Beautification of Communication - The Communification Podcast

Show notes are not yet ready for this episode - my apologies! I'm on vacation! When I get back in late June 2022 I'll play catch up.

1. The spiral of silence is real 2. Responding to negativity looks different every day 3. How negative comments impact our personal lives 4. “Guru” mode vs. Two fists up 5. Some practical tips for dealing with the “haters” Show notes: malikadudley.com/show-notes Mahalo for listening! Please share your thoughts on what you've learned in the review section!  For podcast updates, communication tips + resources, and more... sign up for my NEWSLETTER To support the pod, you can shop with our partners, sponsors and affiliates (10% of proceeds go to the Maui Food Bank):  Noho Home - Code: MALIKA for 15% off Mindvalley Personal Development Courses: FREE "Lifebook" Master Class Primally Pure Non-toxic Skincare - Code: MALIKA10 for 10% off your first purchase Pacific Pearls - 10% off with Code: SS58USA Angelina Hills Maui Photography Art Towels - 20% off with Code: Malika Goli Gummy Vitamins - Code: MALIKADUDLEY for 10% off Maui Jim Sunglasses 3-months of FREE Amazon Music Unlimited  

1. The SIMCA model has real application to REAL LIFE 2. Learning about “slacktivism” was a good reminder 3. Authenticity, passion, & inspiration can be found on social media 4. Knowledge isn't only gained in one space 5. The amazing ways Kimi & Melissa have used social media to generate pro-social collective action online Show notes: https://www.malikadudley.com/show-notes Mahalo for listening! Please share your thoughts on what you've learned in the review section!  For podcast updates, communication tips + resources, and more... sign up for my NEWSLETTER To support the pod, you can shop with our partners, sponsors and affiliates (10% of proceeds go to the Maui Food Bank):  Noho Home - Code: MALIKA for 15% off Mindvalley Personal Development Courses: FREE "Lifebook" Master Class Primally Pure Non-toxic Skincare - Code: MALIKA10 for 10% off your first purchase Pacific Pearls - 10% off with Code: SS58USA Angelina Hills Maui Photography Art Towels - 20% off with Code: Malika Goli Gummy Vitamins - Code: MALIKADUDLEY for 10% off Maui Jim Sunglasses 3-months of FREE Amazon Music Unlimited  

1. What is slacktivism? 2. Does online collective action help or hinder boots on the ground activism? 3. The shocking research results on white nationalist propaganda 4. How we can avoid getting sucked into the echo chamber 5. How we can help the causes that really need it Show notes: MalikaDudley.com/show-notes Mahalo for listening! Please share with a friend! Would love to hear your thoughts on what you've learned in the review section as well! For podcast updates, communication tips + resources, and more... sign up for my NEWSLETTER To support the pod, you can shop with our partners, sponsors and affiliates (10% of proceeds go to the Maui Food Bank):  Noho Home - Code: MALIKA for 15% off Mindvalley Personal Development Courses: FREE "Lifebook" Master Class Primally Pure Non-toxic Skincare - Code: MALIKA10 for 10% off your first purchase Pacific Pearls - 10% off with Code: SS58USA Angelina Hills Maui Photography Art Towels - 20% off with Code: Malika Goli Gummy Vitamins - Code: MALIKADUDLEY for 10% off Maui Jim Sunglasses 3-months of FREE Amazon Music Unlimited  

1. An introduction to SIMCA - the social identity model of collective action 2. How identity, injustice, and efficacy factor into the effectiveness of collective action 3. Are you impacted by the spiral of silence? 4. How social media aids and hinders collective actions online 5. Online and offline collective actions and how they interact Show notes: https://tinyurl.com/2rkyfuhj Mahalo for listening! Please share your thoughts on what you've learned in the review section!  For podcast updates, communication tips + resources, and more... sign up for my NEWSLETTER To support the pod, you can shop with our partners, sponsors and affiliates (10% of proceeds go to the Maui Food Bank):  Noho Home - Code: MALIKA for 15% off Mindvalley Personal Development Courses: FREE "Lifebook" Master Class Primally Pure Non-toxic Skincare - Code: MALIKA10 for 10% off your first purchase Pacific Pearls - 10% off with Code: SS58USA Angelina Hills Maui Photography Art Towels - 20% off with Code: Malika Goli Gummy Vitamins - Code: MALIKADUDLEY for 10% off Maui Jim Sunglasses 3-months of FREE Amazon Music Unlimited  

"Something There" pregnancy announcement parody: https://youtu.be/oXxIiRkbOUE Mahalo for listening! Please share your thoughts on what you've learned in the review section!  For podcast updates, communication tips + resources, and more... sign up for my NEWSLETTER To support the pod, you can shop with our partners, sponsors and affiliates (10% of proceeds go to the Maui Food Bank):  Noho Home - Code: MALIKA for 15% off Mindvalley Personal Development Courses: FREE "Lifebook" Master Class Primally Pure Non-toxic Skincare - Code: MALIKA10 for 10% off your first purchase Pacific Pearls - 10% off with Code: SS58USA Angelina Hills Maui Photography Art Towels - 20% off with Code: Malika Goli Gummy Vitamins - Code: MALIKADUDLEY for 10% off Maui Jim Sunglasses 3-months of FREE Amazon Music Unlimited  

1. Online dating while traveling can be tricky 2. When the pool of available singles is small, online dating can help open up options 3. Safety first, ALWAYS 4. A lot of the men she's encountered online are MARRIED 5. Finding the right balance of self-disclosure in your bio is challenging for women with safety concerns Show notes: MalikaDudley.com/podcast Mahalo for listening! Please share your thoughts on what you've learned in the review section!  For podcast updates, communication tips + resources, and more... sign up for my NEWSLETTER To support the pod, you can shop with our partners, sponsors and affiliates (10% of proceeds go to the Maui Food Bank):  Noho Home - Code: MALIKA for 15% off Mindvalley Personal Development Courses: FREE "Lifebook" Master Class Primally Pure Non-toxic Skincare - Code: MALIKA10 for 10% off your first purchase Pacific Pearls - 10% off with Code: SS58USA Angelina Hills Maui Photography Art Towels - 20% off with Code: Malika Goli Gummy Vitamins - Code: MALIKADUDLEY for 10% off Maui Jim Sunglasses 3-months of FREE Amazon Music Unlimited  

1. Knowing what you want/need simplifies the process. 2. Misrepresentation happens, and some people might even have a blind spot for their fatal flaw.  3. Details on a study that is “everything wrong with our society in one place.” 4. Misrepresenting yourself doesn't help anyone. 5. Our personal experiences with the “latency period” have garnered a range of results. Mahalo for listening! Please share your thoughts on what you've learned in the review section!  For podcast updates, communication tips + resources, and more... sign up for my NEWSLETTER To support the pod, you can shop with our partners, sponsors and affiliates (10% of proceeds go to the Maui Food Bank):  Noho Home - Code: MALIKA for 15% off Mindvalley Personal Development Courses: FREE "Lifebook" Master Class Primally Pure Non-toxic Skincare - Code: MALIKA10 for 10% off your first purchase Pacific Pearls - 10% off with Code: SS58USA Angelina Hills Maui Photography Art Towels - 20% off with Code: Malika Goli Gummy Vitamins - Code: MALIKADUDLEY for 10% off Maui Jim Sunglasses 3-months of FREE Amazon Music Unlimited  

1. Online dating is quite the journey no matter your sexual orientation and gender 2. Online dating is “work” 3. Meeting face-to-face quickly helps to not “waste time” on a relationship that won't work 4. Meeting face-to-face quickly sometimes leads to uncomfortable (potentially dangerous) consequences 5. According to our cisgender male guest, “Men are lazy”

1. Self-presentation is the tool by which we manage other people's impressions of ourselves. Dr. Hall explains. 2. As soon as we think we might want to get to know someone, our desire to reduce uncertainty goes really high. 3. Online we engage in what Dr. Hall calls strategic self-presentation. What is that? 4. Online “misrepresentations” are sometimes what some researchers call a “promise.” 5. Move to in person conversations as quickly as possible to reduce the potential for idealization. Show Notes: malikadudley.com/show-notes Mahalo for listening! Please share your thoughts on what you've learned in the review section!  For podcast updates, communication tips + resources, and more... sign up for my NEWSLETTER To support the pod, you can shop with our partners, sponsors and affiliates (10% of proceeds go to the Maui Food Bank):  Noho Home - Code: MALIKA for 15% off Mindvalley Personal Development Courses: FREE "Lifebook" Master Class Primally Pure Non-toxic Skincare - Code: MALIKA10 for 10% off your first purchase Pacific Pearls - 10% off with Code: SS58USA Angelina Hills Maui Photography Art Towels - 20% off with Code: Malika Goli Gummy Vitamins - Code: MALIKADUDLEY for 10% off Maui Jim Sunglasses 3-months of FREE Amazon Music Unlimited  

1. How aggression feeds into our digital addiction 2. Are we being used as pawns? 3. Where is the line between activism and cyberbullying? 4. Using the rules of publishing, social media tools to navigate this 5. Parenting and cyberbullying - what's the plan? Show Notes: MalikaDudley.com/show-notes

1. Our “mean girl” experiences were a sign of the times 2. Malika's defense mechanism for trauma 3. Balancing freedom of speech, exposure to tech, and safety 4. Lyssa fell into a bad crowd because they accepted her & didn't judge 5. The internet is the wild, wild west Show notes: malikadudley.com/show-notes Mahalo for listening! Please share your thoughts on what you've learned in the review section!  For podcast updates, communication tips + resources, and more... sign up for my NEWSLETTER To support the pod, you can shop with our partners, sponsors and affiliates (10% of proceeds go to the Maui Food Bank):  Noho Home - Code: MALIKA for 15% off Mindvalley Personal Development Courses: FREE "Lifebook" Master Class Primally Pure Non-toxic Skincare - Code: MALIKA10 for 10% off your first purchase Pacific Pearls - 10% off with Code: SS58USA Angelina Hills Maui Photography Art Towels - 20% off with Code: Malika Goli Gummy Vitamins - Code: MALIKADUDLEY for 10% off Maui Jim Sunglasses 3-months of FREE Amazon Music Unlimited  

1. Eighth grade seems to be the tipping point 2. We learn new terms: doxing, flaming, trolling, cyber stalking… 3. How the five trials of adolescence (physical, parental, social, occupational, sexual) factor in to cyberbullying 4. How the Skills Deficit Model & General Regression Model help to explain cyberbullying 5. When bystanders should and shouldn't intervene 6. How to prevent cyberbullying: the rules of publishing 7. What to do if you have been cyberbullied

Main takeaways: 1. Body ideals change, as does our own body image 2. Transparency, authenticity and awareness are key 3. Designing our social media environment is so important 4. The relationship between desirability and self worth 5. A reflection of our own personal struggles, and the strategies we've used to overcome them   Show notes: www.malikadudley.com/show-notes2/i-did-not-love-myself-unpacking-our-body-image-issues-kimie-anuhea Mahalo for listening! Please share your thoughts on what you've learned in the review section!  For podcast updates, communication tips + resources, and more... sign up for my NEWSLETTER To support the pod, you can shop with our partners, sponsors and affiliates (10% of proceeds go to the Maui Food Bank):  Noho Home - Code: MALIKA for 15% off Mindvalley Personal Development Courses: FREE "Lifebook" Master Class Primally Pure Non-toxic Skincare - Code: MALIKA10 for 10% off your first purchase Pacific Pearls - 10% off with Code: SS58USA Angelina Hills Maui Photography Art Towels - 20% off with Code: Malika Goli Gummy Vitamins - Code: MALIKADUDLEY for 10% off Maui Jim Sunglasses 3-months of FREE Amazon Music Unlimited  

1. More than 50% of young people are unhappy with the way they look. 2. Body dissatisfaction is not just a problem for young girls, but for women, young boy, and men too. 3. Beauty ideals are very specific. It's hard to achieve something that is simply unattainable. 4. We tend to make upward comparisons. How does that impact us? 5. You have control. You create your social media environment. Be intentional with what you create for yourself. Show notes: https://www.malikadudley.com/show-notes2/are-you-dissatisfied-with-your-body-you-are-not-alone Mahalo for listening! Please share your thoughts on what you've learned in the review section!  Pre-roll Giveback: Mahalo to Society Bikini Hawaii & Maui Pizza Truck for donating to the Maui Food Bank! For podcast updates, communication tips + resources, and more... sign up for my NEWSLETTER To support the pod, you can shop with our partners, sponsors and affiliates (10% of proceeds go to the Maui Food Bank):  Noho Home - Code: MALIKA for 15% off Mindvalley Personal Development Courses: FREE "Lifebook" Master Class Primally Pure Non-toxic Skincare - Code: MALIKA10 for 10% off your first purchase Pacific Pearls - 10% off with Code: SS58USA Goli Gummy Vitamins - Code: MALIKADUDLEY for 10% off Maui Jim Sunglasses 3-months of FREE Amazon Music Unlimited  

Malika went back to grad school after a 15 year break - to finish what she started and to pursue her passion for communication theory.  In the Spring of 2021, she auditioned to be student speaker and was selected by the selection committee. It was her great honor to represent the Class of 2021.  Mahalo for listening!  For podcast updates, communication tips + resources, and more... sign up for my NEWSLETTER To support the pod, you can shop with our partners, sponsors and affiliates (10% of proceeds go to the Maui Food Bank):  Noho Home - Code: MALIKA for 15% off Mindvalley Personal Development Courses: FREE "Lifebook" Master Class Primally Pure Non-toxic Skincare - Code: MALIKA10 for 10% off your first purchase Pacific Pearls - 10% off with Code: SS58USA Goli Gummy Vitamins - Code: MALIKADUDLEY for 10% off Maui Jim Sunglasses FREE logo design on Canva 3-month of FREE Amazon Music Unlimited  

1. We all know prolific liars AND transparent liars… but it's nice to know that most people are honest most of the time. 2. When we were younger, we were liars. 3. Mika shares how she lost trust in an ex-boyfriend after incriminating texts surfaced. 4. Malika shares a personal story that will hurt your heart. 5. A discussion about “fake news” from the perspective of two journalists Show notes: www.communificationpodcast.com/show-notes2/liar-we-talk-about-being-deceived-and-yes-lying-to-others

1. You can be honest and not be rude. You can be honest and protect your privacy. It's not all or nothing.
 2. We learn about both the positive and negative consequences of lying.
 3. How honest are people really? Dr. Levine shares his research.
  4. We break down demeanor. Can you tell someone is lying by their body language alone? 5. We talk about deception and relationships. Is it easier or harder to detect lies in our close relationships? Show notes: https://www.malikadudley.com/show-notes2/lyinganddeceptionhaveyoubeenduped Mahalo for listening! Please share your thoughts on what you've learned in the review section! 

Wish you could avoid ineffective communication & gain great communication skills? You're not alone! Through scholarship and storytelling this podcast will help you to unlock your communication potential. Academic experts teach us research-based communication strategies, while special guests share their triumphs, struggles and authentic stories. Host, Malika Dudley, is a multi award-winning journalist who holds a master's in communication. This trailer was submitted to the International MyRodecast podcast contest and won the "highly commended" award.  MalikaDudley.com/podcast for show notes, resources, and links!

How to craft and offer a sincere apology. Why digital apologies might not be sufficient, and the one thing every digital apology needs to be followed up with.  The importance of perspective-taking, taking into consideration the communication style of the receiver. Is it wise to offer multiple apologies? The possible legal implications of digital apologies.  In this episode of the Communification Podcast we discuss apologies and technology. Dr. Amy Hubbard teaches us what an apology is, what the goals of an apology are, and research-based strategies to help us with our communication goal of offering a sincere, heartfelt, and effective apology.  Show notes can be found at:  https://tinyurl.com/rhdsz43w Mahalo for subscribing, following, and downloading this episode and the podcast! You have no idea how much it helps! Grateful for YOU.   

Out of the box tips on how to express “tone” digitally. Why you shouldn't use “Stop words” when apologizing. How we have gained closure in relationships - with or without an apology. A sneak peek on the role of apologies in our marriages. Using our challenges as teaching moments + dishing on our exes. Show notes: https://www.communificationpodcast.com/show-notes2/it-better-be-a-gateway-apology Mahalo for subscribing, following, and downloading this episode and the podcast! You have no idea how much it helps! Grateful for YOU. 

Phubbing can result in negative social and psychological outcomes Why people don't like being phubbed How parents can set healthy expectations for their digital use when in their children's presence Balancing using the phone for professional reasons, personal reasons, and engaging with our children The surprising research-based strategy that has been a god send for Malika and her family This episode is centered on “parental phubbing” - together, we find out from an expert (Dr. Soo Yun Shin, UH-Mānoa Department of Communicology) what that is, why we should be concerned, and get some research-based strategies to help with the beautification of our communication.  Show notes: https://www.communificationpodcast.com/show-notes2/communication-tips-for-the-digitally-distracted-parent Mahalo for subscribing, following, and downloading this episode and the podcast! You have no idea how much it helps! Grateful for YOU.

You are not alone. We commiserate on trying to integrate technology into our lives in a healthy way. The pandemic has made it even harder - and yet technology has also helped us get through the pandemic without going crazy. Learning and adapting to the world our children are growing up in. How recovering perfectionists can use “bumpers” to help guide us.  What 5-year-old Waipuna said about parental phubbing that made us all tear up. Show notes: https://www.malikadudley.com/show-notes2/mom-dad-get-off-your-phone Mahalo for following, subscribing, sharing, and downloading! I appreciate YOU.

People make “hyperperceptions” about what they see online. The less they know, the farther from reality their perceptions might be. How to break free from the hyperperception rabbit hole Balancing your online brand image (work self) and your personal self  Research-based tips to minimize the negative impacts of social media Real life tips from Jessica Gee of The Bucket List Family - how she uses social media to give back, why she just “had to walk away,” and a perspective shift for why people tend to post their best selves online. We learn about the impact social media is having on us and our communication. Dr. Spottswood researches how communication technology impacts people's everyday lives and close relationships. We discuss deception, comparisons, authenticity, the positivity bias, and more. Mega influencer Jessica Gee of The Bucket List Family joins me to dissect what we learned and how we can apply these communication skills to our lives.  Show notes can be found at:  https://tinyurl.com/38s37h5v Mahalo for subscribing, following, and downloading this episode and the podcast! You have no idea how much it helps! Grateful for YOU. 

This podcast was developed as a part of a thesis project 16 years in the making. In this episode we discuss grad school, how the podcast came to be, the struggles, the triumphs, and what you can expect this season on the Communification Podcast. Show notes: malikadudley.com/show-notes2/making-of-a-thesis-baby  Follow: Instagram.com/communificationpodcast Facebook.com/communificationpodcast Twitter.com/malikaspodcast Contact me via my website or social media to offer up new topics, give feedback, or ask a question that could be on future episodes! This show is guided by YOU! Tell me what you're struggling with. I'll find the expert and we will get through this together.