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Ever wonder why YOU are SO addicted to people who pull away? Today, you'll finally find out.If the harder you chase, the faster they run — you might be trapped in the anxious-avoidant cycle: where one partner craves closeness, and the other panics when things get too real. In this BBC episode, Violet breaks down why this dynamic feels like home but leaves you emotionally starved.Inspired by the book Attached, we dive into real stories, psych-backed insights, and how to finally break free.Bonus: Don't miss the quiz at the end—It'll help you decode your partner's attachment style fast. Jump to minute 37:00 if you're done guessing and ready to know who you're really dealing with.Wanna listen to this episode AD FREE?? Go to my ad free subscription at - https://almostadulting.supercast.comToday's episode is brought to you by:NULLY CLOTHING RENTAL - Just go to Nuuly.com and use my code ADULTING to get $28 off your first month.PRETTY LITTER - Get 20% off on your FIRST order + get a FREE cat toy + FREE shipping when you go to prettylitter.com/adulting SHOPIFY - Sign up for your ONE DOLLAR per-month trial period at Shopify.com/adultingPAIRED APP - Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at HERERULA HEALTH - Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/adultingSIMPLY POP - Spill the Pop tour with Remi & Alisha from Pretty basic is coming to a city near you!! For tour information and FREE tickets, visit cokeurl.com/simplyPOPtour , but hurry! Availability is limited.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Ever feel like you and your partner cannot communicate effectively? You're talking one thing, and they are hearing and reacting to another. Communication break downs are very common for couples who have different attachment styles. Today we are taking another deep dive into how the anxious and avoidant dynamic leads to communication issues.I break down exactly why communication breaks down between these two attachment styles, and how this pattern is secretly keeping you both stuck.This episode is a must-listen if you're tired of feeling misunderstood and want to finally break the cycle. Tune in and discover how you can begin transforming your relationship—one conversation at a time.Also mentioned: If you feel like you're constantly missing each other, getting stuck in misunderstandings, or just can't seem to get on the same page, I can help. I have a few spots open for private coaching, where we'll focus on transforming how you communicate with your partner—so you can feel heard, understood, and connected. Book your complimentary consultation today, and let's start breaking down those communication barriers for good: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/
In today's episode, we're diving into the anxious-avoidant dynamic, one of the most common yet frustrating patterns in relationships. Whether you identify as anxious, avoidant, or somewhere in between, understanding this dynamic is the first step in breaking the cycle of emotional push and pull.We'll explore 10 key things you need to know about this dynamic—including why both partners feel unfulfilled, why communication often breaks down, and most importantly, how you can start shifting these patterns for better connection and deeper intimacy.If you're tired of feeling misunderstood or stuck in this emotional tug-of-war, this episode will give you the insights and tools you need to create more balance and understanding with your partner. Also mentioned in this episode: I have a few openings for private coaching. If you're looking to create a better dynamic in your marriage where you and your partner both feel close, I can definitely help. Book your complimentary call to discuss the ways my approach can support you: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/
Talking points: attachment, marriage, traumaThere's a lot of attachment content out there. I should know, I make a fair bit myself. But in my work with this week's anonymous guest, you can see just how complex things can get. My guest is managing the anxious-avoidant dance really well, but processing what causes it is something that requires deeper work. Listen in.(00:00:00) - Intro, handling the anxious/avoidant dance in marriage, and the what it felt like losing a father(00:11:21) - Who was there for you? (00:22:52) - The search for peace***Join myself, Ryan Michler, Larry Hagner, and Matt Beaudreau on a mission to improve yourself as a man, husband, business owner, and community leader at the Men's Forge. May 1-4, St. Louis, MO: https://orderofman.clickfunnels.com/uprising-landing-page1715263442491Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter
Our most highly anticipated guest from last year finally accepted our DM request to come on the pod and de-mystify the most common (and stressful) relational dynamic: ANXIOUS + AVOIDANT.Watch this episode on YouTube:https://youtu.be/CRxBxInFDfUIf you have ever been in a relationship, or supported someone in one, then you KNOW how distressing it is to deal with feeling like your partner doesn't care about your feelings OR as if their feelings are TOO MUCH. Unfortunately, these two types of people often attract each other...and without proper awareness or the development of regulation skills, these two people will harm each other over and over until there is no longer a sense of closeness or intimacy anymore.What's sad about this dynamic is that both people DO care, and ultimately desire closeness, but what actions make each of them feel emotionally safe in the relationship are different. Learning the difference between these needs, their origins, and how to appreciate them without self-abandoning is the key to creating a healthier dynamic that can repair fully after typical ruptures, which even secure attached couples experience!Whether you're familiar with attachment theory already or not, this conversation reveals the secret ingredient for creating secure attachment and is going to help you identify which attachment style you may have AND how to heal it instead of projecting your needs and insecurities onto your partner. No matter if you identify as anxious, avoidant, disorganized...there are tools for you to become a safer, secure person for yourself AND as a partner in a relationship.Join our FREE community: (We host free calls every month!):https://tinyurl.com/SpiralinghighercommunityJoin our retreat waitlist for JUNE 2025 by signing up here:https://shorturl.at/fojjy--Find Julie:https://www.instagram.com/thesecurerelationship/Get her best-selling book "Secure Love" here:https://amzn.to/4jtlhPK--WE FINALLY MADE MERCH! Find your new Spiraling Higher apparel here:http://xmj6wr-xy.myshopify.com/Apply for 1:1 coaching with Sam:https://www.simplifyingsam.com/1on1coachingApply for 1:1 coaching with Gina:https://tinyurl.com/1on1coachingbteFollow Spiraling Higher:Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/spiralinghigherFollow Simplifying Sam:Tiktok - https://www.tiktok.com/@simplifying.samInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/simplifying.samFollow Gina:Tiktok - https://www.tiktok.com/@ginabourneInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/ginabourneFor all inquiries, email us at:Spiralinghigher@gmail.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Are you struggling with trust issues in your long-term relationship?Wondering how to navigate mismatched attachment styles? Are you curious about practical steps to bridge the gap between an anxious and avoidant partner? In this episode of the Relationship Renovation Podcast, hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin read a heartfelt email from a listener facing these challenges. Tune in as they offer insightful advice, break down the complexities of attachment styles, and provide actionable tools like daily emotional check-ins, creating transparency agreements, and more. Whether your relationship feels stuck or you're seeking ways to foster a secure attachment, this episode is packed with strategies to help you and your partner reconnect and thrive. For more detailed support, Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online CourseRelationship Renovation YoutubeContact UsSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Hi guys happy wednesday! In todays episode I talk alot about attachment styles. I really houn in on being someone who has experienced both anxious and avoidant attachment styles, as well as in my most avoidant phase being someone who consistently blocks people without explaination. In this episode I do alot of reflecting on the why and reasoning of these traits and behaviors and how not to let that old version of you hinder you from the newest version of you.
Ever felt like all your problems would be solved if you were able to change your attachment type? In this ep we have the incredible relationship expert Thais Gibson to explain and unpack attachment theory for us! Thais breaks down what it means to be anxious avoidant, dismissive avoidant, fearful avoidant and secure and how each type impacts the way you date - plus how to change from an insecure attachment style to a more secure one.SHOW NOTES:Personal Development School Attachment QuizPersonal Development School YouTubeDM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
When one partner's attachment style is anxious, and the other's is avoidant, it can be painful for both. But you can learn to consciously communicate and create ways for each person to feel safe and valued. Today's guests talk about how to lovingly collaborate and negotiate, to meet the needs and desires of each partner. If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes a person want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time to talk.
When one partner's attachment style is anxious, and the other's is avoidant, it can be painful for both. But you can learn to consciously communicate and create ways for each person to feel safe and valued. Today's guests talk about how to lovingly collaborate and negotiate, to meet the needs and desires of each partner. If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes a person want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time to talk.
In this revealing episode of the Secure Love Podcast, host Julie Menanno explores the intricate balance of emotional engagement and self-regulation in relationships through the lens of real-life couple Melissa and Drew. This session represents a significant breakthrough for the couple, as the conflict surrounding their differing emotional responses has been at the center of their negative cycle. The episode revolves around a recent incident involving their son, who exhibited a behavioral tic during dinner. This situation prompted contrasting reactions: Melissa sought immediate emotional validation and support from Drew, while Drew took a more measured approach, suggesting they observe the situation before reacting. Julie points out many anxious partners, like Melissa's deep need for emotional reassurance sometimes leads to a hyper focus on their own feelings—making the situation feel all about "me, me, me." In doing so, she struggles to recognize Drew's emotional needs and the potential benefits of temporarily leaning out from emotional reactions. Through this dialogue, Melissa and Drew learn that navigating their differences requires compromise and empathy. By acknowledging and valuing each other's approaches to handling emotional situations, they take meaningful steps toward a more balanced relationship dynamic. This breakthrough reinforces the idea that both emotional engagement and the ability to lean out are essential for fostering understanding and connection in their partnership. Follow Julie Menanno on social media @thesecurerelationship. For weekly homework assignments visit Julie's website: The Secure Relationship Purchase Julie's book Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime
Have you ever wondered, "Why do I keep getting ghosted?" If so, you're not alone, and it's not your fault. Join Coach Gretta and Conscious Dating & Relationship Coach and Attachment Expert Taryn Newton-Gill as they dive deep into attachment styles, relational dynamics, and the complexities of ghosting. In this insightful episode, you'll discover:Why people with certain attachment styles are likely to ghostHow anxious attachment contributes to push-pull dynamics with avoidant partnersThree strategies to build more secure relationshipsWhether you're grappling with anxiety in relationships or trying to understand the behaviors of avoidant partners, this episode will illuminate your relational dynamics and help you break the cycle of getting ghosted.Connect With Gretta:Coping With Ghosting 101Free and Private Facebook Support Group | Instagram | copingwithghosting.comConnect with Taryn: Manifest Love on the Apps Challenge Registration Attachment Flags Checklist | Why Avoidant People Ghost (And 4 Signs to Help You See it Coming) | Website | Instagram | Facebook GroupMusic: "Ghosted" by Gustavo ZaiahDisclaimer: This information is designed to mentor and guide you to cope with Ghosting by cultivating a positive mindset and implementing self-care practices. It is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. Coping With Ghosting is not providing health care or psychological therapy services and is not diagnosing or treating any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or other registered professionals. Ghosted? We've got you covered. Download Coping With Ghosting 101. This workshop's designed to help you better understand why ghosting happens, ways to feel better now, and actionable steps to take your power back. Your purchase will help support this podcast, so it's a win-win! Note to All Listeners: Ghosting is defined as: The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication (Oxford Languages).When you leave an abusive situation without saying "goodbye," it's not ghosting, it's "self-protection." When you quietly exit a relationship after a boundary has been violated, it's not ghosting, it's "self-respect."
One of the most common pairs - the Anxious-Avoidant Couple. Here are 8 Points for you to work on if this has been your pattern in dating.If you are currently in this type of relationship, you will hear things you can your partner can work on together… with a therapist!03:33 Anxious-Avoidant Pairing05:03 I Was Anxious, Then Avoidant, Then Secure07:32 Couple-Work 09:16 Boundaries15:21 Attunememt17:43 Distance19:19 The End of Negotiations22:26 Make Believe23:34 All That Time Wasted26:27 Trauma Histories27:17 Cycles28:12 Halt - Get HelpThank you for your support!1-on-1: Interest FormCashapp: $taychand Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler
Are you Anxious in connections? Avoidant to your current partner? Perhaps you're not moving from a place of a Secure attachment style. Today's episode, we are diving into the findings of Mary Ainsworth and John Bowlby. After reading the book 'Attached' and going through my own relationship turbulence, I have learnt about attachment styles more deeply, and would love to share my findings with you. How to heal your anxious attachment style is a commonly asked question, and in today's episode, I am sharing my own, or others', tips and tricks to moving toward a Secure attachment style. I hope it helps! See you all next week, Dom x
Main Topics: Overcoming The Anxious/Avoidant Trap, Parenthood, Trust, Relationship Change, Fears In this week's podcast episode, my partner and lover, Asa, joins me to discuss our lessons from the five years of our relationship, how we have navigated the most difficult times, and what life is like with our baby boy, Bjorn. Asa Baav is a dating, intimacy and relationship coach initiating high-achieving women to reclaim their power, awaken their authentic selves and attract and grow conscious relationships. Key topics include: ⭐️ Cultivating and Sustaining Long-Term Relationships ⭐ Addressing and Overcoming Avoidant Attachment Styles ⭐️ Applying the Concept of Compersion Across Various Aspects of Relationships ⭐️ Preparing Emotionally and Practically for Parenthood ⭐️ Intentional Creation and Release of Unproductive Habits ⭐️ Having Trust in Oneself to Even Descend Into the Darkness of Life ⭐️ Insights from Asa and David's Parenting Journey ⭐️ Navigating the Challenges of Returning to Work After Paternity Leave ⭐️ Establishing a Strong Foundation of Trust with Your Partner ⭐️ Lessons Learned Through Observing Your Child's Development Connect With David - The Authentic Man: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/ For Coaching: hello@theauthenticman.net Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe Apply For "Breaking The Chains Of Avoidance": https://forms.gle/KadP2LmC2iAZZjoN9 Connect With Asa Baav: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachwithasa/ Website: https://www.asabaav.com/
Navigate Anxious-Avoidant Attachment Styles in dating can be challenging but once you understand these dynamics, you can completely transform your relationships. Join us on this week's episode of the Dating Done Right podcast to learn practical strategies and tools to navigate the complexities of anxious-avoidant dynamics in relationships. Don't miss out on unlocking fulfilling connections and personal growth! Featured on the podcast: BOOK YOUR FREE DATING STRATEGY AUDIT: https://calendly.com/syedanearycoaching/audit FREE DATING SYTLE QUIZ: https://www.sythelovecoach.com/ WORK WITH ME: https://syeda-neary.mykajabi.com/work-with-me SY THE LOVE COACH ON TIK-TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@sythelovecoach SY THE LOVE COACH ON INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/sythelovecoach/
In this video, I delve into the complexities of the anxious-avoidant attachment style in relationships, breaking it down into simple terms to help you better understand. Learn about the dynamics, challenges, and ways to navigate this unique attachment style to cultivate healthier, more fulfilling relationships. If you're curious about how anxious-avoidant behaviors manifest and impact relationships, this video is a must-watch.
This week on the Secure Love Podcast, Melissa and Drew share their breakthroughs and real-life applications of their therapy work with Julie Menanno. They've been learning to identify and break their negative cycles, but as always, the journey is full of ups and downs. Imagine this: one of their twin boys slams his brother's hand in the door, leading to a frantic trip to the hospital. While Drew is at a work event, Melissa is left to handle the chaos alone. When she reaches out to Drew for help, they find themselves in a classic anxious-avoidant clash. Melissa, feeling the urgency of the moment, needs immediate emotional validation. For her, addressing the issue right away is crucial, as waiting can make her feel like her emotions are being dismissed. On the other hand, Drew prefers to process things and discuss them later when emotions have cooled down. Can you see how this disconnect creates tension? In these situations, Melissa often feels like a failure as a mom and wife. She battles dark thoughts, wondering if Drew and the kids might be better off without her. It's a heartbreaking struggle many can relate to. Join us as we explore how Melissa and Drew navigate these intense moments, using the tools they've learned in therapy. How do they manage to connect despite their differing styles? And what can we learn from their journey to help in our own relationships? This episode is a powerful reminder that progress is possible, even when the road is tough. Follow Julie Menanno on social media @thesecurerelationship. Visit Julie's website The Secure Relationship for all information on upcoming workshops and access to resources. Purchase Julie's book Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime
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In today's episode, I'm unpacking three common pain points that virtually all anxious-avoidant couples will encounter at some point in their relationship. We'll talk about why these particular fights are so common, and what they're really about - so you can approach them next time with more empathy and understanding, and avoid the disconnection and hurt that comes with the typical anxious-avoidant trap. Secure Together Course (save 50% with code HEYBABY): secure-together.com
Got a question that needs fixing? Post it on our subreddit r/CanThisBeFixed for a chance to be featured in an upcoming Podcast episode! What should you do if a dismissive avoidant ex reappears unexpectedly? Why do anxious attachments and dismissive avoidants often end up together? How should you respond when a fearful avoidant ex wants to be friends again? In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais and co-host Mike discuss common anxious/avoidant relationship dynamics and the internal worlds of these attachment styles when their safety is threatened. Can things work better the second time around? Watch to learn what's needed for a proper second chance. Let's connect! https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/
In today's episode, we're exploring the tension between the conflicting needs for time together and time apart that can so often become a source of friction in anxious-avoidant dynamics. Specifically, I'm sharing a simple but very effective tip that will both reduce separation anxiety for the anxious partner, and increase the avoidant partner's comfort with time spent together, creating a win-win for both partners and reducing the likelihood of repeated ruptures.
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Most people in the dating market either have an anxious attachment style or an avoidant one. Can a relationship work? If so, how? In this episode, we look deeply at the dynamic of this type of relationship. Let's connect on Instagram: @itsellemio Mio x
TAKE OUR 6 WEEK HEALING FROM TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS COURSE BELOW https://unfiltered-experience-s-school.teachable.com/p/healing-from-toxic-relationships This week the girls do a deep dive into what week 2 of their toxic relationship course is about: healing your attachment! They discuss their journey to secure attachment. Navigating the pain of unlearning anxious and avoidant tendencies and, how the nature of your relationship can impact how your behaviour in relationships play out. Episode resources: https://shop.eyemindspirit.com/ Please note: If you haven't heard of attachment theory before, jump into their course or to episode 7: a beginners guide to self development. Email us at: theunfilteredexperience@outlook.com Or reach out and connect with us on social media: Instagram: https://instagram.com/unfilteredexperience_podcast?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA== Tik Tok: http://www.tiktok.com/@unfilteredexperience YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@UnfilteredExperience_Podcast --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/unfiltered-experience-444/message
In this week's mini-episode, I talk about 3 common reasons and behaviours that I see that prevent anxious/avoidant relationships from working. Plus give you some tips on solving the challenges. Connect With David - The Authentic Man: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/ For Coaching: hello@theauthenticman.net Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe Avoidant Man's Programme Waitlist: https://forms.gle/DLfjJpiyTukddjUM9 Making Anxious Avoidant Relationships Work - Tues, May 7, 2024, at 7:30 PM = https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/making-anxious-avoidant-relationships-work-tickets-863791612967?aff=oddtdtcreator
3 Ways to Fix Anxious Avoidant Relationships In this video, we reveal 3 proven fixes for anxious-avoidant relationships that are guaranteed to work every time. If you're struggling with the dynamics of an anxious-avoidant relationship, these practical tips will help you navigate the challenges and build a healthier connection. Don't let anxiety and avoidance hinder your relationship—try these strategies today!
Dr. Thais Gibson is known for her work on attachment theory. She created Gibson Integrated Attachment Theory™, an innovative framework uniting traditional attachment theory, developmental psychology insights, and subconscious reprogramming techniques. This framework is reflected in the courses she teaches in The Personal Development School, in her innovative coach training program and in her most recent book, Learning Love (https://amzn.to/4a63tEI) In this episode of Last First Date Radio: The attachment styles and their impact on relationships How partners with anxious/avoidant styles can succeed How past wounds affect our relationships How to heal past wounds Tips and tools for creating healthier relationships Website: https://university.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool Free Life-Changing Quiz to Discover Your Attachment Style in Just 5 Minutes ►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio ►If you're feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application ►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate ►Get Sandy's books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook and Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 ►Get FREE coaching on the podcast! https://bit.ly/LFDradiocoaching ►FREE download: “Top 10 Reasons Why Men Suddenly Pull Away” http://bit.ly/whymendisappear ►Group Coaching: https://lastfirstdate.com/the-woman-of-value-club/ ►Website → https://lastfirstdate.com/ ► Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/lastfirstdate1/ ►Get Amazon Music Unlimited FREE for 30 days at getamazonmusic.com/lastfirstdate --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/sandy-weiner9/message
Talking points: attachment, relationships Got a LOT of requests for this one! Relationships between anxious attachment and avoidant attachment folks are actually quite common. They can also be extremely tough. Listen in for what they're like, why the patterns are hard to break, and how to move towards a secure, grounded partnership. (00:00:00) - Intro, what characterizes the anxious-avoidant dance, and why there's no “villain” (00:04:08) - Why that dance is so strong (00:08:28) - Examples of the anxious-avoidant dynamic (00:12:58) - Can anxious-avoidant relationships actually work, how to know if it won't, and how to END the dance (00:16:56) - The “protest and punishment” behaviors, and how to self-identify if you're the anxious partner (00:21:23) - How to self-identify if you're the avoidant one (00:27:05) - So what do you to? Tips for the anxious (00:33:05) - Tips for the avoidant (00:38:19) - What to do together *** Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's Weekend Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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You won't look at yourself or other people the same after listening to this episode.Attachment is a core aspect of your being, a guide to your love life. In the complex world of dating, understanding attachment dynamics is key. This episode decodes the three Insecure Attachment Styles: Anxious, Avoidant, and Disorganized, and how to work towards finding love and feeling more confident in the process.Inside, you'll learn:How each style develops so you can understand yourself and others betterHow these styles show up in dating: What to look out for in yourself and othersHow to work towards being Secure: Practical tools and steps you can take Want to learn more about Secure?Message me "Secure Info + Insecure attachment dating episode" on IG or email to learn more and qualify for the podcast discount. LINKS:1:1 Information, Application & WaitlistFacilitation TrainingBoundary CourseInstagramWebsite
Welcome Back, Witches! This week, Suzanne and Nikole take a second dive into Attachment Theory! Whether you are secure, anxious, avoidant, or disorganized in your attachment style, you will want to turn into this week's episode! Today we discuss Disorganized and Secure attachment styles, how they develop, manifest, and can cause havoc or stability in your life! Still unsure if you have a disorganized or secure style? Don't worry, we give some examples from fictional characters AND reality stars so you can better relate. Because patience is a virtue, you will have to get through our current events update before you can hear all about attachment theory. Two of those current events: Suzanne went parasailing and Nikole is learning Gen Z slang AND bible stories from Tiktok. Learn about the bible & Gen Z slang on TikTok at @gen.z.bible.stories
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Comedian Ali Kolbert sits down with Mal to discuss her pattern of pursuing straight women. The two dive into Ali's high school obsession with her straight best friend and how the dynamics of that friendship affected her lesbian dating life. Ali opens up about why she found herself in these seemingly dead-end relationships and what steps she's taken to break the pattern. The two also discuss finding your queer identity, fitting into queer spaces and Anxious-Avoidant attachment styles. Listen to Ali's podcast, Breaking Down with Ali Kolbert: https://open.spotify.com/show/27KEFQNRq3kBf8uvH744bk Follow our guest @alikolbert and please remember to subscribe, rate, review and share this podcast with your massage therapist!
One partner has an anxious attachment style and gets triggered by her partner needing a time out during an argument, or threatening to leave. The other partner has an avoidant attachment style and gets emotionally flooded during disagreements. During these challenging moments, the anxious partner seeks to turn towards their partner, needing to reconnect in order to calm their physiology. The avoidant person turns away from the relationship, seeking time and space to calm themselves. The anxious partner pursues the avoidant partner verbally and physically, resulting in neither person getting their needs met. This is one of the most common relational dynamics we have seen in our private practice assisting couples to rekindle their passion and connection. Even Joree and John struggled with it! Listen in as they explain what this dynamic is and, more importantly, how to break out of it for a happier and more connected relationship. Here's a hint: It takes a combination of individual work and relational work to evolve beyond it! To find out more about our upcoming monthly Relationship Master Classes, please visit https://joreerose.com/loveisntenoughmasterclass/.To find out more about our Fulfilling Relationships Retreat in Costa Rica September 28 – October 5, 2024 at Pura Vida Resort, please visit https://loveisntenough.net/costa-rica/For information on our Ultimate Relationship Coaching Package, visit https://loveisntenough.net/the-ultimate-relationship-coaching-package/
This week we're talking about insecure attachment styles! We'll uncover the roots of anxious, avoidant, and fearful avoidant attachment styles. From understanding childhood traumas to its impact on our adult relationships, we'll explore how self-awareness, vulnerability, and personal responsibility can pave the way towards earned secure attachment, fostering healthier and more fulfilling relationships.Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on the Membership! Work With Me:The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)1:1 Session: Every month I open a limited number of private sessions where we dive deep into your unique situation, unravel patterns, and discover empowering solutions. Together, we will explore the depths of your emotions, thoughts, and experiences, so that you leave with newfound clarity and direction.Support the show
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Have you ever wondered why some people find comfort in the distance while others seek perpetual closeness? We'll explore these contrasting needs, examining the subtle art of balancing intimacy with independence, especially after life-altering events like divorce. Discover the invisible threads that weave through our relationships, binding us in patterns we often don't realize we're repeating. Let's journey into the heart of attachment theory, revealing how our earliest interactions with caregivers set the stage for our adult connections. We will unravel the complexities of avoidant attachment, the anxious-avoidant trap, and the road to becoming an "earned secure" attacher. In this episode, you will: 1. Understand the deep-rooted impact of attachment styles on your relationships and break free from repetitive patterns.2. Gain valuable tools to heal attachment breaches and work with your nervous system for emotional wellness.3. Learn how to spot avoidant attachment traits within yourself and potential partners to navigate relationships more consciously.Take the first step in understanding and transforming your attachment style to create more fulfilling relationships post-divorce. Tune in to the episode for expert guidance, actionable strategies, and real-life insights to support your journey to a more secure attachment style.Loneliness Roadmap on HeartBeatPost Divorce Roadmap - 21 Days of Guided JournalingFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/MyCoachDawnInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/dawnwiggins/On the Web: https://www.mycoachdawn.com A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction in the process of forgiveness.
DON'T MISS THIS! Grab your seat at for the Move to Secure Attachment 3-Day Challenge: *CLICK HERE TO REGISTER FOR THE FREE CHALLENGE*Today's topic is utterly fascinating, and if it's ever happened to you, you know just how painful it can be. I am talking about the anxious/avoidant dating trap, where these opposing attachment styles are drawn to one another like a moth to a flame. Inside this episode: -I review both anxious and avoidant attachment styles and the beliefs they have about relationships -I share how you can break the cycle of the anxious/avoidant dating rollercoaster -Important parts when to consider when healing the anxious/avoidant dynamic in a couple Aaaaaand so much more! It's time to become the version of you who attracts her emotionally available dream partner without wasting time on the wrong guys. Stop the dating games and become the securely attached version of you: Click Here to Apply to the E.S.L. ProgramEpisode Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction and Overview03:22 Anxious Attachment04:20 Avoidant Attachment07:41 Anxious-Avoidant Dynamic12:26 Physical Intimacy in Anxious-Avoidant Dynamic14:20 Moving Towards Secure Attachment15:43 Working on Anxious-Avoidant Dynamic18:28 Asking for Reassurance and Giving Reassurance21:20 Disorganized Attachment23:14 Taking Action to Changed26:02 Conclusion
I've spent a lot of time over the past 18 months looking into the various attachment styles of men – anxious, avoidant, and secure. I think we all intuitively know that “secure” is the best place to be, but the question is, “How do we get there?” It's especially difficult considering our engrained attachment style drives so much of our decision-making process – much of which is subconscious. My guest today is licensed psychotherapist and attachment specialist, Adam Lane Smith. Today, Adam and I discuss building secure, sustainable relationships, why responsibility breeds security and why we subconsciously avoid it, how the chemicals, Oxytocin and Vasopressin, drive our emotional and problem-solving connections, and why every man needs to work on building his “male solution network.” SHOW HIGHLIGHTS Building secure and sustainable relationships Why responsibility breeds security, and why we subconsciously avoid it How the chemicals oxytocin and vasopressin drive our emotional and problem solving connections Why ever man needs to work on building his male solution network The different attachment styles seen in men Modern day dating The 5 clusters that are relied on to create healthy and secure attachment Modern femininity versus masculinity Building emotional intimacy JOIN the Iron Council brotherhood. Subscribe to the Order of Man YouTube Channel Battle Planners are back in stock. Pick yours up today! Get your signed copy of Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready
Wellness + Wisdom | Episode 595 Can relationship death be the beginning of true love? Margo Running, Holistic and Spiritual Healer, accompanies Josh Trent and his partner, Carrie Michelle, on the Wellness + Wisdom podcast, episode 595, where together they unravel how their relationship had to die to be recreated anew without projecting their trauma onto each other, why they decided to stay together, and how Margo helped guide them through this process. "When I saw you both loving each other so much, and yet this confusion of what that needs to look like. We're hereditary and generational trauma gets passed on. I saw all of our ancestors looking at this moment going "We didn't know how to make it good. Can you?" And we're like, yes, we are actually changing this understanding of love." - Margo Running Live Life Well from Sunrise to Sunset Save 20% with code "WELLNESSFORCE" on everyone's favorite Superfoods brand, ORGANIFI, including their Sunrise to Sunset Bundle with the best tasting Green, Red, and Gold Juice blends to make your day complete. Click HERE to order your Organifi today. Are You Stressed Out Lately? Take a deep breath with the M21™ wellness guide: a simple yet powerful 21 minute morning system that melts stress and gives you more energy through 6 science-backed practices and breathwork. Click HERE to download for free. Experience Red Light Therapy at HomeSave 10% on your SaunaSpace order with the code "JOSH10" Unlike the traditional methods, near-infrared light works with your body's biology to create radiant heat from the inside out. By using near-infrared's shorter wavelengths in a way that mimics natural sunlight, the light penetrates deeply to raise your core temperature faster. *Review The Wellness + Wisdom Podcast & WIN $150 in wellness prizes! *Join The Facebook Group In This Episode, Margo Running + Carrie Michelle Uncover: [01:30] Relationship Death + Rebirth Carrie Michelle Margo Running What brought Carrie-Michelle and Josh to work with Margo. Margo‘s story and what she dedicates herself to. Why the real world is between the mind and the heart. [08:00] The Anxious-Avoidant Dance Why Josh expected Carrie Michelle to change and not himself. 463 JP Sears | This Is How Media HIJACKS Your Mind: Stop Censoring Yourself & Heal The Tyrant Within 386 Mark Groves | Create More Love: How To Deal w/ Breakups, Boundaries, & Beyond Overcoming the anxious-avoidant dynamic together. How the relationship mirrored Carrie Michelle‘s deep wounds. [13:45] Choosing to Be Together Why true union feels different than what Josh thought it would. The importance of choosing yourself. Why Carrie Michelle felt like she was the source of Josh‘s suffering. How she finally knows that Josh is choosing her from a place of love. [18:45] What Is Love? How to love someone even if they‘re not with you. Why many people who love each other split up. What love truly is. Gabor Mate You can change the understanding of love for yourself and the next generation. Finding your own essence within a relationship. [25:00] The Ceremony of Life Josh‘s experience with plant medicine. When the heart says yes and the mind says no. The power of intention in a ceremony. Why every moment in life should be a ceremony. The importance of asking yourself, "What can I learn from you?" [30:45] Love Doesn‘t Keep a Score How Carrie Michelle recognized the battle of sexes in their relationship. The reason why she never felt safe around men. Why Josh was keeping a score in their relationship. What made him finally understand what it means to choose yourself. [34:45] Compassionate Inquiry How Margo received Josh by asking him the right questions. The purpose of gentle healing. Why the integration of what you learned is the most important part of healing. Your protective mechanisms are necessary to keep you safe. Why Carrie Michelle felt scared to open up to Josh. [41:45] Old Wounds Resurface in Relationships Why Carrie Michelle needed to know Josh could love her even if it wasn‘t in service to him. How she realized she wanted to be with him. The ways Josh‘s decision to not be like his father with women played out in his relationships. Why he needed a guarantee in everything in life that he was going to be ok. [48:45] From Children to Parents What keeps us from being present. How as a parent you can sit with your children‘s feelings and make all of their feelings welcome. What God means to Josh. Parents do the best they can, even though it may hurt their children. How Margo stays connected to her inner child and playfulness. Why fairy tales and myths carry truth. [57:00] Getting Past the Conflicts How you can find your wounds in your body. What Josh realized during the time he spent away from Carrie Michelle. How Carrie Michelle knew in her soul she wanted to be with Josh despite all their problems. Why she thought they would never record a podcast together. [01:05:00] Softening the Heart The softening Josh has felt in the past days. What drove him to want big things in life. David Goggings How hurt people also want to play, even though they don‘t show it. Finding Joe How posture shows how you‘re protecting yourself. [01:12:15] Projecting The Parental Wounds How Margo stayed open to love despite having been hurt by men. Letting someone go with honor and respect. Why Carrie Michelle is committed to healing her wounds. Both anxious and avoidant play a dynamic role in a relationship. How Carrie Michelle switched to being avoidant in the relationship with Josh. The way Josh‘s relationship with his mom played out in the relationship with Carrie Michelle. Why the absence of someone in your life can be a gift. [01:23:15] The Truth of Plant Medicine Unpacking what Margo feels to be true about plant medicine ceremonies. What plant medicine is used for. Why the medicine is not going to save you. Margo‘s message to couples that are struggling. 483 Wayland Myers | NonViolent Communication: How to Stop Arguments In 60 Seconds + The Power of Loving Detachment Why words are sacred. [01:32:05] Finding a Way Back to Love The tyrant that lived in Josh‘s mind. Why men lean towards getting things done instead of resting. Understanding what lives between two people. How the same core wounds have been triggering fights in the relationship. Why you should look for the "yes" before your mind figures out how to do it. Leave Wellness + Wisdom a Review on Apple Podcasts Power Quotes From The Show Love Doesn‘t Keep Score "Love does not keep score. But I was keeping score because I thought if it doesn‘t work out, then I have all this evidence stacked to why she hurt me and why everything transpired the way it did. I was building a case as to if it didn‘t work out then like it was her fault. What was missing was me not loving Josh. Not choosing Josh. Not actually fucking choosing Josh. Not even knowing what it is to choose myself." - Josh Trent Love Beyond A Relationship "I didn't know if you were going to love me beyond our relationship. I had to know that you were going to love me even if it wasn't in service to you. It feels different when you can truly choose someone and you‘re not choosing someone out of fear of losing them." - Carrie Michelle Let Go of Your Triggers "I have to let go of everything that is triggering me, what I think is wrong, and what I'm blaming you, shaming you, or judging you about and just ask myself "What can I really learn from this?" You're not my dad, you're not my mom, but on some visceral level this lives in us. And we unconsciously push it onto the person that we love. It's just so sad that we do that. But it's liberating to have that awareness." - Josh Trent Links From Today's Show Carrie Michelle Margo Running 463 JP Sears | This Is How Media HIJACKS Your Mind: Stop Censoring Yourself & Heal The Tyrant Within 386 Mark Groves | Create More Love: How To Deal w/ Breakups, Boundaries, & Beyond Gabor Mate David Goggings Finding Joe 483 Wayland Myers | NonViolent Communication: How to Stop Arguments In 60 Seconds + The Power of Loving Detachment Josh's Trusted Products | Up To 40% Off Shop All Products BREATHE - 33% off with the code “PODCAST33” SiPhox - 10% off with code "JOSH" Holy Hydrogen - $100 off with code "JOSH" Myoxcience - Save 20% with code "JOSH20" SinuSonic - 15% off with "JOSH15" Organifi - 20% off with the code ‘WELLNESSFORCE' QI-Shield EMF Device - 20% off with the code "JOSH" SEED Synbiotic - 30% off with the code "JOSHTRENT" BON CHARGE - 15% off with the code "JOSH15" MANNA Vitality - 20% off with the code "JOSH20" SimplyO3 - 10% off with code "JOSH10" Kineon - 10% off with code "JOSH10" Mendi.io - 20% off with the code "JOSH20" Adapt Naturals - 15% off with code "WELLNESSFORCE" SpectraSculpt - 15% off with the code "JOSH15" SaunaSpace - 10% off with the code "JOSH10" Cured Nutrition CBD - 20% off with the code "WELLNESS FORCE" PLUNGE - $150 off with the code “WELLNESSFORCE" LiftMode - 10% off with the code "JOSH10" MitoZen - 10% off with the code “WELLNESSFORCE” Paleovalley - 15% off with the link only NOOTOPIA - 10% off with the code "JOSH10" Activation Products - 20% off with the code “WELLNESSFORCE” SENSATE - $25 off with the code "JOSH25" BiOptimizers - 10% off with the code "JOSH10" ION - 15% off with the code ‘JOSH15' Feel Free from Botanic Tonics - $40 off with the code "WELLNESS40" Essential Oil Wizardry - Save 15% with "WELLNESSFORCE" ALIVE WATERS - 33% off your first order with the code "JOSH33" Earth Runners Shoes - 10% off with code "JOSH10" DRY FARM WINES - Get an extra bottle of Pure Natural Wine with your order for just 1¢ Drink LMNT - Zero Sugar Hydration: Get your free LMNT Sample Pack, with any purchase EnergyBITS - Save 20% with "WELLNESSFORCE" Create Wellness Creatine Gummies - Save 20% with "JOSH20" EQUIP Foods - Save 15% with code JOSH15 Free Resources M21 Wellness Guide - Free 3-Week Breathwork Program with Josh Trent Join Wellness + Wisdom Community About Margo Running San Francisco born, Euro descent, walking lightly on the land currently on Maui, the home of voyagers, the Kanaka Maoli Margo has lived many incarnations in this life, many careers fully expressed, from cooking for 350 people daily, as a massage therapist, and kindergarten teacher; all for decades each period. Every experience is for learning. She strives to craft unconscious reactions that divide into responses that connect, as she believes most suffering is from long-held suffering of disconnection. Her work as a teacher has grown into support for parents so children can grow and thrive in a supportive community. No website or social media. Families are welcome to contact her, though the ocean is where she‘ll be most of the time. Instagram About Carrie Michelle Carrie Michelle is living life to the fullest in Austin, Texas as a mother of two beautiful children, and with her soul-man, Josh. As a transformational guide specializing in NLP and hypnotherapy, she empowers women to find their confidence to speak their truth. Carrie Michelle has mentored with sacred-elders in postpartum, motherhood, soul-evolution and emotional intelligence—holding certifications in a wide range of healing modalities. 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In this week's podcast episode, I share my personal experience with navigating the distance in my relationship, as we tend to spend long periods apart due to the nature of his work. I also talk about the challenges of anxious-avoidant dynamics and how we make it work. ————— 1:1 Attachment Coaching - https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2 My Secure Self - https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course
In this episode, I am diving into the popular topic of the Anxious & Avoidant trap, two insecure attachment styles that are highly attracted to each other but struggle to meet each others needs. This creates a painful push pull dynamic that makes getting their happy ever after a tricky road, full of triggers and lessons. Can they make it? In this episode I will dive into 5 mistakes that the anxious attachment style makes in these relationships & what to do instead, as well as answer the popular question, can anxious & avoidant work together? If you're ready to work on your anxious attachment style so that you are less triggered and feel secure in your relationships, the Secure Mastermind has been designed to give you all the tools, teachings and support to move to a secure attachment style.
In today's episode, I'm joined by my partner Joel and we're answering your questions about how we've navigated aspects of the anxious-avoidant dynamic in our relationship. We talk about:doing "the work" individually and as a couplehow we've built trust and safety over timehow we manage conflict and have hard conversationsFurther Links & Resources Join the waitlist for my new couples course, Secure Together Save $150 on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX Follow me on Youtube Download the free guide: Attachment 101 Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg & @onattachment Visit my website
The Decoding Couples Podcast: Unfiltered Relationship Advice & Marriage Tips
This episode unpacks the dynamic between the most common attachment style pairing in relationships: Anxious & Avoidant. Spoiler alert: This is the exact dynamic of our partnership! We are diving into how each attachment style responds when faced with conflict, attraction, and intimacy. Plus we answer the BIG question: Can this type of relationship work in the long run? If you'd love to work on some of the issues in this episode relationally or individually, check out the Decoding Couples Membership (Doors OPEN 9/18!): Join the membership
Mismatched libido in a relationship is a challenge that a lot of couples face. In today's episode, I'll be answering a listener's question of how to navigate mismatched libido in a relationship, particularly in an anxious-avoidant dynamic. I'll guide you on strategies to break the anxious-avoidant spiral, by initiating open dialogue and finding a middle ground between both partners.We'll cover:It's not going to be 100% aligned all the timeHow sex shows up for anxious and avoidant attachment stylesTaking someone's behaviour as our own faultUse the code PODCAST50 for 50% off the Sex and Attachment Masterclass - https://www.stephanierigg.com/sex-attachmentFurther Links & Resources Sign up for my upcoming masterclass on Building Trust Follow me on Youtube Download the free guide: Attachment 101 Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg & @onattachment Visit my website
On this weeks episode of Do the Work, Sabrina is joined by therapist Zoe Crook to chat about emotionally unavailable, anxious/avoidant trap and debunk the myth that avoidants are the 'bad' people in dating. Zoes Book HERE! Zoes website HERE! Free month of open meditation! Want to work with Sabrina? HERE
On this weeks episode, Sabrina goes over how anxious/avoidant handle breakups, how to move through it, what to do after, and things to do when youre anxious and dealing with a breakup!