Podcasts about our happy divorce

Benjamin Heldfond grew up in San Francisco where he lived through a high conflict divorce. He internalized the breakup as a signal that he was bad. The experience was like Miracle Grow for his growing drinking and heroin addiction which eventually led to a flatline overdose that saw him clinically dead. But even that didn't lead to his sobriety.Ben eventually entered treatment, found help and 6 years into his recovery, moved to Florida with the woman he would eventually marry. The move carried a great deal of resentment towards his wife which manifested in Ben living as a dry drunk without any accountability for his actions. This led to turmoil in the relationship. The two had a son together and divorced bitterly shortly after.Only after reflection did Ben see that left unchecked he threatened to repeat the same painful pattern he'd lived as a child. The realization moved him to call his therapist and sponsor. Ben eventually co-authored the book, “Our Happy Divorce”, with his Ex-Wife Nikki DeBartolo, which told the story of how their journey through divorce eventually brought them closer together.Episode ResourcesOur Happy Divorce | amazon.com/Our-Happy-DivorceConnect with Benjamin HeldfondInstagram |  @ourhappydivorceFacebook | @ourhappydivorceTwitter | @ourhappydivorceConnect with The Courage to ChangePodcast Website | lionrock.life/couragetochangepodcastPodcast Instagram | @couragetochange_podcastYouTube | The Courage to Change PodcastTikTok | @ashleyloebblassingamePodcast Email | podcast@lionrock.lifePodcast Facebook | @thecouragetochangepodcastLionrock ResourcesLionrock Life Mobile App | lionrock.life/mobile-appSupport Group Meeting Schedule | lionrock.life/meetings

Exes and authors of the popular book “Our Happy Divorce” sit down with Jess and T.H. to talk (and laugh) about how they went from unhappily married to very happily divorced! This real and raw interview offers a lot of insight into some very common problems during marriage, and how Ben and Nikki were able to work through the anger and discontent to now live as a new “family” that includes their new significant others as well as as new siblings for their son. Their transparency and practical tips will help anyone dealing with divorce! (Guests: Ben Heldfond & Nikki DeBartolo, authors “Our Happy Divorce”) Follow us on IG @exexperts.

Divorce is mostly associated with negative definitions, but Ben and Nikki - authors of Our Happy Divorce, defied the norm to create a thriving blended family even after their breakup. Stay tuned to learn about the difficulties of their divorce and their unconventional approach to partnerships and blended families. Key takeaways to listen for What you should do to help one another heal and develop a future Useful ways to find common ground with your ex-partner 16:51 Step-parenting: Core values and parenting style Powerful tips to protect your children from divorce Helping children of divorce express their feelings  Resources mentioned in this episode.   Our Happy Divorce: How Ending Our Marriage Brought Us Closer Together⏐Kindle and Paperback     About Ben and Nikki  Ben and Nikki are the founders of Our Happy Divorce, a service that offers guidance on creating a post-divorce happy. They are the authors of “Our Happy Divorce — How Ending Our Marriage Brought Us Together.” They have made it their mission to help families during the turmoil divorce can become and made it their mission to help families in every way possible. Nikki is the Executive Vice President of DeBartolo Holdings and the DeBartolo Family Foundation. She has made it her mission to give back to her community in every way possible, from supporting local grassroots movements to national charities. She has helped support Metropolitan Ministries, Meals on Wheels, The Boys and Girls Club, The Humane Society of Tampa Bay, and the HCSO Freddie Solomon Christmas Event.  Benjamin is the owner of Heldfond Holdings, LLC, which invests in various companies, including real estate, private equity, and venture capital. He has always had a passion for helping others and since then has been involved with several non-profit organizations; focused on addiction recovery, including, Facing Addiction w/NCADD, Road Recovery, Phoenix House, Young People in Recovery, and American Cancer Society Tampa CEO Council with a focus on Governance, Finance, and Strategic Planning. Connect with Ben and Nikki Website: ourhappydivorce.com Instagram: @ourhappydivorce Twitter: @OurHappyDivorce Facebook: Our Happy Divorce   Connect with Us To learn more about us, visit our website at www.18summers.com or email us at info@18summers.com. To get a copy of our book “The Family Board Meeting”, click here. Subscribe to 18 Summers Podcast and leave a rating and written review! Social Media Channels Facebook Group: 18 Summers LinkedIn: Jimmy Sheils Instagram: @18summerstribe

