Daily podcast about my personal battle with narcissistic personality disorder and my mental health. I'm very open about how I feel about life and my overall mental health. I've sought therapy and it's helped me beyond measure. I'm here to help and here to let you know you are not alone
The Mental Healness podcast has been an incredibly valuable resource for me in understanding and navigating toxic relationships, particularly those involving narcissistic individuals. Lee Hammock, the host of the podcast, brings a unique perspective as someone who openly admits to having narcissistic tendencies himself. This honesty and transparency create a relatable and informative experience for listeners who may be struggling with similar issues.
One of the best aspects of The Mental Healness podcast is how it sheds light on lesser-known aspects of narcissism and toxic behavior. Lee dives deep into topics like covert narcissism, love bombing, gaslighting, and manipulation tactics that are not always discussed in mainstream books or articles written by therapists. His insights provide a comprehensive understanding of these behaviors and help listeners recognize them in their own lives.
Furthermore, Lee's episodes are concise yet impactful, making it easy to binge-listen and absorb a wealth of knowledge in a short amount of time. His delivery is engaging and often infused with humor, making difficult topics more approachable. Additionally, Lee regularly interacts with his audience through TikTok videos and YouTube content, creating a sense of community among those who have experienced or are currently dealing with toxic relationships.
While The Mental Healness podcast offers invaluable information on narcissism and toxic behavior, one possible drawback is that it primarily focuses on romantic relationships. While this is undoubtedly an important aspect to address, it would be beneficial to explore other types of relationships affected by narcissistic individuals such as friendships or familial relationships. Expanding the scope could further support listeners who may not have experienced a romantic relationship with a narcissist but still need guidance in dealing with toxicity.
In conclusion, The Mental Healness podcast is an exceptional resource for anyone seeking knowledge and insight into narcissistic behavior and toxic relationships. Lee Hammock's expertise combined with his relatability creates an engaging experience that leaves listeners feeling validated and empowered. Despite some potential areas for growth in terms of exploring different types of relationships, this podcast is an invaluable tool for those seeking understanding and healing in the face of narcissism.
My story from beginning to right now about how I have been diagnosed with NPD or narcissistic personality disorder Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealness◦All My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"I know who they are... but I'm staying."Not everyone is ready to leave. Whether it's for the kids, financial stability, or a hope that things will change, many people choose to remain in a relationship with a narcissist. As a self-aware narcissist, I want to have a real, judgment-free conversation about what that actually looks like.If you choose to stay, you have to know the price you are going to pay. Today, we are talking about the "Trade-Offs"—the isolation, the loss of self, and the reality of radical acceptance. This isn't about shaming you for staying; it's about preparing you for the life you are choosing.IN THIS LIVE, WE DISCUSS:Radical Acceptance: How to stop waiting for the "Old Version" of them to come back.The Isolation Factor: Why your world gets smaller the longer you stay.The Death of Expectation: How to survive when you know your emotional needs will never be met.Building a "Life Within a Life": How to find pockets of peace while living in the storm.If you've decided to stay, you need to know how to protect your spirit while you're there.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Are they "scared" of intimacy, or are they "managing" you?It's the question that keeps thousands of people stuck in toxic cycles. You see them pulling away, shutting down, and becoming cold—but is it because they have an Avoidant Attachment Style or is it Narcissistic Devaluation?All My Links (Coaching, Courses, Merch): https://link.me/mentalhealnessAs a self-aware narcissist, I'm breaking down the nuances that therapists often miss. I'm explaining the difference between the "Avoidant's Fear" and the "Narcissist's Control." If you treat a narcissist like an avoidant, you will end up destroyed. If you treat an avoidant like a narcissist, you'll miss the chance for a healthy boundary.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Are you swiping right on a predator? Online dating is a narcissist's dream. It allows them to curate a "Perfect Mask" before you ever meet them. As a self-aware narcissist, I'm pulling back the curtain on how we use dating profiles to target empathetic, successful, and high-value people. From the "Nice Guy" bio to the weaponized religious photos, I'm showing you exactly what the "bait" looks like.IN THIS LIVE, WE DISCUSS:The Visual Bait: Why they use gym selfies, "flex" photos, or photos with kids that aren't theirs.The "Nice Guy" Paradox: Why labeling themselves as "God-fearing" or "wholesome" is a major red flag.The Intent Trap: What "Short-term open to long-term" actually means in narcissist-speak.Keywords to Avoid: Why phrases like "drama-free," "soulmate," and "can handle me" are immediate "Swipe Left" warnings.Don't fall for the mask. Learn to read between the lines.