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In this episode of Deepen with Christina, host Christina Weber explores the transformative power of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) with NVC teacher and author Micah Salaberrios. Broadcasting from the wellness and podcasting mecca of Austin, Texas, Micah shares how a high-stakes conflict on a documentary set introduced him to "emergency empathy"—and how it completely changed his life. This conversation acts as a practical masterclass for anyone looking to eliminate verbal volatility, own their emotional triggers, and use communication to build unbreakable relational bonds. Main Topics Covered From Volatility to Mastery: How Micah transformed his childhood exposure to verbal volatility into a professional superpower. The "Emergency Empathy" Breakthrough: A real-world breakdown of the exact moment NVC saved a failing professional partnership. The Four-Step NVC Framework: Understanding the classic progression: Observable Fact → Authentic Feeling → Core Preference/Desire → Specific Request. Ditching Fake Feelings: Why phrases like "I feel disrespected" or "I feel cornered" are actually weaponized judgments in disguise. The Power of "Emergency Empathy": How asking a triggered partner specific, one-two combo questions ("Are you feeling [X] because of [Y]?") bypasses fight-or-flight and de-escalates rage instantly. The Illusion of "I feel as if...": Why eliminating passive-aggressive grammatical traps is vital for true authenticity. Tone Over Text: Acknowledging that vocal tone carries more emotional data than the actual words we choose. Aligning with Conscious Pillars: How NVC directly integrates into the WeDeepen Love Club's four core pillars of conscious relationships. Key Takeaways You Are the Catalyst, Not the Cause: No one is responsible for how you feel, and you are not responsible for anyone else's feelings. Blaming others gives away your personal power. Ego Is the Enemy of Empathy: True "emergency empathy" requires you to temporarily step out of your own identity and step into your partner's shoes—something the ego will fight tooth and nail to prevent. Specificity Tames the Beast: Avoid broad questions like "How are you feeling?" when someone is upset. Instead, use a specific guess about their inner world to give them something concrete to anchor to. Unresolved Issues Leak: If you don't use clean communication to sweep small issues out from under the rug, they will inevitably leak out through your body language, sighing, and tone. Connect with the Guest About Micah Salaberrios: Micah Salaberrios is the author of the acclaimed book The Art of NVC and host of the popular Art of NVC podcast. With more than a decade of experience teaching Nonviolent Communication to people around the world, Micah is known for making deep, transformative principles both practical and accessible. He's also a seasoned musician and video editor, driven by a passion for helping humanity communicate with more clarity, empathy, and authenticity. Website: artofnvc.com Instagram: @artofnvc Podcast: The Art of NVC Podcast (Also available on all major podcast platforms) Practice Group: Patreon.com/artofnvc Book: The Art of NVC on Amazon (Look out for Micah's second book focusing heavily on Emergency Empathy, releasing October 2026!) Connect with the Host Website: wedeepen.com Instagram: @christinaweber Greatest joy and greatest suffering both stem from interpersonal relationships. If you want to increase your relational wealth, follow this podcast, leave a review, and share this episode with someone you want to build a deeper connection with. Learn more about our monthly practice circles at wedeepen.com!
People often ask what the personal Mission Statement is for your life. Which is an awesome exercise to do. Yet I particularly like the concept that this week's guest asks, What is your Soul Statement? Corey Lyon Folsom published his book, Soul Statements: A Love Coach's Guide To Successful Communication in an effort to inspire others to simplify and improve their lives. His book is a practical guide full of simple, yet potent tools for making small shifts that produce outsized benefits in life and love. So what is a Soul Statement? It is not an ordinary affirmation. Rather, it is a present-time reminder of what is true & good & resourceful about yourself, which creates greater emotional coherence. Fabulous concept right?On this guest episode I have a delightful time exploring many beautiful concepts with Corey including why he wrote his book and how Soul Statements can improve inner clarity and communication. Corey also talks a lot about how Soul Statements can help with relationships to shift from conflict to harmony and flow and make us more empathic partners, co-workers and friends. They also improve self care and help align routines with our visions and goals. Is there anything Soul Statements cant do?? With a name like that I would say, no! In addition, Corey shares about his work as a relationship coach and how he helps clients create a path to having the love they desire.Bio: As a certified relationship coach, Corey Lyon Folsom helps people increase connection and clarity. He has also been a wilderness guide for newly sober people and a vision quest leader. During a spiritual soul-awakening in 2009 Corey experienced the pure joy that is availablewhen one is deeply aligned with Spirit. He then embarked on a development journey with Non-Violent Communication (NVC), Source School of Tantra Yoga, Love Coach Academy, Tony Robbins and other programs. Each of these experiences enhanced Corey's access to his inner resources and compassion. Corey's award-winning book, Soul Statements: A Love Coach's Guide To Successful Communication, is a practical guide full of simple, yet potent tools for making small shifts that produce outsized benefits in life and love. He enjoys daily movement and makes time for stillness. Corey is the father of two adult sons and is very proud of his 10 year-old grandson.Social media links:https://www.facebook.com/coreFhttps://www.instagram.com/coreylyonfolsom/https://www.pinterest.com/lovecoachcorey/
Sign up for Dr Matt's FREE substack:https://substack.com/@connectiondocs Join Chef AJ's Exclusive Plant-Based Community. Become part of the inner circle and start simplifying plant-based living - with easy recipes and expert health guidance. Find out more by visiting: https://community.chefaj.com/ ORDER MY NEW BOOK SWEET INDULGENCE!!! https://www.amazon.com/Chef-AJs-Sweet-Indulgence-Guilt-Free/dp/1570674248 GET MY FREE INSTANT POT COOKBOOK: https://www.chefaj.com/instant-pot-download Disclaimer: This podcast does not provide medical advice. The content of this podcast is provided for informational or educational purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for informed medical advice or care. You should not use this information to diagnose or treat any health issue without consulting your doctor. Always seek medical advice before making any lifestyle changes. To book a consultation with Matt: https://form.jotform.com/241997228318164 Matthew Lederman, MD, is a board-certified Internal Medicine Physician and a pioneering thought leader in holistic health. Renowned for his innovative integration of plant-based nutrition, Nonviolent Communication (NVC), trauma-informed care, and lifestyle medicine, Dr. Lederman's work highlights the profound interconnectedness of physical, emotional, and relational well-being. As a certified Nonviolent Communication Trainer through the Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC), Dr. Lederman combines Polyvagal Theory, Somatic Awareness Principles, and Pain Reprocessing to empower individuals to heal from within. His approach helps people address the root causes of chronic health challenges, fostering emotional resilience and cultivating meaningful connections. Email:Support@ConnectionDocs.com Website: https://www.connectiondocs.com/ Free Resources (includes Feelings & Needs Sheet for children AND Role-Play Video “Talking to Your Child About ‘Too Much' Device Time”) : https://www.connectiondocs.com/resources Substack (Weekly Articles on Connection): https://substack.com/@connectiondocs Breath & Body Regulation Training Tool: https://webekalm.com/ webe Pärents Podcast https://webekalm.com/pages/webeparents AI Connection Coach:https://app.kinectin.com/signup Main Book WELLNESS TO WONDERFUL: 9 Pillars for Living Healthier, Longer, and with Greater Joy: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C2S1JGZK?ref=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_sms_apin_dp_K6HM5P02NNK5WAMRGE87&ref_=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_sms_apin_dp_K6HM5P02NNK5WAMRGE87&social_share=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_sms_apin_dp_K6HM5P02NNK5WAMRGE87&starsLeft=1&skipTwisterOG=1&bestFormat=true Children's E-Books (Supporting Children Bringing More Connection Into Their Lives): Healing Shame and Connecting to Self-Worth and Intrinsic Value: https://webekalm.com/products/lily-and-her-beautiful-flower Being Honest with Care https://webekalm.com/products/ella-and-the-two-gifts-ebook Supporting Children During Emergencies (fires, earthquakes, etc):'https://webekalm.com/products/brave-hearts-facing-the-fire-ebook Social Media: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/TheConnectionDocs Substack Newsletter: https://connectionDocs.substack.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/connectionDocs X: https://x.com/connectionDocs
What if one of the most powerful relationship skills could be learned from a kindergartner? In this episode, I share a story about my daughter that sparked a reminder we all need: when someone we love is struggling, they often need our presence more than our solutions. I explore why we instinctively jump into "fix-it mode," how that can create disconnection, and what to do instead. You'll learn a simple Nonviolent Communication (NVC) practice that can help turn conflict into deeper understanding and connection. If you've ever felt frustrated when your attempts to help don't land, this episode is for you. Connect with your host, Ali Miller: NVC Training + Coaching Check out my updated Love Each Other Better Private Programs: The Essentials + The Deep Dive: https://www.AliMillerCoaching.com/privateprograms Free Resources Feelings & Needs Cheatsheets: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds Free Mini-Course: The 4 Steps to Stop Any Fight Without Giving In https://www.alimillercoaching.com/freeminicourse Connect with Ali Instagram: @alimillercoaching Free Private Facebook Group: NVC for Couples https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Email: ali@alimillercoaching.com Website: https://www.alimillercoaching.com
In this episode, Leslie speaks with parent coach, writer, and speaker Margot Magowan about how Nonviolent Communication (NVC) transformed her relationship with her children—and especially helped her family through a painful mental health crisis involving her oldest daughter. After years of therapies, hospitalizations, medications, and conflict, Margot says the breakthrough came when she and her husband learned how to truly listen with presence, curiosity, and compassion. She explains how NVC helped her shift away from trying to control or “fix” behavior and instead understand the feelings and needs beneath it. The conversation explores practical parenting challenges that many families face—from school struggles and emotional outbursts to rules, conflict, and communication—and how changing the way we respond to children can create more trust, safety, and emotional connection. Margot also discusses the difference between “power-over” and “power-with” parenting, why so many parents feel overwhelmed today, and how emotional regulation begins with the adults in the room. It's an honest and compassionate conversation about parenting, connection, and learning how to listen in a whole new way. Margot's website is Listen2ConnectCoach.com and her handles on Instagram are @Listen2ConnectCoach and @reelgirlreviews.
In this episode, Leslie speaks with parent coach, writer, and speaker Margot Magowan about how Nonviolent Communication (NVC) transformed her relationship with her children—and especially helped her family through a painful mental health crisis involving her oldest daughter. After years of therapies, hospitalizations, medications, and conflict, Margot says the breakthrough came when she and her husband learned how to truly listen with presence, curiosity, and compassion. She explains how NVC helped her shift away from trying to control or “fix” behavior and instead understand the feelings and needs beneath it. The conversation explores practical parenting challenges that many families face—from school struggles and emotional outbursts to rules, conflict, and communication—and how changing the way we respond to children can create more trust, safety, and emotional connection. Margot also discusses the difference between “power-over” and “power-with” parenting, why so many parents feel overwhelmed today, and how emotional regulation begins with the adults in the room. It's an honest and compassionate conversation about parenting, connection, and learning how to listen in a whole new way. Margot's website is Listen2ConnectCoach.com and her handles on Instagram are @Listen2ConnectCoach and @reelgirlreviews.
