Totally Mental

In this episode, we say goodbye :( The era of the Totally Mental Podcast is coming to a close. In true TM fashion, we're sharing all the info on why we're ending the podcast, a lot of the feelings that got us here and looking back on what this has meant to us. Keep shreddin' the gnar & know we'll be strapped in on the rollercoaster next to you - just without a microphone. Lots of love. Connect With Us:Instagram: @totally.mentalWebsite: totallymentalpod.comEmail: totallymentalblog.comResources We Love:Dial or Text 9-8-8 for the National Suicide LifelinePsychologyToday.com - to find a therapist you like.Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for free, confidential counseling

Despite being constantly occupied with work responsibilities, keeping up with relationships, and remembering to drink enough water, we may often still feel unfulfilled, dissatisfied, or lacking purpose. We may even recognize that being busy isn't a status we strive for, yet we still find ourselves on the brink of burnout. So we dive deeper into why this may be happening and explore the impact of our work culture, societal expectations, and personal values on our actions and overall sense of fulfillment. We also talk about how we're addressing this in ourselves and trying not to just be busy for the sake of it but to be busy doing things that make us feel fulfilled. Links:Forever Never by Lucy ScoreValues Bullseye Connect With Us:Instagram: @totally.mentalWebsite: totallymentalpod.comEmail: totallymentalblog.comResources We Love:Dial or Text 9-8-8 for the National Suicide LifelinePsychologyToday.com - to find a therapist you like.Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for free, confidential counseling

We're back! After a few weeks off we're feeling rested, rejuvenated, and ready to shred the gnar again with you all. In this episode, we catch up on what it's been like for both of us to start new jobs.  Change - even when it's chosen and exciting - can still bring up a lot of uncomfortable feelings like anxiety and imposter syndrome. Plus, the complexities of starting a new job in a remote environment make it even more layered. So we are bringing you to our virtual bathroom floor where we discuss it all. Enjoy!References:Glennon Doyle Podcast Episodes - part 1 & part 2Connect With Us:Instagram: @totally.mentalWebsite: totallymentalpod.comEmail: totallymentalblog.comResources We Love:Dial or Text 9-8-8 for the National Suicide LifelinePsychologyToday.com - to find a therapist you like.Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for free, confidential counseling

This week we are talking about Attachment Theory! This has been a long-awaited topic, and we are so excited to have Courtney walk us through the conversation. In our convo, we talk about the different forms of attachment, where they come from, ways they can show up in our relationships, and how to manage them. None of them are good or bad and growing our awareness of them without judgment can help us connect with each other. Enjoy!Where to find Courtney Stacey:Instagram: tender___coTik Tok:  tender___coLinks:Drinking Games by Sarah LevySelf Care for People with ADHD by Dr. Sasha HamdaniConnect With Us:Instagram: @totally.mentalWebsite: totallymentalpod.comEmail: totallymentalblog.comResources We Love:Dial or Text 9-8-8 for the National Suicide LifelinePsychologyToday.com - to find a therapist you like.Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for free, confidential counseling

This week we're super excited to have coach, speaker, and mental health advocate Penny Belle on the show! In this episode, we talk about Penny's past trauma, how it impacted her journey toward being diagnosed with ADHD & C-PTSD, and ultimately how it has led to her work in killing the stigma around mental health one conversation at a time. No matter where you fall in your journey with mental health, you'll probably find something to relate to in this one. Enjoy!Penny Belle on InstagramConnect With Us:Instagram: @totally.mentalWebsite: totallymentalpod.comEmail: totallymentalblog.comResources We Love:Dial or Text 9-8-8 for the National Suicide LifelinePsychologyToday.com - to find a therapist you like.Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for free, confidential counseling

Long distance friendships involve change, which is scary & uncomfy. As we enter into a long distance friendship, this week we're talking about what it feels like to be in an LDR with friends, different ways to maintain friendships from afar, going into them with intention, the magic of an 8 minute phone call and more.ReferencesThe Secret Power of the 8-Minute Phone Call (NYT)Dunbar's Number: Why we can only maintain 150 relationshipsConnect With Us:Instagram: @totally.mentalWebsite: totallymentalpod.comEmail: totallymentalblog.comResources We Love:Dial or Text 9-8-8 for the National Suicide LifelinePsychologyToday.com - to find a therapist you like.Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for free, confidential counseling

We're back with more scrap clips left on the cutting room floor! You're getting the raw dog version of our conversations (and a lot of the actual dogs interrupting) so be ready to laugh at our cringey & candid moments - mostly mispronouncing shit.  Enjoy! Connect With Us:Instagram: @totally.mentalWebsite: totallymentalpod.comEmail: totallymentalblog.comResources We Love:Dial or Text 9-8-8 for the National Suicide LifelinePsychologyToday.com - to find a therapist you like.Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for free, confidential counseling

This week we are super excited to have guest Emma Mahony on the podcast! Emma is a mental health therapist based on the East Coast. We found her on TikTok where she makes videos on topics ranging from things your therapist wants you to know, why people seek out therapy, questions a therapist may ask you, and generally draws back the curtain on what goes on in the therapy room in order to reduce the stigma and fear around it. She's incredible, and we dive into it all the questions with her. Don't worry, we already asked her to be Totally Mental's resident therapist, so we hope to share more of her with you soon! Enjoy!Follow Emma MahonyTik TokInstagramConnect With Us:Instagram: @totally.mentalWebsite: totallymentalpod.comEmail: totallymentalblog.comResources We Love:Dial or Text 9-8-8 for the National Suicide LifelinePsychologyToday.com - to find a therapist you like.Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for free, confidential counseling

This week we're talking about MLMs! Han & Em have both had experiences on the inside of different MLMs so we're pulling the curtain back on the toxic cultures promoted within, the reality of joining one, the ways they prey on vulnerable people (aka us lol), and more. Like most things, they aren't necessarily inherently bad, toxic, and awful, but they certainly often are. Enjoy!Documentaries:Betting on ZeroLulaRichPodcastsBe There in Five - 149. Hun For The Money (MLM & Insta Coaching Deep Dive)Sounds Like a Cult - The Cult of Multi-level MarketingSounds Like a Cult - The Cult of LuLaRoe

This week we're talking about Dry January. We did a poll on our Instagram on who's participating and it was split directly down the middle. Whether you're someone like Em who benefits from timelines, boundaries, and definitives around alcohol consumption or more like Hannah who intuitively feels it out, we cover both ends of the spectrum. We talk about being sober curious, our own relationships to alcohol, our stories around it, and more. Enjoy!

In this ep, we're talking about the anticipation of change. Change is uncomfortable no matter what changes occur in our lives, be they a new city, a new job, a friend getting married, or having a baby. Whether the circumstance is initiated by us or chosen for us, it can be tricky to navigate the dynamics that come along with it. It's just messy! We are breaking down some of the major changes happening in our lives & our friendship, including the messy conversations and feelings of it all (in real time) & how we're moving through it. Spoiler alert: it's not so cute! But we do manage to find humor in it all. Enjoy! 

Setting goals for 2023 or do you think resolutions are kind of BS? In this ep, we're unpacking New Year's resolutions. This time of year can feel overwhelming for a lot of reasons, one of them being the pressure or even motivation that comes along with a new year on the horizon. Some of us have visions of new habits, enhanced lifestyle, or fresh projects. Others may not buy into the idea that we have to feel like we have it all figured out before the clock strikes midnight. Hannah & Em are pretty much opposite sides of the spectrum when it comes to this, so we chat about the positives, drawbacks & humor of each & try to land somewhere in the middle.

No matter what field, whether you're an employee, a contractor or an entrepreneur, we all feel stuck in our careers sometimes. In the ep, we break down how the process of getting another job feels.  It can be exhausting to think about all the aspects of change & try to get yourself over all the self-doubt, fear, frustration, etc. to make moves. Cheers!!Resources We Love:Dial or Text 9-8-8 for the National Suicide LifelinePsychologyToday.com - like Hinge for therapists!211.org - any resource you might need in your area.Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for 24/7, free, confidential counseling when you are in crisis (whatever feels like a crisis to you).Connect With Us:Instagram: @totally.mentalWebsite: totallymentalpod.comEmail: totallymentalblog@gmail.com

In this episode, we explore the gray spaces between a first date and a full-blown relationship.  This conversation includes everything from how dating feels in our late 20s vs how it felt in our early 20s, all the "shoulds" and anxiety that come up, figuring out if you *really* like someone or just want them to like you, and more! Dating is such a broad topic, and we love talking about it because we are in the thick of it. Resources We Love:Dial or Text 9-8-8 for the National Suicide LifelinePsychologyToday.com - like Hinge for therapists!211.org - any resource you might need in your area.Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for 24/7, free, confidential counseling when you are in crisis (whatever feels like a crisis to you).Connect With Us:Instagram: @totally.mentalWebsite: totallymentalpod.comEmail: totallymentalblog@gmail.com

This week we're talking about living alone! If you've lived alone for a decent amount of time, you know that's is kind of the best, but it also presents some challenges. Seemingly small tasks like cooking for yourself, keeping your laundry done, living up to an invisible standard we were raised with, etc. can feel insurmountable. We both feel pretty comfy & awesome about living alone now, but that *definitely* wasn't always the case. Enjoy!Resources We Love:Dial or Text 9-8-8 for the National Suicide LifelinePsychologyToday.com - like Hinge for therapists!211.org - any resource you might need in your area.Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for 24/7, free, confidential counseling when you are in crisis (whatever feels like a crisis to you).Connect With Us:Instagram: @totally.mentalWebsite: totallymentalpod.comEmail: totallymentalblog@gmail.com

This week we're talking about the difference between knowing when to push yourself outside of your comfort zone and when to honor a legitimate boundary. There's so much noise out there about how our lives “should” go and “should” look. It can be hard to hear your own voice amidst it all. Just because one person moves to a new big city to pursue their version of success doesn't mean that it has to be your version of success, even if culture suggests it should be. Doing something out of your comfort zone in your hometown is just as valid. Spoiler alert: science agrees! In this episode we're breaking it all down. Enjoy!Resources We Love:Dial or Text 9-8-8 for the National Suicide LifelinePsychologyToday.com - like Hinge for therapists!211.org - any resource you might need in your area.Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for 24/7, free, confidential counseling when you are in crisis (whatever feels like a crisis to you).Connect With Us:Instagram: @totally.mentalWebsite: totallymentalpod.comEmail: totallymentalblog@gmail.com

This week we're talking about comparison. It's nearly (if not fully) impossible to avoid comparing ourselves to others, whether on social media or in our closest friend & family circles. In this episode, we talk candidly about cultivating self-compassion, how comparison can help us uncover our deeper selves, & also how much utter bullshit exists in the world that preys on & perpetuates the human tendency to compare.  You're not the problem babe, it's the world. Cheers! Resources We Love:Dial or Text 9-8-8 for the National Suicide LifelinePsychologyToday.com - like Hinge for therapists!211.org - any resource you might need in your area.Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for 24/7, free, confidential counseling when you are in crisis (whatever feels like a crisis to you).Connect With Us:Instagram: @totally.mentalWebsite: totallymentalpod.comEmail: totallymentalblog@gmail.com

This week we're talking about rest & the constant need to feel productive. Whether we inherited it from parents, coaches, or western society in general, this belief that we have to “do” in order to “be” can feel so engrained that it doesn't even feel conscious most of the time. No wonder we're more burnt out than we've ever been! So this week we talk about productivity shame, where it comes from & some ideas to combat it, social media's role in why it feels so difficult to rest, & some ways we *try* to help ourselves rest. Cheers! Stretching Video - https://youtu.be/g_tea8ZNk5AResources We Love:Dial or Text 9-8-8 for the National Suicide LifelinePsychologyToday.com - like Hinge for therapists!211.org - any resource you might need in your area.Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for 24/7, free, confidential counseling when you are in crisis (whatever feels like a crisis to you).Connect With Us:Instagram: @totally.mentalWebsite: totallymentalpod.comEmail: totallymentalblog@gmail.com

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Today we're talking about personality tests! Specifically, CliftonStrengths (formerly known as Gallups Strengths Finder). We talk about what the test is, the research behind it, overall outlook on personality tests, and of course, our results! We're excited to cover other tests like the Enneagram and Myers Briggs in future episodes! Enjoy!

It's our one year anniversary!

In today's episode, we're talking about toxic positivity. Sometimes toxic positivity is downright obvious, like when someone says, “well look on the bright side” or “just be grateful for everything you do have” amidst tragedy and trauma. Other times, the line toxic positivity can sneak in behind an overall optimistic outlook. We all fall somewhere different on the spectrum of toxic positivity and it depends on the situation.  We cover our own outlook on positivity vs toxic positivity, examples of toxic positivity, and what it feels like in this episode. Enjoy!Resources We Love:Dial or Text 9-8-8 for the National Suicide LifelinePsychologyToday.com - like Hinge for therapists!211.org - any resource you might need in your area.Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for 24/7, free, confidential counseling when you are in crisis (whatever feels like a crisis to you).Connect With Us:Instagram: @totally.mentalWebsite: totallymentalpod.comEmail: totallymentalblog@gmail.com

In this episode, we talk about religion. There's so much to talk about on this topic, so we start with our own experiences with Christianity & the Catholic Church. We inherited so many beliefs & subconscious programming from religion ranging from sex, relationships, right vs wrong, our “roles” as women, guilt, shame, & more. We chat candidly about the spectrum of experiences we had with church & how we relate to it now. As this is such a broad topic & we have experiences from just one sector of one religion, we would love to hear from you about your experiences, thoughts & as always, *feelings* on this topic. Enjoy!  Resources We Love:Dial or Text 9-8-8 for the National Suicide LifelinePsychologyToday.com - like Hinge for therapists!211.org - any resource you might need in your area.Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for 24/7, free, confidential counseling when you are in crisis (whatever feels like a crisis to you).Connect With Us:Instagram: @totally.mentalWebsite: totallymentalpod.comEmail: totallymentalblog@gmail.com

September is National Suicide Prevention Month so today we're talking about suicide. One of the biggest misconceptions about suicide is that talking about it plants the idea in someone's head, but the truth is that talking about suicide is suicide prevention. Hannah shares her experience, the difference between passive and active suicidal ideation, how it feels when you're in it, how to talk about suicide, and some resources to connect with. You are not alone. We love you.RESOURCESHelp LinesNational Suicide Prevention Lifeline - call or text - 988 Crisis Text Line - 741-741 The Trevor Project (LGBTQ+ Youth) - 866-488-7386Trans Lifeline (Transgender Individuals) - 877-565-8860WebsitesNational Alliance for Mental Illness Suicide Prevention Awareness Month ResourcesMental Health First Aid - find a course in your areaPsychologyToday.com - find a provider near you211.org - find a range of resources in your area Connect With Us:Instagram: @totally.mentalWebsite: totallymentalpod.comEmail: totallymentalblog@gmail.com

In today's episode, we sit down with Courtney Soule & Kristi Kozubal to unpack the complexities of female friendships, connecting over life pain & champagne, the fact that healthy friendships sometimes take space, how differences can be so beneficial & more. It was fantastic to sit down with these ladies for this conversation & we can't wait for you to be a part of it too! To keep in touch with them & all they're doing, follow them online @courtsoule & @kristi.kozub & if you're in the tri-city area, catch us at Public House nearly every weekend. Enjoy!Resources:Dial or Text 9-8-8 for the National Suicide LifelinePsychologyToday.com - like Hinge for therapists!211.org - any resource you might need in your area.Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for 24/7, free, confidential counseling when you are in crisis (whatever feels like a crisis to you).Connect With Us:Instagram: @totally.mentalWebsite: totallymentalpod.comEmail: totallymentalblog@gmail.com

The Knowing-Doing Gap. Em and I talk about this idea about the knowing-doing gap being the disconnect between knowledge and action. Basically - knowing something is not always enough and there is often a gap between what we know and what we actually apply in our lives. We mention our big experiences with hesitating between knowing something isn't right and moving forward like in college, jobs and relationships. Enjoy!

Finding a new therapist feels like dating. You want to be vulnerable & connect but you also want to be funny & for them to like you. It's a doozy! In this episode we cover how it feels to decide you want to go to therapy, how to get connected to the right therapist, what the first appointment feels like & how to navigate it from there. Enjoy! Example emails to send to a new therapist:Subject: New Client RequestHello Rachel! I see you have a waitlist currently for new clients. I have gone to a few therapists over the years. I have not been to therapy in a while as I am looking for a new therapist who can give me more of what I am looking for/need at this stage. I am really interested in EMDR. Additionally, I'm a 29-year-old single girl who has literally no idea what I'm doing and needs help getting less lost haha :) Hope to hear from you! Hi Leah! My name is Emily. Your profile stood out to me on PsychologyToday as I'm looking for a new therapist who specializes in ADHD. It says you're not taking new clients but I'm emailing you in the chance that's changed. I have recently gone through some life changes and am seeking support and practical life strategies that will help me manage my responsibilities and emotions more effectively. I'm very curious to explore ADHD and, if diagnosed, ways to manage it. I'm not super sure what that process looks like but am ready and eager to learn. I've been in therapy on and off for the last 14ish years so I'm pretty comfy with the process and really just looking for the right fit for this moment in my life. If anything opens up in your books, please let me know what would be the next steps to find out if we're a good fit to work together. Thank you!Other helpful resources:https://psychcentral.com/health/changing-therapistsDial or Text 9-8-8 for the National Suicide LifelinePsychologyToday.com - like Hinge for therapists!211.org - any resource you might need in your area.Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for 24/7, free, confidential counseling when you are in crisis (whatever feels like a crisis to you).Connect With Us:Instagram: @totally.mentalWebsite: totallymentalpod.comEmail: totallymentalblog@gmail.com

This we're talking about our friendship! This past Saturday was International Friendship Day and friendships are so special Ours is so fun, and it's also taught us about communication, being seen, acknowledging our downfalls  &, as cliche as it can sound, what it looks like to do life with someone. So today we're going behind the curtain to chat conflict, communication, nuances of friendship & as always, alllll the feels. Enjoy!Friendship Questions:168 Questions to Ask Friends That Are Fun, Personal, and Deep -Teen Vogue36 Questions That Lead to Love - NYTResources We Love:Dial or Text 9-8-8 for the National Suicide LifelinePsychologyToday.com - like Hinge for therapists!211.org - any resource you might need in your area.Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for 24/7, free, confidential counseling when you are in crisis (whatever feels like a crisis to you).Connect With Us:Instagram: @totally.mentalWebsite: totallymentalpod.comEmail: totallymentalblog@gmail.com

We've got that summertime … sadness? Turns out SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder) isn't just reserved for the winter blues. Just this episode we talk about how high expectations of summer activities can feel crushing, that feeling low in summer months can actually feel even lower because we feel like we shouldn't feel that way & how it all feels to navigate. We hope you feel less alone in these feelings through this episode. Enjoy! 

We're keeping things loose again this week! In this episode, we catch up on what's been going on in our lives and through our brains over the last few weeks. We talk about new therapists, skydiving, Hannah being allergic to everything, Em gives an ADHD assessment update & more. Enjoy!Resources We Love:Dial or Text 9-8-8 for the National Suicide LifelinePsychologyToday.com - like Hinge for therapists!211.org - any resource you might need in your area.Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for 24/7, free, confidential counseling when you are in crisis (whatever feels like a crisis to you).Connect With Us:Instagram: @totally.mentalWebsite: totallymentalpod.comEmail: totallymentalblog@gmail.com

This week we're going off the cuff. We're commiserating on the state of the country and sharing updates on our lives,  what we've been reading/watching & our small things for our mental health! Emily is starting her ADHD assessment and educates us on her newest fascination - astrocartograhy (?). Hannah vents about chronic depression & is the new spokesperson for Buncha Crunch at the movies, kindle life, & kefir. Enjoy! Resources We Love:PsychologyToday.com - like Hinge for therapists!211.org - any resource you might need in your area.Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for 24/7, free, confidential counseling when you are in crisis (whatever feels like a crisis to you).Connect With Us:Instagram: @totally.mentalWebsite: totallymentalpod.comEmail: totallymentalblog@gmail.com

We all people-please to some extent, whether it comes from the human need for belonging or coping mechanisms. In this episode, we explore the gray spaces of people-pleasing. It's not always a negative and sometimes it's needed in order to survive. We learn a bit about where people-pleasing really comes from, what the experts say, and accessible ways to recognize and combat it. Enjoy!Resources We Love:PsychologyToday.com - like Hinge for therapists!211.org - any resource you might need in your area.Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for 24/7, free, confidential counseling when you are in crisis (whatever feels like a crisis to you).Connect With Us:Instagram: @totally.mentalWebsite: totallymentalpod.comEmail: totallymentalblog@gmail.comArticles about being "other-focused" or "other-centered"https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/social-instincts/202201/why-some-people-always-put-others-ahead-themselveshttps://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/theory-knowledge/201403/are-you-other-oriented

This week we're talking about regret & forgiving yourself. We asked our audience what they regret and have had to forgive themselves for, and answers ranged from “being a hoe” (lol) to trusting the wrong people to not going to therapy sooner and more. Regret is a part of the human experience. It doesn't mean we're failures even when we fail. It doesn't mean we're bad even when we make mistakes. It can be used as a tool for self-reflection, self-development, and ultimately, self-acceptance. Cheers! Resources We Love:PsychologyToday.com - like Hinge for therapists!211.org - any resource you might need in your area.Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for 24/7, free, confidential counseling when you are in crisis (whatever feels like a crisis to you).Connect With Us:Instagram: @totally.mentalWebsite: totallymentalpod.comEmail: totallymentalblog@gmail.comReferences:https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-cope-with-regret-5218665https://www.webmd.com/balance/features/learning-to-forgive-yourself

Being alone doesn't always mean lonely - but it can be pretty damn uncomfortable sometimes. We fill our lives to the brim with relationships, work, friendships, etc. that we often don't really know how to be alone. In this episode, we're covering some of the details of singlehood - our experiences going from in-a-relationship to single, how being single can be amazing for you, and a little bit of perspective on how to be okay with - and maybe enjoy - being alone. Resources We Love:PsychologyToday.com - like Hinge for therapists!211.org - any resource you might need in your area.Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for 24/7, free, confidential counseling when you are in crisis (whatever feels like a crisis to you).Connect With Us:Instagram: @totally.mentalWebsite: totallymentalpod.comEmail: totallymentalblog@gmail.comReferences:https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/why-bad-looks-good/202102/why-many-single-women-without-children-are-so-happy#:~:text=Single%20women%20without%20children%20are%20often%20happier%20and%20healthier%20than,outside%20of%20their%20romantic%20relationships.https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-feel-better-about-being-single-5101119#:~:text=Feelings%20of%20loneliness%2C%20including%20romantic,and%20increased%20mental%20health%20problems.https://www.verywellmind.com/how-important-is-alone-time-for-mental-health-5184607https://www.forbes.com/sites/amymorin/2017/08/05/7-science-backed-reasons-you-should-spend-more-time-alone/?sh=d5b3f8f1b7ee

This week we're breaking down male body image and eating disorders with our resident Totally Mental male perspective, Paul Webster! Paul shared his body image story and experiences with eating disorders candidly as well as what he continues to learn through healing. Enjoy!Connect with Paul:@ginger_webster on IGReyt Chuffed Marketing Agency - https://reytchuffed.co.uk/Paul's IG Account Recs:https://www.instagram.com/everybodybeautystandard/https://www.instagram.com/bopo.boy/https://www.instagram.com/onelittlespaceman/https://www.instagram.com/theeverymanproject/https://www.instagram.com/max_hovey/https://www.instagram.com/edrecoveryblog/https://www.instagram.com/beatingeatingdisorders/https://www.instagram.com/williamhornby/Resources We Love:PsychologyToday.com - like Hinge for therapists!211.org - any resource you might need in your area.Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for 24/7, free, confidential counseling when you are in crisis (whatever feels like a crisis to you).Connect With Us:Instagram: @totally.mentalWebsite: totallymentalpod.comEmail: totallymentalblog@gmail.com

This week we're breaking down social media and mental health. It's no hot take that social media has become a double-edged sword, as we mindlessly scroll to numb ourselves or to portray unrealistic, polished versions of our lives. On the flip side, it's also an incredible tool for self-expression and has become a career for some. It's important to keep it all in perspective, so we're talking about its physiological effects on our brains, filters, comparison, and more. Enjoy!Resources We Love:PsychologyToday.com - like Hinge for therapists!211.org - any resource you might need in your area.Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for 24/7, free, confidential counseling when you are in crisis (whatever feels like a crisis to you).Connect With Us:Instagram: @totally.mentalWebsite: totallymentalpod.comEmail: totallymentalblog@gmail.comReferences:https://www.mcleanhospital.org/essential/it-or-not-social-medias-affecting-your-mental-healthhttps://www.healthline.com/health/social-media-and-mental-healthhttps://www.chicagotribune.com/nation-world/ct-aud-nw-nyt-social-media-break-20220514-drasbw5mc5h4xjejjhmrhtwsyq-story.htmlhttps://www.freepressjournal.in/lifestyle/five-ways-social-media-is-impacting-your-mental-healthhttps://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Kids-Teens-and-Young-Adults/Teens/Social-Media-and-Mental-Health

Today we're talking about abortion. The topic holds significant relevance right now because of the leaked draft from the Supreme Court, which threatens to overturn Roe v Wade. One in four women will get an abortion over the course of her reproductive life yet it's rarely talked about. The taboo nature of it can make it feel shameful even if our beliefs say otherwise. So today we're layout out statistics, Em's sharing her story & we're sharing perspective that we hope will continue a larger conversation & help other women feel less alone. EnjoyPetitions:Planned Parenthood PetitionReproductive Freedom for All (Michigan Specific)Donate:All donations to abortion access funds can be done through the National Network of Abortion Funds.Keep Our Clinics, a campaign spearheaded by the Abortion Care Network that raises money for independent abortion clinics Help Protect Reproduction RightsCompany funds & policieshttps://www.morningbrew.com/hr/stories/2022/05/06/some-employers-are-offering-financial-aid-for-abortion-related-costs-ahead-of-final-scotus-rulinghttps://www.cnbc.com/2022/05/08/on-roe-v-wade-big-companies-already-have-a-precedent-for-action.htmlReferences:https://www.thecut.com/article/donate-abortion-fund-roe-v-wade-how-to-help.html?mc_cid=cf69a91160&mc_eid=31c97ab1a9https://www.politico.com/f/?id=00000180-874f-dd36-a38c-c74f98520000https://www.npr.org/2022/05/02/1096053620/supreme-court-roe-wade-leaked-draft-opinion-politicohttps://www.npr.org/2022/05/03/1096094942/roe-wade-overturned-what-happens-nexthttps://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2021/12/14/upshot/who-gets-abortions-in-america.htmlhttps://www.npr.org/2022/05/06/1096676197/7-persistent-claims-about-abortion-fact-checkedhttps://www.plannedparenthood.org/uploads/filer_public/af/1a/af1ae95f-de81-43dd-91a3-470043b06dce/myths_about_abortion_and_breast_cancer.pdfhttps://www.ncjw.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/05/Judaism-and-Abortion-FINAL.pdf

Careers. Can barely live with 'em, can't live without 'em! Living in a culture that seriously ties work & worth while also ignores the reality of its implications on our mental health has made navigating a path pretty fuzzy for our generation.  In this episode, we talk about how many people have had a change of heart & career lately resulting in "The Great Resignation", our own messy career paths thus far & ultimately that there's no right path & there's no timeline to “arrive.” We're all doing the best we can out here & that is exactly right! Enjoy! Resources We Love:PsychologyToday.com - like Hinge for therapists!211.org - any resource you might need in your area.Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for 24/7, free, confidential counseling when you are in crisis (whatever feels like a crisis to you).Connect With Us:Instagram: @totally.mentalWebsite: totallymentalpod.comEmail: totallymentalblog@gmail.com

Welcome to procrastination station! We've all been in scenarios where our to-do list is just less exciting than a Tiktok scroll, Wikipedia deep dive, or navigating the madness that is Zara's website. And before we know it, hours have passed & we're more exhausted with no productivity to show for it. Today we're taking a deeper look at why we procrastinate, the short-term & long-term effects it has on our mental health, relationships & general outlook on our own identities & some practical strategies to minimize the negatives. Enjoy! References:Atlas of the Heart by Brene Brown - https://amzn.to/38AOuZ6https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/procrastinationhttps://www.psychologicalscience.org/observer/why-wait-the-science-behind-procrastinationhttps://www.vogue.in/beauty/content/why-do-we-procrastinate-and-how-to-stop-ithttps://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/comparatively-speaking/202106/why-we-procrastinatehttps://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20210310-why-we-procrastinate-on-the-tiniest-of-taskshttps://www.ted.com/talks/tim_urban_inside_the_mind_of_a_master_procrastinator?language=enResources We Love:PsychologyToday.com - like Hinge for therapists!211.org - any resource you might need in your area.Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for 24/7, free, confidential counseling when you are in crisis (whatever feels like a crisis to you).Connect With Us:Instagram: @totally.mentalWebsite: totallymentalpod.comEmail: totallymentalblog@gmail.com

Burnout happens to all of us, especially in this pandemic world. We didn't realize how many scenarios can cause burnout, and learned through our research that we probably experience it far more often than we even realize. So today we're covering it all, from what it is and isn't, where it comes from and how to deal. Check out the resources we gathered our research from below. Enjoy!References:https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/burnout#:~:text=Burnout%20is%20a%20state%20of,%2C%20caretaking%2C%20or%20romantic%20relationships.https://yaledailynews.com/blog/2022/03/29/how-people-fall-apart-yale-faculty-discuss-the-impact-of-burnout-on-the-brain/https://www.nytimes.com/2022/02/15/well/live/burnout-work-stress.htmlhttps://www.cnn.com/2022/03/10/health/burnout-changing-brain-wellness/index.htmlhttps://www.bustle.com/wellness/burnout-definition-what-we-get-wronghttps://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/burnout/art-20046642Resources We Love:PsychologyToday.com - like Hinge for therapists!211.org - any resource you might need in your area.Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for 24/7, free, confidential counseling when you are in crisis (whatever feels like a crisis to you).Connect With Us:Instagram: @totally.mentalWebsite: totallymentalpod.comEmail: totallymentalblog@gmail.com

This week we're unpacking how money affects mental health, our own money stories & the generational differences from our parents that add to the conversation around money for Millennials & Gen Z. Enjoy!Small Things Helping Our Mental Health:SodaStreamStats:https://www.businessinsider.com/millennials-cost-of-living-compared-to-gen-x-baby-boomers-2018-5https://www.moneyandmentalhealth.org/money-and-mental-health-facts/Resources We Love:PsychologyToday.com - like Hinge for therapists!211.org - any resource you might need in your area.Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for 24/7, free, confidential counseling when you are in crisis (whatever feels like a crisis to you).Connect With Us:Instagram: @totally.mentalWebsite: totallymentalpod.comEmail: totallymentalblog@gmail.com

It can be so easy to compare our day-to-day lives to the highlight reels of social media to the point that normal, daily life actually feels like we're doing something wrong. In this episode, we break down being with the blah & normalizing normal life. Enjoy!The Needle List ArticleSmall Things Helping Our Mental Health:SodaStreamResources We Love:PsychologyToday.com - like Hinge for therapists!211.org - any resource you might need in your area.Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for 24/7, free, confidential counseling when you are in crisis (whatever feels like a crisis to you).Connect With Us:Instagram: @totally.mentalWebsite: totallymentalpod.comEmail: totallymentalblog@gmail.com

We grew up hearing the jingle, “First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes a baby in a baby carriage!” While we know life doesn't work like this, that programming can still feel like it's controlling our subconscious minds. It can feel like those end results are the most important purposes of life. On the flip side, if your life has taken the proverbial love, marriage, baby course, you may feel like the life society told us would deliver ultimate happiness & peace just isn't the entire story. We're unpacking it all in today's episode. Enjoy! Resources We Love:PsychologyToday.com - like Hinge for therapists!211.org - any resource you might need in your area.Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for 24/7, free, confidential counseling when you are in crisis (whatever feels like a crisis to you).Connect With Us:Instagram: @totally.mentalWebsite: totallymentalpod.comEmail: totallymentalblog@gmail.com

We all know exercise is good for our mental and physical health, but there's a lot beneath the surface of exercise worth exploring. Today we're sharing how we were raised to see exercise, our up and down relationships with it, how we relate to it today and what we do to support our mental health with exercise.Small Things That HelpAmazon Kindle (Was $50 on Prime Day and Black Friday!)Resources Mentioned In This Episode:Nike Run Club AppNike Training Club AppResources We Love:PsychologyToday.com - like Hinge for therapists!211.org - any resource you might need in your area.Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for 24/7, free, confidential counseling when you are in crisis (whatever feels like a crisis to you).Connect With Us:Instagram: @totally.mentalWebsite: totallymentalpod.comEmail: totallymentalblog@gmail.com

This week we're talking about conflict in friendships! Research shows that our female friendships have more of an impact on our overall life satisfaction than our romantic relationships, which means the feelings we have attached to them can feel more significant than even those of our long-term partners, and that they take work! We share what conflict has looked like in our friendships, including our own. We also break down ways to navigate conflict, how to bring up your feelings, and hear the other person's POV. This episode is rebranding conflict in friendship as a whole because it truly can be an incredible way to move two people closer together if you approach it the right way. Cheers!Resources Mentioned in the Episode:How To Get Over A Friendship Breakup Article (stats about the importance of friendship)The Friendship Expert on Tik TokHow to Handle Conflict With a Friend ArticleResources We Love:PsychologyToday.com - like Hinge for therapists!211.org - any resource you might need in your area.Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for 24/7, free, confidential counseling when you are in crisis (whatever feels like a crisis to you).Connect With Us:Instagram: @totally.mentalWebsite: totallymentalpod.comEmail: totallymentalblog@gmail.com

Our society has created two distinct categories: social/normal drinker and alcoholic. The reality is, a lot of us will find ourselves somewhere between the two extremes. Unfortunately because of the way alcohol is promoted and celebrated, it's easy to internalize the negative effects of it as inherent problems that we embody rather than direct results of the drug. On the other hand, alcohol isn't necessarily bad, but it's important to understand the why when we consume it. In this episode, we're unpacking the gray space of learning about our own relationships to alcohol, how it affects anxiety and depression, hanxiety, the impact of taking time away, and more. Since Em started examining her relationship with alcohol more closely, these resources have been a huge help to her and some were mentioned in the episode:Instagram Accounts@noboozebabes@shestayssober@asobergirlsguide@theretiredpartygirlAppsThe Reframe AppBooksThe Easy Way to Control AlcoholQuit Like a WomanThe Naked MindConnect With Us:Instagram: @totally.mentalWebsite: totallymentalpod.comEmail: totallymentalblog@gmail.com

We spend so much of our lives working that it's inevitable for our mental health to be affected for better or worse. Traditional office environments, remote freelance roles, business ownership, contractor work or anything in between can all impact our mental health differently. This week we're covering how we show up in our different work environments, how those environments influence our mental health, crying in bathroom stalls, dealing with deadlines, finances, difficult people & more. Resources We Love:PsychologyToday.com - like Hinge for therapists!211.org - any resource you might need in your area.Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for 24/7, free, confidential counseling when you are in crisis (whatever feels like a crisis to you).Connect With Us:Instagram: @totally.mentalWebsite: totallymentalpod.comEmail: totallymentalblog@gmail.com

It's Valentine's week so we're chatting about Valentines, Galentines & the grey shades between. Love is so much more than just the romantic kind & we're excited to celebrate the different ways we give & receive love this year! In this episode we're covering how much pressure society puts on being in a romantic relationship, celebrating the relationship you have with yourself, different ways to celebrate all the relationships in your life, how the holiday has looked and felt so different for us throughout the year and a lot of love & relationship gnar we're shreddin' Resources We Love:PsychologyToday.com - like Hinge for therapists!211.org - any resource you might need in your area.Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for 24/7, free, confidential counseling when you are in crisis (whatever feels like a crisis to you).Connect With Us:Instagram: @totally.mentalWebsite: totallymentalpod.comEmail: totallymentalblog@gmail.com

Group vacations can be the most fun but still stir up some uncomfy feelings when it comes to traveling and group dynamics. We recently got back from a girl's trip to celebrate Hannah's graduation so we're covering topics like feelings of anxiety or irritability when things are "supposed to be fun", taking space away when in a group setting, feeling anxious traveling with a new group, accepting and speaking your needs in a new setting & also, how damn good it feels to be with a group of incredible women. Mentioned in the Episode:Splitwise for divvying up expenses after a trip!Resources We Love:PsychologyToday.com - like Hinge for therapists!211.org - any resource you might need in your area.Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for 24/7, free, confidential counseling when you are in crisis (whatever feels like a crisis to you).Connect With Us:Instagram: @totally.mentalWebsite: totallymentalpod.comEmail: totallymentalblog@gmail.com

Pandemic life has thrown many of us into working from home, so this week we sat down with Amanda Serra about the ups and downs, and ins and outs of it all. Amanda is the Design Director of BSPK Marketing & Communications, an incredibly talented graphic designer (she's the genius behind all of our branding),  and creator extraordinaire. She's bringing you the candid reality of how she manages working from home, productivity, and career fulfillment.We cover:– The effects of working from home on mental health– Setting a schedule to stay productive working at home– Separating herself mentally from work when she's “off the clock”– Work from home fatigueTools mentioned in the episode:Task management tool: asana.comPicker wheel for task prioritizing: pickerwheel.comResources we love:PsychologyToday.com - like Hinge for therapists!211.org - any resource you might need in your area.Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for 24/7, free, confidential counseling when you are in crisis (whatever feels like a crisis to you).Connect With Us:Instagram: @totally.mentalWebsite: totallymentalpod.comEmail: totallymentalblog@gmail.com

In this episode, we're talking about what self-self care really looks like - but first, we dive a little deeper than our usual check-ins and answer some deep questions to start us off. Self-care's PR agent has been putting in some work! It's showing up everyone, especially in marketing. But like most things glamorized on social media, we're really only seeing the grid-ready manifestation. We're exploring the ways we've internalized this messaging of hustle-self-care and the ways we practice actual self-care by listening to ourselves. If you liked this episode, leave us a review & subscribe/follow!Shipt Grocery Delivery code for $10 offResources we love:PsychologyToday.com - like Hinge for therapists!211.org - any resource you might need in your area.Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for 24/7, free, confidential counseling when you are in crisis (whatever feels like a crisis to you).Connect With Us:Instagram: @totally.mentalWebsite: totallymentalpod.comEmail: totallymentalblog@gmail.com