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"Just go No Contact!" feels like a slap in the face when you have shared custody, a business, or legal ties to a narcissist.For many survivors, complete severance isn't an option. But that doesn't mean you have to remain their emotional punching bag. As a self-aware narcissist, I know exactly how we use children, finances, and property as leverage to keep getting "supply" long after the relationship ends.In this video, I'm introducing the "O.N. Contact" (Only Necessary Contact) method. This is the strategic evolution of "Gray Rock," designed specifically for those who are forced to communicate with their abuser.All My Links (Coaching, Courses, Merch): https://link.me/mentalhealnessIN THIS VIDEO, WE DISCUSS:The Narcissist's Leverage: Why they use the kids or money to bait you into emotional arguments.Defining "Necessary": How to strip every ounce of personality and emotion out of your communication.The "Hostile Coworker" Mindset: Shifting from "ex-partner" to "business associate that I hate."Communication Protocols: Why you must move everything to email or parenting apps (and never phone calls).The Extinction Burst: How they will react when you stop feeding them supply through co-parenting chaos.You can't always leave the situation, but you can leave the dynamic.RESOURCES & SUPPORT:
Are you spiraling because the narcissist replaced you with someone who feels like a massive "downgrade"?It's not about love; it's about logistics. As a self-aware narcissist, I'm explaining the concept of "Transitional Supply." This is the person we jump to out of pure necessity—because we need a place to stay, money for bills, or simply because we cannot stand to be alone with our own thoughts for five minutes.IN THIS LIVE, WE DISCUSS:The "Band-Aid" Supply: Why we choose someone who isn't our "type" just to fill a void.Convenience Over Connection: How housing, food, and financial stability dictate our next move.The "Palate Cleanser": Why we sometimes choose someone "easier" after a strong partner (Grade A) sets boundaries.The Lifespan of the Transition: Why these relationships usually burn out as soon as the narcissist gets back on their feet.Stop comparing yourself to the person who is just a temporary life raft.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Are you "Grade A Supply" without even knowing it?Most people think narcissists target "broken" people. As a self-aware narcissist, I'm telling you that's a lie. We want the best. We want the person with the biggest heart, the most success, and the most to give. But there is a dark side to being "the best"—to a narcissist, you are a high-value asset that is ultimately replaceable.IN THIS LIVE, WE ARE DISCUSSING:The Anatomy of Grade A Supply: The 4 traits that make you an irresistible target.The "Reflector" Effect: How we use your light to hide our darkness.The Cold Truth on Replaceability: Why we can move on in 24 hours even after you gave us everything.Breaking the Pedestal: How to stop being "supply" and start being a person again.If you've ever felt like you were "special" to them only to be discarded like trash, this Live is for you.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Have you ever discovered a betrayal—infidelity, a lie, or a discard—and suddenly felt a surge of intense desire to be close to the person who hurt you? That isn't love—it's Hysterical Bonding.Hysterical bonding is a biological survival response. When a narcissist pulls away or betrays you, your brain treats the loss of the relationship as a life-or-death threat. This triggers a frantic need to reclaim the bond, often through intense physical intimacy or emotional desperation, just to feel "safe" again.In this video, I'm breaking down this phenomenon from the perspective of a self-aware narcissist. I'm explaining why this response is exactly what a narcissist wants, because it resets the cycle and gives them ultimate control over your panic.IN THIS VIDEO:The Panic Response: Why betrayal leads to an obsession with reconnection.Biological Warfare: How your own hormones (Oxytocin/Dopamine) keep you trapped.The Narcissist's Reset: Why we use your "bonding" to avoid accountability for what we did.Breaking the Cycle: How to recognize the difference between love and trauma-induced panic.Your body is reacting to a threat. Don't let the narcissist convince you that your panic is "passion."Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
ou finally figured out your partner was a narcissist—and then you looked at your parents. Then your friends. Then your boss.It's called the "Awakening," and it is one of the most overwhelming parts of the healing journey. Once you learn the patterns of narcissistic behavior, you can't "un-see" them. Today, I'm explaining why this happens and why you aren't "crazy" for suddenly seeing these traits in the people you've known your whole life.As a self-aware narcissist, I'm breaking down why we often seek out people who were already "trained" by narcissistic parents or friends to accept our behavior.IN THIS LIVE SESSION:The Blueprint: How growing up with a narcissistic parent prepared you for a narcissistic partner.The Friend Group Cleanup: Why you're suddenly realizing your "closest" friends are actually energy vampires.Frequency Illusion vs. Reality: Is everyone really a narcissist, or did you just finally learn the language?Q&A: Ask me anything about navigating these new realizations without losing your mind.The fog is lifting. It's painful, but it's the only way to get free.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
