POPULARITY
In this episode, we dive deep into the world of Organizational Ombuds with the remarkable Dina (Lynch) Eisenberg, Founder and President of Ombudsology LLC. Dina shares her extensive experience and insights, having dedicated three decades to the role of an Ombuds. Are you curious about stepping out of corporate HR? Dina offers invaluable advice on how to transition into this rewarding career path, highlighting the unique opportunities and challenges it presents. Whether you're considering a career change or simply want to broaden your understanding of conflict resolution within organizations, this episode is a must-listen. Dina's book recommendation, In Sheep's Clothing, by Dr. George K. Simon, also provides practical strategies for dealing with manipulative people at work—an essential read for anyone navigating complex workplace dynamics.
Send us a Text Message.We've all been there - in the heat of an argument or frustrating situation where our emotions start taking over. The adrenaline is pumping, harsh words are flying, and it feels like things are rapidly spiraling out of control.In this episode, I unpack a passage from 1 Samuel 25 in which I discuss the invaluable role a trusted friend can play in being that voice of reason when we're on the verge of making rash decisions we may later regret. I talk about two significant times in my 20s when I was the wrong-doer and how my actions negatively impacted both myself, but the persons involved as well as my community. Keep listening, because toward the end, I even start having my own realizations of how the choice of discipline for our own actions and words is in itself a demonstration of love. Resources:The Bible in a Year Podcast w/ Father Mike SchmitzIn Sheep's Clothing by Dr. George K. Simon, PhD. Until we meet again
Explore the often-misunderstood realm of "character disturbances" with Dr. George K. Simon, a formidable authority with over four decades of expertise in psychology. In this episode, we tackle the complexities distinguishing character issues from narcissism, providing you with the tools to recognize subtle but significant red flags in relationships. Dr. Simon brings his deep knowledge to the fore, discussing how a lack of accountability and a victim mentality can signal deeper personality disorders — crucial awareness in an age where such traits are ever more prevalent.As we navigate the stormy seas of co-parenting with challenging personalities, we share candid insights on preserving your dignity within the legal system, a terrain where fairness can often seem like a distant concept. Dr. Simon critically evaluates conventional therapy's limitations when it comes to unyielding individuals and underscores the importance of addressing the heart of the matter. Moreover, we offer a glimpse into "Essentials for the Journey," Dr. Simon's latest literary endeavor, ensuring its profound lessons are accessible even to those caught in life's relentless pace. Join us for a conversation that promises guidance and clarity in the midst of character turmoil and personal battles that spill into the courts.
I am called to combat: “Harriet B. Braiker Edit Harriet B. Braiker identified the following ways that manipulators control their victims:[31] Positive reinforcement: includes praise, superficial charm, superficial sympathy (crocodile tears), excessive apologizing, money, approval, gifts, attention, facial expressions such as a forced laugh or smile, and public recognition. Negative reinforcement: involves removing one from a negative situation as a reward. Gaslighting. Intermittent or partial reinforcement: Partial or intermittent negative reinforcement can create an effective climate of fear and doubt. Partial or intermittent positive reinforcement can encourage the victim to persist. Punishment: includes nagging, yelling, the silent treatment, intimidation, threats, swearing, emotional blackmail, guilt trips, sulking, crying, and playing the victim. Traumatic one-trial learning: using verbal abuse, explosive anger, or other intimidating behavior to establish dominance or superiority; even one incident of such behavior can condition or train victims to avoid upsetting, confronting or contradicting the manipulator. According to Braiker, manipulators exploit the following vulnerabilities (buttons) that may exist in victims:[31] the desire to please addiction to earning the approval and acceptance of others emotophobia (fear of negative emotion; i.e. a fear of expressing anger, frustration or disapproval) lack of assertiveness and ability to say no blurry sense of identity (with soft personal boundaries) low self-reliance external locus of control Manipulators can have various possible motivations, including but not limited to:[31] the need to advance their own purposes and personal gain at (virtually any) cost to others a strong need to attain feelings of power and superiority in relationships with others - compare megalomania (associated with, for example, narcissistic personality disorder)[32] a want and need to feel in control a desire to gain a feeling of power over others in order to raise their perception of self-esteem furtherance of cult dynamics in recruiting or retaining followers[33] boredom, or growing tired of one's surroundings; seeing manipulation as a game more than hurting others covert agendas, criminal or otherwise, including financial manipulation (often seen when intentionally targeting the elderly or unsuspecting, unprotected wealthy for the sole purpose of obtaining victims' financial assets) not identifying with underlying emotions (including experiencing commitment phobia), and subsequent rationalization (offenders do not manipulate consciously, but rather try to convince themselves of the invalidity of their own emotions) lack of self-control over impulsive and anti-social behaviour - leading to pre-emptive or reactionary manipulation to maintain image George K. Simon Edit According to psychology author George K. Simon, successful psychological manipulation primarily involves the manipulator:[15] Concealing aggressive intentions and behaviors and being affable. Knowing the psychological vulnerabilities of the victim to determine which tactics are likely to be the most effective. Having a sufficient level of ruthlessness to have no qualms about causing harm to the victim if necessary.” I am also called to help heal survivors of https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mental_disorder and https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Manipulation_(psychology)?searchToken=2zampd5mxt565n9vt7wbr5ihs. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/antonio-myers4/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/antonio-myers4/support
In 1996 Dr. George K. Simon wrote and self-published In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People, almost single-handedly changing the 'self-help' landscape in the U.S. The book remains a best-seller. With decades of clinical research under his wing, Dr. Simon saw that a very large percentage of psychological and emotional issues people suffered from were due to the effects of the extremely manipulative individuals in their lives. Learning to recognize the signs...
In 1996 Dr. George K. Simon wrote and self-published In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People, almost single-handedly changing the 'self-help' landscape in the U.S. The book remains a best-seller. With decades of clinical research under his wing, Dr. Simon saw that a very large percentage of psychological and emotional issues people suffered from were due to the effects of the extremely manipulative individuals in their lives. Learning to recognize the signs...
In 1996 Dr. George K. Simon wrote and self-published In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People, almost single-handedly changing the 'self-help' landscape in the U.S. The book remains a best-seller. With decades of clinical research under his wing, Dr. Simon saw that a very large percentage of psychological and emotional issues people suffered from were due to the effects of the extremely manipulative individuals in their lives. Learning to recognize the signs...
In 1996 Dr. George K. Simon wrote and self-published In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People, almost single-handedly changing the 'self-help' landscape in the U.S. The book remains a best-seller. With decades of clinical research under his wing, Dr. Simon saw that a very large percentage of psychological and emotional issues people suffered from were due to the effects of the extremely manipulative individuals in their lives. Learning to recognize the signs...
Have you been told you're insecure, crazy and jealous,and started to doubt your own reality and sanity? Did they insult you and follow it up with “it's only a joke, you're too sensitive!“? Well then you'll want to listen to this.Shannon Higgins, a Licensed Professional Counselor is herself a survivor to thriver of narcissistic abuse from her ex-husband, this took place well after she specialized in her field of abuse. This can truly happen to anyone.*Content note: this episode discusses abusive relationships, discretion is advised, if you experience any unease from this, please contact a local mental health helpline or a Trauma Trained Therapist*We go over:// What is a narcissist? There's a spectrum, including the healthy kind.// What is gaslighting?// I read your submission of real life gaslighting stories both at the beginning & at the end of the episode.// You don't have to have had a toxic childhood to be a target of gaslighting.// Not all gaslighters are narcissists, they can simply be toxic people but not actual narcissists.// Is gaslighting always intentional, even when parents do it?// How & why people become gaslighters.// How to deal with a gaslighting parent.// Complex PTSD.// Why we think it's our fault when we're being gaslighted.// The signs that you're being gaslighted.// The Human Magnet & Trauma Bonding Syndromes.// Why gaslighters thrive on targeting successful people.// Abuse amnesia and cognitive dissonance.// The importance of not throwing the label out ‘just because' someone doesn't cater to our every whim or just isn't a very good communicator as it invalidates those who really go through such a destructive ordeal of being emotionally abused and vilifies those who simply lack a skill but aren't malicious.// The difference between pushing back because we are secure versus gaslighting.// Why some find it harder to ask and express what they need which in turns enables a toxic relationship.// What specialist therapies Shannon recommends if you suffered from an abusive relationship (be it intimate or from a parent).// It doesn't always look like a big deal (but it is!) & why the outside world does not understand your situation and often blame the victim to be the instigator.For current therapies, you can look up a Trauma Trained Therapist that uses one or a combo of these therapies:// Brain Spotting is phenomenal and has long term benefits.// Sensorimotor Psychotherapy.// Somatic Experiencing Therapy.// EMDR.// Brainspotting.Shannon's recommended resources:// "Psychopath Free: Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships with Narcissists, Sociopaths and Other Toxic People" & "Whole Again" Jackson MacKenzie.// “Why Does He Do That?” Lundy Bancroft.// "Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse" Shannon Thomas, LCSW.// "The Empath's Survival Guide" Judith Orloff, M.D.// "In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People" George K. Simon, Ph.D.// "Shadow Daughter: A Memoir of Estrangement" Harriet Brown (about a daughter with a mom who has a personality disorder).// "Women Who Love Psychopaths: Inside the Relationships of Inevitable Harm with Psychopaths, Sociopaths & Narcissists" Sandra Brown, M.A.// "The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist: Recognizing the Traits and Finding Healing After Hidden, Emotional and Psychological Abuse" Debbie Mirza.// "Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving" Pete Walker, M.A.// choosecourage.orgFind Shannon at https://unlockingfortitude.com/ & on insta at shannonhigginslpcFind me at https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com
Today we talk about Gaslighting[WARNING: This can be a very triggering episode, if you experience any unease from this, please contact a local mental health helpline or a Trauma Trained Therapist ]Shannon Higgins, a Licensed Professional Counselor is herself a survivor to thriver of narcissistic abuse from her ex-husband, this took place well after she specialized in her field of abuse. This can truly happen to anyone.Have you been told you’re insecure, crazy and jealous,and started to doubt your own reality and sanity? Did they insult you and follow it up with “it’s only a joke, you’re too sensitive!“? Well then you’ll want to listen to this, we go over:What is a narcissist? There’s a spectrum, including the healthy kind.What is gaslighting?I read your submission of real life gaslighting stories both at the beginning & at the end of the episode.You don’t have to have had a toxic childhood to be a target of gaslightingNot all gaslighters are narcissists, they can simply be toxic people but not actual narcissists.Is gaslighting always intentional, even when parents do it?How & why people become gaslightersHow to deal with a gaslighting parentComplex PTSDWhy we think it’s our fault when we’re being gaslightedThe signs that you’re being gaslightedThe Human Magnet & Trauma Bonding SyndromesWhy gaslighters thrive on targeting successful peopleAbuse amnesia and cognitive dissonanceThe importance of not throwing the label out ‘just because’ someone doesn’t cater to our every whim or just isn’t a very good communicator as it invalidates those who really go through such a destructive ordeal of being emotionally abused and vilifies those who simply lack a skill but aren’t malicious.The difference between pushing back because we are secure versus gaslightingWhy some find it harder to ask and express what they need which in turns enables a toxic relationshipWhat specialist therapies Shannon recommends if you suffered from an abusive relationship (be it intimate or from a parent)It doesn’t always look like a big deal (but it is!) & why the outside world does not understand your situation and often blame the victim to be the instigator.For current therapies, you can look up a Trauma Trained Therapist that uses one or a combo of these therapies:Brain Spotting is phenomenal and has long term benefitsSensorimotor PsychotherapySomatic Experiencing TherapyEMDRBrainspottingShannon’s recommended resources:"Psychopath Free: Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships with Narcissists, Sociopaths and Other Toxic People" & "Whole Again" Jackson MacKenzie“Why Does He Do That?” Lundy Bancroft"Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse" Shannon Thomas, LCSW"The Empath's Survival Guide" Judith Orloff, M.D."In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People" George K. Simon, Ph.D"Shadow Daughter: A Memoir of Estrangement" Harriet Brown (about a daughter with a mom who has a personality disorder)"Women Who Love Psychopaths: Inside the Relationships of Inevitable Harm with Psychopaths, Sociopaths & Narcissists" Sandra Brown, M.A."The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist: Recognizing the Traits and Finding Healing After Hidden, Emotional and Psychological Abuse" Debbie Mirza"Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving" Pete Walker, M.A.choosecourage.orgCome find Shannon at https://unlockingfortitude.com/ & on insta at shannonhigginslpcCome find me at angie-s.com & on Insta at @toooldforthisshitpodcast & @healthexpertangie
We're back after a week off, with the first of our guests from the Live to Love Conference: Ps Paul Martini. Paul joins Jo and Scott to talk about his new book, and what it's like to live out of the abiding love and peace of God, and how to work through our unbelief. Thanks for your patience as we had a week off! We were busy with our Live to Love conference featuring Heidi Baker, Will Hart and Paul Martini. For the next four episodes, we'll bring you interviews with our guests from the Iris Global and Life Center Ministries International. Pastor Paul Martini is an Associate Evangelist with Global Awakening, and an Associate Pastor at Life Center Ministries in Harrisburg, PA. Check the links below to find out more about Paul, his book, and the Live to Love conference. Resources/Links mentioned in this episode or helpful for Going Deeper: Website: Ps Paul Martini - Global Awakening Book: Access and Release God's Peace : From Chaos and Confusion to Freedom and Power Website: Life Center Ministries International Podcast: Paul's Previous Episode - Going Deeper: Peace and Process Facebook Video: Live to Love Conference Session: Abiding Facebook Video: Live to Love Conference Session: The Power of Peace Book: Francis Macnutt - Deliverance from Evil Spirits Book: George K. Simon - In Sheep's Clothing Get more info at Riverlife Church, and find us on Facebook and Instagram. Thanks to Tim Whittle for editing this episode. Music credit: Scott & Annie McKinnon, 'Revive'. Subscribe on iTunes, Stitcher, Android and Spotify.
This episode focuses on a topic that I have not yet covered on the blog or podcast to date; autism and being a survivor. So when Kelli Gettel contacted me and wanted to share her story of living with Autism, PTSD, Narcolepsy, and being raised by a Narcissistic parent, I knew this was going to be an episode that would be as educational as much as it will be inspiring. Kelli is an entrepreneur living in the central Pennsylvania area, and a parent of 3 children, including a 4 yr old who also was diagnosed with autism. As you'll hear on the podcast, Kelli has overcome tremendous odds in her life, as so many survivors do, and wants to help others understand life with the challenges she faces. By doing so she wants to educate others that these are not reasons to stay silent, isolated, and living in fear or shame. Rather, by utilizing the power of research and learning about your situation, you can find ways to adapt and overcome, and reach others with a positive, stigma fighting message. Some of her challenges we discuss on the show include: Life as a female, living on the autism spectrum; including when she was diagnosed, the struggles of non-verbal communication with others. How Narcolepsy affects her relationships, and how Narcolepsy can be a form of Dissociation. Sensory Struggles; the challenges of not being able to filter out surrounding sounds and distractions to be able to focus on a single event or conversation. Social Rules & Protocols - how she had to, and continues to learn how to interact in a social setting. Things that come natural to others have to be learned and adjusted too, which can cause struggles in relationships of all types. Her ability to think in pictures; in her mind she sees life in the form of pictures and moving images, so trying to translate that into words and communicate her thoughts can be a huge challenge. We also touch a bit on her life growing up with a parent who had narcissistic tendencies, and how she's learning more about understanding her alters and using the IFS model to help. As you'll also hear how Kelli is so proud of her youngest son, who, diagnosed with autism, taught himself to read before the age of two and is a huge Beatles fan, knowing every song they've ever written and nearly everything about the band. Which also leads into our chat about some of the things that she wants to share about how she's adapting to the daily struggles that multiple diagnoses can bring: Education has been so important to Kelli; especially reading books to help understand what she's experiencing, and make sense of the challenges in her life. She shares some of the books that she has found especially helpful; some of which you might recognize: The Body Keeps the Score - Bessel van der Kolk Neuro Tribes, The Legacy of Autism and the Future of Neurodiversity - Steve Silberman Boundaries - John Townsend & Henry Cloud In Sheep's Clothing - George K. Simon This was such an incredible podcast, and as you'll hear there was no way we could fit in everything that Kelli wanted to share, in just one show. So be on the lookout for future episodes with Kelli as we dive a bit deeper into particular areas of her life. If you'd like to connect with Kelli Gettel, you can reach her on Facebook. If you would like connect with her, she requests that you please be sure and let her know that you found her via the Beyond Your Past Podcast. Thank you again Kelli for joining me! Your story is inspiring, your resiliency is amazing! I look forward to future shows with you. Matthew Pappas, CLC, CPNLP Thank you to my incredible sponsors of the podcast - iNLPCenter.org and Daily Recovery Support All conversation and information exchanged on the Beyond Your Past Podcast, on BeyondYourPast.com, and BSupport the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/sPH8pMZ)
Victims of covert aggression (manipulation) don't often know why they feel so badly. They only know that they feel confused, anxious, or depressed. Gradually, however, they come to understand how dealing with a certain person in their lives makes them feel crazy. They get mad at them, but for some reason, end up feeling guilty themselves. They confront them about their behavior, only to end up on the defensive. Nothing they try seems to make things better. In the end, dealing with this person leaves them feeling confused, exploited and abused. Despite the fact that victims may be intelligent, resourceful and creative, most of the ways they've tried to understand and cope with the manipulative behaviors weren't getting them anywhere, and some things make matters worse. Tonight, with special guest, author Dr. George K. Simon, learn a new way to understand the character of manipulative people and be able to identify manipulative behavior WHEN IT OCCURS, to reduce the opportunities of being victimized.
Part 2 of a discussion about useful ideas in the book "In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People" by Dr. George K. Simon. Become A Patron of TVL to get bonus episodes and rewards!
How do you defend yourself against manipulative people? Part 1 of a discussion about some useful ideas in the book "In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People" by Dr. George K. Simon. Become A Patron of TVL to get bonus episodes and rewards!