Podcasts about anxious avoidant

It seems like the “I need more space” and “I need to talk this out now” partners always find each other! This is the basis of the Pursuer/Withdrawer as well as the Anxious/Avoidant partner dynamics in marriage. When this dynamic happens, it always causes more tension, defensiveness, anxiety, and distance than the initial topic of conversation. If this sounds at all like dynamics you and your partner get into, you certainly are not alone!  In today's episode you will hear more detail about what's really happening for each partner, whether it is the need for space or resolution. There are many factors that contribute to this, like personality type and emotional processing capacity. But tune in to hear about details you would have never thought of, hear more about how this dynamic has played out in our own marriage over the years, and then specific steps you can take to keep this dynamic from escalating simple conversations. This will make you both feel even more secure, understood, and loved in your relationship.

JESSICA BAUM is a licensed psychotherapist whose journey began with a lifelong curiosity about the “Whys” of life why we feel, connect, and experience the world the way we do. This passion led her to specialize in trauma, attachment theory, and interpersonal neurobiology. Jessica believes that connection to ourselves and others is at the heart of healing, and she uses a range of modalities to help individuals and couples return to wholeness. She is the founder of the Relationship Institute of Palm Beach, a private group practice, and she leads the Conscious Relationship Group, a global coaching company offering support to clients worldwide. Jessica is a certified addiction specialist and Imago couples therapist with advanced training in EMDR, experiential therapy, CBT, and DBT. Her bestselling book, Anxiously Attached: Becoming More Secure in Life and Love, established her as a trusted authority on healing attachment wounds and building secure, fulfilling relationships.Grab Jessica's freebie: https://jessicabaumlmhc.com/interview.Ashlynn Mitchell is the voice behind This Is Ashlynn, a show redefining what it means to thrive in midlife. She is also the former cohost of the top 10 podcast The Betrayed, The Addicted & The Expert. After a public divorce that ended a 21-year marriage, she turned pain into purpose. For over 10 years, she has coached women through the messy, magical process of healing and reinvention after betrayal, divorce, or years of self-abandonment.With two teenage daughters and a life rebuilt from the ground up, Ashlynn leads with lived experience. Through coaching and soulful retreats, she helps women trust themselves again, reclaim joy, and stop playing small, with or without a shared experience of betrayal or divorce. Her work is for women ready to own their story, their pleasure, their peace, and their power. When she's not coaching, you'll find her hiking, roller skating, or dancing like no one's watching.Find her at www.thisisashlynn.com and on Instagram @this.isAshlynn

In this episode of Unf*ck Your Relationship, I dive into one of the most common yet challenging dynamics I see: the anxious–avoidant relationship. Instead of just giving surface-level advice like “communicate better” or “give each other more space,” I explore how shadow work is the real key to creating lasting change. I share some of my own experiences with anxiety, avoidance, and love and why I realised that traditional approaches often just reinforce the old wounds. For me, shadow work has been the tool that allowed me to see the parts of myself I had disowned and projected onto partners, which kept me locked in unhealthy cycles. Here's what I cover: Why anxious and avoidant partners are so magnetised to each other. How your partner often mirrors the parts of yourself you've hidden or rejected. Why symptom management (like “better communication”) doesn't actually heal the root cause. The difference between chemistry and true compatibility. How I personally decide when a relationship is worth working on vs. when it's time to leave. The questions I ask myself when I feel stuck in old patterns. This work has taught me that true growth in relationships comes from embodiment, not just intellectual understanding. That's exactly why I created The Connected Woman to help women integrate shadow work with practices that shift attachment patterns, so we can all show up more secure, more authentic, and more fully ourselves in love.   WORK WITH MICHELLE: Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a course for the woman who wants to go from anxious & self-abandoning in relationships to secure, confident and unf*ckwithable: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experience Sign up for THE AWAKENING RETREATS now before they sell out. These aren't just retreats. These are where we turn your inner chaos into GOLD: https://michellepanning.com/awakening CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Dr. Rick and Forrest open up the mailbag to answer questions about complex situations where good process really matters. They discuss whether to get back with an ex who has seemingly changed, relationships with someone with addictive tendencies, the difference between Narcissistic Personality Disorder and narcissistic tendencies, and why genuine change requires more than insight alone. Other topics include how much to tell your therapist, fears of being misunderstood, and how to approach meditation if you have an underlying vulnerability. Key Topics: 0:00: Introduction  2:00: Should I get back with my ex? 13:40: Dating someone with long-term substance use 19:30: Narcissistic traits vs. narcissistic personality disorder 32:40: How much research to bring into therapy 39:50: Fear of being misunderstood and hyper-rationality 47:40: Safe meditation practices for people at risk of depersonalization 55:50: Recap Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Level up your bedding with Quince. Go to Quince.com/BEINGWELL for free shipping on your order and three hundred and sixty-five -day returns. Join hundreds of thousands of people who are taking charge of their health. Learn more and join Function at functionhealth.com/BEINGWELL. Listen now to the Life Kit podcast from NPR. Go to Zocdoc.com/BEING to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/beingwell. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Coming up on this episode of Flirations, we're joined by Carly Ann, a therapist and attachment expert, here to have a conversation with us about the anxious/avoidant dynamic in dating! We'll talk about why this duo happens so often in dating, how to spot the difference between lovebombing and genuine interest, are they avoidant or not interested, and how anxiety shows up in the dating process. We'll get into what to do when insecurities, self doubt, or attachment wounds try to pull us off track and how your attachment style and nervous system are connected. We'll explore the origins of our attachment styles, why it's not only about your childhood and family dynamics, and even how our attachment styles are fluid, not fixed. Finally, how to tell the difference between chemistry and compatibility, ways to build secure attachments with others and within ourselves, and some communication strategies for early dating. So, whether you feel like you've experienced the anxious/avoidant dynamic before, are curious to learn more, or just need something to listen (hello!), this episode is for you. Let's do this, Flirties, and meet Carly Ann! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! Work with me! Take the FREE Flirt Styles Quiz Get INSTANT ACCESS to my anti-anxiety flirting and dating guide Download my FLIRTING AND TEXTING CONVERSATION GUIDE Grab my FREE Dating App Survival handbook Book your 1:1 Flirting Audit Ask the Flirt Coach About our guest:  Carly Ann is an integrative therapist who helps people who worry, overthink, and find themselves stuck in unhealthy relationship patterns. She supports those who feel anxious, fear abandonment, or find themselves overreacting, especially when it feels like they have already tried everything. Carly Ann's mission is to show people that they are not alone and they are not stuck. Through her work, she helps individuals stop feeling “crazy” and reconnect with the version of themselves they were always meant to be: content, secure, and confident, before life, criticism, or loneliness made them doubt who they are. Work with Carly Ann:  21 Day Anxious to Secure Course, grab the Anxious Attachment Bundle, follow on Instagram, and Subscribe on YouTube. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.  

Send us a textIn this episode, Kiley sits down with Jack Bohannan from Polarity Unscripted to explore one of the most talked-about — and often misunderstood — relationship dynamics: the anxious–avoidant attachment pairing.Drawing from her own past relationship (where the answer to “can it work?” felt like a definite no), Kiley brings a candid, real-world perspective to the conversation, while Jack offers his deep expertise on polarity, emotional intimacy, and secure relating.Together, we break down:Why anxious and avoidant partners are so often drawn to each otherThe core fears each style brings into the relationshipWhat it actually takes to make this pairing work (and when to walk away)How to shift from triggering each other to co-regulating each otherPractical tools for healing your attachment style — whether you're dating, nesting, or exploring non-monogamyThis episode blends attachment theory, , and Jack's signature polarity framework to give you actionable steps you can use in your own relationships — no matter your style.

YOUTUBE | APPLE | SPOTIFY Episode Overview: In this episode, Jen addresses a listener's question about the anxious-avoidant dynamic in relationships, specifically regarding how disagreements tend to escalate quickly between them and their partner. Jen explores the underlying attachment styles at play, offering practical advice on how couples can break free from this exhausting cycle and communicate more effectively despite their nervous system reactions. Key Takeaways: The anxious-avoidant dynamic is a common issue in relationships and can be understood through attachment theory. One partner may feel a need to get closer during conflict (anxious), while the other shuts down to cope (avoidant). Understanding this dynamic is the first step towards healing. Creating pauses and giving each other space to regulate your nervous system can help break the cycle. Jen outlines a few strategies to manage your nervous system in the heat of the moment, including grounding techniques and gentle movements to interrupt the freeze state. Reframing the conflict by naming the cycle and seeing it as a shared experience can lead to more compassion and connection. Jen's Response: Jen dives into the listener's experience, explaining how both anxious and avoidant attachment behaviors stem from a deep desire for safety and connection, albeit in different ways. She encourages listeners to pause in the middle of conflict, use a “safe word” to de-escalate, and regulate their nervous systems before continuing the conversation. She also suggests reflecting on the cycle together outside of the argument, creating space for both partners to recognize their emotional triggers and meet each other with understanding. Actionable Steps for Breaking the Cycle: Create Pauses During Conflict: Use a pre-agreed "safe word" (like "Abacus") to signal when a break is needed. Care for Your Nervous System: Practice grounding exercises such as feeling your feet on the floor, using calming scents, or small intentional movements. Reframe the Cycle: Discuss your patterns when you're calm, acknowledging both partners' triggers and reactions. Communicate from a Place of Safety: Share needs like reassurance or time to reflect on the argument in a compassionate way. Resources Mentioned: Free Relationship Cycle Worksheet: Track Negative Cycles Workbook – A downloadable resource to help couples map their communication patterns and break the cycle. Jen's Weekly Class: Weekly Masterclass on love, attachment, and trauma healing – Join Jen live every Monday at 7:30 AM (Australia) or Sunday at 5:30 PM (Eastern Time, US) for in-depth discussions on healing attachment patterns. Work With Jennifer: Jennifer Nurick works with couples using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Internal Family Systems (IFS) to foster secure attachment and healthier relationships. Sessions are available during Australian daytime hours, suitable for evening sessions in the U.S. Book your session: psychotherapycentral.health Connect With Psychotherapy Central: Email: Join the Mailing List Website: psychotherapycentral.health Instagram: @psychotherapy.central Facebook: Psychotherapy Central YouTube: Psychotherapy Central

In this vulnerable session, Christine coaches Chloe, who finds herself caught in a painful loop of anxious and avoidant attachment patterns within her marriage. Chloe's husband is navigating a midlife crisis and exploring his own healing journey, leaving Chloe feeling uncertain, hyper-vigilant, and emotionally stuck. As they unpack Chloe's longing for clarity and security, Christine gently guides her to examine the deeper soul lesson at play: reclaiming her own truth, needs, and emotional expression without waiting for external validation. If you've ever dimmed your emotions to “keep the peace,” or found yourself anxiously waiting for someone else to decide your future, this episode will speak directly to your heart. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you find yourself waiting for someone else to give you clarity or permission? Are you stuck in a cycle of people-pleasing, withholding, or over-functioning? Do you often feel anxious in your romantic relationships—even if nothing is “wrong”? Are you afraid to fully express your emotions for fear of rocking the boat? Key Insights and A-HAs: Anxious and avoidant attachment styles are two sides of the same insecure coin. Waiting for someone else's clarity can disempower your nervous system and inner child. Love without truth is not real intimacy—truth and love must go hand in hand. Emotional safety starts with allowing yourself to feel, express, and be seen—fully. We often attract partners who mirror the healing we still need to do within ourselves. How to Deepen the Work: Pay attention to the moments you “pretend” everything is fine. Start telling the truth—gently but consistently. Stop waiting for clarity. Ask yourself: Is this relationship, as it is now, enough for me? Use the phrase: “What I'm making that mean is…” to clarify miscommunications in real time. Reconnect with your inner child and notice where she still believes love must be earned or tiptoed around. Set an anchor point in your calendar (like a retreat or personal milestone) to reassess from a place of greater embodiment and clarity.   Upcoming Retreat: October 17–19, 2025 Christine's next live retreat for women is happening this October, and applications are now open. This is a curated, transformational space designed to help you release old patterns, reconnect with your inner wisdom, and receive the love and clarity you truly desire. This retreat isn't about pushing, fixing, or performing—it's about truth, embodiment, and healing in a sacred space. Dates: October 17–19, 2025 Apply Now: christinehassler.com/retreat Social Media + Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

In this raw and revealing episode of You're Probably Right with MCM, we go way beyond the usual therapy talk and take you deep into the real-life experience of living with anxious attachment—and navigating relationships with avoidant or dismissive partners. If you've ever felt like you're holding the relationship together on your own, overthinking every message, or chasing someone who keeps pulling away... this episode is for you.MCM doesn't just repeat the textbook definitions. He answers the real questions no one else is asking, drawn from personal highs, lows, patterns, and breakthroughs. This isn't recycled psychology—this is firsthand experience, served straight. Perfect for anyone aged 14 to 60 who's recovering from toxic cycles, building new self-awareness, or just trying to love without losing themselves.Topics covered include:Anxious vs Avoidant Attachment (Real Talk)Why Some Partners Ghost, Pull Back, or Shut DownRelationship Anxiety & Over-ExplainingMisreading Signals, Needing ReassuranceEmotional Triggers, Sex, Silence & Power StrugglesHealing, Recovery, and Redefining Your WorthWhether you're dating, healing, or just waking up to your patterns—this episode might say everything you've never heard out loud.#YoureProbablyRight #MCMpodcast #AnxiousAttachment #AvoidantPartner #AttachmentStyles #RelationshipAdvice #BreakupRecovery #DatingAnxiety #EmotionalHealth #SelfWorth #RealTalkPodcast #PsychologyTikTok #TikTokTherapy #InstagramTherapy #AttachmentTheory #MentalHealthMatters #PodcastForGrowth #LoveWithoutLosingYourself #SelfAwarenessJourney

In this raw and revealing episode of You're Probably Right with MCM, we go way beyond the usual therapy talk and take you deep into the real-life experience of living with anxious attachment—and navigating relationships with avoidant or dismissive partners. If you've ever felt like you're holding the relationship together on your own, overthinking every message, or chasing someone who keeps pulling away... this episode is for you.MCM doesn't just repeat the textbook definitions. He answers the real questions no one else is asking, drawn from personal highs, lows, patterns, and breakthroughs. This isn't recycled psychology—this is firsthand experience, served straight. Perfect for anyone aged 14 to 60 who's recovering from toxic cycles, building new self-awareness, or just trying to love without losing themselves.Topics covered include:Anxious vs Avoidant Attachment (Real Talk)Why Some Partners Ghost, Pull Back, or Shut DownRelationship Anxiety & Over-ExplainingMisreading Signals, Needing ReassuranceEmotional Triggers, Sex, Silence & Power StrugglesHealing, Recovery, and Redefining Your WorthWhether you're dating, healing, or just waking up to your patterns—this episode might say everything you've never heard out loud.#YoureProbablyRight #MCMpodcast #AnxiousAttachment #AvoidantPartner #AttachmentStyles #RelationshipAdvice #BreakupRecovery #DatingAnxiety #EmotionalHealth #SelfWorth #RealTalkPodcast #PsychologyTikTok #TikTokTherapy #InstagramTherapy #AttachmentTheory #MentalHealthMatters #PodcastForGrowth #LoveWithoutLosingYourself #SelfAwarenessJourney

In this raw and revealing episode of You're Probably Right with MCM, we go way beyond the usual therapy talk and take you deep into the real-life experience of living with anxious attachment—and navigating relationships with avoidant or dismissive partners. If you've ever felt like you're holding the relationship together on your own, overthinking every message, or chasing someone who keeps pulling away... this episode is for you.MCM doesn't just repeat the textbook definitions. He answers the real questions no one else is asking, drawn from personal highs, lows, patterns, and breakthroughs. This isn't recycled psychology—this is firsthand experience, served straight. Perfect for anyone aged 14 to 60 who's recovering from toxic cycles, building new self-awareness, or just trying to love without losing themselves.Topics covered include:Anxious vs Avoidant Attachment (Real Talk)Why Some Partners Ghost, Pull Back, or Shut DownRelationship Anxiety & Over-ExplainingMisreading Signals, Needing ReassuranceEmotional Triggers, Sex, Silence & Power StrugglesHealing, Recovery, and Redefining Your WorthWhether you're dating, healing, or just waking up to your patterns—this episode might say everything you've never heard out loud.#YoureProbablyRight #MCMpodcast #AnxiousAttachment #AvoidantPartner #AttachmentStyles #RelationshipAdvice #BreakupRecovery #DatingAnxiety #EmotionalHealth #SelfWorth #RealTalkPodcast #PsychologyTikTok #TikTokTherapy #InstagramTherapy #AttachmentTheory #MentalHealthMatters #PodcastForGrowth #LoveWithoutLosingYourself #SelfAwarenessJourney

In episode 216 of 'You're Probably Right,' dive deep into the Anxious–Avoidant relationship pattern. This practical and emotionally intelligent guide provides clear steps for both anxious and avoidant individuals to recognize, navigate, and ultimately break free from toxic relational loops. Learn how to detach gracefully without bitterness or desperation, set healthy boundaries, and regain your emotional balance. Plus, discover insightful ways to redirect attachment energy into fulfilling areas of your life.Avoidant behaviour often shows up as pulling away when things feel too close, emotionally distancing, or avoiding vulnerability out of fear of being overwhelmed. Anxious behaviour looks like over-texting, chasing connection, over-explaining, and panicking when a partner pulls away. If these sound familiar, this episode is for you.Whether you're anxiously attached or emotionally avoidant, it's time to stop the emotional tug-of-war and find genuine peace and connection.SEO-Rich Description:Are you trapped in an anxious-avoidant relationship cycle? Episode 216 of the 'You're Probably Right' podcast is your definitive guide to breaking free from toxic attachment loops. This episode clearly outlines practical steps on emotional detachment, boundary setting, and relationship healing. Topics covered include anxious attachment style, avoidant attachment style, emotional detachment strategies, healthy boundary setting, and how to stop chasing emotionally unavailable partners. Perfect for those experiencing relationship anxiety, seeking to understand attachment theory, or looking to improve emotional intelligence. Listen now and transform your approach to love, intimacy, and personal growth!

