Daily podcast about my personal battle with narcissistic personality disorder and my mental health. I'm very open about how I feel about life and my overall mental health. I've sought therapy and it's helped me beyond measure. I'm here to help and here to let you know you are not alone
The Mental Healness podcast has been an incredibly valuable resource for me in understanding and navigating toxic relationships, particularly those involving narcissistic individuals. Lee Hammock, the host of the podcast, brings a unique perspective as someone who openly admits to having narcissistic tendencies himself. This honesty and transparency create a relatable and informative experience for listeners who may be struggling with similar issues.
One of the best aspects of The Mental Healness podcast is how it sheds light on lesser-known aspects of narcissism and toxic behavior. Lee dives deep into topics like covert narcissism, love bombing, gaslighting, and manipulation tactics that are not always discussed in mainstream books or articles written by therapists. His insights provide a comprehensive understanding of these behaviors and help listeners recognize them in their own lives.
Furthermore, Lee's episodes are concise yet impactful, making it easy to binge-listen and absorb a wealth of knowledge in a short amount of time. His delivery is engaging and often infused with humor, making difficult topics more approachable. Additionally, Lee regularly interacts with his audience through TikTok videos and YouTube content, creating a sense of community among those who have experienced or are currently dealing with toxic relationships.
While The Mental Healness podcast offers invaluable information on narcissism and toxic behavior, one possible drawback is that it primarily focuses on romantic relationships. While this is undoubtedly an important aspect to address, it would be beneficial to explore other types of relationships affected by narcissistic individuals such as friendships or familial relationships. Expanding the scope could further support listeners who may not have experienced a romantic relationship with a narcissist but still need guidance in dealing with toxicity.
In conclusion, The Mental Healness podcast is an exceptional resource for anyone seeking knowledge and insight into narcissistic behavior and toxic relationships. Lee Hammock's expertise combined with his relatability creates an engaging experience that leaves listeners feeling validated and empowered. Despite some potential areas for growth in terms of exploring different types of relationships, this podcast is an invaluable tool for those seeking understanding and healing in the face of narcissism.
Stop being confused and learn the differences between emotional abuse and the specific, systematic patterns of narcissistic abuse. As a diagnosed narcissist, I'm explaining why the intent, the lack of remorse, and the "erasure of self" make narcissistic abuse a different beast entirely.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Learn the real reasons why narcissists choose you and why you were targeted for your strengths rather than your weaknesses. As a diagnosed narcissist, I'm breaking down why "the light" in you is exactly what attracts a predator and how your empathy was weaponized against you. Stop feeling like a victim and start understanding the value you have that they tried to claim as their own.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Hear 8 powerful stories of the exact moment survivors realized they were dealing with a narcissist. As a diagnosed narcissist, I react to these "lightbulb moments" to show you why the mask finally had to slip. Stop the second-guessing and find the validation you need to start reclaiming your reality today.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Discover why two narcissists can rarely maintain a relationship and the psychological "collision" that happens when two egos fight for the same supply. As a diagnosed narcissist, I'm breaking down why we seek out "givers" rather than people like ourselves and why the power struggle in a narc-on-narc relationship is unsustainable. Learn the truth about the "mirror effect" and why two people using the same playbook can never find common ground.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Stop the cycle of second-guessing and learn why narcissists work so hard to make you doubt your own reality and intuition. I'm breaking down the specific tactics used to make you feel like the "toxic" one, from the "I never said that" routine to the reaction trap. As a diagnosed narcissist, I provide the inside perspective you need to reclaim your truth and stop wondering if you are the problem.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Analyze the chilling psychology behind the Moriah Wilson murder case through the lens of a diagnosed narcissist. I'm breaking down why Colin Strickland's manipulation and triangulation were the true catalysts for Kaitlin Armstrong's sociopathic descent into violence. Learn how narcissistic "information management" and lies in a toxic love triangle can lead to a tragic, irreversible end.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Expose the "Public Saint, Private Monster" dynamic where narcissists use a polished reputation to gaslight and isolate their victims at home. Learn why the world sees a hero while you experience a nightmare and how to navigate the reality of a two-faced partner. As a diagnosed narcissist, I'm breaking down why the "Mask" is so effective and how you can stop letting their public image define your private truth.