Private Education

In the last episode of season 2, Aisling and Andrea discuss the ten things you need to talk about before you get engaged or married (or indeed make any sort of legal long term commitment to another person).We'll see you again in a few weeks!Follow us on Instagram @privateeducationpodcast, @aislingmkeenan and @andreajanedoyle. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

**TRIGGER WARNING: Domestic violence**This week, we answer a listener query. Her boyfriend has slept with over 100 women and her 'number' is only 3 – is this cause for concern, and why does she feel "icky" about it? We also mark domestic violence awareness month (this October) by giving some helpful numbers out, and talking through some of the statistics around it. Scary listening, but worth mentioning to bring awareness and hopefully help someone in need (if you are in a position to donate, here is the link). Here are some helpful addresses and phone numbers should you be affected by anything in today's episode:www.womensaid.ie1800 341 900Safe IrelandHelplines specific to your area: HEREIf you feel you are in immediate danger, there are a number of steps you can take to help keep you safe.If you can, get out of the situation now.Ring your local Garda Station or if it is an emergency, call 999/112.Ring the Women's Aid National Freephone Helpline on 1800 341 900. The Helpline is open 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Contact your local refuge and support service. Details including opening hours and contact numbers are listed here .Call someone you trust and ask them to help you.Read more about keeping safe.If you are under 18 and feel you and your family are in immediate danger, please:Ring your local Garda Station or if it is an emergency, call 999/112.Call Childline on 1800 66 66 66 and they will be able to tell you where you can get help near where you live. Childline is open 24 hours a day.Call someone you trust and ask them to help you.-Follow us on Instagram @privateeducationpodcast, @aislingmkeenan and @andreajanedoyle. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week Aisling and Andrea discuss a new dating term that Aisling maintains she's been talking about for years (of course) which is the concept of 'cushioning'. Overlapping partners, basically, to cushion the emotional blow that moving between relationships can bring. We also give our best advice about how to break up with someone with respect and kindness, as well as detailing some of our own worst break ups.Follow us on Instagram @privateeducationpodcast, @aislingmkeenan and @andreajanedoyle. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week's episode is packed full of insights thanks to our guest, relationship coach Lisa McFarland. We talk about attachment styles, conflict styles and love languages among many other topics, and hopefully you'll venture online and take a test or two to see what you and your partner's attachment styles are and how you can understand each other better.You can find Lisa McFarland @relationship.coaching.ni on Instagram and at relationshipcoachni.comFollow us on Instagram @privateeducationpodcast, @aislingmkeenan and @andreajanedoyle. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week on Private Education, we have a really candid and honest chat with Andrew Fitzsimons – Khloe Kardashian's close confidant and hair stylist – about growing up in Ireland as a gay man, trust issues in relationships and healing yourself before you can share your life with someone else. Andrew spoke so beautifully about his client Mariah Carey (!!) and how he "does not accept" that she's labelled a diva because she's professional and knows what she wants. A chat we really enjoyed having and editing, we hope you enjoy too.Big thanks to Amy for organising this interview, and you can follow Andrew @andrewfitzsimons or @andrewfitzsimonshair.Follow us on Instagram @privateeducationpodcast, @aislingmkeenan and @andreajanedoyle. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week, from LA and Cork, Andrea and Aisling answer a listener query that involves layers of information and involves mismatched sex drives, blood tests and a very real marriage on the line. We also chat about public proposals, and more to the point: why no one should hijack their other half's special days (graduations, marathon completion, that sort of thing...) and use those times to pop the question.Follow us on Instagram @privateeducationpodcast, @aislingmkeenan and @andreajanedoyle. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Andrea joins today's episode all the way from Los Angeles – she was poolside for the recording guys. Not able. We talk about dry spells, whether not having sex or not having sex often is a death knell for a relationship, and we discuss an interaction Aisling had in a lift with a strange man during the week. Enjoy!Follow us on Instagram @privateeducationpodcast, @aislingmkeenan and @andreajanedoyle. Our GDPR privacy policy was updated on August 8, 2022. Visit acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week, we're chatting to Dr Maria McEvoy about Vaginismus, a condition that makes penetrative sex (or vaginal penetration of any kind) impossible. Vaginismus is not something we've heard being spoken about a lot, but we've had many great questions in to @privateeducationpodcast about it so we're glad to be covering it with Ireland's leading expert on the condition.Find out more, access research and read more about Dr McEvoy's research at vaginismusresearchireland.com and on Twitter @Irishvaginismus.Dr McEvoy also recommends the DCU Healthy Living centre as a great resource, it's linked here.Follow us on Instagram @privateeducationpodcast, @aislingmkeenan and @andreajanedoyle. Our GDPR privacy policy was updated on August 8, 2022. Visit acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week, our guest Hazel Larkin joins us to discuss relationships with narcissists. We talk about how people who have Narcissistic Personality Disorder – which is something that's challenging to diagnose – can leave those they're romantically involved with with lasting trauma.If anything in this episode resonated with you and you'd like to speak to someone:www.womensaid.ie free phone 1800 341 900www.safeireland.iewww.hse.ie/wellbeingwww.mensaid.ieFollow us on Instagram @privateeducationpodcast, @aislingmkeenan and @andreajanedoyle and you can find Hazel, our guest this week, on Twitter @hazelklarkin. Our GDPR privacy policy was updated on August 8, 2022. Visit acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week the wonderful Kate Demolder joins us this week to talk about Love Island and the Gaeltacht, and why they're basically the same thing, and why your holiday romance *probably* won't work when you're back in reality. Also, we discuss how the person you turn into when on holiday is an idealised version of yourself. Enjoy! And leave us a review, if you feel like it.Follow us on Instagram @privateeducationpodcast, @katedemolder, @aislingmkeenan and @andreajanedoyle Our GDPR privacy policy was updated on August 8, 2022. Visit acast.com/privacy for more information.

We had another episode planned for this week, but couldn't ignore a LIVE listener query, happening as we recorded. We're going to follow up, don't worry!Follow us on Instagram @privateeducationpodcast, @aislingmkeenan and @andreajanedoyle See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

This episode, we welcome everyone back after a six week season break, we have a VERY long preamble (skip to, like, 25 mins in if you hate preambles) and we answer a listener email about going long-distance, and what they've decided to *NOT* count as cheating while they're far away from each other... It's an interesting one!Follow us on Instagram @privateeducationpodcast, @aislingmkeenan and @andreajanedoyle See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

This week, in the final episode of the new season of Private Education, we interview Evan, who has attended organised sex parties in clubs in Germany, the Netherlands and more. From witnessing a casual beside-the-bar rim job to seeing someone (NOT his boss, to be clear) being dominated in a cage, we ask him all the questions you might want answered. And we also propose a Private Ed field trip to a sex club – wanna come with?You can follow us @privateeducationpodcast on Instagram, or @aislingmkeenan and @andreajanedoyle there too!#privateeducation WILL be back on Tuesday, August 2nd. We'll see you then! See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

This week Andrea and I discuss arguments, and specifically: what you can and can't say in a fight. We're not the boss of you, so live your life, but if you'd like better, more harmonious arguments that you stand a chance of winning, we've got some 'donts' for you.You can follow us @privateeducationpodcast on Instagram, or @aislingmkeenan and @andreajanedoyle there too!#privateeducation See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

This week we answer two listener queries – the first is a partner who point blank refuses to get a vasectomy in spite of them being finished having children and her not wanting to pump hormones into her body for any more years, and the second is a woman who's boyfriend's ex-partner is part of his friend group and so she has to see her all the time and frequently finds herself comparing herself.You can follow us @privateeducationpodcast on Instagram, or @aislingmkeenan and @andreajanedoyle there too, and we take agony aunt questions to privateeducationpod@gmail.com as well as in our DMs.#privateeducation See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

The lovely Eimear Varian Barry (@eimearvarianbarry) joins me this week to talk about life, love, breakups, loss, vulnerability and being ready to move on. Andrea and I also discuss how to build a healthy post-sex routine to keep all your bits intact. Join us!You can follow us @privateeducationpodcast on Instagram, or @aislingmkeenan and @andreajanedoyle there too.See you next week! #privateeducation See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

We go man v woman this week and get some very different perspectives on some sex and relationship topics, as well as discussing what gives us The Ick, where we stand on anal and whether lingerie is necessary, overkill or great for all involved. Join us, won't you?We'd love and adore a review or star rating or a share on social media if you were so inclined! Here are our handles...@privateeducationpodcast@aislingmkeenan@andreajanedoyleUntil next week! See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

If you're not on 'the apps' and social life is stop-start (Pandemic, thanks for that), how in god's name are you supposed to meet the love of your life? Thanks to Isabel Bartak Healy @izzy_showbizzy for chatting to us about her Izzy Match Bizzy Instagram dating phenomenon, we're very excited to see who goes on the next iteration.Follow us @privateeducationpodcast and listen anywhere you get your podcasts! See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Chicago sex top shop owner and sexual wellness speaker Searah Deysach joins us this episode to discuss, among other things, how to communicate your sexual needs with your other half, what sexual wellness entails and means, and is scheduling sex a good or bad thing?Searah's sex toy store can be found at early2bed.comFollow the podcast @privateeducationpodcastFollow Aisling @aislingmkeenan and Andrea @andreajanedoyleWe'd love a review or a star rating or a small parade, if you had the time! See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

We're back this week to get into a deep dive on a previous relationship of Dre's that was FULL of amber and red flags, but they went unnoticed and then *dramatic pause* things were revealed that meant the whole thing was basically built on a foundation of untruths. She thought she got closure... She was wrong, and that was worse than not getting it at all. Follow us @privateeducationpodcast@aislingmkeenan@andreajanedoyle See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

This one genuinely stumped us – a listener DMd Aisling recently saying that her affair is ruining her life. Our guest, Jenny Claffey (@pvssykat) of Red Room Podcast and formerly It Galz, chats the whole thing through with us and we try to give some solid guidance.For anyone affected by anything in this episode, here are some helpful links to domestic violence services, mental health services and low-cost counselling should that be of help:mymind.org/individualwww.womensaid.ie/www.mentalhealthireland.ieUntil next week! See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Welcome back! Daisy Buchanan is our guest this episode, and we chat to her about Insatiable, her sauce-filled book that had us gripped from page one. We also discover some startling news about anal and condoms, and we talk about the best sex position for your star sign. You can follow Daisy Buchanan here @thedaisybee, you can find Aisling @aislingmkeenan and Dre @andreajanedoyle.You can order her newest book Careering here and you can order Insatiable here.Follow @privateeducationpodcast on Instagram. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

We've a listener query this time – Her boyfriend used her phone to call someone, but when she got it back her Whatsapp was open and so was her camera roll. It raises the question: Do you trust your partner enough to give them your passwords? Or if your partner goes through your phone, does it indicate a lack of trust? And when does nosiness cross over into control? Dr Dre (@andreajanedoyle) joins me to discuss.Follow @privateeducationpodcast on InstagramYou can also follow me @aislingmkeenanWe'd love a review, a share, a follow, a whisper on the wind. Until next week! See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Welcome back! Private Education has returned at last. This episode, featuring journalist Kate Demolder (@katedemolder), discusses cheating – what constitutes an affair, why people cheat at certain times in their lives and what the red flags are that you can keep in mind. Hope you enjoy the episode, we would LOVE a rating or review. This is the first episode of our brand new season, although as you can see it's no.60 overall.Kate's piece on cheating: https://www.rte.ie/lifestyle/living/2022/0303/1284294-why-do-people-cheat-i-spoke-to-four-people-who-did/Follow Private Education on Instagram @privateeducationpodcast See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

After a long break (we're blaming the pandemic) Private Education – the smart sex and relationships podcast – is back with a new season and 12 new episodes to feast your ears on. Welcome back! See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

This episode I talk to musician and songwriter Ciara Mary Alice Thompson, aka CMAT about the anonymous email address she set up to allow fans of hers to send in their relationship woes, so she could use them as inspiration for her songs. We also chat about bringing humour to her music as a defence mechanism, intrusive questions from journalists (not me, I hope!) and using songwriting as a way to process former relationships. Enjoy!

In another brilliant Selling Sunset interview, Amanza Smith (one of my favourite of the cast, don't tell Mary, Christine, Chrishell, Heather or Jason...) shares how she feels about introducing children to boyfriends, why she had the argument with Heather about it and how, if at all, starring on Selling Sunset has changed her life. Enjoy! Review! Tell your friends

I'm so buzzed about this – it's not strictly relationships, but it's fun nonetheless. This week, I interview Jason Oppenheim about celebrity clients, about working in such a dramatic environment, being best mates with his ex and more... Enjoy! Amanza's episode is next Friday!

My guest this week is journalist, podcaster, Rogue co-founder and now author Liadán Hynes. Her brilliant book (we are friends, I am biased but honest) is out now, called How to Fall Apart. It's about how she rebuilt her life after the break down of her marriage. In this episode, she talks about the things you shouldn't say to someone at the end of their relationship, and gives alternative ways to approach those tricky conversations. Hope you enjoy!

Red flags, making friends as an adult and 'leaving room for the holy spirit'. My guest Dr Dre and I answer three listener questions - first up, someone who was ghosted by someone displaying so many red flags it was like a beach on the day of a hurricane, next up, a listener who thinks about her ex daily and wonders what it means, and lastly, a listener who is lonely, new to the country and wants to make friends as a 30-year-old. We advise on all of the above and throw in, oh, a casual MILLION tangents too. Enjoy

My guest today is Bek Antonucci (@bekantonucci on Instagram) who is a coach, helping women feel better in their bodies. She and I talk about the bullying she suffered as a teen, a physically abusive relationship that she was in and eventually got out of, and we also talk about how your own feelings about your body impact your sex life and your relationships. Enjoy!

I ADORE Sex and the City, and will always watch it, but Carrie is NOT a good person. Right? Stephanie O'Quigley joins me from New York City – the fabled 'fifth star' of SATC, to talk about Bradshaw and her many capers. From cheating on Aiden to ditching her best friend for a piece of veal, we discuss the many, many examples of how Sarah Jessica Parker's most well-known character was legitimately a bad person. It's not a hot take by any means, but I needed to talk about it. She's an awful wagon.

The lovely Andrea Doyle (Dr Dre) joins me for this episode to help me give two more listeners advice on their relationships. Our first listener feels like her weight gain and hun bun might be putting her partner off her (we beg to differ!) and the second listener is trying to decide whether she should stick with her partner even though she wants kids and he doesn't. Hopefully both listeners - and you too - get something good from the episode. Enjoy!

In this episode, I answer two listener questions – the first is about blaming yourself for your partner's infidelity, whether to forgive and forget and whether trust can be rebuilt, and the second is about a woman who's family hated her other half, and how that meant the couple broke up in spite of being in love. She asks whether they should rekindle what they once had, knowing the family's problem will still be there.

In this week's episode, which fits neatly in as another in our 'Current Affair' series, my guest Andrea Doyle and I discuss dating during Covid with some hard-hitting (ish) stats about how many relationships are in trouble, how many people are googling "Do I love my boyfriend" and how there's a porn site with a panic button. We hit you with all the up-to-date sex and relationships news you need for the week ahead (and like, these are stats you could realistically use in a quiz!!!). Enjoy!

The wonderful and joy-bringing Catherine joins me again to talk about her #pandemicpenis insights – she's basically been getting an unusual amount of post-9pm "how are you?" messages from her ghosts of dating times past. She's as honest as always, cheered me right up and got very philosophical all in the one episode. Hope you enjoy.

**Matt actually couldn't join us but we did talk about him being stuck in Dalkey for quite some time. Meanwhile, Fionnuala is living apart from her BF and I'm holed up 24/7 with the man I willingly chose to marry – who's in a worse posish here? We talk about getting the ride, arguments and love in general in this new world we live in where the two-metre rule is being strictly enforced. With a special fleshlight shout out, this is an unmissable episode if I do say so myself.

My guest Sophie White and I talk very candidly about, well, loads of things about sex after having babies that I have absolutely no knowledge of or experience in. We talked about Sophie's vajmageddon, how to reframe yourself as someone who has sex again after your body being occupied territory, and how we actually should be saying VULVA a lot more. Enjoy!

This week my guest for another instalment of The Current Affait, Andrea and I have the inevitable Coronavirus chat, we debunk myths about the morning after pill and we confirm if it’s okay to rinse and reuse a condom. SPOILER: it is NOT.

This episode is a bit of a sexy smorgasbord – continental or wha?! I chat to Ciara Rapple, a textiles designer who makes scarves printed with sexual paraphernalia (and then wears them on the DART). I answer one Agony Aunt style question that came in about a guy who's having his cake and eating it too. And I also talk with no great authority about sex dreams, and why you might dream of riding your boss.

The inimitable Cassie Delaney joins me today with All The Feelings about the exercise in insanity that is Love is Blind on Netflix. We talk about how it portrays a toxic and frankly ridiculous version of 'love' and how that skewed version is infiltrating IRL relationships. We also talk about how statements like "I'm happy, but could I be happier" (hello, Wes from Love Island) are inherently shite. Welcome to our Ted Talk.

Jennifer Haskins from Two's Company dating service joins me to chat all things first impressions. Why you shouldn't get too hammered on a first date, why you should wear what you feel good in, and what personality traits you'll be most drawn to based on what you yourself might be lacking in. Two matchmakers in two weeks - unplanned, needless to say, but in this game, beggars can't be choosers.

In this episode, the first in our Current Affair series, Andrea Doyle and I chat about Valentine's Day, the rates of male sexual dysfunction in adult entertainers (strippers) and we look at the latest statistics from Bumble, who surveyed their users on what online dating is really like. In which country are you most likely to get ghosted? FIND OUT. You won't like the answer.

Dating coach and matchmaker Mairéad Loughman joins me this week to discuss compatibility, building the perfect bio, what you need to do before you even enter the world of dating and whether using a matchmaker might be a great route to love. And Mairéad tells me how many celebrity clients she currently has on her books...

Today it’s just me! Answering your questions sent in on Instagram. I talk about dating someone who’s intentions are totally unclear, asking your other half not to drink any more and also, should you move country to settle in your other half’s home?

Kim, Kourtney, Khloe, Kris, Kaitlin, Kendall, Kylie, Kanye, Kinder eggs, Kelloggs, Kindle, Kylemore Road... wait, sorry, where was I? We chat in great detail about the various marriages, infidelities and otherwise romantic affairs of the world's second most-famous family - the royals probably still take that title. Enjoy!

Niamh O’Sullivan is back as a returning guest to chat about the different types of love, and how to handle yourself if you’re in love with someone who is totally unavailable.

In the first episode of the actual decade, I talked to disabled activist and self-titled "reality TV whore" Paddy Smyth, who, in his usual sound way, made me forget there were microphones and chat as though we were pals catching up. His openness and honesty about life and love is refreshing. There's a further deep dive into Paddy's love life on my Patreon page (www.patreon.com/aislingmkeenan) should you want to hear more.

Does not drinking cause arguments in my marriage? Do I have awkward drunk sex? And why I got into a flaming row with my husband and best friend over whether or not to tell people in advance that I don’t drink. That an led more in this, the last Private Education episode of the DECADE. Enjoy!

We talk extensively about dating a possible narcissist, getting texts from your date’s ex, and an ex of mine who I suspected might be doing mind manipulation tricks on me. All that and more, enjoy!

In my second episode with Caroline, we talk about how you can be a better friend or romantic partner if the person you're with is struggling with anxiety. We also talk about how you can advise your partner and explain how you're feeling if you're the one experiencing it. We talk about the guilt around it, normalising it and how you can educate yourself and those close to you.