Weekend Wind Down

Do you have shy regrets? Moments you wish you could go back and replay? And do you want to know how to avoid that in future? Today I share a story to show how there are 3 main pillars, which work together to keep us feeling shy and behaving shyly, and what to do about it. Want to find out more about a program I offer to help you to address this? Here's a link: https://subscribepage.io/love_your_life And remember, you are already wonderful, just as you are!

Did you know that that 75-80% of our thoughts are negative? And that 95% of those thoughts are repetitive? That's what psychologists and neuroscientists tell us. That we think about the same negative or worried or stressful things over and over. Does that surprise you? My hot tip today is to start to address this negative bias in a fun, simple way. Enjoy!

Do you see yourself as shy? Do you struggle to understand how life works; the way other people seem to? As you walk along the street, do you wish you weren't always stepping out of the way? Well, if you said yes to any of those then this is for you. Welcome to Let's Talk About shyness, our new blog series on how to live with less nervous tension and worry, and more compassion, confidence and joy! Today I'd love to give you a hot tip which you can play with anywhere, any time.

Are you shy? Do you feel that you're somehow different from other people? Do you worry that no one really understands you? And have you noticed? No one seems to want to talk about shyness. Of course not! For us shy people, it feels embarrassing. But shyness is more common than you think, and I'm here to start the quiet conversation we've all been secretly waiting for. Welcome to my new series - Let's Talk about Shyness! Join me every week, as we explore how to live with less nervous stress and more joy. I'm Carolyn Handley, the Shy Woman's Coach, and my passion is to create respectful spaces and communities where it's safe for us shy people to actually talk about shyness, explore ideas together and to guide you to take tiny, easy steps which add up to making life happier, calmer and more connected with others. Want to learn more. Check out my blog at: MyJoyfulLife.com.au Or email me on connect@myjoyfullife.com.au P.S. Do you want a brief moment of guided relaxation? Jump to 4:04 on this podcast.

Are you ready for the Festive Season? Are you gathering with family or friends? The last month or two has been a bit of a roller coaster ride for me, spending time visiting family members in hospital. And that's made me think about what's important. So join me today as I share my 2 top tips for a memorable Festive Season.

Do you tend to listen to others' stories, but struggle to be seen and heard? Do you wish that you could confidently share your stories? I get it. I used to be so quiet. Sitting listening, but not saying much. Join me today, as I share three ways I learned to let go of nervous shyness and self-conscious thinking and become a storyteller. And then let's wind down to the weekend together.

Do you ever feel you're different from other women, because you just don't enjoy big parties or events? Wondering why you're not excited when invited to a party or BBQ? Fed up with freaking out and missing the event when others are excited to have a good time? If you feel lonely because you're staying home rather than going out, you may think it's because there's something wrong with you. The time comes for the party and you just want to stay home and watch your favourite show. But if you keep staying at home and not socialising, you'll stay lonely and isolated I've been coaching women over the last 5 years, and one thing I love is to help women like you to overcome the social isolation. Join me as I tell you about a client who struggled with going out. ANNOUNCING TODAY: I'm opening up 4 spaces in my Shy to Shining program in November, and 4 spaces in December. And if you join my challenge and answer the two feedback questions, there's 20% discount on the program in November and 10% discount in December. Here's a link to my calendar to book a free clarity call, to explore whether this program is right for you: https://BookwithCarolyn.as.me/ClarityCall Wishing you a wonderful weekend!

Do you feel the tension? When you pause, do you feel it? Like you're always busy? Always on the move? Like you're in a race, rushing towards an unseen goal, and you don't even know where you're going? You feel that life is whizzing by. That there are so many expectations and demands from all angles. That you're expected to be a successful career woman, a caring and supportive Mum, a sexy and attentive partner, a helpful daughter, a fabulous friend, and a social media star – all the while running the household smoothly (shopping, cooking, paying bills, washing, cleaning, tidying) ... Woah! And yet, I deeply believe that your one precious life is not meant to lived running on a treadmill, feeling exhausted but pushing on regardless. I believe that it is possible to live with joy and ease, with humour rather than frustration, with flow rather than stress, with lightly held structure rather than overwhelm. Join me as we explore this today. P.S. Want to learn simple tools to build calm and conversational confidence? For free? The challenge starts 13 November 2022, and videos can be watched anywhere any time. They will be available to watch for free until 9am 28 November 2022 (Sydney, Australia time) For more info and to join in, here's the link: https://www.subscribepage.com/fabfestive1 P.P.S. Remember - Be kind to yourself and trust you can handle it, to enjoy the ride!