If you were targeted by a narcissist, it wasn't because you were weak. Lee Hammock (@mentalhealness) explains why self-aware narcissists look for high-value, resilient targets to consume.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
The fallout of a boundary is usually a war. Here is how to survive it.You watched yesterday's video on the 3 Ways to Set Boundaries with a Narcissist, but now you're living through the reaction. Why do they get more aggressive when you say "no"? Why does a simple boundary lead to a smear campaign or a week of silence?As a self-aware narcissist, I'm breaking down the "punishment phase" from the inside out. In today's LIVE, we are discussing:The Smear Campaign: Why they tell everyone you're the "abuser" the moment you set a limit.Guilt Tripping: How they use your empathy to make you feel bad for having needs.The Escalation: Why things get worse before they get better (The Extinction Burst).Live Q&A: I'll be translating your specific situations in real-time.Don't let their reaction bait you back into the cycle. Let's talk about how to hold the line.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Why does a narcissist "forget" their promises? Lee Hammock (@mentalhealness) explains the truth behind "Narcissistic Amnesia." It's not a memory problem—it's a lack of accountability.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
The high is over. The "holiday" is gone. Now comes the fallout.If you woke up today to the silent treatment, a cold shoulder, or a partner who is acting like the chaos of yesterday never happened—you are experiencing the "Valentine's Fallout." On this Sunday after, the narcissist has reclaimed control by ruining your expectations, and now they are using the "Day After" to test how much you'll tolerate.In this episode/Live, we are breaking down:The Emotional Hangover: Why you feel "crazy" today and they feel fine.Selective Amnesia: Why the narcissist refuses to acknowledge the fight they started yesterday.The Power of the Pivot: How they shift from "Villain" to "Victim" within 24 hours.Holding the Line: How to protect your peace when the mask is officially off.Stop waiting for an apology that isn't coming. Start understanding the game.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
When you stop giving a narcissist "supply," they don't just walk away quietly. They enter an "Extinction Burst." As a self-aware narcissist, Lee Hammock (@mentalhealness) explains why the behavior gets 10x more aggressive when you start setting boundaries. Learn the signs of the burst and why your reaction is exactly what they are looking for.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
In this video, we discuss:The Spotlight Struggle: Why your joy feels like a threat to my ego.The Obligation Trap: Why being "forced" to be romantic makes a narcissist want to rebel.Devaluation as a Tool: How ruining a special day gives the narcissist back the control.The "Gift" of Chaos: Why a fight is easier for us to handle than genuine intimacy.If you are feeling the "holiday dread" right now, this video is for you. Stop blaming yourself for their behavior.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
What happens when a narcissist can no longer rely on their looks, their money, or their status to control people? As a self-aware narcissist, Lee Hammock (@mentalhealness) explains the shift from "Grandiosity" to "Bitterness.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"You're too sensitive." "I never said that." "You're lucky to have me."
Why do narcissists ignore your boundaries? Because they don't respect feelings—they respect consequences. In this video, Lee Hammock (@mentalhealness) provides a raw, self-aware look at what actually goes on inside a narcissist's head when someone sets a boundary.Most people make the mistake of explaining their "why," which only gives the narcissist more leverage. Learn the 3 specific shifts you need to make to stop being an "easy target" and start being "high cost."Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Why a Narcissist's Treatment of You is Actually a Confession
"I wish I would have known."
Why 75% of Marriages That Start as Affairs End in Divorce. Does an affair ever actually lead to a "happily ever after"? The data says probably not. In this video, self-aware narcissist Lee Hammock breaks down the grim statistics of relationships that start through betrayal.While it may feel like "destiny" in the beginning, the transition from a secret affair to a legal marriage is a psychological minefield. We discuss why only 3-7% of affair partners ever marry, why the divorce rate for these unions is a staggering 75%, and the "Trust Deficit" that poisons the relationship from day one.Key Topics Covered:The "Unreality" Bubble: Why affairs die in the real world.The "Once a Cheater" stigma and internal suspicion.The lack of social support and family isolation.Why a "Soulmate" born in a lie can't handle the truth.Stop living in the fantasy and start looking at the facts. Stay Aware. Stay Healed.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"Was it all a lie? Did I ever actually matter?" In one of his most requested deep-dives, Lee Hammock answers the question that keeps every survivor awake at night. Discover the difference between being "loved" and being "useful," and learn how a narcissist's lack of object constancy allows them to discard you without a second thought. This is the closure you've been looking for.Key Topics:Why you mattered as a "Tool," not a "Person"The science of Object Constancy in NarcissismWhy they don't mourn the relationship like you doReady to find your own closure? Hit Follow and join our community of survivors.
Are you "Pain Shopping"? In this episode, self-aware narcissist Lee Hammock breaks down the compulsive urge to check an ex's social media. Learn why your brain is addicted to the "Digital Self-Harm" of seeing their fake new life and how narcissists weaponize their profiles to keep you stuck in the trauma bond. It's time to close the "Pain Store" and start your real recovery.Key Topics: > * The Dopamine Trap of "The Scroll"Why the Narcissist's "New Life" is a Billboard, Not a RealityHow to Break the Compulsion to Check Their PageFollow for more insights into the narcissistic mind. Stay Aware. Stay Healed.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Did the "fairytale" end as fast as it started? In today's live session, we are connecting the dots between the intense Love Bombing phase and the cold, calculated Reverse Discard.As a self-aware narcissist, I'm pulling back the curtain on the internal "playbook" used to create a trauma bond. We'll discuss why narcissists use intensity to bypass your boundaries, the psychology of "Baiting a Breakup," and why you feel like you're losing your mind during the devaluation phaseThis isn't just about labels—it's about pattern recognition and your psychological safety. Whether you're currently in the "honeymoon phase" or you've just been discarded, this live Q&A is designed to give you the clarity you need to stop the cycle.In this stream, we cover:The 4 Stages of the Narcissistic CycleWhy they "bait" you into ending the relationshipHow to protect your nervous system from the "High-Low" addictionReal-time Q&A: Your hardest questions answered from the "inside."Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
In the world of Cluster B personality disorders, NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) and BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) are often called "cousins" because they can look identical on the surface, especially during a blowout argument.Is it Narcissism (NPD) or Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)? Self-aware narcissist Lee Hammock breaks down the core differences in 2026. Learn why one is driven by ego/admiration and the other by a desperate fear of abandonment.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Is it true love or a "Love Bomb"? In this video, self-aware narcissist Lee Hammock breaks down the 4 stages of the grooming phase. Learn how narcissists use mirroring, fast-forwarding, and isolation to get you addicted to a version of them that doesn't exist.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Kanye West (Ye) just took out a full-page ad in the Wall Street Journal to apologize for his "reckless" behavior and antisemitic comments over the last two years. He's blaming an undiagnosed brain injury from 2002 and a 2025 manic episode—but is that enough?In this reaction, I'm breaking down the "To Those I've Hurt" letter. We're talking about the massive scale of the damage done—from the swastika T-shirts to the "Heil Hitler" song—and why an ad in a newspaper might be the start of a journey, but it isn't the destination.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Why is it impossible for a narcissist to say "I'm sorry"? In this episode, Lee Hammock explains the internal mechanics of the narcissistic ego. Learn about the "Narcissistic Injury," why projection is a survival tool, and how the "False Self" acts as a shield against the truth. If you've ever felt like you were fighting a brick wall, this episode explains why that wall was built in the first place.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
In this episode, Lee Hammock exposes a sophisticated manipulation tactic: Weaponized Vulnerability. As a self-aware narcissist, Lee explains why "tears" are often used as a defense mechanism to create F.O.G. (Fear, Obligation, and Guilt), effectively turning the victim into the villain.Key Takeaways:The Reverse Gaslight: How shifting the focus to their past trauma stops you from holding them accountable today.Insight Without Accountability: Why "knowing" they are toxic doesn't mean they intend to change.The 3 Red Flags: How to tell the difference between real pain and a calculated "tear trap".Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
It's not just one person—it's the whole group. When a group believes they are superior to everyone else and constantly victimized by the outside world, you are dealing with Collective Narcissism.Lee Hammock breaks down the psychology behind this "cult energy" from a self-aware perspective. Learn why narcissists thrive in these environments and how to spot the signs before the group turns on you.Key Takeaways:Defining the Beast: The difference between healthy group pride and toxic collective narcissism.The 4 Red Flags: Threat sensitivity, out-group aggression, internal policing, and the constant need for validation.The Smear Campaign: How the group mobilizes to destroy the reputation of anyone who leaves.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Is it possible for narcissism to run in families or is it more likely to be a 'one off' type of situation? Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Can you spot a narcissist with just one question? Lee Hammock breaks down the science-backed "SINS" test and why narcissists often admit the truth.In this episode of The Mental Healness Podcast, Lee Hammock dives into the Single Item Narcissism Scale (SINS)—a research-backed method from Ohio State University that claims a single question is nearly as accurate as a 40-question clinical inventory.As a self-aware narcissist, Lee explains why this question works on a psychological level and why many narcissists view their traits as a source of pride rather than shame.Key Takeaways:The SINS Methodology: How researchers compared the one-question test to the Narcissistic Personality Inventory.Why Narcissists Admit It: The "low social desirability" factor and why being called a narcissist can feel like a compliment to some.The Trap of Awareness: Why a "yes" answer isn't an invitation to fix them, but a warning for you to stay away.Grandiose vs. Vulnerable: Why this test fails on covert narcissists.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
In this episode of The Mental Healness Podcast, Lee Hammock explores the complex and often devastating relationship between Narcissistic Personality Disorder and pornography addiction.We dive into the concept of Object Constancy—the inability to maintain an emotional connection when a partner isn't physically present—and how this drives narcissists toward the instant, low-effort supply found in digital adult content.Key Discussion Points:Why porn provides a 'safe' space for narcissists who fear true intimacy.The role of Splitting in addiction: The 'Perfect' digital image vs. the 'Flawed' real-life partner.How this addiction manifests as a form of covert betrayal and gaslighting within the home.Steps toward awareness and breaking the cycle of objectification.Stay Aware. Stay Healed.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
What happens when a narcissist's world finally catches up to them? In this episode of The Mental Healness Podcast, we go deep into the mechanics of a narcissistic collapse—the intense emotional and behavioral crisis triggered by a blow to a narcissist's sense of superiority.Unlike a typical breakdown, a collapse is a desperate attempt to protect a fragile ego that has been exposed. We explore why this state often looks like severe depression or explosive rage, and how it differs from genuine remorse or self-reflection.Key topics discussed:The psychological 'mortification' of being exposed.How overt vs. covert narcissists handle a collapse differently.Why they often engage in self-destructive or vindictive behaviors during this time.Setting boundaries during the 'extinction burst'.Whether you are witnessing a collapse or trying to heal from the aftermath, this episode provides the clarity you need to stay grounded.Stay Aware. Stay Healed.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
Why does the narcissist start telling your story before you even realize the relationship is over? In this episode, self-aware narcissist Lee Hammock pulls back the curtain on the most devastating phase of the discard: The Smear Campaign.A smear campaign isn't just "gossip"—it is a coordinated, three-phase attack designed to isolate you, discredit your truth, and protect the narcissist's public image at all costs.In this episode, we explore:Phase 1: The Pre-emptive Strike – How they start "planting seeds" of doubt with your friends and family months before the breakup actually happens.Phase 2: The Flying Monkey Recruitment – Why your "loyal" friends suddenly start acting like spies and messengers for the narcissist.Phase 3: The Narrative Swap – How they take their own abusive behaviors and "project" them onto you, making you look like the unstable one.Survival Strategy: Why the urge to "clear your name" is actually a trap, and how to use silence to regain your power.You cannot win a war of words with someone who is willing to lie. You win by surviving the storm.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
Why is the shame of staying often heavier than the pain of the abuse itself? In this episode, self-aware narcissist Lee Hammock explores the deep, internalized shame that survivors carry long after the relationship ends.If you find yourself thinking, "How did I let this happen?" or "I'm embarrassed by how I acted," this session is for you. Lee pulls back the curtain on why narcissists intentionally use shame as a weapon to keep you isolated and why your "reactive abuse" wasn't a reflection of your character—it was a survival mechanism.In this episode, we break down:The "How Could I?" Trap: Why smart, strong people are often the primary targets for narcissistic manipulation.Reactive Abuse vs. Who You Are: Understanding why you yelled, cursed, or "acted crazy" and why you need to stop blaming yourself for it.The Isolation Effect: How the narcissist cuts you off from your support system so that shame becomes your only company.Forgiving the "Past You": Practical steps to stop the self-inflicted mental beatdown and start the self-love journey.Breaking the Secret: Why speaking your truth is the only way to kill the shame the narcissist planted in you.You didn't choose the abuse, but you can choose to stop punishing yourself for surviving it.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net Healing Support Group: https://mentalhealness.thinkific.com/products/communities/thementalhealers1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://mentalhealness1on1perspective.as.me/schedule/ec588030Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
What is the difference between a narcissistic partner and a cult leader? As it turns out, almost nothing. In this powerful episode, Lee Hammock (Self-Aware Narcissist) sits down with Peter Young, a survivor of a tiny but destructive religious cult led by a man known as "Uncle Robert."Peter's story is a chilling look at how high-control groups use "The Cult of One" tactics to destroy marriages, alienate children, and turn a person's life inside out. For 28 years, Peter was trapped in a cycle of psychological isolation and spiritual abuse that cost him everything—including his relationship with his five children. Now, he's sharing the "unmasking" moment when he finally saw the truth. Whether you are recovering from a group cult or a "one-on-one" cult (a toxic marriage), Peter's journey from brainwashing to freedom is a masterclass in reclaiming your mind.In this episode, we discuss:The "Uncle Robert" Playbook: How one person can dismantle an entire family.The Slow Brainwash: Why smart, capable people fall for high-control tactics.Narcissistic Parallels: Comparing cult leadership to the "Narcissistic Cycle of Abuse."The Cost of Control: Dealing with the alienation of children and the loss of 28 years.Breaking the Spell: How Peter finally opened his eyes and escaped.About Our Guest:Peter Young is the author of the Amazon best-selling memoir, "Stop The Tall Man, Save The Tiger." He now speaks out about the dangers of small, destructive religious groups and helps survivors find their way back to reality.Connect with Peter:
