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Slightly Open 110 I 拥有的关系越少，被PUA的可能性越大（SO x Qiao Qiao）欢迎关注Slightly Open。这是三位女性的一个小型谈话节目，薇薇，Coco（@Wang蔻蔻）和老柴（@老柴）。也欢迎关注我们的小红书同名账号！本期摘要：听完这一期，如果有人以爱的名义试图PUA你，会变得很难。因为你会更容易识别它，并告诉自己远离这个关系或者更好的应对这种情况。我们常说的PUA也叫“煤气灯操纵”，它作用在情感层面，依靠情感来实施，因此很难识别。如何区别情感操纵和正常的情感需求？如何区别建设性的批评和通过批评实施煤气灯操纵？在任何一个情感关系里，如果对方让我们感到被打压、被贬低、被否定，它大概率是PUA；任何以爱的名义试图去操纵他人的行为，都无关于爱。一个人长期被PUA会遭受怎样的伤害？如何识别自己是否在PUA别人？你会无意识的PUA自己吗？在一个我们不想终止的关系中，如果遭遇PUA，我们如何应对？一方面是求助，不要试图一个人对解决；另一方面是刻意让自己保持多种、多样的关系，不要将自己孤立在一个关系里。我们拥有的关系越少，被PUA的可能性越大。开篇：PUA是一个被过度使用和误读的词，到底什么是PUA？小伙伴分别如何看待PUA？02:40 PUA怎么从pick up artist 演变成今天的用法？ 关于PUA最经典的著作《煤气灯效应》04:00 那些年我们经历过的PUA，家庭是大型PUA现场10:18 PUA的另外一个说法是情感操纵或者煤气灯效应（gaslighting），如何识别PUA？12:10 PUA不是洗脑，不是理性层面的操控，而是情感操控，它普遍存在，很难被识别。14:50 PUA有现性和隐形两种，PUA可以并常常是无意识的, 这在亲子关系中很常见。17:34 如何分辨给出负面反馈甚至批评与PUA之间的差异？18:40 不识别PUA带来的伤害和后果——内化成长期的自我否定和自我差评20:30 如何理解是隐性、也就是无意识的PUA？25:45 PUA最核心的两部分：首先是操纵，操纵者施加给被操纵者，令其完成一个对操纵者有利的一件事情、建立一种认知或呈现一种状态；第二部分是情感，作用在关系层面，利用情感来完成29:50 职场PUA是怎么回事？似乎职场关系不涉及情感？31:20 PUA本质上是一个权力问题吗？33:06 权力下位者是否能对权力上位者PUA？34:30 PUA不是一个纯然负面的词，某些情况下，它也可以是一个中性词，它的核心是控制，当并不是所有的控制都导致一个糟糕的后果，当PUA导致一个人负面的自我评价的时候，是值得被标的的36:40 家庭中低位对高位的PUA普遍存在，比如通过让对方内疚和愧疚的方式来操控39:50 在任何一种关系中，如果一方让另一方感觉渺小或者卑微，很可能与PUA有关41:20一个常见的情况是，我们看到一个人对他人长期PUA，但是认为对自己没有。43:30 宣布一个人是煤气灯人的意义？在亲情关系中，宣布另一方为煤气灯人格，没有意义，因为我们无法叫停这个关系；需要去识别的是PUA的行为，以及如何去回应这个行为49:00 PUA中最弱势的群体——孩子。当一个孩子承受来自成年人的PUA的时候，那种自我否定是生命级别的自我否定。孩子如何自我保护？如果在公共场合看到有孩子遭受PUA，在可能的情况下提醒父母。56:40 PUA绝不是爱，爱也绝不是PUA，很不幸它们经常被混淆；搞混它们除了沉沦于自我否定，还有可能让我们自己成为一个操纵者58:30 爱是一个模糊不清的动词，在理解什么是爱之前，先辨识什么不是爱1:02:00 不能把人生一切的不如意归结于原生家庭的创伤，然而只有辨识出PUA，看见原生家庭的伤害，才能剥离爱与伤害，才能让情感流动，对一个存在伤害的关系对象反向输出爱。1:06:30 在一个关系中怎么给对方负反馈才不是PUA？不升格负反馈，精准沟通向对方提出的要求和这个要求背后站着的那个需求1:14:00 撒谎和撒谎精的差别？1:22:30 如何回应PUA？被PUA的人非常难以依靠自己的力量来自救。1. 求助 2. 不要把自己陷入一个孤立的关系1:24:50 受过良好教育的女性更容易被PUA？1:28:00 《坠落的审判》里内心强大的女性反丈夫的PUA行为的桥段1:32:10 当无故被恶意评价与攻击的时候。三个人复盘一个场景让我们看见更多，更大程度的还原真实1:37:20 如何去识别 PUA？ 在无他人可以复盘的情况下，这里的“空乘人员”是我们自己的感受，特别是当这个情绪指向一个糟糕的自己的时候。1:42:00 示弱、袒露脆弱和敢于表达情绪和感受可以是一个对PUA的有效回应 1:45:00 反射弧很长，好久以后才反应过来自己被PUA了1:47:40 我们会PUA自己吗？自我批评、灵魂拷问和自我PUA之间的差别是什么？1:50:00 如何免于自我PUA？孩子不做灵魂拷问1:54:00 自己在家天人交战的时刻。我们到底有没有懒惰的自由？1:57:40 如果懒惰可以自由，如何安放日拱一卒？2:01:00 当一个人做自己热爱的事、朝着自己设定的、真正想去的目标前行的时候，懒惰和拖延根本不是一个议题2:03:30 《煤气灯效应》里的探戈: 作者想说PUA不是单方面可以完成的。问题来了，被操控的对象，为什么会去配合操控的对象去跳那一只探戈？因为这个关系中有符合TA需求的部分。2:04:50 在一个我们不想终止的关系中，如何去回应PUA的部分？一个是求助，一个是刻意让自己保持多种、多样的关系，在关系里做加法，而不是做减法；不要将自己孤立在一个关系里。因为关系越少，被PUA的可能性越大。2:05:00 不要独自面对，试图一个人对解决PUA。求助、求助、求助，重要的事说三遍，一定要释放求救信号。2:08:00如何求助？ 2:09:00 找到一个善待自己的人是一个小概率事件，如何教女儿去辨识一个不良好的关系？2:10:50 小结：在任何一个关系里，如果让我们感到被打压、被贬低、被否定，让我们觉得自己渺小 ，它大概率是一个PUA的关系；任何以爱的名义试图去操纵他人的行为，都无关于爱。本期书籍：《煤气灯效应The gaslight Effect: How to spot and survive the hidden manipulation others use to control your life 》罗宾-斯特恩本期电影：《坠落的审判》《煤气灯下》本期音乐：Miley Cyrus, “Flowers”本期思考：你被PUA过吗？如何去判断？应对PUA最有效的方式是什么？

You may not know this, but your primal mind is controlling a lot of your thoughts, beliefs and actions.  So, by learning to tap into your unconscious mind and bringing what's going on in there to the surface, you can start consciously creating what TF you want - and that's magic, bitches!!   In today's episode, I'm sharing the Witch Bitch Whore® Effect mindset practices that will help you get underneath all the unconscious & subconscious beliefs that are keeping you from having what you want. Ready to flip those bitches (shift your unhelpful beliefs) and trust that you're a worthy, badass who gets to have exactly what you desire?! I'm exploring: My favorite mindset practices to help you shift your unhelpful beliefs & actually get what you want! The #1 reason we don't have what we want (and what to do about it) Why it's so important to understand the Law of Cause and Effect  How we can fuck up manifestation (and what to do instead) My 3-part mindset technique to help you meet your juiciest desires And more   Work with me: https://witchbitchwhore.as.me/whoracleconsultation Register for the Pussy Rave: https://linktr.ee/Witchbitchwhore For more about Witch Bitch Whore™: https://linktr.ee/Witchbitchwhore   Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/witchbitchwhore Join my free PRIVATE Facebook group Witch Bitch Whore™: https://m.facebook.com/groups/2171271802991856

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Today's guest is a very experienced lawyer, leadership mentor, business coach, public speaker, advocate for female entrepreneurship and one of the leading lights of Excluded UK. Excluded UK is a group created to fight against a significant injustice suffered by millions of UK taxpayers who, without good reason, fell between the gaps and received no help when much needed Coronavirus related financial support was handed out by the chancellor. Our guest is Rachel Flower and she will be talking to me about “Cause and Effect” How to Create a Campaign Platform and Grow an Engaged, Focussed Community to Achieve Results She is the co-founder of the Broadroom a network of like-minded individuals not exclusively for women but with a clear intent to encourage, support and engage with fellow female entrepreneurs. She also runs legal consultancy Serenwood and has created another network called Free 2 ride which is an online activity centred offering aiming to grow a community of active members looking for a healthier lifestyle. Rachel lives in Yorkshire but you just might hear the lilt of a Welsh accent especially when speaking passionately as she does frequently on subjects very close to her heart. You'll also hear in this episode how Rachel is working hard to balance her busy career as a seasoned entrepreneur and campaigner with that of an equally busy parent. When Covid19 and lockdown hit the UK most of us were in a state of shock. Fortunately the Government did take swift action when mass redundancies were looming. We saw the Coronavirus Job Retention Scheme also known as Furlough. There were other schemes announced to support the self-employed such as the Self Employed Income Support Scheme, and a Discretionary Grant Scheme co-ordinated by local authorities which has currently paid out £11 billion via 900k grants to businesses across the UK. BUT..despite the very best efforts of a wide range of tax players from self-employed to freelancers to company directors and those denied furlough or individuals simply earning less than 50% of their income from self-employment 3 million UK taxpayers are affected by this oversight and received Zero support since Lockdown began. Excluded UK is fighting their corner. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hresource/message

The 1% Effect - How to get 37 Times Better @ Social Media in just 365 Days

The 1% Effect - How to get 37 Times Better @ Social Media in just 365 Days

“The number one reason most people will fail, it’s because they are unwilling to endure the monotony of success.” - Gary Keller {The 1 Thing Book} The 1% Effect - How to get 37 Times Better @ Social Media in just 365 Days

The 1% Effect - How to get 37 Times Better @ Social Media in just 365 Days

The 1% Effect - How to get 37 Times Better @ Social Media in just 365 Days

The 1% Effect - How to get 37 Times Better @ Social Media in just 365 Days

The 1% Effect - How to get 37 Times Better @ Social Media in just 365 Days

The 1% Effect - How to get 37 Times Better @ Social Media in just 365 Days

The 1% Effect - How to get 37 Times Better @ Social Media in just 365 Days

As entrepreneurs, we have one mandate…get as rich as possible. How did you react when you read that? Did it make you feel uncomfortable and even a little squeamish? Money is not a “zero sum game” (meaning in order for me to win you have to lose) – it is quite the opposite. Money is infinite, a representation of the wealth created by entrepreneurs, tradesmen, and investors. So if money is infinite, why don't you have more? That's part of the fabric of my discussion with Perry Marshall on today's show. Perry is one of the most expensive and sought-after business consultants in the world. I think you'll enjoy the conversation. Click here to download or listen to this episode now. Spiritual Foundations The Bible often uses the natural world to teach us lessons about how to live an abundant life. A perfect example of this is found in Proverbs 6: 6-11… Go to the ant, you sluggard! Consider her ways and be wise, Which, having no captain, Overseer or ruler, Provides her supplies in the summer, And gathers her food in the harvest. How long will you slumber, O sluggard? When will you rise from your sleep? A little sleep, a little slumber, A little folding of the hands to sleep— So shall your poverty come on you like a prowler, And your need like an armed man. As entrepreneurs, we’re like the ant. We have no boss to force us to do what’s necessary. Either we do it, or it doesn’t get done. Now go forth and prosper! Tip of the Week Imagine me mentoring you each and every month. What would that make possible for you? We would start with an intensive training about how to get your online marketing system set up and running, no matter what type of business you own. Then, each month, we would do a live video training session where you could ask me any question you like. Each month I would sit down and write you a 12-page memo about what to do, and then I would deliver a proven marketing campaign you could copy and use in your business. We’ll be opening the doors to this new, group coaching/mentoring/training program in the near future. If you would like more information, go immediately to rayedwards.com/reic to get on the VIP notification list. Feature Presentation: “Optimizing for Picnics” Perry Marshall is one of the world’s most expensive and sought-after business consultants. Clients seek him out for his ability to integrate engineering, sales, art, and psychology. He has launched two movements in modern marketing. His Google Adwords books laid the foundation for the $100 billion Pay-Per-Click industry, and techniques he pioneered are still standard best practices. Perry wrote the world’s best-selling book on web advertising, Ultimate Guide to Google Adwords. More recently, he’s turned “80/20” into a verb. His book 80/20 Sales and Marketing is mandatory reading in many growing companies, and his books are course material in several business schools. Here are some snippets from our conversation: The Universal Law of Cause and Effect – How to work less and make more (19:34) The world is skewed – Why this is the best time ever to become a serial entrepreneur (20:47) Everything is connected – Why 20th century thinking will strand you on the Island of Misfit Toys (23:59) Optimized for picnics – What ants can teach us about business (27:53) Upsetting the corporate apple cart – Why Dilbert thinking is so destructive, and what to do about it (29:15) Arranging the deck chairs on the Titanic – How your business myopia is causing missed opportunities for massive growth (32:20) Extreme Inequality – How 80/20 is running your life whether you know it or not (34:15) The frictionless internet – The speed of your business is entirely dependent on the speed of your platform (36:41) The rise of the business state – Why Instagram is more powerful than 100 countries in the world (37:59) The center is the edge – How mastering principles the key to your leap forward (38:58) Better than Bruce Lee – Why specific focus is the key to competing with the masters (40:11) Look for the levers – The secret of turning a little input into a whole lot of output (41:44) How to create an addict – Why Minecraft is fifty-two times more effective a creating addition than alcohol (44:05) The Swiss Connection – Learn why Perry recommends deleting all your social media apps from your phone (45:47) The Tsunami Effect – Why one person’s catastrophe is another person’s opportunity (49:40) The six-year old marketer – What Perry’s daughter taught him about what we really sell (50:35) Polishing turds – Why the standard eight hour work day is a joke (53:05) The Star Principle – How to spot opportunity and how it can make you rich (1:01:19) Islands of profit in a sea of red ink – How to determine which of your customers are costing you money (1:04:13) Resources Mentioned in This Episode The Bible The Science of Success: The Secret to Getting What You Want by Wallace Wattles The Fountainhead by Ayn Rand Atlas Shrugged by Ayn Rand Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie The Magic of Thinking Big by David Schwartz Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill It's Not How Good You Are, It's How Good You Want to Be by Paul Arden Perry Marshall 80/20 Sales and Marketing: The Definitive Guide to Working Less and Making More by Perry Marshall Ultimate Guide to Google Adwords by Perry Marshall StarPrinciple.com The 80/20 Summit   How To Help Subscribe to the show through Apple Podcasts and give us a rating and review. Make sure you put your real name and website in the text of the review itself. We will mention you on this show. Get The Transcript Right-Click and “Save As” to Get the PDF Transcript.   “The best way to help the poor is first not to be one of them, and second to become as rich as you possibly can.” – Ray Edwards

Tom Trush is a direct-response copywriter, marketing strategist and founder of Write Way Solutions in Phoenix, Arizona. Tom Trush has helped business owners in 126 industries develop marketing materials that attract attention and create customers. Tom is also the author of “The Reluctant Writer's Guide to Creating Powerful Marketing Materials: 61 Easy Ideas to Attract Prospects and Get More Customers” and “The ‘You' Effect: How to Transform Ego-Based Marketing Into Captivating Messages That Create Customers.” In addition to working with clients across the globe, Tom shares his educational approach to marketing at seminars and workshops, as well as in his own information products. He firmly believes you can't go wrong in your marketing when you show compassion and a desire for helping people. In this interview Tom reveals… * How to avoid “Ego-based Marketing” which will kill any chance you have of making a sale * How to sell without pitching! * The “Genie in a bottle” method to create attention grabbing headlines on demand * The copywriting formula for gathering leads & email addresses on your website * Why it's easier to make sales without any face to face interaction * How the “Little guy” can compete with the big companies that have huge budgets * Two magic words that will increase your conversions instantly * How write persuasive emails that get opened, clicked & responded to *An easy trick to get your list to spread the word so their friends sign up to your list too * Why you should be using snail mail to build your list too

This week, you'll hear the story of Firefly, the Brussels Griffon I rescued from a backyard breeder. And a trip to the North American Kennel Club Dog Show in Lancaster, Pennsylvania. We meet the Karelian Bear Dog and four kinds of Water Dogs, Spanish Water Dogs, Portugese Water Dogs, French Barbet, and from Italy, the […] The post Paws & Effect – How to Rescue a Brussels Griffon & a Trip to a Rare Breeds Dog Show appeared first on WebTalkRadio.net.