Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and men's coach who helps men WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. On his own journey, Roy was able to make h
Learn about how "Roy" helps dreamers become doers through healing and mindset redesign. Get your copy of my FREE Guide- Rejection Remedy: 8 Questions to Kick Your Fear of Rejection: https://royflashgordon.gumroad.com/l/kxgKf Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon https://www.instagram.com/royflashgordon/ Subscribe to the Main Event Mindset YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKxFYEgejC0rgBANe5B41_w If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and coach who helps people WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
Learn about how "Roy" helps dreamers become doers through healing and mindset redesign. Get your copy of my FREE Guide- Rejection Remedy: 8 Questions to Kick Your Fear of Rejection: https://royflashgordon.gumroad.com/l/kxgKf Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon https://www.instagram.com/royflashgordon/ Subscribe to the Main Event Mindset YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKxFYEgejC0rgBANe5B41_w If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and coach who helps people WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
We often get too wrapped up in "the what" we need to do instead of "the who" we need to become to step into the shoes of our future self. Learn about how "Roy" helps dreamers become doers through healing and mindset redesign. Get your copy of my FREE Guide- Rejection Remedy: 8 Questions to Kick Your Fear of Rejection: https://royflashgordon.gumroad.com/l/kxgKf Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon https://www.instagram.com/royflashgordon/ Subscribe to the Main Event Mindset YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKxFYEgejC0rgBANe5B41_w If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and coach who helps people WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
Learn about how "Roy" helps dreamers become doers through healing and mindset redesign. Get your copy of my FREE Guide- Rejection Remedy: 8 Questions to Kick Your Fear of Rejection: https://royflashgordon.gumroad.com/l/kxgKf Follow Roy on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/royflashgordon/ Subscribe to the Main Event Mindset YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKxFYEgejC0rgBANe5B41_w If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and coach who helps people WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
Learn about how "Roy" helps dreamers become doers through healing and mindset redesign. Get your copy of my FREE Guide- Rejection Remedy: 8 Questions to Kick Your Fear of Rejection: https://royflashgordon.gumroad.com/l/kxgKf Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon https://www.instagram.com/royflashgordon/ Subscribe to the Main Event Mindset YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKxFYEgejC0rgBANe5B41_w If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and coach who helps people WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
Learn about how "Roy" helps dreamers become doers through healing and mindset redesign. Get your copy of my FREE Guide- Rejection Remedy: 8 Questions to Kick Your Fear of Rejection: https://royflashgordon.gumroad.com/l/kxgKf Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon https://www.instagram.com/royflashgordon/ Subscribe to the Main Event Mindset YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKxFYEgejC0rgBANe5B41_w If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and coach who helps people WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
Learn about how "Roy" helps dreamers become doers through healing and mindset redesign. Get your copy of my FREE Guide- Rejection Remedy: 8 Questions to Kick Your Fear of Rejection: https://royflashgordon.gumroad.com/l/kxgKf Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon https://www.instagram.com/royflashgordon/ Subscribe to the Main Event Mindset YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKxFYEgejC0rgBANe5B41_w If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and coach who helps people WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. Here's what I learned about possibility from Timon, Pumbaa, and others! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
Learn about how "Roy" helps dreamers become doers through healing and mindset redesign. Get your copy of my FREE Guide- Rejection Remedy: 8 Questions to Kick Your Fear of Rejection: https://royflashgordon.gumroad.com/l/kxgKf Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon https://www.instagram.com/royflashgordon/ Subscribe to the Main Event Mindset YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKxFYEgejC0rgBANe5B41_w If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and coach who helps people WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. How you do one thing is how you do all things so if you are dogging it in your fitness...you're dogging it elsewhere. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
Learn about how "Roy" helps dreamers become doers through healing and mindset redesign. Get your copy of my FREE Guide- Rejection Remedy: 8 Questions to Kick Your Fear of Rejection: https://royflashgordon.gumroad.com/l/kxgKf Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon https://www.instagram.com/royflashgordon/ Subscribe to the Main Event Mindset YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKxFYEgejC0rgBANe5B41_w If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and coach who helps people WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
Learn about how "Roy" helps dreamers become doers through healing and mindset redesign. Get your copy of my FREE Guide- Rejection Remedy: 8 Questions to Kick Your Fear of Rejection: https://royflashgordon.gumroad.com/l/kxgKf Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon https://www.instagram.com/royflashgordon/ Subscribe to the Main Event Mindset YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKxFYEgejC0rgBANe5B41_w If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and coach who helps people WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
Learn about how "Roy" helps dreamers become doers through healing and mindset redesign. Get your copy of my FREE Guide- Rejection Remedy: 8 Questions to Kick Your Fear of Rejection: https://royflashgordon.gumroad.com/l/kxgKf Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon https://www.instagram.com/royflashgordon/ Subscribe to the Main Event Mindset YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKxFYEgejC0rgBANe5B41_w If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and coach who helps people WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
Learn about how "Roy" helps dreamers become doers through healing and mindset redesign. Get your copy of my FREE Guide- Rejection Remedy: 8 Questions to Kick Your Fear of Rejection: https://royflashgordon.gumroad.com/l/kxgKf Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon https://www.instagram.com/royflashgordon/ Subscribe to the Main Event Mindset YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKxFYEgejC0rgBANe5B41_w If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and coach who helps people WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. Today I want to talk about another catalyst for my own personal development, my reiki practice. Now you might be wondering, what's reiki? Reiki, which essentially means spirit or life energy, is a form of energy healing. As a reiki practitioner, I have the ability to connect with the reiki energy and direct it to heal any individual that is looking to receive the energy. By direct, I mean I call it forth, and it kind of tells me where to put my hands to share energy with the recipient. So, how does reiki heal? Energy flows through us all. When it's flowing well, our body functions well. Reiki promotes that energy flow that promotes proper function in our organs and tissue. When energy isn't flowing optimally or is disrupted, the body does not work to optimally. If energy flow continues to be disrupted or negative energy clings to the effected body parts, the body will perform worse and worse and lead to dysfunction and disease, even. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
Get your copy of my FREE Guide- Rejection Remedy: 8 Questions to Kick Your Fear of Rejection: https://royflashgordon.gumroad.com/l/kxgKf Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon and subscribe to the Main Event Mindset YouTube Channel to learn about how "Roy" helps dreamers become doers through healing and mindset redesign. If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and coach who helps people WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. Pro Wrestler Tony Kozina shares about how he became a wrestler, his journeys around the US and Canada, his mindset, and how he landed in New Zealand training stars of the future! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
Get your copy of my FREE Guide- Rejection Remedy: 8 Questions to Kick Your Fear of Rejection: https://royflashgordon.gumroad.com/l/kxgKf Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon and subscribe to the Main Event Mindset YouTube Channel to learn about how "Roy" helps dreamers become doers through healing and mindset redesign. If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and coach who helps people WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. "One Day" rarely comes. Do this instead! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
Get your copy of my FREE Guide- Rejection Remedy: 8 Questions to Kick Your Fear of Rejection: https://royflashgordon.gumroad.com/l/kxgKf Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon and subscribe to the Main Event Mindset YouTube Channel to learn about how "Roy" helps dreamers become doers through healing and mindset redesign. If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and coach who helps people WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. Today I want to talk about building your tribe. Bringing the right people into your life, why it's important, and of course, recognizing when a relationship of any sort is no longer serving you. Your network is your net worth. Meaning, you can expect your results to be correlated to the people you're spending your time around. That said, if you spend your time around people who take away from your energy, your time, or make you feel like shit, you can expect your results to reflect that. It also means if you're surrounded by a bunch of hungry people, hustlers, people that make you be on you're A game, and those that support you, you can expect to be able to play at the highest level AND help each other achieve success in some way. The problem is, taking a look at this obsession the world has with being nice. We have friends come into our lives and unless they do something truly heinous, most people seem to believe that those friends are owed time, attention, and a pass to stay around, even if we don't get the same amount of value from the relationship. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
Get your copy of my FREE Guide- Rejection Remedy: 8 Questions to Kick Your Fear of Rejection: https://royflashgordon.gumroad.com/l/kxgKf Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon and subscribe to the Main Event Mindset YouTube Channel to learn about how "Roy" helps dreamers become doers through healing and mindset redesign. If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and coach who helps people WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
Get your copy of my FREE Guide- Rejection Remedy: 8 Questions to Kick Your Fear of Rejection: https://royflashgordon.gumroad.com/l/kxgKf Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon and subscribe to the Main Event Mindset YouTube Channel to learn about how "Roy" helps dreamers become doers through healing and mindset redesign. If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and coach who helps people WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. Flash continues his series of conversations with pro wrestlers. This week JDX talks his relocating to grow as a wrestlers, getting his start, and his recent All Elite Wrestling experience. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
These two little words can change everything. Drop the "I can't"s from your language and see yourself believe in yourself more. Get your copy of my FREE Guide- Rejection Remedy: 8 Questions to Kick Your Fear of Rejection: https://royflashgordon.gumroad.com/l/kxgKf Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon and subscribe to the Main Event Mindset YouTube Channel to learn about how "Roy" helps dreamers become doers through healing and mindset redesign. If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and coach who helps people WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
Get your copy of my FREE Guide- Rejection Remedy: 8 Questions to Kick Your Fear of Rejection: https://royflashgordon.gumroad.com/l/kxgKf Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon to learn about how "Roy" helps dreamers become doers through healing and mindset redesign. If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and coach who helps people WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. On today's episode I want to talk about doing hard things. And before even getting into that shout out to you for being here today because odds are, to get here, you probably had to do a few hard things at some point or another. Whether that's figuring out how to paying some massive bill that ruined your financial situation, or passing a bunch of difficult tests in school to get your degree, or simply getting out of bed to take on the day when you were so sad that you weren't sure you could go on…. Whatever your challenges have been, you've made it through them and you're a survivor. You can always be proud of that. You can always be grateful for the strength that got you through that. Those are kind of like do or die situations. We also have the choice to take difficult action every day as a part of this journey to that next level life you may be seeking. A lot of time It's that difficulty that makes taking the action necessary to get what you want out of life seem like an insurmountable task at times. There's a popular saying along the lines of "choose your hard". In a nutshell, it highlights how with many things in life where we have a choice of what we're going to do next or how we're going to handle a given situation that we have a choice between two hard things. Given that choice of two hard things, one is typically one where you stay in the same place in terms of action and attitude. That stillness being due to it being the more comfortable choice that seems good and less hard now, but the difficulty some how compounds the longer you're in that spot. The other hard choice is the one that is more action oriented and something that will change the situation to being the more beneficial choice of the two even if the initial action is more difficult than if you stayed in the now comfortable/future hard situation. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
Get your copy of my FREE Guide- Rejection Remedy: 8 Questions to Kick Your Fear of Rejection: https://royflashgordon.gumroad.com/l/kxgKf Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon to learn about how "Roy" helps dreamers become doers through healing and mindset redesign. If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and coach who helps people WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
Get your copy of my FREE Guide- Rejection Remedy: 8 Questions to Kick Your Fear of Rejection: https://royflashgordon.gumroad.com/l/kxgKf Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon to learn about how "Roy" helps dreamers become doers through healing and mindset redesign. If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and coach who helps people WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. This week Roy interviews one of his friends but also a mentor in wrestling, Doug Simmons. Listen to how Doug grew up, got started in wrestling, and how he supports young up and comers as they chase their dreams. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
Get your copy of my FREE Guide- Rejection Remedy: 8 Questions to Kick Your Fear of Rejection: https://royflashgordon.gumroad.com/l/kxgKf Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and coach who helps people WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. Tough Love Tuesday is a bite size boost of motivation with Roy coming out hot and unedited around a topic that you may want to examine if you are looking to take your life to the next level. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
Get your copy of my FREE Guide- Rejection Remedy: 8 Questions to Kick Your Fear of Rejection: https://royflashgordon.gumroad.com/l/kxgKf Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon to learn about how "Roy" helps dreamers become doers through healing and mindset redesign. If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and coach who helps people WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. Today I want to talk about a big buzz word these days. Authenticity. What does it truly mean to be authentic? And why are we actually all not so good at being authentic, though we probably think we are. It's not that I think we are out living in the world as fake people. Not the kind of fake that most of us think about when we call someone a fake. That's like the people who act a certain way because they want something from you. Or they act one way with you and then act in a way that's totally different with others. And the lack of authenticity I'm referring to can be inclusive of that. That kind of fake is totally overt bs. No one tends to be happy when they discover that quality in a person that they interact with. But true inauthenticity is covert in its nature because no one thinks they're doing it. So what does it mean to be authentic? It means you mean what you say. It aligns exactly with what you believe and value. You also do things that line up with those beliefs and values. You express yourself, both verbally and in your actions, as freely as you like because that's what you need to do. Your honest about who you are and what you want with yourself and everyone. And you honor who you and what you want with actions that lead take you closer to what it is you want. "But Flash, what do you mean most people aren't good at this? It sounds like you are just saying to be yourself!" Yes, I am saying that. And most people suck at it. Grade school teachers and Disney channel taught us to be ourselves, sure, but somewhere along the line most people got off that train. Since then I'd say the average person is pretty unaware of the deviation away from who they know themselves to be and who they show the world they are. Who we show ourselves to be in the world, or our persona, is a mask of sorts. And we might have different masks for different situations but underneath the mask is the same person, our authentic self. Take the character of Roy "Flash" Gordon the sometimes chill, sometimes asshole professional wrestler…he is pretty different from Roy "Flash" Gordon who's recording this podcast… who's even a little different from the LeRoy Daniel Gordon who might just be walking his dog around the block. So what's the problem? Well, if I enjoy the attention or acceptance or the high flying feeling I get with being Roy "Flash" Gordon the wrestler and too that system of actions, beliefs, and values to replace those of my authentic self then I might be a little problematic to those in my life but I'd probably live a fine life still right? I'd say maybe…until I consider that my persona doesn't really have real beliefs or values, let alone those that align with my authentic self. My wrestler persona is a way I express myself. The act of wrestling is an action that brings me fulfillment and serves my authentic self but it is not all of me. My super fake hypothetical example, which by the way we hear about having happened in history to actors or musical artists, is an extreme one but there is a real danger of you becoming the mask that you show to others. When you wear that mask all the time. When you show up differently than who you really are. When you ignore what you are here to do in the world. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
Get your copy of my FREE Guide- Rejection Remedy: 8 Questions to Kick Your Fear of Rejection: https://royflashgordon.gumroad.com/l/kxgKf Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and coach who helps people WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. Tough Love Tuesday is a bite size boost of motivation with Roy coming out hot and unedited around a topic that you may want to examine if you are looking to take your life to the next level. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
www.royflashgordon.com to learn about how "Roy" helps dreamers become doers through healing and mindset redesign. Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and coach who helps people WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. This episode Roy Interviews a multi talented professional wrestler with musical flare, The System about his journey to becoming a wrestler and how it has effected his real life. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
www.royflashgordon.com to learn about how "Roy" helps dreamers become doers through healing and mindset redesign. Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and coach who helps people WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. Tough Love Tuesday is a bite size boost of motivation with Roy coming out hot and unedited around a topic that you may want to examine if you are looking to take your life to the next level. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
www.royflashgordon.com to learn about how "Roy" helps dreamers become doers through healing and mindset redesign. Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon and get my free GUIDE Rejection Remedy. If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and coach who helps people WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. Most people get to the point of quitting when things get uncomfortable. Some have more of a tolerance for the discomfort, or pain, or risk, or whatever other product of hard work you can think of. Few people are quitting because things are too easy or they're making too much money or it feels too nice. But you will see people start an endeavor and be totally shook when shit starts to get difficult, as if it wasn't expected. You mean all the times they told us that things worth having don't come easily…..that they were right!? Yes, friends. They were right. If you're going to make something big happen within your life you're going to have to bust your ass for it. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
www.royflashgordon.com to learn about how "Roy" helps dreamers become doers through healing and mindset redesign. Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and coach who helps people WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. Tough Love Tuesday is a bite size boost of motivation with Roy coming out hot and unedited around a topic that you may want to examine if you are looking to take your life to the next level. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
Next up in my series of pro wrestler guests is Craig Mitchell. He is both owner and coach at Crossfit Warehouse in Alsip, Illinois. Craig shares about opening up his gym in the pandemic, what wrestling taught him, and how he learned how important it was to what you love to do. www.royflashgordon.com to learn about how "Roy" helps people become their fearless future selves through healing and mindset redesign. Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and coach who helps people WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
www.royflashgordon.com to learn about how "Roy" helps people become their fearless future selves through healing and mindset redesign. Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and coach who helps people WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. We all could probably do a lot better in this area. And while you think the things you let leave your mouth effect you on a grand scale…think again. And it's not just the words that leave your mouth. The self talk that goes on in your mind. The thoughts, the beliefs, all of it has the power to limit your potential. Every time you say something like, "I could never run that fast!" or "Haha, I'm an idiot." whether you're being serious or telling a joke, you're taking yourself further away from proving the opposite to be true. And while you might not be as fast as the next person, you can always improve upon what you're capable of doing and definitely do things you thought you could not. You give yourself a better shot when you tell yourself better things. If you talk shit about yourself. Like "I can't do this", "I'm not good at that", or "I'm fat". You're asking to feeling those feelings even if you've got all the ability in the world to do a lot more than you give yourself credit for. And guess what? If you feel like shit, you're going to probably live a life that reflects those feelings. Keep saying "I'll never start a business because I'm not smart enough" and yeah, you're not going to start a business probably. How could you be confident enough to start a business with that belief? If you talk in a way that puts yourself down, how can you expect to attract someone who lifts you up? Or worse, how likely are you to attract someone who sees that it's ok to talk shit to you because you do it to yourself? --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
I do my first ever podcast interview with my tag team wrestling partner, Tony Nas. Tony tells us about how he was inspired to invest in seven different things to try to make his first million dollars including trading stocks and his car dealership that he started during the pandemic! He talks how he got into wrestling and how it's impacted his life for the better. www.royflashgordon.com to learn about how "Roy" helps people become their fearless future selves through healing and mindset redesign. Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and coach who helps people WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
www.royflashgordon.com to learn about how "Roy" helps people become their future fearless selves through healing and mindset redesign. Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and coach who helps people WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. Season 1 had a theme of vulnerability but there was also a lot about how you could set yourself up for success energetically. Your energy during any given moment has more to do with your success. By energy, what I mean is your vibe, frequency, aura, swag, drip, or whatever else fuels and/or beams off of you. You carry that with you all the time so naturally it has an influence on your performance in a given situation and all of us are sensitive to the vibe of others on some level or another. You ever just meet a person and they're all lit up and happy and you just know they're just someone you want to be around? An easy read of "good" energy. Then the next person comes along and they're similarly lit up but something is off and you can't put your finger on it but you want nothing to do with them? Something in they're being is probably giving away something incongruent with the "I'm an exciting, cool person" vibe they're trying to give off and because a lot of us can feel their real vibe, see their inauthenticity that's on the surface, and as a result we don't want to be around them. The heat pouring from me when I'm at another dumbass workout meeting that probably better as an email is likely easily palpable and more than enough to show my true feelings about the whole thing hahaha. So much effects our energy, of course, our sleep, nutrition, fitness level, and routine to name a few. Truly successful people do all they can to align these things. Even when all things align, some times your vibe is just not where you need it to be to perform even at a base level. Imagine your vibe being that low before you have a presentation, or a big performance, or an athletic competition. Then go head toss some nervousness on top of that. Then go ahead and the wifi go out at just the right moment so you're getting that little spinny circle thing on your computer. I've been there coaching my fitness classes when the Ipod that's streaming the music. Even when all becomes right, you're still a little jarred. Today I want to talk about a technique that helps you raise your vibe when it isn't where you need it, whether you slept poorly, are hung over, just got broken up with, are feeling nervous, or through any other distractions that may pop up for you. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
WE BACK on July 14th. Roy "Flash" Gordon returns as the host of the "Main Event Mindset" Podcast fka Main Event Man. The old one was always for everyone and it was time to make that more clear. A Main Event Mindset can serve us in so many ways, and in this season I'll touch on more ways for you to level up your mindset and get into the game you've been sitting out of for so long. And over the course of Season 2, I'll also get a little help from some friends. Half of the season will focus on the podcast's first ever guests, each of whom will discuss ways in which they've put their Main Event Mindsets to work. And not just any old guests but other men who have done what Flash has done, and that's chase their dream of being a professional wrestler and letting that help them grow their lives into something they love. Season 1 was a ton of fun and Season 2 promises all of that fun and a lot more fire than ever before, which might be what you can expect with you get a bunch of wrestling folks together. The name may be different but the mission is unchanged. By sharing the insights from his pursuit of his dream, Flash wants to help as many other humans as possible unlock their true power by being vulnerable, working through fear, and ultimately, allowing them to stop spectating in life, get into action, and WIN the life they've always wanted. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
www.royflashgordon.com to learn about how "Roy" helps men defeat their fear of rejection so they can begin living life as a champion! Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon and Follow Main Event Man YouTube Channel If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and men's coach who helps men WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. On his own journey, Roy was able to make his childhood dream of being setting foot in a WWE ring come true and he is now committed to helping men get over their fear of rejection, drop the false idea of vulnerability being weakness and, instead, see it as the greatest tool in making their own dreams a reality. Main Event Man Returns July 7th! Today I've got to tell you that odds are, you're playing the game of life way smaller than you are capable of and I think it's time you stopped. This entire podcast so far has been about helping you use the tools in your tool box to get to a "Main Event Life". That could look like a lot of things for a lot of people but at it's core, a Main Event Life is living on the next level. It's living to your fullest potential. It's playing big, all out, with everything you have in you. You don't get to take it to the next level without that amount of effort. The problem is most people don't go on the journey to achieve their potential from such a place of power. They move through the world playing small, instead. Playing small simply means you are avoiding actions that make you or others uncomfortable. Meaning you aren't going to take too many risks or make too many waves. Someone playing small generally is playing from a place of fear. A result of that fear is the tendency to shrink. When you shrink you choose to retract, or step back. Think of when you're walking around a crowded place and you hold your arms in close to yourself. That is shrinking. While functional and polite in a crowded area, it does nothing for you in the arena of life. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
www.royflashgordon.com to learn about how "Roy" helps men defeat their fear of rejection so they can begin living life as a champion! Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon and Follow Main Event Man YouTube Channel If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and men's coach who helps men WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. On his own journey, Roy was able to make his childhood dream of being setting foot in a WWE ring come true and he is now committed to helping men get over their fear of rejection, drop the false idea of vulnerability being weakness and, instead, see it as the greatest tool in making their own dreams a reality. Episode 19 is the penultimate episode of Season 1 of Main Event Man. After next week, I'll be taking a break from the podcast to refresh, recharge, and plan for Season 2. So make sure you tune in next week for the season finale and mark your calendars for the return on July 7th! Throughout Season 1, I dropped bits and pieces of my story of how I got to this point, what made me interested in becoming a men's coach, and some of the other jobs I've had. I thought it would be fun before the season ended to dive a little bit deeper into who Roy "Flash" Gordon is and where this overarching theme of vulnerability has fit into my life. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
www.royflashgordon.com to learn about how "Roy" helps men defeat their fear of rejection so they can begin living life as a champion! Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon and Follow Main Event Man YouTube Channel If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and men's coach who helps men WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. On his own journey, Roy was able to make his childhood dream of being setting foot in a WWE ring come true and he is now committed to helping men get over their fear of rejection, drop the false idea of vulnerability being weakness and, instead, see it as the greatest tool in making their own dreams a reality. On today's episode, I want to talk about motivation and how the it's all kind of bullshit. I hear time and time again about how someone wants to change their life. Like when folks talk about wanting to start going to the gym, for example, you hear it from people all the time. I want to go but I'm just not motivated. Or let's say they do get going. They have goals. I want to lose weight. I want to get ready for my beach vacation. I want to train for a marathon. Then they get rollin for a bit and fizzle out. I ask em where they've been and through every form of reasoning, at the core of it they tell me, "I just haven't been motivated." And to that I just have to say…"ok, what else?". Like is that all, friend? You aren't motivated so you just forget what it is you set out to do? Because, really, if lack of motivation is all that's standing between you and your goals, then it's really not that big of an issue, as long as you keep going and keep taking the actions that you need to take to accomplish those goals…if you don't keep going though, I'm going to make the bold assumption that you either don't want those goals as much as you say you do OR maybe you're desiring motivation when what you're lacking is something else. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
www.royflashgordon.com to learn about how "Roy" helps men defeat their fear of rejection so they can begin living life as a champion! Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon and Follow Main Event Man YouTube Channel If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and men's coach who helps men WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. On his own journey, Roy was able to make his childhood dream of being setting foot in a WWE ring come true and he is now committed to helping men get over their fear of rejection, drop the false idea of vulnerability being weakness and, instead, see it as the greatest tool in making their own dreams a reality. Today I want to talk about owning your feelings. Men definitely get a bad rep when it comes to how they handle their feelings but I think everyone could benefit from a bit of practice in the realm of handling your feelings. When I say "handle" I mean…processing or feeling your feelings fully, avoiding overidentification with your feelings, and shifting your feelings when you want to feel more of a pleasant feelings or less of feelings that aren't serving you well at the time. This is especially important for men because of the training life gives us when it comes to our feelings. As you may remember from a few episodes back, men are not generally encouraged to be individuals who feel things outside of excitement and anger. If you are a dude listening to this, odds are you heard the words, "stop crying or I'll give you something to cry about." more than you heard the words, "it's alright man, let it out." So we generally have open access to expressing excitement, which is a form of, joy. We have open access to anger, which is connected to the aggression or violence needed to apply the force necessary to protect or provide. That being a task highly valued in the man box roles set for men. And we are generally given limited access to sadness outside of pretty strong circumstances like the death of a loved one or at a funeral. And even if you cry in that case, you feel shame for crying publicly so you try to hide it still. So, 3 emotions in the conversation. How many are we missing out on? Well, it depends on who you ask. I decided to ask google and it said 27. The source that said 27 had nothing resembling anger on the list so I had to take it with a grain of salt. Dr Robert Plutnik developed a Wheel Of Emotions that helps go through 8 main emotions that are actually the kicking off point for 34,000 distinct emotions that humans can experience. That's a big number to digest so let's focus on the main 8. Joy, sadness, and anger have already been mentioned. The other five are anticipation, disgust, fear, acceptance, surprise. These are probably familiar to you because you definitely feel them. You might even openly express the more positive feelings. Many of us, even women, are encouraged to avoid expressing feelings like sadness or fear. We may be in touch with disgust if accompanied by anger. And anger equals bad and scary so even it gets held in sometimes. Reading back what I read makes me feel like I'm inside of the emotional stew that brews when you hold things in. Maybe emotional storm is better wording. It's that emotional storm that takes away our effectiveness, makes life harder, and leads to much more dire consequences when you get to the eye of that storm. Violence against women, violence against children, violence against people who are different from you, or the next school shooting are just a few things seen in the eye of the storm for too many men. Many consequences for a lot more than the individual in those cases. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
www.royflashgordon.com to learn about how "Roy" helps men defeat their fear of rejection so they can begin living life as a champion! Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon and Follow Main Event Man YouTube Channel If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and men's coach who helps men WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. On his own journey, Roy was able to make his childhood dream of being setting foot in a WWE ring come true and he is now committed to helping men get over their fear of rejection, drop the false idea of vulnerability being weakness and, instead, see it as the greatest tool in making their own dreams a reality. I talk a ton about embracing the uncomfortable situations in your life. Truly, if it is your goal to grow, you will have to deal with an uncomfortable situation or two or five hundred. From athletic to academic to business to artistic performance and so much more, the catalyst to growth is discomfort. As a runner, you only get faster by challenging yourself to paces you are not use to running at. Either increasing them or holding the for various amounts of time. In real, your body gives you feed back like, "Yo, this sucks. Let's go back to doing what we know does not suck this bad." That's where an awesome coach comes and says that they won't let you slack and you get better because you pushed past that discomfort. As a actor, it's easy to keep taking classes and small projects. But if you want to make it to the next level you have to audition on another level. Meaning you have to do more auditions, where the competition is stiffer, and face more potential rejection. All inherently a lot more uncomfortable than before. But the experience you get leads to growth. The roles you eventually get are the result of growth. As a wrestler, I could've stayed and played patti cake with my buddies in the practice wrestling ring having fun and getting a little better maybe. Or I could seek out opportunities to get on bigger shows with wrestlers I knew were better than me so I could learn from them and be pulled up to perform on their level. I did. And I wanted to puke before hitting the curtain many a time because of it. I got better. A lot better. Good enough to get a little attention from the right people and build a good reputation in my area. If I want to get better than that, I have to rinse and repeat and continue to seek that discomfort. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
www.royflashgordon.com to learn about how "Roy" helps men defeat their fear of rejection so they can begin living life as a champion! Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon and Follow Main Event Man YouTube Channel If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and men's coach who helps men WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. On his own journey, Roy was able to make his childhood dream of being setting foot in a WWE ring come true and he is now committed to helping men get over their fear of rejection, drop the false idea of vulnerability being weakness and, instead, see it as the greatest tool in making their own dreams a reality. Today I want to talk about limiting beliefs. We all have em. It's impossible not to go through life without picking a few up along the way. Let's talk about what they are, how'd you acquire them, how they hold you back, and how you can tell them that their services are no longer needed. A belief is something that we find to be absolutely true. These beliefs can run in the foreground of our thinking and we have many unconscious beliefs running in the background as well. Our beliefs set the stage for our behavior. In a cycle of sorts. Your beliefs influence your thoughts which influence your feelings which influence your actions which determine your results. Finally, your results provide you with feedback that may validate or invalidate your beliefs with further shapes them. And it's that feedback that creates believes in the first place, whether it be influenced by your results or actions, or just an observation of the world that you make. Know that you are clear on what a belief is and it's place in the order of events that influence your behavior… then you can probably see how giving a limiting belief so much power impacts your life in ways that do not serve you. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
www.royflashgordon.com to learn about how "Roy" helps men defeat their fear of rejection so they can begin living life as a champion! Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon and Follow Main Event Man YouTube Channel If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and men's coach who helps men WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. On his own journey, Roy was able to make his childhood dream of being setting foot in a WWE ring come true and he is now committed to helping men get over their fear of rejection, drop the false idea of vulnerability being weakness and, instead, see it as the greatest tool in making their own dreams a reality. Last week's episode introduced the performance of masculinity as told by Flash and what he learned watching 13 Reasons why(and from 31 years of life, I guess) and we talked about the cost of men choosing to participate in that performance essentially being their ability to be their true, fully expressed self. And a couple of ways that lack of being themselves could lead to the harm of others. OR how any step outside of the man box while being themselves could lead to them being harmed as well. Those costs to men and the world around them described in another way. A term that is like nails on a chalkboard to some men. The T word. TOXIC. TOXIC. TOXIC. TOXIC. Are you still listening fellas? Or did I scare you away? If you're still there, don't worry, I'm not going to beat you over the head with the shame you should feel for being inherently evil because you are a man but we're going to chat. JK about that inherent evil thing. Not about what TM is because I think last episode and even previous episodes got a nice little start on that. But, instead, I want to talk about opening your god damn ears, eyes, and mind to wrap your mind around what it takes for you to change your life for the better. YES YOUR LIFE. In your stepping up for yourself. You'll step up for humanity at the same time. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
www.royflashgordon.com to learn about how "Roy" helps men defeat their fear of rejection so they can begin living life as a champion! Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon and Follow Main Event Man YouTube Channel If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and men's coach who helps men WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. On his own journey, Roy was able to make his childhood dream of being setting foot in a WWE ring come true and he is now committed to helping men get over their fear of rejection, drop the false idea of vulnerability being weakness and, instead, see it as the greatest tool in making their own dreams a reality. Today I want to tackle a topic that is probably a little overdue. It's overdue because it really frames the behavior of many men. It explains why there is no room for intentional vulnerability in the definition of manhood for many men. That reason is that most many men are trapped in the performance of masculinity. I say many men, because I do genuinely believe there are many other men who have chosen not to take part in that performance. I also believe that those men would say that they slide into it occasionally because it's what we're brainwashed to do from the time we are boys. So what is the performance of masculinity? It would be anything that is considered "manly", or something that makes an individual a "real man" or shit you do when you "man up". Things that come to mind when I think of a man who is taking part in the performance are: -being strong -being tall -being straight -athletic -in charge -a provider -plays/watches sports -only emotion allowed is anger Thought leaders have termed this performance of masculinity as the " Man Box". Basically, all these qualities of what a man is fit into the box. If you step outside of that box your are not a real man as man society defines it. You, instead, are likened to a woman or homosexual man using no kind terms to let you know it. Because part of being in the man box is to see women, homosexual men, or gender non conforming people as less than. Not always overtly, but you don't want to be those things if you are a "real man". --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
www.royflashgordon.com to learn about how "Roy" helps men defeat their fear of rejection so they can begin living life as a champion! Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon and Follow Main Event Man YouTube Channel If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and men's coach who helps men WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. On his own journey, Roy was able to make his childhood dream of being setting foot in a WWE ring come true and he is now committed to helping men get over their fear of rejection, drop the false idea of vulnerability being weakness and, instead, see it as the greatest tool in making their own dreams a reality. Today I want to talk about three communication issues that are making your life far more difficult than it needs to be. Every communication problem does not necessarily lead to an argument or overt conflict but lack of strong communication skills definitely cause other issues that negatively impact your relationships both in your career and personal life. The benefits of mastering communication include the ability to gain the trust of others, ease of avoiding and solving conflicts, ease of getting your needs met, and better relationships, in general. All of this benefits you at work too. While the lack there of, has a literal cost. In large companies of 100,000 people or more, there is an estimated cost of about $62 million/yr due to communication break downs to and between team members in such companies. Not that I drop too many tears for big business, but that's a lot of money left on the table just because of people getting their wires crossed. Great communication definitely prevents such losses by boosting productivity. Maybe you're not playing with a chunk of change that big but you're probably losing a few bucks somehow. Not to mention your own social cost of being a poor communicator. No relationship works without communication. A long term break down of communication will lead to eventual break down of the relationship- arguments, constant lack of understanding, a lack of need fulfillment, a lack of intimacy, and a lack of growth for the relationship will all be a part of that break down before you see get to break up. I don't think any of us are born great verbal communicators. We either pick up what we see from our experience with people who purposefully took the time to become great communicators or we see the need for it in our lives and seek out the knowledge and practical experience to bring that skill to our lives. So today I have three communication mistakes I want to talk about and if you implement the fix to these mistakes, you will see your skills level up in the realm of communication and it might not be 62 milly but I anticipate you getting some key wins once you bring them into your life! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
Resource: https://samuraibrotherhood.com/blog/peter-pan-a-portrait-of-boy-psychology/ www.royflashgordon.com to learn about how "Roy" helps men defeat their fear of rejection so they can begin living life as a champion! Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon. If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and men's coach who helps men WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. On his own journey, Roy was able to make his childhood dream of being setting foot in a WWE ring come true and he is now committed to helping men get over their fear of rejection, drop the false idea of vulnerability being weakness and, instead, see it as the greatest tool in making their own dreams a reality. What if we looked at freedom another way though? What if the way we typical talk about freedom, is not really as free as we think? If we define freedom as life without commitment I venture to say that not only is a life like that not truly free but it's an immature life. It's an unfulfilled life. That was a beautiful thing back then and it does not work for us anymore once we reach adulthood. I mean, I guess it does work, but its not cute. A life without responsibility, or commitment, or discomfort or any of the other things we avoid when we are living "freely" is a life without definition, inspiration, impact, or real passion. Because while you are free you may be having fun, but you aren't full of much. The fear of commitment is a known trait for men. Though some guys might say, "I'm not afraid of it, I just don't want to do it right now." That's cool. I know I've been there especially in dating. We can just call it avoidance instead. But the fear, I mean, ha, the avoidance, doesn't just show up there. It shows up when you procrastinate on starting a business or whatever new venture you say you want to do. It shows up when you avoid having that confrontation with one of your parents. It shows up whenever you avoid, procrastinate, or otherwise resist standing up or standing for or committing to something that has the potential to bring you pain. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
www.royflashgordon.com to learn about how "Roy" helps men defeat their fear of rejection so they can begin living life as a champion! Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon. If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and men's coach who helps men WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. On his own journey, Roy was able to make his childhood dream of being setting foot in a WWE ring come true and he is now committed to helping men get over their fear of rejection, drop the false idea of vulnerability being weakness and, instead, see it as the greatest tool in making their own dreams a reality. In a world where have endless options for everything, decisions are everything. The hardest decisions to make will be the ones that will make or break or success in whatever area you're looking to excel in. When you are trying to build your life, an inability to decide could mean you will just waffle around in those areas and waffling means you're gonna get a whole lotta nothing for your effort. Effort, which shouldn't be too much because not deciding is definitely the easy thing to do. We have "what is" and we have "what could be" after a given decision. Maybe even multiple "what could be"s. When the idea of giving up our current reality for a potential new one pops up, it can be scary or anxiety inducing because we worry over the consequences of a wrong decision, making a mistake, or getting rid of someone in our life when we shouldn't. Indecision can have roots in depression because good alternatives to "what is" all seem bad to someone suffering from depression. Anxiety also can block the part of our brain needed to distract from things that inhibit decision making. So it is important to recognize If these things apply to you because they may require a strategy shift. Otherwise, your indecision may simply need the help of a mindset shift. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
http://www.royflashgordon.com (www.royflashgordon.com) to learn about how "Roy" helps men defeat their fear of rejection so they can begin living life as a champion! Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon. If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and men's coach who helps men WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. On his own journey, Roy was able to make his childhood dream of being setting foot in a WWE ring come true and he is now committed to helping men get over their fear of rejection, drop the false idea of vulnerability being weakness and, instead, see it as the greatest tool in making their own dreams a reality. For clarity, I am using the word "need" but wants kind of fall into that category as well. The kinds of wants that aren't material, of course. And the kind of things that may seem like wants if looked at on paper but feel like needs are the kind I'm talking about. Our more base needs lack of fulfillment will lead to injury, illness, or death. That's easy. It's our other needs that we gotta take a look at if we find ourselves unfulfilled or unhappy. And who would be happy if they are scared to ask for what they need most of the time? There's totally a fear of rejection in that but also feelings of shame or guilt might come up when you're trying to have your needs met. One of my favorite movies is Think Like a Man based off of Steve Harvey's book and it's hilarious btw. One character has a very close relationship with his mom in total mama's boy fashion. To the point where he has to prove that he is not being controlled by her mom power. Which is scary, she raised him alone and he loves her and feels indebted to her so he "has to" do as she says. Comes when she calls. And never miss Sunday dinner. Classic enmeshment. He starts seeing a woman and things escalate to the point where he needs to step up his presence in her life but its clear he is unable to do that with his commitment to mom. He needs to lay down the law with mom, which, spoiler alert, he eventually does, BUT basically not until the second movie and his relationship remains turbulent because of it. His inability to describe his need for boundaries with his mom almost cheated him out of a the relationship he wanted. Movie but totally real life. Your happiness will be based on the success with which you fulfill the needs of others and I'm doing air quotes around happiness because that is a generous word for the state that we are in when we are people pleasing. It's existing, at best, and while people have lived their entire lives in that state, they lived them with sadness, anger, resentment, and whilst never knowing fulfillment. First, you are going to need to recognize that you are in fact in need. Say that your partner cancels plans for the night you were supposed to meet and the result is you feeling sad. Sadness is your feeling…that feeling is generated by a need for something. Perhaps, you were needing intimacy or quality time with your partner. There are as many feeling-need combinations as there are scenarios but you have to get good at looking at your feelings and seeing what is behind those feelings so know your need and can express it. Next, you want to claim responsibility for your own feelings. When I laid out there scenario I was super careful to say your partner canceled on you and the result was you feeling sad. I did not say your partner made you sad because they canceled on you. "I'm sad because you canceled on me." It motivates feelings of guilt and shame. Can it motivate empathy, perhaps, but the other stuff is coming along for the ride. The language we're conditioned to use shifts blame to other people or circumstances to explain how or why we do or feel the way we do. If you speak in a way that implies... --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
http://www.royflashgordon.com (www.royflashgordon.com) to learn about how "Roy" helps men defeat their fear of rejection so they can begin living life as a champion! Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon. If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and men's coach who helps men WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. On his own journey, Roy was able to make his childhood dream of being setting foot in a WWE ring come true and he is now committed to helping men get over their fear of rejection, drop the false idea of vulnerability being weakness and, instead, see it as the greatest tool in making their own dreams a reality. Today, I want to talk about how to best set yourself up for a great day. You've probably heard me talk before on the podcast about the importance of bringing the right energy into any situation. The situation we all find ourselves lucky enough to be in if we wake up, is taking on our day. Kicking that off with the "right stuff" can make the difference between going into the office sluggish and hating the fact that it's Monday and getting in there ready to kick the entire week's ass starting with Monday gdamnit! Most people start their day off with like 5 presses of the snooze button so they can get every second of sleep in before they wake up with just enough time to get themselves together for work, toss some sort of sustenance in their body, and get to where they need to be with just enough time to spare. While you can get away with approaching your days like that, you aren't going to be reaching the highest heights of productivity. With a morning routine though, you can prime your body, mind, and spirit for taking on an action packed day with your best foot forward. Today I'm going to talk about the importance of a morning routine and tell you all about mine! People tend to be envious of the people living these super high class life styles where they are making the big bucks, and get to travel, and own all the material things. There are many factors to success and different definitions of what it is. There are just as many reasons the average person won't experience the success of the high performers you are familiar with. The biggest being that they simply won't do what majorly successful people in this world have done. Morning routines are no exception. Nearly all successful entrepreneur, pro athlete, or other high performers you can think of have morning routines. They prioritize themselves, their growth, and their time before they let the concerns of other parties influence their day. The problem with the "wake up, brush your teeth, and eat some bs while sprinting out the door" model is that all these things that you are blowing through so you can get to the office and serve someone else are being sacrificed because you are on someone else's clock. The work you do probably brings some level of stress during the day sometimes. Why deal with more stress before you even get there when you can spend the first part of your day shoring up your defenses against any stress that may come. A morning routine has the great potential to not be a place where you cultivate peace in your life but also a place where you can truly develop yourself while preparing for an energetic, balanced day. A morning routine can consist of anything, really. It should be something that contributes to your spirit, your knowledge, your fitness in time intervals as little as 15 mins or as long as an hour. I know of people who have 2 hour morning routines. Don't worry, I'm not suggesting you go that long, but you see what I mean. You've got a ton of flexibility in what you can adopt into your morning routine. Here are a few ideas for what a lot of people do in their morning routines: Journaling, cold showers,... --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
http://www.royflashgordon.com (www.royflashgordon.com) to learn about how "Roy" helps men defeat their fear of rejection so they can begin living life as a champion! Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon. If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and men's coach who helps men WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. On his own journey, Roy was able to make his childhood dream of being setting foot in a WWE ring come true and he is now committed to helping men get over their fear of rejection, drop the false idea of vulnerability being weakness and, instead, see it as the greatest tool in making their own dreams a reality. You are where you are because its comfortable to be in that place. When you decided to take a step forward into something more that's where the confrontation begins and it will take courage to overcome it. The problem is when most people get to that point where they have to start to really get uncomfortable, they hit a sticking point. That uncomfortable feeling is so important because whatever move you've decided to make toward getting to that next level, you're going to reach that uncomfortable feeling. You're going to reach that sticking point. If you're going to risk rejection, risk failure, risk disappointing mom because you're telling her you want to join the circus instead of becoming a lawyer- WHATEV, it's going to bring up fear and you defeat that fear with courage. If you're saying to yourself, "well, duh, Flash we all know you get rid of fear with courage." I KNOW you know. But knowing and utilizing knowledge aren't the same. What I know is some of you listening to this podcast right now will let a certain local business call you over and over and over again trying to sell you something and instead of picking up and telling them you are not interested, you send it voicemail then tell your friends that they market too aggressively. Noooo, they have the courage to do what's necessary to do their job and that's call until you say no or one of you dies. And you're too soft to tell a stranger to never call you again. It's a teeny tiny action that you wouldn't think means a lot when it comes to your overall level of courage but I say how you do one thing is how you do all things. If you can't find the courage to politely tell a voice on the other end of the phone to get off your line, I have to wonder if you have the courage to do the bigger things when fear starts to show up. You current level of courage can depend on how things in life have gone for you thus far. Wherever you are, there a ways you can increase your level of courage so when you start toward that next goal and inevitably come across fear, you can acknowledge it and keep moving forward. Today I'm going to share 3 ways to increase courage. Before I get into those, though, let's take a look at fear. I touched on fear briefly a few episodes back when we were looking at rejection. Fear is not the enemy. Not at all. Fear evolved into us to protect us from harm. With self preservation being our brain's number one task, it gives us a physiological response including the stress hormones cortisol and adrenaline, increased HR and BP, even more blood flow into our limbs so we are ready to fight or run. All great things for our ancestors who needed to fight or flee the saber tooth tigers in Episode 4. And also great things for us if we are in truly dangerous situations people encounter today as well. Just like the fear of rejection though, our brain may treat any other fear we encounter with physical reactions that don't necessarily serve us in all situations in which we deal with fear. And that's when fear becomes a problem. Fear happens because we are anticipating our actions will bring harm. So we end up in a place where we need to... --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
http://www.royflashgordon.com (www.royflashgordon.com) to learn about how "Roy" helps men defeat their fear of rejection so they can begin living life as a champion! Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon. If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and men's coach who helps men WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. On his own journey, Roy was able to make his childhood dream of being setting foot in a WWE ring come true and he is now committed to helping men get over their fear of rejection, drop the false idea of vulnerability being weakness and, instead, see it as the greatest tool in making their own dreams a reality. It's kind of hard to decide what that next step is or how you can best spend your time if you don't know that final destination. Google maps doesn't really work without the address of where you're trying to go. Sure, you can use it as a map and kind of just start heading South because you know that's the direction where the place you're going is but good luck getting there soon or at all, really, without those coordinates. Life without purpose or goals determined by trying to fulfill a purpose is a lot like wandering around using google maps without a final destination put in. You're not going anywhere or just wasting time doing things that don't really matter to you or move your life in any specific direction. Times passing you by and you're just going where it takes you. One of the biggest results of men, and anyone really, lacking vulnerability is the fact that they have held back on executing on what is it is they really want to achieve in life. It probably isn't fair that I say that this is an issue that everyone faces because, a lot of people simply don't know what they want in life in life. Ikigai has four foundations that help individuals gain clarity on what a fulfilling purpose would be for them. They come in the form of questions. You're gonna want to whip those journals out for this because as always, pen and paper is mightier than letting answer just float around in your brain. What do I love? What am I good at? How can I make money? What does the world need? From Grit by Angela Duckworth A few other questions to consider: What do I like to think about? Where does my mind wander? What do I really care about? What matter's most to me? How do I enjoy spending my time? What do I find absolutely unbearable? --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
http://www.royflashgordon.com (www.royflashgordon.com) to learn about how "Roy" helps men defeat their fear of rejection so they can begin living life as a champion! Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon. If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and men's coach who helps men WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. On his own journey, Roy was able to make his childhood dream of being setting foot in a WWE ring come true and he is now committed to helping men get over their fear of rejection, drop the false idea of vulnerability being weakness and, instead, see it as the greatest tool in making their own dreams a reality. So, you listened to MEM EP 3 and it got you fired up to ask your crush out because Flash told you it was a great idea aaaaaaaaand womp womp they hit you with a big fat NO. YIKES…..awkward….. BUT you knew this could happen and didn't let the possibility of no stop you in your journey to find your ideal partner. That's already a win and the action you took still brings you one step closer to your vision! There are several paths you can take after facing rejection and taking the L. You can use one or better yet, all 3 of the paths I want to tell you about today to bounce back and keep moving forward to your vision OR the easier and most obvious path. And that's turning around, using rejection as evidence that you aren't able to win, and letting that take you back to sitting on your ass. Rejection is an opinion and should be treated as such So after rejection you can: 1 Use it as an oppurtunity to practice acceptance. 2 Use it as feedback and work on the areas in which you need to grow to position yourself for success 3 Use it as motivation to get better, prove people who doubted you wrong, and make your main event dream mfing a reality. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
http://www.royflashgordon.com (www.royflashgordon.com) to learn about how "Roy" helps men defeat their fear of rejection so they can begin living life as a champion! Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon. If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Do it by FEB 24 to be entered to win $200! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and men's coach who helps men WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. On his own journey, Roy was able to make his childhood dream of being setting foot in a WWE ring come true and he is now committed to helping men get over their fear of rejection, drop the false idea of vulnerability being weakness and, instead, see it as the greatest tool in making their own dreams a reality. Resources: 100 Days of Rejection by Jia Jiang Highlights Today I'm going to talk about something that goes hand-in-hand with our old friend vulnerability. What we are all afraid of and something that stops you from winning before you even play the game because it stops you from playing in the first place. Yes, if you didn't guess from the title of the episode, you've probably guessed it by now. It's misery's bestie, failure's cousin, and achievement's arch nemesis. Give it up, for that mean old son of bitch, rejection. How many hopes and dreams are staying hopes and dreams all the way until the day their owners die? Far more than are achieved- that's for sure. We all have that friend that's always saying, "One day I'm gonna do this and that and blah blah". Shit, maybe you are that friend. Until I actually put this podcast out I'm sure I was earning some judgement as that friend haha. Could be a lot of stuff but the fear of rejection is riding along with every reason for that inaction. Tribalism is part of our nature as humans. From way back when we were new to the planet all the way to today, our social ties have always been important. Back then, if you didn't stick with the group, it meant certain death by saber tooth tiger or something equally as deadly. So in a very literally sense, rejection = death. Self preservations remains the most base human motivation. All fears developed as a way to protect our lives and a fear of rejection is definitely among those fears. It being built into our genes back then meant we'd have a better shot of survival because we would not veer away from would was acceptable in the group. That meant we wouldn't get kicked out of the cave and have to face the saber tooth tiger on our own. Fast forward 200,000-ish years and great news for us! There are no prehistoric creatures taking up residence where most of us live yet our fear of rejection still takes hold pretty much the same way. We've all suffer a massive L or 2 or 100 in life. It's part of playing the game called life. And it sucks. It shows up very much like a punch to the stomach. It can make you not wanna eat. It can make you lose sleep. It can be super lonely. Of course we want to avoid that feeling. But it's when we let the last rejection stop us from going out and getting the next opportunity that we really lose. That next opportunity or one soon after could be the YES we're seeking and so many are willing to let that potential pass them by because of a past pain! How much has passed you by already? Idk how many billion dollar ideas you've had but what HAS passed you by? I know one answer that we all share and that's time. And it's gonna keep passing us all by. With time comes regret. And I'll share this with you. I get that same gross feeling that rejection causes when I think about regret. Roy tells a story about leaving his job as a police officer to more seriously pursue his professional wrestling career. Write down what will happen if you are rejected in that request. What does "no" do to you? What does it mean about you? Spend some time bringing up --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
http://www.royflashgordon.com (www.royflashgordon.com) to learn about how "Roy" helps men defeat their fear of rejection so they can begin living life as a champion! Follow Roy on Instagram @royflashgordon. If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and men's coach who helps men WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world. On his own journey, Roy was able to make his childhood dream of being setting foot in a WWE ring come true and he is now committed to helping men get over their fear of rejection, drop the false idea of vulnerability being weakness and, instead, see it as the greatest tool in making their own dreams a reality. Highlights: For some, asking for help is as vulnerable as it gets. It's admitting to someone that you have something wrong or out of order and you are unable to come to a solution without going outside of yourself, or your knowledge, or your resources. Admitting that simply equals weakness but a lot of us know, that is not the case. The opposite is true. What definitely does make your body weak is when it's subjected to disease, mental health problems, and the destructive behaviors associated with the accumulation of both, though. And that's exactly what we as men ask for when we do not seek the help we need. 655,000 Americans die from heart disease a year. Over half are men. And I only mention this disease cause it's the leading cause of death for men but like many diseases, there are early signs and several predictors that involve a general lack of care for your body. In 2018, nearly 70% of all suicides were committed by white men alone. Men commit suicide at a rate 3.5x-ish higher than women. There are warning signs that not everyone may be aware of but with suicidal thoughts being so deep and personal AND the stigma attached to any mental illness, it's even less likely men would share these things and seek help. I'm kicking this thing off with health today but I can think of times in several other areas in which I didn't seek the help I needed. Times in school, times when I was on the grind and struggling financially….. hell, how many of us have ended up paying a shit ton more for car repairs because we ignored the early signs of a problem that needed fixing. Something that if we handled earlier, could have saved a lot of money, time, effort, or whatever. This whole episode is about ignoring those things that we could have addressed sooner but didn't. The first is, your concern over "the social cost" of asking for help. We feel like we lose face. Our perceived notion is that asking for help will make us seem weak, less competent, and unable to handle ourselves is often backed up by nothing. I think I will always coming back to the importance of making sure we do not allow others thoughts about what we do stop us from doing what's best for us. In this case, not only do people not care if you ask for help, (or anything that you do really) but the opposite is true. Research shows asking for help, in fact, can make you seem more competent, aware, willing to take risks, and confident. All these things add up to making you more respected and seem wise, even, amongst your peers. Another thing I want you to think about…What are the consequences of you not seeking the help you need. I acknowledge, a lot of times, small potatoes. Those late car repairs cost a pretty penny, but it's not the end of the world. But developing a serious illness could cost a lot more. Time, money, and ultimately, your life in some cases. Not so small potatoes. Not caring about yourself is one thing. But who else do these consequences affect? Are you someone's partner, brother, uncle, father? What would massive financial strain do to them? What would losing time with you do to them? Who else pays when you cope by turning to alcohol... --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maineventmindset/support
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