Daily podcast about my personal battle with narcissistic personality disorder and my mental health. I'm very open about how I feel about life and my overall mental health. I've sought therapy and it's helped me beyond measure. I'm here to help and here to let you know you are not alone
The Mental Healness podcast has been an incredibly valuable resource for me in understanding and navigating toxic relationships, particularly those involving narcissistic individuals. Lee Hammock, the host of the podcast, brings a unique perspective as someone who openly admits to having narcissistic tendencies himself. This honesty and transparency create a relatable and informative experience for listeners who may be struggling with similar issues.
One of the best aspects of The Mental Healness podcast is how it sheds light on lesser-known aspects of narcissism and toxic behavior. Lee dives deep into topics like covert narcissism, love bombing, gaslighting, and manipulation tactics that are not always discussed in mainstream books or articles written by therapists. His insights provide a comprehensive understanding of these behaviors and help listeners recognize them in their own lives.
Furthermore, Lee's episodes are concise yet impactful, making it easy to binge-listen and absorb a wealth of knowledge in a short amount of time. His delivery is engaging and often infused with humor, making difficult topics more approachable. Additionally, Lee regularly interacts with his audience through TikTok videos and YouTube content, creating a sense of community among those who have experienced or are currently dealing with toxic relationships.
While The Mental Healness podcast offers invaluable information on narcissism and toxic behavior, one possible drawback is that it primarily focuses on romantic relationships. While this is undoubtedly an important aspect to address, it would be beneficial to explore other types of relationships affected by narcissistic individuals such as friendships or familial relationships. Expanding the scope could further support listeners who may not have experienced a romantic relationship with a narcissist but still need guidance in dealing with toxicity.
In conclusion, The Mental Healness podcast is an exceptional resource for anyone seeking knowledge and insight into narcissistic behavior and toxic relationships. Lee Hammock's expertise combined with his relatability creates an engaging experience that leaves listeners feeling validated and empowered. Despite some potential areas for growth in terms of exploring different types of relationships, this podcast is an invaluable tool for those seeking understanding and healing in the face of narcissism.
Real story from a viewer who has been through 14 years of narcissistic abuse.Book a Coaching Session: [https://link.me/mentalhealness]
What happens when your body nearly kills you, your mom is given 2 months to live, and your best friend takes his own life? For James Benefico, founder and CEO of Organic Muscle, those three tragedies became the fuel for one of the most powerful wellness movements in the country.In this episode of the Mental Healness Podcast, I sit down with James Benefico — founder of Organic Muscle, the #1 USDA certified organic pre-workout in the country, and co-host of The Jesus Way Podcast. James opens up about the near-death experience that launched his company, the hospital room that changed his view of the medical system forever, and the spiritual journey that brought him back from the brink.We talk about:The pre-workout that nearly killed him and launched a companyThe hospital room conversation that exposed the gap between medicine and nutritionHow grief and tragedy became the foundation for his purposeWhat real faith looks like vs. what mainstream religion teachesHow grief, grief work, and grief processing lead to compassionHow to build positive momentum in your life, one small win at a timeHow to treat your body as a temple, not a trophyIf you're working on your mental health, your physical health, or your spiritual health — this conversation is for you.RESOURCES & SUPPORT:All My Links (Coaching, Courses, Merch): https://link.me/mentalhealnessOrganic Muscle: https://www.organicmuscle.comThe Jesus Way Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHFbm5evOciDLczBB1FNKpAFollow James on Instagram: @jamesBenefico
What happens inside the mind of an abuser or a controlling person when you stop responding to them? In this video, Lee Hammock exposes the psychological panic that occurs when you ignore a toxic individual. You'll learn how silence starves their ego, why a complete lack of reaction strips an abusive person of their perceived power, and why your indifference is treated as an existential threat to their identity. We dive deep into the mechanics of why they would rather have you scream at them than ignore them, how your silence forces them to face their own internal emptiness, and what to expect when they launch a chaotic "extinction burst" to force you back into the ring. If you are ready to use the most powerful boundary in existence, this breakdown will give you the psychological leverage to hold your ground and protect your sanity.Book a Coaching Session: [https://link.me/mentalhealness]
