then she stormed out and said, “You fix it,” and walked into the bedroom and closed the door.Again, this is not how my wife usually is, but it had been a really rough day. The kids were feral. The house was a mess.I looked at my priorities. I sat down with the child who was struggling the most and worked with her for two or three minutes. She calmed down, I gave her a little food, and put her to bed.Within about 20 minutes, I had all three kids in bed, and I was so proud of myself.I stepped into the kitchen and started tidying up. I thought, I'll just give Kylie some space.After another 30 or 40 minutes of tidying, I stepped into the living room and said, “Honey, I know you're really upset. It's been a pretty tough day. I wasn't trying to be judgy or anything.”And she said, “It's fine for you. You're not dealing with it all day. You walk in and think you can just snap your fingers and everything's fine.”Then she looked at me and said, “But tonight, you walked in and it feels like you snapped your fingers and everything's fine.”And we had this beautiful conversation where she said, “I've been resenting the things you've been trying to tell me because it felt like you were telling me I was wrong.“But I've been watching, and I'm actually seeing that the things you're doing are working, and our family is feeling better.”It took four or five years to get there, Sarah.It's not like I had this epiphany—I'm a bad father, I need to change—and suddenly I was a good dad.There were many embarrassing, shameful moments after that epiphany where I still made terrible decisions and treated the children badly.Even today, I still lose my temper, say things I shouldn't, and get frustrated, because kids are kids and we're fallible humans.But we call parenting parenting because it's about us. If it were about children, we'd call it childrening.Which sounds silly, right?Dr. Justin: But what I've really discovered is that if I can learn how to regulate myself—high emotions equal low intelligence—then I can regulate my emotions, turn them up or down appropriately for the context, and keep them in harmony with my long-term goals, which are to have loving, kind relationships with my children.If I can do that, I'm going to approach them with a tremendously different focus than I will if I'm looking for a short-term fix.And that is something—Anger is a habit. Yelling is a habit. Time-out is a habit. Reward charts are a habit.We can create other habits. We just have to understand the processes and principles behind those habits and then practice them, like we practice a song on the piano, until we finally get it right.Sarah: I love that.So you and Kylie really had a journey—a back-and-forth dance of your own processes and your own development.I do love how you say it's really about us. Whenever I'm working with clients, after a couple of sessions they'll say, “You know what? This isn't even about my kid. This is just about me.”Dr. Justin: Yes. Yes.Sarah: Nobody wants to believe that at first, because it's so much easier to think, I've just got to change them and what they're doing.But it's really all about what we're bringing to the moment and what we're bringing to the relationship.Dr. Justin: I get in trouble sometimes for being overly provocative and saying things that are insensitive, so a quick warning:I want to say what I'm about to say with all the compassion in the world and all the tenderness and care in the world, because I work with people every single day who are dealing with exactly the struggles you're talking about.I want to step into the world of neurodiversity—ADHD, autism, trauma—those kinds of areas.What we're talking about applies there as well. It's just harder.Sarah: Mm-hmm.Dr. Justin: But ultimately, if I'm raising an ADHD child or a child who's been through a traumatic experience, once again, parenting is not about them. It's about how I show up for them.So I can say, “Well, my child's like that,” or, “I'm like this because of the diagnosis,” or because of the label, or because of the trauma, or because of the neural networks doing what they're doing.I can say all of those things, and many people do. It's understandable, and I have all the compassion in the world for them when they do.But the key thing I want to highlight is that in spite of all of those challenges your child might be facing—or even that you might be facing—today begins now.It begins with what you put on your face and what you think in your mind.If we can soften our features and go to our children with kindness and compassion while still holding appropriate limits—or working with them to develop appropriate limits—then what we can say is:“Yes, that bad thing happened,” or, “Yes, we are dealing with this difficulty, so what are we going to do about it?”We can fall into the I can't do anything way of thinking, which is really ineffective and doesn't help at all.Or we can step into I have this incredible thing psychologists call agency, or self-efficacy, where I can make a decision now, and if we work on it, we can actually improve things.It might be a longer, harder road. There may be more obstacles to climb over than a typical family without those challenging circumstances.It may be harder.But we can always improve.I never want to be the person who puts limits on what kids can do or what parents can do.If we change our language, change our focus, and recognize that this is a long game—Sarah: Mm-hmm.Dr. Justin: —which requires sustained effort every single day, it's extraordinary the progress we can make and the changes we can create in our home and our family.Sarah: For sure. Yeah.And unfortunately, it's a long game, right? Because I think today we always want quick answers and solutions.Really, it's just showing up every day as best you can and repairing when you don't show up the way you wish you had.And I think another really important part of it—which you were talking around a little bit—is trying to understand our child's experience and see things from their perspective.I was just talking to a client about that today:What's the most emotionally generous explanation you can come up with for their behavior?Because we don't actually know why anyone does anything, since we're not in their brain.But we often jump to, They're being rude on purpose, or They're trying to annoy me.Really, if we can think, Well, I don't know why they're doing this, but there's probably a reason, because kids want to be good. They want to be connected with us.And just reminding ourselves that they're not giving us a hard time—they're having a hard time.That actually makes it easier, I think, to show up as your best, most compassionate self—with, as you say, soft eyes and warm features.Dr. Justin: Yeah.No child wakes up in the morning thinking, Today's the day. I'm just going to ruin everything.This is the perfect opportunity. My parents are tired and frazzled. There's a cost-of-living crisis. There are all these challenges happening, and if ever there was a moment—it's now. I'm going to do it today.They don't wake up thinking that.Like you said—and you said it so perfectly—kids really do want to please us.I know some parents listening to me say that right now are thinking, No, no. My child does not want to please me.And so the question becomes: Why? Why are they struggling?And maybe this is a nice way for me to bring in some of the principles I learned as I went deeper into self-determination theory.There are a couple of times when children are almost guaranteed to be challenging, and this has nothing to do with self-determination theory. This is just general psychology and wellbeing.I always think of Germany. A police officer tells you to stop, but they don't say the word stop because they're German.In German, the word for stop is halt—H-A-L-T.So we add an S to the end, and the acronym becomes:Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired, or Stressed.Sarah: Mm-hmm.Dr. Justin: Those are the five times when you can all but guarantee your children are not going to be doing well.If they are hungry, get some food into them—ideally a little protein, because it's satiating and helps them feel full quickly.If they're angry, then we've got to remember: high emotions equal low intelligence.You can't think straight in a high emotional state.So our job is to get curious, not furious, because if we fight fire with fire, we end up with a scorched-earth policy and everything gets burned.Dr. Justin: Lonely.I could be sitting right next to you, Sarah, and feel disconnected and lonely—Sarah: Mm-hmm.Dr. Justin: —even if we were very close.Our children are sometimes literally sitting at our kitchen bench, and they feel alone. They feel a little lost. Because of the way we're responding to them—with hard commands, correction, and direction rather than connection—they feel lonely.Tired.I don't even need to explain that.Even as adults, I don't know any couple who, at the end of witching hour—or whatever you might call it in North America, that 5:00 to 7:00 p.m. stretch when the kids—Sarah: Yeah.Dr. Justin: —are just oof…It's the end of that period, and you're exhausted, the kids are exhausted, and you look at your husband or wife and say, “You know what? We are so tired. We're shattered. But boy, are we nailing it tonight.”Nobody ever says that when they're tired—Sarah: Yeah.Dr. Justin: —because you're not nailing it. You're just hanging in there.And it's the same with kids.Then the S is for stressed, and that includes sickness, because sickness is a stress on the body as well.Those five indicators are going to let you know when your child is likely to be challenging, and I think they're really good to watch out for.But if we go a little deeper and talk about self-determination theory, it says that each of us has these needs.You have them, Sarah, and I have them, and our children have them—even your mother-in-law has them.We have three basic psychological needs.When we're in environments where those needs are supported, oh my goodness, we thrive. These are environments we're drawn to and attracted to. We approach them with a smile on our face and can't wait to be there.But if the environment is what researchers call need-thwarting or need-frustrating—meaning it frustrates and thwarts those needs—then we avoid it.Sarah: Mm-hmm.Dr. Justin: Or, if we're in those environments, we act in ways that are challenging.So the basic psychological needs are:Number one: a sense of relationship, or relatedness. That's the technical term they use.Relatedness is a sense of mutual belonging.Sarah: So would it be similar to mattering? Like you feel like you matter to somebody?Dr. Justin: Yeah. There's been a lot of talk recently about mattering.But it's reciprocal mattering. It's not just one-way.It's I matter to you, but you matter to me.Sarah: Yeah.Dr. Justin: Let me use Mother's Day as an example.We just had Mother's Day in Australia at the start of May.If I've got a great relationship with my mother-in-law, and it's Mother's Day, I'm probably going to spend the morning with my wife and family while my children celebrate their mum. Then maybe at lunchtime, we head over to the in-laws to celebrate my wife's mum.If I feel like that relationship need is supported at my mother-in-law's—meaning there's mutual belonging, I matter to her, she matters to me, we enjoy one another's company, and it feels good—I'm going to say:“Great. Let's get in the car. Let's go. What do we need to do?”But if I'm going to a need-frustrating environment—if there's tension, antagonism, snide remarks, eye rolls, silence, defensiveness, or wounds from bad things that happened in the past—that environment doesn't feel good to me.So I'm going to say to Kylie:“Honey, why don't you take the kids to your mum's? Have a great lunch. We've made a big mess this morning, and I think the best thing I can do for your Mother's Day”—and I'll frame it nicely, of course—“is stay home, tidy the house, clean up the kitchen, get everything ready, and put dinner on for tonight so you can have your perfect Mother's Day dinner. I'll see you in four hours.”And then I send her out the door.Why?Because my in-laws' home has become a need-thwarting or need-frustrating environment. I just don't want to be there.And if I am there, I'm going to be sullen and sulky. I might try my best for half an hour and then say, “Oh, this is too hard,” and retreat—Sarah: Or text. The adult version of misbehavior.Dr. Justin: Yes, exactly. Exactly.But if I'm a child in a need-thwarting or need-frustrating environment, I'm going to get into fights with the kids I don't like.Or I'm going to say, “I don't want to go to school because everyone picks on me because I don't regulate my behavior properly because I've got ADHD.”Right?So school becomes a place I don't want to go.Or maybe you have a faith background and your child doesn't have any friends at church.Or you've signed them up for soccer, but they don't know anyone on the team.And they're saying, “Yeah, but I don't want to go.”It all comes down to relationship.Relationship is the basic psychological need that's being thwarted.Now, the second basic psychological need is competence.Competence, I would describe as feeling like I can do the thing I'm being asked to do.Sarah: Or that I want to do.Dr. Justin: Yeah. We'll get to want to in just a second, because want-to is the third basic psychological need—autonomy.So stay with me on competence for a second.Competence is capability. Capacity.It's not even necessarily about being able to do something—it's about feeling like you're making progress toward the goal.Let's say I'm joining acrobatics and trying to learn how to do a handstand.That's really tricky. It's a tough skill.If I show up every week to acrobatics, even if I've got great friends there—so my relationship need is supported—and I love my coach, but every time I try to do a handstand my shoulders buckle, my elbows aren't straight, my form is wrong, I fall over, or I can't stay up…After four or five or six weeks, I'm going to say:“I don't like this anymore. I'm out.”I had a daughter who wanted to come cycling with me.I'm a really keen cyclist. I ride on the road. I'm a middle-aged man in Lycra.But I also ride on the velodrome.You've seen those velodrome bikes at the Olympics—the indoor track where they go around and around and around.You might have noticed that after they finish the race, they keep pedaling and do another 10 laps.The reason is twofold.Number one: there are no brakes on those bikes.And second: they use what's called a fixed gear, meaning that when the wheels are spinning, the pedals are spinning.If you stop pedaling, you're going to get thrown over the handlebars because the wheels are still moving, which means the pedals are still moving, even if you try to stop them.So you just have to keep riding until the bike slows down.My daughter wanted to come to Friday night velodrome racing with me.We didn't have the money, but we spent all this cash on a bike, the Lycra, the helmet, the special shoes—it cost a lot, and I was a poor university student.But my daughter wanted to cycle with me, and I wasn't going to miss that opportunity. So we sacrificed and made it happen.Unfortunately, she was competing against girls who had been riding for four, five, or six years.For the first few weeks, she gave it a good go, but she was losing by several laps every race.After about a month, she said:“Dad, I don't want to do this anymore.”And my response was:“But I've spent all this money.”But what was really going on was that as much as she liked the girls and the atmosphere, she didn't feel competent—Sarah: Mm-hmm.Dr. Justin: —and she didn't see progress.She didn't feel like she was ever going to master the activity, so her motivation and wellbeing plummeted.Cycling became a need-thwarting environment for her.Whether it's piano, violin, rock climbing, cycling, swimming, math, PE class—it doesn't matter.If your kids don't feel like they can do the thing, they're going to push back.They're going to say:“This is too hard. I don't like it.”They won't use these exact words, but what they're really saying is:“This is a need-frustrating environment for me. I don't like it. I don't want to be there.”And then they start to act out.My mom got to the stage with me as a 13-year-old boy where she was physically holding me by the arm and dragging me into my piano lessons.Dr. Justin: Which brings me to my third and final basic psychological need, which is autonomy.A lot of people hear the word autonomy and think it means freedom—that kids can do whatever they want. They think it means independence.That's not what autonomy means, certainly not in the strict scientific form we're talking about within this theory.Rather, autonomy comes down to identifying the value of an activity and therefore endorsing the actions required to do the activity.See, if I, as a 12-year-old, looked at piano and thought:This is going to be a lifelong skill that will bring me joy, that I'll be able to share with others, that I can use in service of my family and community. If I can play piano or keyboard, I could be in a band. I could do all of these things.If I identified the value in the activity, then I would endorse the work required to learn it.So autonomy is not about freedom and independence. It's about choice based on values.That's a lot when you're thinking about three-, four-, and five-year-olds, but not necessarily—Sarah: No, I love that.We talk about that all the time in my communities—how important it is for kids to have autonomy.And I think you can have autonomy even when kids can't be independent, right?Because you can't have a four-year-old who's independent, but you can have a four-year-old who can make decisions that matter.Dr. Justin: Yes, yes.And that decision goes well beyond, Do you want to wear the blue suit or the green one?Sarah: I'll quote our friend Alfie Kohn. He says, “Kids should have the ability to make decisions that make adults gulp a little bit.”Dr. Justin: I love it. Yes. Beautiful.Let me give an adult version of this, and then I'll swing it back into childhood, because sometimes parents hear this and think, This isn't quite computing for me.In Canada, you drive on the right-hand side of the road.Sarah: Mm-hmm.Dr. Justin: And it's true that if you choose to drive on the left-hand side of the road, the authorities will probably get involved. You may cause harm to somebody. You could even end up in prison.But even in the middle of the night, when nobody's on the road, I can't imagine there are too many Canadians who get in the car and think:Tonight's the night. Nobody's watching. I'm gonna drive on the left.You are being absolutely controlled by the government and by the law. You're driving on the right-hand side of the road.But because you identify the value in driving on the right-hand side of the road, nobody has to compel you to do it.You just do it because you endorse the idea that driving on the right is safer. It's what you need to do.So our job with our children is twofold.First, when it comes to these basic psychological needs, we want to help them be in environments—or create environments—where those needs are supported.We want to send them to a school where they have good relationships, where somebody says, “Hey, come sit with us,” where teachers know them by name and smile when they see them and are excited to support them.A school where they're able to experience progress—which might mean less emphasis on grades and more emphasis on developing capability.And a school where they feel like they have some say in where they're going and what they're doing.Rather than being forced to attend a school like I was when I was a teenager, they get to say:“No, I want to go to that school because that's where my friends are.”Or:“That's where the teachers help me feel good.”Or:“That's where my interests lie.”That's the basic psychological-needs concept.Now let's bring that into discipline, which is what started this whole conversation.Based on this theory—and I guess it ties back to a lot of what Alfie Kohn has said as well—I developed a little model that's really easy to memorize and even easier to enact.I call it the Three E's of Effective Discipline.The Three E's of Effective Discipline are need-supportive.If you look at the root of the word discipline, it comes from the idea that we teach, guide, and instruct—that we show the way to follow.Sarah: Mm-hmm.Dr. Justin: But if you look at the modern definition of discipline, the modern definition is punish.Punish means exact retribution. It means hurt. It means make someone pay a price.Sarah: Make people feel bad on purpose.Dr. Justin: Yeah. That's exactly right.And I'm interested in disciplining our kids, not punishing our kids.Punishment is need-thwarting, right?If you make someone feel bad on purpose, there goes the relationship. They feel incompetent, and you've taken away their autonomy.So standard discipline strategies—whether it's time-out, spanking, yelling, withdrawing privileges, taking away the iPad, bribery—all of those standard discipline practices trample over basic psychological needs.We've got to come up with something better.So I developed the Three E's of Effective Discipline, which are basically this:On a beautiful bed of empathy, we explore, we explain, and we empower.Sarah: Ooh, I love that.Dr. Justin: Explore basically means I sit down with my child at an appropriate time.Because we always try to fix things right here, right now.Sometimes we need to, but often intervention simply to make sure people and property aren't hurt—that's all you need.Then you can say to your child:“We'll have a chat about this later when nobody's got a head full of steam.”Kick it down the road.You don't have to fix things right here, right now. Most of the time, it's just not necessary.So once everyone is calm, you explore.You say:“Hey, I've noticed there's been a lot of tension in our home lately between you and your brother.”Or:“Have you noticed that for the last few weeks we've had so much conflict about screens?”And your child says, “Yeah.”And you say:“I just want to listen because parenting's about parents, right? I must be getting something wrong here. Can you help me understand what I'm missing? Where am I going wrong? What's the real problem from your perspective?”Now, there are three things that make this better.Number one: never do it with an audience.Kids always want to save face. They don't feel competent when we start these conversations in front of other people.Number two: have some treats.Because once you're feeding them, they're like:“Oh, I'm not in trouble. We're just chatting, and there are cookies,” or a thick shake, or something like that.And number three: take notes.When you're trying to solve problems—and that's really what discipline is—The Three E's of Effective Discipline are about problem-solving.Discipline—meaning helping, teaching, guiding, instructing—is really about solving problems.So if I want to solve problems effectively in my home—if I want to discipline my children well—I'm trying to say:“Where are you coming from? What am I missing?”When you take notes on what your kids are saying, it's amazing how much information they give you because they realize:You're really listening to me.Sarah: Yeah. You're taking me seriously. You're writing down what I say.Dr. Justin: They're blown away by it.So they'll tell you a bunch of stuff.Now, every now and then they won't. Sometimes they'll shrug and say, “I don't know.”And you can say:“Well, if you don't know, that's fine. But if you did know…”This drives kids crazy, but it's my favorite sentence.“If you did know, what do you think the answer would be?”Sarah: Mm-hmm.Dr. Justin: And they roll their eyes.“Well, I don't know. That's what I said. If I knew, I'd tell you, but I don't know.”And I say:“I know you don't know, and I understand that if you did know, you would tell me. But if you did know, what would you tell me?”Sarah: I love that.Dr. Justin: They get this feeling—it's like this horrible psychological trick where:I don't know the answer, but if I had to come up with one, I guess I'd say this…And now the conversation starts.You get momentum.Sarah: You Jedi mind-trick them.Dr. Justin: Yeah. It's beautiful.And you write it down.At no point are you allowed to interrupt.At no point are you allowed to tell them they're wrong.At no point are you allowed to respond with your adult wisdom.You just listen.Sarah: Okay, and we're still on explore?Still on the first E?Dr. Justin: We're still on the first E.You make all these notes, and once it sounds like they've told you everything, you say:“All right. So what you're telling me is…”And then you read the notes back.This is the oldest psychological strategy in the book—I'm not saying anything new here.If they say, “Yes, that's what I'm saying,” you say:“All right. Great. I've got it.”If they say no, then you say:“Oh, what have I missed? How did I get this wrong? Clarify it for me.”And they give you more information.But there's a really valuable question at the end.When they say, “Yes, that's what I'm saying,” you ask:“Fantastic. Is there anything else?”Sarah: Mm-hmm.Dr. Justin: The power of asking that extra question is profound.It forces them to go deeper.Sometimes they'll say, “No, that's it.”But often, their first answers are shallow answers to get you off their back.They're thinking:I'm telling you what I think you want to hear.But when you say:“Got it. You're happy with this answer? Fantastic. Is there anything else going on?”That's when they look at you and think:Oh—you're actually serious about this. You really care.Sarah: And you're really listening to me.Dr. Justin: Yeah.And it's profound what children will give you after you ask, “Is there anything else?”Once you've got everything written down, confirmed, and you're clear, the next step is explain.Dr. Justin: Now, there are a couple of things around explain.Explain is basically the part where you tell them what they need to know. This is the parent bit.But all too often, we step into lecturing, and the kids fall asleep. They're like, “Oh, here we go again. I thought this was going to be different, but it's no different after all.”So there are a couple of things we need to get right here.Number one: if you're going to explain anything to your children, my recommendation is that you keep it to less than 20 seconds.Now, there's no science around this. This is just my experience in talking with parents and kids in my own family. I find that if you talk for more than 10 to 20 seconds, kids really do tune out, and it goes back to the way things have always been.The second thing is that I always ask permission.“Now that I've listened to you, Sarah, there are just one or two things I'd love to run by you about what's going on. Do you mind if I do that?”I want to make this absolutely clear: as a parent, you do not need your child's permission to tell them things. I really, absolutely, honestly believe that. As the parent, you have the right to tell them stuff they need to know.But this isn't about rights. This is about effectiveness.If I launch into, “Well, Sarah, now that I've listened to that, I get it, but I need to tell you these two things,” I'm already bringing defensiveness back into the relationship.Sarah: Mm-hmm.Dr. Justin: Barriers are coming up.Whereas if I say, “Sarah, this is so helpful. As I've listened to you, two things have come to mind. Do you mind if I share both of those with you?” Your instant response, even as I say it—I'm watching your face—Sarah: I'm nodding.Dr. Justin: And you're going—Sarah: Yeah.Dr. Justin: Yeah. I actually want to know.You're opening up your heart and mind to me, and we're just role-playing this.Sarah: Yeah, yeah. Mm-hmm.Dr. Justin: And that's what our kids do. They're like, “Oh, okay.” Because we've given them the courtesy of listening—Sarah: Well, and you're not trying to use your power over them.Dr. Justin: Exactly.This is a non-coercive, really supportive conversation.And I still haven't had this happen. A lot of parents will say, “Well, what happens if they say no?”And I'm like, “I've raised six kids, and they've never actually looked at me and said, ‘Now that I think about it, no, I don't need to know anything that you…'”They've just never done it.But even if they did—Sarah: Well, if they do, it's probably that they're—what did you say? When emotions are high, intelligence is low. Maybe it wasn't the right time to have the conversation.If they're saying no, then they're probably still angry and holding onto whatever was going on for them.Dr. Justin: Exactly.But if they're that angry, they're probably not going to have explored nicely with you anyway.Sarah: Yes, exactly. So pick—Dr. Justin: A different time.You're probably not even going to—Sarah: Get to that point. Yeah.Dr. Justin: So it's very much: keep it really short, ask permission, and then share.Sarah: Okay. So give me examples.You said, “We've been fighting about screens,” was one example. You also gave the example of, “You've been fighting a lot with your brother.”So in the explain—10 to 20 seconds—choose one of those scenarios. After hearing your child, what would you say in that 10 to 20 seconds?Dr. Justin: I did this just the other day with my 16-year-old daughter, Lily, who is on social media more than she should be. There's been some tension and conflict.I listened. She shared some ideas, and I said, “There are just a couple of things I want to run by you. Is that okay?”She said, “Sure, Dad.”I said, “Great. There are certain times when we're trying to connect or have family time, and there are certain contexts where you're on your device and we just can't reach you.”She looked at me and said, “Yeah, I know.”I said, “Okay. The second thing I want to highlight is that we've noticed you're sleeping in because, even though you're not supposed to, you've been taking your phone into your bedroom at night and staying up late scrolling. Unless I'm reading it wrong, I'm pretty sure that's what's been happening.”And she said, “No, I have been, Dad. You're right.”So it's just two really succinct sentences where I'm stating what I'm seeing. I'm sharing my experience.Sarah: Mm-hmm.Dr. Justin: If it were the sibling fighting, I'd say, “Yeah, your brother is really annoying. I get what's going on. Sometimes I wish he didn't live in our house as well.”I might have a joke with them about the challenge associated with that.And then I might say, “So when this happens, can I just share how it feels for me? It breaks my heart. I love both of you so very much, and my dream is for our family to enjoy being in one another's company and to look forward to conversations and jokes and doing the things we do. When this stuff is going on, it feels like that's a pipe dream.“And secondly, psychologically—you know I've got this PhD in psychology—I know that there's damage being done to the way your brother feels about himself. That's what I'm worried about.”So I've had both of those little conversations on two different topics, sharing two different things, and both were about 10 seconds each.Sarah: Mm-hmm.Dr. Justin: Again, it's conversational. It's not lecture-style.Sarah: And it's from the heart.I can feel it, even though this is just an example you're giving. I can feel that it's from your heart—that you're really being open and sharing with your child what your true concerns are.You're not trying to power over or control. You're really sharing a heartfelt sentiment.Dr. Justin: Yeah. Thank you. That's the goal.You won't always do that, but that's the goal.The reason there's a problem is because your values are not being upheld in the home, and you're trying to communicate that in a way that shows you honor them and that they've got a brain.Now, we've used two really grown-up versions—or teenage versions, I guess. But you can have the same conversations with three- and four-year-olds. It's just shorter. It's simpler.Usually, with those conversations, in a pretty tight timeframe—60 to 90 seconds—you've done the whole process.There is a higher-order—Sarah: Okay, so what's the third part?Dr. Justin: Just before I get to that one, if you really want to do the advanced version of explain, what I'll often do after I've explored with my child is say:“Okay, so this is the bit where I'd normally explain what's going on from my point of view. I wonder if you can tell me what you think I'm going to say here.”Sarah: Ah.Dr. Justin: And so I get them to explain the explain to me.The reason that's so effective is that whenever my mouth is the one that's moving, my brain is the one that's working.If I can get their mouth moving, their brain is doing the heavy lifting.Sarah: Love that.Dr. Justin: That's really, really effective.And then the last one—Sarah: Is empower.And you're also helping them see things and develop empathy, right? To see things from somebody else's perspective.Dr. Justin: Yes. Powerful.The last one is empower.That's literally as simple as saying, “Okay, so I get where you're coming from. We've had that conversation very thoroughly. You know what my challenge is here. What do you think we should do?”“Where do we go from here? How do we solve this in a way that we can both feel good about?”It's true that every now and then, your child will shrug their shoulders and say, “I don't know.”Or they'll shrug and say, “Well, we should just do what I want to do.”And as a parent, that's where you step in and say my favorite line:“Don't you just wish? Don't you just wish we could?”Sarah: Mm-hmm.Dr. Justin: Because—well, let me ask you, Sarah. When I say, “Don't you just wish,” or, “Wouldn't it be good if we could?”—same thing—what have I actually said?Sarah: Total empathy. Heaps of empathy.Dr. Justin: Total empathy.But I've also said something else really clearly.Sarah: That that's not going to work.Dr. Justin: Correct. The answer is no.But it's a no with so much love, kindness, empathy, and gentleness in it—Sarah: Mm-hmm.Dr. Justin: —that your child goes, “Oh, yeah. I know.”And then you say, “So let's see if we can come up with a solution that will work.”What else might work for you when it comes to your brother?What else might work for you when it comes to the party on Friday night that I'm not willing to let you go to?What else could work when it comes to our screen challenges? Because this is an ongoing issue for us, isn't it?Every now and then, you won't get an answer right away. You'll say, “Well, let's talk about it again tonight,” or, “Let's talk about it again tomorrow once you've had some time to think about it.”But I'm big on deadlines.“We need to have this worked out by the end of the weekend, okay? I don't want to go through another week of this. We've got to find a solution. If we haven't had another chat by tomorrow night, we're going to sit down and work it out then.”And I also don't have a problem at this point—Laura Walker is a researcher at BYU in Utah, and she did a study published in the Journal of Adolescence where she found that parents who use these kinds of strategies—she's not talking about the Three E's of Effective Discipline, because that's the thing I developed, but it's based on the same sort of theory that she researches—Parents who use these kinds of strategies, even when they do have to step in and say, “All right, well, we haven't come up with a solution, so it's going to be my way,” kids are much more likely to be responsive and compliant—Sarah: Mm-hmm.Dr. Justin: —because we've been through a process with them that is not autocratic. It's not authoritarian.They've felt like they had a voice. Their perspective has been seen and heard. They've had some input.And even though they don't get what they want all the time—because we're the parents, and sometimes the fact that we've climbed 47 rungs on the ladder of life and they've only climbed 13 is all we need.Sarah: That's what I call in my work the goodwill bank.When your kids experience you as collaborative, non-coercive, and not power-tripping—when they know, over the period of their childhood, that they can trust you to take their preferences into account and be respectful of them—then when you do have to say no about something, even if they don't like it, there's this goodwill bank behind you and this level of trust.When you mentioned, “You can't go to the party on Friday,” I never had that issue with my kids because everything was so collaborative.We'd have similar conversations. I didn't have—I'm not very good at thinking of things like the Three E's—but similar kinds of processes where they'd say why they wanted to go, I'd say what my concerns were, and then they'd invariably say, “Oh, yeah, you're probably right.”It was never, “You can't go.”It was, “These are my concerns. This is what I've been thinking about.”Because they experienced that whole process over years of parenting, you don't get the pushback because they don't feel like you're power-tripping them.Dr. Justin: Yeah.Sarah, I had an experience with one of my adult children who was still living at home. I think she was maybe 19 or 20 when this happened.She wanted to go and do something, and I said to her, “You're an adult. You do get to choose for yourself whether you will do this or not, but I've got some really big concerns about you doing it.“I actually think you're putting yourself into a dangerous situation. There's some history, some volatility, and some challenges if you go and involve yourself in this particular activity. Tell me why this is so important to you.”So she walked me through it, and I said, “Okay, I get it. How do my concerns stack up against your desire to be there?”And she said, “Dad, I get what you're saying, but I want to go.”And I said, “Okay, so…”You used that beautiful term, the goodwill bank. I can't remember exactly what my words were, but I'm going to use your term right now, because I essentially said:“I'm going to use the goodwill I've built up with you over the last however many years and step in really firmly and say you're making a mistake.“As your dad, even though you're an adult, I want to forbid you to go. That's how strongly I feel about this. To the degree that I can, I forbid it.“Ultimately, you will choose because you are an adult, but I don't want you there.”Sarah: I'm going on the record.Dr. Justin: Yeah, yeah.“I need you to trust that this is a bad idea. We can come up with any number of other activities you could do instead, with different people in a different location, but this is a bad idea, and you have none of my support should you go.“If you go and something goes wrong, you call me and I'll come rescue you. But it is a bad idea, and I forbid it.”And I couldn't believe I was saying those words. I've never said them in my life, and now I was saying them to an adult.But she looked at me and said, “Okay.”Sarah: Mm-hmm.Dr. Justin: She didn't fight me. She didn't say, “I can do what—”Sarah: No, because you built up the history with her of how she experienced you.Dr. Justin: Yeah. She was like, “Wow, this is serious. He's never said that before. If he feels that strongly, maybe he's right. Maybe I need to find an alternative.”So anyway, that's the Three E's of Effective Discipline.I feel like I've talked too much, Sarah. I wanted to be much more conversational, but I get carried away when we—Sarah: No, no. I love it.I feel like it's very complementary to the things that I teach, and you've given me some new things to teach parents as well.I love having sort of snappy—the Three E's of Discipline. I think that's great. I love it. I'll share it.Dr. Justin: Yeah, please. Absolutely.It's helped so many millions of parents.Sarah: Yeah.Well, I love that we've connected across the world—from the other side of the world to each other—and I look forward to hopefully talking to you again in March of 2027 when your book Boys comes out.I figured we were going to talk about that, but we had such a lovely conversation about peaceful parenting, discipline, and—oh my God, it's gone right out of my head—Dr. Justin: Self-determination theory.Sarah: Self-determination theory.I think it was a really great conversation, and I really appreciate you sharing all of your experience and wisdom.Dr. Justin: I loved the conversation.Like I said, it was too one-sided. I wish we'd been able to go backward and forward a bit more, but let's do it again.Let's chat again next year when the book comes out, and we'll talk about boys and how to help them.There's so much talk about toxic masculinity.Sarah: Mm-hmm.Dr. Justin: Wouldn't it be great if we could give them a view of healthy masculinity—a model of that to follow?That's what my book is all about: how we can guide boys into a healthy form of masculinity.Sarah: Well, for folks in Australia, your book is coming out in June 2026. For folks in North America, it's not coming out until spring 2027.So I will definitely be ringing you up and having you come back on to talk about the book when you've got your North American release. I know we're going to have a great conversation then.Before I let you go, though, I have a question that I ask all my podcast guests:If you had a time machine and you could go back and tell your younger parent self something, what advice would you give yourself?Dr. Justin: Jean-Jacques Rousseau said there is—I can't remember the quote exactly—but: What wisdom is there that is greater than kindness?I've paraphrased it. It's not perfect, but it's something along those lines.Interestingly, Rousseau had, I think, five children—maybe six—and he put them all into orphanages somewhere in the first 18 months of their lives so he could spend more time writing and focusing on how to be a good person, which I just find criminal. I can't believe it.So take it for what it's worth, but “What wisdom is there that's greater than kindness?” is what Rousseau said.I've mentioned this idea of soft eyes a couple of times. If I could go back, I would teach myself about kindness. I'd teach myself about many of the things we've talked about today.But I just want to quickly share the story of soft eyes.As an academic, I want everything I say to be evidence-based. There is no evidence that I'm aware of where people have done any kind of randomized controlled trial where parents are asked to interact with their children with soft eyes, neutral eyes, hard eyes, or anything like that.Soft eyes is this idea—I was giving a presentation at a public library one time, and an elderly lady stepped into the back of the room, sat down, and listened to the last 25 or 30 minutes of my presentation. She must have liked what she could hear from the corridor outside, and she stepped in to listen.After everybody had left, she walked over to me and said, “I really enjoyed what you shared. I'd love to tell you something my grandmother said to me.”So we're going back into the early 1900s.Her grandmother said, “Whenever you're talking to your children about matters of discipline, make sure you have soft eyes.”And I thought, I really like that.Because if you try to have a conversation with somebody and your eyes are soft, you just can't say mean things. You can't say harsh things. You can't have harsh thoughts.If you soften your eyes, your face softens and your heart softens. You have this beautiful compassion and kindness, this ability to see the best in them rather than the worst in them, to assume positive intent.There's something gorgeous about soft eyes.So I would go back and quote Rousseau better than I just quoted him to you, and I would tell my younger self that soft eyes will make a tremendous impact on all of my relationships.Sarah: Ah.There's an American—I don't know if you've heard of him in Australia—but he's a pretty well-known marriage counselor, Terry Real.Dr. Justin: Oh, yeah. I quote him in my book.Sarah: Yeah, yeah. He does a lot of work about—well, he says something like, “There's nothing that harshness can accomplish that kindness can't accomplish better.”Dr. Justin: That's so beautiful.Sarah: Mm-hmm.Dr. Justin: Thank you. That's inspiring. I'm so glad you shared that.Sarah: Yeah. I love it.It's hard to remember, but I think it is true. And I wish that—and I know the world needs a dose of that right now.Dr. Justin: Yeah. Yeah.Sarah: One hundred percent.Well, thank you so much.Where's the best place for folks to go and find out more about you and what you do?Dr. Justin: Probably my podcast, the Happy Families Podcast. My wife and I drop a 15-minute nugget of parenting wisdom every day, five days a week.Sarah: Oh, wow!Dr. Justin: Yeah. It's a lot of content, but it's bite-sized chunks, and it's entertaining. We're fun. We get to do it together.And the Happy Families Podcast. I've got a website called happyfamilies.com.au, but basically, if you like what we've talked about—Sarah: We'll link to all of that in the show notes. We'll link to your website and your podcast, and I'm sure it's easy to find you.Dr. Justin: That sounds great. Thanks, Sarah.Sarah: Thank you so much.Dr. Justin: What a great, great conversation. Lovely to be with you.Reimagine Peaceful Parenting with Sarah Rosensweet Substack is a reader-supported publication. 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Your child refuses to leave the house… melts down over their hair… or acts defiant when you show up. Is it anxiety, attitude… or something deeper? In this episode, we unpack what’s really going on when big emotions collide with growing independence - and how to respond in a way that actually helps (not escalates). If your child suddenly thinks you’re “cringe”… this one’s for you. KEY POINTS Big emotions ≠ bad behaviour (and why labels matter) The hidden link between anxiety, overwhelm, and defiance The difference between autonomy and “doing whatever they want” Why kids reject parents in public (and what it really means) How misaligned parenting can amplify emotional struggles A simple framework to get on the same page as your partner The power of collaborative problem-solving (instead of control) QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Autonomy isn’t freedom — it’s helping kids make thoughtful, values-based choices.” RESOURCES MENTIONED The “What’s working / What’s not / What next” parenting check-in The “Three E’s” collaborative problem-solving approach ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Pause before labelling behaviour — ask: what’s underneath this? Have a calm check-in with your partner: what’s working, what’s not, what next Get curious with your child instead of offering solutions Ask: “Help me understand why this feels hard” Co-create a plan your child actually agrees with Find small, respectful ways to stay connected — even when they push you away See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are you sabotaging your own success without even realizing it? This week, we are joined by elite performance coach Jason Stacy (coach to US Open winner Aryna Sabalenka). With over 25 years of experience, Jason drops massive truth bombs on why most people completely misunderstand high performance. We dive deep into his "Three E's" framework, why your physical body is the ultimate cheat code to controlling your mind, and the exact 3 questions you MUST ask yourself after every single performance. Whether you are an athlete, a CEO, or just someone trying to level up in life, this episode will completely rewire how you approach success.

