Intimacy Advisor Podcast

Welcome back to The Intimacy Advisor Podcast! We can safely say, variety is everywhere between the walls of Lover's Lane, and we have a little something for everyone! After being away for only a month, so many new toys are always arriving! We stopped in to a location to get recommendations on 9 new products that are Romance Specialist approved, and you can hear all about them here! Shop online at Lover's Lane through this link.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Here's the latest, greatest, and most explosive toys you can play with in the bedroom! Join us exploring ten different toy and lube categories to find new novelties for just you or to share with a partner. Bonus points if you try a few together! Shop new toys and other products at Lover's Lane here!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Happy Pride, Intimacy Advisor family! As we celebrate Pride 2023, join us discussing when is right to come out, and the change in your sense of self. Let's take a look at terms which define the difference between sex, gender, and gender identity. We also have a moment of discussing tolerance between those learning new terms in which the community is changing and evolving. Check out new LGBTQA+ friendly toys here!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Introducing (finally!) - Uberrime! This Orlando-made product is crafted with love, skill, and hand-poured silicone. Making dildos and tentacles alike with different textures than the average insertable toy, you'll see upon first sight and touch why they're so loved. Check out Uberrime here. Shop Lover's Lane's collection of insertable toys here.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If you're looking to give in to relaxation and want the same for your partner, this is the episode for you! Let's take the first and most important step to intimacy: relaxation. When the body is relaxed and the mind shuts down, we can have a deeper physical connection. In this episode we mention Le Wand, which you can shop for here. Happy massaging!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

April showers are here! I mean, really here, in the bedroom and all! Don't dry off inside, head to the bedroom instead with the toy picks from Episode 90 of The Intimacy Advisor Podcast. In this episode, we take a look at what squirt really is and take a peak at some popular products that need a "Caution: Can Be Wet" sign. Enjoy!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

From toys to lubes to outfits...what tools are going to benefit your Intimate Toolbox the most? And which toys and products are worth trying (or at least keeping on hand?) Join us on The Intimacy Advisor Podcast to learn our Intimate tricks up our sleeve to have romantic, kinky, and passion-building nights in. You can shop at LoversLane.com to build your own Intimate Toolbox!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome to the Intimacy Advisor Podcast, Dr. Megan Fleming! In this episode, Dr. Megan Fleming joins us to take a look at a new lubricant, Beloved, created for comfort with nourishing and balancing ingredients that we should look for in a good intimate serum as a tool to our love-making toolbox.  Check out Beloved at Lover's Lane here! Read more about Dr. Megan Fleming here!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Take it from us, talking dirty isn't always an easy task in the bedroom. And when you're put on the spot with your partner quick to say "talk dirty to me..." you don't want to freeze up. So how do you think quick on your feet and give them a sexy conversation that won't be a flop? And how do you shake the awkwardness of trying dirty talk for the first time? Join us on this episode for tips and tricks for the bedroom speech class you didn't know you needed.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If you have a curious mind or are looking to continue experimenting in the bedroom, this episode is for you! Let's take a dive at different roles, themes and products we offer at Lover's Lane in our BDSM department. What suits you best? Try some role play on for size in episode 86 of The Intimacy Advisor Podcast.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Happy Valentine's Day here from Lover's Lane! It's the most lovely time of the year, so let's take the stress out of finding your love a gift this holiday and hear about our best toys and outfits to celebrate February 14. In this episode, we talk about best selling vibes for couples, air pulsating toys, how to dress up sexy for your partner (and yourself!), and we even dive in to some little "love taps" if you will aka floggers, paddles, and crops! If you're looking for plans this weekend or next week, check out the Love Is Art collection to create something beautiful during your Valentine's *festivities*!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Valentine's Day is just around the corner! The holiday of showing love to your special someone deserves no gift less than our Love Collections!  Join Haley for an in-depth look at each of our 6 Love Kits and other suggestions for this Valentine's Day to make your night unforgettable. Shop our selection of Love Kits with this link!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Bring on 2023! What resolutions or lifestyle changes are you bringing to the table this year? At Lover's Lane, Sex Drive and The Intimacy Advisor Podcast and Blog... we're all looking for hotter sex! If that means new toys, more free time, deeper connection, or all the above, have a listen to Episode 83 to ring in the New Year with a resolution you won't want to throw away a few weeks in!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to Season 3 of The Intimacy Advisor blog with your new (old) host, Haley! Today we're talking what new products made their way to our top 10 picks of 2022 and what old products were so good...that they're STILL on that list.  Check out our number one pick at Lover's Lane right here!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today's episode wraps up Season 2 of Intimacy Advisor Podcast!!  This year, we've covered everything from awakening your arousal and the joys of 69 to femme dominance and ways to spruce up date night!  This episode brings it all together with exercises and activities you can return to again and again whenever you need a boost of confidence, or encouragement to connect with your most authentic, sexy self.   Intimacy Advisor Podcast is brought to you by Lover's Lane We are planning an extended hiatus.  Please visit intimacyadvisor.com for more resources and articles related to relationships, intimacy and sexuality. This episode references a number of other helpful resources, such as: Come as You Are by Dr. Emily Nagoski Getting Off by Jayme Waxman Speaking from the Heart: 18 Modern Love Languages by Anne Hodder-ShippSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What does hearing what your partner likes, neck kisses, and eye contact all have in common?  They're all on the list of top 10 turn-ons!  Want to up your game?  Reignite the spark with a special someone?  Become a more attentive lover?  This episode covers the do's and don'ts of turning on your partner.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We've been holding onto your questions for this very moment!  Labor Day marks the end of summer for many of us and in the spirit of back to school, Sarah answers listeners questions.  How do you turn your partner up if their nipples are too sensitive?  What do you do if you get close, oh so close, to orgasm but can't bring it home to the finish line?   What if you're partner really wants to explore prostate play but you're embarrassed because you've never done it before?  Get answers to these questions on today's episode, which is brought to you by Lover's Lane. Products mentioned on this episode include: Dual Action Vibrators: Lelo Ina Wave and Le Wand's Dual Motor Prostate Massagers: Aneros Helix Syn with Vibrator and Aneros Helix Syn Trident Vibrating Cockring: Roq Vibrating CringSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Happy A n a l August, lovers!  No topic is taboo here at Intimacy Advisor and booty play shouldn't be either.  If you haven't ventured to the backdoor yet, you are missing out.  This episode covers everything you need to know to get the most pleasure out of your a n a l adventures, including safety.  Learn why lube is your booty's BFF, which toys and techniques are best for getting started, and, of course, the best ways to satisfy those thousands of juicy nerve endings. Intimacy Advisor is brought to you by Lover's Lane.  Check out all of the products mentioned on this week's episode... b-Vibe Snug Plug Plug Training Set Tapered Beads Booty Friendly Silicone Lubricant Booty Friendly Water Based Lubricant  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When was the last time you revisited your solo play technique?  Are you relying on the same hand trick from high school? Have you burnt out your vibrator from using it on high for too many years to count?  Join Intimacy Advisor host, Sarah TomTom, for a solo play makeover, including techniques, tricks and products you are sure to have never come up with on your own! Intimacy Advisor is brought to you by Lover's Lane. You can find all of the products listed on this weeks show... Waterslyde Fun Factory Manta Dual Rider FF Stronic Fusion Fun Factory Miss Bi b-Vibe Weighted Snug Plug b-Vibe Vibrating Snug PlugSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you been binging How to Build a Sex Room on Netlfix? In this week's episode, Sarah breaks down celebrity designer Melanie Rose's approach and how you can adopt it to YOUR space.  No need to remodel your home!  Sarah gives you activities for discovering your sex style and everything you need to make your very own sex room. Intimacy Advisor Podcast is brought to you by Lover's Lane.  Visit the Links below for everything you need to outfit your very own sex room! Little Bag of Tricks Sex Furniture Liberator Black Label Ramp/Wedge Bondage Board Over the Door Cuffs Under the Bed RestraintsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Happy National BDSM Day!  BDSM is a highly creative kind of play with limitless possibilities.  This episode celebrates the different flavors of Kink.  Learn the definitions and differences of Kink, BDsM and Fetish play.  We will cover negotiation, play and aftercare practices for ensuring safety and maintaining consent.  Sarah also explores ways to expand your vocabulary of touch, talk and tools on any budget.  Midway through the episode, you'll discover a few scenarios to get you started on your kinky explorations.  Temperature play, full body spankings and sensory deprivation awaits you! As always you can find the products mentioned in this week's episode below: Bondage Tape  Safety Scissors  Drip Candle Massage Candle  Nipple Clamps  No peek blindfold  Finger Fork  Plush Paddle  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

On this week's episode, Sarah drops a ton of knob knowledge...From satisfying hand techniques and how to create firmer, more sensitive erections to flaccid play and the squeeze method for delaying ejaculation!  Also discover which toys are best for oral sex and hand jobs. This episode covers some pleasure anatomy, if it leaves you wanting more visit episode 61 for a full pleasure-based anatomy lesson. Intimacy Advisor Pod is brought to you by Lover's Lane.   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Tis the season for hitting the beach, the road, and all locations near and far.  But, what toys do you bring?? Sarah covers the most discreet and compact products that pack a punch to liven up your adventures, as well as the newest innovations that will guarantee your sexcapades are as luxurious as your trip.  Whether you've got vacation on the calendar or on your mind, you do not want to miss out on these must-have travel-friendly toy recs! You can find all of your intimate product needs at Loverslane.com: Womanizer Liberty Magic Wand Mini We-Vibe Touch X Lelo Tor We-Vibe Moxie Fuji Stroker System Jo Travel Friendly Lubricant High On Love CBD Lubricant See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Getting in touch with what you want – what you actually want – is incredibly empowering!  But, where do you start?  Sarah takes listeners through a simple process for naming your desires and putting action towards them.  Using tools like the Feelings Wheel and the Desire Map simplifies what may otherwise feel like a daunting process.  Now it's just up to you to go after your desires with wild abandon! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Curious about mutual pleasure with your partner? Expanding your penetrative play options? Exploring new power dynamics with your partner/s?  Then strap-on play is for you!  Many people get discouraged or intimidated by the gear, which is why Sarah is breaking down all of the basics for you - choosing your equipment, the ways to have the most control over your harness and dildo and fun tips and tricks for enhancing pleasure for both partners.  If you're looking for product recs, here are some mentioned in this episode!   Dual Density Dildo  Tantus Dildo  Avant Dildo from Blush Novelties  Two Strap Sportsheets Harness  Thong Harness  Femme Harness Underwear Style Harness  Double Dildo  Harness with vibrator pocket  Pegging Harness Set  And some fun, new releases if you're looking to up your strap-on game: Sliding Skin Dildo Bumpher for Enhancing the Wearer's Pleasure See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Happy Pride!  In this episode, Sarah nerds out on the history of the term queer, how it reflects the versatility, resilience and inability to be confined by labels of the LGBTQIA+ community, and why she loves the term so much.  For anyone looking for a quick queer history lesson to kick off Pride month, interested to learn how the term became reclaimed as a badge of honor, or queer curious - this episode is for you.  Enjoy!   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we are celebrating our 69th episode by giving some love to the much talked (and snickered) about sex position!  69ing is an act of mutual pleasure dating back to the Kama Sutra.  Sarah shares a little history about the clever naming of the position as well as tips for maximizing comfort and pleasure for both partners!  Thank you for listening and supporting Intimacy Advisor

It can be intimidating to talk to your kids about S-E-X!  Where do you start? What do you say? How do you know what's age appropriate?  In this week's episode, Sarah breaks down some helpful tips for laying the foundation of open communication with your kids.  Establishing bodily autonomy, setting and respecting boundaries (the cornerstone of consent), naming our bits, and how to work through roadblocks when they come up.  Sarah also shares a fun game you can play with your little ones that she borrowed from educator Pamela Samuelson. Intimacy Advisor Podcast is run Lover's Lane.  You can find us to ask follow up questions or read additional material at the Intimacy Advisor Blog. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Traditionally, feminine people are type cast as submissives.  But, what if subverting traditional power dynamics ignites your desire and makes you feel sexually empowered?  This episode is a love letter to anyone whose been called bossy as an insult.  We will explore how to tap into your authentic erotic self, wherever you find yourself on the dominant to submissive spectrum.  If you're inspired by this episode to explore kink, you can find all of your kinky gear and tools at www.loverslane.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week on Intimacy Advisor Sarah fields listener questions.  How can I make my girlfriend come? What other positions can I explore if I love being on top? I can't get off. Help!  We're talking sex toys, vulva massage, the wonders of the clit, nipple play, sex positions, erotic breath and more! Lover's Lane carries every product mentioned on the show, and more! Nos Vibrating Cockring  Vedo Overdrive Vibrating Cockring  Small, Powerful Handheld Vibrator Snug Plug Weighted Butt Plug  Body-Safe Lubricant  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The movies have lied to us!  Going from zero to hot & bothered and ready for action 7 days a week is a myth.  Most of us have busy lives and priorities outside of the bedroom.  Cultivating our erotic life can feel like it takes work.  Creating an erotic bridge, an intentional transition, from day-to-day life into the bedroom can make the time we do set aside to explore our sexuality that much hotter.  This episode explores how to make the most of your date night prep, simple sensory explorations to awaken the body, incorporating fantasy into your life, and weeknight hacks for sexy time. Lover's Lane offers a variety of products that can heat up your weeknight sexcapades!  Massage Candles Sensual Lotions and Oils  Erotica  Pheromones Dipsea Erotica App  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Spring has sprung!  Tis the season of vibe checks and new relationships.  Are you feeling a little out of practice with dating? Are you tired of going on first dates that don't go anywhere?  Struggling to find other sex-positive matches?  This week Sarah is joined by educator, author, and body acceptance influencer Elle Chase talking about the ins and outs of post-pandemic dating dynamics.  It can be scary to communicate what you want and need from a new date, to find the f*ck buddy of your dreams, or dive into the world of online dating.  Elle shares her favorite platforms and approaches for finding hookups, friends with benefits or a committed partner.  The two also share tips for couples who want to keep the flame of dating life alive and well in their relationship! You can find Elle and all of her episode recommendations... Elle's Website Elle's favorite, sex-positive dating app Speaking from the Heart: 18 Languages for Modern Love How Not to Die Alone by Logan Ury YourDiagnonsense See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Orgasms are a physiological response.  Orgasmic experiences are also your mind, your body and your breath working together to allow for surrender and release.  In this episode, Sarah shares a number of tools for finding your orgasmic potential.  We cover getting to know your sexual scripts, diving into your Erotic Blueprint, discovering your touch vocabulary with an Erotic Body Scan and why sex toys are so helpful for finding and expanding your orgasms!  This podcast is made possible by Lovers Lane. Toys in this episode: Wand Massager Stone Shaped External Vibe Womanizer Premium Arcwave Ion See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We've been working up to this... Multiple Os!  Learn how to catch and ride the waves of Multiple Orgasms.  Sarah covers tips and techniques for anyone interested in expanding their pleasure potential. From the squeeze method and the power of exercising your Kegels; to layering sensations or moaning your way there.  There's something for everyone! This podcast is made possible by Lovers Lane where you can find all of your intimate pleasure needs.  Products, books & resources mentioned in this episode are linked below: Aneros Helix Syn Massager We-Vibe Touch X Kegel Balls Njoy Style Wand Heart Wedge Position Pillow Multi Orgasmic Man by Mantak Chia & Douglas Adams Multi Orgasmic Woman by Mantak Chia Rachel Carlton Abrams, MD Getting Off by Jayme Waxman Jack Johnston's Squeeze Technique Cam Fraser - Sex Coach & Sexologist   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Understanding our bodies' building blocks for experiencing sexual pleasure can help demystify roadblocks to orgasm, our partner's needs and so much more!  Sarah walks you through her favorite nerdy topic, Anatomy, and gives you tips along the way.  This episode covers everything you need to know about the genitals AND how stimulate all of those juicy nerve endings.  This one is a bit longer than our usual shows and may be best to listen to with your headphones on, especially if you've got little ones around (unless you're prepared for their first sex ed lesson).  Don't miss out on all of this good pleasure-based information no one taught us school.  Intimacy Advisor is brought to you by Lovers Lane  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Arousal is an overlooked building block to expansive orgasmic experiences.  Sarah debunks some arousal misunderstandings, breaks down the nuances of different types of desire, and explains the importance of context.  If you're looking for ways to turn up your desire, understand your libido and gain more control over your arousal cycle then this episode is for you!  This episode would not be possible without Dr. Emily Nagoski's enlightening book Come As You Are – everyone should read it!  Don't forget to check out loverslane.com for all of your intimate needs. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The most popular date night of the year is upon us – Valentine's Day!  When is the last time you changed up your date night routines? Getting tired of Netflix and chill? Want to engage with your partner in new and different ways? This episode offers a ton of creative (and hot) date ideas and ways to make a gift of the date experience.  Sarah covers date night suggestions for all love languages and relationships new and old, including: Labors of Love (4:00),  Engaged Experiences (6:45), Get Outdoors (9:50), Hot Staycation (10:35), Roleplay the Romance Back (11:30), Gifting Date (14:45), Try Something New (17:45), Get Physical (19:35), Food & Wine (21:15) & Personal Growth (23:35) Still need a gift for Valentine's Day? Check out LoversLane.com for all of you Valentine's Day needs! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Valentine's Day is right around the corner.  Vday is a perfect opportunity to invest in your sexuality, your sensuality, and the love relationships you have in your life, including the one with yourself!  This episode is dedicated to Sarah's favorite toys. Toys can be a way to enhance your connection, create unique sensations, and bring creativity into your play.  We cover toys for all kinds of experiences you may be looking to create this Valentine's day; from sensual CBD massages to adventurous date nights or trying bondage for the first time.  You can find all products mentioned on the pod and more at loverslane.com. Happy Valentine's Day, lovers!

This episode is a part 2 to our very first (and very popular!) episode about the original 5 Love Languages.  This episode explores expanded concepts around the love languages, what to do when you and your partner's love languages don't match up, and how to ask for what you want and need!  This episode refers to the newest book about the love languages, “Speaking from the Heart: 18 Languages for Modern Love” by Anne Hodder-Shipp.  Valentine's day is right around the corner!  Stock up on all of your intimate gifting needs at loverslane.com. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you find yourself overwhelmed by unrealistic body standards? Do you speak to yourself negatively about your body on the regular? Or are you struggling to feel sexy?  Body acceptance is a process. Host Sarah TomTom offers a variety of tips for affirming and accentuating your body in ways that helps you build confidence and self-love. For all of your intimate needs, don't forget to check out Lover's Lane - www.loverslane.com. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We are kicking the New Year off with a new host, Sarah TomTom.  Sex Educator and founder of Damiana Productions.  This week we are talking about prioritizing pleasure in our routines and incorporating pleasure into our New Year's goals and resolutions.  This episode is sure to get you thinking about how you want to feel in the year ahead! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

One more round of spookiness before Halloween season is done! In Episode 54, we talk how to build a dungeon, how to communicate your eerie needs, and what to do when you know the sex you want isn't the sex you're getting. Be sure to shop loverslane.com to build your BDSM fantasy! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Trick or Treat?! In Episode 53 we talk about TikTok trending sex toys and products, how to give the easiest and best blow job ever, and helpful hints for awesome oral. Be sure to check out our Intimacy Advisor blog and shop Lover's Lane! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's time for the talk...about how the sex ed we've learned as young adults doesn't add up to what you grow to learn. No one teaches pleasure, they don't teach how to explore your preferences, and the part I hate the most is they don't teach LGBT+ sex education. We need to change that. Send this episode to a friend and initiate conversation where it is due! Also be sure to shop Lover's Lane for intimate toys and products for the best sex ever! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Episode 51 is all about nipples! If you're wondering what products and creams and gels do all the best job of tugging, sucking, clamping, and caressing your way to a nipple orgasm (yes that's real!) look no further. Don't forget to shop Lover's Lane for all the best titillating toys ;) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are you tired of faking it?! I bet you are. But why are we faking? Is it our fault? Our partners? Technique? Skill? The real reason behind it can be a few different things but it mostly boils down to 1) either our bodies don't want to (weird, right?) or 2) lack of sex education. (Not a big shocker there!) Episode 50 is here to help. Shop at Lover's Lane for your favorite intimate products. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Now's the season of layering your clothes! But what's this... a sexy surprise for your partner after date night? You betcha! In Episode 49, you'll learn about different styles of lingerie and on what body works the very best for what style as well as some sexy layered outfit ideas on how to sex-up your fit for whatever thee occasion! Be sure to check out our newest, hottest lingerie on loverslane.com and tag @intimacyadvisorpod on Instagram or @ia_pod on Twitter to show off your looks

Hooray! Our 1 year anniversary episode! So how do we celebrate? On today's episode we are giving the best alternatives to some of our high end luxury vibes and products maybe for your travel bag or simply to try something (still awesome) but on the cheaper side before you invest in the luxe version! Tell us how you love them by emailing haley@loverslane.com and be sure to shop on Lover's Lane loverslane.com for your new favorite bedroom excitements. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Happy Labor Day 2021! As we enjoy a relaxing day away from work, consider how our personal relationships need care, understanding, excitement, and emotional labor. Then at the end of todays episode, we talk products fit for the job...the blow job that is! Make sure to shop Lover's Lane for all of your favorite bedroom toys, lubes, oils, and lingerie. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Here it is...the odds and ends that just take the right person to love on! Interesting stimulators like electro-spanking, tentacle play and anal hooks (who knows!) could be your next best friend! If you have an open mind and the willingness to explore, this episode is for you. Be sure to shop at Lover's Lane for both new and old favorite intimate products! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

While a healthy sex life often gets overlooked as part of a health regime, we also discuss how your sexual health needs to be just as talked about, just as important, and just as educated as everything else. If you are keeping diet and exercise on your high-priority list but your sex life (personal or partnered!) is lack-luster, this episode is for you. Reclaim your sexuality and rediscover your desires. Shop Lover's Lane for your new favorite toys, lubes, lotions, oils, lingerie, and romantic gifts! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.