Daily podcast about my personal battle with narcissistic personality disorder and my mental health. I'm very open about how I feel about life and my overall mental health. I've sought therapy and it's helped me beyond measure. I'm here to help and here to let you know you are not alone
The Mental Healness podcast has been an incredibly valuable resource for me in understanding and navigating toxic relationships, particularly those involving narcissistic individuals. Lee Hammock, the host of the podcast, brings a unique perspective as someone who openly admits to having narcissistic tendencies himself. This honesty and transparency create a relatable and informative experience for listeners who may be struggling with similar issues.
One of the best aspects of The Mental Healness podcast is how it sheds light on lesser-known aspects of narcissism and toxic behavior. Lee dives deep into topics like covert narcissism, love bombing, gaslighting, and manipulation tactics that are not always discussed in mainstream books or articles written by therapists. His insights provide a comprehensive understanding of these behaviors and help listeners recognize them in their own lives.
Furthermore, Lee's episodes are concise yet impactful, making it easy to binge-listen and absorb a wealth of knowledge in a short amount of time. His delivery is engaging and often infused with humor, making difficult topics more approachable. Additionally, Lee regularly interacts with his audience through TikTok videos and YouTube content, creating a sense of community among those who have experienced or are currently dealing with toxic relationships.
While The Mental Healness podcast offers invaluable information on narcissism and toxic behavior, one possible drawback is that it primarily focuses on romantic relationships. While this is undoubtedly an important aspect to address, it would be beneficial to explore other types of relationships affected by narcissistic individuals such as friendships or familial relationships. Expanding the scope could further support listeners who may not have experienced a romantic relationship with a narcissist but still need guidance in dealing with toxicity.
In conclusion, The Mental Healness podcast is an exceptional resource for anyone seeking knowledge and insight into narcissistic behavior and toxic relationships. Lee Hammock's expertise combined with his relatability creates an engaging experience that leaves listeners feeling validated and empowered. Despite some potential areas for growth in terms of exploring different types of relationships, this podcast is an invaluable tool for those seeking understanding and healing in the face of narcissism.
Losing my dog, Lala, has been one of the hardest things I've ever faced. As a diagnosed narcissist, I'm giving you an inside look at how I used to process grief versus how I'm handling it now. For years, therapy has been about stripping away the armor, and nothing tests that work like the loss of a "soul dog."Lala was a Jackabee (Jack Russell & Beagle mix) who taught me more about unconditional love than most people ever could. Today, I'm being honest about the "Narcissistic Numbness" I used to feel and the visceral pain I'm feeling now. If you've ever wondered if a narcissist can truly love a pet, or how therapy actually changes the way we feel, this video is for you.IN THIS VIDEO:The Old Me vs. The New Me: How I would have "minimized" this loss 5 years ago.The "Supply" Trap: Why pets are often the only creatures a narcissist feels safe being vulnerable with.Therapy in the Raw: The specific work I've done to sit with grief instead of running from it.Lala's Legacy: Honoring the Jackabee who helped me become more human.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"The truth doesn't just set you free—it strips them of their power."They spend their entire lives building a facade. They lie, they manipulate, and they curate a version of themselves that the world loves. But what happens when you pull back the curtain? Today on MentalHealness, I'm breaking down why exposure is the ultimate "Narcissistic Injury."As a diagnosed narcissist, I'm telling you: our power lives in your silence. When you speak the truth—with facts, evidence, and a calm voice—you trigger a "Narcissistic Collapse" that we can't easily recover from. We're talking about why they fear your voice, how to expose them safely, and why the truth is the only thing a narcissist can't manipulate.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"I've been pretending to be happy since I was a kid."On March 13, 2026, Doja Cat dropped a bombshell on TikTok: she's been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). As a diagnosed narcissist, her description of "masking"—faking her personality and her joy for nearly 30 years—stopped me in my tracks.Today, we're looking at the psychology of the "Celebrity Mask." We're discussing how childhood survival traits become adult personality disorders, and why Chappell Roan's move toward radical boundaries inspired Doja to finally get real. Is this the start of a "Unmasked" era for celebrities?Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"It's not just an annoyance; it's a threat to our existence."Ever wondered why a narcissist seems to have a personal vendetta against certain people while they "tolerate" others? Today at 3:30 PM EST, I'm pulling back the curtain on the Narcissistic Hit List. As a diagnosed narcissist, I'm breaking down the four categories of people who trigger our deepest rage and why your "strength" feels like an "attack" to us. We're talking about the people with iron-clad boundaries, the bosses who don't buy the charm, and the people who are simply better than us in ways we can't copy.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"How can they sleep at night after what they did to me?"It's the question that haunts every survivor. You're looking for a sign of a conscience, a tear, or a genuine "I'm sorry." But it never comes. In this video, I'm breaking down the psychological mechanics of guilt and remorse from the perspective of a self-aware narcissist.I'm explaining why we don't experience "Remorse" (feeling bad for hurting you), but we do experience "Shame" (feeling bad for being caught or looking like the villain). Learn how the narcissistic brain deletes guilt to keep the "Hero Mask" intact.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"He's back... but he's not the man you remember."Today on MentalHealness, I'm telling the story of Timmy and Michelle. They were young, they were in love, and Timmy blew it with drugs and cheating. Fast forward 20 years—Michelle has moved on, but Timmy shows up with a "surprise" visit. He's older, he's divorced, and he's got 6 kids he doesn't even take care of.I'm breaking down the psychology of why an aging narcissist returns to an ex after decades. It's not about "true love" or "destiny"—it's about finding a soft place to land now that his options have dried up.IN THIS STORYTELLING SESSION:The Nostalgia Trap: Why they think you'll forget the pain because of the passage of time.The Reality Check: Breaking down the "New Timmy"—6 kids, no responsibility, same entitlement.The Audacity: Why showing up unannounced is a massive boundary violation.Michelle's Choice: Why "Closure" means keeping the door locked.Don't let a 20-year-old ghost haunt your current peace.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"It was the only time I felt like they actually loved me."In a narcissistic relationship, physical intimacy is rarely just about connection—it's about control. As a self-aware narcissist, I'm breaking down the truth about the "Bedroom Power Dynamic." We're discussing why the bedroom becomes the only place you feel "seen," and how a narcissist uses that bond to keep you stuck in a cycle of toxicity.If you've ever felt like intimacy was being used as a reward or a punishment, this Live is for you. We are talking about reclaiming your autonomy and understanding the difference between a "soul tie" and a "trauma bond."Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"But they're your family..."It's the phrase that keeps people trapped in cycles of abuse for decades. But what happens when the people who were supposed to protect you are the ones you need protection from? Going No Contact with a narcissist is hard; going No Contact with an entire narcissistic family system is a battlefield.Today, I'm breaking down the mechanics of the "Toxic Family Unit," the role of Flying Monkeys within your own siblings, and why the "Family Scapegoat" is usually the only one who finds peace. I'm giving you the perspective of the person left behind—what we think when you finally stop answering the group chat.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Does the narcissist in your life become a completely different person when they drink, or are you finally seeing who they really are? Many people believe that alcohol "changes" the narcissist, but from the perspective of a self-aware narcissist, I can tell you that it usually just lowers the inhibitions that were keeping the rage in check.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Have you ever wondered if narcissists are born that way or if life made them that way? Today, we are doing a full "workup" on how male narcissists are created. As a diagnosed narcissist who has spent nearly a decade in therapy, I'm taking you behind the mask to show you exactly how the environment, parenting, and societal pressure combine to create the personality you see today.