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Julia Robinson is not here to fit in a box — and she's definitely not here to let widowhood be reduced to a single storyline. As an AuDHD widow, mom to a non-binary child, and someone who was in an open marriage before her husband's death, Julia brings sharp wit, self-awareness, and zero interest in changing herself to make other people comfortable.In this episode, she talks about navigating loss while living outside conventional expectations, what it's like when the world wants tidy explanations for complex lives, and how she's building a life that reflects who she actually is. Julia also tackles a topic many families whisper about: the shame that can surface when an autopsy reveals substances in a loved one's system. She speaks candidly about reducing stigma, rejecting secrecy, and refusing to let judgment compound grief.Also featured are cats with hilariously unhinged names, honest conversations about parenting, and a very real appreciation for limited-edition energy drinks only available in South Korea. *Check our Patreon for AD FREE Episodes, or to submit tributes of your person to be read in an episode! *http://www.patreon.com/wwdnSponsored by:BetterHelp.com. Save 10% off the first month of online therapy done securely, online with our unique link: https://trybetterhelp.com/wwdnMint Mobile: Mobile phone plans with great service and coverage starting at $15/month https://trymintmobile.com/wwdnJoin our Patreon for ad-free episodes and more!http://www.patreon.com/wwdnNeed some Snarky Grief merch?http://shop.widowwedonow.comWanna buy us tacos?http://www.buymeacoffee.com/widowwedonowFollow our YouTube channelhttps://www.youtube.com/@widowwedonow Support the show
Yes, I Twisted My Ankle. Yes, I Peed a Little Patricia Young (she/her) explores how change— even neutral change — can feel dysregulating, especially for autistic and neurodivergent people. From shifting family schedules and unexpected travel changes to navigating awkward neighbor dynamics and social gray areas, she shares real-life examples of practicing flexibility instead of binary thinking. WHAT YOU'LL HEAR IN THIS EPISODE · Why neutral change can still feel deeply dysregulating · The nervous system impact of shifting routines · Family schedule changes and the emotional whiplash that can follow · Anticipating the worst when others are gone · Grumbly thinking vs. reality when loved ones return · The binary autistic brain: all-or-nothing thinking patterns · Practicing middle ground instead of rigidity · Adjusting dog-walking routines without spiraling · Letting your body rest without labeling it as failure · Listening to fatigue cues after high-output days · Using structure for regulation without becoming trapped by it · Creating supportive environments (like curating a digital photo frame) · Finding connection through shared routines (AquaFit, food, walking dogs) · Traveling compatibility and how that reveals relational ease · Learning to self-regulate instead of outsourcing emotional regulation · Missing daily co-regulation but recognizing growth · Letting go of shame around aging-body moments (the sneeze/cough reality) · Neighbor conflict and not over-personalizing hostility · Rejection sensitivity and the meaning we attach to social behavior · Practicing social gray areas: cordial vs. friend vs. enemy SOUND BITES · "Change isn't good or bad. But it can still be hard." · "Just because I feel grumbly doesn't mean that's the truth." · "It doesn't have to be all or nothing. There is a middle ground." · "It's not a failure to rest. It's listening to my body." SENSITIVITY IS NOTHING TO APOLOGIZE FOR; IT'S HOW YOUR BRAIN IS WIRED You are not broken. You were shaped by systems that weren't built for you. You deserve rest, joy, and support exactly as you are. PODCAST HOST Patricia Young (she/her) was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcasts Unapologetically Sensitive and Unapologetically AuDHD to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you Patricia's website, podcast episodes and more: www.unapologeticallysensitive.com LINKS To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select "listen on Apple Podcasts" chose "open in itunes" choose "ratings and reviews" click to rate the number of starts click "write a review" Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv Unapologetically AuDHD Podcast-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/unapologeticallyaudhd/ e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
Dr. Samantha Hiew is a highly specialised female ADHD and Autism expert with a PhD in medical sciences. She's here to give you a detailed crash course in AuDHD and help you spot it. Chapters: 00:00 Trailer 01:57 What AuDHD feels like 04:29 Sam's story 26:29 Tiimo advert 28:09 Fearing your self diagnosis is wrong 30:14 How to spot AuDHD in women 35:48 When your partner doesn't understand 37:48 How to advocate for yourself 40:02 How Autism can mask ADHD 40:52 The AuDHD RSD experience 47:16 Difference between RSD and narcissistic rage 48:24 How autism can parent ADHD 49:57 AuDHD Hacks 51:50 Most requested audience questions Visit Sam's website
Growing up, Mykayla Whitmarsh was told to make eye contact, sit still and laugh at friends' jokes. Now 24, she's part of a growing group of young women diagnosed in adulthood with “AuDHD” – autism and ADHD. After years of struggling, she advocated for herself, was diagnosed at 22, and now shares her daily life @autisticayla on TikTok.
In this episode of the ADHD Women's Wellbeing Podcast, I'm joined by Hannah Saxe, a Legal Director specialising in family law and a recognised expert in modern family arrangements, including divorce, financial settlements, child arrangements, cohabitation agreements, and LGBTQ+ family services such as surrogacy, donor conception and co-parenting.Alongside her professional expertise, Hannah brings lived experience as a late-diagnosed AuDHD woman and mum to two neurodivergent boys. This dual perspective shapes her compassionate, practical approach to supporting families through some of life's most complex transitions.If you're currently going through a separation, supporting someone who is, or simply want to feel more informed and prepared, this episode offers reassurance, insight and practical guidance to help you feel less alone and more empowered.My new book, The ADHD Women's Wellbeing Toolkit, is now available, grab your copy here!In this episode, we explore:Hannah's journey to a late AuDHD diagnosis and how this shapes the way she supports clientsWhy neurodivergent individuals are often overrepresented in family and justice proceedingsThe new guidance from the Family Justice Council and how it aims to improve support for neurodivergent familiesThe common barriers which ADHD and autistic women may face when navigating legal processesWhat reasonable adjustments are, your right to ask for themThe power of understanding your neurodivergence to help with self-advocacy in the legal systemThe move to non-fault divorce and what this means in practiceThe emotional and practical impact of separation on childrenNeurodivergent-friendly alternatives to court, including mediation and arbitrationHow written communication and parenting apps can reduce overwhelm in co-parentingThe importance of building your support “tribe”, including legal, financial, emotional and practical supportTimestamps:01:03 - Navigating Neurodiversity in Family Law09:37 - Understanding Neurodivergence in Relationships17:03 - Navigating Divorce and Neurodiversity26:23 - Navigating Emotional Turmoil in Legal Processes30:29 - Navigating Neurodiversity in Family Law36:52 - Navigating Relationship Breakdowns42:32 - Transitioning to New ResourcesJoin the More Yourself Community - the doors are now open!More Yourself is a compassionate space for late-diagnosed ADHD women to connect, reflect, learn and come home to who they really are. Sign up here!Inside the More Yourself Membership, you'll be able to:Connect with like-minded women who understand youLearn from guest experts and practical toolsReceive compassionate prompts & gentle remindersEnjoy voice-note encouragement from KateJoin flexible meet-ups and mentoring sessionsAccess on-demand workshops and quarterly guest expert sessionsTo join for £26 a month, click here. To join for £286 for a year (a whole month free!), click here.We'll also be walking through The ADHD Women's Wellbeing Toolkit together, exploring nervous system regulation, burnout recovery, RSD, joy, hormones, and self-trust, so the book comes alive in a supportive community setting.Links and Resources:Find my popular ADHD workshops and resources on my website [here].Follow the podcast on Instagram: @adhd_womenswellbeing_podContact Hannah through Brabner's websiteFamily Mediation Voucher SchemeCafcass Parenting PlanOur Family Wizard AppApp CloseKate Moryoussef is a women's ADHD lifestyle and wellbeing coach and EFT practitioner who helps overwhelmed and unfulfilled newly diagnosed ADHD women find more calm, balance, hope, health, compassion, creativity and clarity.
In part two of Ben's conversation with Dr Shyamal Mashru, they unpack what actually makes a good ADHD assessment - and why so many people are still waiting, misdiagnosed, or left without answers.Dr Shyamal, an NHS Consultant Psychiatrist and Medical Lead for Adult ADHD, explains what happens inside a thorough assessment, who is qualified to diagnose ADHD, and why emotional dysregulation is so often overlooked. Together, they explore NHS vs private pathways, co-occurring conditions like autism and RSD, and why ADHD rarely shows up in neat, textbook ways.We hope this episode brings clarity to a process that can often feel stressful, and inaccessible. If you're questioning ADHD, on a waiting list, or trying to understand what good care really looks like, this conversation is for you.Join us at hidden20.org/donate.________Host: Ben BransonProduction Manager: Phoebe De LeiburnéVideo Editor: James ScrivenSocial Media Manager: Charlie YoungMusic: Jackson GreenbergHead of Marketing: Kristen Fuller00:00 Introduction01:12 Who Can Diagnose ADHD in the UK?04:25 ADHD Assessment Options: NHS vs Private Explained11:20 ADHD Assessments Outside the UK: What's Different?13:00 Why ADHD Assessments Are Complex & Often Siloed20:14 ADHD & Reduced Life Expectancy: What the Research Shows24:20 What Makes a Good ADHD Assessment?29:25 ADHD at School vs University: Missed Support32:50 RSD, Relationships & Emotional Regulation Flags34:16 ADHD & Daily Life: Hobbies, Money, Sleep41:02 When ADHD Gets Misdiagnosed - and Why47:15 Autism + ADHD: What If You Suspect Both?55:06 The Missing Piece in ADHD Diagnosis: Emotional Dysregulation59:00 Dr Shyamal's Green Dot BadgeThe Hidden 20% is a charity founded by AuDHD entrepreneur, Ben Branson.Our mission is simple: To change how the world sees neurodivergence.No more stigma. No more shame. No more silence.1 in 5 people are neurodivergent. That's 1.6 billion of us - yet too many are still excluded, misunderstood, or left without support.To break the cycle, we amplify voices, challenge myths, and keep showing up. Spotlighting stories, stats and hard truths. Smashing stereotypes through honest voices, creative campaigns and research that can't be ignored.Every month, over 50,000 people turn to The Hidden 20% to feel safe, seen and to learn about brilliant brains.With your support, we can reach further, grow louder, and keep fighting for the 1 in 5 who deserve more.Join us at hidden20.org/donate.Become a monthly donor.Be part of our community where great minds think differently.Brought to you by charity The Hidden 20% #1203348______________Follow & subscribe…Website: www.hidden20.orgInstagram / TikTok / Youtube / X: @Hidden20charityBen Branson @seedlip_benDr Shymal Mashru @harrowhealthcicHarrow Health offers bespoke NHS community outpatient services across London, plus fast adult ADHD assessment and treatment across England. For more information please visit: https://adhdrighttochoose.com/If you'd like to support The Hidden 20%, you can buy a "green dot" badge at https://www.hidden20.org/thegreendot/p/badge. All proceeds go to the charity. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
To get this episode ad-free as well as a video version and E-book visit the Patreon join page for more info and a free trial. Why do your feelings change so fast with ADHD or AuDHD? How can you go from crying to fine in ten minutes? Why does it feel like the first feeling never even happened once it's gone? In episode #72 Why Do My Feelings Change So Fast With ADHD & AuDHD? I go over how fast feelings shift in ADHD and AuDHD through Emotional Self-Monitoring (Thomas E. Brown's executive function model) and Impaired Hindsight (Russell Barkley). I get into how ADHD affects tracking feelings over time, how attention changes what feels most true in the moment, and why it can be hard to recall how intense a feeling was once it passes. You'll hear language for describing fast switching in relationships and daily life, plus a clear way to explain to others: "That felt true earlier, and this feels true now." Show Notes: Join The "We Are A Lot" Community A highly interactive monthly membership where you get all of the podcast episodes early, ad-free, video version with transcript, four audio bonus episodes per month, private chat community, free printables AND meet with me live (on Zoom) every week for accountability, body-double sessions, journaling, and monthly Q&A. It's designed for ADHD/AuDHD brains that need connection and support taking action — so you're not doing it all alone. Membership is $19.99/month, and you can get a one-week free trial! Brain.fm — A Focus Tool I Use Every Day It's not music, or binaural beats. Brain.fm is science-backed sound made for ADHD brains and it's genius! I listen while I work and I can feel my brain lock in, no distractions. I want you to try it for 30 days free, with my link! No catch. Cancel anytime. The Big A## Calendar I have the Big A## wall calendar that maps out the entire year and the Big A## personal planner. I'm obsessed. With my unique link you can get 10% off of your order. See all 365 days in one view, dry erase, color-coded labels, and a 3-step planning system to change your life! Use JENKIRKMAN at checkout. Hugimals — Weighted Comfort for Kids & Adults I own Hugimals, give them as gifts, and love that they're made by a neurodivergent founder who understands nervous system needs. These weighted stuffed animals and pillows help with anxiety and overwhelm, and you can get 15% off anytime using my link and code JENKIRKMAN (it never expires). Bookshop.org — Books I Recommend I love Bookshop.org because every purchase supports independent bookstores, not Amazon, while still shipping directly to you. I've curated book lists on ADHD/AuDHD and mental health, and you can get 20% off everything when you shop using my link. The Time Timer - a Cute Visual Time Tool! I use my Time Timer every single day. I have a pink one from the MOD collection. I use it to help me visualize time during work blocks, breaks, and completing tasks. There's no discount, but when you use my link I earn a percentage that goes directly into supporting this podcast. Appointed — Planners, Notebooks & Desk Goods Appointed notebooks are my go-to — I buy my spiral notebooks and Le Pen pens from them and use them daily for lists, journaling, and planning. You can get notebooks monogrammed and save 15% off with my link and code JENKIRKMAN. UnHide — Soft, Weighted Comfort I love UnHide's products — their vegan weighted blankets, pillows, robes, and socks are incredibly soft and calming, especially if you're neurodivergent and soothed by gentle weight and cozy textures. You can get 20% off with my link and code JEN20. Sources Used: Learning Meta Cognition Skills: ADDitude Magazine You Tube Leveraging Meta Cognition: Pub Med Central The Brown Model of Executive Function Impairments in ADHD: Brown Clinic Website Understanding Girls With ADHD (Book): 20% off with my link
You're a Highly Sensitive Person and, lately, you're hearing more about autism and ADHD. You're wondering ... is that me? I'm I actually autistic and/or ADHD as well as highly sensitive? In this episode of the SelfKind podcast, I (your host Erica Webb) speak with clinical psychologist Brianna about what it actually feels like to be an AuDHDer - that is, someone who is both Autistic and ADHD. It's not a matter of 1+1=2 ... so what is it? Together, we explore the nuances of being neurodivergent, the challenges of societal expectations, and the importance of self-compassion. Brianna shares insights from her work with children and adults and has some really neuro-affirming strategies for navigating demanding expectations (including your own!). Our conversation also touches on the impact of diagnosis, the validity of self-identification, and the importance of embracing yourself and your quirky stims!Mentioned in this episode: Bri's All About AuDHD e-book: https://thepsychhive.com/shop/p/all-about-audhdAbout my guest, Brianna Thomas: Bri is a Psychologist, PhD candidate, AuDHDer, amongst many other wonderful roles. Bri works with people across the lifespan and has developed a special love for working with people who live life with “big feelings”. Bri uses a variety of therapeutic modalities to help clients learn to accept, love and regulate their emotions. Bri is passionate about working with the LGBTQIA+ community of all ages, particularly enjoy working with women and gender diverse folk, and I am a Neurodiversity Affirming practitioner, who is also Neurodivergent. You can learn more about Bri at https://www.briannathomaspsychology.com/ and https://thepsychhive.com/Find Bri on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brianna_thomas_psych/
This goes along with the interview about Embodied Exercise. For many people, the other side of that coin is eating. And rates of disordered eating are higher among Autistics, ADHDers (especially women), and trans and gender non-conforming folks.The episode only briefly touches on ARFID, an eating disorder more likely to affect autistic people for multiple reasons. If you know someone who could be an expert interview on ARFID, please send them my way.Oh another fun fact I didn't mention... it's possible that the "obesity epidemic" (unscientific nonsense) was literally caused by dieting. Yes, that's correlation, but damn it makes a compelling chart. (from Anti-Diet, book below)Mentioned in episode:Book Anti-Diet: Reclaim Your Time, Money, Well-Being, and Happiness Through Intuitive Eating by Christy Harrison MPH RD*ep. 129 Embodied Exercise with Martha MunroeAuDHD Flourishing resources:Transcript Doc (often a few weeks behind, but we do catch up!)Mattia's NewsletterLike Your Brain community space (Patreon/Discord)*affiliate link Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
This Friday, Chloe is joined by one of our faves, you may remember her from The OG Crew’s first werewolf video and the first season of Taskmaster Australia, it’s Danielle Walker!! These two are giving a glimpse into the minds of AuDHD and it is somewhat psycho. Talking about men and women’s junk for WAY too long followed by discussing their obsessions with ice… the frozen water btw. Chloe and Danielle get into some unhinged Reddit stories about friendship faux pas. DON’T FORGET TO GO SEE DANIELLE LIVESee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Jim is back from a trip to Orlando. Also we have questions from a person living in real perpetual stress, a person whose autism and adhd comingle to produce depression and burnout, and a person whose friend's spouse keeps changing gender identities. Check out Nick's "Fitness Challenge": https://www.mentalfitpersonaltraining.com/podtherapy Join our patreon!Listen ad-free, get the show a day early and enjoy the pre-show hang out on the same app you're using RIGHT NOW at www.Patreon.com/Therapy where you can also access our vast library of deep dives, interviews, skill shares, reviews and rants as well as our live discord chat!If you are an Apple user please rate us!If you are a Spotify user, please rate us!Submit a question to the show!Help us reach #1 on Goodpods!Interested in Nick's mental health approach to fitness? Check out www.MentalFitPersonalTraining.comCheck out Dr. Jim's book "Dadvice: 50 Fatherly Life Lessons" at www.DadviceBook.comGrab some swag at our store, www.PodTherapyBaitShop.comPlay Jim's Neurotic Bingo at home while you listen to the show, or don't, I'm not your supervisor.Submit questions to:www.PodTherapy.netPodTherapyGuys@gmail.comFollow us on Social Media:FacebookInstagramTwitterResources:Suicide Prevention Lifeline - 1-800-273-8255.Veterans Crisis Line - 1-800-273-8255.Substance Abuse & Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) National Helpline - (1-800-662-HELP (4357)OK2Talk Helpline Teen Helpline - 1 (800) 273-TALKU.S. Mental Health Resources Hotline - 211
In this episode, Ben sits down with Dr Shyamal Mashru, Consultant Psychiatrist and Medical Lead for Adult ADHD, for a clear and compassionate deep dive into Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD).Often misunderstood or dismissed as being “too sensitive,” RSD is explored here as a real, neurological experience - one that can hijack rational thought, flood the body with emotional pain, and quietly shape relationships, work, and self-worth. Dr Shyamal explains what RSD is (and isn't), how it shows up differently across people, and why ADHD brains may be especially vulnerable.They unpack the science, the role of trauma and hormones, why RSD isn't currently in the DSM, and what actually helps when rejection hits hard.If rejection feels overwhelming, confusing, or deeply personal - this conversation offers clarity, relief, and language for what you may have been carrying alone.Join us at hidden20.org/donate.________Host: Ben BransonProduction Manager: Phoebe De LeiburnéVideo Editor: James ScrivenSocial Media Manager: Charlie YoungMusic: Jackson GreenbergHead of Marketing: Kristen Fuller00:00 Introduction01:00 Dr Shyamal Mashru's ADHD Background & Clinical Work03:15 What Surprises Clinicians About ADHD Assessments04:41 Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria Explained: What RSD Is & Why It Hurts09:16 RSD Coping Mechanisms: Shutdown, People-Pleasing & Avoidance11:44 Is It RSD or Something Else? How to Tell the Difference15:05 The Neuroscience of RSD: Why Rational Thinking Switches Off17:27 RSD in Romantic Relationships & Attachment21:33 How to Support a Partner With Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria22:50 How Aware Is Society of RSD?24:38 RSD, Hormones & ADHD: Menstrual Cycle, Perimenopause & Menopause26:33 Is There an Upside to RSD? Emotional Depth & Sensitivity29:56 Can Non-ADHD People Experience RSD?31:55 RSD vs Trauma & Fear of Failure34:46 Why RSD Is More Than “Not Handling Rejection”36:15 Why Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria Isn't in the DSM40:00 How RSD Shows Up in Children41:29 Early Signs & Patterns Clinicians Look For42:59 How Common Is RSD in ADHD — and When It Appears46:20 Treating RSD: Therapy, Medication & Regulation56:18 The One Thing Dr Shyamal Would Change About RSD AwarenessThe Hidden 20% is a charity founded by AuDHD entrepreneur, Ben Branson.Our mission is simple: To change how the world sees neurodivergence.No more stigma. No more shame. No more silence.1 in 5 people are neurodivergent. That's 1.6 billion of us - yet too many are still excluded, misunderstood, or left without support.To break the cycle, we amplify voices, challenge myths, and keep showing up. Spotlighting stories, stats and hard truths. Smashing stereotypes through honest voices, creative campaigns and research that can't be ignored.Every month, over 50,000 people turn to The Hidden 20% to feel safe, seen and to learn about brilliant brains.With your support, we can reach further, grow louder, and keep fighting for the 1 in 5 who deserve more.Join us at hidden20.org/donate.Become a monthly donor.Be part of our community where great minds think differently.Brought to you by charity The Hidden 20% #1203348______________Follow & subscribe…Website: www.hidden20.orgInstagram / TikTok / Youtube / X: @Hidden20charityBen Branson @seedlip_benDr Shymal Mashru @adhdhealthclinicwww.adhdhealthclinic.co.ukIf you'd like to support The Hidden 20%, you can buy a "green dot" badge at https://www.hidden20.org/thegreendot/p/badge. All proceeds go to the charity. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
This week's episode is a powerful, honest conversation about what really happens after a diagnosis… when the relief settles and the deeper work begins.Katie and I unpack why diagnosis matters so much for neurodivergent women, and how understanding your brain can be the first step toward rebuilding self-trust instead of staying trapped in cycles of shame.We talk about late discovery, unmasking, people-pleasing, and the emotional weight many carry after years of feeling “too much” or not enough.We also dive into the damage caused by discipline culture, consistency myths, and the pressure to perform like a neurotypical brain. If you've ever wondered why self-acceptance still feels hard even after you understand your ADHD or autism, this conversation will hit home.This episode is for you if you're navigating a diagnosis, healing from burnout, or learning to meet yourself with more compassion instead of criticism.Where to find Katie:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/neurodivergent_therapist_uk/Website: https://www.neurodivergenttherapyspace.com
Insurance Denials, Unexpected Connection Hacks and a Kitten with a Foot Fetish Patricia Young (she/her) shares a "mishmash" of real-time reflections on disappointment, expectations, nervous system shifts, and the everyday emotional intensity of being AuDHD. From insurance frustrations and PDA autonomy struggles to surprising connection hacks like a digital picture frame, Patricia explores what it means to be neurodivergent in a world full of unpredictability. This episode is a gentle reminder that big feelings are valid, connection can show up unexpectedly, and sensitivity is nothing to apologize for. WHAT YOU'LL HEAR IN THIS EPISODE · The emotional whiplash of going from calm to dysregulated in minutes · How autistic and AuDHD nervous systems respond to sudden disappointment · The impact of insurance denial and loss of autonomy (PDA profile) · Why "doing the next indicated step" can be grounding · The difference between pushing through vs. honoring rest · Patricia's experience as a verbal processor and why venting helps · The autistic struggle of wanting specificity but needing to stay vague · How gifts outside your frame of reference can initially trigger discomfort · A surprising digital picture frame "object permanence" connection hack · The neurodivergent reality of out-of-sight, out-of-mind relationships · Internalized self-judgment about what we "should" value · How accommodations from safe people feel deeply regulating · The joy of being supported without shame or inconvenience · Navigating sensory overwhelm in loud restaurants with Loop earplugs · How trusted relationships can invite novelty without dysregulation · The concept of "burnt toast" moments — when bad things lead to better outcomes · Grief, rage, and relief that can come with late autism diagnosis · The pain of expectations falling flat in relationships · Rejection sensitivity showing up even with pets (hello, Walter the kitten) · The reminder that neurodivergent big feelings are human and shared SOUND BITES · "My window of tolerance is increasing. I can just sit with more uncomfortable things." · "Sometimes just doing the next indicated step is how we move through things." · "I wouldn't have asked for a digital picture frame… and it ended up being a great hack for connection." · "I feel so seen and so accommodated — and there's nothing about 'you're too much.'" · "There's nothing wrong with you. You're not alone. We're just wired the way we are." SENSITIVITY IS NOTHING TO APOLOGIZE FOR; IT'S HOW YOUR BRAIN IS WIRED You are not broken. You were shaped by systems that weren't built for you. You deserve rest, joy, and support exactly as you are. PODCAST HOST Patricia Young (she/her) was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcasts Unapologetically Sensitive and Unapologetically AuDHD to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you Patricia's website, podcast episodes and more: www.unapologeticallysensitive.com LINKS To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select "listen on Apple Podcasts" chose "open in itunes" choose "ratings and reviews" click to rate the number of starts click "write a review" Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv Unapologetically AuDHD Podcast-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/unapologeticallyaudhd/ e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
Dr Mark Rackley is an AuDHD specialist with more than two decades of experience helping people with ADHD and Autism. He's back by popular demand to help you process your late AuDHD diagnosis and discuss the risks of undiagnosed AuDHD. Chapters: 00:00 Trailer 03:09 How common is AuDHD 04:53 What AuDHD actually feels like 07:18 The shame of being AuDHD 10:44 How to manage AuDHD 18:27 How people react after AuDHD diagnosis 20:45 How to process a late AuDHD diagnosis 29:35 Tiimo advert 30:36 Risks of undiagnosed AuDHD 32:42 The risks of AuDHD monotropism 35:45 How to live successfully with ADHD and Autism 39:49 Is AuDHD hard to communicate 41:54 New groundbreaking AuDHD research 44:39 Audience questions 51:10 How to help an AuDHD friend/family member 56:15 A letter to my younger self Find Mark on Instagram
If you're a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), your brain and nervous system is working hard to process a LOT of information. And with that information, it's making decisions: how much evidence is there that we're safe? How much evidence is there that we're under threat? One really kind thing you can do for yourself is introduce - intentionally - more signs of safety; little comforts and reminders that ground you. In this episode of SelfKind - a podcast for highly sensitive people- let's explore this idea in simple ways, by looking at personal signs of safety through objects and clothing that bring joy and comfort. Mentioned in this episode:
To get this episode ad-free as well as a video version and E-book visit the Patreon join page for more info and a free trial. Why do you feel excited and dread at the same time? Why do you want something and also don't? In episode #71 ADHD and AuDHD: Why Feelings Feel Permanent, I talk about when you feel two opposite feelings at the same time. Don't worry. You're not unstable! You're emotionally complex. Listen if you want to learn how we process multiple feelings at the same time, how our attention determines what feeling is "true" in the moment, and how relationships and situations can influence our mixed feelings. Show Notes: Join Jen's Accountability Club! A highly interactive monthly membership where you meet with me live every week for accountability, body-double sessions, journaling, and monthly Q&A. It's designed for ADHD/AuDHD brains that need connection and support taking action — so you're not doing it all alone. Membership is $19.99/month, and you can get a one-week free trial! Brain.fm — A Focus Tool I Use Every Day It's not music, or binaural beats. Brain.fm is science-backed sound made for ADHD brains and it's genius! I listen while I work and I can feel my brain lock in, no distractions. I want you to try it for 30 days free, with my link! No catch. Cancel anytime. The Big A## Calendar I have the Big A## wall calendar that maps out the entire year and the Big A## personal planner. I'm obsessed. With my unique link you can get 10% off of your order. See all 365 days in one view, dry erase, color-coded labels, and a 3-step planning system to change your life! Use JENKIRKMAN at checkout. Hugimals — Weighted Comfort for Kids & Adults I own Hugimals, give them as gifts, and love that they're made by a neurodivergent founder who understands nervous system needs. These weighted stuffed animals and pillows help with anxiety and overwhelm, and you can get 15% off anytime using my link and code JENKIRKMAN (it never expires). Bookshop.org — Books I Recommend I love Bookshop.org because every purchase supports independent bookstores, not Amazon, while still shipping directly to you. I've curated book lists on ADHD/AuDHD and mental health, and you can get 20% off everything when you shop using my link. The Time Timer - a Cute Visual Time Tool! I use my Time Timer every single day. I have a pink one from the MOD collection. I use it to help me visualize time during work blocks, breaks, and completing tasks. There's no discount, but when you use my link I earn a percentage that goes directly into supporting this podcast. Appointed — Planners, Notebooks & Desk Goods Appointed notebooks are my go-to — I buy my spiral notebooks and Le Pen pens from them and use them daily for lists, journaling, and planning. You can get notebooks monogrammed and save 15% off with my link and code JENKIRKMAN. UnHide — Soft, Weighted Comfort I love UnHide's products — their vegan weighted blankets, pillows, robes, and socks are incredibly soft and calming, especially if you're neurodivergent and soothed by gentle weight and cozy textures. You can get 20% off with my link and code JEN20. Sources Used: How Our Brain Navigates Complex Feelings: Psychology Today Two Truths Can Exist At The Same Time: Psychology Today Can You Feel Two Emotions At Once: Psychology Today What Does It Mean To Have Mixed Feelings: Psychology Today
GPS is Now Open! Visit https://takecontroladhd.com/gps to learn more and take control of your planning today!This episode turns into a stealth self-care intervention when James Ochoa joins Pete and Nikki and immediately drags “motivation” out of the tidy, planner-friendly realm and into the messy, bodily reality of fear, avoidance, and chronic stress. They start with the familiar ADHD paradox—knowing exactly what to do and still not being able to do it—and James reframes that stuckness as normal rather than shameful, then introduces “resourcing” as the practical antidote: not a single trick, but layered supports (internal and external) that make motion possible even when meaning, willpower, and good intentions aren't showing up.From there, the conversation gets uncomfortably specific in the best way, as Pete uses a long-avoided dermatologist appointment to walk through what “functional pressure” and relationship-based accountability can look like in real time. They explore why the hardest part is often the moment before the call, why eight-out-of-ten certainty is a workable target, and how to build a personal “wind-making” kit—scripts, sensory cues, body movement, tiny rituals, and other anchors that help you cross the threshold from uncertainty to action. The live chat brings in real-world complications (sleep issues, pain, dental trauma, AuDHD scripting and emotion tagging), and James offers concrete, compassionate ways to get support without muscling through alone—because the point isn't to never fall off the wagon, it's to get better at restarting.Links & NotesJames OchoaFocused Forward by James OchoaSupport the Show on PatreonDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (04:28) - Introducing James Ochoa (05:11) - Finding Meaning (21:17) - Making Your Own Wind (36:31) - Chronic Stress and Adult ADHD (41:30) - Writing, Writing, Writing
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In this third episode of the ND and Free Podcast we have our Q & A Episode. Owen and his co-hosts Alice Cantwell & Philippa Balazs discuss the topics brought to us by you. Below are the questions we cover and the time stamps. 02:56 - Question One - How do you parent neurodivergent children whilst battling your own ND symptoms? Often the needs of parties are conflicting. 15:10 - Question Two - I find I have a threshold of how long I can be around people but I don't know how to tackle telling people I need space and shorter time together. Your thoughts? 23:13 - Question Three - I find my impulsivity really hard work to stop. Do you have any ways you help yourself if you are impulsive? 32:56 - Special Interest Quiz. Which co-hosts will score the most points. Want us to talk about a topic you would like unpack then DM us on social media or email ndandfree@gmail.com Check out our Merch Store - https://nd-free-store.myshopify.com/ Check out our Linktree To Explore all our Partners and Services - https://linktr.ee/ndandfree MORE ON ALICE Hear her 1-1 Episode on the Pod - Episode 30 - https://open.spotify.com/episode/7IkVftqDPDbtJlpMocTVWL?si=e420b64300b84e7d Alice is a Neurodivergent Assessor and speech and language therapist and runs her business Bold Mind ND. Follow links for more on Alice's and her work LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/alice-cantwell-80aa7a229/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/share/1AVjCMJFD6/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/boldmindsnd?igsh=MWEyd2Y2NzN0dmx5aA== MORE ON PHILIPPA Hear her 1-1 Episode on the Pod - Episode 50 - https://open.spotify.com/episode/7kGEQULLpUjqosWh7wQBpG?si=43a975945636412e Philippa Balazs is a Kent-based AuDHD therapist and advocate. She runs a thriving private practice “Flourish with Philippa” where she specialises in late diagnosis, high masking women, and supporting ND parents with ND kids. She is also training to be a ADHD Coach. Check out Philippa's links. Website - https://www.flourish-counselling.co.uk/ Linktree - https://linktr.ee/flourish_with_philippa Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/flourish_with_philippa/ Misophonia Article - https://www.autistictherapistdirectory.com/post/misophonia-when-everyday-sounds-feel-unbearable These conversations are not a substitute for professional medical or therapeutic support. Please seek support from professionals trained within Neurodiversity support. Listen to episodes with care. Keep up to date with our latest posts on Instagram. Thank you for supporting the show, Owen
Janet Walsh-Adams is a neurodivergent PhD candidate at Deakin University, researching a pattern that many autistic people have noticed for years: autistic adults may be more likely to pursue consensual non-monogamy (CNM). We talk about what CNM is (and what it isn't) and how stigma — not the relationship style itself — often creates the biggest risks.Janet shares personal context alongside early findings from her work, including how autism, ADHD, gender diversity, and LGBTQIA+ identity can overlap with relationship structures like CNM, polyamory, kink/BDSM, and relationship anarchy. We also dig into what clinicians still need to learn (and unlearn) about autistic intimacy, and what Janet hopes her research will change — especially when it comes to safety and autonomy.Topics explored include:What consensual non-monogamy actually means (polyamory, monogamish, swinging, and more)Why autistic people are so often miscast as uninterested in intimacy and where myths like these come fromAutism + ADHD overlap, AuDHD, sensation seeking, and moreGender diversity and LGBTQIA+ culture as key factors in relationship stylesWhich group reports higher infidelity — autistics or neurotypicals?Why breakups in non-monogamous relationships aren't "proof they don't work"Watch this episode on YouTube.Follow Janet on LinkedIn.If you'd like to know more about topics discussed in this episode, check out:"Sexuality, Gender, and Autism" by K. Cooke et al. (chapter in The Palgrave Encyclopedia of Disability edited by Gabriel Bennett and Emma Goodall) Theme music: "Everything Feels New" by Evgeny Bardyuzha. All episodes written and produced by Kristen Hovet.Send in your questions or thoughts via audio or video recording for a chance to be featured on the show! Email your audio or video clips to otherautism@gmail.com through WeTransfer. Buy me a coffee!Buy The Other Autism merch. Use code FREESHIP for free shipping on orders over $75 USD! The views, opinions, and experiences shared by guests on this podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of the host or production team. The content is intended for informational purposes only and should not be taken as medical or professional advice. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider before making any decisions related to your health, fitness, or wellness.
André, The Impulsive Thinker®, reflects on this week's conversation with AuDHD specialist Rachel Feldman to unpack what it really means to live with both autism and ADHD as an Entrepreneur. Forget the myths—it's not about flipping switches between the two, but about two systems clashing and collaborating at the same time. André shares his personal insights on how ADHD drives action while autism craves predictability, and how understanding this overlap can prevent burnout and help you work with your brain, not against it. Tune in and get straight talk on masking, identity, communication, and redefining productivity as an ADHD Entrepreneur.
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Semi-Professional cyclist, Connie Hayes, joins Ben for a deeply personal conversation about growing up autistic, dyslexic and dyspraxic - and how cycling became both a regulator and a place of safety.Connie reflects on the early signs of autism that were missed, the self-esteem battles that came with puberty, hormones and friendships, and the long road to understanding her neurodivergence.She shares how sport - particularly cycling - helps regulate her nervous system, why environment matters so deeply for autistic performance, and how dyspraxia shows up at an elite level.Together, they also explore autism in women, eating disorders in sport, disclosure, and the urgent need for more inclusive practices across the industry.If you're curious about neurodiversity, sport and identity, this episode is for you!Join us at hidden20.org/donate.________Host: Ben BransonProduction Manager: Phoebe De LeiburnéVideo Editor: James ScrivenSocial Media Manager: Charlie YoungMusic: Jackson GreenbergHead of Marketing: Kristen Fuller00:00 Introduction01:05 Connie Hayes: The Autistic, Dyslexic & Dyspraxic Professional Cyclist02:20 Early Signs of Autism & Being Missed03:07 How Cycling Regulates Connie's Autistic Brain04:41 Understanding Autism Through Sport (Post-Diagnosis)05:57 Designing Environments Where Autistic Athletes Thrive08:05 Autism, Dyslexia & Dyspraxia Diagnosis Journey: Self-Esteem, Puberty & Friendships10:42 Dyspraxia in Elite Cycling: Coordination, Balance & Training12:28 Fighting for School Support & Being Left With Questions16:59 The Right University & Autism in Women: “It Saved My Life”25:53 Identity: Seeing Herself as an Autistic Woman26:38 Society's Expectations vs Autistic Females27:19 Neurodiversity in Sport: What We Get Wrong29:21 Autism, Sport & Eating Disorders39:43 Why Autism Can Be a Strength in Professional Cycling46:45 Women's Cycling Through an Autism Lens55:06 Disclosing Autism: Regret, Relief & Reality58:38 Is Cycling Good for Neurodivergent People?01:02:07 Connie's Green Dot BadgeThe Hidden 20% is a charity founded by AuDHD entrepreneur, Ben Branson.Our mission is simple: To change how the world sees neurodivergence.No more stigma. No more shame. No more silence.1 in 5 people are neurodivergent. That's 1.6 billion of us - yet too many are still excluded, misunderstood, or left without support.To break the cycle, we amplify voices, challenge myths, and keep showing up. Spotlighting stories, stats and hard truths. Smashing stereotypes through honest voices, creative campaigns and research that can't be ignored.Every month, over 50,000 people turn to The Hidden 20% to feel safe, seen and to learn about brilliant brains.With your support, we can reach further, grow louder, and keep fighting for the 1 in 5 who deserve more.Join us at hidden20.org/donate.Become a monthly donor.Be part of our community where great minds think differently.Brought to you by charity The Hidden 20% #1203348______________Follow & subscribe…Website: www.hidden20.orgInstagram / TikTok / Youtube / X: @Hidden20charityBen Branson @seedlip_benConnie Hayes @connie_hayesIf you'd like to support The Hidden 20%, you can buy a "green dot" badge at https://www.hidden20.org/thegreendot/p/badge. All proceeds go to the charity. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
To get this episode ad-free as well as a video version and E-book visit the Patreon join page for more info and a free trial. Why does it feel like the emotion you're in right now is going to last forever? In episode #70 ADHD and AuDHD: Why Feelings Feel Permanent, I explore why we struggle to hold onto the idea that feelings change because when one shows up, our attention locks onto it, making it feel permanent and all-encompassing. I explain how time perception, working memory, and emotional regulation affects the way we predict our future feelings. You'll learn all about Affective Forecasting, and Impact Bias. I'll help you make sense of why feelings feel so intense, and convincing. Listen to learn language for things that are common with feelings but are rarely explained. Show Notes: Join Jen's Accountability Club! A highly interactive monthly membership where you meet with me live every week for accountability, body-double sessions, journaling, and monthly Q&A. It's designed for ADHD/AuDHD brains that need connection and support taking action — so you're not doing it all alone. Membership is $19.99/month, and you can get a one-week free trial! Brain.fm — A Focus Tool I Use Every Day It's not music, or binaural beats. Brain.fm is science-backed sound made for ADHD brains and it's genius! I listen while I work and I can feel my brain lock in, no distractions. I want you to try it for 30 days free, with my link! No catch. Cancel anytime. The Big A## Calendar I have the Big A## wall calendar that maps out the entire year and the Big A## personal planner. I'm obsessed. With my unique link you can get 10% off of your order. See all 365 days in one view, dry erase, color-coded labels, and a 3-step planning system to change your life! Use JENKIRKMAN at checkout. Hugimals — Weighted Comfort for Kids & Adults I own Hugimals, give them as gifts, and love that they're made by a neurodivergent founder who understands nervous system needs. These weighted stuffed animals and pillows help with anxiety and overwhelm, and you can get 15% off anytime using my link and code JENKIRKMAN (it never expires). Bookshop.org — Books I Recommend I love Bookshop.org because every purchase supports independent bookstores, not Amazon, while still shipping directly to you. I've curated book lists on ADHD/AuDHD and mental health, and you can get 20% off everything when you shop using my link. The Time Timer - a Cute Visual Time Tool! I use my Time Timer every single day. I have a pink one from the MOD collection. I use it to help me visualize time during work blocks, breaks, and completing tasks. There's no discount, but when you use my link I earn a percentage that goes directly into supporting this podcast. Appointed — Planners, Notebooks & Desk Goods Appointed notebooks are my go-to — I buy my spiral notebooks and Le Pen pens from them and use them daily for lists, journaling, and planning. You can get notebooks monogrammed and save 15% off with my link and code JENKIRKMAN. UnHide — Soft, Weighted Comfort I love UnHide's products — their vegan weighted blankets, pillows, robes, and socks are incredibly soft and calming, especially if you're neurodivergent and soothed by gentle weight and cozy textures. You can get 20% off with my link and code JEN20. Sources Used: Affective Forecasting: Psychology Today Understanding the Ways We Think About Our Future Emotions: Lawyer Well Being Impact Bias: The Decision Lab Deficient Emotional Self-Regulation: Russell Barkley ADDitude Magazine/You-Tube
Welcome to SelfKind, a podcast for highly sensitive people (HSP). In this episode, join me, Erica Webb, a registered counsellor and somatic exercise coach, as I talk about three needs that might make you feel needy as a HSP (but that you probably need anyway). I know what it's like to feel too much, too needy or too sensitive, and my hope with this episode is that you lean into self-advocacy with more confidence, because you don't need to needlessly suffer at every turn. About your host, Erica WebbErica Webb is a registered counsellor, somatic exercise coach, yoga teacher and highly sensitive person (also diagnosed AuDHD). She supports other highly sensitive and neurodivergent people to discover their sensitivity superpowers and more confidently navigate the tricky bits of being a sensitive person in an often insensitive world.About the Podcast, SelfKindSelfKind is for Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) who want to navigate the tricky bits of their sensitivity with more ease while finding their sensitivity superpowers. Here, we're all about being, living and moving through a lens of self-compassion and kindness.
André, The Impulsive Thinker®, sits down with neuro-affirming psychotherapist Rachel Feldman to dig into the reality of living and thriving with AuDHD—where autism and ADHD overlap. This episode is all about ditching black-and-white thinking and understanding how ADHD and autism show up uniquely and together in Entrepreneurs. We talk fidgeting, stimming, masking, and why it matters to tailor strategies to your actual brain, not just a label. If you want to boost your self-awareness, communicate better, and stop measuring your worth by your production, this conversation is for you. Listen in for practical takeaways to support your growth mindset.
What if the reason you haven't finished the thing you keep thinking about isn't motivation, discipline, or follow-through — but fit? In this episode, Eric is joined by Katherine Mutti Driscoll, PhD, an AuDHD coach, educator, and author, for a conversation that starts with writing a book and quickly becomes something much bigger: how neurodivergent adults actually get meaningful work done. They explore why so many ADHD and AuDHD adults carry "someday projects" for years, how structure (not willpower) turns intention into action, and why unmasking isn't just about identity — it's about designing systems that work with your nervous system instead of against it. Writing is the case study. Adaptation is the point. In This Episode, We Talk About Why motivation isn't the real problem for ADHD and AuDHD adults How an interest-based nervous system shapes creativity and follow-through The role of structure, deadlines, and external accountability in finishing big projects ADHD, autism, and the balance between novelty and predictability Unmasking your process and letting go of "normal" ways of working Why you don't have to love the process to do meaningful work Perfectionism, imposter syndrome, and surviving the one-star review Dictation, movement, printing drafts, and other non-traditional workflows How support, containers, and community make progress possible A Key Takeaway You don't need to become more disciplined. You need a container that fits. When the system works for your brain, the work has a chance to happen. About the Guest Katherine Mutti Driscoll, PhD is an AuDHD coach, educator, and author. She holds a PhD in education, is trained through the International ADHD Coach Training Center and Impact Parents, and is currently studying to become a mental health counselor. Katherine is the author of The ADHD Workbook for Teen Girls and is currently working on her second book focused on Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria. Website: https://catherinemuttidriscoll.com Book (The ADHD Workbook for Teen Girls, New Harbinger): https://www.newharbinger.com/9781648482809/the-adhd-workbook-for-teen-girls/ Resources & Links Mentioned ADHD reWired (podcast, resources, and programs): https://www.adhdrewired.com ADHD reWired Coaching & Accountability Groups: https://www.adhdrewired.com/arc Adult Study Hall (ADHD-friendly virtual coworking): https://www.adultstudyhall.com Internal Family Systems (IFS / parts work): https://ifs-institute.com Interest-Based Nervous System (ADDitude overview): https://www.additudemag.com/interest-based-adhd-nervous-system/
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In this second episode of the ND and Free Podcast Spotlight Episode Owen and his co-hosts Alice Cantwell & Philippa Balazs discuss the topic of honouring our needs, how to live our truth & avoid burnout. Want us to talk about a topic you would like unpack then DM us on social media or email ndandfree@gmail.com Check out our Merch Store - https://nd-free-store.myshopify.com/ Check out our Linktree To Explore all our Partners and Services - https://linktr.ee/ndandfree MORE ON ALICE Hear her 1-1 Episode on the Pod - Episode 30 - https://open.spotify.com/episode/7IkVftqDPDbtJlpMocTVWL?si=e420b64300b84e7d Alice is a Neurodivergent Assessor and speech and language therapist and runs her business Bold Mind ND. Follow links for more on Alice's and her work LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/alice-cantwell-80aa7a229/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/share/1AVjCMJFD6/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/boldmindsnd?igsh=MWEyd2Y2NzN0dmx5aA== MORE ON PHILIPPA Hear her 1-1 Episode on the Pod - Episode 50 - https://open.spotify.com/episode/7kGEQULLpUjqosWh7wQBpG?si=43a975945636412e Philippa Balazs is a Kent-based AuDHD therapist and advocate. She runs a thriving private practice “Flourish with Philippa” where she specialises in late diagnosis, high masking women, and supporting ND parents with ND kids. She is also training to be a ADHD Coach. Check out Philippa's links. Website - https://www.flourish-counselling.co.uk/ Linktree - https://linktr.ee/flourish_with_philippa Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/flourish_with_philippa/ Misophonia Article - https://www.autistictherapistdirectory.com/post/misophonia-when-everyday-sounds-feel-unbearable These conversations are not a substitute for professional medical or therapeutic support. Please seek support from professionals trained within Neurodiversity support. Listen to episodes with care. Keep up to date with our latest posts on Instagram. Thank you for supporting the show, Owen
Barbara Ilardo è una genetista di popolazione e speaker AuDHD che si occupa di sensibilizzare sulla neurodivergenza in contesti pubblici e aziendali ma anche digitali su Instagram e YouTube come @ADHDologia. Il suo TEDx è intitolato "Biodiversità di cervelli: la storia evolutiva dell'ADHD": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wifrsVbrkAETrovi Barbara Ilardo qui:Instagram https://www.instagram.com/ADHDologia Youtube https://www.youtube.com/@ADHDologiaPatreon https://www.patreon.com/ADHDologiaSito web https://barbarailardo.github.io/Puoi supportare il mio lavoro gratuitamente condividendo la puntata, lasciando delle stelline sulla tua piattaforma di podcast e, se possibile, una recensione. Se poi hai la disponibilità puoi finanziarmi al prezzo di un caffè seguendo questo link Ko-fi.com/emanuelamasia Grazie.Per seguirmi sui social:Instagram https://www.instagram.com/emanuelamasia/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/masiaemanuelaYoutube https://www.youtube.com/c/EmanuelaMasiaTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@emanuelamasia_Patreon https://www.patreon.com/c/fuorinormaVeste grafica: https://www.instagram.com/simoneriflesso/
In part two of this conversation, neurobiologist and author of The Lost Girls of Autism, Gina Rippon, rejoins Ben to focus on the women autism research left behind.Picking up where part one ends, Gina traces how early brain science, diagnostic bias and cultural assumptions combined to hide autistic women in plain sight. She unpacks why autism was framed as a “male condition,” how masking became a survival strategy, and the real cost of decades of late or missed diagnosis.They explore the neuroscience behind prediction and masking, the forgotten female figures in autism's history, and why the language of “over-diagnosis” risks oversimplifying a much more complex history of under-recognition .Gina also reflects on autistic bullying, and what meaningful change in diagnosis and research could look like next.If you've ever wondered why so many autistic women are only being seen now - or why you still don't feel seen - this conversation is for you. We hope it offers some clarity, context, and hope.Join us at hidden20.org/donate.________Host: Ben BransonProduction Manager: Phoebe De LeiburnéVideo Editor: James ScrivenSocial Media Manager: Charlie YoungMusic: Jackson GreenbergHead of Marketing: Kristen Fuller00:00 Introduction01:00 Gina Rippon's Career in Autism & Neuroscience02:00 The Brain Questions That Changed Autism Research05:12 Autism & the Brain: Predictive Coding Explained08:11 Why So Many Autistic Women Were Missed09:09 The Forgotten Female Psychiatrist Who Identified Autism Decades Earlier16:52 Autism Diagnosis Ratios: Female vs Male Explained18:02 How Many Autistic Women Have We Missed? The “Overdiagnosis” Myth24:02 Masking in Autistic Women: The Breakthrough Moment29:30 The Reality of Bullying for Autistic Girls31:18 The Cost of Late Autism Diagnosis in Women35:59 Autism, Hormones & PMDD: What Research Still Lacks37:00 Debunking the “Refrigerator Mother” Myth40:15 What Neuroscience Tells Us About the Autistic Brain44:11 Neurodivergent vs Neurodiversity: Why Language Matters46:00 The Future of Autism Diagnosis in Women47:54 What Gives Gina Rippon Hope50:45 Gina Rippon's Top Tips for Autistic Women51:44 Gina's Green Dot BadgeThe Hidden 20% is a charity founded by AuDHD entrepreneur, Ben Branson.Our mission is simple: To change how the world sees neurodivergence.No more stigma. No more shame. No more silence.1 in 5 people are neurodivergent. That's 1.6 billion of us - yet too many are still excluded, misunderstood, or left without support.To break the cycle, we amplify voices, challenge myths, and keep showing up. Spotlighting stories, stats and hard truths. Smashing stereotypes through honest voices, creative campaigns and research that can't be ignored.Every month, over 50,000 people turn to The Hidden 20% to feel safe, seen and to learn about brilliant brains.With your support, we can reach further, grow louder, and keep fighting for the 1 in 5 who deserve more.Join us at hidden20.org/donate.Become a monthly donor.Be part of our community where great minds think differently.Brought to you by charity The Hidden 20% #1203348______________Follow & subscribe…Website: www.hidden20.orgInstagram / TikTok / Youtube / X: @Hidden20charityBen Branson @seedlip_benGina Rippon https://www.ginarippon.com/If you'd like to support The Hidden 20%, you can buy a "green dot" badge at https://www.hidden20.org/thegreendot/p/badge. All proceeds go to the charity. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Unbothered, Unmasked, and Still Showing Up: Why Neurodivergent People Do the Hard Things for Others Patricia Young (she/her) explores what it means to show up for others as an AuDHDer. She reflects on value-driven behavior, executive functioning challenges, internalized ableism, grief, rest, and the deep relief of living an "unbothered life." Through personal stories about partnership, support, sensory overwhelm, initiation struggles, and authentic connection, this episode invites listeners to rethink productivity, compassion, and what real belonging looks like when we stop masking and start honoring our nervous systems. WHAT YOU'LL HEAR IN THIS EPISODE · Why neurodivergent people often do hard things for others but struggle to do the same things for themselves · The difference between preference vs. values (and why values often override sensory limits) · A real-life example of showing up for an important ritual despite overwhelm · How gratitude and being seen can make difficult experiences feel meaningful · The "Soup Jean" metaphor: values-based caregiving and automatic compassion · Why some people are confused by generosity—and how that reflects differing value systems · Letting go of mental noise and choosing an unbothered life · OCD, intrusive thoughts, and giving your brain limited airtime instead of full control · "Not my circus, not my monkeys" as a neurodivergent boundary tool · Executive functioning struggles with task initiation (especially for autistic & ADHD adults) · How supportive partners can initiate without infantilizing · Internalized ableism and the fear of "What if I have to do this alone someday?" · The myth that trying harder fixes ADHD and autistic challenges · Compassion for inconsistent energy, productivity, and capacity · Capitalism, productivity culture, and why rest feels morally loaded · Why systems (homes for objects) matter more than willpower · Everyday executive functioning examples (milk, groceries, unfinished tasks) · When to step in to support vs. letting natural consequences happen · Communicating needs during grief without over-explaining or masking · Redefining intimacy: showing up tired, quiet, grumpy, or grieving—and still belonging SOUND BITES · "There are things I struggle to do for myself that I would do without hesitation for people I love—because that's my value system." · "I don't want things taking up space in my head that don't belong to me anymore." · "Just because I can do something one day doesn't mean I can do it the next—and that's not a moral failure." · "Rest isn't laziness. It's information." · "You can't screw up being you." SENSITIVITY IS NOTHING TO APOLOGIZE FOR; IT'S HOW YOUR BRAIN IS WIRED You are not broken. You were shaped by systems that weren't built for you. You deserve rest, joy, and support exactly as you are. PODCAST HOST Patricia Young (she/her) was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcasts Unapologetically Sensitive and Unapologetically AuDHD to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you Patricia's website, podcast episodes and more: www.unapologeticallysensitive.com LINKS To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select "listen on Apple Podcasts" chose "open in itunes" choose "ratings and reviews" click to rate the number of starts click "write a review" Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv Unapologetically AuDHD Podcast-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/unapologeticallyaudhd/ e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
If you reject them, you risk hurting their feelings. If you don't, you start resenting them.For many of us who are Neurodivergent or AuDHD, this choice isn't simple. In this episode, I'll share why and what you can actually say to make it easier.Visit our website and join the weekly newsletter and attend no-cost events.→ Unmasked Conversations - 2nd + 4th Saturdays→ Structured Social Hour - Last Sundays→ CEOS Business Networking Hour - First ThursdaysRegister here: www.patternsofpossibility.com/events#audhd #rejection #friendships
It's Feelings February, on the "You Are A LOT" podcast, and I'm starting the first episode of the month with a basic question: what's the difference between an emotion and a feeling? Emotions are real-time body signals—racing heart, tight chest, clenched jaw, shallow breathing. Feelings are what you become aware of and can name after your brain interprets those body signals. For ADHD and AuDHD humans, there's often a lag between the emotion happening and the feeling "forming," (due to our issues with interoception) which can make it hard to answer a simple question like "What's wrong?" I explain how to use a Feelings Wheel and why naming the body state can sometimes ground you more than naming a feeling too fast. Show Notes: Join Jen's Accountability Club! A highly interactive monthly membership where you meet with me live every week for accountability, body-double sessions, journaling, and monthly Q&A. It's designed for ADHD/AuDHD brains that need connection and support taking action — so you're not doing it all alone. Membership is $19.99/month, with an annual option currently available at 31% off (that's over three months free) with code 2AD87. Offer expires 2/1/26. Brain.fm — A Focus Tool I Use Every Day It's not music, or binaural beats. Brain.fm is science-backed sound made for ADHD brains and it's genius! I listen while I work and I can feel my brain lock in, no distractions. I want you to try it for 30 days free, with my link! No catch. Cancel anytime. Hugimals — Weighted Comfort for Kids & Adults I own Hugimals, give them as gifts, and love that they're made by a neurodivergent founder who understands nervous system needs. These weighted stuffed animals and pillows help with anxiety and overwhelm, and you can get 15% off anytime using my link and code JENKIRKMAN (it never expires). Appointed — Planners, Notebooks & Desk Goods Appointed notebooks are my go-to — I buy my spiral notebooks and Le Pen pens from them and use them daily for lists, journaling, and planning. You can get notebooks monogrammed and save 15% off with my link and code JENKIRKMAN. Bookshop.org — Books I Recommend I love Bookshop.org because every purchase supports independent bookstores, not Amazon, while still shipping directly to you. I've curated book lists on ADHD/AuDHD and mental health, and you can get 20% off everything when you shop using my link. UnHide — Soft, Weighted Comfort I love UnHide's products — their vegan weighted blankets, pillows, robes, and socks are incredibly soft and calming, especially if you're neurodivergent and soothed by gentle weight and cozy textures. You can get 20% off with my link and code JEN20. The Time Timer - a Cute Visual Time Tool! I use my Time Timer every single day. I have a pink one from the MOD collection. I use it to help me visualize time during work blocks, breaks, and completing tasks. There's no discount, but when you use my link I earn a percentage that goes directly into supporting this podcast. Sources Used: The Difference Between Feelings And Emotions: Wake Forest University The Feelings Wheel: The New Happy Blog Toxic Positivity: Book, Whitney Goodman (20% off)
Living with anxiety spikes, focus fog, or constant sensory overload as an autistic, AuDHD, or ADHD adult—and wondering if music could actually help your brain calm down? This episode of Adulting With Autism explores music therapy for autistic adults with Dr. Barb Minton, a psychologist and neuroscientist who started as a pipe organ major and went on to create the Calm the Storm album with guitarist Peppino D'Agostino. Dr. Barb explains how music can entrain brain waves—how tempo, rhythm, and sound textures can gently guide the nervous system toward calmer or more focused states. She shares how specific choices (like slower tempos around 60–80 beats per minute for calm, or slightly faster tempos around 110–120 for focus) may support sleep, pain management, migraines, and attention, and why the body "hears" vibration through mechanoreceptors as well as through your ears. You will hear stories of how music has been used to support neurodivergent adults, including those with autism and ADHD, and how to experiment safely: choosing tracks that feel regulating rather than overwhelming, adjusting volume, and noticing your own responses instead of following rigid rules. Dr. Barb also talks about why music is still underused in mainstream care despite promising research and real-world results. This episode is especially helpful if you: Feel overstimulated or shut down and want non-medication tools to try Are curious whether specific music choices could help with anxiety, focus, or sleep Want a more science-informed understanding of why certain music "works" for your brain If this conversation supports you, follow/subscribe to Adulting With Autism on Podbean, Apple, or Spotify and leave a 5-star review so more neurodivergent adults can find it. Merch for your calm and focus journey: Get 20% off journals, tees, and "Brainwave Harmony"–style merch with code PODCAST26 at the Adulting With Autism Fourthwall shop ( Linktree). Your support helps keep this podcast free for the community. Resources mentioned: Calm the Storm and more music at musicandhealing.net Dr. Barb's work and workshops at drbminton.com
In this meeting of The Late Diagnosis Club, Dr Angela Kingdon welcomes Abbey Thompson — a librarian, classically trained vocalist, prize-winning baker, gamer, social justice bard, and self-described random fact machine.Abbey is a fat, queer, neurodivergent woman living in Los Angeles with two orange cats and a deep commitment to creativity without perfection.Diagnosed with ADHD in her 40s and later recognising she was also Autistic, Abbey describes how finally naming her neurodivergence didn't just bring understanding — it brought permission. Permission to be loud, to be big, to be joyful, to be mediocre, and to exist without apology.Together, Angela and Abbey explore late identification, fatness and bullying, perfectionism, burnout, AuDHD, creativity as regulation, and the radical act of letting go of shame. This episode is an invitation to stop fixing yourself — and start living.
Caught in "not enough" or "too much" loops as an autistic or AuDHD adult—stuck in old patterns, feeling like your needs are a burden, or burning out trying to keep everyone else okay? This episode of Adulting With Autism dives into self-love for autistic adults with Christina Ketchen, a certified life and relationship coach trained in HeartMath®, Gottman, and the Hoffman Process, who brings both neuroscience and hard-won personal wisdom to healing. Christina talks about trauma loops—those familiar patterns and relationship dynamics that feel terrible but somehow also "normal"—and how they can quietly drain self-worth over time. She shares compassionate tools like heart-focused breathing to support the nervous system, "kind no's" that protect your energy ("This doesn't work for me—thank you"), and gentle self-talk that shifts you from "I am broken" to "I am human and learning." You will hear how patterns often started as protection, how faith/meaning can reframe pain without dismissing it, and why embracing your "messy" humanity is part of building real self-love, not a sign of failure. Christina also offers guidance for neurodivergent adults who feel guilty setting boundaries or fear that saying no will make people leave. This episode is especially helpful if you: Keep ending up in the same painful situations or relationships Struggle to hold boundaries without intense shame, fear, or backlash inside your own mind Are learning what self-love looks like for you as an autistic or AuDHD adult, beyond clichés and quick fixes If this conversation supports you, follow/subscribe to Adulting With Autism on YouTube Apple, or Spotify and leave a 5-star review so more neurodivergent adults can find it. Merch for your self-love journey: Get 20% off journals, tees, and "Self-Love Alchemist"–style merch with code PODCAST26 at the Adulting With Autism Fourthwall shop ( Linktree). Your support helps keep this podcast free for the community. Resources mentioned: Coaching and masterclasses with Christina at christinaketchen.com Her podcast The Self Love Shift
In part one of this two-part conversation, neurobiologist and author of The Gendered Brain and The Lost Girls of Autism - recently awarded the British Psychological Society's Popular Science Book Prize - Gina Rippon joins Ben to unpack what we really know, and don't know, about the human brain.From left-brain/right-brain myths to the rise of gendered brain science, Gina explains why many of the ideas we've grown up with simply don't stand up to scrutiny. Drawing on decades of research, she explores how brains change across the lifespan, how experience actively shapes neural pathways, and why no two brains - neurodivergent or not - are ever the same.They dive into alpha rhythms, brain plasticity, ageing, and the cultural bias baked into neuroscience, including why the idea of distinctly “male” and “female” brains has caused more confusion than clarity.Join us at hidden20.org/donate.________Host: Ben BransonProduction Manager: Phoebe De LeiburnéVideo Editor: James ScrivenSocial Media Manager: Charlie YoungMusic: Jackson GreenbergHead of Marketing: Kristen Fuller00:00 Introduction00:57 Why Gina Rippon Became Obsessed With the Brain2:54 What Science Really Knows About the Neurodivergent Brain7:18 Brain Waves Explained: Alpha Rhythms & Neurodivergence10:24 Debunking Common Myths About the Neurodivergent Brain12:00 Left Brain vs Right Brain: Does It Actually Exist?17:14 The Best Analogy for How Brains Really Work18:17 Why London Taxi Drivers' Brains Change19:30 How the Brain Changes With Age21:46 Brain Plasticity, Careers & Learning Over Time23:27 Why Every Brain Is Different And Neurodiversity26:45 Gender Bias in Neuroscience: “Neuro Trash” Research27:53 Is There Such a Thing as a Male or Female Brain?35:18 The Real Impact of Gendered Brain Science40:56 Neurodivergence, Gender & Brain Differences Explained44:07 Moving Beyond Gendered Brains to Human Brains45:22 What Are Thoughts, Really?48:40 Why Gina Decided To Write “The Lost Girls of Autism”The Hidden 20% is a charity founded by AuDHD entrepreneur, Ben Branson.Our mission is simple: To change how the world sees neurodivergence.No more stigma. No more shame. No more silence.1 in 5 people are neurodivergent. That's 1.6 billion of us - yet too many are still excluded, misunderstood, or left without support.To break the cycle, we amplify voices, challenge myths, and keep showing up. Spotlighting stories, stats and hard truths. Smashing stereotypes through honest voices, creative campaigns and research that can't be ignored.Every month, over 50,000 people turn to The Hidden 20% to feel safe, seen and to learn about brilliant brains.With your support, we can reach further, grow louder, and keep fighting for the 1 in 5 who deserve more.Join us at hidden20.org/donate.Become a monthly donor.Be part of our community where great minds think differently.Brought to you by charity The Hidden 20% #1203348______________Follow & subscribe…Website: www.hidden20.orgInstagram / TikTok / Youtube / X: @Hidden20charityBen Branson @seedlip_benGina Rippon https://www.ginarippon.com/If you'd like to support The Hidden 20%, you can buy a "green dot" badge at https://www.hidden20.org/thegreendot/p/badge. All proceeds go to the charity. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
February shines the spotlight on romantic relationships. But whether you're in one, several, or you're self-partnered; relationships can be challenging for people with ADHD - and with so many of us having experienced traumatic personal relations, abuse, manipulation, violence and isolation; we're telling Cupid to DO ONE!Our focus for February's free in-person ADHD Peer Support Groups is on the most important relationship any person can have; Self-relationship. We hope you'll come along to your local group in Scotland, England or Wales (at last!) to discuss this very important topic with other ADHD adults of marginalised genders. ADHDAF+ Charity was inspired by and is informed by the work of ADHDAF Podcast. Our 'Chazza' is ABOUT US, BY US, FOR US, If there isn't a group near you yet; we hope that this episode helps you best support yourself at this challenging time of year and to explore your self-relationship. MASSIVE TRIGGER WARNING: Contains swearing, loud laughter, gallows humour(!) we talk over each other and mention incredibly sensitive topics including; eating disorders, parent loss, grief, trauma, anxiety, depression, relationship and work struggles, mental health struggles, suicide, addiction, self harm, alcohol, school struggles, bullying, medical negligence, intimate partner violence, and date rape If you are struggling, lo siento. YOU ARE NOT ALONE! Please REACH OUT FOR HELP HEREENORMOUS THANKS to the ABSOLUTELY LEGENDARY Jon Hill of AuDHD or Just a bit weird?!...As mentioned in this episode; you can:- Listen to Jon's previous interview HERE- Listen to CJ Debarra's interviews HERE & HERE - Listen to Cate Osbourne - Catieosaurus interview HERE- Listen to me as a guest on other podcasts HERE- Read February's ADHDAF+ Charity Blog HERE- Register Interest in ADHDAF+ Charity's FREE Peer Support Groups to get email reminders HERE- Apply to Volunteer to start your own local ADHDAF+ Support Group, Volunteer your time or become an Ambassador HERE - Donate to ADHDAF+ Charity HERE- Be the first to hear about ADHD Easy Target Events HERE- Shop Neurodivergent and help fundraise for the Charity on ADHDAF Emporium HERE- Get involved in The Big ADHD Fundraiser 2026 HEREIf you would like to join the Patreon Community of ADHDAF Podcast listeners to lean on and learn from literally like-minded legends in an online space that has been going strong for THREE WHOLE YEARS of invaluable Peer support, you can do so HEREYou can follow all things ADHDAF on Socials:@adhdafpodcast @adhdafplus @adhdafemporium @lauraisadhdafI would love to know if you enjoyed this episode in a review or in the comments; and if you'd like to share: How do you think about yourself? Talk to yourself? Care for yourself? How do you respond to your own emotions and needs? Thank you SO MUCH for listening! BIG LOVELaura x
Feeling stuck in survival mode as an autistic or AuDHD adult—checking all the boxes on paper but still burned out, unfulfilled, or unsure what you actually want? This episode of Adulting With Autism explores self-love and life direction with Chandra Lynn, a certified transformation coach, former Apple/Mercedes marketing leader, and author of Root to Rise: How to Love Life When It's Messy, When It's Hard. Chandra breaks down her Root to Rise framework, which looks at key areas of life—like career, relationships, health, and creativity—and helps you line them up with core emotional needs such as security, variety, growth, connection, and contribution. She shares simple journaling prompts like "What do I want? Why? What am I willing to try?" to help you get out of autopilot and start making choices that actually fit you, not just what others expect. You will hear how her own path from high-pressure corporate roles into more aligned, heart-centered work unfolded in zigzags, not straight lines—and why that is normal, especially for neurodivergent adults. Chandra offers practical tools for exploring purpose through experiments and "try-ons," building authentic relationships, and practicing self-love in the middle of messy, imperfect life rather than waiting to "fix everything" first. This episode is especially helpful if you: Feel like you are surviving but not really living Are questioning your career, relationships, or direction as a late-diagnosed autistic or AuDHD adult Want a grounded framework to check in with your needs and make kinder, more aligned choices If this conversation supports you, follow/subscribe to Adulting With Autism on YouTube, Apple, or Spotify and leave a 5-star review so more neurodivergent adults can find it. Merch for your Root to Rise journey: Get 20% off journals, tees, and "Root Your Rise"–style merch with code PODCAST26 at the Adulting With Autism Fourthwall shop (Linktree). Your support helps keep this podcast free for the community. Resources mentioned: Root to Rise: How to Love Life When It's Messy, When It's Hard Chandra's quiz, courses, and coaching at glowliving.com
In this episode, I share how I use accountability as a practical tool for ADHD without it feeling punishing or pressured. If you've got ADHD (or AuDHD), deal with time blindness, procrastination loops, or resistance like PDA / demand avoidance, this approach can help you stay present, reduce overwhelm, and actually follow through. I break down the three types of accountability (personal, public, and community), explain why body doubling works so well for ADHD brains, and show how simple check-ins can turn "I'm stuck" into momentum—plus why celebrating small wins rewires motivation over time. You'll also hear about my Patreon Accountability Club (including daily body-doubling sessions and weekly check-ins), and I'm offering a free month for listeners for a limited time. Click here and claim your one free month to the Tier A Plus Patreon Community. Show Notes: Join Jen's Accountability Club! A highly interactive monthly membership where you meet with me live every week for accountability, body-double sessions, journaling, and monthly Q&A. It's designed for ADHD/AuDHD brains that need connection and support taking action — so you're not doing it all alone. Click here and claim your one free month to the Tier A Plus Patreon Community. Brain.fm — A Focus Tool I Use Every Day It's not music, or binaural beats. Brain.fm is science-backed sound made for ADHD brains and it's genius! I listen while I work and I can feel my brain lock in, no distractions. I want you to try it for 30 days free, with my link! No catch. Cancel anytime. Hugimals — Weighted Comfort for Kids & Adults I own Hugimals, give them as gifts, and love that they're made by a neurodivergent founder who understands nervous system needs. These weighted stuffed animals and pillows help with anxiety and overwhelm, and you can get 15% off anytime using my link and code JENKIRKMAN (it never expires). Appointed — Planners, Notebooks & Desk Goods Appointed notebooks are my go-to — I buy my spiral notebooks and Le Pen pens from them and use them daily for lists, journaling, and planning. You can get notebooks monogrammed and save 15% off with my link and code JENKIRKMAN. Bookshop.org — Books I Recommend I love Bookshop.org because every purchase supports independent bookstores, not Amazon, while still shipping directly to you. I've curated book lists on ADHD/AuDHD and mental health, and you can get 20% off everything when you shop using my link. UnHide — Soft, Weighted Comfort I love UnHide's products — their vegan weighted blankets, pillows, robes, and socks are incredibly soft and calming, especially if you're neurodivergent and soothed by gentle weight and cozy textures. You can get 20% off with my link and code JEN20. The Time Timer - a Cute Visual Time Tool! I use my Time Timer every single day. I have a pink one from the MOD collection. I use it to help me visualize time during work blocks, breaks, and completing tasks. There's no discount, but when you use my link I earn a percentage that goes directly into supporting this podcast.
Growing up with labels like "too emotional," "overreacting," or "ice queen," and now struggling to understand what you actually feel as an autistic or AuDHD adult? This episode of Adulting With Autism dives into emotion regulation for autistic adults with Jenn Veilleux, clinical psychologist, professor, and author of Open to Emotion, who blends her theater background with science to support authentic emotional expression. Jenn shares her own journey from being called "too emotional" to seeing emotional intensity as a form of being a "super-taster" of feelings. She talks about the difference between awareness and attention—how you can notice emotions without getting completely swept away—and offers metaphors like watching emotions move through like wind instead of something you have to hold onto forever. You will hear practical tools for: Unmasking your emotions after years of pushing them down or performing what others expect Using body signals (interoception) as early warning signs so you can regulate sooner Sitting with emotions long enough to understand them without drowning in them Challenging myths about ADHD and "overreacting" so you can embrace your full range This episode is especially helpful if you: Struggle to identify what you feel until you are already overwhelmed Have been told your emotions are "too much" or "not enough" your whole life Want language and tools to unmask emotionally at a pace that feels safe If this conversation supports you, follow/subscribe to Adulting With Autism on YouTube, Apple, or Spotify and leave a 5-star review so more neurodivergent adults can find it. Merch for your emotional journey: Get 20% off journals, tees, and "Emotional Range Journal"–style merch with code PODCAST26 at the Adulting With Autism Fourthwall shop (Linktree). Your support helps keep this podcast free for the community. Resources mentioned: Open to Emotion by Jenn Veilleux Workshops and more at jenncveilleux.com
Parenting as an AuDHDer is challenging and misunderstood. Many parents I speak to are near or in burnout at any given time, especially if they had kids before discovering their neurotype (which is common). This episode is based not on my experience as a parent, but my experience having spoken and heard from many AuDHD parents, and what I see working for them.This is in part a follow up to last week's interview with Julie M GreenMentioned in episode:Book Good Inside by Dr Becky Kennedy* (and her Instagram)AuDHD Flourishing resources:Transcript Doc (often a few weeks behind, but we do catch up!)Mattia's NewsletterLike Your Brain community space (Patreon/Discord)*affiliate link Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Sorcha Rice is an occupational therapist and the clinical manager of Neurodiversity Ireland, who I met at their 1st conference last year. She identifies as AuDHD and PDA and spoke with me about how she understands and experiences PDA, what her childhood and teen years were like before she was diagnosed, going through burnout and recovery, how she manages her nervous system now, and some of the practices she incorporates to support her PDA occupational therapy clients.It was wonderful to connect with Sorcha and hear her insights and so much of her story!I hope you enjoy it too.Xoxo,CaseyPS - You can find more about Sorcha on instagram at both @ot_sorcharice and @neurodiversityirelandAnd in our conversation she also recommended a resource for other OTs - Kim Barthel.
Stuck in limiting beliefs as an autistic or AuDHD adult—thoughts like "I am not good enough because of autism" or feeling like different "parts" of you are constantly fighting each other? In this episode of Adulting With Autism, Tamara Andreas joins to talk about Core Transformation, a gentle inner-work process she co-developed that has been taught worldwide for over 30 years. Tamara explains the idea of "parts" in a grounded way: the part that wants to keep you safe, the part that is scared of change, the part that believes you have to mask. She walks through how to acknowledge these parts with respect, ask what they are trying to do for you, and then guide them toward deeper "core states" such as peace, love, or OK-ness—without forcing yourself to "think positive." You will hear a guided example of the process, how Core Transformation grew out of her and Connirae Andreas' work, and why this approach can be especially supportive for autistic and ADHD adults who have been shamed, gaslit, or told to "fix" themselves. We also talk about pacing, safety, and why it is okay to pause or come back to the process as needed. This episode is especially helpful if you: Carry a lot of shame or harsh self-talk tied to autism or being "too sensitive" Feel fragmented, like different parts of you are pulling in opposite directions Want a structured, yet compassionate way to explore inner peace and self-acceptance If this conversation supports you, follow/subscribe to Adulting With Autism on YouTube, Apple, or Spotify and leave a 5-star review so more neurodivergent adults can find it. Merch for your inner work journey: Get 20% off journals, tees, and "Core Self Guide"–style merch with code PODCAST26 at the Adulting With Autism Fourthwall shop (Linktree). Your support helps keep this podcast free for the community. Resources mentioned: Core Transformation® book and materials Free micro-book and videos at andreasnlp.com Trainings and more at coretransformation.org
The Day My Nervous System Chose Violence (Internally) Patricia Young (she/her) explores what happens when big feelings meet medication changes, OCD spirals, and unmet needs. Through a vulnerable personal story about adjusting OCD medication, asking for support, and reacting more intensely than expected, Patricia reflects on autism, relational OCD, RSD, and trauma responses. She also discusses how to hold grief and joy at the same time, how to create meaning when life is profoundly unfair, and why it's okay to share joy without making yourself smaller. This episode is a compassionate reminder that awareness, baseline tracking, and self-permission are key tools for sensitive and neurodivergent people navigating relationships, mental health, and change. WHAT YOU'LL HEAR IN THIS EPISODE · Big reactions aren't character flaws — they're often signals, especially for autistic and OCD brains · Medication changes can remove protective buffers, even when life circumstances are stable · Asking for what you want can activate PDA, RSD, and old relational wounds · OCD often pulls in "evidence" and tallying to justify emotional pain · Feeling justified doesn't mean the story is accurate — it means the feelings are loud · You can manage your behavior externally while still experiencing internal emotional chaos · Walking, movement, and problem-solving can help — but they don't erase vulnerability · A "hard day" doesn't mean failure — it means data · Knowing your emotional baseline is critical when adjusting meds · It's okay to decide that you don't want more days like that · You don't have to accept injustice to learn how to live alongside it · Two truths can exist at the same time: devastation and joy · Therapy and coaching work best when clients feel safe giving feedback · Neurodivergent-affirming practitioners change the entire therapeutic experience · You don't have to make yourself small to protect others from discomfort SOUND BITES · "It wasn't about the coffee — it was about how big everything felt in my body." · "The bigger my feelings got, the more justification my brain wanted." · "This hasn't been my baseline — and that matters." · "I don't think this is something you ever 'accept,' but you can still create meaning." · "I don't want to live a life where I write people off when I'm overwhelmed." SENSITIVITY IS NOTHING TO APOLOGIZE FOR; IT'S HOW YOUR BRAIN IS WIRED You are not broken. You were shaped by systems that weren't built for you. You deserve rest, joy, and support exactly as you are. CHAPTERS (PLEASE ALLOW FOR ADDITION OF INTRO) 00:00 Navigating Big Feelings and Reactions 21:13 Creating Meaning Amidst Unfairness 34:21 Embracing Joy and New Experiences PODCAST HOST Patricia Young (she/her) was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcasts Unapologetically Sensitive and Unapologetically AuDHD to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you Patricia's website, podcast episodes and more: www.unapologeticallysensitive.com LINKS To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select "listen on Apple Podcasts" chose "open in itunes" choose "ratings and reviews" click to rate the number of starts click "write a review" Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv Unapologetically AuDHD Podcast-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/unapologeticallyaudhd/ e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
"Everyone has ADHD now."You've heard it. Maybe someone said it to you — with a half-joke, half-accusation edge. Like, neurodivergence is just the trend of the season.But what if that reaction tells us less about ADHD and more about the systems we're living in?In this conversation with Kristina Kyser — psychotherapist, educator, and creator of the Neurodivergent Rising course — we pull apart the "ADHD superpower" narrative that's everywhere right now. Because yes, there are gifts: innovation, nonlinear thinking, deep passion, hyperfocus. Those are real.But who benefits when we only talk about the parts of capitalism that it can extract?What We Cover:ADHD masking: the invisible labour of appearing "normal" From childhood, neurodivergent people — especially women — calibrate to a world that says: you're too much, you're wrong, you're different. Kristina breaks down what masking costs and why perimenopause often unmasks ADHD in midlife.The construction of "sanity" and who it was built to serve Normalcy isn't neutral. The DSM, psychiatry, the witch burnings — all of it is tangled with patriarchy, colonialism, and capitalism's need for compliant workers. Kristina traces the historical roots of how neurodivergence gets pathologised.The superpower question: what's true, what's missing, who profits Yes, ADHD comes with strengths. But when we only celebrate the traits capitalism values (innovation! hyperfocus! productivity!) while erasing the lows, the burnout, the 13-year shorter life expectancy, the systemic barriers — who does that serve?Why ADHD is a disability under capitalism — and that's not your fault ADHD isn't a medical deficit. But in a society built for neurotypical brains, it is disabling. Kristina explains the difference between individual healing and systemic change, and why we need both.Meet Kristina Kyser:Kristina (she/her) is a late-diagnosed AuDHD educator, former psychotherapist, and course creator with a PhD in English Literature and over 13 years of clinical experience. Her work bridges trauma healing, animist practice, and systems-level critique. She creates initiatory spaces that blend science, soul, and lived neurodivergence in service of collective remembering and repair.Learn more: Neurodivergent Rising Course Send me a DMSupport the show_____________________________________________________________________ Visit jenniferwalter.me – your cosy tree house where tired perfectionists and those done pretending to be fine find space to breathe, dream, and create real change.
Dr Alex George is an ADHD and autism specialised doctor and one of the most renowned voices in the ADHD space. With personal experience involving ADHD & mental wellbeing, this is a conversation you can't miss if you want to understand your ADHD on a deeper level. Chapters: 00:00 Trailer 02:47 How to manage ADHD overstimulation 07:03 Dr Alex's ADHD mission 10:34 The emotional consequence of masking 13:24 The connection between masking and loneliness 15:11 Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria 27:39 Signs of AuDHD 32:43 Masking 35:14 Tiimo advert 53:09 Dr Alex's ADHD item 58:09 Washing machine of woes 01:02:31 A letter to my younger self Buy Dr Alex's book
Struggling with routines, self-doubt, or turning your creative passions into a real career as a late-diagnosed autistic or AuDHD adult? This episode of Adulting With Autism features JD Barker, a New York Times bestselling thriller author with 19 books to his name, co-writing credits with James Patterson, and a late autism diagnosis at 22. JD shares his journey from finance to full-time writing in his 40s, including ghostwriting multiple NYT bestsellers before building his own career and imprint. He talks about realistic writing routines (like aiming for 2–3K words a day and then shutting down work at a set time), how he structures his days to protect his focus, and how he uses autistic strengths such as pattern-spotting and deep focus to build complex plots. You will hear practical details on co-writing (splitting strengths and tasks), creating believable characters (using sketches and “actor” benchmarks to make them feel real), and reframing feedback—seeing reviews and early drafts as part of finding your voice rather than proof you should quit. JD also offers encouragement for autistic and ADHD creatives who worry they are “too late” or “too inconsistent” to ever finish a project. This episode is especially helpful if you: Are a late-diagnosed autistic or AuDHD creator trying to build a sustainable routine Dream of writing novels or long-form work but feel stuck or overwhelmed Want concrete examples of how an autistic author structures work, rest, and creativity If this conversation supports you, follow/subscribe to Adulting With Autism on Podbean, Apple, or Spotify and leave a 5-star review so more neurodivergent adults can find it. Merch for your writing journey: Get 20% off journals, notebooks, and “Storyteller's Edge”–style merch with code PODCAST26 at the Adulting With Autism Fourthwall shop (Linktree). Your support helps keep this podcast free for the community. Resources mentioned: JD Barker's books and updates at jdbarker.com
In the final Q&A of 2025, Eric is joined by ADHD reWired coach Brian for a candid, intimate conversation about ADHD, AuDHD, burnout recovery, unmasking, grief, and what it looks like to rebuild momentum without torching your nervous system in the process. They answer listener questions ranging from "what I wish I knew before my autism diagnosis" to "what burnout actually looks like," and they zoom out to something simple but powerful: community and accountability aren't "nice extras," they're often the difference between knowing what helps and actually doing it. Also: a listener puts Eric in the hot seat about getting back to pickleball… and it turns into real-time accountability, immediate action, and a follow-up update that he's now going 3–4 times a week. In this episode, we cover Personal updates: burnout recovery, nervous system capacity, and Eric's autism diagnosis Why AuDHD can increase burnout risk (and why recovery can take longer than you expect) Brian's reflections on exploring autism and recognizing long-term burnout patterns Unmasking: what it really means (beyond "coming out") and how it impacts relationships The balance between honoring your needs while still caring about impact on others Grief and burnout: how loss affects the nervous system, energy, and expectations What burnout looks like in real life: apathy, feeling rudderless, skill regression, and "my usual motivators aren't working" Eric's working theme for the year: attunement (listening to self, body, and capacity) Favorite AI tools right now: thinking partner, planning support, and everyday practical use Autism assessment options in Chicago (including what worked for Eric) A playful-but-serious accountability moment that leads to real behavior change Listener Q&A highlights What are your favorite AI tools right now? Eric and Brian share how they're using ChatGPT in everyday life and personal/professional planning, including using AI to organize thoughts, support self-reflection, help with decisions, and even analyze photos for practical problem-solving. What do you wish you'd known before being diagnosed autistic? Eric talks about high-masking autism, and how repeated success can quietly raise internal expectations year after year… until the nervous system taps out. How has grief impacted your nervous system and burnout? Eric reflects on losing his dad (and grandmother), how grief shows up unexpectedly, and choosing to let grief be grief rather than trying to "bounce back" on a schedule. What does burnout look like for you? Eric describes burnout as apathy, feeling rudderless, needing far more recovery time, anxiety no longer activating last-minute productivity, and struggling to do even the helpful things (like exercise/pickleball). What's the smallest step I can take to get back into pickleball? A listener challenges Eric to take one tiny step… and it becomes immediate action, membership sign-up, and later consistency. Resources mentioned ADHD reWired (podcast, programs, and more): https://www.adhdrewired.com Learn about Coaching & Accountability Groups: https://www.coachingrewired.com Adult Study Hall (virtual coworking + community): https://www.adultstudyhall.com Support the show on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/adhdrewired Prosper Health (online autism evaluations): https://www.prosperhealth.io Devon Price (author + clinician mentioned in the episode): https://www.drdevonprice.com Key takeaway Burnout recovery isn't linear. For AuDHD folks especially, the cycle of "I feel better → I go full throttle → I crash again" can repeat fast. This episode is a reminder that community and accountability aren't just support… they're infrastructure. Next live Q&A March 10 at 12:30 PM Central
"Bossy." "Rude." "Demanding." "Has an attitude." If your autistic or ADHD child keeps getting these labels from teachers, family members, other parents or even yourself - this episode is for you. As an AuDHD psychologist, I see this pattern and how it silences the voices of neurodivergent children. destroying children's voices every single day. In this episode, I'll show you: What's REALLY happening when your neurodivergent child speaks directly Why YOUR nervous system reacts so strongly to their tone (and why that matters) The devastating long-term impact of constantly correcting tone The 4-Step approach that changes everything (with real examples you can use TODAY) How to repair when you get it wrong This isn't about letting kids "be rude." It's about understanding the difference between directness and disrespect - and protecting your child's ability to advocate for themselves. I'm excited to share this episode with you and share about an incredible workshop - "A Better 2026: A Gentle Reset for Overwhelmed Parents of Neurodivergent Children." If you are ready to learn how to make 2026 lighter, you'll want to register right away! Can't wait to see you there:) PARENTS CLICK HERE