Blessed Triduum, friends. To ring in Holy Week and soon the Easter season philosopher and theologian Dr. Trent Dougherty is here to make the case that the Resurrection of Jesus Christ is not just a matter of faith it's historically defensible. Using the "Three E's" framework (Empty Tomb, Eyewitnesses, and Early Creeds), he walks through why secular scholars and believers alike have strong rational grounds for concluding that the Resurrection actually happened. Pints: Last Call Ep. 8 - - -

Summary In this episode, Andy talks with Wharton economist Judd Kessler, author of Lucky by Design: The Hidden Economics You Need to Get More of What You Want. If you have ever looked at someone else's career success and thought, "They just got lucky," this conversation will give you a new lens. Judd introduces the idea of "hidden markets," the informal rules and systems that shape who gets opportunities, access, and scarce resources, even when money is not changing hands. They explore how leaders can evaluate allocation rules using Judd's three Es (equitable, efficient, and easy), why first come, first served "races" often reward availability more than merit, and how waiting lists can quietly shift costs onto the people least able to pay them. You will also hear Judd's "settle for silver" strategy, a practical way to make smarter choices in competitive markets, plus a thoughtful parenting angle on teaching kids to notice rules and incentives early. If you're looking for a fresh, research-backed perspective on how hidden rules shape who gets opportunities at work and in life, this episode is for you! Sound Bites "The goal of the book is to get people to start to recognizing these markets all around us." "In most of these markets, they play by a simple rule that we all understand, which is if you're willing to pay for the thing, then you get it." "Is the way that we're deciding who gets what... is it equitable? Is it efficient? And is it easy for market participants?" "I open my calendar and I see all these recurring meetings on my calendar, recurring meetings that were set up years or months ago. That's first in time, first in right." "If you understand the rules and develop strategies to get what you want from the market, then you actually can be one of the handful that actually gets the thing, that desirable outcome, and then it will look like you got lucky." "It's always going to be the folks who are in the market winning who are always going to think that it's fair." "Once you start thinking like, how am I actually allocating these things? That's when you've put on that market designer hat." "They'll come to you kind of with half-baked ideas because they know if they wait later on until they can fully bake the idea that the resources or the fun parts of the project might already be gone." "Part of what the Settle for Silver / Go for Gold Strategy is forcing you to do, is to think seriously about what you want and why you want it." "You, as a parent, you are designing the markets that your kids play in all the time." "We're not breaking the rules, but we are figuring out what they are so that we can put ourselves in a good position, and that's going to serve you well." "Maybe by being in the office, you are signaling your dedication to the firm that you're available for all of these opportunities." "If it's something that anybody can do, like send a quick email, right? That's, it's not actually costly. Anybody could send that email even if they're not truly dedicated and eager for the opportunity." "You cannot get all three E's for sure in any allocation mechanism. There's always going to be tradeoffs." Chapters 00:00 Introduction 01:41 Start of Interview 01:49 Growing Up and Thinking About Luck 03:00 Introducing Hidden Markets 07:10 The Three E's: Equitable, Efficient, and Easy 08:08 Live Event Tickets as a Case Study 12:50 High Frequency Trading and Hidden Races 15:21 Common Misunderstandings of the Three E's 17:04 Races Inside Organizations and Project Teams 20:25 Proximity, Signaling, and Opportunity at Work 23:03 Are We Selecting for the Right Behavior? 25:41 Stepping Back to Evaluate Your Own Systems 25:52 Colorado River Water Rights and Recurring Meetings 29:09 The Settle for Silver Strategy 30:57 The French Laundry Reservation Story 32:51 Settle for Silver in College Admissions 37:22 Helping Kids Recognize Rules and Incentives 41:03 End of Interview 41:32 Andy Comments After the Interview 44:34 Outtakes Learn More You can learn more about Judd and his work at JuddBKessler.com/book. For more learning on this topic, check out: Episode 265, a short video episode Andy put together about the topic of luck. Check it out! Episode 339 with Katy Milkman. Katy is the person who gave Andy the heads-up about Judd's book. In episode 339, they talk about her book How to Change: The Science of Getting from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be. It's a great discussion with another researcher who knows how to make the learning practical for all of us. Episode 372 with Annie Duke. Annie is a former world champion poker player who is a big fan of Judd's book. How does a poker player think about luck? Check out episode 372 to find out! Pass the PMP Exam This Year If you or someone you know is thinking about getting PMP certified, we've put together a helpful guide called The 5 Best Resources to Help You Pass the PMP Exam on Your First Try. We've helped thousands of people earn their certification, and we'd love to help you too. It's totally free, and it's a great way to get a head start. Just go to 5BestResources.PeopleAndProjectsPodcast.com to grab your copy. I'd love to help you get your PMP this year! Join Us for LEAD52 I know you want to be a more confident leader–that's why you listen to this podcast. LEAD52 is a global community of people like you who are committed to transforming their ability to lead and deliver. It's 52 weeks of leadership learning, delivered right to your inbox, taking less than 5 minutes a week. And it's all for free. Learn more and sign up at GetLEAD52.com. Thanks! Thank you for joining me for this episode of The People and Projects Podcast! Talent Triangle: Power Skills Topics: Luck, Hidden Markets, Behavioral Economics, Leadership, Decision Making, Resource Allocation, Organizational Design, Career Strategy, Signaling, Systems Thinking, Equity, Project Management The following music was used for this episode: Music: Echo by Alexander Nakarada License (CC BY 4.0): https://filmmusic.io/standard-license Music: Fashion Corporate by Frank Schroeter License (CC BY 4.0): https://filmmusic.io/standard-license