This episode is here to inspire those who are going through divorce or have been through divorce to do it differently. To let go of your ego, stop the blame and shame game and focus within.Tune in as Michelle sits down with Ben and Nikki, authors of Our Happy Divorce to chat all about how they have come to a point where they can say they have a happy, peaceful divorce. They discuss:Why it wasn't always like thisHow working on themselves was the catalyst for change in their relationship How they came to have such a great co-parenting relationshipHow they dropped the ego in divorce for the sake of their childand more! More About Our Happy DivorceFrom dinners and homework to holiday card photos and summer vacations, Nikki DeBartolo and Ben Heldfond have created a tight-knit, enviable family. They work and play well together, from the smallest daily tasks to the biggest life events—and it only took a divorce to get them there. Though their marriage has been over for over a decade, they still share a happy life with each other and their son Asher, along with their spouses and children.It wasn't fast. And it wasn't easy. But together they created a happy post-divorce modern family.Get in touch with Ben and NikiIG: @ourhappydivorceGet in touch with Michelle: @themichellewolfe@themuveforwardpodcastWebsite: www.themichellewolfe.comMore about my favourite greens drink:www.muvelife.liveden.comUse code MUVE10

Nikki DeBartolo and Ben Heldfond are the architects of Our Happy Divorce, with the goal of empowering and inspiring people to think differently about divorce, co-parenting, step-parenting, and what it means to put kids first.Learn more at https://ourhappydivorce.com/Get The Book: Our Happy Divorce: How Ending Our Marriage Brought Us Closer Together

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"I came home and there was a ripped up photo of us and his ring next to my sink"- Nikki DeBartoloIn a Divorce Social first, we have a divorced couple on the show together! Nikki DeBartolo and Ben Heldfond both join Samantha to talk about their divorce from one another and their book all about it. Now the best of friends, they talk to Samantha about their journey whilst bringing up their son. The three discuss feelings of insecurity, meeting in public places and the power of therapy. Ben and Nikki also discuss the drastic differences in their childhood and how that affected the different outlooks they had on relationships. To purchase their book, Our Happy Divorce: https://ourhappydivorce.com/Instagram: @OurhappydivorceFollow us on twitter and instagram: @divorcepod & @samanthabainesEmail: thedivorcesocial@gmail.comTranscripts can be found at www.thedivorcesocial.comSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/thedivorceclub. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

"Our Happy Divorce" authors, Nikki DeBartolo and Benjamin Heldfond slid into the diner booth with me this week. Divorce is never easy but these two have figured out a way to make it work for their son Asher. We started our conversation talking about how Ben and Nikki met, when the sparks flew, and what brought them from San Francisco to Tampa, Florida. Making friends in a new city is hard and resentment is a tough emotion to shake when it starts building. I really appreciate the candor and self-awareness they both showed when owning how the years leading up to the divorce and the few after could have been handled better. We also talked about how they worked through the popular, though flawed, rationale many unhappy couples have: Stay together for the kids. We ended talking about the importance of counseling, the beauty of an open mind, and the power of clarity in communication. This was filled with just the right amount of couple bantering and deep-hitting realities. Excited for you to hear it!      About the Guest:  From weeknight dinners and homework sessions with their son to Christmas card photos and vacations, Nikki DeBartolo and Benjamin Heldfond have created a tight-knit, enviable family. They work and play well together, from the smallest daily tasks to the biggest life events—and it only took a divorce to get them there. Though their marriage has been over for nearly a decade, they still share a happy life with each other and their son Asher, along with their new amazing spouses and children. Ben and Nikki had hoped their wedding would start their happily ever after—but seven years, one child, and countless financial and familial entanglements later, their I do-s had turned into We can't-s. Armed with their fierce love for their son and a desire to give him the best, they realized they needed to find an alternative to the seemingly inevitable toxic divorce that loomed over their lives. Refusing to participate in the standard litigious legal divorce process, they devised a new strategy and worked to confront their hurt feelings and fragile egos head-on. Committed to putting Asher's needs first in every decision, they helped each other heal and build a future. Their happily blended family today is a testament to their commitment to a few core principles and their incredible son—during the divorce and beyond. In their stunning book "Our Happy Divorce," Ben and Nikki elaborate on the difficulties of their divorce experience, their individual pains and triumphs, and their unique approach to relationships and blended families. Their story is sure to inspire others to pursue something few believe possible…a happy divorce.   Connect with Ben and Nikki and learn more: https://www.amazon.com/Our-Happy-Divorce-Marriage-Together/dp/1631779974/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=Our+Happy+Divorce&qid=1568927277&sr=8-1 (Link to their book on Amazon) @ourhappydivorce on Instgram About the Host:  Friends! Here's a somewhat stuffy bio of me:   I am an author, professional speaker, coach, host, and entrepreneur. My first book, Leading Imperfectly: The value of being authentic for leaders, professionals, and human beings, is available wherever people buy books. I speak internationally to willing and unwilling attendees about authenticity, vulnerability, and leadership. My clients include American Express, General Electric (GE), Accenture, Yale University, The Ohio State University, and many others. As a speaker, I am doing the two things I loves the most: making people think and making people laugh!  I host my own events multiple times a year. They are 2-day events called Living Imperfectly Live (and sometimes they are 1-day virtual events). They are a space where humans from every walk of life can come together to be part of a community on the pursuit of badassery. The goal is to help attendees start living the life we say we want...

