Fostering Conversations with Utah Foster Care

This week on Fostering Conversations, Amy and Heidi sit down with Rachel Garrett, Utah foster parent and founder of Common Thread, a nonprofit serving teens ages 12–18 who've experienced foster care or similar life circumstances. Rachel shares how a small community event grew into a thriving organization that now supports hundreds of teens through joy-filled activities, life skills workshops, mental health resources, and trauma-informed mentorship. We talk about the real-life experiences of teens impacted by foster care, the importance of giving them choice and dignity, and how Common Thread is creating safe spaces where teens can thrive. You'll hear about the stigmas foster families still face, why trauma-informed language matters, and how you can help create lasting change—especially for LGBTQ+ youth in care. Whether you’re a foster parent, youth advocate, or just curious about how to better support teens, this episode is full of heart, hope, and honest conversation. What you'll hear in this episode: Why Rachel founded Common Thread and how it grew What trauma-informed support actually looks like for teens The power of giving teens agency and respecting their identity Common myths and stigmas about teens in foster care How Common Thread fosters inclusive spaces, especially for LGBTQ+ youth Real stories of resilience, growth, and love Resources & Links: Learn more: commonthreadut.com Follow Common Thread on Instagram Get involved with Utah Foster Care: Get Involved Guest Bio: Rachel is a dedicated professional with over a decade of experience working with Utah teens both personally and professionally. As a licensed foster parent, trauma educator with Trauma-Informed Utah, certified Court Appointed Special Advocate (CASA), and former high school teacher, she has gained extensive experience working with youth in Utah. Rachel is the Founder and Executive Director of Common Thread, a nonprofit organization focused on helping teens impacted by foster care and other adverse experiences. Rachel holds a Master's degree in Psychology with a specialization in Child and Adolescent Development. Her thesis explored the effects of trauma on brain function and behavior. With a passion for integrating the latest trauma research into practice, Rachel is committed to fostering healing and connection and building more resources for young people in Utah. Transcript: transcript_ep59_may25

In this heartfelt episode of Fostering Conversations, host Amy Smith is joined by guest co-host Jennie Shepherd, Director of Recruitment, as they welcome Celeste Edmonds—Executive Director of The Christmas Box International and author of Garbage Bag Girl. Celeste shares her inspiring journey from growing up in foster care to leading an organization that supports children in need. She opens up about the impact of The Christmas Box House, the importance of keeping siblings together, and how small acts of kindness—like a stuffed animal or a brand-new duffle bag—can change a child's life. We also dive into the realities of foster care, the emotional challenges children face, and how anyone can make a difference. Whether you’re a foster parent, an advocate, or someone looking to give back, this episode will leave you inspired and ready to take action! Topics Covered: Celeste's personal foster care story & the origins of The Christmas Box House How The Christmas Box House supports children entering care The importance of keeping siblings together in foster care Small but powerful ways to make foster children feel seen & valued How YOU can get involved and make a difference Resources & Links: Garbage Bag Girl by Celeste Edmonds – Available on Amazon Learn more about The Christmas Box International – thechristmasbox.org Get involved with Utah Foster Care – utahfostercare.org Guest Bio: Christmas Box House Executive Director Celeste Edmunds understands what the children she serves at The Christmas Box Houses are going through. She went through it herself. Her biological parents were addicts, and her childhood was an ongoing cycle of police calls, fighting, and physical, sexual, and mental abuse. At age 7, Celeste was taken from her home and placed into a child welfare system, where moving every few months to a new environment became normal. By age sixteen, she had lived in more than 30 cities. Celeste views her childhood as a difficult but essential growing experience. There were terrible things, but there were also caring people along the way who did what they could to protect and nurture her. She was author Richard Paul Evans' assistant when he founded The Christmas Box International. She quickly became an integral part of its creation, helping to build and refine the original shelters for a decade before taking a new position in Corporate America. Working in the corporate world gave her valuable knowledge of a different kind, with experience in marketing (receiving Marketer of the Year by Utah Business Magazine), public relations, community giving, and team management. Combining her nonprofit and corporate experience, Celeste is uniquely fit to guide The Christmas Box International. Celeste is passionate about making a difference in the lives of youth and the child welfare system so that others may not have to go through the same experiences she had. The Christmas Box International celebrates 29 years of defending more than 170,000 children. That is enough to fill Madison Square Garden more than eight and a half times. Celeste believes that The Christmas Box International is more than a place–it is a concept where community, government, and nonprofits come together to bring the resources to children that they need. As a child who grew up in the system, Celeste understands the importance of providing these youth the opportunity for a better life by providing them with safety, dignity, and hope. Her goal is to give these beautiful children everything she wished for as a child, including hope for a better future. Celeste released her book last fall titled Garbage Bag Girl. She hopes to bring more awareness to the issues that face children in the child welfare system and help them know that they deserve a childhood and are worthy of safety and love. Transcript: ep58_apr25_transcript

In this episode of Fostering Conversations, we welcome Laura, the force behind the popular Instagram account @FosterParenting! Laura shares her journey into foster care, from a spark of interest as a teenager to becoming a foster parent and content creator. We discuss the realities of foster parenting, the importance of trauma-informed care, and the many ways people can support the foster care system—even if they're not ready to foster themselves. This episode is also a bittersweet one, as we say farewell (but not goodbye!) to our longtime co-host Liz Rivera. She reflects on her time with the podcast and the exciting direction Fostering Conversations is heading with Amy at the helm. What We Cover in This Episode: How Laura got started in foster care and why she began creating content Common misconceptions about fostering and why awareness matter The decline in foster parents nationwide—and what we can do about it Different ways to get involved beyond fostering (respite care, mentoring, CASA, etc.) Trauma-informed parenting tips and the best resources for foster families The power of community and why support groups are essential Resources Mentioned: A-Z of Therapeutic Parenting by Sarah Naish Foster Parent College ([check with your agency for coverage]) Utah Foster Care Join the Conversation! If you loved this episode, be sure to follow Laura on Instagram at @Foster.Parenting for more insights and real-life experiences from the foster care world. Don't forget to subscribe! Guest Bio: Laura is a social media creator and advocate who draws from her experiences as a therapeutic foster parent. She supports and empowers new foster parents as they navigate getting licensed and being new foster parents. Through her videos, she provides practical advice, consideration about trauma-informed care, and relatable stories to help others navigate the complexities of foster care. Laura's mission is to raise awareness, advocate for children in care, and inspire foster parents to feel confident and prepared in their journey. Links: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@foster.parenting Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/foster.parenting/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@fosterparenting Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Foster.Parent.Partner Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/c/Fosterparenting Download Transcript

