Enough Is Enough

Like many other influencers, I would spend a lot of time trying to figure out what the  “right thing” to do was in order to meet everyone’s expectations. I always looked for what I needed to say in order to earn recognition from any audience. But for some people, that is never enough. So I made the decision to face hate head on and let go of the need of being liked.   In this episode of Enough is Enough, I give you a few tips on dealing with hate and how to respond to it in a way that makes you feel that you are living a more authentic and real life, instead of living to please and be liked by others.   If you're ready to commit to leveling up the relationships in your life, I have the course for you! I partner with relationship expert, Emma Power, to bring you the most transformative and extensive relationship course out there. You can learn more here. 

If you're unhappy with the relationships you have in your life or unhappy with your lack of relationships in your life, it's time to take a look in the mirror. In this episode of Enough Is Enough, Aaron Alexander and I chat about why our relationships are actually just a reflection of ourselves. If we want the relationships we attract in our lives to change, we need to take responsibility.  Aaron is the host of the number one Nutrition podcast, Align Podcast, the founder of the Align Method, and a world-class movement coach. He shares his deep and powerful thoughts on love, relationships, and how to navigate through it all while still loving yourself. If you're ready to commit to leveling up the relationships in your life, I have the course for you! I partner with relationship expert, Emma Power, to bring you the most transformative and extensive relationship course out there. You can learn more here. 

Are you looking for your soul-mate, your other-halves, the one partner that will bring to your life everything you are lacking and longing for? This idea is sold to us as an idealized romantic endeavor that will eventually lead to fulfilling lives and completing our souls. But when a breakup occurs, no one tells us that giving our heart to someone implies that it’s always up to us to put the pieces together. To be able to go through such processes we need to cultivate self-love. In this episode of Enough is Enough, guest Adam Roa shares why this old narrative needs to change and how in actuality, healthy relationships take place when each partner has enough self-love to show up for themselves and to be present partners.  Adam also dives into his journey of break-up, learning to be his own source of happiness, and navigating the shifts that occurred after his relationship was over. Plus, the two of us talk about the fundamental aspects needed to grow a healthy relationship: understanding our own and our partner’s love language, setting defined conditions, and even knowing when to leave a relationship. Adam Roa is an internationally known speaker, self-help coach, spoken word poet, and musician. He is the founder of The CREATE Community: an online community of a collective Renaissance of education, art, transformation, and entertainment. Adam is also the host of the Deep Dive Podcast, a place of authentic looks into the minds of the tough leaders and game-changers of today.   What we discuss: [01:30] "What they don't tell you about giving your heart to someone is that it will be still up to you to put it back together" [02:51] Adam's 10-year relationship break-up and the aftermath [03:41] Adam's take on self-love: what relationship you have with yourself [05:05] What changes occurred in Adam that made him a better partner [09:32] Should we forgive someone who cheated on us? [12:02] Conditions in relationships [14:18] Adam's deal breakers in relationships [15:44] Adam breaks down The Five Love Languages [20:40] How Aggie views acts of service [21:07] How to know a relationship has ended [24:08] Why a healthy relationship doesn't equal its longevity [26:32] How we can mend our hearts after a breakup [30:11] Re-learning how to be on our own after a relationship [31:38] What a healthy relationship looks like [34:36] Why do we fear being alone? [38:01] What helped Adam stay open to new people after a breakup [41:58] Adam's poem 'I am enough'   Find more from Adam: Instagram: @adam.roa Deep Dive podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/1lS1p0kLQlrzleiszWZ4Rr Website: https://adamroa.com/ C.R.E.A.T.E. Community: https://thecreatecommunity.com/

In this episode of Enough is Enough, I am joined by the amazing and talented creator, Jacob (@Jacob), who dives deep into his personal journey of becoming one of the top creators in the world. You'll learn how he took the leap to start his own media company, how he balances work and life, and how the power of collaboration and staying humble has gotten him to where he is today.  He is the founder of the media company, @Jacob Media, and is internationally renowned for his photography work and creative direction. With over 1 million Instagram followers, he is trusted globally to create award-winning and visually inspiring photo and video assets for some of the world's best-known brands, including previous work with Lamborghini, Etihad Airways, Amazon, Audible, BMW, and Beautiful Destinations. What we discuss: [04:06] How Jacob found his drive for photography                         [06:14] Jacob's involvement in Beautiful Destinations and how it was such a pivotal point in his career                         [08:00] Jacob's move to NY                         [08:42] the shift that happened when Jacob lost his passport                         [12:06] How Jacob changed from working at BD to work for himself and the new skills he had to learn                         [12:53] Knowing how to communicating with clients and understanding his own work values                         [14:02] why did Jacob decided to leave Bali                         [15:18] how London was a suitable work environment for Jacob                         [16:35] How Jacob is able to be productive during working hours and makes time for himself                         [19:13] Tips for organizing his work and business                [21:18] Why it's important to Jacob to remain humble and helpful                         [22:49] Is being competition-driven worth in the long-term?                                     [25:30] The importance of collaboration and how you will progress faster instead of doing things on your own                         [26:57] Is there more competition amongst women than amongst men?                     [28:41] Jacob's standing on developing his video skills vs collaborating with talented people                         [30:20] Is taking a good photo as important as editing?                         [32:45] Jacob's favorite photo and why                         [33:26] Jacob's favorite place in the world                         [33:56] What an ideal day in the life looks like for Jacob                         [35:09] Jacob's photography masterclass                         [36:14] What is Creative Circuit?                         [37:09] Jacob's ideal day in 10 years                         [:38:47] Jacob's advice: challenge yourself and always push a little further     Find more from Jacob: Instagram: @jacob The Photography Masterclass: https://www.thephotographymasterclass.com/enroll-2020m4e5w68f?affiliate_id=2768803

Want to connect deeper with yourself? Want to experience greater vitality in your life? Want to embrace discomfort and chase your potential? Want to learn how to live a life of enoughness?    In this episode of Enough is Enough, I’m joined by Wim Hof, or the “The Iceman”. He is known for breaking a number of records related to cold exposure. His feats include climbing Mount Kilimanjaro in shorts, running a half marathon above the Arctic Circle on his bare feet, and standing in a container while covered with ice cubes for more than 112 minutes.   You may think Wims accomplishments are super unrelatable. He’s doing unbelievable things but how can you ever relate? What could he teach you?   Wim’s practices can be done by anyone. Maybe you won’t go climb Mount Kilimanjaro in shorts, but his practices will help increase your immunity and strength, allow you to cultivate a more stable mind, tap into your true self, and ultimatley live a life of enoughness. So get ready to learn some actionable practices you can o apply to your life now.   Happy Listening!   What we discuss:  3:00 - Climbing on Kilimanjaro. 4:00 - You need to adapt, acclimatize. 5:50 - Breathing more than you feel you need 6:06 - The power of ten deep breaths 8:00 - How to quickly improve your mental and physical health. 10:00 - The power behind breathing techniques. 10:20 - How to evoke courage in people 12:00 - How to transform into yourself true self 13:10 - How to evoke your alertness. 13:40 - How to control your mood 14:10 - How breathing brings vital energy 17:10 - Virus and bacterias that are emotional. 18:15 - Activating your endocrine system and feel-good hormones. 19:15 - Through breathing, you understand life itself. 21:00 - When do you know enough is enough? 23:00 - Getting out of your comfort zone. 24:40 - How to strengthen your immune system 27:38 - How to breathe 27:47 - Cold showers!  31:15 - Living in your optimized physiology 32:00 - Two things Wim recommends we do  33:00 - Wim's diet recommendation   Find more from Wim:  Website: wimhofmethod.com Instagram: @wimhof Youtube: Wim Hof

Why do we prioritize everything else except the things that are most important to us? We make our to-do list filled of things for other people more important than our own dreams, aspirations, and goals. Enough is enough! Thankful, Jim Kwik has a simple formula for us to follow that will ensure we no longer push aside what's most important to us. Jim is the number one brain coach in the world, as well as the author of the #1 Wall Street Journal best-selling book and New York Times best-selling book, Limitless. Happy Listening! What we discuss: 02:40 - How do you become limitless in the limited world? 03:25 - The metaphor and symbol of a butterfly 04:20 - Life is C: between B and D 05:40 - People are social, but distancing themselves 06:00 - The Five C's to prioritizing what's important to you 09:50 - Algorithm of your mind. 11:00 - Psycho-neuro imunology. 16:00 - The importance of creativity. 17:30 - What are Quick-starts? 18:00 - 4 stages of becoming a superhero. 19:00 - During the plague, creativity exploded 19:50 - What did you always wanted to learn? 21:00 - Schools teach what to learn but not how. 21:20 - Everyone deserves an exceptional life. 22:22 - Shelf-help vs Self-help Find more from Jim: Book: Limitless Website: www.kwiklearning.com Instagram: @jimkwik Me on Jim's Podcast: How Travel Changes Your Brain

I have been examining the different relationships in my life as I feel as though I continue to be betrayed, let down, or hurt. So recently I went to see a psychic, who also is a psychiatrist, who gave me amazing insight into why the various relationships in my life continue to disappoint me. This woman identified that I always have a victim mindset and never stand up for myself when others are treating me poorly. She also taught me that it's less about others being unloyal to me and more about me being unloyal to myself. So, in this episode, I discuss the insight my psychic shared with me on how to break free from my victim mindset in my relationships. Happy listening!

Tired of your man never listening to what you have to say? Tired of him never doing what you ask? Or, are your fed-up that he's unable to commit and is making you chase him? My guest, Alison Armstrong, is here to tell you why he acts the way he acts and what you can do to push through his male programming to get what you want from him.   Alison is the author of The Queen’s Code, Keys to the Kingdom, and Making sense of Men. When it comes to relationships, she believes that until we understand the real differences in what compels our behavior, especially under stress, we'll keep bringing out the worst in each other. In this conversation, Alison unravels the differences between men’s and women’s behaviors and how we are able to bring out our best selves in our relationships as well as help bring out the best in our partner. Plus, it will help minimize the distance, the frustration, and the lack of communication. Happy listening!    

If you take a close look at those you spend the most time with, are they a reflection of who you want to be? Energies are contagious, therefore you are the sum of those you surround yourself with most. Ensure you are immersing yourself in the presence of those who are living a life that aligns with the life you want to live. How do you do that? Friend detoxing.   In this episode of Enough is Enough, I chat with my friend Chelsea on what it means to friend detox, why it's so important, and how to go about in a mindful and compassionate way. We also discuss why letting go of friends doesn't make you a bad person, why spending time with yourself is important, and how to find new friends who are on the same path.

In this episode of Enough is Enough, I speak with Vishen Lakhiani on how to become unfuckwithable. I know, I know, what does that even mean? It means you are fully in charge of the way you feel and not living your life at the mercy of the people or things around you. This is the exact opposite of how many of us live, but Vishen is about to give us the tools and practices we need to successfully start living a life where we are unfuckwithable.  Vishen is one of today’s most influential minds in the fields of personal growth and human consciousness. He is the founder and CEO of Mindvalley, the world’s leading online personal growth education company and behind several top-ranking health and wellness apps. He is also a New York Times best-selling author with several more books on the way. He has built a community of growth-seekers with Mindvalley that spans across 100 countries, engages more than 10 million followers on social media, and has nearly half-a-million students online each year.   What we discuss: Being unfuckwithable 5:30 Why you don’t need to watch the news 7:00 Practicing triple gratitude: 9:00 The importance of quieting your mind: 12:30 Feeling like we are enough: 15:00 What you are seeking is seeking you: 21:30 What are lofty questions: 27:00   Quotes I loved from this episode: Everything you are feeling is normal. Shift your feelings into gratitude. What I want also wants me. Understand what your soul truly seeks.   Things mentioned in this episode: Mindvalley.com Vishen's 6 Phase Meditation Quest Vishen's book: The Buddha and the Badass Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends on It Vishen on Instagram: @vishen

This isn’t your typical podcast episode with Marie Forleo. Yes, she’s the expert on everything being figureoutable, but she’s also an expert on so much more! In this episode, we have a deep conversation on recognizing our intuition and knowing when to follow it, the difference between “I can’t” and “I won’t”, and why not having big goals isn’t something to feel bad about. Marie is an entrepreneur, writer, philanthropist & unshakable optimist dedicated to helping people become the person they most want to be. She has built an award-winning show, MarieTV, as well as world-class online training programs, like B-School. Plus, she is the author of the #1 New York Times bestselling book, Everything Is Figureoutable. What we discuss: What happens to your mind when you think “I know this already” or “this doesn’t apply to me” 4:30 The difference between fear and intuition: 7:00 How to differentiate between fear and intuition in work and in relationships: 8:30 The coffin exercise for dealing with relationship problems: 14:00 Why all dreams don’t need to be big and life-changing: 15:00 How to builder bigger dreams: 21:00 The difference between I can’t and I won’t, and eliminating excuses: 25:30 How to break from free wanting instant gratification and results: 29:30   Quotes I loved from this episode: There is a big difference between knowing something and applying something to your life. All dreams don’t need to be big. Sometimes a small dream is exactly what you need right now. Wouldn’t it be cool if…[insert the most exciting, outrageous, joyful thing that comes to mind here]. 99% of the time when we say we can’t, we actually mean to say I won’t. If it’s important enough, you’ll make the time. If it’s not, you’ll make an excuse. It’s okay to change.   Find more from Marie: Website: marieforleo.com  Instagram: @marieforleo  Youtube: MarieTV  Book: Everything is Figureoutable 

In this episode of Enough is Enough, I'm joined by my good friend, Peter Crone, who is best know as the Mind Architect. He is an expert in redesigning the subconscious mind that drives our behavior to inspire us to live in a new way– free from limitation and stress and full of freedom and joy. He's also a life-changing author, speaker and thought leader in human potential who works with world-class entertainers, professional athletes, and global organizations.  If you carry feelings of unhappiness, uncertainty, or discontentment, Peter is here to tell you why. What we discuss: What our feelings actually reveal: 6:00 Why we need to bring all our emotions to the table: 10:30 How our relationships with everything and everyone reveals deeper aspects of the relationship we have with ourselves: 13:30 How uncertainty is hidden in every feeling of security: 19:00 Finding peace with uncertainty: 24:00 Becoming better at listening to ourselves rather than talking to ourselves: 27:00 Why the truth is hard to hear: 31:00 How humans are designed to be loved and accepted: 34:00 The definition of a successful human being: 40:00 The definition of happiness: 41:00 How to deal with our feelings of not being enough: 48:00 Dealing with someone leaving us: 53:30 What is real love: 55:15   My favorite quotes from this episode: If you think you’ll happy be when…Have you ever been to your future? How do you know your happiness is gong to be there? I am not free from the challenges of life. I am free from the struggles of the challenges of life. I am in harmony with reality and not trying to fight reality. You need to learn how to listen to yourself better, not talk to yourself better. Put a question mark at the end of every thought you think. Is it true that you are not doing enough? What is the statement relative to? Until you are totally at peace inside of yourself, then you cannot truly be with another because there will also be some attachments and dependency. That’s not love and that’s not a healthy relationship. Feelings are a terrible indicator of truth. Just because we feel something doesn’t mean that is they way it is. Life will present you with people and circumstances to reveal where you are not free. We select the emotions we want to feel, but that’s not the way life works. The most powerful human being is able to make space for all the emotions. When you bring all your emotions to the table, the ones you were avoiding starts to dissipate and carry less charge. True happiness is the absence of the search for happiness. Find more from Peter: Instagram: @petercroneofficial Website: petercrone.com

In this episode of Enough is Enough, I'm joined by the amazing Glennon Doyle where we dive into the raw, vulnerable, authentic, uncensored, and life-changing words she shares in her newest book, Untamed. We chat about how we need to quit abandoning ourselves and instead abandon the world’s expectations of us, how we need to quit being good so we can be free, and how we need to start allowing ourselves to actually feel our feelings. Glennon believes there is a voice of longing inside each woman. We strive so mightily to be good: good partners, daughters, mothers, employees, and friends. We hope all this striving will make us feel alive. Instead, it leaves us feeling weary, stuck, overwhelmed, and underwhelmed. We look at our lives and wonder: Wasn’t it all supposed to be more beautiful than this? We quickly silence that question, telling ourselves to be grateful, hiding our discontent—even from ourselves.  It was extremely important to me to launch this podcast with a strong, empowering woman because that’s my goal with this podcast–to make us both stronger, more empowered women. And  I don’t believe there is a stronger, more empowering woman than the amazing Glennon Doyle. Aside from being the author of Untamed, Glennon is also the New York Times best-selling author of Carry, On Warrior and Love Warrior, as well as the founder and president of the non-profit, Together Rising.  Find more from Glennon: Book: Untamed Website: momestary.com Instagram: @glennondoyle

Let's talk about hate. It's an expression that is beyond prevalent in our society, especially with social media. Although we not only receive feelings and words of hatred from random followers hiding behind a screen but also from those who we are closest to and those who we love the most. How do we deal with that? How do we react to that? How do we accept that? This episode was trigger by a recent experience I faced of receiving hate and it brought me to contemplate what hate actually means and what the best way to handle it should be. So my hope with this episode is for my thoughts to bring light to a new perspective on hate for you. 

In this episode of Enough is Enough, I talk you through what brought me to my breaking point that led me to explore the world of enoughness. I know we can all relate to that feeling like we aren't doing enough for others, we aren't being enough for ourselves, and we don't have enough in our lives. It feels like we are playing this constant catch-up of this self-imposed rat race. But if we are the ones who put ourselves into the rat race, we can be the ones who take ourselves out. I hope this episode inspires you to enjoy actually "being" in your life rather than always "doing". I now allow my life to flow however I want it to flow, rather than feeling like I need to force it and I hope you will begin to do the same!

A couple of years ago, I had a quarter-life where I worked incredibly long hours, going to unimaginable lengths to be enough, do enough, and have enough. But nothing was ever enough! I grew tired of living a life of "not enough" and decided to explore the life of "enoughness". And for the first time in my life, I realized enough really is enough. So far it has been a beautiful journey and I would love for you to explore it with me!