Till The Wheels Fall Off

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Shame can keep you stuck in self-judgment or help you grow, depending on what you do with it. In this Mindset Monday, Matt talks about what shame really is, where it comes from, and how to move through it without collapsing or running from it. You'll learn how to handle the first wave of emotion when it hits, reframe the thoughts that follow, and turn that discomfort into accountability instead of avoidance. Matt also shares how shame shows up in relationships during recovery and repair, how to stay grounded when a partner spirals, and how to face your own shame for staying, tolerating, or being connected to addiction. This episode is a practical guide to turning pain into progress and rebuilding self-respect one honest moment at a time.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Many spouses believe they're catastrophizing — blowing things out of proportion, imagining the worst — when in reality, they're minimizing. In this episode of Paige's Perspective, we explore how minimization shows up as a survival strategy, how addicted partners manipulate us into shrinking the truth, and how society reinforces it with messages like “at least he's not hitting you” or “forgive and forget.” I'll share real-life examples of what minimizing looks like, why we're so afraid of facing reality, and how recognizing the truth — even when it's scary — can set us free.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!You've probably heard the saying, “A drunk man's words are a sober man's thoughts” But is that really true? In this episode, we break down drunken honesty and get real about what alcohol does (and doesn't) change. From the science of lowered inhibitions to the deeper beliefs and resentments that surface when the filter drops, we explore why it's not just about what was said in the moment but about the patterns that reveal who someone really is.Most importantly, we shift the focus away from dissecting intent and toward the impact these words and behaviors have on you. Whether they meant it or not, the harm is real and you don't have to play detective to figure it out.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this Mindset Monday, Matt tackles a listener's question about “living amends” - why they're often a cop-out in recovery and never enough to repair a relationship. He breaks down why true amends require naming the harm, validating the pain, and offering repair, and why skipping this step leaves partners carrying the past alone. From there, the episode shifts into a powerful conversation on acceptance and how it can serve as a spiritual foundation for many people lost on spiritual matters. Matt explores the difference between spirituality and religion, the research showing why people with some form of higher power tend to be happier and more resilient, and how to build your own spiritual framework starting with your values. The result is an unflinching but hopeful roadmap: real repair in relationships, acceptance as freedom, and spirituality as a compass for life.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige's Perspective, we're talking about the power of change and choices. How many times have you thought, “I've messed up. I'll never change. I'll never be enough”? Maybe it was after snapping at your kids, numbing out with your phone, or slipping back into an old pattern.One bad moment doesn't define you. It's what you choose to do next that matters. Neuroscience shows us that every time we make a new choice, our brains rewire to make that path clearer and easier. Guilt and shame aren't proof you're broken; they're signals that something needs to shift, and they can become fuel for growth if you let them.In this episode, I'll share practical tools for shrinking your focus down to the next choice, labeling the old trails that keep you stuck, and celebrating the small wins that add up to big transformation.Because every new choice is a chance to write a different story. And the power to choose again is always in your hands.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!When your child's tone, excuses, or sneaky moments feel eerily familiar, it can trigger real fear - are we replaying my partner's behaviors? In this episode, we unpack the difference between normal child development and harmful adult patterns. We dig into nature vs. nurture (genes load the gun; environment pulls the trigger), why kids' emotional immaturity is expected while adult immaturity is damaging, and how to respond without projecting old wounds onto your child.You'll learn simple, repeatable tools: name the trigger (“I'm reacting to my spouse, not my kid”), pause before correcting, teach emotional language, model repair and accountability, hold consistent boundaries, and spot the red flags that deserve closer attention. We'll also share how one stable, nurturing parent can shift a child's trajectory - and why your day-to-day modeling matters more than DNA.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!We've all heard it: “At least he's a good dad.” It sounds comforting, but it's often a cover for hard truths. In this Mindset Monday, we dig deep into what fatherhood really means - and why showing up at games, birthday parties, or posting highlight-reel moments doesn't make the cut. You cannot be a bad husband and a good dad.We break down the myths that underlying ideas and biases that keep this narrative alive - visibility bias, selective memory, social reinforcement - and how they let men claim the title of “good dad” while leaving their families with the real weight of dysfunction. We challenge the idea that you can separate being a father from being a husband, making the case that the two are inseparable: you cannot mistreat your partner, live in dishonesty, or create chaos at home and still call yourself a good dad.Together, we raise the bar for what fatherhood should mean today: integrity, consistency, emotional safety, shared mental load, and modeling love through respect. We ask the hard questions: Would you want your daughter to marry a man like you? Do your kids feel safer when mom is around? Are you raising children who know what love looks like - or kids who will spend years recovering from the absence of it?This episode isn't about crushing anyone's spirit - it's about lifting men higher, giving spouses language to see the full picture, and inviting all of us to stop settling for the bare minimum. When we raise the standard for dads, we change families, marriages, and future generations.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige's Perspective, I break down the difference between eustress (productive stress that builds resilience) and unsafe stress (toxic, chronic stress that erodes your health and peace). We'll explore why your body often confuses the two, how adrenaline and cortisol show up in both, and the key markers that help you recognize whether stress is shaping you or breaking you.You'll learn:The dangers of unsafe stress and how it rewires your nervous system.The surprising benefits of eustress for your body, mind, and confidence.Practical ways to reduce unsafe stress and lean into stress that fuels growth.This isn't about eliminating stress. It's about learning which kind helps you grow and which kind you need to walk away from. Because when you know the difference, you can reclaim your strength, your energy, and your life.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!“How do I support their recovery?” is probably the most common question families ask in addiction recovery, but the answers they get are often vague, contradictory, and unfair. In this episode, we unpack what treatment centers hand out to families, why so much of it is confusing, and what support really means. We talk about boundaries as a form of support, why encouragement and space matter, the role of positive reinforcement, and the hard truth that you cannot guarantee someone else's recovery. You can support people in recovery, but you can't recover for them. Besides some discussion on what functional and emotional support for someone in recovery could actually look like, we're going to discuss what you can do - protect your dignity, your safety, and your future.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Emotional intelligence is not soft. It is how you stop letting feelings run the show and start letting values drive your choices. In this Mindset Monday I break down what emotional intelligence really is, why it decides the quality of your marriage, fatherhood, and career, and how to build it with simple daily reps. We walk through the five components of emotional intelligence , real-life ways they show up, and three drills you can use today: Name it, don't numb it, the 90 second pause before you respond, and a one line empathy check in that reduces defensiveness and builds trust. If you have ever said “I'll do better” and then reacted the same way next week, this is your playbook.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this Paige's Perspective, we get honest about triggers; the sounds, smells, and behaviors that send spouses of addicts into panic. Too often, these reactions are dismissed as character defects or controlling behavior. The truth? Triggers are trauma responses. They're alarms your body sets off when safety is missing. We'll look at common triggers, what they really represent underneath (betrayal, secrecy, abandonment), and why it's not the alcohol itself but the behaviors surrounding it that do the deepest damage. This episode will help you reframe triggers not as flaws, but as signals pointing you toward what you deserve: honesty, trust, and safety in your relationships.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Spouses are told to learn the addict, but who teaches the addict what their choices did to the spouse's brain, safety, and sense of self? In this conversation, Matt and Paige build on Paige's recent mini episode to name the gap in traditional recovery. We break down why amends without education fall short, how betrayal trauma rewires responses, and why partners are mislabeled as codependent when many are reacting to real harm. We walk through a family-program handout to show what is missing, tackle the pros and cons of introducing this education early, and outline what mutual respect and real accountability look like at home. Expect validation, clarity, and practical next steps for couples who are genuinely rebuilding and for individuals choosing their own healing. Your experience matters. Your recovery matters too.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Our brains love comfort, routine, and the familiar - even when the familiar keeps us stuck. In this Mindset Monday, Matt breaks down pattern recognition: why we miss our own loops, how denial and rationalization create blind spots, and how simply naming the pattern turns “I'm stuck” into something you can actually solve.We get real about sobriety (why “the safe number is zero” for some of us), relationships (no-contact, hopium, and learning to trust actions over words), and everyday goals (sleep, screens, the gym, sugar, spending). You'll leave with a clear 4-step playbook: identify your top three patterns, map where they always lead, own your role in keeping them alive, and install one boundary or environment change that breaks the loop.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige's Perspective, I dig into a powerful comment from one of our listeners: “As the spouse, I'm basically told to become an expert on their addiction, yet they don't have to become an expert on my trauma.” This one line exposes the imbalance in the recovery world. Spouses are often told to go to Al-Anon, read the Big Book, and learn about addiction, but no one tells them to study their own trauma caused by their partner or expect their partner to understand the harm they've caused.I'll share why this matters so deeply, how living in chaos rewires your brain and body, and why hyper-vigilance, self-doubt, panic, and physical symptoms are not “character defects”... they're trauma responses. We'll also explore different forms of betrayal trauma beyond lying and cheating, from financial secrecy to emotional neglect, broken promises, safety violations, and more.This episode is about reclaiming the focus: your trauma, your healing, and your right to be understood. Because recovery isn't just about learning their dopamine pathways; it's about acknowledging how their choices have impacted you and giving yourself permission to heal.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Matt and Paige pull the lid off a loaded topic: resentment. You've been told to “let it go,” to forgive, to be grateful - but what if your resentment isn't a defect...what if it's a warning? In this conversation, we separate toxic positivity from real safety, show how resentment protects you in unhealthy dynamics, and explain when it becomes dead weight in a healthy one. We talk early recovery (why 1–2 years of consistent change matter), why prepackaged resentment slogans only work in safe relationships, how to name patterns without gaslighting yourself, and what to ask instead of “How do I get rid of it?”- namely, “What is my resentment trying to tell me?” If you want clarity on when to hold the line and when to heal, this one's for you.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!We've all said it: “I can't walk away, I've already put too much in.” That's the sunk cost fallacy talking. In this episode, Matt breaks down why we stay in jobs, relationships, and habits that don't serve us, and the five psychological traps that keep us stuck. More importantly, we'll share practical ways to start moving forward so you stop protecting your past and start building your future.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode, Paige talks about the difference between boundaries and expectations, how to shift your language so boundaries feel empowering instead of exhausting, and why they're less about fairness and more about safety. Boundaries are the rules you live by — not rules for anyone else. If you've ever struggled with setting boundaries in relationships, family, or even daily life, this episode will help you see them as a tool for freedom, self-protection, and clarity.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!“Should I stay or should I go?” It's the question every spouse of an addict whispers in the dark, and the one that can paralyze you with fear, guilt, and hope. It's the question with no clear answer. It's not "leave" or "run" or any other number of invalidating things you've heard...it's also not "stay no matter that" or "In sickness and in health used to mean something". It's usually somewhere in between - unless there's abuse - and yes, addiction is a form of abuse. But we're going to discuss it with nuance.In this episode, Matt breaks down the truth behind that question so you can finally stop spinning in circles and start discerning what's right for you.You'll learn:The real reasons you tolerate so much (and why your biology fights against leaving).How to separate survival wiring from reality so you can see the relationship clearly.The gut-check questions that cut through denial, like: Would they have stuck around for you?Why expectations are setting you up for heartbreak.What to do if you can't leave yet—and how to lower your expectations for survival without losing yourself.The non-negotiables that prove sobriety isn't enough without growth and accountability.By the end of this episode, you won't just be asking “Should I stay or should I go?” - you'll have a better idea, and possibly even the answer on how to answer it for yourself.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Getting sober is one thing. Staying sober - living sober in a world where alcohol is everywhere - is another challenge entirely. In this episode of Mindset Monday, Matt dives into what it really looks like to be sober day-to-day, from battling boredom and navigating social situations to understanding the brain science behind why everything feels flat at first.Matt shares practical strategies, personal stories, and the mindset shifts that carried him through the hard moments: why cravings pass in 15 minutes, how to survive your “firsts” without alcohol, and how to make sobriety part of your identity rather than a punishment. You'll hear about transitional addictions, why consistency matters more than perfection, and why the phrase “I don't drink” is so much more powerful than “I can't drink.”Whether you're new to recovery or years in, this episode is about more than avoiding alcohol - it's about building a life you don't want to escape from.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige's Perspective, I'm breaking down the truth about betrayal trauma — and why it's so much more than cheating. From financial betrayal to chronic lies, gaslighting, broken promises, and crossed boundaries, betrayal in a relationship takes many forms and leaves deep wounds. Too often, betrayed partners get slapped with the “codependent” label, which shifts blame away from the person who caused the harm and piles shame on someone already hurting. I'll share real-life examples, explain how betrayal trauma impacts your brain and body, and talk about how the recovery world needs to shift its focus from pathologizing survival instincts to supporting real healing.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Sobriety alone doesn't prove someone has changed. Real recovery is measured in behavior - respect, honesty, accountability, and humility - not just the absence of a substance. In this episode, Matt breaks down Lundy Bancroft's Checklist for Assessing Change and adapts it to the realities of addiction recovery. You'll learn how to recognize the difference between situational conflict and abusive patterns, why addiction can't be used as an excuse, and what real transformation looks like in practice. Whether you're the one in recovery or the partner watching for signs of change, this episode will help you separate lip service from the kind of growth that actually rebuilds trust.Checklist: Lundy Bancroft Checklist for Assessing Changing Change in Men Who Abuse WomenFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This week on Mindset Monday, Matt takes on one of the biggest traps we fall into—waiting for the “right time.” Whether it's getting sober, leaving a toxic relationship, or simply taking the next step toward the life you want, we convince ourselves that better conditions will magically arrive to make change easier. The truth? Rock bottom isn't some tragic event - it's the moment you stop digging.Matt weaves in lessons from Marcus Aurelius, Viktor Frankl, George Mack's concept of high agency, and his own recovery journey to show why imperfect action is always better than endless waiting and rumination. You'll walk away with a challenge for the week: stop rehearsing the life you want in your head and take one concrete action toward it today.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige's Perspective, I share why I don't like talking about addiction — and why I believe it's often just a convenient cover for behaviors that need to be addressed no matter what. Too often we focus on understanding addiction, thinking it will give us the answers we need to heal, when the truth is, those behaviors exist with or without the substance. I talk about my own experience of navigating my husband's active addiction without knowing anything about the “rules” or the disease model, and how that actually saved me from excusing hurtful, manipulative, and unsafe actions. This episode is about shifting the focus back to you: your values, your boundaries, and your authentic self.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this follow-up to one of our most popular episodes, Matt dives deeper into the questions wives, girlfriends, and partners send in about men, addiction, recovery, and relationships. From understanding why logic rarely works with someone in active addiction, to how appreciation, boundaries, and emotional support really land with men, this episode covers it all - the raw truth, the uncomfortable parts, and the hard-earned lessons from both sides of the struggle. Matt answers honestly, without sugarcoating, while giving practical insight spouses can actually use. Whether you're staying, leaving, or still figuring it out, this conversation will give you clarity, validation, and the perspective you need.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this Mindset Monday, Matt takes men beyond sobriety into the deeper work that actually rebuilds trust and creates lasting change. Drawing from his own journey of repairing his marriage after a decade of addiction, he unpacks the five components of emotional intelligence: self-awareness, self-regulation, social skills, empathy, and motivation. He contrasts them with the destructive patterns of emotional immaturity, from weaponized incompetence and gaslighting to projection and scorekeeping. With step-by-step tools, relatable stories, and hard truths, this episode is a blueprint for becoming a steady, trustworthy, emotionally mature man your partner and family can depend on, whether you are early in recovery or years into the journey.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this week's episode of Paige's Perspective, I unpack a quote from Ted Lasso that stopped me in my tracks: “This didn't happen to me; it happened for me.” I talk about what it's like to sit with anger, resentment, and grief (even after years of healing) and why it's okay to not be grateful for the pain itself, but still be proud of the person it shaped.From learning to trust your gut, to setting boundaries that actually protect your peace, to finally letting go of the belief that love is enough to fix addiction; I'm sharing the lessons that hit hardest and helped me grow. If you've ever questioned whether healing is working, or felt like you're back at square one, this episode will remind you: healing is messy, non-linear, and incredibly brave.Whether you're still in the thick of it or finding your way out, this is your reminder that it's okay to feel it all and still rise. You're not alone.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!If you've ever wanted to understand what was actually going on in my head when I was lying, numbing, and pretending to change, this is the episode to save or reference back to. I'm not an authority on all of the questions you may have about your addicted loved one, but I've been through it myself and walked through it with countless people over the years and I hope it's insightful.I get asked these questions more than any others:Did you love Paige while you were still hurting her?What finally made it real for you?Should you wait on a man to change?What was going through your head when she was falling apart and you weren't changing?What role did consequences play?What helped, and what would've made you pull further away?How can a woman tell if her partner is serious?Was it fear holding you back or pride?Would you have changed without losing anything?Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This episode is for the man standing at the crossroads, the one who knows the truth but hasn't taken action yet. The one who's tired of lying to everyone, especially himself.Matt gets brutally honest about what it really takes to change...not just to get sober, but to become the kind of man you can respect. The kind of man you promised you'd be.He dives into the comfort of dysfunction, the illusion of control, and the fear of living without the one thing you always counted on - whether it was alcohol, pills, or chaos itself. You'll hear how to recognize your patterns, how to stop cosigning your own bullshit, and why just “not drinking” isn't the finish line, it's the starting gate.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this powerful follow-up to our recent episode on family dynamics, we go deeper into what it's like to grow up in a dysfunctional family system and what it takes to break free. We talk about emotionally immature parents, the painful dynamics of enmeshment, and the subtle but lasting damage of emotional neglect.If you've ever been told you're “too sensitive,” had to parent your parents, or felt like healing was treated as betrayal, this one's for you. From a spouse's perspective, it feels like it's you against the world as you seem to be the only person that can see the dysfunction - and it's incredibly isolating. We share our own experiences navigating these systems, how it nearly tore our marriage apart, and what finally helped us see the truth. We also talk about the reality of going no-contact with a parent - not as a first step, but a last resort - and why it might be the only path to peace for some.This episode is for anyone who has ever been impacted by a dysfunctional family...for those that have felt unseen, unheard, or unimportant in their own family and who's ready to choose something healthier.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this deeply honest Mindset Monday episode, Matt speaks directly to the men who find themselves stuck in the messy middle of knowing they need to change but not knowing how. Whether it's addiction, emotional immaturity, broken trust, or just being a shell of the man you hoped to be—saying “I don't know” might be real, but it's not where the journey ends.Matt shares the stages of change, calls out the lie that awareness equals action, and reminds you that invisible effort won't earn you visible results. He explores what real growth looks like, how to move from talking about change to actually doing it, and why the version of you who just “means well” isn't enough anymore. This one's a roadmap for the guy who wants to feel proud of himself again—and for the spouse who's been waiting for more than words.Let this be the week you stop just thinking about it and start doing something.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!We don't talk enough about how hard the “normal” stuff can feel when you're coming out of survival mode. In this episode, I'm diving into the power of micro-wins; why they matter, why we dismiss them, and how they help retrain your brain and rebuild your sense of safety. This one's for anyone who feels stuck, unseen, or like they're not doing enough. You are. Let me show you.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This episode dives into one of the hardest issues couples face in recovery: toxic family dynamics. Is your spouse enabled by their family, are they kept under control or in the family system because of wealth? This one's for you.We're talking about the emotional chaos that comes when one partner sees the dysfunction and the other doesn't. We cover enmeshment, financial control, emotional immaturity, and how families can unknowingly (or intentionally) keep someone sick.We share real experiences navigating these situations in our own marriage and offer insight for spouses who feel unsupported, invalidated, or stuck in the middle. You'll learn why boundaries matter, what to expect when you start setting them, and why some of the biggest fights in marriage have nothing to do with your partner, but everything to do with the family they came from.If you've ever felt like the only one who sees the problem, this one's for you.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this audio newsletter (or maybe Mindset Mondays - still not sure here...working title), Matt tackles one of the most misunderstood and misused ideas in recovery: Step 9's infamous “except when to do so would injure them or others” clause. Too often, this line becomes a get-out-of-accountability-free card used to avoid hard conversations, hide the truth, and protect ego instead of healing relationships. Matt breaks down what amends actually means, how to avoid performative apologies, and why transparency matters more than comfort. Whether you're in recovery or not, this is a masterclass in integrity, trust, and real ownership. Stop doing things you have to apologize for. Live well, not just sober.Let the truth set you (and your relationships) free.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this honest follow-up to Wheelie Rehab, Paige shares where she's at in her nervous system reset—mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically. From slow mornings and ASMR background vibes to decluttering closets and skipping caffeine, she's rebuilding structure to save herself from burnout. But this episode is about more than routines; it's about reclaiming your life before it crumbles. Paige talks identity shifts, balancing gratitude with boundaries, and why self-care has to come before community care. This isn't just a vent; it's a reset. One built on action, honesty, and real momentum. If you're in the messy middle, this one's for you.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Sobriety changes everything. Not just for the person getting sober, but for the relationship too. In this episode, Matt and Paige talk about what really happens when the chaos ends, the roles shift, and the people in the relationship start to realize they're not who they used to be.Some relationships were built on survival, not stability. And once sobriety enters the picture, everything gets exposed. From mismatched growth to identity shifts to grief over the people you used to be, this episode dives into the messy in-between.They also break down the science behind it all, differentiation, family roles, polyvagal responses - and talk about why healing often brings up more questions than answers.If you're in a relationship that's navigating recovery, or you're the partner wondering why it suddenly feels off, this one's for you.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This one's for the guys who never ask, and for the partners who wish they would. I answered 12 of the most honest, uncomfortable, and important questions I get asked (usually in DMs) from men trying to figure out who the hell they are, how to change, and how to make things right.We're talking shame, trust, accountability, marriage, relapse, what Paige actually did that helped, and whether love is enough to save a relationship. I get into the biggest lies I told myself, the moment I knew Paige might actually leave, and what it really looks like to become a better man...not just a sober one.If you've ever felt stuck, ashamed, or like no one gets it, I promise something in here will hit. This episode is honest, gritty, and full of the stuff most people are too afraid to say out loud.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This week's Paige's Perspective isn't polished; it's personal. I'm in the middle of a full-blown nervous system reset because burnout caught up with me, and pushing through stopped working. I talk about overwhelm, guilt, hustle culture, and why I've traded productivity for consistency, structure, naps, and sun. If you've ever felt like your system is shot and you just want to hide under a rock, this one's for you. It's not lazy. It's recovery.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode, we talk with a guest who opens up about the quiet, painful, and often invisible process of leaving a long-term relationship with someone struggling with addiction. This is not a story of one big moment. It's about years of internal conflict, emotional detachment, financial planning, and facing the truth that love alone wasn't going to fix it.She shares what it felt like to carry the weight of the home, raise children in chaos, and slowly lose pieces of herself while hoping things would change. When nothing did, she stopped hoping and started preparing. This conversation is a powerful reminder that even when it looks fine on the outside, there can be a storm raging within.If you're stuck in the cycle of waiting, wondering, or trying to convince yourself it's not that bad, this one is for you.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige's Perspective, we're talking about something most healing journeys overlook—validation. You've probably heard things like “just trust yourself” or “you don't need anyone else's opinion.” But what if you've been gaslit, manipulated, blamed, and lied to by someone you loved? What if you spent years questioning your own reality?Here's the truth: you do need external validation in the beginning. It's part of the healing process. And today, I'm walking you through the three phases I see people go through in the Independently Strong program—from Borrowed Belief to Rebuilding Reality to Self-Validation.If you've ever felt like you should be further along, or wondered why you still need reassurance—this episode will help you breathe again. You're not behind. You're human. And you're healing.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This might be one of our most important conversations yet.In this episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, Matt and Paige take a deeper look at how patriarchy still influences recovery, relationships, and the systems that claim to support healing. We break down how women are often expected to stay silent, show grace, and be endlessly patient, even in situations that cause deep emotional harm.We explore the outdated beliefs that shaped programs like AA and Al-Anon, the gender roles passed down through generations, and the subtle ways control and emotional labor continue to fall on women. This is not a political conversation, it's a human one. It's about accountability, equality, and what a real partnership looks like.Whether you've been told to let things go, suppress your anger, or wait for someone else to get it together, this episode will help you name what's really going on.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Feeling like life keeps piling on? Like you're stuck in survival mode? In this short and honest episode, Paige offers a gentle reset for your nervous system and your spirit. If you're overwhelmed, overstimulated, or just done, this is your reminder: you're not broken, and you're not alone. You're in a season—and seasons change. No fixing. No fluff. Just truth, breath, and permission to feel it all. You're going to be okay. And we're right here with you.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we're not giving advice from the other side of healing. We're talking to you from inside the mess.Lately, the stress has been loud. We're forgetful, irritable, snapping at people we love, crying for no reason, and second-guessing everything we've already worked so hard to overcome. We thought we had our anxiety under control. We thought we had systems. We thought we had tools. And then it all came crashing down.We talk openly about what it feels like when both people in a relationship are struggling at the same time. No one is holding the rope. No one is okay. And that's exactly why this conversation matters.We break down how chronic stress affects your brain, your memory, your mood, and your behavior. You'll learn why you can't think straight, why you're forgetting everything, and why even small tasks feel impossible. It's not weakness. It's biology. And there's a way through it.If you're walking around feeling broken, you're not. You're just overloaded. And you're not alone.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Most men don't stay quiet because they have nothing to say, they stay quiet because they've been trained to believe it's safer that way. In this episode, Matt breaks down the some of the reasons he and other men struggle to open up: fear of being judged, minimized pain, past betrayals, and the belief that emotions make you weak. He shares how to start speaking honestly, even when it feels uncomfortable or unfamiliar, and why vulnerability isn't a loss of power, it's the beginning of becoming whole.Whether you've been silent for years or you're just trying to put words to what you feel, this one's for you.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!What happens when you find out the truth years later—when the person you trusted most finally admits they lied? This episode is about the invisible aftermath of long-term betrayal. Paige walks through how repeated lies, not just addiction, reshape your brain, destroy self-trust, and make you question your reality. She explores the delayed grief that hits when you're just now entering the pain they've already moved through, and why learning to trust yourself again is the foundation for everything that comes next. This life does change you—but not in all the bad ways. It can also give you clarity, strength, and the tools to protect yourself without hardening your heart.If you've ever asked, “How did I not see it?”—this one's for you.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!If you've heard this from a partner or found yourself asking it, this episode breaks down exactly why rebuilding trust isn't a single moment. It's a layered process that takes time, consistency, and real change.In this episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, Matt and Paige walk you through the four essential layers of trust that had to be rebuilt after addiction nearly destroyed their relationship:Sobriety Safety - the non-negotiable foundationFunctional Trust - parenting, money, and showing upEmotional Safety - being vulnerable without fearRelationship Safety - becoming true partners againThey share real-life examples, including a powerful listener story, and explain what it takes to rebuild trust with someone who's harmed you without gaslighting, shortcuts, or toxic positivity.If you've ever wondered, "How do I know if it's safe to trust again?" this is the episode you need.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Trust gets asked about all the time. “How do I trust them again?”  But that question is usually hiding something deeper, like “How do I stop feeling anxious?” or “How do I get back to normal?” In this audio newsletter, Matt talks about why that question might be the wrong place to start.This episode touches on the neuroscience and evolutionary basis of trust - why your brain wants to reconnect with someone who hurt you, and why that craving can override logic. Matt also shares some of what Dr. Jake Porter teaches about rebuilding safety in relationships, and how his approach aligns with my our experience.This episode really hones it on what it actually took to rebuild trust in our marriage after years of betrayal and addiction - no shortcuts, no hacks, no performance. Just the hard, boring, daily stuff that makes people feel safe again.If you're the one who's been hurt, we hope this helps you listen to your body and trust what it's telling you. And if you're the one who broke the trust, this is the playbook. Not to be forgiven, but to become someone worth trusting again.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige's Perspective, Paige gets real about something many of us are doing in the name of healing: self-monitoring everything—our sleep, food, steps, moods, routines. What starts as a tool for awareness can quickly turn into another form of anxiety and self-doubt, especially for those recovering from relational trauma.Paige shares her personal story of ditching her Apple Watch, the illusion of safety gadgets provide, and the deeper truth: real healing isn't something you track—it's something you feel.She explains why structure is helpful short-term, but ultimately, true empowerment means learning to trust yourself again—without needing a ring, app, or chart to tell you how you're doing.Plus: a powerful weekly challenge that invites you to tune back in to your body and instincts—and stop outsourcing your wisdom to tech.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Why do people stay in abusive relationships? Why don't they just leave?In this raw and powerful episode, Matt and Paige break down the complex psychological tactics that manipulators use to keep their partners stuck—DARVO, gaslighting, love bombing, guilt-tripping, isolation, and more. Inspired by recent high-profile stories, they connect the dots between emotional abuse in the public eye and what many quietly endure behind closed doors every day.Whether you're in it, healing from it, or supporting someone who is, this episode will help you understand the devastating impact of manipulation—and why it's not about weakness, but survival.Plus: why “just leave” is the wrong question, how trauma bonds form, and what you can do to start reclaiming your power.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Self-care isn't always candles and calm. In this episode of Paige's Perspective, Paige breaks down what real self-care actually looks like—and calls out the way many people use self-care as a cover for avoidance. From the difference between self-care and self-indulgence to the six key categories (mental, emotional, physical, spiritual, environmental, and social), you'll learn how to tell if your self-care is helping you heal… or keeping you stuck. If you're tired of numbing out and ready to start showing up for yourself in real, uncomfortable, life-changing ways—this one's for you.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this deeply insightful episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we sit down with Dr. Jake Porter, a leading expert in relational and betrayal trauma, sex addiction recovery, and emotional intimacy. Dr. Porter brings years of professional expertise and personal experience to unpack the complexities of sex and pornography addiction and their impact on relationships.Together, we explore:What sex addiction really is, how it differs from a high libido, and the role of pornography in relationships.The devastating effects of betrayal trauma on trust, memory, and self-perception.How empathy and accountability are essential for healing and rebuilding relationships after betrayal.Practical strategies for couples navigating recovery and reinventing intimacy after infidelity.The delicate balance between hope, choice, and personal empowerment in the healing process.Dr. Porter also dives into the neuroscience behind addiction and betrayal, offering a compassionate yet pragmatic roadmap for couples and individuals seeking lasting recovery and transformation. Whether you're in a relationship with an addict, recovering from betrayal trauma, or curious about the dynamics of healing, this episode is packed with wisdom and actionable advice.Resources Mentioned in the Episode:Dr. Porter's free book: Breaking BarriersLearn about intensives and coaching with Dr. Porter at Daring VenturesOnline programs: ChooseConnectionAcademy.comSupport the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!You've rewritten the message in your notes app a dozen times. You've softened your tone, used “I” statements, stayed calm, and begged them to meet you halfway—but nothing changes. In this episode, Paige breaks down the hard truth: most of you don't have a communication problem. You have a respect problem. A values problem. A partner who's not ready—or willing—to show up.We explore why so many people believe communication will fix everything, how that belief keeps them stuck, and how to tell when someone actually can meet you in a conversation. Paige doesn't give you a list of steps—but she gives you something better: clarity. Validation. And permission to stop performing for someone who doesn't want to listen.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here