The DOPE Muslim Woman Podcast

Your shadow self, or shadow, is the side of yourself you have no awareness of. It holds all the qualities you disowned during your formative years. Although you learned to repress these qualities and push them outside of your awareness, they still live underneath the surface. They unconsciously guide your actions and are the unseen cause for many of the troubles in your life. Join Sabria Mills, as she discusses the importance of embracing your inner shadow. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

“Are you among the category of people saying, "I don't want to get married"? Or perhaps, you know someone who doesn't want to get married, and you're searching for possible reasons why anyone would make that decision. If your answer is yes, then this is the podcast for you!” Join us on Wednesday, May 25th at 8:30 PM EST on FB & YouTube LIVE for an important conversation about one of the greatest issues facing our time - the refusal to get married! Set your calendars and tune in. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

We often ask ourselves “why”we were betrayed, why we lost the greatest love of our lives, or why we continue to be challenged in the realm of love and relationships. These experiences might arrive together with a moment of sheer exhaustion; an exhaustion that was brought on through our constant effort at having to maintain our relationship with our lower self (nafs). However, some of our most painful experiences are designed to change our condition and pivot us into transformative change. Join us for The Ascension with some of the most prominent thinkers of our time on Wednesday, May 11th at 8:30 PM EST --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

Trauma bonds look different in every relationship. In certain circles, trauma bonds are referred to as “codependent relationships;” however, the term “codependency” can lead to blaming the spouse and not recognizing the extent of the betrayal trauma he or she has endured. Cheating and infidelity is common amongst individuals struggling with narcissism. This podcast breaks down WHY! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

Dealing with a man or woman who is not mature emotionally can be frustrating, and it can seem like it won't ever end, but the truth is, it's entirely possible to address and fix their behavior. As mentioned before, through reinforcement and the principles of operant conditioning, negative behaviors are learned, but they can also be undone. This means that positive ones can also be taught as well. Taking note of the specific ones that are problematic and understanding why they exist can be valuable information when trying to tackle these immature behaviors, especially when seeking help from a counselor or therapist. The more information they have, the better they can assist you and your partner. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

Communication and trust are the cornerstones of a successful relationship. Mutual understanding comes from sharing thoughts and honest communication. If your partner is emotionally immature, trying to have a conversation with them can be draining. An emotionally immature person gets angry and disappointed easily and fails to control themselves. They often vent their anger on their partner, and this may create rifts in the relationship. Such a person avoids serious conversations and is unaware of their partner's needs. In this podcast, we discuss signs of an emotionally immature person and how to deal with them. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

In this LIVE 1:1 discussion with Host Sabria - she discusses the importance of taking accountability of your own pain and trauma when in relationships. Black Love can no longer be the scared space for pain and trauma. The cycle of this must stop and it begins with us! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

The instability of relationships comes from the opaqueness of feelings. Half the time and energy expelled in a relationship revolves around trying to figure out how the other person feels. Partnerships take time, practice and complete trust. They are rarely formed because of people's fleeting feelings and most partners understand that it takes time to get there.” A purposeful partnership is one that allows you to seek out your own goals and grows towards them within a union. It involves consciously choosing a purpose driven partner and creating a life that helps to build an intentional social and economic structure. Trust me..you don't want to miss this episode! Join our next set of dope couples as they discuss Purposeful Partnership! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

Join us for the first episode of The DOPE Black Muslim Love podcast series. We will speak to three amazing couples about what it takes to stay in love and longevity. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

Honest About Heartbreak Join your host - @sabriamills, as she dives deep into Series 1 (Heartbreak & Denial Podcast Series) with the phenomenal @villageauntie! You don't want to miss this heart-to-heart discussion about love, sex, and heartbreak. In honor of our season opening, we are honored to welcome the beautiful and amazing @bibi_watts and @amiraunplugged to the stage to open and close our show with songs of impact and change. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

“Love yourself!” is advice dished by many self-help books and easily quoted on pretty Instagram pictures. Loving yourself is not a destination. Loving yourself is a muscle you build. It's a choice you make, every single day. Remember ~ You don't have to dump your hubby or wife or wait to delay courting again until you arrive at the Destination: I Love Myself. Join Moses the Comic,  Hassan Faye, Khalidah Dubose, Zakiyyah A.Rahman, and Kenya Imani for a powerful discussion about the art of letting go! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

Marrying outside your own faith requires the two of you to be especially mature, respectful and compromising to have a successful long-term relationship. Muslim men have been at the forefront of the interfaith marriage discussion, as Muslim women grapple to understand the reasons why a Muslim man may choose to marry Outside of his faith. Join Mustafa Sulaiman, as he dives into an extremely candid and honest conversation about marrying a woman outside of his faith. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

Featuring Imam Amin Muhammad, Sh. Sa'id Hunafa, and Mecca Islam. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

It's often hard to tell the difference between love and manipulation, which is why many of us end up with manipulators thinking what we have is love. Join Rashid Mahdi, Asiya Nasir Shaheed, Zarinah Raheem, and Khalil Pertikin for a powerful converstaion about manipulation, gaslighting, and the power of love. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

“The field of medicine has long skewed white and male. Only 2 percent of active physicians are Black women, and that comes with some very real consequences.” ********************************** Join TDMWP in their final DOPE vulnerability mini-episode with the amazing @drnoorjihan on Monday, March 29th at 8 PM EST. Tune into her inspirational story and be encouraged to be revolutionary in your pursuit of greatness. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

istorically, Black American Muslims have prided themselves on having a strong sense of community. The conditions under which many Black American Muslims accepted and practiced Islam were adversarial and challenging and required a great deal of commitment, determination and faith. As a result, Black American Muslims have a great deal of resilience. But resilience alone does not treat mental health problems any more than it cures diabetes or high blood pressure.” ********************************** Join TDMWP Wednesday, March 24th at 8:00 PM EST for a necessary discussion about stabilizing and maintaining our mental health. Join us at the table for “I’m Not Crazy.” --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

“The saddest thing about hypocrisy and deceit is that it often doesn’t come from our enemies or people we don’t know, but rather from those close to us. As you’d expect, this hurts. A lot. When we are deceived, the worst thing about it isn’t the lie itself, but what the lie brings with it. When a feeling as important as trust is broken, something inside us dies. The lie calls thousands of truths into question, making us doubt even the experiences that we thought were the most honest.” Join TDMWP for their final episode - “When Love Hurts,” on Wednesday April 7th at 8:30 PM EST. Join Imam Abdul Malik, Imam Faheem, Jermaine Carey, Staci Lewis, and Stephanie Stewart in a honest and raw exchange about polygyny done in the dark, secret, and temporary marriages. You don’t want to miss this episode!! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

Taming the Sexual Beast “ O young men, those among you who can support a wife should marry, for it restrains eyes from casting (evil glances). and preserves one from immorality; but those who cannot should devote themselves to fasting for it is a means of controlling sexual desire. “ (Muslim, Kitab un-Nikah, 3231) Join the DMWP as we host a BOLD and dynamic podcast episode with the amazing Village Auntie (Angelica Lindsey-Ali), Naeemah Khabir, Shaykh Kafani Ibrahim, and Tavasha Shannon. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

"Vulnerability is a power tool in an emotionally intelligent leader’s toolkit. Courageous leaders leverage their “woundedness” into genuine connections, innovation and learning. They embrace moments of vulnerability by acknowledging their current state, taking responsibility for their emotions and asking for help." Join TDMWP and the owner of Hijabified - Niddarah Winters for a powerful discussion about business, fashion, and the power of vulnerability. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

Until forty or fifty years ago, almost all that was expected of a husband and a father was to protect and provide for his family. Today, most men realize that the cultural perceptions are changing: a good husband/father also communicates with those in his care, expresses love for them, and is involved in many aspects of their lives. While this is progress, the cultural perceptions for women are just as complex. According to recent studies, a large percentage of women are out-earning their spouses and contributing to household expenses. This shift in cultural perceptions has contributed to the breakdown in love and connection between our brothers and sisters. In this podcast epiosde, we are joined with Imam Faheem, Zarinah Raheem, Roseline Louis, and Hamza ibn Askia. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

Love’s Triumph Marriage can be a tough gig these days. We live in a culture that almost expects marriages to fail and so it is more important than ever that we take steps to immunise our relationships against divorce. Sometimes we need to build our marital resilience. Join TDMWP family and our dynamic guests (Elijah and Fatima)for a dynamic discussion about marriage, love, resiliency, and triumph! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

Selection Perfection with Naaila Clay I hear people all the time say things like, "I'm not looking for 'perfect'." They then state that they just want something where there's never any drama, they always feel happy with their choice of partner, and everything they want with a partner, they get. In other words, they are looking for perfect. Join TDMWP family in a dynamic special edition with That Clay Couple based upon their most recent book - “Selection Perfection.” In this episode we will breakdown common patterns we have when choosing partners, guiding questions and steps a person should go through to determine if they are meeting a good fit, determining compatibility, drawing a balance between “red” and “green” flags, and breaking down common relationship myths and misconceptions. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

Love is Blind Neflix's latest reality series, Love Is Blind, may have brought its namesake concept into the zeitgeist, but it’s nothing new. The question of whether or not love is actually blind has come up time and time again, as there’s something eternally compelling about the idea that love is a force more powerful than something as skin-deep as beauty. While the idea of love being blind is certainly romantic, is it something that happens in the real world? Join TDMWP for a thought provoking conversation with the co-founder of “Eye Meets Soul” - Binta Kane for a conversation about looks, aesthetics, and soul connections! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

“Sex , when done in an ethical and halal manner, can not only be connected to your spirituality, it can also be a spiritual boost. For far too long, people have associated religion and spirituality with caged sexuality and something shameful.” Join TDMWP family for a special edition episode on sexuality in Islam with dope panelists - Khalil Ismail, Na’il Salahu-Din, Huda Ahmad, and Inshirah Jihad and expert guest - Dr. Shaakira Abdullah (Thr Halal Sexpert) --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

In love and in life, our vulnerability is one of our greatest strengths. We often believe that we risk too much by being vulnerable, but, in fact, the opposite is true. When we build a wall around us to protect ourselves from our big, bad fears, we miss out on so much. Join TDMWP in a conversation with the amazing, Salima Suswell for another thought provoking dialogue about Love -- everyone wants to experience it, but no one wants to get hurt. Why? It’s because the true act of “love” can be scary, uncontrolled, and make us feel vulnerable. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

Longing for Longevity On average, the typical U.S. marriage that ends in divorce lasts just eight years. When you're caught up in the excitement of your wedding, it can be hard to imagine that you and your spouse might not live happily ever after. But sharing your life with another person can be a challenge, especially if you don’t have a lot of experience with relationships. Marriages take work, commitment, and love, but they also need respect to be truly happy and successful. Join Ndola and Ayyub Shakur (married for 15 years) in a candid discussion about longing for longevity. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

“He who does not trust enough will not be trusted." --Lao Tzu Join TDMWP for a special edition two-part mini-series on Restoring Trust - A Raw Conversation Between Men and Women. Part II will feature a phenomenal panel of guests who will speak the truth about what it will take to restore trust in one another again. Join Ameenah Muhammad, Amani Jabbar, Khaleef Long, and Ryan Hilliard for a dynamic conversation about restoring trust. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

Special Edition: Restoring Trust Part I “I trust you is a better compliment than I love you because you may not always trust the person you love but you can always love the person you trust.” – Anonymous Join TDMWP for a special edition two-part mini-series on Restoring Trust - A Raw Conversation Between Men and Women. Part I will feature a phenomenal panel of guests who will speak the truth about what’s holding us back from trusting one another. Join Ms. Latifa Ali, Naimah Abdullah, Na’il Salahuddin, and Bilal Mustafa in a dynamic discussion about trust! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

Restoring the broken chain has so many layers for me. I often think about how unhealed generational trauma plays such a major role in some of our own familial bonds being broken. Now more than ever - we can recognize toxic patterns within our own families and our own lives and do something about it. Many of us aim to elevate beyond the shackles of brokenness to make a conscious choice to restore what was broken and taken from us. ..And remember beauties, if you are choosing Black love — really choosing it — you are committing to acting out of a limitless, uncompromising – uncompromised — forgiving place and making sacrifices for the sake of your future and your children. Join us for the premier of Love & Restoration Series with Bibi Watts -The Resistance Blogger and Jonathon Iheanacho on The Dope Muslim Woman Podcast. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

A broken heart is similar to a physical wound on your body such as a broken ankle or a second degree burn. Physical wounds must be treated, otherwise they can cause long term infections and other health problems. We must treat a broken heart very similar to a physical wound. We must give it a daily prescription and take it to get results. Join us for a special edition culminating episode with The Divorced Muslimah Coach, Rayesa Gheewala --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

Heal Thyself from Domestic & Sexual Abuse Heal Thyself, Heal Thy Community Podcast series will tackle an uncomfortable and difficult conversation on healing from domestic and sexual abuse on Wednesday, December 23rd at 8pm. Embarrassed and ashamed of the bruises on her body, the mental torture from her spouse, and sexual acts he coerced her into doing, many women struggle to talk about what’s happening to them. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

Healing Generational Wounds What is overwhelming and unnamable is passed on to those we are closest to. Our loved ones carry what we cannot. And we do the same. Join us as we talk about how our generational wounds can be passed down to our children and what they look like in our relationships with Amond Jackson and Toyia Denise. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

Breaking the Shackles of Silence Amongst Black Women launches December 9th at 8pm with Nia Malika Dixon and Malikah Shabazz. Starting as early as kindergarten and first grade, African American girls in school are punished for being too chatty, too loud, or too questioning. Their curiosity is seen as threatening, as disruption of the preferred [white] ideal of young girls as quiet, submissive, and well-behaved. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

Surely the ultimate source of what masculinity means to Muslims, has to be the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) himself. Challenging what it means to be a man can lead to liberal, un-Islamic views on masculinity and femininity. However, the conservative views that many subscribe to were never Islamic views, but remnants of colonial influence. Join us as we discuss this extremely important topic with our dear brothers - Saleh Clemons and Nasheed Jackson. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

An Intimate Discussion Between Mothers: Co-parenting through Forgiveness Healing involves gut wrenching honesty and owning your own personal forgiveness journey. Join Fatima Cortez and Sabria Mills, as they dive into a deep discussion about the truth about co-parenting and parallel parenting. These mothers will also speak about choosing sisterhood over survival. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

Taking the steps toward forgiveness, divorced co-parents Ziyadah Deen and Dawud Akbar will discuss and share advice on how co-parents can begin to mend those fences and set the stage so their kids can grow up with a solid foundation. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

When we lose something we value — even if it’s a fantasy — we must grieve that loss. But first, we need to dispose of the anger, resentment, and shame we feel, even though those emotions are reasonable. Part I - Join Jaasmeen Hamed and Ras Kofi for an intimate conversation about forgiveness after their divorce. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

Not Without My Faith When we haven’t forgiven ourselves, we subconsciously project our hurt onto others. Our faith can truly be tested when we experience trauma, hurt, and loss. Join us as we discuss the power of choosing faith over fear with Halimah DeOliveira! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

From Prison to Prayer with Shaheed Yasir Systemic racism and inequality is intrinsic to law enforcement in the US, with mass incarceration riddled with racial disparities. From the thirteenth amendment loophole to the War on Drugs, Black communities have suffered exponentially under this facade of ‘justice’, with families torn apart as a result. Join us as we embark on a journey of redemption with artist and entrepreneur, Shaheed Yasir. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

Come to the Hills of Forgiveness with Drea D'Nur When we hold on to hurt, we are emotionally and cognitively hobbled, and our relationships suffer. Forgiveness is a strong medicine for this. When life hits us hard, there is nothing as effective as forgiveness for healing deep wounds. Links: Website: http://www.officialdreadnur.com/ --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

Welcome to Season 3, Series 2: Heal Thyself, Heal Thy Community Spiritual abuse entails exerting power and control over a victim using religion as an excuse or explanation to abuse. Join the Dope Muslim Woman Podcast team with the amazing, Latifa Ihsan Ali in an intimate discussion about healing from spiritual abuse! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

Being a Latina muslimah isn’t given the visibility that it deserves. Yeah, we’ve had a few articles written and some press once in a blue moon but nothing really that shows how normal and common it is to be Latina and muslim at the same time. Join Halleema Munoz for a candid conversation about the truth about being a Latina Muslim woman in America! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

We all have different pathways to Islam but conversion to Islam among African-Americans is a significant feature of American Islamic life. Join Nina Blaylock, as she tackles a poignant discussion about her childhood trauma, abuse, and her journey to Islam.  Links: https://www.amazon.com/Love-Nina-One-Blaylock/dp/1517294312 --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

After a traumatic event, we may feel stuck in neutral. We find it nearly impossible to move on and move forward with our lives. Getting one foot in front of the other is a lot easier said than done. After experiencing emotional trauma, a lot of us may dwell on that person, place, thing or situation. We often wonder if there was anything we could have done differently that would have led to a different result. We beat ourselves up over things that we may or may not have control over. Links: Website: https://www.tasleemjamila.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9Wo1hz60NAtLfzk2p7VXiQ --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

Sexual abuse can happen to children of any race, socioeconomic group, religion or culture. There is no foolproof way to protect children from sexual abuse, but there are steps you can take to reduce this risk. Join Shariea Shoatz, founder of Buddy Speaks and Author of "My Voice is My Superpower," as she discusses a difficult but necessary topic of childhood sexual abuse.   Links: 1) Contact Shariea Shoatz directly to buy My Voice is MY Superpower.  *You may cashapp $buddyspeaks $17.99 for your copy of the book 2) Email: sharieashoatz@gmail.com 3) FB Shariea Shoatz 4) IG @shariea_shoatz --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

Slavery, racism, and White supremacy have had lasting negative effects on Black identity. The devaluation of African physical features, including hair, came as a result of being thrust into a cultural context where Blackness exists as the antithesis of beauty. Join Ziyadah Deen as she tackles a necessary conversation around beauty, black hair, and self-love.  Links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hairbyziyadah/?hl=en Website: www.hairbyziyadah.com  --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

Women are powerful beings crafted beautifully by the Most High. Allah offers the woman many gifts, which she uses to bring peace, calm, and beauty to this world. One of her powers is her visual essence. Beautiful is a woman who has a distinctive personality; one who can laugh at anything, including themselves, and one who is especially kind and caring to others. She is a woman, who above all else, knows the value of having fun, and not taking life too seriously. She is a woman that you can trust and count on to brighten your day. She is a woman who can inexplicably make you feel really good just by being around her, and yet brings such great sadness when she is gone. Links: Website: https://venusvisualsonline.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/venusvisuals/?hl=en --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

More and more men are seeking to be single in today’s society. Today’s men are looking for life partners, not domestic liabilities. That means that each person comes into the relationship giving all they have to make the relationship work. Join Shannaan Dawda, fitness and financial coach, as he dives into a conversation about being a single Muslim man in today’s society. Links: Boom Purchase: https://www.amazon.com/Paychecks-Power-Unlock-Wealth-Building-ebook/dp/B00U9AMSX8 Website: http://frompaycheckstopower.com/shannaan-dawda-bio Instagram: @shannaandawda --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

What is the meaning of plural marriage? Plural marriage is polygyny but for the purpose of this podcast, we are defining plural marriage as polygyny with multiple co-wives at different times during the marriage. Join Zahra Abdullah, as she tackles this personal and difficult conversation. Links: Instagram:  --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

Polygyny has several economic, social, and health advantages over monogamy. In most cultures, women contribute significantly to the wealth of the household and can thus materially benefit from the labour of an additional spouse. Where mortality rates of men consistently exceed those of women, polygyny can be seen as a resolution to the “deficit” of males and the “surplus” of females. Join Mecca Nandi, Holistically Healing Hearts & Renewing H.E.R (Healthy Emotional Resilience) coach who specializes in Co•Wife Coaching, for a discussion you don't want to miss. Links: Website: https://www.meccanandi.com/about Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pg/thecowifecoach/about/?ref=page_internal --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support

"Two years into my marriage, I received the shock of my life. I discovered that my husband and the father to my newborn son, had been unfaithful. The next two years would be spent repairing the damage that had been done. But most importantly, to get to the root of where our relationship had gone wrong. What I discovered would leave me floored. Including the fact that a hijab-clad former friend had been the culprit. Her point of entry? A “sext” message, and a request to be his second wife. It was only by the grace of God, that I, and my marriage survived. And now I want to pass these lessons onto you. Whether you are thinking about marriage, or already married, inshallah this book will give you the tools to properly combat the “Polygamy Problem,” currently plaguing our communities. If you are a polygamist, or interested in it, inshallah this book will help you to see the hurt and destruction it can cause, if you don’t handle it correctly," Khadijah Rashid Hudson states in her synopsis of "Keep Your Muslim Man Monogamous: A Muslim Girl's Guide To Avoiding Polygamy" Join The Dope Muslim Woman Podcast, as we dive into a candid conversation on polygamy with Khadijah Rashid.  Links: Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Keep-Your-Muslim-Man-Monogamous-ebook/dp/B082856Y1H Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/muslimahmatchmaker/ --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sabria-mills/support