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Can childhood aggression be an unexpected plea for help rather than a precursor to a violent future? Join us as we welcome Davina Hehn, a respected behavioral analyst, to shed light on the nuances of child aggression, particularly in the tumultuous waters of high-conflict separations. Together, we unravel the complex web of emotions that children might express as aggression due to their struggle for communication and emotional regulation. Listen in as Davina shares her expertise on why this behavior is more about a cry for understanding than a predictor of future violence, and how recognizing problematic adolescent aggression can serve as a crucial step in offering the right support.Family dynamics play a pivotal role in addressing aggression, and this episode uncovers the importance of involving the entire family in the therapeutic journey. We discuss how aggression often stems from feelings of isolation and how taking away a child's communication tools can exacerbate these feelings. We offer practical strategies to help families create a cohesive support network that includes trusted mentors and adults, emphasizing open communication to prevent escalation and foster mutual growth. Delve into the discussion on how transparent conversations about significant decisions, like sending a child away, can maintain a child's sense of agency and security.In times of crisis, finding the right response can make all the difference. Here, we highlight the benefits of mobile mental health crisis centers and creating a supportive care team over traditional police involvement, which can sometimes intensify conflicts. Our conversation touches on the power of community support and the impact of parental narratives on child behavior, encouraging proactive crisis planning and engaging children in discussions about trust. As we wrap up, Davina, also known as Aady Space, shares her mission of helping others find balance, inviting listeners to explore her compelling online presence for more guidance in navigating life's challenges.
Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)What does it really mean to be "trauma-informed" as a divorce coach? Beyond the buzzword, there's a profound responsibility to understand how trauma impacts our clients without overstepping our professional boundaries.Tracy and Debra dive deep into this increasingly popular term, clarifying that being trauma-informed isn't about taking one class or having experienced trauma yourself. Rather, it's developing a working knowledge of how trauma affects the brain, nervous system, and behavior—then intentionally creating safety in your coaching relationships.For divorce coaches, this understanding is crucial because divorce itself can be traumatizing. When clients apologize for crying, speak rapidly and scattered, or seem emotionally detached, these are often trauma responses. The magic happens not by diving into past wounds (that's therapy's domain), but by offering a different experience: one where clients feel heard, respected, and empowered to access their own wisdom.The most powerful revelation? Properly trained divorce coaches are already practicing trauma-informed care through client autonomy, co-regulation, and appropriate boundaries. When a client has experienced controlling relationships, simply asking "What feels right for you?" helps rebuild agency. When someone is emotionally dysregulated, your calm presence can help settle their nervous system enough to think clearly.Ready to strengthen your trauma-informed approach? Focus on continued learning about neuroscience, develop self-awareness around your triggers, participate in regular supervision, and remember that your presence—grounded in curiosity and compassion—is your most powerful tool. You don't need to be a trauma expert to create safety; you just need to honor your client's humanity and pace.Curious how this applies to your coaching practice? Connect with us on social media or at divorcecoachesacademy.com. Want to deepen these skills? Join our affordable case consultation group that meets twice monthly. Your commitment to this approach isn't just professional excellence—it's transformative for clients navigating one of life's most challenging transitions. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
Join us for a heartfelt and insightful conversation with Dinalynn Rosenbush, a seasoned speech and language pathologist and host of The Language of Play podcast. Together, we explore how to support children, particularly those with special needs, through the turbulence of high-conflict separations. Dinalynn shares her wealth of knowledge from both personal and professional experiences, shedding light on the profound impact parental separation can have on children. She emphasizes the importance of intentional communication and understanding the unique strengths and weaknesses of every child, regardless of their needs. Through her expertise, we discuss practical ways to help children feel secure and supported, ensuring they are not burdened by the tensions and anxieties that often accompany such challenging times.Additionally, we discuss effective strategies for explaining family changes like divorce to children, highlighting the role of body language and tone in communication. Discover how using toys or props can help clarify new family dynamics in a non-threatening manner, and learn about the soothing power of water play as a calming ritual to ease children's anxiety during post-visit transitions. By creating a safe space for open communication, we can help our children navigate these difficult changes with confidence and understanding. Don't miss this episode as Dinalynn offers invaluable insights and practical advice for parents facing the complexities of high-conflict separation.
Join us for an enlightening conversation with Gloria Vanderhorst, a distinguished psychologist whose five decades of experience provide a rich tapestry of insights into the world of male emotional expression. Gloria brings her depth of expertise to the forefront as we examine the constraints American cultural norms place on men's emotional vocabulary, beginning in childhood. Through her work with preschoolers, adolescents, and adults, Gloria unravels the complexities behind societal expectations that often suppress the natural emotional range boys are born with, impacting their capacity to form deep, intimate connections as they mature.Our discussion navigates the critical role of authenticity in relationships, particularly within the dynamics of co-parenting and negotiation. Gloria sheds light on the societal pressures demanding fearlessness and competence from boys, and how these pressures diverge from the expectations set for girls. We also tackle the nuanced experiences of gender-fluid children and the educational system's part in exploring gender identity. Moreover, we introduce a creative journaling concept that encourages self-expression beyond mere words, highlighting the therapeutic power of art in emotional processing. This episode challenges perceptions and inspires a broader understanding of emotional expression across life's various dimensions.
Dr. Karalynn Royster, a child psychologist from Colorado, joins us to unravel the complexities of co-parenting with a challenging ex-partner. She shares her expertise on creating a home environment where children can thrive despite the turmoil of separation. By focusing on the well-being of the children and allowing them time to adapt, Dr. Royster highlights key indicators of children struggling with these changes, like behavioral shifts and separation anxiety, and reminds us that trusting our parental intuition is crucial during these transitions.Navigating tough conversations with children is no small feat, especially when it involves sensitive subjects like family conflicts or parental separations. We explore the nuances of validating children's feelings, fostering open communication, and addressing misconceptions without overwhelming them with adult complexities. By reinforcing parental love and commitment, we aim to create a secure space for children to voice their concerns, ensuring they feel heard and supported even when complete transparency isn't possible.The emotional terrain of co-parenting becomes even more intricate with new partners entering the picture. Expert Dr. Josh Coleman provides insights into managing children's emotions and preparing them for the layered grief that can accompany these changes. We emphasize the significance of patience and understanding in high-conflict co-parenting scenarios, offering strategies to maintain stability. Additionally, we explore the value of supportive communities and resources like online groups and specialized programs, underscoring the importance of having a reliable network during these challenging times.
Confidence and assertiveness specialist Talia Bambola shares her invaluable expertise on the nuanced differences between assertiveness and aggression. With her background as a licensed marriage family therapist, Talia discusses the transformative journey from people-pleasing to setting firm boundaries and building confidence. Her insights are particularly relevant for those trapped in high-conflict co-parenting dynamics, where balancing personal needs with those of the family becomes crucial.High-conflict co-parenting presents unique challenges, especially when partners exhibit narcissistic traits or coercive control. Drawing from personal experiences and experts like Bill Eddy, we explore strategies to maintain the child's best interest amidst turbulent custody battles. Practical advice includes using "usefully awful" communication techniques that help defuse tensions while safeguarding your boundaries. By understanding the psychological underpinnings of high-conflict interactions, listeners can adopt more strategic approaches to manage these tense relationships.Effective communication and mediation strategies become vital when navigating the legal landscape of co-parenting. We emphasize the importance of preparation and long-term planning in crafting fair parenting plans and crossing legal hurdles. Talia's guidance includes using neutral language and staying prepared for any scenario, ensuring that all interactions hold up under scrutiny. As you work through these emotional and complex scenarios, building a robust support system and leveraging resources can make all the difference in fostering a healthier family dynamic.
Navigating a high-conflict divorce is overwhelming on its own — but when you're also raising a child with special needs? The legal, emotional, and logistical challenges multiply.In this important conversation, Sybil sits down with Dr. Susan Bernstein, a Certified Divorce Coach and expert in high-conflict divorce involving children with special needs. Drawing from her experience as both a professional and a mother of a child with severe special needs, Susan shares critical insights, concrete strategies, and the systemic gaps families must prepare for.Whether you're in the thick of a custody battle, advocating for services, or worried about long-term care and planning — this episode will offer clarity, hope, and tangible next steps.What You'll Learn:Why the divorce rate is significantly higher for parents of children with special needsHow high-conflict personalities often resist diagnosis or care for their child — and what that means for legal decision-makingThe long-term financial, medical, and educational planning you must include in your parenting planHow to structure a tiered parenting plan with clear benchmarks and consequencesThe importance of documenting behaviors instead of using psychological labels in courtWhy many parents of special needs kids don't get the relief of a countdown to 18 — and what long-term advocacy really looks likeThe surprising “silver lining” of divorce when it comes to planning for a child's lifelong careConnect w Dr. Susan:G: https://www.instagram.com/divorcecoach__plus/FB: https://www.facebook.com/SusanKBernsteincdcLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-susan-bernstein-new-york-s-premier-divorce-coach-5aa32510/https://www.divorcecoachplus.com/https://divorcewithspecialneedschildren.com/Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...
Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)Facing divorce and wondering what happens to your home? The decision to keep or sell the marital residence could be the most significant financial choice you make during your divorce—and getting it wrong might haunt you for years.Tami Wollensak, a divorce mortgage specialist with over 25 years of experience and certified divorce coach, pulls back the curtain on what really happens with mortgages during divorce. She reveals why so many people make catastrophic financial mistakes when it comes to the family home, often because they receive guidance from well-meaning professionals who lack specialized mortgage knowledge.Throughout our conversation, Tami breaks down complex concepts into practical insights: the true definition of home equity, how support payments affect mortgage qualification, and why your current mortgage payment bears little resemblance to what you might pay after divorce. She shares her own post-divorce homeownership struggles and offers a refreshingly honest take on why renting might be the smarter option for many.Most crucially, Tami explains the specific timing requirements for using support income to qualify for mortgages—information that even many attorneys don't understand. Did you know child support payments must be court-ordered, received consistently for six months, AND have at least 36 months remaining to count toward mortgage qualification? This single detail could make or break your ability to keep your home.Whether you're a divorce professional helping clients navigate this terrain or someone personally facing these decisions, this episode provides the mortgage literacy needed to avoid costly mistakes. Discover why consulting a divorce mortgage specialist early in the process could be the difference between post-divorce financial stability and distress.Ready to make informed decisions about your biggest asset? Tami is licensed in 32 states and has a team that can help with mortgage lending in all 50 states. She would be happy to chat.You can find Tami:Website: takeorleavethehouse.comInstagram: tami_wollensak Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
Could the secret to easier co-parenting be as simple as understanding your emotions? Licensed professional counselor and play therapist Jenny Hornby joins the conversation to explore this and more. Our discussion offers listeners a fascinating glimpse into the world of emotional regulation—a crucial skill for parents who must navigate their own feelings while helping children identify and manage theirs. Jenny provides valuable insights on how parents can avoid the trap of overprotective parenting and instead foster resilience and self-sufficiency in their children.The episode also delves into the intricate and often misunderstood areas of emotional incest and enmeshment within co-parenting dynamics. In a compassionate dialogue, We emphasize the importance of establishing boundaries and promoting individuation for children. We stress that creating a safe, non-judgmental environment for children to express their feelings is essential. This approach not only strengthens the child's emotional foundation but also helps concerned parents address these sensitive issues without blaming the unaware parent.Listeners are introduced to practical strategies that make transitions between parents smoother and less stressful for children. From completing activities before handoffs to developing comforting rituals, these small adjustments can have a significant impact. Jenny shares her creative approach to child therapy, incorporating play and warmth to help children feel supported. Her online presence, including "Miss Jenny's Neighborhood," offers additional resources for parents seeking guidance. This episode is a treasure trove of wisdom for anyone navigating the challenges of co-parenting and seeking to nurture emotionally resilient children.
Author and speaker Josh the Derelict joins us to share his unique insights on navigating the challenges of divorce and rediscovering one's identity through adversity. Josh's journey from feeling abandoned to embracing his true self is a testament to resilience and transformation. In this episode, Josh introduces his book, "The Five Traps Men Face when Going Through Divorce and How to Triumph Over Them," offering valuable tips on how preparation and understanding can lead to personal growth and self-discovery during a turbulent time.Navigating divorce isn't just about hiring a lawyer; it's about building a support system that covers all bases. Through personal stories and practical advice, we discuss the importance of choosing a well-rounded divorce team, including financial experts and emotional support systems. Josh highlights often-overlooked emotional and spiritual struggles men face during high-conflict divorces, emphasizing the need for support and recognition in reclaiming one's voice amidst societal expectations and biases.Prioritizing self-care and nurturing relationships, especially with children, can be pivotal during and after divorce. Josh sheds light on self-care practices that help maintain balance and promote healing. Additionally, we explore common pitfalls like rushing into new relationships and how focusing on self-improvement can lead to healthier dynamics. Tune in to learn more about Josh's journey and his latest book, "The Derelict Fight, Fail, Find Manhood," which offers guidance on overcoming divorce challenges and finding authentic masculinity.
Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)Divorce isn't just about legal paperwork and court proceedings—it's a deeply human journey that transforms families forever. What's often missing from traditional divorce approaches is acknowledgment of the emotional landscape, communication challenges, and the complex human dynamics that determine whether a family heals or fractures during separation.The "modern divorce ecosystem" is evolving rapidly as families seek alternatives to adversarial proceedings that often leave lasting damage. Today's divorcing couples want more than just legal settlements; they're looking for guidance on effective communication, co-parenting strategies, and paths toward emotional healing. This shift reflects broader societal changes and recognition that while conflict in divorce is inevitable, destructive conflict is optional.Divorce coaches occupy a unique position in this evolving landscape. Unlike attorneys or therapists, coaches focus specifically on developing practical skills that help clients navigate both the emotional and logistical challenges of divorce. They serve as objective thinking partners who help clients manage overwhelming emotions, prepare for difficult conversations, and build the communication skills necessary for productive conflict resolution. These skills prove especially crucial for parents who must transform their relationship from intimate partners to effective co-parents—a transition that impacts not just minor children but adult children and extended family as well.Professional collaboration represents another significant trend, with family law attorneys, mediators, and mental health professionals increasingly recognizing the value divorce coaches bring to the process. Some law firms now employ in-house coaches, while many professionals are adding coaching skills to their own toolkit, finding that this approach not only better serves clients but also reduces the burnout rates common in family law practice.Ready to learn more about how divorce coaching can transform family transitions or enhance your professional practice? Our next certification programs begin July 6th for Australia/New Zealand and July 20th for the US. Connect with us at divorcecoachesacademy.com to join a growing movement that's changing how families experience divorce. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
Michele Locke, a seasoned attorney and former domestic violence judge, brings her wealth of experience to our latest episode. We tackle the tough issues of family court, addressing concerns about judicial integrity and the toll of compassion fatigue on judges. Michele gives us a front-row seat to the complexities of protective orders and child protective services cases, highlighting the challenges of ensuring justice while managing the emotional impacts on all involved. Learn how family courts strive to remain impartial arenas, even as they grapple with the re-traumatization of domestic violence victims.Navigating the turbulent waters of family law requires clarity and focus, especially during emotionally charged divorce proceedings. This episode underscores the importance of crafting concise, Super Bowl commercial-like presentations in court. We explore the hurdles of standardized parenting plans that often fail to address the unique dynamics of each family. Michele shares insights into the power struggles and negotiation difficulties that can arise, particularly when personality disorders are at play. With her guidance, listeners can better understand how to manage these difficult interactions and prepare effectively for the challenges ahead.The episode also focuses on strategic communication, a vital skill during contentious divorce litigation. Discover the BIF approach—Brief, Informative, Firm, and Friendly—as a method to maintain composure and protect long-term interests. We discuss the importance of mental health management, offering practical tips like journaling and therapy, and dispelling fears about the impact of seeking mental health treatment on court outcomes. Equip yourself with the tools to handle the emotional strain of family court and safeguard your well-being throughout this challenging journey.Michele Locke's new podcast, lovelustlaw, premieres July 1! Find it wherever you listen to podcasts. This gripping series goes beyond the headlines and into the courtroom chaos of real-life relationship fallout. From celebrity divorces to deadly love stories, Michele unpacks the legal twists, emotional turns, and shocking truths behind modern relationships.
In this episode, I sit down with midlife transformation coach Debra Donenfeld of Photosynthesis Coaching, who brings 14 years of coaching experience and a deeply soulful yet no-nonsense approach to helping people thrive through major life transitions. Together, we explore how to communicate effectively during high conflict divorce, even when emotions are running high and your ex seems to know exactly how to push your buttons. If every text, email, or conversation feels like walking through a minefield, this episode is for you. You'll learn the real reason to keep your cool—not to “be the bigger person,” but to stay grounded in your power. What You'll Learn in This Episode: The #1 reason to keep your cool—even when your ex is throwing verbal grenades Why focusing on behavior instead of content is the key to de-escalating conflict The power of the pause: a simple technique to create space between reaction and response How to shift out of victim mode and into self-empowerment Practical communication strategies you can use with your ex, your children, and even yourself We also talk about the critical role of self-awareness, how to stop taking the bait, and how to avoid emotional hijacking in moments of tension. Check the show notes - Debra is offering a free 45-minute consultation for listeners ready to step into calm, confident communication during this challenging chapter. This episode is full of wisdom, tools, and compassionate guidance to help you reclaim your voice—and your peace—during high conflict divorce. Connect with Deborah: Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/deborahdonenfeld/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/photosynthesiscoaching/ Free 45-minute consultation: https://calendly.com/deborahdonenfeld-photosynthesis/45min Resources Mentioned in this episode: Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com Join the High Conflict Divorce Support Group: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/hcdsg A word from our sponsor: Let's talk about sleep... especially during those hot summer nights. If you've ever tossed and turned, sweating through your sheets, you're not alone. That's why I'm so excited to share Cozy Earth with you. I personally use their bamboo sheets, and they've completely transformed how I sleep—cooler, more comfortably, and without waking up in a sweat. The fabric is naturally temperature-regulating and moisture-wicking, which means better rest for you. Their All Day Tee is a favorite in my house—soft, breathable, and perfect for staying cool during busy days. And don't even get me started on the Studio Pant Collection—comfort and style in one perfect piece. Even better? You can try it all risk-free. With a 100-night sleep trial and a 10-year warranty on bedding, you have nothing to lose—and so much sleep to gain. ✨ Upgrade your summer. Go to cozyearth.com and use code JBD for 40% off their best-selling temperature-regulating sheets, apparel, and more. You'll feel the difference from night one.
Parenting teenagers through the tumultuous waters of divorce, separation, and co-parenting just became a little clearer thanks to our guest, parenting coach Mike Barsamian. With a rich background in understanding teenage behavior, Mike equates their journey to walking a tightrope, balancing precariously between the realms of childhood and adulthood. Together, we unpack the concept of "code switching" as teenagers navigate varying rules and values in each parent's home. Mike offers actionable advice on establishing consistent routines, helping parents create a supportive environment amidst familial shifts.As we explore the journey of parenting through divorce, Mike sheds light on the challenges of rebuilding self-esteem and identity when an ex-partner's influence might be negative. Emphasizing the transition from nurturing young children to guiding teenagers, we discuss the PACE method, which fosters emotional regulation, accountability, and empathy. The marathon metaphor serves as a reminder that the parenting journey focuses on supporting teenagers into adulthood without seeking personal accolades, helping them develop good judgment and a robust sense of identity.Empathy and collaboration emerge as vital themes in improving communication and reducing conflict, particularly with ex-spouses and teenagers returning from visits. Mike shares strategies to avoid defensiveness and foster open dialogue through curiosity and empathy. We stress the importance of appreciation over admiration and encourage self-reflection to nurture stronger relationships. For those seeking further guidance, Mike offers resources and strategy sessions through PresenceSolutionsForParents.com. Engaging deeply with these insights can transform the parenting experience, making it both rewarding and effective.
