Podcast appearances and mentions of jeff perera

In this powerful conversation, Jeff Perera, founder of Higher Unlearning, joins Boysen Hodgson to discuss modern masculinity, societal division, and how men can navigate these complexities with accountability, compassion, and integrity.Key Ideas:The Era of Surfacing: Over the past decade, hard truths about race, gender, and accountability have emerged, forcing people to either lean in or push back.The Trust Famine & Empathy Deficit: Deep distrust in institutions has led to defensive behaviors and a lack of empathy in public discourse.The Gardening Metaphor: Change requires patience—nurturing relationships, growing understanding, and allowing transformation rather than discarding people.The Accountability Challenge: True accountability must be invited, not imposed. Without agreements, we can't demand accountability from others.The Inner Compass for Men: A four-step framework for growth: Determine who you are – Define your values.Be what you believe – Align actions with values.Show up for the consequences – Own your impact.Do better than yesterday – Commit to growth.On-Ramps vs. Backflips: Creating accessible entry points for change is more effective than demanding instant transformation.Reframing Masculinity: Instead of just telling men to "do better," we must emphasize healing, self-awareness, and personal growth.The Role of Love & Compassion: Engaging men in change requires making them feel seen, valued, and invited—not shamed or discarded.Jeff and Boysen explore the paradox of isolation vs. connection, the power of self-awareness, and how men can build a healthier masculinity in uncertain times.Learn more about Jeff: https://higherunlearning.com/Text Us Your Feedback! (Likes, Dislikes, Guest/Conversation Recommendations). BetterHelp: Get 10% Off Your First Month Of Therapy The ManKind Podcast has partnered with Betterhelp to make it easier for listeners to access licensed mental health therapists who can aid them in their mental health journey. Brandon and Boysen stand by this service as they use BetterHelp for their therapy needs.#Sponsorship #AdSupport the showGet 45% off the Magic Mind bundle with with our link:https://magicmind.com/MANKINDJAN Subscribe/Rate/Review on iTunes ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐: >>>HERE

This week, we're joined by multihyphenate artist Stephanie Graham to delve into Pick Me culture. Remoy has no idea what that means, so Samantha walks him through what Pick Me culture is, the nuances in the ways women interact with each other when talking about relationships with men, and what that means for MASKulinity.Have you ever done anything out of character to be picked or chosen? This question is at the crux of this episode, and Remoy shares his own personal experience, which mostly includes success without shame.Along the way, Samantha breaks down what a simp is, which according to Urban Dictionary, is the male version of being a Pick Me. The crew walks through how each term started out as a way to call folks out for bending their self-respect for desired love interests who don't care for them but evolved into insults toward people doing anything nice or pleasing to the object of their affection.Samantha traces back the origins of “woman who's not like other women” to the “cool girl,” a compliment given to women who never required too much from their man and just went with the flow, drank beer, watched sports, while being hot and keeping a size 2.Remoy gives all the reasons why his partner is a cool girl, and they're just because she's a cool person who does cool stuff. But the “cool girl” is a trope of a woman suppressing parts of herself so that she can appeal to a man by not taking up too much space. Remoy gives a great example from popular culture.Samantha shared her own “cool girl” attempt as a 12-year-old girl trying to impress a boy.Stephanie vulnerably shares seeking sneaker-swag validation from men, albeit platonically.Is Samantha's story an example of Pick Me behavior - What do you think?At the crux of the Pick Me is her superiority to other women for her ability to be appealing to men, whereas the cool girl suppresses her needs and aligns her interests with her man for appeal. They overlap.Samantha provides examples and Remoy picks up on the suggested requirement to be demure to be a real woman, and Stephanie picks up on the chastisement of women who aren't putting domesticity at the top of their priority list.They get into Stephanie's work exploring gender through art. Stephanie shares her experience photographing men for her Love You Bro series, celebrating friendships between Black men. The responses to her project had her questioning whether she was a Pick Me.Remoy makes an important point about how patriarchy drives up these insecurities and conflicts among women.Samantha points out the rewards that women get when participating in Pick Me/Cool Girl culture.Men enjoy being appealed to, and men's interests being viewed as superior to women's automatically legitimizes Cool Girls.It gets complicated. Folks calling out Pick Me behavior may just be performing a different type of sexism. Calling out women for their behavior and what they prefer is sometimes also folded into the Pick Me trope, when it's really sexism.Samantha calls out that the onus of dismantling patriarchy falls on men. Remoy and Stephanie cosign.Remoy makes an important statement about how men can step in and stand for what's right.Stephanie shares small ways that men can intervene using their values rather than telling women what to do.In our Five Questions segment, Stephanie shares what Pick Me culture can look like in her art and in real life.Stephanie illustrates the ways that Pick Me culture is rewarded in our culture.Girls get the prize: the guy.Women compete and win the prize, but it can backfire when they want to put their own needs first later in the relationship.They get into the trad wife trend. Is this another example of Pick Me culture. Sort of. The trad wife trend has been blazing online but it's a performance of gender. Women peddling the trad wife are businesswomen selling a lifestyle that they're not actually living for profit.Stephanie lets us in on her project #NEWGLOBALMATRIARCHY. The performance and installation project explores friendships between women through the lens of goddesses. Why is there a supposed hierarchy between women in their friendships? There isn't and this project explores that. It contradicts the trope of Pick Me culture pitting women against each other for an ultimate prize.Stephanie's photography project Love You Bro explores male friendships. The closeness between men is seldom expressed, instead painting a picture of men as inherently violent.She gets into the discomfort folks have seeing men being affectionate with one another.Samantha wonders what the reception was from both the participants and the audience.Stephanie shares the concerns men had doing the project, and the eventual glee and satisfaction of the participants.The hot seat is flipped this week! Remoy answers Stephanie's question to the host. What was the turning point for Remoy that got him to question patriarchy?Remoy shares his upbringing seeing women's leadership. He witnessed abuse growing up, which led to insensitivity toward women on his part.Remoy's turning point shows that it's possible for men to transform and be more thoughtful about patriarchy and its harms.Referenced on this episode:Gone Girl: book monologue and movie monologueExamples of Pick Me cultureLove You Bro#NEWGLOBALMATRIARCHYCOMPANION PIECES:The Marriage Episode

This week, we're joined by media scholar and psychologist Soraya Giaccardi. She shares her work analyzing gender depictions in TV and helps Remoy and Samantha psychoanalyze their relationship to a TV classic and one of their faves, “The Fresh Prince of Bel Air.”But first, Remoy walks us through some surprising facts about  boys' TV shows. Who are the leading characters in boys' TV shows? Remoy shares some stats from Soraya's seminal report (check it out; it's linked below) about how genders are represented in leading roles. Turns out that there is surprising parity among the binary genders in leading character representation.Girls being in leading roles is not as big a deterrent in boys' TV shows as we might collectively think… More on that later.Women and girls are way more represented than they used to be, but how much are current gender depictions on boys' TV shows challenging MASKulinity? The hosts discuss, with some valuable insights from our media scholar guest. LGBTQIA+ characters are still seldom the leading roles in boys' TV. Soraya hypothesizes why that might be… One factor that remains consistent is that boys remain perpetrators of violence on screen… and the victims of it. There's still so much work to do when it comes to men's and boys' representations on screen. While boys are disproportionately harmed on screen, we don't always see them processing that violence emotionally…Remoy draws key points from Soraya's report on how these depictions, or lack thereof, impact us boys in their real life.How exactly are boys' relationships with their close ones depicted on the small screen compared to their fellow femme characters? This all informs how they interpret gender.Soraya stresses the importance of deconstructing these stereotypes as boys intake them during formative years.Despite making so much headway in balancing the binary genders, boys continue to primarily show just one emotion on screen… You guessed it: anger.We watch TV a lot more than we used to as a society. It's available virtually at any time, on any nearby screen.How has that impacted the way we process TV shows? Soraya breaks down the connections between our viewership and our socialization in romantic and platonic relationships.Remoy and Samantha take a walk down memory lane, reflecting on one of their favorite TV shows, The Fresh Prince of Bel Air. Samantha shares how the show shaped her views of femininity and romantic relationships. Sue the woo! Track.Remoy looks back on a pivotal scene between Uncle Phil and Will. You'll recognize it when you hear it.Soraya's analysis highlights a critical knowledge on what supportive parenting can look like for boys as modeled by this touching scene.What show shaped your views of gender and romantic relationships? Let us know in the comments!In our Five Questions segment, the hosts go expectedly deeper.What does TV's impact look like in our lives?How does it manifest and what can we do about it? Soraya drops some key research findings about the way we relate to characters on screen. TV depictions aren't just impacting us unwittingly; characters and storylines on the small screen also allow us to access liberation in some ways… Soraya shares her own experience with TV as a youngster and how it can bridge us to worlds unknown, which for many of us, can be a connection to communities we long for. The surprising stats about women being more present on TV bring up an interesting point: if girls are just as likely to draw a boys' audience, why do we think that otherwise? Soraya cautions us about our own perceptions and how knowing the facts can shatter them. She stresses how controlling the narrative keeps us in the patriarchal loop of our own perceptions. Statistical facts humble us with the truth and can boys, men, masc folks, and all of us, really, closer to the truth.Soraya shares about this dream job marrying psychology and communications. We're glad she chose this route!Referenced in this episode:ENCORE: It *Was* Time to Loosen the Grip on Reproductive Freedom - Heidi Sieck schooled us on how controlling narratives led to the reversal of Roe vs. Wade..MASKulinity is making some people a lot of money - we talked about how women-led movies are of much better quality and get much better ratings than they get credit for…“If He Can See It, Will He Be It? Representations of Masculinity in Boys' Television”, the report Soraya wrote at the Geena Davis Institute in partnership with Equimundo and the Kering FoundationCultivation theory - read about TV impacts us over timeMedia Use and Men's Risk Behaviors: Examining the Role of Masculinity Ideology - cowritten by our illustrious scholar guest, Soraya GiaccardiCOMPANION PIECES:Trivia Night! Movie Time? Romance and Loneliness Edition - we talked about depictions of thoughtful fatherhood on screenRadicalization and TSwift - we talked with Jeff Perera about how men relate to women's jokesRomance MASKulinity: Getting the Girl… - we talked with Imran Siddiquee about what romance in movies teaches men and boys about masculinity

This week, we're joined by media scholar and psychologist Soraya Giaccardi. She shares her work analyzing gender depictions in TV and helps Remoy and Samantha psychoanalyze their relationship to a TV classic and one of their faves, “The Fresh Prince of Bel Air.”But first, Remoy walks us through some surprising facts about  boys' TV shows. Who are the leading characters in boys' TV shows? Remoy shares some stats from Soraya's seminal report (check it out; it's linked below) about how genders are represented in leading roles. Turns out that there is surprising parity among the binary genders in leading character representation.Girls being in leading roles is not as big a deterrent in boys' TV shows as we might collectively think… More on that later.Women and girls are way more represented than they used to be, but how much are current gender depictions on boys' TV shows challenging MASKulinity? The hosts discuss, with some valuable insights from our media scholar guest. LGBTQIA+ characters are still seldom the leading roles in boys' TV. Soraya hypothesizes why that might be… One factor that remains consistent is that boys remain perpetrators of violence on screen… and the victims of it. There's still so much work to do when it comes to men's and boys' representations on screen. While boys are disproportionately harmed on screen, we don't always see them processing that violence emotionally…Remoy draws key points from Soraya's report on how these depictions, or lack thereof, impact us boys in their real life.How exactly are boys' relationships with their close ones depicted on the small screen compared to their fellow femme characters? This all informs how they interpret gender.Soraya stresses the importance of deconstructing these stereotypes as boys intake them during formative years.Despite making so much headway in balancing the binary genders, boys continue to primarily show just one emotion on screen… You guessed it: anger.We watch TV a lot more than we used to as a society. It's available virtually at any time, on any nearby screen.How has that impacted the way we process TV shows? Soraya breaks down the connections between our viewership and our socialization in romantic and platonic relationships.Remoy and Samantha take a walk down memory lane, reflecting on one of their favorite TV shows, The Fresh Prince of Bel Air. Samantha shares how the show shaped her views of femininity and romantic relationships. Sue the woo! Track.Remoy looks back on a pivotal scene between Uncle Phil and Will. You'll recognize it when you hear it.Soraya's analysis highlights a critical knowledge on what supportive parenting can look like for boys as modeled by this touching scene.What show shaped your views of gender and romantic relationships? Let us know in the comments!In our Five Questions segment, the hosts go expectedly deeper.What does TV's impact look like in our lives?How does it manifest and what can we do about it? Soraya drops some key research findings about the way we relate to characters on screen. TV depictions aren't just impacting us unwittingly; characters and storylines on the small screen also allow us to access liberation in some ways… Soraya shares her own experience with TV as a youngster and how it can bridge us to worlds unknown, which for many of us, can be a connection to communities we long for. The surprising stats about women being more present on TV bring up an interesting point: if girls are just as likely to draw a boys' audience, why do we think that otherwise? Soraya cautions us about our own perceptions and how knowing the facts can shatter them. She stresses how controlling the narrative keeps us in the patriarchal loop of our own perceptions. Statistical facts humble us with the truth and can boys, men, masc folks, and all of us, really, closer to the truth.Soraya shares about this dream job marrying psychology and communications. We're glad she chose this route!Referenced in this episode:ENCORE: It *Was* Time to Loosen the Grip on Reproductive Freedom - Heidi Sieck schooled us on how controlling narratives led to the reversal of Roe vs. Wade..MASKulinity is making some people a lot of money - we talked about how women-led movies are of much better quality and get much better ratings than they get credit for…“If He Can See It, Will He Be It? Representations of Masculinity in Boys' Television”, the report Soraya wrote at the Geena Davis Institute in partnership with Equimundo and the Kering FoundationCultivation theory - read about TV impacts us over timeMedia Use and Men's Risk Behaviors: Examining the Role of Masculinity Ideology - cowritten by our illustrious scholar guest, Soraya GiaccardiCOMPANION PIECES:Trivia Night! Movie Time? Romance and Loneliness Edition - we talked about depictions of thoughtful fatherhood on screenRadicalization and TSwift - we talked with Jeff Perera about how men relate to women's jokesRomance MASKulinity: Getting the Girl… - we talked with Imran Siddiquee about what romance in movies teaches men and boys about masculinity

We all have to fake it until we make it sometimes, but the things we pretend to be to cover up our insecurities can get out of control. Men's issues expert Jeff Perera of HigherUnlearning.com joins Liana to talk about why some men's egos control their lives, with sometimes disastrous results.

Jeff and Daniel Perera opened their bagel business out of their home kitchen in 2020 and less than three years later they are hoping to have eight brick-and-mortar locations open within the next six months. The rapid expansion is being made possible by the couple's new business partner, Justin Wetherill. Wetherill is the owner of 1337 Capital and the co-founder of the uBreakiFix chain of mobile device repair shops. The couple first came into contact with Wetherill as they were opening their second location in College Park. “(Min Cho) started coming into the shop and — friendly guy — bought bagels, come in the next day, bought some more bagels,” Jeff Perera said. “(He) was continuously chatting me up and one day he, he just stopped me. He said, ‘Hey, Are you the owner?' And I said ‘I am.' He's like, ‘I'm Min.' I said, ‘I'm Jeff. Nice to meet you.' And he's like, ‘We love your bagels at the office.' I'm like, ‘Oh, great. I'm so glad you enjoy them.'” Cho continued visiting the College Park shop, eventually revealing that he had been talking up the Pareras' business to his boss, Wetherill. “Like a week later, he comes back,” Jeff Perera said. “He's like, ‘I've been talking with my boss and the team at the office, they like love your bagels so much. We'd love to do something.' I'm like, ‘Great! Why don't you just send me some information? It'd be great to catch up.' He emails me, I don't respond. Text me, I don't respond. This is in like August, September goes by, October goes by.” Cho remain persistent and eventually was able to convince the Perera to have a meeting with Wetherill. “Justin shared his story with us about how he built his business and where it started,” Jeff Perera said. “It's strange to say — Danielle's like, ‘It was a kinship.'” “Building something from scratch — there's not a lot of people that truly understand what that feels like,” Danielle Perera added. “I think there was like this understanding and I think that for us, that was really nice and just made the conversation more organic and just natural.” Wetherill said, prior to meeting the Pereras, he had actually been considering investing in a bagel franchise. “There's the stalwart brands that we all know and are aware of and there's not very many emerging brands in the space. So, we struggled finding a brand that we were comfortable partnering with — that had a vision different than what was already happening in the bagel space,” Wetherill said. “I enjoyed meeting Jeff and Danielle and appreciated hearing their vision for the business, but I think what really made the difference was, I think our second or third meeting, they're like, ‘Why don't you just come bake with us, come see the experience, work in the kitchen.'” What finally sealed the deal for Wetherill was experiencing a hot bagel fresh from the oven for the first time. “To me, that was really life changing,” he said. “And I think (that hot bagel) really sums up the opportunity we all have going forward — introducing the world to that experience. Because I have never had a hot bagel. I don't eat cold ones anymore.” Wetherill and the Pereras plan to make Jeff's Bagel Run more of an experience overall. They plan to have an open kitchen concept with their new locations to “bring people into the experience and educate them on how bagels are made.” Wetherill said they have already signed multiple leases, with plans to sign more. “We have pretty aggressive plans,” he said. On the latest episode of the Florida Foodie, the trio of business partners talk more about their plans for expansion. They share stories from a recent pilgrimage to New York City to sample bagels and how they hope to bring in new technology to improve the bagel business. Please follow our Florida Foodie hosts on social media. You can find Candace Campos on Twitter and Facebook. Lisa Bell is also on Facebook and Twitter and you can check out her children's book, “Norman the Watchful Gnome. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're back baby! In this season two opener, I interview some of my favourite people, Carlos Andrés Gómez and Jeff Perera. We talk about helpful and unhelpful ideas of manhood and how they influence relationships. And of course, breakups. These unhelpful ideas of masculinity are not intrinsic to men or masculine people. So we talk a lot about character and qualities, what underpins gut reactions, and how we can do things differently. Together, Carlos and Jeff are the perfect messengers and I'm thrilled and entirely honoured to be kicking off the season with them. This episode is loaded with sweet metaphors, laughs, and mic drops: this conversation was like a healing balm. Join The Big D community by supporting on Patreon or following along on Instagram! - Carlos Andrés Gómez is a Colombian American poet, speaker, and equity & inclusion strategist from New York City. Gómez's poetry collection Fractures (University of Wisconsin Press, 2020) was selected by Natasha Trethewey as the winner of the 2020 Felix Pollak Prize in Poetry. Winner of the Foreword INDIES Gold Medal and the International Book Award for Poetry, Gómez has been published in New England Review, Beloit Poetry Journal, The Yale Review, and elsewhere. For more, please visit: CarlosLive.com Jeff Perera is a renowned speaker and facilitator having spoken across North America about our construction of gender, helpful versus harmful ideas of manhood, and inspiring men towards empathy-building, facing hard truths, and helping end gender-based violence. Jeff encourages men and young men to 'Be The Lesson in Action' and strive to become models of possibility for other men. Jeff started HigherUnlearning.com as an online space to explore how our ideas of masculinity impact all of us. You can hear, read, or watch media appearances, interviews, and news articles there. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/the-big-d/message

A wife's wish for a good bagel quickly spiraled into a new business and career for a couple who had spent much of their working life in retail. Jeff and Danielle Perera are the owners of Jeff's Bagel Run. In 2019, Jeff Parera found himself out of work. His wife, Danielle Parera, had been a stay-at-home mom for a few years at this point and had been planning to rejoin the workforce, allowing Jeff Parera to take over the stay-at-home parenting duties. “We were both home — we had that overlap and neither of us were working,” Jeff Parera said. “And we were driving to Winter Park, 45 minutes to get bagels. And (I said) ‘This is silly — Like, there's no bagel shop on our side of town.' So she said ‘Why don't you make me one?'” Danielle Parera said she wanted her husband to have something to do so that he wouldn't get depressed after being laid off. “I wanted to make sure that he just maintained a good sense of worth,” she said. “I also, truthfully, did not think it would last. I thought it would be something that he would try, he'd be like ‘Whatever, didn't work out,' and go play golf.” But, Jeff Parera found a passion in trying to perfect his bagel baking skills. “I just started making different batches with slightly altered ingredients and Danielle would come home and say, ‘This is horrible. This is better. This needs more salt,' and I would take (her) feedback, and I would make slight adjustments,” he said. “And I mean, you should have seen the counters. It was like just glass and plastic and metal bowls full of different doughs with all the ingredients written on the paper on top.” Eventually, Jeff Perera hit on the right recipe. “I handed it to her like pretty fresh from the oven and she bit into it and her eyes rolled back in her head,” he said. Within a few months of perfecting his bagel recipe, Jeff Perera was looking into selling his boiled and baked rings online. The bagel sales saw some early success, but once the pandemic hit, the pair started looking at the business in a different way. “It was March of 2020 and it was actually our anniversary,” Jeff Perera said. “We went out to dinner and she was working at Ross Dress for Less and they had a big meeting planned — like this huge conference in Vegas where thousands of people, tens of thousands of people were going to come from all over the country to come to this meeting. And she gets text messages. They just start coming in her phone doesn't stop going off while we're at dinner. That conference had been canceled. Like something big is happening don't know anything — but yeah, obviously the beginning of March was starting to get scary. Danielle immediately goes, ‘We need to stock up on bagel supplies.'” The couple started selling more bagels through their social media page and were quickly overwhelmed by the amount of business they were receiving. “We'd get, you know, 200 to 300 messages all at the same time (asking for bagels),” Jeff Perera said. Eventually, the couple settled on moving forward with the business, opening their first brick-and-mortar shop in Ocoee. Now, only about a year later, the couple are planning to open their second location in Orlando. In the latest episode of Florida Foodie, the Pereras talk about how they got the opportunity to set up shop in Orlando's College Park neighborhood. They also share how some of their diehard customers braved flash flooding for their bagels. Please follow our Florida Foodie hosts on social media. You can find Candace Campos on Twitter and Facebook. Lisa Bell is also on Facebook and Twitter and you can check out her children's book, “Norman the Watchful Gnome.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Expert, speaker and writer on healthy vs harmful masculinity Jeff Perera talks about working out our emotional "muscles," reframing the tendency for transactional intimacy, and how we can call men in to create healthier relationships.Follow Jeff at @JeffPerera on Instagram and Twitter and check out his website higherunlearning.com.You can hear full episodes before the public on our Patreon at Patreon.com/byefelipepod!

Today I decided to go my own way and attend the Toronto Slut Walk. So there I was standing in the middle of crowd of about three hundred, feminists, lesbians, transgender people and even male feminists. Yes you heard me right, male feminists. This was the first time I had seen a male feminist in action speaking to a crowd. The man I'm referring to Jeff Perera and I'm going to show everyone of clip of him in just a moment. But first I want to give you a bit of background on him. He's a Community Engagement Manager for White Ribbon an organization created to end sexual violence on Universities in the Canadian province of Ontario. It sounds good on the surface but spending a few minutes going through the website I came across some postcards that were promoting the idea of rape culture but using a different angle. I'm adding a link in the description below so you can see it for yourself. Now I'll read to you what some of the cards say on them. The first one has a men's sports jacket and on the back it says "No Means Try Harder." And the words Frosh Culture are posted above it. Then the second one is titled Sports Culture and below that it says "A Teammate on your school sports team is accused of sexual misconduct, Do you still cheer him on? And on the back of the postcard it says tell your teammate he is not welcomed. So based on this advice on these cards I take it that simply being accused means that if your teammate has an accusation either real or fake laid upon his reputation you're supposed to turn your back on him. What about a trial, evidence, due process? I would turn my back on a friend if he was a rapist. But if one of my friends was accused of rape I'm sure they would tell me the truth if I asked and if they were proven wrong legally then I would never forgive them. And it's not hard to see how the phrases Frosh Culture and Sports Culture could be turned into rap culture easily. There is even a series of videos on white ribbons website called consent man. And no I'm not making this stuff up. This page looks like it's recruiting men to become feminists. So now that I've given you a bit of background on the organization here is the video with Jeff Perera so you can make up your own mind. And he even mentions the men's rights movement in it. Enjoy!Consent Man Video Serieshttp://www.whiteribbon.ca/draw-the-line/What We Dohttp://www.whiteribbon.ca/what-we-do/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/mgtow/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In episode #015 of The ManKind Podcast, Brandon Clift interviews Jeff Perera from Higher Unlearning on what It takes to build your Empathy Muscle to increase and deepen your connections to those around you.Interview Starts At: [04:00]This Episode Covers:Why it's harder for men to "feel" the feelings of others and their own.Why we need to invite those we disagree with into a dialogue instead of indicting and persecute them.How connection is the greatest link between all humans regardless of their differences.Did You Enjoy Jeff Perera? Here Is How To Find Out More: Website: higherunlearning.comSupport Jeff's Mission: HereBlog: Emotional PPE’ and Other Takeaways for Guys in a Pandemic: HereBeyond Men And Masculinity Movie Screening Info: Website: http://thefutureishumane.com Event on April 15: https://www.tickettailor.com/events/thefutureishumane/504054 Event on May 6: https://www.tickettailor.com/events/thefutureishumane/504259 The Future is Humane on Instagram: @futureishumane Additional Resources:Subscribe/Rate/Review ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐: >>>HERE

I got to spend my lunch break with Jeff Perera, owner of Jeff's Bagel Run, a Central Florida business that creates small batch, hand rolled, boiled, NY style bagels. I got to speak to Jeff about why he started in the bagel business and how he has grown his business. We discussed the importance of social media and word of mouth as well as discussed favorite sandwiches. As well as his thoughts on bagel toasting etiquette. Lunch with Biggie is an Orlando podcast about small business and creatives sharing their stories and inspiring you to pursue your passion, with some sandwich talk on the side. Created, edited and produced by Biggie- owner of the sandwich themed clothing brand- Deli Fresh Threads. Feel Free to leave us a message/comment: https://anchor.fm/lunchwithbiggie/message Jeff's Bagel Run Social: Website- https://jeffsbagelrun.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jeffsbagelrun/ Biggie's Social: Instagram- https://www.instagram.com/delifreshthreads/ Podcast's Instagram- https://www.instagram.com/lunchwithbiggie/ Website- http://delifreshthreads.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/lunchwithbiggie/message

Parenting can demand a softer side of our human instincts. Unfortunately, society conditions many of our men to act hard and tough. So when delicate moments arise, such as one that a writer shares about his newborn, it can leave father's feeling inadequate. Luckily, we have the male perspective of Jeff Perera of Higher Unlearning. Hear what he has to say about why so many men struggle with harmful dialogues and how to turn it around. "Jeff is a speaker, writer and facilitator, who since 2008 has delivered keynotes, talks and workshops for tens of thousands of people across North America and beyond about healthy vs harmful ideas of manhood, race and gender, masculinity, empathy-building, and men helping end gender-based violence... Jeff discusses how society's unattainable and harmful ideas of masculinity impact people of all genders, as well as ways forward and positive maps to manhood."

E58: “Why Do Men Do This?” Part 2 of the Jeff Perera interview   E58 Introduction Well we are cooking along with season two here. Some of our upcoming episodes will have us talking with...

Kip is joined from #CallingMENIn contributor Jeff Matsushita to REAX to last week's pod and guest Jeff Perera from HigherUnlearning

E55: The Measure of Men with Jeff Perera   E55 Introduction What is the current measure of a man? We have all grown up with all sorts of cultural imprints around this. The macho tough...

Kip interviews speaker, writer and facilitator Jeff Perera from HigherUnlearning.com about his 12+ years of work helping men find a healthier manhood

In today’s encore episode, Jeff Perera discusses giving your kids permission to be who they are Full episode highlights: KEY TAKEAWAYS: The ladder of manhood  Be the lesson in action It’s okay to be different  Growing up with a violent father  Being surrounded by emotionless men  When strength stops helping, and starts hurting  Seeing Dad afraid for the first time Was Michael Jordan a great example of manhood?  The importance of doing more than you have to  QUOTE “We are taught that to be a man, you need to have all the answers, and anything less than that is soft or weak. So right away we are creating this unattainable idea of being a guy and you spent your entire life trying to chase it.” - Jeff Perera “Where you are on the ladder of manhood depends on who you are as a person.” - Jeff Perera “The measurement of being a man is about how we serve, give, and live.” - Jeff Perera “Be the lesson in action.” - Jeff Perera “Anger is beautiful, when you channel it.” - Jeff Perera “We create the world we live in by the choices we make, the words we choose, and the actions we take. The young people are watching you they are soaking it in” - Jon Vroman “Values are caught, not taught.” - Rochelle Clark “Worry less on the impressions you have in others and focus on the impact you leave with others.” - Jeff Perera PEOPLE MENTIONED Michael Jordan  Adam Yauch Tony Robbins Bob Marley Nirvana Michael Jackson Rochelle Clarke Lebron James Kurt Cobain EPISODE RESOURCES Jeff Perera Website https://higherunlearning.com/about/ Follow on Twitter, Insta, Facebook TEDx Talk - Why you will fail to have a great career  https://www.ted.com/talks/larry_smith_why_you_will_fail_to_have_a_great_career Protecting Your Business (To Protect Your Family) with Rochelle Clarke https://frontrowdads.com/rochelle-clarke/ ABOUT THE GUEST In a time of divides and tension, it is time to build bridges of understanding across our oceans of difference. We need to inspire Men in an engaging way to ‘Be The Lesson in Action’ and strive to become models of possibility for other men. Jeff is a speaker, writer and facilitator, who since 2008 has delivered keynotes, talks and workshops on gender, masculinity, empathy-building, and men helping end gender-based violence.  Jeff discusses how society’s unattainable and harmful ideas of masculinity impact people of all genders, as well as ways forward and positive maps to manhood.   Jeff has delivered two TEDx talks on Masculinity and men’s troubled pursuits of identity: Words Speak Louder Than Actions looking at the power of gendered words, and The Ladder of Manhood which explores the male pursuit of identity and how too many men are fluent in a language of violence.  Jeff started Higher Unlearning as an online space to explore how ideas of gender and masculinity impact us in everyday life. ABOUT FRONT ROW DADS Front Row Dads is in the business of building better families. While most dads would say that family matters most, the challenge is they feel guilty knowing their careers get the best of them, and their family seems to get the rest of them. The Front Row Dads brotherhood is changing that. We help Dads become family men with businesses, not businessmen who have families, so they can thrive personally AND professionally. Subscribe to the Front Row Dad podcast to learn about fatherhood, marriage and how to level up your game at home. JOIN THE BROTHERHOOD Learn about what’s included in your Front Row Dads membership here. LEAVE A REVIEW If you’ve listened to multiple Front Row Dads interviews and get value from the show, we’d love your support! Leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts only takes a minute, and in turn, it allows us to rank higher and become discovered by other Dads, just like you. Visit FrontRowDads.com/review and tell others what you think about the show! SUBSCRIBE TO THE PODCAST Host Jon Vroman asks the big question, uncovers true stories and practical strategies to win as a parent (and husband).  Digging up the tips, habits, routine and rituals that help men be a better dad/father and also win in marriage, parenting, health, finance while balancing the hundreds a full calendar.  It’s easy for a dad to say that family matters most, but feels guilty knowing their careers get the best of them, and their family seems to get the rest of them. Front Row Dads is changing that. We help you raise awesome kids, and improve your marriage.  We help Dads become family men with businesses, not businessmen who have families, so they can thrive personally AND professionally. For those looking for dad advice, and tips to thrive in fatherhood, it’s all at FrontRowDads.com/subscribe  

  In today’s episode, Jeff Perera joins the podcast to discuss what it means to be a real man, his personal journey and experiences growing up, and how our actions impact other people, especially our children.  KEY TAKEAWAYS: The ladder of manhood  Be the lesson in action It’s okay to be different  Growing up with a violent father  Being surrounded by emotionless men  When strength stops helping, and starts hurting  Seeing Dad afraid for the first time Was Michael Jordan a great example of manhood?  The importance of doing more than you have to  QUOTE “We are taught that to be a man, you need to have all the answers, and anything less than that is soft or weak. So right away we are creating this unattainable idea of being a guy and you spent your entire life trying to chase it.” - Jeff Perera “Where you are on the ladder of manhood depends on who you are as a person.” - Jeff Perera “The measurement of being a man is about how we serve, give, and live.” - Jeff Perera “Be the lesson in action.” - Jeff Perera “Anger is beautiful, when you channel it.” - Jeff Perera “We create the world we live in by the choices we make, the words we choose, and the actions we take. The young people are watching you they are soaking it in” - Jon Vroman “Values are caught, not taught.” - Rochelle Clark “Worry less on the impressions you have in others and focus on the impact you leave with others.” - Jeff Perera PEOPLE MENTIONED Michael Jordan  Adam Yauch Tony Robbins Bob Marley Nirvana Michael Jackson Rochelle Clarke Lebron James Kurt Cobain EPISODE RESOURCES Jeff Perera Website  Follow on Twitter, Insta, Facebook TEDx Talk - Why you will fail to have a great career  Protecting Your Business (To Protect Your Family) with Rochelle Clarke ABOUT THE GUEST In a time of divides and tension, it is time to build bridges of understanding across our oceans of difference. We need to inspire Men in an engaging way to ‘Be The Lesson in Action’ and strive to become models of possibility for other men. Jeff is a speaker, writer and facilitator, who since 2008 has delivered keynotes, talks and workshops on gender, masculinity, empathy-building, and men helping end gender-based violence.  Jeff discusses how society’s unattainable and harmful ideas of masculinity impact people of all genders, as well as ways forward and positive maps to manhood.   Jeff has delivered two TEDx talks on Masculinity and men’s troubled pursuits of identity: Words Speak Louder Than Actions looking at the power of gendered words, and The Ladder of Manhood which explores the male pursuit of identity and how too many men are fluent in a language of violence.  Jeff started Higher Unlearning as an online space to explore how ideas of gender and masculinity impact us in everyday life. ABOUT FRONT ROW DADS Front Row Dads is in the business of building better families. While most dads would say that family matters most, the challenge is they feel guilty knowing their careers get the best of them, and their family seems to get the rest of them. The Front Row Dads brotherhood is changing that. We help Dads become family men with businesses, not businessmen who have families, so they can thrive personally AND professionally. Subscribe to the Front Row Dad podcast to learn about fatherhood, marriage and how to level up your game at home. JOIN THE BROTHERHOOD Learn about what’s included in your Front Row Dads membership here. LEAVE A REVIEW If you’ve listened to multiple Front Row Dads interviews and get value from the show, we’d love your support! Leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts only takes a minute, and in turn, it allows us to rank higher and become discovered by other Dads, just like you. Visit FrontRowDads.com/review and tell others what you think about the show! SUBSCRIBE TO THE PODCAST Host Jon Vroman asks the big question, uncovers true stories and practical strategies to win as a parent (and husband).  Digging up the tips, habits, routine and rituals that help men be a better dad/father and also win in marriage, parenting, health, finance while balancing the hundreds a full calendar.  It’s easy for a dad to say that family matters most, but feels guilty knowing their careers get the best of them, and their family seems to get the rest of them. Front Row Dads is changing that. We help you raise awesome kids, and improve your marriage.  We help Dads become family men with businesses, not businessmen who have families, so they can thrive personally AND professionally. For those looking for dad advice, and tips to thrive in fatherhood, it’s all at FrontRowDads.com/subscribe  

Join me and meet my friend Jeff. He's leading a very important conversation: ‘Thoughts for Men on coping with Social Distancing and Isolation’ : A look at ways men can work through the (e)motions of the COVID19 Pandemic and isolation: we can name what we are feeling, work towards healthy vs violent conflict with those we isolate with, and build connection with other men. Since 2008, Jeff Perera has been working to build bridges of understanding across our oceans of difference, having spoken to tens of thousands of people across North America about our ideas of being a man today and empathy-building. Jeff works to help inspire new models of possibility for men and young men where we work, live, play, worship or study. Jeff has delivered interactive talks for team leaders and groups of all genders, fields, creed and faiths.You can read written pieces, listen to other podcast conversations, and watch interviews with Jeff over at HigherUnlearning.com, which is an online space exploring how limiting ideas of manhood impact us all in everyday life. Jeff’s work is to help nurture brave spaces for real discussion, inspiring people to challenge our gendered ideas of success and failure, and to be the lesson in action.Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/user?u=21191833&fan_landing=true)

Hey guys, Welcome to the Unshakable Man Podcast: A show and community for men who want to be their best emotional, mental, physical and spiritual versions of themselves. Today's show is in the category of healthy masculinity. Since 2008, Jeff Perera has been working to build bridges of understanding across our oceans of difference, having spoken to tens of thousands of people across North America about our ideas of being a man today and empathy-building. Whether in the boardroom, on campus, or the locker room, Jeff works to help inspire new models of possibility for men and young men where we work, live, play, worship or study.  Jeff is the author of: Telling Male Friends ‘I Love You' Is A Muscle Guys Need To Flex Every Day which went viral in February. In today's episode, we explore male to male intimacy, growing from boy to man in middle school, the importance of developing community by leading with vulnerability, the measure of a man today, and what we can do to be better men for ourselves and our communities. You can read written pieces, listen to podcast conversations, and watch interviews with Jeff over at HigherUnlearning.com, which is an online space exploring how limiting ideas of manhood impact us all in everyday life. Jeff's work is to help nurture brave spaces for real discussion, inspiring people to challenge our gendered ideas of success and failure and to be the lesson in action. The way forward starts with us, within us.  If you are listening as part of the Unshakable Man Group Coaching Program – you can ask questions in the Facebook group and reference the episode number. Subscribe to our podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.

Anuj Rastogi is sits down with Jeff Perera, public speaker, motivator and leading voice in the evolution of our perceptions of manhood, masculinity and empathy. A well-respected voice, TEDx speaker and writer, Jeff has been devoted to the cause long before the #metoo movement, and polarizing ads such as that from Gillette, were in the public consciousness. Anuj and Jeff explore both very personal and collective experiences on issues of self reflection as men, self-love, as well as the related conversations on race, and our current political climate. Special Guest: Jeff Perera.

Today we're starting something new at Modern Manhood, a conversation series with I will bring on some of my (and yours) favorite conversational guests to talk about what's going on the news, and what is going on with our lives. They're going to come at you sporadically, so think of them as bonus pods in addition to the regular Modern Manhood. On this episode, we speak to our buddy Jeff Perera about Anthony Bourdain's death, Chris Hardwick's allegations of abuse, and cats!  

I was honored to talk about this and the research that Chataleine’s Editor at Large’s Rachel Giese has done to write the book “Boys: What It Means to Become A Man.” She has taken the time to look at what is going on in Canada in regards to the toxic forms of traditional western masculinity, interested in groups like WiseGuyz down in Calgary, and speakers like once and future guest Jeff Perera. We speak about her motivations for the books, what surprised her the most, complicity and the danger of “otherisms” in regards to #MeToo, and her call not only to the isolation of some men, but also to step back and think of the victims of violence. You can find the men's survey that Chataleine did here. If you want to see what Wolf Pack is about, they are making it happen in Calgary and in Toronto. Click the links to get your tickets. YESSPAINTING can be found here

In the second part of my conversation with Jeff Perera we speak about the aspects of shame. And how shame colors the barriers of men to truly engage in the conversation of anti-violence and masculine liberation. To be able to confront those actions of our past, and to flex what Jeff calls “those empathy muscles.” In this conversation, we also get a chance to bond over one of our favorite bands: The Beastie Boys and I also get a chance to reflect on International Men's Day.   You can find Jeff Perera on Twitter and Instagram at Jeffperera. And you can check out his work through Higher Unlearning. Clip in the episode is  from the movie "The Punk Singer" about Kathleen Hanna This episode is sponsored by ECF's Well Endowed Podcast Modern Manhood is proud to be a part of the Alberta Podcast Network, powered by ATB.

I reached out to Jeff Perera, activist and public speaker out in Toronto that has been working for anti-violence projects out there for at least 10 years now. We talked about reconciliation for men, and we also connected on how we came to do the work we do, along with stories about his father, safe spaces, and the tragedy of December 6th. I had such an awesome convo with Jeff, actually felt lighter afterwards to be honest, that I’m splitting this up into two! Stay tuned for part 2 next episode You can find Jeff Perera on Twitter and Instagram at Jeffperera. In this episode we also talked a lot about Next Gen Men, an organization that are doing some big and awesome things down in Calgary and in Toronto. You can find them at nextgenmen.ca This episode is sponsored by ATB Financial Modern Manhood is proud to be a part of the Alberta Podcast Network, powered by ATB.

Jeff Perera talks about how the White Ribbon campaign aims to break the silence around gender violence with boys and men.