Podcast appearances and mentions of nikki debartolo

Exes and authors of the popular book “Our Happy Divorce” sit down with Jess and T.H. to talk (and laugh) about how they went from unhappily married to very happily divorced! This real and raw interview offers a lot of insight into some very common problems during marriage, and how Ben and Nikki were able to work through the anger and discontent to now live as a new “family” that includes their new significant others as well as as new siblings for their son. Their transparency and practical tips will help anyone dealing with divorce! (Guests: Ben Heldfond & Nikki DeBartolo, authors “Our Happy Divorce”) Follow us on IG @exexperts.

Divorce is mostly associated with negative definitions, but Ben and Nikki - authors of Our Happy Divorce, defied the norm to create a thriving blended family even after their breakup. Stay tuned to learn about the difficulties of their divorce and their unconventional approach to partnerships and blended families. Key takeaways to listen for What you should do to help one another heal and develop a future Useful ways to find common ground with your ex-partner 16:51 Step-parenting: Core values and parenting style Powerful tips to protect your children from divorce Helping children of divorce express their feelings  Resources mentioned in this episode.   Our Happy Divorce: How Ending Our Marriage Brought Us Closer Together⏐Kindle and Paperback     About Ben and Nikki  Ben and Nikki are the founders of Our Happy Divorce, a service that offers guidance on creating a post-divorce happy. They are the authors of “Our Happy Divorce — How Ending Our Marriage Brought Us Together.” They have made it their mission to help families during the turmoil divorce can become and made it their mission to help families in every way possible. Nikki is the Executive Vice President of DeBartolo Holdings and the DeBartolo Family Foundation. She has made it her mission to give back to her community in every way possible, from supporting local grassroots movements to national charities. She has helped support Metropolitan Ministries, Meals on Wheels, The Boys and Girls Club, The Humane Society of Tampa Bay, and the HCSO Freddie Solomon Christmas Event.  Benjamin is the owner of Heldfond Holdings, LLC, which invests in various companies, including real estate, private equity, and venture capital. He has always had a passion for helping others and since then has been involved with several non-profit organizations; focused on addiction recovery, including, Facing Addiction w/NCADD, Road Recovery, Phoenix House, Young People in Recovery, and American Cancer Society Tampa CEO Council with a focus on Governance, Finance, and Strategic Planning. Connect with Ben and Nikki Website: ourhappydivorce.com Instagram: @ourhappydivorce Twitter: @OurHappyDivorce Facebook: Our Happy Divorce   Connect with Us To learn more about us, visit our website at www.18summers.com or email us at info@18summers.com. To get a copy of our book “The Family Board Meeting”, click here. Subscribe to 18 Summers Podcast and leave a rating and written review! Social Media Channels Facebook Group: 18 Summers LinkedIn: Jimmy Sheils Instagram: @18summerstribe

This episode is here to inspire those who are going through divorce or have been through divorce to do it differently. To let go of your ego, stop the blame and shame game and focus within.Tune in as Michelle sits down with Ben and Nikki, authors of Our Happy Divorce to chat all about how they have come to a point where they can say they have a happy, peaceful divorce. They discuss:Why it wasn't always like thisHow working on themselves was the catalyst for change in their relationship How they came to have such a great co-parenting relationshipHow they dropped the ego in divorce for the sake of their childand more! More About Our Happy DivorceFrom dinners and homework to holiday card photos and summer vacations, Nikki DeBartolo and Ben Heldfond have created a tight-knit, enviable family. They work and play well together, from the smallest daily tasks to the biggest life events—and it only took a divorce to get them there. Though their marriage has been over for over a decade, they still share a happy life with each other and their son Asher, along with their spouses and children.It wasn't fast. And it wasn't easy. But together they created a happy post-divorce modern family.Get in touch with Ben and NikiIG: @ourhappydivorceGet in touch with Michelle: @themichellewolfe@themuveforwardpodcastWebsite: www.themichellewolfe.comMore about my favourite greens drink:www.muvelife.liveden.comUse code MUVE10

Navigating divorce and stepparenting is challenging for everyone involved, but statistics show it's particularly difficult for teen-aged children. Fortunately, there are things we can do to ease the transition and even thrive. Today I'm joined by authors of @ourhappydivorce Nikki DeBartolo and Ben Heldfond. Although their marriage has been over for nearly a decade, Nikki and Ben have learned how to create a happy life with each other and their new families. They are sharing their story in hopes of empowering and inspiring people to think differently about divorce, co-parenting, step-parenting, and what it means to put kids first. FREE STUFF! Dr. Cam's Top 10 Secrets for Raising Teens: www.askdrcam.com/parentingtips If you found this episode valuable, please take a quick moment to comment and share. This helps other parents like you find the show. Thank you!!