In this episode, we're unpacking exactly what happens when the anxious partner brings up an issue…and the avoidant partner immediately feels overwhelmed, blamed, or like they're walking into another argument they didn't ask for.You'll learn:What each partner is really thinking underneath the surfaceWhy emotional safety is the missing ingredient that keeps you both stuck in this cycleAnd what to do instead—whether you're the one bringing up the issue, or the one on the receiving end of itWe'll also talk about what it means to be a wounded partner vs. a wounding partner—and how this shift in mindset can change the tone of your conversations and help you actually hear and be heard.If your marriage feels like one long loop of misunderstanding and miscommunication, and you're both tired of repeating the same fight with different words…This episode will give you a new perspective—and the tools to finally begin creating connection, instead of more conflict.And for more help on creating more productive conversations and using your communication to bring you CLOSER as a couple, I invite you to consider one of my coaching programs. You can learn more here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

Attachment theory and how to avoid the mistakes everyone makes when they learn about it. It's probably your attachment style. Think of it as the relational software installed in your brain during your first 18 months. This episode is a crash course in understanding your programming and avoiding common mistakes. We break down the four main styles: Secure, Anxious, Avoidant, and Disorganized. We explore the classic Anxious-Avoidant trap, where one person chases and the other retreats, creating a cycle of frustration. More importantly, we debunk the myth that these styles are a life sentence. You'll get a practical, no-fluff guide to understanding your patterns and, crucially, how to start changing them for the better. Spot the Red Flags: Learn to recognize an avoidant partner's mixed messages so you can bypass the drama. Get Your Crazy Out: Why being direct about your needs (especially if you're anxious) is the best dating strategy. Ditch the Ghost: For avoidants, learn why idolizing a fantasy ex is sabotaging your chance at real happiness. Listen now to finally make your love life make sense. ---- Advertisers BetterHelp The world's largest online therapy provider BetterHelp.com/GrowthMindset - 10% off 1st month Liquid I.V. Sugar-free hydration for any occasion Liquid-IV.com - 20% off with code GROWTH ---- NEW SHOW - How to Change the World Sam's new show can be found on major podcast players: Spotify - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/1Fj3eFjEoAEKF5lWQxPJyT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Apple - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-change-the-world-the-history-of-innovation/id1815282649⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@HowToChangeTheWorldPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Can't find it on your player? RSS feed - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/682b3b86696b5d1232d698a8⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ---- UPGRADE to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Premium⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:

In today's episode, we're diving into one of the most emotionally complex and frustrating dynamics between partners—what happens when one of you is anxiously tuned in to every emotion, every disconnect, every nuance…essentially hyper-self aware...And the other is not able to see what's happening, unaware of the emotions often driving them, and has a harder time communicating what's going on for them...essentially lacking self awareness...We're breaking down why this mismatch in self-awareness and emotional processing leads to blame, shame, shutdowns, and emotional spirals—and how to begin shifting that pattern.You'll hear:Why anxious partners can feel like they're always solving the relationship aloneWhy avoidant partners often feel like they're being treated as a project instead of a personAnd how this blame/shame cycle keeps both of you stuck, exhausted, and silently wondering if things will ever feel betterBut more importantly—we'll talk about what to do next. What actually helps. And how to start creating a new rhythm between you that leaves you both feeling seen, respected, and more connected.If you've been feeling like you're the only one clued in to what's happening…or if you've felt like your partner is always psychoanalyzing you—this episode is for you.And if you are looking for help and would like to explore the ways my coaching program can help you, I invite you to book a complimentary consultation call with me here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

You found out you're anxiously (or avoidantly) attached—probably from a TikTok. Cool. Now what the hell do you do with that?This no-BS episode is for anyone tired of wearing their attachment style like a label and ready to actually shift it. I'm sharing my story as a recovering avoidant, plus the three simple steps you can start today to move from triggered to secure:1. Discovery + learning2. Noticing how it shows up IRL3. Learning how to make yourself feel safe—without needing someone else to fix itBecause awareness is only step one, and healing doesn't happen from just reposting memes.

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In today's episode, we're unpacking one of the most frustrating—and misunderstood—dynamics in a relationship: the anxious partner who longs for emotional validation, and the avoidant partner who's just trying not to drown in overwhelm.If you've ever found yourself needing your partner to get what you're feeling and help you through it… Or if you've ever felt like your partner's emotions are a test you're destined to fail… You're in the right place.We're getting to the root of what's really going on underneath these reactions:Why anxious partners often feel like they can't handle big emotions aloneWhy avoidant partners often feel like emotions = failureAnd how both sides are doing their best to feel safe—but in ways that unintentionally trigger each otherThis episode will give you insight into your nervous system responses, the deeper emotional fears you might not even realize are running the show, and—most importantly—what to do about it.Because once you understand the real reason this feels so hard, you'll finally have a clear direction forward. One that doesn't involve blaming, fixing, or giving up.r And if you are looking for more help navigating these triggering cycles as a couple, I invite you to reach out to book a 20 Minute Marriage Solution Call, to experience firsthand the power of coaching to help you. Or if you are already interested in working with me through one of my coaching programs, you can book a complimentary consultation. Both links can be found on my website: DrChavonne.com

Have you ever felt desperate for more connection in your marriage—wanting to talk more, do more things together, feel like you're truly on the same page—but no matter how hard you try, your partner just doesn't seem to meet you there?Or maybe you're on the other side—feeling like your partner always needs more from you than you can give, and all you want is a little space to think, breathe, and just be without feeling like you're letting them down.If either of those sound familiar, you're not alone—and you're likely caught in the anxious-avoidant dynamic.In this episode, we're unpacking that exact struggle: what happens when one partner craves closeness and the other craves space. When one feels rejected, and the other feels pressured. When you both want peace, but your patterns keep pushing each other further apart.You'll learn:Why the anxious partner often ends up feeling like they're too much and not enough at the same timeWhy the avoidant partner feels pressure to be someone they're not, and shuts down to preserve their sense of selfWhat it really looks like to balance independence and intimacy in a healthy, respectful wayAnd the personal growth plans each of you can start implementing today to change the cycle and create something betterThis is one of the most common dynamics I work with—and the good news is: healing is absolutely possible when you understand the deeper needs underneath the behavior.

In today's episode, we're breaking down the emotional tug-of-war between anxious and avoidant partners—and why it's so hard to stop, even when you both want things to be better.You'll hear the real fears driving this dynamic:Why the anxious partner is so afraid of being emotionally abandonedWhy the avoidant partner is terrified of not being enoughAnd how these fears fuel the very behaviors that keep you disconnectedWe're going deeper than just communication tips—this is about the belief systems that live underneath your patterns. The unconscious drivers that have you stuck in criticism, defensiveness, shutdown, and silent suffering.If you've ever thought, “Why do we keep having the same arguments?”Or felt like, “No matter how hard I try, I still don't feel close to my partner…”This episode will help you understand why—and what to do instead.Because real change happens when you understand what's really going on inside you… and inside each other.If you are ready for help growing as an individual AND together as a couple, then I invite you to book a complimentary consultation call to discuss how my coaching approach can help you get there faster: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2612: Dr. Jana Rosewarne delves into the complex interplay between anxious and avoidant attachment styles, using Frozen's Anna and Elsa as a vivid metaphor. She unpacks how mismatched attachment dynamics can escalate relational stress and even impact physical health, offering practical strategies to foster security and resilience in partnerships. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.luvze.com/anxious-avoidant-duos-walking-on-thin-ice-in-relationships-a/ Quotes to ponder: "Anxious individuals fear rejection and abandonment, yet their cravings for closeness may inadvertently drive others away." "People high in avoidance also tend to underestimate others' care and support for them." "Simply knowing your own attachment orientation can help you to understand your strengths and vulnerabilities in relationships." Episode references: Meta-analysis on marital support and health outcomes (Robles et al., 2014): https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4268209/ Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller: https://www.amazon.com/Attached-Science-Adult-Attachment-YouFind/dp/1585429139 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talking points: attachment, relationships, psychologyIf you're the more anxious type and you're dating someone more avoidant (or vice versa), it can create a whole realm of intensity that many people find hard to fathom. It's the best and worst of the old saying "opposites attract". Here's how to lower the temperature and move towards something more secure. (00:00:00) - Intro and what contributes to this dynamic(00:05:36) - The signs and signals that you're in the cycle(00:07:20) - How you break it, step one: figure out how you're contributing(00:10:13) - Two: full transparency of where you're at(00:12:46) - Three: learn how to lean into yourself OR the relationship(00:16:24) - The phrase every avoidant needs to know***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Send us a textIn Part One of this episode, Andrea chats with attachment specialist Adam Lane Smith about how our attachment styles shape the way we love, communicate, and sometimes sabotage relationships. From anxious and avoidant tendencies to the emotional fallout of infidelity and parentification, they cover it all—with personal stories, practical advice, and a refreshing take on healing (hint: it's more about repair than perfection). They also dive into modern dating challenges, masculine/feminine energy, and why matchmaking might be making a comeback. Expect real talk, relatable insights, and tips to help you build healthier, more secure connections. What if cheating isn't about lust—but about unmet emotional needs rooted in your attachment style?Can you really rewire your attachment style and build a secure relationship—even if your past says otherwise?Are your dating struggles actually just anxious or avoidant patterns playing out on repeat?And so much more...Instagram: @attachmentAdamTikTok: @attachmentbroYouTube: @attachmentAdamFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/Support the showInstagram: @from.mrs.2.msTikTok:@from.mrs.2.msWebsite: www.frommrs2ms.comEmail: Andrea@FromMrs2Ms.comYouTube: @FromMrs2Ms

Send us a textHere's a story you've lived before, even if you don't realize it yet.You meet someone. The connection is immediate, intoxicating—like a chemical reaction you can't control. The texts flow effortlessly. The future feels possible. Then, without warning, the shift: one of you pulls back. The other panics. And just like that, you're locked in the oldest romantic pattern in human psychology—the anxious-avoidant dance.This isn't just about bad timing or mismatched feelings. This is about how our earliest experiences wire us to love in ways that hurt.And if you don't understand the mechanism, you'll keep stepping on the same landmine, wondering why it keeps exploding.Support the show

Most couples get stuck in a pattern of blaming each other for the issues they're facing—whether it's the partner withdrawing, being overly critical, or just not feeling understood. But the key to shifting these dynamics lies in understanding yourself first.In this episode, we are doing an even DEEPER dive into the often overlooked ways couples keep themselves stuck. Continuing our previous conversations, I go layers deeper into the anxious and avoidant attachment patterns and how they contribute to common struggles, including:How anxious individuals may unintentionally create negative cycles in their relationships by seeking validation and reassurance.Why avoidants may struggle with passive-aggressive behavior, emotional withdrawal, and staying stuck in fixed patterns of thinking.The shared challenge of avoiding emotional discomfort, whether by running from it or trying to fix it immediately.Understanding yourself at this deeper level empowers you to break the cycle of frustration and move toward healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Tune in to learn how self-awareness can not only improve your connection with your partner but also help you choose the changes that will actually lead to lasting transformation.Also mentioned in this episode: If you're ready to stop feeling stuck in cycles of conflict and distance—and start creating the marriage you truly want—I invite you to consider private coaching with me. Together, we'll work week by week to: ✅ Break the patterns that keep you disconnected ✅ Build emotional safety and true understanding ✅ Create communication that brings you closer, not further apart ✅ Rekindle the friendship, warmth, and peace you both long forYou don't have to guess your way through this. You don't have to keep hoping things will "just get better."With the right support, you can rebuild a marriage that feels good again.Book your complimentary consultation call here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

Ever wonder why YOU are SO addicted to people who pull away? Today, you'll finally find out.If the harder you chase, the faster they run — you might be trapped in the anxious-avoidant cycle: where one partner craves closeness, and the other panics when things get too real. In this BBC episode, Violet breaks down why this dynamic feels like home but leaves you emotionally starved.Inspired by the book Attached, we dive into real stories, psych-backed insights, and how to finally break free.Bonus: Don't miss the quiz at the end—It'll help you decode your partner's attachment style fast. Jump to minute 37:00 if you're done guessing and ready to know who you're really dealing with.Wanna listen to this episode AD FREE?? Go to my ad free subscription at - https://almostadulting.supercast.comToday's episode is brought to you by:NULLY CLOTHING RENTAL - Just go to Nuuly.com and use my code ADULTING to get $28 off your first month.PRETTY LITTER - Get 20% off on your FIRST order + get a FREE cat toy + FREE shipping when you go to prettylitter.com/adulting SHOPIFY - Sign up for your ONE DOLLAR per-month trial period at Shopify.com/adultingPAIRED APP - Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at HERERULA HEALTH - Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/adultingSIMPLY POP - Spill the Pop tour with Remi & Alisha from Pretty basic is coming to a city near you!! For tour information and FREE tickets, visit cokeurl.com/simplyPOPtour , but hurry! Availability is limited.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ever feel like you and your partner cannot communicate effectively? You're talking one thing, and they are hearing and reacting to another. Communication break downs are very common for couples who have different attachment styles. Today we are taking another deep dive into how the anxious and avoidant dynamic leads to communication issues.I break down exactly why communication breaks down between these two attachment styles, and how this pattern is secretly keeping you both stuck.This episode is a must-listen if you're tired of feeling misunderstood and want to finally break the cycle. Tune in and discover how you can begin transforming your relationship—one conversation at a time.Also mentioned: If you feel like you're constantly missing each other, getting stuck in misunderstandings, or just can't seem to get on the same page, I can help. I have a few spots open for private coaching, where we'll focus on transforming how you communicate with your partner—so you can feel heard, understood, and connected. Book your complimentary consultation today, and let's start breaking down those communication barriers for good: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

In today's episode, we're diving into the anxious-avoidant dynamic, one of the most common yet frustrating patterns in relationships. Whether you identify as anxious, avoidant, or somewhere in between, understanding this dynamic is the first step in breaking the cycle of emotional push and pull.We'll explore 10 key things you need to know about this dynamic—including why both partners feel unfulfilled, why communication often breaks down, and most importantly, how you can start shifting these patterns for better connection and deeper intimacy.If you're tired of feeling misunderstood or stuck in this emotional tug-of-war, this episode will give you the insights and tools you need to create more balance and understanding with your partner. Also mentioned in this episode: I have a few openings for private coaching. If you're looking to create a better dynamic in your marriage where you and your partner both feel close, I can definitely help. Book your complimentary call to discuss the ways my approach can support you: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

Talking points: attachment, marriage, traumaThere's a lot of attachment content out there. I should know, I make a fair bit myself. But in my work with this week's anonymous guest, you can see just how complex things can get. My guest is managing the anxious-avoidant dance really well, but processing what causes it is something that requires deeper work. Listen in.(00:00:00) - Intro, handling the anxious/avoidant dance in marriage, and the what it felt like losing a father(00:11:21) - Who was there for you? (00:22:52) - The search for peace***Join myself, Ryan Michler, Larry Hagner, and Matt Beaudreau on a mission to improve yourself as a man, husband, business owner, and community leader at the Men's Forge. May 1-4, St. Louis, MO: https://orderofman.clickfunnels.com/uprising-landing-page1715263442491Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter

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Our most highly anticipated guest from last year finally accepted our DM request to come on the pod and de-mystify the most common (and stressful) relational dynamic: ANXIOUS + AVOIDANT.Watch this episode on YouTube:https://youtu.be/CRxBxInFDfUIf you have ever been in a relationship, or supported someone in one, then you KNOW how distressing it is to deal with feeling like your partner doesn't care about your feelings OR as if their feelings are TOO MUCH. Unfortunately, these two types of people often attract each other...and without proper awareness or the development of regulation skills, these two people will harm each other over and over until there is no longer a sense of closeness or intimacy anymore.What's sad about this dynamic is that both people DO care, and ultimately desire closeness, but what actions make each of them feel emotionally safe in the relationship are different. Learning the difference between these needs, their origins, and how to appreciate them without self-abandoning is the key to creating a healthier dynamic that can repair fully after typical ruptures, which even secure attached couples experience!Whether you're familiar with attachment theory already or not, this conversation reveals the secret ingredient for creating secure attachment and is going to help you identify which attachment style you may have AND how to heal it instead of projecting your needs and insecurities onto your partner. No matter if you identify as anxious, avoidant, disorganized...there are tools for you to become a safer, secure person for yourself AND as a partner in a relationship.Join our FREE community: (We host free calls every month!):https://tinyurl.com/SpiralinghighercommunityJoin our retreat waitlist for JUNE 2025 by signing up here:https://shorturl.at/fojjy--Find Julie:https://www.instagram.com/thesecurerelationship/Get her best-selling book "Secure Love" here:https://amzn.to/4jtlhPK--WE FINALLY MADE MERCH! Find your new Spiraling Higher apparel here:http://xmj6wr-xy.myshopify.com/Apply for 1:1 coaching with Sam:https://www.simplifyingsam.com/1on1coachingApply for 1:1 coaching with Gina:https://tinyurl.com/1on1coachingbteFollow Spiraling Higher:Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/spiralinghigherFollow Simplifying Sam:Tiktok - https://www.tiktok.com/@simplifying.samInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/simplifying.samFollow Gina:Tiktok - https://www.tiktok.com/@ginabourneInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/ginabourneFor all inquiries, email us at:Spiralinghigher@gmail.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Are you struggling with trust issues in your long-term relationship?Wondering how to navigate mismatched attachment styles? Are you curious about practical steps to bridge the gap between an anxious and avoidant partner? In this episode of the Relationship Renovation Podcast, hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin read a heartfelt email from a listener facing these challenges. Tune in as they offer insightful advice, break down the complexities of attachment styles, and provide actionable tools like daily emotional check-ins, creating transparency agreements, and more. Whether your relationship feels stuck or you're seeking ways to foster a secure attachment, this episode is packed with strategies to help you and your partner reconnect and thrive. For more detailed support, Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online CourseRelationship Renovation YoutubeContact UsSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Hi guys happy wednesday! In todays episode I talk alot about attachment styles. I really houn in on being someone who has experienced both anxious and avoidant attachment styles, as well as in my most avoidant phase being someone who consistently blocks people without explaination. In this episode I do alot of reflecting on the why and reasoning of these traits and behaviors and how not to let that old version of you hinder you from the newest version of you.

Ever felt like all your problems would be solved if you were able to change your attachment type? In this ep we have the incredible relationship expert Thais Gibson to explain and unpack attachment theory for us! Thais breaks down what it means to be anxious avoidant, dismissive avoidant, fearful avoidant and secure and how each type impacts the way you date - plus how to change from an insecure attachment style to a more secure one.SHOW NOTES:Personal Development School Attachment QuizPersonal Development School YouTubeDM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

When one partner's attachment style is anxious, and the other's is avoidant, it can be painful for both. But you can learn to consciously communicate and create ways for each person to feel safe and valued. Today's guests talk about how to lovingly collaborate and negotiate, to meet the needs and desires of each partner. If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes a person want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time to talk.