there are some things in a kids life that can really rock their world. One of those things is divorce, and it can really have a negative effect on kids. But it doesn't have to be that way. I have with me on the show today, Ben Heldfond and Nikki DeBartolo. They are the founders of the Our Happy Divorce page, and co-authors of Our Happy Divorce, How Ending Our Marriage Brought Us Closer Together. They totally changed the culture around divorce and are striving to continue to break the mold of how horrible divorces typically are on kids. And they are here with use today to give us some insight on how we can put our kids first in our marriages and even our divorces. Go check them out @ourhappydivorce on all social accounts, and go check out their book where books are sold Check me out at @bulliesbe.gone for your daily dose of positivity, and for speaking inquires email me bullies.speaker@gmail.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

According to experts 40 to 50 percent of all marriages will end in divorce or separation. Divorce can have psychological effects, such as increased stress, lower life satisfaction, depression, and increased medical visits. But there is still hope, as my guest managed to divorce happily and are joining me to share their tips. Nikki DeBartolo and Benjamin S. Heldfond had hoped their wedding would start their happily ever after—but seven years, one child, and countless financial and familial entanglements later, their I do-s had turned into We can't-s. Armed with their fierce love for their son and a desire to give him the best, they realized they needed to find an alternative to the seemingly inevitable toxic divorce that loomed over their lives. Refusing to participate in the standard litigious legal divorce process, they devised a new strategy and worked to confront their hurt feelings and fragile egos head-on. Committed to putting their son Asher's needs first in every decision, they helped each other heal and build a future. Their book Our Happy Divorce elaborate on the difficulties of their divorce experience, their individual pains and triumphs, and their unique approach to relationships and blended families. Nikki and Ben said yes and joined me today to talk about their Happy Divorce , it is your turn to say Yes and find the way to a happy divorce or separation

Getting divorced is typically not a happy time, but Jana hopes to learn something from a guy that split up and stayed friends. Benjamin Heldfond, author of “Our Happy Divorce”, has some advice for Jana to get through this difficult season of life.  Jana is forced to face the harsh truth that a divorce is a business decision that carries emotional weight. Find out how things are going with her ex now that everything is finalized.  Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com

From dinners and homework to holiday card photos and summer vacations, Nikki DeBartolo and Ben Heldfond have created a tight-knit, enviable family. They work and play well together, from the smallest daily tasks to the biggest life events—and it only took a divorce to get them there. Though their marriage has been over for over a decade, they still share a happy life with each other and their son Asher, along with their spouses and children.The Two Jess(es) sit down with Nikki and Ben and witness this phenomenon first hand. Two people who are self-aware enough to realize they "got the path of being in love and loving each other mixed up," in itself is incredible, but to hear them speak of their commitment and respect for their son, and how putting him first became the only thing that mattered, is not only inspiring, but an important example for parents everywhere- married or divorced.To find out more about Ben and Nikki's experience you can go to https://ourhappydivorce.com/ and read their book: https://www.amazon.com/Our-Happy-Divorce-Marriage-Together/dp/1631779974/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=Our+Happy+Divorce&qid=1568927277&sr=8-1Support the show (http://www.paypal.com)

52. Our Happy Divorce with Benjamin Heldfond and Nikki DeBartolo

In this episode, April and Loren announce the BIG secret they have been keeping!  Their blended family will be featured on a reality television serious titled, "You, Me & My Ex" that will premier on TLC June 20th at 10PM EST!The women have special guests Ben and Nikki, authors of "Our Happy Divorce".  Ben and Nikki got a divorce, but decided to take the high road and develop a positive coparenting relationship for their son.  The former couple added to their family with Ben's new wife, including two more daughters, and Nikki's new husband.  Much like our family, they live in the same neighborhood and all get along.  Click the links below to find out more about Ben, Nikki, and their big, blended family.https://www.facebook.com/ourhappydivorcehttps://www.instagram.com/ourhappydivorce/