Nikki DeBartolo and Ben Heldfond are the architects of Our Happy Divorce, with the goal of empowering and inspiring people to think differently about divorce, co-parenting, step-parenting, and what it means to put kids first.Learn more at https://ourhappydivorce.com/Get The Book: Our Happy Divorce: How Ending Our Marriage Brought Us Closer Together

How To Have A Happy Divorce. This interview with Ben Heldfond and Nikki Debartolo will have you believe it is possible! Get tips for making divorce as easy on children as possible and creating a relationship with your ex that you can be proud of. LINKS MENTIONED IN THE RECORDING: How To Have A Happy Divorce https://theimpactfulparent.com for more FREE Resources and paid programs. https://theimpactfulparent.passion.io/ to download the FREE Impactful Parent App. Freebies included. www.ourhappydivorce.com for more from Nikki and Ben. -------------------- Rate, Review, & Subscribe! "I love Kristina and all the FREE tips that she has to offer!  Thank you for making my parenting journey better!" 

"I came home and there was a ripped up photo of us and his ring next to my sink"- Nikki DeBartoloIn a Divorce Social first, we have a divorced couple on the show together! Nikki DeBartolo and Ben Heldfond both join Samantha to talk about their divorce from one another and their book all about it. Now the best of friends, they talk to Samantha about their journey whilst bringing up their son. The three discuss feelings of insecurity, meeting in public places and the power of therapy. Ben and Nikki also discuss the drastic differences in their childhood and how that affected the different outlooks they had on relationships. To purchase their book, Our Happy Divorce: https://ourhappydivorce.com/Instagram: @OurhappydivorceFollow us on twitter and instagram: @divorcepod & @samanthabainesEmail: thedivorcesocial@gmail.comTranscripts can be found at www.thedivorcesocial.comSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/thedivorceclub. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Our special guests, Nikki DeBartolo and Benjamin Heldfond, from @ourhappydivorce, share their divorce story and how they became a STRONGER family AFTER divorce. Yes, you read that right! Come find out how their divorce had such a successful outcome and receive great co-parenting advice. In this episode, we discuss: ✔ What led to their divorce ✔ First step after learning that divorce is happening ✔ Keeping your emotions in check ✔ Communication with your ex ✔ Having an amicable divorce ✔ The importance of the right approach to divorce ✔ Keep your children front and center ✔ Moving onto the next chapter of your life while staying friends ....AND MUCH MORE....