Unlock the secrets to protecting your child's emotional well-being amidst the turmoil of high-conflict divorce. Our guest, clinical psychologist Dave Marcus, sheds light on the profound psychological effects parental disputes can have on children of all ages. From toddlers who internalize parental tension to teenagers caught in the crossfire, discover how these dynamics shape a child's identity and mental health. Dave shares a heart-wrenching case of a former child client who carried the scars of parental conflict into adulthood, underscoring the urgency of creating a nurturing environment for children to express their emotions safely.Explore the complexities of divided loyalty and the troubling phenomena of parent alienation syndrome that can arise during custody battles. Dave provides invaluable insights into recognizing warning signs and the critical role of early intervention, including child therapy and reunification strategies, in mending fractured relationships. We discuss the challenges presented by parents with narcissistic tendencies and stress the importance of accountability in preventing further emotional harm to children. With real-life examples, these conversations emphasize the necessity of prioritizing the child's best interests above all else.Gain a deeper understanding of how parental relationships, even those marred by conflict, deeply impact a child's development and emotional health. Dave delves into the nuanced emotional landscapes of children, explaining how love and hate can coexist in delicate balance. Strategies for breaking destructive patterns are discussed, equipping parents with tools to foster healthier family dynamics. Discover effective communication techniques that can transform family interactions, drawing on Dave's expertise and his book "Parent Rx," to help families navigate high-conflict situations with compassion and clarity.
What if you could navigate your divorce with calm, clarity, and even collaboration, no matter how high the conflict? In this powerful episode of the Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast, host Karen McMahon sits down with internationally renowned mediator and author of Keeping the Calm, Hesha Abrams, to explore how to stay grounded, communicate effectively, and maintain your personal power during a high-conflict divorce. Together, they dive into the emotional and practical challenges of divorce, including handling custody battles, negotiating financial settlements, and co-parenting with a difficult ex. Hesha shares proven strategies for emotional regulation, boundary-setting, and productive negotiation that can help you stay calm, protect your well-being, and create more peaceful outcomes for you and your children. You'll learn how diplomacy and firm boundaries can work together to shift power dynamics, de-escalate conflict, and keep communication focused and intentional. Whether you're just beginning your divorce journey or already in the thick of it, this conversation offers tools to help you protect your peace and make empowered decisions throughout the process. Hesha Abrams is an internationally acclaimed master attorney, mediator, negotiator, and deal-maker with over 30 years of experience resolving complex and high-profile disputes. She has worked with companies such as Apple, Google, Amazon, Facebook, IBM, and Verizon, and is known for mediating the landmark case involving the secret formula for Pepsi. Her work spans from multinational corporations to individuals navigating deeply personal conflicts, bringing clarity, resolution, and peace to even the most challenging situations. Connect with Hesha: Holding The Calm - The Book: www.holdingthecalm.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hesha-abrams-esq/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HeshaAbramsHoldingTheCalm YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPcPngGiIF-GlC8w1l3sH8A Resources Mentioned in this episode: Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com Join the High Conflict Divorce Support Group: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/hcdsg
Join us as we welcome the insightful Theresa Inman, a board-certified behavior analyst, who sheds light on the complexities of aggressive behavior in children, especially within high-conflict divorces. Theresa brings her extensive experience to the table, explaining how children often mirror the behaviors they observe, sometimes resulting in aggression. We explore the misconceptions around children's innate understanding of behavior and stress the importance of mindful exposure to adult actions, media, and language for guiding children towards positive development.Throughout our discussion, we tackle the sensitive topics of domestic violence and its profound impact on children. Theresa shares personal stories and expert insights, emphasizing the crucial need for love, security, and authenticity in a child's environment. We question the controversial advice for co-parents to present a united front while highlighting the importance of transparent communication to foster a sense of safety and trust. This conversation is not just about identifying problems but also offering practical strategies, such as seeking professional guidance and modeling healthy conflict resolution, to empower parents and children alike.The episode wraps up by celebrating the supportive relationship between Theresa and myself, underlining our shared commitment to helping individuals navigate their challenges. We express deep gratitude for each other's contributions and look forward to further collaborations. By sharing our experiences and insights, we aim to provide listeners with valuable tools and encouragement in facing similar situations, ultimately strengthening family bonds and promoting healthy emotional expression.
Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)The irreplaceable human element of divorce coaching remains vital in an increasingly AI-driven world, with experienced coaches providing emotional intelligence and authentic connection that technology cannot replicate. We explore why artificial intelligence tools can supplement but never substitute the nuanced support, personalized guidance, and trauma-informed approaches that human coaches offer during life's most challenging transitions.• AI tools can help with administrative tasks but cannot read subtle emotional cues or provide genuine human connection• Experienced coaches draw from personal and professional knowledge to offer nuanced advice tailored to individual values and situations• "Compassionate boundaries" balance validation with accountability when emotions cloud judgment• Real-time adaptation allows coaches to pivot instantly when clients face unexpected developments• Trauma-informed approaches help coaches recognize signs of abuse that AI might miss• The coaching relationship itself models healthy communication and boundary-setting for future relationships• Technology works best as a supplement rather than a replacement for human coachingJoin us on July 23rd when Anne Wintemute from AmieeSays will join us to explore AI-driven tools for those in unhealthy relationships. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
Join us as we engage in a thought-provoking conversation with Stacey Womack, the visionary founder and executive director of Abuse Recovery Ministry and Services (ARMS). Stacey shares her invaluable insights into domestic violence intervention programs, shedding light on how these initiatives aim to help individuals, primarily men, recognize and change abusive behaviors by altering their underlying belief systems. We address prevalent misconceptions about abusers, emphasizing that domestic violence cuts across socioeconomic, racial, and religious lines. Stacey also outlines the various pathways individuals take to enter these programs, noting that a significant portion are court-ordered, while others are motivated by family or community encouragement. Our discussion underscores the importance of accountability and prioritizing victim safety within these interventions, revealing the complexities of fostering change in individuals who may not initially see themselves as the problem.Additionally, we explore the dynamics of male-female co-facilitation in domestic violence programs, particularly in Oregon, highlighting the benefits of presenting both masculine and feminine perspectives in therapeutic settings. By modeling healthy relationships and shared power, facilitators provide participants with a balanced partnership example. Our conversation delves into the challenges and indicators of progress among group members, stressing the importance of accountability and recognizing personal choices in behavior. Stacey explains the structure and duration of these programs, which typically last around 48 weeks, with ongoing aftercare support available. We also touch on the potential setbacks some individuals face post-program and celebrate the rewarding stories of those who successfully integrate the lessons learned into new, healthier relationships. Listen in as we uncover the impactful work being done to transform lives and foster lasting change.
