Sensual Power

How patriarchy and politics divide women—and how somatic healing can rebuild connection. In this episode, I explore why so many women are cutting off friendships post-election and how historical and patriarchal conditioning contribute to loneliness and division. I share somatic tools to help you process emotions, have tough conversations, and rebuild trust in your friendships. Feeling stuck in friendship struggles? Join the Untamed Self Circle or sign up for my mailing list for somatic tools and support.

In this episode, I'm digging into the far-reaching impacts of Roe v. Wade being overturned—going way beyond the loss of abortion access. We're talking about how this decision is reshaping maternal care, mental health, and healthcare inequities in the U.S., especially for marginalized communities. I'm pulling insights from studies that show just how deeply these changes are hitting women's health, families, and even the medical professionals trying to navigate restricted care. From the increased risks of mental health issues to the systemic strain this is putting on an already overwhelmed healthcare system, this conversation is all about understanding the bigger picture.

How do we start healing these big wounds? This is the fourth episode in a 4-part series discussing healing the 3 big wounds women & vulva owners face: Mother wounds, Sisterhood wounds, and Witch wounds through somatic practices and self-compassion. Listen in now and if you're interested in joining my monthly Dark Moon Circle to address these wounds, you can find out more here: https://www.valerieschrader.com/

Explore the impact of the witch wound and its origin. This is the third episode in a 4-part series discussing the 3 big wounds women & vulva owners face: Mother wounds, Sisterhood wounds, and Witch wounds. It ends with learning how to begin the healing process through somatic practices and self-compassion. Listen in now and if you're interested in joining my monthly Dark Moon Circle to address these wounds, you can find out more here: https://www.valerieschrader.com/

Explore the impact of the sisterhood wound and its origin. This is the second episode in a 4-part series discussing the 3 big wounds women & vulva owners face: Mother wounds, Sisterhood wounds, and Witch wounds and it ends with learning how to begin the healing process through somatic practices and self-compassion. Listen in now and if you're interested in joining my monthly Dark Moon Circle to address these wounds, you can find out more here: https://www.valerieschrader.com/

Explore the impact of the mother wound and its origin. This is the first episode in a 4-part series discussing the 3 big wounds women & vulva owners face: Mother wounds, Sisterhood wounds, and Witch wounds and it ends with learning how to begin the healing process through somatic practices and self-compassion. Listen in now and if you're interested in joining my monthly Dark Moon Circle to address these wounds, you can find out more here: https://www.valerieschrader.com/

Dive deep into somatic experiencing and embodiment to learn how to use it as a powerful tool for healing trauma and reconnecting with your body.Listen in now and if you're interested in working with me, you can find out more here: https://www.valerieschrader.com/

There's a lot we learn about success in childhood but what about those sneaky, passed-down lessons that stifle our ability to succeed? In this episode, I'm diving into some common ancestral wounds that impact women and vulva-owning entrepreneurs and what we need to pay attention to so we can break the cycles and thrive. Listen now and if you're a trauma-brained, neurodivergent woman or vulva-owning entrepreneur ready to build success with confidence, clarity, ease, and well-being check out the Embodied Business Coven: ⁠⁠Valerie Schrader Coaching

What does it mean to build and run an embodied business? In this episode, I'm talking about what it looks like to build and run an embodied business and view success beyond a 6/7-figure income in a way that prioritizes your well-being. Listen now and if you're a trauma-brained, neurodivergent woman or vulva-owning entrepreneur ready to build success with confidence, clarity, ease, and well-being check out the Embodied Business Coven: ⁠Valerie Schrader Coaching

Welcome to the Wild Witch's podcast! A podcast for trauma-brained, neurodivergent women and vulva owners who are on a journey of empowerment and self-love and ready to create success on their terms with confidence, clarity, ease, and prioritizing their well-being. We're diving into issues like mother, sisterhood, witch wounds, patriarchal conditioning, body image, neurodivergence, relationships, running a business, and healing through somatic experiencing, embodiment, and connecting to nature. Reconnect to your Wildest Self! Join the online coven: https://www.valerieschrader.com/

Witch wounds are nothing more than ancestral trauma rearing its ugly head and making you freeze up whenever you try to put yourself out there! Whether that be to:

Ancestral wounds can have a profound effect on every aspect of our lives. After all, what's passed down persists until we break the cycle and make the changes. As a somatic parts coach and witch, I find ancestral work to be a crucial part of the healing journey. In this episode I'm diving into ancestral trauma clearing, how it affects us, and what's possible for us when we clear the lines of our lineage. Listen in now and if you're interested in ancestral clearing and 1:1 support you can find out more here: https://www.valerieschrader.com/

You don't need another course…you need to learn how to close the loop! Listen in now and if you're interested in 1:1 support or the Embodied Business Coven you can find out more here: https://www.valerieschrader.com/If you're like me, you probably have a hard feeling satisfied and accomplished when you finish something because your spicy brain is focused on 5 million other things to do.While our brains will always be in overdrive it is possible to close the loop, but it takes a body-based solution.We don't often respond well to just talking through our behaviors cause our brains latch onto that shit and obsess.But learning to release the tension and stress we often feel from all the thinking helps so much!Instead of obsessing about all the things we could/should be doing we can refocus on what matters most to us and relax a bit.We can redirect all that energy into something fun and freeing.We can even start feeling that sense of accomplishment and celebrate our wins!If you struggle to close the loop you don't need to keep throwing money at things that don't help.You need to learn how to get back in your body and focus on what's most important which includes rest!

If you're a business owner you've seen a lot of messages and images that portray a certain version of success. But is that what you really want and how is it impacting your business and bank account to force yourself into that version? Listen in now and if you're interested in 1:1 support or the Embodied Business Coven you can find out more here: https://www.valerieschrader.com/

Most of our lives we're flooded with opinions and messages about wanting more, consuming more, and having more but healing clears out a lot of the noise and gets us focused on what matters most. When we do that, our lives feel more fulfilled, and our relationships are deeper. Listen in now and if you want to join the Elemental Self-Care workshop series you can join here: https://www.valerieschrader.com/

As an avid witchy gardener and steward of the land I live on, I look to the practices I use to care for it a lot when it comes to healing. The systems and steps taken to build a regenerative ecosystem show us the way to release what's been causing us pain and cultivate what's most important to us as we live authentically. Listen in now and if you want to join the Elemental Self-Care workshop series you can join here: https://www.valerieschrader.com/

Nature teaches us so much and it gives us a clear path to healing and living a more embodied life. Not something society often promotes! So, this episode is dedicated to starting the conversation on why we're so disconnected from nature, how to regain that connection, and how it improves every aspect of our lives! Listen in now and if you want to join the Elemental Self-Care workshop series you can join here: https://www.valerieschrader.com/

We're dealing with multiple systemic and social issues right now. As a trauma-brained, neurospicy business owner it can be really challenging to navigate what the best move is for us amid so much toxic information from business coaches and professionals out there. You know the stuff that plays into our trauma responses and creates more struggle than clarity. This episode is dedicated to addressing that and what it looks like to build a regenerative business model. Listen in now and if you're interested in 1:1 support or the Embodied Business Coven you can find out more here: https://www.valerieschrader.com/

I took some time off to rest, restructure, and reevaluate how I'm supporting myself so let's talk about it and what you can expect from the podcast moving forward. Wanna work with me or join my upcoming workshop series Elemental Self Care? Find out more info here: https://www.valerieschrader.com/

Join the waitlist for the Wild Witches Coven or check out my other offers: https://www.valerieschrader.com/wildwitchescoven As women and vulva owners we're often taught to feel shame for wanting things or doing nice things for ourselves! We're made to feel selfish because of expectations and roles we never signed up for. We deserve better, we deserve more and to get there we've gotta understand why we were taught to believe we deserved less. Listen in now to hear my thoughts on breaking through this belief to feel worthy of more

Check out my current offers: https://linktr.ee/valerieschrader Our bodies are affected by our emotional state and certain types of injuries and illnesses hold different types of wounds. In this episode, I'm talking about how I reinjured my neck and shoulder and realized it was entirely related to childhood trauma and fears around support and security. This was all while experiencing the highest level of success I've ever had. Listen in now to hear my experience and see how it resonates

Check out my current offers: https://linktr.ee/valerieschrader Understanding our shadow self is the key to moving forward and releasing blocks in our lives. This meditation is designed to help you start tapping into your shadow to work through specific blocks and issues you keep running into. Use it to clear and integrate smaller shadows but for more in-depth support reach out for 1:1 coaching!

Check out my current offers: https://linktr.ee/valerieschrader Randi, better known as FeelingRandi78 on TikTok rapidly became a sensation for calling out the toxic behaviors of men on the platform. In this episode we're diving into her experiences addressing them, dating and relationships, and how she's made it back to herself. Listen in now and if you're not following her, you can check her out here: https://www.tiktok.com/@feelingrandi78?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc Interview with FeelingRandi78

Check out my current offers: https://linktr.ee/valerieschrader Have you ever found yourself struggling with your business or finances, so you throw more money at it by signing up for courses, coaching, automation, books, and webinars to make things better? When we do that it's a trauma response and it comes from the same place as all your other relationship issues. Listen in now to hear my thoughts on this and how to stop throwing money at it to heal it instead

Check out my current offers: https://linktr.ee/valerieschrader Self-leadership drastically impacts our ability to trust ourselves and make decisions for ourselves. But when we have an inner child that's never been given permission to trust themselves we constantly see others as the authority. Listen in now to hear my thoughts on this

Check out my current offers: https://linktr.ee/valerieschrader Have you ever noticed every time things start getting better your health turns to shit and it stops you in your tracks? Maybe it's through an injury. Maybe through an IBS or migraine flareup. Or you get the flu right before a big opportunity and you have to bail. Whatever it is the root cause could be your inner child! Listen in now and see what I'm talking about and how to heal both your body and mind!

Check out my current offers: https://linktr.ee/valerieschrader Notice every time things seem to go great it all falls apart?Might just be an inner child afraid to have it all!Teaching that part it's safe to choose what you want and go after it can shift everything. The more it realizes it's safe to choose, even something as simple as cereal at the grocery store, the more it'll get on board with your bigger adult choices! Listen to my podcast Reclaiming Me for more but if you're ready to welcome in everything you desire join my workshop on Cleansing & Protecting Energy to welcome in a better state of mind for a better life!

Check out my current offers: https://linktr.ee/valerieschrader Real talk… I've had a wild journey recently addressing some longstanding issues of sciatic pain and how that's related to feeling not good enough and carrying some ancestral wounds. Listen in now to hear how I've moved through this and released a lot of physical pain too

Check out my Clearing & Protecting Your Energy Workshop & current offers: https://linktr.ee/valerieschrader We see cord cutting classes and meditations all over the place and while I love a good witchy ritual to release things that are toxic or no longer serving us... I don't love trying to do quick-fix rituals when there's deeper trauma or issues that need to be addressed. As a somatic trauma coach, I'm giving you my perspective on how to best use these rituals and what's most important to deal with. Listen in now

Check out my current offers: https://linktr.ee/valerieschrader Growing a garden takes time, and patience, and requires us to make small changes over time for sustainable growth! Creating/growing a business or making big career changes requires the same. Rush it and you'll find yourself overwhelmed, burned out, resentful, and making bad decisions. Taking your time leads to step-by-step building a thriving beautiful garden to enjoy for years to come! Listen in now to hear my experiences with this and how I've helped clients do the same

Check out Solo & Satisfied and my other offers: https://linktr.ee/valerieschrader Confession: Im a in recovering people pleaser and as uncomfortable as it is to admit I've done it in every area of my life, including promoting my business! People pleasing is a form of manipulation but it's not done with the intent to hurt others. We do it because there's a level of love, attention, and approval we missed out as kids. In this episode I'm diving into my journey facing this behavior and what it looks like on the other side of it. Listen in now to hear my experiences with this and how I've learned to make myself happy

Check out Solo & Satisfied: https://linktr.ee/valerieschrader When I started on the happily single journey and decided marriage was not for me, it happened in parts.The first part was unpacking all of the bad relationships and patterns I had been in. Listen in now to hear my experiences with this and how I got to the place of being happily single

Check out Solo & Satisfied: https://linktr.ee/valerieschrader We're taught to seek happiness from a partner but what if happiness is derived from ourselves? How does that change the way we look at love? What pressure gets lifted? And how do we present ourselves to others when we learn to make ourselves happy? Listen in now to hear my experiences with this and how I've learned to make myself happy

Check out Reclaiming Me: https://linktr.ee/valerieschrader In a world that prioritizes romantic love what would it look like if that wasn't your focus? Many of us deal with the frustration of dating and feel the pressure to want more but what if we let that go? Listen in now to hear my thoughts and experience with this!

Check out Reclaiming Me: https://linktr.ee/valerieschrader When a loved one gets sick and we become the caretaker it takes a toll on us. But what no one prepares you for is the unresolved trauma caused by them popping up while caring for them. Listen in now to hear my experiences with this and how I've dealt with it

Check out Reclaiming Me: https://linktr.ee/valerieschrader Friendships are vital to our well-being yet a lot of struggle to create and maintain healthy ones. Why is that and how do we deal with it? Listen in now to find out

Check out Reclaiming Me: https://linktr.ee/valerieschrader By now you may have seen or heard about the toxic AF from Jonah Hill but let's dive deeper into an issue I see a lot of people get into when first starting therapy or diving into the spiritual or wellness world. Listen in now

Check out Reclaiming Me & My Other Offers: https://linktr.ee/valerieschrader Everyone says we just need to rest or take a break when we're burned out but honestly...that's not the answer! Burnout is a sign that something's wrong and we need way more than rest to address it. Listen in to get my tips on understanding the deeper issue now!

Check out Reclaiming Me: https://linktr.ee/valerieschrader One of the most aggravating things for me to witness are people trying to tell us what methods of healing and resourcing are the best! Or they try to convince us that we have to use the skills that work for them even if they don't work for us. In this podcast, I'm breaking down the formula I use with clients to figure out what works best for them! Listen in, try it, and share it! I hope it helps

Check out Reclaiming Me: https://linktr.ee/valerieschrader It's not uncommon to feel tons if guilt sticking up for ourselves. At least not for those of us that are used to being daylight, manipulated, and dismissed. But why do we do this and what do we need to do to stop?! Listen to this week's episode to understand why and what we need to do to ease the guilt and stick up for ourselves!

Check out all my current offers: https://linktr.ee/valerieschrader I yelled at a new client recently for saying they're broken. I reminded them that no one needs to put them back together. No one needs to fix them. And there's nothing so irreparable about them that they're a lost cause. Like my client, so many of us see the messages that because of the shit we've been through we're broken and this one person can help put you back together again. I F$&%ing hate when I see coaches & therapists put out messages like this! It's a power play meant to prey on someone's insecurities and so incredibly wrong. My dad always said duct tape could patch anything (in case it weren't obvious that I'm Gen X that should clarify things

Check out all my current offers: https://linktr.ee/valerieschrader We're diving into to some of my current work around my wounds of needing approval and let me tell you…it's a doozy! Listen in now and see if you relate!

Check out Unleashed & all my current offers: https://linktr.ee/valerieschrader The podcast has a new name and a fresh outlook! This episode I'm sharing with you why I've made this change and what's in store. Listen in and stay tuned!

Check out Unleashed & all my current offers: https://linktr.ee/sensualpower Communicating in a calm, confident way is so hard when you've got all the little inner child parts reminding you of every rejection. Taking a little time to prep yourself and relax your body can make all the difference though! Try these tips and if you wanna work on all the fear and anxiety popping up around

Check out Unleashed & all my current offers: https://linktr.ee/sensualpower had a pretty major injury that caused me to put on over 50lbs and my belly showed a lot of it. I felt so insecure that I wasn't letting my belly be touched, I was trying to remain clothed, avoiding certain positions. It made everything suck and I wasn't really enjoying spicy time anymore! Addressing the shame and judgment I felt not only erased all those issues a few other things happened: I challenged everything I'd been taught about my body and fell in love with it! l love my body more than I did during all my years working as an aerialist and pole dancer. I developed better exercise habits and do because it feels good. I addressed emotional eating and worked on feeling more love within. I enjoy spicy time way more because I'm in the moment. I dress differently and wear brighter colors vs the all-black lused to! I feel so much better about myself and again, spicy time is wav more fun than it's ever been!

Check out Unleashed & all my current offers: https://linktr.ee/sensualpower It's completely normal to feel more anxious about performing when you finally have a healthy, safe relationship. You're not used to getting what you want yet. Even when you understand all the relationship trauma your body still isn't adapted to allowing relaxation. We have to help it adapt! The 2 most important things you can do are: 1. Create an integration & resourcing process to help the brain squirrels relax. 2. Either role play or do some other embodiment work to help your body feel good receiving & relaxing! Both things will calm the anxiety & make it easier for you to be yourself, enjoy spicy time, express your desires, & help your partner meet your needs! If that's something you want support on check out Unleashed in the normal spot

Check out Unleashed & all my current offers: https://linktr.ee/sensualpower Yesterday @strawberrysmutcakes and I were filming a module for Unleashed & she brought up wanting to discuss a particular issue that she's never experienced. We both grew up with narc moms & have dealt with A LOT of spicy time shame & relationship issues as a result. However, I'm the one that wasn't able to have an O till I was 29. Yep, the woman who was a former SWer, sensual movement teacher, and seemed so adventurous hadn't ever had one! Every bit of my worth, happiness & decision-making had been determined by my mom. So when I began dating & having sex with partners I thought they would be in charge of making me enjoy it! I would never say no, never tell them if something didn't feel good & then I'd never feel like I was fully in my body. I would then go so far into my head as I was being encouraged to come that I'd just fake it. At 29 I got my first vibe and finally, it happened but for it to happen I had to tense my whole body. I mean my whole body because that was the only way to stop me from checking out. I spent years doing that and the few times I had Os with partners I had to tense and force it for it to happen. I had no idea that I was just causing more harm to myself because everything was forced and without understanding what I wanted or needed. At first not much happened. I could barely touch myself without hearing this internal voice scream “NO”!!! I went slow and explored my body and pleasure in little bits. I built back to trust and then one magical day it happened... Not only did my body want pleasure again but I was able to totally relax into it! Instead of this short little rush that quickly ended, it felt like a tsunami and like my soul was cracked open. I didn't even know I could experience that! I'm sharing this because I'm not alone in this and maybe I won't change your life although I feel like it did mine. But what comes about from exploring totally relaxed and consensual pleasure because you've truly connected to your body and self will.

Check out Unleashed & all my current offers: https://linktr.ee/sensualpower What does it mean to you to be emotionally available? How do you settle in your relationships because you fear being emotionally vulnerable? Why do you choose partners who aren't emotionally available or cut yourself off from being open emotionally? Listen in now as we dive into this!

Check out all my current offers: https://linktr.ee/sensualpower When we grow without emotional and physical softness and affection we tend to reject it later on. Why do we do this and how can we stop doing it? Listen in to find out!

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Check out all my current offers: https://linktr.ee/sensualpower. Fear of rejection as a trauma response What is a fear of rejection really? Well, it's a fear of being abandoned by someone or something. There are many different core wounds we experience in childhood. Abandonment is one of those. Now that doesn't always have to look like your basic needs glimg unmet or a parent being absent. Abandonment can look like your parent(s): * Not showing to up to support you for sports/dance/etc. activities. * Choosing the other parent/a partner over you even when inappropriate. * Not keeping promises or following through on things they agreed to. * Ignoring you and neglecting to spend quality time with you. There's a lot of other ways this fear of abandonment comes up. Point is, the fear exists. That leads to subconsciously or consciously always worrying about being rejected. Again, the rejection is really this fear of abandonment but you get the point. You become so worried about being rejected (abandoned) that you begin to anticipate it. You almost expect it which means you do 1 of 2 things: 1. You sabotage relationships or opportunities because better you get the jump on things falling apart vs them. Or 2. You give up before you start because you don't trust things will work out so desires, relationships, or dreams go unfulfilled. Either way, you're missing out on a lot of happiness! Which leads me to the obvious question? How do we let go of the fear and start welcoming in our happiness?! For that you've gotta follow and listen to my podcast