When someone invites you to go out , how do you feel? Are you excited to be going out? Or did you actually enjoy the pandemic as an excuse to say no to certain invitations? Nowadays, most people seem to have stopped worrying about covid. And so the social invitations have started flowing again. And that will only increase as we get closer to the festive season. So I wonder – how are you reacting to that? If you're struggling to re-engage socially, I have great news for you. You're not alone. In fact, it's so common that there are many psychologists around the world researching this very phenomenon. Join me today, to get some clarity and then to wind down to the weekend with compassion.

What do you do when you're feeling anxious? Do you take a few deep breaths to try to calm down? That's what we've been told to do, right? And how is that working for you? Over time, are you becoming a calmer person? Or does that anxiety just keep popping up for you, over and over, day after day? And why does it do that? Could it be because you haven't dealt with the cause of the anxious feelings? Join me as we explore a better way to handle our feelings, and then as we wind down to the weekend

Do you ever look at other women and wish your life was more like theirs? Do you see women with a successful career, lovely family, tidy home and fit, healthy-looking body and feel twinges of jealousy? Do you wonder how they manage to squeeze in all of those things? If you wake up each morning feeling tired and tense. If you say to yourself “Here we go again!” If your day feels like a heavy blanket rather than light and free. I have great news for you! You can change that, starting today. Join me for today's top tip, where I'll unpack that for you, and then as we wind down to the weekend with gratitude and calm.

Is your social life different nowadays, compared to before the pandemic? Will you be out having fun with family or friends on the weekend? Or will you be hiding at home? And are you spending more time at home alone than you would prefer? According to the research, many people are not connecting to family and friends the way they used to, and this sense of disconnection can cause you to feel lonely or flat. You get to the weekend and part of you wants to be with others, but another part puts on the brakes. It's all too hard. If you're not spending as much time as you'd like with others, having fun together, you're not alone. Listen to this episode to find out more.

It's the weekend! Are you ready to have fun? This evening I'm feeling tired. How about you? We're not machines. Sometimes we can't just change gears and suddenly be relaxed and ready to have fun. So, check in with your body. How are you feeling right now? Are you feeling stressed or worried? Or are you peaceful and relaxed? The good news is that there are quick, easy ways to relax your body and calm your brain, to stop it whizzing around way after you've put your work down. Are you ready to try a couple of ways? Join me this evening as we play with this together.

Do you sometimes feel like you're just going through life but it's become a bit vanilla? A bit ordinary? Like you'd love a spark of colour but you don't know where to find it? Today's hot tip is just for you. Today I'll share one of my secret strategies to bringing a bit of colour into your life. And then let's wind down to the weekend together, with calm, gratitude, a relaxing body scan and by setting an intention for the weekend.

Do you have a goal – like to eat healthier or get fit or lose weight or get to sleep earlier? But then do you get diverted from your goal, and find the distractions hard to resist? For example, do you walk past the chocolate cake on the bench once, twice, three times, but eventually give in and eat some? Today's hot tip is just for you.

Do you seem to struggle with the same frustration, again and again? Do the same sorts of things make you feel anxious or stressed? Do people all seem to treat you the same way? Join me as I share exciting results from mindset research, which shows that you can actually change, and as I share the questions to ask yourself to overcome your frustrations so you can keep learning and growing. I'm cheering you on. You've got this!

Do you sometimes worry that people will laugh at you or criticize you? Are you scared that, if people knew the real you, they'd be disappointed? Or even shocked? I get it. And today I offer a tip for you, if you feel there's something wrong with you. If you worry that you're not as good as other people. And remember - You're a wonderful woman, just as you are!

It's Friday night. Phew! The weekend is finally here. But I wonder, when you get to the weekend, how do you feel? Do you fall into an exhausted heap? And do you hope your bestie will make you feel better? Or even give you a big hug and put your pieces back together again for you? I wonder what impact this has on your relationship? And what you can do about it? Join me as we explore this together and I share a hot tip and then as we wind down to the weekend.

I've been a shy, highly sensitive introvert for my whole life. And I've always seen these as disadvantages. As problems to fix. How about you? In this episode, we explore what's an introvert? How is that different to being a shy person or being highly sensitive? And how can any of these traits actually be your superpower? I encourage you to reflect on your own traits - What's your superpower? Wishing you a wonderful weekend! Carolyn The Shy Woman's Coach at MyJoyfulLife.com.au

Do you wish your life was different? That you were better at a particular skill or hobby? That you were healthier? slimmer? fitter? Today I share one of my secrets and then we wind down to the weekend.

Join me as we wind down to the weekend. In this episode, I share a little of my story, as a shy, quiet, highly sensitive introvert, struggling with stress, social anxiety and the doubts of "Am I good enough?", and what I eventually found which helped me to live with less worry and more joy and to make a positive impact in the world. And remember, You are good enough just the way you are!

When things don't go as planned, do you get upset? reactive? Angry with yourself or others? If you do, today's episode is just for you. Join me as I share what happened this week. And then as I guide you to wind down to the weekend, relaxing your body and setting an intention for the weekend. Wishing you a wonderful weekend!

Welcome to the weekend wind down, a time to relax, let go of stress, and get ready for the weekend. Today's top tip is in the form of a story: How did Flora overcome feeling stressed by her intimidating manager? Listen in to hear how she did it. And if you're interested in learning more about the "Relationships - from Reactivity to Confidence" 30 day intensive coaching program, email Carolyn at connect@MyJoyfulLife.com.au and I'll send you more information.

Is there someone at work who's really annoying? Is someone critical or nasty, and that shuts you down? Do you feel stressed even going to work? I get it. That used to be me. I was scared I wasn't good enough, and so I feared criticism and rejection. Well, the bad news is, you can't change them. But the good news is, you can change you. Today's hot tip is powerful and only takes a second or two. May the coming week be full of love and laughter as you try loving yourself more and more.

How's your year going? Are you exactly where you were hoping to be by now? Join me as we take a quick look back over the past 6 months, with curiosity not criticism. Do you have a word for the year? If not, what qualities or attributes would you like more of in the rest of 2022? Wishing you a very Happy New Year!

What do you do when you're stuck? When you have no choice? Someone I admire who explored this very question was Viktor Frankl. He suffered immensely as a prisoner during World War II, including losing his closest family members. He survived when thousands didn't, and afterwards he is well-known for teaching that, however bad your circumstances, you can always choose how you respond. I wonder where you feel stuck? I wonder what situation or relationship makes you feel you have no choice? I wonder what you could choose to do in response? Join me as we explore ways of opening ourselves to new possibilities, and then as we wind down to the weekend with gratitude and a smile.

In this episode we briefly explore what happens in your brain and therefore why it's so easier and easier to get stressed. And how to strengthen the neural networks which will lead to calm. And we wind down to the weekend with a body scan and gratitude for the week.

Are you so busy already that you can't possibly add anything more? I mean, you know you should exercise more, sleep more, eat better, meditate regularly, etc. - but how can you add even one of those things to your already full schedule? And yet, deep down you know that if you keep on living with all that stress, soon your relationships will suffer. And what about your health? I know how it feels to be juggling so much, with no free time. So I love to help women like to find little bits of time, to squeeze in the things you need to practice. In today's wind down, I share a hot tip which helps my clients to get calmer and healthier, without taking one extra minute in their busy day.

Is there a knotty problem that you're grappling with, which has suddenly popped up when everything had been going so well? Do you feel frustrated that you just can't seem to find the way forward? Do you feel stuck and think “I'm never going to work this out!”? Is that making you procrastinate, rather than keep moving ahead? The great news for you is – that's totally normal. And today's episode includes some hot tips to get unstuck again, and moving in the direction of your dreams. Have a wonderful weekend! Carolyn

Have you ever said “I can't meditate!” You're not alone. It's the most common thing women say to me about meditation, when I encourage them to try it! But guess what - it's just that your expectations have been coloured by images of blissed-out gurus, sitting on top of mountains, looking peaceful. The thing you think is a problem is actually the whole point. And once you realise that, you may just discover that you absolutely can meditate. Join me today as I burst a few myths and show you that you can, in fact, meditate just fine!

I used to struggle with social anxiety, and meeting new people was quite stressful for me. So I'm very grateful to my Granny who taught me, as a young woman, her secret about how to talk to strangers. In this episode I share her wisdom, and then we wind down to the weekend.

Welcome to the weekend wind down, a time to relax, let go of stress and get ready for the weekend. As the autumn weather sets in, with cool, grey, wet days here, it's time to snuggle up inside with a little self-compassion and loving kindness. With thanks to Kristin Neff for her teachings on self-compassion. Wishing you a wonderful weekend, whatever the weather. Enjoy!

Welcome to the weekend wind down, a time to relax, let go of stress and get ready for the weekend. There's so much going on in the world today that I thought we might do a leisurely wind down together, to get relaxed for the weekend. Wishing you a relaxed body and a wonderful weekend!

Welcome to the weekend wind down, a time to relax, let go of stress and get ready for the weekend. Are you wishing you were wiser? Maybe you wished you made better decisions or were clearer about what's important in life? Today's simple hack is just for you. And I invite you to ponder: What's one thing you'll do this weekend, because it seems important to you, or it feels like the wise choice?

Welcome to the weekend wind down, a time to relax, let go of stress and get ready for the weekend. Today I heard some news which upset me, and I went for a walk to blow off steam. As I walked, I watched and listened to the water from recent rain, rushing down the gutters and splashing into the storm-water drains. How did that help me? I'm so glad you asked. Today I share one way to let go of stressful thoughts. Wishing you a wonderful weekend!

Welcome to the weekend wind down, a time to relax, let go of stress and get ready for the weekend. As this is the Easter weekend, I invite you to focus on the message of Easter – that you are unconditionally loved, just as you are. And, as always, I invite you to look back over the past week – what are you grateful for? Then let's to look ahead and choose one thing which you'll do this weekend, just to express compassion either to yourself or to someone you love. Wishing you a wonderful weekend!

Welcome to the weekend wind down, a time to relax, let go of stress and get ready for the weekend. And we've had another crazy wet week here on the east coast of Australia. So this weekend, and actually every weekend, I invite you to be kind to yourself. And, as always, I invite you to look back over the past week, let go of whatever you need to let go of, reflect on what you're grateful for, and then to look ahead and choose one enjoyable thing which you'll do this weekend, just for you, to nurture yourself. Wishing you a wonderful weekend!

How are you? it's been raining here on and on, for months, and so I haven't been to my happy place, which is in the ocean, for 6 weeks! So today I'm inviting you on a journey to your happy place, in your imagination. And, as always, I invite you to look back over the past week, and then to look ahead and choose one thing which you will do just for you, just for fun! Wishing you a wonderful weekend!

Do you find yourself stressing about what's going on in the world? Maybe war or flooding or the pandemic? Or something closer to home, like the health of someone you love? Did you know that if you allow yourself to keep stressing about things, on and on, that's actually unhealthy for you? And guess what - your stressing is not helping the person or people you're worrying about either. If that's ringing true for you, I've recorded today's podcast just for you. I hope today's hot tip helps you to let go of the stress, and to focus on things which bring you greater joy.

Are you curious about what's happening in our bodies when we get stressed? And are you ready to reflect on the week that's just passed, and to plan some fun for the weekend? Then today's weekend wind down is just for you! Wishing you lots of fun this weekend!

Here in Sydney and along much of the east coast of Australia it's been a crazy week, with wild storms and flooding. And my friends in WA have been struggling with yet another heat wave. So this weekend's wind down invites you to slow down and get in touch with what you want and need at this time, as well as what you're grateful for. Next week (14 to 19 March, 2022) I'm running a 5 day challenge, "Overwhelmed to Organised", with short daily videos (5-9 minutes) each containing a strategy to help you to overcome the overwhelm. Want to join in? Just email me at connect@myjoyfullife.com.au with the word "Organised" and I'll send you a link to the daily videos, so you can watch or listen whenever you want. Meanwhile, wishing you a wonderful weekend!

How are you? Busy? Then this weekend wind down is just for you

Are you trying sooo hard in your life and work? Are you making a huge effort in your work and in your family and in running your household? Do you feel stretched, as you try to do your very best everywhere? If yes, today's weekend wind down is dedicated to you. If you'd like to be one of the first to hear about the small-group coaching program, "Frazzled to Fabulous", please email me the word "fabulous" at connect@myjoyfullife.com.au and I'll email you the details as soon as the doors open. Wishing you a relaxing weekend!

Welcome to the Weekend Wind Down, a time to relax, let go of stress, embrace compassion and gratitude and get inspired to have a wonderful weekend. I've spoken to quite a few women lately who are feeling flat. They say things like “I've lost my mojo!” and “Oh no, another year struggling with the pandemic!” This weekend wind down is dedicated to you.

How's 2022 going for you? Are you having fun yet? I invite you to think over the past week - what was the most fun moment for you? And what can you do this weekend to add a sprinkle of fun? Wishing you a wonderful week full of fun moments!

Welcome to the Weekend Wind Down, a time to relax, let go of stress, explore what you are grateful for – today or over the past year, and then get in touch with what you really want and set an intention for the weekend. Ladies, Let's finish this year strongly. Today I'm inviting you to join our 8 days of gratitude, starting today in the Facebook group "Nurture the wonderful woman within". Each day, for 7 days, I'm encouraging you to post something you're grateful for, from this year or even this day. Are you in? If so, here's the link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/nurturethewwww Wishing you a wonderful weekend and a week ahead filled with gratitude. Carolyn

Welcome to the Weekend Wind Down, a time to relax, let go of stress, embrace compassion and gratitude, get in touch with what you really want and set an intention for the weekend. Our hot tip for today is for you if you're a bit stressed about something. It's a hot strategy to help you change your feelings by changing your beliefs. If you've enjoyed today's episode, please share it with a friend. My mission is to help 1,000 women stress less by 2025, so if you can help me spread the calm I would be delighted.

Welcome to the Weekend Wind Down, a time to relax, let go of stress and create clarity and calm. My hot tip today comes from studies in psychology and neuroscience. You can use this approach any time, even in a heated moment. And the more you practice this, the quicker and easier it will be for you to create calm when you most need it. And, as always, I invite you to look back over the week which has just passed with gratitude, to ask yourself - What do you need this weekend? and to set an intention to do something this weekend just for you. If you have any comments or questions, please write to me at connect@myjoyfullife.com.au Wishing you a wonderful weekend!

Are you a bit of a control freak? My hot tip for the week is just for you. Welcome to the Weekend Wind Down, a time to relax, let go of stress, invite in calm and compassion, and get ready for a wonderful weekend. What are you grateful for this week? And what do you need more of this weekend? ALSO: Ladies, are you getting stressed about Christmas? If you are, I invite you to a workshop on zoom on Thursday 2nd December 7.30pm (Thurs 2nd Dec 8.30am, UK) or Saturday 4th December 9am AEDT (Friday 3rd Dec 2pm, Pacific, USA) Interested? For more information and to join in, here's the link: https://www.subscribepage.com/less-stress-christmas It's fun to explore together. Hoping to see you there. Warmly, Carolyn

Welcome to the Weekend Wind Down, a time to slow down, let go of stress and frustration, embrace compassion and calm, and get ready for the weekend. But first, our hot tip for the week: How are you feeling right now? So many people I speak to are feeling exhausted! Some are struggling with a lack of motivation. Some are feeling anxious. Many are ready for a holiday or any sort of break. I can't give you a holiday in a podcast, but what I can share is a morning routine which is really helping me to keep going, despite the tiredness. And that's my Miracle Morning routine. Here's the link if you want to look into this yourself: https://miraclemorning.com/ Imagine starting each day with positive thoughts about yourself and your life. Wouldn't that help you start the day with a smile? Listen to find out more. Wishing you a wonderful week! Carolyn

Did you have a fantastic struggle this week? What?!? Isn't a struggle a bad thing? Isn't life supposed to be all relaxed and happy? This week I share insights I learned from Carol Dweck, and her research into a fixed vs growth mindset. And let's wind down to the weekend, letting go of stress and embracing gratitude and calm. For women: Would you like to explore insights from our experiences of lockdown, so we can take that juicy goodness into our future? To join a free online workshop on 18th or 20th November, here's the link: https://www.subscribepage.com/silverlining I'd love to see you there!