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In this episode of 'Created for This,' Lindsay Swoboda shares her journey as a military spouse, mother, and professional writer. She discusses transitioning from her dream job as a dancer to becoming a mother and author, navigating the unique challenges and grief associated with constant relocations, and finding resilience through vulnerability. Lindsay emphasizes the importance of creativity, trust, and community support in balancing family life and pursuing personal dreams. She reflects on the necessity of adjusting priorities, the impact of solo parenting, and the value of recognizing one's own bandwidth. Offering insights into trusting the process, she encourages listeners to embrace the unglamorous yet rewarding path of slow growth, anchored in faith and community. 00:00 Introduction and Welcome 00:37 Meet Lindsay Swoboda: A Journey of Resilience 01:57 Transitioning Priorities: From Dance to Writing 02:56 Navigating Military Life and Family 09:13 Embracing Creativity and Writing 17:05 Balancing Motherhood and Personal Goals 20:53 Finding Joy in the Everyday 26:33 Navigating Military Life and Trusting God's Timing 27:37 The Journey of Writing a Book 29:06 Adventures and Challenges of Frequent Moving 34:24 The Importance of Community and Support 35:02 Solo Parenting: Tips and Realities 43:27 Encouragement and Final Thoughts Links to support Lindsay: Book Holding On and Letting Go: a life in motion Instagram
Discover how diplomatic spouse Nilma Dole-Williams balances her role as an ambassador's wife with her passion for cricket and women's empowerment. Perfect for military spouses, armed forces wives, and entrepreneurs looking to grow their businesses while navigating a mobile lifestyle. Empowering Military Spouses: The InDependent Spouse Podcast Looking for inspiration and support as a military spouse? The InDependent Spouse podcast is your one-stop shop for stories, tips, and a thriving community! Host Jess Sands chats with incredible military spouses achieving amazing things, alongside building the Milspo® Community. This network of over 1,400 spouses, partners, and "other halves" is dedicated to helping military families build epic businesses that thrive, not just survive modern military life. Ready to take action? Join the Milspo® Community: Connect with like-minded individuals and find support for your entrepreneurial journey. https://www.facebook.com/groups/MILSPO Get Inspired by Jess' Book: Read "Building Business Beyond the Magnolia Box: Inspiration for entrepreneurs living in a modern military world." https://amzn.eu/d/bt1odyI Level Up with Milspo Membership: Join the Inner Circle, the premier business incubator for military spouses. (link: https://milspo.co.uk/milspo-inner-circle-waiting-list/) Milspo®: Supporting Military Families Milspo® is a network built by military spouses, for military spouses. We understand the unique challenges faced by those living a military life. Our resources and programmes are designed to empower spouses to thrive, both personally and professionally. Military Spouse Podcast, Military Spouse Business, Military Family Support, Milspo Community, Military Spouse Entrepreneurship, The InDependent Spouse Supporting the Milspo Network CIC The Milspo Network CIC is a volunteer-run social enterprise dedicated to supporting the entrepreneurial endeavours of the entire UK military spouse community. We rely on the goodwill of our members and volunteers to continue our mission. Looking to make a difference? Spread the Word: Share the Milspo Network with other military spouses! Support Us: We are seeking sponsorship or financial help to ensure we can continue providing resources and support in 2024 and beyond https://milspo.co.uk/milspomovement/ Together, we can create a rising tide that lifts all boats in the military spouse community!
Author Amanda Prowse shares her journey from military life to home ownership, reflecting on the nostalgia and challenges faced during her husband's deployments. After starting her writing career at 40, she uses her experiences to inspire her books, including her newest book, "Swimming to Lundy," which explores grief and community following her brother's death. This is such a brilliant episode and I am so proud to be able to share Amandas story and her wonderful ideas for any aspiring Milspo author. Enjoy this one! It's fab! https://www.amandaprowse.com https://www.instagram.com/mrsamandaprowse/ The InDependent Spouse podcast was created to give a voice to those who are most often hidden in the shadows of their brave, serving military partner and who are achieving amazing things. Since 2018, Jess Sands has been sharing these stories, alongside building the Milspo® Community – a network of over 1,400 military spouses, partners and other halves who are building epic businesses that THRIVE, not just survive in a modern military world. - If you're looking for further inspiration why not join our community and connect with others – https://www.facebook.com/groups/MILSPO - Read Jess' latest Book – Building Business Beyond the Magnolia Box: Inspiration for entrepreneurs living in a modern military world – https://amzn.eu/d/3ASq6VT - Get your FREE business start-up guide HERE - https://milspo.co.uk/start-your-dream-business-free-download/ - If you dream of starting your own business, but don't know how to get beyond the idea stage, then apply to join Milspo's ‘Launch Accelerator' business start-up course. Thanks to incredible support from the Armed Forces Covenant Fund Trust, this course is FREE and will coach you through starting and building a robust business that's designed to survive multiple house moves and all that armed forces life throws at you. The first course begins in the Autumn of 2024 and we'd love you to join us: www.milspo.co.uk/course. - Or, join our Milspo Membership, the Inner Circle. The best business incubator to help build your business or side hustle - https://milspo.co.uk/milspo-inner-circle-waiting-list/ Milspo®, The InDependent Spouse®, findamilspo and The Milspo Inner Circle are all part of the Milspo Network CIC - a volunteer organisation and social enterprise built by the serving spouses, partners and other halves of ALL UK military personnel to support the community's entrepreneurial endeavours. We get it because we live it every day, and we want everyone to find inspiration, support and a community that helps make military life a little bit better - a rising tide lifts all boats. Founded in 2018, the Milspo Network CIC has been built on the goodwill of its members and the support of its volunteers. After a series of failed funding bids and a struggle to change the narrative of why this community needs that extra bit of support, we are now looking for sponsorship or financial help so that Milspo can continue to provide into 2024. Please do spread the word or connect us with those who would like to make a difference and directly support the military family, a community at the heart of the UK Armed Forces and all it does.
Emma Gray hosts this very special episode blending business and military life, sharing Jess' journey as a business owner, military spouse, and new mum. Jess Sands founded the Milspo Network CIC in 2018 to support military spouses in business, offering networking, training, and community - but, it's been far from a smooth ride. Get to know Jess and why Milspo exists by listening to this unique episode of The InDependent Spouse podcast. Emma Gray is a widow, mother and solicitor (non-practicing), now helping others as an adulting coach, trainee counsellor and grief expert. Find her here https://www.rainbowhunting.co.uk/ The InDependent Spouse podcast was created to give a voice to those who are most often hidden in the shadows of their brave, serving military partner and who are achieving amazing things. Since 2018, Jess Sands has been sharing these stories, alongside building the Milspo® Community – a network of over 1,400 military spouses, partners and other halves who are building epic businesses that THRIVE, not just survive in a modern military world. - If you're looking for further inspiration why not join our community and connect with others – https://www.facebook.com/groups/MILSPO - Read Jess' latest Book – Building Business Beyond the Magnolia Box: Inspiration for entrepreneurs living in a modern military world – https://amzn.eu/d/3ASq6VT - Get your FREE business start-up guide HERE - https://milspo.co.uk/start-your-dream-business-free-download/ - If you dream of starting your own business, but don't know how to get beyond the idea stage, then apply to join Milspo's ‘Launch Accelerator' business start-up course. Thanks to incredible support from the Armed Forces Covenant Fund Trust, this course is FREE and will coach you through starting and building a robust business that's designed to survive multiple house moves and all that armed forces life throws at you. The first course begins in the Autumn of 2024 and we'd love you to join us: www.milspo.co.uk/course. - Or, join our Milspo Membership, the Inner Circle. The best business incubator to help build your business or side hustle - https://milspo.co.uk/milspo-inner-circle-waiting-list/ Milspo®, The InDependent Spouse®, findamilspo and The Milspo Inner Circle are all part of the Milspo Network CIC - a volunteer organisation and social enterprise built by the serving spouses, partners and other halves of ALL UK military personnel to support the community's entrepreneurial endeavours. We get it because we live it every day, and we want everyone to find inspiration, support and a community that helps make military life a little bit better - a rising tide lifts all boats. Founded in 2018, the Milspo Network CIC has been built on the goodwill of its members and the support of its volunteers. After a series of failed funding bids and a struggle to change the narrative of why this community needs that extra bit of support, we are now looking for sponsorship or financial help so that Milspo can continue to provide into 2024. Please do spread the word or connect us with those who would like to make a difference and directly support the military family, a community at the heart of the UK Armed Forces and all it does.
https://www.scottishveteranscommissioner.org Jess Sands hosts a podcast on business and military life, aiming to inspire military spouses to become entrepreneurs. In this episode, she interviews Susie, the Scottish Veterans Commissioner, who emphasises support for women veterans and bereaved families. The discussion highlights the gap between policymakers and the military community, stressing the importance of speaking up and providing feedback for improving support. Scotland demonstrates political will towards the armed forces, with Jess and Susie hopeful for positive changes and continued support. The InDependent Spouse podcast was created to give a voice to those who are most often hidden in the shadows of their brave, serving military partner and who are achieving amazing things. Since 2018, Jess Sands has been sharing these stories, alongside building the Milspo® Community – a network of over 1,400 military spouses, partners and other halves who are building epic businesses that THRIVE, not just survive in a modern military world. - If you're looking for further inspiration why not join our community and connect with others – https://www.facebook.com/groups/MILSPO - Read Jess' latest Book – Building Business Beyond the Magnolia Box: Inspiration for entrepreneurs living in a modern military world – https://amzn.eu/d/3ASq6VT - Get your FREE business start-up guide HERE - https://milspo.co.uk/start-your-dream-business-free-download/ - If you dream of starting your own business, but don't know how to get beyond the idea stage, then apply to join Milspo's ‘Launch Accelerator' business start-up course. Thanks to incredible support from the Armed Forces Covenant Fund Trust, this course is FREE and will coach you through starting and building a robust business that's designed to survive multiple house moves and all that armed forces life throws at you. The first course begins in the Autumn of 2024 and we'd love you to join us: www.milspo.co.uk/course. - Or, join our Milspo Membership, the Inner Circle. The best business incubator to help build your business or side hustle - https://milspo.co.uk/milspo-inner-circle-waiting-list/ Milspo®, The InDependent Spouse®, findamilspo and The Milspo Inner Circle are all part of the Milspo Network CIC - a volunteer organisation and social enterprise built by the serving spouses, partners and other halves of ALL UK military personnel to support the community's entrepreneurial endeavours. We get it because we live it every day, and we want everyone to find inspiration, support and a community that helps make military life a little bit better - a rising tide lifts all boats. Founded in 2018, the Milspo Network CIC has been built on the goodwill of its members and the support of its volunteers. After a series of failed funding bids and a struggle to change the narrative of why this community needs that extra bit of support, we are now looking for sponsorship or financial help so that Milspo can continue to provide into 2024. Please do spread the word or connect us with those who would like to make a difference and directly support the military family, a community at the heart of the UK Armed Forces and all it does.
Handleys Stitch - https://www.handleysstitch.co.uk Mia Harrington, a former Air Force Officer and current RAF wife, is the founder of Handly Stitched Soft Furnishings. Mia's journey from the military to creating curtains, blinds, lampshades, and cushion covers is inspiring, and a must-listen if you're in year one or have an idea for your business. Mia's story exemplifies the potential for post-military career success in entrepreneurship. Thanks to Mia for taking the time to share your story - Jess x Get your FREE business start-up guide HERE - https://milspo.co.uk/start-your-dream-business-free-download/ The InDependent Spouse podcast was created to give a voice to those who are most often hidden in the shadows of their brave, serving military partner and who are achieving amazing things. Since 2018, Jess Sands has been sharing these stories, alongside building the Milspo® Community – a network of over 1,400 military spouses, partners and other halves who are building epic businesses that THRIVE, not just survive in a modern military world. If you're looking for further inspiration why not join our community and connect with others – https://www.facebook.com/groups/MILSPO Read Jess' latest Book – Building Business Beyond the Magnolia Box: Inspiration for entrepreneurs living in a modern military world – https://amzn.eu/d/3ASq6VT Or, join our Milspo Membership, the Inner Circle. The best business incubator to help build your business or side hustle - https://milspo.co.uk/milspo-inner-circle-waiting-list/ Milspo®, The InDependent Spouse®, findamilspo and The Milspo Inner Circle are all part of the Milspo Network CIC - a volunteer organisation and social enterprise built by the serving spouses, partners and other halves of ALL UK military personnel to support the community's entrepreneurial endeavours. We get it because we live it every day, and we want everyone to find inspiration, support and a community that helps make military life a little bit better - a rising tide lifts all boats. Founded in 2018, the Milspo Network CIC has been built on the goodwill of its members and the support of its volunteers. After a series of failed funding bids and a struggle to change the narrative of why this community needs that extra bit of support, we are now looking for sponsorship or financial help so that Milspo can continue to provide into 2024. Please do spread the word or connect us with those who would like to make a difference and directly support the military family, a community at the heart of the UK Armed Forces and all it does.
Jess Sands, a business owner and military spouse, hosts the InDependent Spouse Podcast, offering support to business-owning military spouses. In a recent episode, she interviewed Helen Williamson, a financial planner and ex-RAF veteran, emphasising the importance of financial planning for military spouses and self-employed individuals. Helen shares her journey of retraining as a financial planner after leaving the Air Force and advocates for more awareness of parental leave policies and flexibility in the military. The episode highlights the impact of military background on career choices and encourages women to take control of their finances. You can find Helen right here - https://partnership.sjp.co.uk/partner/helenwilliamson The InDependent Spouse podcast was created to give a voice to those who are most often hidden in the shadows of their brave, serving military partner and who are achieving amazing things. Since 2018, Jess Sands has been sharing these stories, alongside building the Milspo® Community – a network of over 1,400 military spouses, partners and other halves who are building epic businesses that THRIVE, not just survive in a modern military world. If you're looking for further inspiration why not join our community and connect with others – https://www.facebook.com/groups/MILSPO Read Jess' latest Book – Building Business Beyond the Magnolia Box: Inspiration for entrepreneurs living in a modern military world – https://amzn.eu/d/3ASq6VT Or, join our Milspo Membership, the Inner Circle. The best business incubator to help build your business or side hustle - https://milspo.co.uk/milspo-inner-circle-waiting-list/ Milspo®, The InDependent Spouse®, findamilspo and The Milspo Inner Circle are all part of the Milspo Network CIC - a volunteer organisation and social enterprise built by the serving spouses, partners and other halves of ALL UK military personnel to support the community's entrepreneurial endeavours. We get it because we live it every day, and we want everyone to find inspiration, support and a community that helps make military life a little bit better - a rising tide lifts all boats. Founded in 2018, the Milspo Network CIC has been built on the goodwill of its members and the support of its volunteers. After a series of failed funding bids and a struggle to change the narrative of why this community needs that extra bit of support, we are now looking for sponsorship or financial help so that Milspo can continue to provide into 2024. Please do spread the word or connect us with those who would like to make a difference and directly support the military family, a community at the heart of the UK Armed Forces and all it does.
Lizzie York is an RAF wife and business owner who runs Cyclical Soul, an online yoga platform promoting women's well-being. Cyclical Soul focuses on cyclical living and aligning with your hormonal cycle to enhance your overall health and self-care, and this episode is chock full of handy tips to achieve that, even if you feel you have limited time due to the juggle of military life. Lizzie shares her journey from personal struggles to a successful business rooted in self-care and serves as an inspiration for military spouses facing similar challenges. Listen along to why importance of self-care, positivity, and community support can help you with navigating military life. https://www.cyclicalsoul.com The InDependent Spouse podcast was created to give a voice to those who are most often hidden in the shadows of their brave, serving military partner and who are achieving amazing things. Since 2018, Jess Sands has been sharing these stories, alongside building the Milspo® Community – a network of over 1,400 military spouses, partners and other halves who are building epic businesses that THRIVE, not just survive in a modern military world. If you're looking for further inspiration why not join our community and connect with others – https://www.facebook.com/groups/MILSPO Read Jess' latest Book – Building Business Beyond the Magnolia Box: Inspiration for entrepreneurs living in a modern military world – https://amzn.eu/d/3ASq6VT Or, join our Milspo Membership, the Inner Circle. The best business incubator to help build your business or side hustle - https://milspo.co.uk/milspo-inner-circle-waiting-list/ Milspo®, The InDependent Spouse®, findamilspo and The Milspo Inner Circle are all part of the Milspo Network CIC - a volunteer organisation and social enterprise built by the serving spouses, partners and other halves of ALL UK military personnel to support the community's entrepreneurial endeavours. We get it because we live it every day, and we want everyone to find inspiration, support and a community that helps make military life a little bit better - a rising tide lifts all boats. Founded in 2018, the Milspo Network CIC has been built on the goodwill of its members and the support of its volunteers. After a series of failed funding bids and a struggle to change the narrative of why this community needs that extra bit of support, we are now looking for sponsorship or financial help so that Milspo can continue to provide into 2024. Please do spread the word or connect us with those who would like to make a difference and directly support the military family, a community at the heart of the UK Armed Forces and all it does.
I am Jess Sands, and this podcast is where all things business and armed forces life combine to inspire you in your modern military life. Welcome to the InDependent Spouse Podcast. Episode two of series six features Emily, a sustainable tourism consultant, discussing ways to make travel more eco-friendly. Emily is also the sustainability lead for Forces Wives Challenge and advocates for policymakers to support military spouses' careers and focus on sustainability. https://www.justtourism.co.uk The InDependent Spouse podcast was created to give a voice to those who are most often hidden in the shadows of their brave, serving military partner and who are achieving amazing things. Since 2018, Jess Sands has been sharing these stories, alongside building the Milspo® Community – a network of over 1,400 military spouses, partners and other halves who are building epic businesses that THRIVE, not just survive in a modern military world. If you're looking for further inspiration why not join our community and connect with others – https://www.facebook.com/groups/MILSPO Read Jess' latest Book – Building Business Beyond the Magnolia Box: Inspiration for entrepreneurs living in a modern military world – https://amzn.eu/d/3ASq6VT Or, join our Milspo Membership, the Inner Circle. The best business incubator to help build your business or side hustle - https://milspo.co.uk/milspo-inner-circle-waiting-list/ Milspo®, The InDependent Spouse®, findamilspo and The Milspo Inner Circle are all part of the Milspo Network CIC - a volunteer organisation and social enterprise built by the serving spouses, partners and other halves of ALL UK military personnel to support the community's entrepreneurial endeavours. We get it because we live it every day, and we want everyone to find inspiration, support and a community that helps make military life a little bit better - a rising tide lifts all boats. Founded in 2018, the Milspo Network CIC has been built on the goodwill of its members and the support of its volunteers. After a series of failed funding bids and a struggle to change the narrative of why this community needs that extra bit of support, we are now looking for sponsorship or financial help so that Milspo can continue to provide into 2024. Please do spread the word or connect us with those who would like to make a difference and directly support the military family, a community at the heart of the UK Armed Forces and all it does.
I am Jess Sands, and this podcast is where all things business and armed forces life combine to inspire you in your modern military life. Welcome to the InDependent Spouse Podcast. Susan Bonner, a naval veteran and former military spouse, is a successful business owner of the British Craft House. Susan shares her own journey of starting her business and emphasises the importance of community, empowerment, and networking for small business owners. She also highlights the value of free resources and social media platforms for visibility and advertising. The British Craft House is hugely successful. Last year, it celebrated the milestone of turning over £ 1 million in income for its users. She overcame public speaking fears, won awards, and met the Prime Minister while supporting small businesses and artisans through her platforms. It was such a fab interview, and thank you to Susan again for sharing her inspirational story. I took so much from it, and I know that you will, too. Don't forget to join us for MilspoMay, and of course, join the 2024 Milspo Small Business Bootcamp. It's going to be the most amazing week and it's really going to help you build an epic business or side hustle in the same way that Susan has done in the same way that we can all do.
It's not always easy or simple to build community and I know how it feels if it's been lonely and hard. But I have found my save-my-life girls by showing up again and again with the determined belief that my girls are out there. Let's talk about making friends in the military life. Sign up for Sarah's monthly letter! Find Sarah on Instagram Related Episodes: Episode 6: Pray Small
In this hard military life, the most important way I have found to make it through is by finding connection with others. But it's also so, so important to remain connected with your own self, stay in tune with your desires and purpose and passion in life and make sure you're playing the note you're supposed to play. I have also found this is the piece of milso life that is most easily lost as we move so much and keep the ship afloat on behalf of our family. What do we do with that? We explore all of it here. Find Sarah on Instagram! Related Episodes: Episode 94: Maybe This is Why You're Exhausted Episode 34: Rethink Your Vocation Episode 21: Remember Who You Are (and find her again if you've lost her)
I am Jess Sands, and this podcast is where all things business and armed forces life combine to inspire you in your modern military life. I'm a business owner, military wife, a new mum living in my Magnolia married quarter, running two successful businesses and creating the most impactful work of my life. But it wasn't always like this. When I first started my business, I was struggling to get started and wrestling with how to achieve my dream of becoming a successful entrepreneur. I was desperately seeking inspiration and a network of people who just understood how it really feels to be a military spouse in business. Fast forward today, I am not only growing my business year after year, but also teaching others how to do it too, all whilst being surrounded by inspirational mill space. I'm here to help business owning military spouses, partners, and other halves just like you go from overwhelmed, isolated, and uninspired dependence into confident focused entrepreneurs, ones who are building sustainable businesses that not only survive, but thrive in this modern military world. I'll help you build a sustainable business or side hustle that also creates an impact, changes your life, and gives you all of the freedom to become what you were born to be. Welcome to the Independent Spouse Podcast. Oh my goodness. Hello, it's me. I hope you're keeping well. It has been a long time since I did a podcast episode, but happily, the podcast series is coming back. It is heading your way soon, and I am looking for some new guests. So if you are a Milspo that's a military spouse, partner, or other half running your own business, creating an amazing project, doing something completely epic that you think others should hear of, then just get in touch. Email me at hello@milspo.co.uk and I'll get back to you. This next series is going to be brilliant. I've already got a few guests lined up. They are so inspirational and so creative and they really are showcasing how brilliant life can be as a military partner. We all know it's really tough. We probably all know that it's getting a little bit worse, and we know that the support's not out there where it should be. So that's why this podcast exists. It's to show that military life isn't always doom and gloom. There are positives. You just need to go out and find them. So if you think that's you, if you have an inspirational story or want to share something completely wonderful, please do think about it. Don't be frightened. You have a valid story that will make a difference in other people's lives. So come and share it. It's a great platform. It's had almost 20,000 downloads, so it's a brilliant and cost-effective way of sharing your wonderful news. Don't be worried about it. We would love to hear from you. In the meantime, I'll be over in the Milspo group that's on Facebook. It's our close group full of military spouses, partners, and other house running their own businesses. We get together to collaborate. We network. We just help each other build amazing businesses because that is what it's all about. It just means that we lift everybody up just to have something that's completely yours that you can take with you no matter where military life takes you. So come and join us. It'll really help you build your business or your side hustle, or your projects or whatever you're up to. We are a lovely, friendly bunch who can't wait to see you succeed and help you celebrate. So there it is. My little challenge to you. If you want to be on the podcast, get in touch with me now. Head over to the Milspo Facebook group and join us and generally just keep going. Military life is tough, but we can do it, especially with a little bit of help and support. I will see you next time for a new episode of The Independent Spouse Podcast.
I have something special to share with you! In this unique episode, I am unveiling a very exciting update. Your support is invaluable and I can't wait to hear your thoughts (and all the feelings that may come up for you!). For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/ Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Ever found yourself at odds with your spouse, unable to agree on something important? In this episode, we're exploring what to do WHEN disagreements arise. Disagreements are inevitable and can range from small to significant topics. Arming yourself with the knowledge of what to do when they happen, will prepare you for a strong and successful marriage. We're digging into: The often-overlooked factor when facing different perspectives Strategies for handling situations when you and your partner aren't on the same page How to get a deeper understanding of your spouse's wants and needs (and vice versa) Collaborating (and getting creative!) on finding a solution that accommodates both sets of needs - the key to preventing resentment later on! Recognizing the moments when it's beneficial to pause the conversation and focus on loving each other For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/ Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Struggling with feelings of being unloved and unsupported in your marriage? These emotions can be challenging to navigate, yet they're a common theme among many of my clients. In today's discussion, we dive into the unique challenges faced by military spouses and provide empowering insights to help you strengthen the supportive foundation of your marriage. In this episode, you'll discover: The secret element in your marriage you need to make EVERYTHING easier Actionable steps to ensure you feel the deep level of support you deserve from your spouse How to identify and communicate your needs effectively The significance of evaluating your thoughts about your spouse and their level of support Ways to prepare for and initiate a conversation with your spouse about the support you need For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/ Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Happy New Year! If you want your relationship to improve this year, run (don't walk!) straight to this episode. There's no denying it can be difficult to make changes, and that's why I'm sharing insights on how you and your partner can continue building a successful marriage and rediscover the “new relationship” energy you had when you first started dating. Learn how to implement changes you want to make in your marriage this year to spice things up and make your relationship better than ever. Remember, there's always room for improvement no matter where you are in your relationship currently. We're exploring: How to evaluate your successes and areas for improvement from the last year The exact questions my spouse and I ask each other for reflecting on the previous year, along with our candid answers My top advice on where to begin once you've identified areas for improvement in your marriage How to support each other effectively in making changes, even when it's difficult Methods to consistently maintain and check in on your relationship goals for year-round success For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/ Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
We've all heard about mindset work, right, but what does that REALLY mean? If you're wondering WHAT inner work you can be doing to make a difference in your marriage and life, let me break that down for you! Join me as I share what it means to do the work in your own military life and tangible tools you can use while answering some of the MOST popular questions I get on this topic. Learning this will help you if you want to feel more like a priority with your spouse, don't like your duty station, and so much more! Tune in as we explore: The reason why most people aren't doing their mindset work What exactly IS the mindset work that will make a difference in your life and marriage 4 BEST mindset tools you can start using today There's no one-size-fits-all to mindset work and how this can look different for everyone Why the HOW isn't important when it comes to your daily mindset routine For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/ Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
The new year is a great time to figure out what you want to change, but also what you want to stay the same. And if you feel like rigid resolutions don't work for you, don't worry! In this episode, I'm sharing 5 SIMPLE and EASY ways to set you (and your marriage) up for the MOST successful 2024—so you can have a fun and positive year regardless of what the military sends your way! Tune is as we explore: How to create simple and positive habits that will serve you all year long Why this ONE shift can be the most powerful thing you do for yourself this year What a little decluttering can do for your mental well-being (and your marriage, too!) Setting small goals that nurture you and your marriage Why you need to audit how you spend your time—and how to create boundaries when things aren't serving you My favorite SIMPLE ways to bring positivity to your year For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/ Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Want to have the best holiday ever - for yourself and your marriage? We're digging into the thoughts and actions crucial for the best experience during family gatherings, festive parties, and the busiest season of the year. Being prepared is key to ensuring a holiday season that aligns with both your and your spouse's desires. In this episode, we explore: How to reflect on our feelings and roles of past holidays, traditions, and expectations (and I unveil one unrealistic expectation that made me completely miserable!) Understanding the role of your close family unit and extended families during the holidays Discovering what to do if you're feeling overwhelmed or disappointed about the holidays this year Learning how to have each other's back this season (and ensure YOU are getting the support you need) Insights into what to prepare before planning your Christmas calendar, ensuring a stress-free and enjoyable holiday season. My favorite tool to use daily throughout the holidays For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/ Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
There's an unspoken expectation that you know what you signed up for as a military spouse. I call BS on that. Nothing prepares us for the challenges we face, such as managing our own career while constantly relocating, the familiar feeling of resentment, and the struggle to maintain a sense of self outside the military identity. In this episode, Jenna Griffith, International Best Selling Author and Coach, shares insights on overcoming these challenges and empowering other military and first responder spouses to find their purpose, embrace their individual skills, and thrive. The key takeaway: A happier you translates to a happier marriage! We're exploring: The biggest barriers that keep military spouses from executing their dreams One powerful tool you can use today to help uncover your purpose (without feeling overwhelmed!) What can get in the way internally of pursuing your dreams The (surprising) impact on marriages once you start uncovering your purpose and skills And so much more! Jenna's Service and Soul Book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1956837264?ref_=pe_3052080_397514860 Jenna's website: www.serviceandsoul.com For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/ Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
We all have preferences for how we give and receive love. Learning the love languages of both you and your spouse is a powerful tool to ensure that both of you feel deeply loved. But you may be surprised to know that it can create challenges for some couples. Tune into this episode as we explore: Overcoming challenging thoughts, such as “my marriage will never work” or “my spouse doesn't care about speaking my love language” How to use love languages in the right way (*an absolute game-changer in my own marriage*) What to do when you and your partner have different love languages (especially when it feels hard) The danger of putting too much pressure on speaking each other's love language Discerning whether love languages are effectively working in your marriage For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/ Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
I talk a lot about mindset (because it's just that important!). In this episode, I'm unpacking a simple mindset shift that can transform your military life and marriage. And it goes beyond just military life – it's a game-changer for every facet of your life. Discover how you can break free from the notion that happiness is conditional on specific circumstances. Instead, learn the art of finding joy in the present moment, even amidst challenges. Embracing the journey, with all its twists and turns, is not just a mindset shift but a pathway to getting positive results in your marriage. We're diving into: Navigating the dynamics of change, such as unlearning, breaking habits, and the amount of time it takes The toll of enduring prolonged periods of unhappiness and its impact on you and your marriage Real-life examples to anchor and reinforce this transformative mindset How to give yourself the option of being happy, even when it doesn't seem like a possibility Learning to love the journey to your end goal (and what to ask yourself to increase happiness at every opportunity) One empowering way to view your circumstance and how you'll get through it Practical strategies to start feeling the way you want to feel right now BLACK FRIDAY DEAL! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage Course: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/ Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Homecoming is often a magical moment, but the days and weeks leading up to it might bring feelings of fear, anxiety, and intense anticipation. This episode offers insights to help you prepare for your long-awaited reunion with your spouse by providing expectations and coping strategies for the most joyful experience possible! Bottom line: Only do what feels good and what you have the capacity for, and don't make yourself wrong for ANY of it! Here's what we cover: Exploring the common feelings of fear, anxiety, and pressure before homecoming The key to overcoming anxious thoughts and mental preparation for the big day Permission to prioritize self-care and manage overwhelming emotions during this phase Handling decision fatigue and readying yourself for unexpected changes Aligning expectations and desires with your spouse post-homecoming for a smoother transition For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/ Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Resentment can sneak into ANY marriage, and it often shows up in military relationships, sometimes even more frequently. In this episode, I dive into the core reasons behind resentment in military marriages and provide actionable solutions to dissolve it. However, it's important to recognize that feelings of resentment are quite common in many aspects of military life. What truly matters is knowing how to address it effectively, and more importantly, how to tackle it together as a team with your partner. Tune in as we explore: The dynamics of division in marriages, especially in military marriages The roles of “default” and non-default” in every relationship Hidden sacrifices made by military spouses The profound importance of creating a culture of appreciation Tips to have a productive conversation with your spouse about resentment Shifting your mindset to embrace love and care, especially in challenging times For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/ Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
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Want to know how feelings of isolation can become your source of connection and empowerment? Meet our inspiring guest, Sarah Curtis, who doesn't shy away from the challenging topics of military life. In this episode, we share aspects that are less commonly discussed within the military community, like the feelings of loneliness and the rollercoaster of emotions that can impact not only you but also your marriage. Why is this conversation so crucial? Because it reminds you that you are not alone in your experiences. It's a reminder that your feelings of isolation can be shared by others, and together we can find strength and connection. We're exploring: Maintaining a strong marriage whether your spouse is home or away Embracing and normalizing uncontrollable timelines How Sarah navigated the questions “who am I?” and “what impact do I want to have on the world?” The importance of choosing compassion over comparison Addressing feelings of loneliness and isolation The duality of military life Connect with Sarah: Website: https://amilitarywifeslife.com/ Book: Sitting in the Unknown: A Collection of Poems for Military Loved Ones For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/ Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Have you reached the point where you don't think you can continue in your marriage anymore? No shame or judgement here. Many of my clients experience these moments, filled with emptiness and exhaustion, where it seems like repetitive conversations yield no progress. Maybe you're in a similar position, where your spouse isn't able or willing to do what you need them to do to have a fulfilling relationship. Or maybe this military life feels like it's too much. Whatever situation you're in, feeling like you want to give up on your marriage can happen to ANY one of us. The last thing we need is to judge ourselves or others. Instead of judging, let's normalize these emotions. In this episode, I'm sharing five actionable steps to help rekindle your relationship before considering the option of giving up. We're exploring: Reasons you may be pulling back from your spouse (and what to do about it!) Your #1 responsibility before communicating with your spouse what you need How to have a more productive conversation (instead of having the same conversations over and over again without anything changing) What I mean by “spreading the love” instead of trying to get it all from your spouse Why talking to a professional is different than talking to a friend about the relationship with your spouse For more support during your current or next deployment, check out my course In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/ Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Let's face it, having kids can be so hard on your marriage. In this episode, I share what you can do to have a stronger marriage after having kids. And here's the twist - even if you don't have kids yet, let this episode give you a helpful preview of what's ahead. It's never too early (or late!) to improve your relationship with your spouse! We're exploring: How my own marriage was impacted after having children Surprising statistics about the “marriage crisis” after children The importance of confronting this reality, especially for military spouses Three pivotal factors to navigate any life storm What to do if you are unsatisfied in your marriage after kids (and how to prepare your marriage before having kids) What to do TODAY to improve your marriage For support in ALL the hardest parts of deployment, check out my course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/ Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
There are people like you all over the world who just “get it”. We can have completely different backgrounds and be in completely different locations, yet have very similar experiences in military life. Friends and family can do their best to support you, but the truth is sometimes you need another military spouse who truly understands the hardships and loneliness of deployment, the struggles of keeping everything together when their spouse is gone, and the uncertainty of not knowing where you'll live in the next few years. You're never alone in this journey and we're here to support you, no matter what your address is. In this episode, I introduce you to Suzie (my amazing Virtual Assistant that keeps Married to Military running so smoothly!), who shares her personal experience as an international military spouse. We explore: How Suzie's career was derailed due to being a military spouse The key distinctions between US and UK military spouse life Suzie's perspective on the different phases of deployment Insights into her virtual work and the flexibility it offers Valuable advice for all spouses when it comes to asking for support How military life can enrich your life Join us for an engaging discussion on the challenges and opportunities faced by military spouses worldwide. Connect with Suzie: suziestanier.co.uk instagram.com/suziestanier/ Bring more ease into your current or next deployment! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/ Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
The reality is we will always encounter triggers, even when we put in the work to eliminate them. That's why this conversation is so important because we discuss how to manage triggers without negatively affecting our marriages. In this episode, we will discover how you can use triggers to strengthen your bond with your spouse and navigate them more effectively. Tune in as we explore: How the military (and our spouses) can trigger us What it means to be triggered (and recognize our emotional and physical responses) Examples of negative reactions to triggers and the brain's role in justifying behavior When to engage in a productive conversation with your spouse and prevent further damage from triggered responses Three actionable steps to take when you encounter triggers, starting today Check out my course to support you and your marriage during your next deployment! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/ Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Having a healthy marriage requires an investment from both you and your spouse. There's no denying that putting in time and energy every day maintains a strong bond. But we aren't exactly taught how to have a good relationship or what we need to do (and not do) to maintain that connection. I want you to have the best marriage possible, regardless of the time and money you currently have. So, tune into this episode because it might just shift the way you think about investing in your marriage. We're exploring: The stigma of receiving support and why investing in your marriage is the best-kept secret Hidden costs and consequences of not investing time, effort and money into your relationship Why a thriving marriage enhances your health and overall well-being compared to the negative emotional and financial impacts linked to divorce Three fresh viewpoints on why investing in your marriage will change everything for you and your spouse For support during your current or next deployment, check out In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/ Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Resentment – we've all felt it at some point, but what exactly is it? In this eye-opening episode, we dive into all things resentment, how it can creep into your life, wreak havoc on your marriage, and, most importantly, what you can do to overcome it. Resentment tends to be a catalyst for a slew of other negative emotions and thoughts about your spouse, military life, and more. It can stem from various situations like jealousy, betrayal, shame, or feeling like your needs aren't being met. In this final episode of the deployment 2.0 series, we're breaking down: The common triggers of resentment in military spouses How the feeling of unmet needs can lead to resentment Recognizing the signs of resentment Effective strategies for working through and managing resentment A powerful tool that can be applied in any situation to improve your marriage The importance of open communication with your spouse, choosing the right time for these discussions, and focusing on solutions For more support during deployment, check out In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/ Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Let's peel back the curtain on a topic that often remains hidden in the shadows. It's something we seldom discuss openly, yet many of us face often. The challenges we experience in our marriages during deployments are more common and normal than we think. The problem lies in our reluctance to talk about it openly with others. While working with my clients, I've listened to them express emotions of shame, resentment, and frustration, often believing that their unique problems have no viable solutions. You're not alone feeling like this. It's time to shed light on what leads to the most unhappiness during deployments. We're exploring: How we unintentionally inflict hurt and pain on ourselves, making marriage and deployment way more challenging than necessary Research findings on the tendency to internalize problems and negative experiences What pulls couples apart, particularly during deployment (and the destructive nature of this pattern) The ripple effect of staying in “defense mechanism mode” Our brain's role and the misinformation it can feed us What to focus on when you're struggling in your relationship that will change everything The perfect resource to thrive during your next deployment, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/ Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Communication during deployment is always so challenging. Despite having access to phone calls, texts, and video chats, it still doesn't get easier. Having worked with countless military spouses over my 15 years as a marriage therapist, I know firsthand that the desire for deeper connection always remains. In this episode, we're on a mission to transform communication from not just bearable but enjoyable during deployment. Are you ready to thrive in this aspect of military life? Here's how you can make it happen: Step one: Tune into this episode. Step two: Prioritize communication that enhances your connection and allows you to discover new aspects about each other. In doing so, you'll not only improve your communication during deployment but also experience a deeper bond with your spouse. We're also diving into: Different types of communication (and why the best marriages include a balance of all of them) Setting a primary goal before engaging in conversations with your deployed spouse My number one piece of advice (a true game-changer) to elevate your communication during deployment Thought-provoking questions that reveal how well you really know your spouse Tips to maximize communication so you have fun, feel more connected, and learn more about each another For more support during deployment, check out my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/ Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Whether this is your first deployment or tenth, I want you to be as supported as possible and ready to face anything that comes your way. This episode breaks down what you can expect during each stage of deployment, and provides practical tips to manage and prepare for them so it's easier and more enjoyable for you. We're exploring: How to thrive during deployment The BEST questions to ask yourself to figure out your REAL expectations The five stages of deployment and how to prepare for each Common challenges that may come up and how to navigate them Ways to keep yourself busy but NOT burnt out while your spouse is away Reintegrating once they are back home and the top challenges you can prepare for For more support during deployment, check out my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/ Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Feeling overwhelmed, defeated, and hopeless while your spouse is deployed? You're not alone. Too often I hear from struggling spouses that they can't take one more day of deployment. It's just. too. much. They feel helpless because getting through another day seems impossible, and they just don't know what their next step should be to make it better. Feeling this way about deployment while your spouse is gone AND having difficulties in your marriage is HARD. You may feel unsupported, underappreciated, and not valued by your spouse. This makes all the sacrificing and everything you're responsible for back at home very challenging. In this episode, we're breaking down what you can do when you're at the end of your rope with deployment (or your marriage). We're exploring: How to make the biggest difference in your life and marriage The one simple thing that will literally change EVERYTHING for your marriage (and the science to back it up) How our thoughts and expectations can impact our relationships during deployment The slippery slope of deciding you can't do this anymore The “right” support you need throughout deployment that is crucial for spouses For more support during deployment, check out my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/ Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Sure, deployments create physical distance from your spouse, but that doesn't mean you have to be emotionally detached as well. In this episode, we uncover the hacks to maintaining an unbreakable connection with your spouse throughout deployment. This is your guide to intentionally nurture your relationship during this challenging period. Let this empower you with actionable strategies to strengthen your relationship, making deployment a time to maintain connection in new and unexpected ways! We're exploring: How feeling disconnected from your partner impacts your mental and emotional well-being Why prioritizing intentional connection during deployment is a game-changer and how to make it a reality Strategies to break free from negative thought spirals that sabotage your connection What I classify as “deployment mode” (and knowing what you need and how to modify it for connection during this time) A simple way to measure the strength of your connection and decide if any adjustments are needed For more support during deployment, check out my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/ Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Do you know why I typically sign off with “I hope you are taking care of yourself” at the end of each episode? Well, it's not just a well-meaning gesture, but a powerful not-so-secret secret that holds the key for all military spouses - especially during those challenging times of separation. Taking care of yourself is hard to do in the best of times, and deployment makes it that much more difficult because you're juggling not only your own responsibilities but also those of your spouse. But here's the truth: Neglecting self care can have serious repercussions on both your health and your marriage. In this episode, we uncover what it really means to take care of yourself, even when it feels like you have zero time or energy left in your day. But if you truly want to increase your happiness, strengthen your relationship with your spouse, and improve deployments, THIS is the way. Tune in to this powerful episode as we explore: Five signs that you are on your way to burnout (and how burnout can impact your health and marriage) The pivotal role of self care in fueling your ability to manage your daily demands and responsibilities Discovering what self care is (and how to incorporate it even with limited time and capacity) Why relying on your spouse for the same support during deployments may lead to disappointment and arguments How taking charge of your own happiness can lead to a stronger, happier you and a healthier, more resilient marriage For more support during deployment, check out In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/ Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
In this episode, we're diving deep into the often-overlooked phase known as the fourth trimester - the postpartum period. In this eye-opening conversation, Dr. Kristal Lau, a physician, postpartum wellness consultant, and author of Postpartum 30, shares personal stories from her own postpartum, sheds light on why this time can be uniquely challenging for military families, and educates us on the unmatched expectations couples often have when entering this significant phase. Tune in to discover how the postpartum period impacts mothers and their marriages, whether you have children, are planning to have them, or simply wish to better support and understand mothers during this transformative time. We're exploring: What you need to know about the postpartum period (and what “normal” and “abnormal” things to expect) Real talk on postpartum depression The fascinating changes that occur in a mother's brain during this phase One powerful way to decrease resentment in your marriage after having kids What most people don't talk about when it comes to the postpartum period Preparing and planning for your postpartum period More resources for the postpartum period: 3 Essential Postpartum Changes That No One Really Talks About And What To Do About Them: www.mamaswingwoman.com/pplist1 Dad University: https://www.daduniversity.com/ Military Birth Resource Network & Postpartum Coalition: https://www.militarybirthresourcenetwork.org/ Postpartum Wellness Consultant and Owner of Mama's Wing Woman Author of Postpartum 30 Host of 'The Postpartum Wellness Show' on YouTube and Podcasts For more support during deployment, check out my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/ Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Good news! You can raise incredible kids AND nurture a strong marriage within this extraordinary world of military life. However, let's be real - challenges are part of the package, too. But fear not, because this episode will empower you with strategies and insights to conquer those challenges and create a fulfilling military marriage as parents. Discover how the joys and demands of parenting impact your relationship, uncover effective strategies for navigating deployments with children, and dive into a conversation on managing different parenting styles. We are also exploring: The impact of having children on your marriage and the challenges it presents Essential daily actions and tools to enhance your role as a spouse and parent Maintaining effective relationships without spending excessive time Nurturing your connection with your spouse amidst the demands of parenthood Prioritizing your marriage and finding time for each other, even when your schedule is packed In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage course: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/ Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Marriage is hard. Add in military life and children, and we get an “extra, extra” marriage. Join Elizabeth Newcamp and me as we dive into the complexities of military marriage, parenting challenges, and the unique hardships that arise in military life. Elizabeth shares invaluable insights on navigating disagreements, deployments, and difficult situations as a military spouse, offering practical ideas to foster a stronger marriage and family. We're exploring: Managing different parenting styles in a military family A solid framework for resolving disagreements in marriage Establishing guidelines for emotionally charged situations The transition period when your military spouse returns home One surprising way to help strengthen your military marriage How to have a successful marriage despite differences Connect with Elizabeth: Mom and Dad are Fighting podcast: https://slate.com/podcasts/mom-and-dad-are-fighting Dutch Dutch Goose family travel blog: https://www.dutchdutchgoose.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ejdn/ For more support during deployment, check out In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/ Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Finding friends can be one of the most challenging aspects of military life. And yet it's also the key to unlock more happiness, especially when your spouse is away. It's no secret that friendships are important. They make our lives more enjoyable and also help carry us through difficult times. So when you experience friendship drama, backstabbing, or anything that just doesn't feel good, you may find it extremely hard to build new friendships and avoid letting people get to know you. In this episode, we're exploring: Why it's vital to have friendships, especially with other military spouses What you can do to feel empowered instead of anxious in difficult friendships How to manage your own emotions and mood in toxic situations The #1 way to navigate all spouse drama Tips to deal with cliques (and who to seek out to build new friendships) FREE CHALLENGE! How to get through deployment without dread, resentment or fights: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/july-2023-challenge Check out my course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/ Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Not to get too therapist-y on you here, BUT your past can have a significant impact on your marriage (and your self). The unique moments and roles you experienced in your childhood are still influencing your marriage today. However, you're not stuck playing the same roles forever. You get to decide if the roles are still serving you and if you want to continue them or not. Let's dive into the nitty-gritty of how exploring your past can shed light on your current relationship dynamics and help you understand your partner on a whole new level. In this episode, get ready for: Unveiling how your past influences your current relationship patterns and triggers Empowering yourself to shift (or embrace!) the role you play in your marriage Juicy real-life examples and stories from my clients and my own marriage The #1 golden nugget to remember when digging into your past One key question that can help improve your relationship with your spouse Plus, a little secret sauce to strengthen your marriage as you explore your past More resources to strengthen your marriage: In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/ Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Are you craving better communication during your spouse's deployment or TDY? I'm breaking down the biggest mistakes people make when it comes to deployment communication, and providing actionable tips to improve communication that allow you to connect deeper with your spouse, even across different time zones and limited availability. Deployments and TDYs bring unique communication challenges, but with the right mindset and strategies, you can maintain a healthy and meaningful connection with your partner. So don't just accept that deployment communication will not be great while they're away. Join me in this episode as we explore: Four practical ways to improve communication during deployment How you can get what you need most when your spouse is away Ways to approach the conversation when there is something pressing you need answered or you have something bothering you An effective tool you can use anytime to improve communication How your mindset plays a crucial role in all of this FREE CHALLENGE! How to get through deployment without dread, resentment or fights: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/july-2023-challenge Check out my course for more support during deployment! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/ Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Ever have that sinking feeling when your spouse's promises start fizzling out? We've all been there, wondering why they aren't following through after promising they'll communicate at set times during deployment, or even pick up something they promised after work. But here's the kicker: solving this problem doesn't have to lead to a fight! Join me as we dive into real-life scenarios, uncover the hidden negativity, and discover the secrets to rebuilding trust without causing a major meltdown in your relationship. We're exploring: Scenarios from my own marriage and my clients' relationships (and how you can overcome and even grow stronger in the process) Why we try to make lack of follow-throughs mean something more than they really are How small things can chip away at the trust you have for your spouse and what you need to pay attention to for rebuilding that trust The best thing you can do to remain a solid team Five steps to successfully repair trust based on psychological research Why it's so difficult for our spouses to make a repair (and two ways we can make it easier for them to communicate about it) Check out my course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/ Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Do you ever find yourself longing to rediscover the person you are beyond the role of a military spouse? Our identities, goals, and dreams outside of being a military spouse are essential to our well-being, yet they can feel so challenging and even beyond reach at times. However, not pursuing our desires can negatively impact our marriage, and lead to resentment and conflict. Molly Rose has found a way to help us as military spouses have everything we want AND stay married. This is something that will allow us to show up more for ourselves, our marriages, and our families. Her mission is to support military spouses by creating remote work and rewarding careers. She is the creator of Virtual Assistant Academy, which provides trusted virtual assistance solutions and flawless tech execution services for busy entrepreneurs and business owners. If you find yourself thinking, “I just need something for me”, you want to step into an exciting role outside of being a military spouse, or you desire to add extra income each month that allows you to get support however you need it most, then this episode is for you. We're exploring: Molly's transition from climbing the corporate ladder to training others how to become Virtual Assistants What a Virtual Assistant is (and the various aspects of working from home) The benefits of being a Virtual Assistant (especially as a military spouse) How having a flexible job impacts our marriages The skills you have as a military spouse that you can get paid for RIGHT NOW Learn more about Molly Rose at virtualassistantacademy.com Connect on Instagram: @mollyrosespeed Get the needed support during your next deployment: In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/ Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Maybe you have thought or even said out loud, “I can't do this anymore”. We all know how challenging marriage can be, and trust me when I say I completely get it. Today I am sharing one of THE hardest moments in my marriage. The moment I felt the most uncertain. The moment I didn't know if we were going to make it through. In an effort to be more open and normalize the difficulties in marriage (yes - even as a marriage psychologist I still have difficulties in my marriage!), I am sharing my struggle that I've safely kept behind closed doors, until today. I will take you on my personal journey of how we overcame the “this isn't working anymore” moment in our marriage. We're exploring: A vulnerable story of when I wanted out of our marriage Four steps we used (and still use today in difficult times!) to overcome the biggest challenge in our marriage we've ever had What you can do to make your spouse feel confident in how they are supporting you How to turn TO each other and work as a team when you'd rather figure things out on your own What you can say and do for each other so you both feel better, faster Looking for support during deployment? Look no further! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/ Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Krista got the call. The one every single one of us dreads, the absolute worst-case scenario. Join us inside this courageous conversation where she shares her unimaginable tragedy and how she created something so beautiful from it. Together, we discuss the resources available to you in these situations, how to normalize moving through feelings of healing while reminding you to have the difficult planning conversations now so you can both be prepared for anything. We're exploring: How to give yourself grace when you feel the need to be strong all the time The ways the military community kept showing up for Krista when her direct connection to the military was gone Foundations and organizations every military spouse should be aware of for support on this journey Top questions to ask your spouse, so you both can have an extreme understanding should something happen to either one of you Resources to reach out to if you're experiencing financial hardship How to thrive in our role as a military spouse for ultimate preparation And so much more! The Military Life Binder : https://www.listandfile.com/ Keeper Security password manager: https://www.keepersecurity.com/ The Unquiet Professional, making noise for those who serve: https://www.theunquietprofessional.org/ Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call Available now! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/ Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/44943126970086
What do you do when you want out of the military, your marriage… or both? Reaching this breaking point is all too common in military spouse life. You feel broken down, it seems impossible you'll ever get out, and you have no energy or emotion left to give. Take heart, you're not alone. When you find yourself at your breaking point (or to prepare for next time you want out), this episode walks you through how to get in the best possible place yourself in order to make these hard decisions. We're exploring: The first thing you can do when you are at your breaking point One difference-maker that will help you feel better and have more confidence you are making the best decision What you should NEVER do when you are in a dark emotional space When to have conversations with your spouse about wanting out (and how to prepare for it) How to keep yourself from saying or doing something you'll regret (and also how to better understand and support each other) One tool anyone can use to help you gain clarity on the best decision for you Come along with me while my spouse is deployed and we can support each other! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/ Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
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