Why do you stay with someone who treats you terribly, while simultaneously believing they are your soulmate? In this video, Lee Hammock breaks down the exhausting psychological reality of cognitive dissonance in toxic relationships.Cognitive dissonance occurs when your brain is forced to hold two completely conflicting beliefs at the exact same time: "they love me" versus "they hurt me."We expose how an abuser or controlling person intentionally manufactures this mental fog through a calculated push-pull dynamic of intense love bombing followed by sudden cruelty. This isn't an accident—it's a design. We walk through the mechanics of the intermittent reinforcement cycle, the strongest form of behavioral conditioning known to psychology and explain the neurological basis of why you can't just walk away. Unpredictable dopamine hits from the rare "good moments" keep your brain chemically hooked, forcing you to hold onto a fantasy version of the abuser rather than the reality of who they are.Doubting your own memory and constantly questioning your reality.Justifying their toxic behavior to your friends, family, and yourself.Constant apologizing for things you didn't even do just to keep the peace.Total paralysis in decision-making because you no longer trust your own judgment.This intense mental friction traps you in a loop that literally makes you feel like you are going crazy. If you are ready to pull back the curtain on this emotional manipulation, stop the self-doubt, and reclaim your mental health, this deep dive is for you. Remember: naming it is your first step toward breaking it.Common Signs You Are Experiencing Cognitive Dissonance:Book a Coaching Session: [https://link.me/mentalhealness]
Every narcissist quietly asks themselves one core question before they do anything for you: “How does this benefit me?” In this episode, clinically diagnosed narcissist Lee Hammock breaks down the selfish, calculated mindset behind narcissistic behavior, emotional abuse, hoovering, and why everything seems to come back to supply. You'll learn how a narcissist's lack of genuine empathy gets replaced with cold calculation, why both their “kindness” and their cruelty often have hidden motives, and how this shows up in real‑life relationships. Lee also shares practical scripts for communicating with a narcissist, framing requests so they see a benefit, and protecting your energy so you don't get stuck trying to “understand” them into changing. If you're dealing with a toxic partner and wondering why they do what they do, this video will help you see the pattern clearly and stop taking their behavior so personallyBook a Coaching Session: [https://link.me/mentalhealness]
Sean Gathright is going to Jail for Life and listen to him making excuses for why he did what he did. He got sentenced to life in prison without parole for k*lling Julio Foolio over a beef that he wasn't even a part of. Book a Coaching Session: [https://link.me/mentalhealness]
What actually happens inside a narcissistic or toxic person when they realize they can't control you anymore? In this video, from the perspective of a diagnosed narcissist, I break down the moment their manipulation and gaslighting stop working, how they react when you stop responding the way you used to, and what that means for you as a survivor or thriver.We'll talk about the first red flags that their control is slipping, the internal “ego death” and narcissistic injury they experience, why they briefly question themselves and then flip it back on you with blame, accusations, and new tactics, and how you can stay safe and grounded as you stand up for yourself, stop reacting, and break out of the cycle of abuse. If you're dealing with a narcissistic, toxic, or emotionally abusive partner, this video will help you understand their mindset when they lose control and why your new boundaries matter.Book a Coaching Session: [https://link.me/mentalhealness]
What does your silence really do to a toxic person? In this video, we break down what happens inside a narcissistic or toxic person when you stop reacting, stop explaining, and go silent through no contact or low contact. We'll talk about why your silence feels like a loss of control to them, how it can trigger rage, smear campaigns, hoovering and love bombing, and why staying quiet can be a powerful step in breaking trauma bonds and reclaiming your peace.You'll learn the difference between abusive silent treatment they use to punish you vs. protective silence you use to heal, what to expect when you go no contact with a narcissist or toxic ex, and how to handle the anxiety, cravings, and guilt that come up when you stop responding. If you're recovering from emotional abuse, coercive control, or narcissistic abuse, this video will help you understand why your silence is not weakness it's often the beginning of your freedom.Book a Coaching Session: [https://link.me/mentalhealness]
In this video, I open up about why I chose to use my narcissistic personality disorder diagnosis to help people instead of hiding it. I talk about suffering in silence with my own mental health, how I went from a covert, emotionally abusive narcissist to sitting in therapy for years, and why I decided to start speaking publicly about narcissism on social media.Book a Coaching Session: [https://link.me/mentalhealness]
Your anger after a toxic relationship, narcissistic abuse, or a devastating divorce isn't a weakness — it can be your biggest catalyst for change.In this full podcast episode, I sit down with Stacie Shifflett — a 68-year-old author, entrepreneur, and founder of Modern Consciousness. After her 28-year marriage imploded, Stacie did everything "right" — new home, new routines, new social life. But inside, nothing felt like her. That's when she walked into a coach's office and said three words that changed everything: "I'm tired of being angry."What followed was one of the most powerful reinvention stories I've ever heard — from working with Les Brown and Tony Robbins, to acquiring a $50M software company with zero upfront capital, to becoming a bestselling author. Her story proves it's never too late to rebuild your life.
Watch This Video When You Miss Your Abusive, narcissistic ex and before you reach out to them. I'm a diagnosed narcissist and I go into detail about why you don't really miss the narcissist, you're trauma bonded to them and coming off of that addiction is tough. You don't love them!Your brain is lying to you about love. What you're feeling isn't love — it's a trauma bond. And until you understand the difference, you'll keep going back to the same people who destroy you.In this video, I break down the psychology behind why you can't seem to move on from a narcissist or abusive ex, and the neurological reality that explains everything.
"Leaving my child's father was the hardest decision I have ever made. Today marks day one of starting over as a single mom."This video documents the raw reality of leaving her baby daddy for good. After multiple failed attempts at separation, She finally taking the necessary steps toward independence and a healthier future for both herself and her child. This footage captures the emotional weight of her decision and the quiet moments of clarity that come with choosing to walk away from a relationship that no longer works.
Why does life feel boring after you leave a toxic or narcissistic relationship? In this video, I break down why peace can feel unsettling, empty, or even wrong after years of living in chaos. If you've escaped a narcissist but find yourself craving drama, missing the highs and lows, or feeling like something is missing, this is for you.I explain the psychology behind why your nervous system got wired for chaos, how trauma bonding rewires what feels "normal," and why quiet moments can feel uncomfortable instead of peaceful. More importantly, I share practical steps to rewire your brain so silence starts to feel like freedom, not emptiness.This is part of the healing journey that nobody talks about, the stage where you're out, but you don't feel all the way free yet. Let's change that.All my links - https://link.me/mentalhealness
Why do toxic exes, narcissists, and high-conflict people always come back right when you're finally healing? In this video, I break down the psychology behind the "hoover" — the manipulation tactic narcissists use to pull you back into the abuse cycle — and explain exactly why your healing process is what triggers them the most.When you start to heal, your energy shifts. You stop reacting the way they expect. You stop feeding them the emotional supply they rely on. You start building boundaries. And that terrifies them. So they come back — not because they love you, but because they've lost control.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
Why do high-conflict people completely rewrite the story after you leave the relationship? In this video, I break down exactly what happens when you walk away from someone with narcissistic or high-conflict traits — and why they feel the need to distort the truth, launch smear campaigns, and turn everyone against you.After you leave, they don't just miss you — they panic. Without you to blame, they have to create a whole new version of reality where they're the hero and you're the villain. This isn't about truth. It's about control, ego, and avoiding accountability at all costs.In this video, you'll learn:→ Why high-conflict people rewrite history after you leave→ The psychology behind smear campaigns and "flying monkeys"→ How narcissists use gaslighting to make you question your own reality→ What happens when they lose control of the narrative→ How to protect yourself while they spread lies about you→ Why staying silent and documenting everything is your best defense→ When and how to walk away for good — without looking backWhether you're dealing with a narcissistic ex, a high-conflict co-parent, or someone with borderline or antisocial traits, this video will give you the clarity you need to understand what's really happening — and how to stay strong through it.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
In this episode of The Mental Healness Podcast, we tackle one of the most controversial questions online: Can narcissists actually change, or should you always run?I'm joined by Dr. David Hawkins, Founder and Director of the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute, a clinical psychologist with over 40 years of experience working with high‑conflict couples, narcissism, and emotional abuse. He's authored more than 30 books on marriage and relationships and created The Comprehensive Core, a year‑long program for men on the narcissistic spectrum who want to do the workDr. Hawkins Information - www.facebook.com/marriagerecoverycenter instagram.com/marriagerecoverycenterwww.youtube.com/@drdavidbhawkins
As a diagnosed narcissist, I'm going live to answer the question adult children of narcissistic parents are afraid to ask did your narcissist parent ever truly love you? In this live stream, we'll break down narcissistic abuse in childhood, trauma bonding, covert narcissism, and why narcissistic parents use their children as pawns instead of loving them unconditionally. If you're healing from a toxic parent, struggling with narcissistic family dynamics, or trying to understand why you were the scapegoat or golden child, this conversation is for you. Drop your questions in the chat, this is a safe space to get real answers about narcissistic parent abuse, emotional neglect, and recovery.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
When a toxic, control-obsessed person realizes they no longer have power over you, everything changes. In this video, we break down exactly how they react when they sense you're walking away — from sudden rage and smear campaigns to desperate hoovering attempts and playing the victim. If you've been in a relationship where you felt confused, manipulated, or emotionally drained, this video will help you understand what's really happening behind the scenes and why their behavior escalates right before they lose their grip for good.You'll learn:The extinction burst: why chaos gets worse before it gets betterHow they shift from charm to coldness once they feel threatenedThe tactics they use to reestablish control (gaslighting, blame-shifting, baiting)Why hoovering and love-bombing resurface when they sense you're truly doneHow to protect yourself and stay grounded when their behavior goes into overdriveThis is a safe space for anyone healing from emotional abuse, trauma bonds, or relationships with controlling, emotionally immature, or high-conflict partners. If you're rebuilding yourself and setting boundaries for the first time, you're not alone.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
What does it mean when an abuser or a controlling person completely cuts you out of their life for good? In this video, Lee Hammock breaks down the brutal psychological reality of the final discard. You'll learn the exact mechanics of why a toxic individual goes completely cold, why they strip away your closure, and how they use a sudden, cruel exit as the ultimate punishment. We dive deep into why they discard you when you become too expensive to manipulate, how they instantly rewrite history to make you the villain, and why their total indifference is a calculated mind game. Most importantly, you'll learn how to flip the script on an abusive person's final move, turning their rejection into your ultimate freedom, reclaiming your mental health, and closing the door forever.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
Why does it feel like there is an absolute epidemic of abusers, controlling people, and narcissistic individuals in the world today? In this video, Lee Hammock tackles the heavy question of why so many people are displaying high-conflict, manipulative traits. We pull back the curtain on the modern reward systems that validate superficial charm, why a complete lack of personal accountability is turning regular people into toxic partners, and how unhealed trauma cycles multiply these behaviors across generations. Make sure you describe! Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
How do you take the power away from an abuser, a narcissist or a controlling person who seems to dominate your entire life? In this video, I talk about the psychological shift required to make a toxic person completely powerless. You'll learn why their authority over you is entirely dependent on your emotional reactions, and how practicing total indifference shuts down their manipulation engine. We break down the transition from constantly defending yourself to executing silent boundaries, why stopping the arguments panics a controlling person, and how to reclaim your reality from an abusive person who thrives on your exhaustion. Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
Why do abusers and controlling people refuse to give your stuff back after a breakup? In this video, Lee Hammock exposes the sinister tactics behind why toxic people hold your personal belongings hostage. You'll learn how an abusive person uses your clothes, electronics, or even important documents as an invisible tether to keep you locked into their lives and keep access to you. We dive deep into the power dynamics of why they thrive on making you beg for your things, how they use your possessions as an excuse to re-engage with you months down the line, and why they would rather destroy your items out of spite than give them back gracefully. Understanding this behavior is critical for your mental health and physical safety, helping you decide when to fight for your property and when to leave it behind to protect your peace.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Five years is a long time to live a lie. But it hurts even deeper when your own friend is the one defending the behavior.In this story time, we look at Rhonda's experience dating her friend's brother. When the family prioritizes protecting a toxic pattern over protecting the target, the behavior never stops. You aren't just fighting one person; you are fighting an entire system of excuses.Have you ever had a friend take their family member's side when they knew the truth? Drop your thoughts below.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Understanding why you feel paralyzed and unable to leave an abusive person is the first step toward freedom. In this video, Lee Hammock explains the psychological "glue" that keeps people stuck in cycles with controlling people. We dive deep into trauma bonding, intermittent reinforcement, and the fear of the unknown that toxic people weaponize to keep you compliant. If you feel like you're "waiting for the good version" of your partner to return, you are actually caught in a calculated trap designed by an abuser. Learn how to break the mental chains and realize that the fear you feel is a tool used by abusive people to maintain their power over your life.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
My man finally understands what women mean when they talk about experiencing narcissism after dealing with his first narcissistic friend. This video dives into his experience, highlighting the signs of narcissism and the challenges of encountering toxic people. It's a raw reaction to how narcissistic abuse impacts friendships, giving my unfiltered perspective.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Have you ever head of PUFFER FISHING? In this video, Lee Hammock breaks down the exact mechanics of this toxic behavior and explains why abusers and controlling people suddenly turn freezing cold the exact moment a relationship becomes emotionally real. I take a deep dive into how toxic individuals act deeply affectionate and attentive at first, only to "puff up" their defenses, lash out, or pick fights over trivial matters when true intimacy is required. If you've ever felt completely stranded by a partner who clams up, runs away, or ghosted you just as you were getting close, you are likely dealing with the defensive mechanism of an abusive person trying to regain control. Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
What happens when your childhood is marked by extreme survival, only for you to unconsciously recreate that exact nightmare in your adult marriage? In this profoundly raw and unfiltered episode, author, creator, and survivor Grace Sandra joins Lee Hammock to unpack the terrifying reality of severe trauma bonds, narcissistic abuse, and ultimate resilience.Grace bravely opens up about surviving a childhood Adverse Childhood Experience (ACE) score of 10, her ex-husband's chilling "simulation theory" threats, and the bizarre moment he claimed he wasn't a narcissist, just "strictly evil." This conversation is a masterclass in cognitive dissonance, understanding why trauma bonds are physically addictive, and how to finally reclaim your identity on the other side of darkness.Connect with Grace Sandra:
When a toxic, abusive, or controlling ex tells you that they "miss" you, it can completely destabilize your healing process. Your brain wants to believe that they have finally realized your worth, but the behavioral reality is much darker.In this video, I break down the exact psychology of what happens when an abuser starts to miss you. We discuss the concept of a validation deficit, why they selectively romanticize the past, and how their sudden urge to reconnect is driven by a desire to regain control rather than genuine love. Stop breaking your own peace for a temporary ego play.NYC EVENT - www.mentalhealness.net/events All my links - https://link.me/mentalhealness
Why does the person you are with desperately try to keep you from ever interacting with or meeting their ex? If they claim the ex is simply "crazy" but go to extreme lengths to make sure your worlds never collide, there is a dark strategic reason behind the secrecy.In this video, I break down the behavioral mechanics of why controlling and abusive people isolate you from their past relationships. We discuss narrative control, the fear of victims comparing notes, and how keeping you separate allows them to continue the cycle without being exposed. Stop letting them control the history books.NYC EVENT - www.mentalhealness.net/events Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
What actually happens inside the mind of an abusive or controlling individual when you implement permanent no contact? Many survivors wonder if their absence is felt, or if the toxic person simply moves on without a care.In this video, I break down the cold behavioral mechanics of how an abuser handles absolute silence. We discuss the initial phase of disbelief, the panic that sets in when they realize you aren't coming back, and why their desperate attempts to reach out are driven by a need for control rather than genuine love. Stop breaking your own peace to check on someone who only valued your compliance.NYC EVENT - www.mentalhealness.net/events Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Why do we intentionally look for things we know will hurt us? If you find yourself constantly typing your toxic ex's name into a search bar to check up on their new life, you are engaging in "pain shopping."In this video, I break down the behavioral psychology behind why survivors spy on their abusers online. We discuss the reality behind their curated posts, why your brain craves the negative emotional spike, and how checking their profiles completely stalls your healing journey. Stop letting their digital billboard control your peace of mind.NYC EVENT - www.mentalhealness.net/events Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Have you ever experienced a situation where your keys, phone, or wallet constantly vanish, only for your partner to magically find them minutes later? This is not accidental clumsiness—it is a calculated behavioral setup designed to make you question your own memory. In this video, we break down the psychology of the "savior setup," why abusive people manufacture chaos to play the hero, and how this subtle tactic is used to break down your confidence over time.NYC EVENT - www.mentalhealness.net/events Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
What happens when a toxic relationship and life's heaviest struggles push you to the literal edge? In this raw and unfiltered episode of The Mental Healness Podcast, life and business coach Talmadge Spicer joins Lee Hammock to share his powerful journey of survival.Talmadge opens up about the exact night he stood on a parking deck, ready to end it all, and the precise mindset shift that saved his life. Today, he has completely turned his life around—finding true love, raising a family, and dedicating his career to helping others defeat everyday depression. If you feel like you are at your breaking point, Talmadge's story is a profound masterclass in resilience, healing, and redemption.Connect with Talmadge:
The ultimate threat to an abusive or controlling person isn't your anger—it's your indifference. As long as you are angry, you are still emotionally invested in the struggle. But the moment you stop caring, the power dynamic changes entirely.In this Live stream, I am breaking down what happens when you reach the stage of total indifference. We discuss how a toxic person reacts when they can no longer get a rise out of you, why your lack of a reaction causes them to panic, and how to permanently lock in your peace of mind.Turn the notifications on, drop your questions in the chat, and let's get into the behavioral reality of taking your power back.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
He should be kicked out of the military for cheating on his stay at home mom spouse. BUt she isn't going to press the charges against him because it would effect her life and her kid's lives in a negative way. Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
One of the hardest lessons in life is learning that you cannot save someone who isn't ready to leave an abusive situation. Long before I started speaking online about toxic relationship dynamics, I had to make the incredibly painful decision to cut off one of my best friends because of the toxic relationship he refused to walk away from.In this video, I share that personal story and break down the emotional toll of watching someone you care about choose toxicity over friendship. We discuss why your advice isn't landing, how being the "caretaker" enables the cycle, and why setting boundaries with a struggling friend is sometimes the only way to protect your own sanity.NYC EVENT - www.mentalhealness.net/events Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Cutting off communication with a toxic or abusive person is one of the hardest decisions you will ever make, but it is the only way to reclaim your stability. When you choose to go completely NO CONTACT, you aren't just walking away—you are completely cutting off their ability to manipulate your emotions.In this live, I break down the exact way a lot of abusive people will react when you cut them off for good. The reactions that occur when you implement total silence. We discuss the immediate panic and fear tactics they use to get a response, why they pivot to smear campaigns when they lose access, and how you can stay grounded when the pressure to break your boundary is at its highest.NYC EVENT - www.mentalhealness.net/events Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Have you ever gone back to an abusive relationship only to find that the behavior became significantly worse almost instantly? There is a specific logic behind why this happens, and it has nothing to do with how much you love them.In this video, I'm explaining the strategy behind why an abusive person punishes you for returning. We discuss why the "mask" never goes back on, how the cycle of abuse accelerates, and why your return is viewed as permission for more intense behavior.If you are struggling with the urge to go back or wondering why it didn't work the second time, this behavioral breakdown is for you. Learn how to end the cycle once and for all.NYC EVENT - www.mentalhealness.net/events Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Have you ever noticed that the more you achieve, the less your partner or family member seems to notice? High-conflict personalities often withhold compliments and validation as a calculated move to keep you feeling "less than."In this Live, I'm pulling back the curtain from the inside out to show you why they refuse to acknowledge your wins. We'll discuss the power dynamics behind the silence and how you can stop the cycle of hungering for validation from someone who will never give it.It's time to reclaim your value and realize that their silence says more about their need for control than it does about your worth.NYC EVENT - www.mentalhealness.net/events Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Have you ever felt like you were being pushed to your absolute breaking point, only for the other person to remain perfectly calm once you finally snapped? This is called "Reactive Abuse," and it is a calculated setup.In this video, I'm breaking down the "Inside Out" perspective on why an abusive person "pokes the bear" just to watch it explode. We'll discuss the logic behind the smear campaign, why they want you to look like the "crazy one," and how you can reclaim your power by refusing to take the bait.Stop letting their tactics define your character. Learn how to stay grounded when the pressure is on in order to protect your peace.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Do you feel like you've "abandoned" them? Are you struggling with the feeling that you're the "bad guy" for choosing your own mental health? You're caught in the Empathy Trap.From the inside out, I'm explaining how your conscience is weaponized against you in high-conflict relationships. We'll cover:Why guilt is a leash used to pull you back in.Accepting the "villain" narrative so you can actually be free.The difference between healthy loyalty and trauma-based guilt.Choosing peace isn't a crime, and you aren't responsible for someone else's refusal to change. It's time to drop the guilt and reclaim your life.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Have you ever received a random "thinking of you" text or a sudden apology after months of no contact? It feels like hope, but from the inside out, I'm telling you it's something else entirely.In this video, I break down the "Supply Check"—the real reason high-conflict personalities reach back out when you're finally starting to heal. We'll discuss:Why sentimentality is used as bait.The difference between an epiphany and a power move.How to protect your peace when the "Hoover" starts.Stop guessing what their messages mean. I'm pulling back the curtain on the playbook so you can stay grounded and stop the cycle for good.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
How does a survivor handle a stalker who uses the legal system to continue the abuse? Hedya joins the podcast to share her shocking journey through extreme post-separation abuse. From her ex allegedly creating fake profiles to harass her, to him successfully suing her for a dog he gave her as a gift, and finally being served with a defamation lawsuit during her own stand-up comedy set—this story is a masterclass in resilience. Hedya explains how she turned her trauma into comedy and reclaimed her power.Connect with Hedya: https://www.instagram.com/healingwithhedya/Want to Be on the podcast? Fill it out here - https://tinyurl.com/Mental-Healness-Podcast-FormConnect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
If you feel like you're talking in circles and over-explaining your feelings to someone who won't listen, you're using too many words. When you're dealing with a high-conflict personality, they aren't looking for understanding—they're looking for leverage.I'm sharing the perspective from the other side of the power struggle to show you the 3 words that cause an immediate "system error" and end the game.Why "No" is a full sentence.The power of indifference and the word "Okay."How saying "I believe me" ends the gaslighting forever.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Have you ever noticed that the more you achieve, the less your partner or family member seems to notice? High-conflict personalities often withhold compliments and validation as a calculated move to keep you feeling "less than."In this Live, I'm pulling back the curtain from the inside out to show you why they refuse to acknowledge your wins. We'll discuss the power dynamics behind the silence and how you can stop the cycle of hungering for validation from someone who will never give it.It's time to reclaim your value and realize that their silence says more about their need for control than it does about your worth.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Why do high-conflict people get meaner as they get older? Lee Hammock breaks down what happens when someone's "charm" and "looks" start to fade. Learn why they start attacking your appearance, why they obsess over staying young, and how they switch to "pity" and "health issues" to keep you trapped when they can't use charm anymore. Get the truth about why narcissists and other toxic people hate getting older. Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
What happens when a toxic person goes broke? In this 15-minute deep dive, Lee Hammock (Mental Healness) explains the psychology behind the "Resource Collapse." Learn why manipulative people shift from grandiose controllers to financial parasites when their money runs out. We discuss the "vulnerability hoover" and how they blame their partners for their own financial failures.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Was that first date actually perfect, or were you just being studied? Diagnosed narcissist Lee Hammock breaks down the red flags people miss when they are "swept off their feet." Learn the difference between genuine connection and calculated mirroring. From premature vulnerability to the "Soulmate Script," find out why your best date might be your biggest trap. Stop ignoring your intuition and start seeing the behavior for what it really is.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Does it look like your ex finally changed for someone else? Diagnosed narcissist Lee Hammock breaks down the truth behind the "New Life" performance. Learn why social media happiness is often a weapon used to control your emotions and why the new partner isn't getting a better version of them. Stop being the audience for a lie and start focusing on your own truth. It's time to walk away from the show for good.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Why does the narcissist always pick a fight right when you're supposed to be relaxing? Diagnosed narcissist Lee Hammock breaks down the "Narc-Logic" behind weekend sabotage. From Friday night fights to Sunday morning anxiety, learn why your peace is a threat to their control and how they use "The Sunday Scaries" to keep you exhausted and easier to manipulate. Stop letting them ruin your recharge and learn how to take your weekend back starting right now.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Having a narcissistic mother is a unique kind of pain. Diagnosed narcissist Lee Hammock breaks down why toxic mothers compete with their children and why they can never truly apologize. Learn to spot the "Guilt Leash" and how to break free from the "Honor Thy Mother" trap without losing your mind. It's time to stop being an extension of her and start being yourself. Build your foundation and get back on Solid Ground.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
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