The Jewish Divorce Project Podcast

Welcome back to our 7th? 8th? season? Leeron and Noam catch up after a long summer break. Think we keep it light for our first episode of a new season? Think again! We have some honest talk about the hidden costs- to the wallet and the soul- of single parenting in a tough economy. But there's hope! Hope is found in breaking. In giving oneself a break in meeting expectations, and the looming self-criticism that comes with parenting. 

Noam and Leeron catch up about mother's day moments this year.Like about how tough and good it felt for Leeron to share mother's day with her kid's step-mom. How was mother's day for you? We are also joined by Ginger Gentile. Note: last name pronounced GEN-TEAL, to talk about parental alienation and how to heal from it. Ginger Gentile, the "Erased Child Whisperer", was a child caught in the middle of a bitter divorce, and now helps parents facing similar battles find peace and even reunite their families via coaching designed for the worst cases of Parental Alienation and Estrangement. She is a documentary film-maker, activist, who is on a mission to reverse parental alienation – a silent epidemic . Her documentary, ‘Erasing Family' shows children suffering from alienation reuniting with their parents. Ginger's extensive work in healing families has been featured on shows like Red Table Talk and Real Housewives of Orange County. She's also been featured on NBC and CBS, The Atlantic, spoken at SXSW, and on many podcasts. She has reunited numerous families and leads the only coaching program that features ex-alienated kids as coaches, using simple techniques to cure a complex problem.    Ginger can be reached at: https://ReversingParentalAlienation.com https://ErasingFamily.org (to watch the film for free) @ErasingFamily on IG, FB and YT Free training on the secrets to reverse parental alienation: https://ReversingParentalAlienation.com/secrets  

In episode 82 we speak with and learn a lot from Rabbi Ari Saks. Rabbi Saks talks to us about the cultural myths that couples face in their interfaith relationships. Particularly that interfaith relationships will inevitably lead to divorce and separation.  We ask the question if interfaith relationships mean it's MORE likely or LESS likely for a couple to divorce? Rabbi Saks challenges that idea by teaching that differences can actually lead to a deeper relationship rather than division.  Currently, Rabbi Saks is focusing his efforts on reaching out to interfaith families, primarily through his recently launched podcast “Interfaithing: Why families can embrace two faiths under one roof.” The podcast can be found on all podcast platforms. Rabbi Saks is also developing unique, online Adult Education curricula including “Torah Teachings for Jewish Grandparents of Interfaith Families” and “How Israel Should be Taught on College Campuses.” Finally, Rabbi Saks serves Torat Yisrael, a Conservative congregation in Rhode Island, on a part-time basis and serves pastoral needs for unaffiliated families in the Philadelphia area.

In Episode 81 Noam and Leeron discuss Passover and how you celebrate a holiday even if you don't have your kids. We also talk with Andrea Hipps a certified divorce coach and how to make your former partner irrelevant by moving beyond forgiveness to even forgetfulness. We  talk about why it is important, and share a few steps that help listeners make their way to the promised land. Andrea Hipps, LBSW is a Certified Divorce Coach and author who helps parents all along the divorce continuum resolve their divorce debris and create healthier two-address families. She's the author of the internationally bestselling book The Best Worst Time of Your Life: Four Practices to Get You Through the Pain of Divorce, which outlines the four practices you need to create wholeness and healing for you and your kids before, during, and after divorce. As a regular contributor to our nation's divorce recovery conversation, she's been featured on NBC, ABC, FOX and the CW discussing how we can do divorce better for the sake of ourselves and our families.

This week Noam and Leeron tackle a interesting topic: Open marriages. We sit down with "Cindy" who talks to us about her open marriage to "Jim" (We love 90210!). We protect Cindy's identity not because there is anything to be ashamed of with an open marriage. But because we're all entitled to some privacy in life, and there are those who also judgmental of open relationships. Nonetheless, we have a fascinating conversation about: dating, cucking, unicorns, ethical-non-monogamy, and polyamory. Most importantly we discuss how an open marriage can have amazing benefits for you and your spouse- including an improved sex life! Have a story about how your marriage was saved by an open relationship? Share it with us at TheJewishDivorceProject@gmail.com

Note: At the beginning of the episode we mislabel it "episode 80." We're almost there, but really, this is episode 79.  And in ep 79 Noam and Leeron sit down with Sharon Pope. Sharon is a certified Master Life Coach and Relationship Expert helping women and men get the tools they need to improve, heal, or release their struggling marriages. She is a seven-time international best-selling author on love and relationships, including Stay or Go: How to Find the Confidence & Clarity You Need to Either Fix the Struggles in Your Marriage or Move Forward without Regret, which has sold more than 300,000 copies, and host of the podcast, “The Loving Truth.”  Her work has appeared in numerous media outlets and online publications, including the “Modern Love” column of The New York Times.

No guest this week. But Instead we talk about gradually letting go of old possessions that remind us of our marriage and past lives; and good reasons to stay or leave your marriage. In the process of the conversation Leeron mentions her strategy for helping one of her clients move on when his marriage has failed: Jumbo's Clown Room.

This week, Noam and Leeron sit down with Erin Levin, founder and CEO of Hello Divorce, and talk about the process of getting divorced and having a team behind you.  Erin Levine is not your typical attorney. With over a decade of experience in litigating complex family matters, she saw the need for a kinder, easier and more affordable pathway out of marriage. To achieve this, Erin set out to revolutionize the broken divorce system and founded Hello Divorce, a venture capital backed, tech-enabled platform, that blends compassionate support with cutting edge technology, making it easier for spouses to navigate legal logistics and financial hurdles with less stress and mess.  Erin's innovative approach to the divorce process has earned her media mentions and recognition from the legal industry and beyond, with recent features in Vice, Forbes, Above the Law, Bloomberg and TechCrunch. Ultimately, Erin is on a mission to help separating couples empower a better life ahead and has helped thousands of Americans successfully reorganize their lives and families through a framework that levels the playing field between spouses so they can sort things out fairly, avoid missteps and reimagine their next (best) chapter. Topics we cover with Erin: 1. How to keep your divorce as amiable as possible even when you don't fully trust your spouse.  2. How to maximize your best outcome without ramping up conflict or legal fees. 3. What is online divorce? Pros and cons. 4. What is Hello Divorce? How does it work? 5. Who is it best suited for? 6. We could discuss a roadmap for your divorce, start to finish, and how to cut down on stress, mess, fees and conflict. 

This week, Leeron braved her first experience hosting on her own and covered for Noam as he was under the weather. After talking about her nerves, she welcomed our guest Lauren Zaslansky Conner. Lauren was a past Board President at Burbank Temple Emanu El where Leeron worked as the Preschool Director. She shares her experience as a community leader when a congregant or employee goes through a divorce as well as how the kids are involved. Lauren opened up about her experience as a child of divorce and her observation of how her mother's social life changed as a single mom. These observations have provided a level of compassion Lauren has when helping her friends or community members going through divorce. There are some great nuggets of information here for synagogue leaders on how to support their community.

Noam and Leeron are back at it after a restful break. Noam catches Leeron up how his son's bar mitzvah went. They discuss important details leading up to the bar mitzvah that no one saw coming, and everything gained from the hard work put into co-parenting during a stressful time.  But the meat and bones of the conversation this week centers around all the shit you have to do alone in divorce-land. We talk about major projects, and how the little things can be triggering when you're emotionally and physically drained. Yes, doing difficult things alone sucks. But it may also be one of those things that helps you unfold your powers to become a better version of yourself.

On our season finale Noam and Leeron sit down to talk with Kate Anthony, coach and author of the new book, The D-Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage. To give you an idea of the conversation, here are the questions we addressed with Kate: What do you think is the very first thing women need to look at when trying to make this decision? Why are women so unhappy in their marriages? Do men and women experience divorce in different ways? What are the factors that impact the quality of our marriage? Join us for a passionate conversation about a major life choice.   Kate Anthony is the author of The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage, host of the critically acclaimed and New York Times recommended podcast The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast and the creator of the groundbreaking online coaching program, Should I Stay or Should I Go? which helps women make the most difficult decision of their lives using coaching tools, relationship education, geeky neuroscience, community support, and deep self-work. Kate is certified as a Domestic Violence Advocate, a Co-Parenting Specialist, and a High Conflict Divorce Coach.   Contact Info: Instagram @thedivorcesurvivalguide Facebook @YourDivorceSurvivalGuide tiktok.com @thedivorcesurvivalguide,  Website: Kateanthony.com

Noam and Leeron check in out the Hanukkah festivities and bar mitzvah planning. We also get to know Alexis Langer as she drops knowledge on us about estate planning. Think communication in divorce is tough as it is? Imagine if you had to have more conversations with your ex about stuff that got you really upset, like money or property. Alexis tells us why it's important to get our estates in order before and after divorce.   Alexis Bio: Alexis Langer is an estate planning attorney and owner of the Law Office of Alexis M. Langer in Los Angeles. Alexis focuses on creating plans that actually work to keep families out of court AND conflict when the unthinkable happens. She supports individuals, families and business owners through her comprehensive and heart-centered approach to help protect what is most important to them.  When she is not guiding her clients on their estate matters, she enjoys time with her family and is the proud mom of her 5 year old daughter, Mira.  Contact Info: www.alexislangerlaw.com Instagram /Facebook @langerlaw 

Tamar Burris is back and generous with her time and wisdom. Tamar is a friend of the JDP and sits down with Leeron and Noam to talk about what really makes one a good co-parent. Tamar lays out guidelines for how to be a productive co-parent; and how to communicate effectively when you want to send the right message to your ex at an important time.  

After a conversation stuffed with wisdom about parenting during the holidays, Noam and Leeron meet Shani Sabban. Shani is a resilient 39-year-old single mom of two amazing girls, and a seasoned full-time real estate agent. Beyond her expertise in the world of property, Shani has emerged as a guiding light for couples navigating the tumultuous journey of divorce. As a divorcee herself, Shani draws on her personal experience to offer a unique perspective and empathetic ear to those going through similar challenges. Through her own journey, she discovered the strength to rebuild her life and create a nurturing environment for her daughters. Her compassionate approach is rooted in honesty, patience, and neutrality, making her a trusted ally for anyone seeking professional real estate guidance during this transformative period. You can find Shani on social media at Shani4homes on IG / Shani Sabban on FB

Noam and Leeron are joined by Nathaniel “Nace” Neubauer, a regular guy who has been through a lot. Nace takes us though his journey with addiction and divorce- 2 of them actually. Nace shares his wisdom for personal growth, resilience, and success despite the challenges that come our way. Looking for a caterer check out www.contemporarycatering.com

Leeron and Noam get to know each other better over a frank and friendly conversation. We start by celebrating Noam's birthday, and then try to hold it together as Leeron celebrates the Universe. Eventually we make our way to a sincere discussion about guilt and regret in divorce-life. Sometimes it feels like the guilt it everywhere; this sense that we're out of alignment with a larger moral code. That can be a terrible weight to carry around. And as we discuss, at times that weight can motivate us to try harder in the future. But if guilt is paralyzing you, its worth doing something about it. Listen to find out!

Leeron and Noam sit down for a frank conversation about tough circumstances and mistakes they've made in divorce-land. Noam opens the show by talking about how he couldn't put his dog of 14 years down. And eventually we brighten the show by discussing mistakes we made in the divorce process, dating after divorce, and now in as residents in divorce. But we also talk about what we've learned and grown from those mistakes.

 Noam and Leeron sit down with Erika Ettin of A Little Nudge. We share our dating questions, and personal stories. We also challenge Erika with some philosophy of love questions.      Erika Ettin is the Founder of A Little Nudge, a consulting company that helps people navigate the world of online dating, from first click to first date. Erika studied economics at Cornell University and received her MBA from Georgetown. She started A Little Nudge in 2011 (after a seven-year career as an economist). She is responsible for many relationships, marriages, and the confidence some people simply need to “get out there.” A Little Nudge has been featured in media around the country, including The New York Times, The Washington Post, NPR, CBS, and Ask Men, and she currently writes a weekly syndicated dating column.  

Leeron and Noam are back at it with an important conversation about how to co-parent with your ex during the Israel-Hamas war. Do you need to agree on the issues? How much do you tell your kids? Either way you're probably better off as a united front against any eveil that might invade the peacefulness of your family life. We also do a dating check in and announce our guest for the next episode!

We're back with our newest season and we've come with a glow-up! Not only do we have a new look, feel, audio and visual format, and commercials, but also a new co-host with Leeron Tal! You may recall Leeron from episode 63 when we talked about B-Mitzvah in divorce-land. Well Leeron joins our team with a wealth of experience and knowledge as a woman, mom, Jewish professional and divorce coach! So sit back and let the wisdom flow over you :) We also talk about how we'd like to engage the audience and community moving forward. If there's something you want to share on the podcast; a divorce dilemma, challenge, failure, or success for all to learn from, please let us know at TheJewishDivorceProject@gmail.com

Sheva and Noam get a chance to catch up after a long summer break, and then say goodbye. That's right, Noam and Sheva are parting ways. But don't worry, it's not your fault! Also, we're still friends. But after 3 great years and 64 amazing podcasts, Sheva is moving on to another project and Noam will continue the Jewish Divorce Project with a new co-host. Who will it be? You'll just have to tune into future episodes to find out.

Sheva and Noam get a chance to catch up after a long summer break, and then say goodbye. That's right, Noam and Sheva are parting ways. But don't worry, it's not your fault! Also, we're still friends. But after 3 great years and 64 amazing podcasts, Sheva is moving on to another project and Noam will continue the Jewish Divorce Project with a new co-host. Who will it be? You'll just have to tune into future episodes to find out.

Episode 63 is a big one for us! We're joined by Leeron Tal Dvir (CDC) and Reb Ezra Weinberg. On this episode we talk about celebration a B-Mitzvah in divorceland from a professional as well as a personal perspective. And we share about how the process is going or has gone for all of us, and our families. How do we handle the stress leading up to it? How do we handle planning responsibilities, honors on the day of, and the emotional labor of it all? What if i'm dealing with an uncooperative ex and a high conflict divorce? And what's the best I can realistically hope for on this special day?    Guest Bios: Leeron Tal Dvir CDC - Leeron Tal grew up in the San Fernando Valley to Israeli parents. She comes from an eclectic background working in Entertainment Public Relations, Marketing, Special Events and Community Development she is most passionate and has 15 years of experience working in the Jewish Community as Child Development Educator, most recently as a Preschool Director and Parenting Facilitator.  When seeing so many marriages fall apart around her in 2021 during the pandemic, she decided to study and become a Certified Divorce Coach through the International Divorce Coach Centre of Excellence. Leeron started My Divorce Concierge in August 2022 and is completely fulfilled from helping others. She provides a service she wished she had for herself in the beginning stages of her challenging divorce.  In addition to coaching, Leeron in back working in the Jewish Community as the Director of Events & Programing at Adat Ari El in Valley Village. She lives in Burbank where she is heavily involved with the City of Burbank. She lives with her two young boys, Micah and Liam and enjoys spending time with her family, salsa dancing, creative writing and RV camping.   Reb Ezra Weinberg - Whether he is working as a shaliach tzibur, a Jewish educator, a songleader or a Jewish camp professional, Reb Ezra's role in the Jewish community and beyond always comes back to his ability to lift spirits and create community. He is the Founder of ReVoice - a Journey of Discovery for Jewish Families Going Through Divorce.  He also officiates weddings and Bnai Mitzvot, he teaches courses on connecting to Jewish prayer and he helps communities get unstuck around the topic of "Israel."   He teaches a course at Fairleigh Dickinson University, alongside a Priest and an Imam called, “One G-d, Three Paths.” He is a native Philadelphian and holds an MA in Conflict Transformation.  

In episode 62, Noam and Sheva talk with Rob Roseman, creator of WTF Divorce and Dad The Best I Can. Rob shares some thoughtful insights and humor into the world of divorce. We talk about living alone and learning from that experience, and managing expectations and embracing reality when it comes to dating and life after divorce.   You can find Rob on IG at WTFDivroce and DadTheBestICan And you can find them on the web at: https://www.wtfdivorce.com/

Part 2 of a fantastic conversation with Eileen Ansel and Liz Marcus- two ex-wives of rabbis. With bravery, grace, and wisdom they share their experiences in divorce candidly and with humor. We talk about what it means to be seen as "other" and/or the "perpetrator" in the divorce; what true friends look like; what happens when the community disappears; the concepts of "unbinding," and "transactional memory." And we also discuss a letter Eileen wrote to a friend considering divorce after she had already been through it herself. The letter can be found on our facebook page at: The Jewish Divorce Project. Part 2 next week!   Eileen Ansel identifies as an adult child of her inner landscape, and of the north fork of the american river. she is a writer, poet, and internal deep diver. she has been called a zaphnath paaneah (one who reveals that which is hidden), and a ‘human emotional can-opener'. highly sensitive, intuitive, and attuned- eileen is a trauma survivor, cancer survivor, and mother- as well as the former wife of, and rebbitzen to, the number one pulpit rabbi in america. once upon a time, she was the proprietor of a show horse barn in sonoma, ran marathons as a charity fundraiser for the leukemia lymphoma society's team in training, and was a content and literary editor for kirk douglas's memoirs. eileen delights in homemade chocolate chip and sea salt biscotti, and feeling all the feelings available in this realm. she loves cats, architecture, listening to people's stories, biplanes, walking in nature, and wild horses- not necessarily in that order. Liz Marcus is a full time nursing student, aspiring midwife, and mom of 3. She grew up in Boca Raton, Florida and currently resides in Riverdale, NY

This is a fantastic episode. We sit down with Eileen Ansel and Liz Marcus- two ex-wives of rabbis. With bravery, grace, and wisdom they share their experiences in divorce candidly and with humor. We talk about what it means to be seen as "other" and/or the "perpetrator" in the divorce; what true friends look like; what happens when the community disappears; the concepts of "unbinding," and "transactional memory." And we also discuss a letter Eileen wrote to a friend considering divorce after she had already been through it herself. The letter can be found on our facebook page at: The Jewish Divorce Project. Part 2 next week!   Eileen Ansel identifies as an adult child of her inner landscape, and of the north fork of the american river. she is a writer, poet, and internal deep diver. she has been called a zaphnath paaneah (one who reveals that which is hidden), and a ‘human emotional can-opener'. highly sensitive, intuitive, and attuned- eileen is a trauma survivor, cancer survivor, and mother- as well as the former wife of, and rebbitzen to, the number one pulpit rabbi in america. once upon a time, she was the proprietor of a show horse barn in sonoma, ran marathons as a charity fundraiser for the leukemia lymphoma society's team in training, and was a content and literary editor for kirk douglas's memoirs. eileen delights in homemade chocolate chip and sea salt biscotti, and feeling all the feelings available in this realm. she loves cats, architecture, listening to people's stories, biplanes, walking in nature, and wild horses- not necessarily in that order.    Liz Marcus is a full time nursing student, aspiring midwife, and mom of 3. She grew up in Boca Raton, Florida and currently resides in Riverdale, NY

In episode 60 we talk about dating scenarios and breakthroughs. 

A brief but deep episode. We talk about symbols for attachments styles; and how we parent based on how we were parented.

We end 2022 right with a powerful and deep conversation with Rabbi David Wolpe, who has been divorced for 11 years. Rabbi Wolpe has a frank and honest conversation with us about divorce in his own life, how divorce impacts clergy, their spouses, dating as a rabbi, and the difference between the vision of divorce life and the reality of it. David Wolpe is the Max Webb Senior Rabbi of Sinai Temple in Los Angeles.  Author of eight books, including the national bestseller “Making Loss Matter,: Creating Meaning in Difficult Times,” Wolpe has been named the most influential Rabbi in America by Newsweek and twice named among the 50 most influential Angelinos by LA Magazine. He has taught at a number of universities, including UCLA, Hunter college, Pepperdine and the Jewish Theological Seminary, and written for The NY Times, Washington Post, The Atlantic, The Jerusalem Post among other newspapers and journals. Wolpe's most recent book, “David: The Divided Heart,”  a biography of King David, was optioned for a movie by Warner Brothers. Next year he will be a visiting scholar at Harvard Divinity School.  

Episode 57 is our Thanksgiving special. Noam and Sheva talk about ways to respond to custody schedules over the holidays. Being without our kids can make it tough to enjoy the holidays. On the flipside, there's a whole holiday to enjoy by yourself if you so choose. And even if it's unexpected, the challenges of divorce-life have led you to a place where you really wanted to be. How then, when you got there, did you express your gratitude for how far you've come, and what it took to get there. 

In episode 56, Sheva and Noam sit down to talk with Susan Pease Gadoua and discuss the idea and practice of the “parenting marriage.” An innovative approach to staying together as a family when other elements of the relationship fail. Susan is a licensed therapist based in the San Francisco Bay Area with expertise in helping couples connect, reconnect or disconnect in a healthy way. In 2006, Susan began helping couples shape what became known as the Parenting Marriage. Since then, Susan has helped dozens of couples transition their marriage from a love-based union to one in which raising happy, healthy kids are the primary focus. Books Susan has written include the San Francisco Chronicle bestseller, Contemplating Divorce, The Parenting Marriage Workbook, and The New I Do, co-authored with Vicki Larson. IG: changingmarriage  FB: parenting marriage FB: The New I Do

Sheva and Noam get a chance t catch up with each other between special guests. We talk about managing family life, dating status, past relationships, the "love equation" and, the different ways to say "I love you," as performed by Sheva.

In episode 54 Noam and Sheva meet Tara Eisenhard. In other episodes we've had great conversations about custody arrangements and co-parenting. But in this episode, Tara shows us what divorce is like from a child's perspective. Tara talks to us about some great ways to care for your child during divorce, and what you might say to your inner-child who suffered divorce trauma. Tara Eisenhard helps struggling singles transform conflict and confusion into clarity, confidence, and control. She's a child of divorced parents, an ex-wife, a “next” wife, and the previous partner of a divorced dad. Personal experience taught her that divorce is about evolution, not dissolution. Tara works as a coach, author, mediator, and educator with a passion for healthy and happy divorces. She provides personal private coaching as well as online courses and community events. Tara is the author of the book The D-Word: Divorce Through a Child's Eyes, the workbook, Your Bittersweet Beginning, and the blog, Relative Evolutions. She's been interviewed for various radio and TV programs, and her writing has been featured by The Huffington Post, Divorcedmoms.com, Family Affaires, DivorceForce, Stepmom Magazine and MariaShriver.com. You can find Tara on social media at: Facebook.com/author.taraeisenhard Twitter: @taraeisenhard Instagram: @taraeisenhard Tiktok: @divorcecoach  

In episode 53 Noam and Sheva talk with Rabbi Deborah Newborn who has created the innovative Divorce and Discovery retreat. It's a weekend long experience for Jews and Jew-adjacent folks to process and find meaning in their divorce and separation. Along with her personal journey through divorce, we discuss the need for Jewish community-based divorce programming for families and individuals.  We also talk about how Rosh Hashanah can be a great time to explore ones divorce journey and use the rituals involved to find meaning, grow, and move on from this major transition.   Deborah Newbrun's career as a Jewish leader (particularly in Jewish environmental education) spans more than 35 years including 24 years as Director of Camp Tawonga, four years as Hazon's Bay Area Director and serving on the founding boards of Wilderness Torah and Bay COJEL (Coalition for Jews and the Environment).   Deborah is a recipient of the prestigious Covenant Award. Her groundbreaking work as co author of Spirit In Nature/Teaching Judaism and Ecology on the Trail paved the way for numerous Jewish outdoor programs for children including the Teva Learning Center. Most recently, Deborah co-founded SVARA's Queer Talmud Camp and worked with Keshet to create a curriculum that helps Jewish summer camps be welcoming and inclusive of gender non-conforming campers and staff.  Deborah has served on the faculty of many Jewish professional fellowships currently for Hineni a Jewish leadership training for LGBTQ folks. Her recent projects also include creating: Spirit In Nature Podcasts with Sarah Lefton and “Divorce and Discovery a Jewish Healing Retreat” offered in partnership with Camp Tawonga to be launched in October 2022. Before entering the Jewish not-for-profit world, Deborah was a National Park Service Ranger. She lives in Berkeley with her wife, Rabbi Sue Reinhold PhD. Between them they have four twenty-something year old children and a beloved doodle dog.

In episode 52 Noam and Sheva sit down with Tamar Burris, an expert co-parenting coach. Tamar generously shares her time and wisdom with us about the beauty and pitfalls, success and failures of co-parenting. All while balancing a child on her head!  Tamar Burris is a certified relationship and co-parenting coach. She is also a certified pre-mediation counselor and New Ways for Families coach, and has published a children's book for families of divorce called "A New Special Friend," which helps introduce new romantic partners to our children. Her motto in working with two-home families and parents is: Co-parent without blame, shame, or games."  You can find Tamar on at these links: Website: www.tamarburris.com Instagram: @tamarburris Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tamarburris/ Twitter: @CoachTamar Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamar-burris-77644821/

A brief but deep episode as Noam and Sheva talk about: the blessings of siblings, being reminded of summer experiences before marriage and kids, co-parenting, and dating. 

OMG it's episode 50! Did we ever think we'd get this far!? Maybe? Give this special episode a listen and learn how Sheva and Noam: deal with family gatherings during divorce, what living a solo-life looks like, and as we check-in with each other about what this whole crazy experience has been like :)

In episode 49 Noam and Sheva have a deep and hilarious conversation with Michelle Traina of the Divorce Diaries Show. Michele Traina is a performer, educator, and creator of multiple performance brands that carry a thread of healing through humor. She has toured around the country from Stand up to Shakespeare. Michele earned her Masters in Educational Theatre from NYU and has her principal, supervisor, and theatre teacher certifications in the state of New Jersey. In 2013 she founded Propbox Players, a theatre company for young audiences geared towards inclusion and performance for diverse learners.   Her one-woman show How to Be A Successful Teacher was in United Solo Festival in 2012 as well as multiple other performances in the tri state area.  She continued her one-woman show ‘train' when she was getting divorced by putting her diary on the stage. Michele created Divorce Diaries in 2013 and it has evolved into a one-woman comedy show that laughs at life's beautiful mishaps. A Jersey Native, Michele's work has a trademark accent and physicality to it unlike anyone else.  She's fiercely energetic and uses her own challenges in life to motivate and inspire her practice as an educator and performer. Michele's obsession with coffee, high kicks, and running literally everywhere. Her favorite role will always be mom to her beautiful daughter Grace.

Hot off the press! Noam and Sheva prepare for Passover by talking about triggers, how we can handle them better and liberate ourselves from their incessant draw on our lives. Yes, Will Smith/Chris Rock is how the conversation got started. But how the conversation goes will take you in different directions of introspection, cleaning out the crumbs of old trauma, and finding ways to make those crumbs and meaningless as the dust of the earth. We also talk about the pressure that comes with Passover (and all of Jewish life) as a single parent wanting to deliver for our children and feeling like we are falling short of doing so.  

In episode 47 Noam and Sheva talk with Lori Mazenko a therapist and coach who specializes in working with Christian women going through divorce. It's almost a mirror-like type of conversation as we get to see how our fellow co-religionists experience major life transitions. How does their people feel in the eyes of God? What do their spiritual leaders think of divorce? How do the community and institutions respond to the needs of those who divorce? Check out this thought provoking episode for all the answers.  Lori's profile With 30+ years of therapy, business and coaching experience, she has helped thousands of people find solutions for complex problems, including strength and hope after divorce and breakups. She is the author of two parenting books and the mother of three adult children and Lala to little two boys, is engaged to the love of her life, which results in a blended family of 6 kids + mates, two grandchildren, 4 dogs and 1 cat.   She has been an entrepreneur for 30 years and recently completed an epic project called AMAZYOUary and is currently dedicating her work time to her company RISEilient Consulting and Coaching, a faith-based divorce and breakup recovery resource and retreat weekend.   When she is not working, she loves to travel, backpack, hike but most of all dance. https://riseilient.com/ https://www.facebook.com/RISEilient/ https://www.instagram.com/riseilient/

In episode 46 Noam and Sheva have a frank and funny conversation with Dr. Ina Park, MD. Ina is based on the West Coast and just completed her book on the history of STD's. It's called “Strange Bedfellows.” She's hilariously funny and, while not Jewish herself, has an impressive knowledge and affection of the Jewish community. Oh and in her spare time, she works and consults for the CDC. If you're dating, Jewish or not, this is a great conversation that gives you the tools to be more aware of the risks and realities of sexual life as an adult. Check out Ina's website here: https://www.inapark.net/ And you can find her on Instagram at InaParkMd

In episode 45 we meet Sheva's mom, Judy- the Icon. Judy gives us a very frank and honest conversation about what divorces looks like from her perspective as a proud Orthodox matriarch. We laughed, we cried, and we discovered the favorite child in the family.

In episode 44 Sheva and Noam sit down with Dr. Susan Korb Bernstein (https://www.divorcecoachplus.com/), a certified divorce coach (CDC) who specializes in high conflict divorces (with a narcissist, custody battles, hidden money) and  divorce with families that have special needs children. When it comes to divorce, do you have a team or trusted advisor other than a lawyer by your side? Well that's what a divorce coach does. Helps you think clearly about your steps in divorce.  Noam is also a CDC and specializes in working with men, and dads, who were blindsided by divorce and feel abandoned. He helps them to find their strength, gain clarity and perspective, so they walk with confidence and dignity. We also share a special event coming up for the Jewish divorce community. Book Sunday February 2/13 at 9am PST for a conversation with certified divorced coaches and a financial advisor/planner. Look for Jewish Divorce Journeys on Facebook and Meetup

In episode 43 Noam and Sheva sit down to talk about how they handled and currently handle being alone in divorce. Not just alone as in without other people around. But alone in the sense of by oneself, isolated, perhaps deliberately from everyone else for the purposes of introspection and growth. In Judaism we call this hit-bo-de-dut. In the process of being alone we can discover new things about ourselves and even surprise ourselves with how new we become in the process.

WARNING- EXTRA ADULT conversation in this week's episode. Noam and Sheva are joined by Sara Rosen, a New York based Sex Therapist, with a license in social work as well as a Masters of Education in human sexuality. Learn more about Sara here. And we are joined by an "Anonymous" voice from the orthodox community who share's her own experiences as the intersection between religious values towards sex and personal explorations with sexuality. In this episode we talk about many different subjects including: porn, sex positivity, kinks, communication, toys, masturbation, and the sacredness involved in intimacy. Surprisingly we don't talk about consent, so remember that's an important part of any sexual relationship. We talk some Jewish values, too, believe it or not. Specifically, Noam slightly misquotes the Torah in claiming Tamar had two sons, Er and Onan who died as a result of mastubation. The correct detail is that these were Judah's sons, not Tamars. Tamar was set to marry those two sons and give birth through them.  Here is also a link to the piece of Talmud mentioned about the important nature of sex education within Jewish education. 

Episode 41 deals with uncomfortable scenarios as Noam and Sheva dive into a conversation about meeting your ex's new love interest, when is the right time for the kids to meet this new person as well, and should romantic relationships also be like a best friendship as well. We've got some thoughts for Dr. Laura as well. Remember her!?

Wow 40 episodes! So many great conversations, and so many more to come :) This week, Noam and Sheva discuss if there are legitimate reasons to get divorced, the pressures that lead to marriage in the first place, and Thanksgiving in divorceland. 

Noam sits down with Shevy, one of Sheva's dearest friends, and the hilarity ensues as they discuss the difficulties and frustrations in dating. Do you use the apps, or are you hoping to meet people organically when standing in line for a show? What if you used a match-maker to be more surgical in your approach to finding a mate? Do you even know what you want and what your searching for? 

In episode 38 we are joined by Tammy Berman a licensed mental health counselor in Florida who specializes in collaborative divorce. Collaborative divorce is meant to be a healthier process of separation that avoids the threat and use of litigation to dissolve the marriage. Tammy teaches us about the practical applications of collaborative divorces and where to find this resources before you potentially commit thousands of dollars to litigious divorce. A major notion we touch on in this episode is that there is life after divorce, and that the way we approach divorce can impact life after divorce. Which is just as important as life before and during divorce. If your separation was collaborative, its entirely possible that family life after divorce will be collaborative, too. This is a chance at shalom bayit (peaceful home) even when there are two homes.

Friends, you're gonna love this one! This week, Sheva and Noam are joined by Aliza Einhorn- an astrologer, tarot reader, and medium. Yes, she talks to the dead.  And we go deep from the beginning talking about the power of mysticism to create change, astrological personality traits, free will, and our hosts get their tarot cards read by Aliza. Did we mention that Aliza was a witch at one point in her life? Join us for our coolest episode yet!   Aliza wrote two books! The Little of Book of Saturn and, most recently, A Mystical Practical Guide to Magic: Instructions for Seekers, Witches & Other Spiritual Misfits. You can find her @alizaofbrooklyn on Instagram, @moonplutonyc on Twitter, and at her own website, moonplutoastrology.com

We're back from summer break! Sheva and Noam catch up and share about relationships failures and successes, and create a Rosh Hashanah message about relationships big and small. As you look in the mirror this new year, how seriously do you take your relationships? How seriously do you take the relationships in which people share something sacred with you? And how seriously do you take your responsibilities to your neighbor in relating to them in a way that says you respect their lives? Below are the articles referenced in the episode. Note: episodes will most likely be published on a bi-weekly basis from now on. https://www.nytimes.com/2021/04/23/sunday-review/covid-friendship.html https://time.com/6076596/relationship-lessons-during-covid-19/