School Of Attraction Podcast

I interview online men's fitness and health consultant Nick Soulias about how men can identify and increase low testosterone levels leading to more energy, better sex lives, more motivation and much much more.  You'll also be able to book a FREE strategy session with me: https://nicholassoulias.typeform.com/to/RisPo3Ex

When you approach a cute girl in a bar, at a house party, or out during the day?  You'd be forgiven for thinking women hold all the power in dating because they have the ability to accept or reject the guy, and he has to put in all the effort. But if you continue to feel powerless when approaching women, then you'll always be giving your power away. I want to show men how to feel empowered when picking up women1:1 Zoom Coaching Sessions With Damien:https://schoolofattraction.com/phone-coaching/

So you've been flirting with a girl at a bar or house party, but you want to know how to start creating some sexual tension and really get her craving to be intimate with you - where do you start? I'm going to share 7 of my favourite ways I share with all my clients to build sexual tension. 1:1 Zoom Coaching Sessions With Damien:https://schoolofattraction.com/phone-coaching/

Do you know what the difference is between sexual tension and sexual esclation?   I get men contacting me every week asking me how to sexually escalate with a woman they've started dating, or a woman they'v ejust met in a bar. But this is the wrong question to ask, because more men should be focussing on building sexual tension with women instead.  And the two are not the same thing. In fact, if you sexually escalate when there's no tension, you can actually turn a woman off of you forever! 1:1 Zoom Coaching Sessions With Damien:https://schoolofattraction.com/phone-coaching/

How bad is racism when you're dating?   OK Cupid released some shocking statistics a few years ago, which have led many men and women to presume dating for them could indeed be hopeless. But statistics can be misleading - and there is a lot more going on behind the scenes determining the sexual and romantic preferences of men and women both offline and online. 1:1 Zoom Coaching Sessions With Damien:https://schoolofattraction.com/phone-coaching/

Online dating can be really frustrating - it doesn't matter whether you use Tinder or Bumble or Hinge or any of the other competitors out there - most men are struggling to get matches. But the solution to your frustration could be hidden in the research done in the 1980s in the hunt for the perfect pasta sauce. Let's find out what changes you could make to your profile to get more right swipes and dates with cute women. School of Online Dating: https://schoolofattraction.com/tindercourses-2/

Whenever most guys think about getting casual sex, they often think about trying to get one-night stands - They picture going to a bar, finding a cute girl to talk to and trying to get her home that night. But this can be the worst strategy to have sex - it takes a long time, there are lots of ways to get rejected - and most women aren't looking to find met to sleep with this way. Book A 1:1 Zoom Coaching Session with Damien: https://schoolofattraction.com/phone-coaching/

I often hear guys wanting to learn how to be more masculine, or how to be more alpha, and the reason for this is to better attract women - because everyone knows that women lust after masculine men right? But what if our hunt for masculinity was a red herring causing us guys to chase our tails, while still having no more success with girls than we did before?Dating women is never simple, and building our self esteems as men is always an important part of the puzzle, but I have a suspicion that masculinity - or the common idea of masculinity is leading us astray. 

It's easy to talk about our most successful dates ever, and share stories of success with beautiful women - But nobody ever wants to talk about the biggest failures where we did something stupid that ruined our chances. I want to share 4 true and funny dating stories about how I crashed and burned with beautiful women because of something stupid I did or said. Because it doesn't matter who you are, we all screw up sometimes, and I want to normalise the sharing of failure stories - especially the ones that are the most fun to tell!

What is the best way to meet women in 2022? While so many of us spend time on online dating these days, this isn't necessarily the best way to find attractive girls to date. I'm going to explore a range of different ways of meeting women from cold approaching to social circle, introduction agencies, mail order brides, and travelling overseas. I'll tell you the very best way to find cute girls - and rank all the other options from best to worst. 

Maybe you struggle to approach women because you have approach anxiety, or you keep getting told "let's just be friends" - Or maybe you keep finding men who aren't ready for a relationship yet. There 1000s of ways we can become stuck in a repeating pattern of failing to get the results we want when dating. Often, the solution lies in doing some deeper work inside ourselves before our dating lives will change. But where should we look? Here is a checklist of areas all men and women should explore to unlock their ability to meet and attract the people they really want in their lives.

Many men and women struggle with setting boundaries when it comes to dating - they have the belief that boundary setting must always break rapport and feel like a reprimand. But actually poor quality boundaries are aggressive - Those of us with strong boundaries know how to do it in a way that builds rapport rather than breaks it. Setting strong boundaries with women builds attraction and respect, so if you're struggling with constantly getting your boundaries pushed - watch this video. 

For most guys, walking into a bar and approaching women is a completely alien idea - it's scary - and there's just so much you don't know. There are plenty of videos online teaching you how to approach women in bars, but most of them try to get you to pretend to be a super-confident d-bag in order to get women to pay attention. I want to show you my own style of picking up girls in bars which is heavily focused on the mindsets which women will respond strongly to. 

I'm going to discuss strategies for building a great sense of fun, comedy, and banter when flirting with women. This light-hearted discussion will cover some surprisingly deep aspects behind banter and the psychology of humour and attraction

Are you constantly worried about being too needy when dating?  Most men and women try hard to avoid looking too desperate or needy with their partners, and this often leads to wants and needs not being met. Needy behaviour is often seen as being repulsive by both men and women, so naturally, this is something we try not to do when attracting a mate. If you are asking a girl out on a date, or asking a man to spend more time with you, you need to be able to do it in a way that feels confident and not needy, but what's the distinction? 

Learn how the tinder ranking algorithm has changed in the last few years, and more importantly how you can exploit that system to help you get more matches. Online dating has seen a lot of gradual changes, so it has become very important for most guys to stay ahead of the curve if they hope to continue getting matches and dates along the way.  It's still possible for the average guys to do okay, but he needs to understand the art of  Niching to get there.

I interview Tantra coach Marcin aka the Kinky Guru about how he became more sexually confident in himself as a man - not by learning to pick up chicks, but by turning to the world of tantra. We're going to discuss some of the big lessons he learned on his journey to get to where he is today. 

One of the biggest things lacking from the lives of most men is a deep connection with other men, women, and people in general. We are suffering from a lack of community, connection, and generally feeling understood. But even if all you want to do is learn to meet more women, this is a skill that will help you a lot more than you probably realise. 

Dealing with breakups can be emotionally traumatising - There's all kinds of self-doubt, and self-esteem damage. We can feel like we're coming off of a drug addiction. But there are some really amazing strategies for moving on from breakups and minimising the amount of pain that we need to go through. And that's what I'm going to talk about today. 

I talk with a Femme Fatale, a representative of website arousr.com and talk about the ways men can begin to explore their kinks in the safety of online video. 

I sit and interview Divya Darling, a coach, business owner, and neuro-scientist, and a personal friend while we discuss the notion of why we feel we need things from women to feel happy - where our true sense of self, identity, and life satisfaction comes from. Most importantly Divya focuses on me personally as we try to dive deeply into some uncomfortable spaces in my own psyche. 

Author of the newly published book - Red Pill Ideology - Cynthia Payne sits with me as we take a very scientific look at the claims made by the red pill community. Which ones stand up under scrutiny, and which ones are disproven by peer-reviewed studies?

Dating has radically changed over the last 10 years with the dating app explosion and then the covid epidemic. What trends and patterns are we seeing shifting as dating coaches, and what are we seeing change as we age and change ourselves?

Today I talk with Jay - an ex School Of Attraction student and current mentor who really stepped into his masculine power and discovered how incredible life can be when you are willing to own your authentic self. Jay has been regularly meeting some incredibly intelligent, beautiful, and sometimes powerful women - and they've responded to him in ways neither he nor they ever expected. 

Have you ever thought about how similar sales skills are to seduction skills? If you have, then you're not alone. As it turns out, many of the same skills required to be amazing at sales are also required to attract women. I want to talk about push vs pull attraction today because one of the big differences between average guys and average salesmen is that they both try to PUSH people to do what they want them to do - nagging, and persistence. Neither of which makes you likely to ever have a great amount of success attracting women. 

The Hinge dating company recently released a series of statistics they gathered by combing through 1000 hinge dating app profiles to see which photos were most likely to get the most matches. Today, I'm going to look through the states provided by Hinge, to help you see how you can improve your online dating results.  Will any of these results surprise you? Will any of them surprise me? Keep watching to find out. Link To Hinge Statistics - https://medium.com/@Hinge/hinge-the-relationship-app-28f1000d5e76

There's an increasing amount of pressure in the media to make men feel bad about their tastes in women.  But recently it's become clear to me that men who have a dating preference for specific races are being increasingly called out as racist. For many men this hit's a nerve - how can they be racist if they find that race sexy? After a fascinating conversation I had with an African woman last week, and spending the rest of the weekend researching the topic, I am aware that the formal research on the topic focusses entirely on the women, and not at all on the men and their perspective in the issue. There is nothing wrong with being attracted to ANY kind of woman - But sometimes, in fact OFTEN, there's more at play for men, than simply preferring one skin colour over another, and OFTEN, men express this in a way that makes women feel undervalued, and sometimes even unsafe. 

Do you get lucky with women often? What does it mean to get lucky? Is there really any luck involved? Is it all lucky? When you see a cute girl walking down the street, how much luck do you need to have for her to want to go on a date with you?  How much of a role does skill play? While it's true some of us men are more lucky in dating than others, there's a HUGE amount to be said about the relationship that we have towards luck and taking chances in life.  Some of us are willing to play the game and risk losing, while others are too afraid of loss to even take the chance and so ensure they're never lucky. One of the big secrets to attracting women, is knowing how to get lucky. 

How many times have you seen a beautiful woman and decided to walk away from her if she wasn't interesting enough? I am guessing you have almost never done this. AND YET - this is the exact reason so many men struggle to built attraction, especially around women they find particularly sexy. Women aren't attracted to men who like them just because they're cute. There has to be more than that, and women are most attracted to men when they feel like they had to work for his attention

Woman are really complicated, aren't they? Well... Maybe not - In fact, I'd argue that women are absolutely no more complicated than men. It's true that many men get frustrated with women when dating and flirting, it seems like she constantly changes her mind, and you can never work out what she's actually thinking, or why she does the things she does. As it turns out though - The problem isn't that women are complicated or unreliable, and more matter that men are raised to have a very dull emotional awareness, and this means that women who are raised to be more aware and expressive of their complex emotions FEEL complicated because we were never taught to truly understand our own emotions. This kind of emotional intelligence is crucial for men in life - not just for dating and relationships - but for friendships and work/life balance too. 

So you want to attract beautiful women?  Let me ask you a few quick questions to get you thinking... If you go on a date with a woman - is it a good or a bad idea to write her a text within an hour of saying goodbye saying "Hey, I had a really great time with you, I look forward to catching up again soon!"If you approach a cute girl in a bar, should you buy her a drink? If I'm on a first date, should I share my shortcomings with her - thus admitting to being weak sometimes - is that a bad dating strategy?You've probably heard of the rules of dating before, but did you know they're made to be broken?When you want to flirt with and meet cute girls, you don't always have to follow what everyone tells you you should do. 

Why is it that a disproportionate number of highly successful people invest in therapists?  Is it because they're more broken? Or is it because they know a secret most others don't?Many of us think that we should only see a therapist if we're broken or on the verge of hurting ourselves or others.... Or maybe if our lives are falling apart and we don't know how to get on track. But I see therapy as a form of emotional hygiene - like going to the gym, for your emotions. You learn how to grow as a human being, and process life's ups and downs - You learn coping strategies to become successful at almost anything you set your mind to. 

What can our past tell us about what women find attractive? Is it possible to look at our distant ancestors and consider what their lives looked like to help us to understand what a girl's DNA tells her to be turned on by? The Evolutionary Theory Of Attraction believes that by better understanding the sexual behaviours and pressures that would have been present while humans were evolving, that it would enable us to much better understand what women are likely to find attractive in modern man. But is this a reliable way to understand women? 

Do you have the experience of approaching women, trying your best to build attraction and flirt with them, but always feeling like a fish out of water? Like no matter how hard you work on your banter or rapport, you can never seem to build attraction with the girls you like? A lot of this could come down to what tribes these women are a part of, and what tribes you generally belong to yourself. Tribe theory of human socialisation is a fantastic lens through which to view the dating world and help you decide which woman you should approach who is most likely to want to date you. 

Do you struggle to have fun in social situations? Do you feel too boring for women to notice you? Do you hope that fun people will be around so you can have a good time and be more flirty?This isn't something buried in your genetics! This isn't even necessarily because you don't have a particular skill - It's connected to the relationship you have with your inner-child. Whenever we flirt with girls or go on dates with women, we are aware that we want to have fun and enjoy ourselves, and that if the women have fun around us that they'll be more likely to want to see us again. But HOW do you become more fun and funny? How can you be the kind of man who has fun wherever he goes, without relying on other people to bring the fun to him?ZOOM COACHING CALLS: https://schoolofattraction.com/phone-coaching/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=HowToHaveFun

You walk into a bar, and you see an older man dating a much younger woman - Is that guy a sleaze or a legend? Is he to be admired or scorned? Is he doing something inherently wrong? Or is he just following a biological imperative? It's easy to assume that women are just jealous that these men aren't interested in them once they approach their 30s.But actually, there is a fascinating level of complexity in the question of older men sleeping with and dating younger women and age gap relationships in general that most people don't consider. 

What is a simple daily lifestyle change you can make which will drastically reduce your shyness with girls AND your social anxiety? There are many reasons why the thought of approaching a cute girl will scare you and make you anxious - And believe it or not, it's a far more common problem than most men realise. But if you start to change your behaviours around both men and women on a day to day level - and just start having regular, innocuous conversations with the strangers you encounter in your day to day life, this can massively reduce your approach axniety. 

Are you sexually escalating at the wrong time?   If you're flirting with a girl, how long should you wait until you start trying to create sexual conversation or 'put the moves' on her? While it's true that a bit of sexual touch or sexual banter can definitely build attraction, sexual escalation is generally not an important factor for building attraction. Most men try to bring sexuality to the interaction long before it will help them. So if you're struggling to be successful with girls, then it could well be because you're sexually escalating too early. 

I'm going to share 3 extreme strategies you can use to drastically improve your confidence with women. These aren't your regular 'how to attract girls' videos, this is going to dive into some really radical ways you can give yourself a huge boost in results and self-esteem at the same time. So if you want to be more confident around girls - AND nothing you've tried so far has worked, this is the video for you. 

Are you sick of constantly being the one to chase after the women you want to date?   Wouldn't it be amazing if just for once, you could get women chasing after you instead?It's actually completely possible - in this video I'm going to share the strategies that I've been using with my clients since 2009 to get women chasing them. Knowing what women want and what turns them on is only a part of the puzzle - A truly successful man knows how to stop being needy, and instead focus on making her want him, making her want to get his approval. 

Most people walk around thinking that kink is usual.. or unhealthy.. or unnatural... But in actuality it's far more common to have sexual kinks than it is to be 100% bland and vanilla. But more importantly, discovering your kinds can launch you on a journey to discover who you really are, and what you really want from the world - there is a level of psychological catharsis to be found by discovering your kink. You'll also learn what so many men get wrong about their approach to sex, and how to leave women feeling like you're AMAZING in bed

We've all heard that nice guys finish last, but why does that have to be the case? What is it about nice guys that stops them getting the girl they want? Why do so many women take advantage of nice guys, and then leave them for some other jerk. Nice guy syndrome isn't about men being too nice, it's about men trying to be nice in order to get women to like them, which turns women off and prevents them from being attracted and wanting to become a girlfriend.

Do you know the difference been knowing something and grokking it? What does mixing alcoholics and psychedelics teach us about life success?Did you know that grokking things is the key difference between success and failure? Whether you're trying to date more women, build a successful business, or lose weight - if you don't grok the solution, then you're going to struggling to get the results you want. In today's video, we're going to find out what you should NEVER try to accelerate your success journey too quickly - and why doing this can ensure that you can KNOW all the answers, but still never see any results.

There's a lot of shame for men around exploring their sexuality - And this shame causes men to hide or avoid parts of themselves that are left begging to be explored. I interview Sex Therapist and Phd Dr Mandy as we explore the nature of sexuality and the sexual spectrum to try and uncover what it REALLY means for a man and his sense of masculinity and sense of self if he begins to explore his sexual tastes.

Why are some men immune to getting low self-esteem, when so many others are struggling to feel like there's any hope for them in the dating world? It's harder for men now than any other time in history to find a partner, and yet some men overcome their adversity and still find success, while most struggle and feel helpless to change their situation. Martin Seligman, wrote about a condition known as learned helplessness in his famous book "learned optimism" - which not only explains how us guys became so frustrated and depressed about women and dating in general, but it clearly outlines ways to become more confident with women.

Can an average man still attract women? Or has modern society doomed the average guy to a life of involuntary celibacy? I've been a dating coach for both men and women for 12 years now and I want to share with you the complete truth - I don't want to hold any punches, instead telling you exactly what an average man can and should expect. Trying to flirt with and date women is only a part of the puzzle, and there are many social and dating skills men need to learn. BUT who you are as a complete man is even more important, not just for finding a date and a girlfriend, but for really winning at life.

I interview Dave Booda from https://boodaism.com/ about his journey and experiences working on his masculinity with a range of different men's work coaches and programs.

Is your anxiety or depression all in your head? Is it just the result of bad thinking patterns in your mind? Or is it the result of something going wrong inside your body? I'm going to talk about my journey with anxiety and being told I was simply suffering from panic attacks when in reality I had a major serotonin and stress hormone regulation problem that nobody guessed at until I did my own research. If you suffer from a lot of stress, or you find yourself becoming frequently neurotic - perhaps it's not all in your head after all - and perhaps there's a very reasonable solution to the problem. Doctors don't always know the answers, and it helps everyone to go and become their own researchers to find the solutions.

Stop feeling the shame of premature ejaculations and learn to last longer in bed - Here are 3 strategies for curing your premature ejaculation. I'm also going to teach you how to have women see you as being amazing in bed without even curing your PE first. As a bonus, I'm going to share my mystery box technique which creates a massive amount of sexual tension and arouses women into hyper-horny state without even engaging in penetration. There is a lot of shame for men around how long you last in bed - but actually, it's possible to leave her satisfied without penetrating her at all.

David De-Angelo famously sadi that attraction wasn't a choice - That women can't decide what guys they are attracted to - it is just a primal and sub-conscious process, and there's nothing us guys can do to change that fact. In truth, I agree with the basic idea that most women are on autopilot when it comes to what kinds of men they choose to date. But the truth is also more complicated than most men realise because they come from a scarcity mindset rather than an abundance mindset. I'm going to discuss the truth about what turns women one, why women choose particular men, and what you can do to go from a 'maybe' to a 'hell yes' in her mind.

Most of the success I've had in my life I attribute to the skills I learned trying to become more successful with women. From my relationship success to my business success, I've used these critical life skills in every part of my world. We often don't realise that we learn ego strength, self-esteem, sales skills, networking abilities when we work on our seduction and attraction skillset. The dating advice you have to learn to attract high-quality women are the same skills you'll use everywhere else.