Lee (he/him/his) spent several years searching for connection and community by any means. After years of disappointing drama and spectacular failures, he discovered how understanding his own patterns of behavior would help him create his own community. Lee engages in conversations with thought leaders, coaches and other spectacular people, he answers your friendship and relationship questions and shares his experiences and life lessons with an energetic blend of storytelling and music. Interviews released every Tuesday. Stories and Q&A episodes are released on alternating Fridays.
Unmasking. If I could do it all over again, I'd some things differently.In this episode, we talk about what I've learned and three ways that you can cope as you unmask.This is for anyone learning to trust their own instincts and intuition.Want meaningful relationships? Click here.Only 5 spots available for a private 1-hour coaching session this June.Book yours at: https://calendly.com/patternsofpossibility/complimentary-breakthrough#autisticadult #unmasking #authenticconnection
Tired of being the “nice one” but still feeling misunderstood?This episode breaks down 3 signs you're stuck in people-pleasing and how to finally show up as your real, unedited self. Learn how to set boundaries, stop overexplaining, and build connections that don't drain you.Want meaningful relationships? Click here.Only 5 spots available for a private 1-hour coaching session this June.Book yours at: https://calendly.com/patternsofpossibility/complimentary-breakthrough#autisticadult #unmasking #authenticconnection
Struggling to make friends as a late-diagnosed autistic adult or neurodivergent professional?Listen for 5 common mistakes in first conversations that drive a wedge between you and any new relationship. Discover what to say instead to build trust, reduce social anxiety, and form real, authentic connections. Includes practical scripts and unmasking tips.Want meaningful relationships? Click here.Only 5 spots available for a private 1-hour coaching session this June.Book yours at: https://calendly.com/patternsofpossibility/complimentary-breakthrough#autisticadult #unmasking #authenticconnection
Tired of pretending to be someone you're not just to keep the peace? In this solo episode, Coach Lee Hopkins breaks down the emotional cost of shrinking, masking, and people-pleasing especially for neurodivergent adults and those healing from rejection sensitivity. You'll learn how to recognize when it's time to let go of draining relationships, how to unmask without guilt, and how to connect in ways that actually feel real.Are your boundaries protecting you or just hiding you?➜ Take the Boundaries & Masking Quiz at www.patternsofpossibility.com to discover your personal style and learn how to unmask with confidence.
Are you being loved for who you are or for who you've trained others to see?In this episode, we talk about the harmful effects of being surrounded by people who don't actually know you.➜ Want to build authentic relationships + grow your social connections?➜ Visit www.patternsofpossibility.com to take the Boundaries & Masking Quiz. You'll uncover your personal boundary style as well as tips to unmask safely and build more authentic connections.
In this episode, we break down seven subtle but damaging phrases that toxic people often use to make you doubt yourself. If you've spent a lifetime masking or second-guessing your instincts, this one's for you.➜ Want to build authentic relationships + grow your social connections?➜ Visit https://linktr.ee/patternsofpossibility for free course, quizzes and more.
AI is not your friend.➜ Want to build authentic relationships + grow your social connections?➜ Visit https://linktr.ee/patternsofpossibility for free course, quizzes and more.
There's this idea that a diagnosis from a doctor somehow makes everything clearer, right? That if it's formal, it's “official,” and somehow it'll make the struggles feel more validated. But here's the truth: you are not less valid if you self-diagnose.➜ Want to build authentic relationships + grow your social connections?➜ Visit https://linktr.ee/patternsofpossibility for free course, quizzes and more.
We all start as strangers but for some of us, it feels like we're meant to stay that way.Being autistic means that connection doesn't always come easily.Listen to this episode to learn the 3 common reasons I've felt it happen and what I've done to overcome and connect.➜ Want to build authentic relationships + grow your social connections?➜ Visit https://linktr.ee/patternsofpossibility for free course, quizzes and more.
Are you confused about which social cues to look for?As a late diagnosed autistic adult, it's likely you've never been taught what to pay attention to.Fortunately, you can start to learn these 3 to make a solid connection.Listen to discover what they are and how to respond.➜ Want to build authentic relationships + grow your social connections?➜ Visit https://linktr.ee/patternsofpossibility for free course, quizzes and more.
Can you tell the difference between genuine connection and surface-level social games?Being autistic you're likely to miss important cues.Listen to this episode to learn how to determine who is your friend and who is fake.➜ Want to build authentic relationships + grow your social connections?➜ Visit https://linktr.ee/patternsofpossibility for free course, quizzes and more.
You want people to show up for you, but do you know how to show up?Listen to this episode to learn what to do to build the community you always wished for.➜ Want to build authentic relationships + grow your social connections?➜ Visit https://linktr.ee/patternsofpossibility for free course, quizzes and more.
You reached a point where you DGAF about what other's think. You're ready to rip that mask off.But hold on there.You might make things a lot worse.Listen to this episode to learn how showing up raw and unfiltered isn't always the best idea and what to do instead.➜ Want to build authentic relationships + grow your social connections?➜ Visit https://linktr.ee/patternsofpossibility for free course, quizzes and more.➜EVENT: No More Boring Conversations [March 26, 2025]Register Now. Space is limited to 15 attendees.https://www.patternsofpossibility.com/events/boringconversations
How do you know if they really want a genuine friendship? Look out for these 5 overused phrases. It's a dead giveaway.Listen to this episode to learn what people who want real connection will and won't say.➜ Want to build authentic relationships + grow your social connections?➜ Visit https://linktr.ee/patternsofpossibility for free course, quizzes and more.➜EVENT: No More Boring Conversations [March 26, 2025]Register Now. Space is limited to 15 attendees.https://www.patternsofpossibility.com/events/boringconversations
Your all or nothing outlook on relationships is limiting your social circle and growth potential.Building relationships isn't about choosing between friendships and associates.It's about understanding their specific purposes.Listen to this episode to become more discerning in your friendships and with associates.➜ Want to build authentic relationships + grow your social connections?➜ Visit https://linktr.ee/patternsofpossibility for free course, quizzes and more.➜EVENT: No More Boring Conversations [March 26, 2025]Register Now. Space is limited to 15 attendees.https://www.patternsofpossibility.com/events/boringconversations
Your friendship is over.It hurts.What do you do with those feelings of being dismissed and discarded?➜ Want to build authentic relationships + grow your social connections?➜ Visit https://linktr.ee/patternsofpossibility for free course, quizzes and more.➜EVENT: No More Boring Conversationshttps://www.patternsofpossibility.com/events/boringconversations
Do you feel like you're in a one-sided friendship?Find out what you to do if you don't want to leave but you're not sure if you should stay?➜ Want to build authentic relationships + grow your social connections?➜ Visit https://linktr.ee/patternsofpossibility for free course, quizzes and more.➜EVENT: No More Boring Conversationshttps://www.patternsofpossibility.com/events/boringconversations
If you're looking to make deeper connections, stop employing these overhyped 3 tips. They only create surface level relationships. ➜ Want to build authentic relationships + grow your social connections? ➜ Visit https://linktr.ee/patternsofpossibility for free course, quizzes and more.
If I had learned these when I was growing up, I'd have a much stronger social circle today. ➜ Want to build authentic relationships + grow your social connections? ➜ Visit https://linktr.ee/patternsofpossibility for free course, quizzes and more.
If you've felt rejected in the past, your brain wants to avoid that pain. So, you reject others first. But here's the thing: rejecting people prematurely robs you of meaningful connections. Rejecting early blocks meaningful connections. ➜ Want to build authentic relationships + grow your social connections? ➜ Access Coaching & Courses: https://linktr.ee/patternsofpossibility.
In this episode, I share how I discover that I'm autistic. It really explains a lot about honestly.
In this episode, I share what to look out for if you're going to break no contact with your family.
In this episode, I share how to stop your past experiences from making genuine connections today.
In this episode, I share how to deal with those friends who show up whenever they want instead of when they're needed.
In this episode, I share why making friends can feel like a waste of time.
In this episode, I share how to fix your toxic friend.
In this episode, I share how to the realization that you're the toxic friend. ***************** Are you an empathetic person who wants more depth in your conversations? Join the Trust & Thrive Tribe: https://www.patternsofpossibility.com/trustandthrive Get 1 on 1 support: Whether you want to feel more included at work or make a close personal friend, I can help you: Repair current relationships. Reconnect with past relationships. Create new quality personal and professional relationships. Book a 1 on 1 to discuss how I can help you. https://calendly.com/patternsofpossibility/friendly-conversation
In this episode, I share how to handle friends who aren't interested in the real you. ***************** Are you an empathetic person who wants more depth in your conversations? Join the Trust & Thrive Tribe: https://www.patternsofpossibility.com/trustandthrive Get 1 on 1 support: Whether you want to feel more included at work or make a close personal friend, I can help you: Repair current relationships. Reconnect with past relationships. Create new quality personal and professional relationships. Book a 1 on 1 to discuss how I can help you. https://calendly.com/patternsofpossibility/friendly-conversation
In this episode, I share how to handle fights with your friends. ***************** Are you an empathetic person who wants more depth in your conversations? Join the Trust & Thrive Tribe: https://www.patternsofpossibility.com/trustandthrive Get 1 on 1 support: Whether you want to feel more included at work or make a close personal friend, I can help you: Repair current relationships. Reconnect with past relationships. Create new quality personal and professional relationships. Book a 1 on 1 to discuss how I can help you. https://calendly.com/patternsofpossibility/friendly-conversation
In this episode, I share how to handle shame in your relationships. ***************** Are you an empathetic person who wants more depth in your conversations? Whether you want to feel more included at work or make a close personal friend, I can help you: Repair current relationships. Reconnect with past relationships. Create new quality personal and professional relationships. Let's have a friendly conversation to discuss how I can help you! https://calendly.com/patternsofpossibility/friendly-conversation
In this episode, I share why I only give 3 strikes before I make changes in a relationship. ***************** Are you an empathetic person who wants more depth in your conversations? Whether you want to feel more included at work or make a close personal friend, I can help you: Repair current relationships. Reconnect with past relationships. Create new quality personal and professional relationships. Let's have a friendly conversation to discuss how I can help you! https://calendly.com/patternsofpossibility/friendly-conversation
In this episode, I share what to do if you're dealing with a friend who misinterprets what you say. ***************** Are you an empathetic person who wants more depth in your conversations? Whether you want to feel more included at work or make a close personal friend, I can help you: Repair current relationships. Reconnect with past relationships. Create new quality personal and professional relationships. Let's have a friendly conversation to discuss how I can help you! https://calendly.com/patternsofpossibility/friendly-conversation
In this episode, I share what to do if you're dealing with a friend who always gets angry on your behalf. ***************** Are you an empathetic person who wants more depth in your conversations? Whether you want to feel more included at work or make a close personal friend, I can help you: Repair current relationships. Reconnect with past relationships. Create new quality personal and professional relationships. Let's have a friendly conversation to discuss how I can help you! https://calendly.com/patternsofpossibility/friendly-conversation
In this episode, I share what to do with friends that are holding you back. ***************** Are you an empathetic person who wants more depth in your conversations? Whether you want to feel more included at work or make a close personal friend, I can help you: Repair current relationships. Reconnect with past relationships. Create new quality personal and professional relationships. Let's have a friendly conversation to discuss how I can help you! https://calendly.com/patternsofpossibility/friendly-conversation
In this episode, I share what to do with friends that are holding you back. ***************** Are you an empathetic person who wants more depth in your conversations? Whether you want to feel more included at work or make a close personal friend, I can help you: Repair current relationships. Reconnect with past relationships. Create new quality personal and professional relationships. Let's have a friendly conversation to discuss how I can help you! https://calendly.com/patternsofpossibility/friendly-conversation
In this episode, I share what to do if you're drifting from your friends. ***************** Are you an empathetic person who wants more depth in your conversations? Whether you want to feel more included at work or make a close personal friend, I can help you: Repair current relationships. Reconnect with past relationships. Create new quality personal and professional relationships. Let's have a friendly conversation to discuss how I can help you! https://calendly.com/patternsofpossibility/friendly-conversation
In this episode, I share what to do if you think your friend is using you. ***************** Are you an empathetic person who wants more depth in your conversations? Whether you want to feel more included at work or make a close personal friend, I can help you: Repair current relationships. Reconnect with past relationships. Create new quality personal and professional relationships. Let's have a friendly conversation to discuss how I can help you! https://calendly.com/patternsofpossibility/friendly-conversation
In this episode, I share why constant second guessing erodes your sense of self and trust in others. ***************** Are you an empathetic person who wants more depth in your conversations? Whether you want to feel more included at work or make a close personal friend, I can help you: Repair current relationships. Reconnect with past relationships. Create new quality personal and professional relationships. Let's have a friendly conversation to discuss how I can help you! https://calendly.com/patternsofpossibility/friendly-conversation
In this episode, I share 3 skills you need to make friends. ***************** Are you an empathetic person who wants more depth in your conversations?Whether you want to feel more included at work or make a close personal friend, I can help you: Repair current relationships. Reconnect with past relationships Create new quality personal and professional relationships. Let's have a friendly conversation to discuss how I can help you! https://calendly.com/patternsofpossibility/friendly-conversation
In this episode, I share why the Devil's Advocate friend is a menace to friendships everywhere! ***************** Are you an extremely intelligent person stuck making small talk because your current relationships lack the depth and appreciation for what's important to you? Are you experiencing a life change that is creating a rift between you and your current relationships? Let's have a friendly conversation to discuss how I can help you! https://calendly.com/patternsofpossibility/friendly-conversation The Art of Connection Workshop WebinarJuly 30 at 7pm CSThttps://www.eventbrite.com/e/938502555407?aff=oddtdtcreator
In this episode, I share why toxic people have so many friends! Are you an extremely intelligent person stuck making small talk because your current relationships lack the depth and appreciation for what's important to you? Are you experiencing a life change that is creating a rift between you and your current relationships? Let's have a friendly conversation to discuss how I can help you! https://calendly.com/patternsofpossibility/friendly-conversation The Art of Connection Workshop Webinar July 30 at 7pm CST https://www.eventbrite.com/e/938502555407?aff=oddtdtcreator
In this episode, I share what to do when people misunderstand you. Are you an extremely intelligent person stuck making small talk because your current relationships lack the depth and appreciation for what's important to you? Are you experiencing a life change that is creating a rift between you and your current relationships? Let's have a friendly conversation to discuss how I can help you! https://calendly.com/patternsofpossibility/friendly-conversation The Art of Connection Workshop Webinar July 30 at 7pm CST https://www.eventbrite.com/e/938502555407?aff=oddtdtcreator
In this episode, I share why befriending those who only want to give you want they want you to have can hurt your friendships. Are you an extremely intelligent person stuck making small talk because your current relationships lack the depth and appreciation for what's important to you? Are you experiencing a life change that is creating a rift between you and your current relationships? Let's have a friendly conversation to discuss how I can help you! https://calendly.com/patternsofpossibility/friendly-conversation The Art of Connection Workshop Webinar July 30 at 7pm CST https://www.eventbrite.com/e/938502555407?aff=oddtdtcreator
In this episode, I explore why that friend who jokes about you, really doesn't like you. Are you an extremely intelligent person stuck making small talk because your current relationships lack the depth and appreciation for what's important to you? Are you experiencing a life change that is creating a rift between you and your current relationships? Let's have a friendly conversation to discuss how I can help you! https://calendly.com/patternsofpossibility/friendly-conversation The Art of Connection Workshop Webinar July 30 at 7pm CST https://www.eventbrite.com/e/938502555407?aff=oddtdtcreator
In this episode, I share how introverts and extroverts want the same in relationships. Are you an extremely intelligent person stuck making small talk because your current relationships lack the depth and appreciation for what's important to you? Are you experiencing a life change that is creating a rift between you and your current relationships? Let's have a friendly conversation to discuss how I can help you! https://calendly.com/patternsofpossibility/friendly-conversation
In this episode, I share why it's important not to call just anyone a friend. Are you an extremely intelligent person stuck making small talk because your current relationships lack the depth and appreciation for what's important to you? Are you experiencing a life change that is creating a rift between you and your current relationships? Let's have a friendly conversation to discuss how I can help you! https://calendly.com/patternsofpossibility/friendly-conversation
In this episode, I share how to handle when your friend ignores you and you don't know why. Let's have a friendly conversation to discuss how I can help you! https://calendly.com/patternsofpossibility/friendly-conversation
In this episode, I share how to deepen conversations with others. Let's have a friendly conversation to discuss how I can help you! https://calendly.com/patternsofpossibility/friendly-conversation
In this episode, I share 3 types of boundaries that you need to set to foster respect and understanding.
In this episode, I share why you might struggle to make friends as a black sheep of your family.
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