Had an AHA or Insight? Share it:If you've done everything “right” yet still feel stuck, this reframes how your words drive behavior and culture by shifting attention to the present.We often don't realize how often our questions point backward. That moment when something goes wrong and the first words are, “Why is this happening?” You sift through past details, replay conversations in your head, and feel the pull of self-judgment. The rest of the day goes to rehashing.Over time, the loop shows up as hesitation, slower calls, extra checking. Energy shifts to second-guessing. Decisions sit. Confidence drops.On the Business Growth Architect Show: Founders of the Future, I sit with Blair Dunkley as he shares his  trigger moments that cracked and remade his inner stance: his mother being refused a $200 budget to throw a tea party for her patients, his father's 14‑year coma, and later his own health challenges. We examine how language patterns direct behavior, how acceptance can loosen the grip of pain, and how turning toward present choice shifts what becomes possible. It's an inquiry into awareness and responsibilityHe identifies  the “why-hole” and what changed in his understanding of language and behavior to change thousands of lives following his mind models.. Blair has seen these patterns up close for years under pressure. He watches how words shape behavior until the structure is clear. Here are the five key takeaways from this episode:Why true “why” questions are past-based and immobilizingThe two questions that restore your own agency in minutesBehaviors lead belief: how to build confidence with evidenceThe Three E's: Effective vs Ineffective, External vs Internal, Evaluation vs JudgmentState shifts that work: acceptance, posture, and perspectiveJoin the conversation because when your pressure keeps stacking this loop burns time and attention. The way we speak to ourselves under stress drives how we lead. Are we staying in the past frame, or are we ready to face the present without more reasons?Find out more about Blair on on  blairdunkley.com and find his free resource: The Three E's ebook + 80-minute masterclass._____________________We appreciate you, thank you for listening. Let us know in the comments what resonated in this episode, we want to hear from you. Leave a comment, like, share with one person who needs to hear the message our guest shared. Take our QUIZ and find out what your talent is worth in this market: What's Your Talent Worth (http://WhatsYourTalentWorth.com)Follow us on Instagram:Check us out on Tik Tok: Work With Us

#671: Welcome to Greatest Hits Week — five days, five episodes from our vault, spelling out F-I-I-R-E. Today's letter F stands for Financial Psychology. And we're diving deep with a conversation that changed how thousands of our listeners think about money. This episode originally aired in November 2022, but the insights feel more relevant than ever. Dr. Daniel Crosby reveals why your brain is your portfolio's worst enemy — and what you can do about it. ______ Money is the number one stressor in American lives. Every single year. Without exception. That's what Dr. Daniel Crosby discovered when he looked at decades of research from the American Psychological Association. In this rerun episode from our Greatest Hits Vault, Crosby joins us to reveal why your brain sabotages your investment decisions. He's both a clinical psychologist and behavioral finance expert. His findings will change how you think about money. Your body hijacks your financial judgment in strange ways. For example: People who need to pee become more risk-averse investors. It's called inhibitory spillover. When you're controlling your bladder, you also restrict your financial decisions. Here's another one: judges give harsher sentences when they're hungry. Thousands of court decisions prove it. The best predictor of whether you get jail time? When the judge last ate. We explore four behavioral risks that destroy wealth: ego, conservatism, attention, and emotion. Crosby shares data that stock pickers rarely hear: 74 percent of individual stocks have a lifetime expected return of zero. Three out of four companies eventually go bankrupt. Yet people keep betting on single stocks, dreaming they'll find the next Apple. Value investors suffer from depression and social isolation. Why? Because contrarian investing fights our deepest evolutionary wiring. Humans survived through cooperation. It's literally our only advantage over other animals. Bears have claws. Turtles have shells. We have teamwork. Crosby shares the Ash experiment, which shows how peer pressure warps reality. When nine people give the wrong answer about line lengths, three-quarters of participants follow along. New brain scans reveal something darker: social pressure physically changes how people see the lines. Their perception actually shifts. We discuss solutions through Crosby's "three E's": education, environment, and encouragement. Reading about biases won't fix them. You need systems and people. One powerful study: people who saw their children's photo for five seconds before banking saved twice as much money. The conversation reveals that money problems don't disappear with wealth. They just change form. Timestamps: Note: Timestamps will vary on individual listening devices based on dynamic advertising run times. The provided timestamps are approximate and may be several minutes off due to changing ad lengths. (00:00) Finance as America's top stressor (02:33) Psychology moving from brokenness to wellness (04:33) Money touches every part of life (07:33) Income plateaus and happiness (10:13) How hunger affects financial decisions (13:38) We're wired wrong for investing (17:28) Laziness and cognitive shortcuts (23:43) Cooperation as human survival trait (26:43) Four behavioral risks (32:13) Ego and overconfidence (37:48) Conservatism and familiarity bias (46:38) Three E's of behavior change (50:23) Attention risk and probability (54:48) Emotion derails decisions (58:28) When fear helps versus hurts Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jason Stacy has been a mainstay on the tennis tour for several decades, and with work with World No. 1 Aryna Sabalenka has been groundbreaking. He joins the podcast to discuss his path to becoming one of the most respected high performance coaches in the game, and why he is constantly looking at problems and challenges from a different lens than his peers. Stacy goes in depth about his process for building trust with his players, and details the steps that Aryna Sabalenka took under his tutelage to have her major breakthrough, and become the best player in the world. Stacy explains his philosophy on working as both a fitness and mental coach, and outlines the pillars of his teaching, "The Three E's," which are emotions, energy and environment. The accomplished grappler in his spare time dives into the similarities between jujitsu and tennis, the unpredictable variables that make the sport unique, and why he has decided to write a book on his coaching philosophy, aptly titled "The Pressure Code." Hosted by Mitch Michals. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See https://pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

The Institute of Internal Auditors Presents: All Things Internal Audit In this episode, Brad Monterio and Tom McLeod take an unfiltered look at The IIA's future. From transforming learning through AI and simulation to reimagining the Standards and global influence, they discuss what it takes to build a next-generation IIA; one defined by intelligent, integrated assurance, agility, and audacious thinking. HOST: Brad Monterio, Executive Vice President of Learning, Licensing, and Sales, The IIA GUEST: Tom McLeod, Former Chief Audit Executive and Chief Risk Officer; Global Assurance and AI Advisor KEY POINTS: Introduction [00:00–00:00:38] A Pivotal Moment for the Profession [00:00:38–00:03:55] AI's Opportunity and Threat to Internal Audit [00:03:55–00:06:51] Real-Time Assurance and the Death of Sampling [00:08:23–00:10:22] Risk, Trust, and Assurance in a New Era [00:10:22–00:12:02] The Rise of the Algorithm Auditor [00:19:13–00:21:07] Rethinking Pathways Into the Profession [00:21:07–00:23:06] Future of Certifications and Standards [00:23:06–00:26:06] Education Through Simulation [00:26:06–00:30:07] The Three E's: Efficiency, Effectiveness, Education [00:29:54–00:30:35] A Global, Cross-Disciplinary Moment [00:30:35–00:39:57]   Assurance in the Loop [00:41:01–00:43:08] Internal Audit as Ethical Conscience and Risk Educator [00:43:20–00:44:44] Provocation With Purpose [00:48:01–00:49:06] Four Challenges for The IIA [00:49:13–00:53:00] Reimagining The IIA: Intelligent or Integrated Assurance [00:53:11–00:55:15] The Need for Speed, Agility, and Unease [00:56:07–00:59:20] A Call to Personal Curiosity and Courage [01:00:03–01:01:17] Final Reflections: Planting Trees for the Next 100 Years [01:01:17–01:01:53] Closing [01:10:56–01:11:21] IIA RELATED CONTENT:  Interested in this topic? Visit the links below for more resources: 2025 RISE Virtual Conference 2026 International Conference – Singapore Internal Auditing Competency Framework™ Knowledge Centers: Artificial Intelligence Visit The IIA's website or YouTube channel for related topics and more. Follow All Things Internal Audit: Apple Podcasts Spotify Libsyn Deezer

From sci-fi to spies to scares and everything in between…It's Part 3 of my TerrifiCon adventure – and this time, we're heading straight to the main stage! Join me for an unforgettable Q&A with actor Henry Thomas…yes, THAT Henry Thomas. It's heartfelt. It's funny. It's spooky. It's nostalgic. It's Henry Thomas like you've never heard him before: live […]

Recorded on a cold, rain-soaked Monday morning before heading to Chamonix, this episode dives deep into one of the most powerful frameworks I teach inside Mission 365  The Three E's: Evolve, Execute, and Embody. These three stages are the foundation for growth, consistency, and becoming the man capable of holding the life, business, and relationships you say you want. In this episode, I break down: What it truly means to evolve, the process of shifting identity and mindset to meet the next version of yourself. How to execute with clarity and consistency, even when motivation fades. Why embodying your standards and systems is where true transformation begins. You'll learn how to spot which stage you're currently in, why most men get stuck halfway through, and how to build the depth, structure, and self-leadership required to reach the next level. These are the same principles I teach to the men inside our live Focus Days, simple, practical, and game-changing when applied properly.

A new study is making headlines — not because kids are on screens too much, but because many can’t stop. Dr Justin Coulson unpacks fresh research linking addictive screen use (not screen time itself) with anxiety, depression, and suicidal thoughts in teens. Learn what “addiction” really means, why it’s not an official diagnosis, and how to protect your child without constant conflict. KEY POINTS The latest data from the Adolescent Brain Cognitive Development Study shows addictive patterns of screen use — not hours online — are tied to poorer mental health. “Addictive” use means kids feel distress when not online, use screens to regulate emotions, or can’t stop even when it causes problems. There’s no official “screen addiction” diagnosis, but the behaviour patterns are real — and concerning. Justin shares practical strategies using the Three E’s of Effective Discipline to reduce conflict and foster healthy habits. Real-life example: how the Coulson family handled screen boundaries with collaboration, not control. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Time on a device isn’t the problem. It’s when kids can’t stop that their mental health starts to suffer.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Adolescent Brain Cognitive Development (ABCD) Study, JAMA Psychiatry, June 2024 Screen "addiction" and mental Health - Technosapiens Tools: Freedom App, Forest App, Brick, Unplug Childhood Framework: The Three E’s of Effective Discipline (Explore, Explain, Empower) ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Have a calm conversation about how and why your child uses screens. Model mindful use — show your own limits and honesty about the struggle. Create structure, not punishment — consistent times, agreed limits. Watch for red flags like irritability, secrecy, or big emotions when screens are removed. Offer alternatives — list 10+ enjoyable non-screen activities your child can choose from. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Three E.E. Smith High School students died and another person was seriously hurt after a crash Wednesday night in Fayetteville. WRAL's Kirtsyn Clark talked to a friend of one of the players.

Send us a textUnlock a deeper layer of strategy, mindset, and performance thinking I don't share anywhere else.Each episode gives you first access to raw, unfiltered insights I'm actively applying — before they hit the public feed. Inside, I break down what's actually driving momentum, clarity, and resilience... but only for those ready to go beyond surface-level motivation.If you value growth at the edge of your potential, this is where you tap in.

Send us a textUnlock a deeper layer of strategy, mindset, and performance thinking I don't share anywhere else.Each episode gives you first access to raw, unfiltered insights I'm actively applying — before they hit the public feed. Inside, I break down what's actually driving momentum, clarity, and resilience... but only for those ready to go beyond surface-level motivation.If you value growth at the edge of your potential, this is where you tap in.

In today's episode, Dr. Killeen dives into why your front desk may be the most important part of your patient acquisition strategy. From answering the phone with energy to guiding callers toward an appointment, your front desk sets the tone. Learn about the “Three E's” to listen for—Energy, Empathy, and Edification—and how to coach your team to deliver a white-glove experience every time.To learn more about Dr. Killeen and his new book, The Shift, or to connect with him, check out www.AddisonKilleen.com.

This season we discuss over 300 albums of the 1990s selected from https://besteveralbums.com. The show starts at (1:27). The Six Singles segment starts at (3:34). This episode covers the following albums: The Three E.P.'s (34:00), Cat Power - Moon Pix (56:33), Elliott Smith - XO (1:25:21), and Boards Of Canada - Music Has The Right To Children (1:46:41).Check out our YouTube page here: http://www.youtube.com/@combingthestacks1470Check out the Combing the Stacks Letterboxd list here: https://boxd.it/bS98c

Sometimes it doesn't feel safe to bring our full, authentic self to work. In this episode, our guest Amy Ewbank, co-CEO of Verve The Voice Advisory Service, shares what's holding you back and the three key elements you need to find and express your true voice in a professional setting.   01:38 Understanding the Barriers to Authentic Voice 02:27 The Three E's Framework: Essence, Expression, Environment 02:45 Essence: Aligning Values and Voice 03:46 Expression: The Art of Speaking and Storytelling 04:35 Environment: Creating Safe Spaces for Voice 13:03 The Importance of Finding Your Voice 17:18 The Power of Community in Voice Development 22:06 Practical Tips for Self-Awareness and Voice Improvement   ✅ Connect with Amy Ewbank:  Verve Company  website Verve Voice Diagnostic / Quiz Amy LinkedIn Lily LinkedIn  Verve LinkedIn  Instagram Handle  Amy Ewbank - @amyewbs Instagram Handle Lily - @lily_lapenna Company Instagram Handle - @verveleaders   Email: To Learn more about joining the Verve Global Voice community email Amy on connect@verveleaders.com to arrange a free discovery call so she can share more about the programme and how Verve can support you in finding and honing your authentic voice.    About Amy: Amy Ewbank is a leadership coach, communication strategist, and expert in voice identity, drawing from her dual background as a LAMDA trained actor and CIPD qualified HR / L&D professional. With a career spanning the creative industries and corporate leadership, Amy has worked at the intersection of performance, psychology, and workplace communication, helping individuals and organisations harness the power of voice for influence, presence, and impact. Amy began her career as a professional actor, performing in repertory theatre, BBC Radio, and Channel 4. She later transitioned into leadership and learning, becoming Head of HR at a UK national charity, where she specialized in talent development and executive communication. She has been featured on Sky News, Channel 5 and The Guardian.   About Verve: Verve is The Voice Advisory Service for courageous professionals ready to master the why, when and how of using your voice. We offer coaching, masterclasses, and community—shaped by our 3 E's Voice Methodology™ - Essence, Expression, and Environment—to help you speak with clarity, lead with presence, and communicate with Verve.   ✅ Free Newsletter: https://assertiveway.com/newsletter/   ✅ Listen on the Speak Your Mind Unapologetically podcast on Apple Itunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/speak-your-mind-unapologetically-podcast/id1623647915      ✅ Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6L1myPkiJXYf5SGrublYz2   ✅ Order our book, ‘Unapologetic Voice: 101 Real-World Strategies for Brave Self Advocacy & Bold Leadership' where each strategy is also a real story: https://www.amazon.com/Unapologetic-Voice-Real-World-Strategies-Leadership-ebook/dp/B0CW2X4WWL/   ✅ Follow the show host, Ivna Curi, on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ivna-curi-mba-67083b2/     ✅ Request A Customized Workshop For Your Team And Company:   http://assertiveway.com/workshops Contact me: info@assertiveway.com or ivnacuri@assertiveway.com Contact me on Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ivna-curi-mba-67083b2   ✅ Support The Podcast Rate the podcast on apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/speak-your-mind-unapologetically-podcast/id1623647915

In this vital episode, Julie and Ginger dive into the intersection of Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion (DEI) with trauma-informed practices. As DEI comes under political and cultural scrutiny, the hosts make the case that there is no trauma-informed approach without embracing DEI.DEI is not optional for trauma-informed practice—it is essential.Diversity includes more than race: gender, neurodiversity, age, ability, and lived experience.Equity means adjusting systems and supports so everyone can thrive.Privilege isn't shameful—it's an opportunity to advocate and build awareness.Systems can either heal or harm—it's up to us to make them more inclusive.Diverse environments enhance safety, fairness, innovation, and connection.

