Till The Wheels Fall Off

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this deeply insightful episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we sit down with Dr. Jake Porter, a leading expert in relational and betrayal trauma, sex addiction recovery, and emotional intimacy. Dr. Porter brings years of professional expertise and personal experience to unpack the complexities of sex and pornography addiction and their impact on relationships.Together, we explore:What sex addiction really is, how it differs from a high libido, and the role of pornography in relationships.The devastating effects of betrayal trauma on trust, memory, and self-perception.How empathy and accountability are essential for healing and rebuilding relationships after betrayal.Practical strategies for couples navigating recovery and reinventing intimacy after infidelity.The delicate balance between hope, choice, and personal empowerment in the healing process.Dr. Porter also dives into the neuroscience behind addiction and betrayal, offering a compassionate yet pragmatic roadmap for couples and individuals seeking lasting recovery and transformation. Whether you're in a relationship with an addict, recovering from betrayal trauma, or curious about the dynamics of healing, this episode is packed with wisdom and actionable advice.Resources Mentioned in the Episode:Dr. Porter's free book: Breaking BarriersLearn about intensives and coaching with Dr. Porter at Daring VenturesOnline programs: ChooseConnectionAcademy.comSupport the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!You've rewritten the message in your notes app a dozen times. You've softened your tone, used “I” statements, stayed calm, and begged them to meet you halfway—but nothing changes. In this episode, Paige breaks down the hard truth: most of you don't have a communication problem. You have a respect problem. A values problem. A partner who's not ready—or willing—to show up.We explore why so many people believe communication will fix everything, how that belief keeps them stuck, and how to tell when someone actually can meet you in a conversation. Paige doesn't give you a list of steps—but she gives you something better: clarity. Validation. And permission to stop performing for someone who doesn't want to listen.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, Matt and Paige take on one of the most controversial topics in the recovery world - the disease model of addiction. Is it a disease? Yes. But is it an excuse? Absolutely not. They break down the origins of the disease model, where it helps, where it massively fails, and how it's been weaponized to avoid accountability and silence those harmed by addiction.They explore the danger of comparing addiction to cancer, how the narrative erases the experiences of spouses and partners, and why real change requires personal choice - no matter what trauma, brain changes, or labels someone carries. You'll also hear a passionate plea for more balanced, honest conversations that hold space for both compassion and boundaries.Whether you've been harmed by someone in active addiction or you're in recovery yourself, this conversation might challenge what you've been told - but it just might set you free.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!It's May—aka Maycember—that time of year when school events, sports, recitals, end-of-year chaos, and mental overload all collide. If you're feeling stretched thin, resentful, or like you might snap over a missed sign-up genius… you're not alone.In this episode of Paige's Perspective, I'm talking about the emotional weight of this season, what you can give yourself grace on, and what should stay nonnegotiable—even when it feels like you're drowning in to-dos.You'll hear about: – Why the crockpot still sitting on my counter is not a crisis – What I had to let go of to show up for what matters – How to protect your self-care in the middle of the madness – And why this season is temporary—but your well-being isn'tThis episode is part validation, part pep talk, and part reminder that you don't have to do it all—you just have to protect the parts of you that matter most.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us! The recovery world loves to talk about healing, but what about the people most impacted by the chaos? In this brutally honest episode, Matt and Paige pull back the curtain on what treatment centers, therapists, and traditional recovery programs often miss: the spouse's experience.Why are partners immediately labeled codependent? Why is their anger pathologized while the addict's pain is protected? Why are they expected to forgive before they've even been allowed to grieve?Matt and Paige dive into their own story, breaking down how betrayal trauma affects the brain, what real accountability looks like, and how programs often rush to protect the addicted person at the expense of their partner's healing. Drawing from personal experience and insights from experts like Dr. Jake Porter, they explore:How trauma shows up in the body and brainWhy forgiveness without accountability is gaslightingThe myth of “you just need to understand addiction”Why codependency is not a diagnosis, and not always accurateWhat couples actually need to rebuild trust and safetyThe missing ingredient in most treatment programs: the spouse or partnerThis episode is for anyone who's ever been told they were "part of the problem" simply for being hurt. If you're tired of the recovery narrative leaving you out, this one's for you.Check out Dr. Porter's Lecture Here:Part 1Part 2If you're ready to reclaim your story, check out our course Independently Strong—a powerful path forward for partners and spouses of addicts. Use code WHEELIES75 at checkout for 75% off.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!You don't need more clarity. You need permission to trust what you already know.This episode is about cutting through the noise, the over-explaining, and the endless justifications. Paige brings it back to the basics: it's not about the substance — it's about the behavior. Always has been.You'll hear the truth about how we overcomplicate addiction by focusing on trauma, diagnoses, and potential while ignoring the very real, repeated harm that's happening in front of us. This episode explores the toxic behaviors we've normalized in relationships — from gaslighting and manipulation to walking on eggshells and calling it love.If you've ever found yourself stuck in the cycle of waiting, overanalyzing, or minimizing what you feel, this episode is a wake-up call. Paige speaks to the confusion many partners feel when recovery culture focuses entirely on the addict and leaves you questioning your own sanity, worth, and needs.You'll be reminded that your gut is not lying, your needs are not too much, and your peace matters. Whether you're in the relationship, out of it, or unsure, this conversation will help you reconnect with your own truth and stop making someone else's healing your responsibility.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!If life feels impossibly heavy right now, you're not alone, and you're not crazy. In this episode, we unpack why so many people are struggling with their mental health in 2025 and why blame - whether it's directed at politics, finances, partners, or the system - often becomes a trap that keeps us stuck.We don't sugarcoat the chaos, but we also won't leave you without a roadmap. From high-agency thinking to radical acceptance, spiritual grounding to physical resilience, we offer practical tools, hard-earned wisdom, and gut-level honesty about how we've weathered personal storms in hopes some of these tools can work for you too.In this episode we'll also speak directly to those who feel trapped in relationships they can't leave right now. There is still peace to be found, even when escape isn't an option today. This is the episode for anyone who feels overwhelmed, powerless, or just sick of feeling stuck. You have more control than you think...and it starts within.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Mother's Day can feel complicated, especially when life doesn't look the way you thought it would. Maybe you're raising kids alone. Maybe your partner is deep in addiction. Maybe you have an unequal partner and just feel all the feels.In this episode, I talk directly to the women who feel unseen, forgotten, or unappreciated on a day that's meant to celebrate them. We'll walk through five gentle steps to get through Mother's Day—without faking joy, waiting on others to show up, or pretending it doesn't sting.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This episode isn't about fixing your partner. It's not about getting the outcome you're hoping for. It's about you - how you respond when you're frustrated, dismissed, overwhelmed, or ignored. We're talking tone, delivery, body language, and why 93% of communication has nothing to do with the words you use. Whether you're arguing with a partner in active addiction, managing stress at work, or snapping at your kids at the end of a long day, your energy sets the tone. We'll unpack what it means to stay in your integrity, why it's not about being heard, and how to make peace with yourself when change isn't coming from the other side. Plus, real-life examples, tips to stay grounded, and why choosing your response - rather than reacting - can transform everything.Want to be proud of how you show up? This one's for you.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this special audio edition of the newsletter, Matt shares a listener story that's all too familiar: someone begins the work: therapy, sobriety, growth - but eventually hits a wall and stops. What do you do when your partner says things like “I'm tired of doing the work” or “What if this is the best I get?” How do you support someone without enabling them? How do you hold space without losing yourself?Matt unpacks the difference between healing fatigue and a fixed mindset, why growth can feel like betrayal when trauma has become your identity, and what it really takes to inspire someone into action without pushing them away. Whether you're in recovery or supporting someone who is, this episode is a raw, relatable, and practical reminder that growth doesn't have to be perfect, but it does have to be consistent.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige's Perspective, we're cutting through the noise and getting back to the basics — because somewhere along the way, we started overcomplicating what's right in front of us.Addiction. Trauma. ADHD. Nervous system dysregulation. You name it — there's a label for every behavior now, and we've been trained to see the story before we see the impact. But here's the thing: Behavior tells the truth. Not the diagnosis. Not the excuse. Not the backstory.We're talking about what it means to see clearly, stop excusing harmful behavior, and respond in ways that actually align with the kind of person you want to be — even when you're overwhelmed or pushed to your limit.If you've ever wondered, "But why do they act like this?" — this episode will help you ask a better question.Because clarity isn't found in their trauma. It's found in your values. And healing isn't just about calling out other people's behavior — it's about choosing the kind of person you want to be even when it's hard.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this powerful episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we dive deep into one of the most misunderstood concepts in recovery and relationships: natural consequences. We unpack the difference between allowing natural consequences versus trying to teach lessons or punish, and why intentions matter so much.We share real-life examples - from substance abuse, lying, and emotional unavailability to parenting challenges - to show how stepping back and allowing life to teach people naturally is both critical and gut-wrenching. We also explore why many compassionate, empathetic people struggle with this step and the emotional strength required to truly let go.Plus, we get candid about why telling spouses to "have more compassion" for someone who's repeatedly harmed them can be not only invalidating but dangerous. This conversation is raw, validating, and packed with hard-earned wisdom for anyone trying to navigate recovery, rebuild their lives, or find peace after betrayal.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This week on Paige's Perspective, we're digging into DARVO—the manipulative pattern people use to avoid accountability by flipping the script and making you question your reality. You'll learn what DARVO looks like, why it happens, and how to spot it in both loud and subtle forms (even the sweet, guilt-soaked kind that sounds like love but isn't). I'll also share what healthy accountability sounds like and give you practical tools to protect your peace, stop overexplaining, and see DARVO for what it is—a mindf*ck, not a communication issue. If you've ever left a conversation feeling like you're the problem for speaking up… this one's for you.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Matt sits down for an unfiltered, no-holds-barred conversation about the moment everything changed - the exact point he knew he couldn't lie one more time, couldn't hide one more day, and had to choose either transformation or destruction. Paige asks the raw questions our listeners always want answered: What finally made you get sober? What was rock bottom really like? Do you ever miss that life? What does recovery actually look like years later—and how the hell do you rebuild a marriage after all of it?This is the episode we wish every struggling partner—and every person in active addiction - could hear. It's not sugarcoated. It's not polished. But it is proof that people can change, marriages can heal, and the life you want is possible—if you're willing to do the work.You'll hear:What made Matt finally tell the truthThe surprising thing that hurt more than losing himselfWhat recovery looked like then vs. what it means nowHow they rebuilt trust, layer by layer, over a decadeWhat it really takes to be a safe, present fatherWhy Paige stuck around - and what she would never tolerate againWhether you're deep in it or on the other side trying to make sense of the wreckage, this episode will meet you where you are.Send this one to the man who needs to hear it. And if that man is you...welcome. There's hope. You're not alone.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!You've said it. Maybe weekly. “He's just stressed.” “He only acts like this when he's drinking.” “That's just how they were raised.”But here's the truth: just because you've gotten used to it… doesn't mean it's healthy.In this episode, Paige breaks down the quiet ways we minimize emotional abuse and excuse hurtful behavior—especially in relationships shaped by addiction, trauma, or chaos. You'll learn to recognize the red flags hiding in everyday phrases, understand why your nervous system is drawn to dysfunction, and hear why waiting for something “worse” to happen is one of the most heartbreaking traps of all.This is your wake-up call—delivered with love, truth, and zero shame.You're not too sensitive. You're not asking for too much. You're just done pretending it's fine.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!We all screw up, but how you respond to a mistake says way more about you than the mistake itself. In this episode, we have a raw, honest conversation about emotional regulation, accountability, and how to bounce back after you've messed up. Whether it's a bad tone with your kids or a history of bigger mistakes like addiction or abuse, this episode explores how to repair, rebuild, and move forward without drowning in shame. You'll hear the differences in how Matt and Paige process regret, how to know if it's a pattern or a one-off, and why learning the lesson sometimes takes time - and that's okay. A must-listen for anyone stuck in self-blame or trying to make sense of what change really looks like.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Do you ever feel afraid to love yourself? You're not alone—and you're not broken. In this episode, Paige gets real about the fear, discomfort, and confusion that often comes with the concept of self-love. She unpacks why loving yourself can feel unsafe, selfish, or even threatening depending on your past, your programming, and your current relationships.From trauma bonds to people-pleasing, and from sabotaging growth to staying small to make others comfortable—this is a deep dive into why we fear loving ourselves and how we can start showing up differently.This one's part pep talk, part truth serum, and packed with practical actions that help you go from performing self-love to living it.You'll learn:The difference between self-love and arroganceWhy some people will fall away when you riseHow trauma makes shrinking feel safeWhat real responsibility looks like when you believe you're worthy6 grounded ways to start loving yourself in action, not just wordsAnd of course, it ends with a challenge you won't want to skip.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Revenge might feel good for a moment—but what does it really get you? In this raw and hilarious episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we unpack the difference between being petty and being powerful. From glitter bombs to passive-aggressive laundry comments to clapback culture on social media, they explore why pettiness is so seductive (especially after betrayal or injustice) and why it ultimately keeps you stuck in cycles of rumination, resentment, and regret.You'll hear personal stories, some hard truths, and a powerful reframe: assertiveness and values-based living aren't boring—they're badass. They walk through how to set boundaries without punishment, how trauma tempts us to strike back, and why emotional maturity isn't weakness—it's the flex. Whether you're tempted to slash tires, troll your ex on Instagram, or drop a snarky comment at work, this episode might just stop you—and help you choose power over pettiness.If you've ever asked, “Why do they get away with everything while I take the high road?”—this one's for you.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode, Paige gets real about the toll social media can take on our nervous systems, identity, and sense of reality. Inspired by a quote—“Normal is 7 hours of screen time a day”—she opens up about why she's taking a step back, how social media may create low-agency behavior, and what it really means to get back to the basics.This isn't a lecture—it's a wake-up call for anyone feeling overstimulated, stuck in the scroll, and slowly losing themselves in the noise.If you've ever thought, “I should be able to handle it,” but deep down know it's messing with your mental health, this one's for you.Because maybe, just maybe… it's time to put the phone down.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In Part Two of our High Agency series, Matt and Paige dive even deeper into what it really means to live a high agency life—and what gets in the way.We unpack the traps that keep people stuck: the vague trap, the midwit trap, the rumination trap, and the overwhelm trap. You'll hear how overthinking and searching for the perfect, risk-free solution leaves people paralyzed, stuck in fantasy instead of action. We talk about defining problems clearly, trusting your gut, experimenting with bold choices, and taking the smallest next step to break through analysis paralysis.You'll also hear:The “Evil Twin” thought experiment: What would the most high-agency version of you do?How to stop chasing clarity and start earning it through actionWhy even painful or imperfect action is better than passive confusionThe truth about trade-offs: there is no perfect decision, only movementThe difference between controlling others and influencing outcomes with integrityValue Activation: the drill that helps you stop talking about your values and actually live themA framework for turning bullshit into reality—from journaling and wishing to doing and becomingWe also explore how to break down overwhelming problems into levels—just like video games do—and how taking action, even imperfectly, is what creates momentum, healing, and growth.This episode will help you shift from vibes to reality, from inspiration to execution, and from feeling stuck to living on purpose.You don't need more clarity—you need more courage.Head over to highagency.com to read the work of George Mack that inspired this episode. It's truly a must-read!Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!“What if they relapse?” “What if I mess up?” “What if everything falls apart?” If those questions live rent-free in your mind, this episode is for you. I'll show you how one simple shift—from “What if” to “Even if”—can change the way you cope with stress, fear, and uncertainty. You'll hear mindset exercises, honest stories, and practical ways to handle life when it doesn't go according to plan. Because it rarely does.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this solo episode, Matt breaks down the core beliefs that define high agency—an empowering mindset rooted in action, clarity, and personal responsibility. Inspired by George Mack's High Agency essay, Matt explores five foundational beliefs that high agency people carry and shares practical exercises you can start using today to apply them in your own life.You'll learn: – Why leaving isn't impossible – How to stop waiting for permission – What it means to design your own path – Why “normal” is overrated – And how to take action right now—even in the middle of the chaosThis episode is for anyone who feels stuck, hesitant, or overwhelmed by someone else's addiction, emotional immaturity, or the fear of making the “wrong” move. High agency isn't something you're born with—it's something you build.Paige will return for Part Two, where they'll continue this conversation and expand it even further.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!If silence makes you restless, anxious, or uneasy, you're not alone. For many, silence isn't peaceful. The second things get quiet, all the thoughts, emotions, and fears we've been avoiding start creeping in. And if you've been living in survival mode, silence doesn't feel safe, it feels like the calm before the next storm.But what if silence isn't something to fear? What if sitting in it is actually an important part of healing?In this episode, I break down why silence feels so hard, especially for those who've experienced betrayal, trauma, or chronic stress. I'll share how I struggled with it, why your nervous system might resist stillness, and the small but powerful steps you can take to make silence a safe place again.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Has common sense officially left the building? In this unapologetically real episode, we dive into why people are more confused than ever despite having access to endless information. From the rise of pop psychology trends and over-pathologizing human behavior to the pitfalls of therapy culture and self-diagnosis spirals, we break down how modern society has made everything way more complicated than it needs to be. We're cutting through the noise and getting back to basics—because, at the end of the day, action matters more than endless analysis. If you're tired of overthinking, stuck in a loop of “understanding” instead of doing, this episode is for you.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!If you've loved someone struggling with addiction—whether you're still in the relationship or you've left—the fear of rejection can feel overwhelming. It's not just about someone saying “no,” it feels personal. It feels like proof that you weren't enough. But what if rejection isn't what you think it is? In this episode, I break down how unhealthy relationships mess with your sense of self-worth, why rejection can feel paralyzing, and why avoiding connection isn't actually protecting you—it's keeping you stuck.I'm in this with you, and I needed this reminder just as much as you do. Together, let's unpack why rejection isn't always personal, how to reframe it, and why connection is worth the risk.Because the truth is? The right people won't reject you. But you'll never know that if you don't take the chance.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!We get it—healing feels like something you have to do alone. But what if that's exactly what's keeping you stuck? In this episode, we're breaking down why community isn't just helpful—it's essential. We saw it firsthand this past weekend, and we're here to tell you that if you're not already part of a supportive group, you're missing out.We're talking about why connecting with others speeds up your healing, helps you break old patterns, and gives you the accountability and support you need. We also get into the real reasons so many of us resist community (trust issues, hyper-independence, fear of judgment—we've been there). But the truth is, you don't have to do this alone. And you shouldn't.If you've been lurking, sitting on the sidelines, or convincing yourself you don't need this—consider this your sign. Find your people. Engage. Your future self will thank you.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Do you feel like you're constantly battling anxiety, even when there's no real threat? In this episode of Paige's Perspective, we're diving into irrational anxiety—when fear and worry take over your mind despite the lack of actual danger. I share my personal journey with anxiety, the bandaid solutions that didn't work, and the hard truths that finally helped me break free.We'll discuss how to recognize irrational anxiety, challenge intrusive thoughts, and shift your mindset from fear-based reactions to logical, confident responses. If you're tired of feeling like anxiety runs your life, this episode will give you practical, no-BS strategies to take back control and start living with confidence. Let's rewire our thoughts, build resilience, and move forward. You in?Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Are your feelings keeping you stuck? Whether you're a spouse of an addict waiting for them to change, someone considering divorce but trapped by fear, struggling with weight loss, or trying to build a better career or life—you might be making one crucial mistake: waiting for the right feeling to take action.In this episode, we challenge the dangerous myth that motivation is the key to success. It's not. Your feelings come and go, but your actions build your future. We'll unpack:Why emotions can trick you into tolerating toxic relationships, staying in unhealthy habits, or delaying decisions you already know you need to make.How hope can be a trap—keeping you stuck in cycles of addiction, bad marriages, or dead-end jobs.Why guilt convinces you to stay where you are, even when you know you should leave.The truth about motivation (it's fleeting and unreliable) and why discipline is the real key to change.Practical strategies to override fear, take action, and finally start living by your values—not your emotions.If you've ever said, “I'll do it when I feel ready,” this episode will show you why that day will never come—unless you make it happen. It's time to stop waiting and start building the life you deserve, no matter what your emotions are telling you.Listen now and learn how to take back control.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Are your emotions guiding you or controlling you? In this episode of Paige's Perspective, we break down the difference between feeling your emotions and being ruled by them.You've heard us say “Feel the Feels,” but also “Eff your feelings.” So which one is it? Both. Emotional regulation isn't about ignoring feelings or letting them dictate your actions—it's about finding the middle ground.We'll talk about:✔ The difference between healthy reflection and rumination✔ Why pain is inevitable, but suffering is a choice✔ How to shift your emotional state by cultivating the opposite feeling✔ Simple ways to break free from overthinking and emotional spiralsListener Journal Prompt (Share in the Community!):1️⃣ What emotion have you been sitting in lately? Is it serving you?2️⃣ If you could cultivate the opposite emotion, what would it be?3️⃣ What thoughts are keeping you stuck? Challenge them. Is it a fact or just a feeling?4️⃣ What is one action you can take today to shift your emotional state?Your emotions are real, but they don't have to dictate your reality. Let's learn how to feel them, process them, and move forward.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!What makes a great relationship? Is it knowing everything about your partner, or is it feeling truly known by them? In this episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we dig deep into what it means to be seen, heard, and understood in our closest relationships.Drawing from personal experiences, text conversations, and research—including a study that confirms feeling known by your partner is a stronger predictor of relationship satisfaction than knowing them—we explore how genuine curiosity and active listening can transform the way we connect with our loved ones.Paige and Matt share their own journey of rebuilding connection after years of imbalance, discussing the challenges of feeling unseen, the hesitation in opening up again, and the intentional efforts that foster emotional safety. They also break down practical ways to create deeper bonds with your partner, kids, or anyone who matters in your life.If you've ever felt unheard in a relationship or struggled with getting your partner to open up, this episode is for you. Tune in to learn how shifting from trying to be interesting to being truly interested can change everything.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige's Perspective, Paige challenges the popular idea that “everyone's journey is different.” While our circumstances might vary, the emotional struggles we face—grief, betrayal, fear, loneliness—are universal.Paige dives into how believing your pain is unique can actually keep you stuck, isolated, and resistant to healing. Whether you're dealing with addiction, anxiety, depression, or loss of a loved one, the truth is: you're not alone, and there are solutions that work.She also explores the shared struggles of spouses of addicts, whether you're staying, leaving, or working on recovery together—and why healing is necessary no matter where you are in your journey.Key Takeaway: Your situation might feel unique, but healing follows a universal path—and you don't have to walk it alone.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!As parents, we want to raise strong, resilient kids—but sometimes, without realizing it, we lean on them in ways that can be damaging. In this episode, we're tackling the tough but crucial topic of parentification, enmeshment, and emotional incest—when kids are put in roles they were never meant to fill.We break down:How to recognize if you're unintentionally placing emotional burdens on your childWhat's healthy honesty with kids vs. oversharing your adult problemsThe long-term impact of making kids responsible for adult emotionsHow to foster emotional security without making them your therapist or support systemWe discuss our own experience growing up in this dynamic, and we discuss practical ways to break the cycle—because once you see it, you can change it. This isn't about shame; it's about building awareness and making sure our kids get to be kids.If you've ever wondered, Am I putting too much on my child?—this episode is for you.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige's Perspective, we're diving into why so many women struggle with people-pleasing, caretaking, and suppressing their needs—and the truth about where these behaviors actually come from. Spoiler alert: you weren't born this way.For generations, women have been conditioned to put everyone else first. Our mothers, grandmothers, and great-grandmothers weren't just “nice” or “selfless”—they were surviving in a world where they had no real choices. They were trained to keep the peace, endure mistreatment, and never ask for too much. And even though times have changed, the mindset? Still lingers.Women were taught that strength means tolerating pain, that endurance equals loyalty, and that setting boundaries makes you selfish. In this episode, we're breaking down:

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Breaking free from generational cycles isn't just about addiction—it's about rewiring everything you were conditioned to believe: how you communicate, how you cope, how you parent, and how you love. In this episode, we dive deep into what it really means to break toxic patterns, why it's so hard, and how to measure progress. We explore the grief that comes with leaving behind the family dynamics you once knew, the resistance you'll face, and why it's all worth it—not just for you, but for the generations that follow.Whether it's addiction, emotional repression, people-pleasing, unhealthy relationships, or limiting beliefs, breaking the cycle means taking radical responsibility for your life. It means refusing to pass down the same wounds to your children. It means becoming the person who changes everything.If you've ever felt like you're meant to do things differently but struggle with the weight of change, this episode is for you. Change starts now. The future starts with you.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige's Perspective, we're breaking down the truth about judgment—why it's not the problem, but ignoring your instincts is. Society tells you that being judgmental is wrong, that you should always give the benefit of the doubt, and that compassion should override discernment. But what happens when that mindset keeps you stuck, excusing harmful behaviors, and doubting yourself?We've been conditioned to believe that judging others makes us cruel—but judgment is a survival tool. It helps you recognize red flags, set boundaries, and protect yourself. And yet, some people and even society weaponize the fear of judgment against you: “You're too harsh,” “You're not perfect either,” “Everyone deserves a second chance.” But let's be real—some behaviors should be judged.Not all judgment is toxic, but when does it cross the line? When does it stop being about self-preservation and start becoming a weapon? At what point does holding people accountable turn into a cycle of resentment and revenge? In this episode, we're reclaiming judgment as a necessary tool while breaking down how to use it wisely.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Ever feel like no matter what you do, you're just spinning your wheels? There's a reason for that. In this episode, we break down four sneaky mental traps that keep people stuck in bad relationships, dead-end jobs, toxic habits, and cycles of regret.We're talking about:Why you're measuring the wrong things in your life (and what actually matters)How you're avoiding the hard choices without even realizing itWhy you give great advice to others but can't take it yourselfThe hard truth about decision-making—there's no perfect solution, only trade-offsIf you're tired of feeling stuck and ready for real change, this episode will challenge everything you think is keeping you safe. No fluff, no sugarcoating—just the truth you need to hear.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige's Perspective, we're breaking down the excuses addicts use to justify staying the same—the guilt trips, the half-promises, and the ways they frame their struggles to keep you invested. You've heard it all: “In sickness and in health,” “Unconditional love means accepting me as I am,” “I'm trying! Recovery takes time!”—but what's really happening beneath the surface? These aren't necessarily intentional attempts to manipulate, but they are ways addicts avoid growth—and when those excuses keep you stuck in a cycle of harm, it becomes abusive.Nobody talks about how addicts' behaviors are often abusive. And society? It lets them off the hook, telling you to be patient, to understand, to wait just a little longer.But here's the truth: Addiction may be an explanation, but it's not an excuse to keep hurting people. Abuse doesn't have to be calculated to be real. At some point, effort needs to match impact, and words need to turn into action. In this episode, we're exposing the stories addicts tell themselves and their partners to avoid real accountability—so you can stop getting lost in their excuses and start focusing on what you need.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!When addiction, trauma, or abuse shape your life, how much of that story is yours to share? In this raw and thought-provoking episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we tackle the controversial question of whether speaking out about your experiences is an act of healing or betrayal.Too often, spouses of addicts are told to stay silent, to protect reputations, or to keep family struggles private. But at what cost? We discuss the impact of secrecy, how silence perpetuates stigma, and why sharing your truth is not just valid but necessary. From the backlash faced by public figures like Twitch's widow Allison Holker and Annie Parker (I Did Not Kill My Husband), to our own experiences with addiction and recovery, we unpack the power dynamics, societal norms, and self-limiting beliefs that keep people from telling their stories.Does destigmatizing addiction mean shielding those who struggle from accountability? Are we overcorrecting to the point where we enable harmful behaviors? And most importantly, what happens when someone else's addiction becomes your story, too?Tune in as we challenge the idea of silence as protection and explore how to reclaim your voice—without guilt, shame, or permission.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this reflection, Paige explores the true essence of being present and why it matters. She shares a childhood memory of quiet connection with nature, illustrating how presence can ground us, ease anxiety, and bring clarity. Paige discusses practical ways to cultivate this mindset, from grounding exercises and intentional focus to disconnecting from distractions like phones. She emphasizes the profound benefits of presence, including improved relationships, thoughtful responses, and a more intentional life. Whether you're feeling overwhelmed or simply seeking calm, Paige offers relatable insights to help you embrace the power of the present moment.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we are joined by Amber Hollingsworth, the creator of the YouTube channel Put the Shovel Down and founder of Hope for Families Recovery Center. Together, we explore the misunderstood role of spouses in the recovery process, the power of influence over control, and why tough love often misses the mark. Amber shares insights on using accountability tools like SoberLink, balancing empathy with boundaries, and how to recognize genuine effort in recovery. Whether you're in the midst of addiction, supporting a loved one, or seeking clarity in chaos, this conversation is packed with honest, actionable advice. Don't miss this deep dive into what really works in recovery for individuals and families.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige's Perspective, Paige dives into the essential question: Are you living by your values? Drawing inspiration from a Freya India article on anxiety and values, she reflects on how self-love and self-respect aren't given—they're earned through action. Paige breaks down how values like honesty, health, and personal integrity serve as an inner compass, helping us make decisions and create a life we're proud of. She emphasizes that living by values isn't about perfection; it's about small, intentional steps that lead to big changes. Whether it's teaching kids the importance of values by example or questioning societal conditioning around health, Paige reminds us that we always have the power to realign.If you've ever felt overwhelmed, anxious, or disconnected, this episode will inspire you to pause and ask: Am I living by my values?Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode, we sit down with Sheri and Matt Salis from the Untoxicated Podcast to explore the complexities of addiction, recovery, and the profound impact these experiences have on relationships. Sheri and Matt share their journey, starting from the early years of their marriage, through the decade of Matt's active addiction, and into the challenging process of rebuilding their lives and relationship.We dive deep into topics like natural detachment, resentment processing, and how addiction reshapes not just the addict but also their partner. Sheri opens up about the anger and resentment she carried while navigating life with an addicted partner and the turning point that led her to seek her own recovery. Matt reflects on the pain of early sobriety, the humbling process of earning back trust, and the realization that love wasn't enough—respect and healing were just as crucial.Together, they discuss the often-overlooked trauma that partners endure, the importance of individual growth, and why validation, empathy, and independent recovery are at the heart of healing. Whether you're the partner of someone in addiction or someone striving for sobriety, this conversation offers hope, insight, and actionable wisdom for anyone walking this difficult path.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!It's a week into the new year, and while resolutions are fresh on our minds, some of you may already feel yourself slipping. This is the perfect time to confront a reality that can change everything: no one is coming to save you. If you've been waiting for someone to fix your life, make decisions for you, or pull you out of the tough situations you're in, it's time to stop. The truth might feel harsh, but it's also freeing—because the power to change your life has been in your hands all along.In this episode, I'll unpack why we often believe someone is supposed to save us, from cultural conditioning to the fear of independence. For some, this waiting game looks like hoping a partner will change—believing that if they just get it together, everything will fall into place. But that's another way of handing over your power. When we pin our happiness on someone else's actions, we give them control over our lives instead of taking responsibility for our own growth.I'll also challenge the myth of rock bottom and the excuses we use to avoid responsibility, while exploring how to break free from the victim mindset and start building the skills to save yourself. Along the way, I'll share examples, practical steps, and a message of hope: you don't have to be perfect, but you do have to take action.Because here's the hard truth: no one else can live your life or make your decisions for you. But that's also the good news—you have everything you need to become your own hero. So let's talk about how to do the damn work and reclaim your power.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we dive into the paradox of lukewarm lives and why sometimes, when things get worse, it can actually be the catalyst for positive change. We explore how challenging times teach us about relationships, resilience, and what truly makes a great partner.From navigating emotional rock bottoms to questioning what we tolerate in life, we discuss the "Region Beta Paradox" and why tolerable discomfort often leads to prolonged stagnation. With personal stories, thought-provoking insights, and a focus on challenging your comfort zone, this episode is a wake-up call to take charge of your happiness and embrace the discomfort of growth.We also touch on gratitude in relationships, the cost of inaction, and why some couples thrive through hardships while others falter. Whether you're in recovery, supporting a partner, or seeking clarity in your life, this episode offers valuable perspectives and encouragement to stop digging and start climbing toward something better.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige's Perspective, we dive into the power of the questions we ask ourselves and how they shape our lives. Are your inner questions keeping you stuck, or are they guiding you toward growth? Learn how to identify disempowering questions like, “Why does this always happen to me?” and reframe them into empowering ones like, “What can I learn from this?” Through real-life examples, journaling prompts, and practical strategies, you'll discover how to challenge negative narratives, focus on your personal growth, and reclaim control over your mindset. Sometimes, all it takes is the right question to turn a struggle into a breakthrough. Tune in and start shifting your perspective today!Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this two-part New Year's special, we dive deep into the lessons, challenges, and victories of the past year. We reflect on our personal growth, professional milestones, and the hard truths that shaped our journey—and maybe yours too.Part one kicks off with a powerful year-end review exercise, designed to help you reflect on how far you've come—because, yes, you've accomplished more than you think. Plus, we share our own goals for 2025, lessons learned, and how we plan to keep showing up authentically in every aspect of our lives.In part two, an insightful acid test for spotting poor communication and the reality of incompatibility in relationships. Can dismissive avoidant behaviors and everything-is-an-argument mindsets be navigated? We break it down. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Empathy is a beautiful quality, but when it starts to overshadow your self-respect, it can become a trap. In this episode, Paige explores the fine line between caring for someone and enabling them, unpacking why letting people face the consequences of their actions is often the most loving—and respectful—choice you can make. Through relatable examples and practical advice, she dives into how unchecked empathy can erode your boundaries, delay someone else's growth, and leave you feeling drained. Tune in to learn how to balance compassion with accountability and maintain healthy, respectful relationships.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode, we're getting real about complaining—why we do it, when it's healthy, and when it becomes a trap that keeps us stuck. Complaining isn't the enemy; sometimes, you need to let off steam and call out the frustration. But here's the truth: if all you're doing is talking about the problem without taking action, you're just spinning your wheels.We'll dive into:The good side of complaining—how venting can clear your head and highlight what needs to change.The downside—how staying in a cycle of complaints keeps you powerless, drains your energy, and blinds you to solutions.The key question you need to ask yourself: “Am I releasing this, or am I living in it?”Because complaining feels productive in the moment, but progress only happens when you're ready to stop rocking in that chair and take a step forward.“It's okay to hate where you are. Just don't plant roots there.”Let's talk about getting out of the complaining trap and back into action.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!The holidays can get messy when unspoken issues come to light. In this episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we dive into the complexities of accountability during the holiday season. When a spouse or partner's actions have rippled out and hurt family or friends, how do you navigate the awkward tension?Matt shares actionable advice for those on the recovering side of addiction, urging them to take ownership and repair the damage they've caused—no matter how difficult it feels. Paige provides insight for partners who find themselves caught in the middle, carrying the burden of smoothing things over. Together, they explore what true accountability looks like, why it's essential, and how partners can protect themselves if accountability never comes.Plus, they discuss why shame can be a powerful driver for change and challenge the illusion of loyalty when enabling becomes mistaken for support. If you're facing difficult family dynamics this holiday season, this episode offers clarity, validation, and steps forward—whether together or alone.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode, Paige shares thoughts on Optimism Theatre—a concept Matt explored in a recent TWFO article. While he told the story from his perspective as someone in recovery, Paige focuses on why it's so difficult for spouses and partners to set boundaries and be assertive in these relationships. I dive into how the addict's performance of optimism—promising change, saying the right things, and creating false hope—can keep us stuck in cycles of waiting and second-guessing. Actions speak louder than words. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we sit down with the brilliant Celeste Yvonne, celebrated author of It's Not About the Wine and a powerful voice in the conversation on sobriety, motherhood, and societal expectations. Celeste shares her deeply personal journey of quitting alcohol, navigating the mental load of motherhood, and confronting the harmful messaging of “mommy wine culture.”We explore how women often turn to alcohol to cope with the crushing responsibilities of parenting, the role of societal conditioning, and the deeper truths about emotional labor in traditional partnerships. Celeste candidly discusses her unconventional path to sobriety, the challenges of rediscovering herself without alcohol, and the importance of building supportive communities like the Sober Mom Squad.This episode is both validating and thought-provoking as we challenge gender norms, discuss the necessity for systemic change, and explore actionable ways partners can better support one another. Whether you're a parent, in recovery, or simply someone seeking more balance and authenticity in life, this conversation is a must-listen.Links and Resources:Grab a copy of Celeste Yvonne's book It's Not About the WineFollow Celeste on Instagram and TikTok: @theultimatemomchallengeJoin the Sober Mom Squad communityFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here