Lisa Johnson's expertise in high-conflict divorce and co-parenting presents a valuable perspective for parents facing difficult dynamics with adult children. The episode could explore strategies for maintaining stability, resilience, and effective communication amidst turbulent family relationships.Want to be a guest on ABCs of Parenting Adult Children? Send James Moffitt a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/parentingadultchildren
How does the court system handle the delicate issue of one parent turning their children against the other during a contentious divorce? Discover the insights of Jonathan Breeden, a divorce attorney with decades of experience, as he unravels the complexities of high-conflict co-parenting. With a focus on parental alienation, Jonathan shares stories and strategies that highlight the need for effective communication and resolution, both in and out of the courtroom. You'll gain a better understanding of the limitations of legal interventions and the importance of proactive approaches to protect family dynamics and children's well-being.Jonathan's journey from a fierce litigator to a resolution-focused attorney provides a unique perspective on the evolving landscape of divorce law. He emphasizes the importance of efficiency, communication, and the role of younger attorneys in fostering amicable resolutions. While most divorces can conclude within months, he acknowledges the heavy toll of prolonged high-conflict cases on families. His free book, "Divorce Law in North Carolina: What You Need to Know," offers further insights into these challenges, helping listeners navigate their own journeys with informed strategies.Uncover the lasting impact of high-conflict divorces on children through poignant anecdotes and expert advice. From managing children's expressed preferences in custody battles to dealing with the repercussions of parental lifestyles, Jonathan sheds light on the intricate challenges parents face in court. Gain valuable knowledge on crafting effective parenting plans, managing high-conflict communication, and addressing issues like substance abuse and domestic violence. This episode is a comprehensive guide for those seeking to maintain healthy co-parenting relationships while safeguarding their children's emotional health.
Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)Divorce has a reputation for bringing out surprising behaviors in otherwise composed, reasonable people. Even the most patient parent might find themselves sending aggressive texts at 2 AM. The kindest spouse might suddenly become fixated on revenge. The most logical professional might make financially devastating decisions based purely on emotion.Why does this happen? In this episode, we explore the psychological underpinnings of why good people often behave badly during divorce. We unpack the popular saying that "criminal courts see bad people on their best day, while divorce courts see good people on their worst day" - a profound truth that helps us understand the perfect storm of emotional, practical, and identity challenges divorce creates.When someone faces the end of their marriage, they're not just untangling a relationship - they're grieving the life they expected to have. This grief, combined with practical pressures like custody arrangements and financial concerns, pushes many into survival mode. And when we're in survival mode, our capacity for rational thinking diminishes dramatically.As divorce coaches, we've developed specific approaches for working with clients caught in reactive emotional states. We share practical techniques for creating judgment-free spaces where clients can explore what's really happening beneath their anger, fear, or revenge fantasies. Through powerful questions that invite self-awareness, we help clients align their behavior with their true values and long-term goals.Whether you're a helping professional working with divorcing clients or someone navigating your own divorce journey, this conversation offers compassionate insights into the emotional complexity of ending a marriage. Remember, reacting emotionally doesn't make someone a bad person - it makes them human. With the right support, these challenging moments can become opportunities for profound growth and self-discovery. Divorce often brings emotional chaos—and as attorneys, mediators, financial advisors, divorce coaches, and dispute resolution professionals, you're tasked with guiding clients through it.Join us for a practical and engaging LinkedIn Learning webinar:“From Chaos to Clarity: Strategies for Work with High Emotional Clients in Divorce" Learn more and RSVP Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
Join us for an inspiring conversation with Jackie Zamora, a talented Dominican dancer from Brooklyn, New York, as she shares her journey of founding Zam Dance, a transformative dance program for individuals with disabilities. Listen in as Jackie opens up about her personal experiences with mental abuse during childhood, which led her to seek solace and healing through dance. Jackie emphasizes the importance of expressing pain through creative outlets and how dance can provide a sense of safety, helping individuals overcome feelings of emptiness and loss. We also explore the challenges children, particularly those with disabilities, face in expressing their emotions, and the crucial roles that love and understanding play in their healing process.In this engaging episode, Jackie discusses how her program, ZAMDANZ, creates a supportive community where children with disabilities can feel accepted and express themselves through music and dance. With a focus on the therapeutic power of Latin music genres like merengue, Jackie highlights the joy and acceptance that children experience within this welcoming space. We also touch upon the positive impact on parents, who find camaraderie and identity beyond caregiving in the "ZAM moms" community. As Jackie shares her aspirations to expand ZAMDANZ globally, she invites listeners to connect with her online and explore the profound human connection dance offers. Don't miss this opportunity to experience the energy and passion that Jackie brings to the world through her innovative program.
Anastasia Arauz, a seasoned co-parenting counselor, joins us to unravel the complex world of co-parenting during high-conflict divorces and custody battles. Through her expert lens, Anastasia demystifies common misconceptions and fears, such as confronting an ex-partner in counseling or doubting the effectiveness of these sessions. She clarifies the nuanced differences between the roles of a parenting coordinator and a co-parenting counselor, highlighting the essential focus on addressing underlying beliefs and values in parenting. Anastasia emphasizes the critical importance of self-awareness and setting boundaries as foundational steps before embarking on co-parenting counseling, always with the children's well-being as the ultimate priority.Listeners can expect a thoughtful exploration of effective strategies for co-parenting, underscored by the necessity of structured goals and open-mindedness. We delve into the logistical and emotional challenges parents face when their opinions clash and how, at times, legal intervention may be unavoidable. Anastasia provides valuable insights into the impact of co-parenting decisions on children's well-being, addressing often overlooked issues like diet and schooling. As we wrap up, she urges parents to shift their focus from past relationships to creating a healthy environment for their kids, offering additional support via her Instagram and website for those navigating these challenging dynamics.
Amanda McCoy Flanagan, an award-winning author, writing coach, and grief recovery expert, joins us to unpack the tangled emotions tied to grief and personal empowerment. Amanda shares her wisdom on navigating the emotional labyrinth of high-conflict situations like divorce and toxic relationships, where guilt often shadows the path to healing. With her guidance, we challenge ourselves to view writing as a therapeutic process—transforming our pain into narratives of purpose and self-discovery. Amanda illuminates the journey of turning loss into a significant catalyst for personal growth and celebrates the resilience within the human spirit, encouraging us to embrace healing as a continuous journey rather than a final destination.Together, we explore the transformative potential of facing pain head-on, revealing how the process can unlock emotional maturity and authenticity. Amanda sheds light on the importance of addressing unresolved childhood wounds to break recurring relational patterns, ultimately leading to healthier connections in our lives. As we discuss the adventure of rediscovering one's self-worth post-relationship, Amanda offers practical tools for overcoming fear and stepping into self-awareness. From building supportive communities to crafting a "greater gratitude list," this episode provides listeners with the resources needed to navigate the complexities of grief and emerge more empowered than ever before.
Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)The divorce coaching industry harbors a dangerous trend that's causing unnecessary harm to families across the country. In this eye-opening episode, Debra and Tracy tackle the phenomenon of "high-conflict divorce coaching" – an approach that frames every challenging divorce as a battle requiring warfare tactics rather than resolution strategies.We pull back the curtain on what legitimate professional divorce coaching actually is and contrast it with the predatory marketing of high-conflict approaches that capitalize on fear. These programs effectively encourage clients to spend more money on their divorce, complicate the process, extend timelines, and create lasting damage – all while promising to help them "win" against their ex.Through real-life examples, we reveal the staggering financial and emotional costs of choosing the high-conflict route. One client spent $80,000 on legal fees and was two years into her divorce without even reaching a temporary agreement – not because of complex assets or genuine safety concerns, but because both parties had adopted a battle mindset. We discuss how this approach operates on flawed assumptions: that you can change your spouse's behavior, that every difficult divorce involves a personality-disordered individual, and that being in constant "defense mode" is necessary.As an alternative, we outline what to look for in a divorce coach or training program: someone focused on resolution rather than winning, who emphasizes communication strategies, emotional regulation, and clear decision-making. The truth is that the outcomes are typically the same whether you take the high-conflict route or a more measured approach – the only difference is you haven't spent years in litigation or hundreds of thousands of dollars unnecessarily.Whether you're navigating divorce yourself, supporting someone who is, or considering becoming a divorce coach, this conversation provides crucial guidance for making choices that truly serve your long-term goals and your well being. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
Uncover essential strategies for navigating the intricate and emotionally charged world of childhood sexual assault allegations within the context of separation and custody disputes. We promise you'll gain invaluable insights from our guest, Brian, a seasoned trial attorney from Greenberg Gross, who shares his extensive expertise in handling these sensitive cases. His guidance is indispensable for those confronting the heartbreaking reality of abuse allegations, particularly when they're intertwined with the complexities of family litigation.With careful attention to the crucial legal steps involved, our discussion guides you through responding to child abuse allegations. We emphasize the importance of believing and supporting the child, and outline how to engage effectively with law enforcement and Child Protective Services. Our conversation highlights the vital role of documentation and specialized police departments in safeguarding the child's well-being. This episode ensures clarity in navigating this challenging legal landscape, equipping families with the knowledge to protect their most vulnerable members.We also explore the unsettling realm of child grooming and manipulation by perpetrators, looking at the tactics used to gain a child's trust and silence them. Recognizing these signs is crucial for parents and guardians, and our discussion offers practical advice for vigilance and action. By focusing on advocacy, trauma recovery, and the role of specialized therapy, we aim to empower families to support and heal survivors. This episode serves as both a guide and a source of hope, directing listeners toward resources that can assist in the healing journey.
Jennie Garth continues her conversation with divorce coach Samantha Boss. Co-parenting can be a landmine, and Samantha is telling you why you must drop the act and stop pretending everything is OK for the sake of your kids. Unsure how to navigate your kids' birthday party now that you're co-parenting? Summer break vacation giving you anxiety because of your toxic ex? Samantha has the best tips on how to handle it! Email us at: IDOPOD@iheartradio.com or call us at 844-4-I Do Pod (844-443-6763)Follow I Do, Part 2 on Instagram and TikTokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Jennie Garth continues her conversation with divorce coach Samantha Boss. Co-parenting can be a landmine, and Samantha is telling you why you must drop the act and stop pretending everything is OK for the sake of your kids. Unsure how to navigate your kids' birthday party now that you're co-parenting? Summer break vacation giving you anxiety because of your toxic ex? Samantha has the best tips on how to handle it! Email us at: IDOPOD@iheartradio.com or call us at 844-4-I Do Pod (844-443-6763)Follow I Do, Part 2 on Instagram and TikTokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Jennie Garth continues her conversation with divorce coach Samantha Boss. Co-parenting can be a landmine, and Samantha is telling you why you must drop the act and stop pretending everything is OK for the sake of your kids. Unsure how to navigate your kids' birthday party now that you're co-parenting? Summer break vacation giving you anxiety because of your toxic ex? Samantha has the best tips on how to handle it! Email us at: IDOPOD@iheartradio.com or call us at 844-4-I Do Pod (844-443-6763)Follow I Do, Part 2 on Instagram and TikTokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Jennie Garth continues her conversation with divorce coach Samantha Boss. Co-parenting can be a landmine, and Samantha is telling you why you must drop the act and stop pretending everything is OK for the sake of your kids. Unsure how to navigate your kids' birthday party now that you're co-parenting? Summer break vacation giving you anxiety because of your toxic ex? Samantha has the best tips on how to handle it! Email us at: IDOPOD@iheartradio.com or call us at 844-4-I Do Pod (844-443-6763)Follow I Do, Part 2 on Instagram and TikTokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Jennie Garth continues her conversation with divorce coach Samantha Boss. Co-parenting can be a landmine, and Samantha is telling you why you must drop the act and stop pretending everything is OK for the sake of your kids. Unsure how to navigate your kids' birthday party now that you're co-parenting? Summer break vacation giving you anxiety because of your toxic ex? Samantha has the best tips on how to handle it! Email us at: IDOPOD@iheartradio.com or call us at 844-4-I Do Pod (844-443-6763)Follow I Do, Part 2 on Instagram and TikTokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Jennie Garth continues her conversation with divorce coach Samantha Boss. Co-parenting can be a landmine, and Samantha is telling you why you must drop the act and stop pretending everything is OK for the sake of your kids. Unsure how to navigate your kids' birthday party now that you're co-parenting? Summer break vacation giving you anxiety because of your toxic ex? Samantha has the best tips on how to handle it! Email us at: IDOPOD@iheartradio.com or call us at 844-4-I Do Pod (844-443-6763)Follow I Do, Part 2 on Instagram and TikTokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Jennie Garth continues her conversation with divorce coach Samantha Boss. Co-parenting can be a landmine, and Samantha is telling you why you must drop the act and stop pretending everything is OK for the sake of your kids. Unsure how to navigate your kids' birthday party now that you're co-parenting? Summer break vacation giving you anxiety because of your toxic ex? Samantha has the best tips on how to handle it! Email us at: IDOPOD@iheartradio.com or call us at 844-4-I Do Pod (844-443-6763)Follow I Do, Part 2 on Instagram and TikTokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Jennie Garth continues her conversation with divorce coach Samantha Boss. Co-parenting can be a landmine, and Samantha is telling you why you must drop the act and stop pretending everything is OK for the sake of your kids. Unsure how to navigate your kids' birthday party now that you're co-parenting? Summer break vacation giving you anxiety because of your toxic ex? Samantha has the best tips on how to handle it! Email us at: IDOPOD@iheartradio.com or call us at 844-4-I Do Pod (844-443-6763)Follow I Do, Part 2 on Instagram and TikTokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Text us your feedback or questions - we'd love to hear from you.They were supposed to be spending their golden years traveling, relaxing, and maybe spoiling any grandkids. Instead? They spent two years locked in a bitter divorce that racked up over $100K in legal fees—and that's just one side.In this episode, I'm walking you through the story of my client "Jeremy," a retired man who did everything right. He offered fair settlements. He tried to keep it calm. He just wanted to move on with his life. But his ex was stuck in anger—and her attorney wasn't there to solve problems, only escalate them.You'll hear how a judge finally stepped in with a scolding from the bench, and why it still took two years, multiple court hearings, and over $100,000 (double that for both sides!) before a resolution.But this isn't just about one couple. It's about what happens when you let anger run the show: the stress, the time lost, the way it impacts your health, your family, and your future.Whether you're the one feeling angry or you're up against someone who is—this episode will help you understand what's really at stake, and how to stop the madness.We're unpacking:How a “simple” divorce turned into a financial and emotional nightmareWhy fear often hides behind deep-rooted angerThe mental and physical toll of prolonged litigation (including health scares)Why grown kids start pulling away when things get messyHow some attorneys thrive on conflict—and drag things outThe moment a judge said, “This should've settled long ago”How divorce mediation could've changed everythingMEDIATION STARTER GUIDE: https://mailchi.mp/2939c428981d/mediation-resources WATCH ON YOUTUBE: The Splitting Smart PodcastFOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM: Instagram.com/saperelawfirmJOIN THE CONVERSATION ON FACEBOOK: Facebook.com/saperelawfirmNEED QUALITY LEGAL HELP? Visit Sapere Law & MediationNEED SOME ENCOURAGMENT? Kelly wrote a book just for YOU: Victim Is Not Your Name: Remembering Your True Identity In the Midst of Life Challenges
“My spouse is not going to allow for a peaceful divorce—no matter how much I want that.”Karen McMahon joins me for this special episode of the podcast to answer an important question: “How do I navigate divorce with a high-conflict partner?” Karen is the Founder of Journey Beyond Divorce and the Host of The Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast. She has 14+ years of coaching experience guiding 650+ clients through the legal and emotional battles of high-conflict divorce. In this episode, Karen shares her personal story of high-conflict marriage, divorce, and co-parenting through it all to help you navigate your own struggle. Listen in to our conversation about how to prepare for an UNpeaceful divorce (even if you're trying for peace). We also talk about how even one peaceful person can break generational dysfunction and the oft-overlooked impact of divorce on our adult children (and our relationships with them).aStruggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.
Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)When children become pawns in their parents' divorce battles, the emotional damage can last a lifetime. Triangulation—the process where children are drawn into parental conflict—affects over 80% of high-conflict divorces and significantly increases children's risk for anxiety, depression, and relationship difficulties well into adulthood.In this compelling deep dive, Debra and Tracy unpack the three distinct forms of triangulation that plague divorcing families. They explore how children become direct participants in conflict when used as messengers or interrogated about the other parent's home. They reveal the subtle yet equally harmful pattern where children feel caught in the middle even when parents believe they're shielding them from tension. And they examine the most damaging form—when parents deliberately draw children into coalitions against the other parent through criticism, loyalty tests, and false narratives.What makes this conversation particularly valuable is the practical coaching framework offered for helping parents recognize and break these destructive patterns. Through awareness-building questions, perspective-shifting exercises, and concrete strategies—from establishing direct adult communication to creating emotional safety zones—listeners gain tools to guide families toward healthier dynamics. The powerful question at the heart of this work resonates throughout: "Do you want to give your children a child-centered divorce or a divorce-centered childhood?"Whether you're a divorce professional working with high-conflict families or a parent navigating co-parenting challenges, this episode provides insight into transforming harmful patterns into opportunities for healing. Because when parents take accountability and keep children out of adult conflicts, they're not just breaking a cycle—they're building resilience that will serve their children for years to come. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)We're pleased to welcome back Anne-Marie Cade, our DCA Director of Learning and Development for Australia. And she's here with some very exciting news.Anne-Marie along with fellow DCA certified divorce coaches Amy Voller, Tahli Fitzpatrick and Marg Doherty have launched the Divorce Coaches Institute Australia (DCIA).Alongside their international colleagues, they identified a critical need to establish a secure and ethically driven service for Australians undergoing separation or divorce. Recognizing the absence of regulations in the coaching industry, they were increasingly concerned about the lack of ethical standards and professional oversight and the absence of support for clients in the event of an unsuccessful coaching relationship.All coaches admitted to DCIA are vetted and have been certified through select reputable and approved international training providers. Their coaches adhere to professional standards and follow a code of ethics, which ensures the well-being of clients and maintains the integrity of our profession.Listen in to learn how Anne-Marie and her colleagues are raising the bar on professional standards in Australia.Learn more about DCIA and find a coach:Divorce Coaches Institute Australia website Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
If you're navigating a high-conflict divorce or co-parenting dynamic, documentation isn't just helpful—it's critical. In this powerful episode, we're joined by Bridget Bennett, Legal Strategist, Custody Specialist, and founder of Breaking Badass Coaching. With over 20 years in the legal field, Bridget is a Certified High Conflict Custody & Divorce Coach, a professional paralegal, and a fierce advocate for families affected by abuse and coercive control. She shares the most common (and costly) documentation mistakes she sees clients make—and how to avoid them. Whether you're working with an attorney or going pro se, this episode is packed with tips to help you protect yourself, advocate for your children, and show up stronger in family court.Connect with Bridget: https://www.breakingbadasscoaching.com/
Scholars are discovering “high conflict divorces” are often cases of domestic violence and child abuse.
In this heartfelt episode of Persistence U with Lizbeth, Emily Moon, a therapist and high-conflict divorce specialist, shares her personal and professional journey of resilience. From navigating her own challenges to helping families and individuals redefine their identities after loss or crisis, Emily provides actionable insights on how to rebuild your life with grace and purpose.Emily discusses how embracing gratitude, exploring new experiences, and learning to let go can help anyone facing major life transitions. Whether you're navigating a divorce, recovering from a loss, or simply seeking clarity in a new chapter of life, her wisdom is sure to inspire.You Will Learn:How to rediscover yourself: Why exploring your likes and dislikes can help you rebuild your identity after a crisis.The role of gratitude in resilience: How practicing gratitude, even during tough times, shifts your mindset from scarcity to abundance.Navigating relationships post-divorce: Tips on fostering healthy boundaries and supporting children during high-conflict separations.Connect with Emily Moon:Website: EmilyMoon.life (divorce support and resilience resources)Lizbeth's links Want to comment on the show? Connect at Lizbeth's author/podcast Facebook page Lizbeth's memoir Pieces of Me: Rescuing My Kidnapped Daughters can be ordered where books are sold, and is now a TV movie, #Stolen By Their Father on Lifetime.Lizbeth's second book, Grounded in Grit: Turn Your Challenges Into Superpowers is available to order wherever books are sold! Tilka Faces the Odds, One Man at a Time, new release novel https://books2read.com/u/4j760X Sign up to stay in the know on Lizbeth's latest podcast episodes, books, and appearances at https://lameredith.com
Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)In this episode, we're diving into a topic that shows up with almost every client at some point: that sticky, frustrating, and sometimes paralyzing feeling that this just isn't fair.Whether it's the division of assets, custody arrangements, or just the emotional fallout, so many clients come into the process believing they've been wronged—and they often have been! But here's the challenge: when someone is stuck in a story of injustice, it can completely block their ability to make empowered decisions. And that's where we come in.Today, we're going to unpack where that feeling comes from, what it does to your client's mindset, and offer these six coaching strategies you can use to help them move from frozen to forward.Normalize the feelingShift from fairness to empowermentReframe the narrativeUse future-focused visualizationIntroduce functional fairnessAnchor in core valuesRemember...You're not just helping your clients “get through” this. You're helping them build resilience, clarity, and agency in one of the hardest seasons of their lives.And that's powerful work. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)Joining us today is Anne Wintemute, CEO of Aimee Says, an AI driven platform that empowers survivors of relationship abuse to recognize, respond, and recover.Anne is a dedicated and visionary leader, currently serving as the Co-Founder and CEO of Aimee Says. She is also the founder of A Garden Grows, a consultancy offering vital support services to women experiencing post-separation abuse. Anne is passionate about transforming the discourse around intimate partner violence and advocating for a narrative that holds perpetrators accountable.Aimee Says is a free tool to help clients recognize coercive control and abuse, manage communication, strategize and achieve better outcomes for themselves and their children.Listen in as Anne share all the ways Aimee can support both your coaching relationship and your client with confidential compassion and guidance. From identifying red flags to crafting responses to preparing for court, Aimee Says is the BFF survivors need to have in their back pocket. Aimee Says also encourages a collaborative team approach where clients can share their account with professionals who are supporting them.And for those of you in our DCA Coach Community, Anne will be joining us for a free Lunch & Learn on 7/23 at 12pm ET. Please mark your calendar to join us so you can see a demo of Aimee Says and ask all your questions. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)Today we expand on a conversation we began in episode #134 by talking with a pioneer and leader in the area of restorative communication, Dr Will Bledsoe. Today he joins us to talk about how divorce may actually be an opportunity to save your relationship.Will is the author of The Restorative Way: Harnessing the Power of Restorative Communication to Mend Relationships, Heal Trauma, and Reclaim Civility One Conversation at a Time. He has been called a pioneer for his advancement of Restorative Communication principles and practices. He is an adjunct professor of communication and a consultant who advises thought leaders, institutions, corporations, school districts, the justice system, and families to help us turn our contempt into consideration and mutual respect by utilizing Restorative Communication.We dive into the difference between a punitive paradigm (focus on determining guilt and punishment) and a restorative one (determining and understanding needs). And we learn about the powerful 5 step process that can SHIFT anyone's emotional state from dysregulated to engaged.S = Spot the signsH = Hold SpaceI - Identify What They're FeelingF = Focus on What They Need in the MomentT = Take ActionRestorative communication is the key to a divorce that, when done right, may be the key to making the relationship with your ex healthier and more functional.If you're thinking about divorce and hope to minimize both the financial and relational impact, we encourage you to check out the coach locator at divorcecoachesacademy.com to find a DCA certified ADR divorce coach.Learn More About Dr Will Bledsoe and upcoming trainings:His Book : The Restorative WayHis Website: www.restorativeway.com Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
Subscribe in a reader In this episode, I sit down with Ronald Bavero to discuss how people sabotage themselves, especially in high-conflict situations like divorce. We explore the hidden ways self-sabotage plays out, why it happens, and how people break free from these patterns. If you’re struggling with difficult relationships, this conversation will give you […] The post Why People Sabotage Themselves in High-Conflict Divorce | with Ronald Bavero appeared first on Narcissist Abuse Support.
Divorce, especially in high-conflict situations, can feel like an endless emotional tug-of-war. In this solo episode, Karen dives into the struggles of trying to control a soon-to-be ex during divorce proceedings, whether it's about co-parenting, finances, or decision-making. Engaging in these battles only fuels the high-conflict personality and keeps you stuck in stress and frustration. Karen explains why divorce conflict intensifies when you “hold the rope” and offers a powerful framework for knowing when to fight and when to let go. Sometimes, the best move in high-conflict divorce is to disengage. By dropping the rope, you can regain your peace and energy, and focus on building a healthy future post-divorce. If you're ready to stop the emotional tug-of-war and take back control of your life, tune in to discover the power of letting go. This episode offers the tools to break free from unnecessary conflict and start creating a peaceful future after divorce. Journey Beyond Divorce Resources: Check out the JBD website: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/ Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com Join the High Conflict Divorce Support Group: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/hcdsg Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce
One of the most emotional and financially complex decisions in divorce is what to do with the marital home. This property often represents security, stability, and normalcy—especially with children involved. However, the decision to keep or sell the marital home comes with significant financial and legal implications that many people, and even attorneys, may overlook. In this episode, we'll explore the pros and cons of keeping the marital home, the risks of co-owning after divorce, and the challenges of selling or buying out a spouse's share. We'll also discuss what the monied spouse should consider in a buyout, financial hurdles for the lesser-monied spouse, and key mortgage considerations. Plus, we'll touch on the role of alimony, child support, and how high interest rates impact real estate decisions in divorce. Join Jeff Landers, a divorce real estate expert with 40 years of experience, as he shares valuable insights to help you navigate the complexities of the marital home during divorce—ensuring you make the best decision for your financial future. Connect with Jeff: How To Keep Your Martial Home So You Can Move On, Not Out®: https://divorcehousesense.com/ - Enter JBD at checkout for your $2 OFF coupon Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jefflanders/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DivorceHouseSense/ Journey Beyond Divorce Resources: Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com Join the High Conflict Divorce Support Group: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/hcdsg A word from our sponsor: TalkingParents provides a comprehensive platform designed to simplify co-parenting and enhance communication between parents. With secure messaging, a shared calendar, and features for tracking parenting time, TalkingParents ensures that all important details and agreements are documented and accessible. We're grateful for TalkingParents' support in simplifying co-parenting and enhancing communication for our listeners. Discover how TalkingParents can bring clarity and organization to your co-parenting journey at www.talkingparents.com/jbd