Do you struggle with relationship anxiety, constant doubt, or the feeling of being stuck in an on-again, off-again relationship cycle? Are you asking yourself "Should I break up or stay?" and unable to find clarity? In this episode, I explore relationship ambivalence through the lens of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and how to navigate breakup decisions, uncertainty, and doubt in relationships. I cover: Why relationship ambivalence and indecision are often signs of important needs Why you may feel stuck in "should I stay or should I go" thinking How to navigate uncertainty without rushing into a decision or forcing clarity How to make a conscious choice even when you don't feel sure If you're struggling with relationship doubt, ambivalence, or an on-again off-again dynamic, this episode will help you relate to your experience in a more grounded and self-compassionate way. And if you're navigating this in your own relationship, I support individuals and couples in this exact space. You can schedule a free 45-minute consultation with me at https://www.calendly.com/alimillercoaching/45 Connect with your host, Ali Miller: NVC Training + Coaching Check out my updated Love Each Other Better Private Programs: The Essentials + The Deep Dive: https://www.AliMillerCoaching.com/privateprograms Free Resources Feelings & Needs Cheatsheets: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds Free Mini-Course: The 4 Steps to Stop Any Fight Without Giving In https://www.alimillercoaching.com/freeminicourse Connect with Ali Instagram: @alimillercoaching Free Private Facebook Group: NVC for Couples https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Email: ali@alimillercoaching.com Website: https://www.alimillercoaching.com
In this episode of Engineering Peace, Thom Bond reflects on 15 years of developing and teaching The Compassion Course (http://compassioncourse.org)—a structured approach to teaching Nonviolent Communication and real-world conflict resolution skills.Thom explores how the course has evolved over time, what makes it effective, and why compassion must be practiced as a skill—not just understood as an idea. Drawing on insights from thousands of participants, he shares what it takes to create lasting personal peace and navigate difficult conversations with clarity and care.If you're interested in emotional intelligence, Nonviolent Communication (NVC), or practical tools for resolving conflict, this episode offers a deep and thoughtful perspective.Support the show
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In this episode of Season 2 of The Language Question ~ Ceist na Teangan, host Finghin Mac Cárthaigh (Flor McCarthy) sits down with Dian Killian, certified trainer in Nonviolent Communication (NVC), mediator, poet, and author.Together, they explore how language shapes not only how we communicate — but how we connect, understand, and relate to one another on a deeply human level.Thanks for reading The Language Question ~ Ceist na Teangan! Subscribe for free to receive priority notification on future episodes and to receive valuable learning resources.Throughout the conversation, they reflect on the emotional power of language — how the words we choose can either create distance or build connection, empathy, and understanding.Dian also draws on her work through her Substack, The Gaelic Effect, where she explores how the Irish language offers a powerful lens for navigating modern life — helping us stay grounded, connected, and open to beauty and meaning, even in uncertain and challenging times.This episode reminds us that language is not simply about words — it is about relationships, meaning, and how we experience the world.This Episode Celebrates:* The power of language in shaping human connection* The role of empathy in communication* How Nonviolent Communication (NVC) transforms relationships* The deeper emotional layers behind the words we useIf you're interested in language, communication, or human connection, this episode offers powerful insights that go far beyond Gaeilge alone.Thanks for reading The Language Question ~ Ceist na Teangan! Subscribe for free to receive priority notification on future episodes and to receive valuable resources.Podcast NotesLanguage as ConnectionDian Killian introduces the principles of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), highlighting how language can either create disconnection or foster genuine understanding.By becoming more aware of how we speak and listen, we can build stronger, more meaningful relationships.The Power of EmpathyA key theme in this conversation is empathy — not as a concept, but as a practice. Dian explains how truly hearing another person, without judgment or interruption, can transform communication and deepen connection.Thanks for your interest in The Language Question ~ Ceist na Teangan! Subscribe for free to receive priority notification on future episodes and to receive valuable learning resources.Thanks for your interest in The Language Question ~ Ceist na Teangan! Subscribe for free to receive priority notification on future episodes and to receive valuable learning resources.Beyond WordsThe episode explores how communication is not just about vocabulary or grammar, but about the needs, emotions, and intentions behind our words. This perspective invites us to rethink how we use language in everyday life.Communication as a SkillDian emphasises that effective communication is something we can learn and develop. Through awareness and practice, we can shift from reactive patterns to more conscious, compassionate ways of speaking and listening.Free Irish Learning ResourcesIf you enjoyed this episode of The Language Question ~ Ceist na Teangan and want to continue your Irish language journey:Access free Irish learning resources, stay updated on upcoming episodes, and receive exclusive content.Sign up here:Free ResourcesThe Language Question ~ Ceist na Teangan Free ResourcesYou can also follow my writing on Substack:Thanks for reading The Language Question ~ Ceist na Teangan! Subscribe for free to receive priority notification on future episodes and to receive valuable learning resources.A newsletter and community for anyone learning the Irish language as an adultSlán tamall, Finghin Mac CárthaighHost – The Language Question ~ Ceist na TeanganMore on Dian KillianDian KillianDian Killian is a certified trainer in Nonviolent Communication (NVC), mediator, poet, and author. She specialises in helping individuals and organisations communicate with greater clarity, empathy, and connection.She is also the author of the successful Substack “The Gaelic Effect”, which explores:* Language and how it shapes how we see and relate to the world* Beauty and draíocht (magic, wonder, and awe)* Solace, inspiration, and companionship in uncertain and liminal times* Hope for what's possible — and what we are truly capable of as human beings at our bestThrough her writing and teaching, Dian invites readers and learners into a deeper, more reflective relationship with language, meaning, and connection.Learn more: WebsiteSubstackFacebook This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit finghinmac.substack.com
In this exploration of divine connection and emotional awareness, Madison Margolin and communication coach Tsiporah Gottesman Bortz frame communication as a sacred practice for healing and self-expression.Learn more about Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and its developer here. This time on Set & Setting, Madison and Tsiporah have a conversation about: Tsiporah's connection to Ram Dass after his death, and asking his spirit for guidanceHow spiritual teachers make themselves known in auspicious ways Seeing our life as a movie: objective narration in order to gain more perspectiveLinking NVC & Hisbodedus (a Jewish practice of personal and heartfelt conversation with God)Tips for people who have communication blocks with the divine Bringing mindfulness and deep listening to our conversationsTuning into feelings rather than language Communication as a type of prayer and accessing the deepest part of us that wants to be expressedKeeping a “feelings & needs” journal, allowing our feelings and needs to existMoments of peace through Katonah Yoga, a hatha practice woven with sacred geometry and metaphor Psychedelic experiences and seeing how psychedelic life can be without plant medicineAbout Tsiporah Gottesman Bortz:Tsiporah Gottesman Bortz is a communication coach, mediator, and teacher with over 15 years of experience guiding individuals and groups in practices of presence, awareness, and connection. She teaches yoga, most recently through Katonah Yoga, and has completed Vipassana meditation training, which continues to inform and shape her work.Her approach to communication is rooted in Marshall Rosenberg's Nonviolent Communication and is enriched by somatic practices, including Somatic Experiencing. She supports people in cultivating deep self-understanding and the ability to remain present and grounded, even in the midst of challenge.Tsiporah also draws from her experience in integration work, helping individuals make sense of and find meaning in profound inner experiences. Keep up with Tsiporah on her Instagram."Stagnant water is like a swamp or puddle. Healthy water is a river you can drink from; it's moving, it's alive. Those things inside of us that can feel really heavy, when we allow them to move, the stagnation starts to go away, and life force moves through us. It's moving to allow it to be part of us, when it can be alive in us, it doesn't create lethargy or stagnation. Hisbodedus is this way of expressing from our heart, speaking to creation, and staying big and alive even when we feel like something is closing in on us." –Tsiporah Gottesman BortzSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Sometimes it's hard to say what you mean. Oren Jay Sofer says, "Communication is a learnable skill and it's one of the most powerful levers for making change in your life and the world." Non-violent communication is about taking responsibility for what we are experiencing using empathy, deep listening, know how to make requests.// This episode is a replay from the Sonya Looney Show. It originally aired October 22, 2020. //Author and renowned meditation instructor Oren Jay Sofer regularly teaches a mindful approach to non-violent communication. spent two and a half years of living as an Anagarika (renunciate) at branch monasteries in the Ajahn Chah Thai Forest lineage. Today, his teaching combines classical Buddhist training with the accessible language of secular mindfulness. Since the early 2000s, Oren has had a deep interest in the relationship between contemplative practice and communication. A graduate of the BayNVC North American Leadership Training, he has taught classes and workshops in Marshall Rosenberg's Nonviolent Communication (NVC) nationally since 2006. His innovative retreats and online programs in Mindful Communication offer one of the only opportunities in the U.S today to explore the intersection between formal meditation practice, Right Speech and NVC. Oren is the founder and Guiding Teacher of Next Step Dharma, an innovative online course focused on bringing the tools of meditation to daily life, and co-founder of Mindful Healthcare. Oren has created mindfulness programs for organizations, companies, and apps including Apple, Kaiser Permanente, Lumosity, Calm, 10% Happier, Simple Habit and others.I loved his book, Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication. In the book, a main theme is that every thought or feeling is there to try to meet a need. If you can try to figure out what need your thoughts are tied to, it's easier to articulate what you need to those around you. It's also useful when listening to someone in a disucssion or conflict to tease out what need they are trying to have met. I also enjoyed learning about conflict and viewing it as a way to deepen relationships. I also learned that non-violent communication and conflict resolution isn't necessarily to try to get someone to do things your way, it's about deepening understanding of one another because sometimes we simply can't agree to have the same viewpoint. Non-violent communication has a framework of observation, the feeling, the needs and values to be met, and the request.Three questions you can ask yourself are what happened, how do I feel about it, and why?I also loved learning about how to use mindfulness in listening and communication as well as how to ground yourself in your own body when tensions rise.Topics Discussed in the Podcast from childhood actor to meditation instructor4 types of conflict avoidanceself-empathytools for internal pressureNo mud, no lotusaddressing the voiceless and gender constructshow to make requests of othersResourcesOren Jay Sofer's websiteGet Oren's book: Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication--------------The Grow the Good Podcast is produced by Palm Tree Pod Co.
Dear Listener, does communicating with your partner sometimes feel like an uphill battle? Do you find yourself saying things you don't mean—or struggling to say what you do mean without it landing as an attack? What if there were a way to communicate that actually brought you closer, even during conflict?In this episode, we're joined by Relationship Center therapist and couples counselor Nicole Penrod to explore Nonviolent Communication (NVC)—a powerful framework for transforming how you and your partner talk to each other.Nicole breaks down the basics of NVC (also called compassionate communication), originally developed by Marshall Rosenberg. At its core, NVC helps us move from reactive, judgmental communication to empathetic, connecting conversation. Think less jackal (defensive, fear-driven) and more giraffe (big-hearted, slow, and steady).We walk through the four steps of NVC—Observation, Feeling, Need, Request (OFNR)—with real examples, including Jessica getting pretend-mad at Josh about socks on the floor. You'll learn why "I feel abandoned" isn't actually a feeling, how to set your partner up for success (and vice versa!), and why asking for what you want can help heal attachment wounds.If you're tired of the same old fights and ready to communicate with more compassion—for your partner and yourself—this episode is for you.Key Takeaways0:00 Intro06:07 What is NVC?10:45 What are the NVC basics?18:28 Name the Need21:04 Requests Without Demands32:01 How do I actually use NVC with my partner?Resources and linksDecolonizing NVCBook: Decolonizing Non-Violent CommunicationPodcast episode with the author: https://www.skepticspath.org/podcast/decolonizing-nonviolent-communication-with-meenadchi/Feelings and Needs Lists: https://www.sociocracyforall.org/nvc-feelings-and-needs-list/Nicole's favorite video introduction of the basics: https://roxannemanning.com/an-introduction-to-nvc/On the 4 listening modes: https://seedofpeace.org/nvc-introductory-articles/four-ways-of-listening/Have a question or comment? Email us at podcast@relationshipcenter.com. We love hearing from you!If you'd like to work with one of the talented clinicians on our team, go to relationshipcenter.com/apply-now to apply for a free 30-minute consultation.To get a monthly email with our best content, go to relationshipcenter.com/newsletter.If something in this episode touched you, will you share it with a friend? That helps us reach more sweet humans like you.Lastly, we'd love it if you would leave us a rating and review wherever you listen to podcasts. And be sure to hit subscribe while you're there so you never miss an episode!
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Valentine's Day can stir up all kinds of longing, worry, and relational anxiety — especially if you love deeply and notice closeness and distance acutely. In this episode of Love Each Other Better, I dive into Marshall Rosenberg's famous metaphor: "I want to be flowers on your table, not oxygen for your lungs." I break down what this means through the compassionate lenses of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and attachment theory, including: The difference between universal human needs (like connection) and the particular ways we meet them in a relationship How anxious attachment patterns show up, and how I suggest caring for your inner child without making your partner responsible for your emotional survival What "flower-love" looks like in practice: freely chosen, generous, and joyful You'll come away with practical insights for nurturing secure, adult love — honoring both your need for connection and your partner's autonomy. ✨ Learn how to love each other better, without shame, pressure, obligation, or resentment. Connect with your host, Ali Miller: Training + Coaching Explore current ways to work with me: https://www.AliMillerCoaching.com Free Resources Feelings & Needs Cheatsheets: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds Free Mini-Course: The 4 Steps to Stop Any Fight Without Giving In https://www.alimillercoaching.com/freeminicourse Connect with Ali Instagram: @alimillercoaching Free Private Facebook Group: NVC for Couples https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Email: ali@alimillercoaching.com Website: https://www.alimillercoaching.com
Are you tired of arguing with your partner over the same issues — or feeling frustrated, unheard, or disconnected? In this episode, we dive into why stuffing your feelings fuels conflict and what you can do instead. You'll learn why ignoring your emotions or pushing them aside may feel easier in the moment but actually costs you time, energy, and connection. We explore a practical approach using Nonviolent Communication (NVC) to notice your feelings, identify your needs, and respond in ways that keep connection alive — even in the middle of tension. Plus, you'll get a simple practice to try this week and access to free feelings and needs lists to help make your conversations more effective and connecting. Stop letting unspoken feelings drive your arguments — start noticing, naming, and transforming them into real connection. Links & Resources Named in Episode 44: Free Feelings & Needs Lists: alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds Learn more about private coaching: alimillercoaching.com/stopfighting Connect with your host, Ali Miller: Training + Coaching Explore my 9-week private coaching program for couples: Stop Fighting! (without stuffing your feelings or sacrificing your needs): https://www.alimillercoaching.com/stopfighting Free Resources Feelings & Needs Cheatsheets: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds Free Mini-Course: The 4 Steps to Stop Any Fight Without Giving In https://www.alimillercoaching.com/freeminicourse Connect with Ali Instagram: @alimillercoaching Free Private Facebook Group: NVC for Couples https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Email: ali@alimillercoaching.com Website: https://www.alimillercoaching.com
My friend Dr. Ben Bailey (PhD from BYU in Psychology currently working at UVU as a Mental Health Therapist) joins us to talk about things close to his heart and work as a therapist to bring more hope and understanding, reduce divisiveness, and bring us together as the same human family including: Nonviolent Communication (NVC) as a framework to become a better peacemaker Moving from judgmental thinking into a language of feelings and needs Understanding differences in others by understanding their needs How to talk across difference with people who have different opinions than us about the rights of LGBTQ individuals Distinguishing empathy from agreement (understanding someone does not require endorsing their beliefs) Prioritizing safety before connection A more compassion focused approach to understanding pornography use Normalizing and having a better approach to doubt Thank you, Ben, for being on the podcast. I learned so much from you on how to feel better about ourselves and bring us together as the same human family. I also appreciate your work as a therapist and all you are doing to love, help, and give hope to others. Links: NVC Book: https://nonviolentcommunication.com/product/nvc/ Center For Nonviolent Communication: https://www.cnvc.org/ The Return of the Prodigal Son: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/122877/the-return-of-the-prodigal-son-by-henri-jm-nouwen/ My Music Links: https://linktr.ee/benbaileymusic
Send us a textIn Episode 238, Andrea Atherton explores the transformative power of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), a practice that teaches us how to speak from the heart while staying deeply connected to ourselves and others. Many of us were never taught how to express our feelings and needs without blame, shame, or defensiveness—and as a result, our most important relationships can feel fractured, distant, or painful. In this episode, Andrea guides listeners through what NVC really is, why it matters, and how it can create safety and understanding even in the most challenging conversations.Andrea breaks down the four core components of NVC—observations, feelings, needs, and requests—demonstrating how this framework allows us to speak our truth with clarity, compassion, and courage. She shares insights from her work as a psychotherapist and love expert, helping listeners recognize common patterns that trigger disconnection and showing how small shifts in communication can profoundly transform relationships.This episode is a practical and gentle guide for anyone seeking to deepen connection, repair ruptures, and foster empathy in their personal and professional relationships. Whether you are navigating romantic partnerships, family dynamics, friendships, or your inner dialogue, Andrea offers a step-by-step approach to speaking and listening in ways that honor both yourself and others. Listeners will leave with tools to communicate more honestly, create understanding, and cultivate relationships that thrive on presence and compassion.30-minute Consultation with Andrea https://www.andreaatherton.com/booking-calendarAndrea Atherton Websitehttps://www.andreaatherton.com/Love Anarchy Websitehttps://www.andreaatherton.com/podcasthttps://loveanarchypodcast.buzzsprout.comLove Anarchy Facebookhttps://www.facebook.com/loveanarchypodcast/Andrea Atherton Facebookhttps://www.facebook.com/andreaatherton-17/
Transforming your health is more fun with friends! Join Chef AJ's Exclusive Plant-Based Community. Become part of the inner circle and start simplifying plant-based living - with easy recipes and expert health guidance. Find out more by visiting: https://community.chefaj.com/ For a list "The Top 10 Things Having Cancer Has Taught Me" please email help@ChefAJ.com Disclaimer: This podcast does not provide medical advice. The content of this podcast is provided for informational or educational purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for informed medical advice or care. You should not use this information to diagnose or treat any health issue without consulting your doctor. Always seek medical advice before making any lifestyle changes. To book a consultation with Matt: https://form.jotform.com/241997228318164 Matthew Lederman, MD, is a board-certified Internal Medicine Physician and a pioneering thought leader in holistic health. Renowned for his innovative integration of plant-based nutrition, Nonviolent Communication (NVC), trauma-informed care, and lifestyle medicine, Dr. Lederman's work highlights the profound interconnectedness of physical, emotional, and relational well-being. As a certified Nonviolent Communication Trainer through the Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC), Dr. Lederman combines Polyvagal Theory, Somatic Awareness Principles, and Pain Reprocessing to empower individuals to heal from within. His approach helps people address the root causes of chronic health challenges, fostering emotional resilience and cultivating meaningful connections. Dr. Lederman is the co-host of the webe Parents podcast, a platform dedicated to equipping parents with tools and insights to foster emotional connection, resilience, and well-being in their families. His latest book, Wellness to Wonderful, weaves together medical science, psychology, spirituality, and life wisdom to guide individuals toward lasting health, vibrancy, peace, and joy. He is also the co-founder of Kinectin, a platform designed to help individuals build deeper, more fulfilling relationships through AI-driven coaching and personalized assessments. Email (questions & requests): Support@ConnectionDocs.com Website: https://www.connectiondocs.com/ Free Resources (includes Feelings & Needs Sheet for children AND Role-Play Video “Talking to Your Child About ‘Too Much' Device Time”) : https://www.connectiondocs.com/resources Substack (Weekly Articles on Connection): https://substack.com/@connectiondocs Breath & Body Regulation Training Tool: https://webekalm.com/ webe Pärents Podcast https://webekalm.com/pages/webeparents AI Connection Coach:https://app.kinectin.com/signup Main Book WELLNESS TO WONDERFUL: 9 Pillars for Living Healthier, Longer, and with Greater Joy: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C2S1JGZK?ref=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_sms_apin_dp_K6HM5P02NNK5WAMRGE87&ref_=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_sms_apin_dp_K6HM5P02NNK5WAMRGE87&social_share=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_sms_apin_dp_K6HM5P02NNK5WAMRGE87&starsLeft=1&skipTwisterOG=1&bestFormat=true Children's E-Books (Supporting Children Bringing More Connection Into Their Lives): Healing Shame and Connecting to Self-Worth and Intrinsic Value: https://webekalm.com/products/lily-and-her-beautiful-flower Being Honest with Care https://webekalm.com/products/ella-and-the-two-gifts-ebook Supporting Children During Emergencies (fires, earthquakes, etc):'https://webekalm.com/products/brave-hearts-facing-the-fire-ebook Social Media: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/TheConnectionDocs Substack Newsletter: https://connectionDocs.substack.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/connectionDocs X: https://x.com/connectionDocs
My friend Dr. Ben Bailey (PhD from BYU in Psychology currently working at UVU as a Mental Health Therapist) joins us to talk about things close to his heart and work as a therapist to bring more hope and understanding, reduce divisiveness, and bring us together as the same human family including: Nonviolent Communication (NVC) as a framework to become a better peacemaker Moving from judgmental thinking into a language of feelings and needs Understanding differences in others by understanding their needs How to talk across difference with people who have different opinions than us about the rights of LGBTQ individuals Distinguishing empathy from agreement (understanding someone does not require endorsing their beliefs) Prioritizing safety before connection A more compassion focused approach to understanding pornography use Normalizing and having a better approach to doubt Thank you, Ben, for being on the podcast. I learned so much from you on how to feel better about ourselves and bring us together as the same human family. I also appreciate your work as a therapist and all you are doing to love, help, and give hope to others. Links: NVC Book: https://nonviolentcommunication.com/product/nvc/ Center For Nonviolent Communication: https://www.cnvc.org/ The Return of the Prodigal Son: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/122877/the-return-of-the-prodigal-son-by-henri-jm-nouwen/ My Music Links: https://linktr.ee/benbaileymusic
Cristina Cranga: Coaching Product Owners From Output Obsession to Value Conversations Read the full Show Notes and search through the world's largest audio library on Agile and Scrum directly on the Scrum Master Toolbox Podcast website: http://bit.ly/SMTP_ShowNotes. In this episode, we refer to the work of Esko Kilpi on conversations and episodes on Nonviolent Communication (NVC) on the podcast. The Great Product Owner: A People Person Who Clarifies Before Deciding "He was comfortable saying 'I don't know yet. What do you think?' It was a bi-directional conversation, not just one-way." - Cristina Cranga The best Product Owner Cristina worked with was fundamentally a people person and a leader—human skills, not just hard skills. What made him exceptional was his approach to conversation: he started by clarifying the problem first, then decided. By doing this, he separated requests from decisions and made trade-offs explicit. He was comfortable admitting uncertainty, asking "What do you think?" and engaging the team in co-creation rather than issuing directives. Cristina emphasizes that between the PO and Scrum Master, there's a special bond—a strong leadership partnership that teams look to as a reference. She highlights the concept of "ask more, say less": when you ask questions, you collect information that leads to better, more validated decisions. The communication process, as outlined in Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg, has four components: observation, feelings, needs, and requests. Great POs embody this by treating uncertainty as part of their job, engaging teams more deeply, and connecting work to value rather than just output. Self-reflection Question: How often does your Product Owner ask "What do you think?" and what would change if they separated requests from decisions more explicitly? The Bad Product Owner: Output Obsession and the Velocity Trap "Success is measured by how much is delivered, not what changes. Teams get faster, but not smarter." - Cristina Cranga The worst Product Owner anti-pattern Cristina has witnessed is output obsession—measuring success by how much is delivered rather than what actually changes for users or the business. When velocity replaces outcomes as the primary metric, teams get faster but not smarter. Faster doesn't equal smarter. This anti-pattern is particularly dangerous in an AI-accelerated environment where delivery speed is no longer a constraint. The challenge for practitioners is shifting this mindset. The strongest POs make different choices: they own their decisions at the team level, make decisions explicit, treat uncertainty as part of the job, and connect work to value. When POs break free from output obsession, the results are powerful: faster alignment, no decision hallucinations, more engaged teams willing to experiment, and genuine connection between work and value. In this segment, we refer to Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg. Self-reflection Question: If you removed velocity from your team's dashboard tomorrow, what conversations would emerge about actual value delivered? [The Scrum Master Toolbox Podcast Recommends]
If you're tired of avoiding conflict, walking on eggshells, or losing yourself to keep the peace, this episode is for you. Join me as I explore the real cost of people-pleasing, and a different way forward that doesn't require becoming confrontational. People-pleasing often develops as a way to stay safe and connected, especially when conflict felt overwhelming or dangerous earlier in life. But in adult relationships, that same strategy can lead to disconnection, resentment, and a loss of intimacy. In this episode, we look at why naming your feelings and needs can feel so scary, how fear of conflict fuels people-pleasing, and what helps couples become conflict-confident instead of conflict-avoidant. Using insights from Nonviolent Communication (NVC), this conversation points toward a way of relating where honesty feels safer, connection runs deeper, and you don't have to abandon yourself to keep the relationship intact. Connect with your host, Ali Miller: Training + Coaching Explore my 9-week private coaching program for couples: Stop Fighting! (without stuffing your feelings or sacrificing your needs): https://www.alimillercoaching.com/stopfighting Free Resources Feelings & Needs Cheatsheets: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds Free Mini-Course: The 4 Steps to Stop Any Fight Without Giving In https://www.alimillercoaching.com/freeminicourse Connect with Ali Instagram: @alimillercoaching Free Private Facebook Group: NVC for Couples https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Email: ali@alimillercoaching.com Website: https://www.alimillercoaching.com
Welcome to another insightful episode of The Brand Called You! In this conversation, host Ashutosh Garg sits down with Paulina Orbitowska-Fernandez, a certified trainer of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), scrum coach, mediator, and resonant language practitioner from Warsaw, Poland.Paulina shares her powerful journey from her early years in communist Poland to becoming a global advocate for empathy, NVC, and authentic leadership. Discover what truly inspired her to pursue communication and empathy, the challenges leaders and organizations face today, and the transformative potential of NVC beyond just “being nice.” You'll learn about the neuroscience of empathy, how listening shapes culture, and practical ways organizations can foster trust and psychological safety.Paulina also talks about the internationally recognized “Time for Empathy” initiative—a week-long, global series of free empathy workshops. Tune in to learn practical tools and gain wisdom to make your organizations and relationships more compassionate and effective.
Transforming your health is more fun with friends! Join Chef AJ's Exclusive Plant-Based Community. Become part of the inner circle and start simplifying plant-based living - with easy recipes and expert health guidance. Find out more by visiting: https://community.chefaj.com/ For a list "The Top 10 Things Having Cancer Has Taught Me" please email help@ChefAJ.com Disclaimer: This podcast does not provide medical advice. The content of this podcast is provided for informational or educational purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for informed medical advice or care. You should not use this information to diagnose or treat any health issue without consulting your doctor. Always seek medical advice before making any lifestyle changes. To book a consultation with Matt: https://form.jotform.com/241997228318164 Matthew Lederman, MD, is a board-certified Internal Medicine Physician and a pioneering thought leader in holistic health. Renowned for his innovative integration of plant-based nutrition, Nonviolent Communication (NVC), trauma-informed care, and lifestyle medicine, Dr. Lederman's work highlights the profound interconnectedness of physical, emotional, and relational well-being. As a certified Nonviolent Communication Trainer through the Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC), Dr. Lederman combines Polyvagal Theory, Somatic Awareness Principles, and Pain Reprocessing to empower individuals to heal from within. His approach helps people address the root causes of chronic health challenges, fostering emotional resilience and cultivating meaningful connections. Dr. Lederman is the co-host of the webe Parents podcast, a platform dedicated to equipping parents with tools and insights to foster emotional connection, resilience, and well-being in their families. His latest book, Wellness to Wonderful, weaves together medical science, psychology, spirituality, and life wisdom to guide individuals toward lasting health, vibrancy, peace, and joy. He is also the co-founder of Kinectin, a platform designed to help individuals build deeper, more fulfilling relationships through AI-driven coaching and personalized assessments. He has co-authored six books, including the New York Times Bestseller Forks Over Knives Plan, and was featured in the acclaimed documentary Forks Over Knives. Through these works, he has shared his transformative approach to wellness with audiences around the globe. Email (questions & requests): Support@ConnectionDocs.com Website: https://www.connectiondocs.com/ Free Resources (includes Feelings & Needs Sheet for children AND Role-Play Video “Talking to Your Child About ‘Too Much' Device Time”) : https://www.connectiondocs.com/resources Substack (Weekly Articles on Connection): https://substack.com/@connectiondocs Breath & Body Regulation Training Tool: https://webekalm.com/ webe Pärents Podcast https://webekalm.com/pages/webeparents AI Connection Coach:https://app.kinectin.com/signup Main Book WELLNESS TO WONDERFUL: 9 Pillars for Living Healthier, Longer, and with Greater Joy: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C2S1JGZK?ref=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_sms_apin_dp_K6HM5P02NNK5WAMRGE87&ref_=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_sms_apin_dp_K6HM5P02NNK5WAMRGE87&social_share=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_sms_apin_dp_K6HM5P02NNK5WAMRGE87&starsLeft=1&skipTwisterOG=1&bestFormat=true Children's E-Books (Supporting Children Bringing More Connection Into Their Lives): Healing Shame and Connecting to Self-Worth and Intrinsic Value: https://webekalm.com/products/lily-and-her-beautiful-flower Being Honest with Care https://webekalm.com/products/ella-and-the-two-gifts-ebook Supporting Children During Emergencies (fires, earthquakes, etc):'https://webekalm.com/products/brave-hearts-facing-the-fire-ebook Social Media: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/TheConnectionDocs Substack Newsletter: https://connectionDocs.substack.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/connectionDocs X: https://x.com/connectionDocs
In this powerful episode of The Circle of Hope, I'm thrilled to welcome Linda Balola, a lecturer and peacebuilder whose journey from the Democratic Republic of Congo to Rwanda has been marked by transformation, learning, and the courage to shift entire communities toward healing. Our story together began serendipitously in Nairobi, Kenya, when Linda recognized me from my TEDx talk—a beautiful reminder of how messages ripple globally, touching lives we may never even imagine reaching.Linda opens up about her personal evolution, moving from deep-seated judgments and cultural stereotypes to embracing the transformative principles of Nonviolent Communication (NVC). We dig into how she not only teaches these practices at the Protestant University of Rwanda but lives them—helping young people from conflict-impacted backgrounds explore empathy, process trauma, and rewrite how they relate to themselves and others. Our candid conversation explores the role of needs, feelings, and strategies for authentic connection and dives into our own real-life struggles and triumphs using NVC (including my very human experience navigating emotions at Costco!). If you're curious about building peace in divided communities, shifting personal relationships, or simply want to understand yourself and others more deeply, this heartfelt exchange is for you.Watch This If:You're curious about how Nonviolent Communication (NVC) works in real lifeYou want practical strategies for transforming conflict—personally or within your communityYou're interested in peacebuilding, empathy, and authentic relationshipsYou've ever struggled with communicating your needs, expressing emotions, or breaking through stereotypesYou're looking for inspiration from someone living and teaching hope amid challenging circumstancesQuotes to Remember:“Everything we do, we do to meet the needs... Even if you commit something that is not good, know that you still have something good inside.” – Linda Balola“Sometimes our needs are not meant to be met by other people. The need that we have are needs that we need to fulfill—we then select strategies that would address that need for us.” – Valerie Hope“Nonviolent Communication is not a therapy session, but it can heal.” – Linda Balola“Beyond right or wrong, we can still connect.” – Linda BalolaWhat You'll Learn:The fundamental components of Nonviolent Communication and their practical applicationHow to shift from habitual judgment (“jackal”) to empathic (“giraffe”) listening and expressionThe importance of identifying and owning your own needs in moments of conflictHow transparency and self-connection foster resilience and understanding, even in trauma-impacted settingsWays to compassionately hold space for strong emotions—both your own and others'Why cultural and personal stereotypes can be overcome through intentional connectionHow even compliments and praise can be forms of judgment, and the value of specificity in affirmationContact Information:Guest: Linda BalolaInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/lindaducc?igsh=am44NDBpOTFxNDNlLinkedIn: http://linkedin.com/in/linda-balola-sylvine-2a2b36183Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/1HwgWCZrm1/?mibextid=wwXIfrHost: Valerie HopeWebsite:https://www.valeriehope.comInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/valeriehope/LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/valeriehope/Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/ValerieVHopeYoutube:https://www.youtube.com/@ConnecttoJoyProduction Support: Lucy Hope - Podcast Editing, Copy, and Publishing.#CircleOfHope #NonviolentCommunication #PeaceBuilding #Empathy #TransformConflict
Transforming your health is more fun with friends! Join Chef AJ's Exclusive Plant-Based Community. Become part of the inner circle and start simplifying plant-based living - with easy recipes and expert health guidance. Find out more by visiting: https://community.chefaj.com/ For a list "The Top 10 Things Having Cancer Has Taught Me" please email help@ChefAJ.com Disclaimer: This podcast does not provide medical advice. The content of this podcast is provided for informational or educational purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for informed medical advice or care. You should not use this information to diagnose or treat any health issue without consulting your doctor. Always seek medical advice before making any lifestyle changes. To book a consultation with Matt: https://form.jotform.com/241997228318164 Matthew Lederman, MD, is a board-certified Internal Medicine Physician and leading innovator in holistic health. Known for integrating plant-based nutrition, Nonviolent Communication (NVC), trauma-informed care, and lifestyle medicine, he emphasizes the deep connection between physical, emotional, and relational well-being. A certified NVC Trainer through the Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC), Dr. Lederman blends Polyvagal Theory, Somatic Awareness, and Pain Reprocessing to help people address root causes of chronic health issues, build emotional resilience, and strengthen meaningful connections. He co-hosts the webe Parents podcast and is the author of Wellness to Wonderful, which unites medical science, psychology, spirituality, and life wisdom to guide individuals toward lasting health and joy. He also co-founded Kinectin, an AI-driven platform for cultivating deeper, more fulfilling relationships. Dr. Lederman has co-authored six books—including the New York Times bestseller Forks Over Knives Plan—and appeared in the acclaimed documentary Forks Over Knives. He has served as Vice President of Medical Affairs at Whole Foods Market, lectured for eCornell, taught in medical schools, and co-created the webe kälm device for emotional regulation. As co-founder of Connection Docs, he integrates NVC and emotional health with practical, science-backed tools that foster resilience, balance, and meaningful relationships for individuals and families. Email (questions & requests): Support@ConnectionDocs.com Website: https://www.connectiondocs.com/ Free Resources (includes Feelings & Needs Sheet for children AND Role-Play Video “Talking to Your Child About ‘Too Much' Device Time”) : https://www.connectiondocs.com/resources Substack (Weekly Articles on Connection): https://substack.com/@connectiondocs Breath & Body Regulation Training Tool: https://webekalm.com/ webe Pärents Podcast https://webekalm.com/pages/webeparents AI Connection Coach:https://app.kinectin.com/signup Main Book WELLNESS TO WONDERFUL: 9 Pillars for Living Healthier, Longer, and with Greater Joy: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C2S1JGZK?ref=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_sms_apin_dp_K6HM5P02NNK5WAMRGE87&ref_=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_sms_apin_dp_K6HM5P02NNK5WAMRGE87&social_share=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_sms_apin_dp_K6HM5P02NNK5WAMRGE87&starsLeft=1&skipTwisterOG=1&bestFormat=true Children's E-Books (Supporting Children Bringing More Connection Into Their Lives): Healing Shame and Connecting to Self-Worth and Intrinsic Value: https://webekalm.com/products/lily-and-her-beautiful-flower Being Honest with Care https://webekalm.com/products/ella-and-the-two-gifts-ebook Supporting Children During Emergencies (fires, earthquakes, etc):'https://webekalm.com/products/brave-hearts-facing-the-fire-ebook Social Media: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/TheConnectionDocs Substack Newsletter: https://connectionDocs.substack.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/connectionDocs X: https://x.com/connectionDocs
“Language can either divide us or bring us home to each other.”In this soulful conversation, Marina and Jawdat explore how Nonviolent Communication (NVC) becomes a bridge — between people, between cultures, and within ourselves. Jawdat, a lawyer and facilitator with Army of Healers, shares his work using dialogue, storytelling, and NVC to support trauma healing and collective reconciliation. Together, we explore how to communicate from compassion instead of defense, transform tension into deeper connection, bring awareness and healing into justice work, and use the body as a compass for honest, grounded expression.This episode invites us to see communication not just as words, but as an embodied act of love, repair, and truth.Connect with Jawdat:https://www.instagram.com/jdkassabhttps://jawdatkasab.wixsite.com/appraiser❥Softening into self- 3 month 1:1 with Whats App Support:https://marina-yt.mykajabi.com/offers/PAWQhZHu❥❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewform❥❥❥Stay or Go Course: https://marinayt.com/stay-or-go ❥❥❥❥ FREE RESOURCE: a step-by-step process of working with your triggersTRIGGERED TO ROOTED: A ROADMAP TO CREATE TREASURES FROM YOUR TRIGGERSThis powerful step by step process will walk you through how to somatically move through a trigger, ground yourself, allow the emotions to come up and experience massive growth in your lifeDownload here: https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rootedFollow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/marina.y.t Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner Top Episode Quotes:“Language is not neutral — it can be a weapon or a bridge.”“Compassion doesn't mean agreeing. It means staying present with humanity.”“We can't heal collectively without learning how to listen.”nonviolent communication, trauma healing, conflict transformation, empathy, peacebuilding, nervous system regulation, heartspace podcast, marina yanay triner, jawdat kasab, trauma informed communication, collective healing, nervous system awareness, self compassion, embodiment, emotional regulation, healing podcast, inner healing, community healing
Ever wished your partner could read your mind in bed? Yeah… me too! Here's the next best thing. Great sex and deep intimacy don't come from guessing games. They come from communication. In this episode of I'll Have What She's Having, we're diving into bedroom talk that actually works - the kind that builds connection, passion, and safety (not awkward tension).You'll learn:The 5 communication hacks that will completely transform your relationshipHow to talk about sex in a way that turns your partner on — not offHow to express your desires without blame, shame, or shutdownWhy your “I feel” statements are your new superpowerThe art of listening so your partner actually feels seen & understoodWhether you're in a long-term relationship or a spicy new romance, these tools from Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and embodied intimacy coaching will help you:Deepen trustUnlock more pleasureNavigate conflict gracefullyAnd create a sex life that feels safe & spicyTune in, take notes, and get ready to have the conversations that change your love life - in and out of the bedroom.
What if generosity isn't something we have to teach or force — but something we're born with? In this special episode honoring the birthday of Marshall Rosenberg, the founder of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), I share a personal story about my 5-year-old daughter — and how her spontaneous, joyful act of giving reminded me of one of Marshall's most powerful teachings: “What I want in my life is compassion — a flow between myself and others based on a mutual giving from the heart.” We'll explore: Why generous giving flows naturally when we feel connected and free How this principle applies not just to parenting, but to romantic relationships What gets in the way of that generosity in couples — and how NVC can help restore it A simple question to reflect on in your own relationship today Plus, I'll share how you and your partner can go deeper with NVC through my 9-Week Private Coaching Program for Couples: Stop Fighting (without stuffing your feelings or sacrificing your needs) If you're longing for more joy and spontaneous generosity in your relationship — this one's for you. Want to learn NVC with Ali? Explore my 9-week private coaching program for couples: Stop Fighting! (without stuffing your feelings or sacrificing your needs). Includes my signature training: Hearing Each Other's Hearts: NVC Essentials for Couples Learn more: www.alimillercoaching.com/stopfighting Free Resources Feelings & Needs Cheatsheets: www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds Free Mini-Course: The 4 Steps to Stop Any Fight Without Giving In www.alimillercoaching.com/freeminicourse Connect with Ali Instagram: @alimillercoaching Free Private Facebook Group: NVC for Couples www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Email: ali@alimillercoaching.com Website: www.alimillercoaching.com Important note: The tools I share in this episode and all of the episodes on this podcast are suited for people who are in a safe relationship. If you do not feel safe in your relationship, please prioritize your safety. For support with priortizing your safety, in the U.S. you can chat with someone live at The National Domestic Violence Hotline at www.thehotline.org, or call them at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or text START to 88788.
☉I will not blame others outside myself,For creating all the struggle and strife,But thank them for helping me get in touch,With feelings and needs I've denied.☉Hold onto your hats as Mercury aspects every out planet this week and moves into Scorpio to join Black Moon Lilith and Mars!If you're not embroiled in some intense, heated conversations (to put it mildly) you probably know others who are or could have them erupt at the check out counter or any other place at any other time! We're in a purging process of killing off (Scorpio) all the little lies, denials, and stories we tell ourselves and others to hide our deepest needs, desires, and motivations (which make them into dark shadowy monsters).The good thing is that if we can observe ourselves getting triggered and inquire into just what it is that is bothering us we can use it as a key to unlock the cellar door to some of our deepest passion, red energy, and life force that has been locked up for awhile. If we can take it easy on ourselves (and others) realizing that we have all been wounded, suppressed, controlled, and pushed around, we may even feel good about taking some of our power back and having a little more control over our lives.One challenge that we may face during this time is the tendency to speak our minds, needs and desires more than listen to anyone else's. While it may be tempting to cut people off, block them or cancel them, if we do so we may miss out on some key bit of information that could bring greater self awareness and enrichment to our lives, albeit further down the road. This is where "intimate conflict" can benefit from NonViolent Communication (NVC) techniques. Check it out!Song 1: Love Hurts: https://youtu.be/soDZBW-1P04?si=-4dxfDYkVpER8ii_Song 2: Somebody to Love: https://youtu.be/nSoJTsAbR8Q?si=SJj5TL7toCYKdbuZSo Much Love,Kaypacha☉
Ever feel like you're “in trouble” with your partner—even though you're a grown adult? That tight feeling in your chest, the urge to defend yourself, shut down, or appease… it's more common than you think. And it's not your fault. In this episode, we explore how growing up in a punitive culture wires us to associate conflict with danger—and how that fear shows up in our adult relationships. Using the lenses of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), Terry Real's Adaptive Child vs. Wise Adult, and self-compassion, we look at how to shift from self-protection to connection, even when emotions run high. You'll learn: Why the “I'm in trouble” feeling gets triggered in conflict How to recognize when your Adaptive Child is in the driver's seat Ways to offer yourself empathy so you can show up in your relationship from your Wise Adult self Practical NVC tools to respond with connection instead of self-protection Whether you're in a partnership or want to prepare for one, this episode is an invitation to soften, slow down, and connect—with yourself and your loved ones. Want to learn NVC with Ali? Explore my 9-week private coaching program for couples: Stop Fighting! (without stuffing your feelings or sacrificing your needs). Includes my signature training: Hearing Each Other's Hearts: NVC Essentials for Couples Learn more: www.alimillercoaching.com/stopfighting Free Resources Feelings & Needs Cheatsheets: www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds Free Mini-Course: The 4 Steps to Stop Any Fight Without Giving In www.alimillercoaching.com/freeminicourse Connect with Ali Instagram: @alimillercoaching Free Private Facebook Group: NVC for Couples www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Email: ali@alimillercoaching.com Website: www.alimillercoaching.com Important note: The tools I share in this episode and all of the episodes on this podcast are suited for people who are in a safe relationship. If you do not feel safe in your relationship, please prioritize your safety. For support with priortizing your safety, in the U.S. you can chat with someone live at The National Domestic Violence Hotline at www.thehotline.org, or call them at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or text START to 88788.
Send us a textIf “be nicer” hasn't fixed your toughest conversations, try Nonviolent Communication (NVC) in the wild. Coach Hans Nav Neev shows how to turn trigger moments into clarity, how to stop taking things personally, and why conflict—done well—becomes a portal to connection.What you'll learnThe OFNR model (Observations, Feelings, Needs, Requests) that actually de-fogs conflictJackal vs. Giraffe ears: hearing judgments vs. hearing needsThe guilt process (“the art of being torn”) to end inner civil warsEnemy images and how to dissolve themWhen to set boundaries (and use protective force)Bridging NVC with BIFF (Brief, Informative, Friendly, Firm) for high‑conflict exchangesTimestamps00:00 Cold open, intentions, how we'll talk02:40 What NVC is: surface techniques vs. deep worldview05:40 Taking things less personally; the guilt process08:10 Inner work vs. changing the world10:05 The OFNR model explained (Observations–Feelings–Needs–Requests)13:15 Practicing OFNR + the floor exercise14:50 Hardest skill: observations without interpretations (Krishnamurti)16:20 Anger = story about the event (not the event)18:30 Jackal vs. Giraffe ears (with props)21:20 Chronic “jackal mode,” boundaries, and dignity24:40 Needs, requests, and withdrawing from harmful dynamics26:30 Needs vs. rationalizations; congruence28:00 Language: “need” vs. “value/prefer”; needs as “frequencies”31:10 Family impact, social ripple of communication33:20 Trusting conflict; repair vs. rug-sweeping35:20 Intergenerational trauma; “enemy images”39:10 Avoiding the “obnoxious giraffe” (NVC police)41:30 Stoicism link: embody, don't preach44:10 External validation; “seeds grow in the dark”45:50 Where NVC applies; protective use of force49:10 BIFF for high-conflict exchanges; bridging to NVC53:20 Filtering vs. entrenched relationships56:20 “Warm bath of empathy” and relationship risks59:30 Practice in low‑stakes settings first1:02:00 Resources and Insight Timer courses1:04:30 Two mantras: it's never personal; guess the need1:06:40 Empathic guessing as a question (not a label)1:08:50 Measuring progress; conflict may rise first1:10:00 Positive gossip; humility as embodiment1:15:20 Self-image, overcorrection, and growth1:18:50 Vulnerability as success1:21:40 Beginner's mind in communication1:24:10 Sensitivity with equanimity1:25:06 Rosenberg's “tragic expression”; the third compassionate voice1:27:20 Metta vs. Tonglen; Michael Taft guidance1:30:27 Wrap-up, thanks, next stepsGuest: Hans Nav Neev — NVC coach and Insight Timer teacher with practical courses and tracks. Insight Timer (teacher page)https://insighttimer.com/hansvanv1Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/nondualcommunication/Website (bio + offerings)https://www.nondualcommunication.net/bio--Host: Jon Brooks — The Stoic Handbook (stoicism + practical tools). • Site: https://stoichandbook.co • Newsletter (Nous): nous.xyz • YouTube: youtube.com/jonbrooksIf this helped, follow the show, share the episode with a friend, and join the newsletter for weekly tools.
Catherine Cooley is a communication coach, trainer, conflict mediator, facilitator, speaker, founder of Peaceabl, and a Certified Trainer through the Center for Nonviolent Communication. She gives business teams and leaders who dread their workplace a reliable way to resolve differences, restore trust and build an empathic culture. Her programs are based on Nonviolent Communication (NVC), a model used by organizations worldwide for elevating Emotional Intelligence, conflict resolution, team building, values alignment, and productive, psychologically safe cultures.As a facilitator for the Alternative to Violence Project in a federal prison, she supported inmates in recognizing the importance of their feelings and their ability to express them. She co-created trust and psychological safety that allowed them to share meaningful experiences with inmates they normally would not ever interact with. They developed their capacities for active listening, empathy, nonviolent communication, collaborative problem solving, authentic self-expression, conflict transformation, leadership and community building.Her Active Peace Circles (APC) Restorative Justice circle process helps communities repair conflicts with a needs-based, non-punitive approach that repairs relationships and addresses systemic issues. Catherine is a member of Rotary International E-Club of World Peace, and Mediators Beyond Borders International.Peaceabl.comSee the video and ask questions of future guests at: theworldismycountry.com/club Music by: „World Citizen“ Jahcoustix feat. Shaggy, courtesy of Dominik Haas, Telefonica and EoM Check out the film on World Citizen #1 Garry Davis: theworldismycountry.com Endorse the ban on Nuclear Weapons: theworldismycountry.com/endorse
What happens when a seasoned debater embraces the compassionate lens of Nonviolent Communication (NVC)? In this episode, I'm joined by writer and commentator Margot Magowan, who has debated on Fox News, CNN, MSNBC, and Good Morning America—and now finds herself navigating the delicate intersection between advocacy and empathy. Margot shares her evolving journey from using sharp logic to influence others (including her daughter) to practicing deep empathic listening—and how that shift has transformed her family life. We explore what it's been like for her to integrate NVC into parenting, marriage, and public discourse. This conversation doesn't offer easy answers—and that's what makes it so rich. Margot is actively grappling with big questions: — Can NVC truly coexist with the drive to change minds—or change the world? — How do we speak with passion while still seeing the humanity in those we disagree with? — When is it time to listen, and when is it time to speak up? If you've ever wondered how to blend NVC with social change work—how to hold compassion for all people while staying rooted in your values—this episode is for you. About Margot Magowan: Margot is a writer and commentator whose work has appeared on Fox News, CNN, MSNBC, Good Morning America, and other major media platforms. Her fiction is featured in the HarperCollins anthology Sugar In My Bowl. Today, she's passionate about Nonviolent Communication and supports other parents through NVC-based support groups and coaching. To learn more, you can reach her at margotmagowan@gmail.com Want to learn NVC with Ali? Explore my 9-week private coaching program for couples: Stop Fighting! (without stuffing your feelings or sacrificing your needs). Includes my signature training: Hearing Each Other's Hearts: NVC Essentials for Couples Learn more: www.alimillercoaching.com/stopfighting Free Resources Feelings & Needs Cheatsheets: www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds Free Mini-Course: The 4 Steps to Stop Any Fight Without Giving In www.alimillercoaching.com/freeminicourse Connect with Ali Instagram: @alimillercoaching Free Private Facebook Group: NVC for Couples www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Email: ali@alimillercoaching.com Website: www.alimillercoaching.com
In this conversation, Marysaba Mennuti and Nate Guadagni explore the complexities of emotional expression in the workplace, the challenges of conflict resolution, and the importance of self-awareness in career transitions. They discuss how emotions can impact communication and relationships, the resistance many face in expressing feelings at work, and the necessity of recognizing when to let go of unproductive situations. The dialogue emphasizes the role of coaching and self-reflection in fostering personal growth and empowerment.Marysaba Mannuti a life coach specialized in Nonviolent Communication (NVC)."I help you build stronger, healthier relationships by learning to express your feelings and needs with empathy, set clear boundaries, and create deeper respect for yourself and others."https://www.marysabamennuti.com/About the Host:Nate Guadagni is an NVC based Life Coach with over 15 years of experience in coaching and group facilitation. He is also a Qigong teacher, the founder of Bo Yoga, an accessible yoga system and Balance for Life, a senior fitness program. 1) DOWNLOAD the NVC Template Pack here:• The Magic Formula - 4 Step NVC Process• List of Basic Needs We All Have• Feelings When Your Needs Are Not Satisfied• Feelings When Your Needs Are SatisfiedAdditional Resources:Language of Life Community - Weekly Group ClassesFree Templates, Coaching, & Resources: Language of Life WebsiteNVC Teaching Videos - YouTubeApply to be a guest on the Podcast - Free NVC CoachingBooks and Trainings - CNVC Official WebsiteChapters00:00 Introduction to Nonviolent Communication03:12 Discovering Nonviolent Communication08:13 The Connection Between NVC and Self-Awareness10:39 NVC Exercises for Self-Awareness15:12 Conflict Resolution and NVC in the Workplace22:04 Implementing NVC Across All Levels of Workplaces23:58 Navigating Emotions in Communication26:30 The Challenge of Expressing Emotions at Work30:54 Understanding Anger and Conflict Resolution36:02 Recognizing When to Let Go37:40 Motivation and Career Transitions40:33 Empowerment Through Self-AwarenessKey TakeawaysNVC is akin to learning a new language.Self-awareness is crucial for effective communication.The Wheel of Feels helps identify deeper emotions.NVC can transform conflict into a positive experience.Effective communication starts with understanding oneself.NVC is a lifestyle, not just a technique.Conflict resolution requires empathy and understanding.NVC can enhance workplace dynamics and relationships.Practicing NVC can lead to personal growth and empowerment.NVC tools can be applied in various life situations. Self-awareness allows individuals to choose their emotional responses.Expressing emotions in the workplace can be challenging due to cultural norms.Understanding the impact of emotions can lead to better communication.Taking a break can help prevent emotional outbursts during conflicts.Recognizing when to let go of unproductive relationships is crucial.Career transitions often require reflection on motivations and values.It's important to articulate feelings without delving into personal trauma.Emotional intelligence is essential for effective communication.Coaching can empower individuals to find their own answers.Self-awareness is a continuous journey that enhances decision-making.
Allan Rohlfs guest on Episode 37 of The Living Process. Roots and Branches of Empathic Listening Allan describes to us his method of empathic listening described in his new book, When I Listen People Speak and Come Alive - why write that now?Allan has an extensive history from the early days of Gendlin, Rosenberg, and Roger's work on therapy, listening and non-violent communication. Allan has some great stories about the early days of Gendlin's teaching and Changes groups. He describes his integration of the steps of NVC and Focusing. It is an entertaining and joyous conversation. I hope you like it as much as I did. Allan on The Living Process:https://youtu.be/dK1IxSrqQ9EAllan Rohlfs is a seasoned psychotherapist, educator, and certified trainer in Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and Focusing with over five decades of experience in empathic listening, and integrating Focusing skills into interpersonal communication. His extensive career includes teaching at the Lutheran School of Theology at Chicago for 30 years, where he focused on pastoral care and listening skills. "When I Listen People Speak and Come Alive" is the culmination of author Allan Rohlfs five decades long work of practicing listening and teaching. Allan's website: https://allanrohlfs.comAllan's new book: https://www.amazon.com/When-Listen-People-Speak-Alive/dp/B0DRS166NQThe Living Process - all episodes and podcast links: https://www.londonfocusing.com/the-living-process/TLP YouTube video channel: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLC0TgN6iVu3n9d9q2l43z1xBMYY3p9FQL
Companion Guide Alert!Enhance your listening experience with our brand-new Assumptions That Destroy Communication Workbook, designed to accompany this episode! This guide will help you transform your communication skills. Grab it now for just $4 at: https://stan.store/masteryourmarriage/p/assumptions-that-destroy-communication-workbookEpisode Overview In this episode, Part 3 of our communication series, Robert and Sharla dive into the hidden power of judgments in our everyday language and how they sabotage the intimacy we crave in relationships. Building on Part 1 (the cost of not speaking up) and Part 2 (three communication goals: mutual understanding, connection, and empathy), we explore why we're conditioned to judge—especially in Western culture—and how this “conflict-escalating” language disconnects us from our partners' needs. Featuring a powerful story from NVC founder Marshall Rosenberg and practical tips from Nonviolent Communication (NVC), this episode offers a roadmap to shift from judgments to observations. Plus, we introduce our new workbook to guide you step-by-step!Key Takeaways - A judgment is any thought or statement that labels or diagnoses someone (e.g., “You're lazy”), implying fault and escalating conflict by cutting off empathy and understanding. - We're indoctrinated into judgmental language from childhood through family (“You're naughty”), media (heroes vs. villains), school (grades), and Western culture's emphasis on blame over needs. - The Rosenberg story from Malaysia highlights how language shapes thought—without a “to be” verb for judging, a culture avoids pathologizing others. - Shift to observations (e.g., “I noticed the dishes were left undone”) to open doors to connection instead of closing them with judgments. - Practice daily with our workbook's exercises to rewire your communication habits! Action Steps 1. Download the Workbook: Get your Assumptions That Destroy Communication Workbook at: https://stan.store/masteryourmarriage/p/assumptions-that-destroy-communication-workbook2. Take the Challenge: This week, make one observation instead of a judgment (e.g., “I noticed your clothes on the floor”) and email us at masteryourmarriage@gmail.com with your experience! 3. Leave a Review: Head to Apple Podcasts, rate us five stars, and write a quick review to join our weekly giveaway—your feedback helps us grow! 4. Tune In Next Week: Part 4 will focus on expressing needs and desires—don't miss it! Connect with Us:Email: masteryourmarriage@gmail.com – Reach out for coaching, share wins, or pitch episode ideas.Instagram: @masteryourmarriage – Daily tips, behind-the-scenes reels, and a healthy dose of Snow-family humor.Reviews Matter! If this episode sparked an aha moment, drop a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and send it to a friend who could use a vision upgrade.
Do you feel unheard in your relationship—or like every conversation turns into an argument? In this episode, we'll unpack what's really going on when you and your partner get stuck in blame, defensiveness, or silence. You'll learn how to truly listen (and get listened to) using the powerful tools of Nonviolent Communication (NVC). We cover: What's really underneath most conflict Why empathy changes everything How to stop defending and start connecting Simple questions that shift the dynamic fast If you're longing to feel more understood, emotionally safe, and connected in your relationship, this episode will offer both insight and practical tools. Want to go deeper? Explore my 9-week private coaching program for couples: Stop Fighting! (without stuffing your feelings or sacrificing your needs) Includes my signature training: Hearing Each Other's Hearts: NVC Essentials for Couples Learn more: www.alimillercoaching.com/stopfighting Free Resources Feelings & Needs Cheatsheets: www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds Free Mini-Course: The 4 Steps to Stop Any Fight Without Giving In www.alimillercoaching.com/freeminicourse Connect with Ali Instagram: @alimillercoaching Free Private Facebook Group: NVC for Couples www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Email: ali@alimillercoaching.com Website: www.alimillercoaching.com
In this episode, I'm unpacking one of the most common — and most disconnecting — phrases I hear in relationships: “You made me feel…” It sounds honest. It feels true. But in reality, it often leads to defensiveness, arguments, and emotional distance. Drawing from the principles of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), I'll walk you through why this phrase contains a subtle form of blame — even if you don't mean it that way — and how shifting the way you express your feelings can lead to more understanding, more connection, and more of your needs being met. You'll learn: Why saying “You made me feel…” can derail communication The key difference between stimulating feelings vs. causing them A more effective and connected way to talk about your emotions How to take self-responsibility without self-blame — and why it matters If you've ever felt like you're trying to be honest, but it only seems to start a fight, this episode will give you a new way forward.
In this episode, Lawrence Joss explores the complexities of estrangement and the transformative power of nonviolent communication (NVC). He discusses the emotional turmoil experienced by both parents and children in estranged relationships, emphasizing the importance of empathy and understanding. Through real-life examples, he illustrates how NVC can facilitate healing and connection, even in the most challenging situations. The conversation highlights the need for space, boundaries, and the role of support systems in navigating difficult family dynamics. Joss encourages listeners to practice NVC in everyday interactions and to engage with their community for support and growth.Key TakeawaysNonviolent communication is crucial for healing relationships.Understanding emotions is key to effective communication.Children in estranged relationships often feel overwhelmed and confused.Honesty must be paired with compassion to avoid harm.Creating space and boundaries is essential for emotional well-being.Reflecting feelings back to others fosters connection.Support systems play a vital role in navigating estrangement.Practicing empathy can transform everyday interactions.Acknowledging the complexity of feelings leads to better understanding.Community engagement is important for personal growth and healing.Chapters00:00 - Understanding the Impact of Parental Alienation02:56 - The Power of Nonviolent Communication06:03 - Navigating Difficult Conversations with Children08:45 - Emotional Responses and Understanding Needs12:05 - Building Bridges Through Reflection14:56 - Real-Life Applications of Nonviolent Communication17:41 - Addressing Feelings of Abandonment21:01 - Creating Connection in Challenging Situations23:51 - The Importance of Community Support26:41 - Finding Paths Forward in Relationships30:02 - Encouragement and Closing ThoughtsIf you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:Email - familydisappeared@gmail.comLinktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss(All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree)Please donate to support PAA programs:https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXSThis podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-hostGlaze Gonzales- Podcast ManagerConnect with Lawrence Joss:Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com
We tell kids to “use your words” — but the truth is, most adults still don't know how. We hide our feelings, fear sounding “needy,” and hope our partners will just know what we need — then feel hurt or resentful when they don't. In this episode, I unpack why adult communication breaks down so often, how unmet needs and unspoken feelings quietly sabotage our relationships, and why using your words — with clarity, vulnerability, and skill — can be the most powerful thing you do to get closer, feel seen, and have your needs met. You'll learn how Nonviolent Communication (NVC) helps you speak honestly without starting a fight, and how this one shift — using your words intentionally — can change everything in your relationship, from tension, frustration, and resentment to clarity, closeness, and care.
I'm having a party and you're invited! I sat down with Jen Brummer of Grok the World to demystify what a Grok Party actually is — and why it might be exactly what you didn't know you needed. Jen will be facilitating the Grok Party that I'm hosting this Friday, June 13 at 11am EDT. In this episode, we talk about what you'll experience during this low-pressure, fun, and highly interactive group experience based on Nonviolent Communication (NVC), how Jen creates a safe, welcoming space (even for shy folks), and what you'll walk away with: practical tools to improve your communication, deepen your relationships, and better understand your own emotional world. Stay tuned til the end where we even demo one of the games you'll get to try if you join us this Friday, June 13 — so you can get a feel for how it works and why it's so powerful. Come for the curiosity. Stay for the playful-yet-deep human connection. And leave with practical tools and a refreshing way of seeing yourself and others. Register for free here: https://groktheworld.com/pages/grok-party-ali-miller Connect with Ali: IG: https://www.instagram.com/alimillercoaching Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Email me: Ali@AliMillerCoaching.com Website: https://www.alimillercoaching.com Connect with Jen and Grok the World: IG: https://www.instagram.com/grok.the.world Website: https://www.groktheworld.com
If you've ever walked away from a conversation feeling misunderstood, defensive, or emotionally drained—this episode will completely change the way you think about communication.Today, I'm joined by Shannon Rae, the founder of the Power Integration Center and a renowned transformational coach with over 30 years of experience in leadership, emotional intelligence, and human connection. With dual degrees in behavioral science and extensive training in coaching, shamanic medicine, and executive consulting, Shannon brings a multifaceted approach to personal and professional development. Her work focuses on helping individuals and organizations integrate their power with loving presence—whether in relationships, leadership, or self-inquiry. She is also a certified practitioner of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), a methodology she weaves into every aspect of her work. Known for guiding clients toward deep internal clarity, emotional resilience, and personal accountability, Shannon helps others unlock lasting transformation from the inside out.Throughout this episode, Shannon brings this expertise to life by sharing deep, practical wisdom on the topic of Nonviolent Communication. She walks listeners through each of the four core NVC steps—plus two additional “bookend” steps she integrates into her coaching practice. Shannon explains the importance of beginning conversations with consent and highlights how understanding one's own feelings and needs can shift communication from conflict to compassion. Throughout the episode, she shows how NVC is more than a method—it's a mindset and a self-inquiry process that supports emotional maturity and relational depth. With clarity and warmth, Shannon invites listeners to embrace their full emotional range, offering a path toward more connected, collaborative, and conscious relationships.Tune in and discover the transformative power of Nonviolent Communication with Shannon Rae, as she shares how deep self-inquiry, emotional clarity, and compassionate connection can lead you toward more authentic relationships, personal empowerment, and lasting inner peace.In This Episode, You Will Learn:Discovering Nonviolent Communication: A personal journey (2:30)“Nonviolent”? Why the name throws people off (4:39)The fidden first step: Asking permission to speak (10:22)Step 1 – Stick to the facts, not the story (12:07)Step 2 – Naming your feelings and why most of us get it wrong (16:58)Step 3 – Identifying your real needs (29:06)Step 4 – Making a specific, measurable request (33:46)Why NVC starts with you: Self-inquiry and emotional ownership (36:50)The power of grace, ownership, and transformation (40:05)Connect with Shannon Rae:WebsiteFacebookLet's connect!WebsiteContact UsLinkedInInstagramFacebookTwitter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Sexploration With Monika Interviews, "Shameless" Heather Atlas about Somatica, Non-Violent Communication (NVC), your inner family, and how to go from trauma to healing with modalities like core erotic themes and feeling states. NVC is a powerful communication framework. It's designed to foster empathy, understanding, and connection—especially in emotionally charged situations.
BONUS: NVC, Walking Towards Conflict with Love With Maria Arpa and Bob Marshall In this BONUS episode, we explore Nonviolent Communication (NVC), a powerful tool that has changed how many people work and relate to family, friends, and colleagues. Maria Arpa, a previous guest on the podcast, and who studied directly under Marshall Rosenberg, the creator of NVC, shares her insights on this transformative practice. Joining us is Bob Marshall, an NVC advocate and practitioner who applies these principles in organizational settings. Understanding the Foundation of Nonviolent Communication "We have universal needs... what we try to distinguish is the need and the strategy I'm using to meet the need." Nonviolent Communication is both a practical communication tool and a spiritual practice designed to help us connect more authentically with ourselves and others. Maria explains how NVC emerged from the work of Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, who studied under Carl Rogers, the developer of person-centered therapy. At its core, NVC represents a paradigm shift away from what Maria calls "domination culture" – a system built on hierarchy, punishment, and obedience to rules. The dominant culture in which we live often relies on fear, guilt, and shame to motivate behavior. In contrast, NVC comes from the philosophy of nonviolence, encouraging people to be independent thinkers who make choices from their own internal compass. This approach recognizes that all people have the potential to manifest love, even in challenging situations. The Power of Needs-Based Theory "If I take a need for fairness or respect... how many ways are there to meet that need? And what if you believe you're meeting your need for fairness using whatever strategy you're using, and I believe that is impacting on my need for respect? We have a collision in strategies." A fundamental aspect of NVC is needs-based theory. Maria explains that while we all share universal needs – from basic physical requirements like air and food to psychological needs like creativity, recognition, and fairness – conflicts arise not from the needs themselves but from the strategies we use to meet those needs. This distinction between needs and strategies offers a powerful framework for resolving conflicts. When we understand that we're arguing over strategies, not the underlying needs, we can empathize with each other and explore different approaches that honor everyone's needs. As Maria advises, "Don't try to strategize until you understand all the needs on the table." Breaking Free from the Debate Model "The debate model of conversation is about one argument prevailing over all others... it's a terrible idea for when we want to meet as humans and have a conversation." Maria highlights how our society has embraced the debate model of conversation, where one perspective must win over others. This approach, while potentially useful in controlled settings like scientific research, creates significant problems in human interactions. When operating in debate mode, we're focused on overpowering others or protecting ourselves from humiliation rather than genuinely connecting. The dialogue roadmap that Maria developed offers an alternative to this debate model. It allows people to express themselves fully – to "empty out" everything they're carrying, even if it doesn't initially make coherent sense. This process helps people make sense of their experiences and move toward authentic dialogue rather than competitive debate. NVC in Organizations: Addressing Collective Needs "Needs are getting ignored in most organizations... it's not that we have shared needs and we debate about the strategies for getting those needs met." Bob Marshall, an organizational psychotherapist, explains how NVC principles can transform workplace dynamics. He observes that many organizations operate through "fear, obligation, guilt, and shame" – what he calls "the four horsemen of the work apocalypse." These mechanisms are used to control behavior but create toxic environments that diminish both productivity and well-being. By applying NVC in organizational settings, Bob helps collective entities recognize and address their needs. Many companies are unaware of their collective needs, and some cultures even shame people for acknowledging needs exist. Helping organizations understand their shared needs creates a foundation for healthier, more productive workplaces where people can thrive rather than merely survive. In this segment, we refer to an episode with Michelle Pauk, where we explore the lessons from Foucault's Book Discipline and Punish, and to Manfred Max-Neef, a Chilean economist. The Connection Before Correction Principle "One of the most wonderful things is connection before correction." Maria emphasizes the importance of building relationships before attempting to change behaviors or address problems. She suggests that our fast-paced world has created a situation where our emotional processing cannot keep up with the speed of our actions and decisions. We've become skilled at multitasking and meeting deadlines but haven't paid adequate attention to our emotional needs. The result is that many people are emotionally "backed up" or "constipated" – unable to process their feelings in healthy ways. Maria's work involves slowing things down to create space for authentic connection and emotional integration. This approach doesn't sacrifice efficiency – as she notes, "We get more done with less resource once we've been through the tunnel." Learning Directly from Marshall Rosenberg "Marshall Rosenberg said, 'The people that are going to take this forward will have the right balance of compassionate understanding and political savvy.' And I just went, 'That's me.'" Maria shares her personal journey with NVC, beginning with a chance encounter at her son's school that led her to attend a presentation by Marshall Rosenberg. She was immediately captivated by his approach, which answered questions she had been unable to resolve through other therapies and educational frameworks. Her pivotal experience came in 2005 when she joined Rosenberg and others for a 15-day intensive in Switzerland focused on social change. This immersive experience transformed her understanding of communication and human connection. When she asked Rosenberg who would carry his work forward, his answer about needing both "compassionate understanding and political savvy" resonated deeply with her, setting her on a path to develop her own applications of NVC principles. In this segment, we refer to the book The Surprising Purpose of Anger by Marshall Rosenberg. About Maria Arpa and Bob Marshall Maria Arpa is a facilitator, mediator, and trainer who describes her work as "walking towards conflict with love." She developed the Dialogue Road Map, a framework that builds on NVC principles to guide people out of debate-style conversations into authentic dialogue. Maria studied directly under Dr. Marshall Rosenberg and has applied NVC in various challenging contexts, including working with gang violence and facilitating dialogue between concentration camp survivors and a business that had purchased a former concentration camp site. You can link with Maria Arpa on LinkedIn and follow Maria's work on her website. Bob Marshall is an organizational psychotherapist who works with the collective psyche of organizations. He has been studying and practicing NVC for over 15 years, incorporating it into his work helping organizations understand and meet their collective needs. Bob believes in creating more joyful work environments and has dedicated his career to helping people have more pleasant experiences in the workplace. Bob Marshall is the author of several books on organizational psychotherapy. You can link with Bob Marshall on LinkedIn and follow Bob Marshall's blog.
Míle buíochas, mo laoch! Many thanks, my hero. Dian weaves together her experience and research from an illustrious career in Nonviolent Communication (NVC) & Transformative Coaching, an academic vocation focused on Classical Rhetoric, Applied Linguistics and Critical/Narrative Theory, and a lifelong passion for Irish Studies. Dian's Master of Philosophy degree at Trinity College, Dublin was in Anglo-Irish Literature in Cultural-Historical Contexts. Her PhD culminated in research on The Nation's Other: The Construction of Irish National Identity in the Context of British Colonialism and Emigration. Dian has been an NVC trainer for 20 years, working with organisations such as Americorp, Cornell University, and the U.N. Development program. She co/wrote two popular NVC books, including Connecting across Differences and Urban Empathy: True Life Adventures of Compassion on the Streets of New York. She is also an award-winning writer, musician, and singer-songwriter who loves visual art and has a great talent for photography, drawing and print-making.The Irish language continues to surprise, inspire and delight Dian. Join Dian and her growing, visionary community at The Gaelic Effect where she exploresLanguage and how it impacts how we see and relate to the worldBeauty and draíocht (magic, wonder and awe)Solace, inspiration and companionship) in these liminal, uncertain timesHope for what's possible: what we are truly capable of as human beings—at our bestFind The Gaelic Effect: How the Irish language can save the world, and the GaelStack here: https://diankillian.substack.com/Enjoy the conversation! Beir bua! (Grab victory)
"If you can get across to kids that you care, that it's important, that they're important, that solves most of the problem."Gina Simm, author of 'Heart to Heart, Three Systems for Staying Connected,' shares her journey of discovering Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and applying it in her classroom. She discusses the power of empathy cards for children and how they can facilitate communication and conflict resolution. Gina also introduces the concept of the Wheel of Choice, a system that provides children with various options for resolving conflicts. Her book 'Heart to Heart' includes 14 lessons that teach NVC principles and the use of the Wheel of Choice. In this conversation, Gina Simm and Nate Guadagni discuss the power of empathy and connection in resolving conflicts and meeting needs. They emphasize the importance of focusing on the intention to connect rather than solely on problem-solving. Gina offers workshops, coaching, and resources for parents and educators interested in implementing NVC in their lives.Website: https://www.teachingfromyourheart.org/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ginasimmcreatorFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/gina.simm.9About the Host:Nate Guadagni is an NVC based Life Coach with over 15 years of experience in coaching and group facilitation. He is also a Qigong teacher, the founder of Bo Yoga, an accessible yoga system and Balance for Life, a senior fitness program. Tools discussed in this episode:Heart to Heart Book & Empathy Cards for Kids1) DOWNLOAD the NVC Template Pack here:• The Magic Formula - 4 Step NVC Process• List of Basic Needs We All Have• Feelings When Your Needs Are Not Satisfied• Feelings When Your Needs Are SatisfiedAdditional Resources:Language of Life Community - Weekly Group ClassesFree Templates, Coaching, & Resources: Language of Life WebsiteNVC Teaching Videos - YouTubeApply to be a guest on the Podcast - Free NVC CoachingBooks and Trainings - CNVC Official WebsiteChapters00:00 Introduction and Background01:34 Discovering NVC and the Cherry Hill Co-Housing Community06:12 Using Empathy Cards in an Empathy Session09:12 The Power of Naming Feelings and Needs12:40 Facilitating Empathy Sessions with Children20:22 The Value of Posters and Storytelling24:26 The Three Systems in 'Heart to Heart'27:04 The Power of Empathy and Connection30:04 Using the Wheel of Choice33:14 Teaching Requests and Needs36:29 The Spiritual Aspect of NVC38:02 Transforming Relationships and Communities49:06 Workshops, Coaching, and ResourcesKey TakeawaysEmpathy cards for children can be a powerful tool for communication and conflict resolution.The Wheel of Choice provides children with various options for resolving conflicts.Teaching NVC principles and the use of the Wheel of Choice explicitly and integrating them into the daily schedule can create a child-centered environment for moving through conflict.The book 'Heart to Heart' includes 14 lessons that teach NVC principles and the use of the Wheel of Choice. Focusing on empathy and connection is more effective than solely problem-solving in resolving conflicts.The intention to connect is the ultimate goal in addressing problems with children.The Wheel of Choice is a powerful tool for empowering children to make choices and meet their needs.Explicitly teaching the concepts of requests and needs can enhance communication and understanding.Nonviolent Communication (NVC) has a spiritual aspect and can transform relationships and communities.Gina Simm offers workshops, coaching, and resources for parents and educators interested in implementing NVC.
In this episode we dive into how to communicate assertively without crossing into aggression. I share powerful insights from Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and offer practical tools to help you ask for what you want in a way that empowers you AND strengthens your connection with others. Whether you're navigating conflict with your partner, or just want to communicate more effectively, I've got heart-centered tips to help you create happier, more satisfying relationships. If you've ever wondered how to speak up for yourself without being confrontational, this episode is for you! Resources Book a free consultation call with Ali: https://www.calendly.com/alimillercoaching/45 Get my free feelings and needs lists: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds Connect with me on social media: IG: https://www.instagram.com/alimillercoaching Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Email me: Ali@AliMillerCoaching.com Website: https://www.alimillercoaching.com
Welcome to a special New Year's episode! As we say goodbye to 2024 and look ahead to 2025, I'm diving into the idea of Relationship Resolutions. Whether it's your partner, kids, friends, coworkers, or even yourself, the relationships in our lives shape so much of our joy and fulfillment. In this episode, I share simple, practical ideas for strengthening those connections in meaningful ways. Using insights from Nonviolent Communication (NVC), I'll guide you through reflection and goal-setting so you can show up with more intention, communicate more clearly, and build relationships that truly enrich your life. Let's reflect on the past year, dream big for the next one, and take small, actionable steps toward making 2025 your best year yet. Resources List of Universal Human Needs/Values: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds Private Coaching Program for Couples: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/stopfighting Small Group Coaching Program for Couples: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/groupcoachingprogram Website: https://www.alimillercoaching.com Email: Ali@AliMillerCoaching.com Private Facebook Group: NVC for Couples: https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alimillercoaching Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/alimillercoaching
Today, I'm excited to share my conversation with Ali Miller on how nonviolent communication (NVC) can help navigate co-parenting dynamics and couple relationships. When raising a neurodivergent child, there are often many opportunities for parents to disagree—whether it's about the therapies to explore, whether or not to disclose a diagnosis to family members, or even if a diagnosis exists at all. These discussions can be tough and can definitely place a strain on the relationship. But with nonviolent communication, we can learn how to have conversations that feel like a win-win for everyone involved. Ali Miller is an expert in Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and has been a marriage and family therapist for over twenty years. In 2021, she became certified as a Clini-Coach® specializing in couples communication. As an online coach, she helps couples worldwide improve their communication and conflict resolution skills, allowing them to experience more peace, passion, and possibilities in their relationships. In this conversation, Ali and I discussed what NVC is and why it's a comprehensive model that supports all kinds of relationships. We explored how understanding our feelings—and more importantly, the underlying needs behind them—is crucial for effective communication. Ali also emphasized the importance of empathy and self-empathy in the NVC model, and shared how to express our needs to our partners without blame or judgment (while also acknowledging that this doesn't absolve our partner of responsibility). This conversation truly highlights how NVC can transform conflict into connection by fostering empathy and understanding between partners. I hope you enjoy it! About Ali Miller Ali Miller, an expert in Nonviolent Communication (NVC), has been a Marriage & Family Therapist for over twenty years. In 2021 she became certified as a Clini-Coach® specializing in Couples Communication. As an online coach, she helps couples all over the world level up their communication + conflict navigation skills so they can experience more peace, passion, and possibilities in their relationship. Things you'll learn from this episode What nonviolent communication (NVC) is and why it's a comprehensive model that can support any and all relationships How understanding feelings, and more importantly, our underlying needs, is crucial for effective communication The importance of empathy and self-empathy in the NVC model Why recognizing universal human needs can bridge gaps in understanding and foster true compassion and understanding How to express our needs to our partner without blame or judgment (and why it doesn't mean our partner bears no responsibility) Resources mentioned Ali Miller's website Ali on Instagram Ali's Private Facebook Group The 4 Steps to Stop Any Fight Without Giving In (free mini-course) Feelings and Needs Cheatsheets Ali's Podcast: Love Each Other Better 8-Week Private Coaching Program for Couples — Stop Fighting! (without stuffing your feelings or sacrificing your needs) Marshall Rosenberg and the Center for Nonviolent Communication Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships by Marshall Rosenberg Zach Morris on Nonviolent Communication and Whole Person Learning (Tilt Parenting podcast) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices