Personal Development Unplugged

How to Achieve Your Dream Outcome - The Complete Blueprint Episode Overview In this transformative episode, Paul CLoughie delivers on his promise from episode #445, revealing the exact methodology for turning your biggest dreams into reality. This isn't another generic goal-setting session—it's a deep dive into the psychological architecture of achievement, complete with a powerful guided hypnosis session to embed these principles into your subconscious mind. Episode Length: Approximately 25 minutes Key Focus: Dream achievement, goal manifestation, subconscious programming What You'll Discover The Specificity Principle Why vague dreams produce vague results (and how to avoid this trap) The danger of saying "I want more money" vs. creating specific financial targets How to transform general aspirations into laser-focused outcomes The Wish Fulfilled Methodology See It: Visualizing your achieved dream with crystal clarity Hear It: Programming the sounds of success into your mind Feel It: Embodying the emotions of already having achieved your goal Act As If: The powerful psychology of success behavior modeling The Four Critical Questions Framework Paul reveals the four questions that unlock subconscious motivation: What will happen if you get it? What won't happen if you get it? What will happen if you don't get it? What won't happen if you don't get it? Key Timestamps & Highlights [0:00-3:00] Introduction and connection to episode #445 [3:00-8:00] The specificity imperative - why details matter [8:00-12:00] Acting as if you've already achieved your dream [12:00-15:00] Learning from past successes and modeling others [15:00-18:00] The ecology check - ensuring your goals serve everyone [18:00-25:00] Guided hypnosis session - Programming your subconscious for success Powerful Takeaways The Present Moment Assessment Know exactly where you are on your journey (0%, 50%, 90%?) "What gets measured gets done" - the importance of tracking progress Creating your baseline for authentic goal measurement The Success Trigger Method Paul shares his personal trainer certification story - how he visualized sitting on steps with his certificate, and how this exact scenario manifested. Learn to create your own "achievement trigger" that signals you've reached your destination. The Resource Recovery Technique Mining your past successes for transferable skills Learning from others who've achieved similar dreams Why reinventing the wheel slows down your progress The Ecological Framework Ensuring your dreams benefit you, your loved ones, and the planet The importance of personal initiation vs. waiting for others Creating win-win outcomes that serve the greater good The Guided Hypnosis Experience The episode culminates in a transformative 7-minute hypnosis session designed to: Embed the "feeling of the wish fulfilled" into your subconscious Activate your reticular activating system to notice opportunities Program your unconscious mind to support your dream achievement Create lasting motivation that pulls rather than pushes you forward Note: This section begins around the 18-minute mark and should be experienced in a safe, comfortable environment with eyes closed. Action Steps Define Your Specific Dream: Move beyond "I want more money" to "I want to earn £X by doing Y" Create Your Success Movie: Visualize seeing, hearing, and feeling your achieved dream Establish Your Trigger: Identify the specific moment that will tell you "I've made it" Resource Audit: List skills from past successes that apply to this dream Model Success: Find someone who's achieved what you want and study their approach Act As If: Begin embodying the behaviors, language, and mindset of someone who's already achieved your dream Share the Love: Know someone with big dreams who's struggling to make them reality? Share this episode and help them unlock their potential. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/449-how-to-achieve-your-outcome-your-dream Remember: Your dreams aren't just wishes—they're blueprints waiting to be built. This episode gives you the tools, the mindset, and the subconscious programming to make them your reality. Subscribe, follow, and leave a review to help more dream achievers discover Personal Development Unplugged! Shine Brightly

How To Change Quickly Do you want to change the way you feel or act? Let's see if we can find a way to change either of those quickly. I feel we forget to notice how it is now and how you would like it to be. It ends to be one or the other but not both. So, in five minutes or so, let me share my thoughts and share a 'how to'. And it all comes from thinking in a particular way and asking a question. What's that way of thinking and that question? Well, you'll have to press play. Please share what you learn so others get the benefit too https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-500-how-to-change-quickly/ Shine Brightly

A Journey to Better Behaviours: Rewire Your Reactions for Good Ever catch yourself snapping at someone and thinking, “Where the hell did that come from?” You're not alone. In this episode of Personal Development Unplugged, I'm getting honest about my own struggles with automatic reactions—and how I turned them around. This isn't just about stopping bad habits. It's about understanding the intention behind those knee-jerk behaviours and learning how to respond with calm, curiosity, and confidence. What you'll learn in this episode: How to recognise the unconscious triggers behind emotional outbursts Why your unconscious mind isn't the enemy—it's actually trying to protect you (even if it's doing a rubbish job) A simple yet powerful way to thank those old patterns—and let them go How to build new beliefs and emotional habits that support the real you Practical steps to respond with intention instead of reaction And a process to boot to follow along with If you want to feel more in control, improve your relationships, and stop letting outdated emotional patterns run the show—this is your invitation. Take the first step to emotional freedom. Listen now and discover how to create better behaviours from the inside out. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/448-changing-negative-behaviours-easily Shine Brightly

Keeping On Target To Success   Following on from the last FMQ musing about constant and never-ending improvement, I ask the question  How Do You Know? Do you actually have a plan? Do we measure from where we were to where we are now, and how much further have we got to go? And how often do we need to check on our progress? Let's answer these questions and a couple more in this 5-minute muse.  Come with me and press play Then share what you've learned https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-499-keeping-on-target-to-success Shine Brightly

Embracing Life: What If Today Was Your First or Last Day? In this episode of Personal Development Unplugged, we dig into two simple but powerful questions: What if today were your last day? What if it were your first? This is an extract from a live Q&A call I did for my son's (Joseph Clough) Mind Mastery group, and invite you to reflect, respond, and explore what really matters in your life. It's not heavy or dark—it's a spark. A chance to wake up to what you're doing with your time and how you want to live going forward. What you'll discover in this episode: The power of writing letters of love and gratitude—and who they need to be sent to. How small acts of kindness help shape the legacy you're already leaving behind. Why waiting for “someday” is a trap—and how to flip into action now. How to live with intention and awareness, instead of drifting on autopilot. A simple, powerful way to visualise your best self—and take the first steps to becoming them. You'll hear honest conversation, real moments with listeners, and practical insights that can shift your perspective in just one listen. This is the kind of reflection that leads to action—and action that changes everything. Call to Action: If this episode resonated with you, pass it on. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/447-on-life-and-how-we-might-live-it Subscribe, follow the podcast, and share it with someone who needs a reminder that their time—and their life—matters. More fun than you can stand. Wallow in pleasure Shine Brightly

Can I Really Get Better Every Day? CANI Constant and Neverending Improvement - Is that really a thing? Can you continue to improve by 1% a day? Is all that possible or just Personal Development hype? Well, let's see. Come with me for about 5 minutes and let's muse and see what we think. After that, please share this episode and your thoughts https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-498-can-i-really-get-better-every-day Oh! And the video of me recording this is here: https://youtu.be/cPNHyDEOE9E Shine Brightly

Did I Do Enough? A Deep Dive into Daily Reflection Ever catch yourself at the end of the day wondering, "Did I do enough?" Here's the thing - having the courage to answer that question honestly is where real growth begins. In this episode, I'm getting vulnerable about my own journey with this question. Some days I'm flying high, crushing goals and feeling unstoppable. Other days? Well, let's just say they feel like I'm moving through quicksand. Sound familiar? The beautiful truth is this: you are more than what you think you are, even on those challenging days. But here's what I've discovered - the difference between those breakthrough days and the struggle days often comes down to one simple thing: intention. When I set my intentions the night before, something magical happens. I wake up with clarity instead of confusion, purpose instead of procrastination. It's like giving your mind a roadmap before it even opens its eyes. What you'll discover in this episode: The simple ritual that transforms scattered days into focused ones Why your morning state of mind is everything (and how to master it) The art of honest reflection - learning from both your wins and your wobbles How to celebrate the small victories that actually create the big transformations Look, mastery is simply doing what you know and knowing what you do. And when you can honestly say "yes" to "Did I do enough?" - that's when you start to feel happy for no reason. Ready to take ownership of your days and create a ritual that actually works? Oh, and I've got some practical bits and bobs too. Tools you can use right now to gently take charge of your day — and reflect with pride instead of pressure. Because the truth is — the question “Did I do enough?” isn't here to judge you. It's an invitation to learn, tweak, and grow. So, if you're ready to start ending your days with a quiet, confident “yes…” Come have a listen and then share what you learn https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/446-did-i-do-enough-really/ ‎ With you all the way, Shine Brightly

If This Was The 1st or Last Day of your life? There's a question people often raise If this were the last day of your life, what would you do? or If this were the first day of your life, what would you do? I'd like you to think of the answer in a different way we usually would answer these two questions, which I think will make a difference to every day of your life. Have a listen and then share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-497-if-this-was-the-1st-or-last-day Shine Brightly

IGNITE YOUR DREAM: THE JOURNEY TO REALIZATION Hey there, dream-chasers and life-lovers! Welcome back to another raw and real episode of Personal Development Unplugged. Ever had that dream sitting in your gut that feels like it might just burn you up from the inside if you don't pursue it? That vision that keeps you awake at night, whispering "what if..." even when every logical voice around you is shouting "impossible"? Today, I'm ripping open my own journey – the messy, beautiful adventure of chasing down a dream that completely revolutionized not just my career, but who I am at my core. THE DREAM THAT WOULDN'T DIE Let me take you back to when I was standing at that crossroads we all face – playing it safe or diving into the unknown. My passion for NLP and hypnosis was like this persistent itch I couldn't scratch. Society told me to find something "sensible," something "realistic." But as we talked about in our last mastermind session – your soul doesn't speak the language of sensible. It speaks in goosebumps, in that flutter in your chest when you imagine living your purpose. Remember when I shared how I'd hide my NLP books under more "respectable" business texts when meeting clients? That's the fear talking, folks. And fear will keep you small if you let it. FINDING YOUR GUIDES IN THE WILDERNESS Here's the thing – the universe has this funny way of sending you exactly the mentor you need when you're brave enough to take that first wobbly step. For me, it was encountering masters of the craft who saw something in me I couldn't yet see in myself. They didn't just teach techniques; they modeled what was possible. As I shared in our last get-together, transformation isn't just about acquiring skills – it's about becoming the person who can hold those skills with authenticity. My mentors didn't just change my career trajectory; they helped me rewrite my internal story. LEGACY IN MOTION One of the most profound insights I've had (which many of you resonated with last time we connected) is how our dreams create ripples beyond ourselves. Watching my sons carve their own paths in this field – bringing fresh perspectives and innovations I never could have imagined – has been the ultimate validation. They're not following my footsteps; they're creating their own trail using the permission I unknowingly gave them to pursue what lights them up. That's legacy in motion, my friends. YOUR TURN: AWAKENING THE DREAM So what about you? What's that thing making your heart race when you let yourself imagine it fully? As we discussed in our last session, the feeling of the "wish fulfilled" isn't just woo-woo visualization – it's programming your reticular activating system to recognize opportunities aligned with your vision. Here's what I want you to take away: Your unconventional dream isn't "too much" – it's precisely what the world needs from you Those obstacles and naysayers? They're not roadblocks; they're invitations to strengthen your resolve The mentors you need are already out there waiting for you to be ready to receive their guidance Your clear vision of success isn't fantasy – it's the blueprint your subconscious mind uses to navigate Understanding your deepest "why" isn't just motivational fluff – it's the fuel that will carry you through the inevitable valleys THE INVITATION This journey might take longer than you expect. It'll definitely be messier. But I promise you this – each step, each failure, each moment of doubt is part of the adventure that's shaping you into the person capable of holding that dream when it manifests. Remember what we shared in our circle last time: your dream exists for a reason. It chose you because you have something unique to bring to it that no one else can. It's time to dream big and then DOUBLE IT! Share your journey with me and our community of fellow dreamers. Let's give each other the courage to reach heights we can't even imagine yet. Spread the fire – share this episode with someone whose dream deserves oxygen to grow. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/445-i-had-a-deam-whats-yours/ Until next time, keep showing up, keep growing, and for heaven's sake, keep dreaming audaciously! —Your fellow traveller on this wild, wonderful journey Shine Brightly

Making Tomorrow Even Greater Than Today This is a follow-up to FMQ 495, Making today great. Let's stack the decks even more by doing something today that makes tomorrow become today. It's almost guaranteed to be great and better than if you hadn't done this. And It's only 5 minutes to learn or be reminded of what you know but aren't doing. So let's make every day better than it is and grasp that success that's been just out of reach. Please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-496-making-tomorrow-even-greater-than-today And the video of this recording can be found here https://youtu.be/qRlxRoICWjM Shine Brightly

The State of "I've Got This" | Personal Development Techniques Want to unlock that confident feeling whenever life throws a challenge your way? In today's episode, I'm breaking down the powerful mindset of "I've Got This" – that extraordinary state where confidence and competence come together to help you tackle anything. What You'll Discover in This Episode: How to tap into unshakeable self-confidence using proven NLP anchoring techniques The neuroscience behind creating emotional states you can access on demand My personal journey with anchoring and how it's transformed my approach to challenging situations A practical, step-by-step process to create your own confidence anchor using just your thumb and little finger Why specific, vivid memories are the secret to building powerful anchors that last The Power of Anchoring Your Confidence "When you connect a physical gesture to a powerful emotional state, you create a shortcut to confidence that works even when your mind is trying to talk you out of it." - Paul Clough I share exactly how anchors are already working in your life (sometimes without you knowing it!) and how intentional anchoring can be a game-changer for your personal development journey. Your Confidence-Building Action Step Here's your challenge this week: Follow the simple thumb-and-finger exercise I demonstrate in the episode. Practice accessing your "I've Got This" state daily for the next 7 days. Notice how your approach to challenges begins to shift. Don't let another day pass letting self-doubt run the show. This simple technique has helped thousands of my clients and students transform their relationship with confidence. Did this episode help you? I'd love to hear about it! Share your experience with the anchoring technique on social media using #paulclough or drop me a comment. Your story might be exactly what someone else needs to hear right now. Please share this content with all you know who may need it: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/444-the-state-of-ive-got-this-and-how-to-get-it Shine Brightly

Let's Make Today Great! So many go through their day and are simply hoping it goes OK. And it might, but probably won't and definitely won't be as good as it could. And I don't want just a good day for you, I want you to have great days that build upon themselves into a GREAT LIFE! And it's simple, easy and takes no more effort than you're using anyway. So come with me for 5 minutes and let's muse and start creating greatness. Please share so all you know can benefit too: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-495-lets-make-today-great/ Here's the video link https://youtu.be/bBgRYHwhsJo Shine Brightly

Navigating Indecision: A Simple Process to Move Forward Hey there, amazing friend! Ever caught yourself going round and round in circles, totally stuck on making a decision? That feeling where your brain just won't settle on which path to take? I've been there too, and in today's episode, I'm sharing exactly how to break free from that frustrating loop! I open up about my own battles with confusion and that knot-in-your-stomach anxiety that shows up when we're faced with choices. But don't worry - I've got something special for you today: a super practical process that will help you cut through the mental fog and finally move forward. Together, we'll explore how to tap into your imagination (yes, it's way more powerful than you think!) and discover the symbolic representations of what's really going on. It's amazing how our minds can show us the answers when we know how to look! What You'll Learn Today: Why indecision feels so uncomfortable (and why that's actually useful!) My step-by-step visualization process that unlocks hidden insights How to tune into what your unconscious mind is trying to tell you Simple techniques to transform your new awareness into confident action Whether you're deciding what to have for dinner or contemplating a major life change, this episode has something valuable for you. Now it's your turn! Give yourself 10 minutes to try it. Find a quiet space, close your eyes, and follow along with the episode. Please take time to try this process for yourself. Find a quiet space, close your eyes, and follow along. Then come share your experience in our community group or tag me on social media - I'd absolutely LOVE to hear what insights came up for you! Then come share your experience in our community group or tag me on social media - I'd absolutely LOVE to hear what insights came up for you! Here's the link to help you share the whole episode: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/443-clearing-confusion-and-finding-direction-on-our-dreams Remember, you're not meant to stay stuck. Let's break free together! Shine Brightly

Stop Lying To Yourself We all do it, we all say things that are not quite true, and when we do, our unconscious mind listens in. And thereby hangs a problem because what you say about how you feel and how you really feel sets up conflicts and also might just get you what you don't want. Yes, I know I'm being ambiguous because you need to listen and hear this for it to make complete sense and get what you want. Short and sweet Please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-494-stop-lying-to-yourself/ Shine Brightly

Personal Development Unplugged: You CAN Achieve Anything - Here's How to Overcome Overwhelm & Regret Are you feeling stuck with too many goals and dreams but accomplishing none of them? In this eye-opening episode, Paul Clough shares a powerful but simple strategy to transform overwhelm into focused action and achieve what truly matters to you. Episode Highlights: Why having multiple goals often leads to overwhelm and procrastination The connection between goal confusion and the feeling of regret Paul's proven method for breaking free from the cycle of starting and not finishing How to prioritize your goals to feel at peace with your choices The importance of handwriting your goals instead of typing them Visualization techniques to bring your goals to life and fuel your motivation The 3-Step Process to Achieve Anything: Get all your goals out of your head - Write down every single goal, dream, and aspiration without editing or judging Identify your ONE most important goal - Ask yourself: "If I could only have one, which would bring the richest experience to my life?" Visualize your success - Imagine having achieved this goal and experience the feelings, sights, sounds, and even smells of success Key Takeaway: "You can achieve anything you want but you have to work at it in a particular way." - Paul Clough Stop letting overwhelm hold you back from living the life you want. By focusing on what truly matters most, you can find peace with prioritizing and start building momentum through achievement. Don't forget to share, subscribe, and leave a review if this episode helped you take action toward your goals. Together, we can create ripples of positive change!  https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/442-i-cant-achieve-anything-heres-how-you-can Connect With Paul: Have a success story to share? Questions about personal development? Email Paul directly at feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com for a personal response!     Shine Brightly

The 2 Second Game Changer Sometimes we can react to others, when we look back, in a way that was not helpful. Sometimes it just leads to arguments, or is that just me? Maybe we feel accused, guilty, and we attack back, and it's completely unnecessary. So here's the game changer I heard, and it just works. It diffuses that rash retort and gives you the resource to communicate in a calm way and you may just appear intelligent on the way too!!    :O) And all you have to do is listen for 5 minutes and I'll share all with you Please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-493-the-2-second-game-changer/ And the video is here: https://youtu.be/Y3KCVfcsED4 Shine Brightly

Making Anxiety Your Friend Transforming Anxiety into Your Best Friend Hey beautiful souls! Paul here, and I'm SO excited to share this week's episode with you! Ever thought about what anxiety is REALLY trying to tell you? What if I told you that those anxious feelings aren't your enemy but actually your protector in disguise? In this episode, I'm taking you on a journey to completely flip how you view anxiety. This isn't just theory - we're diving into practical techniques I've used with hundreds of clients that ACTUALLY WORK. What You'll Discover: The surprising truth about anxiety's protective nature (this changed everything for me!) My step-by-step process for having a conversation WITH your anxiety How to transform this relationship from battle to partnership Real, actionable steps to move toward your dreams while feeling genuinely safe This isn't about pushing anxiety away or "managing" it - it's about bringing it closer and understanding what it's been trying to tell you all along! The transformation I've seen in clients who apply these principles is nothing short of amazing. If you're tired of fighting your feelings and ready for a completely different approach, this episode could be the game-changer you've been searching for. Share this with someone who might be struggling - sometimes the right message at the right time can change everything: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/441-making-anxiety-your-friend/ ‎ Give it a listen, and PLEASE let me know how these techniques work for you! I read and respond to every message at feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com. Remember to shine your beautiful light today! ✨ Paul x Connect With Me: Got thoughts? Questions? Breakthroughs? Email me! feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com Listen on: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | YouTube Deeper work: Visit PaulCloughOnline.com FREE GIFT: Download my hypnosis tracks at paulcloughonline.com/podcast Twitter: @pcloughie While I'm a qualified therapist, this podcast offers educational guidance, not personalized therapeutic advice. For individual concerns, please consult a healthcare professional. Music by Wataboi, DreamHeaven, ccjmusic (via Pixabay) Remember: Your anxiety has been trying to protect you all along - isn't it time you listened?   And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Paul Clough talks about letting go of anxiety to live the life you want     Hey, isn't it nice, just nice having friends? We all want friends, don't we? It's nice to have good friends, isn't it? So, maybe just distant friends, but it's just nice to have maybe someone closer that you can share with, share your thoughts and sometimes maybe just help support. It's nice helping people, isn't it? Helping friends succeed. Here's the thing. What's this podcast all about? Well, personal development, unplugged, we also call it from anxiety to confidence. Letting go of anxiety. Finding ways, ways and processes to allow you to be free of worries, fears, all other issues. and live the life you want. Imagine living the life you dream for yourself and it becomes your reality. Wouldn't that be nice? And then to be able to share it with people. Here's the thing, though. Here's what I want you to imagine. I want you to imagine your anxiety. Because we all have anxiety, whether it's big, small or whatever, but we all have anxiety of some kind. For some of us, it's just a little bit. Some of us it's panic. Some of it leads to overwhelm, impostor syndrome, all that stuff. It's all sort of an anxiety, a fear of something, isn't it? We all have it. Social anxiety, you know, ocd, it all has its core, I guess, with fear, anxiety. But here's the thing. I want you in a moment if it's okay. He. This is the thing to imagine. Anxiety is being a friend, a friend that's always with you. Well, it is, isn't it? You know, that fear, that anxiety, that panic or whatever it is for you, that imposter syndrome, things like that, that I shouldn't be here and I'm not good enough. It's all based around anxiety. Remember, that is one of your best friends is your best friend. It's hard, isn't it? It's hard. Hard as something like that. Something that scares a living bjeebas out of you. How can that be your friend? You know. It doesn't feel good, doesn't it? It doesn't feel good at all. When you re feeling anxious and those pictures in your mind, the voice is in your head. Because we all have voices, by the way. Everyone has a voice. Some of us have more. But how can that be your friend? Well, here's the thing, if you ever thought about it this way, the Thing that you're frightened about, it's never really happened, is it? I mean some people, are, are frightened of heights for an example. Never fallen off a curb. They haven't fallen off anything because their fear has protected them in some ways. It stopped them going near the edges of anything, anything that could harm, if you think of, if you have a fear of presenting things so many bad things would happen to you if you were to speak in public. Well, that fear has protected you because you've never had to speak in public at all. Because you just don't do it. You hide. But it feels horrible, doesn't it. But your best friend has kept you alive from public speaking or whatever your fear is, even if you don't know what it is exactly. Your best friend has been there 247 every day, every day, doing its best for you, trying to protect you in some way or other. And it's normally the other way, the fearful way. Using your imagination in reverse, as it were. Because we've got such a wonderful power of imagination where we could, if we wished, imagine, all wonderful things, the wonderful things that could happen and then we could learn from that. But because it's so powerful, your unconscious mind uses it as a powerful good, as it were, to make you think of all the things that could go wrong. So you don't do that thing and you don't do that thing and therefore it doesn't go wrong. It's protected you again. But it feels horrible, doesn't it? Not doing the thing that you really want to do. And what do we normally do? We don't listen to that little voice saying it's okay. But also we try to push away the voice that's telling you don't do that, don't do that, you're not good enough. We try to push it away, don't we? Because we don't like it. We don't like the feeling that goes with it. We don't like the emotion. And we really try to push hard. Those pictures in our mind that spin round the movies that keep going on in loops and loops. We try to turn them off, don't we? We push them away. Know if you're anything like me, I'll swear at myself. I'll give myself a right good telling. Enough. I don't want to be like this. God, this is no good. What are you trying to do to me? Blah bah, blahah. And I go on and on. And if that's your best friend, that's a tough gig to have, isn't it? You imagine trying to help somebody. Imagine this if you were, a best friend of somebody and you really wanted to help them and you started to help me and they just pushed you away. They kept telling you, oh, go away, stop it, I don't want this.     Your best friend gives you a little bit of fear to stop you doing things   Well, after a while you'd give up, wouldn't you? You'd give up on your best friend and that you said, well, it's up to you. But your best friend, anxiety, fear doesn't stop. It says, no, I am going to stay here 247 protecting you the only way I know how. Because in the past it worked when you were little and this thing came along and I give you a little bit of fear. Not a lot, just enough to stop you, it works. So I just keep doing it even more. See, if you go back years and years and years, you'd probably might be able to remember a time when it wasn't like as intense. It wasn't as intense as it is now. It's like a snowball coming downhill. It's got bigger and ah, more intense because that's what we do. We're going to keep doing this stuff. So your best friend doesn't really know at the moment what it could do differently. So it just does more of the same, but more intense. And when you think, think about the stuff that you really want to do, the stuff that you're frightened of doing, maybe frighten of meeting people, frightened of speaking up, maybe going for that career change, maybe doing something that's to going to make you better, maybe gives you better experiences. You really want that stuff, don't you? You really want. And you would give your eye teeth, if you teeth have eyes, to do that and be safe at the same time. If you Knew without doubt 100% that you could do whatever you wanted to do and be safe, you do it, wouldn't you? You would if you knew you could go and speak to people and you knew that you wouldn't be embarrassed, you wouldn't feel guilty, you wouldn't feel anything other than the good feelings that come with that and learn from it. You'd think, damn, this is good, that's what I want. And the thing is, this is where the conflict is. You've got your unconscious mind trying to keep you safe from the things that you're frightened of by making you frightened. And that's a direct conflict. You see, you're actually feeling the feelings that you don't want to feel in order to protect yourself. It's a direct conflict. But what, what about this? Have a. Just put everything to one side for the moment and think this. Maybe if you understood what that part of you, that part of you that's running, this anxiety, this fear, this I'm not good enough, or whatever, you fill in the blank. If you understood what it was trying to do, you'd probably be able to, maybe you have a little conversation. Couldn't you say, well, because if your best friend is doing something, well, actually I really appreciate what you're trying to do, but it's not quite working. If you did it this way, but you got a chance to understand why they were doing it, what they were trying to do for you. And in the same way as I said, if you were to have this chat with your best friend, this part of you, so they could understand what you think, what you want, how you want to be, wouldn't that be a way forward? Because that's the thing about negotiations, isn't it? You find out what you both parties really want. What is their highest intention? Well, and in this particular thing is you want to do stuff and be safe. And your unconscious mind wants to keep you safe. So the highest intention is to be safe. Well, if we start from that and work backwards, we could find ways to allow you to do stuff, couldn't we? And be safe. And your, unconscious mind, you're. That part of you that's running this little, this gig could actually use different things, couldn't it? But how is this part of you going to know? And that's where we come in here. So if you would like to do it now, I'm, not going toa explain what's going toa happen. This're going toa come with me. But all you need is a few things. The will to do wherever it takes. We've talked about that before. Just go with what we're doing can only make things better. And remember, I'm a therapist, but not your therapist. But this is just a lovely little process of understanding what's happening and make sure that it's going to be eyes closed. Probably you can do it with eyes open and move around in different, different, places in a room. But maybe you're going to do it in your head. But if you've got, you know, there's no one around, hey, let's use different spaces. But again, I'm being a bit mischievous because I'm not telling you what's going to happen. But here's what I want you to do, make sure that you're going to be undisturbed so you're not having to pay attention to anything. Nothing at all needs your attention. No person, no thing, no nothing. So, you know, certainly not driving, any acts of machinery, whatever type of machinery that could be. You know, if you listen to this, this is something that you could do on your own and in your own mind. So we don't want to be disturbed because it's fun to go inside.     Use hypnosis to ask your unconscious mind questions about safety   So here we go. If it's okay anyway. If it's okay, just ask in your. Ask inside with your internal voice. You can ask outside if you want. But this internal voice, give yourself permission to learn, to learn from this part of you. Notice you could ask, is it, okay with you, my unconscious mind? Just to see if we can find a better way to be safe. And as it's a prime directive of your unconscious mind to keep you safe in some ways, it has to listen, doesn't it? Has to listen to exploring ways to keep you safer, than it's doing at the moment. And then when you're ready, close your eyes and, breathe normally. Just breathe. It's not hypnosis, but it's a process of internal thoughts and dialogue. And I want you to imagine with your eyes closed, standing in front of you, maybe sitting, I don't know. But in front of you, just over there is this part of you that's running this. This process of anxiety, fear, I'm not good enough, all those things. And it's here to listen to you. So ask this part of you a question. And it could be as simple as, what are you trying to do for me? M Simple as that. And just ask that question, what are you trying to do for me? And listen with all your senses. Just listen to this part of you in front of you. And you can actually look at that part of it and notice the qualities of that part. Is it like a person? Is it just a shape? Is it just a color? Just notice not doing anything with it. Just want you to get a better feel, as it were, of this part of you. And just explain how it's making you feel. Because I'm sure it just wants to make you safe. But just explain how this attempt to make you safe is actually making you feel unsafe. And as you do that in your own internal voice, notice that part of you in front of you listens intently, takes it all in. And when you've finished that little statement, I want you to imagine now floating out of your Body out in front of you and into that part of you, that part of you that's running this fear, this anxiety. And you're looking back at you now, you can see yourself in front of you. And you hear those words again, how you, how it's making you feel. And from here, this part of you just notice the words this part of you wants to say to you over there of what it's trying to do for you, how much it's trying, to keep you safe. And then listen, because you might just find out right now what it's trying to do for you. And notice, if it fully understands your thoughts, your words. Because I'm sure if this part now knew exactly the way you felt, how much you want to feel safe, but not in this way because it doesn't feel safe. Maybe you could ask from here, suggesting better ways. Maybe this part of you could, begin to access all your skills, all the things in the past where you have done things and been safe, and begin to notice if it use those instead. But as it's doing that, I want you to float back into your own body again. Just float out and into your own body, looking back at that part of you that's running this anxiety and explain to it your dreams and how you want to be, how you want to be in the world, the things that you'd like to do and like to do them with that wonderful belief that you'll always be safe. Maybe m it is that career change. Maybe it is speaking to people. Maybe is finding and approaching somebody, whatever it is for you, just explain to that part of your exactly what you want. And then just notice as you say that, just float out of yourself and back into that, that part of you in front. And notice looking back at you now, does this part really understand what you want, how you want it? Because you'll want the same things. This part of you wants safety for you. And maybe up until now I didn't realize that there are so many better ways to be and didn't realise exactly what you wanted and how you wanted to be and what you wanted to achieve. And just notice from here how you can get a sense of understanding and then come back from that partner into you again. And listen, invite that part of you to explain or suggest new ways how the two of you could work together now to achieve the things that you want to be in harmony. Just notice that it fully understands how you want to be. And if it doesn't, just share it back. So you have this dialogue now. So this part of you knows exactly how you want to be and understands that it can now access all your skills. Maybe you need to learn a little bit more and it can find that for you. Maybe there's things you need to prepare for and it can help you with that, to do it in a way that is easy and effortless, comfortable. So you can be competent in your confidence and just notice has the two of you become one in your approach now, your direction, your aim? Notice how this part of you just notice if it changes at all in its appearance, maybe does it feel more comfortable with itself and you now being your best friend, but now helping you in ways that make you feel comfortable. And maybe you could just float out of your body again, but float higher and higher so you as if you were looking down on the two of you that you down there and that best friend, that part of you that used to run that old anxiety. And from here, way up here, this meta view, this dissociated view, you can access the learnings that you could bring back to those two down there. Because from here you can give advice. You can share what they've missed. Maybe it's intuitive, maybe it's in aha moment. But share with them now with your in internal voice. Just share to the two of them this information you're gleaming now, this feeling, this sense how they can work together to achieve what you want to achieve in the world. And for this part of you to be able to help you achieve it and be safe and comfortable to enjoy the process. And as you do that, just float back down, just for the moment, float into that part of you, pick it up and bring it back into you so you'll know now back into yourself or by your wonderful self, together now as one. And just for a moment, just for a moment. Begin to dream. Dream of how you want to be. Do the things you've always wanted to do and notice you could do them. And you're doing them in your mind now, imagineering how it could be to have fun, to enjoy, to learn, and to be so comfortable in this. Yes, you may stretch yourself a little bit, but each little stretch just expands your sense of competence and confidence to do other things in different areas of your life. Because this is just you doing the things that you want to do. So use this moment or two just to really imagine that you over there now doing the things you always wanted to do it to. Doing them easily, with ease, with comfort, comfortably, competently and confidently, and achieving the goals that you imagined you were going to do what you set out, what you intended to do, and, notice how the two of you feel so good together and then bring that. You. That confident, Confident you. That feels at ease and comfortable back into you. That's right. And m. When you're ready, you can open your eyes. Open your eyes, look at the world and notice. I don't know if you notice. When we do this type of work, you open your eyes and everything seems so clear, so vivid. Maybe things just appear a little lighter. Lighter in every sense of the word. Yeah. And, now all you have to do is to begin to plan those dreams, requesting, as it were, from your best friend the help that it's now here for you. And then as we do here, there's, so many resources here to help you set your goals, your aims in mind to do the things you want to do.     Allow your dreams to come into your imagination and then imagine how you'll achieve them   So go and just make. Allow your dreams to first of all come into your imagination and then imagine how you're going to take that first small step in achieving it and then the next small step and the next small step. Because that's how dreams and goals are made. Little steps that just get bigger and quicker and so wonderful to allow you to feel good, to do the stuff you want to do. And that's what it's like in personal development, unplugged. To do the things you want to do in such a wonderful way. And this process is such a simple process. But now you and your best friend, the whole of you, because that part of you is now integrated with all the rest of you. And now you can work towards living the life you want to live, experiencing all the experiences you want to experience and have fun. wallow in a wonderful life, the feelings of a wonderful life. Because look for feelings. If you can look for feelings, that's where. Because that's what goals are really for, aren't they? It's the feelings that they ultimately give you along the way, along the adventure, and at the end, so you can then create more goals, more dreams, and hopefully share those skills that you learn with the people around you. Be the change you want to see in others, and be the change you want to see in yourself. And they can't help but, get it. There you go. I hope you enjoyed that. There's another little process of making anxiety. Your friend. Hope you enjoyed it. Please do share it with people, because it is a good, lovely little Share this podcast, if you would. 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Change Your State Instantly Would you like to change from being, say, feeling down to a state of resourcefulness? Or any other state that you think would be beneficial.   I think we all would, wouldn't we? So, in this 5-minute quickie, let's learn to do it right now! And listen right to the end because I have added another state to really make a difference to your performance in life. And when you have, please send me your feedback and share what you learned with anyone and everyone https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-492-change-your-state-instantly And here's the video of the recording  https://youtu.be/yWP8ozB_YSw Shine Brightly

Feeling ANXIOUS? Transform It Into CALM! Personal Development Unplugged Hey, beautiful souls! This week on the podcast, I'm taking you on a transformative journey from anxiety to calm. Not just theory—we're diving into a PRACTICAL process you can use anytime those anxious feelings start creeping in. What You'll Discover in This Episode: The body-mind connection of anxiety and why identifying WHERE you feel it makes all the difference A powerful guided visualization that transforms anxiety into something completely different (and yes, it WORKS!) How specific colors can become your secret weapons against anxious thoughts My step-by-step approach to rewriting the stories that keep anxiety alive This episode isn't just about feeling better for a moment—it's about developing a TOOLBOX you can use whenever life gets overwhelming. I'll walk you through the entire process with the gentle guidance I'm known for, helping you access resources you already have within yourself (even if you don't realize it yet!). I've seen this technique change lives in my therapy practice, and now I'm bringing it directly to YOU. If this episode resonates with you, please share it with someone who might be struggling: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/440-imagine-anxiety-spinning-away/ Shine your light today! ✨ Paul Ready to Connect? Questions, thoughts, or breakthroughs to share? I LOVE hearing from you! Drop me a line at feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com or leave a comment. Never Miss an Episode Subscribe on your favorite platform: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | YouTube Go Deeper Transform your life with my specialized programs at PaulCloughOnline.com: Supreme Inner Confidence Building Freedom from Anxiety Transformational Hypnosis Tracks FREE GIFT: Relaxation Hypnosis Tracks Download my complimentary hypnosis tracks at paulcloughonline.com/podcast Let's Connect Twitter: @pcloughie Important Note: While I'm a qualified therapist, this podcast is for educational purposes only. The hypnosis tracks aren't suitable while driving, operating machinery, or for those with epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare professional when needed. Music credits: Wataboi, DreamHeaven, ccjmusic, and others via Pixabay #PersonalDevelopment,   And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Imagine this. Imagine you're a client of mine, but you're not. But imagine this coming into my clinic, comes through the door and there we are. You've got this lovely seat, doesn't. It's not a lay down seat, but it's one of those reclining seats, really comfortable. And you've come in, talk about this negative emotion you've been feeling. This feeling is, you know, it's anxiety. Now anxiety as we know is really general. It just means so many different things to each and every different person, I guess, doesn't it? Everyone will experience anxiety in a different way and it will be caused by different things triggered in different ways. Because everyone, I guess, is unique, isn't it? Aren't they? Aren't you? And I'd ask, so if you had just two sentences, what do you really want from this session? And they'd say, something like, well, I just want to feel so less anxious. And I'd say, well, just less anxious, a little bit or a lot. And they go, well, of course I don't want to. I want. And then get stuttery because that's what happens sometimes because we're anxious. And I'll say, well, what would happen if we could change that feeling of anxiety to something really comfortable? So you could deal with different situations where you used to be anxious in the past and you could feel differently, what would that be like? And of course the obvious answer is, well, that'll be awesome, Paul. Can you, you know, can we do that? So I can't do it. I can for myself, but I can guide you to it. You see, I'd explain. I'd explain the feelings, you see, Think now, when you think back to that feeling of anxiety, where'd you feel it in your body? And people go, oh, I haven't really thought about. It's always in my head. no, no, no, no, no. It goes to your head and creates that internal dialogue, that internal voice, those that the internal movie that we make of all the worst things happening, but that comes from somewhere else. It starts from a feeling. That feeling is triggered by something. And that feeling comes and then it tends to spread to your head into your mind. So just think back if you had that feeling right now, not at a 10 out of 10 scale, 10 being the worst, but a 4, 4 out of 10. So we know what it is, but it's Something we can deal with easily and effortlessly. And then sit in that comfortable chair and go, well, actually just about here. Just about here. And I said, well, put your hand on it because I want to know exactly where it is. they put their hand on the place where that feeling is. And I say, I bet you didn't realize the emotions, good, bad, indifferent, negative, positive, all seem to move. They move in a circular motion. They start somewhere, they go somewhere and they come back. So if you can imagine it going round in a circle, and I take my finger and point to a similar place on my body, where there. And I just move my hand in a circular motion, like CL. Clockwise in front of me. And I say, it could go this way and then I'd reverse it the other way or this way, or back to front in a circle or reverse. But it just moves. And the thing is, when we find the direction of your anxiety, we can change it. And then look at me a bit puzzled, but I says, okay, all you have to do is follow my instructions. So what I want you to do is see. I'll explain what I'm going to do. I'm explain. I want you in a moment to close your eyes and imagine a big movie screen in front of you. And what I'm to ask you to do is bring to mind a memory, a specific memory, when you felt that feeling. Not a 10 out of 10, 4 of 4 out of 10. So we know we're on the right way. We know we're dealing with that specific feeling, but not at its intent. It's most intense. And I say what I'm going to do then is ask you to play a movie of that experience, that memory, as if you're looking at a movie of yourself. So you'd see yourself on that screen beginning to go through that memory. And as you do that, I'll say I want you then to float out into that movie. And then what I'll do is I'm going to ask you to point with your finger at, that place in your body when you feel that feeling and notice which way it turns. And I want you to turn that hand in front of your body in that circular motion. And if you don't quite get it, you can guess a little bit. It's all intuitive. And when you get it, I'm going to ask you to speed that up just a little bit. Not a lot. So you just speed it up, say 10%. And as we begin to speed it up, you'll find if we've got the right direction, it'll get a little bit more intense. Not a lot, just a little. And the you nod your head to say, yeah, I've got that. I'll say slow it down. And then I don't tell them what's going to happen next. It's really weird. And at the end of it, something quite marvellous happens. Hey, it's Paul from Personal Development Unplugged. Did you like that? Did you do a little bit of it? Did you think about it? Well, here's the thing. If it's okay with you, why don't we do that now properly, as if you were a client of mine. But remember you're not a client of mine and I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist and it has to be right to do so. And you have to make that decision that we're not doing a 10 out of 10 because that would just be silly because this is a process of changing anxiety. So we don't need full blown anxiety to do that, we just need a snippet of it as it were. So if you're up for that, I've told you the start of it. Remember we're going to make a movie.     Using visualization to get rid of anxiety is a fast process   You're going to. Well first of all you're got toa get that feeling. Then we're going toa have eyes closed movie screen, press play as it were, run the movie. You're going to float out of your body into that. You on the screen feel the feeling and begin to move your hand in that circle. Then not telling you what happens next, but I'll do it with you. So if you're up for that, make sure you don't need anything that needs your attention. No driving, no machinery involved or anything that needs your attention. You're not walking, not doing anything because it's eyes closed. You could do it with your eyes open but there's too many distractions. I like to do it eyes closed. So just get comfortable. So if you're up for this, find a comfortable place to sit, take a nice in breath with me, hold it for a second or two, and as you let it out, just let your eyes close. There you go. And remember a time, a specific time when you felt that anxiety. We'll call it anxiety for the moment. You might call it something else, you might call it scared, fear, whatever is'just for me. We'll call it anxiety and remember a specific time. A specific time. And it's only a four out of ten. Remember ten being the worst zero being not, don't feel it. And when you remember that specific time, imagine out in front of you a lovely big movie screen. And if you've got like a TV control, you press play and you begin to see that memory with you in that screen going through that memory, just about to experience that anxiety over there. But you're not in moment because you see, I want you now, as you see yourself on that movie screen, to flow out of your body into that you on the screen, see what you saw, hear what you heard and feel those feelings, those four out of 10 feelings. That's the intensity, four out of 10. And as you feel that feeling, just point your finger to the place on your body where you can feel it. And as you do that, let your unconscious mind and your conscious mind, but your unconscious mind begin to move that hand in that circular direction. That could be clockwise, anti clockwise, forward and back in a circular motion. But just imagine that you know which direction it is and allow your hand to move. Just let it move. Could be slowly, but don't do it fast. Not fast. This is not a fast process in the manner of. That is a fast process of getting rid of anxiety. And as you do that, you notice your hand begin to move. And if it isn't moving, just imagine that you do know and guess, because your guesses are pretty good. And as you begin to move that hand, just speed it up a little bit. Not a lot. I go mad. Just speed it up a little bit. And as you speed it up just a little bit, notice that feeling. Does it get more intense or not? If it gets more intense, you've got it. And slow it down. You now know the direction. If it doesn't get more intense, just go back to that feeling and begin to move your hand in a different way. Speed it up a little bit until you find. Until you find the direction where when you speed it up a little bit, that negative emotion of call anxiety gets a little bit more intense. Now you've got it. Yeah, slow it down. And I want to ask you the question. What colour is this feeling? It's weirdn't it? What color comes to mind? Just like that, what colour is anxiety? Yeah, you got it. Now here's what I want you to do. I want you to have the hand that's turning and turning to move out away from your body. So you're still turning, but you're effectively like pulling that feeling out of your body, still turning. And as you do that, 1, 2, 3, flip it and turn it the other way. Turn it the other way. And as you turn it the other way, begin to bring it your hand back towards your body with it turning the opposite direction. And then think what colour is calm? What colour is calm and make that turning that colour and bring it back into your body. And as you bring it back into your body, really make it that colour of car, your colour of carb. And as you do that, notice what happens inside your body. You're now spinning this feeling the opposite direction and you've giving it the color of calm. Where's the feeling going? It's disappearing, isn't it? I know it is. I know it is. Really visualize that feeling of calm and spin it maybe a little bit faster. I don't mind this one spinning a little bit faster because that just makes calm even more intense. And as you do that, and you've got this feeling of calm, imagine rewinding that movie with this feeling of calm. And now run that movie from just before it started, that event started. And have this feeling of calm and this feeling spinning the opposite direction of the old way a little bit faster. And now go through that memory and notice how different it could have been if you'd have had this feeling this way. Spinning this way round and feeling of calm. Yeah, just notice how different it could have been. How much easier it is to go through it now. And when you've done that, keep that hand turning by the way, turning the opposite way that it was at the beginning. And then if you want rewind that movie to the beginning again maybe 10 minutes before it even started. And now you know what that movie is. And knowing that calm is calm, what would you add to come as a most wonderful feeling that would enhance come and would have made that memory even more comfortable. And when you think of that emotion, you'd add to that. That feeling you'd add to that cup.     Use these techniques to help your unconscious mind learn new ways to process memories   What color is that? And that hand seal spinning and it's color of calm. And now add that new colour of that new wonderful positive emotion and allow them to blend together to crackle, to sparkle. Feel that feeling get even more empowering. And then as you do that 10 minutes before that movie, just run it now run that movie. And notice as you run that movie with these two resources now, two feelings, two emotions, how much easier it is now. How much easier is and go through that movie noticing how easy it is now, how more. So much more comfortable it is. Yeah. and Then slow it all down. Open your eyes and Say thank you. Cloughie. No. There you go. And the question is, I know the answer to this, but was it better the second time with calm than the first? And the answer is always yes. And the number four out, of ten could have gone down to zero. But when you add that other colour that you know would have been the best resource to have, you're making like a recipe now with calm and its foundation as you were, how much different that memory could have been. And we haven't changed the memory, but we've changed your learnings and we're changing the learnings of the unconscious mind. Because the unconscious mind did that, anxiety for a reason, to keep you safe. But we've now shown you unconscious mind two better ways. So out of the three ways, there's two better ways. And maybe if you said this or something better, there is a myriad of a cocktail of wonderful positive emotions that you could have a recipe, as it were, of wonderful feelings that would address any situation in the future. That where in the past you would have had those anxious feelings and you'd have acted anxiously. But now you can imagine going through anything in the future now that where it used to trigger in the past that old anxiety, now it would trigger one of the myriad wonderful ways, if nothing else would just trigger calm or trigger calm. And so your unconscious mind can learn because it has a prime directive to protect you. And we've just found better ways than anxiety to protect you. So again, say this and something better and just wonder what it be like. What would it be like at any time in the future, in the now, if you were to come to a thing that in the past where you would have been anxious in, what would it be like to access these wonderful feelings, what would that be like? And just let that go. I mean, you can do this as many times as, like, rinse and repeat, rinse and repeat. So you can't get that old way back. in fact, the old ways trigger the new ways. So you can go back over what we've just done, make it even faster in the wonderful different colors, because you know the direction now, don't you? You don't have to go back and find the old way and then take it out and bring it back, you know, the new way and just rinse and repeat. Think of a time in the past where you had that little bit of anxiety. Remember, four or five out of ten, no more. As you think of that time, spin it this new direction, the opposite direction, you know what you've got. Add the Most appropriate colour of calm and anything new which you feel would be great and just keep rinsing and repeating, rinse and repeating because it's like, I think we've said it before like if you had a cd, the old CDS that used to play music on and if you scratch them enough times they would never play the same and this is what you're doing to the memories. but you're learning each time by learning new ways.     Paul uses NLP to help clients access emotions and beliefs   And here's a question for you and this is a question I always ask my clients when they look at me in amazement with that feeling gune and they look at that old memory and they go o that memory is different now because I know how it could have been, how I could have used the resources I've got now and how I will in the future. And I'll ask them the question well, who did that? And initially they started to say well you did cluy they didn't call me cluy, they called me Paul. You did Paul. I'm thinking well did I know the feelings you were experiencing? Well, not really. I showed you where it were, pointed to him Paul but that's all. Did I know the movie, the content of that movie? No, not at all. Did I know anything about that second emotion? Not at all. So who did it? And it then just comes well of course I did it because you see when I say ay that's them m saying ay because you did it, didn't you? You did it. See, I was just a guide that's all guiding you through a wonderful easy process. And one thing about this process is it has no content, does it? No words. So you don't have to explain things, you don't have to try to describe things, you don't have to go through anything that is negative. Relive the past because you're not reliving it at all really. because we're just going through a process of 4 out of 10. But the more you think about these new ways times in the past that would have costused you a lot more than a 4 out of 10, 5 out of 10 if they came in the future now you know you're going to breathe through it by because you're going to access the most appropriate emotion, behaviors, thoughts, beliefs and your beliefs about how you're going to approach life are going to change now because beliefs change in a second in that little click they change there. you go and you think here's the real kicker because I love this process, I really love this process. I do it with every client just to show that they have the power, they have their own empowerment as it were, to change the way they feel, the way they act and what they believe in. Now a lot of people just think, well all these processes is a lovely NLP process. It's all about changing subm modalities if you want another technical bit. But I always say to my clients, well that's great because see my mum used to do this, bless her when she was alive, when she had to go to hospital a few times and they used to bring the doctor round or the doctor used to bring around all these learning doctors I guess you call them, studying doctors or whatever, doctors in practice, whatever. And she would get really anxious and I taught her this. Now bless her, she wanted to do it with a hand because she knew it worked so well. So every time they come round she'd ask them, before you say anything, could you just stop for a moment? Because I want to close my eyes, I have to get this feeling and I have to point my finger towards it and then I have to turn my hand around and then bring it out, turn it over, make it calm and bring it back in. And when my brought it back in I'll nod to you and you can start talking. And she would do it every time, bless her because it was like her anchor to calmness. She didn't need to because it, the sight of those doctors now would have turned on the calmness but she just loved doing it. Used to tell him, my son told me to do this so I've got to do it, bless. But the thing is, here's, as I said the kicker. A lot of people think that using these processes ah, are only used with negative emotions. And that's such Bs. That's just short sightedness, that's lack of creativity. You see. What about if you had a good feeling so you know you're going to say an event in the future and there's something where you want a little bit of confidence, not overconfidence but competence, where you've accessed all the information you want. Say you're doing a presentation so you go back at times when you've presented, doesn't have to be the same type of presentation but where you've talked to people and you've just been so comfortable being able to access the information you want to communicate and you go back into that feeling, notice which way it turns, notice what color it is. But this time instead of taking it out and reversing the spin. This is a good feeling. So spin it faster, spin it f and make the colors even brighter so you feel that feeling so intensely. And then imagine going through that future event with this feeling, spinning this fast, and learn from it. And maybe just play around with adding different feelings to it, spinning it even faster. And notice how you could go through that movie of a future event, feeling so comfortable, saying in the immortal words this or something better. And then just wonder with your internal voice what would be like to have access to all these wonderful feelings and even better ones when I actually do and go through the event I've been thinking about. And then you ll just let it gouse your unconscious mind will, as soon as it comes to that event, will trigger those feelings. You won't have to do it, but if you want to, just to get it. Because it's a great way to feeling good. And it becomes as if it's a memory. Because your unconscious mind find it very difficult to find the difference between the real thing that's happening and your visualizations. So it begins to think, well, we've done it this way before and it's good. And it can start to imagine doing things even better. There you go. That's something I do in my clinic. But do remember I'm a therapist. Not your therapist and all that stuff. And only ever do it for yourself. A four out of ten. Ten being the worst. But you can have fun with this. And this is the whole point about these processes. They are very simple. They do take a little bit of effort. You have to, I always say, have the will to do whatever it takes, but just do them and notice the difference it makes. And then play with the good feelings in the future. Cause you see if you keep playing with the good feelings when you have them thinking about things, it's a bit like planting flowers, isn't it? And pulling up the weeds. The more good feelings you spin in your life, the more energy you have. You. It's like that vibration. You are vibrating at a different energy or a different vibe. Frequency, I think they call it. I'm, not into that stuff in the technical thing, but I do know that once you start feeling good, good things happen to you. Synchronicity, you know, things just happened, are't they? Coincidence? No. This is you practicing to be good, feeling good, being successful in whatever you do and then having that successor. and good feelings being attracted, to you. And then all the new opportunities too. Because that's what it means. I hope, I always hope this that I communicated this in a way that made it easy to follow. If I didn't, please let me know because I need to improve my communication. So if there was anything that I didn't make clear, please email me feedback personaldevelopmentunplugged.com. and then I'll rectify that with another podcast. I'd love to hear about your experiences once you've done this. Just let me know.     Please share this podcast so we don't need anxiety in our lives   Same email address feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com. and maybe if you got something out of this, it resonated, it makes sense. You did it and you just knocked it out of the park. Please share this with as many other people so they we don't need anxiety in our lives. There are better resources to use to deal with the events in our lives. Anxiety used to protect us. Now we've got so much, so many better ways to do it. Some of the best skills, emotions that we can access. So please do share this and maybe explain it to other other people too, so you get to learn it even more deeply. But please share the podcast and if you haven't done it already, which I'm sure you have, please of ###e follow whatever the button is on your on your thing of app of choice. So you get these podcasts weekly, okay? So have more good feelings than you can stand, more spinning the wonderful way, more brighter than you could ever imagine, and wallow in the success and the good feelings that you have and ah, will have in the future. Because it's now time to fly. I'll see ya. Bye bye now.     Paul Clough puts hypnosis tracks on a separate website   So the 90 seconds of hypnosis tracks why I put hypnosis tracks on a separate website. Well, it's so simple really. I wanted you to have them all in one place so you can look through them all. You can find the particular one you want. I've even made them downloadable so you can put them on any of your playing devices that you prefer. You don't need WI fi, you don't need the itunes or whatever. You can put HM them anywhere you like. You can even burn them onto dis if you want. Where'do you get them? Well, there you go. I told you, it's paulcloughonline.com podcast. If you're worried about your email address, please don't be because they stay totally safe with me. I only use them to send you out that email and give you access. Simple as that. I send you a link, a special link so you, and only you, can access those hypnosis tracks. Because I want them just for you. And the other thing about this is you've taken responsibility. I don't want to make these open to everyone, just random. You have taken responsibility to listen and be part of this community of personal development. And I want to help you. I want to help you personally to get your dreams, your goals. And therefore, I'm giving you these tools, these protocols, these paradigms, whatever you want to call them, but in deep hypnosis. So just enjoy. Have more fun than you can stand with hypnosis. Warning, you are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul Clough. It's time to fly on your own. Be brave, my friend. Personal development unplugged. #AnxietyRelief, #MindsetShift, #NLP, #Hypnosis, #SelfImprovement, #MentalWellness Personal development [Unplugged] [podcast][NLP][Hypnosis][self development]self improvement][awareness]

Steps To Success Let's Make It Easy A 5-minute Quickie muse on making success come easy (you'll still need the effort). We often forget the times in the past when we learned something special or achieved success—it didn't come easy. You had to work at it, and you probably had a method to help. What was that? You also didn't learn the good 'stuff', the things you're excellent at, by taking massive jumps, because that would have confused you and re-railed you. Let's revisit and make sure you can use what you learned back then to create more of the same Please share what you learn, support others and if you would, support the podcast by sharing it and the episode: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-491-steps-to-success/ ‎   And the video link https://youtu.be/82nJFRyC6LQ Shine Brightly

Healing From Emotional Wounds Healing Negative Emotions In this extended episode, Paul Clough tackles the persistent negative emotions that many of us struggle with - those emotional wounds from our past that seem to linger despite our best efforts to move on. Episode Highlights Paul introduces a gentle process for resolving emotional wounds that doesn't involve regression therapy Important safety note: For deep trauma or abuse issues, Paul strongly recommends working with a professional therapist Why negative emotions persist: Our unconscious mind is still running old protection programs from our younger self The goal: Teaching our unconscious mind that we have more resources and wisdom now than we did back then The Process Identify what resources you needed back then that you have now Confidence, calmness, curiosity, love, or simply knowing "this too shall pass" Connect with memories when you've felt these positive emotions The Inner Child Healing Exercise Identify when you first felt this negative emotion (often before age 10) Visualize your younger self on a stage in front of you Send the specific resources, emotions, and healing they needed Integrate your younger self with your current self, accessing all your wisdom and resources Additional Support If you're still experiencing negative emotions after trying this process, Paul suggests: Working with a therapist skilled in NLP, timeline therapy, and hypnosis Asking yourself: "What am I doing that I could stop?" or "What am I not doing that I could start?" Reaching out directly to Paul at feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com Remember, even subtle shifts can create profound change. The key is recognizing that you have access to all your experiences, wisdom, and positive emotions right now. And remember to share this episode because that would be really kind and most appreciated: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/439-healing-from-emotional-wounds/ Shine Brightly

You Don't Know How Good You Are I believe we totally underestimate our skills and what we could achieve if we knew just how good we are. Sometimes, we hide behind that old limiting belief of "I'm Not Good Enough". If only we knew, but how do you find out what you excel in? Well, in this 5-minute quickie, I will share one way, but you must be brave. The result of being that little bit brave will be so revealing and maybe set you off on a wonderful adventure of achieving wonderful experiences. Hmmmmmmm....... Please be brave and share too: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-490-you-dont-know-how-good-you-are And the video https://youtu.be/8Um2ZfuQw3Y Shine Brightly

Anxiety Toolbox: Your Roadmap to Inner Peace | Personal Development Unplugged Hey there, my brave souls. Let's talk about something we all experience but rarely discuss openly: anxiety. I know what it feels like to be stopped in your tracks by worry, panic, and those overwhelming moments that make you feel like you can't breathe. That's why today's episode is all about building your personal "Anxiety Toolbox"—real strategies that actually work. This isn't about quick band-aid solutions. We're diving deep into: The crucial difference between temporary relief and genuine healing Practical techniques you can use RIGHT NOW to shift your mental state How to create healthy distance from anxious thoughts Breathing exercises that rewire your nervous system Transforming your internal dialogue from fear to empowerment These aren't just theories. These are proven strategies I've used myself and seen work for countless individuals struggling with anxiety. By the end of this episode, you'll have a toolkit that gives you back control—not just coping, but truly thriving. If this resonates, please share it. Someone in your circle might desperately need these tools. And subscribe so you never miss an episode that could be a lifeline. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/438-anxiety-tool-box-quick-fixes-that-work Your journey to inner peace starts here. Are you ready? Shine Brightly

Pulling Weeds, Planting Flowers for a RICH Life I overheard this whilst listening to an episode of the Modern Wisdom podcast. I felt compelled to share, especially as sharing is a major part of the Personal Development Unplugged podcast. It's such a simple metaphor and one, if you follow the meaning, your life will change for the better. So please, take the next 5 minutes to change your life and those around you. Then, please pay it forward https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-489-pulling-weeds-planting-flowers-for-a-rich-life Shine Brightly

Boost Your Self Worth Finding Your True Self-Worth | Personal Development Unplugged Have you ever felt like you're just not enough? I've been there too. In today's episode of Personal Development Unplugged, I'm opening up about the journey to genuine self-worth and how it can transform every aspect of your life. I want to talk honestly about what it feels like to be truly comfortable in your own skin—to trust yourself, honour your achievements, and face life's challenges with quiet confidence. This isn't about perfection; it's about embracing who you really are. In our conversation today, I'm sharing: A simple visualization practice that helped me reconnect with my authentic self The finger-thumb technique I use daily to remind myself of my worth when doubts creep in How I identified the core fears holding me back (and how you can too) The exact questions I ask myself to challenge those limiting beliefs we all struggle with These aren't just concepts—they're real practices that have made a difference in my life, and I believe they can help you too. If something in this episode speaks to you, please share it with someone who might need to hear this message. We're all in this growth journey together. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/437-boost-your-self-worth/ If you'd like more conversations like this one, subscribe to Personal Development Unplugged. I'd love to connect with you weekly as we navigate this path to self-discovery together. What small step will you take today to honour your worth? I'd love to hear about it. Shine Brightly

Negative Emotions Do We Push Away or Be Curious We've all experienced negative emotions, and the first thing we tend to do is think, "I don't like this" and try to push it away or try to ignore it.   And what happens is that it simply disappears - NO IT DOESN'T it grows stronger and keeps on coming back a little stronger each time - Am I right?   And when it does it grows from being a little anxiousness to full-blown anxiety, panic and the underlying emotion gets even stronger - you fill in the blank Or If you get curious, sit in that feeling and wonder. What to wonder? well, that's in this episode so press play and we'll begin.   Then please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-488-negative-emotions-do-we-push-away-or-be-curious And the video link https://youtu.be/RFp6_3EDi00 Shine Brightly

Understanding What Others Are Thinking and Feeling How to Truly Understand Others – The Power of Perceptual Positioning wished you could really get where someone else is coming from? Whether it's family, colleagues, or even people you just can't seem to agree with—understanding others can be a game-changer. In this episode, we're diving into perceptual positioning, a simple yet powerful way to see the world from different perspectives. It's like stepping into someone else's shoes—but with a practical twist that actually works.

The BS of Multi-Tasking This simple process could well change your life and achievements forever. We've all felt overwhelmed by trying to do too many things, and in effect, doing little or all of them below your standard, which then leads to more overwhelm and all manner of negative emotions and limiting beliefs. And I make no apologies for the simplicity of this advice and it's as old as the hills yet so few use it - boy that's so sad  :O( So take out 5 minutes, take out a piece of paper and a pen and let's change all of that. Your thanks can be in the form of sharing this with everyone who you think needs it https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-487-the-bs-of-multi-tasking Shine Brightly

Cultivating a Positive Mindset: Your Path to Empowerment Hey, you! Ever wonder how some people stay positive, even when life throws curveballs? It's not about ignoring problems—it's about tackling them with the right mindset. In this episode, we're cutting through the fluff and diving deep into real ways to shift from negativity to empowerment.

Have A Great Day - The Alternative to the Act Of loving Kindness In this 5-minute muse, let me share with you a way to show loving kindness with eyes wide open as you go about your day—and it's not whoo whoo la la! In fact, it's a fun way that will make you feel both good in yourself and look for the uniqueness in others. I dare you to take up the challenge and notice how it changes your day for the better And as an act of kindness, please share this: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-486-have-a-great-day-the-alternative-to-the-act-of-loving-kindness And the video of this recording https://youtu.be/m1YQIjNTde0 Shine Brightly

Beyond the Noise – Finding Inner Peace & Self-Therapy Hey, my friend… ever feel like life is just too loud? Social media, the news, work, responsibilities—it's like a constant buzz in the background, making it hard to think, let alone find peace. But here's the thing: you can create calm amidst the chaos. In this episode, I share my journey to finding inner peace—those little moments of self-therapy that help me recharge and reset. And trust me, it's not about escaping the world; it's about taking control of your inner one. What's Inside?

The Real Question To Ask About Anxiety to Let It Go Let's get musing about anxiety and why looking at the effects of anxiety is a good thing - because it isn't And so many do and then try to do something about the effect of anxiety and it simply doesn't work or last and usually gets worse. So in the next 5 or so minutes, lets discuss the one thing that does work and is affective. I'll share with you questions that break free of the grasp that your anxiety has on you. Have a listen then join me on longer and deeper dives please share and make my day :O) https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq485-the-real-question-to-ask-about-anxiety-to-let-it-go Shine Brightly

Unshakable Self-Confidence A Journey of Self-Discovery Welcome back to the Personal Development Unplugged Podcast! In this episode, we dive deep into unshakable confidence, exploring the idea that confidence is not something to be installed but rather reawakened. If you struggle with feelings of unconfidence, this episode is designed just for you. Join me, Paul Clough, as I share my journey from being an introvert who stumbled over words in front of small groups to confidently speaking in front of hundreds. You'll discover the transformative power of recognizing your competence and how it can lead to genuine self-confidence. In this episode, we will cover:   The importance of understanding the messages behind unconfidence and how they serve a purpose. How to change your emotional state and the impact it has on your physiology and behaviours. Identifying counterexamples of when you felt confident and competent. Practical exercises to anchor feelings of curiosity and learning. Steps to rekindle your inner confidence and take small, manageable actions toward your goals.   By the end of this episode, you'll have the tools to shift your mindset, embrace your skills, and take confident steps forward in your life. Remember, confidence is not about being overconfident; it's about being comfortable in your own competence. Ready to transform your unconfidence into unshakable confidence? Let's get started! And then please share what you learn - Confidently https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/433-unshakable-self-confidence/ Shine Brightly

A Quick and Easy Way to Rebuilding Self-Esteem and Self-Confidence A short muse to find ways to access your self-esteem and confidence in yourself quickly. Yes, this follows on from a longer episode where I did a deep dive into this topic and I believe it's good to have short reminders to nudge our way back to our potential. It's only 6 minutes 34 seconds to realise you are more than you think you are coming in the form of two small daily changes you can make easily. Dive in, get your cup of coffee, tea or whatever tickles your fancy and I guarantee you feel awesome!!!!! Please share https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-484-a-quick-and-easy-way-to-rebuilding-self-esteem-and-self-confidence If you want to see the video of me recording this click on this https://youtu.be/HYM6sacSRn0   Shine Brightly

Unshakeable You - Re-Building Low Self-Esteem Hey, hey! Fancy seeing you here again – welcome back! This is where the magic happens, the second leg of our adventure into reigniting that inner spark, your self-esteem. And no fluff here — just down-to-earth, practical stuff to help you step back into your personal power. So grab yourself a brew, maybe a notebook, because we're about to explore some game-changing strategies to reconnect with who you really are and get that confidence flowing again. Here's what we're diving into today:  Self-Compassion Over Empathy: How would life shift if you treated yourself like your best mate? Yeah, we're talking proper kindness – none of that harsh self-talk nonsense. Discovering What Matters: You know those core values lurking under the surface? Let's dig them up and see how they can guide your choices. Small, Doable Goals: Forget the overwhelming "must-change-everything-today" mindset. Let's take one tiny, meaningful step at a time. Redefining Criticism: Flip the script on those voices — whether they're your own or someone else's — and use them to grow instead of shrink. The Gratitude Hack: Bet you didn't know gratitude could turbocharge your self-esteem, did you? Let's tap into that. This isn't about becoming someone else — it's about reconnecting with you and owning your brilliance. No one's got time for fake transformations. We're doing the real deal, simple and effective. Sound good? Right then — let's dive in and make it happen. Listen now and start moving towards that unshakable you. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/432-unshakeable-you-re-building-low-self-esteem-part-2 Shine Brightly

Unshakeable You -Re-Building Self-Esteem Part 1 In this eye-opening episode, we're taking a good, hard look at self-esteem and the journey towards discovering your true worth. I'm your host, Paul Clough, and together we'll uncover what self-esteem really means and the far-reaching effects that low self-esteem can have on our lives. We'll dive into the dangers of low self-esteem, like the constant search for external validation and the crippling negative self-talk that often comes along for the ride. I'll also share a personal experience where my own self-esteem was put to the test, and how I managed to rebuild my confidence and find true self-acceptance. This episode is all about helping you reflect on your own moments of confidence and recognise the power of acknowledging your achievements, no matter how small. It's time to understand that you are worthy, even if you've forgotten it for a while. We'll be packing this episode with real insights and a bit of encouragement to remind you that you've got everything you need within you. It's about taking those small steps towards reigniting your inner flame and fully embracing who you are. And don't miss part two, where we'll dive even deeper into actionable steps to help you tap into your core self-esteem and make that inner light shine brighter than ever Please as always share and subscribe https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/432-unshakeable-you-rebuilding-self-esteem-part-1 Shine Brightly

Stopping Things Going Wrong Inspired by the podcast Modern Wisdom and an interview with Tony Robbins We've got something in our day we really want to go well and we usually see it going wrong, get anxious and then it goes wrong just as you imagined. So let's change that by 'pre-framing' and imagine - 'How I would like it to be?' and using the same as above, get excited and curious, and have it just as you imagined. A 5-minute quickie reminder because we all need reminding. Please share https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-483-stopping-things-going-wrong And the video is here:  https://youtu.be/YRvQrNfKCTI Shine Brightly

Taming the Mind: Tools to Stop Worrying Hey there, friend! Do you ever feel like your mind is constantly racing with worries you can't quiet? Well, in this episode of the Personal Development Unplugged Podcast, we're going to take on that noisy “monkey mind” and discover how to transform those endless worries into clarity and peace. I'm going to walk you through what's really going on when that chatter takes over. We'll dig into why worry shows up in the first place and how you can acknowledge it without letting it control you. By the end of this episode, you'll have some super practical tools to break free from overthinking and start creating a mindset that's both calmer and more confident. Picture this: waking up tomorrow with a peaceful mind, ready to take on the day with ease. Sound good? Together, we'll explore how to make that a reality. I'll share simple but powerful techniques like practising gratitude and writing down your worries to help you regain control and move past the cycle of anxious thinking. Anxiety doesn't have to run the show. It's time to shift your perspective, break old patterns, and start finding healthier ways to navigate those swirling thoughts. This episode is packed with helpful insights and exercises to help you reconnect with your best self and truly enjoy the journey ahead. Ready to tame your mind? Let's dive in! I'd love to hear your thoughts—share what you learn and this episode with others https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/431-taming-the-mind-from-anxiety-and-worry Shine Brightly

10 Minutes To Freedom From????? This is 5 minutes to ask you a question I know the answer to. The thing is, you know the answer and don't realise how important it is to do it, as it will change what you achieve every day. "BIG call Cloughie" Yup! Come with me for 5 minutes and begin to shine Then take 30 seconds to share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-482-10-minutes-to-freedom/ Shine Brightly

Hypnosis The 3 Foundations Of Self-Development Following on from the longer episode of the same name I decided to create a deep hypnosis track to assist in the commitment to creating the best version of you, building on these 3 foundations. PLEASE REMEMBER this is hypnosis so have nothing that needs your attention for the next 20 minutes or so. This is your time to devote solely to you. This will also be put on the dedicated hypnosis and process page of my website - paulcloughonline.com/podcast where you find some 70 tracks of hypnosis and NLP processes all with my compliments. I'd go into more detail but it does what it says on the can  :O) Please enjoy and share Shine Brightly

The 3 Foundations of Self-Development and Change Three Pillars for Good Mental Health Or you could say Building the Best Version of You   Hey, my unplugged friends! Welcome back to another episode of the Personal Development Unplugged Podcast. Today, we're diving into the core of personal change work—the foundation that supports all your efforts to become the best version of yourself. Forget the complicated stuff; we're keeping it simple with three essential elements: sleep, food, and movement. These are the pillars that hold up your mental health and overall well-being. Whether you're dealing with anxiety, depression, or just looking to improve your life, getting these basics right is crucial. They're interconnected, and you can't focus on one without considering the others. What We'll Cover Here's what we'll explore in this episode: Sleep: Discover why a consistent sleep routine is vital and how small changes can make a big difference. Food: Learn how to fuel your body with the right nutrients and why hydration is key. Movement: Understand the importance of regular exercise and how it benefits your mind and body. These aren't just tips; they're actionable steps you can take today. No more excuses about time, energy, or resources. It's all about making small, sustainable changes that add up over time. Remember, I'm not a doctor or a nutritionist—just someone who's passionate about personal development and knows what works. So, let's get started on building a strong foundation for your mental health and personal growth. If you find this episode helpful, please share it with someone who might benefit. And don't forget to subscribe for more insights and practical advice. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/430-the-3-foundations-of-self-development Take care, shine brightly, and I'll see you on the other side. Shine Brightly

Acting As If - Is Weird Some think Acting as If is like faking it until you make it and that's so far from the truth. Acting as if is part of modelling other people's skills and is also the 5th Key of the 5 keys to success. Remembering that any changes in your physiology create changes in your emotions and the pictures in your mind that create your behaviours. It's a 5-minute quickie so buckle up and be ready to muse. Please share this episode and what you have learned https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-481-acting-as-if-is-weird/ and the video is here https://youtu.be/iSr3N-apSDw Shine Brightly

When Anxiety Whispers Or Listening to the Whisper of Anxiety Transform Fear into Insight Hey, my unplugged friends! Have you ever felt anxiety creeping in, like a whisper that grows louder until it's hard to ignore? If you've been there (and let's be honest, who hasn't?), this episode is for you. Today, we're turning the tables on anxiety, exploring how those whispers might actually be signals for change. What if anxiety isn't just random? What if it's your unconscious mind's way of keeping you safe and nudging you toward growth? Together, we're going to discover how to really listen to those whispers without letting them take over. Here's What You'll Learn Today: The Hidden Message of Anxiety Anxiety isn't just noise—it's your unconscious mind trying to send you a message. Let's uncover the positive intentions behind it. Breaking the Cycle Stop running from anxiety. With simple techniques like pausing, breathing, and acknowledging it, we'll learn how to face it head-on. Curiosity as a Superpower By staying curious, we can decode what our anxiety is trying to tell us, turning fear into actionable insights. Empowerment Through Awareness When we listen to these whispers, we can learn from past experiences, break unhelpful patterns, and align with what truly matters. This episode is all about shifting your perspective. Instead of dreading anxiety, let's celebrate it as a sign that you're ready to grow and learn. Yes, it might feel uncomfortable, but those whispers? They're here to guide you. Ready to transform anxiety into insight? Let's dive in together. Tune in, and if this episode resonates with you, please share it with someone who might need a little encouragement today. Let's spread the word and help more people on their journey of personal development! Listen now: When Anxiety Whispers Until next time—stay curious and shine brightly, Paul Shine Brightly

The Antidote To Negative Comments Yo My Friend! Nit Pickers! Nothing is right for them and they bring you down. This works for our biggest critic - US - YOU!!!!!!! But do you have to be brought down - absolutely not! Come with me for 5 minutes and we'll muse on ways to see the world differently when you take control.   Please share  https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-480-the-antidote-to-negative-comments And the video of this recording is here: https://youtu.be/0zKd9CdSTTA   Shine Brightly

New Year Resolution What A Dick I Was I'm Rethinking Resolutions – From Dickishness to Empowerment Hey, welcome back to the Personal Development Unplugged Podcast – your space to dive into the real stuff that makes life better. In today's episode, we're shaking things up and rethinking New Year's resolutions. Ever feel like you're being a total “dick” for ranting against the whole New Year's resolution thing? I know I have, and guess what – I'm here to apologize for it. I've always felt resolutions should be something we set any day of the year, not just on New Year's Eve. But hey, who am I to decide? For many, that quiet time between Christmas and New Year is the perfect chance to reflect and set goals. So let's embrace it! Now, here's the deal: Instead of falling into the trap of vague and painful resolutions (you know, stuff like “lose weight” or “quit bad habits”), how about we focus on the joy of change? Let's turn those “shoulds” into “wows” and set resolutions that excite us. How? By making them personal – focusing on what truly matters to you, not what everyone else thinks. Here's a quick exercise: Grab a notebook and jot down three things you'd like to change about yourself – physically, emotionally, or behaviorally. Now, take about ten minutes and brainstorm anything else you'd like to change or improve. Let your imagination run wild! When you're done, see if any of these new ideas replace the initial three you wrote down. Next, pick the one change that would make the biggest difference in your life. Ask yourself: What would this change allow me to do? How would it transform my life? What beliefs would support this change? Write those down and let yourself feel the excitement! Now comes the best part: What's the smallest step you can take toward this change? And, most importantly, schedule it. Small, consistent steps are what lead to the big transformations. Please share what you learn: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/428-new-year-resolution-what-a-dick-i-was And don't worry – I'm here to help. If you need any support or have questions, reach out to me anytime at feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com. Let's make these resolutions stick – and let's make changes that really matter. Together, we can make the world a brighter place, one small step at a time. Subscribe, share, and keep growing. Shine Brightly

Learning From a Wiser You I bet you would like to think a the older version of you would be a lot wiser than you are now, with all that experience and learning. What would happen what would you learn if you could connect to that wiser you What would they share with you Let's go inside and make that connection in this 5-minute Quickie episode. Ask and simply listen :O) This may seem a little weird (weird is good by the way) but let's do it anyway. Please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-479-learning-from-a-wiser-you/     And the video https://youtu.be/Gj0LmgZqSn Shine Brightly

Letting Go of Anxiety and Loneliness -The Deeper Dive Breaking the Cycle of Anxiety and Loneliness Transforming Isolation into Connection Hey there, my unplugged friends! Welcome back to another episode of the Personal Development Unplugged Podcast—the place where we keep things real, relatable, and ridiculously helpful. Today, we're tackling, again but deeper, what so many of us experience: the sneaky, self-reinforcing loop of anxiety and loneliness. You know the one—it starts with feeling anxious, which leads to withdrawal, which leads to loneliness... and before you know it, you're caught in a cycle that's hard to escape. But don't worry, we're diving deep into how to break free and rediscover connection. What We'll Chat About Today Previously, we explored some practical tips like sending a simple text or making small, meaningful connections in your day-to-day life. These are brilliant starting points, but what if they don't quite hit the mark? That's where the deeper work begins. In this episode, we'll uncover how your unconscious mind might actually be keeping these feelings of anxiety and loneliness around for a reason. Yep, your unconscious is trying to help you—just in an outdated, unhelpful way. Here's the thing: anxiety and loneliness often stem from old patterns that were created to protect you in the past. We'll ask powerful questions like: What is this anxiety or loneliness trying to protect me from? Where did these feelings first come from? By understanding the positive intention behind these emotions, you can guide your unconscious mind to let go of what doesn't serve you anymore and replace it with something that does. Practical Steps for Transformation I'll share simple but powerful exercises, like jotting down your qualities and strengths or visualizing the version of you that you're ready to step into. These tools help you tap into the wisdom and resilience you already have inside. And hey, if this feels overwhelming, don't go it alone. A skilled therapist can be an incredible guide in this process, helping you uncover the root cause of what's holding you back. Let's Make a Change Together So, are you ready to unplug from anxiety and loneliness? Let's turn these challenges into an opportunity to grow, connect, and shine even brighter. Subscribe, press play, and share this journey with someone who needs it. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/427-letting-go-of-anxiety-and-loneliness-the-deeper-dive Shine Brightly

Let's Push Negative Emotions Away - No! Ever had a sad feeling for no reason? or simply down? or even a feeling that just doesn't feel good and you don't know why? Yeah, Me too. And the first thing we try to do is push it away and it doesn't and usually gets a little more stronger, more intense. Why is that? And What can we do to make it disappear? Follow me by pressing play and I'll share with you my thoughts and ways to help and counterintuitively (which seems t0 always work) it's NOT by pushing it away, down or in any other direction.    :O) Please share so others may learn as well as you do https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-478-lets-push-negative-emotions-away-no Shine Brightly

The Cycle Of Anxiety And Loneliness and How To Break It Breaking Free from Anxiety and Loneliness Simple Steps to Reconnect and Feel Whole Again Have you ever felt like anxiety and loneliness are teaming up against you? Like one just makes the other worse, and you're stuck in this cycle? Don't worry—you're not alone. In this episode, we're unpacking how these two sneaky emotions work together and, more importantly, how you can break the cycle. Think of this as a friendly chat with practical tips to help you reconnect with the world around you. We'll look at easy, doable steps to bring a bit more connection and calm into your life. It's not about overhauling everything at once; it's about small steps that make a big difference. Here's what we'll dive into: The Anxiety-Loneliness Loop: Why these feelings are so closely tied and how they can spiral out of control if you're not careful. Simple Wins: Easy ways to start reconnecting—like sending a text, smiling at someone, or chatting with your barista. Finding Your People: How doing things you love can naturally bring you closer to others. The Magic of Intention: How a little intention and a bit of action can open the door to meaningful change. This isn't just talk—this episode is packed with practical stuff you can try today. Whether you're feeling a little off or stuck in a tough spot, these steps can help you find your way back to connection, calm, and maybe even a little joy. The first step? Just listen in. Sometimes, that's all it takes to get things moving in the right direction. Oh, and if you know someone who could use this right now, feel free to share—it might just be the nudge they need. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/426-the-cycle-of-anxiety-and-loneliness-and-how-to-break-it Take care, shine brightly, and I'll see you on the other side. Warm wishes, Paul   Shine Brightly

A Simple Way to Find Your Purpose Why make things so complicated when a simple way can be found. If you're struggling with this it's time to look back at times when you were in the flow and then use the essence of what you were doing in a special way. Vague again Cloughie - Yup! Because it's a podcast and you have to listen (or this would be a blog and it's not) and for once it really is a 5-minute quickie Please share your thoughts on this and the podcast to those of a similar mind https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-477-a-simple-way-to-find-your-purpose and the video of this is here: https://youtu.be/daEFJfdm99c Shine Brightly

Anxiety - Friend Or Foe Turning Anxiety Into Your Superpower  :O) Hello, my friend! Welcome back to the Personal Development Unplugged Podcast, where we strip away the fluff and get real about the things that matter most. Today, we're tackling something we've all felt—anxiety. But here's the twist: we're not here to fight it. We're here to flip it. Now, you might think of anxiety as this annoying, persistent foe, always getting in the way of your calm. But what if we've been looking at it all wrong? What if anxiety could actually be an ally—a messenger, even a bit of a guide? Stick with me, and I'll show you how to stop running from anxiety and start working with it. Here's the thing: anxiety's been part of the human experience for thousands of years. Back in caveman times, it helped us stay alive. Today? It's still trying to protect us, even if it sometimes comes off like an overzealous bodyguard who jumps at shadows. But what if you could take that energy and use it to fuel something amazing? We'll talk about how to spot when anxiety's being helpful versus when it's just getting in your way. And I'll share practical tools—simple techniques—to calm that overbearing voice and turn its energy into curiosity, focus, or even excitement. Whether it's work stress, social nerves, or just that daily hum of unease, I'm going to help you see anxiety for what it really is: a signal. A signal from your unconscious mind that something needs attention. Once we know that, we can redirect it—turn it into a stepping stone for growth, confidence, and momentum. So let's unplug from the chaos, tune into your true potential, and work together to transform anxiety into a superpower that helps you create the life you want. Let's get started. Subscribe - Press play - and share https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/425-anxiety-friend-or-foe/ Shine Brightly