Our guests today have worked hard to craft a loving and tight-knit family. Their effort to create that family has only intensified since their divorce in 2007. In an effort to help others see what's possible, Ben Heldfond and Nikki DeBartolo created “Our Happy Divorce,” a book, channel, and community dedicated to building a healthy, happy, post-divorce modern family.This week on the show, Ben and Nikki share their perspectives on building a family as family membership changes. They share their dating stories, and how they introduced new partners successfully to the family unit. And, most important, they tell us how their efforts are guided by their love and dedication to the children in both their lives. This passion has made their family an aspiration for others and we're thrilled to have them on the show with us today. Links & NotesOur Happy Divorce by Ben Helfond & Nikki DeBartoloSubscribe to Our Happy Divorce on YouTubeOurHappyDivorce.com

Our guests today have worked hard to craft a loving and tight-knit family. Their effort to create that family has only intensified since their divorce in 2007. In an effort to help others see what’s possible, Ben Heldfond and Nikki DeBartolo created “Our Happy Divorce,” a book, channel, and community dedicated to building a healthy, happy, post-divorce modern family. This week on the show, Ben and Nikki share their perspectives on building a family as family membership changes. They share their dating stories, and how they introduced new partners successfully to the family unit. And, most important, they tell us how their efforts are guided by their love and dedication to the children in both their lives. This passion has made their family an aspiration for others and we’re thrilled to have them on the show with us today. ### Links & Notes - [*Our Happy Divorce* by Ben Helfond & Nikki DeBartolo][book] - [Subscribe to Our Happy Divorce on YouTube][channel] - [OurHappyDivorce.com][site] [book]:https://www.amazon.com/Our-Happy-Divorce-Marriage-Together/dp/1631779974/ref=sr_1_1?sr=8-1&keywords=Our%2BHappy%2BDivorce&tag=trustoryfm-20&qid=1568927277 [channel]:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDavSqivnV-rmzDaX7L7P2w [site]:https://ourhappydivorce.com

How do you turn Divorce Conflict Into a Strong Friendship & Top tips on co-parenting through disagreements.When Nikki and Ben knew their marriage was ending, little did they didn't know that their new relationship would bring them closer together.  “Our Happy Divorce,” a book authored by Nikki and Ben, they have tackled how they created a modern family despite both being remarried. Communication and a desire to put their son Asher's needs before their own have been the keys to turning their hurt into friendship.

In today's episode I chat with Ben Heldfond and Nikki DeBartolo, creators of the book “Our Happy Divorce” and talk about the obstacles they have had to overcome throughout their divorce. Going through a divorce can be an extremely difficult process that leaves many people in a great amount of distress. Ben and Nikki share their story on how they overcome their challenges throughout their divorce and give advice for those going through the same thing. They provide listeners with the steps they took to get to the healthy friendship that they have now and explain how to create a more positive outlook when it comes to divorce. You won't want to miss this episode.

When we think of divorce, we rarely associate it with anything positive. Anger, sadness, resentment, all of these feelings are often attached to the idea of a relationship ending. But this doesn’t always have to be the case, as exemplified by my recent guest on the Divorce Doctor podcast: Ben Heldfond. Ben is the co-author of Our Happy Divorce, a book that he and his ex-wife, Nikki DeBartolo, wrote about their journey through divorce and how it brought them closer together. He talks about the importance of putting your kids first and how you can actually connect and stay close even after a divorce. In my talk with Ben, we discuss the genesis of Our Happy Divorce and the soul-searching that often comes from the experience of divorce.

This week we're going to be joined by Benjamin Heldfand, co-author (Nikki DeBartolo) of Our Happy Divorce. From weeknight dinners and homework sessions with their son to Christmas card photos and vacations, Nikki DeBartolo and Benjamin Heldfond have created a tight-knit, enviable family. They work and play well together, from the smallest daily tasks to the biggest life events-and it only took a divorce to get them there. Though their marriage has been over for nearly a decade, they still share a happy life with each other and their son Asher, along with their new amazing spouses and children. (Google Books) You can also find the Our Happy Divorce group and radio show on Facebook.

