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Whether you're in the early days of parenting or years into raising kids, this conversation is going to speak to your heart. Dr. Joanna Parga-Belinkie, neonatologist, pediatrician, and mom of three, joins me to talk about what babies really need from us (hint: it's not perfection), how those early moments of connection matter more than we realize, and why the same emotional tools that build strong bonds with our kids also strengthen our marriages. This episode is full of warmth, wisdom, and truth, and I know you're going to feel so seen and encouraged by it. Tune in to discover: What truly helps your baby feel safe, loved, and connected from day one Why bonding is about showing up consistently, not getting it “right” How your relationship with your baby lays the foundation for all future relationships The powerful overlap between parenting and marriage connection A new way to think about missed moments (and why it's never too late to reconnect) This is the episode every new parent (and honestly, every human) needs to hear. And if you know someone who's expecting or in the thick of new parenthood, send it their way. It's also a beautiful conversation about what makes connection last—for our children and for ourselves.   Connect with Joanna: Purchase her book! https://a.co/d/8wykSfW Website: https://www.jpbelinkiemd.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jopargalinkiemd/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joanna-parga-57133923/ Connect with Lindsay: FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids  

Have you ever found yourself prepping everything before you leave the house—or swooping in to “just fix it” when your partner handles a parenting moment differently than you would? It might feel helpful or necessary in the moment, but over time, it can quietly erode your partnership and leave you feeling more like a manager than a teammate. In this episode, I'm breaking down the hidden cost of stepping in too often, why it happens (hint: it's not just about your spouse), and how you can begin to shift this pattern in a way that benefits everyone in your family. This isn't about blame—it's about awareness, relief, and building the kind of marriage where you feel held, supported, and safe to let go a little. Tune in to discover: The deeper reasons why moms step in, even when they don't want to What stepping in too often teaches your partner (and why it's not helping) The emotional weight of always being “on” and how it builds resentment The powerful mindset shift that helped me finally stop doing it all Conversations that build real partnership instead of more to-do lists   Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call FREE Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Do you sometimes feel like, even after years of marriage, your partner still doesn't know how to love you in the way you truly need? In this episode, I'm opening up about a pivotal shift in my own relationship—one that completely changed the way I felt seen, loved, and supported in my marriage.   If you've ever found yourself wishing your partner could understand your needs without you having to constantly explain them, or if you've felt the slow burn of resentment building, this episode will speak directly to your heart. Tune in to discover: Why feeling unloved doesn't mean your marriage is broken What needed to shift in me before I could ever expect change in him The quiet ways resentment builds (and how I stopped it) How I helped my spouse understand the kind of love I actually needed What changed when I stopped dropping hints and started being clear Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call   Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Mother's Day is supposed to be a celebration of moms—but for many of us, it just ends up highlighting how much we're carrying, how little help we're getting, and how unseen we feel most of the time. While the cards and flowers are sweet, they don't solve the deeper issue of the mental load so many moms are buried under. In this episode, I'm getting real about what's really going on beneath the surface, and why one day of appreciation isn't enough when you're carrying it all the other 364. I'll walk you through the steps I took to get out of resentment, build true partnership, and create a system where I feel supported every day—not just on Mother's Day.   Tune in to discover: Why the mental load is about way more than just household tasks What your heart is actually craving (and it's not a better gift) How to feel more emotionally supported by your spouse The difference between a “manager” and a true partner—and how to shift out of that role What to ask for when you're tired of holding it all alone   This episode is for every mom who feels like one day of celebration just isn't enough (because it's not). Let's create the kind of marriage and support system that makes every day feel like you matter. Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call   Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Do you find yourself spiraling after a single comment, text message, or weird tone from your spouse—wondering what it meant, why it happened, and if your marriage is okay? If you've ever found yourself overanalyzing or panicking that you'll never feel truly loved or happy again, this episode is for you. I'm sharing exactly how I stopped freaking out about my marriage (yes, even when things feel hard!) and how you can too. This isn't about ignoring real issues. It's about building systems, tools, and a mindset that help you feel calmer, more secure, and able to respond in a way that creates the connection you're really craving. Tune in to discover: Why spirals and freakouts happen—and why they don't mean something is wrong with you or your marriage What I realized in one powerful moment that changed everything for how I show up in my relationship The mindset shift that keeps me grounded and out of panic-mode (even during conflict) The exact tools I use when I start to spiral—so I don't push my spouse away when I'm actually craving closeness How to create a system with your partner to get through tough moments together This episode will help you replace panic with peace—and feel more secure, connected, and loved in your marriage. Share it with a friend or partner who needs it too! Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call   Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids  

You know something feels off in your marriage—but where do you even begin? When you're not fighting, but also not feeling close… when you're carrying the load and still feeling unseen… it can feel overwhelming to figure out what to do next. This episode answers one of the most common questions I hear: “Where do I start if I want things to change?” I'm breaking down where to focus your energy (especially if your partner isn't on board yet), and how just one shift can start bringing you back to a place of connection and support. Tune in to discover: What to stop focusing on when you want things to improve The mistake many couples make when they're feeling disconnected Where to start when your partner isn't doing their part Why your emotions are the key to reconnecting (yes, even the hard ones) The first step toward a marriage that feels more loving, supportive, and connected   If you've been stuck in “I don't know where to begin,” this episode will give you the clarity and encouragement to take that first powerful step forward.   Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

You've probably heard of attachment styles — anxious, avoidant, secure — and maybe you've even taken a quiz to figure out your own. But what happens after that? Does knowing your attachment style actually help your marriage… or can it do more harm than good? In this episode, we're unpacking what attachment theory really means in real life and whether it can be the key to a stronger relationship — or just another label that keeps you stuck. Tune in to discover: Why understanding your attachment style can feel validating and frustrating The most important mindset shift if you want to use this info to improve your marriage How knowing your partner's attachment style can reduce conflict and increase connection What to do if you're “insecurely attached” and don't know how to change it The #1 way to avoid using attachment styles as an excuse for disconnection   Whether attachment theory is brand new to you or you've gone deep into it, this episode will help you use it as a tool — not a limitation — to grow a more connected, resilient relationship.   Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Setting boundaries in marriage should help you feel more respected, connected, and secure—but what if they just lead to more frustration instead? If you've ever tried to set a boundary with your spouse, only to have it ignored, misunderstood, or make things worse, you're not alone. In this episode, I'm breaking down why so many boundaries fail and what to do differently so they actually work.   Tune in to discover: The biggest mistakes couples make when setting boundaries (and how to avoid them) Why boundaries are about YOU, not controlling your spouse What to do when your spouse resists or ignores your boundary A key mindset shift that makes enforcing boundaries easier How to set boundaries that actually strengthen connection instead of causing conflict   If boundaries haven't worked for you in the past, don't give up yet! This episode will help you set them in a way that feels good for both you and your spouse. Share it with a friend who needs this too!   FREE Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

You know that moment when you look at your spouse and wonder, Are we even connected anymore? Maybe you're not fighting, but you're not exactly feeling close either. If your marriage feels more like a business partnership than a loving relationship, you might be experiencing marriage shutdown: a slow, sneaky disconnection that erodes intimacy and leaves you feeling unseen, unappreciated, and alone. In this episode, I'm breaking down what marriage shutdown really is, why it happens, and the subtle ways it's impacting your emotional and physical connection. More importantly, I'm giving you the tools to wake your marriage back up and start feeling like a team again.   Tune in to discover: The sneaky signs of marriage shutdown most couples miss Why your marriage might feel more like a business partnership than a relationship How small, everyday habits could be killing intimacy without you realizing it A simple shift to make conversations feel meaningful again The first step to reigniting connection (even if you feel exhausted or resentful)   If your marriage feels stuck in autopilot, this episode will help you recognize what's really going on and give you practical steps to shift things in the right direction. And if you want even more support, grab my Marriage Shutdown Checklist by commenting "Checklist" on any of my Instagram posts. Let's get you and your spouse back on the same page!   For more on this topic, check out Ep 154: Are You In Marriage Shutdown?   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie   Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call   Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Social media has us believe that a great marriage means feeling like newlyweds forever, with constant passion, weekly date nights, and never-ending butterflies. But that's not real life. And when we compare our relationships to those unrealistic expectations, it's easy to feel like something is missing.    In this episode, I'm breaking down what a truly strong, healthy marriage looks like, what Instagram gets wrong, and how to shift your perspective so you actually appreciate the marriage you have.   Tune in to discover: The misleading message social media sends about what a happy marriage “should” look like Why the absence of passion or frequent date nights doesn't mean your marriage is failing The key expectations that can make or break how satisfied you feel in your relationship The sneaky comparison trap that might be making you feel less connected to your spouse What a healthy, fulfilling marriage actually looks like and how to build one that feels good for you   Let's redefine what a great relationship really is, one that makes you feel safe, secure, and truly supported.   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Being sick is hard enough, but have you ever noticed how it also stirs up tension in your marriage? Maybe it highlights just how uneven the mental load is or leaves you feeling uncared for when you need support the most. If getting sick has ever made you feel resentful, disconnected, or just plain exhausted in more ways than one—this episode is for you.   Tune in to discover: Why sickness can trigger disconnection and resentment in your marriage The real reason moms struggle to rest when they're sick (and why dads don't) How societal expectations shape the way illness plays out in partnerships The mindset shift that prevents arguments before they start The simple steps you and your spouse can take to support each other better   This episode will change how you and your spouse navigate illness and care for each other—so you feel like a team, even when life (or the flu) tries to take you down.   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

What if the biggest thing keeping you disconnected from your spouse isn't about spending more time together or even putting in more effort? So many couples focus on what's missing in their marriage, but what if the real secret to reconnecting is something completely different? In this episode, I'll help you shift your mindset and show you a powerful way to start feeling closer to your spouse again—without forcing anything or twisting yourself into a pretzel.   Tune in to discover: Why feeling disconnected has more to do with how you see your spouse than what they're actually doing How to stop your brain from only noticing the things they aren't doing The subtle but powerful mindset shift that makes everything feel easier Why focusing on the proof of your spouse's love can create a ripple effect of connection A simple challenge to help you start seeing your spouse in a new way—starting today   This episode will change how you think about connection in your marriage. Share it with a friend and don't forget to send me your review of the podcast for my free gift to you to celebrate 200 episodes!   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Something sneaky is quietly eroding connection in so many marriages, and chances are, it's happening in yours too. It's not just the big fights or major betrayals. There's something else that builds up over time, leaving you feeling frustrated, unseen, and disconnected. But here's the good news—once you recognize it, you can clear it out and finally feel like you're in this together again.   Tune in to discover: Something that happens all the time—intentionally or unintentionally—that creates disconnection (and what to do instead) Why missing your spouse's bids for connection is more damaging than you think The shift that stops you from feeling like you're carrying everything alone How to express what you need in a way that actually gets heard Simple strategies to replace resentment with real partnership and connection   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

What does it take to build a marriage that not only lasts but thrives for 78 years? After witnessing my grandparents' incredible love story, I'm sharing the key lessons from their decades together—lessons that can help you strengthen your own marriage today. These aren't just old-school values; they are the foundations of a happy, connected, and resilient partnership.   Tune in to discover: The simple daily habit that keeps appreciation alive in a marriage Why respectful communication (even during conflict) is a game-changer How to prioritize your relationship through every season of life The mindset shift that makes your spouse feel like your greatest teammate The small but powerful ways to keep love and connection strong for the long haul   If you want to build a marriage that stands the test of time, this episode is for you. Share it with your partner or someone who could use these insights!   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

The little things in your marriage matter more than you realize. Those tiny, everyday moments—how you respond, the words you choose, the way you show up—are either strengthening your connection or quietly pulling you apart. But with just a few intentional shifts, you can start feeling more loved, supported, and connected in your marriage!   Tune in to discover: The hidden habit that leads to resentment (and how to shift into a team mentality instead) A simple mindset change that prevents defensiveness and encourages connection How micro-moments of connection can completely transform your relationship (without requiring big date nights or getaways) The key difference between assuming the worst vs. giving your spouse the benefit of the doubt A small language tweak that instantly makes conflict feel less like a battle and more like a collaboration   These shifts may be small, but they have a huge impact. Try them out and watch how they change the way you and your spouse connect!   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call   Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Ever feel like your marriage is the problem? Like your spouse isn't meeting your needs, follows through on nothing, or always gets defensive? While those things do need to change, there's something bigger at play that makes everything feel so much harder—and it's not just your relationship. In this episode, I'm breaking down the hidden stressor that's quietly making marriage after kids so challenging (and what you can do about it).   Tune in to discover: Why marriage feels so much harder after kids—and why it's not just you The unseen force that turns small conflicts into major disconnection How this stress makes even good marriages feel bad (and rocky ones fall apart) The mindset shift that helps you and your spouse work together instead of against each other The two must-have tools to get unstuck and actually feel happier in your relationship   If you've ever felt like your marriage shouldn't be this hard, this episode is for you. Let's talk about what's really going on—and how to start fixing it today.   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Parenting disagreements can feel so personal—like you're being judged by your spouse or anyone watching from the sidelines. But when you and your partner don't see eye-to-eye on how to raise your kids, it can lead to fights that leave you both feeling disconnected. In this episode, I'll show you how to navigate these differences and create a parenting partnership that works for both of you.   Tune in to discover: How to handle the judgment you feel from your spouse (or that stranger in the grocery store) The key to hearing each other and finding a way forward—even when you disagree Why keeping your shared goal of raising great kids in mind changes everything The power of emotional validation and saying the things that often go unspoken How to compromise without always agreeing, so you both feel good about your parenting decisions   This episode will help you as parents take the first steps toward working together as a team. Share it with your partner or a friend who could use these tools!   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call   Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids  

Have you ever opened up to your spouse about the mental load, only to be met with defensiveness, resistance, or invalidating responses? It can feel hopeless, lonely, and leave you questioning whether your partner truly understands or cares. This episode is for you if you've tried having these conversations but still aren't getting what you need.   Tune in to discover: Why defensive or invalidating responses to the mental load feel so painful and isolating Scripts you can use when your spouse says frustrating things like, “Well, no one asked you to do all that,” or, “I guess I'm just a bad husband” The importance of understanding your spouse's intentions and how to navigate the emotions behind their reactions How to avoid shutting down in your marriage, even when things don't go well Why the solution lies in building systems that work for both of you (and how to start that conversation today)   If you've ever felt like you're carrying everything alone or that your spouse just doesn't “get it,” this episode will help you approach these tough conversations with confidence, clarity, and love. It's not about proving who's right or wrong—it's about finding a way to tackle the mental load together.   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Are you tired of feeling like you're the one holding everything together - not just managing the household, but also keeping track of every need, schedule, and responsibility for your kids and spouse? The mental load can feel overwhelming, and even more so when you're carrying it alone. But how do you talk to your spouse about it without it turning into an argument? In this episode, I'm sharing exactly what to do to approach this sensitive topic and how to build a stronger partnership in the process. Tune in to discover: Why the mental load isn't just about tasks, but about the emotional weight of carrying everyone's needs The #1 reason holding the mental load makes you feel disconnected and lonely in your marriage How to feel more appreciated and validated, even if your spouse doesn't fully understand what you're going through A step-by-step approach to talking to your spouse about the mental load without triggering defensiveness or conflict   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Have you ever felt upset when your spouse says they'll do something and then just… doesn't? Or when they say they'll be home at a certain time and aren't? These small moments might not feel like a big deal at first, but over time, they fracture trust in your marriage. And without realizing it, these small cracks can lead to resentment, disconnection, and even marriage shutdown. In this episode, I'm diving into the small ways trust is broken, how it impacts your relationship, and, most importantly, how you can fix it fast to restore connection and partnership.   Tune in to discover: The surprising everyday actions that are quietly breaking trust in your marriage The quickest way to push your marriage toward shutdown (and how to stop it) How to rebuild trust through small, intentional actions that make a big impact The secret to knowing exactly what your spouse needs to feel valued and supported Simple strategies to repair fractured trust and create a stronger, more connected partnership   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

As we head into a new year, let's focus on setting your marriage up for success in 2025. Whether your relationship feels strong or strained right now, these actionable tips will help you intentionally improve your connection and partnership in the months ahead. This episode is packed with simple yet impactful strategies that don't require a ton of time or energy—perfect for busy parents.   Tune in to discover: Why lasting change takes time and how to stay consistent long enough to see results A surprising and powerful tool (that takes less than 5 minutes!) that has the ability to transform your marriage How to align your daily actions with your priorities (and make space for what fills you up) A simple method to organize household management and reduce resentment How to spot and shift negative thought patterns about your spouse and marriage to build a stronger foundation   Let's make 2025 the year your marriage thrives—starting today.   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

The holidays can be an overwhelming time, especially for couples already feeling the strain of marriage shutdown. Many couples find themselves struggling even more during this season, and divorce filings spike right after the holidays for a reason. In this episode, I'll share practical, research-backed strategies to help you avoid becoming part of that statistic, feel more connected to your spouse, and create the holiday season you truly want.   Tune in to discover: The staggering statistic about divorce after the holidays (and what it means for your marriage) Why holiday stress puts extra strain on marriages (and how to counteract it) How to avoid fights or de-escalate them before they spiral out of control The importance of clearly communicating your needs (and not assuming your spouse can read your mind) One simple question to ask yourself daily to ensure you're staying aligned with what truly matters Why expert support can make all the difference when your marriage feels stuck   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Parenthood is a never-ending grind, and the stress of it all can often feel overwhelming. But did you know that how good you feel as a parent is directly impacted by one key thing? In this episode, I'll reveal what that is and show you how to create more capacity for joy in parenting by prioritizing this often-overlooked area of your life.   Tune in to discover: The connection between the quality of your marriage and your happiness as a parent Why resentment, disappointment, or frustration with your spouse depletes your capacity to parent at your best How to prioritize fun with your spouse, even when resentment feels like a barrier The tools you need to switch the dynamic in your marriage instead of focusing solely on what your spouse isn't doing Why the thoughts you have about your spouse might not be true (and how reframing them can strengthen your bond) The #1 tip to take your marriage from struggling to thriving   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

62% of couples polled on my Instagram admitted to fighting with their spouse most of the holiday season.    Holidays are supposed to be joyful, but the stress can bring out the worst in even the happiest couples. In this episode, I'll show you how to stop feeling like enemies and start working as a team to handle the most common holiday stressors—so you can actually enjoy the season together.   Tune in to discover: What to discuss before the chaos begins (so no one ends up disappointed) How to handle family dynamics as a team—even with triggers, in-law drama, or differing traditions Tips for navigating holiday parties to avoid tension, misunderstandings, or solo parenting The one thing couples often neglect during the holiday rush—and why it needs to stay a priority A simple approach to gift-giving that feels fair and stress-free Scripts and exact words to get on the same page with your spouse about it all   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Feeling unseen, invalidated, or completely shut down in your marriage? You're not alone—and there's a way to feel connected again (and it's simpler than you think). Marriage isn't about perfection. It's about learning, growing, and showing up for each other, even when it's hard. In this episode, I'm diving into the powerful reactions to one of my viral reels about feeling lonely, unvalued, and disconnected in marriage. Let's explore what these struggles have in common and, most importantly, how to move forward. Tune in to discover: How societal themes around marriage shape our relationships and expectations Why it's okay to need more than your spouse to feel fully supported How to take control of your happiness in marriage—without waiting on your partner to change The key to building a stronger connection (and the do's and don'ts of listening, validating, and understanding your partner's perspective) Why timing matters and how waiting for calm can transform tough conversations The importance of developing the skills that will not only ease conflict but also make you feel better in your relationship   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

In this episode, we're diving into something I know so many of us feel but don't always talk about: that deep need to feel supported and truly connected with our partner. Sometimes, it's not about what your partner does or doesn't do; it's about the little moments that either build trust or chip away at it. Remember that classic line from The Break-Up with Jennifer Aniston? “I want you to want to do the dishes!” It's a funny moment, but it's also deeper than that. We're exploring what this really means when it comes to feeling supported by our partners. Tune in to discover: The 3 most common reasons couples feel unheard and disconnected - and what you can do about it How small, every day promises (like showing up on time or picking up groceries) can significantly impact whether we feel truly supported and seen The truth about the “mental load” and why an imbalance here can lead to resentment Practical tips for creating a fair, flexible system at home where both partners feel valued   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Intimacy goes far beyond the physical; it's about creating a safe, loving space where you and your partner feel truly valued and cherished. With the whirlwind of daily life, kids, and endless to-do lists, building a relationship that not only survives but thrives can feel overwhelming. But making time to nurture each other isn't just a nice-to-have - it's essential. In this episode, I'm joined by the amazing Susan Bratton, an Intimacy Expert and advocate for couples who crave lasting passion and connection. Trust me, you won't want to miss her insights on keeping the spark alive, especially during life's busiest seasons! Tune in to discover how to: Cultivate intimacy that feels safe, pressure-free, and fulfilling for both of you Make time for what truly matters to build a joyful, lasting marriage Harness the power of communication and empathy to deepen your connection Bust through the “no time” myth and prioritize your relationship Use “erotic play dates” to keep things fun, fresh, and free from pressure   Resources mentioned in episode: seductiontrilogy.com Sex tips newsletter: betterlover.com sexlifebucketlist.com 30 Day Masturbation Challenge: https://betterlover.com/30-day-masturbation-challenge/ pumpingguide.com   ---   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Sometimes, the topics that make us most uncomfortable are the ones we need to talk about the most. In this episode, we're diving into the tough (but crucial) topic of triggers - those moments that make us feel defensive, frustrated, or downright vulnerable in our relationships. If you've ever felt like certain conversations leave you feeling overly angry or misunderstood, this one's for you. Tune in to discover: Why it's often easier to focus on what we wish our partner would change rather than looking inward (and what happened when my partner pointed out something I never expected) The hidden reasons behind feeling “triggered” and how to understand what's really going on beneath the surface A surprising strategy to use in arguments that shifts the dynamic and helps both of you feel seen How to recognize your own triggers and communicate them to your spouse Why facing your triggers head-on is essential for breaking free from the same frustrating cycles The power of grace and love when dealing with uncomfortable feelings   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

You don't want to wait months (or even years!) to feel happier and more connected in your marriage. And the good news is, you don't have to. There are simple shifts you can make today to start seeing results right now. Let's dive into strategies that can help you bring more joy, ease, and connection into your relationship, even in the busiest seasons of life.   Tune in to discover: Why the importance of feeling good in your marriage is often overlooked A surprising question to ask yourself about how you spend time together (hint: is it more about connection or just tackling to-dos?) How things outside your marriage may be influencing how you feel inside your marriage - and why taking care of yourself could be the key to feeling closer The underrated power of setting up systems with your spouse to support each other and keep the household running smoothly Why setting clear boundaries in your marriage is key to feeling respected and connected Why getting the right kind of support could make you feel a huge sigh of relief (and where to start)   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Have you seen the “marriage is scary” TikTok trend? While it's fun to laugh about the little things that can be scary in a marriage (and trust me, they are valid), there's often a lot more beneath the surface that couples may not realize.   In the spirit of Halloween, let's dive into the bigger, deeper issues that can make your marriage feel scary - especially after having kids and, most importantly, how you can address them to move forward in a happier, healthier way.   Tune in to discover: The #1 thing every relationship needs to thrive (spoiler: it's the opposite of scary - safety), and why couples who lack it are in dangerous territory Why your spouse's words - whether it's a compliment or a criticism - cut deeper than anyone else's What to do when you feel stuck - when you want things to change in your marriage, but don't know how to work together to make it happen How to resolve conflicts without damaging your relationship, and instead, use disagreements to build a stronger connection The hidden danger of carrying an unequal mental load, and how to address it when you're feeling overlooked, unsupported, and uncared for   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Juggling the demands of parenthood often leaves intimacy on the backburner. In this episode, I'm joined by marriage and family therapist Steph Flood, who has helped countless couples rediscover a healthy, joyful marriage. Together, we're diving into realistic ways to stay connected, even in the busiest seasons of parenthood.    Tune in to discover: Why the first five years of parenthood require so. much. grace.—and how to give it to yourselves and each other The common challenge most women face post-baby and how it impacts intimacy How men can help reignite intimacy in their relationship Our conversation on why today's dads are more involved than ever, but often lack the models or skills to actively support intimacy The one small shift that brings lightness and fun back into your marriage Practical tips to help women get to a place where intimacy feels good again What she works with couples on (figuring out what feels right/good)   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Is your spouse preventing you from being happy in your marriage? The truth is, you may be focusing on the wrong thing. In this episode, I'll guide you through the most common barriers to building the marriage you want - and how shifting your approach can lead to real, lasting change.   Tune in to discover: Real-life examples of why couples come to me feeling unfulfilled (often assuming their spouse simply won't meet their needs - when that's rarely the case) What's actually getting in the way of your spouse meeting your needs (hint: it's not that they don't care) The biggest factor holding you back from the marriage you desire How mismatched or unclear expectations are creating tension and frustration Why the way you're asking for change may be pushing your spouse away and causing defensiveness or distance The impact of being at different stages of change and how it's affecting your ability to grow together   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

When your marriage feels like it's falling apart, it can be hard to imagine things ever changing for the better. The hopelessness creeps in, making you feel like a failure. And social media? It only adds to the pressure. The truth is, marriage doesn't have to be this complicated - especially after having kids - and I'm here to help you make it easier!   Tune in to discover: The common myths couples come to me with (hint: they think marriage should just work) The biggest mistake people make that ends up making their marriage harder Why you feel so guilty when you try something new you saw on social media and it doesn't work The three simple keys to having a happy and healthy marriage How to block out the noise and figure out what truly works best for you and your relationship   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Reality TV. Bridgerton. Romance novels. We all crave that kind of intense, sweeping passion in our own relationships - the kind that has us glued to our screens. But what if that kind of love is actually setting us up for disappointment? Here's my (very) unpopular opinion: The real magic in a successful marriage lies in safe, steady, and consistent love - not in grand, movie-worthy gestures. In this episode, I'll break down why stability is the true secret to a fulfilling relationship. Ready to be convinced?   Tune in to discover: The one thing no one tells you about deepening your connection with your spouse How to figure out exactly what works for YOUR marriage (and why Hollywood-style romance is setting you up for a letdown) Why prioritizing this one thing can make your marriage feel so much better Simple ways to better support your mental load as a team (without adding stress!) What brushing your teeth daily has to do with having a healthy marriage (it makes more sense than you think!) The only time to have important conversations with your spouse (hint: when you're able to really listen and validate them!)   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Do you know what works for you when life feels overwhelming? Do you know how your spouse can best support you? When the mental load is already heavy, and the to-do list feels endless, it's time to talk about how to avoid tension and get the support you need most.   In this episode, I'm getting real about the stress I'm feeling in this season of life. I'll share how I'm handling it, the strategies that have helped me (and my clients), and how you can use them too.   Tune in to discover: The very first thing to do when it all feels too much How to ask for and accept help - from your spouse and others Ways to go from feeling lonely and unsupported to genuinely feeling cared for by your partner The powerful shift I made in my marriage to feel fully supported Why it's essential to work on this now - and the cost of not addressing it   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

No one seems to be talking about this. After years as a marriage expert and staying on top of the latest research, I recently came across something that made my jaw drop. It sheds new light on why so many couples struggle after having kids, and I'm surprised I've never seen it framed this way before.   Tune in to discover: A staggering statistic about marriage and parenthood that changes everything How having a child shifts both individuals in a relationship - and why it can feel so isolating The single most important thing you and your spouse need to do to stop your marriage from feeling like a struggle How to align with your spouse and become a team to support each other through the challenges The key thing you and your partner are probably missing that's creating conflict - and how to fix it   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Here's the thing: this tool works every single time when it comes to defensiveness, yet so many people resist it - including my clients. But if you're serious about building a stronger marriage where both your needs are met, this is one tool you can't afford to skip. Ready to try the tool you've probably been avoiding but absolutely need?   Tune in to discover: A deep dive into defensiveness in relationships (with relatable personal examples) The real reasons behind your defensiveness and how it shows up in your marriage What makes this defensiveness tool completely maddening, yet so effective How to approach conversations when you suspect your spouse might get defensive Practical steps to increase trust, safety, and love in your marriage   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

We all know that feeling of being surrounded by people yet feeling completely alone—like no one truly sees or notices you. Parenthood can make it all too easy to lose yourself and your sense of joy. In this episode, we normalize those feelings and explore how to reconnect with who you are and what you need to feel more fulfilled.   Tune in to discover: The hidden shame of not knowing who you are or what you truly enjoy The key to unlocking your unique path to feeling less lonely (hint: it's different for everyone) Practical steps to take when loneliness hits Thought-provoking questions to help you discover and prioritize YOUR needs—not everyone else's The one crucial thing everyone should know about themselves (that no one else can tell you)   FREE LIVE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

If you're waiting for things to magically improve in your marriage once the kids are older or life calms down - think again. Change doesn't just happen; it requires active, intentional effort. If you notice any of these red flags in your relationship, start acting on them today.   Tune in to discover: The misconception that everything will return to the way it once was “someday” How you might be blocking your spouse from validating you without even realizing it Whether your actions are truly justified when your spouse makes you mad - and vice versa The one thing you should prioritize above all else to fuel your marriage (and it's not about scheduling date nights) How your assumptions about your spouse can shape your relationship and your happiness What to focus on to ensure your marriage works for BOTH of you   Sign up for my live FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/march-2024-webinar   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

You've asked for what you need. You've given examples. You've worked on your mindset. And yet, nothing in your relationship has changed. It's heartbreaking to feel like you've tried everything, but don't lose hope - this episode is your light at the end of the tunnel. There are still ways to create the marriage you desire!   Tune in to discover: How learned helplessness can sneak into your marriage and why it happens so often What to do when you feel like it's not even worth bringing up what's bothering you anymore The one major factor researchers found to avoid marriage shutdown How to shift from "I'm never going to get what I need from my spouse " to "we just haven't figured it out YET" The key to using realistic thoughts What more you can do when your needs still aren't being met   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/march-2024-webinar Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Conflict is a key aspect of maintaining a healthy relationship.    It doesn't mean having screaming matches all the time. Instead, conflict can involve respectful disagreements and deep conversations that come from a loving place. If this seems completely foreign or impossible to you, then this episode is for you. Loving well is crucial, but in my opinion, fighting well is even more important.   Tune in to discover: The importance of identifying both your and your spouse's fighting styles One essential question to ask yourself about conflict - especially if you find yourself having the same argument repeatedly Tips for having effective and productive arguments How to argue without getting defensive What to do if you fall back into old, unhealthy patterns Why establishing rules for conflict in your relationship is vital and what to consider when creating them   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/march-2024-webinar   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

This has the potential to completely change your marriage, just like it changed mine.   I dare you to try this - it will make your marriage easier, happier, more fulfilling - all the good things! This is the go-to tool for making your marriage improve quickly and allowing you to feel better in your relationship. Get ready to dive in - trust me, you won't want to miss this!   Tune in to discover: How to “do the work” in your marriage, even as a busy parent Why waiting for someone else to make you feel better isn't the answer and how it takes away your control, preventing lasting results Real-life scenarios that illustrate how changing the way you look at things can improve your relationship The importance of taking control of your automatic thoughts and why they are often unhelpful Practical tips to help you put this into practice regularly   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/march-2024-webinar   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Are these 4 marriage killers lurking in your relationship? Discover the key pitfalls that predict divorce and learn how to address them to safeguard and strengthen your relationship. Don't wait—tune in now to turn things around before it's too late!   In this episode, you'll hear: What types of negativity are undermining your marriage The difference between complaints and criticisms The lethal impact of contempt and how to counteract it How we protect ourselves from getting hurt or being wrong Why stonewalling is the deadliest pitfall Essential tools to help you avoid divorce and how to implement them   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/march-2024-webinar   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

How do you start a conversation so that your spouse truly listens? And what should you do if their response isn't what you hoped for? Here's a hint: the WAY you have these conversations is more crucial than WHAT you actually say (a kind and loving tone makes all the difference!).   Tune in to discover: The significance of waiting to have the conversation if you can't approach it kindly What you need clarity on before you start the discussion An introduction to the “conflict burger” How to work with your spouse's reactions to ensure your needs are met What to do if your plan never gets set into motion after you've agreed on it   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/march-2024-webinar   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

If you aren't doing what I discuss in this episode, you definitely won't get your needs met by your spouse. This is the second episode in our mini-series on how to get your needs met by your spouse. I'm focusing on what we often do (or don't do) that unintentionally gets in the way.   Tune in to discover: The two things I focus on when clients feel their needs aren't being met by their spouse A wildly effective tool that will significantly impact not just your marriage, but all of your relationships My top tip to avoid exploding at your partner or shutting down during an argument Practical ways to calm down when emotions run high  Immediate steps to start implementing these strategies right away!   Mentioned in the Episode: The Antidote to Divorce episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1vVi5KSBz4iSSBvAnCYFy6?si=e4q80edARbamyabQHdk3xg   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/march-2024-webinar Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

We all have needs. Whether you already know what those needs are but struggle to express them to your spouse, or you're unsure about what needs require fulfillment right now, this episode is for you. This is the first in a mini-series dedicated to helping you get your needs met. Let's start with the FIRST STEP to take when your needs aren't being fulfilled by your spouse. Ready?   Tune in to discover: Where to start in order to get your needs met The mindset shift required to effectively identify your needs One crucial component that will make a big impact on the change you desire An in-depth exploration of unmet needs to help you understand and articulate your own needs better   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/march-2024-webinar Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Energy is a precious commodity for a busy parent like you!   Raising kids, managing a household, and juggling everything else requires energy! When you're running on empty, EVERYTHING becomes more challenging. So, how can you show up in your marriage and life when you have no energy left? Let's get into it!   In this episode, you'll hear: Key questions to ask yourself about your current energy levels The pressure of “doing it all” and its impact on your relationship One surprising habit that unknowingly drains your energy  The one non-negotiable that can make the biggest difference in how you feel Crucial strategies for managing your energy and the consequence of pushing beyond your limits A significant factor affecting your energy and practical solutions to combat it   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/march-2024-webinar   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Have you heard of default parent gatekeeping? Likely not.   It's a crucial issue that could be affecting your marriage in significant ways, leading to extreme resentment, relationship conflict, and parental alienation. Let's talk about this topic to prevent - or repair - the impact on your relationship with your spouse.   Tune in to discover: What parental gatekeeping is and why it happens How gatekeeping can lead to resentment, lack of confidence, and zero skill building Real-life examples of what gatekeeping looks like in action How to handle differences in opinion between you and your partner (or other caregivers) about child care The serious consequences of engaging in gatekeeping Effective remedies to overcome gatekeeping and foster a healthier relationship    FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/march-2024-webinar   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Are you feeling overwhelmed by a never-ending to-do list while trying to maintain a happy marriage?   In this episode, we explore the challenges of balancing household tasks and childcare responsibilities within a marriage and how imbalances can lead to feelings of exhaustion, resentment, and disconnection.    Figuring out how to do this together will literally make you happier, strengthen your marriage, and keep your love alive!   Tune in to discover: The mental exhaustion of maintaining a household and raising children (which typically falls more on one partner), and its impact on marriages Societal perceptions of women in homemaking and childrearing, and the influence on men's expectations The guilt that arises from not meeting perceived standards Effective ways to approach this topic with your spouse so you can collaborate on strategies TOGETHER Practical tips for achieving a more equitable workload, ultimately strengthening your marriage   Don't forget to check out Fair Play (mentioned in episode): https://www.fairplaylife.com/documentary   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/march-2024-webinar   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call   Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

If you're not as happy as you want to be in your marriage, this episode is a must-listen. Let's explore the critical lesson of what we make acceptable and what we don't in our relationships, and how it shapes our happiness.   Tune in to discover: The essential element that determines the success of marriage counseling or support The hidden trap behind thinking “things will change” on their own Real-life examples of couples who settled for “fine” and missed out on years of true happiness The ripple effect of having a joyful marriage Seven signs that indicate your relationship needs marriage support FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/march-2024-webinar Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Let's talk about how intimacy goes deeper than the bedroom. In today's episode, we're joined by Dr. Elsbeth Meuth and Freddy Zental Weaver from TantraNova Institute. Discover how true intimacy is about connecting hearts and energy, and not just about sex.   Tune in to discover: How to redefine intimacy in your marriage, even if you only have three minutes to spare Which couples are actually having the most sex (the answer may surprise you!) A beautiful and intentional practice to connect with your partner daily Techniques to shift your energy from the mind into the heart The story behind National Intimacy Day and creative ways to celebrate it How mastering intimacy can lead to greater happiness in your relationship   MORE RESOURCES **FREE GIFT Introduction to Sexual Meditation (Video Class): Learn distinctions and practices of Sexual Meditation to access and channel your creative spark  https://tantranova.lpages.co/introduction-to-sexual-meditation/   TantraNova website to find out about TantraNova workshops and programs https://www.tantranova.com/   Sexual Enlightenment book in hard copy and audio format  https://www.amazon.com/dp/1452585431   Care and Feeding podcast episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/mom-guilt-is-real-but-so-is-healing/id774383607?i=1000655079941   Submit your question about intimacy in your marriage! Send me a message on IG www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids or email hello@marriedafterkids.com   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/march-2024-webinar   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call   Stay connected on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids