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Foster parents learn in training classes about the uncertainty surrounding children in foster care. A child may be in their home for a few days, a year, or a lifetime. Grief and loss are a reality when a child is reunified. In this episode, we'll explore how foster parents can get support to deal with the emotional stress of children leaving their home. While loss affects people in different ways, many people experience the following symptoms when they are grieving. Just remember almost anything you experience in grief is normal. Common symptoms of grief: Shock and disbelief—Right after a loss, it can be hard to accept what happened. You may feel numb and have trouble believing that the loss really happened, even deny the truth. Sadness—Profound sadness is probably the most universally experienced symptoms of grief. You may have feelings of emptiness, despair, yearning or deep loneliness. You may also cry a lot or feel emotionally unstable. Guilt—You may regret or feel guilty about things you did or did not say or do. You may also feel guilty about certain feelings. Sometimes, children will blame themselves for causing the loss, even though they did nothing wrong. Anger—Even if the loss was nobody's fault, you may feel angry and resentful. You may feel the need to blame someone for the injustice that was done to you. Fear—A significant loss can trigger a host of worries and fears. You may feel anxious, helpless or insecure. You may even have panic attacks. Physical symptoms— We often think of grief as a strictly emotional process, but grief often involves physical problems, including fatigue, nausea, lowered immunity weight loss or weight gain, aches and pains and insomnia. How to Support Others Who are Grieving Be a good listener Let them feel sad Do not minimize grief Do not be judgmental Share your feelings Ask about their feelings Acknowledge the pain Be available when you can Talk openly and honestly about the situation unless the person does not want to If symptoms of depression are severe or persistent and the person is not coping with Day to day activities, encourage the use of professional help Other Resources: Saying Goodbye Handouts Grief and Finding Meaning ~ Unlocking Us Podcast Ambiguous Loss and Grief for Siblings in Adoption Want to learn more about becoming a Foster Parent?
Taking the Anxiety and Fear from Planning Your Future I just couldn't let this go I'm pretty proud of the previous podcast 'Not another Bloody goal-setting workshop' and the detail I put into it and then it hit me. DOH!!! What about the what if? What about the 'what if' you might ask? Exactly :O) I missed it, I fell into the trap that everyone else does and is at the core of our podcast philosophy which is to share the 'How to's' and the what if those don't work. You see everyone who shares this kinda stuff forgets that sometimes we have things that stop us from planning our future, our goals, or our wishes such as Limiting Beliefs, Negative Emotions, and resultant behaviors. The 'I'm Not Worth It', 'Who Am I To' - You fill in the blank The Fear, Anxiety, Guilt - You fill in the blank The Procrastination, Starting Not Finishing, The Giving Up - You fill in the blank I couldn't let it pass, I couldn't let it go. So I've addressed this probably the most important part of planning your future, your goals, your wishes, in effect your reality in what appears to be with a podcast episode with the longest title ever! Please sit down for 'a spell' or take time out 'for a change' and I hope what I share makes sense and in some way helps you to sprinkle some magic into your life. I'm now even prouder having created two sharings that I believe as having merit. Please share this with everyone in the Universe: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/260-taking-the-anxiety-and-fear-from-planning-your-future Let me know what you conjure up, actions it stirred in you and as always any critique or other issues you would like us to be diving into - simple email me - feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie Why not look for me and the podcast on > SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com Stitcher, tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Here is your show on RadioPublic: Listen to Personal Development Unplugged on RadioPublic I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Music by Wataboi from Pixabay Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay
Listen in as we look at Matthew 6:5-15 and see how Jesus invites us to pray personally, powerfully, and practically.Sermon Notes/Quotes: Matthew 6:5-14Luke 11:1Perhaps they could see that Jesus’ ministry emerged out of his relationship with his Father. - Darrell JohnsonToday’s approach to prayer:Guilt - You don’t pray enoughShame - You don’t pray rightPragmatic - You can master it“God could complain about us a great deal more than we about Him. We complain that He does not make Himself present to us for the few minutes we reserve fro Him, but what about the twenty-three and a half hours during which God may be knocking at our door and we answer ‘I am busy, I am sorry’ or when we do not answer at all because we do not even hear the knock at the door of our heart, of our minds, of our conscience, of our life. So there is a situation in which we have no right to complain of the absence of God, because we are a great deal more absent than He ever is. - Anthony Bloom“The Lord’s Prayer stretches from the Father at the beginning to the devil at the end, from heaven to hell, and in between in six brief petitions everything important in life.” Dale Bruner“Prayer gives us relief from the melancholy burden of self-absorption.” Timothy KellerWe come to prayer, aware of urgent needs, or at least wants. It’s tempting to race through the Lord’s Prayer, as far as ‘on earth as it is in heaven’, so that we can then take a deep breath and say ‘Now look here: when it comes to daily bread, there are some things I simply must have. And then off we go into a shopping list. To do this, of course, is to let greed get in the way of grace. NT WrightDeut 8:1-3“Every time we take bread in our hands we are handling answered prayer” Darrell Johnsonhttps://www.unionaz.org/blog/resourcesonprayer
I typically direct my discussions towards moms or women in general but please know that my advice is applicable to everyone. Tailor your listening experience to fit you, whether you are a woman or man, young or old, parent or no kids. Working mom, stay at home mom, single and loving it, grandparent, retired; these are a few of the labels we can be identified with. Each of those labels comes with a stereotypical description of people who have it all and are making life work with a smile and have energy left over. I’m here to tell you that is far from the usual case. Each of you are different individuals and what makes life good for one person, may not work for another. The only way to know if you are doing it right is if you can say that you are happy, that you feel centered and mostly at peace with your life (you might not like all day, every day, but you should certainly love most!!).One thing you need to realize is that you might not be able to do it alone. Everyone has a skillset of things that they are good at and love to do. When it comes to that part of their life, they are rockin’ it and feeling empowered too. Then there are the areas of your life that you really dislike, or you don’t know how or even want to know how to do something that needs to be done. It may be time to ask for help in those areas.Several things might keep you from seeking help.Guilt: You do not need to feel guilty. Every professional uses the resources available to them to handle the parts of the job not related to their specialty.Finances: Spending money for services that you dislike, don’t have time for or are not skilled at may be necessary for you to achieve your goals. There is also the possibility that you can trade services with someone.Pride: Many people think that “others don’t need help, why should I”. They are different people with different needs, responsibilities and abilities. No two people are the same, so what one person needs is not relevant to what you need.Today I bring you an interview with someone who is making life work, her way. She is utilizing her passion for cooking to offer a service that those who live in her area can take advantage of. Her company, Soup-er Delivery, offers made from scratch soup and bread delivered to your home.By utilizing Dana’s services you can have time to sit down and have family time with a healthy dinner that you didn’t have to take time cooking.Dana is making her life work her way. She and her husband are raising 3 children and all of them have busy schedules. In order for them to eat together, dinner is usually served after 8:00.But even if schedules make that impossible, she takes time to enjoy the meal with whichever family members are there and she realizes that family time outside is more important than getting the dishes done right away.A trip to Israel with a women’s’ group helped her to redefine herself. She realized that she had to remember how to be independent.Dana has a successful business, she is happy, centered and at peace with her life and she is doing it her way.Journaling Questions:1. What are the activities you seem to be fighting with during the week (kid run around, house cleaning, laundry, cooking)? Write down everything you can think of…2. Once you nail down the more difficult tasks in the week I want you to put reason behind the fight (time barriers, dislike of the activity, maybe it doesn’t come easy to you). You should now have a list of weekly or monthly activities that you are fighting and a reason tied to the activity.3. If money or time was not an object, what would be solutions to your fight? ( a simple example is hire a cleaning company for the weekly clean up… a little more difficult would look more like hiring a life coach to help organize your life… there is no right solution, just start naming a few)Homework:Goal setting will always be part of your homework. Once a week write down your focus or goals for the week. Every Friday reassess them, tweak them or change them to fit your needs. It’s “Your journey, your way”.Links:Lindsey House:www.healthaccountabilitycoach.comwww.facebook.com/houselifestylesDirection Not Perfection, Accountability and Coaching from your Wine-loving Dietitianhttps://braughlerbooks.com/store/books/direction-not-perfection
What is woven in and out of your day is the fabric of life. From the people you come in contact with to the actions of your heart. How you get up in the morning to how you rest in the evening. Just as your life is complicated, it too can be simplified. Desire to be supported and encourage by other like-minded women? Join us at Women of IMPACT. http://facebook.com/groups/thewomenofimpact It seems contradictory. But really it's truth. We have the tendency to make more out of what we focus on. If there is pain in your life, the pain becomes bigger. If there is love, the love becomes stronger. If there is joy, the joy becomes more prominent. How is your day woven? Do you let others' actions and beliefs determine the cloth that you wear? The fabric of life. As we were getting my daughter ready for her senior prom, there's this whole beauty regimen you have to go through. From the washing of the hair to the color of the lips. Every little thing mattered. The idea was to drape this gorgeous princess in the fabric of her night. I couldn't help but think, is this really going to make a difference? So of course the mom that I am, I told her that no matter what happened throughout the day into her evening, she needs to find the joy in everything. That beauty regimen had nothing to do with joy. We try to make individual events stand out and make them be the focus of who we are. But our lives are not about the events. It's about the fabric that we wear. The fabric of life. What does your fabric of life reveal about you? What do you clothe yourself in? Do you clothe yourself in Happiness? in Joy? in Love? in Kindness? Do you clothe yourself in Shame? in Disappointment? in Pain? in Guilt? You can choose to make excuses for what the world has done to you. Or you can choose to be clothed in the promises of God; hope, love, grace, forgiveness. The K.I.S.S. ~ Choose the fabric of your day wisely! "For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well." ~ Psalm 139:13-14 God knit you together. You are not junk. You are worthy. Every strand of hair to the bottom of your feet. You are worthy. So beware of trying to knit the fabric of life with the events of the world. You are seen. You are loved. You are known. Not for what you do, not who you associate with. It's the fabric of life knitted by the hand of God. What is the fabric of your life? How will you dress yourself today? Call on God and wear His armor. "Call on God and wear His armor. The fabric of life." CHALLENGE: What will you wear today? TAKE A.I.M. ~ Action Ignites Motivation - This is a complimentary coaching call with me. You will be able to discuss your specific situation and gain tools and strategies to move you forward. Live. Love. IMPACT! "One step at a time leads to miles of greatness!" 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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorWhat About Toxic Shame? Powerful Strategies to Help With Addiction in the Family GGUEST: Jeff Jones, therapist, addiction counselor, interventionist, and family recovery coach. ---------------------------------------------DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: How to Give Up, Give Back, and Recover From Shame Have you ever felt shame? Been shamed? If you haven't, you've been extremely fortunate. Most people have. Shame is when someone does their best to make you feel small, unimportant, unworthy, and a waste of space and breath. Nasty behavior!You've been guilty of something, for sure. You did put your hand in the cookie jar, right?Guilt, in my books, is simply a verdict. NOT A FEELING! Turning it into a feeling, to my mind, is something that was "invented" to allow some people to have power over you. To keep you feeling "less than," wrong, not good enough.Guilt? You are guilty of doing something, or you're not. You're sorry, or you're not. You fix it if you can. You regret it if you cannot. Then, DROP IT!Shame, though, is when someone else suggests YOU are a mistake. Know this, for sure, that it had nothing to do with you. A person who shames another is a person who is very insecure, sometimes unstable, and definitely experiencing needs for power and control. S/he likely feels badly about themselves, but takes it out on you. IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT!Toxic shame, though, is when you take up repeating the words of a toxic shamer and repeating--and unfortunately, believing--that they are true. You take up where the shamer left off, and you never ever give yourself a break! Fortunately, you can stop this.In today's episode, Dr. Shaler gives you insights and strategies for dumping guilt and stopping shame, and recovering well from it to have your best life, and relationships, possible. Listen! Don't go another minute being hard on yourself.GUEST: Jeff Jones, Licensed Professional Counselor, Addiction Counselor, and Certified Intervention Professional Jeff is a therapist, addiction counselor, interventionists, and family recovery coach working online with families with an addicted loved one. He's expanded the context of addiction and created a three-phase program that empowers families to safeguard their loved one in an addictive cycle or recovery, while they engage in a process to stop the addiction cycle in this generation.After putting it online and wrapping a user-friendly online community around it, Jeff is moving towards his goal of empowering families to connect with like-minded people, family-specific resources, and expertise when they are ready.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why timing is such a big issue in the recovery processWhy a "recovery message" is important to createUnderstanding how not to marginalize or isolate the person in recoveryThe importance of knowing the natural recovery processHow to be aware of warning signs of addictionListen to understand why Jeff says, "I'd rather see you sit in an AA/NA meeting in resistance than not being in the room at all."This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy, as well as a refreshing and different perspective on abundance, prosperity, and the links to health on every level.The Relationship Help Show, a new voice, a new vision. Enjoy!HIS FREE GIFT: Contact Jeff at his website for his 3 Tips to Ensure Your Loved One's RecoveryCONNECT WITH JEFF JONESWebsite: TheFamilyRecoverySolution.comTwitter: LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/jeff-jones-0303834/Facebook: Facebook.com/JeffJones.792740CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsIf you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #mindbodyconnection #shame #addiction #toxicshame #recoveryprocess See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorWhat About Toxic Shame? Powerful Strategies to Help With Addiction in the Family GGUEST: Jeff Jones, therapist, addiction counselor, interventionist, and family recovery coach. ---------------------------------------------DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: How to Give Up, Give Back, and Recover From Shame Have you ever felt shame? Been shamed? If you haven't, you've been extremely fortunate. Most people have. Shame is when someone does their best to make you feel small, unimportant, unworthy, and a waste of space and breath. Nasty behavior!You've been guilty of something, for sure. You did put your hand in the cookie jar, right?Guilt, in my books, is simply a verdict. NOT A FEELING! Turning it into a feeling, to my mind, is something that was "invented" to allow some people to have power over you. To keep you feeling "less than," wrong, not good enough.Guilt? You are guilty of doing something, or you're not. You're sorry, or you're not. You fix it if you can. You regret it if you cannot. Then, DROP IT!Shame, though, is when someone else suggests YOU are a mistake. Know this, for sure, that it had nothing to do with you. A person who shames another is a person who is very insecure, sometimes unstable, and definitely experiencing needs for power and control. S/he likely feels badly about themselves, but takes it out on you. IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT!Toxic shame, though, is when you take up repeating the words of a toxic shamer and repeating--and unfortunately, believing--that they are true. You take up where the shamer left off, and you never ever give yourself a break! Fortunately, you can stop this.In today's episode, Dr. Shaler gives you insights and strategies for dumping guilt and stopping shame, and recovering well from it to have your best life, and relationships, possible. Listen! Don't go another minute being hard on yourself.GUEST: Jeff Jones, Licensed Professional Counselor, Addiction Counselor, and Certified Intervention Professional Jeff is a therapist, addiction counselor, interventionists, and family recovery coach working online with families with an addicted loved one. He's expanded the context of addiction and created a three-phase program that empowers families to safeguard their loved one in an addictive cycle or recovery, while they engage in a process to stop the addiction cycle in this generation.After putting it online and wrapping a user-friendly online community around it, Jeff is moving towards his goal of empowering families to connect with like-minded people, family-specific resources, and expertise when they are ready.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why timing is such a big issue in the recovery processWhy a "recovery message" is important to createUnderstanding how not to marginalize or isolate the person in recoveryThe importance of knowing the natural recovery processHow to be aware of warning signs of addictionListen to understand why Jeff says, "I'd rather see you sit in an AA/NA meeting in resistance than not being in the room at all."This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy, as well as a refreshing and different perspective on abundance, prosperity, and the links to health on every level.The Relationship Help Show, a new voice, a new vision. Enjoy!HIS FREE GIFT: Contact Jeff at his website for his 3 Tips to Ensure Your Loved One's RecoveryCONNECT WITH JEFF JONESWebsite: TheFamilyRecoverySolution.comTwitter: LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/jeff-jones-0303834/Facebook: Facebook.com/JeffJones.792740CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsIf you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #mindbodyconnection #shame #addiction #toxicshame #recoveryprocess See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
You're modern. You are media-savvy and hardened by the drama you've come to depend on to compensate for the lack of direction in your own life. You have a few feelings left though. Humiliation maybe? Guilt? You're still determined to be nice to the people around you, and there must be a feeling in there somewhere. Maybe there's no sound more terrifying than someone else's laughter, maybe you want to care, and that's your problem. Maybe someone cares about you. Wouldn't that be the worst?