Writer, entrepreneur, and founder of Latched Mama, Melissa Wirt, joins Zibby to discuss I WAS TOLD THERE'D BE A VILLAGE, a wise, honest, and heartening roadmap for finding and building your village—and transforming oppressive, solitary motherhood into a connected and joyful experience. Melissa shares the deeply personal story behind her book, from building a thriving online community for moms to confronting her own loneliness while raising six children on a farm. Together, they discuss the science of connection, the silent epidemic of maternal isolation, and practical frameworks like the “Three E's” of engineering connection. Purchase on Bookshop: https://bit.ly/4cM4btcShare, rate, & review the podcast, and follow Zibby on Instagram @zibbyowens! Now there's more! Subscribe to Moms Don't Have Time to Read Books on Acast+ and get ad-free episodes. https://plus.acast.com/s/moms-dont-have-time-to-read-books. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What do you do when your teen pushes back on your tech boundaries—especially when they paid for the device themselves? In this episode, Dr. Justin and Kylie Coulson tackle two parent questions about teenage independence, screen use, and safety. They offer a practical, relationship-first strategy for navigating the tension between adolescent autonomy and parental responsibility, using their tried-and-tested "Three E's" framework to build connection and cooperation. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:"Rules without relationship will lead to rebellion." KEY INSIGHTS FOR PARENTS: Adolescents Seek Autonomy: Teens paying for their own devices often feel ownership equals full control—parents must acknowledge this growing independence. Confiscation Isn’t the Answer: Power-based strategies (like taking away devices) often fuel resistance and damage relationships. Use the Three E's: Explore, Explain, Empower is a proven method for having meaningful, collaborative conversations with teens. Set the Stage for Success: Food, comfort, and a non-threatening tone can make hard conversations easier and more productive. Trust Takes Time: Teens may resist at first, but consistency, humility, and genuine listening will eventually build mutual trust. RESOURCES MENTIONED: The Three E's of Effective Discipline framework by Dr. Justin Coulson Happy Families Podcast submission form: happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Create a Connection-First Environment: Use food or small comforts to set a positive tone before difficult conversations. Explore: Invite your teen to share their views. Reflect back what they say without judgment. Explain: Briefly share your concerns around things like sleep, safety, and relationships. Empower: Ask your teen to come up with solutions. Collaborate to find common ground that feels fair for both sides. Stay Consistent and Patient: If the first conversation doesn’t go well, try again. Building trust is a long game—but it's worth it. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Want to submit an episode topic request? Text 'em here!If you've ever found yourself asking, “Am I being faithful…or just feeding the algorithm?” - then this episode is for you.Today, we're diving into the heart of a conversation so many Christians in business are afraid to say out loud: the pressure to perform online, the guilt when your content doesn't “do well,” and the subtle ways the social media algorithm can start to replace God's voice.I'm sharing real talk about what it looks like to build a social media presence that honors God...not just the grid. This isn't just about strategy (although I'll give you that too)...it's about heart posture, obedience, and showing up from a place of peace, not pressure.Inside this episode, you'll hear:Why “good content” alone isn't enough and what actually makes your message anointedThe truth about stewardship vs. striving when it comes to social media followers and growthThe "Three E's" that help you create content that connects deeplyHow to know when you're led by the Spirit...or lured by performanceWhy your follower count can be a part of your calling, not a scoreboard.Plus, an invitation to join the Burnout-Free Biz community, where we blend spirit-led marketing strategy with mental and emotional wellness for Christian Creatives. You don't have to burn out to build a business. You don't have to hustle to be holy. Let's take your online presence out of survival mode and into Spirit-led success.

In the words of Dr Singer, "This book was written for me! If you happen to benefit from anything I've written, terrific. But the person who would benefit the most from this book is its author. You see, I used to be an athlete. I loved sports as a kid. In college I set my sights on my career which meant that I worked more and exercised less. Yet I was still used to eating a lot. Now decades have passed, and I ache all the time. I've enjoyed a successful career as a doctor, but as they say, "Doctor, heal thyself!" Like me, as an adult, I bet you have joined several gyms over the years, but rarely use any of them, at least not on a consistent basis. You've tried almost every fad diet for at least for a week or two. You used to think pasta was good for you. Then you became a carnivorous caveman and ate every animal on the earth. Then you tried fasting! Now you have no freaking clue what to eat! My book simplifies it all for you... for us! The "Three E's" --Eating, Exercise, and Emotion is all you ever really needed to understand. Thank you for taking my advice... I'm hoping I will do the same!"

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When New York Times bestselling author and entrepreneur Rory Vaden wanted to get better at public speaking, he went out and spoke 304 times… for free. It was perhaps the best investment he could have made in himself and his abilities. In this episode, Rory will explain how to communicate effectively and show off your authentic self while building trust.  In this episode, Hala and Rory will discuss: (00:00) Introduction (02:54) Rory Vaden's Journey to Success (05:21) The Power of Public Speaking (09:40) Building a Personal Brand (24:44) Overcoming Procrastination and Time Management (32:04) The Concept of Multiplying Time (36:32) Personal Branding Strategies (38:01) Mastering Book Launches and Monetization Strategies (38:38) The Key to Personal Branding (39:53) Breaking Through to Notoriety (46:20) The Power of Focus (51:13) The Importance of Personal Branding for Professionals (57:00) The Three E's Strategy (01:01:50) Common Mistakes in Personal Branding Rory Vaden is the New York Times bestselling author of Take the Stairs and Procrastinate on Purpose. He is an 8-figure entrepreneur and a Hall of Fame speaker with a TEDx talk that has more than 5 million views. Today, Rory and his wife serve as the co-founders of Brand Builders Group, where they teach mission-driven messengers to become more well-known and to build and monetize their personal brand. Their clients include people like Lewis Howes from The School of Greatness, Eric Thomas “ET Hip Hop Preacher”, Tom and Lisa Bilyeu from Impact Theory, New York Times bestselling author Luvvie Ajayi Jones, and #1 Wall Street Journal bestselling author Ed Mylett. Sponsored By: Shopify - youngandprofiting.co/shopify Airbnb - airbnb.com/host Rocket Money - rocketmoney.com/profiting Indeed - indeed.com/profiting     RobinHood - robinhood.com/gold  Factor - factormeals.com/factorpodcast    Rakuten - rakuten.com Active Deals - youngandprofiting.com/deals       Key YAP Links Reviews - ratethispodcast.com/yap  Youtube - youtube.com/c/YoungandProfiting  LinkedIn - linkedin.com/in/htaha/  Instagram - instagram.com/yapwithhala/  Social + Podcast Services - yapmedia.com   Transcripts - youngandprofiting.com/episodes-new  Entrepreneurship, entrepreneurship podcast, Business, Business podcast, Self Improvement, Self-Improvement, Personal development, Starting a business, Strategy, Investing, Sales, Selling, Psychology, Productivity, Entrepreneurs, AI, Artificial Intelligence, Technology, Marketing, Negotiation, Money, Finance, Side hustle, Startup, mental health, Career, Leadership, Mindset, Health, Growth mindset. 

Is your child begging for makeup while you're desperately trying to preserve their innocence? From church on Sundays to everyday requests, the makeup debate touches deep parental fears about growing up too fast. Discover why parents really resist early makeup use, and learn a practical three-step approach to handling this delicate issue. Plus, hear how six daughters taught these parents that sometimes the biggest parenting battles aren't worth fighting after all. Quote of the Episode: "Making a big deal about makeup is perhaps a bit unnecessary - we've learned not to sweat the small stuff." Key Insights: Most parental concerns about makeup stem from fears about premature maturity Research shows resistance often comes from conservative backgrounds Parents worry about beauty standards and self-worth connections The more parents resist, the more appealing makeup becomes Force creates resistance in these situations Family rules evolve with experience and understanding The Three E's approach works well for makeup discussions Context and motivation matter more than specific age limits Resources Mentioned: Beauty Sick by Renée Engeln Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey Miss Connection Summit Happy Families Action Steps for Parents: Explore: Get curious about your child's real motivation Explain: Share your values and concerns openly Empower: Work together on solutions that respect both perspectives See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Many career coaching programs use cohort-based models to keep participants accountable. But do they really work? In today's episode, we're tackling a common question: Is Career Strategy Lab's UX Job Search Accelerator run in cohorts? Spoiler alert—it's not! And there's a very good reason why.Host Sarah Doody breaks down why strict cohort schedules can be limiting, how Career Strategy Lab takes a different approach, and why focusing on outcomes over rigid timelines creates a better job search experience. Whether you're treating your job search like a full-time job or balancing it alongside a 9-to-5, this episode will help you stay accountable without the stress of falling behind.What You'll Learn in This Episode:✅ Why traditional cohort-based courses can actually slow you down or leave you behind.✅ How Career Strategy Lab builds daily and weekly habits to keep you accountable.✅ The power of sprint check-ins, deadlines, and structured flexibility for job seekers.✅ Why focusing on outcomes over schedules is key to success.✅ The "Three E's" method: Execute, Engage, Encourage—and how it keeps you on track.Links & Resources:

In this episode, Phil is joined by fellow podcast host, Jimi Ryan. Phil and Jimi's conversation highlights the strategic use of social media as a powerful tool for engagement, brand awareness, and customer relationship management. Jimi's experience in different parts of the mortgage world brings great insight and strategies to make building one's database smooth and simple. Don't miss this episode filled with tactics and strategies to better your business! Jimi Ryan is the Chief Creative Officer at Shape Software, where he leads innovative design and creative strategies to drive the company's vision forward. Jimi is also the host of the popular podcast Get It Done, where he shares insights on productivity, leadership, and creative success, inspiring listeners to take action and achieve their goals. 00:20 Meet Jimi 01:25 A Lot of Effort, But Not a Waste 04:15 How Much is Attention Worth? 06:40 Leads Come From Conversations 08:00 Balance Trust and Attention 10:30 Social Media is Necessary 14:00 Be Relevant Enough So People Answer 16:50 41 ½ Second Sale Strategy 21:05 Winning with Shape  25:40 Lead Management vs. CRM 26:30 Prioritize Your List 28:00 Did All the Work, Now What? 31:00 The Three E's 33:25 Own Your Database Connect with Jimi: Facebook | Instagram | Linkedin LEARN MORE ABOUT M1 ACADEMY COACHING If you are enjoying the MME podcast, please take a second and LEAVE US A REVIEW. And JOIN the M1A Text Community: 214-225-5696

How can small charities weather tough economic times using  'value for money' principles?In this episode Bianca chats to UK researchers Dr Carl Evans and Dr Nigel Jackson from Plymouth University about their two research projects focussing on small charities.Dr Evans has led two studies - 'Value-for-money and the small charity' and 'UK charities and the current economic situation: Embracing value-for-money (VFM) in order to survive.'Episode highlights:10 mins - Value-for-money theory and the 'Three E's11.30 mins - What charities think value-for-money actually is12 mins - Why value-for-money is so important for small charities15.20 mins - The research results and the economic impact on UK charities, and similarities with Australia.25.40 mins - How small charities can adapt to change and economic challenges 26.23 mins - Why innovation is important27 mins - Collaboration between small charities37.16 mins - How small charities can practically adopt a value-for-money approach41.45 mins - Tips for leaders of small charities wanting to create a culture of value-for-money49.54 mins - What Dr Evans and Dr Jackson think Small But Mighty can mean for small charitiesFor more resources created specifically for small non-profits join the Small Non-Profits Alliance for FREE here: https://smallnonprofits.com.au/membership-account/membership-levels/You can also connect with the Alliance on Facebook and Instagram.

In this episode, Suzanne Giesemann shared her transformative journey from a high-ranking Navy officer to a spiritual teacher and medium. After experiencing the trauma of 9/11 and the loss of her stepdaughter, Suzanne turned to spirituality. She discussed how these experiences led her to connect with the spirit world, her methods of teaching mediumship, and how she helps others connect with their loved ones across the veil. Suzanne also explored the concepts of soul planning, the role of spirit guides, and offers practical guidance for discovering one's higher self. Join Suzanne as she discusses the soul's purpose, the importance of living from a place of love, and her teachings from her book, "The Awakened Way." About Suzanne: Suzanne Giesemann is a spiritual teacher dedicated to sharing The Awakened Way® of living. She has been recognized on the Watkins' list of the 100 Most Spiritually Influential Living People. A former Navy Commander with a master's degree in National Security Affairs, she served as a commanding officer and aide to the Chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff.  She now guides people to enjoy a consciously connected and divinely guided life. She has authored 13 books, 6 best-selling Hemi-Sync recordings, and YouTube videos reaching millions of viewers. She produces the Daily Way inspirational messages, the Awakened Way app, and hosts the top-ranking Messages of Hope podcast. She leads classes, workshops, and retreats, and serves as faculty with The Shift Network and Humanity's Team. She is a member of the Evolutionary Leaders Circle, a group of thought leaders from diverse disciplines who help support a global shift in consciousness.  Suzanne is known for her joyful, down-to-earth style of making deep spiritual concepts easy to understand. She laces her teaching with evidence-filled stories of the greater reality and practical tools that produce the personal experience of our multidimensional nature. Her messages bring hope and healing that go straight to the heart. Key Points Discussed:  (00:00) - The SHOCKING TRUTH About Your Soul's Journey & Why You're Here Right Now! (00:45) - Introduction to the Podcast and Guest (01:28) - Suzanne's Spiritual Journey and Career Transition (05:30) - The Turning Point: 9/11 and Personal Loss (07:28) - Connecting with the Spirit World (14:27) - Teaching Mediumship and Spiritual Lessons (21:58) - The Three E's of Living the Awakened Way (23:04) - Understanding and Connecting with Guides (30:04) - Channeling and Higher Consciousness (40:38) - Living a Heart-Centered Life (46:12) - The Journey of the Soul and Final Thoughts How to Contact Suzanne Giesemann:suzannegiesemann.com   About me:My Instagram: www.instagram.com/guyhlawrence/?hl=en Guy's websites:www.guylawrence.com.au www.liveinflow.co''

Are you struggling to stand out in a crowded digital world? Trust is the foundation of any strong brand, and authenticity is the glue that holds it all together. While Kat Norton blended dancing with Excel tutorials to create the viral brand Miss Excel, Rudy Mawer made red his signature, turning it into a bold and unforgettable identity. When you show up authentically, you can create a powerful bond with your audience. In episode two of the YAPCreator Series brought to you by OpusClip, Hala dives deep into why trust is essential to building a loyal community. She also shares actionable advice on how to nurture authenticity and trust as well as tips from previous YAP guests to help you turn your followers into fans. In this episode, Hala will discuss:  (00:00) Introduction (05:16) The Three E's of Building Real Relationships Online (06:42) Sean Cannell on Video as a Trust Accelerator (11:11) Authentic Engagement with Miss Excel (12:37) Embracing Imperfections for Deeper Connections (15:54) Polarity and Creating Viral Content (16:53) Rudy Mawer's Bold Branding Strategy (21:14) GaryVee's Guide to Niche Targeting (25:21) Jasmine Star on Growing a Loyal Community (28:39) Selling with Authenticity (32:26) Enhancing Authentic Content with OpusClip Try OpusClip for FREE: Visit https://www.opus.pro/clipanything  Resources Mentioned: YAP E274 with Rory Vaden: https://youngandprofiting.com/rory-vaden-how-ive-helped-top-business-influencers-build-their-personal-brands-e274/   YAP E278 with Sean Cannell:  https://www.youngandprofiting.com/sean-cannell-start-a-profitable-youtube-channel-in-2024-part-1-e278/  YAP E279 with Sean Cannell: https://www.youngandprofiting.com/sean-cannell-start-a-profitable-youtube-channel-in-2024-part-2-e279/  YAP E316 with Kat Norton: https://youngandprofiting.com/kat-norton-niche-to-riches-how-i-made-millions-teaching-excel-on-tiktok-e316/  YAP E318 with Rudy Mawer: https://www.youngandprofiting.com/rudy-mawer-the-ultimate-direct-response-playbook-for-scaling-multi-million-dollar-brands-e318/  YAP E291 with GaryVee: https://youngandprofiting.com/gary-vee-my-2024-blueprint-for-building-brand-and-sales-on-social-media-e291/  YAP E130 with Jasmine Star: https://www.youngandprofiting.com/130-stand-out-on-social-with-jasmine-star/  YAP E252 with Harley Finkelstein: https://www.youngandprofiting.com/harley-finkelstein-we-are-living-in-the-next-renaissance-how-the-next-wave-of-entrepreneurs-will-change-the-world-as-we-know-it-e252/  Top Tools and Products of the Month: https://youngandprofiting.com/deals/  More About Young and Profiting Download Transcripts - youngandprofiting.com Get Sponsorship Deals - youngandprofiting.com/sponsorships Leave a Review - ratethispodcast.com/yapYAP | Young and Profiting Watch Videos - youtube.com/c/YoungandProfiting   Follow Hala Taha LinkedIn - linkedin.com/in/htaha/ Instagram - instagram.com/yapwithhala/ TikTok - tiktok.com/@yapwithhala Twitter - twitter.com/yapwithhala   Learn more about YAP Media's Services - yapmedia.io/

Robert H. Johnson Jr., author of Safe, Seen, Heard, and Valued and TEDx speaker, joined us on The Modern People Leader. We explored the power of "little L" leadership and how organizations can harness the potential of unsung heroes within their teams. ----  Timestamps: (09:24) Robert's origin story and early leadership journey (15:00) The concept of psychological safety and Robert's book Safe, Seen, Heard, and Valued (17:37) Robert's TEDx talk: The Power of the Little L (18:55) Differentiating between big L and little L leadership (24:14) Stories of little L leaders making an impact (27:10) Why companies should invest in little L leaders (30:44) Three E's framework: Education, Experience, and Exposure (38:03) Building cultural giants vs. empowering everyday leaders (43:07) Characteristics of a little L leader and their impact (49:47) Living in a big L world and the shift needed (52:55) Lessons from the pandemic and employee engagement whiplash (56:52) Words of encouragement for little L leaders (59:46) The Three C's of Community: Curiosity, Commonality, Connection (01:06:44) Rapid fire questions ---- 

In this episode, we sit down with Jason Amato, who shares the inspiring journey behind building a people-first business. From humble beginnings with a borrowed painting trailer to creating unforgettable experiences, Jason's story is all about passion, purpose, and prioritizing people. Learn about his “Three E's” framework—Engage, Educate, Excite—and how it's helped him maximize impact … Read More Read More

Chris's son died at 23, yet he's still right here. Just in time for fathers' day ~ AND full of promise for ALL of us ~ this beautiful conversation with Chris Ryan, who compiled and edited a new book called "Helping Fathers Heal: Grief, Hope, and Our Search for Connection." I know you will be deeply touched and encouraged by this incredible conversation. Here's a link to the book, "Helping Fathers Heal: Grief, Hope, and Our Search for Connection": https://www.amazon.com/Helping-Fathers-Heal-Search-Connection/dp/B0D2PFQT89 Please join me LIVE in the comments on Fathers' Day, and thereafter via all the podcast streaming services. This is a don't-miss interview. HELPING PARENTS HEAL: HelpingParentsHeal.org HELPING PARENTS HEAL Fathers' Group: https://www.helpingparentsheal.org/affiliate-groups/helping-fathers-heal/ MORE about Suzanne's Awakened Way AND the Three E's: https://suzannegiesemann.com/the-awakened-way/ Info about EMDR: https://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/ Suzanne Giesemann is a teacher of personal transformation, an author, and a medium who has been recognized on the Watkins' list of the 100 Most Spiritually Influential Living People. A former Navy Commander with a master's degree in National Security Affairs, she served as a commanding officer and aide to the Chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff. She now shares The Awakened Way®, a path to living a consciously connected and divinely guided life. SUZANNE'S NEW BOOK IS NOW AVAILABLE! The Awakened Way - Making the Shift to a Divinely Guided Life https://suzannegiesemann.com/theawakendway-book/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Theresa Alexander Inman talks with Dr. Danielle Dick, author of 'The Child Code.' Dr. Danielle, a Professor of Psychology, Genetics, and Neuroscience, discusses how understanding a child's genetic makeup can lead to more effective parenting. The conversation highlights the importance of recognizing genetic influences on child behavior and provides insights into reducing everyday conflicts, forecasting behaviors, and tailoring parenting strategies to individual children's needs. Dr. Danielle shares practical tips for parents on navigating children's unique personalities across three major dimensions: extroversion, effortful control, and emotionality. This episode offers valuable advice for parents looking to understand and support their children's development better. 00:00 Welcome to Parenting with Confidence 01:07 The Genesis of The Child Code: Bridging Genes and Parenting 02:24 Understanding Your Child's Genetic Blueprint 12:29 The Three E's of Child Behavior: Extroversion, Effortful Control, and Emotionality 15:38 Practical Strategies for Parenting with Genetics in Mind 32:39 Navigating Parenting Challenges with Empathy and Support 44:45 Closing Thoughts and Resources for Parents About Dr. Danielle Danielle Dick, Ph.D. is a tenured Professor of Psychiatry at Rutgers Medical School, where she directs the largest addiction research center in the country. She is an internationally recognized and award-winning expert on genetic and environmental influences on human behavior. She has led and contributed to more than 25 grants from the National Institutes of Health, with grant funding totaling >55 million dollars. She has >425 peer-reviewed publications in the areas of child development, addiction, mental health, genetics, and human behavior, and won numerous national and international awards for her work. She has been named one of the most highly cited researchers in the world across all fields of science. Her new book The Child Code, was published by Penguin Random House, and helps parents tailor their parenting to what will work best for each of their unique children. Learn more from Dr. Danielle at: https://www.danielledick.com About Theresa A wife and a mother to two children and grandmother, Theresa Alexander Inman is a Parenting Coach, Board Certified Behavior Analyst, and Infant Toddler Development Specialist. She was introduced to the field of behavior analysis in 2007 after working in many capacities in the juvenile justice system. Her goal is to improve the lives of children and families by helping them strategize child develop skills to prevent or reduce the effects of possible delays while having fun! She also served as a panelist on the first annual Autism World Summit. Theresa is also an author, having published ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠“How Can I Help My Child Communicate?”⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ in 2022. Connect with Theresa today! • Instagram | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Theresa Inman⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ • LinkedIn | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Theresa Inman⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ • BabyBoomer.org | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Theresa Inman⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ • YouTube | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Parenting with Confidence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ • Tiktok | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@parentcoachtheresa • Spotify via Anchor.fm | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Parenting with Confidence ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website: https://www.theresaalexanderinman.com/ About Parenting with Confidence Parenting with Confidence with Theresa Alexander Inman presents you with answers if you are a tired and frustrated parent with a child diagnosed with a developmental delay. We aim to lift you up from the pressure of doing it right and provide you with the resources to set you and your child up for success! Please share, comment, rate, and download! Thank you! Blessings! Theresa --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theresa-alexander-inman/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theresa-alexander-inman/support

In this special episode, Scott sits down with Brandon Turner to talk about it all. From family money skills to parenting advice, the next generation of kids, and family legacy, Scott and Brandon talk about all the secrets you need to know about building a Family Legacy today. A special thanks to Brandon Turner and his team for having Scott on! Give him a follow on his podcast A Better Life w/Brandon Turner https://open.spotify.com/show/7mkm7wrfHiBBYmK32faCfk?si=dc77a0cbc386417b Description: This episode combines insights on raising financially savvy children with effective parenting in the digital era. Featuring expert Scott Donnell, who has educated millions on children's financial literacy, it delves into his journey from a budding entrepreneur to becoming a champion for financial education among youths through his initiative, Gravy Stack. Donnell stresses the importance of instilling a robust work ethic and financial wisdom from a young age, aiming to prepare kids for responsible wealth management and to foster a healthier mindset about money. The conversation also navigates the complexities of digital parenting, addressing the challenges and dangers children face online—from inappropriate content to the persuasive power of social media and video games. It contrasts various parenting approaches, emphasizing a proactive, disciplined, yet loving family environment. The script underscores the importance of parental self-care and contemplates the legacy parents leave behind, advocating for a life that instills value and is remembered fondly. 00:00 Introduction and Meeting Scott Donnell 00:44 Scott's Early Life and Career Choices 02:17 The Importance of Financial Literacy for Kids 02:26 Scott's Entrepreneurial Journey 03:48 The Concept of Heritage vs Inheritance 04:53 The Impact of Money on Personal Behavior 12:03 The Role of Delayed Gratification in Child Development 33:52 The Evolution of Scott's Business Ventures 34:26 The Controversy Around Debt and Financial Education 35:39 The Creation and Impact of Gravy Stack 43:41 The Power of Brain Gigs: A New Approach to Learning 44:27 The Impact of Financial Literacy on Children 45:00 The Importance of Teaching Kids About Money 45:37 The Three E's: Expectations, Expenses, Extra Pay 46:00 The Power of Expenses: Teaching Kids Financial Responsibility 47:02 The Role of Gigs in Teaching Kids About Money 48:01 The Impact of Parenting on Kids' Financial Habits 49:24 The Importance of Kids' Independence and Responsibility 50:18 The Role of Kids in the Economy and Society 53:58 The Role of Faith in Parenting 54:45 The Importance of Nurturing Kids' Nature 57:44 The Importance of Protecting Kids from Negative Influences 01:03:52 The Role of Discipline in Parenting 01:21:53 The Importance of a Morning Routine 01:23:41 The Legacy of a Parent Additional Links Want to take your family and your finances to the next level? Schedule a call with Dinner Table today. https://scott.dinnertable.com/book Download the Gravy Stack App for FREE (iOS) https://apps.apple.com/us/app/gravystack-gamified-banking/id1635188175 Download the Gravy Stack App for FREE (Google Play) https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.gravystack.gravystack&hl=en_US&gl=US Scott's Best Seller Book ⁠Value Creation Kid: The Healthy Struggles Your Children Need to Succeed⁠  Socials Scott Donnell on LinkedIn - ⁠linkedin.com/in/donnell-scott⁠  Scott Donnell on Instagram - ⁠@imscottdonnell⁠

On today's episode, we are joined by Sydney Robinson, the Executive Director inside the Dental Success Network (DSN), and they delve into the crucial topic of mastering phone skills within the dental practice. With over 1,400 members under her wing, Sydney shares invaluable insights on creating positive first impressions and enhancing patient communication through effective phone handling. The duo emphasizes the significance of the initial phone call as a pivotal touchpoint in the patient's journey, highlighting that poor handling can result in losing potential patients without ever realizing it. The conversation covers the "three E's" of phone communication—Empathy, Energy, and Edification—outlining strategies to ensure every caller feels valued, understood, and excited about their visit. They discuss the importance of active listening, prioritizing calls, and utilizing technology like call tracking KPIs to improve patient service and practice efficiency. Sydney introduces practical tools and strategies for efficient call management, including outsourcing calls to manage high volumes and after-hours inquiries without compromising the quality of patient care. Listeners are encouraged to implement these strategies to transform their practice's approach to phone communications, enhancing both patient satisfaction and practice growth. By focusing on building rapport, actively listening, and communicating effectively, dental practices can significantly improve their patient interactions and overall satisfaction. For more insights and tips on improving your dental practice, check out the Dental Success Network (DSN). Explore the tools, strategies, and best practices discussed in this episode to elevate your patient communication and ensure your practice stands out in the dental industry. EPISODE RESOURCES https://www.truedentalsuccess.com/2024-dental-success-summit https://www.truedentalsuccess.com Dental Success Network Subscribe to The Dentalpreneur Podcast

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Calling all thrill makers, fun creators, and AttractionPros! Get ready for the ride of a lifetime at IAAPA Expo 2023 - the global attractions industry's premier event. Join us in Orlando, November 13-17, for a week of learning, networking, and exploring trends and new technologies. Discover innovative solutions for growth that will supercharge your business and enhance your career. Register by November 10th at iaapa.org/iaapaexpo and save up to 30% and get an additional $10 off with code apros.   Jenn Whitmer is a renowned speaker, leader, and enneagram specialist. Jenn's professional journey started in music education, and it was after her transition into school administration that she discovered her deep-seated passion for leadership and conflict resolution. After watching a positive workplace fall apart, Jenn made it her mission to share her powerful message of how personality and leadership intertwines, making her a perfect guest for our podcast! In this interview, Jenn tells us about creating positive culture with complex people, conflict as posture, and the importance of rest.    Creating Positive Culture with Complex People   "Welcoming people as whole people creates more productivity at work."   Jenn shares that workplaces should be viewed as communities, not families. By fostering an environment where colleagues are welcomed with open arms, individuals feel at ease being their authentic selves at work. This approach not only promotes diversity and contributes to a positive workplace culture where emotions are valued, but it helps people experience that wonderful sense of belonging.   Jenn's strategy, known as Joyosity, revolves around what she calls the "Three E's" - Exploration, Engagement, and Experience. This approach encourages colleagues to freely explore their work, become deeply engaged in their tasks and responsibilities, and ultimately have a great experience by feeling welcomed and appreciated.  Conflict as Posture   "80% of conflict is miscommunication."   Viewing conflict as a posture is simple - instead of thinking of conflict as individual vs. individual - Jenn says it should instead be looked at like the game ‘Red Rover', where it's an intertwined team fighting to break the conflict across the field. It's not people vs. people, it's people vs. conflict.    Additionally, most conflict stems from limited resources and different angles. Instead of framing these situations as conflicts, consider them opportunities for problem-solving that can help the identification of miscommunications and lead to the resolution of the "conflict" in a much more straightforward manner.   The Importance of Rest   "As leaders, we should encourage people to take time off."   It's simple, when we're not rested, we're not effective. Jenn shares that most of the Western world overworks themselves and has lost the true definition of rest. Rest is recognizing that we're limited, and when we accept and work around those boundaries, we become much more productive.    Jenn highlights that she has three essential keys to achieving proper rest. First, she emphasizes the value of taking mini-breaks to relax the brain. Second, utilizing all of your allocated vacation time can significantly contribute to productivity. Lastly, she underscores the critical importance of tending to your body's physical needs, which includes maintaining a healthy diet and ensuring adequate sleep to get true rest.     To learn more about Jenn, click here. To connect with Jenn, connect with her on LinkedIn or follow her on Instagram. This podcast wouldn't be possible without the incredible work of our faaaaaantastic team:   Scheduling and correspondence by Kristen Karaliunas A/V editing by Abby Giganan Summary written by Mason Nichols To connect with AttractionPros: AttractionPros.com AttractionPros@gmail.com AttractionPros on Facebook AttractionPros on LinkedIn AttractionPros on Instagram AttractionPros on Twitter (X)

Brad Schelling and Steve Cherrico talk about the “why's” for First Priority. Listen to the Three E's and their explanation for them. The Three E's are Encourage, Equip and Empower. It is about you and the gifts you are able to bring to First Priority.    Encouragement is something that we give and receive. Steve explains it as a cup that leaks, and we need others to keep filling us up to keep encouraging.    We want to Equip and share who we are around the country.    Empowerment is activated by what we have been encouraged and equipped with. There are three levels, Staff, Volunteers and Student Leaders. Empowerment will work its way down to the students.   Brad Schelling is the EVP of Operations at First Priority of America and Steve Cherrico is the Executive Director of FP Greater Nashville as well as a Regional Manager for FPoA. You can read more about them here: https://firstpriority.club/about-us/staff-and-board/   

Scott Donnell is the Founder of GravyStack and Apex Leadership Co. He is also the Wall Street Journal Best Selling Author of "Value Creation Kid" and a Top 1% Podcaster with "Smart Money Parenting". His work in financial education and mindset has impacted and served 6 Million+ Families. However, his most special work is being husband to Amy and a father to their four children. In this wisdom-packed episode, Scott and host Mindi Linscombe cover some fascinating topics including: How money isn't good or bad. Money is a tool. The power of "adding & creating value" in life. Stages of Money Skills: Earn, save, spend, share, invest, protect, and borrow.How allowance is a version of codependence and socialism.What to pay or not pay children for tasks and "gigs" around the house.  Insights into Scott's very first business when he was in school. How GravyStack (the best educational app for kids and teens) was created to develop resilient young people who are empowered not only to make money but also to make money matter.More on Scott's parenting community for those looking to shape a healthy money mindset in their children. How kids learn in two key ways: by having fun and real life experiences. Three E's of the Home Economy: Expectations, Expenses, Extra Pay.What are "Brain Gigs"? And, why Scott loves how the wisest families use these!How kids can make money with their brain!SPECIAL FREE GIFT: Be sure to use The Something New Show's special promo code Family23 for a free month of GravyStack! Find out more about Scott and Gravystack at https://gravystack.com/ and on Instagram at: @imscottdonnell. And, be sure to use the promo code above to get started with Gravystack today! The Linscombe kids have loved it and yours will too! Thanks for listening! Be sure to rate the show and leave a review with one key takeaway from this episode. And, be sure to subscribe to the show and tell a friend. Also, follow @thesomethingnewshow on Instagram and Facebook. If you want a fuller experience, like & subscribe to the show on Youtube! Cheers!

The hosts, Spencer Shaw and Kim Butler, focus on the topic of the home economy system, which involves three important elements: Expectations, expenses, and extra money for gigs. This concept applies to households of varying sizes and configurations. They attribute the basis of this concept to the book written by Scott Donnell and Lee Benson, Value Creation Kids, as it is a practical guide to personal finance from a principle-based viewpoint.  Prosperity Thinkers is proud to be an affiliate of the transformative Gravy Stack movement, helping individuals around the world unlock their potential and achieve financial freedom. By providing resources, tools, and mentorship, we contribute to creating a culture of abundance, possibility, and growth. Please note, as an affiliate, we may receive compensation for our efforts. Our collaboration, however, goes beyond financial arrangements; we truly believe in the power of the Gravy Stack movement to change lives and foster prosperity. Best-selling author Kim Butler and Spencer Shaw show you how to take more control of your finances. Tune in to The Prosperity Podcast to learn more about Prosperity Thinkers thinking and strategies today! Do you have a question you would like answered on the show? Please send it to us at hello@prosperitythinkers.com and we may answer it in an upcoming episode.   Links and Resources from this Episode For resources and additional information of this episode go to https://prosperitythinkers.com/podcasts/ https://gravystack.com/prosperity    Show Notes The concepts in "Value Creation Kids” The idea of the home economy Three E's of the home economy system Importance of clear communication in ensuring everyone's expectations The need for kids to contribute and feel heard as a significant part of setting expectations Application of these principles to adult children who still live at home Establishing an expectation of prosperity thinking at home Sharing an example about one particular experience with money management and how it plays a part in maturity and personal growth Special Listener Gift Free eBook: Activating Your Prosperity Guide. Kim Butler's groundbreaking eBook/ audiobook explains why typical financial advice may be sabotaging your wealth... and what to do instead!  Review and Subscribe If you like what you hear please leave a review by clicking here Subscribe on your favorite podcast player to get the latest episodes. iTunes Stitcher RSS

E3 is ending, and we are here to talk about it. Some breaking news in there as well. Great questiona bout 10 to 15 man content in gaming. Resident Evil 4 Remake got a lot of talk today. Plus all the games we played. Dear Martha, Tears of the Kingdom details, Last of Us getting rammed in Steam reviews. Square doing NFT stuff again. PSVR2 is selling really bad. Polaris IS Witcher 4. Skyrim Chat! And lots of great stuff. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

E3 is ending, and we are here to talk about it. Some breaking news in there as well. Great questiona bout 10 to 15 man content in gaming. Resident Evil 4 Remake got a lot of talk today. Plus all the games we played. Dear Martha, Tears of the Kingdom details, Last of Us getting rammed in Steam reviews. Square doing NFT stuff again. PSVR2 is selling really bad. Polaris IS Witcher 4. Skyrim Chat! And lots of great stuff. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you think great leaders have the ability to lead anyone and everyone? The answer may surprise you. You see, there are factors that limit how far others are able to go and how far we, as leaders, can take them. Today, Mark Cole and Traci Morrow begin a new series on Leadership Limitations. In part one, John Maxwell will teach the four major factors that determine the limitations of the people we lead. Next week, in part two, John will teach on the five factors that determine how far we, as leaders, can take our people. Our BONUS resource for this series is the “Leadership Limitations Worksheet,” which includes fill-in-the-blank notes from John's teaching. You can download the worksheet by clicking “Download the Bonus Resource” below. References: Watch this episode on YouTube! Real-life Marriage by Traci Morrow Developing The Leader Within You 2.0 by John C. Maxwell (use code PODCAST for 15% off at checkout this week only) Download the Maxwell Leadership Growth Plan Get Your Tickets to Live2Lead! The Three E's of Developing Leaders

The function of leadership is to produce more leaders, not more followers. As John Maxwell reminds us in this lesson, leadership is more caught than taught. So, today John is going to teach on embracing the three E's of Developing Leaders. This is a great lesson for anyone who wants to build a winning team of people who can take their organization to the next level.  After John's lesson, Mark Cole––CEO of Maxwell Leadership––will be joined by Traci Morrow to discuss how they develop leaders within Maxwell Leadership and what they're learning along the way. Developing leaders isn't always easy, but it sure is fulfilling! So let John, Mark, and Traci help guide the way in this impactful episode! Our BONUS resource for this episode is the “Three E's of Developing Leaders Worksheet,” which includes fill-in-the-blank notes from John's teaching. You can download the worksheet by visiting MaxwellPodcast.com/developing and clicking “Download the Bonus Resource.” References: Watch this episode on YouTube Sign up for our first ever Personal Growth Day in August! Download the new C.L.E.A.R. app by Maxwell Leadership The Leader's Greatest Return by John C. Maxwell (use code PODCAST at checkout for 15% off this week only) Relevant Series: Why John Wooden's Team Won