Episode Summary: In this episode of Fostering Conversations, hosts Amy Smith and Liz Rivera sit down with Angela Tucker, adoptee advocate, mentor, and founder of the Adoptee Mentorship Program. Angela shares her journey from being adopted out of foster care to building a global community for adoptees to connect, heal, and grow. They discuss: Angela's experience growing up in a multiracial family. The challenges of identity and belonging in adoption. How the Adoptee Mentorship Program is creating spaces for adoptees to connect and find support. The power of storytelling and mentorship in navigating adoption experiences. Practical tips for adoptive parents to support their children better. Angela also offers valuable insights into racial identity in transracial adoption and the importance of building inclusive family networks. Whether you’re an adoptee, an adoptive parent, or just curious about the adoptee experience, this conversation is a must-listen. Resources Mentioned: Angela Tucker’s website: AngelaTucker.com Follow Angela on Instagram: @AngieAdoptee Watch the documentary Closure on Angela's website. Read Angela’s book “You should be Grateful: Stories of Race, Identity, and Transracial Adoption” Learn about the Adoptee Mentorship Program and Adoptee Remembrance Day. Explore Angela's workshop: “Cultivating an Anti-Racist Family Network for Transracial Caregivers.” Memorable Quotes: “There's something healing about talking to someone who just gets it.” – Angela Tucker “We don't just mentor kids. Adoptees at any age need spaces of belonging.” – Angela Tucker “Love is already there, but behaviors show you understand who we are.” – Angela Tucker Angela Tucker Bio~ Angela Tucker is a Black transracial adoptee. She is the author of “You Should Be Grateful:” Stories of Race, Identity and Transracial Adoption. Her book was published in April 2023 by Beacon Press. Angela’s search for her biological family is featured in the documentary CLOSURE which premiered on Netflix in 2015. In 2022, Angela founded the non-profit, the Adoptee Mentoring Society to provide virtual mentorship for adoptees world-wide. With 15 years in child welfare, she has appeared on CNN, The Red Table Talk, The New Yorker, and more, advocating for adoptees. Angela lives in Seattle with her Emmy-award-winning spouse, Bryan Tucker. Ep 56 transcript

Episode Summary: In this powerful episode of Fostering Conversations, host Amy and co-host Liz Rivera welcome Daniela, founder of With Siblings. Daniela shares her unique perspective as a former biological child (“bio kid”) in a foster family and now as a foster/adoptive parent, social worker, and therapist. Together, they dive into the complex dynamics of supporting bio kids in foster and adoptive families, exploring their experiences, emotions, and needs. Topics Covered: Daniela’s journey growing up as a bio kid in a fostering family and how it shaped her professional path and personal life. The importance of giving bio kids a voice in fostering and adoption decisions. The challenges bio kids face, from feelings of being replaced to adapting to shifting family dynamics. Insights on fostering strong sibling relationships and managing grief and loss within the family. The significance of balancing bio kids’ needs with those of children in care. How parents and professionals can better support bio kids using tools, training, and open communication. Daniela’s resources, including her trainings, worksheets, and her book, The Day Lily Turned Uninvisible, inspired by real bio kid experiences. Key Takeaways: All Kids Matter: Supporting children in foster care is essential, but bio kids also face unique challenges and deserve attention, empathy, and resources. Open Communication: Parents should involve bio kids in decisions and validate their feelings to foster a sense of inclusion and understanding. Realistic Expectations: Foster parenting is hard but rewarding. Embrace the challenges with knowledge, tools, and the shared experiences of others. Educational Resources: Daniela's work fills a crucial gap in the foster care space, providing actionable insights and support for both families and professionals. Connect with Daniela: Website: WithSiblings.org Instagram: @WithSiblings Explore her book: The Day Lily Turned Uninvisible and other free resources on her site. Special Thanks: Thank you to Daniela for her candid and invaluable insights and for the incredible training and resources she provides for Utah Foster Care and families everywhere. Stay Connected: For more episodes, visit Utah Foster Care. Don't forget to follow us on social media and subscribe to Fostering Conversations wherever you get your podcasts! Guest Bio “Daniela is the founder of With Siblings, an organization that exists to support the birth children in foster and adoptive families by equipping parents and professionals through training and resources.  Daniela is a self-identified birth kid. Her parents fostered when she was a child, and eventually adopted her youngest sibling. Having grown up in a home that fostered and adopted, Daniela was a temporary sibling to many children. Now, Daniela and her husband have children by both birth and adoption.  While Daniela has a variety of experience in social work contexts, she has spent most of her career working in foster care and adoption. Daniela Coats is a Licensed Master Social Worker in the state of Texas. She is currently a therapist under supervision at Be Still Counseling and Consulting in Texas.  She has contributed to professional writings on the subject, and is the author of The Day Lily Turned (un)Invisible, a children’s book written specifically for biological kids in foster families.” Transcript

Episode Summary: In this episode of Fostering Conversations, Amy and Liz are joined by Peter Mutabazi, also known as “Foster Dad Flipper” on Instagram. Peter shares his inspiring journey from being a street child in Uganda to becoming a foster parent in the United States. Over the past nine years, Peter has fostered 45 children, adopted three, and is currently fostering three more. He discusses the joys and challenges of being a single foster dad, the importance of community support, and how his experiences have shaped his approach to co-parenting with biological families. Peter also highlights his foundation, Now I Am Known, which creates personalized room makeovers for teenagers in foster care, giving them a sense of belonging and ownership. Throughout the conversation, Peter emphasizes the value of empathy, the power of community, and the many ways people can support foster families, even if they aren't fostering themselves. Tune in to be inspired by Peter's story and his commitment to making a difference in the lives of children and families. Guest Bio: Peter Mutabazi is the founder of Now I Am Known, an organization that supplies resources to support vulnerable children. Originally from Uganda, Peter ran away from an abusive home at age ten and lived as a street kid for nearly five years. Today Peter is a single dad to countless foster children and his adopted son, Anthony. For the past twenty years Peter has worked as a child advocate within the U.S. and globally to promote wellness and child development. He believes every child deserves to be seen, heard, and known. Peter has appeared on international media outlets and is a passionate speaker who resides in North Carolina. For more information visit: www.nowiamknown.com and follow Peter @fosterdadflipper Transcript

*This episode was originally aired in December 2020 Episode Summary Fostering Conversations with Utah Foster Care delves into the unique challenges foster families face during the holiday season. Hosts Deborah Lindner and Liz Rivera are joined by Dan Kammerlohr and Hope Nichols, counselors from Hope and Healing Counseling, to explore strategies for navigating the season’s complexities. The episode highlights the emotional dynamics for children in foster care, including grief, excitement, and stress that may arise from being separated from biological families or adapting to new traditions. The guests discuss practical approaches for managing expectations, setting boundaries, and helping children regulate their emotions. They also touch on the added impact of the COVID-19 pandemic, which has reshaped how families celebrate together. Key takeaways include the importance of lowering expectations to reduce stress, preparing children for changes in routines, and acknowledging their unique holiday experiences. Listeners are encouraged to incorporate traditions from the children's biological families, fostering a sense of connection and respect for their past. This episode offers a thoughtful guide for foster families aiming to create a holiday season filled with healing and hope, despite the inevitable challenges. Hope and Healing Family Counseling Tips for Enjoying the Holidays To Learn More about Becoming a Foster Parent in Utah ep53_nov24_transcript

In this episode of Fostering Conversations, hosts Deborah Lindner and Liz Rivera sit down with 15-year-old Freedom, a foster youth with a remarkable story of resilience, hope, and self-discovery. Freedom opens up about her experiences growing up in the foster care system, finding her forever family, and the challenges of fitting in as the only Black person in her adoptive family. Highlights: Freedom’s Background: Born in Montana, Freedom shares her journey into foster care alongside her brother due to her mother's struggles with addiction. Placed with multiple families before finding her adoptive parents in Utah, she describes how finding the right family made all the difference. Life as a Teen in Foster Care: Freedom discusses the challenges of navigating adolescence as a foster youth, touching on themes of identity, belonging, and her ongoing struggle with self-confidence. Powerful Metaphor of the Puzzle: Freedom beautifully describes her life as a puzzle with missing pieces, symbolizing her fragmented memories and the journey of piecing together her identity. Representation and Advocacy: Recently named a youth representative for Utah Foster Care, Freedom talks about her desire to be a voice for foster youth, encouraging them to seek support and to not feel alone in their experiences. The Importance of Asking for Help: Freedom emphasizes the significance of reaching out for help, even when it feels difficult, reminding listeners that everyone deserves to be supported. Extracurricular Activities: From her involvement in marching band to her modeling debut in Impact Magazine, Freedom shares how these experiences have helped her build community, confidence, and a sense of purpose. Key Takeaways: Teens in foster care often face unique challenges and can benefit from supportive families who understand the importance of stability and connection. Asking for help is a sign of strength, and foster youth deserve to feel seen, understood, and empowered. Foster parenting isn't about being perfect—it's about being willing to learn, adapt, and provide a safe and loving environment. Resources Mentioned: For those interested in learning more about foster care or becoming a foster parent, visit utahfostercare.org. Tune in to hear Freedom's inspiring story and how she's paving the way for other foster youth to find their voice and shape their future! Read Impact Magazine’s article here Episode Transcript To Learn More about Becoming a Foster Parent

In this episode of *Fostering Conversations*, hosts Deborah Lindner and Liz Rivera introduce a new initiative within Utah Foster Care: Care Communities. The program, a two-year pilot spearheaded by First Lady Abby Cox, aims to provide foster families with support teams comprised of community members, businesses, and religious organizations. The discussion highlights the unique challenges foster parents face, including the emotional and logistical complexities of raising children who have experienced trauma. As Tami Carson, Director of Care Communities, explains, foster parents often need extra support in managing everyday tasks, from carpools to handling difficult behaviors. The Care Communities program addresses this by forming teams of eight to ten people to provide practical and emotional support for foster families. These teams help with a wide variety of tasks, from babysitting to running errands, which helps foster parents focus on their children’s needs. Tami emphasizes that this program is more than just volunteerism; it is about forming lasting connections between foster families and their communities. The initiative began with participation from several religious organizations and businesses, but Utah Foster Care is looking to expand its reach by recruiting more community and business partners across the state. Carson notes that while many similar programs are faith-based, Utah's version seeks to involve businesses and secular organizations as well, to ensure diversity and wider support for foster families. The hosts also discuss the impact of the program on foster families. Tami shares several stories from the pilot phase, illustrating how Care Communities have made a difference in the lives of foster children and parents. For example, a care team helped a foster teen in a rural area build social skills by teaching him to play guitar and taking him on outings. Another team supported a single foster mother by helping her organize her home and providing practical assistance, such as grocery shopping and running errands. A key point of the conversation is the importance of retaining foster families, as many leave after only one year due to burnout. Care Communities aims to provide the consistent support needed to keep experienced families in the system longer. Liz notes that one foster parent shared how the program allowed her to move out of “survival mode” and focus on thriving as a family. The hosts encourage listeners to get involved by reaching out to their employers, faith communities, or social groups to form care teams. They emphasize that the program is still in its pilot phase, but they are optimistic about its potential to grow and help foster families across Utah. In closing, Tami reminds foster parents that while not everyone can participate in Care Communities yet, there are still resources and support available through Utah Foster Care. The episode wraps up with a reminder to visit Utah Foster Care for more information about becoming a foster parent or joining a care team. See more about Utah’s First Lady’s Show Up Initiative View Transcript

During a typical school day, our children can spend as much time in class as they do at home, which makes success at school all the more important. Tyler Bastian is director at Utah's first farm-based charter high school and McKay Esplin is an LCSW and Utah Foster Care trainer. In our latest episode, they offer insight on how parents and students can build and foster positive school relationships. For more information: Roots High Charter School Volunteer Opportunities at Utah Foster Care Fostering School Success ~ Upcoming Training Want to Learn More about Fostering? 

What began as a bold experiment in Utah now celebrates 25 years of nurturing families and transforming lives. As we reflect on a quarter-century of dedicated service in foster care, we take a moment to appreciate the profound impact that Utah Foster Care has had on countless children, families, and communities Building on Bold Beginnings Twenty-five years ago, a visionary idea took root in Utah—to create an organization solely focused on recruiting, training, and supporting foster families. Through the leadership of Governor Mike Leavitt and partnerships with community and state agencies, Utah Foster Care emerged as a unique entity dedicated to serving the needs of foster children and the families who care for them. Commitment to Children First At the heart of Utah Foster Care's mission is an unwavering commitment to putting children's needs first. As shared by Brian Young, a regional trainer, the primary goal is to ensure that every child in foster care feels safe, understood, and supported. Brian’s moving recollection of a time when the reality of a child's loss deeply resonated with him emphasizes the importance of empathy and awareness in foster care. Supporting Foster Families The organization’s success also lies in its continuous support for foster families. Debra Lindner and Liz Rivera, co-hosts of the podcast, illustrate how Utah Foster Care goes beyond initial training by maintaining long-term relationships with foster parents. This ongoing support helps equip families with the skills needed to provide nurturing and stable environments for children who have experienced trauma. Recognizing and Addressing Challenges Utah Foster Care has always been proactive in addressing systemic challenges. From embracing cultural diversity to implementing inclusive practices, the organization has made significant strides. Mike, a clinical consultant, and Les, a trainer, discussed efforts to understand and honor the cultural backgrounds of children in care, particularly those from Native American and Latino communities. The Evolution of Training and Understanding In the early years, foster training was more behavior-focused. Over time, it has evolved into a trauma-informed approach grounded in brain science. Understanding the brain's development and the impact of trauma has revolutionized the training provided to foster parents, emphasizing the need for compassion and tailored support. A Vision for the Future Looking ahead, Utah Foster Care aspires to have families waiting for children, not the other way around. The organization remains committed to adapting based on continuous learning and the evolving needs of children and families. The involvement of Governor Cox and First Lady Abby Cox has brought unprecedented attention and resources to the cause, promising even greater progress in the years to come. Conclusion As we commemorate 25 years of Utah Foster Care, we celebrate the resilience of the children, the dedication of foster families, and the passion of the staff. With over 16,000 families trained since 1999, Utah Foster Care stands as a beacon of hope and compassion. For those inspired to join this journey, remember that you don’t need to know everything to become a foster parent—you just need to be willing to learn. To find out more about foster parenting and other ways to get involved, visit utahfostercare.org. 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In this podcast episode, hosts Deborah Linder and Liz Rivera discuss the challenges and support systems for families with LGBTQ children, particularly focusing on the organization Mama Dragons. The episode begins with a brief introduction and proceeds to explore how Mama Dragons evolved from a small group of mothers to a significant support network. Special guest Jen Blair, host of the Mama Dragons podcast 'In the Den,' shares insights about reassuring parents when their child comes out and the importance of creating an inclusive and supportive environment at home. Jen emphasizes the unique challenges faced by LGBTQ youth in foster care, noting that they are overrepresented in the system and often face higher risks of self-harm and mental health issues. The discussion highlights the crucial role of mothers in protecting and advocating for their LGBTQ children, especially in conservative or religious communities where acceptance might be more challenging. Throughout the episode, various strategies for fostering a supportive environment are discussed, including the importance of educating parents, building a community of allies, and promoting positive dialogues about LGBTQ role models. Jen also underscores the significance of religious and community support, and how organizations like Mama Dragons and the Family Acceptance Project help families navigate these complexities. The conversation covers the benefits of proactive parenting and the necessity of providing LGBTQ youth with mentors and role models. Finally, the episode touches on the importance of Pride Month as a celebration of LGBTQ identity and the value of pride events for visibility and acceptance. The hosts encourage anyone, regardless of their current understanding, to seek education and join the support networks available. The episode concludes with a call for more foster parents, especially those who can provide supportive homes for LGBTQ youth. Full Transcript Want to learn more about becoming a Foster Parent? 

The bonus episode titled "Special Hearts" centers around the theme of special needs foster care, spotlighting the experiences and insights of foster parents who have taken on this demanding yet rewarding role. Hosted by Deborah Linder and Liz Rivera, the episode features heartfelt conversations with Amy, a seasoned foster mother from Utah, and Katie Welling, who works with New Alternatives for Children in New York. **Amy's Journey:** Amy, a foster mom with 25 years of experience, shares her journey into fostering, particularly children with special needs. Initially a special education teacher, Amy's professional background naturally transitioned into her role as a foster parent. She has adopted eight out of her ten children and currently cares for a child in foster care. Amy explains that many children enter foster care without a prior diagnosis of special needs, such as ADHD or fetal alcohol spectrum disorder, which often complicates their care. Despite these challenges, Amy emphasizes the profound joy and fulfillment that fostering brings, particularly when children surpass expectations. **Challenges and Rewards:** Amy discusses the common challenges faced in special needs foster care, such as accessing appropriate services and ensuring the children are seen beyond their diagnoses. She stresses the importance of recognizing and appreciating the individuality and potential of each child, rather than getting overwhelmed by their medical or developmental needs. Additionally, Amy highlights the rewarding aspects, recounting her personal story of a son who defied grim medical predictions and thrived, bringing immense joy and inspiration to her life. **Katie's Perspective:** Katie Welling adds her perspective from New York, focusing on the crucial role of community support for foster families. She notes that fostering children with special needs requires a robust support network, which can sometimes be a challenge in densely populated yet disconnected urban areas. Katie advocates for building and leveraging community connections to support foster parents, emphasizing the importance of practical help from friends, family, and neighbors. **Support Systems:** Both Amy and Katie underline the significance of support systems in successful fostering. Amy describes how her local community and family assist in various ways, from household help to emotional support. Katie echoes this, sharing how in New York, fostering agencies work to help families identify and utilize their support networks. This communal involvement is essential for managing the complexities of special needs care. **Parental Empowerment:** Another critical aspect discussed is the empowerment of biological parents. Amy shares her experiences of working alongside the parents of foster children to help them understand and manage their child's needs better. This collaborative approach not only benefits the children but also strengthens family bonds and aids in the reintegration process when children return to their biological families. **Encouragement and Call to Action:** The episode concludes with an encouraging message for potential foster parents. Both Amy and Katie highlight that fostering, especially children with special needs, though challenging, is incredibly rewarding. They call on those with the love and commitment to step forward, assuring them that the necessary support and resources are available. Katie, who has personal experience as an adoptee, underscores the transformative impact that compassionate foster care can have on children's lives. The episode "Special Hearts" thus paints a comprehensive and inspiring picture of special needs foster care, celebrating the dedication of foster parents and the resilience of the children they care for. It serves as both an informative guide and a motivational appeal to those considering embarking on this life-changing journey . Resources: New Alternatives for Children [Website] How Families are Advocating for Children with Disabilities in Foster Care [Article] Medical Home Portal [Website]

Wouldn't it be great to see foster homes waiting for children, rather than children waiting for homes? Unfortunately, Utah is nowhere near having enough homes, especially those to support kids with special needs. This month is National Foster Care Month, and we talk to two leaders in our state's foster care community about our shortage of foster parents in Utah. Check out our Upcoming Events! Episode Summary: This episode of the podcast discusses the decline in the number of foster parents in Utah and the nationwide trend. The conversation highlights the importance of foster care and how the shortage of foster families impacts the system's ability to care for children in need. The Problem: The episode opens with Liz, the show host, mentioning a nationwide trend of a decline in families coming forward to foster children. Tonya, the Director at Utah's Child and Family Services, confirms this trend and adds that the number of foster parents in Utah has been going down since 2022. They discuss the fact that while they expected a decrease at the beginning of the pandemic, the opposite happened. The number of families coming forward to foster actually increased during the first year or two of the pandemic. The Importance of Foster Care: The conversation then shifts to the importance of foster care. Tonya emphasizes that the goal of the Utah Division of Child and Family Services (DCFS) is always to keep children safe, ideally at home with their families. When that's not possible, the focus is on finding a safe and kin-based placement for the child. Kin-based placement refers to placing the child with relatives whenever possible. However, when there are no relatives available, having a sufficient pool of foster families becomes crucial. How You Can Help: Considering becoming a foster parent: Fill out the form below for more information on becoming a foster parent. Volunteering: Check out our volunteer page for upcoming events. Donating to Utah Foster Care: Financial contributions can help support foster families and child welfare organizations. Call to Action: Consider getting involved in foster care, whether that means becoming a foster parent or donating time or money to support the children in care. Episode Transcript Want to learn more about becoming a Foster Parent? 

In this enlightening podcast, Deborah Lindner and Liz Rivera from Utah Foster Care engage in a thought-provoking discussion with Nikki Walker, Director of Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion at Domo. They delve into the essence of diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI) within the foster care system, emphasizing the importance of acknowledging and respecting the cultural backgrounds of children in care. Nikki eloquently explains DEI concepts, advocating for empathy and understanding as essential components of fostering a sense of belonging. Through anecdotes and insights, they underscore the necessity of embracing diversity to create inclusive environments where all individuals feel valued and empowered to thrive. Tips for creating a sense of belonging as a foster parent: Acknowledge and respect cultural diversity: Recognize and honor the cultural backgrounds, traditions, and faiths of children in care. Maintain connections to the child's community: Encourage participation in cultural activities, playgroups, and events relevant to the child's heritage. Educate yourself and your child: Have open conversations about race, identity, and societal perceptions to help children navigate their experiences. Create a sense of belonging: Foster environments where children feel valued, heard, and celebrated for their authentic selves. Build relationships with birth parents: Bridge cultural divides by forming meaningful connections with the families of children in care. Be willing to learn and adapt: Continuously educate yourself on DEI principles and be open to adjusting your approach to meet the needs of diverse children effectively. Want to learn more about becoming a Foster Parent? 

Shifting the Focus. Policies on adoption have often focused on adoptive parents, rather than the well being of adoptees and birth parents. The Open Adoption Project podcast, hosted by Shaunn and Lanette Nelson, adoptive parents from Utah, are back with another crossover episode on Fostering Conversations.  They aim to flood the podcast sphere with adoption-related content, sharing perspectives and opinions to foster learning and understanding. In this featured episode, they highlighted the importance of openness, honesty, and listening to adoptee voices. They urged adoptive parents to get involved in promoting adoptee rights and to hold adoption agencies accountable for their practices. The hosts shared four key tips: Removing shame and secrecy Promoting honesty and open communication Listening to adoptee voices Getting involved in advocating for adoptee rights Utah Foster Care is also excited to have Lanette and Shaun Nelson host a panel of adoptees at our 2024 Annual Symposium April 25th 8:30-4pm, in Park City, Utah.  The public is welcome and can register here. Want to learn more about becoming a Foster Parent? 

Attachment In this podcast episode, hosts Deborah Lindner and Liz Rivera engage in a profound discussion with Dr. Lee Raby, a distinguished expert in attachment research from the University of Utah. The focal point is the critical role attachment plays in the development of children within the foster care system. The conversation kicks off by outlining the distinctions between love and attachment, emphasizing attachment's significance, particularly in foster care environments. Dr. Raby describes attachment as a fundamental instinct, rooted in a child's biological need for care and security. Dr. Raby addresses the complexities of attachment in foster care.  The discussion sheds light on how children, even those exposed to maltreatment, form attachments that may be insecure or disorganized. The signs of insecure attachment, such as resistance to comfort, are explored, providing crucial insights for foster parents. Dr. Raby also delves into the challenges associated with multiple attachments in foster care, emphasizing the emotional toll on children transitioning between caregivers. Foster parents are encouraged to be mindful of their attachment styles and expectations, fostering a nuanced understanding of the child's needs. The hosts touch upon available resources for foster parents, including in-service classes and trauma-informed care programs. Dr. Raby concludes with indispensable advice, and urges foster parents to consistently and appropriately meet a child's attachment needs. This episode serves as a valuable guide for foster parents, highlighting the important role of secure connections in promoting the well-being and resilience of children. Ongoing education is vital.  We invite foster parents to actively engage with available resources for a more informed and compassionate approach. Additional Resources: Circle of Security Trust-Based Relational Intervention (TBRI) The Whole Brain Child (Book) The Connected Child (Book) What Happened to You (Book) Child Trauma Academy Trauma: A Compassion-Driven Approach with Liz Rivera Pre-Service Training Want to learn more about becoming a Foster Parent? 

Curly Me! is a nonprofit that's a resource for Utah families with children of color – specifically black girls between the ages of 5-14 years of age. In this episode, we hear more about “Change the World with Her” and other upcoming events. In 2021, Black chil­dren rep­re­sent­ed 14% of the total child pop­u­la­tion but 22% of all kids in fos­ter care. By com­par­i­son: White kids rep­re­sent 49% of the nation's child pop­u­la­tion and only 43% of its fos­ter care pop­u­la­tion. Although the number of Black children in care has been on the decline for the past two decades, the need for culturally sensitive foster homes remains critical. To learn more about Utah's children in care, visit Utah Foster Care To get involved with Curly Me! Want to learn more about becoming a Foster Parent? 

In this insightful podcast episode, hosts Deborah Lindner and Liz Rivera explore the profound theme of "the gift of presence" with guest Ilse DeKoeyer. Delving into the challenges of staying fully present, especially during the hectic holiday season, the conversation emphasizes the importance of understanding and practicing presence in parenting. Ilse defines presence as the art of balancing complete engagement with a reflective stance, encouraging individuals to immerse themselves in the moment while maintaining self-awareness. Practical tips include setting context, creating connections without relying on eye contact, and embracing mindfulness practices. Ilse Dekoeyer is the Early Relational Health Specialist at United Way of Utah County including Help Me Grow, Adjunct Professor at the University of Utah, and Past President of the Utah Association for Infant Mental Health. Additional Resources: Help Me Grow Utah Hand in Hand Parenting Welcome Baby Utah Association for Infant Mental Health Special Time Want to learn more about becoming a Foster Parent? 

Cadon Riley likes to express his voice through the lens of music. We were honored to have him join us to talk about his new song that he hopes will inspire other young people going through the foster care experience.  Riley is a student at Utah Tech.  He is also a mental health and foster care advocate.  He loves to share his experience, in and out of foster care, especially through singing and performing. Riley has a passion for helping people and creating a space for people to explore their own identities. To listen and support Cadon's song, check out the following platforms: Spotify https://open.spotify.com/album/0uIQ8jlwHnLyXd0dTH4U9W?si=52s2I7qlToma3lPukw_JiA. Apple Music https://music.apple.com/us/album/searching-for-you/1714850917?i=1714850918 YouTube Music https://youtu.be/NTQ_iKV6LgA?si=2XFN2nN4HT48Ia9r Deezer https://deezer.page.link/9Au2XiiJJMYLYyme9 Tidal https://tidal.com/album/326218170 Amazon Music https://music.amazon.com/albums/B0CMCX97LM?ref=dm_sh_LKVhCB17vkNbGGH2aPGMHY8uS Want to learn more about becoming a Foster Parent? 

This month we are airing an episode from the podcast The Open Adoption Project by Lanette and Shaun Nelson. This episode shares the story of two mothers connected initially through their shared love for their children. This episode discusses the challenges of foster care, drug addiction, and maintaining connections...particularly in regard to parenting children in foster and adoption situations. You can listen the Shaun and Lanette's podcast The Open Adoption Project here Learn more about Adoption on our website Want to learn more about becoming a Foster Parent? 

This episode is a re-broadcast of Episode 29. It may surprise you to find out teens in foster care want and need lifelong connections – yet, when it comes to adopting, many families rarely consider older kids and teenagers. As Foster Youth Voice Month continues, our Fostering Conversations podcast examines the obstacles youth who age out of foster care face. Listen to the inspiring stories of youth who beat the odds – and learn the reality about teens in the foster care system. To learn more about Utah's Transition to Adult Living program, click here.  To join Utah's Foster Club click here. Learn more about the 1999 Collective here. Want to learn more about becoming a Foster Parent? 

In this episode, we explore kinship's role in foster care.  September is Kinship Care Awareness month, and The Kinship Coalition says some 20,000 families in Utah are caring for at least one relative child. DCFS Kinship Supervisor Ashley Barton explores what it means to prioritize kin, and how foster parents can support these efforts. Resources for Kinship Caregivers: Utah Foster Care: Kinship Children's Services Society of Utah Grandfamilies Grandparents Academy Generations United Child Welfare League of America Casey Family Programs Annie E Casey Foundation Child Welfare Want to learn more about becoming a Foster Parent? 

During a typical school day, our children can spend as much time in class as they do at home, which makes success at school all the more important. Tyler Bastian is director at Utah's first farm-based charter high school and McKay Esplin is an LCSW and Utah Foster Care trainer. In our latest episode, they offer insight on how parents and students can build and foster positive school relationships. For more information: Roots High Charter School Volunteer Opportunities at Utah Foster Care Want to learn more about becoming a Foster Parent? 

Support systems are crucial for young people who have experienced foster care. The 1999 Collective is a new community in Utah created by two people who have a wealth of knowledge and lived experience to share. Together, Natalie Clark and Alexa Hudson want to make sure young men and women are able to access all the education, housing, and other resources they need. 1999 Collective Services For those who've experienced foster care after age 13, we can: Meet to discuss $ available for college, trade school or other education options (specific to you!) Provide group workshops on post-secondary education Fill out the FAFSA and other applications with you Go with you to state agencies to secure documentation or apply for services Help you write personal statements for scholarships and applications Introduce you to support programs at college Provide monthly events to build community among foster care alumni and allies If you need anything (housing, mental health, etc.), we will try to connect you to resources that can support Contact The 1999 Collective: Phone: 801.876.0029 (Call OR Text!) Email: connect@1999collective.org Instagram & Tik Tok: @1999collectiveUT Want to learn more about becoming a Foster Parent? 

Trigger Warning: This episode contains subjects that may be upsetting to some.  Please use discretion. Every child deserves to grow up in a safe and loving environment, especially those in foster care who have already experienced trauma and displacement. However, queer kids in foster care face unique challenges and are often more vulnerable than their heterosexual and cisgender counterparts. It is essential for us as a society to recognize and address these challenges, and most importantly, to show up for queer kids in foster care by providing them with the support, understanding, and acceptance they need to thrive. Research has shown that LGBTQ kids who have support from caring adults are more likely to succeed academically, have higher self-esteem, and experience lower rates of substance abuse and suicide. By showing up for these children, we can significantly improve their long-term outcomes and set them on a path toward success. Our guest this month, Jonathan Foulk, Co-CEO of the Utah Pride center shares his heartbreaking story of growing up queer in foster care. For more resources: Utah Pride Center Safe Home Pledge Mama Dragons Want to learn more about becoming a Foster Parent? 

First Lady Abby Cox has heard from countless foster families, teens and children about what the state of Utah can do to Show Up for Foster Care. She's been sharing what she's learned with her husband Governor Spencer Cox – and now, they share with us some of their goals for improving the lives of children and families in the coming months. To learn how you can get involved, check out the First Lady's Show Up Initiative or check out the awesome opportunities right here at Utah Foster Care/volunteer. Want to learn more about becoming a Foster Parent? 

In this month's episode we are joined by Community Champion Kristin Andrus. Kristin is the mother of six and part of the powerful team of women at The Policy Project, which seeks to "remove barriers to opportunity through solution-based policy." Kristin shares what she has learned from these youth she has met with around the state. Utah Foster Care's Director of Education, Liz Rivera, shares tips for connecting with and communicating with youth who have experienced trauma. Kristin's work has had an important impact in communities throughout Utah, using her voice and passion to encourage Utah Foster Care's community to show up for foster families and children. She encourages everyone to “help the helpers in whatever capacity they are able. To “help the helpers” and volunteer at Utah Foster Care, click here. More on Kristin and her work with The Policy Project here. Want to learn more about becoming a Foster Parent? 

In Utah, there are around 2,700 children in foster care at any given time and some 1,300 licensed foster/adoptive families. Children in foster care often have special needs due to neglect, abuse or separation. Substance abuse is a contributing factor in many foster care cases. Parenting a child with trauma can be challenging.  Luckily, our understandings of neuroscience gives us hope. In their collaborative book, 'What Happened to You,' Oprah Winfrey and renowned brain and trauma expert Dr. Bruce Perry offer a groundbreaking and profound shift from asking “What's wrong with you?” to “What happened to you?” Our earliest experiences shape our lives far down the road, and What Happened to You? provides powerful scientific and emotional insights into the behavioral patterns so many of us struggle to understand. Here, Winfrey shares stories from her own past, understanding through experience the vulnerability that comes from facing trauma and adversity at a young age. Joining forces with Dr. Perry, one of the world's leading experts on childhood and brain development, Winfrey and Dr. Perry marry the power of storytelling with science to better understand and overcome the effects of our pasts. Other Trauma-Informed Resources: The Child Trauma Academy Dan Siegel Books and Research AdoptUsKids Want to learn more about becoming a Foster Parent? 

Becoming a foster parent takes a great deal of consideration, preparation, and patience faced with uncertainty. Family dynamics change when a new child comes into the home. Families willing to open their hearts and homes to a child in care will need support once they receive that initial call for placement.  While our journey to fostering may look different, we go into it for the same reason: to make a difference in the life of a child. The Mentoring Program pairs seasoned foster families with newly licensed families to help navigate the ins and outs of foster care. Offering support from the beginning of the foster care journey is necessary to increase outcomes, build confidence, and create long-term, stable placements. To request a mentor or to be a mentor, click here For Cluster Support Group information, click here For Wishing Well information, click here Want to learn more about becoming a Foster Parent? 

"Each year more than 10 million children in the United States endure the trauma of abuse, violence, natural disasters, and other adverse events. These experiences can give rise to significant emotional and behavioral problems that can profoundly disrupt the children's lives and bring them in contact with child-serving professionals. For therapists, child welfare workers, case managers, and other helping professionals involved in the care of traumatized children and their families, the essential act of listening to trauma stories may take an emotional toll that compromises professional functioning and diminishes quality of life." [1] Secondary trauma is the emotional duress that results when hearing the about the firsthand trauma experiences of another. Secondary trauma is often a common side effect for foster parents. Amy Bates M.S.Ed, trainer for Utah Foster Care,  shares strategies for overcoming this stress and even thriving as a foster parent. Resources: Secondary Traumatic Stress-Administration for Children and Families National Child Traumatic Stress Network Healing Secondary Trauma Book Want to learn more about becoming a Foster Parent? 

It's tempting to villainize first parents for the trauma caused by addiction, but we know that when foster parents and first parents can work together, the outcomes are better for the child. In this month's episode we hear from Utah Foster Mom Shari Peña. She doesn't just take in the child, she takes in the whole family. This is a foster mom's gift of connection. It began when a young mother's children were placed in foster care because of her substance use disorder and homelessness. That mother, Kylei, shares how difficult it was looking Shari in the eye, let alone looking at herself in the mirror. Kylei felt shame because her children were in foster care. With Shari's love and her efforts to connect, Kylei found the drive to make it through a recovery program and remain in her children's lives. Studies show strong evidence that connection can be healing. A child often comes into a foster home feeling out of place and lonely. The same is true for the parents of these children. The work foster parents do doesn't have to end with the child in their care, they can have an integral part in the success of their parents as well. Resources for Foster Parents Working with Birth Families Video Setting Yourself Up in Co-parenting Working with Birth Parents Helping Visits go Well Want to learn more about becoming a Foster Parent? 

It may surprise you to find out teens in foster care want and need lifelong connections – yet, when it comes to adopting, many families rarely consider older kids and teenagers. As National Adoption Month continues, our Fostering Conversations podcast examines the obstacles faced by youth who age out of foster care. Listen to the inspiring stories of youth who beat the odds – and learn the reality about teens in the foster care system. To learn more about Utah's Transition to Adult Living program, click here.  To join Utah's Foster Club click here. Want to learn more about becoming a Foster Parent? 

Trauma Responses: Beyond Fight or Flight Childhood trauma can trigger a chronic “fight or flight” response, even when children are placed in safe, loving foster homes. How do caregivers deal with that response to build relationships? At Utah Foster Care's Annual Symposium, Dr. George Thompson provided insight into how a trauma-informed system of care can play a critical role in establishing a sense of safety. A full re-cap of our Symposium can be found on our blog here. Dr. Thompson is a child psychiatrist devoted to assisting families and healthcare organizations to build emotionally safe, curious, collaborative, and coherent cultures that transform trauma into wisdom. He, along with co-author Marilyn Sanders, is the author of the recent book, Polyvagal Theory and the Developing Child: Systems of Care for Strengthening Kids, Families, and Communities. Thompson serves on the advisory board of the Polyvagal Institute and is treasurer of the board of directors of the Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapy Institute. He and his team are creating a model youth psychiatric residential program, the Thompson Centers for Heroic Change. For a copy of Dr. Thompson's Book: Polyvagal Theory and the Developing Child fill out this form. ~~~~ 2022 Fostering Community Award recipient: Rachel Garrett Check out Common Thread and all the great work they are doing for teens affected by foster care.  Visit Common Thread on the web or follow them on Instagram at @Commonthread_ut

Children living with relatives increased 51% between 2000 and 2010.  In 2010, 1700 children were placed with relatives after being removed from their parents. The most recent census tells us that number is not going down.  Being placed with Kin/relatives vs. foster care has a number of benefits: Minimizes trauma Increased permanency Better overall well being Preserves cultural and community identity Promotes lasting connections Children's Service Society of Utah (CSS) is an organization that empowers families and caregivers through services that support the safety and well-being of children. Grandfamilies is a support, advocacy, educational and crisis intervention program of the Children's Service Society. The program was created in 2002 to meet the growing needs of individuals and/or families that are caring for a relative's child. Our focus is to provide information and support to these families so that the needs of safety and permanency for the children in these families can be met. Their services include: Crisis intervention Adult educational support groups Children's support groups Links to community resources Drug and alcohol prevention services for children To learn more about the Grandfamilies program, click here Utah Foster Care also has resources for Kinship Families. 2022 Kinship Town Hall Topic: The impact of trauma in kinship families Date: Tuesday Sept 20th Time: 5:00-7:00PM Location: Children's Service Society of Utah, 655 E 4500 S, ste 200, SLC, 84107

Foster parents learn in training classes about the uncertainty surrounding children in foster care. A child may be in their home for a few days, a year, or a lifetime. Grief and loss are a reality when a child is reunified. In this episode, we'll explore how foster parents can get support to deal with the emotional stress of children leaving their home. While loss affects people in different ways, many people experience the following symptoms when they are grieving. Just remember almost anything you experience in grief is normal. Common symptoms of grief: Shock and disbelief—Right after a loss, it can be hard to accept what happened. You may feel numb and have trouble believing that the loss really happened, even deny the truth. Sadness—Profound sadness is probably the most universally experienced symptoms of grief. You may have feelings of emptiness, despair, yearning or deep loneliness. You may also cry a lot or feel emotionally unstable. Guilt—You may regret or feel guilty about things you did or did not say or do. You may also feel guilty about certain feelings. Sometimes, children will blame themselves for causing the loss, even though they did nothing wrong. Anger—Even if the loss was nobody's fault, you may feel angry and resentful. You may feel the need to blame someone for the injustice that was done to you. Fear—A significant loss can trigger a host of worries and fears. You may feel anxious, helpless or insecure. You may even have panic attacks. Physical symptoms— We often think of grief as a strictly emotional process, but grief often involves physical problems, including fatigue, nausea, lowered immunity weight loss or weight gain, aches and pains and insomnia. How to Support Others Who are Grieving Be a good listener Let them feel sad Do not minimize grief Do not be judgmental Share your feelings Ask about their feelings Acknowledge the pain Be available when you can Talk openly and honestly about the situation unless the person does not want to If symptoms of depression are severe or persistent and the person is not coping with Day to day activities, encourage the use of professional help Other Resources:     Saying Goodbye Handouts     Grief and Finding Meaning ~ Unlocking Us Podcast    Ambiguous Loss and Grief for Siblings in Adoption Want to learn more about becoming a Foster Parent? 

Vroom! Brain Building at Your Fingertips. Did you know that 80% of a child's brain is developed between birth and 4 years old? In partnership with the Bezos Family Foundation, Envision Utah's early learning is working to empower all Utah parents when it comes to helping their child develop and be successful. As a caregiver, you can help your young children build neural connections through Vroom, a free app that turns everyday moments into brain-building activities. As Travis Allred from Envision Utah tells us, Vroom gives you bite-sized, science-based tips that help you give children a great start in life. 3 Ways to get Vroom: Get the app Visit Vroom website Text Vroom to 48258 Want to learn more about becoming a Foster Parent? 

When it comes to LGBTQ youth in care, the data is heartbreaking.  Not only are LGBTQ youth over-represented in the foster care system, “12.9% of LGBTQ youth report being treated poorly by the foster care system compared to 5.8% of non-LGBTQ youth." These youth face a higher number of placements, are more likely to live in group homes, and often end up homeless.  LGBTQ youth in care also experience added trauma and are hospitalized for mental health concerns more than their non-lgbtq peers. The need for safe and affirming homes for these kids is crucial. Many in the LGBTQ community aren't aware that they can be foster parents. In honor of Pride Month, our podcast features two of our Utah LGBTQ foster parents and the director of Youth and Families from the Human Rights Campaign All Children All Families program. Resources: Local resources for foster families caring for LGBTQ youth- Utah Foster Care LGBTQ Resources Promoting the health and well-being of LGBTQ youth at The Family Acceptance Project   and   LGBTQ Family Acceptance What is SOGIE? (Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity) Video William's Institute study on Sexual and Gender Minority Youth in Foster Care Transgender information and Statistics: Understanding the Transgender Community Are you an organization that works with children? Find out how to be part of the Human Rights Campaign's  All Children-All Families Program Want to learn more about becoming a Foster Parent? 

Did you know that you don't have to be married to foster or adopt children in Utah? It's true, some of our best foster families are lead by single parents. Local single foster parents, Kristen and Michael share their experiences fostering —what it's like, why they do it, and how to get started. According to a report from The Adoption and Foster Care Analysis and Reporting System, just under 15,000 single women and nearly 2,000 single men adopted children or youth from foster care in 2017. Check out Single Foster Parent Tips for more ideas on making it work as a single foster parent. Want to learn more about becoming a Foster Parent? 

Transracial adoption, foster care, and interracial marriages create unique experiences for children and parents in Utah. Often, families need help navigating multiple cultures.  Stephanie Draper found herself in that situation as a teenager – luckily, she had a supportive parent. Together with Bri Ray, Stephanie founded the organization Raising Me, formerly known as Project Black Girl. Their mission is to provide hybrid education and community experiences for multicultural families that create opportunities for racial identity development and cultural understanding. In honor of National Adoption Day, Raising Me is hosting an event November 19th. Check out the Raising Me website for more details.  You can also follow Raising Me on Instagram @when_raisingme. Want to learn more about becoming a Foster Parent? 

Join us for a candid conversation with DCFS caseworkers and foster parents to understand how DCFS works in order to strengthen partnerships in support of children and families in care. Every contact with your caseworker is an opportunity to strengthen your family. Learn more about the Division of Child and Family Services here. Want to learn more about becoming a Foster Parent? 

Substance Use disorder by adults is one of the leading reasons why children are removed from their homes and put into state custody. In Utah, substance use is a contributing factor in more than 60% of the cases where children are removed from their homes - much higher than the national average. The good news is that research indicates recovery from substance use disorder is achievable and common. So, it's important to understand the journey that the parents of children in foster care are going through. On this episode, you will meet a man who shares his recovery experience with an innovative program at a Midvale bakery that supports people like him. About Flourish Bakery Flourish Bakery was established in 2017 with a mission to build better people through the opportunity to begin again. Flourish's internship is offered to those recovering from addiction with a history of incarceration. It's 12 months long and is designed to foster hope, healing, and accountability while simultaneously teaching the art and skills of professional baking. Interns are paid $14/hour and complete approximately 32 to 40 hours per week working and learning in the Bakery. Interns also participate in externships at companies like Harmons, where one of our former interns is now an artisan baker. Interns also participate in programs to promote wellness and long-term recovery, including morning group reflection, weekly writing groups, a daily communal meal, financial counseling services, mental health counseling, and a membership to a gym founded on recovery principles. Flourish is the only “Second Chance” long-term recovery, workforce development reentry program in Utah. How to Connect with Flourish Visit our website, flourishslc.org The bakery is located at 752 W. Center St in Midvale and is open Wednesday-Saturday, 8am-4pm. You can also shop online at Flourishslc.org and pick up your orders. We love having volunteers join us in the kitchen. Please visit Flourishslc.org/apply to complete a volunteer application Want to learn more about becoming a Foster Parent? 

Utah Foster Care believes every child deserves a safe home with a loving family. By becoming a foster parent, you are also sharing your strength, your home, and your future—making a commitment to help, heal, and enrich the lives of abused and neglected children. Children in foster care receive medical, dental, and mental health care through Medicaid. They qualify for free school lunches and various school fee waivers. Younger children also qualify for the WIC program for food. In addition to these support programs, foster families receive a modest financial reimbursement intended to offset the cost of caring for the children in their home. Utah Foster Care also offers a variety of supports. From receiving mentorship from experienced foster parents, to support groups and topic-specific trainings, we've got your back! Things to consider: How many rooms are available in your home? How much room do you have in your car? How do your biological children (if any) feel about fostering? Resources: Utah Foster Care Website Department of Child and Family Services Website Want to learn more about becoming a Foster Parent? 

Suicide is a public health problem and the leading cause of death in the United States. Suicide can also be prevented — more investment in suicide prevention, education, and research will prevent the untimely deaths of thousands of Americans each year.  In Utah, suicide is the #1 leading cause of death for young people ages 10-24.  There are many factors that contribute to suicide. The goal of suicide prevention is to reduce those factors and increase resilience.  Whether you have struggled with suicide yourself or have lost a loved one, know you are not alone. Below are resources for Suicide Prevention: National Suicide Prevention Hotline (24/7 English and Spanish) 1-800-273-TALK (8255) OR contact the Crisis Text Line by texting TALK to 741741. Utah Chapter American Foundation for Suicide Prevention Center for Disease Control: Suicide Prevention Liveon.org Safety Plan Risk Factors, Protective Factors, and Warning Signs Firearm Suicide Prevention Utah Firearm Safe Rebate Want to learn more about becoming a Foster Parent? 

In Utah, there are around 2,700 children in foster care at any given time and some 1,300 licensed foster/adoptive families. Children in foster care often have special needs due to neglect, abuse or separation. Substance abuse is a contributing factor in many foster care cases. Parenting a child with trauma can be challenging.  Luckily, our understandings of neuroscience gives us hope. In their collaborative book, 'What Happened to You,' Oprah Winfrey and renowned brain and trauma expert Dr. Bruce Perry offer a groundbreaking and profound shift from asking “What's wrong with you?” to “What happened to you?” Our earliest experiences shape our lives far down the road, and What Happened to You? provides powerful scientific and emotional insights into the behavioral patterns so many of us struggle to understand. Here, Winfrey shares stories from her own past, understanding through experience the vulnerability that comes from facing trauma and adversity at a young age. Joining forces with Dr. Perry, one of the world's leading experts on childhood and brain development, Winfrey and Dr. Perry marry the power of storytelling with science to better understand and overcome the effects of our pasts. Other Trauma-Informed Resources: The Child Trauma Academy Dan Siegel Books and Research AdoptUsKids Want to learn more about becoming a Foster Parent? 

“The number of cases of children entering the foster care system due to parental drug use has more than doubled since 2000, according to research published in JAMA Pediatrics […] A lot of the work out there [on the opioid epidemic] has focused on mortality and overdoses and how it affects adults,” says Angelica Meinhofer, instructor in health care policy and research at Weill Cornell Medicine. Source

A college or trade school degree can be a game changer for young people who have experienced foster care. In the September edition of our Fostering Conversations Podcast, we explore an innovative program at the University of Utah, designed to shepherd students to achieve success in higher education. For more information on these programs, please visit their respective websites below: First Star... Source

“Professionals who work with youth need to understand the lives and unique challenges of the LGBTQ youth they serve and the implications of policies, practices, and organizational climates on their experiences and outcomes. Many resources are available for caregivers and others in the child welfare workforce to develop competency and learn how to talk positively about issues that affect LGBTQ... Source

Did you know that 1 in 10 teens say that they don’t have a trusted adult that they can turn to? The Utah Department of Health Family and Youth Outreach are seeking to change that statistic. This month we are talking with Elizabeth Gerke from the Teen Speak program. This training provides parents or other trusted adults strategies to communicate with youth. Being or becoming an ‘Askable Adult’... Source

“Supporting a child and their family in reunification is a selfless and loving gift that foster parents offer to thousands of families every year. You’re not just fostering reunification, you’re fostering a future in which parents and their children can thrive” (Source). Why Reunification is so important: Positive impact on parents Better Child Development Outcomes Less Stressful for Children... Source

May is National Foster Care month! Join with us in honoring our most valuable resource: Foster Parents. This month’s podcast focuses on where Utah’s welfare system has come from, and the positive direction it is heading. What was once seen as, merely, a protective measure is now being seen through the lens of trauma and healing. Through that lens, strengthening the adults in a child’s life becomes... Source