In this episode, we dive deep into the psychological reality of narcissistic abuse recovery and why it takes an average of seven attempts before a survivor leaves for good. We explore the biological and emotional "hooks" that keep you stuck, from the trauma bond to intermittent reinforcement.If you've ever wondered why you keep going back or why the "final" break feels so impossible, this session provides the clarity you need to break the cycle.The 7-Attempt Rule: Understanding the statistics and the psychology behind leaving an abusive relationship.The Trauma Bond & Dopamine: Why leaving a narcissist feels like physical drug withdrawal.Intermittent Reinforcement: How the "hot and cold" cycle creates a powerful psychological addiction.Cognitive Dissonance: Navigating the confusion between who they were and who they are.The Hoovering Phase: How to stay firm when they try to "suck" you back into the relationship.Stages of Healing: What the timeline of recovery actually looks like after going No ContactConnect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net Healing Support Group: https://mentalhealness.thinkific.com/products/communities/thementalhealers1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://mentalhealness1on1perspective.as.me/schedule/ec588030Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
Headline: They don't scream. They don't brag. They just slowly break you down.Most people think they know what a narcissist looks like—someone loud, arrogant, and demanding the spotlight. But as a diagnosed self-aware narcissist, I'm here to tell you that the most dangerous ones are the ones you never see coming.In this Remix episode, we are diving deep into the "Quiet Narcissist." We explore why this type is so effective at keeping you trapped for years, often without you even realizing you're being manipulated. Instead of grandiose displays of power, the quiet narcissist uses silence, "victimhood," and passive-aggressive behavior to maintain total control. If you've ever felt like you were "losing your mind" in a relationship but couldn't point to any "big" blowups, this episode is for you.In this episode, we break down:The "Nice Guy/Girl" Mask: Why their outward humility is their greatest weapon.Passive-Aggressive Warfare: How they use "the cold shoulder" and subtle digs to punish you.The Professional Victim: Why they always make themselves the "underdog" to keep you in a "fixer" role.The Subtle Discard: How they withdraw affection to make you work harder for their approval.The Path to Clarity: How to stop doubting your reality and see the patterns for what they truly are.Stop looking for the "loud" red flags and start paying attention to the silence.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net Healing Support Group: https://mentalhealness.thinkific.com/products/communities/thementalhealers1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://mentalhealness1on1perspective.as.me/schedule/ec588030Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
Have you been waiting months, or even years, for a simple, genuine apology? As a diagnosed self-aware narcissist, I'm here to tell you why you might be waiting for something that is physically and psychologically impossible for a narcissist to give.In this episode, I pull back the curtain on the "Narcissistic Injury." To you, an apology is a way to heal a wound; to me, an apology is a total surrender of power. I explain why admitting fault feels like a "death of the ego" and why we would rather double down on a blatant lie than offer you the closure you deserve. If you've been struggling with the "Non-Apology" (like "I'm sorry you feel that way"), this episode will help you understand the mechanics of the narc-brain so you can stop seeking validation from the person who hurt you.In this episode, we break down:The Ego Armor: Why saying "I'm sorry" feels like being physically exposed and defeated.The "Winning" Mindset: Why relationships feel like a zero-sum game where an apology equals a "loss."Decoding the Fake Apology: How to recognize blame-shifting, justifications, and "regret" vs. "remorse."Closure Without Them: How to give yourself the apology they never will, so you can finally break the trauma bond.Stop waiting for them to take accountability. Take your power back by understanding their limitations.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net Healing Support Group: https://mentalhealness.thinkific.com/products/communities/thementalhealers1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://mentalhealness1on1perspective.as.me/schedule/ec588030Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
The lack of empathy in today's society, especially in America, is out of control. NO one seems to care when Harm comes to other people. People Literally don't care and I'm fed up with it. It's traumatizing to wake up everyday with something else going on. Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net Healing Support Group: https://mentalhealness.thinkific.com/products/communities/thementalhealers1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://mentalhealness1on1perspective.as.me/schedule/ec588030Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
Have you ever received a text from an ex-partner saying they "miss you" or "saw something that reminded them of you" just when you were finally moving on? In this episode of the Mental Healness Podcast, Lee Hammock—a self-aware, diagnosed narcissist—takes the mask off to explain the cold reality behind the "Hoover."Most survivors believe these messages are a sign of reflection or regret. But in this raw confessional, Lee explains why he used to reach out, and it wasn't because of love. It was a calculated move to check "if the door was still unlocked."In this episode, we break down:The "Nostalgia Trap": How narcissists use your shared memories as a weapon to bypass your boundaries.Supply vs. Connection: Why a reach-out usually means the narcissist's current "supply" is low, not that they've changed.The Boredom Factor: The truth about why "boredom" is a primary motivator for a narcissist to contact an ex.Protecting Your Peace: Why replying to a hoover—even with anger—gives the narcissist exactly what they want.If you are struggling to maintain "No Contact" or wondering if your ex has finally changed, this episode is the reality check you need to stay strong.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net Healing Support Group: https://mentalhealness.thinkific.com/products/communities/thementalhealers1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://mentalhealness1on1perspective.as.me/schedule/ec588030Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
Why is your ex still watching your stories from a fake account? In this final episode of "The Narcissist's Confessionals," we are stripping away the mask to explain the psychological reality behind narcissistic stalking and post-breakup monitoring.Many survivors of narcissistic abuse believe that if an ex-partner is still checking their Instagram or Facebook, it must mean they still have feelings. The truth is much colder: it's about power, information gathering, and "checking the lock" on the door to see if you are still susceptible to being hoovered.In this episode, we discuss:The Information Gap: Why narcissists need to know if you are happy or hurting after the split.Power & Control: How monitoring your social media allows them to feel like they still own a piece of your life.The "Grenade" Strategy: Why they reach out the moment they see you finally moving on.Protecting Your Peace: Why "Going Dark" is the only way to truly take your power back.If you've ever felt like you're being watched or wondered why they won't just let you go, this episode is the closure you've been waiting for.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net Healing Support Group: https://mentalhealness.thinkific.com/products/communities/thementalhealers1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://mentalhealness1on1perspective.as.me/schedule/ec588030Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
Why does your crying make a narcissist so angry? In this video, Lee Hammock (Self-Aware Narcissist) breaks down the cold and often cruel reactions narcissists have to your tears. While you are looking for comfort, they are looking for control.As a narcissist in therapy, Lee explains the 'Internal Software Crash' that happens when they see you cry. From viewing your tears as a manipulative tactic to feeling a sense of 'victory' over your emotions, this video uncovers the truth behind the lack of empathy. If you've ever been told to 'stop crying' or been ignored while in pain, this perspective will help you understand that it's not your fault—it's their limitation.What we cover today:The Manipulation Mirror: Why they think you're 'faking it' (because they often do).The Power Trip: Why some narcissists actually feel a 'high' or arousal when they see you broken.Emotional Cruelty: The reason they go 'ice cold' or even fall asleep when you are sobbing.The Shame Trigger: How your pain reminds them of their own hidden shame, causing them to lash out.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net Healing Support Group: https://mentalhealness.thinkific.com/products/communities/thementalhealers1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://mentalhealness1on1perspective.as.me/schedule/ec588030Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
What does it take to finally walk away after YEARS of manipulation and abus3? In this powerful episode, Lee Hammock (Self-Aware Narcissist) sits down with Louella to discuss her harrowing and inspiring journey of surviving a long-term narcissistic relationship.Louella shares the raw truth about the "slow erode" of self-esteem, the confusion of the trauma bond, and the specific moment she realized that the person she loved was never going to change. This isn't just a story of survival; it's a roadmap for anyone currently feeling trapped in a toxic cycle.In this interview, we dive into:The Long Game: How narcissistic manipulation evolves over the span of many years.The Turning Point: The specific "red flag" that finally broke the spell for Louella.Generational Trauma: How our pasts can sometimes lead us into the arms of a narcissist.Life After the Exit: The reality of healing, helping, and finding peace after the discard.As a self-aware narcissist, Lee provides feedback on the tactics used against Louella, offering a unique "inside look" at why her ex acted the way he did—and why her decision to leave was the ultimate power move.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net Healing Support Group: https://mentalhealness.thinkific.com/products/communities/thementalhealers1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://mentalhealness1on1perspective.as.me/schedule/ec588030Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
Why does the narcissist go silent and wait for YOU to send the first text? In this episode, Lee Hammock (Self-Aware Narcissist) breaks down the manipulation behind the silence.If you've ever felt the agonizing urge to reach out just to get some closure or stop the pain, you need to hear this. Lee explains that when a narcissist waits for you to reach out, they aren't "missing" you—they are measuring their level of control over you. Every time you break the silence, it reinforces their ego and tells them that you are still hooked.In this episode, we discuss:The Ego Boost: Why your "checking in" text is considered the ultimate validation.The Silent Treatment: How narcissists use your own anxiety against you to force a submission.Winning the Waiting Game: Why staying silent is the only way to regain your power.The Reverse Hoover: How they bait you into "hoovering" yourself.Stop playing their game by their rules. Learn how to hold your ground and understand what is actually happening on the other side of that silent phone screen.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net Healing Support Group: https://mentalhealness.thinkific.com/products/communities/thementalhealers1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://mentalhealness1on1perspective.as.me/schedule/ec588030Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
What happens in the mind of a narcissist when they realize they've finally lost control? In this episode, Lee Hammock (Self-Aware Narcissist) reveals the three words that strike the most fear into a person with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD): "I am leaving."For most people, these words signify a breakup. For a narcissist, they signify the end of a power dynamic, the loss of supply, and the onset of "narcissistic injury." Lee breaks down why this specific phrase is so terrifying and how it often triggers the most desperate "Hoovering" attempts.In this episode, we explore:The Core Fear: Why the threat of abandonment is a narcissist's "kryptonite."The Power Shift: What happens to the dynamic when you stop being a source of supply.Manipulation Tactics: How narcissists use "Future Faking" and guilt to stop you from walking out the door.The "Discard" vs. Being Left: Why it's different when you choose to go first.If you are looking for the strength to leave or trying to understand why your exit triggered such a massive reaction, this episode provides the perspective you need to stay strong.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net Healing Support Group: https://mentalhealness.thinkific.com/products/communities/thementalhealers1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://mentalhealness1on1perspective.as.me/schedule/ec588030Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
This episode explores the thought process of `narcissists` during arguments, revealing their true intentions. We discuss how they maintain `emotional control` and what runs through the `mind of a narcissist` when you're upset. Understanding this can help navigate these challenging `relationships`.Coaching and Courses available at https://mentalhealness.netWant to be on the podcast? https://tinyurl.com/Mental-Healness-Podcast-FormContact Me - https://link.me/mentalhealnessI'm Lee & I've been diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ). I've been in therapy since 2017 & It has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything. My platform is dedicated to giving you the WHYs behind the things that Narcissists do. I'm not here to diagnose ANYONE or to tell you to leave your relationship. I'm just trying to give you the information to make your own informed decisions1 on 1's and all my links - https://beacons.page/mentalhealnessRemember, It's not your fault - https://a.co/d/2WNtdKJ
Welcome to the MENTAL HEALNESS PODCAST! This episode explores how `narcissists` can impact your `christmas` experience. We discuss strategies for navigating the `narc season` and preventing them from `ruining holidays`. This is especially important if you are in a `toxic relationship` with one. Coaching and Courses available at https://mentalhealness.netWant to be on the podcast? https://tinyurl.com/Mental-Healness-Podcast-FormContact Me - https://link.me/mentalhealnessI'm Lee & I've been diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ). I've been in therapy since 2017 & It has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything. My platform is dedicated to giving you the WHYs behind the things that Narcissists do. I'm not here to diagnose ANYONE or to tell you to leave your relationship. I'm just trying to give you the information to make your own informed decisions1 on 1's and all my links - https://beacons.page/mentalhealnessRemember, It's not your fault - https://a.co/d/2WNtdKJ
Did you know that there are a lot of toxic, narcissistic parents that become ashamed of their own kids. This is the pov of a diagnosed narcissist. Coaching and Courses available at https://mentalhealness.netWant to be on the podcast? https://tinyurl.com/Mental-Healness-Podcast-FormContact Me - https://link.me/mentalhealnessI'm Lee & I've been diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ). I've been in therapy since 2017 & It has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything. My platform is dedicated to giving you the WHYs behind the things that Narcissists do. I'm not here to diagnose ANYONE or to tell you to leave your relationship. I'm just trying to give you the information to make your own informed decisions1 on 1's and all my links - https://beacons.page/mentalhealnessRemember, It's not your fault - https://a.co/d/2WNtdKJ
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