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Have you ever noticed that no matter how much shit you buy, it never really does it for you? There's always that next purchase. I'm no anti-capitalist, but I don't think it hurts to acknowledge the lie—or if you want to be generous, misunderstanding—at the core of the enterprise: that somehow acquisition will lead to lasting satisfaction. This insight about the limits of materialism is what animates my friends Joshua Fields Millburn and Ryan Nicodemus, who together, are known as the Minimalists. Several years ago, they released a documentary on Netflix. It focuses on how to declutter your stuff and life and how that can lead to decluttering your mind and reduced anxiety. They actually interviewed me for it—even though I am not really a minimalist—and to this day it is the interview that generated perhaps the most attention of any I have ever done. For years, people stopped me on the street about that one. Anyway, Joshua and Ryan are now bringing their documentary – aptly entitled “Minimalism” – to YouTube, for free and without commercials. In honor of that, we are reposting an interview I did with them back in 2021. We hope you enjoy this bonus rebroadcast, and don't forget to check out the Minimalists podcast, Youtube, website…they're everywhere. Oh, and just to say that when we originally posted this interview, we paired it with a supplemental conversation with the great meditation teacher Oren Sofer, so if you want to hear the original, you can check that out here. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
In this episode, I sit down with culture catalyst Erin O'Malley to discuss the reasons we don't like difficult conversations and having to provide constructive feedback to friends, colleagues, and employees. Key Takeaways:Many don't like having difficult conversations due to the effects it could have on the relationship. We play "What If?" games for the negative, yet we should really look at the positive "What If?" outcomes that could come from having the conversation.Consider shifting away from the feedback sandwich - it can cause whiplash and leave your employee focusing either on the negative or the positive (and they miss the constructive). As Dr. Brené Brown puts it, "Clear is kind."Erin's framework for difficult conversations:Intention - Sets our intention and guides the conversationFraming - Seeing the specific situation and behavior of the individualImpact - What's the impact the person's behavior is having on the business caseInputs - Ask questions and bring the other person inInvite - Invite them into the conversation and the solutionFeedback is a two way street. The inputs and pulling them in to the conversation, asking them how they feel or think about the challenge is really important. Be present.As you frame the difficult conversation, avoid talking about subjective issues. Address the objective actions and behaviors head on.What Erin is reading:Say What You Mean by Oren Sofer
Dan Harris is best known for his work on ABC News, Nightline and Good Morning America. He is the author of the book, 10% Happier: How I Tamed the Voice in My Head, Reduced Stress Without Losing My Edge, and Found Self-Help That Actually Works–A True Story In this episode, Eric and Dan discuss his original skepticism of meditation and the benefits he discovered from developing a regular meditation practice. But wait, there's more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue tathe conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It's that simple and we'll give you good stuff as a thank you! Dan Harris and I Discuss Learning to Be 10% Happier Through Meditation and … His book, 10% Happier: How I Tamed the Voice in My Head, Reduced Stress Without Losing My Edge, and Found Self-Help That Actually Works–A True Story How the mind can be trained for compassion and happiness Exercising the brain just like the body The science of meditation How we all have an inner voice or narrator in our head The scientifically proven benefits of meditation Our tendency to focus on the bad things and ignore the good. Finding the line of when to push forward or back down The happiness set point theory. Motivation coming from happiness versus pain How a certain amount of stress is necessary Dealing with failure and setbacks His experience of discovering awareness in the present moment Meditation as a mechanism of learning mindfulness The practice of meditation is about remembering Dan Harris links: 10% Happier Website Dan's Twitter Facebook By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Dan Harris, check out these other episodes: Dan Harris and Oren Sofer on Mindful Communication Meditation for Anxious People with Lodro RinzlerSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
In this episode, I share a powerful 4-step communication technique that you can use to respond to someone when they say something triggering or activating. It comes from the work of Non-Violent Communication.If you'd like to go deeper into the work of mindful communication, I highly suggest the book, Say What You Mean, by Oren Sofer. Click here for the link.
You can find Oren's meditation on emotional awareness and much more on our app. Visit tenpercent.com to download the Ten Percent Happier app and kickstart your meditation practice. Listen to Oren's meditation in the app: https://10percenthappier.app.link/EmotionalAwarenessPod About Oren Oren Jay Sofer teaches mindfulness, meditation and Nonviolent Communication. He has practiced meditation since 1997, beginning his studies in Bodh Gaya, India and is a long-time student of Joseph Goldstein, Michele McDonald, and Ajahn Sucitto, and is a graduate of the IMS/Spirit Rock Teacher Training program. He holds a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University and is the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication.
Big-league baseball is on hold thanks to the coronavirus but a new book by Dr. Don Lopez captures the feel of the game in Buddha Takes the Mound: Enlightenment in 9 Innings. Rod Meade Sperry talks to him about the book, which combines Lopez's love of both baseball and Buddhism. Then, a chance for fresh air: Oren Sofer shares a 10 minute guided walking meditation. Find more meditations from his website at OrenJaySofer.com.
Get Hunter's book, Raising Good Humans now! Click here to order and get book bonuses! These are anxious times with schools closing and communities taking action to slow down the spread of the coronavirus. Is the anxiety getting to you? In this special episode, Hunter talks to two meditation teachers, Oren Sofer and Emily Horn about how to deal with our fear and become a stable center of peace for our families. Takeaways: The choices we make affect one another. Our choice to take care of ourselves matters. We don’t need to be afraid of fear—it’s just energy moving through. We can be peaceful and anxious at the same time. Emily Horn is an authorized dharma teacher through Spirit Rock Meditation Center & Insight Meditation Society. She’s also a Certified Mindfulness Teacher via the International Mindfulness Teacher’s Association. Oren Jay Sofer teaches mindfulness, meditation and Nonviolent Communication in both secular and Buddhist contexts. He’s the author of the book Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication, a practical guidebook for having more effective, satisfying conversations. Fan of the Mindful Mama Podcast? Support it by leaving a quick review -----> Apple Podcasts or on Stitcher (or wherever you listen!) ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is a mindful mama mentor. She coaches smart, thoughtful parents on how to create calm and cooperation in their daily lives. Hunter has over 20 years of experience in mindfulness practices. She has taught thousands worldwide. Be a part of the tribe! Join the Mindful Parenting membership. Download the audio training, Mindfulness For Moms (The Superpower You Need) for free! It's at mindfulmomguide.com. Find more podcasts, blog posts, free resources, and how to work with Hunter at MindfulMamaMentor.com.
Hunter talks to Oren Sofer about My Silent Retreat. Some big takeaways from this episode include: 1. It takes time for our bodies and minds to “detox” from our distracted lives. 2. We are often doing (checking the phone, checking of the list, eating) to avoid just being with what is. 3. Along with feeling more can come equanimity—the capacity to hold what arises without being thrown of one’s feet. Oren Jay Sofer teaches mindfulness, meditation and Nonviolent Communication in both secular and Buddhist contexts. He’s the author of the book Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication, a practical guidebook for having more effective, satisfying conversations. I recently went on my first-ever, seven-day silent Lovingkindness meditation retreat with the Insight Meditation Society. Not only was there no talking (which can be hard for a podcaster!), but also no reading, no writing, and no contact with the outside world for seven days. What was it like? In this special episode Oren Sofer, teacher at the retreat and author of Say What You Mean, asks me questions about my first retreat. You’ll learn what it was like, when I cried, the benefits I experienced, and more. Fan of the Mindful Mama Podcast? Support it by leaving a quick review -----> Apple Podcasts or on Stitcher (or wherever you listen!) ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is a mindful mama mentor. She coaches overstressed moms on how to cultivate mindfulness in their daily lives. Hunter has over 20 years of experience in yoga & mindfulness practices. She has taught thousands worldwide, and is the creator of the Mindful Parenting course. Download the audio training, Mindfulness For Moms (The Superpower You Need) for free! It's at mindfulmomguide.com. Find more podcasts, blog posts, free resources, and how to work with Hunter at MindfulMamaMentor.com.
So much of our happiness and well-being comes back to how effectively we’re able to communicate with others – particularly in our important relationships. But how often are we our best selves? Are we able to hear others and speak our mind in a clear and kind way, without either becoming defensive or being excessively punishing and prosecutorial?To help us learn how to do just that, Forrest and Dr. Hanson are joined today by Oren Jay Sofer, the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication.Learn more about Say What You Mean hereOren's websiteTimestamps:1:38: What is Nonviolent Communication?5:12: The true nature of Nonviolent Communication.9:25: How this style of communication changes us.15:08: Why should we communicate this way when other people don't?20:26: How can we make demands of other people nonviolently?32:13: If others don't communicate with us in good faith, should we still be nonviolent?37:32: Lessons for your younger self.
In Episode 054 of A Medicinal Mind, Wisdom and Wellbeing, I welcome a visionary in the field of mindfulness and deliberate, non-violent communication Oren Sofer. Oren's background is beyond fascinating. As you will hear in the podcast, he brings years of training in meditation from the Buddhist spiritual tradition as well training seeking to transform the way we communicate and interact with others. Formally speaking, he has a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University, and spent two and a half years of living as an (renunciate) at various branch monasteries. Today, his teaching combines classical Buddhist training with the accessible language of secular mindfulness. In this conversation, we begin the exploration with a look at Oren's early childhood, its spiritual roots and his earliest experiences delving into the world of intimate awareness. Getting rather personal, Oren shares one of his most powerful experiences early in his life beginning his push to wanting to further understand the depth of emotion and what it really means to be human. Oren offers his perspective on the power of loss and sorrow, letting us all see the universal nature of this experience and the beautiful acts of compassion and connection that can happen my allowing ourselves to fully experience it. Beginning our deepening discussion of violence and non-violence Oren outlines how human beings seek both consciously and unconsciously to meet various needs and that this pursuit often times can lead to needs not being met and interpersonal conflict. Defining violence as “any avoidable impairment of human needs,” Oren shares insight from Johan Galtung as to what perhaps really underlies an act of violence and how as a society we may be committing more acts of violence than we really know. Stepping into the practical. Oren provides us with a framework for seeking understanding as well as collaborative clarification in order to address others needs and our own in a unified and non-violent manner. Drawing from his just released book: Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication, Oren provides some of the most essential practices, techniques and tools for achieving more constructive clarity in our relationships, and ultimately meet your needs. As you will hear throughout the conversation, Oren's passion and expertise for the craft of mindful and non-violent communication and I cannot urge you enough to order Oren's book: Say What You Mean. I have yet to find another book that practically addresses the most challenging aspects of cultivating nourishing relationships and engaging in the sticky, difficult conversations like Oren's. Check out the show notes for a link to Oren's page as well as links to order his book! Oren's Webpage: https://www.orenjaysofer.com/about/ Get Oren's Book: https://more.orenjaysofer.com/book/?_ga=2.171256357.424896732.1544539567-371234106.1544539567 Disclaimer: The content at A Medicinal Mind and the content of our podcast are educational and informational in nature. They are not intended to be medical advice, spiritual counsel or a substitute for working with a health professional or a trained spiritual counselor. We cannot guarantee the outcome of any of the recommendations provided on our page or by the guests on our podcast and any statements written or made about any potential outcomes are expressions of opinion only. And with that let's dig into the show
In every conversation we have, from mundane to serious, our personal motivations drive what we say. But most of the time we are not aware of what our personal motivations are and we can end up mindlessly saying something that causes conflict with someone else. Oren Sofer has spent years studying this and has written a how-to guide to help people apply mindfulness techniques to have more meaningful conversations. He describes the importance of learning to communicate better as a "life hack" that will have a positive effect on every area of your life.
In this episode of Revolution Health Radio, I talk with Oren Sofer about what nonviolent communication is and how it can help you connect with the people in your life. The post RHR: Why You Should Practice Nonviolent Communication, with Oren Sofer appeared first on Chris Kresser.
In this episode, I'm joined by Oren Sofer to talk about meditation and philosophy. We start by laying out the basics of meditation - what's going on, internally and externally - and then we get into some of the deeper questions in metaphysics like: "What is the mind?","What is the self?", "Do observations require an observer?"
This week we will be exploring how we can bring mindfulness into our lives–into the words we speak and the actions we take. Our guest will be Oren J. Sofer, a teacher of both mindfulness meditation and Nonviolent Communication. Because Oren is fluent in both of these skills, he brings unique insight and clarity to how to bring the practice of awareness into our relationships and our communication, so that instead of reacting, we can respond in a way that creates understanding. Co-hosts Marlena Willis and Nancy Kahn will be interviewing Oren Sofer and we will welcome call-ins in the second half of the show for questions and coaching. Oren is is a Collaborative Trainer at BayNVC, Senior Program Staff at Mindful Schools, the international leader of Mindfulness in Education, and author of the forthcoming book, Three Steps to Better Conversations: A Guide to Mindful Communication. Oren is also trained and certified in Somatic Experiencing, a form of trauma healing based in nervous system regulation. Oren holds a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University. The post Creating Understanding in Relationships through the Practice of Awareness appeared first on KPFA.
This week we talk to Dan Harris and Oren Sofer about mindful communication Our guests this week are Dan Harris and Oren Sofer. Dan was a previous guest and we discussed his great book, 10% Happier. In addition, Dan is the current anchor on the weekend edition of Good Morning America as well as Nightline. He has begun creating a series of courses based around 10% Happier. One of those courses features Oren Sofer. Oren is a teacher and practitioner of Buddhist meditation, Nonviolent Communication (NVC), and Somatics. Oren is a specialist in the role of mindfulness in creating better conversation. This conversation was recorded in Dan's office in the ABC Studios in New York. Our Sponsor this Week is Casper Mattress Visit casper.com/feed and use the promo code “feed” to get $50 off!! In This Interview, Oren Dan and I Discuss: The One You Feed parable Why mindfulness is useful in communication The 10% Happier app Learning to see confrontation as an opportunity to improve the relationship How our cultural conditioning teaches us the Win/Lose paradigm How we have a strong negative conditioning against confrontation that becomes hard-wired How mindfulness allows us to slow down and monitor our emotional reactions in conversation The role of curiosity in communication How to become more curious Learning to ask "What matters here" when listening to others Learning to say that we don't feel like talking instead of just pretending The minor discomfort of being real How to say things in a way that the other person can hear and understand Learning to hold our tongue in certain situations How being silent can lead to its own challenges The importance of timing in choosing when to address issues Context sensitive communication The two criteria of good communication: does the other person understand and does it lead to connection Dan Harris Links 10% Happier Homepage Twitter Facebook Oren Sofer Links Homepage