Cross The Stream Podcast

In this deeply personal episode, I confront the relentless worries that come with living with General Anxiety Disorder—especially in a world that often feels increasingly uncertain. Despite the advice that "worrying does no good," my mind continues to forecast worst-case scenarios, especially as recent events magnify concerns for my family, career, and community. I explore the fears that keep me up at night and the impact on my roles as a husband, father, friend, and coach. This episode isn't about finding easy answers; it's about connecting with others who may feel the same way, seeking strength through vulnerability, and discovering resilience in community. Join me as we unpack these anxieties together and look for purpose, even when the path forward feels daunting.

In this episode, “Not All Men...Yet,” we dive deep into a powerful movement to reclaim the phrase Not All Men with a renewed purpose of accountability, healing, and change. We explore She Is Not Your Rehab's Not All Men campaign, which challenges men to take ownership of their role in ending cycles of harm and creating a safer world for everyone. Highlighting comedian Daniel Sloss's personal account, we discuss why “just being good on the inside” isn't enough and why silence, inaction, or looking the other way makes us complicit. This episode isn't about blame—it's an invitation for all men to step up, speak out, and get involved in being part of the solution. Join us as we discuss how this connects to TeamsOfMen and the role of coaches, mentors, and athletes in setting a new standard for healthy, accountable manhood. Let's move from Not All Men to All Men in the work of creating safe and respectful communities.

In this episode of "Cross the Streams," host Kip Ioane dives into the complex situation surrounding Cleveland Browns quarterback Deshaun Watson. Following his recent Achilles injury and the booing he received from fans, Kip examines the implications of fan behavior and the reactions from fellow athletes, including Myles Garrett and Jameis Winston. Through the lens of TeamsOfMen work, Kip explores themes of victim advocacy, toxic masculinity, and the importance of healthy relationships in sports. He shares personal insights from his experiences in locker rooms, emphasizing the need for accountability and compassion among male athletes. Join us as we confront the challenges of sports culture, discuss the impact of the Manbox mentality, and consider how coaches and athletes can promote a more supportive and respectful environment both on and off the field.

In this episode of CTS, we explore three powerful themes: unexpected life shifts, the accountability of men in today's society, and how achievement in sports does not give anyone a free pass from morality. Kip kicks things off by reflecting on a tweet about the Dallas Cowboys that sparked a deep dive into how we measure character in athletes and why achievement shouldn't excuse immoral behavior. We then turn to the work of Michael Flood and Lula Dembele, who challenge the idea that men are inherently violent and unemotional, supporting Kip's belief that harmful behaviors are learned and can be unlearned through better social conditioning. Finally, Kip introduces the term "lifequake," a major upheaval that forces personal growth and transformation. Drawing from his own experiences with family and career challenges, Kip reflects on how these moments of crisis shaped the person he is today. Tune in to hear about the lessons these lifequakes have taught, the importance of holding men accountable, and how transformation often begins with discomfort.

In this episode, we explore the evolving landscape of coaching, relationships, and personal growth. We dive into the contrasting philosophies of "hard coaching" versus creating trust and safety for players, using two impactful quotes as our guideposts. I challenge the notion that effective coaching requires emotional detachment or harshness, arguing that true success comes from building relationships rooted in trust, empathy, and authenticity. We also introduce a practical segment on "5 things to ask instead of 'how was school,'" offering fresh conversation starters for parents, coaches, and partners to deepen their connections with those they care about. Whether you're looking to redefine how you coach, lead, or check in with your family, this episode will inspire new approaches to fostering growth and accountability—without sacrificing humanity. Tune in for insights on redefining toughness and making your presence count in the lives of your players, family, and teams.

In this episode of the Cross the Streams Podcast, we challenge the old-school mindset of "As a man, I have to..." and explore the power of shifting to "As a human" or even "As ME." Inspired by a recent quote from Coach Ivan C Thomas about "beating feelings into submission," we dive deep into how this language traps men in the restrictive "manbox" and prevents them from experiencing the full spectrum of human emotion. Join me as we unpack: The impact of words like "As a man" on identity and behavior. Why processing emotions beats suppressing them every time. A step-by-step evolution from restrictive gender norms to authentic self-expression. Real-life strategies for coaches, athletes, and everyone to break free from outdated scripts and live more fully. Whether you're a coach, an athlete, or someone striving to grow beyond societal expectations, this episode will inspire you to rethink the narratives that shape your life. Let's learn how to embrace every part of ourselves—without apology.

In this episode of the Cross The Streams Podcast, we tackle the controversy surrounding LSU's Kyren Lacy and his unsportsmanlike celebration that led to a 15-yard penalty. But we go beyond the penalty flags and fan outrage to dig deeper into what this incident reveals about sports culture, coaching, and how we guide young men toward healthier visions of manhood. We discuss: The importance of celebrating joyfully and respectfully on the field. Why reactive coaching misses the mark and how proactive discussions can shape better choices. The "After the Final Whistle" session, challenging athletes to think beyond the game and redefine the "script" for triumph. Addressing the racial backlash and harmful stereotypes faced by young athletes. How emotions—whether in success or failure—serve as informers, and how the PAUSE technique can help athletes handle them constructively. Join us as we advocate for a coaching framework that empowers young men to understand their actions and make thoughtful, impactful decisions. No young man is a throwaway. Let's build a culture of respect, understanding, and positive growth in sports! Tune in, share your thoughts, and let's continue the conversation. #CrossTheStreamsPodcast #TeamsOfMen #CoachingMatters #CelebrateWithRespect #RedefineManhood

In this episode of Cross The Streams, Kip Ioane reacts to a powerful moment from the Democratic National Convention that goes beyond politics and dives deep into the concepts of healthy manhood, emotional fluency, and breaking free from the restrictive "man box." Kip shares a personal connection to the struggles of infertility, fatherhood, and the journey of raising a special needs child, while highlighting the significance of Minnesota Governor Tim Walz's story and his son Gus's emotional display of joy. This episode is a call to action for coaches, parents, and men everywhere to challenge the outdated norms that limit emotional expression and to champion a new version of manhood—one that embraces the full spectrum of human emotions.

In this episode of Cross The Streams, Kip Ioane delves into three critical topics that every coach, parent, and athlete should consider. First, we explore the often invisible mental load that disproportionately falls on women in relationships and caregiving. Kip shares a personal story from his own life and draws from insights by authors Kate Washington and Kate Mangino, challenging men to step up and share the cognitive labor in their partnerships. Next, we shift focus to the ethics and responsibilities within sports culture. Kip discusses the importance of not just focusing on the game but also addressing the real-world issues that impact our athletes. He introduces Game Plan For Civic Engagement: Coaching Through the Election, a resource designed to help coaches guide their teams through the complexities of voting and civic duty. Finally, Kip leaves listeners with a powerful exit ticket—a conversation starter on reframing power dynamics and misogyny. Inspired by a thought-provoking social media post, this segment encourages you to rethink how we talk about these issues and to use this new perspective to challenge the status quo. Whether you're a coach, a parent, or just someone interested in making a positive impact, this episode is packed with insights and practical takeaways to help you lead with intention and purpose.

In this episode, host Kip Ioane tackles three compelling topics that challenge our perceptions of masculinity and respect for women: Man vs. Bear Debate: Kip explores the viral TikTok debate where many women prefer being stuck with a bear over a man, discussing the real fears and statistics on violence against women. Harrison Butker's Graduation Speech: Kip critiques the traditional gender roles promoted in Butker's speech at Benedictine College, highlighting the need for evolving views on masculinity and equality. Kendrick Lamar vs. Drake Rap Beef: Initially siding with Kendrick, Kip reconsiders his stance after a powerful TikTok video by @jamylecannon, exposing troubling behaviors of both artists towards women.

Kip returns with a story and deep dive on male objectification of women, including a social media video share from his daughter and two articles exploring how men view women and why "what she was wearing" is NEVER an excuse for harm caused

Kip welcomes back Open Door Abuse Awareness Prevention Founder and CEO, Coach Valencia Peterson for her second appearance on the pod, and the two deep dive her continued work in Maryland, Delaware and Philadelphia to "to prevent violence in all its facets including sexual assault and intimate partner violence."

Kip shares two articles (one titled "Can Parents Prevent Their Sons From Sliding to the Right?" by Kathryn Jezer-Morton and the other titled "5 ways to shore up boys' social skills" by Phyllis L. Fagell for CNN) and talks why parents of boys should both read them and his own takeaways from their work.

Kip returns with content around the ultimate goal of any parent/coach/mentor (3:15), why men defining violence contributes to not believing survivors (9:00) a study imploring adults to take on conversations around healthy relationship skills and consent with their kids (15:31) and examining traits of actual leadership (25:10)

We're back! Kip welcomes our loyal audience to the first episode of Season 8 of Cross The Streams by laying out a shift in format and focus for the pod. He then answers the mailbag question "What exactly is it you do now?" and then deep dives two current events that tie directly into his work to dismantle #themanbox and its limitations on manhood.

Kip introduces a brand new segment to the pod, #MaxedOutOnMaxims, where we challenge the relevancy and accuracy of common sayings. This round we take down "High tides raise all ships"

Kip welcomes the team from #GetPsychedSports to the pod and they deep dive their #EndAbusiveCoaching initiative and belief in the need for the coaching profession as a whole to evolve

Kip welcomes speaker/writer/prevention educator Carolyn Curtis back to the pod and she details her time at the 2023 NOVA conference, her #PostTraumaWellnessProject, and the rationale behind her belief in Character, Prevention & Purpose.

Kip takes on the proposed removal of the BLOCK button on TwitterX and shares a personal interaction online with someone skeptical about the existence of waist culture

Kip reflects on both his personal lived experience at sports camps (as an athlete and as a 20+ year director/coach of them) and talks things he wants coaches to change in their approach to camps.

Kip takes a journey of hope and happiness with Executive Director of the National Council of Dementia Minds Brenda Roberts as the two discuss the radical, inspiring approach her non profit takes in their mission of "People living with dementia transforming the worldview of Neurocognitive Disorders."

Kip and Kane are back together, talking potential soundtracks to their mornings, why and why not their degrees from higher education were helpful in their careers, and recalling obstacles from their youth that have turned to strengths in adulthood

Kip welcomes friend, coach and DEI trainer Aseem Rastogi back to the pod and the two share space in rage and examination of the death of Affirmative Action yesterday

Kip shares his rage at the Supreme Court's 6-3 decision to end #affirmativeaction at colleges/universities around the country

Kip interviews Justin Lunt, head coach of the Pacific University Boxers Men's Basketball Program. Coach Lunt details his career arc, the core foundational beliefs of his program and how he tries to define success for his guys on and off the floor.

Our segment focusing on the efforts of west coast D3 programs continues as Kip welcomes Head Coach #TimMcCrory of the Lewis and Clark Men's Basketball Program

Kip is joined by long time friend and Head Coach of The University of La Verne's Men's Basketball team #CoachRichReed. The two deep dive Rich's career arc, philosophy on and off the floor and define success in his program.

Kip sits down with #EverettHS Boys Head Coach Bobby Thompson to talk the why behind his adoption of the #TeamsOfMen coaching framework, the impact it has had on his program, and why other coaches should join the founding group!

Kip welcomes friend (and former coaching colleague) #MacoHamilton from George Fox University Men's Basketball to the latest episode of our #LeftCoastStory series. Coach Hamilton discusses his career arc in coaching, D3 stigma's coaches must battle, and how to connect players to achieve success.

Kip and Kane are back together, talking proactive vs reactive, how they might coach themselves if their player presented with a trait each of them knows they carry that is counterproductive to success as husbands, fathers and career coaches.

We launch a brand new segment entitle #LeftCoastStory, meant to feature the great work of D3 West Coast Athletic programs. We start with HC Chad Murray and the Pacific Lutheran University Men's Basketball team. We deep dive coach's origin story, his philosophy and what he defines as success for players in his program!

Kip welcomes #DavidGunn back to the pod and the two discuss a women's track team suspended for wearing sports bras to practice outdoors, #JaMorant, and deep dive their shortcomings as #handymen (Kane even joins the last segment).

#Kip welcomes #RaceForMinds founder #LaceyAbell to the latests episode of our #RepeatReassureRedirect segments. Lacey details her mother's journey with dementia, talks how she decided to start the #RaceForTheMinds fundraising run in Billings and lets everyone know how to sign up for this year's event!

Chief Innovation Officer and Co Founder Dr. Reza Hosseini Ghomi of Frontier Psychiatry joins the pod to discuss his unique approach to dementia treatment, optimism around early detection advancements, and details surrounding new medicines.

Kip is joined by the team from the Montana Chapter of the Alzheimer's Association and they share the vital work they do, the upcoming #LongestDay fundraiser happening across the country, and areas where the community can become advocates for the cause!

Kip and Kane are back, this week deep diving Kane's #NFLDraft experience, Giannis' post game presser on failure and the two of them's thoughts on pushing through low points in life.

Kip welcomes back his #CallingMENIn co hosts -Carli Rohner. Campus Coordinator. Oregon Attorney General's Sexual Assault Task Force -Jeff Matsushita. Engaging Men Program Director. Boise State Univ and the group discusses wins during SAAM month, teenage sharing of nude pictures, and the need for interruption in violence prevention

Kip and Kane are back to discuss Kip joining the long line of coaches to be let go, next steps for him AND deep dive why #men need to show up in some spaces smaller and less visible

Kip welcomes the President of the #eugeneor #ymca #JoeCarmichael to the pod to discuss all things fundraising, family legacy, and capital campaigns

Kip and Kane return to thank everyone for the outpouring of support from everyone after the announcement of the creation of (and reason behind)the #KasIoaneFoundation and share the website for registering golfers for the July 22nd Golf Tournament

Kip deep dives #youth sports participation levels, parents spendings, and how we as adults are RUINING what should be a bastion of growth and development for our kids

Kip and Kane reunite for the launch of Season 7 of Cross The Streams and make an announcement regarding their father, Kas, and a new family project

In the season 6 finale, Kip shares a personal story highlighting the constant questioning and angst parents can have while trying to create better for their children

Kip tries to find cathartic release and community with fellow grieving #DallasCowboys #CowboysFans after another season appears lost before it barely began

Kip welcomes back #DavidGunn and #KellyIoane to get their opinions on whether common #lifeadvice sayings are #cliche #mantras or #meh

Kip deep dives the now debunked pseudo science the "alpha male" theory is supposedly based in

Kip recounts his awkward convo with a service provider and then deep dives the history of, science behind, and expectations for tipping in today's society

Kip wraps up our 3-part mini series #wordsmatter with a sharing of his research on "ineffable" and what it means when something cannot be expressed with words

Kip continues his series on #WordsMatter, this week discussing the practices of "sanitization" and "passive voice" and the harm each can cause in our discourse

Kip deep dives ways the deployment of words can help or hinder your ability to cause change in behavior as both a #coach, #parent, #educator, or #employer

Kip welcomes Speaker/Writer/Advocate #CarolynGCurtis to the pod and she details the why/what/how of her work to end #oppression #sexualassault in all forms