Chai-Everybody! Episode 18 is out and ready for consumption. This week Noam and Sheva discuss the possible impacts of divorce on children young and old. If you feel comfortable, share a ritual, or process, you have for custody exchanges. How do you show you kids that your time together meant something and that you're just dropping them off somewhere randomly? One thing Noam uses is a calendar so his boys know the custody schedule clearly and can understand the flow of transitions. Next week we will joined by Ben Heldfand, co-author of Our Happy Divorce!

Moving on after divorce is easier said than done. Loneliness, isolation, shame, and guilt are all commonplace after separation and divorce. Often, people going through separation feel like they won't ever be able to get back on their feet and may even worry that they will never find love again. If these feelings sound familiar, this is the episode for you. On this episode of Divorce, Healthy!, attorney and author Ashley-Nicole Russell welcomes Michelle Dempsey-Multack, Certified Divorce Specialists and host of the https://momsmovingon.com/ (Moms Moving On Podcast), to discuss her system for overcoming the emotional complexities that accompany divorce and how women can come out stronger on the other side. Michelle reveals how she uses what she learned during her own divorce to help other women overcome their suffering and thrive. Ashley-Nicole and Michelle open up about their respective divorces and how the process was ultimately a teaching experience. “I truly feel I had to be married to him for all of these unresolved demons and issues and traumas from my past to surface once and for all so that I could confront them. Because I had been ignoring them and living in denial for a really long time.” (8:15) Michelle also reveals how she discovered that she suffered from an anxious attachment style because of her parents' divorce and how this affected her relationships and divorce. Today, both Ashley-Nicole and Michelle are in loving and healthy relationships with partners that understand the struggle they've experienced. Michelle advises acknowledging to yourself that the situation will be challenging, “you know it's going to be hard. It's an unfortunate situation that's happened, but it is also an opportunity to move forward in a way that works best for you, to put your best foot forward, to honor what you did wrong, and vow to not do it again. So if you're willing to do the hard work, you're going to get to a good place. Nothing good comes easy. Don't expect it to be easy. And if you feel like it's easier than you expect it, then good for you, then you're in a good place.” (17:56)  For more information on Michelle Dempsey-Multack's podcast, visit https://momsmovingon.com/ (MomsMovingOn.com). You can also follow her on http://instagram.com/themichelledempsey (Instagram) and https://www.facebook.com/themichelledempsey/ (Facebook) @themichelledempsey. Like this interview with Michelle Dempsey? Check out https://player.captivate.fm/episode/1cdcb828-8738-4e98-bcf1-d58b5806d828 (The Myth is Busted, Divorce Doesn't Have to be Horrible. With co-parents and co-authors of Our Happy Divorce, Ben Heldfond and Nikki DeBartolo). To inquire about speaking engagements, purchase your copy of Ashley-Nicole's book “The Cure for Divorce Culture,” or to schedule your private orientation meeting, head to http://www.anrlaw.com (www.anrlaw.com). You can also find us on social media @ANRLaw. Find a better way forward, right here, on Divorce, Healthy!

Be inspired and see divorce from a different perspective on this special edition of The Epic Comeback™ Podcast with the authors of the book Our Happy Divorce, Nikki Debartolo and Ben Heldfond. They work as one in cultivating a community of divorced families that coexist in a happier and healthier way, with the needs of their children as a central priority. Nikki and Ben share that the best ways to get to the other side of a life-shattering experience are to keep going and to take time for yourself. They learned these lessons while enduring their own divorce.   Find Nikki and Ben at ourhappydivorce.com, as well as on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook: @ourhappydivorce. Get hold of their book, Our Happy Divorce, on Amazon.

Divorce has long had a bad reputation. It is often incredibly stressful for the couple and leaves broken families in its path. Have you ever wondered, “does it really have to be this way?” Are there people out there who have successfully dissolved their marriages in a peaceful and healthy way? Are there children who don't feel like their lives have been torn apart by their parents' divorce? The answer is yes. Enter Benjamin Heldfond and Nikki DeBartolo, authors of https://ourhappydivorce.com/ (Our Happy Divorce), and today's guests on this episode of Divorce, Healthy! When Ben and Nikki got divorced 13 years ago, there were far fewer resources available for collaborative processes and co-parenting. Luckily, they were both able to successfully navigate the divorce process and make decisions that have resonated positively in their lives and the lives of their children. Benjamin stresses the importance of keeping your child's best interest at heart. With painful memories of his own parents' divorce, Ben knew he didn't want to put his child through the same hardship. Conversely, Nikki's parents remain married after 52 years, and she claims this was the driving force for making things work throughout the divorce process. (5:26) At first, Ben did what most people do and hired an attorney. He soon realized his attorney may be more interested in a fight than in doing what was best for Ben and his family. Instead of pursuing a fight, Ben decided to step away from everything for a while. After taking time to weigh his options, he ultimately decided to team up with Nikki to tackle the problem together. “She was on my team and I was on her team. So, if you want to talk about collaborative, that's the ideal behind it. But we truly were on each other's team… as team captains.” (19:22) Ben and Nikki admit that there is no easy way out of a divorce; there will always be fights, arguments, anger, etc. However, there are ample resources for people going through separation and divorce to consider. One resource the couple endorse is the https://www.fayr.com/app (App Fayr), developed by Micheal Daniels, who joins the conversation at 30:12. “Fayr is really just my sincere effort in trying to…communicate on the core issues, the things that need to be communicated on and try to clear up some of the misunderstandings and disagreement that oftentimes escalate into a costly court motion. And it has an emotional cost too.” (30:54) As Ashley-Nicole mentions in prior episodes, the divorce industry is a broken one, and only some people benefit from it. Echoing her thoughts, Michael says “[Divorce] is such a broken system… everybody talks about the broken system. The truth is the system is working just fine for those who are financially benefiting from it.”(38:37) This is why “we're all here to try to scream and say, you do not have to follow the norm just because it's the norm,” says Ashley-Nicole. (45:52) For more information on Benjamin and Nikki's book Our Happy Divorce, visit https://ourhappydivorce.com/ (ourhappydivorce.com). To download the Fayr App visit https://www.fayr.com/app (fayr.com/app) Like this interview with Benjamin Heldfond and Nikki DeBartolo? Check out https://player.captivate.fm/episode/1ca7f163-696c-4181-b551-b4ca3ecb57ce (How to Move Forward After Divorce, With Divorce Attorney & “Better Apart” Author, Gabrielle Hartley). To inquire about speaking engagements, purchase your copy of Ashley-Nicole's book “The Cure for Divorce Culture,” or to schedule your private orientation meeting, head to http://www.anrlaw.com (www.anrlaw.com). You can also find us on social media @ANRLaw. Find a better way forward, right here, on Divorce, Healthy!

From weeknight dinners and homework sessions to Christmas card photos and vacations, Nikki and Ben created a tight-knit, enviable family. From the smallest daily tasks to the biggest life events, they both work well together. However, it only took a divorce to get them there. At 12 years sober, Ben was what some might call a “dry drunk.” Searching for something other than a spiritual solution, he would place blame on his wife, not take any responsibility for his faults, and felt flat in his marriage. “I had a strong foundation of recovery, but I stopped doing the things I needed to do on a daily basis for myself.” At the time of their marriage, Niki and Ben had hoped their wedding would start their happily ever after—but seven years, one child, and countless financial and familial entanglements later, their I do-s had turned into We can't-s. Armed with their fierce love for their son and a desire to give him the best as their primary purpose, they realized they needed to find an alternative to the seemingly inevitable toxic divorce that loomed over their lives. By cleaning up the past, owning up to each other's faults, and working on differences it took a divorce to bring Ben's family together. Today, though their marriage has been over for nearly a decade, they still share a happy life with each other and their son Asher, along with their spouses and children. In episode 283 of the SHAIR Podcast, you'll learn about: How you can find yourself in dry drunk syndrome after finding long-term recovery What happens when you see red flags in a relationship but fail to act on them What happens when we begin searching for something other than a spiritual solution How we can become blind to our ego and entitlement without admitting fault In their book, Our Happy Divorce, Ben and Nikki elaborate on the difficulties of their divorce experience, their individual pains and triumphs, and their unique approach to relationships and blended families. Their story is sure to inspire others to pursue something few believe is possible - a happy divorce. For the show notes and links for this episode go to theshairpodcast.com/283. ***  Explore the Alcohol-Free Lifestyle and Feel Better Now! Join the SHAIR Recovery Community and live alcohol-free - theshairpodcast.com/join-the-src.  ***  Get 1-on-1 Life Coaching with Omar Pinto! For more information and a FREE consultation go to omarpinto.com/coaching.

How many happy divorces do you know about? We're guessing not a lot. When our guest Ben Heldfond and his wife called it quits they wanted to buck the trend but there weren't a lot of positive examples out there to follow. So, once Ben and his ex Nikki figured things out they decided to share their story. Their book Our Happy Divorce launches this month and Ben sat down with us to share how he and Nikki did it. It's an inspirational story of what happens when two people put their child above everything else. Do you know someone who needs to hear this?