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*Disclaimer* This episode contains adult content and is not recommended for young listeners.   284. DON'T MISS THIS! Controversial Sex Questions, Answered with Dr. Juli Slattery   1 Samuel 24:19b NIV “May the Lord reward you well for the way you treated me today.”   *Transcription Below*   Bio: Instagram Facebook Authentic Intimacy Website Java with Juli Podcast   Thank you to Our Sponsor: Leman Property Management Company   Questions and Topics We Cover: As Christ followers, should we use a friend's preferred names and pronouns? If one part of Scripture talks about turning the other cheek, is that the same as saying God expects you to stay in an abusive marriage? Is it reasonable to assume that once they have a smartphone, 100% of kids will be exposed to pornography?   Previous Episodes on Sexual Intimacy on The Savvy Sauce, Including Past Episodes with Dr. Juli Slattery: Fostering a Fun, Healthy Sex Life with your Spouse with Dr. Jennifer Konzen  Ways to Deepen Your Intimacy in Marriage with Dr. Douglas Rosenau  Ten Common Questions About Sex, Shared Through a Biblical Worldview with Dr. Michael Sytsma Hope For Treating Pelvic Pain with Tracey LeGrand Treatment for Sexual Issues with Certified Sex Therapist, Emma Schmidt Talking With Your Kids About Sex with Brian and Alison Sutter Natural Aphrodisiacs with Christian Certified Sex Therapist, Dr. Douglas Rosenau Healthy Sexuality, Emotional Intelligence, and Parenting Children with Autism with Counselor, Lauren Dack Pain and Joy in Sexual Intimacy with Psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist, Dr. Jessica McCleese Identifying and Fighting Human Trafficking with Dr. Jeff Waibel Bridging the Gap Between Military and Civilian Families with Licensed Professional Counselor, Cuthor, Podcaster, and 2015 Military Spouse of the Year, Corie Weathers Enjoying a God-Honoring, Healthy Sex Life with Your Spouse with Certified Sex Therapist and Ordained Minister, Dr. Michael Sytsma Enjoying Parenting and Managing Conversations About Sex with Certified Sex Therapist and Author, Dr. Jennifer Konzen Conflict Resolution, Infidelity, and Infertility with Licensed Psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist, Dr. Jessica McCleese Hormones and Body Image with Certified Sex Therapist, Vickie George Passion Pursuit with Dr. Juli Slattery Female Orgasm with Sue Goldstein Erectile Dysfunction, Premature Ejaculation, and Treatments Available with Dr. Irwin Goldstein Turn Ons, Turn Offs, and Savoring Sex in Marriage with Dr. Jennifer Konzen Desire Discrepancy in Marriage with Dr. Michael Sytsma Answering Listener's Questions About Sex with Kelli Willard Anatomy of an Affair with Dave Carder Supernatural Restoration Story with Bob and Audrey Meisner Healthy Minds, Marriages, and Sex Lives with Drs. Scott and Melissa Symington Female Pornography Addiction and Meaningful Recovery with Crystal Renaud Day Building Lasting Relationships with Clarence and Brenda Shuler Healthy Ways for Females to Increase Sexual Enjoyment with Tracey LeGrand Pornography Healing for Spouses with Geremy Keeton Sexual Sin Recovery for You and Your Spouse (Part Two) Personal Development and Sexual Wholeness with Dr. Sibylle Georgianna  Our Brain's Role in Sexual Intimacy with Angie Landry Discovering God's Design for Romance with Sharon Jaynes Sex in Marriage and Its Positive Effects with Francie Winslow, Part 1 Science and Art of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage, Part 2 Making Love in Marriage with Debra Fileta Mutually Pleasing Sex in Marriage with Gary Thomas Sex Series: God's Design and Warnings for Sex: An Interview with Mike Novotny Sex Series: Enhancing Female Pleasure and Enjoyment of Sex: An Interview with Dr. Jennifer Degler Sex Series Orgasmic Potential, Pleasure, and Friendship: An Interview with Bonny Burns  Sex Series: Sex Series: Healthy Self, Healthy Sex: An Interview with Gaye Christmus Sex Series: Higher Sexual Desire Wife: An Interview with J Parker Sex Series: Six Pillars of Intimacy with Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo 215 Enriching Women's Sexual Function, Part One with Dr. Kris Christiansen 216 Enriching Women's Sexual Function, Part Two with Dr. Kris Christiansen 217 Tween/Teen Females: How to Navigate Changes during Puberty with Dr. Jennifer Degler 218 Secrets of Sex and Marriage: Interview with Dr. Michael Sytsma 222 Pornography: Protecting Children and Personal Healing, Victory, and Recovery in Christ with Sam Black Special Patreon Release: Holy Sex: An Interview with Dr. Juli Slattery Special Patreon Release: His Desires and Her Desires in the Bedroom with Dr. Jennifer Konzen 224 Surprising Discoveries of Sex in Marriage: An Interview with Shaunti Feldhahn 252 Maximizing Sexual Connections as Newlyweds to Long Term Marriages and Recovering from a Sexless Marriage with Dr. Cliff & Joyce Penner 260 Sex After Cancer with Dr. Kris Christiansen 277 Breaking Through Addiction in Marriage with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith   Connect with The Savvy Sauce on Facebook or Instagram or Our Website   Gospel Scripture: (all NIV) Romans 3:23 “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,”   Romans 3:24 “and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.”   Romans 3:25 (a) “God presented him as a sacrifice of atonement, through faith in his blood.”    Hebrews 9:22 (b) “without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness.”    Romans 5:8 “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”    Romans 5:11 “Not only is this so, but we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.”    John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”   Romans 10:9 “That if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.”    Luke 15:10 says “In the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.”   Romans 8:1 “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus”   Ephesians 1:13–14 “And you also were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God's possession- to the praise of his glory.”   Ephesians 1:15–23 “For this reason, ever since I heard about your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for all the saints, I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers. I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better. I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is like the working of his mighty strength, which he exerted in Christ when he raised him from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly realms, far above all rule and authority, power and dominion, and every title that can be given, not only in the present age but also in the one to come. And God placed all things under his feet and appointed him to be head over everything for the church, which is his body, the fullness of him who fills everything in every way.”   Ephesians 2:8–10 “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God‘s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.“   Ephesians 2:13 “But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far away have been brought near through the blood of Christ.“   Philippians 1:6 “being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”   *Transcription*   Music: (0:11 – 0:11)   Laura Dugger: (0:11 – 2:21) Welcome to The Savvy Sauce, where we have practical chats for intentional living. I'm your host, Laura Dugger, and I'm so glad you're here.   Today's message is not intended for little ears. We'll be discussing some adult themes, and I want you to be aware before you listen to this message.   Leman Property Management Company has the apartment you will be able to call home, with over 1,700 apartment units available in Central Illinois. Visit them today at lemanproperties.com or connect with them on Facebook.   My returning guest for today is Dr. Juli Slattery.   She has authored another book entitled Surrendered Sexuality: How Knowing Jesus Changes Everything, and we're going to cover a few themes from this book, but I think what you're going to find most helpful are her candid responses to some really tricky questions related to dating and pornography, technology, thought life, shows that we watch as believers, divorce, and just intimacy in general as married couples.   So, I think this is an episode that you're going to want to learn from yourself, but you'll also want to share with others because Dr. Juli has offered us such a gift as she directs us back to the heart issues and wisely guides us into sexual integrity in our own lives.   Here's our chat.   Welcome back to The Savvy Sauce, Dr. Juli.   Dr. Juli Slattery: (2:21 – 2:21) Thanks so much for having me back. It's always a joy.   Laura Dugger: (2:21 – 2:22) Well, I love that you've been a repeat guest many times. So, we get to just dive right in today because I'm going to link all of your previous episodes in the show notes. But to dive in, I'm just curious, as believers, where does your heart break as you see us compromising on God's design for sex?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (2:22 – 3:31) Hmm. That's such a good question. You know, I think my heart breaks the most in that when we compromise God's design for sexuality, or even when we don't understand it or understand His goodness, it means that there is a breach in our relationship with God.   And so, I am so passionate about what I do, not necessarily because I love talking about sexuality, but because for a lot of people, sexuality represents a wall between them and God, like an issue they can't resolve, or a place of shame that they just can't quite shake free from, or battle with sin that they feel like they're enslaved to. And so, those things mean that there's a limit to how much they invite God into their lives.   And so, for me, that's where my heart breaks the most is, you know, ultimately, we were created for the greatest fellowship with God and anything that gets in the way of that is something that God cares about and something that I care about.   Laura Dugger: (3:32 – 4:03) You say that well, and you've written many books, but in this most recent one, you plainly state one issue when you write, “You will not be able to obey God with your sexual thoughts, while binging shows and music that continually display the exact opposite.”   And I love how practical that is. So, Juli, why do you think this has become so normalized? And I would say, especially in Christian marriages.   Dr. Juli Slattery: (4:05 – 5:58) Yeah, you know, I think a lot of it is that the church has been historically really quiet about sexuality, you know, like we might talk about save sex for marriage, and don't cheat on your husband and that sort of thing. But the gray areas about how we think about our sexuality and kind of what we have the liberty and freedom to engage in, there's kind of silence, or maybe there's legalism.   And I think in that space, what ends up happening is the culture is so forthright with a message about sexuality, like woven throughout every single show that you could stream on any platform, you know, your music on Spotify, even the news you consume, the Instagram feeds, whatever, it's consistently showing you a way to understand sexuality that is contrary to God's design, and the messaging can be so subtle, or so repetitive that we don't even realize we're ingesting it.   And so, it's normal to talk about with your friends, like the latest season of The Bachelor, or, you know, the latest thing that you're streaming that if you really look at it, there's probably 100 references to sexuality that are outside of God's design. And so, we end up just having our mind conformed to this world.   And the scripture says really clearly in Romans 12, that we can't offer ourselves to God while we're still thinking like the world thinks that it requires an act of transformation of our thinking. And I don't know that there's anywhere more than we need this than in the topic of understanding our sexuality.   Laura Dugger: (6:00 – 6:59) Okay, so for I'm thinking of married couples, because I was recently at a wedding shower. And I love a friend from church. Her name is Dawn Karius. And she was giving the devotional and just sharing. You know, it's very easy to get married and fall into this trap. She was talking about what you watch specifically.   And she said, so many couples will watch something together, watch a show before bed, but be really intentional. If that is what you choose to do, then the shows that you're watching, even though you're with your spouse, is that drawing both of you closer to Christ? Because if it's pulling you further away from Christ, it's also pulling you away from one another.   And so, with all of that, and with what you've studied and written about, if a couple's hearing that and or some single person just hearing this, what would be your practical advice or encouragement for them?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (7:00 – 9:29) Yeah, some of it is, we can't live in a bubble. You know, it's, I think that there are some couples will have the conviction that, you know, we're just going to get rid of all of our devices, we're going to get rid of every streaming service. And there's nothing wrong with that decision, you might feel convicted to do that.   But for most couples, I would say, they're like, okay, we live in this world, we need to understand even the world we live in. And so, it's not like we're going to completely be cut off. But are we being discerning about what we consume?   And what are the standards that we might hit where we might just say, “You know what, we don't need to be watching this.” You know, like I can think of one show in particularly that my husband and I were watching. And it was a well-written show. It was exciting. But there was just so much profanity and just gross kind of sexual content that after two or three episodes, we're both just like, “You know what, as good as the show is, we just, this isn't, we're not watching this. Like we need to stop.”   And I think you need to have those discussions and you might have a different level of conviction than your spouse does. And that's okay, but at least have those conversations and you need to follow your conviction.   But then the other thing I would say that is equally important, if not more important, what are you consuming that helps you get God's perspective of sexuality? And what I've found is that a whole lot of Christian married couples know very little about what it looks like to build a healthy sex life in their marriage. And they're not consuming anything that helps them know how to love each other better, how to overcome differences, even how their bodies work, how to focus on one another and enjoy sex in a holy erotic way.   And so, even if you're watching and consuming very little content from the world, but you're not actively pursuing anything that gives you a biblical perspective, you're still going to end up defaulting to what the world says. And so, I think that again, it's equally as important or not, if not more important to be pursuing what's true and what's right and what's good.   Laura Dugger: (9:31 – 9:53) I love that, how you flipped it. And that discernment piece is huge because we don't want to be desensitized to then that we're consuming and we also want to feed on the good. So, I think it even leads to a broader question, again, as Christ followers, how can we recognize if our conscience is being pricked?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (9:54 – 12:05) Yeah, we can start by asking the Lord. You know, I mean, I think it's in, is it Psalm 139, where, you know, David is basically saying, “Search me, oh God, and know my thoughts, you know, show me if there's any offensive way within me.”   I think that's a beautiful prayer as an individual and as a couple, like God, we want to honor you with what we consume in media, with what we think about, would you guide us and would you show us? And then I think we all have that experience of watching something or listening to something or reading something where we're like, “Uh, I don't know, like, this is sort of a gray area. Like, I'm uncomfortable here. I probably shouldn't be watching this.” Or “Wow, that's really, that's really in your face. Like that's really graphic.”   And it's heeding the Holy Spirit when you get those prompts, instead of just pushing through and being like, “Ah, it's not that big of a deal. It's not going to affect me.” Like when you feel that sense of prompting, you respond to it and you say, “All right, I'm going to put this down. I'm going to shut this off.”   And, um, you know, the scripture says that we can become callous to those promptings of the Holy Spirit if we are in a habit of just running right through that. But we become more sensitive to the Holy Spirit when we yield and when we obey.   Um, and so, I think even just keeping track, you know, every day or every week, like where were the times regarding this or anything else that I really felt convicted by the Holy Spirit about maybe something I said about a friend, uh, or about a little white lie I told, you know, where were the times where I really felt the Holy Spirit nudging me and what did I do? Um, where do I need to confess that I didn't respond well? And where do I need to celebrate that? Yes, I listened, I obeyed, I yielded. Um, and so, I think that's a practice we get into of either ignoring that conviction or really yielding to it.   Laura Dugger: (12:06 – 12:28) Hmm. And that gets after the heart issue, which Jesus is so concerned about our heart. And that's a very softened heart approach. Yes. I hope we can have. And as it relates to sexual integrity, then what are some other ways that we need to be on guard so that we're careful not to be misled?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (12:29 – 13:37) Yeah, boy, I think there's just so much conversation. Um, again, even in Christian circles, sometimes around having a negative attitude towards sex, um, kind of accepting some forms of pornography as normal and even good, you know, husband bashing, wife bashing, you know, like complaining, kind of letting the thought feed in your mind of maybe I should have married somebody else.   Maybe that my life would be easier if I, I weren't married to this person. I wish they were this or that. So, sort of that discontent that is natural to feel in marriage. But the question is, what do you do with it? Do you give it space to grow and to nurture, or do you bring that before the Lord?   Um, so, I think those are some of the ways that we want to look at, like, how am I giving the enemy space in my life and in my marriage versus how am I inviting God to really reclaim what's broken here?   Laura Dugger: (13:38 – 14:01) Well, and then even thinking of the other side to guard ourselves from having a critical and judgmental spirit toward others or just having self-righteous pride. Can you educate us on some common reasons why some people may be predisposed to struggle with some certain sexual sins?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (14:02 – 17:20) Yeah, absolutely. I think that's so important, um, because the research really shows that some of us are more, I don't know if I'd say it that way, but we are going to be more predetermined maybe to struggle with things like pornography or same-sex attraction, or even hooking up.   And it's never like a one plus one equals two exactly. But there are what we might say indicators or risk factors that make you more vulnerable to those kinds of sexual struggles. And some of them might be unhealthy family dynamics growing up, you know, none of us had a perfect family, but let's say you grew up in a family where one of your parents was like overtly critical towards you all the time.   Maybe you went through a divorce with your parents where, um, you know, at a certain age, you just, your family fell apart and you're kind of looking for that stability and love. People who have experienced sexual trauma in childhood or the teen years are going to be more pre-dispositioned to want to understand that or act that out.   People who might struggle with anxiety. And, you know, some of it is we got to understand that sex, because it elicits dopamine in our brain and oxytocin and endorphins, which are all really feel good kind of experiences and hormones and neurotransmitters. When we had a sexual experience at a young age, our brain can learn, “Oh, this is how I deal with stress. This is how I deal with depression. This is how I deal with loneliness.”   So, a lot of times when you talk to somebody who has an ongoing struggle with a sexual temptation or sin, it's because they've learned as a pattern from maybe the time they were 10 years old or 12 years old or 15 years old, that this is how I dealt with the stress in my family. This is how I dealt with when my father died. This is how I dealt with when I was sexually abused. Like this was the way that I found to self-regulate and to self-medicate and to find comfort.   And that can be masturbation. It can be pornography or again, you know, acting out sexually. And so, for people who have that kind of story, and this might be your spouse, or this might be against somebody that you're looking at and judging to just say, “You need to stop that behavior,” is often not going to be enough. They need to do the work of really looking at what am I using sex for? What are the wounds that I'm using sex to cover up?   And how do I actually get the healing I need and find healthier and safer ways for me to cope with negative emotions? And that's why groups are really important for people who have sexual struggles. Counseling is really important. And again, that long journey of healing and freedom, not just a one-time decision that I'm going to try to never do this again.   Laura Dugger: (17:21 – 20:19) Love that word freedom, even because that hope is available. And just pointing out how you said this is not deterministic. That's not what we're saying is if you experience something, you will act out sexually. But I agree with you that it is fascinating and helpful to hear the correlation of certain things that happen, especially in childhood, and how that plays out long-term.   And I am blanking on which guest it was on The Savvy Sauce, but somebody was enlightening me. I think it was for females that if they were sexually abused, typically before a certain age, then they were more likely to struggle in marriage with wanting to completely avoid sex. But then if it was after a certain age, that it was completely opposite where they maybe used sex to medicate, or they were very aggressive and even would act out, let's say in single years, that they would sleep around with a bunch of partners if they had been wounded.   And so, I just think it just, it helps us to not be judgmental of one another. We don't know the full story.   Dr. Juli Slattery: (20:20 – 21:09) Yes. Yeah. There's always more there than we usually realize at first. And, you know, this plays out a lot in marriage because there are a lot of women who are married to guys who are addicted to pornography. And that's a deeply painful dynamic. That's really hard.   But to understand that your husband didn't want to have this struggle, often doesn't know how to get out of it, you know, gives you compassion. It doesn't mean that you look the other way, you need to get help, and you need to insist on getting help. But it does give you empathy and compassion that there's something underlying this and feeding it. It's not just, “Oh, I think I'm going to, you know, look at porn and hurt my wife again,” that there's always a deeper dynamic at work.   Laura Dugger: (21:10 – 21:50) Absolutely. And even an example from your book, I'll just read a quote where you said, “I spoke with a man who runs a sexual addiction program. He told me he had never met someone with sexual addiction, who did not also have significant sexual or psychological trauma in their past.”   And I think it goes along with what we're saying. But if we also then flip it and look at more of the positive side, how can we rightly prioritize connection and intimacy in marriage as God intended?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (21:53 – 24:24) I think first of all, we need to be convinced that this is worth it. You know, when we look at everything there is to do in life, there's so many worthy demands on our time. You know, from I want my house to look nice, and we need to make friends and we need to be an outreach to our community. And our kids are taking a lot of time and they should, and they've got all their activities and our church needs our help. Like when do you have time to do all this? And then, oh yeah, prioritize your marriage.   And I think we have to become convinced that if we're not working on our marriage, and specifically if we're not working on the sexual connection in marriage, then all those other things have the potential to fall apart. That the way I've learned it over time is that sex is never going to be a neutral issue in your marriage. It's either going to be something that is bonding you together and causing you to work on the deeper levels of intimacy, even as you talk through sexual difficulties, or it's going to be something not immediately, but over time, that becomes a wedge between you.   It might start as a wedge of resentment of my needs aren't getting met, or I feel like you're objectifying me or you're putting pressure on me. Or it might be a deeper wedge of a pornography addiction or something that's not being addressed. Or I don't trust my husband because of my trauma. And those things don't just stay dormant. The wedge becomes bigger and bigger and bigger until you get to the place where now you're not comfortable being in the same room anymore and you feel like roommates. And then now one of you is attracted to somebody else and the story plays on.   And there are very wonderful godly men and women who have gotten married with every purpose to stay together. But a wedge like this has grown over time to the point where they're now thinking about divorce or one of them has cheated on the other. And so, we have to be convinced that honoring God in our lives means prioritizing our marriage, and it means working on this intimate aspect of our marriage so that we can be a stable foundation for our families and our churches and our communities.   Laura Dugger: (24:26 – 24:39) And so, if we're getting as practical as possible, what are the best practices that you've seen in married couples who are happily married? How have you experienced that?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (24:40 – 28:04) Yeah. I'll put it in kind of like a cliche sort of way because I think sometimes that's catchy. Number one, I would say they're couples who will resist the drift, who will repair the rift, and who will adjust to the shift.   So, I can kind of break that down a little bit. But you know, the first thing is resisting the drift of you can go weeks without meaningfully connecting with your spouse. And I don't just mean sexually, but I mean like eye to eye, you know, just loving touch, just connecting to their hearts. And so, couples who know how to resist that drift, like they have regular times built into their calendar where this is where we connect every day. Like even for 10 minutes, this is where we hold each other's hands, we look at each other in the eye, we really connect with what's in your heart, how are you? And they have regular rhythms of once a week or once every other week, we're going to go out and do something fun together, just the two of us. We've worked through what sex looks like in this season. Like how many times do we want to have sex? Are we scheduling that? How are we making sure that's a priority? And so, that's the resisting the drift.   And the second one is repairing the rift. And at every marriage, there are going to be things that tear you apart. And sometimes those things might be sexual in nature, like a temptation, an emotional affair, pornography use, sometimes it's going to be something else where you have a deep disagreement that you can't resolve on your own. And you need to be courageous enough to reach out for help and say, like, if we don't get help, if we don't address this issue, like it's going to become something that tears us apart. Any couple that you meet who is happily married for like 30 years or more, they can tell you a story of when they had a rift, and the kind of help that really address that.   And then I think the third thing is adjusting to the shift. And in even the normal stages of marriage, there are shifts that happen. Like, you know, I'm in the stage right now where me and the people my age are going through biological changes with menopause and with aging. And, you know, some people are going through becoming grandparents and retirement. And there's all these shifts that are happening even naturally. There's other couples that are younger who are going through the shift of pregnancy and battling infertility. And some people are going through cancer. And there are things that happen that require you to shift your expectations. And to not just wish that it is like it used to be. But this is the marriage we have now. Here are the circumstances we have now. Here are the bodies we have now. How do we learn to love each other and embrace this season, given the changes that we're experiencing?   And so, I think that's a framework that I've seen healthy couples navigate over time that really fosters intimacy.   Laura Dugger: (28:05 – 29:29) That is incredible. I love how you put that. And I've shared with you before that my background is in Christian sex therapy. So, sex is a topic that does come up a lot and people feel comfortable sharing or asking questions. So, just in regular conversation, I want to recap two conversations that kind of show stances on both ends of the spectrum. And I'd love to hear your wisdom on how to respond to each one.   So, first, there was a Christian married woman with children, and she was teaching younger women to say yes to every single sexual advance from their husband. And she said, “If your husband has the higher drive, and he wants to have sex twice a day, then consider yourself lucky. And don't ever say no, because your body is not your own.” Yeah, it's hard to recap. So, this is not my perspective. So, sharing both ends.   So, that was one person. And then on the other end, I've heard a woman tell me, “You know, I just didn't feel like having sex for about a year and a half after we had our baby. So, I just told my husband, you're going to have to wait.”   So, loaded question, but Dr. Juli, how would you respond to each of those?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (29:29 – 32:31) Well, Laura, I feel like you probably would have just as good of response as I would to those. Yeah, I like that you're presenting those as two extremes, because they are two extremes. And I think both extremes kind of miss the heart. We want to be able to say yes to sex and intimacy. And being able to say yes means also being able to say no.   In that first situation, essentially, what is going to end up happening is that that wife is going to start feeling like my husband wants me for sex. And I don't have the capacity to enjoy it twice a day. I'm starting to feel like an object or used. And the husband is never going to learn that covenant love requires self-denial. And at every level, you know, what did, what did Paul say to husbands in Ephesians 5, like love your wife as you love your own body and be willing to lay down your, your life for your wife. And that means being sensitive to the fact that she doesn't have the same sexual appetite as you do. She doesn't have the same biology you do, that it actually can be physically painful, emotionally traumatic for a wife to have sex when she's not physically ready. Really, that couple is not working on intimacy. They're, they're kind of reinforcing a pattern that sex is about the husband getting his needs and desires met only through the wife without considering her. And that might work for short term, but that's not building intimacy in the long term. And it's not teaching either of them. And that wife needs to learn her own sexual desires and patterns and be able to communicate those to her husband. So, that's what I would say in that first one.   And the second one, essentially, you have a wife kind of having that more selfish perspective of, I only have sex when I want it and on my terms, instead of considering the husband. And, you know, how do I focus on him? How do I work on experiencing sexual desire? How do I foster that? Because it's important for my husband, it's important for our marriage. And I don't want to be selfish.   And so, I think both of those situations are kind of approaching sex where one person gets to be selfish, and the other person has to sacrifice. That's ministry, that's not intimacy. And so, we really want to be at a place where both of us, the higher desire one and the lower desire one, are learning what does it look like to really love well, to love sacrificially and to communicate the ways that I feel loved. I don't know, what would you add to that or change?   Laura Dugger: (32:31 – 33:11) That's why I asked you, you said that beautifully, better than I could have responded. And again, you're getting back to the heart of it and pointing us back to Jesus with each answer. And, you know, commonly people do struggle with having a safe place where they can ask candid questions about sex.   So, I am going to throw some more at you. And some of these are ones that you wrote about. But just to give us a little taste, even of the book, or if somebody has a burning question like this, I'd love your healthy response.   So, how do you respond when people ask, “How far is too far to go in a dating relationship?”   Dr. Juli Slattery: (33:14 – 36:32) Yeah, I think people are looking for a line, you know, like, as long as I don't cross this line, are we good? And of course, I think their traditional line would be as long as you're not having intercourse. But I think that misses the larger context of the purpose of sex. I've had to be convicted of this in my own life. And we talked very early in our conversation about how we've just sort of ingested messages from the culture. And the culture says that healthy sexuality is an expression of how I feel, right? So, so if I feel safe with you, if I feel romantically connected to you, if I feel sexually attracted to you, then it would be healthy for me to engage sexually with you. And then Christians would come and say, yes, but as long as you don't cross this line. So, that's sort of the narrative that I think a lot of us have heard in the church.   But if we look at, from a biblical perspective, God did not design sex to be an expression of how I feel. Okay, let that sink in for a minute. God did not design sex to be an expression of how I feel. He designed it to be a seal and a celebration of covenant, of the choice that a man and a woman make to covenant their lives to one another. And for them to say, just like I give you my whole life, I promise faithfulness to you. I promise that we are becoming one as a family. We have now a physical way to symbolize that in becoming one with our bodies. And so, even if I feel romantically attached to somebody I'm not married to, I don't act on that. Or even if I don't feel romantically attached to my husband, we work on our sex life because we're in covenant.   And so, when you begin to understand sex from that standpoint, you answer that question differently of how far can I go? Why are you sharing your body with another person when you haven't shared your life with them? And, you know, I think that the standard is not legalistic, but the heart of the question is a lot, that's a harder question. You know, like it says, and I think 2 Thessalonians or 1 Thessalonians, you know, Paul says, the will of God is that you do not engage in sexual immorality. Don't take advantage of a brother or sister.   And how many times in dating relationships do you look back and you're like, “Wow, I gave too much of myself to that person or I took too much of myself from that person. Like we engaged in things that now we're broken apart. Like I wish I could take back.” And so, what does it look like to honor each other? What does it look like to honor the Lord? So, I think those kinds of questions help you get to the heart of how do we steward dating relationships a lot better than looking for a line we're not supposed to cross.   Laura Dugger: (36:33 – 37:31) When was the first time you listened to an episode of The Savvy Sauce? How did you hear about our podcast? Did a friend share it with you? Will you be willing to be that friend now and text five other friends or post on your socials anything about The Savvy Sauce that you love? If you share your favorite episodes, that is how we continue to expand our reach and get the good news of Jesus Christ in more ears across the world.   So, we need your help.   Another way to help us grow is to leave a five-star review on Apple Podcasts. Each of these suggestions will cost you less than a minute, but it will be a great benefit to us. Thank you so much for being willing to be generous with your time and share. We appreciate you.   As Christ followers, should we use a friend's preferred names and pronouns? So, how would you respond to that?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (37:32 – 39:20) Boy, this is a hot topic. There are people who have really strong opinions on this. You're saying, do I use a friend's preferred names and pronouns?   And I think the fact that you have a friendship means that you can have a deeper conversation about the meaning of the names and pronouns. And I think that deeper conversation needs to happen. Because, you know, ultimately we don't like, we don't want to just say, “Oh yeah, whatever you want to call yourself is fine with me. Truth doesn't matter.” But on the other hand, we really want to get to the spiritual issue underneath this. And there's a, there's a big difference between somebody who doesn't know the Lord, doesn't know where you stand on any of this, and somebody that you can engage in a conversation with and seek wisdom on.   I think there, there's probably more latitude to use somebody's preferred name than pronouns. And I think in friendships, sometimes you can work that through and just say, you know, “Hey, I love you. I understand where you're coming from. I'm going to try my best to use the name that you're asking. But the pronoun is something that I'm not comfortable with. And here's why. And just like I'm, I want to understand where you are. I hope that you would have grace and understand where I am.” So, in a friendship, you're able to have those kinds of conversations. Whereas if it's a coworker or it's a stranger or a neighbor, sometimes we can't have that level of conversation. And so, I, we might choose to handle the situation a little differently.   Laura Dugger: (39:21 – 39:36) That's good. A hundred percent truth, a hundred percent love or kindness. And what if somebody asks, how much attention should we be giving these secondary issues as believers?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (39:39 – 41:03) Boy, I, I think first of all, the secondary issues come out of the primary issues. So, the primary issue, and you know, the issue I wrote Surrendered Sexuality is about is if my life belongs to the Lord, then my whole life needs to belong to Him, including how I think about cultural issues, including how I treat my neighbor.   And so, I don't see them as secondary issues. I see them as an outgrowth of the primary issue. I think when they become secondary issues are when we argue with other believers about it and it becomes the most important thing. Like I put you in a category based on, will you use preferred names and pronouns? And then I think we're missing what God calls us to.   The primary issue is that we want to honor God and we want to love each other. And so, let's keep going back to that primary issue. How do I love my neighbor well? How do I honor God's truth well? How do I pursue unity within the body of Christ well, as we're navigating some of these secondary issues? So, you know, like if we're going back to the primary issue, it means that we have to talk about the secondary issues, but we talk about them in light of what's primary.   Laura Dugger: (41:04 – 41:17) I like that. And I just have three more of these kind of tricky questions. So, another one, does pornography addiction qualify as reasons for a biblical divorce?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (41:20 – 42:50) I would say, first of all, technically, if we look at the word for sexual immorality in the scripture, which is porneia, we would say, yeah, you know, pornography does qualify for that.   But for the person who's asking this, maybe the woman who's asking this, I would say, why do you want to get out of the marriage? And what Jesus said is Moses permitted divorce because of the hardness of your heart. And I think a more important question is where's your heart and where's your husband's heart? Because I've seen people with pornography addictions who have really open hearts towards healing, and they're willing to get the help that they need. They're repentant. They're willing to do the work. They're willing to go through even a time of separation to show that they're serious about that work.   And then there are people who have very hard hearts of, “This is who I am. I might go through the motions, but I'm really not interested in change.” And so, I think the pornography addiction is less the issue than the posture of the person's heart and their willingness to work. And if your spouse is willing to work, then I think it's on us to have soft hearts too, and to be open to the work that God can do.   Laura Dugger: (42:51 – 43:34) That's good because saying you have to zoom out and see more of the story in that stance, because that's very different. Somebody who's working on it and hates the struggle and is wanting to break free versus being married to a narcissist who is abusing you and treating you in a certain way and addicted to pornography. So, you point out well that all of these questions have more to them.   Okay. So, two more, if a spouse has had an emotional affair in the past with a coworker, but they still work with this person, what is the wise thing to do and how should they handle it if their spouse is uncomfortable with them still working there?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (43:36 – 44:33) Yeah, boy, that's something that I would want to seek counseling on. You and your spouse really need to get with a counselor and talk that through. The generic advice in that situation would be to get a different job, to not have that relationship still a temptation or available.   But there are sometimes very extenuating circumstances where that's not a possibility, or at least for now, that's not a possibility. And so, I would really encourage you to meet with a third party to sort through the details of your particular situation. Because it could be that your spouse isn't willing to take that hard step of cutting off that relationship, or it could be that they're willing, but again, there's extenuating circumstances. And I would really want a wise person who is engaging with you to help you navigate that.   Laura Dugger: (44:34 – 44:44) But I love that, how you highlight that something to look for though, is that you would hope your spouse would be willing to make that right, especially if they were the offending.   Dr. Juli Slattery: (44:46 – 44:46) Okay.   Laura Dugger: (44:47 – 45:00) And then also, Juli, because scripture does talk about turning the other cheek, does that mean it's the same as saying God expects you to stay in an abusive marriage?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (45:02 – 47:41) Absolutely not. If you were in an abusive marriage, you are not doing your spouse any good. You are allowing your spouse to be in a place where they're destroying their own life and they're destroying the people that they love.   Now you say, okay, where biblically do we see this? We see that Jesus, he says in John, he says, “I laid down my life for my sheep. I lay it down willingly. No one has the authority to take it from me. I have the authority to lay it down and I have the authority to take it up again.” And we see Him living that out with religious leaders who were after Him all the time, who wanted to stone Him, who were accusing Him of things. It says over and over again that Jesus escaped from them. He just got out of there until it was time that the Father said, now is the time for you to give yourself for the world.   So, we take that principle and we say, Jesus was not abused. Jesus did not let Himself be abused. He gave Himself as a lamb to the slaughter as a sacrifice for the Father and for the world. But that's very different. Up until that time, we see Him have great boundaries. We see Him not get, it even says He didn't entrust Himself to man because He knew what was in their hearts. I mean, He had boundaries with people that could have hurt Him.   And I also love when we see this in the story of King David and Saul, when Saul is chasing David, Saul is abusive, right? He wants to kill David. And so, David escapes. And there's a situation where David has the power or the opportunity to kill Saul and he doesn't do it. And then Saul just is struck by his conscience, and he comes back to David. He goes, “You're a better man than I am. I'm so sorry. You know, come back with me and I'll treat you well.” And even though David doesn't take revenge, he doesn't go back with Saul. He's still, he's like, “You go your way. I'll go my way. I'm going to let the Lord judge between us.”   And I think that's a great model. If you're in any kind of abusive relationship, you don't take revenge, but you also don't stay in that situation. You go your way, let them go their way, and you let God judge between you. And I think we see that over and over again in scripture.   Laura Dugger: (47:42 – 48:19) I think that is so well said. And it reminds me of a somewhat recent conversation in 2025 with Stacey Womack who's saying with domestic violence, really the way God would see it is child abuse. And that kind of helps our paradigm because we are His child.   And she elaborates on that. So, I said that that was the last one, but I actually thought of one more as it relates to our children.   So, is it reasonable to assume that once a child has a smartphone, 100% of them will be exposed to pornography?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (48:21 – 49:15) Yeah, it is. And I would say not just once they have a smartphone, because I know with one of my kids, we delayed the smartphone decision, but he had a learning disability that required him to have an iPad for school. And somehow, even though we locked down all the apps, somehow he's able to access it through that. Or it can be a gaming system, or it can be a friend's phone. And so, having a smartphone or device like that certainly makes it more probable.   But you know, like our kids are surrounded by screens and technology, not just what's in our home, but in other people's homes and at school. And so, I think it's safe to assume, unfortunately, that yes, 100% of our kids are going to be exposed to pornography, probably by the time they're 13 or 14.   Laura Dugger: (49:16 – 49:31) And sadly, some much younger than that. But even if there's parental controls, or filters put on, it is just something on my heart that we have to be so vigilant against.   Dr. Juli Slattery: (49:32 – 50:12) Yeah, no, I felt like when, you know, I have three boys, and when they were all three kind of in those teen years, I felt like I was trying to plug holes in a boat, and there'd be new ones popping up all the time. Whether it's like apps, or you know, things that you think are completely safe. Somehow, pornography can get through.   And our kids are smart, like they know the workarounds to the parental things. And that's why we just need to have conversation after conversation, just discipling them, not just protecting them from pornography, but discipling them through what they're inevitably going to be exposed to.   Laura Dugger: (50:13 – 51:05) That's a great point that not just being reactive, but proactive. I think why I have such a heart for this is because practicing and doing therapy and having so many people come in those wounds, that if that addiction gets a stronghold, and that pornography use, it just can wreak havoc in people long term. And so, if we can do that hard work of discipling early on, it is such a blessing to our children, to the generation.   So, I'm just so grateful for your candid responses. And I think it's also a helpful reminder just to never take on a burden that was never meant for us to carry. So, are there any ways that God has taught you to not try and do His business?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (51:07 – 52:16) Yeah. Boy, that's such a great question. I've had to come to the conclusion that I can't convince anyone of right and wrong. You know, like, I can't convince anyone that pornography is wrong, or gay marriage is wrong, or you know, like, that's not my job. My job is to walk with the Lord with integrity and faithfulness and to testify as to who He is.   And so much of this work, whether we're talking about marriage or our friends or our children, so much of this work has to be the Lord's work. And you reach a stage with your kids when they hit those teen years, where you realize the things my kids most need, I can't give them. I can't give them a relationship with God. I can't give them the desire to follow and seek the Lord. Like, I can model that for them. I can encourage them. But that is between them and the Lord. And if I try to control that, I'm just getting in the way of the work that God wants to do in their lives.   Laura Dugger: (52:18 – 52:33) Goodness, I will need to write that down and reflect on that. That is so good, Juli. And there's still so much more that you could share with us.   So, where is your preferred place that we can go online and continue learning from you?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (52:34 – 52:48) Yeah, I would say two places. Number one, our website is authenticintimacy.com. And the second one is the podcast that I do called Java with Juli. It goes along with The Savvy Sauce, you know, like they kind of go together.   Laura Dugger: (52:49 – 53:11) Yes, absolutely. We will certainly link to all of that in the show notes for today's episode.   And you're familiar, I've asked you many times before, because we are called savvy, because savvy is synonymous with practical knowledge or discernment. So, as my final question for you today, Dr. Juli, what is your savvy sauce?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (53:13 – 53:58) Oh, I don't even remember how I answered this the last few times. I think I may have said this before, but I think reading the dead old guys is one of my savvy sauce, like reading people who didn't live in this generation who loved the Lord.   And learning from them is just, that's probably taught me more discernment than anything, because they just cut right through the cultural noise that I think sometimes can blind us. And they really help me see my heart for what it is and help me really want to pursue God at a deeper level.   Laura Dugger: (53:59 – 54:03) Wow. Any specific recommendations that have been personal favorites there?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (54:04 – 54:22) Yeah, I love A.W. Tozer. I love many of Andrew Murray's books, particularly Humility and Absolute Surrender. And C.S. Lewis is another great one, Mere Christianity. So, those are some that I would recommend you start with.   Laura Dugger: (54:23 – 54:44) That is wonderful. Thank you for sharing that.   And Juli, it's just always such a delight to get to share an hour of conversation with you. And you are just this beautiful mixture of bold and gentle and humble, all combined into one. So, thank you for being my returning guest today.   Dr. Juli Slattery: (54:44 – 54:49) Oh, thank you. And it's such a pleasure to be with you. Thanks for your great questions.   Laura Dugger: (54:51 – 58:33) One more thing before you go, have you heard the term gospel before? It simply means good news. And I want to share the best news with you, but it starts with the bad news.   Every single one of us were born sinners, but Christ desires to rescue us from our sin, which is something we cannot do for ourselves. This means there's absolutely no chance we can make it to heaven on our own. So, for you and for me, it means we deserve death, and we can never pay back the sacrifice we owe to be saved.   We need a savior, but God loved us so much. He made a way for his only son to willingly die in our place as the perfect substitute. This gives us hope of life forever in right relationship with him.   That is good news. Jesus lived the perfect life. We could never live and died in our place for our sin.   This was God's plan to make a way to reconcile with us so that God can look at us and see Jesus. We can be covered and justified through the work Jesus finished. If we choose to receive what he has done for us, Romans 10:9 says, “that if you confess with your mouth, Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.”   So, you pray with me now. Heavenly father, thank you for sending Jesus to take our place. I pray someone today right now is touched and chooses to turn their life over to you.   Will you clearly guide them and help them take their next step in faith to declare you as Lord of their life? We trust you to work and change lives now for eternity. In Jesus name we pray.   Amen. If you prayed that prayer, you are declaring him for me. So, me for him, you get the opportunity to live your life for him.   And at this podcast, we're called The Savvy Sauce for a reason. We want to give you practical tools to implement the knowledge you have learned. So, you're ready to get started.   First, tell someone, say it out loud, get a Bible. The first day I made this decision, my parents took me to Barnes and Noble and let me choose my own Bible. I selected the Quest NIV Bible and I love it.   You can start by reading the book of John. Also get connected locally, which just means tell someone who's a part of a church in your community that you made a decision to follow Christ. I'm assuming they will be thrilled to talk with you about further steps such as going to church and getting connected to other believers to encourage you.   We want to celebrate with you too. So, feel free to leave a comment for us here. If you did make a decision to follow Christ, we also have show notes included where you can read scripture that describes this process.   And finally, be encouraged. Luke 15:10 says, “in the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.” The heavens are praising with you for your decision today.   And if you've already received this good news, I pray you have someone to share it with. You are loved and I look forward to meeting you here next time.

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In this episode, Dr. Rena Malik, MD is joined by Keeley Rankin to discuss a five-step method for overcoming premature ejaculation. They explore practical tools such as mindful breathing, learning to separate arousal from anxiety, and ways to expand pleasure throughout the body. The conversation offers expert guidance for men seeking to improve sexual control, enhance intimacy, and redefine their experience of pleasure. Become a Member to Receive Exclusive Content: renamalik.supercast.com Schedule an appointment with me: https://www.renamalikmd.com/appointments ▶️Chapters: 00:00 Five step method overview 00:08 Step one: Breathwork 01:09 Step two: Anal breath 02:18 Step three: Separating arousal and anxiety 04:30 Step four: Surfing the sweet spot 08:23 Step five: Spreading pleasure energy Try Creatone https://tonetoday.com get 20% OFF with discount code: RENA Keeley is giving you an exclusive 20% off for a full month—don't miss it! 20% off discount code is: rena20 on her courses at https://www.keeleyrankin.com Stay connected with Keeley Rankin on social media for daily insights and updates. Don't miss out—follow her now and check out these links! INSTAGRAM - https://www.instagram.com/keeleyrankinintimacycoach/ TIKTOK - https://www.tiktok.com/@keeleyrankinsexcoach?_t=8Wc4J6pGCcQ&_r=1 YOUTUBE - https://m.youtube.com/c/keeleyrankin WEBSITE - www.keeleyrankin.com Let's Connect!: WEBSITE: http://www.renamalikmd.com YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@RenaMalikMD INSTAGRAM: http://www.instagram.com/RenaMalikMD TWITTER: http://twitter.com/RenaMalikMD FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/RenaMalikMD/ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/renadmalik PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/renamalikmd/ TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/RenaMalikMD ------------------------------------------------------ DISCLAIMER: This podcast is purely educational and does not constitute medical advice. The content of this podcast is my personal opinion, and not that of my employer(s). Use of this information is at your own risk. Rena Malik, M.D. will not assume any liability for any direct or indirect losses or damages that may result from the use of information contained in this podcast including but not limited to economic loss, injury, illness or death. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Dr. Rena Malik, MD is joined by sexologist Caitlin V for an in-depth conversation about how to enhance sexual pleasure, intimacy, and communication. They discuss practical strategies including the roles of mindful breathing, slowing down, and experimentation with techniques like yoni and lingam massage, while also sharing expert advice on overcoming common concerns such as performance anxiety and penis size worries. Listeners will learn evidence-based tools to improve not only their sex lives, but also their relationships and overall well-being. Become a Member to Receive Exclusive Content: renamalik.supercast.com Schedule an appointment with me: https://www.renamalikmd.com/appointments ▶️Chapters: 00:00 Introduction00:02 Coaching & Evidence-Based Approaches00:03 Breathing for Better Sex00:06 Slowing Down & Body Awareness00:11 Overcoming Obstacles in Sex00:18 Communication in Sexual Relationships00:32 Addressing Penis Size Concerns00:47 Premature Ejaculation & Lasting Longer01:00 Enhancing Masturbation Practices01:27 Rethinking Sex Education and Pleasure Get Caitlin V's book Harder, Better, Longer, Stronger: Science, Skills, and Secrets for the Best Sex of Your Life https://amzn.to/4mCHrz9 Check out Grow Therapy at GrowTherapy.com/DRMALIK Try Huel with 15% OFF for New Customers today using my code rena at https://huel.com/rena. Fuel your best performance with Huel today! (minimum $75 purchase) Stay connected with Caitlin V Neal on social media for daily insights and updates. Don't miss out—follow her now and check out these links! INSTAGRAM -https://www.instagram.com/caitlinvictoriousx/?hl=en FACEBOOK - https://www.facebook.com/caitlinvspot/?locale=de_DE TIKTOK - https://www.tiktok.com/@caitlinvictoriousx_?lang=en X - https://x.com/caitlinvneal Caitlin's YouTube Channel if you want more free advice - http://youtube.com/caitlinv Caitlin's homepage where you can check out the programs she mention on the podcast - http://caitlinvneal.com Pre-Order Bonuses for Caitlin's upcoming book Harder Better Longer Stronger - https://harderbook.com Let's Connect!: WEBSITE: http://www.renamalikmd.com YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@RenaMalikMD INSTAGRAM: http://www.instagram.com/RenaMalikMD TWITTER: http://twitter.com/RenaMalikMD FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/RenaMalikMD/ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/renadmalik PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/renamalikmd/ TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/RenaMalikMD ------------------------------------------------------ DISCLAIMER: This podcast is purely educational and does not constitute medical advice. The content of this podcast is my personal opinion, and not that of my employer(s). Use of this information is at your own risk. Rena Malik, M.D. will not assume any liability for any direct or indirect losses or damages that may result from the use of information contained in this podcast including but not limited to economic loss, injury, illness or death. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) A simple question for you: what do people use dildos for? I get why a vibrator is appealing, but why would a couple need one?2) I'm in a new relationship with the most patient, loving man. He gives me the most fantastic oral sex, often bringing me to orgasm without a toy. But, he suffers from terrible PE and will orgasm just from giving oral sex. What can I do to help him, as I would love to be properly penetrated again? We're not young. 3) My girlfriend and I have been together two years. I'm mid 40s and she's 13 years younger than me. We're both into the idea of a threesome, but can't decide whether to have FFM or MFM. My girlfriend thinks a threesome once a month sounds like a great plan, but I'm not sure. She's suggested asking our personal trainer who is very hot and single. I think it should be an escort, which I have used in the past. Can you help with the logistics?To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey's book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this brutally honest new episode of The Unapologetic Man Podcast, host Mark Sing tackles one of the most confidence-destroying challenges men face: premature ejaculation. Drawing from his own raw personal experiences, Mark unpacks the psychology behind coming too quickly—what he calls the “second wolf phenomenon”—and reveals how hidden belief systems, shame, and mindset issues are sabotaging your bedroom performance. Mark shares his proven step-by-step strategies to help you last as long as you want, including unconventional but highly effective techniques you can try tonight. This episode gives you the tools to eliminate premature ejaculation and become the guy who can go round after round.   Key Takeaways: - Why premature ejaculation destroys your confidence and self-esteem. - The “second wolf phenomenon” and how your lizard brain is working against you. - How hidden belief systems about sex create performance problems. - Why “mental distractions” actually work. - The unconventional masturbation technique that lets you last indefinitely. - Why awareness of your psychology alone can sometimes cure the problem.   Key Timestamps: [00:00:00] – Episode intro and preview [00:01:15] – Mark's personal story of premature ejaculation [00:03:22] – The “second wolf phenomenon” explained [00:05:30] – How personal belief systems about sex sabotage performance [00:07:45] – Awareness alone can (sometimes) be curative [00:09:13] – Practical tips: masturbation, numbing condoms, and mental tricks [00:12:17] – Info on The Sex Masterclass with Kirsten Trammell [00:14:46] – Mark's unconventional technique to last as long as you want [00:17:49] – Explaining it to your partner and testing it solo first [00:18:46] – Final thoughts, masterclass invitation, and wrap-up   Apply for The Sex Masterclass: https://coachmarksing.com/sex-masterclass/ Connect With Mark: Apply for Mark's 3-Month Coaching Program: https://coachmarksing.com/coaching/ Check Out The Perks Program: https://coachmarksing.com/perks/ Email: CoachMarkSing@Gmail.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachmarksing/ Grab Mark's Free Program: The Approach Formula - https://www.CoachMarkSing.com/The-Approach-Formula   About The Unapologetic Man Podcast The Unapologetic Man Podcast is your resource for mastering dating, attraction, and relationships from a confident, masculine perspective. Hosted by Mark Sing, this podcast gives men the tools and mindset shifts needed to succeed in their dating lives and build lasting, high-value relationships. #DatingAdvice #Masculinity #SexTipsForMen #ConfidenceForMen #PrematureEjaculation #SexualMastery #HighValueMan #SelfImprovement

Send us a textPremature ejaculation is the most common sexual struggle men face—yet almost no one is talking about it honestly.In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, I sit down with Jeff Bennett, CEO of Morari, to unpack what really causes PE and explore the many solutions men can try. From lifestyle shifts and breathwork to cutting-edge sexual health tech, we dig into how you can last longer, reduce performance anxiety, and actually enjoy sex without the pressure.Because let's be real: PE isn't just about control—it's about confidence, connection, and pleasure for both partners.What You'll Learn in This Episode:Why premature ejaculation is so common (and nothing to be ashamed of)The science behind PE: mind, body, and nervous systemSimple strategies you can try tonight to last longerEmerging solutions that combine technology and pleasureHow lasting longer changes not just sex, but your relationshipCheck out Mor and/or Join the research www.yourmor.com Use Code Annette25 for 25% offYou can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.com/LockerRoomTalkPodcastMy substack: https://talksexwithannette.substack.com/Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get 30% Off Sex Toys & Lube with code EXPLORES30 at thethruster.com: https://bit.ly/3Xsj5wY Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Episode Description In this Sex with Emily hotline episode, Dr. Emily answers honest questions about sex, relationships, and pleasure. Ben struggles with intrusive thoughts about his girlfriend's sexual past—how do generational differences in sexual norms play a role, and what can he do when his mind won't stop wandering? A caller whose day-long fantasies about his wife cause premature ejaculation wonders if this is actually a problem. Emily explores when mental foreplay becomes too much of a good thing and how to approach these conversations with your partner. For finding thirds for threesomes, what's the safest way to meet like-minded people? Emily discusses the essential conversations couples need to have before inviting someone into their bedroom. Nathan worries his girlfriend only orgasms with toys despite her past relationships not requiring them. Is this about his performance, her anatomy, or something deeper about emotional connection and letting go? Finally, how do you rebuild your relationship with your own sexuality after a major life change? Emily helps a caller navigate solo pleasure during divorce when motivation is low and old fantasies no longer serve. Throughout, Emily reinforces that sexual satisfaction looks different for everyone. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 1:29 - Dealing with Partner's Sexual Past 5:42 - How to Replace Negative Thoughts with Positive Relationship Focus 11:45 - Premature Ejaculation from All-Day Mental Arousal 17:07 - Starting Sexting in Long-Term Relationships 20:04 - Finding a Third for Threesomes 29:52 - The Field Effect 34:13 - When Emotional Connection Changes Physical Response 40:13 - Prioritizing Solo Pleasure During Divorce and Life Transitions 46:44 - Closing Thoughts and Resources

According to the British Association of Urinological Surgeons, somewhere between 20 and 30% of men experience premature ejaculation. But of those men, less than a quarter actually seek medical advice. That's despite it being an issue that often takes a toll psychologically on the man and the relationship they have with their partner. If it's always been an issue, it's termed primary premature ejaculation; whereas if it occurs after a period of normal ejaculation, it's called "secondary." And various factors can contribute to the condition. Like what? Just how long do most people have sex for? What should men do if the problem persists? In under 3 minutes, we answer your questions! To listen to the last episodes, you can click here: ⁠Should I eat starchy foods in the evening?⁠ ⁠How did broccoli freckles become a beauty trend?⁠ ⁠Could SMART goals help you reduce stress?⁠ A Bababam Originals podcast written and realised by Joseph Chance. First Broadcast: 1/5/2024 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever wondered what happens when you mix football analysis, wedding DJ nightmares, and AI-generated music about premature ejaculation? We didn't either until this episode happened.Football season has arrived, and we're breaking down Ohio State's commanding 70-0 victory alongside Michigan's unexpected struggles. From fantasy football matchups that have us sweating to college marching band appreciation, we cover the gridiron from all angles – including why we believe Ohio State has some serious depth with bench players who could start elsewhere.The conversation takes a hilarious turn when we share recent wedding DJ experiences, including the universal frustration of entitled guests who decide rules don't apply to them. Picture this: you're carefully releasing tables for dinner, and suddenly three tables just decide they're more important than everyone else. The passive-aggressive announcements that followed? Pure gold. These stories highlight a broader theme of self-entitlement we've encountered across service industries, from golf courses to catering halls.The highlight of our episode comes when we experiment with AI-generated music about premature ejaculation across different genres. From metalcore to polka to bluegrass, each musical style tackles the awkward subject matter with surprising authenticity. "Too Soon, My Balloon" – the polka masterpiece – had us literally in tears with lyrics that sound like they belong in a twisted Steamboat Willie cartoon. The bluegrass version with its fiddle race metaphors might be the most creative way anyone's ever addressed bedroom timing issues.We wrap things up with our thoughts on Mudvayne's new track "Hurt People, Hurt People," celebrating that after 15 years, they still deliver their signature sound while evolving for modern listeners.Want more unfiltered conversations where nothing is off-limits? Subscribe now and join our growing community of listeners who appreciate raw humor and unexpected tangents. What embarrassing topic should AI tackle next? Let us know in the comments!Send us a text message and let us know how awesome we are! (Click the link)!Support the show'Beavis and Butt-head' Cover art created by Joe Crawford

Premature Ejacualtion -- the number 1 sexual dysfunction for men is easily cured. Author Michael Castleman joins Laurie and gives vital information about the steps to cure PE. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever wondered why premature ejaculation happens, and why it seems so hard to talk about?You're not alone, and in this episode, we're opening up the conversation. We're taking a closer look at what might be causing it, why it affects so many men, and how it can impact more than just your intimate life. You'll get a sneak peek into some of the most overlooked strategies and eye-opening insights that could shift the way you think about PE. No fluff, no shame, just real talk and actionable tips.Ready to find out what's really going on behind closed doors? Press play and discover what you've been missing.--------------If you liked this episode, please SUBSCRIBE, like, leave a comment, and share so we can keep bringing you valuable content that gets results!--------------Curious about how you can boost your bedroom game and build lasting confidence? Check out the course at getwoodnow.com and start your journey to feeling like yourself again!--------------If you enjoyed this episode and want to learn more and get more tips, subscribe to The Modern Man newsletter for exclusive content delivered straight to your inbox! https://dranne.co/themodernman--------------Follow Me On:InstagramTwitterFacebookTikTokYouTube--------------For all links and resources mentioned on the show and where to subscribe to the podcast, please visit https://truongrehab.com/premature-ejaculation-causes-symptoms-solutions--------------Want to regain control of your sex life? It's time to reverse the effects of ED on your life. Join the Modern Man Club and embark on your journey to complete recovery and community.--------------Reveal the FREE treatment most men ignore that solves thousands of erectile dysfunction cases every year, plus the 5 biggest mistakes you must avoid if you want to say goodbye to your ED. Uncover it all in my free eBook, available to download now.https://dranne.co/ebook

In this raw and refreshingly honest episode of The Penis Project podcast, Melissa chats with Mitch—a 21-year-old who opens up about his journey with primary premature ejaculation (PE). From rural farm life and open family chats to medication mishaps and sexual self-esteem struggles, Mitch shares his experience with warmth and humour.  Mitch talks about:  Growing up with PE and its emotional toll  Navigating sexual intimacy and relationships as a young man  His experience with online men's health services like Pilot  The turning point that led him to seek help at Restorative Health Clinic  Finding the right treatment—and relief—through personalised care  This episode is a must-listen for any man who's felt alone with PE, and for partners or parents who want to better understand the experience from a younger male's perspective.   In This Episode, We Cover:  What it's like living with lifelong (primary) premature ejaculation  How a father's prostate cancer treatment led to a cheeky encounter with penile injections—and eventually helped Mitch seek help  The cost, pros and cons of online health platforms like Pilot  Why in-person or telehealth consults with a practitioner can make all the difference  The emotional impact of PE: shame, self-doubt, and how it affects confidence in and out of the bedroom  The power of humour and honesty in breaking sexual health stigma  Key Takeaways:  PE can affect men of all ages—including young blokes—and it's more common than you think.  Medication isn't one-size-fits-all. Finding the right dose and drug with a skilled clinician can be life-changing.  Open conversations with family, partners, and mates can reduce shame and build resilience.  Telehealth can be a more accessible, cost-effective way to get specialist support—especially in rural areas.  Tackling PE early builds long-term sexual confidence and can improve relationships.  Expert Insight from Melissa Hadley Barrett:  Premature ejaculation can feel devastating for men, but it's both common and treatable. We see men every day at Restorative Health Clinic who've been told to “just relax” or “it'll go away with age,” but that doesn't always happen. Treatment is individual and may include:  Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs)  Behavioural therapy  Mindfulness and arousal control strategies  Support for partners to reduce pressure and enhance intimacy  Every man deserves to enjoy sex without anxiety—and we're here to help you do just that.    Resources & Links:  Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic  For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com.au   Listen & Subscribe  If you found this episode helpful, don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app.  Connect With Us   We love hearing from real people navigating penile health. If you'd like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch.     Email: admin@melissahadleybarrett.com    Websites:  https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders  https://makehardeasy.com.au   https://melissahadleybarrett.com   http://prost.com.au/   Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/  https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett   TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett    Facebook:  https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814    Linkedin:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   TEDX  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

Click here to shop Promescent and automatically receive 15% OFF your first Delay Spray purchase.What starts as a conversation about premature ejaculation turns into a lively, no-filter discussion on sex, relationships, and confidence with Jeff Abraham, CEO of Promescent. We cover the real stigma behind PE, why communication beats any technique, the role of toys and tools in great sex, and how to keep passion alive in long-term relationships. Jeff shares personal stories, strong opinions, and surprising truths from years of talking with couples, customers, and even porn stars. If you're ready for an honest, funny, and insightful chat that goes way beyond performance anxiety, this one's for you

Try Promescent Delay Spray to Last Longerhttps://www.promescent.com/renaSave 15% at CheckoutHave you ever let someone down in bed? Well, if you did, you're not the only one. Between 30% and 40% of men experience premature ejaculation at some point in their lives. After you finish this video, you'll know how to clock out longer. Thanks for watching! Come back EVERY MONDAY for a NEW videoBuy your very own Take Care of Yourself water bottle or coffee mug: https://www.youtube.com/@RenaMalikMD/...Design by Ben Precuphttps://www.behance.net/bprecuphttps://www.instagram.com/bprecup/Rena Malik, MD is a urologist and pelvic surgeon on youtube to educate people about all things urology including erectile dysfunction, how to increase testosterone, problems with sex, premature ejaculation, urinary leakage, or incontinence, overactive bladder, urinary tract infections, prostate issues and more. Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/RenaMalikMD/?sub_confirmation=1Share this video with a friend: https://youtu.be/QVUOigWrtgoSources:https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1743-6109.2009.01392.xhttps://doi.org/10.1016/j.eururo.2006.07.004https://www.auanet.org/guidelines/guidelines/disorders-of-ejaculation#x14890https://www.nature.com/articles/ijir201631https://doi.org/10.1016/j.sxmr.2019.09.002https://doi.org/10.1016/j.sxmr.2018.05.001https://doi.org/10.1016/j.sxmr.2019.03.003 DISCLAIMER: This video is purely educational and does not constitute medical advice. The content of this video is my personal opinion and not that of my employer(s). Use of this information is at your own risk. Rena Malik, M.D. will not assume any liability for any direct or indirect losses or damages that may result from the use of the information contained in this video including but not limited to economic loss, injury, illness, or death. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Try Promescent Delay Spray to Last Longerhttps://www.promescent.com/renaSave 15% at CheckoutHave you ever let someone down in bed? Well, if you did, you're not the only one. Between 30% and 40% of men experience premature ejaculation at some point in their lives. After you finish this video, you'll know how to clock out longer. Thanks for watching! Come back EVERY MONDAY for a NEW videoBuy your very own Take Care of Yourself water bottle or coffee mug: https://www.youtube.com/@RenaMalikMD/...Design by Ben Precuphttps://www.behance.net/bprecuphttps://www.instagram.com/bprecup/Rena Malik, MD is a urologist and pelvic surgeon on youtube to educate people about all things urology including erectile dysfunction, how to increase testosterone, problems with sex, premature ejaculation, urinary leakage, or incontinence, overactive bladder, urinary tract infections, prostate issues and more. Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/RenaMalikMD/?sub_confirmation=1Share this video with a friend: https://youtu.be/QVUOigWrtgoSources:https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1743-6109.2009.01392.xhttps://doi.org/10.1016/j.eururo.2006.07.004https://www.auanet.org/guidelines/guidelines/disorders-of-ejaculation#x14890https://www.nature.com/articles/ijir201631https://doi.org/10.1016/j.sxmr.2019.09.002https://doi.org/10.1016/j.sxmr.2018.05.001https://doi.org/10.1016/j.sxmr.2019.03.003 DISCLAIMER: This video is purely educational and does not constitute medical advice. The content of this video is my personal opinion and not that of my employer(s). Use of this information is at your own risk. Rena Malik, M.D. will not assume any liability for any direct or indirect losses or damages that may result from the use of the information contained in this video including but not limited to economic loss, injury, illness, or death. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, we discuss premature ejaculation (PE). Dr. Johnson breaks down the DSM-5-TR definition, explores common causes and types, and offers mental health tips and treatment options for individuals navigating this experience.Transcript for this episodeSavvy Psychologist is hosted by Dr. Monica Johnson. Have a mental health question? Email us at psychologist@quickanddirtytips.com. Find Savvy Psychologist on Facebook and Twitter, or subscribe to the newsletter for more psychology tips.Savvy Psychologist is a part of Quick and Dirty Tips.Links: https://quickanddirtytips.com/savvy-psychologisthttps://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologisthttps://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsychhttps://www.kindmindpsych.com/

Struggling with intimacy issues in your relationship? You're not alone. In this episode of the Balls Deep Podcast, Dr. Joe Pazona from Pazona MD and Cat Williams answer your most pressing questions to help you improve your sex life and overall well-being. Whether you're a married couple wondering about the right frequency of sex, a woman looking to increase your sex drive, or concerned about a loss of sex drive, this episode is for you. We dive deep into topics like low libido in women, especially after kids, and offer actionable advice. A low sex drive can be concerning, and we discuss the reasons behind it and ways to boost your sex drive. For men, we address critical health topics such as erectile dysfunction (ED) and premature ejaculation (PE). Learn why ED can be a significant health warning and discover ways to improve sex performance and stamina. Relationship intimacy is a cornerstone of a healthy partnership. If you're facing a fear of intimacy or feel a lack of intimacy in your marriage, we provide insights that can help. This episode also touches on the impact of antidepressants on your sex life and how to navigate those challenges. Don't let these common issues go unaddressed. It's time to improve your sex life and strengthen your connection. For more from Pazona MD, visit: https://www.pazonamd.com/ Chapters: 0:00 - 0:39 Intro: Top Intimacy Questions Answered 0:40 - 3:19 How Often Should Married Couples Have Sex? 3:20 - 5:12 Low Libido in Women: Why it Happens and How to Increase Sex Drive 5:13 - 7:24  Dealing with a Loss of Attraction in Your Relationship   7:25 - 9:27 Erectile Dysfunction: More Than Just a Bedroom Problem 9:28 - 11:26  How Antidepressants Can Affect Your Sex Life 11:27 - 13:29  Discreet Solutions for Premature Ejaculation 13:30 Final Thoughts, Comment Your Answers   #SexualHealth #Relationships #ImproveSexLife #LowLibido #ErectileDysfunction #RelationshipIntimacy #PazonaMD #HealthPodcast  

If you struggle with finishing too quickly during sex (aka premature ejaculation) sexologist Cam Fraser is here to help. In this ep, we find out why it's the most common sexual issue to affect men, what causes it, and how to deal. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Top Ten from 2024: #4 Surprising Discoveries of Sex in Marriage: An Interview with Shaunti Feldhahn   *DISCLAIMER* This episode is intended for adults.   **Transcription of original episode**  224. Surprising Discoveries of Sex in Marriage: An Interview with Shaunti Feldhahn   Deuteronomy 29:29a (NKJV) "The secret things belong to the LORD our God, but those things which are revealed belong to us"   Questions and Topics We Cover: Are there any specific questions you recommend we ask our spouse periodically? Will you elaborate on your finding that "men and women tend to have different insecurities that the process of sex can help heal or hurt"? You write "Having a comfortable way to signal (and receive) openness or interest will create connection and prevent much pain." So, how can couples begin to develop their own private language or signals to communicate effectively in a healthy manner?   Thank You to Our Sponsor: The Sue Neihouser Team   Shaunti Feldhahn received her graduate degree from Harvard University and was an analyst on Wall Street before unexpectedly becoming a social researcher, best-selling author, and popular speaker.   Today, Shaunti applies her analytical skills to investigate eye-opening, life-changing truths about relationships, both at home and in the workplace. Her groundbreaking research-based books, such as For Women Only, The Kindness Challenge, and Thriving in Love & Money, have sold more than 3 million copies in 25 languages. Her books and studies are popular in homes, counseling centers, and corporations worldwide.   Shaunti (often with her husband, Jeff) has spoken around the world, sharing her findings with audiences ranging from churches to women's and marriage conferences to arena events to youth camps and cruises (yes, those are particularly painful…). Her research and commentary are regularly featured in media as diverse as The Today Show, Focus on the Family, The New York Times and MomLife Today. Shaunti, Jeff, and their two children live in Atlanta and enjoy every minute of living life at warp speed.   Secrets of Sex and Marriage Website   Previous Episodes on Sexual Intimacy on The Savvy Sauce: Fostering a Fun, Healthy Sex Life with your Spouse with Dr. Jennifer Konzen Ways to Deepen Your Intimacy in Marriage with Dr. Douglas Rosenau Ten Common Questions About Sex, Shared Through a Biblical Worldview with Dr. Michael Sytsma Easy Changes to Enhance Your Sexual Intimacy in Marriage with Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner Hope For Treating Pelvic Pain with Tracey LeGrand Treatment for Sexual Issues with Certified Sex Therapist, Emma Schmidt Talking With Your Kids About Sex with Brian and Alison Sutter Natural Aphrodisiacs with Christian Certified Sex Therapist, Dr. Douglas Rosenau Healthy Sexuality, Emotional Intelligence, and Parenting Children with Autism with Counselor, Lauren Dack Pain and Joy in Sexual Intimacy with Psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist, Dr. Jessica McCleese Identifying and Fighting Human Trafficking with Dr. Jeff Waibel Bridging the Gap Between Military and Civilian Families with Licensed Professional Counselor, Cuthor, Podcaster, and 2015 Military Spouse of the Year, Corie Weathers Enjoying a God-Honoring, Healthy Sex Life with Your Spouse with Certified Sex Therapist and Ordained Minister, Dr. Michael Sytsma Enjoying Parenting and Managing Conversations About Sex with Certified Sex Therapist and Author, Dr. Jennifer Konzen 63 Maximizing Sexual Intimacy During the Three Most Challenging Phases of Marriage with Christian Sex Therapist Pioneers, Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner Conflict Resolution, Infidelity, and Infertility with Licensed Psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist, Dr. Jessica McCleese Hormones and Body Image with Certified Sex Therapist, Vickie George Passion Pursuit with Dr. Juli Slattery Female Orgasm with Sue Goldstein Erectile Dysfunction, Premature Ejaculation, and Treatments Available with Dr. Irwin Goldstein Turn Ons, Turn Offs, and Savoring Sex in Marriage with Dr. Jennifer Konzen Desire Discrepancy in Marriage with Dr. Michael Sytsma Answering Listener's Questions About Sex with Kelli Willard Anatomy of an Affair with Dave Carder Supernatural Restoration Story with Bob and Audrey Meisner Healthy Minds, Marriages, and Sex Lives with Drs. Scott and Melissa Symington Female Pornography Addiction and Meaningful Recovery with Crystal Renaud Day Building Lasting Relationships with Clarence and Brenda Shuler Healthy Ways for Females to Increase Sexual Enjoyment with Tracey LeGrand Pornography Healing for Spouses with Geremy Keeton Sexual Sin Recovery for You and Your Spouse (Part Two) Personal Development and Sexual Wholeness with Dr. Sibylle Georgianna Our Brain's Role in Sexual Intimacy with Angie Landry Discovering God's Design for Romance with Sharon Jaynes Sex in Marriage and Its Positive Effects with Francie Winslow, Part 1 Science and Art of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage, Part 2 Making Love in Marriage with Debra Fileta Mutually Pleasing Sex in Marriage with Gary Thomas Sex Series: God's Design and Warnings for Sex: An Interview with Mike Novotny Sex Series: Enhancing Female Pleasure and Enjoyment of Sex: An Interview with Dr. Jennifer Degler Sex Series Orgasmic Potential, Pleasure, and Friendship: An Interview with Bonny Burns  Sex Series: Sex Series: Healthy Self, Healthy Sex: An Interview with Gaye Christmus Sex Series: Higher Sexual Desire Wife: An Interview with J Parker Sex Series: Six Pillars of Intimacy with Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo 215 Enriching Women's Sexual Function, Part One with Dr. Kris Christiansen 216 Enriching Women's Sexual Function, Part Two with Dr. Kris Christiansen 217 Tween/Teen Females: How to Navigate Changes during Puberty with Dr. Jennifer Degler 218 Secrets of Sex and Marriage: Interview with Dr. Michael Sytsma   Connect with The Savvy Sauce on Facebook or Instagram or Our Website   Please help us out by sharing this episode with a friend, leaving a 5-star rating and review, and subscribing to this podcast!   Gospel Scripture: (all NIV)   Romans 3:23 “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,”   Romans 3:24 “and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.”   Romans 3:25 (a) “God presented him as a sacrifice of atonement, through faith in his blood.”    Hebrews 9:22 (b) “without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness.”    Romans 5:8 “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”    Romans 5:11 “Not only is this so, but we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.”    John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”   Romans 10:9 “That if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.”    Luke 15:10 says “In the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.”   Romans 8:1 “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus”   Ephesians 1:13–14 “And you also were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God's possession- to the praise of his glory.”   Ephesians 1:15–23 “For this reason, ever since I heard about your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for all the saints, I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers. I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better. I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is like the working of his mighty strength, which he exerted in Christ when he raised him from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly realms, far above all rule and authority, power and dominion, and every title that can be given, not only in the present age but also in the one to come. And God placed all things under his feet and appointed him to be head over everything for the church, which is his body, the fullness of him who fills everything in every way.”   Ephesians 2:8–10 “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God‘s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.“   Ephesians 2:13 “But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far away have been brought near through the blood of Christ.“   Philippians 1:6 “being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”

Try BlueChew for FREE with my promo code RENAhttps://www.get.bluechew.com/rena#BlueChewPartnerErectile Dysfunction, for some men, can be the bane of their existence. Suffering from ED is no small thing, and it can be incredibly frustrating for a lot of men. That's why in this video, I'm going to talk about all the possible treatment options for Erectile Dysfunction. Be sure to watch until the end to learn about strengthening your erections and more! Thanks for Precuphttps://www.behance.net/bprecuphttps://www.instagram.com/bprecup/Rena Malik, MD is a urologist and pelvic surgeon on YouTube to educate people about all things urology including erectile dysfunction, how to increase testosterone, problems with sex, premature ejaculation, urinary leakage, or incontinence, overactive bladder, urinary tract infections, prostate issues and more. Disclaimer: BlueChew is a service that connects you with a licensed medical provider in your state. A prescription will only be written if deemed appropriate after the digital consultation by the licensed medical provider. All membership plans include digital provider consult, Rx-only chewable tablets, monthly refills, and medical support. Not available in all 50 states. Visit the website for important safety information.Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/RenaMalikMD/?sub_confirmation=1Share this video with a friend: https://youtu.be/AwQI8FwngX8Chapters:0:00 Intro Card0:42 Why do people get Erectile Dysfunction?2:17 ED can be the first sign of Heart Disease!2:40 What will happen when you see a Doctor for your erections?4:07 Lifestyle Changes to help with ED5:33 Supplements to help with ED?6:25 Medical Treatments for ED11:49 End Playlists: Penis Problems?! Erectile Dysfunction, Premature Ejaculation & More: https://bit.ly/3wwivzS Overactive Bladder Treatment: https://bit.ly/3hMzBoP How to Increase Testosterone: https://bit.ly/2T9QJKV All my REACTION videos: https://youtu.be/_Dl46d7I1uI Reacting to Grey's Anatomy: https://youtu.be/LiDevzHnoos ------------------------------------------------ DISCLAIMER: This video is purely educational and does not constitute medical advice. The content of this video is my personal opinion and not that of my employer(s). Use of this information is at your own risk. Rena Malik, M.D. will not assume any liability for any direct or indirect losses or damages that may result from the use of the information contained in this video including but not limited to economic loss, injury, illness, or death. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

SEXUAL HEALTH: Sex and relationship coach Caitlyn V called in to discuss premature ejaculation, masturbation, male sex toys and more. Tune in to hear her discuss how and why she decided to become a sex and relationship coach, why she decided to focus on premature helping guys with premature ejaculation and how she prefers to tackle it, how and why looking into the psychological reasons for sexual issues is important, the first thing she asks guys to do when a guy has PE and why it works, how and why most men masturbate in a way that might be creating other issues, tips on how to masturbate in a healthier way, premature ejaculation vs. delayed ejaculation and how they're similar, why delayed ejaculation happens and what you can do about it, sex toys for men and why they don't use them as much, her fave sex toys for guys and why she loves them, medications that kill your sex drive and what you can do about it,  why she continues to work mostly with men and what she gets out of it plus a whole lot more. You can find her here: https://www.youtube.com/caitlinv You can also find two of her best programs for guys here: Come When You Want - How to End Premature Ejaculation: https://caitlinvneal.com/come-when-you-want-2/ Hard as You Want - Get Harder and Stay Harder Longer: https://caitlinvneal.com/hard-as-you-want/ **To see HOT pics of my female guests + gain access to my PRIVATE Discord channel where people get super XX naughty + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ MY BOOK IS NOW OUT FOR PRE-ORDER!!!! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY NOW: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  To join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712  Want to be on the show? Email me at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠strictlyanonymouspodcast@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and click on "Be on the Show" Have something quick you want to confess while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. You can call 24/7. All voices are changed.  Sponsors:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://vb.health ⁠⁠⁠⁠ To get 10% off Load Boost and Drive Boost by VB Health use code: STRICTLY ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://beducate.me/pd2516-anonymous⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Use code: ANONYMOUS to get an 50% off plus a 14 day money-back guarantee Follow me! Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Twitter ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Everything else ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcas⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever asked yourself: "Am I the only man struggling with sexual performance?" "How do media and p*rn warp my expectations about sex?" "What if stress and anxiety are secretly sabotaging my intimacy?" If these questions echo in your mind, get ready for a candid, judgment-free conversation that pulls back the curtain on men's sexual health and confidence. Today, Larry Hagner sits down with Alex Grendi, a sex coach for men whose expertise is rooted in his own personal battles with performance anxiety and sexual health challenges. Alex Grendi opens up about his journey from New York, his thoughts on modern masculinity, and the profound impact that issues like erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, and performance anxiety can have on men's self-worth and relationships. Alex Grendi brings a unique blend of vulnerability and practical wisdom, diving deep into the often-unspoken pressures men face around sex. He exposes how unrealistic expectations, frequently shaped by media and p*rnography, contribute to these struggles, and how hidden stress and anxiety can subtly sabotage intimacy. Become the best husband and leader you can: https://www.thedadedge.com/mastermind In this eye-opening conversation, we dig into: The Hidden Pressures of Modern Masculinity: How societal expectations, media, and p*rn create unrealistic benchmarks for sexual performance. Beyond Shame: Breaking Free from Performance Anxiety: Alex Grendi's personal journey and insights on overcoming the silent struggles that erode self-worth. The Power of "No": Understanding why learning to say "no" to sex when conditions aren't right is a crucial step toward healthier intimacy and confidence. Reconnecting with Your Body & Nervous System: Practical strategies for regulating your physiological responses to cultivate a truly satisfying sex life. Setting the Foundation for True Sexual Confidence: Moving past quick fixes to build authentic, lasting self-assurance in and out of the bedroom. This episode is a must-listen for any man who's ever struggled in silence or wondered if he's alone in dealing with these challenges. Here's what research and observation highlight about men's sexual health and well-being: Performance anxiety affects up to 25% of men and is a leading psychological cause of erectile dysfunction. Premature ejaculation is the most common male sexual dysfunction, impacting an estimated 20-30% of men globally. Men who address sexual health issues with coaching or therapy report a 40% increase in relationship satisfaction and self-esteem. www.thedadedge.com/531 www.thedadedge.com/alliance www.alexgrendi.com www.youtube.com/@alex.grendi www.instagram.com/alex.grendi www.thedadedge.com/bark  

Direct from the Community College Of Naughty Knowledge - the world's best sex educator, Sex With Sue's Sue McGarvie and John "The Milkman" Mielke with everything new in sex!This week:- He wants to try anal, but can't find my clitoris. Help!- Does Ozempic make your dick bigger? - Sooo you're a swinger... What if I see someone I know? - The difference between a porn and intimacy director. - New study from Adam and Eve that say most of us want a happy ending in our dreams - We read it on Reddit - My boyfriend cries after every orgasm. I'm flattered… but also kind of freaked out - Let's hear it for the cougars. New study on satisfaction older women and younger men - Brain, Interrupted: The Neurological Mystery of Premature EjaculationPlus your kinky confessions, this week's HARD NEWS (all the news from the world of porn) and a bonus interview with Cali who makes her living selling something VERY unique to some very kinky customers!Thanks to www.edenfantasys.comWe're online @ www.turnedonpodcast.com

Struggling with Premature Ejaculation (PE)? You're definitely not alone, and there's powerful hope for lasting change. In this episode of the Balls Deep Podcast, renowned Urologist Dr. Joe Pazona and Ken Mitchell dive deep into actionable strategies, proven PE treatments, and expert insights to help you conquer this common men's health issue. Ready to last longer and reclaim your confidence? We explore everything you need to optimize your sexual performance, from effective behavioral techniques like the start-stop method to cutting-edge medical solutions including delay sprays (like Promescent), and the role of SSRIs (such as Paxil).  IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL DISCOVER: Behavioral Exercises to Delay Ejaculation: Master techniques to gain control. Effective Medical Treatments for PE: Understanding options like Paxil, Promescent sprays, and more. The Power of Sex Therapy: How it contributes to overall sexual wellness and overcoming performance anxiety. Telemedicine for Men's Health: Making it easier than ever to seek help and find solutions. Learn our expert "three-pronged approach" designed to help you control ejaculation, dramatically improve your sexual health, and feel your absolute best. If you're looking for real solutions to PE, this is the episode you can't afford to miss.   #PrematureEjaculation #PE #PEtreatment #LastLonger #MensHealth #SexualHealth #SexTherapy #Urologist #BallsDeepPodcast #DelaySpray #SexualWellness #Podcast #HealthPodcast #PerformanceAnxiety #SSRIsForPE 

Video: https://youtu.be/siXHIeregY8 #sexualhealth #sexualwellness Currently, there's too much glorification on what sex should look like, placing a lot of value (sometimes too much value) on how long it should last. But what's normal?! In this video, we take a look at real data regarding how long sex really lasts from 500 couples all around the world! Watch this video of me reacting to Sex and The City to learn about PREMATURE EJACULATION! https://youtu.be/1WPczkHNdwU Sources: A Five‐nation Survey to Assess the Distribution of the Intravaginal Ejaculatory Latency Time among the General Male Population: https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1111/j.1743-6109.2009.01392.x?casa_token=4vwrMDhP-KwAAAAA%3Al4Gv4-DvSkCGDfVRW1N8Cd6jswYtKFd_DMZK26Eon6tHqZMG4BPmB0_JMXvh1rIY7ZJWh_1rm7kAq8d8TQ How long does sex last?: https://saucydates.com/how-long-does-sex-last/ Find a Certified Sex Therapist: https://www.aasect.org/referral-directory Resources used: Turkey Map: https://www.vanguardngr.com/2021/01/turkey-hits-twitter-pinterest-with-advertising-bans-over-failure-to-appoint-local-representative/ Britain Map: http://www.maps-of-britain.co.uk/large-political-britain-map.html Couple looking at the sun Video: https://www.pexels.com/video/a-couple-sitting-on-the-bed-looking-at-the-city-view-by-the-window-4775026/ DISCLAIMER: This video is purely educational and does not constitute medical advice. The content of this video is my personal opinion and not that of my employer(s). Use of this information is at your own risk. Rena Malik, M.D. will not assume any liability for any direct or indirect losses or damages that may result from the use of the information contained in this video including but not limited to economic loss, injury, illness, or death. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Premature ejaculation. Delayed ejaculation. What's normal? And how long should it truly last in bed? Join Dr. Joe Pazona and Ken Mitchell as they debunk myths, discuss expectations, and explore the difference between erection, ejaculation, and orgasm.

Send us a textWhat if everything you thought you knew about male sexuality was incomplete? Beyond the cultural messaging that men should "get up, stay up, and get off on command," lies a rich landscape of physical, emotional, and mental dimensions rarely explored in mainstream conversations.In this revealing episode, Caitlin V—renowned men's sex and relationship coach with nearly 900,000 YouTube subscribers—shares her revolutionary approach to addressing erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, and performance anxiety. Rather than reaching for a pill or viewing these challenges as permanent conditions, Caitlin guides us through her holistic framework that begins with physical health but extends far beyond.We explore how our internal narratives create either freedom or limitation in the bedroom, how unprocessed emotions manifest as physical symptoms, and why relationship dynamics directly impact sexual satisfaction. Caitlin debunks the common advice to "spice things up," suggesting instead that deep presence—truly being attentive to every touch, breath, and sensation—creates more profound sexual experiences than novelty alone.The conversation takes fascinating turns through topics like contemporary sex education, emerging sex technologies, and the neuroscience of touch. Did you know specific nerve cells in our skin respond exclusively to gentle stroking, releasing bonding hormones that create the foundation for intimacy? Or that changing how you self-pleasure can dramatically improve sexual stamina?Whether you're struggling with sexual difficulties, seeking to deepen your intimate connections, or simply curious about the complexity of human sexuality, this episode offers practical wisdom and a refreshing perspective. Caitlin reminds us that healthy sexual expression is our birthright—not just for personal fulfillment, but as a contribution to a better world. Taking the next step in your sexual journey, whether through education, communication, or seeking support, might be one of the most transformative choices you make.http://trygroovething.com/caitlinvSupport the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to tamara@straightfromthesourcesmouth.co Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Everything you've been told about lasting longer in bed is WRONG.I spent years doing Kegel exercises because every "expert" said it would fix my premature ejaculation. I got my pelvic floor absolutely JACKED... and it made the problem WORSE.Here's the truth nobody wants to tell you: Premature ejaculation is a pelvic floor issue, but not in the way you think. When I discovered what's really happening in your nervous system during sex, everything changed.This isn't about sketchy numbing creams or thinking about baseball. This is about fixing the root cause that nobody talks about.Ready to stop following advice that sabotages your sexual stamina?Get my FREE Ebook - 3 Techniques for Legendary Ejaculation Control:

Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zkc3ohOTgxQ&t=271s Are you tired of feeling embarrassed or frustrated by premature ejaculation? Do you wish you could last longer in bed and satisfy your partner like never before? Well, you're in luck because, in this video, we'll share with you some valuable tips for men looking to improve their ejaculation time and enhance their sexual performance. Watch this video till the end and let me know your thoughts in the comments. Thanks for watching!! *References: Canadian and American Sex Therapists' Perceptions of Normal and Abnormal Ejaculatory Latencies: How Long Should Intercourse Last? https://academic.oup.com/jsm/article-... The Psychological Burden of Premature Ejaculation https://doi.org/10.1016/j.juro.2006.1... A Multinational Population Survey of Intravaginal Ejaculation Latency Time https://academic.oup.com/jsm/article/... A Five-Nation Survey to Assess the Distribution of the Intravaginal Ejaculatory Latency Time Among the General Male Population https://academic.oup.com/jsm/article-... DISCLAIMER: This video is purely educational and does not constitute medical advice. The content of this video is my personal opinion and not that of my employer(s). Use of this information is at your own risk. Rena Malik, M.D. will not assume any liability for any direct or indirect losses or damages that may result from the use of the information contained in this video including but not limited to economic loss, injury, illness, or death. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Want to have the ultimate sex—whether you've got a pussy or a penis?   In this Shameless Sex mashup episode, we're diving deep into the most unforgettable moments with Keeley Rankin, M.A., a leading intimacy and relationship coach since 2010. From decoding orgasms to overcoming shame, Keeley's expert insights will help you unlock new levels of pleasure, confidence, and connection.   Here's what you'll learn:  Proven techniques to enhance and expand your orgasmic pleasure (#199 All About Orgasms)   How to navigate and overcome premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, and erectile challenges (#184)   Powerful tools to shed penis shame and embrace your sexual self without judgment (#403 Overcoming Penis Shame)   The transformative practice of “less doing, more being” to invite deeper pleasure and presence (#351 Less Doing + More Being = Hello Pleasure)  Listen to the full episodes here: #199 All About Orgasms #184 Premature Ejaculation, Delayed Ejaculation and Ed  #403 Overcoming Penis Shame  #351 Less Doing + More Being = Hello Pleasure  Why tune in?  This episode is for anyone ready to break free from performance pressure, shame, or confusion—and step boldly into a sex life that feels joyful, authentic, and deeply satisfying. Keeley's warm, no-nonsense guidance invites you to explore your pleasure with curiosity and ease, making this a must-listen for singles, couples, and anyone curious about their sexuality.   About Keeley Rankin, M.A. Keeley Rankin has been a leading intimacy and relationship coach since 2010. As a trusted mentor, she supports singles and couples in having better sex, deeper relationships, and fully realizing their sexual potential. Want to dive deeper? Click the link in the show notes to learn more and access all of Keeley's transformative work. Curious how slowing down can actually turn up the heat? Or how to reframe shame into self-love? Hit play and let Keeley guide you to your ultimate pleasure. Want to work with Keeley? Check out her online courses and offerings here: https://www.keeleyrankin.com/a/2147934532/hQuRK85L Get your hands on this deck-aaaaa: Vibrating Tarot crowdfunding campaign (all of our fave brands and sponsors are in the deck) - click link in show notes to support + get first access to deck  https://www.backerkit.com/c/projects/pallor-publishing/vibrating-tarot Santa Cruz! Come to one of our next live shows for our Who's Your Daddy Tour: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.shamelesssex.com/whos-your-daddy-tour⁠⁠⁠ Get premium access to our behind the scenes episodes here: ⁠⁠⁠https://shamelesssex.supportingcast.fm⁠⁠⁠ Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order ⁠⁠⁠our book⁠⁠⁠ now! Go to ⁠⁠⁠shamelesssex.com⁠⁠⁠ to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our ⁠⁠⁠Amazon Wish List⁠⁠⁠ Other links: Get an additional 15% off of MasterClass at ⁠⁠⁠http://masterclass.com/shameless⁠⁠⁠ Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at ⁠⁠⁠http://uberlube.com⁠⁠⁠ Get 10% off while learning the art of pleasure at ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://OMGyes.com/shameless⁠⁠⁠ Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at ⁠⁠⁠http://purepleasureshop.com⁠⁠⁠

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) I'm intrigued to know what happens at a chem sex party. I've got a few adventurous girlfriends and we're all quite keen to give it a try. Would you advise it?2) I know it's normal to go through periods when you don't find your partner attractive. But when should you worry that it's more than a passing phase?3) I'm struggling with premature ejaculation. After 30 seconds of penetration, I struggle to hold back and constantly have to pull out. I think it's psychological. We tried a penis sleeve, which worked at first, but we both enjoy it so much it backfired. I tried pelvic floor exercises as well, but to no avail. My wife loves the vibrator/penetration combination, but it's such a fight for me it ruins the mood.To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey's book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Dr. Rena Malik, MD takes an in-depth look at premature ejaculation, explaining the complex physiology behind ejaculation and highlighting both the psychological and physical factors that can contribute to this common condition. She covers how premature ejaculation is diagnosed and discusses a wide range of evidence-based solutions, from lifestyle modifications like exercise, stress reduction, and pelvic floor training to behavioral strategies and medical treatments such as topical anesthetics and antidepressants. Become a Member to Receive Exclusive Content: renamalik.supercast.com Schedule an appointment with me: https://www.renamalikmd.com/appointments ▶️Chapters: 00:00 Introduction 00:49 How ejaculation works 03:52 Causes of premature ejaculation 06:47 Diagnosing premature ejaculation 08:11 Lifestyle changes and exercise 11:35 Behavioral techniques 13:52 Masturbation devices research 16:21 Medications for treatment 19:54 Additional treatment considerations 20:51 Bottomline Let's Connect!: WEBSITE: http://www.renamalikmd.com YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@RenaMalikMD INSTAGRAM: http://www.instagram.com/RenaMalikMD TWITTER: http://twitter.com/RenaMalikMD FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/RenaMalikMD/ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/renadmalik PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/renamalikmd/ TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/RenaMalikMD ------------------------------------------------------ DISCLAIMER: This podcast is purely educational and does not constitute medical advice. The content of this podcast is my personal opinion, and not that of my employer(s). Use of this information is at your own risk. Rena Malik, M.D. will not assume any liability for any direct or indirect losses or damages that may result from the use of information contained in this podcast including but not limited to economic loss, injury, illness or death. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this powerful and honest episode of The Penis Project Podcast, Melissa Hadley Barrett speaks with Dave and his partner Jen about their journey dealing with premature ejaculation (PE) — a common but often misunderstood sexual health condition affecting many men and couples.  Dave opens up about his experience living with PE since adolescence, the impact it had on his confidence and relationship, and how alcohol became a coping mechanism. With courage and persistence, Dave eventually found the right healthcare support, the right SSRI medication, and a path forward that improved both his sexual function and emotional connection with his partner.  Together, Melissa, Dave and Jen dive deep into the emotional, psychological, and physical sides of premature ejaculation — offering valuable insights for men, couples, and practitioners alike.  In This Episode, We Cover:  What premature ejaculation really is – and what it isn't  The difference between primary and secondary PE  Why many men are misinformed or dismissed by health professionals  The impact of PE on relationships, communication, and self-esteem  Dave's journey through trial-and-error with various SSRIs: Priligy (Dapoxetine), Paroxetine, Fluoxetine and Escitalopram (Lexapro)  The hidden cost of online treatment platforms – and why cheaper, more ethical options exist  How the right treatment changed everything – from sex drive to emotional closeness  Jen's reflections as a partner and the importance of support, understanding and touch  How couples can reconnect through small changes, time together, and deeper conversations  Melissa's recommendation: Sanctuary of Ananda for Tantra-based relationship connection workshops  Key Takeaways:    Premature ejaculation is more common than you think – and it's treatable  Not all SSRIs are the same. Personalised treatment matters.  The emotional and relational impacts of PE are real – and deserve attention  There's no shame in asking for help. Support is available, affordable, and effective.  Sexual health is about more than performance – it's about connection, confidence, and communication  Expert Insight from Melissa Hadley Barrett:  “If PE is affecting your confidence, relationship or sex life – there is help. You don't need to suffer in silence. With the right support, treatment can be simple, effective, and affordable.”  Resources & Links:  Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic  Learn more about Sanctuary of Ananda – Tantra and connection workshops for couples  Listen to Cam Fraser's podcast on modern masculinity and sexual wellness  For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com.au   Listen & Subscribe  If you found this episode helpful, don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app.  Connect With Us  Have questions or want to share your story?  Email: admin@melissahadleybarrett.com  Website: www.rshealth.com.au  Websites:  https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders  https://makehardeasy.com.au   https://melissahadleybarrett.com   http://www.menshealthphysiotherapy.com.au/  http://prost.com.au/     Facebook:  https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814    Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/  https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/  TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett  YouTube: Melissa Hadley Barrett  Linkedin:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   TEDX  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

Apply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather's Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/ Premature Ejaculation & Sex Addiction Myths: The Truth About Male Sexual Health with Sex Therapist Seth Taylor, LMFTMost men have been misled about sexual performance, from unrealistic expectations around lasting longer to harmful myths about "sex addiction." In this episode, Heather Shannon sits down with Seth Taylor, a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in men's sexual health, to set the record straight.They discuss the real causes of premature ejaculation (PE), effective treatments, and why the term "sex addiction" is controversial among sex therapists. Plus, they explore the shame-free approach to out-of-control sexual behavior (OCSB) and how it differs from traditional addiction models.If you or your partner experience PE, erectile dysfunction (ED), or compulsive sexual behaviors, this episode will help you understand the root causes and practical steps to regain confidence in your sex life.00:00 Introduction and Special Guest Introduction01:30 Meet Seth Taylor: Specializing in men's sexual health03:00 What is premature ejaculation? Clinical definitions & myths08:45 Why most men have unrealistic expectations about lasting longer12:30 The psychological causes of PE: Anxiety, shame and trauma18:00 Effective treatments: Medication, therapy and pelvic floor work22:45 What is out-of-control sexual behavior (OCSB)?30:00 The problem with "sex addiction" & why language matters40:30 How to overcome shame and build a healthy relationship with sex50:00 Final thoughts and where to find SethWORK WITH HEATHERApply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather's Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/ LET'S CONNECT! Find warmth HERE ⤵️:Heather's Website: https://HeatherShannon.co Heather's Instagram: https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist Heather's YouTube: Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach Heather's Pathway to Passion: https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/pathway Heather's Courses: https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/storeHeather's Amazon Storefront: https://www.amazon.com/shop/heathershannonlcpc Connect with Seth Taylor:Email: setht@holisticcft.comSIMILARLY AWESOME / MENTIONED EPISODES:Liked the episode? Here's a few more episodes of Ask A Sex Therapist that you'll enjoy:Age Play Video: https://youtu.be/TURlpFGTTOk? si=ISQI-s-TBuVo2xIm Sex and Disability Video: https://youtu.be/jPKzoXg3-kI? si=6aQnWzlwWguXXIA8 Come As You Are Book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1982165316?

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According to the British Association of Urinological Surgeons, somewhere between 20 and 30% of men experience premature ejaculation. But of those men, less than a quarter actually seek medical advice. That's despite it being an issue that often takes a toll psychologically on the man and the relationship they have with their partner. If it's always been an issue, it's termed primary premature ejaculation; whereas if it occurs after a period of normal ejaculation, it's called "secondary." And various factors can contribute to the condition. Like what? Just how long do most people have sex for? What should men do if the problem persists? In under 3 minutes, we answer your questions! To listen to the last episodes, you can click here: Should I eat starchy foods in the evening? How did broccoli freckles become a beauty trend? Could SMART goals help you reduce stress? A Bababam Originals podcast written and realised by Joseph Chance. First Broadcast: 1/5/2024 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Let's reframe this idea of “dysfunction,” because it's not a dysfunction at all—it's your body talking to you. The world has brainwashed men (and women) into thinking their performance is just mechanical—either it works, or it doesn't—and if it doesn't, then something must be wrong. In this week's episode, Emma and I, discuss...How can we reframe the idea of “dysfunction” into a healthier and non-degrading ideaHow what you say to yourself and your partner can impact your intimate lifeHow stress plays a big role in a man's erectile flexibility If you would like to connect with Kim on a complimentary discovery call and see how you can work with her, book your call here - https://calendly.com/talk-to-kim/unleash-your-unapologetic-power-now Kim will be having an in-person couples retreat soon and if you want to get more information about it, you can sign up to be part of the information waitlist and be one of the first few people who will get more details on the retreat!  Sign up here: https://get-your-sexy-back.myflodesk.com/phoenix-rising-retreats About the guest ❤️ Emma Spiegler is a Certified Men's Sex Coach who expertly guides men to overcome Performance Anxiety, Erectile Dysfunction, Premature Ejaculation, Delayed Ejaculation, and loss of Sex Drive. She's been featured in national UK press including; The Independent, The Daily Mail, Net Doctor, and Natural Health. She is regularly invited to contribute to topics related to intimacy and relationships. Get to know Emma more through her socials...Website: www.emmaspiegler.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/emma.spieglerInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/emmaspiegler/  —----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Follow Kim below and continue the convo! Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=569755109Instagram -   https://www.instagram.com/get_your_sexy_back_coach/   Website - https://getyoursexyback.ca/Private FB Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/2251812558445958/  

*DISCLAIMER* This episode is intended for adults   252. Maximizing Sexual Connection as Newlyweds to Long Term Marriages and Recovering from a Sexless Marriage with Dr. Clifford & Joyce Penner   Ephesians 5:21 (NIV) Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.   Questions and Topics We Cover: What are a couple of your most important tips for newlyweds? What are your favorite recommendations to share with couples who want to be proactive and enhance their sexual intimacy, even if things are currently going pretty well? Will you define what constitutes a sexless marriage and share  any trends you've seen over the years?   Thank You to Our Sponsor:  Sam Leman Eureka   Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner are best known for their pioneer work in encouraging people of all faiths to connect their sexuality with their belief system ─ helping them embrace sex as good and of God. Dr. Clifford is a licensed clinical psychologist and Joyce is a registered nurse and clinical nurse specialist. They are highly respected authors and speakers, in addition to being parents and grandparents.    Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner's Website   At The Savvy Sauce, we will only recommend resources we believe in! We want you to be aware: We are a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for us to earn fees by linking to Amazon.com and affiliated sites.    Books By Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner: Enjoy! The Gift of Sexual Pleasure for Women The Married Guy's Guide to Great Sex Restoring the Pleasure The Gift of Sex: A Guide to Sexual Fulfillment Sex FAQ We Didn't Have Time to Cover Today  Information on Pelvic Pain    Previous Savvy Sauce Episodes with Dr. Clifford & Joyce Penner: Easy Changes to Enhance Your Sexual Intimacy in Marriage with Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner    Maximizing Sexual Intimacy During the Three Most Challenging Phases of Marriage with Christian Sex Therapist Pioneers, Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner   Additional Previous Episodes on Sexual Intimacy on The Savvy Sauce: Fostering a Fun, Healthy Sex Life with your Spouse with Dr. Jennifer Konzen  Ways to Deepen Your Intimacy in Marriage with Dr. Douglas Rosenau  Ten Common Questions About Sex, Shared Through a Biblical Worldview with Dr. Michael Sytsma Hope For Treating Pelvic Pain with Tracey LeGrand Treatment for Sexual Issues with Certified Sex Therapist, Emma Schmidt Talking With Your Kids About Sex with Brian and Alison Sutter Natural Aphrodisiacs with Christian Certified Sex Therapist, Dr. Douglas Rosenau Healthy Sexuality, Emotional Intelligence, and Parenting Children with Autism with Counselor, Lauren Dack Pain and Joy in Sexual Intimacy with Psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist, Dr. Jessica McCleese Identifying and Fighting Human Trafficking with Dr. Jeff Waibel Bridging the Gap Between Military and Civilian Families with Licensed Professional Counselor, Cuthor, Podcaster, and 2015 Military Spouse of the Year, Corie Weathers Enjoying a God-Honoring, Healthy Sex Life with Your Spouse with Certified Sex Therapist and Ordained Minister, Dr. Michael Sytsma Enjoying Parenting and Managing Conversations About Sex with Certified Sex Therapist and Author, Dr. Jennifer Konzen Conflict Resolution, Infidelity, and Infertility with Licensed Psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist, Dr. Jessica McCleese Hormones and Body Image with Certified Sex Therapist, Vickie George Passion Pursuit with Dr. Juli Slattery Female Orgasm with Sue Goldstein Erectile Dysfunction, Premature Ejaculation, and Treatments Available with Dr. Irwin Goldstein Turn Ons, Turn Offs, and Savoring Sex in Marriage with Dr. Jennifer Konzen Desire Discrepancy in Marriage with Dr. Michael Sytsma Answering Listener's Questions About Sex with Kelli Willard Anatomy of an Affair with Dave Carder Supernatural Restoration Story with Bob and Audrey Meisner Healthy Minds, Marriages, and Sex Lives with Drs. Scott and Melissa Symington Female Pornography Addiction and Meaningful Recovery with Crystal Renaud Day Building Lasting Relationships with Clarence and Brenda Shuler Healthy Ways for Females to Increase Sexual Enjoyment with Tracey LeGrand Pornography Healing for Spouses with Geremy Keeton Sexual Sin Recovery for You and Your Spouse (Part Two) Personal Development and Sexual Wholeness with Dr. Sibylle Georgianna  Our Brain's Role in Sexual Intimacy with Angie Landry Discovering God's Design for Romance with Sharon Jaynes Sex in Marriage and Its Positive Effects with Francie Winslow, Part 1 Science and Art of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage, Part 2 Making Love in Marriage with Debra Fileta Mutually Pleasing Sex in Marriage with Gary Thomas Sex Series: God's Design and Warnings for Sex: An Interview with Mike Novotny Sex Series: Enhancing Female Pleasure and Enjoyment of Sex: An Interview with Dr. Jennifer Degler Sex Series Orgasmic Potential, Pleasure, and Friendship: An Interview with Bonny Burns  Sex Series: Sex Series: Healthy Self, Healthy Sex: An Interview with Gaye Christmus Sex Series: Higher Sexual Desire Wife: An Interview with J Parker Sex Series: Six Pillars of Intimacy with Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo 215 Enriching Women's Sexual Function, Part One with Dr. Kris Christiansen 216 Enriching Women's Sexual Function, Part Two with Dr. Kris Christiansen 217 Tween/Teen Females: How to Navigate Changes during Puberty with Dr. Jennifer Degler 218 Secrets of Sex and Marriage: Interview with Dr. Michael Sytsma 222 Pornography: Protecting Children and Personal Healing, Victory, and Recovery in Christ with Sam Black Special Patreon Release: Holy Sex: An Interview with Dr. Juli Slattery Special Patreon Release: His Desires and Her Desires in the Bedroom with Dr. Jennifer Konzen 224 Surprising Discoveries of Sex in Marriage: An Interview with Shaunti Feldhahn 227 Resolving Conflict in Marriage with Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo  Patreon 28 Re-Release: Protecting Your Marriage Against Unfaithfulness with Dave Carder Patreon 23 Her Desires and His Desires in the Bedroom with Dr. Jennifer Konzen Patreon 26 Holy Sex with Dr. Juli Slattery Patreon 28 Protecting Your Marriage Against Unfaithfulness with Dave Carder Patreon 29 Remaining Sexually Engaged Through The Years with Dr. Michael Sytsma Patreon 49: Story of Healing from Sexual Betrayal in Marriage: An Interview with Bonny Burns Patreon 52 God, Sex, and Your Marriage with Dr. Juli Slattery   Connect with The Savvy Sauce Our Website, Instagram or Facebook    Please help us out by sharing this episode with a friend, leaving a 5-star rating and review, and subscribing to this podcast!   Gospel Scripture: (all NIV)   Romans 3:23 “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,”   Romans 3:24 “and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.”   Romans 3:25 (a) “God presented him as a sacrifice of atonement, through faith in his blood.”    Hebrews 9:22 (b) “without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness.”    Romans 5:8 “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”    Romans 5:11 “Not only is this so, but we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.”    John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”   Romans 10:9 “That if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.”    Luke 15:10 says “In the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.”   Romans 8:1 “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus”   Ephesians 1:13–14 “And you also were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God's possession- to the praise of his glory.”   Ephesians 1:15–23 “For this reason, ever since I heard about your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for all the saints, I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers. I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better. I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is like the working of his mighty strength, which he exerted in Christ when he raised him from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly realms, far above all rule and authority, power and dominion, and every title that can be given, not only in the present age but also in the one to come. And God placed all things under his feet and appointed him to be head over everything for the church, which is his body, the fullness of him who fills everything in every way.”   Ephesians 2:8–10 “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God‘s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.“   Ephesians 2:13 “But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far away have been brought near through the blood of Christ.“   Philippians 1:6 “being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”

In this comprehensive guide, I break down an advanced technique for lasting longer in bed using weighted reverse kegels - a powerful exercise I learned from Dr. Newman K. Lin that goes beyond basic pelvic floor work. I provide step-by-step instructions for this 10-minute daily practice that helps rewire tension patterns causing premature ejaculation, while enhancing sexual vitality and erection strength. Using just a simple 5-pound weight (or even your hands), I demonstrate exactly how to perform this exercise to stimulate your vagus nerve, activate your parasympathetic nervous system, and develop lasting control. Whether you're dealing with premature ejaculation or want to build serious sexual stamina, I share precise breathing techniques and engagement patterns that transform your body's sexual response system. This isn't just another Kegel variation - it's a fundamental practice for reprogramming your nervous system's response to sexual stimulation. Video demonstration: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=91ChKUW-_Dc Multi-Orgasmic Man 3.0 12-Week Course Waitlist:

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This episode delves into various aspects of sex education and sexual wellness featuring an in-depth conversation with Chantelle Otten, a sexologist from Australia. Chantelle shares her background, the importance of understanding sexual health, and her role as a sex therapist and educator.  The discussion covers a wide range of topics, including the emergence of sex doll brothels, the role of sex toys in enhancing pleasure, the significance of sexual self-esteem, and strategies for couples to reignite their sexual connection. The episode also highlights the importance of consent, sexual exploration, and breaking down sexual stigmas. EXCLUSIVE DISCOUNTS

What you'll learn in this episode: 1. Your Solo Routine is Shaping More Than You Realize2. The secret ingredient to better arousal3. How to Use ‘Me-Time' to Fix Bedroom StrugglesFree Guide:3 Steps To Fix Your Sex LifeHarvard masturbation study:https://www.health.harvard.edu/mens-health/ejaculation_frequency_and_prostate_cancerTimestamps[00:00:00] - Introduction: Why the way you masturbate matters for your sex life.[00:01:00] - The Connection Between Masturbation and Partnered Sex: How unrealistic habits create performance issues.[00:03:00] - Building Confidence Through Solo Exploration: Why knowing yourself leads to better experiences with a partner.[00:05:00] - The Role of Relaxation in Arousal: How stress impacts your ability to get turned on.[00:07:00] - Breaking Porn Habits: Why intentional solo time can retrain your mind and body.[00:10:00] - Understanding Arousal Types: Spontaneous vs. responsive arousal and what it means for men.[00:12:00] - The Power of Intentional Masturbation: How to use it to address sexual challenges and gain control.[00:13:00] - Closing Thoughts and Actionable Steps: How to start small, build momentum, and take control of your sex life.

Free Guide:"3 Steps To Fix Your Sex Life"(If this is not linked yet, it's because you saw this too early! Check back by 11/2 at 10pm cst)Timestamps for this episode:Intro 00:01:15 = Premature ejaculation 00:05:16 = Erectile Dysfunction 00:08:10 = Delayed ejaculation00:10:30 = Low libido/ low sexual interest 00:14:12 = Porn addiction 00:06:10 = Sexual Performance Anxiety00:08:21 = Lack of communication with partner 00:21:46 = Body image/ sexual insecurity  

Alex Grendi is a sex coach for men. If you are having any sexual problems like premature or delayed ejaculation, ED, this is a must listen for you. You'll learn how to move your sexual energy, experience full body pleasure, and satisfy her every time by connecting to your breath.MORE RESOURCES Alex's Website - www.alexgrendi.comAlex's YT Channel - www.youtube.com/@alex.grendiAlex's email - alex@superiorlovers.com1-on-1 Coaching: https://www.TrippAdviceCoaching.com/HOOKED Video Masterclass: https://getherhooked.com/Tripp's email: tripp@trippadvice.comSEE WHAT I'M UP TOTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@trippadviceInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/trippadvice/Twitter: https://twitter.com/TrippAdviceFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/TrippAdvice/Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

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