"Our Happy Divorce" authors, Nikki DeBartolo and Benjamin Heldfond slid into the diner booth with me this week. Divorce is never easy but these two have figured out a way to make it work for their son Asher. We started our conversation talking about how Ben and Nikki met, when the sparks flew, and what brought them from San Francisco to Tampa, Florida. Making friends in a new city is hard and resentment is a tough emotion to shake when it starts building. I really appreciate the candor and self-awareness they both showed when owning how the years leading up to the divorce and the few after could have been handled better. We also talked about how they worked through the popular, though flawed, rationale many unhappy couples have: Stay together for the kids. We ended talking about the importance of counseling, the beauty of an open mind, and the power of clarity in communication. This was filled with just the right amount of couple bantering and deep-hitting realities. Excited for you to hear it!      About the Guest:  From weeknight dinners and homework sessions with their son to Christmas card photos and vacations, Nikki DeBartolo and Benjamin Heldfond have created a tight-knit, enviable family. They work and play well together, from the smallest daily tasks to the biggest life events—and it only took a divorce to get them there. Though their marriage has been over for nearly a decade, they still share a happy life with each other and their son Asher, along with their new amazing spouses and children. Ben and Nikki had hoped their wedding would start their happily ever after—but seven years, one child, and countless financial and familial entanglements later, their I do-s had turned into We can't-s. Armed with their fierce love for their son and a desire to give him the best, they realized they needed to find an alternative to the seemingly inevitable toxic divorce that loomed over their lives. Refusing to participate in the standard litigious legal divorce process, they devised a new strategy and worked to confront their hurt feelings and fragile egos head-on. Committed to putting Asher's needs first in every decision, they helped each other heal and build a future. Their happily blended family today is a testament to their commitment to a few core principles and their incredible son—during the divorce and beyond. In their stunning book "Our Happy Divorce," Ben and Nikki elaborate on the difficulties of their divorce experience, their individual pains and triumphs, and their unique approach to relationships and blended families. Their story is sure to inspire others to pursue something few believe possible…a happy divorce.   Connect with Ben and Nikki and learn more: https://www.amazon.com/Our-Happy-Divorce-Marriage-Together/dp/1631779974/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=Our+Happy+Divorce&qid=1568927277&sr=8-1 (Link to their book on Amazon) @ourhappydivorce on Instgram About the Host:  Friends! Here's a somewhat stuffy bio of me:   I am an author, professional speaker, coach, host, and entrepreneur. My first book, Leading Imperfectly: The value of being authentic for leaders, professionals, and human beings, is available wherever people buy books. I speak internationally to willing and unwilling attendees about authenticity, vulnerability, and leadership. My clients include American Express, General Electric (GE), Accenture, Yale University, The Ohio State University, and many others. As a speaker, I am doing the two things I loves the most: making people think and making people laugh!  I host my own events multiple times a year. They are 2-day events called Living Imperfectly Live (and sometimes they are 1-day virtual events). They are a space where humans from every walk of life can come together to be part of a community on the pursuit of badassery. The goal is to help attendees start living the life we say we want...

Focus on your side. In this episode, Ben and Nikki share how their sure to be high-conflict divorce, ended up being amicable after their own inner work, and the deep benefits of the family. The UnspokenPointing the finger at the other person doesn't support a healthy marriage, a happy divorce or co-parenting experience. What We Discuss with Ben and NikkiHow your inner work can help you find an amicable way through divorce. How to start taking accountability for your actions and the way you show up in the relationship. Focus on your side of the street if you want a happy marriage or divorce. How to not hand your children the emotional bill of your divorce. If you're ready to discipline your children without using old methods and get to the root of your triggers visit https://www.raisingchildrenyoulike.comNeed tools to raise well-behaved children without yelling or using old punitive methods? Check out our latest workshop. Visit: www.raisingchildrenyoulile.com/disciplineInner.U is the secret sauce to getting yourself unstuck and thriving where it matters most. The owner's manual for your entire life. This online coaching course gives you the tools to get yourself honestly and deeply happy where it matters most to you: your relationships to your SELF, BODY, MONEY, TIME, and more. Signing up today gets you a lifetime access to a ton of coaching worth thousands of dollars, including a private coaching session with an HG Coach, group masterclasses and access to Q&A recordings all to keep you happy and inspired. Go to inner.u and enter the code NOTYOURMOTHER for $50 off!Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Instagram handle so we can thank you personally!Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://notyourmotherspodcast.co/ben-and-nikki

You will love this story! Learning how to have a happy divorce is easy and enjoyable with Nikki and Ben. As they share their story you will discover how you too can divorce a better way; a different way. Join attorney and mediator Lesa Koski as she has a fun conversation about their book and their happy life after divorce. Find Our Happy Divorce How Ending Our Marriage Brought Us Together here! The greatest lesson learned on todays episode is that there is another way to divorce. There is hope to work together as a family even when you are not together anymore. This couples first steps in the right direction were the following: 1. worked on themselves, 2. apologized for their wrongs, 3. agreed they wanted what was best for their son. And so began their healing journey through divorce. Our Happy Divorce Instagram Our Happy Divorce Facebook Our Happy Divorce Website Lesa Koski instagram Lesa Koski Facebook Lesa Koski Linkedin Lesa Koski website

there are some things in a kids life that can really rock their world. One of those things is divorce, and it can really have a negative effect on kids. But it doesn't have to be that way. I have with me on the show today, Ben Heldfond and Nikki DeBartolo. They are the founders of the Our Happy Divorce page, and co-authors of Our Happy Divorce, How Ending Our Marriage Brought Us Closer Together. They totally changed the culture around divorce and are striving to continue to break the mold of how horrible divorces typically are on kids. And they are here with use today to give us some insight on how we can put our kids first in our marriages and even our divorces. Go check them out @ourhappydivorce on all social accounts, and go check out their book where books are sold Check me out at @bulliesbe.gone for your daily dose of positivity, and for speaking inquires email me bullies.speaker@gmail.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

According to experts 40 to 50 percent of all marriages will end in divorce or separation. Divorce can have psychological effects, such as increased stress, lower life satisfaction, depression, and increased medical visits. But there is still hope, as my guest managed to divorce happily and are joining me to share their tips. Nikki DeBartolo and Benjamin S. Heldfond had hoped their wedding would start their happily ever after—but seven years, one child, and countless financial and familial entanglements later, their I do-s had turned into We can't-s. Armed with their fierce love for their son and a desire to give him the best, they realized they needed to find an alternative to the seemingly inevitable toxic divorce that loomed over their lives. Refusing to participate in the standard litigious legal divorce process, they devised a new strategy and worked to confront their hurt feelings and fragile egos head-on. Committed to putting their son Asher's needs first in every decision, they helped each other heal and build a future. Their book Our Happy Divorce elaborate on the difficulties of their divorce experience, their individual pains and triumphs, and their unique approach to relationships and blended families. Nikki and Ben said yes and joined me today to talk about their Happy Divorce , it is your turn to say Yes and find the way to a happy divorce or separation

This week on Race for the Ring, Mindie is joined by Bestselling Authors of 'Our Happy Divorce', Co-parents Nikki DeBartolo and Ben Heldfond.In this episode, Mindie, Nikki and Ben discuss the steps both Nikki and Ben took to be able to create a happy life with each other and their son Asher, along with their spouses and children. Following their separation 14 years ago, Ben and Nikki prove that a happy divorce is possible, and are empowering and inspiring people to think differently about divorce, co-parenting, step-parenting, and what it means to put kids first. It wasn't fast. And it wasn't easy. But together they created a happy post-divorce modern family. Listen closely as they reveal the family values that they live by, which can help you to have a happy divorce as well!Follow Our Happy Divorce:Website: https://ourhappydivorce.com/IG: https://www.instagram.com/ourhappydivorce/Twitter: https://twitter.com/OurHappyDivorceFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/ourhappydivorce/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDavSqivnV-rmzDaX7L7P2wNikki DeBartolo:IG: https://www.instagram.com/nikkidebartolo/Twitter: https://twitter.com/NikkiDeBartolo/Ben Heldfond:IG: https://www.instagram.com/benheldfond/Twitter: https://twitter.com/benswigradio/Mindie Barnetthttps://mbandassociatespr.com/Thank you to our sponsor, Ferkos Fine Jewelry. Use my code “Mindie15” for 15% off of your first order!https://ferkosfinejewelry.com/pages/contact Our GDPR privacy policy was updated on August 8, 2022. Visit acast.com/privacy for more information.

From dinners and homework to holiday card photos and summer vacations, Nikki DeBartolo and Ben Heldfond have created a tight-knit, enviable family. They work and play well together, from the smallest daily tasks to the biggest life events—and it only took a divorce to get them there. Though their marriage has been over for over a decade, they still share a happy life with each other and their son Asher, along with their spouses and children.The Two Jess(es) sit down with Nikki and Ben and witness this phenomenon first hand. Two people who are self-aware enough to realize they "got the path of being in love and loving each other mixed up," in itself is incredible, but to hear them speak of their commitment and respect for their son, and how putting him first became the only thing that mattered, is not only inspiring, but an important example for parents everywhere- married or divorced.To find out more about Ben and Nikki's experience you can go to https://ourhappydivorce.com/ and read their book: https://www.amazon.com/Our-Happy-Divorce-Marriage-Together/dp/1631779974/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=Our+Happy+Divorce&qid=1568927277&sr=8-1Support the show (http://www.paypal.com)

52. Our Happy Divorce with Benjamin Heldfond and Nikki DeBartolo

Nikki and Ben are more fun than a barrel of monkeys. This was one FUN conversation and a truly inspiring and empowering example Nikki knows firsthand how being supported by a strong, loving family can influence the way a person navigates life, love, marriage, and motherhood. Having grown up as a member of the iconic San Francisco 49ers football family, she was thrown into the limelight at a young age. The values her family instilled in her have helped shape who she is today, and she continues to live by them. As Vice President of the DeBartolo Family Foundation, Nikki has made it her mission to give back to her community in every way possible, from supporting local grassroots movements to national charities, all while being a strong, supportive wife and mother. Nikki resides in Tampa Bay, Florida, with her son Asher and her husband Chad Chronister, who also serves the Tampa community as Sheriff of Hillsborough County. Ben graduated from the University of California, Berkeley with a Bachelor of Science degree in African American History and Business Administration. He is the owner of Heldfond Holdings, LLC, a holding company that invests in a wide variety of companies, including private equities, restaurants, and a record label. He is also a member of the board for Swig Company, LLC. Ben is involved with many organizations supporting those who struggle with addiction and substance abuse. An avid golfer and sports enthusiast, he currently resides in South Tampa with his wife, Nadia; fifteen-year-old son, Asher; six-year-old daughter, Isabella; and three-year-old son, Jackson. You must GRAB this book! https://ourhappydivorce.com/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thriving-in-chaos/message

Our guests today have worked hard to craft a loving and tight-knit family. Their effort to create that family has only intensified since their divorce in 2007. In an effort to help others see what's possible, Ben Heldfond and Nikki DeBartolo created “Our Happy Divorce,” a book, channel, and community dedicated to building a healthy, happy, post-divorce modern family.This week on the show, Ben and Nikki share their perspectives on building a family as family membership changes. They share their dating stories, and how they introduced new partners successfully to the family unit. And, most important, they tell us how their efforts are guided by their love and dedication to the children in both their lives. This passion has made their family an aspiration for others and we're thrilled to have them on the show with us today. Links & NotesOur Happy Divorce by Ben Helfond & Nikki DeBartoloSubscribe to Our Happy Divorce on YouTubeOurHappyDivorce.com

Our guests today have worked hard to craft a loving and tight-knit family. Their effort to create that family has only intensified since their divorce in 2007. In an effort to help others see what’s possible, Ben Heldfond and Nikki DeBartolo created “Our Happy Divorce,” a book, channel, and community dedicated to building a healthy, happy, post-divorce modern family. This week on the show, Ben and Nikki share their perspectives on building a family as family membership changes. They share their dating stories, and how they introduced new partners successfully to the family unit. And, most important, they tell us how their efforts are guided by their love and dedication to the children in both their lives. This passion has made their family an aspiration for others and we’re thrilled to have them on the show with us today. ### Links & Notes - [*Our Happy Divorce* by Ben Helfond & Nikki DeBartolo][book] - [Subscribe to Our Happy Divorce on YouTube][channel] - [OurHappyDivorce.com][site] [book]:https://www.amazon.com/Our-Happy-Divorce-Marriage-Together/dp/1631779974/ref=sr_1_1?sr=8-1&keywords=Our%2BHappy%2BDivorce&tag=trustoryfm-20&qid=1568927277 [channel]:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDavSqivnV-rmzDaX7L7P2w [site]:https://ourhappydivorce.com

How do you turn Divorce Conflict Into a Strong Friendship & Top tips on co-parenting through disagreements.When Nikki and Ben knew their marriage was ending, little did they didn't know that their new relationship would bring them closer together.  “Our Happy Divorce,” a book authored by Nikki and Ben, they have tackled how they created a modern family despite both being remarried. Communication and a desire to put their son Asher's needs before their own have been the keys to turning their hurt into friendship.

In today's episode I chat with Ben Heldfond and Nikki DeBartolo, creators of the book “Our Happy Divorce” and talk about the obstacles they have had to overcome throughout their divorce. Going through a divorce can be an extremely difficult process that leaves many people in a great amount of distress. Ben and Nikki share their story on how they overcome their challenges throughout their divorce and give advice for those going through the same thing. They provide listeners with the steps they took to get to the healthy friendship that they have now and explain how to create a more positive outlook when it comes to divorce. You won't want to miss this episode.

When we think of divorce, we rarely associate it with anything positive. Anger, sadness, resentment, all of these feelings are often attached to the idea of a relationship ending. But this doesn’t always have to be the case, as exemplified by my recent guest on the Divorce Doctor podcast: Ben Heldfond. Ben is the co-author of Our Happy Divorce, a book that he and his ex-wife, Nikki DeBartolo, wrote about their journey through divorce and how it brought them closer together. He talks about the importance of putting your kids first and how you can actually connect and stay close even after a divorce. In my talk with Ben, we discuss the genesis of Our Happy Divorce and the soul-searching that often comes from the experience of divorce.

This week we're going to be joined by Benjamin Heldfand, co-author (Nikki DeBartolo) of Our Happy Divorce. From weeknight dinners and homework sessions with their son to Christmas card photos and vacations, Nikki DeBartolo and Benjamin Heldfond have created a tight-knit, enviable family. They work and play well together, from the smallest daily tasks to the biggest life events-and it only took a divorce to get them there. Though their marriage has been over for nearly a decade, they still share a happy life with each other and their son Asher, along with their new amazing spouses and children. (Google Books) You can also find the Our Happy Divorce group and radio show on Facebook.

George sits down with Ben, a successful businessman, an author, and a person in long term recovery (26 years to be exact). Ben wrote a book with his ex wife, Nikki Debartolo called "The Happy Divorce" he is also a DJ for 102.5 the Bone. The show "Miggs and Swig is described this way, Musician Don Miggs and businessman Ben Swig may take the reins, but it's their female powerhouse counterparts, Lisa D and JoJo that keep this unconventional show on track! The line up consists of husband and wife team (Lisa D. & Don), Ex Brother-In-Law (Ben Swig) and Dating Diva (JoJo). I had the opportunity to be on the show and I had a blast, I knew I needed to get to know this guy more and this conversation is the result! A lot of wisdom and real life, recovery experience is shared in here I hope you take the time to listen! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/sober-truth-project/message

Moving on after divorce is easier said than done. Loneliness, isolation, shame, and guilt are all commonplace after separation and divorce. Often, people going through separation feel like they won't ever be able to get back on their feet and may even worry that they will never find love again. If these feelings sound familiar, this is the episode for you. On this episode of Divorce, Healthy!, attorney and author Ashley-Nicole Russell welcomes Michelle Dempsey-Multack, Certified Divorce Specialists and host of the https://momsmovingon.com/ (Moms Moving On Podcast), to discuss her system for overcoming the emotional complexities that accompany divorce and how women can come out stronger on the other side. Michelle reveals how she uses what she learned during her own divorce to help other women overcome their suffering and thrive. Ashley-Nicole and Michelle open up about their respective divorces and how the process was ultimately a teaching experience. “I truly feel I had to be married to him for all of these unresolved demons and issues and traumas from my past to surface once and for all so that I could confront them. Because I had been ignoring them and living in denial for a really long time.” (8:15) Michelle also reveals how she discovered that she suffered from an anxious attachment style because of her parents' divorce and how this affected her relationships and divorce. Today, both Ashley-Nicole and Michelle are in loving and healthy relationships with partners that understand the struggle they've experienced. Michelle advises acknowledging to yourself that the situation will be challenging, “you know it's going to be hard. It's an unfortunate situation that's happened, but it is also an opportunity to move forward in a way that works best for you, to put your best foot forward, to honor what you did wrong, and vow to not do it again. So if you're willing to do the hard work, you're going to get to a good place. Nothing good comes easy. Don't expect it to be easy. And if you feel like it's easier than you expect it, then good for you, then you're in a good place.” (17:56)  For more information on Michelle Dempsey-Multack's podcast, visit https://momsmovingon.com/ (MomsMovingOn.com). You can also follow her on http://instagram.com/themichelledempsey (Instagram) and https://www.facebook.com/themichelledempsey/ (Facebook) @themichelledempsey. Like this interview with Michelle Dempsey? Check out https://player.captivate.fm/episode/1cdcb828-8738-4e98-bcf1-d58b5806d828 (The Myth is Busted, Divorce Doesn't Have to be Horrible. With co-parents and co-authors of Our Happy Divorce, Ben Heldfond and Nikki DeBartolo). To inquire about speaking engagements, purchase your copy of Ashley-Nicole's book “The Cure for Divorce Culture,” or to schedule your private orientation meeting, head to http://www.anrlaw.com (www.anrlaw.com). You can also find us on social media @ANRLaw. Find a better way forward, right here, on Divorce, Healthy!

Be inspired and see divorce from a different perspective on this special edition of The Epic Comeback™ Podcast with the authors of the book Our Happy Divorce, Nikki Debartolo and Ben Heldfond. They work as one in cultivating a community of divorced families that coexist in a happier and healthier way, with the needs of their children as a central priority. Nikki and Ben share that the best ways to get to the other side of a life-shattering experience are to keep going and to take time for yourself. They learned these lessons while enduring their own divorce.   Find Nikki and Ben at ourhappydivorce.com, as well as on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook: @ourhappydivorce. Get hold of their book, Our Happy Divorce, on Amazon.

Divorce has long had a bad reputation. It is often incredibly stressful for the couple and leaves broken families in its path. Have you ever wondered, “does it really have to be this way?” Are there people out there who have successfully dissolved their marriages in a peaceful and healthy way? Are there children who don't feel like their lives have been torn apart by their parents' divorce? The answer is yes. Enter Benjamin Heldfond and Nikki DeBartolo, authors of https://ourhappydivorce.com/ (Our Happy Divorce), and today's guests on this episode of Divorce, Healthy! When Ben and Nikki got divorced 13 years ago, there were far fewer resources available for collaborative processes and co-parenting. Luckily, they were both able to successfully navigate the divorce process and make decisions that have resonated positively in their lives and the lives of their children. Benjamin stresses the importance of keeping your child's best interest at heart. With painful memories of his own parents' divorce, Ben knew he didn't want to put his child through the same hardship. Conversely, Nikki's parents remain married after 52 years, and she claims this was the driving force for making things work throughout the divorce process. (5:26) At first, Ben did what most people do and hired an attorney. He soon realized his attorney may be more interested in a fight than in doing what was best for Ben and his family. Instead of pursuing a fight, Ben decided to step away from everything for a while. After taking time to weigh his options, he ultimately decided to team up with Nikki to tackle the problem together. “She was on my team and I was on her team. So, if you want to talk about collaborative, that's the ideal behind it. But we truly were on each other's team… as team captains.” (19:22) Ben and Nikki admit that there is no easy way out of a divorce; there will always be fights, arguments, anger, etc. However, there are ample resources for people going through separation and divorce to consider. One resource the couple endorse is the https://www.fayr.com/app (App Fayr), developed by Micheal Daniels, who joins the conversation at 30:12. “Fayr is really just my sincere effort in trying to…communicate on the core issues, the things that need to be communicated on and try to clear up some of the misunderstandings and disagreement that oftentimes escalate into a costly court motion. And it has an emotional cost too.” (30:54) As Ashley-Nicole mentions in prior episodes, the divorce industry is a broken one, and only some people benefit from it. Echoing her thoughts, Michael says “[Divorce] is such a broken system… everybody talks about the broken system. The truth is the system is working just fine for those who are financially benefiting from it.”(38:37) This is why “we're all here to try to scream and say, you do not have to follow the norm just because it's the norm,” says Ashley-Nicole. (45:52) For more information on Benjamin and Nikki's book Our Happy Divorce, visit https://ourhappydivorce.com/ (ourhappydivorce.com). To download the Fayr App visit https://www.fayr.com/app (fayr.com/app) Like this interview with Benjamin Heldfond and Nikki DeBartolo? Check out https://player.captivate.fm/episode/1ca7f163-696c-4181-b551-b4ca3ecb57ce (How to Move Forward After Divorce, With Divorce Attorney & “Better Apart” Author, Gabrielle Hartley). To inquire about speaking engagements, purchase your copy of Ashley-Nicole's book “The Cure for Divorce Culture,” or to schedule your private orientation meeting, head to http://www.anrlaw.com (www.anrlaw.com). You can also find us on social media @ANRLaw. Find a better way forward, right here, on Divorce, Healthy!