In this revealing episode of the Secure Love Podcast, host Julie Menanno explores the intricate balance of emotional engagement and self-regulation in relationships through the lens of real-life couple Melissa and Drew. This session represents a significant breakthrough for the couple, as the conflict surrounding their differing emotional responses has been at the center of their negative cycle. The episode revolves around a recent incident involving their son, who exhibited a behavioral tic during dinner. This situation prompted contrasting reactions: Melissa sought immediate emotional validation and support from Drew, while Drew took a more measured approach, suggesting they observe the situation before reacting. Julie points out many anxious partners, like Melissa's deep need for emotional reassurance sometimes leads to a hyper focus on their own feelings—making the situation feel all about "me, me, me." In doing so, she struggles to recognize Drew's emotional needs and the potential benefits of temporarily leaning out from emotional reactions. Through this dialogue, Melissa and Drew learn that navigating their differences requires compromise and empathy. By acknowledging and valuing each other's approaches to handling emotional situations, they take meaningful steps toward a more balanced relationship dynamic. This breakthrough reinforces the idea that both emotional engagement and the ability to lean out are essential for fostering understanding and connection in their partnership. Follow Julie Menanno on social media @thesecurerelationship. For weekly homework assignments visit Julie's website: The Secure Relationship Purchase Julie's book Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime  

Have you ever wondered, "Why do I keep getting ghosted?" If so, you're not alone, and it's not your fault. Join Coach Gretta and Conscious Dating & Relationship Coach and Attachment Expert Taryn Newton-Gill as they dive deep into attachment styles, relational dynamics, and the complexities of ghosting. In this insightful episode, you'll discover:Why people with certain attachment styles are likely to ghostHow anxious attachment contributes to push-pull dynamics with avoidant partnersThree strategies to build more secure relationshipsWhether you're grappling with anxiety in relationships or trying to understand the behaviors of avoidant partners, this episode will illuminate your relational dynamics and help you break the cycle of getting ghosted.Connect With Gretta:Coping With Ghosting 101Free and Private Facebook Support Group |  Instagram | copingwithghosting.comConnect with Taryn: Manifest Love on the Apps Challenge Registration Attachment Flags Checklist | Why Avoidant People Ghost (And 4 Signs to Help You See it Coming) | Website | Instagram | Facebook GroupMusic: "Ghosted" by Gustavo ZaiahDisclaimer: This information is designed to mentor and guide you to cope with Ghosting by cultivating a positive mindset and implementing self-care practices. It is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. Coping With Ghosting is not providing health care or psychological therapy services and is not diagnosing or treating any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or other registered professionals. Ghosted? We've got you covered. Download Coping With Ghosting 101. This workshop's designed to help you better understand why ghosting happens, ways to feel better now, and actionable steps to take your power back. Your purchase will help support this podcast, so it's a win-win! Note to All Listeners: Ghosting is defined as: The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication (Oxford Languages).When you leave an abusive situation without saying "goodbye," it's not ghosting, it's "self-protection." When you quietly exit a relationship after a boundary has been violated, it's not ghosting, it's "self-respect."

One of the most common pairs - the Anxious-Avoidant Couple. Here are 8 Points for you to work on if this has been your pattern in dating.If you are currently in this type of relationship, you will hear things you can your partner can work on together… with a therapist!03:33 Anxious-Avoidant Pairing05:03 I Was Anxious, Then Avoidant, Then Secure07:32 Couple-Work 09:16 Boundaries15:21 Attunememt17:43 Distance19:19 The End of Negotiations22:26 Make Believe23:34 All That Time Wasted26:27 Trauma Histories27:17 Cycles28:12 Halt - Get HelpThank you for your support!1-on-1: Interest FormCashapp: $taychand Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

Main Topics: Overcoming The Anxious/Avoidant Trap, Parenthood, Trust, Relationship Change, Fears   In this week's podcast episode, my partner and lover, Asa, joins me to discuss our lessons from the five years of our relationship, how we have navigated the most difficult times, and what life is like with our baby boy, Bjorn.   Asa Baav is a dating, intimacy and relationship coach initiating high-achieving women to reclaim their power, awaken their authentic selves and attract and grow conscious relationships.   Key topics include:  ⭐️ Cultivating and Sustaining Long-Term Relationships ⭐ Addressing and Overcoming Avoidant Attachment Styles ⭐️ Applying the Concept of Compersion Across Various Aspects of Relationships ⭐️ Preparing Emotionally and Practically for Parenthood ⭐️ Intentional Creation and Release of Unproductive Habits ⭐️ Having Trust in Oneself to Even Descend Into the Darkness of Life ⭐️ Insights from Asa and David's Parenting Journey ⭐️ Navigating the Challenges of Returning to Work After Paternity Leave ⭐️ Establishing a Strong Foundation of Trust with Your Partner ⭐️ Lessons Learned Through Observing Your Child's Development   Connect With David - The Authentic Man:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/  Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/  For Coaching: hello@theauthenticman.net  Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe  Apply For "Breaking The Chains Of Avoidance": https://forms.gle/KadP2LmC2iAZZjoN9   Connect With Asa Baav:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachwithasa/ Website:  https://www.asabaav.com/

Navigate Anxious-Avoidant Attachment Styles in dating can be challenging but once you understand these dynamics, you can completely transform your relationships. Join us on this week's episode of the Dating Done Right podcast to learn practical strategies and tools to navigate the complexities of anxious-avoidant dynamics in relationships. Don't miss out on unlocking fulfilling connections and personal growth! Featured on the podcast: BOOK YOUR FREE DATING STRATEGY AUDIT: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/syedanearycoaching/audit⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FREE DATING SYTLE QUIZ: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.sythelovecoach.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠ WORK WITH ME: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://syeda-neary.mykajabi.com/work-with-me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ SY THE LOVE COACH ON TIK-TOK: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sythelovecoach⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ SY THE LOVE COACH ON INSTAGRAM: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/sythelovecoach/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

This week on the Secure Love Podcast, Melissa and Drew share their breakthroughs and real-life applications of their therapy work with Julie Menanno. They've been learning to identify and break their negative cycles, but as always, the journey is full of ups and downs. Imagine this: one of their twin boys slams his brother's hand in the door, leading to a frantic trip to the hospital. While Drew is at a work event, Melissa is left to handle the chaos alone. When she reaches out to Drew for help, they find themselves in a classic anxious-avoidant clash. Melissa, feeling the urgency of the moment, needs immediate emotional validation. For her, addressing the issue right away is crucial, as waiting can make her feel like her emotions are being dismissed. On the other hand, Drew prefers to process things and discuss them later when emotions have cooled down. Can you see how this disconnect creates tension? In these situations, Melissa often feels like a failure as a mom and wife. She battles dark thoughts, wondering if Drew and the kids might be better off without her. It's a heartbreaking struggle many can relate to. Join us as we explore how Melissa and Drew navigate these intense moments, using the tools they've learned in therapy. How do they manage to connect despite their differing styles? And what can we learn from their journey to help in our own relationships? This episode is a powerful reminder that progress is possible, even when the road is tough. Follow Julie Menanno on social media @thesecurerelationship. Visit Julie's website The Secure Relationship for all information on upcoming workshops and access to resources. Purchase Julie's book Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime

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In today's episode, I'm unpacking three common pain points that virtually all anxious-avoidant couples will encounter at some point in their relationship. We'll talk about why these particular fights are so common, and what they're really about - so you can approach them next time with more empathy and understanding, and avoid the disconnection and hurt that comes with the typical anxious-avoidant trap. Secure Together Course (save 50% with code HEYBABY): secure-together.com 

Got a question that needs fixing? Post it on our subreddit r/CanThisBeFixed for a chance to be featured in an upcoming Podcast episode! What should you do if a dismissive avoidant ex reappears unexpectedly? Why do anxious attachments and dismissive avoidants often end up together? How should you respond when a fearful avoidant ex wants to be friends again? In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais and co-host Mike discuss common anxious/avoidant relationship dynamics and the internal worlds of these attachment styles when their safety is threatened. Can things work better the second time around? Watch to learn what's needed for a proper second chance. Let's connect! https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/

In today's episode, we're exploring the tension between the conflicting needs for time together and time apart that can so often become a source of friction in anxious-avoidant dynamics. Specifically, I'm sharing a simple but very effective tip that will both reduce separation anxiety for the anxious partner, and increase the avoidant partner's comfort with time spent together, creating a win-win for both partners and reducing the likelihood of repeated ruptures.  

Dr. Thais Gibson is known for her work on attachment theory. She created Gibson Integrated Attachment Theory™, an innovative framework uniting traditional attachment theory, developmental psychology insights, and subconscious reprogramming techniques. This framework is reflected in the courses she teaches in The Personal Development School, in her innovative coach training program and in her most recent book, Learning Love (https://amzn.to/4a63tEI) In this episode of Last First Date Radio: The attachment styles and their impact on relationships How partners with anxious/avoidant styles can succeed How past wounds affect our relationships How to heal past wounds Tips and tools for creating healthier relationships Website: https://university.personaldevelopmentschool.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool  Free Life-Changing Quiz to Discover Your Attachment Style in Just 5 Minutes ►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio  ►If you're feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application  ►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate  ►Get Sandy's books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook  and Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9  ►Get FREE coaching on the podcast! https://bit.ly/LFDradiocoaching  ►FREE download: “Top 10 Reasons Why Men Suddenly Pull Away” http://bit.ly/whymendisappear  ►Group Coaching: https://lastfirstdate.com/the-woman-of-value-club/  ►Website → https://lastfirstdate.com/  ► Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/lastfirstdate1/  ►Get Amazon Music Unlimited FREE for 30 days at getamazonmusic.com/lastfirstdate  --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/sandy-weiner9/message

Talking points: attachment, relationships Got a LOT of requests for this one! Relationships between anxious attachment and avoidant attachment folks are actually quite common. They can also be extremely tough. Listen in for what they're like, why the patterns are hard to break, and how to move towards a secure, grounded partnership. (00:00:00) - Intro, what characterizes the anxious-avoidant dance, and why there's no “villain” (00:04:08) - Why that dance is so strong (00:08:28) - Examples of the anxious-avoidant dynamic (00:12:58) - Can anxious-avoidant relationships actually work, how to know if it won't, and how to END the dance (00:16:56) - The “protest and punishment” behaviors, and how to self-identify if you're the anxious partner (00:21:23) - How to self-identify if you're the avoidant one (00:27:05) - So what do you to? Tips for the anxious (00:33:05) - Tips for the avoidant (00:38:19) - What to do together *** Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's Weekend Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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DON'T MISS THIS! Grab your seat at for the Move to Secure Attachment 3-Day Challenge: *CLICK HERE TO REGISTER FOR THE FREE CHALLENGE*Today's topic is utterly fascinating, and if it's ever happened to you, you know just how painful it can be. I am talking about the anxious/avoidant dating trap, where these opposing attachment styles are drawn to one another like a moth to a flame. Inside this episode: -I review both anxious and avoidant attachment styles and the beliefs they have about relationships -I share how you can break the cycle of the anxious/avoidant dating rollercoaster -Important parts when to consider when healing the anxious/avoidant dynamic in a couple Aaaaaand so much more! It's time to become the version of you who attracts her emotionally available dream partner without wasting time on the wrong guys. Stop the dating games and become the securely attached version of you: Click Here to Apply to the E.S.L. ProgramEpisode Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction and Overview03:22 Anxious Attachment04:20 Avoidant Attachment07:41 Anxious-Avoidant Dynamic12:26 Physical Intimacy in Anxious-Avoidant Dynamic14:20 Moving Towards Secure Attachment15:43 Working on Anxious-Avoidant Dynamic18:28 Asking for Reassurance and Giving Reassurance21:20 Disorganized Attachment23:14 Taking Action to Changed26:02 Conclusion

I've spent a lot of time over the past 18 months looking into the various attachment styles of men – anxious, avoidant, and secure. I think we all intuitively know that “secure” is the best place to be, but the question is, “How do we get there?” It's especially difficult considering our engrained attachment style drives so much of our decision-making process – much of which is subconscious. My guest today is licensed psychotherapist and attachment specialist, Adam Lane Smith. Today, Adam and I discuss building secure, sustainable relationships, why responsibility breeds security and why we subconsciously avoid it, how the chemicals, Oxytocin and Vasopressin, drive our emotional and problem-solving connections, and why every man needs to work on building his “male solution network.”   SHOW HIGHLIGHTS Building secure and sustainable relationships Why responsibility breeds security, and why we subconsciously avoid it How the chemicals oxytocin and vasopressin drive our emotional and problem solving connections Why ever man needs to work on building his male solution network The different attachment styles seen in men Modern day dating The 5 clusters that are relied on to create healthy and secure attachment Modern femininity versus masculinity Building emotional intimacy   JOIN the Iron Council brotherhood.   Subscribe to the Order of Man YouTube Channel   Battle Planners are back in stock. Pick yours up today!   Get your signed copy of Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto   Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready