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You know I always keep it real with you, and this episode is no different—my marriage is in a rut. Not in crisis, not in shutdown, but just… off. More bickering, more distance, less connection. And if I'm being honest, it's been really hard. In this episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on what's going on, why I think we got here, and what we're doing to climb out of it. Because ruts are part of every relationship, and they don't mean your marriage is broken. But they do require intention, support, and some solid tools to move through them.If you've ever felt like your marriage was stuck in a harder season, I hope this one gives you encouragement and the clarity to take a step forward.Tune in to discover:Why even strong couples end up in ruts (and what causes them)What “safe haven abuse” is and how it shows up in everyday stressWhy systemic stress after big life transitions (like having kids) can tank your connectionThe daily habits and conversations that help us reset and reconnectA brand new tool I created to help you build (or rebuild) the emotional support system your marriage needsThe Us System: *Coming soon*FREE Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptinConnect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-callFollow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Ever find yourself planning a celebration (like Father's Day) while quietly thinking, “But I'm the one doing everything”? When it feels like your involvement in the family is mandatory and your partner's is optional, that disconnect can lead to resentment, disconnection, and burnout. In this episode, I'm getting real about this dynamic so many moms face—and sharing what you can actually do about it.Whether it's Father's Day, your spouse's birthday, or any other moment that asks you to celebrate someone who feels like a part-time participant in family life, this episode gives you practical ways to handle the emotional load and honor your own boundaries.Tune in to discover:What to do when celebrating your spouse feels loaded with resentmentThe deeper reason it feels like your involvement is mandatory and theirs is optionalHow I handled this dynamic in my own marriage (even with an involved spouse)Why this is not just about effort, but about systems and conversationsHow to show up authentically, without gaslighting yourself or faking itFREE Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptinConnect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-callFollow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Even in the healthiest marriages, disappointment is inevitable—especially after kids. Maybe your spouse forgets something important, doesn't show up how you hoped, or just doesn't respond the way you needed in that moment. It's frustrating, lonely, and can stir up a lot of resentment if it isn't dealt with well. In this episode, I'm walking you through how I personally deal with those moments of disappointment in my own marriage, and the tools I use with clients to keep these experiences from quietly unraveling connection. If you've ever felt let down by your partner (or struggled when your partner felt let down by you), this episode is for you.   Tune in to discover: Why disappointment hits harder after kids—and how to make sense of it How I stopped reacting and started responding when I felt disappointed The exact process I use before communicating hurt (and why it matters) How to turn disappointment into a conversation that actually strengthens your marriage What it actually takes to release resentment and rebuild connection   FREE Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Even in the healthiest marriages, disappointment is inevitable—especially after kids. Maybe your spouse forgets something important, doesn't show up how you hoped, or just doesn't respond the way you needed in that moment. It's frustrating, lonely, and can stir up a lot of resentment if it isn't dealt with well.In this episode, I'm walking you through how I personally deal with those moments of disappointment in my own marriage, and the tools I use with clients to keep these experiences from quietly unraveling connection. If you've ever felt let down by your partner (or struggled when your partner felt let down by you), this episode is for you. Tune in to discover:Why disappointment hits harder after kids—and how to make sense of itHow I stopped reacting and started responding when I felt disappointedThe exact process I use before communicating hurt (and why it matters)How to turn disappointment into a conversation that actually strengthens your marriageWhat it actually takes to release resentment and rebuild connection FREE Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptinConnect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-callFollow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Whether you're in the early days of parenting or years into raising kids, this conversation is going to speak to your heart. Dr. Joanna Parga-Belinkie, neonatologist, pediatrician, and mom of three, joins me to talk about what babies really need from us (hint: it's not perfection), how those early moments of connection matter more than we realize, and why the same emotional tools that build strong bonds with our kids also strengthen our marriages. This episode is full of warmth, wisdom, and truth, and I know you're going to feel so seen and encouraged by it. Tune in to discover: What truly helps your baby feel safe, loved, and connected from day one Why bonding is about showing up consistently, not getting it “right” How your relationship with your baby lays the foundation for all future relationships The powerful overlap between parenting and marriage connection A new way to think about missed moments (and why it's never too late to reconnect) This is the episode every new parent (and honestly, every human) needs to hear. And if you know someone who's expecting or in the thick of new parenthood, send it their way. It's also a beautiful conversation about what makes connection last—for our children and for ourselves.   Connect with Joanna: Purchase her book! https://a.co/d/8wykSfW Website: https://www.jpbelinkiemd.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jopargalinkiemd/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joanna-parga-57133923/ Connect with Lindsay: FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids  

Whether you're in the early days of parenting or years into raising kids, this conversation is going to speak to your heart. Dr. Joanna Parga-Belinkie, neonatologist, pediatrician, and mom of three, joins me to talk about what babies really need from us (hint: it's not perfection), how those early moments of connection matter more than we realize, and why the same emotional tools that build strong bonds with our kids also strengthen our marriages. This episode is full of warmth, wisdom, and truth, and I know you're going to feel so seen and encouraged by it. Tune in to discover:What truly helps your baby feel safe, loved, and connected from day oneWhy bonding is about showing up consistently, not getting it “right”How your relationship with your baby lays the foundation for all future relationshipsThe powerful overlap between parenting and marriage connectionA new way to think about missed moments (and why it's never too late to reconnect)This is the episode every new parent (and honestly, every human) needs to hear. And if you know someone who's expecting or in the thick of new parenthood, send it their way. It's also a beautiful conversation about what makes connection last—for our children and for ourselves. Connect with Joanna: Purchase her book! https://a.co/d/8wykSfWWebsite: https://www.jpbelinkiemd.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jopargalinkiemd/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joanna-parga-57133923/Connect with Lindsay:FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-callMarriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptinFollow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Have you ever found yourself prepping everything before you leave the house—or swooping in to “just fix it” when your partner handles a parenting moment differently than you would? It might feel helpful or necessary in the moment, but over time, it can quietly erode your partnership and leave you feeling more like a manager than a teammate. In this episode, I'm breaking down the hidden cost of stepping in too often, why it happens (hint: it's not just about your spouse), and how you can begin to shift this pattern in a way that benefits everyone in your family. This isn't about blame—it's about awareness, relief, and building the kind of marriage where you feel held, supported, and safe to let go a little. Tune in to discover:The deeper reasons why moms step in, even when they don't want toWhat stepping in too often teaches your partner (and why it's not helping)The emotional weight of always being “on” and how it builds resentmentThe powerful mindset shift that helped me finally stop doing it allConversations that build real partnership instead of more to-do lists Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-callFREE Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptinFREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secretsGet your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebieFollow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Have you ever found yourself prepping everything before you leave the house—or swooping in to “just fix it” when your partner handles a parenting moment differently than you would? It might feel helpful or necessary in the moment, but over time, it can quietly erode your partnership and leave you feeling more like a manager than a teammate. In this episode, I'm breaking down the hidden cost of stepping in too often, why it happens (hint: it's not just about your spouse), and how you can begin to shift this pattern in a way that benefits everyone in your family. This isn't about blame—it's about awareness, relief, and building the kind of marriage where you feel held, supported, and safe to let go a little. Tune in to discover: The deeper reasons why moms step in, even when they don't want to What stepping in too often teaches your partner (and why it's not helping) The emotional weight of always being “on” and how it builds resentment The powerful mindset shift that helped me finally stop doing it all Conversations that build real partnership instead of more to-do lists   Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call FREE Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Do you sometimes feel like, even after years of marriage, your partner still doesn't know how to love you in the way you truly need? In this episode, I'm opening up about a pivotal shift in my own relationship—one that completely changed the way I felt seen, loved, and supported in my marriage. If you've ever found yourself wishing your partner could understand your needs without you having to constantly explain them, or if you've felt the slow burn of resentment building, this episode will speak directly to your heart.Tune in to discover:Why feeling unloved doesn't mean your marriage is brokenWhat needed to shift in me before I could ever expect change in himThe quiet ways resentment builds (and how I stopped it)How I helped my spouse understand the kind of love I actually neededWhat changed when I stopped dropping hints and started being clearConnect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptinFollow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Do you sometimes feel like, even after years of marriage, your partner still doesn't know how to love you in the way you truly need? In this episode, I'm opening up about a pivotal shift in my own relationship—one that completely changed the way I felt seen, loved, and supported in my marriage.   If you've ever found yourself wishing your partner could understand your needs without you having to constantly explain them, or if you've felt the slow burn of resentment building, this episode will speak directly to your heart. Tune in to discover: Why feeling unloved doesn't mean your marriage is broken What needed to shift in me before I could ever expect change in him The quiet ways resentment builds (and how I stopped it) How I helped my spouse understand the kind of love I actually needed What changed when I stopped dropping hints and started being clear Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call   Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Mother's Day is supposed to be a celebration of moms—but for many of us, it just ends up highlighting how much we're carrying, how little help we're getting, and how unseen we feel most of the time. While the cards and flowers are sweet, they don't solve the deeper issue of the mental load so many moms are buried under. In this episode, I'm getting real about what's really going on beneath the surface, and why one day of appreciation isn't enough when you're carrying it all the other 364. I'll walk you through the steps I took to get out of resentment, build true partnership, and create a system where I feel supported every day—not just on Mother's Day.   Tune in to discover: Why the mental load is about way more than just household tasks What your heart is actually craving (and it's not a better gift) How to feel more emotionally supported by your spouse The difference between a “manager” and a true partner—and how to shift out of that role What to ask for when you're tired of holding it all alone   This episode is for every mom who feels like one day of celebration just isn't enough (because it's not). Let's create the kind of marriage and support system that makes every day feel like you matter. Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call   Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Mother's Day is supposed to be a celebration of moms—but for many of us, it just ends up highlighting how much we're carrying, how little help we're getting, and how unseen we feel most of the time. While the cards and flowers are sweet, they don't solve the deeper issue of the mental load so many moms are buried under. In this episode, I'm getting real about what's really going on beneath the surface, and why one day of appreciation isn't enough when you're carrying it all the other 364. I'll walk you through the steps I took to get out of resentment, build true partnership, and create a system where I feel supported every day—not just on Mother's Day. Tune in to discover:Why the mental load is about way more than just household tasksWhat your heart is actually craving (and it's not a better gift)How to feel more emotionally supported by your spouseThe difference between a “manager” and a true partner—and how to shift out of that roleWhat to ask for when you're tired of holding it all alone This episode is for every mom who feels like one day of celebration just isn't enough (because it's not). Let's create the kind of marriage and support system that makes every day feel like you matter. Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptinFREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebieFollow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Do you find yourself spiraling after a single comment, text message, or weird tone from your spouse—wondering what it meant, why it happened, and if your marriage is okay? If you've ever found yourself overanalyzing or panicking that you'll never feel truly loved or happy again, this episode is for you. I'm sharing exactly how I stopped freaking out about my marriage (yes, even when things feel hard!) and how you can too. This isn't about ignoring real issues. It's about building systems, tools, and a mindset that help you feel calmer, more secure, and able to respond in a way that creates the connection you're really craving. Tune in to discover: Why spirals and freakouts happen—and why they don't mean something is wrong with you or your marriage What I realized in one powerful moment that changed everything for how I show up in my relationship The mindset shift that keeps me grounded and out of panic-mode (even during conflict) The exact tools I use when I start to spiral—so I don't push my spouse away when I'm actually craving closeness How to create a system with your partner to get through tough moments together This episode will help you replace panic with peace—and feel more secure, connected, and loved in your marriage. Share it with a friend or partner who needs it too! Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call   Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids  

Do you find yourself spiraling after a single comment, text message, or weird tone from your spouse—wondering what it meant, why it happened, and if your marriage is okay? If you've ever found yourself overanalyzing or panicking that you'll never feel truly loved or happy again, this episode is for you. I'm sharing exactly how I stopped freaking out about my marriage (yes, even when things feel hard!) and how you can too. This isn't about ignoring real issues. It's about building systems, tools, and a mindset that help you feel calmer, more secure, and able to respond in a way that creates the connection you're really craving. Tune in to discover:Why spirals and freakouts happen—and why they don't mean something is wrong with you or your marriageWhat I realized in one powerful moment that changed everything for how I show up in my relationshipThe mindset shift that keeps me grounded and out of panic-mode (even during conflict)The exact tools I use when I start to spiral—so I don't push my spouse away when I'm actually craving closenessHow to create a system with your partner to get through tough moments togetherThis episode will help you replace panic with peace—and feel more secure, connected, and loved in your marriage. Share it with a friend or partner who needs it too! Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptinFREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebieConnect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

You know something feels off in your marriage—but where do you even begin? When you're not fighting, but also not feeling close… when you're carrying the load and still feeling unseen… it can feel overwhelming to figure out what to do next. This episode answers one of the most common questions I hear: “Where do I start if I want things to change?” I'm breaking down where to focus your energy (especially if your partner isn't on board yet), and how just one shift can start bringing you back to a place of connection and support. Tune in to discover:What to stop focusing on when you want things to improveThe mistake many couples make when they're feeling disconnectedWhere to start when your partner isn't doing their partWhy your emotions are the key to reconnecting (yes, even the hard ones)The first step toward a marriage that feels more loving, supportive, and connected If you've been stuck in “I don't know where to begin,” this episode will give you the clarity and encouragement to take that first powerful step forward. Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-callFollow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

You know something feels off in your marriage—but where do you even begin? When you're not fighting, but also not feeling close… when you're carrying the load and still feeling unseen… it can feel overwhelming to figure out what to do next. This episode answers one of the most common questions I hear: “Where do I start if I want things to change?” I'm breaking down where to focus your energy (especially if your partner isn't on board yet), and how just one shift can start bringing you back to a place of connection and support. Tune in to discover: What to stop focusing on when you want things to improve The mistake many couples make when they're feeling disconnected Where to start when your partner isn't doing their part Why your emotions are the key to reconnecting (yes, even the hard ones) The first step toward a marriage that feels more loving, supportive, and connected   If you've been stuck in “I don't know where to begin,” this episode will give you the clarity and encouragement to take that first powerful step forward.   Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

You've probably heard of attachment styles — anxious, avoidant, secure — and maybe you've even taken a quiz to figure out your own. But what happens after that? Does knowing your attachment style actually help your marriage… or can it do more harm than good? In this episode, we're unpacking what attachment theory really means in real life and whether it can be the key to a stronger relationship — or just another label that keeps you stuck. Tune in to discover:Why understanding your attachment style can feel validating and frustratingThe most important mindset shift if you want to use this info to improve your marriageHow knowing your partner's attachment style can reduce conflict and increase connectionWhat to do if you're “insecurely attached” and don't know how to change itThe #1 way to avoid using attachment styles as an excuse for disconnection Whether attachment theory is brand new to you or you've gone deep into it, this episode will help you use it as a tool — not a limitation — to grow a more connected, resilient relationship. Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebieConnect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-callFollow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

You've probably heard of attachment styles — anxious, avoidant, secure — and maybe you've even taken a quiz to figure out your own. But what happens after that? Does knowing your attachment style actually help your marriage… or can it do more harm than good? In this episode, we're unpacking what attachment theory really means in real life and whether it can be the key to a stronger relationship — or just another label that keeps you stuck. Tune in to discover: Why understanding your attachment style can feel validating and frustrating The most important mindset shift if you want to use this info to improve your marriage How knowing your partner's attachment style can reduce conflict and increase connection What to do if you're “insecurely attached” and don't know how to change it The #1 way to avoid using attachment styles as an excuse for disconnection   Whether attachment theory is brand new to you or you've gone deep into it, this episode will help you use it as a tool — not a limitation — to grow a more connected, resilient relationship.   Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Setting boundaries in marriage should help you feel more respected, connected, and secure—but what if they just lead to more frustration instead? If you've ever tried to set a boundary with your spouse, only to have it ignored, misunderstood, or make things worse, you're not alone. In this episode, I'm breaking down why so many boundaries fail and what to do differently so they actually work. Tune in to discover:The biggest mistakes couples make when setting boundaries (and how to avoid them)Why boundaries are about YOU, not controlling your spouseWhat to do when your spouse resists or ignores your boundaryA key mindset shift that makes enforcing boundaries easierHow to set boundaries that actually strengthen connection instead of causing conflict If boundaries haven't worked for you in the past, don't give up yet! This episode will help you set them in a way that feels good for both you and your spouse. Share it with a friend who needs this too! FREE Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Setting boundaries in marriage should help you feel more respected, connected, and secure—but what if they just lead to more frustration instead? If you've ever tried to set a boundary with your spouse, only to have it ignored, misunderstood, or make things worse, you're not alone. In this episode, I'm breaking down why so many boundaries fail and what to do differently so they actually work.   Tune in to discover: The biggest mistakes couples make when setting boundaries (and how to avoid them) Why boundaries are about YOU, not controlling your spouse What to do when your spouse resists or ignores your boundary A key mindset shift that makes enforcing boundaries easier How to set boundaries that actually strengthen connection instead of causing conflict   If boundaries haven't worked for you in the past, don't give up yet! This episode will help you set them in a way that feels good for both you and your spouse. Share it with a friend who needs this too!   FREE Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

You know that moment when you look at your spouse and wonder, Are we even connected anymore? Maybe you're not fighting, but you're not exactly feeling close either. If your marriage feels more like a business partnership than a loving relationship, you might be experiencing marriage shutdown: a slow, sneaky disconnection that erodes intimacy and leaves you feeling unseen, unappreciated, and alone. In this episode, I'm breaking down what marriage shutdown really is, why it happens, and the subtle ways it's impacting your emotional and physical connection. More importantly, I'm giving you the tools to wake your marriage back up and start feeling like a team again. Tune in to discover:The sneaky signs of marriage shutdown most couples missWhy your marriage might feel more like a business partnership than a relationshipHow small, everyday habits could be killing intimacy without you realizing itA simple shift to make conversations feel meaningful againThe first step to reigniting connection (even if you feel exhausted or resentful) If your marriage feels stuck in autopilot, this episode will help you recognize what's really going on and give you practical steps to shift things in the right direction. And if you want even more support, grab my Marriage Shutdown Checklist by commenting "Checklist" on any of my Instagram posts. Let's get you and your spouse back on the same page! For more on this topic, check out Ep 154: Are You In Marriage Shutdown? FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

You know that moment when you look at your spouse and wonder, Are we even connected anymore? Maybe you're not fighting, but you're not exactly feeling close either. If your marriage feels more like a business partnership than a loving relationship, you might be experiencing marriage shutdown: a slow, sneaky disconnection that erodes intimacy and leaves you feeling unseen, unappreciated, and alone. In this episode, I'm breaking down what marriage shutdown really is, why it happens, and the subtle ways it's impacting your emotional and physical connection. More importantly, I'm giving you the tools to wake your marriage back up and start feeling like a team again.   Tune in to discover: The sneaky signs of marriage shutdown most couples miss Why your marriage might feel more like a business partnership than a relationship How small, everyday habits could be killing intimacy without you realizing it A simple shift to make conversations feel meaningful again The first step to reigniting connection (even if you feel exhausted or resentful)   If your marriage feels stuck in autopilot, this episode will help you recognize what's really going on and give you practical steps to shift things in the right direction. And if you want even more support, grab my Marriage Shutdown Checklist by commenting "Checklist" on any of my Instagram posts. Let's get you and your spouse back on the same page!   For more on this topic, check out Ep 154: Are You In Marriage Shutdown?   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie   Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call   Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Social media has us believe that a great marriage means feeling like newlyweds forever, with constant passion, weekly date nights, and never-ending butterflies. But that's not real life. And when we compare our relationships to those unrealistic expectations, it's easy to feel like something is missing. In this episode, I'm breaking down what a truly strong, healthy marriage looks like, what Instagram gets wrong, and how to shift your perspective so you actually appreciate the marriage you have. Tune in to discover:The misleading message social media sends about what a happy marriage “should” look likeWhy the absence of passion or frequent date nights doesn't mean your marriage is failingThe key expectations that can make or break how satisfied you feel in your relationshipThe sneaky comparison trap that might be making you feel less connected to your spouseWhat a healthy, fulfilling marriage actually looks like and how to build one that feels good for you Let's redefine what a great relationship really is, one that makes you feel safe, secure, and truly supported. FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secretsGet your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebieConnect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Social media has us believe that a great marriage means feeling like newlyweds forever, with constant passion, weekly date nights, and never-ending butterflies. But that's not real life. And when we compare our relationships to those unrealistic expectations, it's easy to feel like something is missing.    In this episode, I'm breaking down what a truly strong, healthy marriage looks like, what Instagram gets wrong, and how to shift your perspective so you actually appreciate the marriage you have.   Tune in to discover: The misleading message social media sends about what a happy marriage “should” look like Why the absence of passion or frequent date nights doesn't mean your marriage is failing The key expectations that can make or break how satisfied you feel in your relationship The sneaky comparison trap that might be making you feel less connected to your spouse What a healthy, fulfilling marriage actually looks like and how to build one that feels good for you   Let's redefine what a great relationship really is, one that makes you feel safe, secure, and truly supported.   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Being sick is hard enough, but have you ever noticed how it also stirs up tension in your marriage? Maybe it highlights just how uneven the mental load is or leaves you feeling uncared for when you need support the most. If getting sick has ever made you feel resentful, disconnected, or just plain exhausted in more ways than one—this episode is for you.   Tune in to discover: Why sickness can trigger disconnection and resentment in your marriage The real reason moms struggle to rest when they're sick (and why dads don't) How societal expectations shape the way illness plays out in partnerships The mindset shift that prevents arguments before they start The simple steps you and your spouse can take to support each other better   This episode will change how you and your spouse navigate illness and care for each other—so you feel like a team, even when life (or the flu) tries to take you down.   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Being sick is hard enough, but have you ever noticed how it also stirs up tension in your marriage? Maybe it highlights just how uneven the mental load is or leaves you feeling uncared for when you need support the most. If getting sick has ever made you feel resentful, disconnected, or just plain exhausted in more ways than one—this episode is for you. Tune in to discover:Why sickness can trigger disconnection and resentment in your marriageThe real reason moms struggle to rest when they're sick (and why dads don't)How societal expectations shape the way illness plays out in partnershipsThe mindset shift that prevents arguments before they startThe simple steps you and your spouse can take to support each other better This episode will change how you and your spouse navigate illness and care for each other—so you feel like a team, even when life (or the flu) tries to take you down. FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebieConnect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

What if the biggest thing keeping you disconnected from your spouse isn't about spending more time together or even putting in more effort? So many couples focus on what's missing in their marriage, but what if the real secret to reconnecting is something completely different? In this episode, I'll help you shift your mindset and show you a powerful way to start feeling closer to your spouse again—without forcing anything or twisting yourself into a pretzel.   Tune in to discover: Why feeling disconnected has more to do with how you see your spouse than what they're actually doing How to stop your brain from only noticing the things they aren't doing The subtle but powerful mindset shift that makes everything feel easier Why focusing on the proof of your spouse's love can create a ripple effect of connection A simple challenge to help you start seeing your spouse in a new way—starting today   This episode will change how you think about connection in your marriage. Share it with a friend and don't forget to send me your review of the podcast for my free gift to you to celebrate 200 episodes!   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

What if the biggest thing keeping you disconnected from your spouse isn't about spending more time together or even putting in more effort? So many couples focus on what's missing in their marriage, but what if the real secret to reconnecting is something completely different? In this episode, I'll help you shift your mindset and show you a powerful way to start feeling closer to your spouse again—without forcing anything or twisting yourself into a pretzel. Tune in to discover:Why feeling disconnected has more to do with how you see your spouse than what they're actually doingHow to stop your brain from only noticing the things they aren't doingThe subtle but powerful mindset shift that makes everything feel easierWhy focusing on the proof of your spouse's love can create a ripple effect of connectionA simple challenge to help you start seeing your spouse in a new way—starting today This episode will change how you think about connection in your marriage. Share it with a friend and don't forget to send me your review of the podcast for my free gift to you to celebrate 200 episodes! FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebieConnect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-callFollow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Something sneaky is quietly eroding connection in so many marriages, and chances are, it's happening in yours too. It's not just the big fights or major betrayals. There's something else that builds up over time, leaving you feeling frustrated, unseen, and disconnected. But here's the good news—once you recognize it, you can clear it out and finally feel like you're in this together again.   Tune in to discover: Something that happens all the time—intentionally or unintentionally—that creates disconnection (and what to do instead) Why missing your spouse's bids for connection is more damaging than you think The shift that stops you from feeling like you're carrying everything alone How to express what you need in a way that actually gets heard Simple strategies to replace resentment with real partnership and connection   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Something sneaky is quietly eroding connection in so many marriages, and chances are, it's happening in yours too. It's not just the big fights or major betrayals. There's something else that builds up over time, leaving you feeling frustrated, unseen, and disconnected. But here's the good news—once you recognize it, you can clear it out and finally feel like you're in this together again. Tune in to discover:Something that happens all the time—intentionally or unintentionally—that creates disconnection (and what to do instead)Why missing your spouse's bids for connection is more damaging than you thinkThe shift that stops you from feeling like you're carrying everything aloneHow to express what you need in a way that actually gets heardSimple strategies to replace resentment with real partnership and connection FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebieConnect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-callFollow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

What does it take to build a marriage that not only lasts but thrives for 78 years? After witnessing my grandparents' incredible love story, I'm sharing the key lessons from their decades together—lessons that can help you strengthen your own marriage today. These aren't just old-school values; they are the foundations of a happy, connected, and resilient partnership.   Tune in to discover: The simple daily habit that keeps appreciation alive in a marriage Why respectful communication (even during conflict) is a game-changer How to prioritize your relationship through every season of life The mindset shift that makes your spouse feel like your greatest teammate The small but powerful ways to keep love and connection strong for the long haul   If you want to build a marriage that stands the test of time, this episode is for you. Share it with your partner or someone who could use these insights!   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

What does it take to build a marriage that not only lasts but thrives for 78 years? After witnessing my grandparents' incredible love story, I'm sharing the key lessons from their decades together—lessons that can help you strengthen your own marriage today. These aren't just old-school values; they are the foundations of a happy, connected, and resilient partnership. Tune in to discover:The simple daily habit that keeps appreciation alive in a marriageWhy respectful communication (even during conflict) is a game-changerHow to prioritize your relationship through every season of lifeThe mindset shift that makes your spouse feel like your greatest teammateThe small but powerful ways to keep love and connection strong for the long haul If you want to build a marriage that stands the test of time, this episode is for you. Share it with your partner or someone who could use these insights! FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebieConnect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-callFollow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

The little things in your marriage matter more than you realize. Those tiny, everyday moments—how you respond, the words you choose, the way you show up—are either strengthening your connection or quietly pulling you apart. But with just a few intentional shifts, you can start feeling more loved, supported, and connected in your marriage! Tune in to discover:The hidden habit that leads to resentment (and how to shift into a team mentality instead)A simple mindset change that prevents defensiveness and encourages connectionHow micro-moments of connection can completely transform your relationship (without requiring big date nights or getaways)The key difference between assuming the worst vs. giving your spouse the benefit of the doubtA small language tweak that instantly makes conflict feel less like a battle and more like a collaboration These shifts may be small, but they have a huge impact. Try them out and watch how they change the way you and your spouse connect! FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebieConnect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

The little things in your marriage matter more than you realize. Those tiny, everyday moments—how you respond, the words you choose, the way you show up—are either strengthening your connection or quietly pulling you apart. But with just a few intentional shifts, you can start feeling more loved, supported, and connected in your marriage!   Tune in to discover: The hidden habit that leads to resentment (and how to shift into a team mentality instead) A simple mindset change that prevents defensiveness and encourages connection How micro-moments of connection can completely transform your relationship (without requiring big date nights or getaways) The key difference between assuming the worst vs. giving your spouse the benefit of the doubt A small language tweak that instantly makes conflict feel less like a battle and more like a collaboration   These shifts may be small, but they have a huge impact. Try them out and watch how they change the way you and your spouse connect!   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call   Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Ever feel like your marriage is the problem? Like your spouse isn't meeting your needs, follows through on nothing, or always gets defensive? While those things do need to change, there's something bigger at play that makes everything feel so much harder—and it's not just your relationship. In this episode, I'm breaking down the hidden stressor that's quietly making marriage after kids so challenging (and what you can do about it). Tune in to discover:Why marriage feels so much harder after kids—and why it's not just youThe unseen force that turns small conflicts into major disconnectionHow this stress makes even good marriages feel bad (and rocky ones fall apart)The mindset shift that helps you and your spouse work together instead of against each otherThe two must-have tools to get unstuck and actually feel happier in your relationship If you've ever felt like your marriage shouldn't be this hard, this episode is for you. Let's talk about what's really going on—and how to start fixing it today. FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebieConnect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-callFollow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Ever feel like your marriage is the problem? Like your spouse isn't meeting your needs, follows through on nothing, or always gets defensive? While those things do need to change, there's something bigger at play that makes everything feel so much harder—and it's not just your relationship. In this episode, I'm breaking down the hidden stressor that's quietly making marriage after kids so challenging (and what you can do about it).   Tune in to discover: Why marriage feels so much harder after kids—and why it's not just you The unseen force that turns small conflicts into major disconnection How this stress makes even good marriages feel bad (and rocky ones fall apart) The mindset shift that helps you and your spouse work together instead of against each other The two must-have tools to get unstuck and actually feel happier in your relationship   If you've ever felt like your marriage shouldn't be this hard, this episode is for you. Let's talk about what's really going on—and how to start fixing it today.   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Parenting disagreements can feel so personal—like you're being judged by your spouse or anyone watching from the sidelines. But when you and your partner don't see eye-to-eye on how to raise your kids, it can lead to fights that leave you both feeling disconnected. In this episode, I'll show you how to navigate these differences and create a parenting partnership that works for both of you. Tune in to discover:How to handle the judgment you feel from your spouse (or that stranger in the grocery store)The key to hearing each other and finding a way forward—even when you disagreeWhy keeping your shared goal of raising great kids in mind changes everythingThe power of emotional validation and saying the things that often go unspokenHow to compromise without always agreeing, so you both feel good about your parenting decisions This episode will help you as parents take the first steps toward working together as a team. Share it with your partner or a friend who could use these tools! FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebieConnect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Parenting disagreements can feel so personal—like you're being judged by your spouse or anyone watching from the sidelines. But when you and your partner don't see eye-to-eye on how to raise your kids, it can lead to fights that leave you both feeling disconnected. In this episode, I'll show you how to navigate these differences and create a parenting partnership that works for both of you.   Tune in to discover: How to handle the judgment you feel from your spouse (or that stranger in the grocery store) The key to hearing each other and finding a way forward—even when you disagree Why keeping your shared goal of raising great kids in mind changes everything The power of emotional validation and saying the things that often go unspoken How to compromise without always agreeing, so you both feel good about your parenting decisions   This episode will help you as parents take the first steps toward working together as a team. Share it with your partner or a friend who could use these tools!   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call   Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids  

Have you ever opened up to your spouse about the mental load, only to be met with defensiveness, resistance, or invalidating responses? It can feel hopeless, lonely, and leave you questioning whether your partner truly understands or cares. This episode is for you if you've tried having these conversations but still aren't getting what you need.   Tune in to discover: Why defensive or invalidating responses to the mental load feel so painful and isolating Scripts you can use when your spouse says frustrating things like, “Well, no one asked you to do all that,” or, “I guess I'm just a bad husband” The importance of understanding your spouse's intentions and how to navigate the emotions behind their reactions How to avoid shutting down in your marriage, even when things don't go well Why the solution lies in building systems that work for both of you (and how to start that conversation today)   If you've ever felt like you're carrying everything alone or that your spouse just doesn't “get it,” this episode will help you approach these tough conversations with confidence, clarity, and love. It's not about proving who's right or wrong—it's about finding a way to tackle the mental load together.   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Have you ever opened up to your spouse about the mental load, only to be met with defensiveness, resistance, or invalidating responses? It can feel hopeless, lonely, and leave you questioning whether your partner truly understands or cares. This episode is for you if you've tried having these conversations but still aren't getting what you need. Tune in to discover:Why defensive or invalidating responses to the mental load feel so painful and isolatingScripts you can use when your spouse says frustrating things like, “Well, no one asked you to do all that,” or, “I guess I'm just a bad husband”The importance of understanding your spouse's intentions and how to navigate the emotions behind their reactionsHow to avoid shutting down in your marriage, even when things don't go wellWhy the solution lies in building systems that work for both of you (and how to start that conversation today) If you've ever felt like you're carrying everything alone or that your spouse just doesn't “get it,” this episode will help you approach these tough conversations with confidence, clarity, and love. It's not about proving who's right or wrong—it's about finding a way to tackle the mental load together. FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebieConnect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-callFollow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Are you tired of feeling like you're the one holding everything together - not just managing the household, but also keeping track of every need, schedule, and responsibility for your kids and spouse? The mental load can feel overwhelming, and even more so when you're carrying it alone. But how do you talk to your spouse about it without it turning into an argument? In this episode, I'm sharing exactly what to do to approach this sensitive topic and how to build a stronger partnership in the process. Tune in to discover:Why the mental load isn't just about tasks, but about the emotional weight of carrying everyone's needsThe #1 reason holding the mental load makes you feel disconnected and lonely in your marriageHow to feel more appreciated and validated, even if your spouse doesn't fully understand what you're going throughA step-by-step approach to talking to your spouse about the mental load without triggering defensiveness or conflict FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebieConnect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-callFollow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Are you tired of feeling like you're the one holding everything together - not just managing the household, but also keeping track of every need, schedule, and responsibility for your kids and spouse? The mental load can feel overwhelming, and even more so when you're carrying it alone. But how do you talk to your spouse about it without it turning into an argument? In this episode, I'm sharing exactly what to do to approach this sensitive topic and how to build a stronger partnership in the process. Tune in to discover: Why the mental load isn't just about tasks, but about the emotional weight of carrying everyone's needs The #1 reason holding the mental load makes you feel disconnected and lonely in your marriage How to feel more appreciated and validated, even if your spouse doesn't fully understand what you're going through A step-by-step approach to talking to your spouse about the mental load without triggering defensiveness or conflict   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Have you ever felt upset when your spouse says they'll do something and then just… doesn't? Or when they say they'll be home at a certain time and aren't? These small moments might not feel like a big deal at first, but over time, they fracture trust in your marriage. And without realizing it, these small cracks can lead to resentment, disconnection, and even marriage shutdown. In this episode, I'm diving into the small ways trust is broken, how it impacts your relationship, and, most importantly, how you can fix it fast to restore connection and partnership.   Tune in to discover: The surprising everyday actions that are quietly breaking trust in your marriage The quickest way to push your marriage toward shutdown (and how to stop it) How to rebuild trust through small, intentional actions that make a big impact The secret to knowing exactly what your spouse needs to feel valued and supported Simple strategies to repair fractured trust and create a stronger, more connected partnership   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Have you ever felt upset when your spouse says they'll do something and then just… doesn't? Or when they say they'll be home at a certain time and aren't? These small moments might not feel like a big deal at first, but over time, they fracture trust in your marriage. And without realizing it, these small cracks can lead to resentment, disconnection, and even marriage shutdown. In this episode, I'm diving into the small ways trust is broken, how it impacts your relationship, and, most importantly, how you can fix it fast to restore connection and partnership. Tune in to discover:The surprising everyday actions that are quietly breaking trust in your marriageThe quickest way to push your marriage toward shutdown (and how to stop it)How to rebuild trust through small, intentional actions that make a big impactThe secret to knowing exactly what your spouse needs to feel valued and supportedSimple strategies to repair fractured trust and create a stronger, more connected partnership FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebieConnect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-callFollow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

As we head into a new year, let's focus on setting your marriage up for success in 2025. Whether your relationship feels strong or strained right now, these actionable tips will help you intentionally improve your connection and partnership in the months ahead. This episode is packed with simple yet impactful strategies that don't require a ton of time or energy—perfect for busy parents.   Tune in to discover: Why lasting change takes time and how to stay consistent long enough to see results A surprising and powerful tool (that takes less than 5 minutes!) that has the ability to transform your marriage How to align your daily actions with your priorities (and make space for what fills you up) A simple method to organize household management and reduce resentment How to spot and shift negative thought patterns about your spouse and marriage to build a stronger foundation   Let's make 2025 the year your marriage thrives—starting today.   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

As we head into a new year, let's focus on setting your marriage up for success in 2025. Whether your relationship feels strong or strained right now, these actionable tips will help you intentionally improve your connection and partnership in the months ahead. This episode is packed with simple yet impactful strategies that don't require a ton of time or energy—perfect for busy parents. Tune in to discover:Why lasting change takes time and how to stay consistent long enough to see resultsA surprising and powerful tool (that takes less than 5 minutes!) that has the ability to transform your marriageHow to align your daily actions with your priorities (and make space for what fills you up)A simple method to organize household management and reduce resentmentHow to spot and shift negative thought patterns about your spouse and marriage to build a stronger foundation Let's make 2025 the year your marriage thrives—starting today. FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secretsGet your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebieConnect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-callFollow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

The holidays can be an overwhelming time, especially for couples already feeling the strain of marriage shutdown. Many couples find themselves struggling even more during this season, and divorce filings spike right after the holidays for a reason. In this episode, I'll share practical, research-backed strategies to help you avoid becoming part of that statistic, feel more connected to your spouse, and create the holiday season you truly want. Tune in to discover:The staggering statistic about divorce after the holidays (and what it means for your marriage)Why holiday stress puts extra strain on marriages (and how to counteract it)How to avoid fights or de-escalate them before they spiral out of controlThe importance of clearly communicating your needs (and not assuming your spouse can read your mind)One simple question to ask yourself daily to ensure you're staying aligned with what truly mattersWhy expert support can make all the difference when your marriage feels stuck FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebieConnect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-callFollow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

The holidays can be an overwhelming time, especially for couples already feeling the strain of marriage shutdown. Many couples find themselves struggling even more during this season, and divorce filings spike right after the holidays for a reason. In this episode, I'll share practical, research-backed strategies to help you avoid becoming part of that statistic, feel more connected to your spouse, and create the holiday season you truly want.   Tune in to discover: The staggering statistic about divorce after the holidays (and what it means for your marriage) Why holiday stress puts extra strain on marriages (and how to counteract it) How to avoid fights or de-escalate them before they spiral out of control The importance of clearly communicating your needs (and not assuming your spouse can read your mind) One simple question to ask yourself daily to ensure you're staying aligned with what truly matters Why expert support can make all the difference when your marriage feels stuck   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Parenthood is a never-ending grind, and the stress of it all can often feel overwhelming. But did you know that how good you feel as a parent is directly impacted by one key thing? In this episode, I'll reveal what that is and show you how to create more capacity for joy in parenting by prioritizing this often-overlooked area of your life. Tune in to discover:The connection between the quality of your marriage and your happiness as a parentWhy resentment, disappointment, or frustration with your spouse depletes your capacity to parent at your bestHow to prioritize fun with your spouse, even when resentment feels like a barrierThe tools you need to switch the dynamic in your marriage instead of focusing solely on what your spouse isn't doingWhy the thoughts you have about your spouse might not be true (and how reframing them can strengthen your bond)The #1 tip to take your marriage from struggling to thriving FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebieConnect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-callFollow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Parenthood is a never-ending grind, and the stress of it all can often feel overwhelming. But did you know that how good you feel as a parent is directly impacted by one key thing? In this episode, I'll reveal what that is and show you how to create more capacity for joy in parenting by prioritizing this often-overlooked area of your life.   Tune in to discover: The connection between the quality of your marriage and your happiness as a parent Why resentment, disappointment, or frustration with your spouse depletes your capacity to parent at your best How to prioritize fun with your spouse, even when resentment feels like a barrier The tools you need to switch the dynamic in your marriage instead of focusing solely on what your spouse isn't doing Why the thoughts you have about your spouse might not be true (and how reframing them can strengthen your bond) The #1 tip to take your marriage from struggling to thriving   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

62% of couples polled on my Instagram admitted to fighting with their spouse most of the holiday season.    Holidays are supposed to be joyful, but the stress can bring out the worst in even the happiest couples. In this episode, I'll show you how to stop feeling like enemies and start working as a team to handle the most common holiday stressors—so you can actually enjoy the season together.   Tune in to discover: What to discuss before the chaos begins (so no one ends up disappointed) How to handle family dynamics as a team—even with triggers, in-law drama, or differing traditions Tips for navigating holiday parties to avoid tension, misunderstandings, or solo parenting The one thing couples often neglect during the holiday rush—and why it needs to stay a priority A simple approach to gift-giving that feels fair and stress-free Scripts and exact words to get on the same page with your spouse about it all   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids