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Oren Jay Sofer teaches meditation and communication internationally. He holds a degree in comparative religion from Columbia University and is a Certified Trainer of Nonviolent Communication. A husband and father, he's also the author of several books, including the best-seller Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication and his latest book, Your Heart Was Made for This: Contemplative Practices to Meet a World In Crisis with Courage, Integrity, and Love.Check out courses and events offered by Oren at www.orenjaysofer.com/events Connect with Oren Jay Sofer:Website: www.orenjaysofer.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/OrenJaySofer/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orenjaysofer/ Threads: https://www.threads.com/orenjaysofer/ TurnKey Podcast Productions Important Links:Guest to Gold Video Series: www.TurnkeyPodcast.com/gold The Ultimate Podcast Launch Formula- www.TurnkeyPodcast.com/UPLFplusFREE workshop on how to "Be A Great Guest."Free E-Book 5 Ways to Make Money Podcasting at www.Turnkeypodcast.com/gift Ready to earn 6-figures with your podcast? See if you've got what it takes at TurnkeyPodcast.com/quizSales Training for Podcasters: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sales-training-for-podcasters/id1540644376Nice Guys on Business: http://www.niceguysonbusiness.com/subscribe/The Turnkey Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/turnkey-podcast/id1485077152 Partner Links -- We use these apps and get amazing results and huge time savings too!Design tool: Canva Pro: Create Stunning Design in Minutes!Check out Headliner to create social media posts with video easily- make.headliner.appSimplecast is the easiest way to set up your podcast hosting- Simplecast.comZoom is the easiest way to schedule meetings and record your podcast interviews. Zoom.usAcuity is the easiest way to schedule your podcast interviews, meetings, and life.Acuityscheduling.com

Oren Jay Sofer holds a degree in comparative religion from Columbia University and now teaches Buddhist meditation, mindfulness, and communication internationally. A certified trainer of nonviolent communication, he is a practitioner of somatic experiencing for the healing of trauma and the author of several books. They include: Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication and his current book, Your Heart Was Made for This: Contemplative Practices for Meeting a World in Crisis with Courage, Integrity, and Love. We spoke mainly about that second book and the need for spiritual responses to current world conditions.  Meet the host of Spirit Matters Philip Goldberg Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There are so many situations in the world that are challenging. Many of us struggle to stay connected to our hearts, to hold love as our center, in the face of what we see and experience. I suspect that everyone can use some guidance on ways to cultivate the qualities that transform the world from the inside out. That's what my guest today has to offer to you. Stay with us!OREN JAY SOFER teaches Buddhist meditation, mindfulness, and communication internationally. He holds a degree in comparative religion from Columbia University and is a Certified Trainer of Nonviolent Communication and a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner for the healing of trauma. He is the author of several books, including the best-selling Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication and the latest Your Heart Was Made for This: Contemplative Practices for Meeting a World in Crisis with Courage, Integrity, and Love. Find Oren Jay Sofer at: www.orenjaysofer.com Facebook: www.facebook.com/OrenJaySofer Instagram: www.instagram.com/orenjaysofer Twitter: www.twitter.com/orenjaysofer Find Laurie Seymour at https://thebacainstitute.com/ .Follow Wisdom Talk Radio on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/wisdomtalkradio Subscribe on Apple.Want to reach out to me? You can email me directly at laurie@thebacainstitute.com If you are enjoying our show and you'd like to spread the love, please subscribe, download, comment, and tell your friends and family about us. We want to thank you for your continued support. We really appreciate it! Find more episodes of Wisdom Talk Radio HERE Discover your Quantum Connection Style! (QUIZ)The first step to mastering your Quantum Connection is to know your natural style of being in the world.We are each designed to connect with Source differently. Knowing your style, with both your superpowers and your learning edge, is the first step of aligning with your inner guidance at a deeper level than you ever thought you could. It's the doorway to creating what you truly want in your life.Click here to take the quiz now: Quantum Connection QuizSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/wisdom-talk-radio/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

The pace of change is speeding up and much of the news we receive is alarming. More than ever, we need the inner reflections and meditations that help us connect with our capacities for clarity, bravery and openheartedness. This is what Tara explores with Oren Jay Sofer, in his book entitled: Your Heart Was Made For This: Contemplative Practices to Meet a World in Crisis with Courage, Integrity, and Love (2023.) Oren teaches mindfulness, meditation and non violent communication, and his prior book is bestselling Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication (2018.) Learn more about Oren Jay Sofer and order books at: https://www.orenjaysofer.com

(Insight Meditation Community of Washington DC) The pace of change is speeding up and much of the news we receive is alarming. More than ever, we need the inner reflections and meditations that help us connect with our capacities for clarity, bravery and openheartedness. This is what Tara explores with Oren Jay Sofer, in his book entitled: Your Heart Was Made For This: Contemplative Practices to Meet a World in Crisis with Courage, Integrity, and Love (2023.) Oren teaches mindfulness, meditation and non violent communication, and his prior book is bestselling Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication (2018.) Learn more about Oren Jay Sofer and order books at: https://www.orenjaysofer.com Please Note: At timestamp 57:41, Oren mistakenly attributes an article to George Lakey. The author of this article is Robert Reich.

(Insight Meditation Community of Washington DC) The pace of change is speeding up and much of the news we receive is alarming. More than ever, we need the inner reflections and meditations that help us connect with our capacities for clarity, bravery and openheartedness. This is what Tara explores with Oren Jay Sofer, in his book entitled: Your Heart Was Made For This: Contemplative Practices to Meet a World in Crisis with Courage, Integrity, and Love (2023.) Oren teaches mindfulness, meditation and non violent communication, and his prior book is bestselling Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication (2018.) Learn more about Oren Jay Sofer and order books at: https://www.orenjaysofer.com Please Note: At timestamp 57:41, Oren mistakenly attributes an article to George Lakey. The author of this article is Robert Reich.

Oren Jay Sofer is a renowned author, meditation teacher, and nonviolent communication expert. His latest book, "Your Heart Was Made For This", offers a fresh perspective on contemplative practice, mindfulness, and personal transformation. Previously, Oren published the highly acclaimed "Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication". He has led sold-out retreats across the United States and online, guiding thousands on the path to realizing their full potential. Discussed in this Episode: The transformative power of contemplative practice beyond traditional meditation Strategies for cultivating positive qualities like joy, kindness, courage and rest The future of mindfulness and how Oren's approach broadens its accessibility Lessons learned from decades studying and teaching meditation and communication Insights on attention, concentration, self-care, and living with purpose in a complex world Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/95hyQFPReKw Buy "Your Heart Was Made for This" by Oren Jay Sofer on Amazon: https://amzn.to/44arDvU _ Produced by Podcast Studio X. Find my book reviews on ViewsOnBooks.com.

In this episode I talk with Oren Jay Soffer about his new book, Your Heart Was Made for This: Contemplative Practices for Meeting a World in Crisis with Courage, Integrity & Love. Oren teaches meditation and communication internationally. He holds a degree in comparative religion from Columbia University and is a Certified Trainer of Nonviolent Communication and a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner for the healing of trauma. Oren has practiced meditation in the early Buddhist tradition since 1997, beginning his studies in Bodh Gaya, India, and later spending 2-1/2 years living as an renunciate at branch monasteries in the Ajahn Chah Thai Forest lineage. He is a long-time student of Joseph Goldstein, Michele McDonald, and Ajahn Sucitto, and is a member of the Spirit Rock Teacher's Council. Oren is also the author of the best-seller Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication and two books on teaching mindfulness to adolescents: The Mindful Schools Curriculum for Adolescents and Teaching Mindfulness to Empower Teens. His teaching has reached people around the world through online communication courses and guided meditations, combining classical Buddhist training with the accessible language of secular mindfulness In our conversation we talked about, among other things: How our hearts REALLY are made for these times … Our hearts were made to awaken and if we can practice—in small steps—turning toward suffering, we enter a portal to transformation. How the world shapes our hearts in ways not best for us and how we can practice shaping our own hearts. How getting in touch with our true values will guide us through these challenging times. How we need to consciously "change the channel" of our thoughts to be more aligned with our true values.   Buy the book (Amazon affiliate link): Your Heart Was Made for This   Learn more about Oren Jay Soffer, his teaching, courses, and special events: https://www.orenjaysofer.com/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/orenjaysofervideo   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orenjaysofer   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/OrenJaySofer/   X/Twitter: https://www.facebook.com/OrenJaySofer/   LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/orenjaysofer/     Become a patron to support this podcast and get special member benefits, including a membership community and virtual sangha:https://www.patreon.com/EverydayBuddhism   Join the Everyday Sangha: Join the Everyday Sangha   Join the Membership Community: https://donorbox.org/membershipcommunity   If this podcast has helped you understand Buddhism or help in your everyday life, consider making a one-time donation here: https://donorbox.org/podcast-donations   Support the podcast through the affiliate link to buy the book, Everyday Buddhism: Real-Life Buddhist Teachings & Practices for Real Change: Buy the book, Everyday Buddhism

“Appreciating what is present inevitably brings awareness of what's absent.” “We shall train ourselves to remain aware of what has been given and what has been offered to us to cultivate the indelible appreciation for all that has been offered.” Journey into the heart of compassion, seeking understanding and solace amidst the darkness and chaos. Shedding light on navigating the violent currents of our times, into the complexities of our world with mindfulness.  Oren Jay Sofer is a seasoned teacher of Buddhist meditation, mindfulness, and communication. He confronts the harsh realities that surround us, from the broken systems of governance to the pervasive violence that plagues our communities. He acknowledges the overwhelm, the pain, and the uncertainty that grip us all, acknowledging that these feelings are not only valid but also essential to our growth. His words remind us of our collective responsibility to heal the world. His message is simple yet profound: in the face of chaos, we can choose clarity. We can cultivate resilience, compassion, and purpose, transforming darkness into an opportunity for growth and transformation. Oren's books offer extremely useful insights navigating the complexities of our world with courage and integrity, available on Amazon and on his website. Your Heart Was Made for This - Contemplative Practices to Meet a World in Crisis with Courage, Integrity, and Love. Say What You Mean - A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication Visit Oren's website for a wealth of free resources and guided meditations to support your journey. OrenJaySofer.com Raymond Aaron has shared his vision and wisdom on radio and television programs for over 40 years. He is the author of over 100 books, including Branding Small Business For Dummies, Double Your Income Doing What You Love, Canadian best-seller Chicken Soup for the Canadian Soul, and he co-authored the New York Times best-seller Chicken Soup for the Parent's Soul. Raymond's latest, co-authored book is The AI Millionaire's Path: Discover How ChatGPT‐Written Books Become Bestsellers and How They Can Make You a Millionaire Author!. www.Aaron.com

In our deep desire to be of help, Sofer provides clarity in how to increase our resilience and engage more effectively with the infinite complexities of the 21st century. He sheds light on how such qualities as integrity, concentration, gratitude, and generosity lead us to become more skillful in positive activism in the world. Oren Jay Sofer teaches meditation, mindfulness, and nonviolent communication in secular and Buddhist contexts. He received his degree in comparative religion from Columbia University and is a Certified Trainer of Nonviolent Communication as well as a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner for the healing of trauma. He serves as a member of the Teachers Council of the Spirit Rock Meditation Center in Northern California. He is the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication (Shambala Publications 2018) and Your Heart Was Made for This: Contemplative Practice for Meeting a World in Crisis with Courage, Integrity & Love (Shambala Publications 2023)Interview Date: 10/24/2023 Tags: Oren Jay Sofer, inner life, aspiration, nonviolent communication, mindfulness, resilient, resilience, privilege, entitlement, empathy, isolation, rescuing hug, Martin Luther King Jr, Harry Dunn, curiosity, resolve, self-discipline, willpower, willingness, attention, Howard Thurman, Buddhism, Personal Transformation, Social Change/Politics

Oren Jay Sofer teaches meditation, mindfulness, and nonviolent communication in secular and Buddhist contexts. He received his degree in comparative religion from Columbia University and is a Certified Trainer of Nonviolent Communication as well as a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner for the healing of trauma. He serves as a member of the Spirit Rock Meditation Center Teacher's Council in Northern California. He is the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication (Shambala Publications 2018) and Your Heart Was Made for This: Contemplative Practice for Meeting a World in Crisis with Courage, Integrity & Love (Shambala Publications 2023)Interview Date: 10/24/2023 Tags: Oren Jay Sofer, engaged Buddhism, suffering, Four Noble Truths, happiness, freedom, activism, despair, beloved community, patience, visualization, Buddhism, Personal Transformation, Social Change/Politics

Oren teaches Buddhist meditation, mindfulness, and communication internationally.  He is the author of several books, including the bestselling Say What You Mean:  A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication (2018) and his latest work, Your Heart Was Made for This:  Contemplative Practices for Meeting a World in Crisis with Courage, Integrity, and Love (2023) which is the focus of this podcast. Lama Rod Owens states that Oren's work "offers a beautiful and poignant invitation to meet the crises of our current world and communities with the power or contemplative practice, which helps us to acknowledge the pain that we are all experiencing and reveals how we can respond directly with awareness and tenderness."   For more information and to connect with Oren and his teachings, please see: https://www.orenjaysofer.com/ https://www.instagram.com/orenjaysofer https://www.facebook.com/OrenJaySofer/ This podcast is available on your favorite podcast platform, or here:  https://endoftheroad.libsyn.com/episode-281-oren-jay-sofer-contemplative-practicedharmayour-heart-was-made-for-this Have a blessed weekend!

My guest this week is Oren Jay Sofer. Topics we discussed included: Oren's new book, Your Heart Was Made for This The ways that our minds and hearts are shaped by the world Scarcity Separation Depletion Understanding the roots of suffering and how to relieve suffering Our mistaken belief and wish that consumption will finally provide ultimate fulfillment and satisfaction Oren's realization at a young age that all of life is in flux Common effects of social media use, and what drives it How becoming a dad while writing his most recent book affected Oren and how he sees the world Finding unconditional love and acceptance My guest's experience of persistent Lyme Disease Finding a kind of joy that doesn't depend on our conditions The inseparable nature of joy and sorrow The joy that comes from living in alignment with the truth Embracing the mess of our lives, just as they are Oren Jay Sofer teaches Buddhist meditation, mindfulness, and communication internationally. He holds a degree in comparative religion from Columbia University and is a Certified Trainer of Nonviolent Communication and a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner for the healing of trauma. Born and raised in New Jersey, Oren is the author of several books, including the best-selling title Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication along with his latest, Your Heart Was Made for This. His teaching has reached people worldwide through online communication courses and guided meditations. Oren lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with his wife and son, where he enjoys cooking, spending time in nature, and home woodworking projects. Find Oren online at his website and connect with him on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram.

Perhaps upon first glance, when the terror of the world is breathing down our necks, we refuse to see how capable we are of meeting it. Perhaps we think, our hearts were not made to contend with the immensity of what's happening- the chaos the sensory input, the imminent threat of climate change, or the video footage of the atrocities happening around the world in Israel and beyond. And yet, we are equipped with an incredible potential for compassion and resilience - to grow and learn from challenge, and to biologically, neurologically, and spiritually, adapt and change to meet the times we are living in. My Guest, Oren Jay Sofer, believes that every one of us can transform and grow, even in the midst of the heartbreak. In his new book Your Heart Was Made for This: Contemplative Practices for Meeting a World in Crisis with Courage, Integrity, and Love , Oren reveals how we can tap into our full capacity for peace and goodness by cultivating a practice day by day with tiny steps and many other revelations for living in this time of extreme chaos and change. "I like to think of the human organism as an instrument," he says. "And this whole journey I invite readers on is about how well you know how to play your instrument. Can you hit the notes of compassion and joy and generosity and gratitude and energy and integrity?” In this episode he walks us through where to start exploring the amazing capacities that we have as human beings- not as a blueprint but to develop the resources inside so that we can each play the role we're uniquely called to play. Key points discussed in this episode include: * The importance of keeping our hearts open during painful and uncertain times * The inspiration behind Oren's latest book, Your Heart Was Made for This * An exploration of contemplative practice and its role in reflecting upon meaning and purpose in life * Various forms that contemplative practice can take for diverse individuals * The healing power of letting go, and the practice of renunciation * The interconnection between inner personal transformation and larger societal changes * The critical role of forgiveness in finding inner peace and restoration Oren Jay Sofer teaches meditation and communication internationally. He holds a degree in comparative religion from Columbia University and is a Certified Trainer of Nonviolent Communication. He's also the author of several books, including the best-seller Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication and his latest book, Your Heart Was Made for This: Contemplative Practices to Meet a World In Crisis with Courage, Integrity, and Love. A husband and a father, Oren lives in the San Francisco Bay Area, where he enjoys cooking, spending time in nature, and home woodworking projects. Special Guest: Oren Jay Sofer.

Buddhist strategies for navigating tumult— and even becoming a node of sanity amidst it all.Oren Jay Sofer teaches meditation and communication internationally and has practiced Buddhist meditation since 1997. He holds a degree in comparative religion from Columbia University and is a Certified Trainer of Nonviolent Communication and a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner for the healing of trauma. Born and raised in New Jersey, he is the author of several books, including the best-seller Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication as well as his newest book, Your Heart Was Made for This: Contemplative Practices for Meeting a World in Crisis with Courage, Integrity, and Love.In this episode we talk about:26 qualities for both navigating and positively impacting a chaotic worldWhat inspired the title of his newest book Why the cultivation of attention and aspiration can be transformative toolsHow mindfulness isn't just about feeling goodWhy joy can help us to persevere through challenges And How to reframe the concept of devotion so that it can apply to your everyday lifeRelated Episodes:Oren Jay Sofer, Practicing Mindful Communication Why Buddhism Is Inherently Hopeful (Despite All the Talk of Suffering) Rethinking Your Relationship to 'Stuff' | The Minimalists + Oren Jay SoferSign up for Dan's weekly newsletter hereFollow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTokTen Percent Happier online bookstoreSubscribe to our YouTube ChannelOur favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular EpisodesFull Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/oren-jay-sofer-new-heartSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

From the climate crisis, to oppression, anxiety, and burnout - How do we meet the most pressing challenges of our time from a place of courage, integrity, and love?Today's guest is Oren Jay Sofer and this question, is the centerpiece of exploration in his beautiful new book. Your Heart Was Made for This. In it Oren offers 26 different contemplative practices intended for meeting challenges and adversity from a place of greater wisdom and love. In our conversation today we'll explore this deep and provocative question together as we dive into themes from the book including:The role of patience in the face of pressing issuesWhy joy  essential ingredient in the pursuit of meaningful changeOren will also offer personal stories including how he arrived at the insight that sometimes we need to go slow, to go fastHow the public discourse on mindfulness has focused on the individual benefits and impacts of the practice, and why this focus alone is too limitedEquanimity and balance and how they these qualities can foster resilience in the pursuit of what we care about.The wisdom of gentleness and some of the nuances of a trauma-informed approach to contemplative practice. If you want to hear more from Oren I  would encourage you to check out Practicing Courage episode #14 which features a guided practice from Oren on finding more joy. You can also listen to our first interview which focused on his first book: Say What you Mean. You can now order Your Heart Was Made for This here. More about Oren:Oren Jay Sofer teaches meditation and communication retreats and workshops nationally. A member of the Spirit Rock Teachers Council, he is a Certified Trainer of Nonviolent Communication, a Course Trainer at Mindful Schools, and a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner for the healing of trauma. Oren also holds a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University. He is the author of several books, including Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication. He's created mindfulness programs for organizations, companies, and apps including Apple, Kaiser Permanente, Lumosity, Calm, 10% Happier, Simple Habit and others with his teachings reaching thousands of people around the world. Find him online at www.orenjaysofer.com and on social media @orenjaysoferJoin my FREE meditation community:Starting in December I  am going to begin offering free online meditation events twice a month. These will include guided practices, a talk, and dedicated time for discussion. If you've never meditated before, you've been meditating for years, or your experience falls somewhere in between - everyone is welcome. To learn more, see the upcoming schedule, and register head to joshuasteinfeldt.com/meditationDid you enjoy this episode? Here are other conversations we think you'll love:The Mindful Art of Communicating Effectively | Oren Jay SoferLeading With Love Can Change the World | Shelly TygielskiEnjoying the show? Please rate it on Apple Podcasts and Spotify!Thanks for listening!Support the show

Oren Jay Sofer shares how to engage contemplative practices to improve your focus, energy, and quality of life. — YOU'LL LEARN — 1) The five-item list that will help you focus better. 2) How to be unstoppable in the face of procrastination. 3) The three-second trick for boosting energy. Subscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep917 for clickable versions of the links below. — ABOUT OREN — Oren Jay Sofer teaches meditation and communication internationally. He holds a degree in comparative religion from Columbia University and is a Certified Trainer of Nonviolent Communication and a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner for the healing of trauma. Oren is also the author of several books, including the best-seller Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication and his latest book, Your Heart Was Made for This: Contemplative Practices toMeet a World In Crisis with Courage, Integrity, and Love. His teaching has reached people around the world through his online communication courses and guided meditations. A husband and a father, Oren lives in the San Francisco Bay Area, where he enjoys cooking, spending time in nature, and home woodworking projects. • Book: Your Heart Was Made for This: Contemplative Practices for Meeting a World in Crisis with Courage, Integrity, and Love • Website: OrenJaySofer.com • Previous episode: 292: Enhancing Work and Life through Mindfulness with Oren Jay Sofer • Previous episode: 375: How and Why to Communicate Mindfully with Oren Jay Sofer — RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — • AwesomeAtYourJob.com/advice : Our survey • Book: How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t with Your Kids: A Practical Guide to Becoming a Calmer, Happier Parent by Carla Naumburg • Book: When Breath Becomes Air by Paul Kalanithi • Book: Into the Magic Shop: A Neurosurgeon's Quest to Discover the Mysteries of the Brain and the Secrets of the Heart by James R. Doty — THANK YOU SPONSORS! — • Storyworth. Give a personal gift from the heart this holiday season at StoryWorth.com/awesome See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this practice you'll connect with your values and set an intention for how you want to show up today.About Oren Jay Sofer:Oren has practiced meditation in the early Buddhist tradition since 1997, beginning his studies in Bodh Gaya, India with Anagarika Munindra and Godwin Samararatne. He is a long-time student of Joseph Goldstein, Michele McDonald, and Ajahn Sucitto, and a graduate of the IMS - Spirit Rock Vipassana Teacher Training, and current member of the Spirit Rock Teachers Council.Oren is the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication, a practical guidebook for having more effective, satisfying conversations. To find this meditation in the Ten Percent Happier app, you can search for “A Fresh Start,” or click here:"https://10percenthappier.app.link/content?meditation=b4a40731-798e-4f9e-87ac-e889dd0298e2"See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Conflict is inevitable in any relationship. By identifying what really matters to us, we can strengthen our most meaningful connections.About Oren Jay Sofer:Oren Jay Sofer teaches mindfulness, meditation, and Nonviolent Communication in secular and Buddhist contexts. Oren has practiced meditation in the early Buddhist tradition since 1997, beginning his studies in Bodh Gaya, India with Anagarika Munindra and Godwin Samararatne. He is a long-time student of Joseph Goldstein, Michele McDonald, and Ajahn Sucitto, and a graduate of the IMS - Spirit Rock Vipassana Teacher Training, and current member of the Spirit Rock Teachers Council.Oren is the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication, a practical guidebook for having more effective, satisfying conversations.To find this meditation in the Ten Percent Happier app, you can search for “When We Fight With People We Love,” or click here: https://10percenthappier.app.link/content?meditation=4de9fcbb-c18d-44c0-bdca-328c38289a9f.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Build resilience for tough situations. Learn the tools to develop self-empathy, clarifying what matters to you most and how to move forward.About Oren Jay Sofer:Oren Jay Sofer teaches mindfulness, meditation, and Nonviolent Communication in secular and Buddhist contexts. Oren has practiced meditation in the early Buddhist tradition since 1997, beginning his studies in Bodh Gaya, India with Anagarika Munindra and Godwin Samararatne. He is a long-time student of Joseph Goldstein, Michele McDonald, and Ajahn Sucitto, and a graduate of the IMS - Spirit Rock Vipassana Teacher Training, and current member of the Spirit Rock Teachers Council.Oren is the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication, a practical guidebook for having more effective, satisfying conversations.To find this meditation in the Ten Percent Happier app, you can search for “Self Empathy,” or click here: https://10percenthappier.app.link/content?meditation=c547f8dc-f150-464a-ba59-3131a4bf6944.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This episode dives into our archives to revisit the notion of communication as a learnable skill. Often some of the most painful situations you encounter are the result of poor communication. The good news is that communication is a skill that can be learned. Author and meditation teacher Oren Jay Sofer, a leading figure in the field of interpersonal communication, breaks down how communication can be one of the most powerful levers for creating positive change in your life. Oren Jay Sofer is the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication. He also teaches mindfulness, meditation and nonviolent communication in secular and Buddhist contexts. He graduated from Insight Meditation Center's Spirit Rock Vipassana Teacher Training and is a long-time student of Joseph Goldstein, Michele McDonald, and Ajahn Sucitto.In this conversation, we also talk about:How to become aware of what motivates you to communicate the way you do Strategies for how to have more meaningful conversationsWhat it means to lead with presenceHow conflict has the possibility to deepen our relationships and make peace Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/oren-jay-sofer-repost-165See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Oren Jay Sofer has practiced meditation in the early Buddhist tradition since 1997, beginning his studies in Bodh Gaya, India with Anagarika Munindra and Godwin Samararatne. He is a long-time student of Joseph Goldstein, Michele McDonald, and Ajahn Sucitto, and a graduate of the IMS - Spirit Rock Vipassana Teacher Training, and current member of the Spirit Rock Teachers Council. Oren is the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication, a practical guidebook for having more effective, satisfying conversations. He is also co-author of two books on teaching mindfulness to teens and adolescents: The Mindful Schools Curriculum for Adolescents and Teaching Mindfulness to Empower Teens.      Oren and Mirjam discuss:                Why mindfulness, somatic experiencing and nonviolent communication aren't separate things                What is nonviolent communication - the giraffe and the jackal                Why mindfulness was a missing piece in NVC                How these practices come together                The 3 foundations of human communication: presence, intention, attention                Why releasing judgement can be a challenge                How to come from curiosity and care in difficult moments                Why letting go of needs does not mean deny them                What is dharma and how to lead a dharmic life Oren's website: https://www.orenjaysofer.com/ Mirjam's website: https://www.mirjampaninski.com/ #nvc #mindtomatter #blissbrain #eft #eftuniverse #nonviolentcommunication 

I had someone ask me recently what the fives books that really helped me with this last year of losing my sister. I figured this would be a good opportunity to put them in one place in the hopes that the people who need them, will find them. If you know someone who is grieving and don't know how to help them, one of these or another read delivered to their house is a wonderful way to show them they are on your mind. Friends and family sent me books during this time, and I feel that more than flowers, or candy (Aside from hand written notes because I loved those) recieving the gift of a book in the mail is so lovely. Thank you to all.   #1 The Wild Edge of Sorrow: Rituals of Renewal and Sacred Work of Grief. Francis Weller I know I should put my favorite in the bottom of the post, but I just can't. This book is everything to me. In my darkest moments it was a source of light. It is written so beautifully that I found myself not wanting to consume too much of it in one sitting. I would have to put it down so I could come back to it when I was feeling lousy or down. It is my top, top favorite. It got me through some of my lowest points of despair, and it speaks not just about my particular grief, but the grief the we as humans share everyday. Grief that connects each and every one of us. Everyone should read this book. Even those who haven't lost someone. The world would be a much better and kinder place to live in. # 2 Life is in the Transitions: Mastering Change at Any Age.- Bruce Feiler This was a very interesting read. For about two years I could( and still can) feel the pressure of transition bearing down my neck. Even if my sister Nina hadn't died, I know this feeling would still be there. I think we all feel it right now. The world is a different place, and after Covid a lot of us had to rethink the way we live, what is important to us, what matters most. If you have feelings of being lost, old patterns not serving you, wanting a higher calling, foggy, trying to get in touch with your most honest self, or truly just feel like you are ready for something different and life is leading you to that- This is a great book to grab. It solidified that the steps I was/am taking are alright and healthy. I was proud that a lot of the things I was already doing in my life were listed in the book and it helped validate those actions. I highly suggest it for anyone going through any transition, not just grief over losing someone close to you. # 3 Set Boundaries, Find Peace- Nedra Glover Tawwab I am about 80% through this and It is a game changer. It is for those who are ready to take a deep look at themselves and how they interact with the people in their lives. It will peel back the curtain of your healthy and unhealthy one relationships and communication. Complete rewiring of the system here. Not for the faint of heart. I learned some things about myself that I didn't know, and would like to change or shift. Be ready for some eye opening insight, and have a pen and paper handy for exercises. I suggest getting their workbook to help with this it will aid quite a bit to be able to follow along and write some things down. #4 Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Non Violent Communication- Oren Jay Sofer   “THE WAY WE COMMUNICATE WITH OTHERS AND WITH OURSELVES ULTIMATELY DETERMINES THE QUALITY OF OUR LIVES” ~ ANTHONY ROBBINS Suggested by my therapist! Thank you Kim you are the best, and if you are reading this, I don't know what I would have done without you! AHEM. Back to the book...I bought two copies. One for me, one for Phil. We are reading this together, and it is a game changer. After loss, any loss, people may have trouble expressing their feelings. It can lead to fights, miscommunication, and a breaking down of relationships. Healthy communication is essential and it starts with YOU. Not the other way around. This read is helping me in my own communication with myself and those I care about. It is eye opening and shows how old patterns and stuck ways that we grew up with can be hard to unravel. I will say that this book paired with the #3 Boundaries book has been extremely interesting to read for me personally. I feel like they go together really well. Prepare for that deep dive on knowing yourself. That's what brought you here, right? You can handle it ! I have faith in you! :) #5 Comfortable with Uncertainty- Pema Chödrön This is a work that calms me when I am feeling the weight of impermanence. When I feel lost. I love this author so much. Pema Chodron writes a lot of books, and this one isn't so much a study read as it is a book to come back to time and time again. You can pick it up at any page at any moment of your life, and relearn or see something new for the first time. I love it, and it is teaching me more on how to be more comfortable with the unknown. How to surrender to it and remain present and open instead of expectant or judgemental. Really hard things to swallow, but incredible to implement in every day life. #6 The Untethered Soul- The Journey Beyond Yourself -Michael Alan Singer Marta, I thought you said FIVE books. Nope. Sorry! I had to put this one in there. This is a gorgeous read that will make your heart open and feel more alive that you have felt in years. It is a quick read, and a lovely way to heal your deep soul. If you are looking for a gift for someone or yourself... this is it. Beautiful writing. Notable mention to these books- Surviving the Death of a Sibling- T. J. Wray There aren't many works that are this specific and I like this one because it speaks directly to losing a sibling and how that differs from other losses. I read this shortly after Neen's passing and it helped not feel so alone. I was told about this book from a friend who also lost her sister. Thank you so much, Martina. What am I currently reading? Quit Like a Woman : The Radical Choice to Not Drink in a Culture Obsessed With Alcohol.- Holly Whitaker Every year for a certain amount of time I give up alcohol, sugar, white flour, and most caffeine. Last year I created my 3 To Be Me Journey Course around these habits. I am taking this year to work on me more, so will not be offering that course at this time. (I am only offering one on one meetings and workshops) My goal this year is 100 days! I am three days in and feeling good. 60 pages into this book, and it is extremely informative about changing my perspective on alcohol. A really great read if you are thinking about taking a break, or giving it up entirely. These are my favorites! What are yours? I love learning and hearing from you all about what has helped you on your path. If reading isn't your thing, grab an audiobook! I love listening to them when I take a walk. Much love and light! ~M   Looking for some stress relief? 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With guidance from Oren, this session will let you experiment with ways to find a genuine sense of kindness for yourself and for others. To find this meditation in the Ten Percent Happier app, you can search for “Practicing Kindness,” or click the link for the ‘Kindness: Ted Lasso Style' singles meditation pack: https://10percenthappier.app.link/KindnessTedLassoStyle. Watch Ted Lasso on Apple TV+. Subscription required. Apple TV+ and/or select content may not be available in all regions. About Oren Sofer: Oren Jay Sofer teaches mindfulness, meditation and Nonviolent Communication. He has practiced meditation since 1997, beginning his studies in Bodh Gaya, India and is a long-time student of Joseph Goldstein, Michele McDonald, and Ajahn Sucitto, and is a graduate of the IMS/Spirit Rock Teacher Training program. He holds a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University and is the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication.

With guidance from Oren, this session will let you experiment with ways to find a genuine sense of kindness for yourself and for others. To find this meditation in the Ten Percent Happier app, you can search for “Practicing Kindness,” or click the link for the ‘Kindness: Ted Lasso Style' singles meditation pack: https://10percenthappier.app.link/KindnessTedLassoStyle. Watch Ted Lasso on Apple TV+. Subscription required. Apple TV+ and/or select content may not be available in all regions. About Oren Sofer: Oren Jay Sofer teaches mindfulness, meditation and Nonviolent Communication. He has practiced meditation since 1997, beginning his studies in Bodh Gaya, India and is a long-time student of Joseph Goldstein, Michele McDonald, and Ajahn Sucitto, and is a graduate of the IMS/Spirit Rock Teacher Training program. He holds a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University and is the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication.

Buddhism can get a bad rap as being hopelessly pessimistic -- in no small measure because one of the Buddha’s first principal pronouncements was, “Life is suffering.” But if you listen to the rest of his spiel, you will hear that the Buddha acknowledges that life can be hard, but then goes on to say that we can make it better. He then spells out a bunch of practical techniques for doing so, which makes Buddhism essentially hopeful. We’re now in week two of our two-week series on hope, where we’ve been positing that hope isn’t just some vague, rosy state of mind -- it is, in fact, a skill.  Today’s guest is Oren Jay Sofer, a Buddhist teacher who has been meditating for nearly a quarter century. He holds a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University and is the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication. Oren’s view of hope starts with the Buddhist notion of impermanence. Everything is changing all the time. That doesn’t necessarily mean things are always guaranteed to get better. That brand of hope, Oren says, can lead to a sort of grasping that pulls us out of the present and ultimately feeds our suffering. Instead, Oren makes the counter-intuitive argument that in order to hope effectively, we have to detach from results and outcomes. Oren is also lending his expertise to our Hope is a Skill series in the Ten Percent Happier app. If you’re already a subscriber, make sure to check out our new meditations to hone your hope skills — including some from Oren. You can find them in the “Hope is a Skill” topic in the Singles tab, or by clicking here: https://10percenthappier.app.link/HopeIsASkill.  And if you’re not yet a subscriber and want to check out Oren’s new meditations in our app, now is a great time to give it a go. You can download the Ten Percent Happier app here: https://www.tenpercent.com/ (or wherever you get your apps). Once you subscribe, you’ll have access to all the great resources in the Hope is a Skill series, as well as tons of content – meditations, talks, full-on courses – all designed to help you wherever you are on your meditation journey. Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/oren-jay-sofer-339

Buddhism can get a bad rap as being hopelessly pessimistic -- in no small measure because one of the Buddha's first principal pronouncements was, “Life is suffering.” But if you listen to the rest of his spiel, you will hear that the Buddha acknowledges that life can be hard, but then goes on to say that we can make it better. He then spells out a bunch of practical techniques for doing so, which makes Buddhism essentially hopeful. We're now in week two of our two-week series on hope, where we've been positing that hope isn't just some vague, rosy state of mind -- it is, in fact, a skill.  Today's guest is Oren Jay Sofer, a Buddhist teacher who has been meditating for nearly a quarter century. He holds a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University and is the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication. Oren's view of hope starts with the Buddhist notion of impermanence. Everything is changing all the time. That doesn't necessarily mean things are always guaranteed to get better. That brand of hope, Oren says, can lead to a sort of grasping that pulls us out of the present and ultimately feeds our suffering. Instead, Oren makes the counter-intuitive argument that in order to hope effectively, we have to detach from results and outcomes. Oren is also lending his expertise to our Hope is a Skill series in the Ten Percent Happier app. If you're already a subscriber, make sure to check out our new meditations to hone your hope skills — including some from Oren. You can find them in the “Hope is a Skill” topic in the Singles tab, or by clicking here: https://10percenthappier.app.link/HopeIsASkill.  And if you're not yet a subscriber and want to check out Oren's new meditations in our app, now is a great time to give it a go. You can download the Ten Percent Happier app here: https://www.tenpercent.com/ (or wherever you get your apps). Once you subscribe, you'll have access to all the great resources in the Hope is a Skill series, as well as tons of content – meditations, talks, full-on courses – all designed to help you wherever you are on your meditation journey. Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/oren-jay-sofer-339

Have you ever thought about walking a balance beam, or a gyroscope, or a tightrope walker? One is continually thrown off balance, but is every time instantly hit with the need to readjust and maintain poise. Equanimity is just that- the practice of balancing one’s mind to contain and open up to pain and discomfort while tuning it to revert to calmness.In a moving episode today, Traci is joined by Oren Jay Sofer, founder and Guiding Teacher of Next Step Dharma, an innovative online course focused on bringing the tools of meditation to daily life, and co-founder of Mindful Healthcare. He is also the author of the book “Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication”, and has created mindfulness programs for a number of organizations, companies, and apps. Growing up with a mentally ill-family member, Oren was faced with the obligation to stay pretentious of his feelings and needs. And when things started falling apart in multiple ways, Oren turned to meditation and spirituality. Listen in as Oren expounds on his directional journey learning from his Buddhist teachers in India, understanding pain, empathy, humanity and non-violent communication, and housing the deep well of pain inside ourselves while generating equanimity to stay from decentering our thoughts. Oren has also shared how important it is to be willing to hold discomfort- for if we are seeking to transform the society, then no part of our action should come out of control and reactivity. Understanding society for its diversity and disproportion, and sitting down to listen to each other could phenomenally transform our relationships with people. We hope the power of Oren’s words reflect in each of your lives, and modulate all your thinking for the better!   Episode Timeline: [00:09] Intro[00:58] Meet Oren Jay Sofer[03:32] Understanding Oren’s early life[08:11] How Oren was introduced to Dr. Marshall Rosenberg’s works[16:20] How Oren sees the injustice happening around American culture today[12:34] Maintaining balance between the relationship and her business[21:04] Understanding the need to house discomfort[23:46] Understanding equanimity [27:19] Training ourselves to see beyond the surface perceptions and judgments [31:43] How to view differences and diversity[36:25] Oren’s advice for you[38:07] OutroResources Mentioned: Dr. Marshall B. Rosenberg: Non-Violent Communication  Standout Quotes: “It's an awareness practice that helps us to transform the way we understand and relate to ourselves, other people and the world, through the lens of language and thought, and in many ways, it helps us to unlearn a lot of the socialization process that I was referring to earlier.” – Oren Jay Sofer [08:24]“My practice is finding enough nourishment in life through anything and everything, moments with my partner, my own meditation, practice gratitude to my teachers, the beauty and nature.” - Oren Jay Sofer [18:06]“If we can't be with our own discomfort, then there is a part of our action in our response that is coming out of reactivity and control.” - Oren Jay Sofer [21:52]“And part of being deeply in touch with life means opening to discomfort and pain because that's what it is to be human.” – Oren Jay Sofer [24:48]  Connect: Find | Sidewalk Talk PodcastAt sidewalk-talk.orgOn Instagram: @sidewalktalkorgOn Twitter: @sidewalktalkorg Find | Traci RubleAt Traciruble.comOn Instagram: @TraciRubleMFTOn Twitter: @TraciRubleMFTOn Facebook: @TraciRubleMFT Find | Oren Jay SoferAt orenjaysofer.comOn Instagram: @orenjaysoferOn Facebook: @OrenJaySoferOn Twitter: @orenjaysoferOn YouTube: @Oren Jay Sofer

Take the edge off out-of-control overwhelm and gain some agency in how you respond when everything feels like it's crashing down. About Oren Sofer: Oren Jay Sofer teaches mindfulness, meditation and Nonviolent Communication. He has practiced meditation since 1997, beginning his studies in Bodh Gaya, India and is a long-time student of Joseph Goldstein, Michele McDonald, and Ajahn Sucitto, and is a graduate of the IMS/Spirit Rock Teacher Training program. He holds a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University and is the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication. We hope you enjoyed this meditation. If you're thinking, "You know, I could've kept going for another five or ten minutes," I encourage you to check out the Ten Percent Happier app, where you'll find this same meditation in different lengths to suit your practice. Your subscription cost directly supports our wonderful teachers and allows them to dedicate their time to teaching the life-changing skill of mindfulness. As an added incentive, we've got a special discount for anyone new to the app. To claim your discount, visit tenpercent.com/bonus. If you're an existing subscriber, we thank you for your support.

Take the edge off out-of-control overwhelm and gain some agency in how you respond when everything feels like it’s crashing down. About Oren Sofer: Oren Jay Sofer teaches mindfulness, meditation and Nonviolent Communication. He has practiced meditation since 1997, beginning his studies in Bodh Gaya, India and is a long-time student of Joseph Goldstein, Michele McDonald, and Ajahn Sucitto, and is a graduate of the IMS/Spirit Rock Teacher Training program. He holds a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University and is the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication. We hope you enjoyed this meditation. If you're thinking, "You know, I could've kept going for another five or ten minutes," I encourage you to check out the Ten Percent Happier app, where you'll find this same meditation in different lengths to suit your practice. Your subscription cost directly supports our wonderful teachers and allows them to dedicate their time to teaching the life-changing skill of mindfulness. As an added incentive, we've got a special discount for anyone new to the app. To claim your discount, visit tenpercent.com/bonus. If you're an existing subscriber, we thank you for your support.

During this wild moment of uncertainty, join Oren to ease your anticipation anxiety and soothe the troubling tumult of the unknown. We hope you enjoyed this meditation. If you're thinking, "You know, I could've kept going for another five or ten minutes," I encourage you to check out the Ten Percent Happier app, where you'll find this same meditation in different lengths to suit your practice. Your subscription cost directly supports our wonderful teachers and allows them to dedicate their time to teaching the life-changing skill of mindfulness. As an added incentive, we've got a special discount for anyone new to the app. To claim your discount, visit tenpercent.com/bonus. If you're an existing subscriber, we thank you for your support. About Oren Jay Sofer: Oren Jay Sofer teaches mindfulness, meditation and Nonviolent Communication. He has practiced meditation since 1997, beginning his studies in Bodh Gaya, India and is a long-time student of Joseph Goldstein, Michele McDonald, and Ajahn Sucitto, and is a graduate of the IMS/Spirit Rock Teacher Training program. He holds a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University and is the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication.

During this wild moment of uncertainty, join Oren to ease your anticipation anxiety and soothe the troubling tumult of the unknown. We hope you enjoyed this meditation. If you're thinking, "You know, I could've kept going for another five or ten minutes," I encourage you to check out the Ten Percent Happier app, where you'll find this same meditation in different lengths to suit your practice. Your subscription cost directly supports our wonderful teachers and allows them to dedicate their time to teaching the life-changing skill of mindfulness. As an added incentive, we've got a special discount for anyone new to the app. To claim your discount, visit tenpercent.com/bonus. If you're an existing subscriber, we thank you for your support. About Oren Jay Sofer: Oren Jay Sofer teaches mindfulness, meditation and Nonviolent Communication. He has practiced meditation since 1997, beginning his studies in Bodh Gaya, India and is a long-time student of Joseph Goldstein, Michele McDonald, and Ajahn Sucitto, and is a graduate of the IMS/Spirit Rock Teacher Training program. He holds a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University and is the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication.

How do we understand each other, especially when we disagree? This week, I sat down with one of the leaders in nonviolent communication, or NVC, Oren Jay Sofer. If you're unsure of what nonviolent communication actually is, you'll have a solid grasp after this! For Oren, language runs deep. It’s intimately connected to universal, fundamental human drives, social structures, and even our physicality. We chat about the basic framework of mindful and nonviolent communication, our current “attack based” online culture, and some of Oren’s personal journey and defining moments. Oren was an incredible guest. The word that came up for me was “sincere”. He’s incredibly well-read, intelligent, honest, and his desire to create a world where everyone is respected and in harmony rings clear in everything we spoke about that. Oren Jay Sofer teaches Buddhist meditation, mindfulness, and Nonviolent Communication nationally. A member of the Spirit Rock Teachers Council, he holds a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University, is the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication, and co-author of Teaching Mindfulness to Empower Adolescents. Oren is co-founder of Mindful Healthcare and the founder of Next Step Dharma, an innovative online program that helps meditators integrate their retreat experiences into daily life. Find him on social media @Orenjaysofer.   Connect with Oren Website: www.orenjaysofer.com Latest books: Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication Instagram: @orenjaysofer Facebook: facebook.com/orenjaysofer Twitter: twitter.com/orenjaysofer Are you looking to find your purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter    Did you enjoy the podcast? If so please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or Stitcher. It helps our podcast get into the ears of new listeners, which expands the ManTalks Community Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The Tech See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Sometimes it's hard to say what you mean. Oren Jay Sofer says, "Communication is a learnable skill and it's one of the most powerful levers for making change in your life and the world." Non-violent communication is about taking responsibility for what we are experiencing using empathy, deep listening, know how to make requests. Author and renowned meditation instructor Oren Jay Sofer regularly teaches a mindful approach to non-violent communication. spent two and a half years of living as an Anagarika (renunciate) at branch monasteries in the Ajahn Chah Thai Forest lineage. Today, his teaching combines classical Buddhist training with the accessible language of secular mindfulness.  Since the early 2000s, Oren has had a deep interest in the relationship between contemplative practice and communication. A graduate of the BayNVC North American Leadership Training, he has taught classes and workshops in Marshall Rosenberg's Nonviolent Communication (NVC) nationally since 2006. His innovative retreats and online programs in Mindful Communication offer one of the only opportunities in the U.S today to explore the intersection between formal meditation practice, Right Speech and NVC.  Oren  is the founder and Guiding Teacher of Next Step Dharma, an innovative online course focused on bringing the tools of meditation to daily life, and co-founder of Mindful Healthcare.  Oren has created mindfulness programs for organizations, companies, and apps including Apple, Kaiser Permanente, Lumosity, Calm, 10% Happier, Simple Habit and others. I loved his book, Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication.  In the book, a main theme is that every thought or feeling is there to try to meet a need.  If you can try to figure out what need your thoughts are tied to, it's easier to articulate what you need to those around you.  It's also useful when listening to someone in a disucssion or conflict to tease out what need they are trying to have met.  I also enjoyed learning about conflict and viewing it as a way to deepen relationships. I also learned that non-violent communication and conflict resolution isn't necessarily to try to get someone to do things your way, it's about deepening understanding of one another because sometimes we simply can't agree to have the same viewpoint.   Non-violent communication has a framework of observation, the feeling, the needs and values to be met, and the request. Three questions you can ask yourself are what happened, how do I feel about it, and why? I also loved learning about how to use mindfulness in listening and communication as well as how to ground yourself in your own body when tensions rise. Topics Discussed in the Podcast  from childhood actor to meditation instructor 4 types of conflict avoidance self-empathy tools for internal pressure No mud, no lotus addressing the voiceless and gender constructs how to make requests of others Listen Now   Resources Oren Jay Sofer's website Get Oren's book: Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication     __________________________________ 2 Ways to Give Back to the Show     ________________________________________________   Don't Miss an Episode: Subscribe!              

On July 27, we're launching the Summer Sanity Challenge: a free 21 day meditation challenge. The goal here is to help you build resilience so that you are less buffeted by circumstances you can't control -- and are therefore calmer, happier, and better prepared to show up the way you want to for your family and your communities. To join the challenge, you can visit tenpercent.com/challenge. About Oren Jay Sofer: Oren Jay Sofer teaches mindfulness, meditation and Nonviolent Communication. He has practiced meditation since 1997, beginning his studies in Bodh Gaya, India and is a long-time student of Joseph Goldstein, Michele McDonald, and Ajahn Sucitto, and is a graduate of the IMS/Spirit Rock Teacher Training program. He holds a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University and is the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication.   

On July 27, we're launching the Summer Sanity Challenge: a free 21 day meditation challenge. The goal here is to help you build resilience so that you are less buffeted by circumstances you can’t control -- and are therefore calmer, happier, and better prepared to show up the way you want to for your family and your communities. To join the challenge, you can visit tenpercent.com/challenge. About Oren Jay Sofer: Oren Jay Sofer teaches mindfulness, meditation and Nonviolent Communication. He has practiced meditation since 1997, beginning his studies in Bodh Gaya, India and is a long-time student of Joseph Goldstein, Michele McDonald, and Ajahn Sucitto, and is a graduate of the IMS/Spirit Rock Teacher Training program. He holds a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University and is the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication.   

You can find Oren's meditation on emotional awareness and much more on our app. Visit tenpercent.com to download the Ten Percent Happier app and kickstart your meditation practice. Listen to Oren's meditation in the app: https://10percenthappier.app.link/EmotionalAwarenessPod About Oren Oren Jay Sofer teaches mindfulness, meditation and Nonviolent Communication. He has practiced meditation since 1997, beginning his studies in Bodh Gaya, India and is a long-time student of Joseph Goldstein, Michele McDonald, and Ajahn Sucitto, and is a graduate of the IMS/Spirit Rock Teacher Training program. He holds a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University and is the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication.

In times of loneliness, there are practices that can help. Oren offers words and wisdom to help you rekindle a sense of belonging. Find more meditations and courses from Oren on the Ten Percent Happier app: https://10percenthappier.app.link/qO7LcUJxJ5 A little about Oren Jay Sofer: Oren Jay Sofer teaches mindfulness, meditation and Nonviolent Communication. He has practiced meditation since 1997, beginning his studies in Bodh Gaya, India and is a long-time student of Joseph Goldstein, Michele McDonald, and Ajahn Sucitto, and is a graduate of the IMS/Spirit Rock Teacher Training program. He holds a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University and is the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication. Additional Resources: Ten Percent Happier Live: https://tenpercent.com/live Coronavirus Sanity Guide: https://www.tenpercent.com/coronavirussanityguide Free App access for Health Care Workers: https://tenpercent.com/care

Get Hunter's book, Raising Good Humans now! Click here to order and get book bonuses! These are anxious times with schools closing and communities taking action to slow down the spread of the coronavirus. Is the anxiety getting to you? In this special episode, Hunter talks to two meditation teachers, Oren Sofer and Emily Horn about how to deal with our fear and become a stable center of peace for our families. Takeaways: The choices we make affect one another. Our choice to take care of ourselves matters. We don’t need to be afraid of fear—it’s just energy moving through. We can be peaceful and anxious at the same time. Emily Horn is an authorized dharma teacher through Spirit Rock Meditation Center & Insight Meditation Society.  She’s also a Certified Mindfulness Teacher via the International Mindfulness Teacher’s Association. Oren Jay Sofer teaches mindfulness, meditation and Nonviolent Communication in both secular and Buddhist contexts. He’s the author of the book Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication, a practical guidebook for having more effective, satisfying conversations. Fan of the Mindful Mama Podcast? Support it by leaving a quick review -----> Apple Podcasts or on Stitcher (or wherever you listen!) ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is a mindful mama mentor. She coaches smart, thoughtful parents on how to create calm and cooperation in their daily lives. Hunter has over 20 years of experience in mindfulness practices. She has taught thousands worldwide. Be a part of the tribe! Join the Mindful Parenting membership. Download the audio training, Mindfulness For Moms (The Superpower You Need) for free! It's at mindfulmomguide.com. Find more podcasts, blog posts, free resources, and how to work with Hunter at MindfulMamaMentor.com.

Happy 2020! The podcast is starting off the year with a very special interview on the transformative power of mindful communication. Truly listening, understanding, and speaking to what's really needed can make the humblest of interactions feel truly alive. And my discussion with Oren Jay Sofer, the subject's most definitive voice, was bursting with such aliveness at every moment. So many insights. So much value.Oren Jay Sofer is also a very dynamic social servant. With a focus on teaching meditation and communication throughout the world, Oren is a member of the Spirit Rock Teachers Council. He is also a Certified Trainer of Nonviolent Communication and a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner for the healing of trauma. Oren also holds a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University, is the founder of Next Step Dharma and co-founder of Mindful Healthcare. He is the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication, and co-author of Teaching Mindfulness to Empower Adolescents.Recommended pairings: Intro to Non-Violent Communication (though here we get deeper into the mindfulness and Buddhist principles of this topic)All of this is true:As people, we have more in common than with others than aspects that separate us. If we pay attention, we can relate to anybody and understand our shared humanity.Oren shares a three-step mindful communication technique that is an absolute top-tier service success (and basic survival!) tool: 1) Engage 2) De-escalate 3) Set limits. Everyone has a different recipe of disempowered conditioning that needs to be both honored and overcome so that we can find agency, empowerment, aliveness and freedom in your work and whole life experience. Sounds easy, but is a tall order because of the modern hypnosis of human value = their performance and worldly success. Oren Tells us how to reclaim our innate value and dignity as people.Someone’s criticism is a reflection of their own needs rather than an assault on your particular ego. Develop awareness of this and nothing seems as personal. (Wow, so actually take your own needs out of it? Well, kind of). The drive to “get things done” is a powerful one in people...but can be the source of untold tension. Oren tells us how to refine our relationship to “ticking boxes” so that we can remain present while we work and find joy in even the most mundane of tasks.A powerful non-attachment principle allows you to simultaneously have powerful emotions and needs come up and come to peace with them without having to “scratch the itch” (especially when scratching such an itch can get you into trouble.All Roads That Lead to Oren:HomepageUpcoming “Say What You Mean” CourseGet his book: “Say What You Mean”Instagram (@OrenJaySofer)Go Deeper Into The Mindful Service Movement:Explore The Book ToC w/ Live Content LinksJoin the Facebook Community & Bring Us Your Service Struggles & Insights!Follow Me on Instagram & Learn Mindful Ninja Moves

Oren Jay Sofer is the author of the acclaimed new book Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication, a practical guidebook for having more effective, satisfying conversations. He is also co-author of two books on teaching mindfulness to teens and adolescents: The Mindful Schools Curriculum for Adolescents and Teaching Mindfulness to Empower Teens. Oren leads retreats and workshops on mindful communication and meditation at retreat centers and educational settings around the United States. A member of the Spirit Rock Teacher's Council, he holds a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University, teaches in the Insight Meditation community, and is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and a Certified Trainer of Nonviolent Communication. Oren creates mindfulness training programs for a number of organizations, including Mindful Schools, Kaiser Permanente, Calm, SImple Habit, and 10% Happier. He is also the founder of Next Step Dharma and Mindful Healthcare. For more information, visit www.OrenJaySofer.com.In this episode:Oren shares his story of finding meditation and why he is so passionate about mindfulness and communicationOren discusses how mindfulness can be applied to communication to support more satisfying and effective conversationsWe discuss how to have difficult conversations including practical strategies for regulating your emotions, your body, and your mind when stressed, triggered, or upsetWe explore moving from reaction to choiceWe explore how to listen deeplyFor show notes visit www.joshuasteinfeldt.com/podcastEnjoying the show? Please rate it on iTunes. Thanks for listening!Support the show (https://joshuasteinfeldt.com/donate/)

The communications trainer, meditation teacher and author talks about his history of stuffed anger and how he learned to use non-violent communication to better his life and relationships. They also discuss Somatic Experiencing for releasing trapped trauma from the body.  He is the author of the book Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication.   Oren’s website: https://www.orenjaysofer.com/ The book: https://amzn.to/35kPLxa Twitter: https://twitter.com/orenjaysofer Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/OrenJaySofer/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orenjaysofer/   To participate in his guided meditations text "guided" to 44222   Support Our Sponsors! This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp online counseling.  To get a free week go to www.BetterHelp.com/mental  Must be 18. This episode is sponsored by the podcast The Hilarious World of Depression.  Find it wherever you listen to podcasts.  Other Links Mentioned  For more info on Peter Levine and Somatic Experiencing go to www.TraumaHealing.org WAYS TO HELP THE PODCAST ______________________ Subscribe via iTunes and leave a review.  It costs nothing. https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/mental-illness-happy-hour/id427377900?mt=2 ————————————————————————— Spread the word via social media.   It costs nothing. Our website is www.mentalpod.com our FB is www.Facebook.com/mentalpod and our Twitter and Instagram are both @Mentalpod  -------------------------------------------------------- Become a much-needed Patreon monthly-donor (with occasional rewards) for as little as $1/month at www.Patreon.com/mentalpod Become a one-time or monthly donor via Paypal  or Zelle (make payment to mentalpod@gmail.com) ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ Try Our Sponsor’s Products/Services ---------------------------------------------------

You can find the full show notes by clicking here. In this episode I talk about: - Joy being a choice - Akashic Records - The releasing practice that I followed over the summer - Being a “Full Stop Change Agent” - Realizing the large role that choice plays in my life every day - Choosing to let go of alcohol - Choosing to address trauma in my life - How my husband and I chose to let go of the Story that “the other shoe was about to drop at any time” - How my husband and I have chosen to try on new ways of communicating with each other, by working through Oren Jay Sofer’s book together - The role of curiosity and care in our communication - My increase in clients that are a perfect match since I went through the practice of releasing what was no longer serving me - The increase in joy in my life Sign up for "Three Joyful Things" on my website. Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Non-Violent Communication by Oren Jay Sofer The Akashic Records She Podcasts Live 2019

Oren Jay Sofer, author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication joins Nonviolence Radio to offer tips and insights into the potentially transformative power of communication for healing divides and de-escalating tensions, vitriolic tweets, and aggressive texts! Followed by the Nonviolence Report with Michael Nagler. 

Oren Jay Sofer, author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication, talks about the power of communication and offers clear and practical tools for tough conversations (and texts and tweets). The post Transforming Hate Speech with ‘Right Speech’ appeared first on Metta Center.

Oren Jay Sofer teaches meditation and communication retreats and workshops nationally. He is a member of the Spirit Rock Teachers Council and a Certified Trainer of Nonviolent Communication and a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner for the healing of trauma. He creates mindfulness programs for organizations and apps from Kaiser Permanente to 10% Happier. He also holds a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University and is the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication. Oren Jay Sofer Understanding why someone wants what they want Learning to listen How to navigate an abusive conversation Useful communication phrases 3 Basic steps to effective communication Leading with presence Come from curiosity and care Two powerful intentions of a conversation Focusing on what matters Focusing on the principles of communication How do I speak my truth without blaming or condemning? Seeking understanding rather than being right Why giving someone your full attention is incredibly powerful Why listening is an act of kindness The art of active listening and verbal reflection Developing a healthy relationship with yourself How to Transform the Harsh Inner Critic Reviewing your day and finding gratitude for the day Giving yourself compassion Buddha Quote Listening to your internal dialogue and having a conversation with it The loving kindness meditation Exploring religious histories How to choose a religion Why we are not separate from anything http://www.mattbelair.com/ & http://www.patreon.com/mattbelair Sign up for the email list and most importantly do 1 act of kindness today!

Oren Jay Sofer teaches mindfulness, meditation and Nonviolent Communication in both secular and Buddhist contexts. He is the author of the book Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication, a practical guidebook for having more effective, satisfying conversations. In this episode, we discuss Nonviolent Communication, how mindfulness plays a big role in communication and how most humans' communication training has been unconscious and unintentional. Links Oren's Book: Say What You Mean Oren's Website Mindful Communication website Mindful Communication Facebook Mindful Communication Instagram

Hunter talks to Oren Sofer about My Silent Retreat. Some big takeaways from this episode include: 1. It takes time for our bodies and minds to “detox” from our distracted lives. 2. We are often doing (checking the phone, checking of the list, eating) to avoid just being with what is. 3. Along with feeling more can come equanimity—the capacity to hold what arises without being thrown of one’s feet. Oren Jay Sofer teaches mindfulness, meditation and Nonviolent Communication in both secular and Buddhist contexts. He’s the author of the book Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication, a practical guidebook for having more effective, satisfying conversations. I recently went on my first-ever, seven-day silent Lovingkindness meditation retreat with the Insight Meditation Society. Not only was there no talking (which can be hard for a podcaster!), but also no reading, no writing, and no contact with the outside world for seven days. What was it like? In this special episode Oren Sofer, teacher at the retreat and author of Say What You Mean, asks me questions about my first retreat. You’ll learn what it was like, when I cried, the benefits I experienced, and more. Fan of the Mindful Mama Podcast? Support it by leaving a quick review -----> Apple Podcasts or on Stitcher (or wherever you listen!) ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is a mindful mama mentor. She coaches overstressed moms on how to cultivate mindfulness in their daily lives. Hunter has over 20 years of experience in yoga & mindfulness practices. She has taught thousands worldwide, and is the creator of the Mindful Parenting course. Download the audio training, Mindfulness For Moms (The Superpower You Need) for free! It's at mindfulmomguide.com. Find more podcasts, blog posts, free resources, and how to work with Hunter at MindfulMamaMentor.com.

Say What You Mean We spend so much of our lives talking to each other, but how much are we simply running on automatic—relying on old habits and hoping for the best? Are we able to truly hear others and speak our mind in a clear and kind way, without needing to get defensive or go on the attack? In this interview with Oren Jay Sofer, I discuss his work that combines the likes of mindfulness, somatics, and Nonviolent Communication, including simple and powerful practices the, can help anyone develop healthy, effective, and satisfying ways of communicating. This is important stuff and well worth listening to. Enjoy! Guest Bio Oren Jay Sofer teaches meditation and communication retreats and workshops nationally. A member of the Spirit Rock Teachers Council, he is a Certified Trainer of Nonviolent Communication, a Course Trainer at Mindful Schools, and a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner for the healing of trauma. Oren also holds a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University and is the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication

Join Tasha Simms and Marc L Caron as we discuss “How to Find Your Voice, Speak Your Truth and Listen Deeply” with author  Oren Jay sofer Oren about his new book Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication, a practical guidebook for having more effective, satisfying conversations. Since the early 2000s, Oren […] The post How to Find Your Voice, Speak Your Truth and Listen Deeply – with Oren Jay Sofer appeared first on Conscious Living Radio.

So much of our happiness and well-being comes back to how effectively we’re able to communicate with others – particularly in our important relationships. But how often are we our best selves? Are we able to hear others and speak our mind in a clear and kind way, without either becoming defensive or being excessively punishing and prosecutorial?To help us learn how to do just that, Forrest and Dr. Hanson are joined today by Oren Jay Sofer, the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication.Learn more about Say What You Mean hereOren's websiteTimestamps:1:38: What is Nonviolent Communication?5:12: The true nature of Nonviolent Communication.9:25: How this style of communication changes us.15:08: Why should we communicate this way when other people don't?20:26: How can we make demands of other people nonviolently?32:13: If others don't communicate with us in good faith, should we still be nonviolent?37:32: Lessons for your younger self.

Topic: Words have meaning. How often have you heard that?! The challenge is to have them mean what you want, and to speak your truth. We'll talk to Oren Jay Sofer about his book, “Say What You Mean – A Mindful Approach to Non-Violent Communication”. Website(s): orenjaysofer.com conscioustalk.net

Oren Jay Sofer leads retreats and workshops on mindful communication and meditation at retreat centers and educational facilities around the United States. He is the founder of Next Step Dharma and Mindful Healthcare and he holds a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University. In this episode, he and Eric discuss his new book, Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication. In it, you’ll learn an updated model on how to skillfully communicate – especially in difficult situations. Practical strategies and helpful perspectives are what you’ll get in this episode. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.In This Interview, Oren Jay Sofer and I Discuss…His book, Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent CommunicationThat we’re not stuck, our minds can learn and it depends on the choices we make moment to momentThe three steps to create effective conversationLead with PresenceCome from Curiosity and CareFocus on What MattersHow most people live with fragmented attention and it takes training to be fully present with another personThat you can feel whether a person is fully present with you or notBringing awareness and attention to the body to come into the present moment (the body is always in the present moment)Bodily sensations happen in the present momentThe power of pausingHow our rate of speech is connected to our nervous systemThat when we are present, we have a lot more choicesThat our intention shapes our verbal and non-verbal communicationsThe intention to understandThe intention of kindness and careHow you can practice kindness to someone you don’t likeKindness can be about protecting your own heartThe phrase “Let me see if I’ve got it…”Listening for what matters to the other person – what do they need?The difference between needs and strategiesThe Nonviolent Communication ModelObservations, Feelings, Needs, RequestsCommunicating in the workplaceOren Jay Sofer LinksOrenJaySofer.comFacebookTwitterInstagram

How can we create meaningful conversations based on trust and mutual respect, even when we disagree? Author and teacher Oren Jay Sofer shares tools for Mindful Communication, bringing together the wisdom of contemplative practice, trauma-informed healing, and the powerful practice of Nonviolent Communication.  Oren Jay Sofer teaches meditation and communication retreats and workshops nationally. A member of the Spirit Rock Teachers Council, he is a Certified Trainer of Nonviolent Communication, a Course Trainer at Mindful Schools, and a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner for the healing of trauma. Oren also holds a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University and is the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication. Find out more about Oren and his work at orenjaysofer.com. 

How can we create meaningful conversations based on trust and mutual respect, even when we disagree? Author and teacher Oren Jay Sofer shares tools for Mindful Communication, bringing together the wisdom of contemplative practice, trauma-informed healing, and the powerful practice of Nonviolent Communication.  Oren Jay Sofer teaches meditation and communication retreats and workshops nationally. A member of the Spirit Rock Teachers Council, he is a Certified Trainer of Nonviolent Communication, a Course Trainer at Mindful Schools, and a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner for the healing of trauma. Oren also holds a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University and is the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication. Find out more about Oren and his work at orenjaysofer.com.

Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication with Oren Jay Sofer We spend so much of our lives talking to each other, but how much are we simply running on automatic—relying on old habits and hoping for the best? Are we able to truly hear others and speak our mind in a clear and kind way, without needing to get defensive or go on the attack? In this groundbreaking synthesis of mindfulness, somatics, and Nonviolent Communication, Oren Jay Sofer offers simple yet powerful practices to develop healthy, effective and satisfying ways of communicating. Oren has practiced Buddhist meditation since 1997. In the early 2000s, he developed a deep interest in the relationship between contemplative practice and communication. Today, his work integrating relational awareness into the field of communication stands at the cutting edge of interpersonal studies. He holds a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University, is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner for healing trauma, a Certified Trainer of Nonviolent Communication, and a member of the Spirit Rock Teachers’ Council. For more information visit: https://www.orenjaysofer.com/ ************************************************* For more information about BITEradio products and services visit: http://www.biteradio.me/index.html

Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook group - Live and Love with Joyful Courage.  Raising our children while growing ourselves... :::   Today’s guest is Oren Jay Sofer, the author of Say What You Mean - A Mindful Approach to Non-Violent Communication. He leads retreats and workshops on mindful communication at meditation centres and education settings around the US. Oren is a graduate of the IMS Spirit Rock teacher training program. He holds a degree in comparative religion from Columbia University, teaches in the Insight Meditation community and is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and a certified trainer of non-violent communication. Oren creates mindfulness training programs for a number of organizations including Mindful Schools, Kaiser Permanente, and 10% Happier. He lives in Richmond, California. Join us!   "If we can’t actually listen to each other and have a meaningful conversation when we disagree, it’s impossible to work together to address the challenges that we’re facing”   “We can’t wait for the opportunities where presence is needed to practice presence.”   “Even when we can't meet our child's needs we can help them to know and recognize that their needs matter to us.”   “Our feelings are a reflection of our needs.”   What you’ll hear in this episode: Being in response vs reaction Communication as a way of navigating conflict mindfully 3 foundations for successful conversations and effective communication The role of presence in communication The ambient stress of raising a child Owning our responses in times of stress Exercising self-compassion in relation to parenting-related stress Integrating moments of awareness into your day Creating daily rituals into mindfulness Mindfulness as a way to mitigate cumulative stress Mindfulness as a way to be present in our relationships Mindfulness as awareness and a way to raise our baseline kindness and presence Preparing for parenting with mindfulness through practicing Practice as a way of creating a new way of being Creating awareness of the impact of our actions on others Discussing our needs instead of blame Being realistic about our ability to meet all of our child’s needs Intention in communication and mindfulness Approaching communication from a place of curiosity and care Curiosity as a way of being The need for intention to be genuine Feelings of a reflection of needs Increasing emotional literacy to enhance communication Helping children to problem solve as an alternative to “consequences” Connecting before correcting Conflict as an opportunity for learning Where to start when you realize you need to improve your communication Learning to pause, be curious and consider the needs of others Connection through perspective shift   What does Joyful Courage mean to you? So I think what joyful courage means to me is it's rooted in the recognition that the places that we struggle, the places that we're scared of the places that we feel pain actually hold the precious gift of our own freedom and when we recognize that having the courage to turn towards those places and to actually include them in our life and learn from them becomes a process that's joyful because we know why we're doing it. It's not just about “I've got to trudge through this” but we've experienced to some degree and have a deep faith that there's there's actually a gift waiting for me on the other side.   Resources: Say What You Mean book Parenting From Your Heart: Sharing the Gifts of Compassion, Connection, and Choice (Nonviolent Communication Guides) Text “guided” 44222 to sign up for a short ebook and free guided meditation series   Where to find Oren: Website Instagram Facebook Twitter LinkedIn Youtube             ::::: Buy the Parenting Teen Audio Summit! The Parenting Teens With Positive Discipline Audio Summit is a deep dive into the messiness of parenting through the teen years and beyond. Each of the featured guests speaks candidly from both their wisdom as parent educators, as well as their real life experience of raising their own teens.   Check it out – www.joyfulcourage.com/teensummit   ::::: Be a Subscriber Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!! CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!  

Oren Jay Sofer has been practicing meditation and diving deep into the subject of nonviolent communication for over 20 years now.  He brings a deep knowledge about both of these practices to this interview.  You will see that he applies these concepts when speaking as he has an elegant way of using pauses and really bringing your whole self to the conversation.  I chat with Oren about:  His new book, Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication How he got into meditation in high school Going to Asia and spending two years as a renunciate Clearing up (for me) what equanimity means How we can feel emotions without letting them control us  What is non-violent communication?  How contemplative practices can be applied to communication Leading with presence in our conversations Much more!    Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication orenjaysofer.com Email me!    

Hunter talks to Oren Jay Sofer about How to Talk to Kids. What are some of the pitfalls to avoid when talking to kids? When communicating in general? In this episode, I talk to Oren Jay Sofer, author of the new book, Say What You Mean, which brings together mindfulness and NonViolent Communication. Learn simple yet powerful practices to develop healthy, effective, and more satisfying ways of communicating. Some big takeaways from this episode include: 1. Two questions that will transform the way you talk to your kids 2. We live with cultural messages so deeply embedded we’re not aware of them 3. Communication patterns are physical and encoded in our nervous system Oren Jay Sofer teaches meditation and communication nationally. A member of the Spirit Rock Teachers Council, he holds a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University, is a Certified Trainer of Nonviolent Communication, Senior Program Developer at Mindful Schools, and a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner for trauma healing. Oren is the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication. Learn more at www.OrenJaySofer.com. Fan of the Mindful Mama Podcast? Support it by leaving a quick review -----> Apple Podcasts or on Stitcher (or wherever you listen!) ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is a mindful mama mentor. She coaches overstressed moms on how to cultivate mindfulness in their daily lives. Hunter has over 20 years of experience in yoga & mindfulness practices. She has taught thousands worldwide, and is the creator of the Mindful Parenting course. Download the audio training, Mindfulness For Moms (The Superpower You Need) for free! It's at mindfulmomguide.com. Find more podcasts, blog posts, free resources, and how to work with Hunter at MindfulMamaMentor.com.

In Episode 054 of A Medicinal Mind, Wisdom and Wellbeing, I welcome a visionary in the field of mindfulness and deliberate, non-violent communication Oren Sofer.   Oren's background is beyond fascinating. As you will hear in the podcast, he brings years of training in meditation from the Buddhist spiritual tradition as well training seeking to transform the way we communicate and interact with others.   Formally speaking, he has a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University, and spent two and a half years of living as an (renunciate) at various branch monasteries. Today, his teaching combines classical Buddhist training with the accessible language of secular mindfulness.   In this conversation, we begin the exploration with a look at Oren's early childhood, its spiritual roots and his earliest experiences delving into the world of intimate awareness. Getting rather personal, Oren shares one of his most powerful experiences early in his life beginning his push to wanting to further understand the depth of emotion and what it really means to be human.   Oren offers his perspective on the power of loss and sorrow, letting us all see the universal nature of this experience and the beautiful acts of compassion and connection that can happen my allowing ourselves to fully experience it.   Beginning our deepening discussion of violence and non-violence Oren outlines how human beings seek both consciously and unconsciously to meet various needs and that this pursuit often times can lead to needs not being met and interpersonal conflict.   Defining violence as “any avoidable impairment of human needs,” Oren shares insight from Johan Galtung as to what perhaps really underlies an act of violence and how as a society we may be committing more acts of violence than we really know.   Stepping into the practical. Oren provides us with a framework for seeking understanding as well as collaborative clarification in order to address others needs and our own in a unified and non-violent manner.   Drawing from his just released book: Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication, Oren provides some of the most essential practices, techniques and tools for achieving more constructive clarity in our relationships, and ultimately meet your needs.   As you will hear throughout the conversation, Oren's passion and expertise for the craft of mindful and non-violent communication and I cannot urge you enough to order Oren's book: Say What You Mean. I have yet to find another book that practically addresses the most challenging aspects of cultivating nourishing relationships and engaging in the sticky, difficult conversations like Oren's. Check out the show notes for a link to Oren's page as well as links to order his book!   Oren's Webpage: https://www.orenjaysofer.com/about/ Get Oren's Book: https://more.orenjaysofer.com/book/?_ga=2.171256357.424896732.1544539567-371234106.1544539567   Disclaimer: The content at A Medicinal Mind and the content of our podcast are educational and informational in nature. They are not intended to be medical advice, spiritual counsel or a substitute for working with a health professional or a trained spiritual counselor. We cannot guarantee the outcome of any of the recommendations provided on our page or by the guests on our podcast and any statements written or made about any potential outcomes are expressions of opinion only.     And with that let's dig into the show

The Mindful Parenting in a Messy World podcast with Michelle Gale is for parents who long to be meaningfully connected to themselves and their children, even as the demands and complexities of modern life are accelerated.  Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication, is a step-by-step guide for meaningful conversations that bring people together. It is the first book to integrate mindfulness with the modern discipline of Nonviolent Communication and somatic healing. Whether it's managing conflict at work, navigating a political divide with a friend or relative or strengthening bonds at home—communicating effectively is what makes or breaks our relationships. Rich with simple yet powerful exercises, Say What You Mean offers a clear method and concrete practices for healthier, more effective conversations. Oren Jay Sofer teaches meditation and communication retreats and workshops nationally. A member of the Spirit Rock Teachers Council, he is a Certified Trainer of Nonviolent Communication, a Course Trainer at Mindful Schools, and a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner for healing trauma. Oren also holds a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University and is the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication.

The Art of Mindful Communication: Living Your Values In these extraordinarily polarized times, what would it be like if people could truly hear others and speak their minds in a clear, kind way, without becoming defensive or going on the attack? Join Talk It Out Radio's host and Oren Jay Sofer, meditation teacher and communication trainer, the author of a new book, “Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication.” for an engaging conversation about Oren's work and new book. Oren's book is the first to synthesize mindfulness, somatic practices and Nonviolent Communication into simple, yet powerful exercises for healthier, more effective, and satisfying conversation. Whether it's navigating a political divide with a friend or relative, managing conflicts at work, or strengthening bonds at home—communicating effectively is what makes or breaks our relationships. Say What You Mean offers a clear method, concrete practices, and the vocabulary needed to have meaningful conversations that bring people together. Oren Jay Sofer teaches meditation and communication nationally. A member of the Spirit Rock Teachers Council, he holds a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University, is a Certified Trainer of Nonviolent Communication, Senior Program Developer at Mindful Schools, and a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner for trauma healing. Oren is the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication. Learn more at www.OrenJaySofer.com. Listeners are invited to call in after 7:30 pm at 1-800-958-9008 to ask Oren questions about his integrative approach and new book. Listen live on Sunday, 12/9 at 7:00 pm on KPFA Radio (94.1 FM Berkeley and beyond) or visit the archives at kpfa.org/program/talk-it-out radio or iTunes. To listen to the show after it airs: https://kpfa.org/episode/talk-it-out-radio-december-9-2018     Talk It Out Radio, KPFA Radio, 94.1 FM, Sunday Nights at 7:00 PM A how-to and what-to-do program where skilled hosts welcome guests and callers to practice empathy, mindfulness, and effective communication. Do you want tools for connection, conflict resolution, and compassion for self and others? Skilled practitioners  and facilitators in Nonviolent Communication, Mindfulness and Social Justice Leadership explore skills, knowledge and resources to empower you to connect across differences. The post The Art of Mindful Communication: Living Your Values Talk-It-Out Radio – December 9, 2018 appeared first on KPFA.

What is the connection between meditation and effective communication.  And how can having a meditation practice positively impact your business, your life and your well-being. Today's guest, and he's long overdue to get on Nice Guys, is Oren Jay Sofer. Oren teaches meditation and communication nationally. His work integrating relational awareness into the field of communication is at the cutting edge of interpersonal studies.  Oren is the author of a new book, "Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication," which is available for pre-order now, and we will share how to get it and some cool free gifts that Oren is giving to you Nice Guys community.   Show notes by show producer/podcastologist: One of the Taylor Sisters     Connect with Oren Jay Sofer: Twitter: @orenjaysofer Book: https://more.orenjaysofer.com/book/ Email: cleardharma@gmail.com You can also text "GUIDED" to 44222 to get 30% off when you join his email list.   Nice Sponsors: Get your free E-Book 5 Ways to Make Money Podcasting at www.Turnkeypodcasting.com/gift   Reach The Nice Guys Here: Doug- @DJDoug Strickland- @NiceGuyonBiz   Nice Links:  Subscribe to the Podcast Niceguysonbusiness.com TurnkeyPodcast.com - You're the expert. Your podcast will prove it. Podcast Production, Concept to Launch   Book Doug and/or Strick as a speaker at your upcoming event. Amazon #1 Best selling book Nice Guys Finish First. Doug's Business Building Bootcamp (10 Module Course)   Nice Survey: Take our short survey so The Nice Guys know what you like.     Partner Links: Amazon.com: Click before buying anything. Help support the podcast. Acuity Scheduling: Stop wasting time going back and forth scheduling appointments   No time to get to this, but you can read the blog here: 12 worries that every entrepreneur has   Promise Statement: To provide an experience that is entertaining and adds value to your life.   Never underestimate the Power of Nice

Oren Jay Sofer teaches mindfulness, meditation and Nonviolent Communication. He came by to talk about his new book "Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication" a practical guidebook for having more effective, satisfying conversations. This is an extremely personal, intimate conversation about sailing the seas of conflict and the application of his communication techniques in making better relationships and a brighter world. Enjoy! Subscribe on iTunes: goo.gl/Ytp3nx Preorder Say What You Mean on Oren's site www.orenjaysofer.com Follow Oren on twitter @OrenJaySofer See all our documentaries for free at www.veryape.tv Follow us on insta and twitter @VeryApeTV Recorded 11/1/18 Brooklyn, NY