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Breaking down the psychology behind the horrific Shreveport tragedy and why someone like Shamar Elkins becomes a family annihilator. As a diagnosed narcissist, I'm pulling back the curtain on the "monster" mindset, domestic dynamics, and the ultimate lack of empathy required to commit such an act. Understand the red flags of family annihilation and the dark reality of toxic family systems before they reach a point of no return.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Stop falling for the trap where your reaction to abuse becomes the "reason" for the abuse. Learn how narcissists use DARVO and reactive abuse to convince you that you are the toxic one in the relationship. As a diagnosed narcissist, I'm breaking down the mechanics of the "Villain Flip" so you can stop the second-guessing and start winning.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Expose the toxic workplace reality by understanding the delusional beliefs held by narcissistic bosses that create hostile environments and destroy team morale. From corporate gaslighting to exploitative leadership, learn to identify the narcissistic red flags in management so you can protect your career and mental health. As a diagnosed narcissist, I provide the internal perspective on why toxic managers use manipulation and grandiosity to maintain control in the office.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Why do narcissists act like children? Today, as a diagnosed narcissist, I'm diving deep into the concept of "Arrested Development." I'm explaining why narcissistic people often have an emotional "pause button" that gets stuck in childhood, leading to adult tantrums, a lack of empathy, and the "Toddler in a Suit" syndrome. We'll discuss why they can't handle boundaries, why they lose "object constancy," and why you can't "parent" your partner into maturity. If you've ever felt like you're in a relationship with a child, this video will give you the clarity you need to stop the cycle and start winning.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
I used to think my wife was nagging me, but I finally realized she was just expressing her feelings. As a diagnosed narcissist, I'm breaking down why I took every honest conversation as a direct criticism and an attack on my character. Today, we're diving into "Defensive Listening," the Narcissistic Filter, and why toxic partners use the word "nagging" to silence and gaslight their spouses. If you feel like you can't speak your truth without starting a fight, this video explains the psychology behind that wall. It's time to stop the deflection and start the healing.All my links https://link.me/mentalhealness
What happens when a narcissist is finally alone? As a diagnosed narcissist, I'm getting raw about how my own mind attacks me the second the "audience" leaves. Today, we're discussing why narcissists have a negative default setting, why silence feels like a death sentence, and how we use external validation (supply) as a shield against intense self-hatred. If you've ever wondered why your toxic partner couldn't be alone or why they constantly needed to be the center of attention, this is the internal reality they are running from. Join me for this deep dive into the "Internal Bully" of NPD.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Female narcissists are often much harder to spot than men because they hide behind social norms like motherhood, caretaking, and "feminine vulnerability." Today, I'm reacting to the MSN article "15 Traits That Reveal Narcissistic Behavior in Women" and providing a diagnosed narcissist's perspective on how these traits manifest in real life. We are breaking down the "Social Camouflage" of NPD—from weaponized tears and the martyr complex to competitive parenting and the "Trophy Child" syndrome. If you feel like you're being manipulated by someone who seems "perfect" to the outside world, this deep dive is for you. Learn the 15 signs before the mask slips for good.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
When you get a serious diagnosis, a narcissist doesn't see a partner in pain—they see a "malfunctioning tool." Today, I'm breaking down the "Hospital Room Discard" and the harsh reality of why toxic partners bail during a medical crisis. As a diagnosed narcissist, I'm explaining the logic behind the "6x more likely" abandonment statistic and how to recognize when your partner is already shopping for your replacement. You deserve a partner who stays in the room, not one who sees your sickness as an inconvenience.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
The "Alpine Divorce" is the most chilling relationship trend of 2026. From viral TikToks to the tragic Thomas Plamberger conviction, we are seeing the literal physical reality of narcissistic abandonment. Today, I'm breaking down the NPD perspective on why a partner would leave you to freeze. We discuss the transition from "Micro-Abandonments" to the ultimate discard and how to spot the red flags before you're stranded.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Tanner Horner has pleaded guilty in the Athena Strand trial, but his claim that an alter ego named "Zero" committed the crime is a pathetic narcissistic deflection. Today, I'm providing a diagnosed narcissist's perspective on this extreme lack of accountability and the chilling "hero-to-villain" shift revealed during his interrogation. We are breaking down why this "panic" story is actually a calculated web of lies designed to protect his own self-image. Subscribe for deep-dive psychological analysis and join the conversation below as we seek justice for Athena Strand.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Lynette Hooker went missing in the Bahamas and now her husband Brian is under arrest. There were inklings of previous violence in the relationship according to her daughter and now she thinks her stepdad had something to do with it. Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
If you're terrified to start dating again because you're afraid you'll just attract another narcissist—that fear is actually your intuition trying to protect you. But today, we're talking about how to turn that fear into a standard. We are moving from being "paralyzed" to being "empowered" in your choice. You don't need to trust other people yet; you just need to learn how to trust yourself again.Tonight's Live Discussion:The Confident "No": How to spot a narcissist by setting one simple boundary (and why their reaction is the key).The "Slow Burn" is Sexy: Re-training your nervous system to prefer consistency over intense chemistry.Keeping the Vault Locked: Why you must stop trauma-dumping on the first date and how to protect your story.Red Flags vs. Normal Flaws: How to know when to run and when to give it a chance.Stop surviving your past and start building your future. Let's learn how to date with confidence, not fear.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Never go grocery shopping when you're hungry, and never go dating when you're vulnerable.When you are in a season of pain or transition, your "predator radar" is compromised. You aren't looking for character; you're looking for an escape. In this video, we discuss why being in a vulnerable state makes you the primary target for narcissistic "Hero" tactics and how to protect yourself.Key Points Covered:The Rescue Trap: How narcissists use your pain to bypass your boundaries.Numbing vs. Bonding: Why you can't properly vet a partner when you're using them to fix your loneliness.The Scent of Vulnerability: Why toxic people are drawn to those in a "low" season.The Solution: Why reaching "neutrality" on your own is the only way to safely date.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"I told you what I did, so why are you still bringing it up?"Have you ever had a narcissist finally admit to a lie, a betrayal, or a mistake—only for them to get angry at YOU because you were actually hurt by it? This is called the Confession Trap, and it is one of the most manipulative moves in the NPD playbook.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"You think showing a narcissist a video of how they treat you will finally make them understand. In reality, it's often the spark that sets off the biggest explosion of the relationship."Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"Is No Contact a temporary boundary or a lifetime sentence? Today, I'm going to explain why 'forever' is usually the only safe answer when dealing with a narcissist."Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"A narcissist has a 30-second statute of limitations on their own mistakes, but a lifetime contract on yours. Today, I'm explaining why we weaponize history to avoid accountability."In this video, we discuss:The Deflection Loop: Why bringing up your past is a narcissist's favorite "get out of jail free" card.The "Old News" Shield: How we use time to make our own toxic behavior seem irrelevant.Leverage vs. Resolution: Why the goal isn't to fix the problem, but to make sure you're the one on the defensive.The Narrative Lock: How keeping your mistakes alive allows the narcissist to maintain the "Moral High Ground."Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"Forgiveness isn't about him; it's about the weight I'm tired of carrying."For years, I carried a lot of anger toward my father. He was emotionally neglectful, shut off, and displayed the classic traits of a narcissist. But as I've done my own healing, I've realized where that "emptiness" came from. My father was just a child when his own dad committed suicide, and he never got the help he needed. He didn't learn how to love because he was too busy trying to survive the trauma.Today, I'm talking about breaking the cycle. As a diagnosed narcissist myself, I can see the "shutter" that came down on his soul. I'm breaking down why I choose compassion over hate, and why understanding his trauma doesn't excuse his behavior—but it does set me free from the resentment.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"The person you fell in love with was actually just a better version of yourself."It's the most painful realization in recovery: the 'soulmate' you think you lost was a manufactured character. Today, I'm taking the mask off to explain the "Representative"—the fake persona narcissists use to hook you—and how we use mirroring to make you fall in love with your own best qualities.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Most people assume this behavior is just about the bedroom, but for a narcissist, it's a calculated move to avoid the one thing we fear most: Vulnerability. Today, I'm taking the mask off to explain why transactional dynamics are the "perfect supply." When you pay for a service, there are no expectations, no "mirror" reflecting our flaws, and a guaranteed discard.In this video, we discuss:The Power Dynamic: Why being the "Customer" is a narcissist's safe space.Avoiding the Mirror: Why real intimacy feels like a threat to the False Self.The Built-In Discard: Why narcissists love a relationship with an expiration date.Validation on Demand: The dopamine hit of "purchased" admiration.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"They aren't listening; they're just waiting for their turn to talk."Have you ever shared something personal, only for the other person to immediately say, "That reminds me of the time I..."? That is the Shift Response. Today, I'm breaking down conversational narcissists. As a diagnosed narcissist, I'm telling you why we do this. It's not just "bad manners"—it's a calculated way to regain the spotlight and ensure we remain the main character of every interaction.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"Is it a breakthrough, or is it just better acting?"The most common question I get is: "Lee, can narcissists actually change?" The answer is yes, but it doesn't look like a Hallmark movie. It looks like a long, painful, and often ugly process of self-control. Today, I'm breaking down the difference between a narcissist who is "performing" therapy and a narcissist who is actually changing their brain chemistry.We're talking about Consistency vs. Intensity, how to test for real accountability, and why "therapy speak" is the new favorite weapon for narcissists in 2026. If you're waiting for a sign to stay or leave, this Live is for you.In this Live, we discuss:The Consistency Test: Why a "good week" means nothing compared to a "boring year."Weaponized Therapy: How narcissists use their therapist's words to gaslight you.The Accountability Check: Can they sit in the discomfort of being "wrong" without a blow-up?Pro-Social Shifts: Moving from "I want to hurt you" to "I want to protect my life."The Relapse Reality: Why "perfect" is a red flag and "stumbling" might be a good signConnect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"The most dangerous monsters don't look like monsters—they look like the guy who mows your lawn." Detroit is in shock today over the Ronnell Agee case. Neighbors are on camera saying he was "the nicest guy we've ever known" and that "this can't be his character." But as a diagnosed narcissist, I'm telling you: that "nicest guy" brand is exactly how we hide in plain sight.Today, I'm breaking down the Neighbor Narcissist Mask. We're looking at the Ronnell Agee kidnapping case to understand why narcissists build a reputation for being helpful and friendly. It's called a Proximity Shield, and it's designed so that when the mask finally slips, the community refuses to believe the truth.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Ever wonder why narcissists keep you around even when they don't seem to like you? It's because you're serving a specific purpose on the "Supply Menu." Today, I'm breaking down the different categories of supply—from the bank account to the bedroom and everywhere in between.As a diagnosed narcissist, I'm giving you the unfiltered truth about how we categorize people. We're talking about financial supply, ego boosts, the "placeholder" (transitional supply), and even the people who provide "negative supply" through chaos. If you've ever felt like an object instead of a person, this Live is for you. Let's figure out what you're providing so you can finally stop serving it up.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"Your brain is literally wired to fall for the vain narcissist."A groundbreaking 2026 study has revealed that humans mentally categorize narcissists into two distinct groups: the Vain and the Selfish. While the "selfish" face is easy to spot and avoid, the "vain" face is a trap. We often mistake vanity for competence, success, and leadership potential.Today, I'm breaking down the science of why we find certain narcissists irresistible and how their "agentic" mask makes them perfect for corporate management and high-status dating. As a diagnosed narcissist, I'm telling you the truth about the "Competence Trap" and why your brain chooses to ignore the red flags when the mask looks this good.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"There is nothing narcissists love more than a stage, and a witness stand is the ultimate platform. Today on MentalHealness, I'm breaking down the top 4 narcissists I've seen testify in their own defense..."As a diagnosed narcissist, I see the playbook they were using: the "pity play," the word salad, and the absolute refusal to take accountability. We're deep-diving into the cases of Alex Murdaugh, Robert Telles, and more. Why do we think we can win over a jury when the evidence is stacked against us? I'm telling you the truth about the "Narcissistic God Complex" in the courtroom.IN THIS VIDEO:Ali Abulaban: The performer who couldn't stop making it about his lost "career."Brendan Banfield: Breaking down his 2026 "De-escalation" lie—why the jury didn't buy it.Alex Murdaugh: The "Crying Mask" and the collapse of a legal dynasty.Robert Telles: The "Helpful Neighbor" who claimed he was framed by an assassin.The Common Thread: Why narcs almost ALWAYS testify (and why it's usually their downfall).Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"If I'm done with you, why am I still stalking your page?"It's one of the most confusing parts of the narcissistic cycle. They've discarded you, they've moved on, yet the moment you start to heal or find someone new, they reappear to blow your life up.Today at [Time], I'm breaking down the Narcissistic Ownership Mindset. As a diagnosed narcissist, I'm telling you the truth: it's not because we miss you. It's because we still view you as our property. We're talking about the "Shelf" strategy, why your happiness feels like our failure, and how to break the "invisible leash" they've kept you on.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"Is she a genius psychologist, or is she the real problem?"Marisa Tomei is coming for the narcs on March 27th! I just watched the trailer for the new movie "You're Dating A Narcissist!" and as a diagnosed narcissist, I have thoughts. Tomei plays Judy, a professor who thinks her daughter is marrying a "narc," but is she seeing real red flags or is she just projecting her own trauma?I'm breaking down the trailer, the "narc" shorthand, and whether Hollywood is finally getting narcissism right or if this is just another "Terrible Take." We're also talking about the Manosphere crossover—because the fiancé in this movie looks like he's been taking notes from the Red Pill playbook.IN THIS REACTION:The "Narc" Label: Why the shorthand used in the film matters.Marisa Tomei's Character: Is the "Narcissist Expert" actually a narcissist herself?Spotting the Groom: I'm looking for the real red flags in the trailer footage.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"No is a complete sentence, but to a narcissist, it's a declaration of war."Have you ever noticed how a simple "No" can turn a charming partner into a raging stranger? Today on MentalHealness, I'm breaking down the psychology of what happens inside a narcissist's mind when they lose control. As a diagnosed narcissist, I'm telling you why that one little word feels like a physical attack to us.We're talking about the Narcissistic Injury, the inevitable Collapse, and the new 2026 trend of "Weaponized Therapy Speak"—where they try to tell you that your "No" is actually you "violating their boundaries."Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Losing my dog, Lala, has been one of the hardest things I've ever faced. As a diagnosed narcissist, I'm giving you an inside look at how I used to process grief versus how I'm handling it now. For years, therapy has been about stripping away the armor, and nothing tests that work like the loss of a "soul dog."Lala was a Jackabee (Jack Russell & Beagle mix) who taught me more about unconditional love than most people ever could. Today, I'm being honest about the "Narcissistic Numbness" I used to feel and the visceral pain I'm feeling now. If you've ever wondered if a narcissist can truly love a pet, or how therapy actually changes the way we feel, this video is for you.IN THIS VIDEO:The Old Me vs. The New Me: How I would have "minimized" this loss 5 years ago.The "Supply" Trap: Why pets are often the only creatures a narcissist feels safe being vulnerable with.Therapy in the Raw: The specific work I've done to sit with grief instead of running from it.Lala's Legacy: Honoring the Jackabee who helped me become more human.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"The truth doesn't just set you free—it strips them of their power."They spend their entire lives building a facade. They lie, they manipulate, and they curate a version of themselves that the world loves. But what happens when you pull back the curtain? Today on MentalHealness, I'm breaking down why exposure is the ultimate "Narcissistic Injury."As a diagnosed narcissist, I'm telling you: our power lives in your silence. When you speak the truth—with facts, evidence, and a calm voice—you trigger a "Narcissistic Collapse" that we can't easily recover from. We're talking about why they fear your voice, how to expose them safely, and why the truth is the only thing a narcissist can't manipulate.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"I've been pretending to be happy since I was a kid."On March 13, 2026, Doja Cat dropped a bombshell on TikTok: she's been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). As a diagnosed narcissist, her description of "masking"—faking her personality and her joy for nearly 30 years—stopped me in my tracks.Today, we're looking at the psychology of the "Celebrity Mask." We're discussing how childhood survival traits become adult personality disorders, and why Chappell Roan's move toward radical boundaries inspired Doja to finally get real. Is this the start of a "Unmasked" era for celebrities?Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"It's not just an annoyance; it's a threat to our existence."Ever wondered why a narcissist seems to have a personal vendetta against certain people while they "tolerate" others? Today at 3:30 PM EST, I'm pulling back the curtain on the Narcissistic Hit List. As a diagnosed narcissist, I'm breaking down the four categories of people who trigger our deepest rage and why your "strength" feels like an "attack" to us. We're talking about the people with iron-clad boundaries, the bosses who don't buy the charm, and the people who are simply better than us in ways we can't copy.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"How can they sleep at night after what they did to me?"It's the question that haunts every survivor. You're looking for a sign of a conscience, a tear, or a genuine "I'm sorry." But it never comes. In this video, I'm breaking down the psychological mechanics of guilt and remorse from the perspective of a self-aware narcissist.I'm explaining why we don't experience "Remorse" (feeling bad for hurting you), but we do experience "Shame" (feeling bad for being caught or looking like the villain). Learn how the narcissistic brain deletes guilt to keep the "Hero Mask" intact.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"He's back... but he's not the man you remember."Today on MentalHealness, I'm telling the story of Timmy and Michelle. They were young, they were in love, and Timmy blew it with drugs and cheating. Fast forward 20 years—Michelle has moved on, but Timmy shows up with a "surprise" visit. He's older, he's divorced, and he's got 6 kids he doesn't even take care of.I'm breaking down the psychology of why an aging narcissist returns to an ex after decades. It's not about "true love" or "destiny"—it's about finding a soft place to land now that his options have dried up.IN THIS STORYTELLING SESSION:The Nostalgia Trap: Why they think you'll forget the pain because of the passage of time.The Reality Check: Breaking down the "New Timmy"—6 kids, no responsibility, same entitlement.The Audacity: Why showing up unannounced is a massive boundary violation.Michelle's Choice: Why "Closure" means keeping the door locked.Don't let a 20-year-old ghost haunt your current peace.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"It was the only time I felt like they actually loved me."In a narcissistic relationship, physical intimacy is rarely just about connection—it's about control. As a self-aware narcissist, I'm breaking down the truth about the "Bedroom Power Dynamic." We're discussing why the bedroom becomes the only place you feel "seen," and how a narcissist uses that bond to keep you stuck in a cycle of toxicity.If you've ever felt like intimacy was being used as a reward or a punishment, this Live is for you. We are talking about reclaiming your autonomy and understanding the difference between a "soul tie" and a "trauma bond."Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"But they're your family..."It's the phrase that keeps people trapped in cycles of abuse for decades. But what happens when the people who were supposed to protect you are the ones you need protection from? Going No Contact with a narcissist is hard; going No Contact with an entire narcissistic family system is a battlefield.Today, I'm breaking down the mechanics of the "Toxic Family Unit," the role of Flying Monkeys within your own siblings, and why the "Family Scapegoat" is usually the only one who finds peace. I'm giving you the perspective of the person left behind—what we think when you finally stop answering the group chat.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Does the narcissist in your life become a completely different person when they drink, or are you finally seeing who they really are? Many people believe that alcohol "changes" the narcissist, but from the perspective of a self-aware narcissist, I can tell you that it usually just lowers the inhibitions that were keeping the rage in check.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Have you ever wondered if narcissists are born that way or if life made them that way? Today, we are doing a full "workup" on how male narcissists are created. As a diagnosed narcissist who has spent nearly a decade in therapy, I'm taking you behind the mask to show you exactly how the environment, parenting, and societal pressure combine to create the personality you see today.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"If I'm still chasing, they must be worth it... right?"Wrong. As a self-aware narcissist, I'm telling you the truth about what happens in our heads when you pursue us after we've treated you like trash. To you, the chase is an act of love. To us, the chase is a "Get Out of Jail Free" card.When you chase a narcissist, you aren't showing them your value; you are showing them that their behavior has no consequences. Today, we are breaking down the "Forgiveness Trap" and why your silence is the only thing that actually forces a narcissist to face reality.IN THIS LIVE, WE DISCUSS:The Forgiveness Fallacy: Why chasing tells the narcissist that everything they did was "okay."The Ego Boost: How the chase fuels the narcissist's sense of superiority.The Power Shift: How you lose your leverage the moment you try to "fix" what they broke.Breaking the Cycle: How to stop the "chase reflex" and reclaim your dignity.Stop giving them the validation they didn't earn.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Have you ever tried to hold a narcissist accountable, only to end up being the one apologizing? That isn't an accident. Narcissists have a specific set of excuses they use to deflect, distract, and devalue your concerns. Today, we are breaking down the Top 5 excuses I used—and that most narcissists use—to stay in control of the narrative.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"Get out then!"It's what they've been saying for weeks. They've devalued you, ignored you, and treated you like a burden until you finally had enough and packed your bags. But instead of the relief you expected them to feel, they exploded. They raged. They begged. They lost their minds.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Are you addicted to "Pain Shopping"? In this video, self-aware narcissist Lee Hammock explains why survivors compulsively check their ex's social media and how narcissists use their profiles as a weapon. Learn how to break the digital trauma bond and stop the cycle of self-harm today.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"Will this ever end?"Channel Memberships For More perks- www.youtube.com/channel/UCm1vYQOEQRo6X4Dy8KoGPMw/joinIt's the question that keeps you up at night. You've gone No Contact, you've blocked the numbers, but you're still looking over your shoulder. As a self-aware narcissist, I'm going to give you the honest truth about the "Mental Rolodex" we keep. Do we ever truly let go, or are you just "on ice" until we get bored?Today, we are breaking down the mechanics of the hoover, the concept of "shelf supply," and what it actually takes for a narcissist to decide you are no longer worth the effort.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
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