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"If I'm still chasing, they must be worth it... right?"Wrong. As a self-aware narcissist, I'm telling you the truth about what happens in our heads when you pursue us after we've treated you like trash. To you, the chase is an act of love. To us, the chase is a "Get Out of Jail Free" card.When you chase a narcissist, you aren't showing them your value; you are showing them that their behavior has no consequences. Today, we are breaking down the "Forgiveness Trap" and why your silence is the only thing that actually forces a narcissist to face reality.IN THIS LIVE, WE DISCUSS:The Forgiveness Fallacy: Why chasing tells the narcissist that everything they did was "okay."The Ego Boost: How the chase fuels the narcissist's sense of superiority.The Power Shift: How you lose your leverage the moment you try to "fix" what they broke.Breaking the Cycle: How to stop the "chase reflex" and reclaim your dignity.Stop giving them the validation they didn't earn.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Have you ever tried to hold a narcissist accountable, only to end up being the one apologizing? That isn't an accident. Narcissists have a specific set of excuses they use to deflect, distract, and devalue your concerns. Today, we are breaking down the Top 5 excuses I used—and that most narcissists use—to stay in control of the narrative.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"Get out then!"It's what they've been saying for weeks. They've devalued you, ignored you, and treated you like a burden until you finally had enough and packed your bags. But instead of the relief you expected them to feel, they exploded. They raged. They begged. They lost their minds.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Are you addicted to "Pain Shopping"? In this video, self-aware narcissist Lee Hammock explains why survivors compulsively check their ex's social media and how narcissists use their profiles as a weapon. Learn how to break the digital trauma bond and stop the cycle of self-harm today.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"Will this ever end?"Channel Memberships For More perks- www.youtube.com/channel/UCm1vYQOEQRo6X4Dy8KoGPMw/joinIt's the question that keeps you up at night. You've gone No Contact, you've blocked the numbers, but you're still looking over your shoulder. As a self-aware narcissist, I'm going to give you the honest truth about the "Mental Rolodex" we keep. Do we ever truly let go, or are you just "on ice" until we get bored?Today, we are breaking down the mechanics of the hoover, the concept of "shelf supply," and what it actually takes for a narcissist to decide you are no longer worth the effort.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
My story from beginning to right now about how I have been diagnosed with NPD or narcissistic personality disorder Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealness◦All My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"I know who they are... but I'm staying."Not everyone is ready to leave. Whether it's for the kids, financial stability, or a hope that things will change, many people choose to remain in a relationship with a narcissist. As a self-aware narcissist, I want to have a real, judgment-free conversation about what that actually looks like.If you choose to stay, you have to know the price you are going to pay. Today, we are talking about the "Trade-Offs"—the isolation, the loss of self, and the reality of radical acceptance. This isn't about shaming you for staying; it's about preparing you for the life you are choosing.IN THIS LIVE, WE DISCUSS:Radical Acceptance: How to stop waiting for the "Old Version" of them to come back.The Isolation Factor: Why your world gets smaller the longer you stay.The Death of Expectation: How to survive when you know your emotional needs will never be met.Building a "Life Within a Life": How to find pockets of peace while living in the storm.If you've decided to stay, you need to know how to protect your spirit while you're there.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Are they "scared" of intimacy, or are they "managing" you?It's the question that keeps thousands of people stuck in toxic cycles. You see them pulling away, shutting down, and becoming cold—but is it because they have an Avoidant Attachment Style or is it Narcissistic Devaluation?All My Links (Coaching, Courses, Merch): https://link.me/mentalhealnessAs a self-aware narcissist, I'm breaking down the nuances that therapists often miss. I'm explaining the difference between the "Avoidant's Fear" and the "Narcissist's Control." If you treat a narcissist like an avoidant, you will end up destroyed. If you treat an avoidant like a narcissist, you'll miss the chance for a healthy boundary.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Are you swiping right on a predator? Online dating is a narcissist's dream. It allows them to curate a "Perfect Mask" before you ever meet them. As a self-aware narcissist, I'm pulling back the curtain on how we use dating profiles to target empathetic, successful, and high-value people. From the "Nice Guy" bio to the weaponized religious photos, I'm showing you exactly what the "bait" looks like.IN THIS LIVE, WE DISCUSS:The Visual Bait: Why they use gym selfies, "flex" photos, or photos with kids that aren't theirs.The "Nice Guy" Paradox: Why labeling themselves as "God-fearing" or "wholesome" is a major red flag.The Intent Trap: What "Short-term open to long-term" actually means in narcissist-speak.Keywords to Avoid: Why phrases like "drama-free," "soulmate," and "can handle me" are immediate "Swipe Left" warnings.Don't fall for the mask. Learn to read between the lines.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"Just go No Contact!" feels like a slap in the face when you have shared custody, a business, or legal ties to a narcissist.For many survivors, complete severance isn't an option. But that doesn't mean you have to remain their emotional punching bag. As a self-aware narcissist, I know exactly how we use children, finances, and property as leverage to keep getting "supply" long after the relationship ends.In this video, I'm introducing the "O.N. Contact" (Only Necessary Contact) method. This is the strategic evolution of "Gray Rock," designed specifically for those who are forced to communicate with their abuser.All My Links (Coaching, Courses, Merch): https://link.me/mentalhealnessIN THIS VIDEO, WE DISCUSS:The Narcissist's Leverage: Why they use the kids or money to bait you into emotional arguments.Defining "Necessary": How to strip every ounce of personality and emotion out of your communication.The "Hostile Coworker" Mindset: Shifting from "ex-partner" to "business associate that I hate."Communication Protocols: Why you must move everything to email or parenting apps (and never phone calls).The Extinction Burst: How they will react when you stop feeding them supply through co-parenting chaos.You can't always leave the situation, but you can leave the dynamic.RESOURCES & SUPPORT:
Are you spiraling because the narcissist replaced you with someone who feels like a massive "downgrade"?It's not about love; it's about logistics. As a self-aware narcissist, I'm explaining the concept of "Transitional Supply." This is the person we jump to out of pure necessity—because we need a place to stay, money for bills, or simply because we cannot stand to be alone with our own thoughts for five minutes.IN THIS LIVE, WE DISCUSS:The "Band-Aid" Supply: Why we choose someone who isn't our "type" just to fill a void.Convenience Over Connection: How housing, food, and financial stability dictate our next move.The "Palate Cleanser": Why we sometimes choose someone "easier" after a strong partner (Grade A) sets boundaries.The Lifespan of the Transition: Why these relationships usually burn out as soon as the narcissist gets back on their feet.Stop comparing yourself to the person who is just a temporary life raft.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Are you "Grade A Supply" without even knowing it?Most people think narcissists target "broken" people. As a self-aware narcissist, I'm telling you that's a lie. We want the best. We want the person with the biggest heart, the most success, and the most to give. But there is a dark side to being "the best"—to a narcissist, you are a high-value asset that is ultimately replaceable.IN THIS LIVE, WE ARE DISCUSSING:The Anatomy of Grade A Supply: The 4 traits that make you an irresistible target.The "Reflector" Effect: How we use your light to hide our darkness.The Cold Truth on Replaceability: Why we can move on in 24 hours even after you gave us everything.Breaking the Pedestal: How to stop being "supply" and start being a person again.If you've ever felt like you were "special" to them only to be discarded like trash, this Live is for you.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Have you ever discovered a betrayal—infidelity, a lie, or a discard—and suddenly felt a surge of intense desire to be close to the person who hurt you? That isn't love—it's Hysterical Bonding.Hysterical bonding is a biological survival response. When a narcissist pulls away or betrays you, your brain treats the loss of the relationship as a life-or-death threat. This triggers a frantic need to reclaim the bond, often through intense physical intimacy or emotional desperation, just to feel "safe" again.In this video, I'm breaking down this phenomenon from the perspective of a self-aware narcissist. I'm explaining why this response is exactly what a narcissist wants, because it resets the cycle and gives them ultimate control over your panic.IN THIS VIDEO:The Panic Response: Why betrayal leads to an obsession with reconnection.Biological Warfare: How your own hormones (Oxytocin/Dopamine) keep you trapped.The Narcissist's Reset: Why we use your "bonding" to avoid accountability for what we did.Breaking the Cycle: How to recognize the difference between love and trauma-induced panic.Your body is reacting to a threat. Don't let the narcissist convince you that your panic is "passion."Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
ou finally figured out your partner was a narcissist—and then you looked at your parents. Then your friends. Then your boss.It's called the "Awakening," and it is one of the most overwhelming parts of the healing journey. Once you learn the patterns of narcissistic behavior, you can't "un-see" them. Today, I'm explaining why this happens and why you aren't "crazy" for suddenly seeing these traits in the people you've known your whole life.As a self-aware narcissist, I'm breaking down why we often seek out people who were already "trained" by narcissistic parents or friends to accept our behavior.IN THIS LIVE SESSION:The Blueprint: How growing up with a narcissistic parent prepared you for a narcissistic partner.The Friend Group Cleanup: Why you're suddenly realizing your "closest" friends are actually energy vampires.Frequency Illusion vs. Reality: Is everyone really a narcissist, or did you just finally learn the language?Q&A: Ask me anything about navigating these new realizations without losing your mind.The fog is lifting. It's painful, but it's the only way to get free.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
If you were targeted by a narcissist, it wasn't because you were weak. Lee Hammock (@mentalhealness) explains why self-aware narcissists look for high-value, resilient targets to consume.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
The fallout of a boundary is usually a war. Here is how to survive it.You watched yesterday's video on the 3 Ways to Set Boundaries with a Narcissist, but now you're living through the reaction. Why do they get more aggressive when you say "no"? Why does a simple boundary lead to a smear campaign or a week of silence?As a self-aware narcissist, I'm breaking down the "punishment phase" from the inside out. In today's LIVE, we are discussing:The Smear Campaign: Why they tell everyone you're the "abuser" the moment you set a limit.Guilt Tripping: How they use your empathy to make you feel bad for having needs.The Escalation: Why things get worse before they get better (The Extinction Burst).Live Q&A: I'll be translating your specific situations in real-time.Don't let their reaction bait you back into the cycle. Let's talk about how to hold the line.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Why does a narcissist "forget" their promises? Lee Hammock (@mentalhealness) explains the truth behind "Narcissistic Amnesia." It's not a memory problem—it's a lack of accountability.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
The high is over. The "holiday" is gone. Now comes the fallout.If you woke up today to the silent treatment, a cold shoulder, or a partner who is acting like the chaos of yesterday never happened—you are experiencing the "Valentine's Fallout." On this Sunday after, the narcissist has reclaimed control by ruining your expectations, and now they are using the "Day After" to test how much you'll tolerate.In this episode/Live, we are breaking down:The Emotional Hangover: Why you feel "crazy" today and they feel fine.Selective Amnesia: Why the narcissist refuses to acknowledge the fight they started yesterday.The Power of the Pivot: How they shift from "Villain" to "Victim" within 24 hours.Holding the Line: How to protect your peace when the mask is officially off.Stop waiting for an apology that isn't coming. Start understanding the game.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
When you stop giving a narcissist "supply," they don't just walk away quietly. They enter an "Extinction Burst." As a self-aware narcissist, Lee Hammock (@mentalhealness) explains why the behavior gets 10x more aggressive when you start setting boundaries. Learn the signs of the burst and why your reaction is exactly what they are looking for.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
In this video, we discuss:The Spotlight Struggle: Why your joy feels like a threat to my ego.The Obligation Trap: Why being "forced" to be romantic makes a narcissist want to rebel.Devaluation as a Tool: How ruining a special day gives the narcissist back the control.The "Gift" of Chaos: Why a fight is easier for us to handle than genuine intimacy.If you are feeling the "holiday dread" right now, this video is for you. Stop blaming yourself for their behavior.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
What happens when a narcissist can no longer rely on their looks, their money, or their status to control people? As a self-aware narcissist, Lee Hammock (@mentalhealness) explains the shift from "Grandiosity" to "Bitterness.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"You're too sensitive." "I never said that." "You're lucky to have me."
Why do narcissists ignore your boundaries? Because they don't respect feelings—they respect consequences. In this video, Lee Hammock (@mentalhealness) provides a raw, self-aware look at what actually goes on inside a narcissist's head when someone sets a boundary.Most people make the mistake of explaining their "why," which only gives the narcissist more leverage. Learn the 3 specific shifts you need to make to stop being an "easy target" and start being "high cost."Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Why a Narcissist's Treatment of You is Actually a Confession
"I wish I would have known."
Why 75% of Marriages That Start as Affairs End in Divorce. Does an affair ever actually lead to a "happily ever after"? The data says probably not. In this video, self-aware narcissist Lee Hammock breaks down the grim statistics of relationships that start through betrayal.While it may feel like "destiny" in the beginning, the transition from a secret affair to a legal marriage is a psychological minefield. We discuss why only 3-7% of affair partners ever marry, why the divorce rate for these unions is a staggering 75%, and the "Trust Deficit" that poisons the relationship from day one.Key Topics Covered:The "Unreality" Bubble: Why affairs die in the real world.The "Once a Cheater" stigma and internal suspicion.The lack of social support and family isolation.Why a "Soulmate" born in a lie can't handle the truth.Stop living in the fantasy and start looking at the facts. Stay Aware. Stay Healed.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"Was it all a lie? Did I ever actually matter?" In one of his most requested deep-dives, Lee Hammock answers the question that keeps every survivor awake at night. Discover the difference between being "loved" and being "useful," and learn how a narcissist's lack of object constancy allows them to discard you without a second thought. This is the closure you've been looking for.Key Topics:Why you mattered as a "Tool," not a "Person"The science of Object Constancy in NarcissismWhy they don't mourn the relationship like you doReady to find your own closure? Hit Follow and join our community of survivors.
Are you "Pain Shopping"? In this episode, self-aware narcissist Lee Hammock breaks down the compulsive urge to check an ex's social media. Learn why your brain is addicted to the "Digital Self-Harm" of seeing their fake new life and how narcissists weaponize their profiles to keep you stuck in the trauma bond. It's time to close the "Pain Store" and start your real recovery.Key Topics: > * The Dopamine Trap of "The Scroll"Why the Narcissist's "New Life" is a Billboard, Not a RealityHow to Break the Compulsion to Check Their PageFollow for more insights into the narcissistic mind. Stay Aware. Stay Healed.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Did the "fairytale" end as fast as it started? In today's live session, we are connecting the dots between the intense Love Bombing phase and the cold, calculated Reverse Discard.As a self-aware narcissist, I'm pulling back the curtain on the internal "playbook" used to create a trauma bond. We'll discuss why narcissists use intensity to bypass your boundaries, the psychology of "Baiting a Breakup," and why you feel like you're losing your mind during the devaluation phaseThis isn't just about labels—it's about pattern recognition and your psychological safety. Whether you're currently in the "honeymoon phase" or you've just been discarded, this live Q&A is designed to give you the clarity you need to stop the cycle.In this stream, we cover:The 4 Stages of the Narcissistic CycleWhy they "bait" you into ending the relationshipHow to protect your nervous system from the "High-Low" addictionReal-time Q&A: Your hardest questions answered from the "inside."Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
In the world of Cluster B personality disorders, NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) and BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) are often called "cousins" because they can look identical on the surface, especially during a blowout argument.Is it Narcissism (NPD) or Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)? Self-aware narcissist Lee Hammock breaks down the core differences in 2026. Learn why one is driven by ego/admiration and the other by a desperate fear of abandonment.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Is it true love or a "Love Bomb"? In this video, self-aware narcissist Lee Hammock breaks down the 4 stages of the grooming phase. Learn how narcissists use mirroring, fast-forwarding, and isolation to get you addicted to a version of them that doesn't exist.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Kanye West (Ye) just took out a full-page ad in the Wall Street Journal to apologize for his "reckless" behavior and antisemitic comments over the last two years. He's blaming an undiagnosed brain injury from 2002 and a 2025 manic episode—but is that enough?In this reaction, I'm breaking down the "To Those I've Hurt" letter. We're talking about the massive scale of the damage done—from the swastika T-shirts to the "Heil Hitler" song—and why an ad in a newspaper might be the start of a journey, but it isn't the destination.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Why is it impossible for a narcissist to say "I'm sorry"? In this episode, Lee Hammock explains the internal mechanics of the narcissistic ego. Learn about the "Narcissistic Injury," why projection is a survival tool, and how the "False Self" acts as a shield against the truth. If you've ever felt like you were fighting a brick wall, this episode explains why that wall was built in the first place.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
In this episode, Lee Hammock exposes a sophisticated manipulation tactic: Weaponized Vulnerability. As a self-aware narcissist, Lee explains why "tears" are often used as a defense mechanism to create F.O.G. (Fear, Obligation, and Guilt), effectively turning the victim into the villain.Key Takeaways:The Reverse Gaslight: How shifting the focus to their past trauma stops you from holding them accountable today.Insight Without Accountability: Why "knowing" they are toxic doesn't mean they intend to change.The 3 Red Flags: How to tell the difference between real pain and a calculated "tear trap".Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
It's not just one person—it's the whole group. When a group believes they are superior to everyone else and constantly victimized by the outside world, you are dealing with Collective Narcissism.Lee Hammock breaks down the psychology behind this "cult energy" from a self-aware perspective. Learn why narcissists thrive in these environments and how to spot the signs before the group turns on you.Key Takeaways:Defining the Beast: The difference between healthy group pride and toxic collective narcissism.The 4 Red Flags: Threat sensitivity, out-group aggression, internal policing, and the constant need for validation.The Smear Campaign: How the group mobilizes to destroy the reputation of anyone who leaves.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Is it possible for narcissism to run in families or is it more likely to be a 'one off' type of situation? Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Can you spot a narcissist with just one question? Lee Hammock breaks down the science-backed "SINS" test and why narcissists often admit the truth.In this episode of The Mental Healness Podcast, Lee Hammock dives into the Single Item Narcissism Scale (SINS)—a research-backed method from Ohio State University that claims a single question is nearly as accurate as a 40-question clinical inventory.As a self-aware narcissist, Lee explains why this question works on a psychological level and why many narcissists view their traits as a source of pride rather than shame.Key Takeaways:The SINS Methodology: How researchers compared the one-question test to the Narcissistic Personality Inventory.Why Narcissists Admit It: The "low social desirability" factor and why being called a narcissist can feel like a compliment to some.The Trap of Awareness: Why a "yes" answer isn't an invitation to fix them, but a warning for you to stay away.Grandiose vs. Vulnerable: Why this test fails on covert narcissists.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
In this episode of The Mental Healness Podcast, Lee Hammock explores the complex and often devastating relationship between Narcissistic Personality Disorder and pornography addiction.We dive into the concept of Object Constancy—the inability to maintain an emotional connection when a partner isn't physically present—and how this drives narcissists toward the instant, low-effort supply found in digital adult content.Key Discussion Points:Why porn provides a 'safe' space for narcissists who fear true intimacy.The role of Splitting in addiction: The 'Perfect' digital image vs. the 'Flawed' real-life partner.How this addiction manifests as a form of covert betrayal and gaslighting within the home.Steps toward awareness and breaking the cycle of objectification.Stay Aware. Stay Healed.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
What happens when a narcissist's world finally catches up to them? In this episode of The Mental Healness Podcast, we go deep into the mechanics of a narcissistic collapse—the intense emotional and behavioral crisis triggered by a blow to a narcissist's sense of superiority.Unlike a typical breakdown, a collapse is a desperate attempt to protect a fragile ego that has been exposed. We explore why this state often looks like severe depression or explosive rage, and how it differs from genuine remorse or self-reflection.Key topics discussed:The psychological 'mortification' of being exposed.How overt vs. covert narcissists handle a collapse differently.Why they often engage in self-destructive or vindictive behaviors during this time.Setting boundaries during the 'extinction burst'.Whether you are witnessing a collapse or trying to heal from the aftermath, this episode provides the clarity you need to stay grounded.Stay Aware. Stay Healed.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
Why does the narcissist start telling your story before you even realize the relationship is over? In this episode, self-aware narcissist Lee Hammock pulls back the curtain on the most devastating phase of the discard: The Smear Campaign.A smear campaign isn't just "gossip"—it is a coordinated, three-phase attack designed to isolate you, discredit your truth, and protect the narcissist's public image at all costs.In this episode, we explore:Phase 1: The Pre-emptive Strike – How they start "planting seeds" of doubt with your friends and family months before the breakup actually happens.Phase 2: The Flying Monkey Recruitment – Why your "loyal" friends suddenly start acting like spies and messengers for the narcissist.Phase 3: The Narrative Swap – How they take their own abusive behaviors and "project" them onto you, making you look like the unstable one.Survival Strategy: Why the urge to "clear your name" is actually a trap, and how to use silence to regain your power.You cannot win a war of words with someone who is willing to lie. You win by surviving the storm.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
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